Dear Chelsea - Disagreeing with Isla Fisher

Episode Date: November 13, 2025

Isla Fisher joins Chelsea to talk about relying on friendships with women after divorce, ignoring her kids from the bathtub, and how Chelsea lost a closetful of Stella McCartney clothes.  Then: A mom dreads the boring parents at a play-date. A sister wants to parent her brother’s out-of-control kids. And a caller takes umbrage with her sister’s treatment, but Chelsea + Isla disagree on a plan of action. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You're going to Antarctica. I can't keep track of you. I've had a busy. I haven't even gotten that far to Antarctica. Hopefully a suitcase shows up to show me what I'm bringing because I have been out. I did a show at the improv. Then I went into a party for Mark Maren's podcast ending. Oh, that's so fun.

And then I was with Fortune and Oatsko. And then Zoe, one of my poopsies. And then last night I went to go see my friend open for the Queen of the Stone Ages and then we went out. So I am on a bed and der. I love it. And I'm sure you haven't slept. You're like here with me. Well, no, I'm slept. I sleep. I sleep. But, you know, I'm never fully rested because I just like to, well, complain. You love to burn the candle at both ends. Yes. But I am leaving for Antarctica on Saturday morning and there's a lot of interesting activities. They think there's going to be theme nights there and they think that I'm going to have read that part of the invitation,

but that is going to be something that I miss. I went to Maria Shriver's 70th birthday this weekend and it was a 70s theme party and I had just come from the Texas Book Fair. So it was perfect because I was like, oh, I didn't see that part of the, everyone's like, where's your outfit? I'm like, I didn't know this was a theme party. Also, like you don't really dress up. So even if you did know, that's exactly right. I'm not dressing up for theme parties. I have to bring so many puffy and ski clothes down to Antarctica. Like, I don't have room for theme night activities. No. Ain't nobody got time for that. So I do me and everyone else does that. Exactly. And you'll probably be in bed with a book by that anyway, so it's fine. Yeah. Have you been to Antarctica before? No, I have not. Which is a weird

question to ask. I don't think people go on multiple trips to Antarctica, but unless you're like an ex, you know, unless you're an explorer, which, you know, I'm a life explorer. But no, this will be my first trip to Antarctica. We have a special guest, a surprise special guest, coming. And I'm going with my friend. But some guy I met in Vegas has decided to join us. So he got a ticket and it's coming too. So there could be so many different developments happening. There could be penetration in Antarctica. Oh, oh my gosh. Well, you're going to study like LSD and psychedelics and then also the effects of penetration in Antarctica. And we're going to be studying LSD and the effects of psychedelics alongside penguins. So who knows what could happen. There's polar plunging. There's expeditions every day. My friend's Like, are we going to go skiing? I'm like, I don't think there's a ski rental shop in Antarctica. But, I mean, and I'm not really willing to.

I think of it as very flat. No, they have major crevasses and mountains and I think so. I don't think it's flat, but who knows what I know? I mean, it's usually way off base. You didn't read that itinerary. No. Well, you know what? I'm so excited for our guest's day.

She is so fun. Yes, yes. One of my dear friends. I love her. So you know our next guest today from Wedding Crashers? Arrested Development, and the Now You See Me, Now You Don't Franchise. Please welcome Ila Fisher. Okay.

We're here with Isla Fischer. Wait, am I going to shut the door? Maybe. Relax. I can't. I can't have a door. It's like pre-jaculation. It's pre-jaculation.

I got so excited. I almost came. I'm erectile dysfunction. I'm like, what am I going to say in this? I'm the exact opposite. Don't worry. We're going to guide you. We're going to guide you.

Thanks, Barbie. You're in safe hands. How long are you here for? Until tomorrow. And then you go back to London? Back to London. You have been there a lot and not texted me. And I see on your social media.

I text you every time I'm there. People tell me like, oh, I hung out with her. I saw Chelsea. I said, come to Glastonbury. I said. Yeah, you look like you had fun. Oh, I did. It was Stella's birthday the other day.

Oh, was it? Yeah. I didn't know. I didn't know either. She phasedime me. She tried to convince me to come to New York two weeks ago for her climate award. And she almost got me. I'm so easy to like rope in a show.

I realized I was like I was sitting there with her I'm talking to her face-timing and I'm like She's like just come in for one night Just come for one night Jane Fonda's giving me the award It'll be the three and I was like Yeah and then I'm like no I'm not coming New York for a night

I'm like this strong-arming Get yourself to Paris to my fashion Oh I know Wait a moment Let's start this conversation Outing Stella McCartney No we love Stella But Stella is always always asking

For someone to go somewhere to do something And then I say to her, I'm like, okay, she asked me last year, I left, I was in London, and she's like, you know what, would you do this campaign with me where you're just nude? You're the only one who has the guts to be nude. No for, you know, for her veganism or something about, you know, saving, I always lie and tell her I'm not eating meat. And then I, I do. Because it's easier, right? It's easier than having the conversation.

If you wear a feather around her, forget it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She doesn't like any of that stuff. But to her credit, she does incredible work. She makes all of her clothes without animals. and she's very moral about the climate and about... Yeah, and her activism, she says what she means. She stands by it.

She's not one of those kind of hypocritical activists. But as soon as I told her that she had to pay for my hair, makeup, and flight and Hotel Lamanda, I didn't hear from her for like three weeks. I didn't hear another word about it. So that's Stella, in a nutshell. I didn't say that, everybody. That wasn't me. Stella, I still have the handbag you sent me.

Stella, this is Chelsea Handler. This is Chelsea Handler saying it. But at Glastonbury this year, because I took. texted you because now you're living in London and I was like, come to Glastonbury. So we all stayed at this hotel that's like 45 minutes away, okay? And we get there and Stella had sent all of us clothes. And so all my closet is filled with all of Stella's clothes. And I'm so excited. None of the sizes fit me. Nothing she sent me fit. So I left the hotel and I left all the clothes in the closet. And then the woman that runs the hotel texted me and said, hey, you left all these

Stella McCartney clothes in the closet. I said, give them to the staff. I told her that they don't fit me. I told her, look at Isla's like, ah. By the way, with me, she'd be like, you finish wearing them? Send them back. I would never have got to get them. Wait, wait, wait. Then a month later, my assistant text me and says, Stella's assistant is asking where the clothes are. Yes, I told you. I'm like, I left them in the hotel so that somebody could make some good use out of them because it wasn't going to be me.

Listen, I've told Stella this is getting turned. If this stays in the podcast, we're done. Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye. You're innocent. You're innocent. You're not saying anything. It's just me. So you're safe, Ila. I was here to promote her new movie. Now you see me down, you don't. You missed one of these because this is the third one. I was pregnant with Monty. You've been pregnant a lot in your life.

Let's be honest. Some people love to work. I just like have another baby and no one will notice. But now you're free to work because the kids are growing up. The kids are grown up and, you know, and I'm at a new chapter in my life. And I'm just trying to kind of re-establish who I am as somebody who enjoys performing and writing. And it's like been a whole thing. It's like I've got a whole new identity.

I know. I love it. And you filmed that fun movie with Leslie with Michelle Buto. You should have been in that. I know. I should have been in it. Nobody ever asked me to do movies. I never get asked. We had so much fun. We shot it in Australia. It's called Spar Weekend. It's John Lucas and Scott Moore who did bad moms and the hangover. And it's just like, you know, real, like really funny ladies having a really fun time. Yeah. Although there was a tornado or a cyclone rather in Australia. While we were there, and we were on lockdown in this hotel with, like, Paul Rudd, who else was there, like, Jack Black, the cast of, like, Anaconda, the cast of, like, there was basically four movies. So imagine a great, it's like, what's that movie with Rubin where they're all on an island? Anyway, imagine a bunch of sort of actors, precious actors, in a hotel shut down for like six days. Actors from all different movies. Oh, yeah. It got, it went from charades to, let's just say, there wasn't enough to kill her in the bar to keep. We've everybody happy.

Is it fun for you to shoot in Australia? Because you grew up in Australia, but you're, but you didn't move to Australia until what? You were six. Yeah. And you're Scottish. Yeah, I have like a super complicated cultural identity because like my parents are Scottish, but I was born in Oman.

And I was raised between Iran and Sarawak and Brunei. And then we kind of moved back to Cambridge, England, randomly. And then we immigrated to Australia, to Western Australia, which is the most isolated city in the world for reasons my parents have never quite disclosed why did you guys move so much was your dad in the military around that time there was some sort of uh talk of a cold war i mean it sounds so paranoid but my mom my mom was convinced that uh our lives were that there was going to be a nuclear war and that we were safe in australia really yeah but yeah but so why were you born in oman who was the who was so my dad worked for the u.n and so he when you yeah so he basically was in banking but

he would travel to, you know, we were always in, you know, Papua New Guinea, we were always kind of growing up and in different, I guess, cultures until we got, till I started like primary school, maybe like year two, and then we were sort of solid until I obviously then traveled the world and became a clown. Oh, that's right. You went to clown school too. First of all, how does it work with all of your family reunions when you get all together? Can you understand a word anybody fucking says?

No, it's definitely, and my mother's on her third husband. It's definitely like, yes. Really? Yes. And so it's definitely like a very much a dysfunctional but deeply loving, very, you know, multi-generational and quite eccentric group. But there's a lot of love. There's a lot of love and we all put a lot of effort into seeing each other.

There's a lot of love and dysfunction. Yeah. There really is. Yeah. I mean, that's what it is. It's dysfunction. Because otherwise, if it's not dysfunctional, I mean, I don't know anybody who has a normal functional upbringing and that was like, oh, my really, unless like some older white men will

say that. They'll be like. But they're just lying. Are they? Or do they not notice the dysfunction? Because I wonder if some people don't notice the dysfunction. You know, like women are much more in tune with dysfunction, I think. Well, I do think a lot of people do notice it, but they choose to ignore it. And it makes them feel better to feel wholesome about their family relations rather than, you know, to sort of accept the fact that we might all be, you know, broken in different ways and that that's okay. Yeah. And it's okay to remain broken. Like, you're not fixed. in life, ever.

Like, just when you think you've got it now, you get fucking hit in the face. Yes. I mean, that, I speak from personal experience when I say that. I mean, I feel like the last book I wrote was so about female empowerment and like, just really how to get to know yourself, how to love yourself.

And then I fucking, I'm literally in the middle of like a nervous breakdown because of this stupid fucking house I'm building. It's cost me so much drama. Really? Trauma. And it's like, wow, I really thought I had fucking shit figured out. Wait, but what? What could possibly cause you that much drama with a house?

A house I bought from RFK Jr. Oh, so it's cursed. It's cursed. It's cursed. Yeah. No, it's definitely cursed. It's been four years. And was they just Tylenol just scrubbed out all over.

I mean, there will be by the time I get done with it. There's going to, yeah. I took Tylenol throughout all of my pregnancies, I want to say, on the record. So what do you feel like? Do you feel Australian? You must, right? I think my sensibility is kind of Australian. Like I'm gregarious.

I'm kind of like laid back in some regards. But then I do have that kind of, you know, my mom is very, she was on the first woman that went to Cambridge. She's very educated. My father's very, I come from a kind of like a sort of inner way, but of an academic background. So the Australian thing is a little more like I feel like I identify more with like the surfing and the outdoor lifestyle. And honestly, just like Australians are just really friendly. Yeah, they are friendly. They are.

They're really friendly. Do you think people are friendly in London? I definitely think that it's a different kind of friendly. Well, you went from L.A. to London. Yeah. So L.A. friendly.

Definitely friendly. I've still my L.A. mates, I love them. I pop into town for a few days and I get bombarded with like love tech. L.A.'s more fun to visit than to live, I think. Yeah, maybe you're right. I think so. I think so.

I think so. I mean, right now you must be grateful that you're not living in the States during this kind of political up people. Yeah, it's definitely, it feels like, oh, it just feels like everybody's got a very loud opinion and they want to discuss it and there seems to be, you know, in London, people are a little more, you know, people don't reveal their political beliefs necessarily, their religious beliefs. They're very careful to put civility and connection above, like, whereas here in L.A., sometimes it feels a little like someone's opinions become their identity, and therefore,

if you don't share their values or their opinions in their mind, that you therefore don't like them. There's not a sort of separation between church and state, so to speak. And I find that is like, now I just don't want to sort of, I just don't want to fight or have a different opinion. I just want to connect with people. I don't know whether it's like with everything I've been. through for the last two years, but I just want to, like, feel like we're all just together in this, which we are. Yeah, we are all together in this. I agree with you. Yeah. I mean, I'm even guilty

of it myself listening to you talk about it because, you know, I can like, you know, if I hear somebody is, you know, a Trump supporter or something, I'm like, no, no, no, I don't want anything to do with that. I can't, I need peace. Like, I need my own peace. But at the same time, you know, it's nice to not even have that be part of the conversation at all. Yeah, because, yeah. And you don't really want to isolate yourself and find yourself in a bubble where you're only with like-minded people only because then you create an emotional bias where you only filter everything you hear or read or see through the lens of this is already my decided opinion. And as we know, the best thing about having opinions is they're flexible and open to new information. And so

it's important to keep conversations going and not just get off on your own little tangent and think that you're right. But you are always right. That's what I love about you. You've never been wrong in any way. I appreciate that. I appreciate you acknowledging that. I've known it my whole life. Every time you say something, I'm like, yep, that's it. She's right. The last time I saw you, I bumped into you at Wimbledon. Yeah. And you were having a great time. I had the best time at Wimba. Isn't it so much fun, tennis? I know. I fucking love going to tennis. I love day drinking. And I love socializing. And I love that tennis is so civilized. You know what? It's not like a rugby match or, well, the golf that happened, the Ryder Cup was so embarrassing on America's

behalf because people were screaming and yelling, that's golf. Oh, gosh. I don't watch golf. No, but also there's something about, I think it's a collective silence of tennis. Like you're watching a game where there are thousands of people watching and they're not saying, you can't even hear them breathe when the serve happens because they don't want to put off the player. And that is just like, as someone who's done like a ton of theatre when I was younger and just like been on a stage and had to like cry in a scene and had like crew talking, someone opening chips,

it's like an amazing thing when you've captured an audience and you just all are so respectful that you're going to be just so quiet. The quiet is just amazing. Like communal energy, everyone's focused in the same place. And especially at Wimbledon because there's a level of decorum that supersedes like any of the other Grand Slams. Because Wimbledon is like a little stuffy. But I love that kind of stuff. It's not stuffy in a negative way.

No, it's fun. It's like pompous and ritual. And I also, although a ginger lady, a middle-aged ginger lady apparently fainted this Wimbledon. She was in the overhead light of the sun and there wasn't enough, I guess, water brought to her. And of course, everyone's text to me like, is it you? Were you taken out? I'm like, no, I was in the VIP, bitch, relax. I had a shade, a canopy, a bowl of my way.

Oh, yeah, that's right. I saw you get after those canopies. She was like, is that a canopy? And I went after, she was in a different suite, came to see us in our suite, or maybe we were in the same suite but far apart. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I loved it.

I loved it. How was your time in London? Can I just go back to canopays? Love a canopy. You know what I'm not into, though, a cheese and pineapple skewer. I don't like pineapple. And triple layer dips.

There's some things that just should never be food combos that should never be enjoyed together. And what Wimbledon does well is they don't mix flavors. It's like a strawberry and cream or it's like a cucumber and bread. It's like, keep it simple people. Yeah, I don't like pineapple with anything. Like I don't want pineapple mixed with hot food. No. Oh, wait, you don't like a pizza?

No, no, no, no. You just... But that's cheese and pineapple. Right, no, it's very different. Cheez and pineapple, no. That's cheese and pineapple too, Ila. No, a skewer is a dry, cold, unpleasant. It's visually unattractive.

It's very different to a melty, gooey, you know, I don't know. I don't know. Well, you're wrong right now. I just want to say. I just want to say she's always right. She's right. What are you cooking? Do you cook at home?

You do? I love to cook. What do you cook? What do you cook? Well, at the moment I'm big into, what do I do at the moment? I mean, I'm a mom of three. So it's kind of like I get up and kind of like sort my week out. So I'll freeze a couple of tomato sauces.

I'll freeze a chicken stock. I'll do things in advance. And then I'm just like simple, simple, like pastors, me, anything. I can cook anything. Okay, I want to talk to you about being a mother. Like, what kind of mother do you, like, what do you think your superpower as a mom is? I definitely do not. As a mom, I should say.

I definitely do not have a superpower. You do. All women have superpowers. And do your kids call you mum or mom? Mumsy or mom. Mum. Yeah. Or mom?

Yeah, no, mommy actually. Mummy. Yeah. Yeah. Mummy. Like British, right? Yeah. Yeah.

I think they, is that British? I think that's more Australian. Is it? Well, I think it's British. and Australia. Yeah, probably. Same man. In America, it's mom.

Yeah. But what do you think? I'm good at as a mother? What do you think your strengths as a mother are? I mean, it's really interesting that you ask that. Obviously, all I think about the things that I regret when I go to bed at night that I wish I'd had all differently, I think overall my strength is that I have tried very much to reinforce anything they do to sort of align it with.

You must feel really good about how you did this. You must be really proud of you. So they're not searching for external validation. They don't need. Mommy likes my picture. therefore my picture is good. No, I'm proud that I drew a picture, therefore my picture is good. I just try to sort of separate and create a world in which that they have a,

they listen to the voice of, they have a beautiful relationship with themselves. That's maybe my goal, not saying it's a superpower. And then my other superpower is maybe like I'm really good at like switching off, like pretending that I can't hear anything, like just getting in the bath. And I'm like, I'm in the bath. And by the way, it's a great technique because when they finally get to, you, they've resolved it. They've sorted out who has the TV remote. They know where the apple juice is. They didn't need me to jump out of the bus, scamper downstairs, find everything

and, you know, what you don't do for your kids, they do for themselves. Baruch Hashem. Baruch Hashem. So when you were a little girl, did you envision yourself having three children? I always wanted kids. I was a nanny when I was 17 for a three-week-old baby. and I used to babysit my nieces when I was about, you know, 12. And so I always love kids. I've always loved kids. I just always think, like, it sounds awful, but when you get to my age,

I feel like I've met so many amazing people, and not to say that everybody's really similar, but you kind of realize it's, you can kind of predict someone's nature almost right away after meeting them or at least what they're like. But a kid is like, it's like opening up a present, you have no idea what's inside.

They're just so original. They think in this, like, totally unique, magical way. And I just love, I love their naivete and I love their kind of, they just say the truth. I find children amazing. Yeah, yeah. Her face is like. No, I like to hear mothers talk about loving being a mother. I think it's really important because. And you love their friends as well. You have this like community of like, particularly when they're young teenagers. You don't just have yours. They come home with like four looking at the ground. It's like, it's amazing. How do you handle social media with your kids. I mean, it's very difficult. That whole thing is just, and it's getting...

I mean, that's something that I just don't understand how parents can even deal with. I mean, we all know the statistics. There's nothing I can say that's original on that. And we all know that the benefits, the capitalistic benefits that are being made from, like, targeting women and their body images and how the algorithms work and how they impact our self-esteem. And really, what you can do is flag that. But it's that fine line. If you isolate them completely, then socially they're not necessarily in the same conversation. as their mates and so then you're just basically creating a situation where they can't really I mean they all have these platforms where they arrange things and they meet up but it's terribly

cruel like you can see who your best friend is and I mean I my personality would have not survived social media as a kid how do you handle social media as for yourself as an adult in this industry I mean my feelings do get hurt like I'll pop on something and see everybody went somewhere and I wasn't there or I do get a little bit of that or I see a little bit of that or I see somebody and other actors out there doing something and I'm like oh my goodness I haven't even showered yet at three o'clock and someone's come out with a bestselling book and a lycra brand and is now like the ambassador for china I'm just like the fuck am I doing but I think ultimately you just got to just try not to tune it out I think just like at the moment there's just so much noise on that

platform like whoever has the most explosive opinion whoever has the most extreme hyperbole or uses the most, like has the like the wackiest opinion, it floats up, hits the top of the algorithm and everyone sees that. So people are motivated to be super loud about things that just like we used to just like be chill over. Now that makes me feel really like anxious. So I'm not on it that much to be honest. Yeah. It's good to the taking the breaks from social media are like you just, your level of happiness is tangentially. Yeah. Immediately. Exactly. Immediately. Immediately like I was with some girls in Canada. I went to Tifino and I was, I was like, I just, I'm so, I was so stressed about my fucking house and all the money out the window and all, I know it sounds stupid, but it's just, it's just like I feel like I'm being robbed. Do you know what I mean? Like over and over and over again. And that like no one really has any respect for my mental well-being. Like the emotional, like everyone's like, it's just a house. It's just a house. I'm like, it's worse than that. There's, it's a grounding aspect that's missing. Like a, you're, you're groundless. You're without anywhere to, you know. To land.

to land. By the way, I really do agree with that. And I was thinking the other day when I had a bit of a rocky day, you know, when you get jet lag and you're awake in the middle of the night and everything feels much worse than it is. And I did think I was trying to sort of ground myself and ask myself like, where am I happy? Like, come on, Ila, where are you happy? And I realized, like, I did circle back to when I am in my house, I am always happy. Oh, really? Your house London. Yeah. And that's a new house. Whatever I make a home. But like wherever like my things are and my family is and I can make a cup of tea. And I don't know.

It's just something about that. So I get that. I'd be really discombobulated too. It's terrible. Yeah. Yeah. So how has it been living in London? Because you have a group of friends here in L.A., of course.

And you have a group of friends in London, too. I love my English friends. So it's so great that you have friends everywhere. Well, I think there's something about when you make a big switch in terms of like going from being married and not being married. You are like naturally, you're just more drawn to people on. It's hard to sit with like, Married people when you're single.

It's like, I don't want to see you guys like, oh, honey, do you need some block on? Like, uh, no. So I guess I'm now, like my crew that I hang out within London, they're just a little more, they have the same lifestyle that I do their single moms. And it's really nice. And it's really, it's a different car. I still love my L.A. friends, obviously, but they're away and they're, my ride or dies are really here.

But I am enjoying, like, finding, you know, commonality with this new group of women. And they're great. Women have, like, got me through. The last two years, my friendships have been just so important to me. And more, and I keep talking about female friendship with all my friends and every woman I meet. And we're all on the same page. Yeah. I think as you get older, the more you realize how kind of useless men become and how valuable women are.

You know, gay men are useful. And there are some young men out there that are a little bit more, they've gotten the software update that we talk about. Like you need a software update after 50 as a straight white man. You do. You need an update. You don't understand the way things are working. There's a shift happening. And if you don't see it, then you're against us.

But it's just a coming of age kind of story where you just realize how much more reliable women are. How much more comforting women are. How much more insightful. You know, you take something like, you know, we can dissect something almost ad nauseum. But it's kind of fun to dissect something and overanalyze the situation and get everyone's perspectives, you know? Like, the way one person looks at something is completely different. And instead of having, like, a flat reflection, which is what a lot of men do, they kind of just look at something

and they're like, well, duh, that's brown and that's over there. I wouldn't think anything more about it. And you're like, no, there's definitely more to, I mean, I know personally, like, I can overcomplicate things. You know what I mean? Just for the sake of kind of drama or conversation, but that's what being a woman is sometimes. It's having overcomplicating things. It's kind of, and no one gets women like other women. So I totally, you're not the first person to come on here and say that. A lot of women feel that way. And it's very buoying during difficult times. Oh my gosh. It's so, it really is. I'm so grateful. And the other nice thing is meeting new friends as you get older. Like, it's funny how you can constantly make new friends. And you can just at the beginning

go, hey, here's something about me. Like, because sometimes you'll meet a new friend and they remember that you have a new day at work tomorrow and they send flowers and then they text you that it's one of your kids' birthday, and then you can just put the kibosh on it straight away and go, you can inundate me with this amazing stuff, but I'm so disorganized and busy that it's likely that I'm going to drop the ball on your birthday. And if you still want a friendship with me, I'm here, but please don't be disillusioned. Like, I'm so open about what my strengths are in friendship. Now I'm just like, I'm just up front. It's like almost like dating, but with women. Like I just go, okay, this is what I'm great at. This is what I'm not great at. And like, I just

don't, it's not that same feeling that when I was younger, my friendships, I was always like, everybody remembered that we were supposed to do this and I got the day wrong and, you know, all of that stuff. Right, right, right. Well, you have three children also. I mean, anyone's expecting that. They're an idiot anyway. You know, I like the idea.

I was like, sending flowers the day of a new job. I'm like, who's fucking doing that? No, people do. That's amazing. That's amazing. They're really thoughtful. Turns out. There are really thoughtful people out there.

So tell me about this movie. Now you see me, now you don't. Yes. It's a little magic. We need magic. Yeah. Well, you're also, well, I was going to say, I mean, you went to clown school or mine school. Well, they're not the same thing.

But in my mind, it is. Yeah. I can see that you could draw to a conclusion. They're totally different. Clowns and magicians are over there on that side of the room. Well, let me help you out a little. They're very different crafts. And, but they do perform a similar function, like acting.

We're playing make believe and there is that suspension of reality. And obviously what we love about magic is this, like, kind of conflict in beliefs. Like, here's something that you know to be real, but then your eyes are deceiving you when you're seeing something different. And I think that conflict does create a kind of appetite to watch our story, and our story's full of great magic. And I play Henley. And the magic is real in the movie.

We had world-class magicians that came and taught us everything. Obviously, some of it's enhanced. But yeah, we worked really hard on the magic. Which, especially in the age of, like, AI and CGI and everything's CGI to have these, like, practical effects, is really exciting. It is really exciting. And honestly, I really enjoyed this movie. Just because it's like the story's good.

I don't know whether you guys feel this. but I just feel that everything I've seen on streamers and stuff lately. I'm just like the plot's not quite there. This is like somebody actually wrote and crafted a plot that's genuinely, like if you heard it as a radio play, you'd be gripped as well as it's fun. And it's like pretty people doing tricks. We've got new horsemen, these amazing kids, they're so talented. And did you work with some of the same people that you worked with on the first one?

Yeah, we've got the same, now you see me cast and Henley's back. It's so sweet. Isn't that fun to work with the same people like camp? Yeah. And by the way, we've all kind of. become like parodies of ourselves or like more extreme you know when people get older and they just get like become a little more like a like an exaggerated version of themselves i feel like I like exaggerated virgin yeah I like that you become an exaggerated virgin yeah I wish um but um Dave is

definitely like even more Dave and Jesse and Woody's like so Woody now like Woody looks like he's playing Woody Woody Woody is really I mean Woody is really Woody yeah every time you meet that guy you're just like wow you are really yourself yeah Yeah, that's so funny. We'll take a break and we'll be right back with Isla Fisher. She said, Johnny. The kids didn't come home last night. Along the central Texas plains, teens are dying.

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I braided your hair and then I'm braided it. And the kids. did not bother us. Yeah. We take callers. We're giving advice on this podcast. Oh, I should, you guys should really listen to me. I got my shit together.

You do have your shit together. You do have your shit together. Well, our first question, this one's just an email, but comes from anti-social mom. Oh. Dear Chelsea, my daughter is nine and has an adorably close relationship with her BFF, who is also a fantastic kid. Her parents, however, being around them is absolutely brutal. They're socially awkward.

We have less than nothing in common. and trying to hold a conversation with them is actual torture. The girls often request playdates on the weekend, which is usually fine if it's a drop-off situation. But some play dates involve a lot of bopping around and going to the beach, so I feel like I really should be there to help out. They've offered to take the girls solo, but I know the extra hands and eyes would be appreciated. My daughter's friend also deals with anxiety, so I can't take the girl solo myself, which would be way more fun because she likes a parent to be close. I know this sounds shitty, but you don't understand the gravity of their brutalness. The girls have been friends for four years, and believe me, I have tried.

So should I just microdust mushrooms and go on the playdates? Should I let them take the girls solo? P.S. I love you, antisocial mom. This is another reason to not have children, to deal with other mothers. I mean, seriously. I don't know. As a mother, what would you? What do you say to that, Ila?

I think nine's really old to be going on a play date for an extra set of hands. I'm sorry, Mom, but like, you're not changing a diaper. unless there's a food allergy, unless there's a body of water, which the beach sounds shady. But, like, I'm pretty certain your daughter can advocate for herself that if there's an issue,

she'll not want to go on the play date again. I'd be like, goodbye, goodbye, have a cocktail, and stay home. Yeah, I would say, listen, if those people are probably feeling the same exact way that you're feeling, if the interaction is that awkward, that they're going to be to welcome,

they're going to be, yeah, welcoming your absence. So, like, if it's not a match, it's not a match, don't push it. And if they're friends, like that friendship is enough, that friendship probably provides enough to that family. They're happy their daughter has a friendship that she wants to spend time with them. And if they're willing to take them to these places, great. Then do that.

And if she has anxiety and can't go with you, even more of a reason that they should be taking them places. And also, the daughter that's modeling not having anxiety and having no issue with separation from her parents is a great example on the daughter with anxiety. So you really want to continue that because eventually they're headed in the same direction. That other shy girl will come out of her shell and want to. a play date solo soon. Yeah, and also nine is too old, too, like, why are you? Yeah, nine is quite for a girl. I mean, if we're talking about a boy, but a nine-year-old girl,

you know. All right. Well, our first caller is Nicole. She says, Dear Chelsea, I've got big cis problems that go back to just about the beginning of my lifetime, and it has sucked hard. I've only recently, after relearning to self-soothe in healthy ways, become aware of just how much the bummer dynamics between my sister and I have fucked shit up for me big time. She's about a year older than me, and we're in our mid-30s. After a long phase of numbing myself as an adult, I've come to realize my sister's jealous, malicious, and greedy energy still plays way too large of a role in my life. Friendships, work, romance, family, and I need big time relief from it ASAP. How horrible is she? Example. She would hit me when we were kids,

but more recently, she named her daughter Collette. When I told her I was honored she named her kid after me, she laughed in my face and claimed she didn't. My name is Nicole, and it's a family name that goes back generations. Clearly, she'd like me to disappear and be forgotten about. She's driven by sibling rivalry, but despite all this, I love her. She's my sister. I've let go of expecting our relationship to improve. Of course, I still want that, but I in no way have ever consented to her rudely taking up so much space in my life. What's a girl to do? I've confronted her about it and I've tried going to therapy with her. When I confronted her, she called me crazy and in therapy she acted manipulatively and without any apparent interest in true healing, so I ended it.

Last I saw her and my beloved only niece and nephew, her gross, Trump-loving husband, kicked me out of house for unapologetically being myself, and she yelled at me nonsense ego trip style on the porch. This was a couple years ago. Since then, direct contact has included only happy birthday wishes and some cool presents and notes to the kiddos. The amount and frequency with which their bullshit has rudely interrupted in the good things I've had going on has been baffling and enraging. I've gotten better at counting my blessings, keeping on, keeping on, all that jazz, but the loneliness I feel in all this has been overwhelming. Any help dealing with this nonsense is super appreciated.

Much just gracias for all the good lulls and your lovely work, Nicole. Hi, Nicole. Hello. It's an honor. This is our special guest, Ila Fisher. Howdy. Hi, hi, sweet. Whoa, that's so cool.

It's a total honor to speak with all y'all. Thanks for having me. Look how cozy you look. Are you drinking a cup of tea? Coffee tea. Yeah. I thought you were going to say like whiskey. I was like even better.

Even better. You look like you're in a very warm and cozy place. Yeah, yeah, I've got a sweet little mountain home up here and autumn weather is rolling in and it's getting to be sweater time. That's cute. I like that time of year for you and for me. Well, your sister sounds like she's probably, she has a lot of her own issues that she probably has to sort out. So is there any way for you to kind of just limit your exposure to her? Definitely. I mean, I have been at the point of limiting contact to just happy birthday once a year. from my end, and there's been nothing from her to me for years anyways.

Wait, since the Trump, sorry to interrupt. So after the Trump fight on the porch, she then, that's when you guys cut off contact, then you send the birthday card and some gifts to the kid, and she doesn't reciprocate? Well, one, it wasn't a, I don't have a Trump fight with her. I think she's actually pretty disgusted by all that. But yeah, before the fight on the porch, you know, I, tried to go to therapy with her. That didn't work. She hadn't reached out to me for anything other than maybe a happy birthday or two for years. And then, yeah, sorry. Yeah, you're right. Since then,

oh, this is a lot. Excuse me. Since then, you know, since then, it's been me just saying, you know, happy birthday to my sister and sending her kiddo's presents for their birthdays. Nicole, can I ask you, why do you think that she's sort of like taken up so much space of your mental space, your emotional space, especially now while you guys aren't in contact? Well, it bothers me. And it's been hard to sort of rebuild after super bummer losses and stuff like that. Rebuild like the happy, you know, my happy garden. the, you know, cool parts of my life to better distract myself with, though I have been making progress with it. I'm just, you know, like one, she's my sister and my only sister. I love her. Like, I'm not banking on our relationship getting better. But of course, like, there's no way for me to, like, totally lose hope about it. And I guess maybe another reason has to do with, like, her having the only,

kiddos in my family and on her husband's end too. So I think she's very much got like the generous, cool, old people in our families and just anyone, you know, we all love kids. We all want to see them happy and well supported and stuff like that. So yeah, that probably has a lot to do with it. I think that there's a loving kindness meditation you can do for people who wronged you. You know what I? There's that loving where you're sending them love. You're sending them happiness and safety and all of the things that you would wish upon someone you really did love, which is you do love your sister. You want, you know, good things for her. It clearly interferes with your own sanity and your own peacefulness to be interacting with her. So I would take whatever

break that she's giving you as a gift, like to reframe it in your mind as like, this is a gift that has been given me to protect yourself from more hurt and more pain coming from them. The kiddos aside, you can keep sending them gifts and hopefully maintain some sort of relationship with them, although that's all you can really do without, you know, going and exposing yourself to that family. And I'm sure they're, I don't know, are they, is he, is the kid old enough? Is it a boy or a girl to be alone with? I love that advice. Thank you. Yeah, that is a great way to look at it. Yeah, the kiddos are the oldest ones just turned nine. Right. So you're not going to be spending time alone with them at this time. I can't steal him yet. I do look forward to those days, though.

Yeah, I just would really focus on actually trying to just send positive vibes her way without contacting her. Like, there's nothing positive that she's bringing to your life thus far. Like, it looks like you have, like, a really cozy retreat that you have set up for yourself. And some of the biggest insults in our lives come from people who do not deserve our ire. Like, they just don't get it. Like, you don't get my aim. anger. You know what I mean? When somebody really hurts you, they do not get your, they don't get the benefit of my pain. And I think that's something that you have to like imprint on your mind. Write it down and put it on your fridge. Like this person isn't thinking about what's best for you.

And so for you to be preoccupied with it isn't helping you move along. You should be focusing on the things that make you happy. Whatever your hobbies are, whatever you're into, double down on all of that, but always sending her love and light. Like, that's all you can do to be a good person and to keep your side of the, you know, street clean. But just take the absence of her in your life as a sign that the universe is protecting you from being involved with her. Because it sounds like you've had some painful experiences with her. Wouldn't you agree, Ila, when somebody like, somebody wrongs you, you know, whether it's a family member or someone you don't know well or a really good friend, they don't get your ire. They don't get it.

because it's not worth it. They've already proven themselves that they haven't earned it. So I would just write that down and write down your feelings around it and keep it somewhere close so you can check in with yourself and remind yourself of the reasons why you're better off not having her in your life in that way. Yes, she's your sister. Yes, you'll always love her. But you don't have to expose yourself to her.

And yes, be flattered by the fact that she's, I guess, engaging in sibling rivalry. It means she's as much as her life looks maybe from the outside to have ticked a few more of the kind of boxes with the kids and being like married or whatever that like clearly your family value those. You know, that doesn't prevent her from probably looking at your life, cozyed up in what looks like the cutest free people, tan, hoodie, whatever. She's probably looking at that furry snuggle muffin going, I wish I was having a team not like on my third round of Monopoly with some kid.

Yeah, yeah. She's probably looking at you and like, oh, wow, you're free. You didn't marry a Trump supporter. Look how free you are. Look at your freedom of choice. Look at you getting home to be in a peaceful place where you don't have to listen to that nonsense, you know? I'd love to share this with her. I'd love to help her find that own freedom for herself. But you're totally right. I can only do that from a distance at this point, you know. And also, if you change your expectations, you're going to be less disappointed. That is so true. That is the greatest piece of advice. I've been trying that lately. Yeah. Yeah. One thing that helped me recently when I was in a similar situation was, and I don't know exactly who this would be for you. For me, it was my acupuncturist and she does some energy work as well. But she actually did a cord cutting ceremony for me with some people that I was having a difficult time with. And it really genuinely helped. It was something I had been talking to my therapist about for months and months and months and having the sort of like severing the energetic tie was sort of the last piece I needed.

I needed the therapy too. But this sort of helped me feel a lot better about it and just detach from sort of the results of what was going on in the relationship and just be able to sort of detach. I do also think if you have tried distance for a period of time and it's not working and you do really love your sister, you maybe be open a little to trying another tactic. Like I know you tried that you mentioned you did therapy, but maybe it is worth having another conversation because sometimes, like, things don't work and we just get stuck in a rut, and you only have one sister. Sorry, God, contrary to reason.

Wow. Beep. You just told me I'm always right. I can't, yeah. Lower your chair, please. I mean, I can't, I don't understand what she's even talking about right now. I'm sorry. No, I just feel like guilty.

I've got two daughters and they're like best friends right now, so I just couldn't help You don't have a sister, though, right? I don't. That's probably why. I love my brothers. Yeah, yeah. I'm very close to my family. If you guys want to go intervene and help her out, that would I'm totally insipful.

We'll get on the line. It's hard. It's hard. You should see if she'll call in with you and then we'll do a three-way. But we don't give unsolicited advice. We actually need the people to call in because, I mean, yeah, we can't solicit. Yeah. We need to be solicitive.

But I'm a total fan of that happening. That would be great. Personally, I feel at this point, I've exhausted all my options. Like it's, I've exhausted myself exhausting my options like multiple times. Yeah, it sounds like it. Thanks for the great advice though. Right down. Okay. Cutting ceremony. Yeah, look it up. See if there's somebody in your area that can do that for you. That sounds like a great idea. I'm sure there's some energy worker in your mountain town that will know what that is. for sure. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Thanks. Thanks, Nicole. Thanks, Nicole. Take care. Thank you. Yeah. Thanks for rocking. No problem. Bye. So contradictory, I love. I just... Welcome to my life. I know. Why? I'm a mess. No, you're not a mess. But I just pictured, like, if she continues on down this path, don't you realize, like, how do you heal if you just cut somebody off? But if somebody's an unwilling participant, what are you supposed to do? Like, if someone's not will, like she's tried. You know what I mean? Like if you give your effort, like you can't spend I'm terrible though. I'll be loyal for, I just go and go and go. I'm just like, I make it work,

make it. I know. But being in this sort of like, you know, difficult situation with her sister, it's like it almost takes up more mental space for you because you're like, I've cut them off. This is my boundary and you think about it all the time. Whereas if you can get to the point where just you're neutral, even if you're not having much conversation with them or reengaging in relationship, it sort of just turns off that noise, at least for me and did anyway. I do. I agree with you. Yeah. I think. cut the cord, then name your baby after her. That sounds like a great idea.

Will you edit eyeless or initial response to this woman? I will. I'm just going to cut it. All right. Well, we have some other badly behaved parents here. So Kelly is our next caller. She says, Dear Chelsea, my husband has a big family that's very close, and his parents love getting everyone together as often as they can.

That sounds annoying already. I'm filing for divorce straight away if I was there. He has three sisters, and we all. have kids now. So the gatherings have gotten larger and, of course, a bit more chaotic with that many people and kids involved. One sister-in-law has three kids, 11 and under. Her style of parenting is, well, non-existent. It's making the family get-together is completely miserable to the point where I don't want to even attend family parties. Or if I do attend, it's making me want to drink heavily, and I'm trying to cut back these days, but that's a whole other issue. My kids have issues

that's just their nature, and obviously that's not their fault to be born that way. Anger issues, possible ADHD. The problem is these issues are not being diagnosed, so it's not being addressed properly. Then there's the nurture side of it. These kids are totally feral. I'll admit, I micromanage my kids, and I'm working on stepping back some, but her kids are not being guided at all or raised at all. The TV's on all day long. They eat crap snacks all day. They have no respect for adults, and they wander off, kick and scream when they don't get their way. The list goes on and on. This summer at a family reunion, one of my sister-in-law's kids started chasing the three other cousins with an aluminum bat, angry, yelling, and ready to swing if she could catch

them, all because she didn't want to be splashed in the pool. I don't see change coming from the parents anytime soon. They're oblivious to the fact that their children are an absolute embarrassment. I need your advice. Am I allowed to say something? Is it my place since I'm just the sister-in-law, or should I just distance myself from these events where they're in attendance? Thanks, Kelly. Hi, Kelly. Hi, this is our special guest, Ila Fisher's here. Hi, Kelly. How are you? I am so excited to be on the show. Thanks for taking my letter. Oh, you're welcome.

I would probably, well, you're a parent. So, I like, you go first on this one. What do you think about parenting other people's kids? Like the kid with the bat. How old was that, Ali, how old was that little one with a bat? Ten years old, chasing really, really mad and very angry. And let me ask, do you feel like, because what are the real impacts on you? Is it more that they're modeling to your kids' behavior that, therefore, that could lead them

astray because I can't work out like you could just obviously I mean I I have come from a really big family and all my brothers have loads of kids and so everybody parents in my family super differently but we we have like a rule where you know we're allowed to parent each other's kids but we're all kind of pretty chill so like no one really gets stuck in unless the stakes are high and there's like a knife to a head or someone's like hanging in a garage or drowning in a dog bowl no one really but I guess my feeling is for you like it's interesting that this is like provoked something within you. It makes me wonder whether you, it's more that it's a mirror back to your own style of parenting, which you're worried maybe either too, two tense or, or is it

more that you're, it's the other thing that you think that this like motley crew of, you know, this gang of, as they sound, whatever, are going to just make your kids derail and you'll be lose all control. Right. Well, thankfully, they do live farther away, so we only see them a few times a year, but it's that it's that the parents don't ever chip in. Like I agree, it takes a village. And yes, if you see another child about to get hurt or maybe not being super nice to the other one, yes, you all step in. You all say something. I don't mind if someone corrects my children, but these parents, I would be raising the kids if I stepped in. Oh, okay. It's just not, like, I don't want my own kids to take care of it. You know, it's just, it's a difficult situation.

one says anything. Everyone thinks it's a problem, but no one's saying anything. Oh, that's so frustrating. I feel the rage. Yeah, that is frustrating. I get so angry hearing that. I always say what I think. I've got ADHD, so it's bad. If everyone feels that way, then you guys should all band together and tell them that there are new rules when you guys come, when you have these trips. It's only twice a year. Yeah, an intervention. So if they can't follow those rules, then they don't shouldn't come. And if you guys are all, if you guys are all on the same page, you just make sure there's a list of things. You don't even have to direct it towards them. You should say before the vacation, here are the list of behaviors that we're not willing to put up with.

These are the new rules moving forward as combined families. However many children are you guys have together, which is how many? In the immediate family, probably nine kids. Great. Perfect reason. Yeah. Perfect reason to make a list. And these are the acceptable behaviors. If and when anything outside of this happens, you won't be invited back. And if you don't think you can, and it's not directed at them. This is to all of you. You know, somebody puts the letter out, and this is to all of you guys so that they're not being targeted, because it's not cool.

It's really not your place to tell somebody else how to parent. You know what I mean? It really isn't. It's not helpful. But if there's a set of rules that aren't being followed, then they can choose to not participate, you know? And then you have a reason to call them out if they do choose to come and break those rules and their kids are one of them's running around with an aluminum bat, then you have

every right to go, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. we just saw what's going to be acceptable behavior and what's not going to be acceptable behavior. But you have to get everybody on the same page and all the other families, or your other option is for you to opt out of that vacation and not go. Yeah, and that's funny in your books, you've mentioned the ground rules for your vacations and stuff, that is a good idea. Yeah, exactly. I was going to refer you to my last book.

I wrote a letter to my whole family. Brilliant. With every, these are the rules moving forward. This is the greatest thing I've ever heard. I'll send you the letter. You don't even have to write one. You can just copy and paste mine. It's perfect.

I mean, people send it to me all the time. They send it to the families. But it's true. Like, I stopped going on vacation with my family members who didn't want to abide by those rules. Then I'm not paying for your vacation. Then I'll go on vacation with my own friends. I don't want to go on vacation with fucking children anyway. You know?

What do you think you're doing here? Like, seriously. I wanted kids to drink my alcohol. I've been running a fucking campsite. I mean, honestly. But I think you should try. that first. Try to get everyone on board just as more of a general set of rules for everyone, for all of your kids, that it's acceptable to intervene if there's going to be violence or if there's

danger or if somebody, you know, like we want to have each other's backs within this like small community family that we have. It's only twice a year. It's not hard to follow rules twice a year and see if that makes a difference. Yeah, that sounds good. I do want to nitpick about one little thing here too, because in your letter, you refer a lot to the sister-in-law, but assuming that both parents are in the picture, correct? Yes, yes. They have a dad too. And so make sure that these rules are not just directed to the moms.

Right. They're both so incredibly. And blamed. Right. They're both so unaware. And it's insane how much they don't pay attention. I think they'd be like, what are you guys talking about if anyone said anything? Yeah.

And just remember, like the thing that people don't listen to is when they're judged. When you tell somebody this, I can't believe you did this. This isn't how you do it. I'm, you know, that doesn't help anybody blossom. It's when you share that helps people, you know, when you share, this is, oh, this is, I've, you almost, like, want to put the problem back on yourself, like you're dealing it with your children, which is fictional. That doesn't sound like what's happening, but it's almost like you want to position it that way. Like, I don't want my kids to be out of control when they're around all of their friends. I want them to have manners.

I want them to look every adult in the eye. I want them to say, please and thank you. Like, you have a set of rules for your family, and that's a great set of rules for a group trip. It's not about shaming them or saying, you know, how they're not paying attention, how unaware they are. It's more about how you want to lift the standards up for your own family. Oh, I love that. Yeah. Those are all good approach ideas.

Okay. So, yeah, get on that and see what happens. Maybe you'll get a different result. Cool. That sounds good. I appreciate it. Okay. Thank you, Kelly.

Thanks for calling in. Good luck, Kelly. Okay. Thanks, everyone. Bye. Bye. Ila, how did you and your brothers come up with that? Did you guys agree that you were going to be able to parent your own children?

No, we just sort of, I think, because it was staggered. People gave birth at different times. And so it's practical too. And the sisters-in-law are really cool. And there's not many egos in my family. So, like, no one's going to care. And like, how dare you would say that I don't know. Like, we're all pretty chill.

That's nice. Yeah. Yeah, you're lucky. But I have to say, like, we do let our kids misbehave. Like we're not like a French family. You would definitely not want us on a holiday with you. Well, maybe I would. Maybe I would at least be real and in my face.

You know what I mean? Not somebody like stealing alcohol and then shoving it under a rental house. You know, like empty bottles of beer under a rental house. I'm like, are you kidding me? So no respect for other people's property. I mean, that was many years ago, by the way. So that's not fair to say. But actually, I have plenty of recent stories too.

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