Dear Chelsea - Does This Make Me Funny? With Zosia Mamet
Episode Date: September 25, 2025Zosia Mamet joins Chelsea to talk about surviving an eating disorder, the time Nyquil-induced hallucinations almost got her fired from Girls, and why being a nepito baby isn’t all it’s cra...cked up to be. Then: A Chicagoan wonders if he should give up his pastime as a comment warrior. And a soon-to-be-groom has reservations about inviting his mother to the wedding. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees. This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Hi, Catherine.
Hi, Chelsea.
Hi, it's what day is it today? Today's Thursday, because our podcast comes out on Thursday.
Yes. And I have some very exciting news for our listeners. I just announced all my tour dates.
They just went on sale this week. It's called the High and Mighty Tour. I will be starting debuting my new material.
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I will be touring from February through June.
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Presale started last week, so tickets are flying.
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If you want good seats and you want to come see me perform, I will be on the high and mighty tour.
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Yeah. What do you have going on this weekend?
This weekend. Well, last weekend was more interesting because I got home Friday night at 5 in the morning.
I went to go see The Who at the Hollywood Bowl, which was so much fucking fun.
He's 81 years old, Roger Daltrey. He's a fucking nugget. I was in love with him.
Of course, had my LSD, so that was like had me pumping.
And he was just so vivacious. I couldn't believe this guy is 81 years old.
And Pete Townsend, and it was just so fucking fun. Going to the Hollywood Bowl, we had a
a great time. And then we went out to another party. So I got home late that night around
three. Then the next night I went to Paris Hilton's party, which I thought was a birthday party,
but it was a housewarming party to a house I'm pretty sure I've been to before. So I'm not really
anyway, that was a really fun night too. And then I ended up going to another party after that.
And I was out until six in the morning. I mean, this is a wild woman. Yeah, this is like me living
in my 30s again. And then on Sunday I had to cancel. Like I got a, there's a,
a, what are those massages where they kind of go into your, you know, the drainage?
Lymphatic.
Yeah.
I had my, Karen was texting me saying, your masseuse is here.
I'm like, what?
I'm like, I just got to sleep.
No, thank you.
Please bang her and tell her, I'm sorry.
And then canceled about three more things.
And then I went to my friend DJs and she made us all dinner for Sunday night.
Oh, how lovely.
It was a very jam-packed weekend.
Yeah.
I am going to the Hollywood Bowl, actually, for the first time in years, this weekend, or no,
tomorrow to see Pulp.
Oh, I saw them at Glastonbury.
You did?
Were they great?
I'm so excited.
Yeah.
They're like one of my favorite, all-time favorite bands, and I've never seen them live.
Oh, yeah, they were amazing.
Oh, I'm jealous.
When are they playing?
Friday.
So, yeah, it's tomorrow.
I'm heading to away for the weekend, so I won't be able to go to the Hollywood Bowl,
but I would have gone back for them.
Oh, heck yeah.
Yeah, for sure.
Our guest today is best known for her roles on the flight attendant and girls.
She's here to talk about her very new book.
Does This Make Me Funny?
Please welcome actor and writer Zasha Mammett.
Hi.
Hi, cutie pie.
How are you?
What's shaken bacon?
What's shaken?
Zasha Mammett is here with us today.
She's here promoting her new book.
This is not her first book.
This is her second book because she wrote, well, a kind of a cookbook and a kind of a memoir.
I don't know essays.
Well, it was an anthology.
So, like, I didn't entirely write it myself.
I got, I like hoodwinked a bunch of other really smart, talented people to write it for me.
That's what I do when I get bored with anything. I'm like, how do I continue this without actually
contributing? But this book you did write yourself. And this is more of a memoir, I would say,
right? Yeah, that word makes me want to like pull my teeth out one by one. But yes.
Does it make your vagina close tight? When things really annoy me, my vagina starts to hurt or shut.
Yeah. Just like, fully. Why do you hate the word memoir?
I feel like I don't, like, deserve to have written a memoir, I guess.
Okay, well, that's a great place to start because this whole book is basically you not believing you deserve anything, which is, before you got on, Catherine and I were talking about you comparing, as she was saying, it's generational.
And I was like, no, it's, it's your whole generation that doesn't feel deserving of things.
And she's like, no, she was talking about your father, who's David Mamet, of course.
having it. And I was like, isn't that intergenerational? That would be like the whole family doesn't
feel like there enough. Oh, yeah, sure. But I think it is both things. It's intergenerational and generational
if we're getting down to the brass tacks of things. It's all of the above. It's all of the above.
Anyway, it's a book of essays. And that's a better way to describe it. That's how I describe my books as well,
because I've written so many that how could it possibly be a memoir, even though each one is?
They are just essays and stories that I want to share, which this book does. And the book,
is called, does this make me funny? And there's a really, really adorable picture of you
on the cover as a little girl. So I want to talk about you calling yourself a B-minus
Nepo baby at best. I want to talk a little bit about nepo babies because I just had this
conversation. I went to the U.S. Open and Jessica Pagula, who was playing at the U.S. Open.
I don't know if you're familiar with her. She's a great tennis player. She made it to,
like, I guess, the semifinals.
Her father is some big magnate of some business.
I'm not sure which one.
He's a billionaire, though, right?
So he had come into the U.S. Open on his mega yacht to watch her at the finals.
And there were people talking about that.
And I was with my trainer talking about it.
And he goes, it makes me so crazy that anyone could think that you could get to that level
just because your father has money.
And I said, well, it's about money and access.
But at the end of the day, you have to have the talent to sustain your ability to get more than one job.
If you're going to base that on one job, it's not like your parents, you're in every movie with your fucking father, you know, and every show with your father.
Look, like Jessica Springsteen had parents who could allot her the opportunity, but like Bruce Springsteen did not get her to the Olympics.
Also, Bruce Springsteen sings.
She rides horses.
1,000 percent.
So it's so fucking.
And like maybe my family is like slightly closer together, but like I'm, I mean, I now have
written a book, but like I certainly wasn't doing exactly what my dad did.
No, right.
No, and also nepotism doesn't replace talent.
People aren't going to continue to hire somebody because of their parents.
Like, that's just not the way that it works.
When there's other people that could be more.
talented if they if they could hire them they're hiring them a favor it happens once it doesn't happen
over and over and over again and also with regard to jessica like there's this background story
when she had withstood like major back injuries major rehabilitation major like things that went
awry earlier in her career that she had to recover from and also you know have a determination
to actually improve upon and get better and better so arguably she had to fight even harder and
what I would say is, in my experience in this business, I find that people who have famous parents
like yourself actually many times have to work harder. It's interesting. I was having that
conversation with Billy Lord recently. And we were talking about how I think she's the best
ever. Yeah, she's so great. But like, there is this misconception that we are handed it so easily
and that we don't have to work hard for it. And people forget that you do actually have to be good at what
you're doing. And so I think people often try to create higher, harder, more obstacles for us
because they've like, they're like, they have a chip on their shoulder about it. Absolutely.
That's what I think. And it's not, it's not a blanket statement. I'm sure there are some celebrity
kids that, you know, maybe aren't that talented that are getting more opportunities than others.
But you almost have to prove yourself even more because people are like, oh, well, you're not just
going to fly by on your mother or your father's name.
you actually have to prove yourself.
And I'm sure that this isn't the case for everybody,
but like Billy and I were talking,
we're like, it's not as if our parents were like,
here's a fully financed movie with a leading role for you
that's going to hopefully win you an Oscar.
Like, they were not helping us in any way.
Like, my dad never gave me a job.
My dad never told someone else to give me a job.
Like, you know, we were just saying our parents aren't just handing out legs up.
you know, here, there, and everywhere. We, we happen to have maybe access. And I honestly think
the greatest thing that growing up in a famous family in the industry allotted me was knowledge.
Like, I just got to see what it was actually like. So I went into it without any misconceptions.
But that's also another point. It's like if you have two parents that are in the industry of
entertainment, it's not like you're going to be attracted to plumbing. And you're going to say,
Oh, I want to, or accounting or any of the other vocations.
It's natural for children to have two parents that are in some industry to also become
a person that is in that industry.
Yeah, even if they're lawyers or a plumber, like you said.
I'm very defensive on your behalf.
I hope you can feel my aggravation.
Fantastic.
I sound like I'm an EPO baby, but I wanted to be an EPO baby.
That would have been a dream come true for me, but no.
Okay.
This is something that you talk about in the very.
very first chapter, or the introduction of your book that I just wanted to read on the podcast
because I thought it was so fucking bold and great and such a thing that a man could do.
She's talking about her dad, and he walked in to a producer in Chicago with a copy of his
first Broadway play, American Buffalo, and without a penny to his name, he threw the play down
on the producer's desks, they had hard copies in those days, and said, if that play doesn't win
the Pulitzer Prize, I'll pay you $5,000. It did not, but the next one did.
The brazenness of that and the confidence of that is like it's what I want for every woman to feel.
I know. It's pretty crazy, right? Like, never a day. Never a day in my life. Or if I did that,
immediately followed by an apology. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, we still say we're sorry if we cough.
Yeah. I'm sorry. I could get to the point of doing it.
And then the second I had finished being like, I am powerful, woman, hear me, where I'd be like, I'm so sorry.
That was really inappropriate.
I didn't actually, I'm, I'm going to leave.
Your lunches on me.
Yeah.
I also hate when we say, I'm sorry when we start to cry.
We always go, I'm so sorry.
It's like, why?
Why are we sorry that we're crying?
We're feeling emotions.
When we correct someone else's mistake, it's like, I'm sorry, but this is actually,
no, don't be sorry.
I know.
I know.
I know.
There's too much material to talk about that.
I mean, please.
reading that book upside down. I'm really sorry, but yeah. Okay, you say something here,
and this is something I talk a lot about on this podcast, whether it's writers, actors,
you say, I didn't yet have the career I want, and I spend an unhealthy amount of time thinking
about women my age who do and wishing them not harm per se, but maybe hoping that they'd
change their names and moved to Siberia for a few years and give me a shot at bat for a while.
To most people, I've had a very successful career, for which I am eternally grateful. I would
like to talk about jealousy a little bit and envy because I also feel like that is a healthy,
normal feeling for anyone in any part of the world. It doesn't matter what industry you're in
to feel. There's nothing wrong with feeling envy. It's acting on envy where things become
problematic. So I love that you wrote that in the book. Do you want to talk a little bit about that?
Yeah, I do think that it's normal. I think it would be weird if we didn't feel that
way. I do think that it can reach an unhealthy abnormal level in this industry, specifically
amongst women, because I think we're fed this idea in the entertainment industry. I mean,
I don't know. I guess being women in general in any industry that there's a finite amount of
pie to be had. And so if someone else gets a piece of it, that means that there's less.
less for you. And I just don't think at the end of the day that that's actually accurate. I think that
that's untrue. And like, if you want to get really heady, part of me is like, is that a deep-seated
move on the patriarchy? Because, like, if we were to all band together, we would just be too
fucking powerful to, like, kind of pit us against each other. I think that's absolutely true. I mean,
That's the whole point of it. I mean, because women are just now coming to the realization that we are stronger together, you know, and that all ships do rise with the tide.
I think that's really accurate. I think they all, I just say that a lot. But I think this is an industry that is so success oriented. Like, you're not getting brownie points for the script you wrote that didn't get produced, you know? Like, and the most talented, nice person doesn't always get the job.
And so I think it can foster a sort of unhealthy comparison game.
I was just going to say comparison.
Yeah.
And so I think that it is healthy to a certain extent.
I think it is 1,000% normal.
But I think specifically in this industry, I do a lot of work trying to check myself of just like,
Mehmet, stay in your own lane.
Just stay in your own.
Like stop doing this and just like stay in your own lane.
you have a pretty heartbreaking chapter in here about school as a young girl and going to school
because your parents split up before you were even a year old and then you were living in Cambridge
initially right and then you moved with your mother and then that created some separation
between you and your dad and then they both went on to have other children and other families
so your first kind of formative years at school were brutal it was kind of you know really
triggering to read because I mean we've all been there you know and some
Some worse than others, but yours sounded like you withstood that trauma for as long as you possibly could and then had to say, I can't do this anymore.
Yeah, and like too long looking back on it, but also, oh, I was a kid and I didn't know, I didn't really know that I could say that.
But yeah, it got to the point where I was unable to handle it.
Like those, all the kids, but I think those girls in particular were really, they just seemed to live to make my life miserable.
Why don't you tell us the story about the birthday party and revealing, being invited to the birthday party and having to call and find out what time it was?
Yeah, I mean, this is like a perfect example.
They would pull this shit all the time.
They would sort of lure me into asking a question about some things.
They were talking about something in front of me.
And I was like, what are you guys talking about?
They were like, oh, we're talking about, I forgot what I renamed the girl.
Evie's birthday party.
Yeah.
And I was like, oh, when is it?
And they were like, it's on Saturday.
It was like, what time?
They're like, we're not sure you should call her and ask what time it is.
Like she hasn't told any of us.
So we're waiting to find out.
And I was like, okay, great.
So then I go home and I call Evie, I'm like, hey, Evie, all the girls were talking
about your birthday party on Saturday.
And they told me to call you and ask what time it is, what time is it?
And then she started hysterically sobbing and hung up the phone.
And then I get a call from a bunch of the girls, you know, a couple minutes later, chastising me for ruining Evie's surprise birthday party.
So they would just set these traps for me.
Like mind games.
1,000% mind games.
They were full like Machiavellian, these young little blonde ladies.
I mean, young little girls are brutal.
And for every woman here who's listening to this podcast, like anyone who has children, it is so important to teach your children kindness and compassion and not to be bullies.
Like I've had friends whose daughters have been bullies and they were in complete denial about it because they chose to believe their daughter was a bully.
It is so important.
I mean, it is torturous when you are young and in defense.
Like you don't know how to defend yourself and you don't know where to go or who to talk to.
And, you know, it leads to so many problems in life.
And for, like, I saw this beautiful video yesterday on Instagram of this boy wrestling at this
wrestling match.
And he was wrestling this kid who had cerebral palsy, whose team allowed him to compete, you know,
at this level, they looked like they were in, you know, six or seventh grade.
And the kid from the other school immediately recognized, you know, how easy it would be
to beat this kid.
And he sat there with him and let him, like, slowly,
slowly help this guy wrestle him to the ground so that he would win that match.
And every comment was like, whoever raised this boy did such a beautiful job.
And that's what I think about with regard to bullying.
It's like your parents have to be paying attention to how their children, especially young
girls because they are brutal.
And I know that we have problems with young boys too.
But girls are just so mean to each other.
And like you cannot have your child behaving that way.
and it's very illustrative in this book of what you went through
so I think people are going to really like you know
I know I went through somehow growing up too
and then you end up becoming a bully
you either end up retreating and having an eating disorder
this disorder you know having no self-esteem
or you end up becoming the bully that bullied you
in order to defend yourself so but your story is also great
because that woman or that girl at the time
who's named Evie in the book
comes to see you during
Was it the play on Broadway when she came with her father?
We were off Broadway.
It was the play that I met my husband doing.
We were doing it at the Lortel.
And tell us what happened.
She came.
Yeah, so I left one night, and the security guard told me that someone had left a note for me
while we were on stage, and he gave me the note.
And I hadn't thought about this girl in over a decade.
And I guess she and her dad had been walking by the theater,
and they had seen my name on the marquee, and they'd written a note and left it with the box office, and it was in her, like, you know, little curly cue scrawl, and she's like, oh, my God, Sashi, we're so proud of you. And it just made my blood run cold. It, like, took me back to being that little girl with her playing these horrible mind games on me. And it made me so angry, because, like, took me back to being that little girl with her playing these horrible nine games on me.
And it made me so angry because I think that feeling pride for someone innately involves a type of ownership is the wrong word.
But like you had a hand in that when you're like, I'm so proud of you.
It normally means that like you have a deep connection to that person or maybe you had a hand in them accomplishing whatever this thing was.
And it made me so deeply furious.
I was like, you don't get to be proud of me.
You don't get to have that.
And I tore up the note and I ground it into the New York sidewalk with my boot.
So you don't know that they saw the play.
You just did you?
They didn't see the play.
They literally just walked by and saw my name on the marquee, which also I was just like, that's kind.
Okay.
I don't know.
It wasn't even like they paid for and bought a ticket and came to see what I did.
Right, right, right, right.
Exactly.
Let's talk about your eating disorder.
And I say that in an upbeat tone for no reason whatsoever, but just because I'm assuming that you're out of the woods on that issue, am I correct?
No, we're good.
You talk a lot about this and about this number in your head, 100 pounds, 100 pounds.
That was the right weight.
And even when you went underneath 100 pounds to 92 pounds to 93 pounds, you were sick, you were using drugs, you were partying, you were escaping.
Talk to us a little bit about that for the people that are listening with children and girls that are experiencing that that are listening.
You know, I think the biggest misconception about an eating disorder is that it's about the weight and that it's about the food, which like obviously, yes, that is an aspect of it.
But at its core, it's about control.
And it's born from this need to control when you feel out of control.
And so food and your weight feel like these very tangible things when like the thing that probably is making you feel out of control is not tangible whatsoever.
Like for me it was my circumstance, my surroundings, the kids that I was in school with, my home life.
And so my anxiety eating disorder brain latched on to this number that felt like if I can just achieve that number,
then all of these feelings of fear and worthlessness and sadness will go away and I will finally
feel safe. But obviously that wasn't true because I hit that number and none of those feelings
went away and I didn't feel safe. And so I was like, okay, well, maybe it's still that number,
but I just have to try harder. It's like your brain starts to make excuses as to
to why the thing you've decided is the answer is still the answer when obviously it very
much isn't. And so I just kept trying to reach 100 pounds. It was a sort of amorphous goal
in my mind that seemed like the silver bullet to all of my problems. And it really wasn't.
It was actually just slowly killing me. And how did you finally come out of that? Did you go into
treatment. I almost went into in treatment. I didn't. And honestly, looking back on it, I do not envy a parent who
is dealing with this. I can only, like, it was obviously hard for me. I think it was so much harder for my
dad to feel helpless as well on the other side of it. And I'm sure it is so hard to put a kid in
treatment. And he tried and I fought back really hard. And I honestly wish that I had because I think
my recovery wouldn't have taken as long. You know, I think in treatment programs are there for a reason. But really, I have my dad to credit with finally turning the ship around. I was really in a bad way. I'd seen a lot of doctors who basically were like, you're dying. That's what's happening. Like, your body is disintegrating and you're dying. And how brittle your bones were that they told you, like, you know, if you fell down, you could potentially break your pelvis, like that you had just had no.
nutrition. No nutrition. Yeah, I had, I had arthritis. I couldn't ride horses anymore. I could
like barely walk up a set of stairs. Like I had, I had issues with my heart. It was, it was really
bad. And my dad came home from a dinner party one night where he'd sat next to someone whose
daughter had recently gone through the same thing and it'd sort of come up the other side.
And he ended up opening up to her and she talked to him for the whole dinner party and she gave
the number of this woman who would then become my therapist who was incredible and fully saved my
life. But he came home and I was up reading in my bedroom and he came into my room and he sat
on my bed and my dad, as I'm sure you can imagine, is like a very strong, oftentimes very
stoic person and I'd never seen him cry. And he started crying and he put his head in my lap
And he said, you have to promise me that you won't die.
And you just kept saying it over and over again.
And it was the first time that I realized that what was happening to me wasn't just about me.
And it was really my wake-up call.
And I realized that if I died, it wouldn't just affect me.
It would also affect him.
And I was like, okay, well, I don't want to do that to him.
I don't really care about me yet.
but I don't want to do that to him.
Yeah, wow, that's really moving.
It's amazing when, you know,
somebody can say something like that to you
and it has the impact that is strong enough
to make you quit the thing
or to make you understand
that you have to quit the thing
that is going to destroy you
and destroy the lives of the people that love you.
Yeah.
Okay, let's talk about some...
Let's talk about girls.
Let's talk about getting that role
and working with Lena
and how that experience changed your life.
I mean, first of all, best fucking show ever.
I'm so great.
So fucking awesome.
I mean, I remember watching that show the first time I was like,
this is going to be a huge, because I think I was interviewing Lena probably on Chelsea
lately or maybe my other talk show.
And I, so I saw it before it was out and I got to watch the whole series.
I was like, this is going to be fucking huge.
And of course it was because it was just exactly what everybody needed.
It was like your generation's sex in the city.
Just such a coming of age in New York City.
so funny, so well-cast, all of everybody in it was incredible.
So tell us about getting that part, how that happened.
I was shooting this movie, this like truly terrible indie film in upstate New York,
with horrible conditions, like, you know, 19, 20-hour days, all told.
And we were meant to be cheating early September, and it was late October,
and it was the coldest October on record.
It was so called that the farmers were all like, there will be no pumpkins for Halloween because our crops have frozen.
So it was like some sort of record-breaking cold.
And I was always, basically 90% of the movie was exteriors.
And I was always in this tank top trash bag dress.
It was like literally a dress made of trash bags that I had to get ironed into every day, which is really looking back on it like should have been my first sign that this was not going to be a good experience because I was like literally wearing.
trash. And I got this audition. We were shooting six-day weeks, so I had one day off,
and I convinced this young PA not to go to church with her husband and her newborn baby
and instead stay behind and help me film this audition in our production office, which was
an abandoned barn that had very bad Wi-Fi. And I'm pretty technologically inept. So,
So we filmed the audition.
It takes me like seven hours to get the tape to send to my agent, which almost doesn't happen.
At like hour three or four, I was like, I give up, I can't get this to send.
It keeps saying your file is too large.
And he was like, please, please, please, please, I really need your tape.
I think this show is going to be a really big deal.
So I finally get into my tape.
I end up getting the job.
We happen to have the Monday off that the table read is scheduled for in.
Manhattan. And at this point, I've developed pneumonia from these long days shooting in the colds
in my trash bag dress. But the producers have paid off a local doctor to tell me that I just
have a head cold so that I can keep working. They pay. How did you find that out? The PA's talk.
You know what I mean? So the woman who was like the PA that I spent the most time with ended up
giving me the skinny. Also, I sort of put it together anyways because she kept showing up and listening
to me like breathe in and literally it sounded like, you know, like a water cooler in my lungs.
There was so much fluid. And she would be like, just take some echinacea. I was like,
I feel like we're beyond that. Yeah, yeah, echinacea. That's like when people talk about melatonin.
It's like, please. Yeah, I was so sick. I was like at death store.
I would cough so hard I'd throw up.
Like, it was not cute.
So I came in that Sunday night before, and I stayed with a friend of mine in the city.
And I was like, I really want to be, I want to be on my A game tomorrow.
I was super nervous.
It's like, I need to get a good night's sleep so I can, like, be with it tomorrow morning.
So I took some NyQuil.
And I, I'm sure I took NyQuil before this, but I don't really have a recollection of doing so.
But I now know that NyQuil and I don't mesh well.
I don't remember much about the following morning.
I remember getting in the car.
I remember it was raining.
I remember getting to Silver Crup Studios, walking into the table read.
I remember being introduced to Lena Dunham and Judd Apatow and shaking their hands.
And then I literally do not remember anything, like nothing.
It is a full void until I woke up on my friend's floor, who I was staying with, like, drenched in sweat.
And I had this weird sort of fever dream recollection that I, in the middle of the table read, had like projectile vomited on the table.
But I also didn't know if that was real or not because I was still sort of in a NyQuil haze.
so I called my agent breaking out and I was like so this may have happened but I'm not sure
and he was like okay calm down I'm sure it's going to be fine I'm going to call the executives
I'll get back to you meanwhile I had to like get on a train and hightail it back to
helltown upstate New York in a shooting this movie that I wore a trash bag dress in
and I don't hear from him for a full week
during which I'm like, yeah, that face, exactly.
I'm like, I'm like, the whole thing.
How did you not continue to call him and call him and call him?
Yeah, and he, like, I would call him, but he was like, I haven't heard from them.
And I was like, oh, my God.
So obviously I'm fired.
Like, for sure, no question I'm fired.
But, like, beyond that, they're going to tell everybody I'm a drug addict.
They're going to tell everybody not to work with me.
like, I'm fucked.
So then after a week of just full spiral, he calls me and he's like, the reason it took them so long to get back to us is that they were amending your contract.
They loved what you did so much at the table read that they want to make you a series regular because initially the show was written for three girls, not four.
And they were like, they want to make you the fourth girl.
Oh, that's so fucking awesome.
Well, I mean, who knows what happened during that table read.
Maybe that's how you should go into all table reads.
Truly, I'm like, do I just take NyQuil always?
You should just get like a vaccine the day you have to go.
Yeah.
Just I just got my polio booster vaccine yesterday since there's polio going around all of a sudden again.
And they were like, oh, you might be sick for the next few days.
And I was like, oh, that's what you're describing.
I mean, basically, I could have symptoms.
I don't have them, but because I'm a fucking whole.
course. But, oh, that's really funny. And so what was it like, how was it, how was it, what was
it like working with Lena and the other girls? It was just a dream. Like that whole, we shot
that show all told from like shooting the pilot to our last episode was seven years. I spent my 20s
shooting that show. I like the number seven as a time of work. I feel like the reason that there's
a phrase a seven year itch because it's so true. Like seven years is a great amount of time to
spend in a relationship, on a job. Like, seven years is a good, like, chunk. And it's,
it doesn't take away. Like, it's a great addition. And it doesn't, it's not too long.
When you, like, when you have a good experience with something, it's just the perfect amount of time,
I think. There's something about the number seven. It's a good amount of time. Yeah.
Okay. So we're going to take a break. We'll take a break right now. And we'll be right back
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Okay, so this book is filled with lots of stories.
Some are really sad.
Some are really sweet.
And some are really moving.
And some are really, really funny.
Yes, I would say this book, I think this book does make you funny.
That's the title of the book.
Does this make me funny?
I think you're already funny.
So it was good that you put it down.
down on paper. How did you decide to write this right now?
So it wasn't my decision. When I pitched that book, my first Popsicle, the woman who ended up
becoming my editor at Penguin, this woman Meg Letter, who's amazing, had asked if I would
consider doing a two-book deal and doing Popsicle first, but then following it up with a book
of essays. And this was like five years ago at this point, maybe more. That's a very interesting
way for the publishing industry to work before you've proven yourself to give you, offer you a two-book deal, though.
Well, I think she'd read my essays in glamour. And so I think she was like, I've since learned that anthologies are very hard. They're hard for people to put together. They're hard for people to sell. I was like, what could be cooler than like a bunch of amazing people all in the same place writing their stories? But I guess I'm sort of a maybe.
be alone in that. Or I'm not, that's not the popular thought. So she kind of agreed to do my
anthology essay idea, but really what she had wanted was this book of essays. And I was super
shocked that she asked for that. I was like, I mean, I write this column for glamour, but like,
who wants to read a full book of my essays? But I said yes, because I'm an actor and I'll say yes to
any job anyone wants to give me that they pay me money for, pretty much. I just, like, didn't
think it would ever actually happen. Like, I think in my brain, I was like, yeah, yeah, I'm saying
yes to this, but we're going to do this anthology. And then, like, I don't know, but they'll probably
forget about this one or they'll, like, change their mind or something. And it takes so long
to write and publish a book. I mean, you know, it's like, it takes like 7,000 years from the
The process can only be described as tedious and annoying
because you are so creative,
you feel like you're putting so much in,
and then what follows all the creative bursts and blasts
and all of this like catharsis and sharing
is so tedious.
You know, once they put the book actually together,
it's just like one task after another that you're like,
way to take the fucking fun out of this.
By the time we were talking about what kind of
like the numbers would be next to the I was just like I'm out just I don't care you for doing my last
book for the cover I was like can you just find a fucking shot that matches what we're doing like do we
really need to do a photo shoot for this cover they're like most people get excited about this I'm like
not me I'm not excited to shoot another book cover that was the one thing that I really held firm on
though I knew that I wanted my buddy Danny Sangra to design the cover he's an he's an incredible
filmmaker. He's also an amazing visual artist. And he is one of my dearest friends and knows me so well.
I just have to be like, Danny, can you do my cover? And he'll make it perfect. And they kept sending
me these options that were like, great, but just I was like, no. And they made me jump through so
many hoops because I now know they like to keep it internal. And I just was like, every time they would send
me an email with options, I would write back and be like, can Danny please design my cover? And they
finally said yes. But we did Popsicle. I loved doing it because I wrote one essay and then I just
got to edit a bunch of other brilliant people's work. And by edit, basically be like,
thanks so much, it looks great. So when that came out, I was like, okay, Meg, my editor,
can we do another one of these? And she was like, well, no, because now you have to write your book.
And I was like, right, but can we do another one of these and I'll do that after?
And she was like, no, because you're contractually obligated to write this book first.
Okay, we're going to take a couple callers and give them advice, life advice, Sasha, okay?
That's what we do here, dear Chelsea.
Do it.
Yeah, let's do it.
Nothing better than an outside perspective.
Right?
What do we got, Catherine?
Well, our first caller is Alex.
He says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a 36-year-old gay guy and I am chronically online.
I have a good full-time job, and most people that know me hold me in high esteem, but I am
absolutely obsessed with Instagram and threads mostly. I always get into fights in the comments,
especially about politics. I always think I have the best points to make, and often maybe I do,
but I know that my comments are unlikely to really result in epiphanies where MAGA people will
change their ways. I figured since I don't argue with family or friends, what's the harm?
But I comment so often that on popular pages, my friends will see what I've written and everyone
knows how chronically online and combat if I am. Help, Alex.
Alex. Hey, Chelsea. Hi, this is our special guest, Sasha Mamet, today. Oh, hey. Hey, hey. Listen, as fun and as addicting as social media can be, well, addicting it is and as fun as it can be, it is not good for your brain. You are not feeding your brain when you are on social media. So you need to start detoxing. And by detoxing, I mean, you need to like, you
can start small you can start with an hour a day that you turn your phone off and put it somewhere
just put it away somewhere when you get home from work or your most vulnerable time wherever you
feel it the most but you have to understand like there are so many articles if you just google
what does social media do to your brain you can read it's going to make you sick you can't
spend that much time a online looking at other people's lives is not healthy you need to
fucking read a book. That's what you need to be doing. And you need to get into the habit of when you
don't have anything to do that you're reading a book because you're addicted. You have an addiction
and now you have to detox from your addiction. Chelsea, that's harsh. I know. I know, but it's true.
It's like it's not good for us. And listen, we all are dealing with this. You're not alone.
It's true. But you can take steps like don't you want to be a more well-rounded person. You don't
want to just be somebody who's arguing online or trying to make brilliant points online
to what avail? Like, what is that going to get you? What does it give you? It gives me some
satisfaction when I win. How do you, how does winning, what does winning look like?
Winning to me looks like when the other person maybe ends up blocking me because in my head,
they've like decided that they cannot argue my valid points anymore. Okay. Like, you know, one of my
most passionate things is about Chicago. I live in Chicago and like people are calling it a hellhole
and all this crazy stuff. And this guy was just going in on me like a lot of people because of the way
I look, they're like, you must live in a suburb or like on the north side or something. And I don't.
And like, this person was going in on me. And then I was like, I told him where I lived and like where I
have lived and the things that are great about where I live. And then he blocked me. And so I was, I mean,
it gives me a lot of satisfaction that I won that argument.
Well, you didn't win the argument.
Winning the argument would have been him going, wow, you brought up so many,
you raised so many great points about Chicago, and I was misinformed.
That would be a win.
Changing someone's mind would be a win.
Having someone block you is not a win.
Also, don't tell people online that you're arguing with where you live, like first rule.
I was just going to say that.
Maybe, yeah.
Sasha, how do you handle your relationship with?
social media. It's very tough because I have to be on it for work. It sadly is now like a part of
the job, but I find it's so true. If I don't go on it or I only go on it for a specific amount
of time to a specific end, it makes me feel so much better. Yeah. If I spend multiple days not,
because the problem is it's not real, but society and our brains keep telling us that it is. But
it's not and it's creating these like very weird parasocial dynamics that aren't actually based in
reality so it's like and it is absolutely an addiction i mean it's a dopamine hit 1,000 percent
absolutely and we're all guilty of it so just like you know you're living in a world where everyone
is dealing with us so you should get some comfort from from that but you should also be worried about
your brain health you know what i mean because no one's coming to save you you have to you have to take
care of yourself. You have to make the moves to make sure that you are having a healthier
relationship with social media and also find some other things to do that prevent you from being
online. Go fucking play tennis. Go play basketball. Go do yoga. Whatever is interesting to you,
commit to these things with the intention of breaking away from social media so it is not an
addiction. Set the timer. They give you those timers. Okay, you've spent an hour on social media
today. You can choose to ignore it, but you have to be in control of yourself to exercise your
willingness to change. You know what I mean? You have to have a willingness and then you have to
have a follow through. And I think follow through is pretty much the most important thing in life
is following through. You're calling because you know you have a problem. You're not calling to
hear me tell you, oh my God, I love it. Keep doing it. Are you? No, I'm not. Right. So you know you have
a problem. You've admitted it. Great. Those are the first two major steps. Now you can
take some steps to just spend less time. You don't have to quit. Just spend less time and stop
arguing with people. Don't tell people where you live. That's all just kind of like jerking off
into a fucking wall. Do you know what I mean? It just, what is the point? You know, go read,
go read Anna Karenina. Go read a book that's going to make you think. Zasha just wrote a great
book of essays called Does This Make Me Funny? Start reading books. That is going to add to your brain
health way more than social media.
And that's a fucking doctor's order, okay?
Okay, okay, okay. Keep us posted.
Check back in in a month and let us know how you're doing.
Even if you failed miserably, we want to know about it.
Okay, sounds good.
I think I'll start by trying to put a separation like right after work.
Like, unfortunately, work requires me to use a smartphone now too.
And so that'll be a good separation from work to life.
And I'll start there.
And just look at it and write it down, write it down.
Every night, look at how many hours you spent on your phone.
And, you know, I know sometimes you're on your phone for work and not social media,
but there's a differentiation there.
They show you.
They break it up.
So, like, look at that amount of hours and then every day work on decreasing that amount of hours.
Yeah, and I like what you said about, like, putting something in its place, like going out,
doing something real, like, Zashisat, like something real that's in the real world.
You can also log that and be like, today I did an hour of, I took a walk or I did, you know,
whatever the thing is.
Yeah.
And maybe if I want a crusade for the world, I should do something.
real and volunteer instead.
Yes, exactly.
That's right.
That's what Mitch Album said.
We just had Mitch Album on, the writer.
You've probably never heard of him because you're too busy online all the time.
He's written so many beautiful books.
And he said when he wakes up in the morning, he just starts to write immediately without
looking at the news, without looking at, he doesn't want anything in his head other than fresh
ideas.
And so if you think about all that noise that you're putting, you're allowing and you're welcoming
into your brain, that could be re-engineered to have so much more. And just have a fuller life.
Yeah. Okay. This is helpful. Okay, good. Those are your marching orders. Good luck.
Thanks, Alice. Chelsea, can I say one thing to you? Yeah. I've been a really big fan of you for a long time.
And I just think that you're a model of someone that's shown personal growth that's obvious while
preserving your authenticity. I really appreciate it. Oh, I love that. Thank you so much.
You're welcome. Okay. Bye.
I love yelling at my fans.
You know what? A lot of them, that's what they're asking for.
That's what they're calling for. They want me to...
Like, he wouldn't have come on if he didn't want that.
Right. Right? It's like a kid sort of wanting to get caught.
Yeah. Yes. Well, our next caller is John. So John says, dear Chelsea, your stand-up and books have gotten me through some really rough times in my life.
So I thought it would be fitting for me to reach out to you about an issue I'm having with my
wedding guest list. I'm a gay man and my partner and I have been together for five years.
This is both of our first ever relationships, which also led us to coming out to our family
members. Although most of my family was highly supportive, my mother was not, to put it mildly.
My mother and I have never really had a healthy relationship. She gave me up to be raised by
my grandparents when I was in the fifth grade. We remained cordial for the most part for the
sake of my grandparents, but this all changed in 2018 when a disagreement between my
grandparents and my mother resulted in a significant family rupture in which I ultimately
sided with my grandparents. During my coming out year, my grandparents encouraged me to have a
conversation with my mother, which I was hesitant about, but agreed to. As predicted, the conversation
went horribly. She was not accepting of, as she put it, my life choices. Sidebar, some of my life
choices include that I am the first college graduate in my family, a licensed psychotherapist,
soon-to-be psychologist, and caring partner. So I think it turned out pretty well, despite the trauma,
that comes along with being abandoned by a parent.
Anyway, my mother found out about the engagement
and has been speaking to my grandmother about it,
who has been slightly pressuring me to invite her to the wedding.
It's important for me to be surrounded by people
who have been supportive of my relationship.
However, I don't want my grandparents to be upset
that my mother wasn't invited
since she has a history of taking things out on them
when she's upset with me.
And I don't know if I'll regret not inviting her,
which is probably influenced by my inner child
still longing for his mother.
My partner and I are getting ready to send out save the dates next month, and I am really on the fence about whether or not to invite her.
I could really use your unfiltered and unbiased feedback, John.
Hi, John.
Hello.
Hi.
This is Zasha Mamet.
She's our special guest today.
Hello, hello.
Nice to meet you.
Me too.
Hi.
Well, listen, first of all, congratulations on having your fucking shit together, okay?
You have your shit together.
And if your mother won't tell you, I will.
You are a fucking success.
And I love when a psychotherapist calls here for advice.
So, I mean, that's always very entertaining.
Have you had conversations with your mother recently about your relationship
or about, like, you know, the seriousness of your relationship?
Does she know your partner?
She met him once a couple years ago.
We went to drop off Christmas presents there, and he was with me.
But she said hi to him and then ignored him the rest of the time we were there.
She knows we're engaged.
She knows we're getting married.
But she doesn't really talk about him.
me whenever we talk to avoid to that.
Okay, do you think it would be worthwhile to have a conversation with her, to see where
she stands with regard to your relationship?
If she understands that you're in love, that you're marrying a partner, that you guys
are intending to be together for the rest of your lives, do you think that's a worthwhile
endeavor for you?
Ideally, it would be.
I struggle with trusting what her reaction is going to be.
And usually in conversations like those, I walk away feeling pretty shitty.
So I don't want to feel that way.
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, yes, you can't control what she's going to say, obviously.
But if you in any way, shape or form are not feeling like you're going to have a safe experience at your wedding emotionally, then your mother isn't welcome there.
And you can't take care of your grandparents' feelings either.
You know what I mean?
This is about you and this is about your partnership with your husband and what you guys are building together.
And building it on a foundation of strength rather than negativity would be the starting point.
Right? And I think you probably know well enough that if you can't rely on her to be supportive and to be there for the right reasons, then it's not just about inviting her so that your grandparents feel better. You're saving them some trouble too. Like she'll take it out on them is what I gather if she doesn't get invited, right? She'll take it out.
Yeah, absolutely.
So it might be worthwhile just to send her an email and let her know why she's not invited, you know, and if she really, or if you want to do it prematurely, like if you want to reach out to her via email, because sometimes it's better to write these things instead of say them out loud because your emotions will get the better of you, to write down and say, listen, this is what I'm embarking on.
I'm about to spend the rest of my life with the man that I love, and we've been, you know, you've never really exhibited any support for this relationship or shown any interest in him.
so I'm unclear as to how to proceed about including you in the wedding.
Is this something you think that you would want to be a part of?
Do you think that you can show up for me and be 100% supportive?
Because that's all I want on that day.
And leave it in her court and see how she comes back to you.
And if she comes back to you in any way that makes you feel ick or weird or nervous
or you're emotionally not taken care of, then that's your answer.
And you don't have to have the conversation with her.
And you can easily explain to your grandparents
that you did that. You could CC them or not CC them. Don't involve them when it's not necessary. They're
probably old and tired. Sasha, what do you think? I mean, I'm so sorry that you're in this position.
It's truly terrible, and it's such a bummer because you're the child here, and this shouldn't have to be your
responsibility. But sadly, that's just sometimes life. But, you know, my husband and I had some tricky
family stuff when we were getting married and some tricky friend stuff. And we really sat down and said,
This is a day to celebrate our love.
This is the day that's supposed to kick off the rest of our lives.
And we decided the only people that were allowed to be at our wedding were people who we felt like we either saw or talked to every week.
They were people that made us feel happy and good and safe.
And, you know, we would have these sort of like, you can get very political when you're planning a wedding, right?
You start to be like, well, we fight this person.
And we were like, you know what?
this wedding is for us. This wedding is about us saying, I love you in front of our, I love you forever in front of our community. And the only people that we want there are those who are going to elevate that love. And that was our hard line. And it didn't always make the decision to maybe not invite some people easy. But I think at the end of the day, it was the right choice because it truly did feel like a joy, love.
bubble. And I think Chelsea's right. This is your day. And everyone who's there should be in support of
that union. And it's really up to your mom whether or not she can do that. But if she can't,
I don't think it's your responsibility to make her and your grandparents feel better by inviting her.
I appreciate that. Both of your advice is amazing. Sounds similar to some of the advice I would give one of my
client, but I think I need to practice what I preach here a little bit more. Yeah, I think you have
from this call, permission, to say no. You know, sometimes it's hardest for us to give ourselves
permission, and you definitely have that here. Thank you. I appreciate that. And just remember,
you know, when you make a decision like this, either way you go, then that becomes the decision. You know,
like if you decide not to include your mom, I don't know that that's something that's necessarily
going to weigh on you personally for once you know for the time that's remaining until the wedding
it might be like oh okay that's off my plate like i've made a decision or conversely to say i'm including
her it's like okay i've accepted that she's going to come like whatever decision you go with is fine
but i think that you can write that letter and email and put it in writing so that she has time to
read it reflect on it you know it can't be it's not going to be argumentative it's going to come
from a place of love and self-protection i will definitely do that and i'll have to circle back in a
date you, folks. Yes, definitely. Please do.
All right. Thank you, John.
Thanks, John. And have so much fun at your wedding.
And congratulations. Congratulations.
Thank you. Thank you.
Bye.
Okay. Well, we'll take a break and we'll be right back to wrap up with Sasha.
I'm Jorge Ramos.
And I'm Paola Ramos.
Together we're launching The Moment, a new podcast about what it means to live through
a time as uncertain as this one.
We sit down with politicians.
I would be the first in
immigrant mayor in generations, but 40% of New Yorkers were born outside of this country.
Artists and activists, I mean, do you ever feel demoralized?
I might personally lose hope. This individual might lose the faith, but there's an institution
that doesn't lose faith. And that's what I believe in.
To bring you depth and analysis from a unique Latino perspective.
There's not a single day that Paola and I don't call or text each other, sharing news and
thoughts about what's happening in the country.
This new podcast will be a way to make that ongoing intergenerational conversation public.
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Hey, I'm Jay Shetty, and I'm the host of the on-purpose podcast.
Today, I'm joined by Emma Watson.
Emma Watson.
Emma Watson has apparently quit acting.
Emma Watson has announced she's retiring from acting.
Has anyone else noticed that we haven't seen Emma Watson in anything in several years?
Emma Watson is opening up the truth behind her five-year break from acting.
Watson said she wasn't very happy.
Was acting always something you were going to do?
I was using acting as a way of escaping to feel free.
My parents, it wasn't just the divorce.
It was just like the continuing situation of living between two different houses and two different lives and two different sets of values.
the career and the life
that looks like the dream
but are you really happy?
Fame has given me this extraordinary power
it's also given me a lot of responsibility
listen to On Purpose with Jay Chetty
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Hola, it's HoneyGerman and my podcast
Grasas Come Again is back.
This season we're going even deeper
into the world of music and entertainment
with raw and honest conversations
with some of your favorite Latin artists and celebrities.
You didn't have to audition?
No, I didn't audition.
I haven't audition in, like, over 25 years.
Oh, wow.
That's a real G-talk right there.
Oh, yeah.
We've got some of the biggest actors, musicians,
content creators, and culture shifters,
sharing their real stories of failure and success.
You were destined to be a start.
We talk all about what's viral and trending
with a little bit of chisement,
a lot of laughs,
and those amazing vibras.
as you've come to expect.
And of course, we'll explore deeper topics
dealing with identity,
struggles, and all the issues
affecting our Latin community.
You feel like you get a little whitewash
because you have to do the code switching?
I won't say whitewash because at the end of the day,
you know, I'm me.
Yeah.
But the whole pretending and code,
you know, it takes a toll on you.
Listen to the new season of Grasasas Come Again
as part of my Cultura podcast network
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Hi, I'm Jenna Lopez.
And in the new season of the over
Comfort Podcast, I'm taking you on an exciting journey of self-reflection.
Am I ready to enter this new part of my life?
Like, am I ready to be in a relationship?
Am I ready to have kids and to really just devote myself and my time?
I wanted to be successful on my own, not just because of who my mom is.
Like, I felt like I needed to be better or work twice as hard as she did.
Join me for conversations about healing and growth.
Life is freaking hard.
And growth doesn't happen in comfort.
It happens in motion.
when you're hurting.
All from one of my favorite spaces, the kitchen.
Honestly, these are going to come out so freaking amazing.
Be a part of my new chapter and listen to the new season of the Overcomper podcast
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you get your podcast.
I had this overwhelming sensation that I had to call it right then.
And I just hit call.
I said, you know, hey, I'm Jacob Schick.
I'm the CEO of One Tribe Foundation, and I just want to call on and let her know there's a lot of people battling some of the very same things you're battling.
And there is help out there.
The Good Stuff podcast, Season 2, takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community.
September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission.
I was married to a combat army veteran, and he actually took his own mark to suicide.
One Tribe, save my life twice.
There's a lot of love that flows through this place and it's sincere.
Now it's a personal mission.
I wouldn't have to go to any more funerals, you know.
I got blown up on a React mission.
I ended up having amputation below the knee of my right leg and a traumatic brain injury
because I landed on my head.
Welcome to Season 2 of the Good Stuff.
Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast.
Okay, and we're back with Sasha Mamet, who wrote this great little book.
called Does This Make Me Funny? It's a book of essays, her personal essays, and it's filled with,
well, it's filled with everything you could want out of a book, quite frankly. So thank you,
Sasha, for being here today. I wish you the best luck with this book. And I'm just so happy
you're healthy and bouncing around the world and you're in love with your husband. You've been
married for 13 years now, right? Something like that. Married together 13, married in October for 9.
Yeah, long time. Wow. Good for you.
And no children?
Not yet.
No.
Okay.
Okay.
Well, maybe that's a good thing.
Okay.
So, uh, have a great day.
Love you, honey.
Thanks, Sasha.
Bye.
Bye.
Bye.
Bye, bye.
I just announced all my tour dates.
They just went on sale this week.
It's called the High and Mighty tour.
I will be starting in February of next year.
So I will be touring from February through June.
I haven't added second shows yet, but we probably will be to some of these.
So go get your tickets now.
If you want good seats and you want to come see me perform, I will be on the high and mighty tour.
Do you want advice from Chelsea?
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I'm Jorge Ramos.
And I'm Paola Ramos.
Together we're launching The Moment, a new podcast about what it means to live through a time, as uncertain as this one.
We sit down with politicians, artists, and activists to bring you death and analysis from a unique Latino perspective.
The moment is a space for the conversations we've been having us, father and daughter, for years.
Listen to The Moment with Jorge Ramos and Paola Ramos.
on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
In early 1988, federal agents raced to track down the gang they suspect of importing millions of dollars worth of heroin into New York from Asia.
Had 30 agents ready to go with shotguns and rifles and you name it.
Five, six white people pushed me in the car.
Basically, your stay-at-home moms were picking up these large amounts of heroin.
All you got to do is receive the package.
You don't have to open it, just accept it.
She was very upset, crying.
Once I saw the gun, I tried to take his hand, and I saw the flash of light.
Listen to the Chinatown Sting on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or anywhere you get your podcasts.
Hi, it's Honey German, and I'm back with season two of my podcast.
Grasias, come again.
We got you when it comes to the latest in music and entertainment with interviews with some of your favorite Latin artists and celebrities.
You didn't have to audition?
No, I didn't audition.
audition in like over 25 years. Oh, wow. That's a real G-talk right there. Oh, yeah.
We'll talk about all that's viral and trending with a little bit of cheesement and a whole
lot of laughs. And of course, the great Vibras you've come to expect. Listen to the new season
of Dacus Come Again on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
Hi, I'm Jennifer Lopez and in the new season of the Overcomfit podcast, I'm even more honest,
more vulnerable and more real than ever.
Am I ready to enter this new part of my life?
Like, am I ready to be in a relationship?
Am I ready to have kids and to really just devote myself and my time?
Join me for conversations about healing and growth,
all from one of my favorite spaces, The Kitchen.
Listen to the new season of the Overcombered podcast
on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast,
or wherever you get your podcast.
It's important that we just reassure people
that they're not alone and there is help out there.
Good Stuff Podcast Season 2 takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, a nonprofit fighting suicide
in the veteran community. September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob
and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. One Tribe saved my life
twice. Welcome to Season 2 of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app,
Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. This is an IHeart podcast.