Dear Chelsea - Just Boof It with Monét X Change

Episode Date: January 15, 2026

Drag superstar Monét X Change joining Chelsea to talk about the best party drugs, the scourge of bunions, and everyone’s favorite subject: boofing.  Then: A listener’s inheritance has everyone passing by with their hand out.  A deadbeat dad wins the lottery.  And a friend of Monét’s needs advice on their out-of-drag career. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Washington, D.C., Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago, of course. Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Mesa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri, St. Louis, Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham, North Carolina, Saratoga, California, Monterey, California, Modesto, California. and Portchester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington. I will be touring from February through June. So go get your tickets now. If you want to come see me perform, I will be on the high and mighty tour. Hi, hi, Catherine. Hi, Chelsea. How's it going? It's going very well. I'm in Whistler. I have three weeks off. I am just really feeling myself. I'm reading a great book. It's called

culpability by someone Holsinger, Richard Holsinger, probably got the name wrong. Anyway, it's all about, it's good. It's good, good, I recommend it. Yeah, what's it, what's it about? Is it like nonfiction? It's about AI. It's about a family who gets in this accident with another family, and it's an AI driven car. So really, who's at fault? And it's like all about

how AI is going to be impacting our world. But it's fiction and it's a family story and it's like, you know, dramatic. So it's good. Oh, ooh, very interesting. It's got all the ingredients. I've been taking a lot of baths lately because I've sick for about three weeks with this my annual smoking pot colds that I get. When I come to Whistler, I always forget that my lungs can't take smoking pot. And then I smoke so much pot that I have bronchitis for three weeks.

And so I'm sick every year when I go do host the Critics' Choice Awards and then I come back and really fall apart at the seams. It's like the cold weather and the pot. It's just like wreaking havoc. Both the cold weather, the pot, all my bad habits coming together, just giving me a grand old time. Doug has started smoking pot too, by the way. Great. But there's a lot of things happening. I'm about to go on tour starting in February.

My first cities are D.C. and Norfolk, Virginia. So please go to Chelseahandler.com to find your tickets. For any of the shows, I'm going to be coming to a city near you. And this show is going to be on Netflix. Yes. So IHeart is teaming up with Netflix. And full episodes of Dear Chelsea will start airing on Netflix January 26. And older episodes will still be on YouTube. Exactly. And we're still going to put clips and stuff on YouTube, but for full Epps after January 26th, check us out on Netflix. It's so exciting. Yeah, yeah. So that's exciting.

And I'm excited to go on tour. I have so many funny stories about all the drugs that I've been giving away. And I just feel like I'm a healer. You know what I mean? You're like a modern day shaman. And our guest today is one of my favorites. He's a friend of the pod, as they say. This is a very gay saying.

You know, he's from RuPaul's Drag Race and her podcast, sibling rivalry and Monet talks. She is currently on her high heels and bad knees comedy tour and then you can catch her on this season of the Traders. So please welcome Monet Exchange. Hi, Chelsea. Hi, girlfriend.

Hi. How are you doing? How are you doing? I heard you had surgery recently. I had surgery too. Oh, your feet. Yeah. We both had feet surgery. Yeah, we did. How was yours? Girl. Did you do one foot or two feet? We're talking about bunions.

everybody, welcome to Dear Chelsea. This is where we get down to business. I only had them on one foot, but I had them, which means I had one on the outside, which is called a bunionette. That's a cute term, a way to put it. Oh, that's very cute. Because it's not a full-blown bunion,

and it comes out of, like, your pinky toe. That was my kind of, like, force majeure. Like, I was like, oh, no, no, no. I didn't mind the inside one. It wasn't painful or anything like that. But the outside one, I was starting to, It started to impede on my sexual life, I felt like.

That was the big one. Because the one on the inside, the one like inside, it was unsightly. The one on yours? Are you talking about your feet? Yes, on my inside, yes. Oh, okay, yeah. Because a real bad bunion is really hard to look at. Let's be honest.

It's kind of like a bad bunny. You know what I mean? Yeah, you don't want to look at a bad bunny either. Yeah. A bunny rabbit or a bad bunny, bad bunny. Well, you know, I said, but not only bunions, girl, I had all, I had, my bunion and toes two, three, and four. I had a slight hammer toe. So what he did was hammered-tie. He went and he cut the tendons on the top and bottoms of my second third and four toes.

So now I can't bend my second three to four toes. They kind of just live this way. They just are dead. They're dead. They're dead. Do you feel them? No, I don't feel anything down there. I'm like fucking Mr. Deeds. I don't feel anything on those toes. You can stab me my foot. I also don't feel my foot. Like I rammed it into my pinky toe into a table yesterday or the day before. and the friction was alarming because I was like, ah, it was a thud. But I also didn't feel a thing. I was like, I was like, oh, wow.

I'm like, who knows if that toes broken now, by the way? Like, it's all just, I'm like, I wonder if I will ever feel my foot again. But were you awake for your surgery? You were asleep, right? You want to be put down, right? Oh, no, girl, I was awake for mine. I was awake being in time. What kind of budget are you fucking on that you didn't get anesthesia?

Monet, what are you talking about awake? No, he doesn't think good. you have to be awake because he needs you to tense the toes so he can see that, so he can see where the tendons are. So you have to slowly it so you can like flex them. Did you feel anything? I didn't feel them at all, but I could hear everything. Okay.

And I don't know about you if you've ever heard a fucking tendon being cut, but it sounds like, it was. For any listeners who are still listening, I want to apologize for this starting a podcast like this. I mean, how unfortunate for them to have to hear this. Yeah, it's fucking awful. I can't believe you had to stay awake during surgery. That doesn't sound right. That does not sound right.

But he was hot, though. He was this hot Cuban doctor. So, like, I was trying to be cute for him, too. So even in the most painful, in audibly painful moments. But first of all, you're not being cute to him. I mean, you're opening up with a fucking bunion and three hammer toes. So, I mean, it's not like he's going to be like, you know what I think is sexy? Although doctors are good like that.

If that's their specialty, they're not turned off by that. They are. Yeah, right. Doctors get turned on by you and painting you at your lowest point. My fucking old dentist, I feel like he would, I feel like he would come when he would be knuckle deep in my fucking teeth just pulling something out of that. I'm like, you're hard. You like this shit. Well, that's a private fantasy of your own.

That's not. First of all, you said you were going to send me mushrooms. Let's get on to more fun topics. You said you were going to say you called me specifically. Like, I want to send you mushrooms. And then I gave you my hotel in New York, right? Yeah. And then you drop them there, but I had gone.

So who knows who the fuck has those mushrooms? So you still owe me mushrooms. I got you, girl. Let me tell you, I am a mushroom factory. I am a drug factory. I'm coming to New York. Can you send them to my hotel again? Because I'll be there Saturday.

Chelsea, I think we've had this conversation 49 times. I live in L.A. girl. Wait, I thought you lived back in New York now. We do have this conversation 45 times. No, I live in L.A. It was L.A. four years ago. I live in L.A. So then why the fuck are you on a Zoom, ass?

Because I'm in fucking Rochester, New York, literally the worst place in the world. I'm going there. I'm going there next to me. I'm doing stand-up this weekend. I'm here. The comedy club is lovely. Cars and comedy club is great. The city of Rochester needs to be under fires.

So many to strike a match and like the whole city on fire. By the way, Monet Exchange is on her comedy tour. She's on a stand-up tour so you can get tickets for that stand-up tour on your website, right? Monet Exchange.com. Monet Exchange, X for exchange. There's no XE for exchange. It's Monetexchange.com. So that's where you get your tickets, everybody.

And she'll be in Rochester tonight. And by the time this airs, that will be a long, that'll be an old story. Speaking of not feeling shit, so I was at, I was, I just did a, just got off of a gay cruise with Audrey McDonald. What? My, yes. You would.

I feel like you live on gay cruises. Isn't this like your, this is not your first gay cruise, is it? This is my fourth one in six months. They love me all those fucking cruises. But do you love cruises? But Monet, do you love cruises? See, I only like the gay ones because they're filled. It is literally a 24-hour party.

It is non-stop partying, drugs, drinking. It is the greatest time of my life. I'm just with all these hot fucking delicious men and my boyfriend. And we're just at sailing seven Cs. Do you guys hook up with other people? All gay men that I know have an open relationship. Well, we didn't start there. We got there.

Yeah. No, no. I don't think anyone starts there, but you get there. And yes, we do that. So they're great. And, girl, we were parted with Audra McDonald. We're, like, at a white part of Audrey McDonald's passing. We're like, woo, hey girl.

It's great. It's a good time. And what was she doing? Performing on the ship? Yeah, she did, she just got off a gypsy, and she did three shows of one night of just her own concert. It was fucking divine. She's incredible.

Yeah, she is incredible. She is incredible. I like to her reaction to whoever that lunatic or who, somebody on Broadway, Patty Lepone. Patti Lepone kind of went off on her and for no reason whatsoever. But no good reason. No. Yeah. What did she say? She was like, oh, she something like they had, she basically intimated they had some big beef.

And Audrey McDonald's like, I have no idea what she's talking about, but I'm sorry she's so upset with me. Patty Lepone did it. It was ridiculous. But I think Patty Lepone might be a little bit off center. She's always got beves with people. Yeah, yeah, she seems so argumentative. Chelsea, I need to see you more. I feel like we don't ever see each other.

It really breaks my heart when I see you online hang out with all these fucking loser drag queens. Like, you did Delta work. Delta work. You did her podcast. First of all, that's not a hangout. I did her podcast. So that means I went to go do a podcast because I was doing press. You talk about hanging out in personal life, in real life?

I would be more than happy to hang out with you any time, especially now for the 40th time I know that you live in Los Angeles. every time you're like, girl, coming to New York for your birthday. Why do I think that you live? I literally flew. I don't know.

I flew to New York to come to your birthday party because I was like, I have to go to Chelsea's birthday. That's so sweet because I also had one in L.A. Did you really? Yes. Oh my God.

That is so stupid. I had a birthday party in L.A. to cover my L.A. and New York crowds. I mean, my friends. And that is hilarious. I'm going to reimburse you for that ticket. Don't.

Please don't. Your love is enough. No, but I want you to text me when you're in town. I do want to hang out with you. I love you. I love your energy. You've always got positive vibes. I'm sure your show is fucking amazing.

If you're listening to this and you need to be cheered up, go see Monet exchange on tour. And by the way, she identifies as a woman, okay? So don't get it fucking twisted. Chelsea, can you be honest? Have you ever gotten a boners seeing me in drag? No. No, no, no. I don't get boners from drag.

That's not my thing. I respect drag. I appreciate it. I totally love. that people can do that and express themselves in that way, but it's not a turn on for me. Well, but maybe not a boner, but like a jaw drop, Monet. Yeah, like a jaw to drop, like, wow, Monet's stunning.

Yes. Yeah, I mean, you are, you are. Yeah, so jaw drop is a nicer way to put it, or a better way to put it, I should say. Okay, let's go back to this cruise, because I find cruises and ships, as soon as you say the word ship is where you lose me. Like, if it were just a cruise,

without the word ship, that would be different. But as soon as I think like ship, my mind goes to shipping containers, large, large boats that like house 4,000 people. As soon as it's mass, like in mass like that, I'm like, I'm going on a small cruise to Antarctica this in the fall. I'm going to Antarctica. You're choosing to go to freeze your tits off in Antarctica? Yeah, I want to go.

First of all, I want to go commune with the penguins. Secondly, it's a, it's a psychedelic kind of is the theme. Okay, well, I'm sold. It's a bunch of people. Well, you're not invited. So, I mean, you're going to have to get your own invitation. It's a bunch of people who do psychedelics and work in Maps, which is like all of these kind of researchers and like neurophysicists,

neuroscientists who kind of like figure out all of the benefits of shrooming or, you know, like not in your like spare time, but more like medicated sits, like medicine. and journeys that kind of under that veil of medicine. But how medicinal plant medicine is and how medicinal LSD, all of those things. So I'm taking one of my friends who's really into that and we're going and I'm

hoping, I'm assuming there's just going to be a lot of fucking acid on board, you know? And that's going to be a great way for me to see penguins. I mean, you know what? I said, I'm a big acid girl. I've kind of sworn off of acid recently because my friend gave me some edibles, some gummies. A set were mushroom gummies, a set were acid gummies. I was like, great.

One night I was home. I was going to be home alone for the next couple of days. I was like, I want to just do some shrooms and watch Spider-Man into the Spider-Verse. Which is a great movie to watch streams on. And then so I take the two gummies and they're like half hour in. I was like, wait, why does it take us off to fucking kick in? These are, I've had these four. They're great.

Come up to find out, I didn't fucking take the mushroom gummies. I took the acid gummies. I took two doses, two tabs, basically. So I was literally, I was tripping my balls off in my house alone. So they were in a microdose. They were in my mouth. No, it was a mega dose. I have the best acid.

It's a microdose and it's a sheet of acid. I'm going to give you some as soon as I see you next time. And I have micro doses of LSD. And it is pure and it is great. And I've only had two people complain. And I've given it to about almost 1,000. Well, I mean, but Chelsea, I am big stock. It always takes me 10 times more to get me just as equally high as everyone else.

I feel like a microdose won't fucking work on me. Well, then you take a couple. Then you take a couple. You can take up to like, I mean, you can take as many as you want, but I'll take, I mean, I've taken more than one in a day. I sometimes take two, sometimes takes three. But you know what I love about LSD, microdose of these specifically is that it levels you up. Like if you're hungover or you're exhausted, you wake up and you take one and it just brings you up to the level you need to be to function for your day.

If you're at a party or in a party situation and you take one, then it puts you in more of a party mood. It's like you direct the drug. And that's what I love about that. And it's not overwhelming. You're not hallucinating. It's not like that. It's just kind of an upper, a big, good, healthy upper. It doesn't make you feel sweaty.

Sometimes when I do shrooms, I'm kind of off of shrooms lately. Although I got a big bag when I was in Vegas this weekend. Somebody gave me a huge, a friend of mine brought a huge bag of shrooms. I wonder where those are. But shrooms sometimes, like I like real mushrooms. But when you sometimes take a capsule, I get a little bit nauseous when I'm coming up. And I don't like that. fun high. It's not a giggly fun.

It is it. It is. I agree that, Catherine. I agree that. But also, the real ones don't make me yawn. Do you get the mushroom yawns? I just start yawning every two fucking minutes. But you yawn when you're coming up on them. That's a thing. It's like you yawn when you're about to get high. Yes, that's how you know it's working. But then

it should stop once you're high. Are you continuing to? No, I'm yawning the entire time. I'm going to fucking fall asleep on these. Well, you should take your mouth shut when you take them. No. How do I fit the dicks in if my mouth is closed? Chelsea. That's right. That's right. I forgot. Sorry. Well, use your butt. Can't you use your butt for all the dicks?

Just have someone hold it open. Oh, my God. I opened up the cruise. I said this joke on stage. I'm like, you know, about me. Listen, if you see me at a party, it was at the end of the set. I was like, if you see me at one of these parties, I forgot all my drugs at home. So if I come to you, if I come at shit with my nose, whatever drug it is, just put it fucking put it up there. I'll sniff whatever it is, right? You should not say that to 3,000 gay men on a shit.

Ivan I know that and you're the gay one. I was everywhere I heard people were just pushing things at me. And I was saying no for the most part unless I looked at someone. I'm like, you know what? You look trustworthy. Sure. I'll go with you. And this guy, he asked me, because I did you want a little bump or a big one?

I said, you know, I don't know you. Just give me a medium-sized bump. He gave me the biggest bump of ketamine I have ever taken in my life. And I thought it was a little bump. So like, 10 minutes in, I'm like, oh, this is a big bump. So I literally, I run to the bathroom and I lock myself in a stall and sit there for 30 minutes to let it like a wait myself. Break down ketamine for me. I did once take ketamine.

I think I snorted it. It was years ago with two gay guys, of course. And I was like, oh, I want to see, because everyone, that was when ketamine kind of hit the scene. And everyone, all gay guys were taking it. And they're like, it's great. It's relaxing. Da-da-da. And I'm like, relaxing for anal sex or relaxing?

Like, I mean, what's the delineation here? And they're like, no, you're going to like it. And I honestly just did. I did a line of it and I was like, I don't really feel that much. So what, maybe I didn't do, maybe it wasn't good ketamine or who knows, maybe I didn't do enough. But what, tell me about ketamine. Like, what is so great about it? So it's like dissociative.

So if you're, I find, like, when you're at. That's what I don't like dissociation. Oh, I do like that, though. Because, like, especially when you're at a club with, like, good music, it kind of lets you, like, it, like, let you detach from whatever the music is going on. And, like, you detach from whatever the lyrics are. just getting hit with the vibes of the music. So, like, the music feels better.

Dancing feels a little better. I don't know. It lets you detach a little bit, which I enjoy at a club with music. Wow. I wouldn't do, I would not want to be in a K-hole at a club. No. But, like, a little bump at a party, yes.

And a K-holes when you do more than a little bump. Yeah, that's a big bump. And you are like, you're fucking Doctor Strange into the Spider-Verse. You are detached, girl. You are on another level. described, like disassociating and letting the beat carry your vibe is something that I could use when I'm dancing because I don't have any rhythm. So, A ketamine sounds like I should disassociate from my body because my body's with stopping me from vibing. It's the only thing in the world I'm self-conscious about.

Not the only thing in the world, but it's my one major thing that I'm self-conscious about is my dancing. So I always have to take a drug if I'm going to go dancing so I can just loose it up and not give a shit that I don't have great moves. Academy will be great for you. It will be really great for you. Okay, well, that's good to know for the next dance party I get forced to go to. But I don't always love snorting things.

Have you ever snorted Adderall? I only have a snorted ketamine. I never snorted anything else. Okay. I want snorted Adderall. And that was really alarming. It makes you hyper, right? You just get like really hyper.

Yeah, I had to go to a charity event. I had flown in to San Francisco from, I don't know where, somewhere internationally. This was like 15 years ago. And I had a friend who was like, I was like, I'm dead. I have to go speak at this event about this charity I was representing, which, of course, will remain nameless.

Otherwise, people will connect the dots. I was like, I'm dead. I can't keep my eyes open. And he's like, do you have any eye or all? And I said, yeah. He goes, snort it. Like, that's the best way to, like, fucking get it. I got on stage and was talking for two hours.

I couldn't shut the fuck up. I was so obnoxious. I was so annoying. And then when I got, and I had the worst headache the next day. For like four hours, I woke up, and I just felt like a whore on the loose. And I was like, I will never, ever shove that shit up my nose again. I don't think I've ever done adderals. Oh, that's not true.

I've had an adderall since then. But I haven't snorted it. I would never do that again. I don't know. I don't love shoving shit up my nose the way that I used to when I was in my 30s. I don't like it at all. I hate it. So I hate, I've never done cocaine or anything like that because I just don't like how that feels.

I do ketamine. But what I do is I do this thing where they have these like wax loxedges. And you take it and each one is about 60 milligrams. And you put it just in. in your thing like an edible and it just like dissolves over like five minutes and then you get the same effects as if you snorted it. Like in your cheek sort of thing? Yeah, in your cheek.

Yeah. I like all the different systems of delivery drugs have now, you know? Boofing. Have you ever boofed? What's a boot? No, what's a boop? That sounds like a fart and then like something to do with your pussy. Well, very adjacent, very close to you.

You put it in your bow. Oh. Just put it in your mouth. And it's like instant. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. I heard stories about, you know, I heard stories about like, you know, rock stars in the 70s when they couldn't.

when they would, because people would do so much blow that their noses would collapse, the bridge of their nose or the stuff that's inside the cartilage, they would like burn a hole through it. So then they started putting coke up their assholes to get high because that's, then it goes directly into your bloodstream. But why not just do a gummy and wipe it around in your mouth? Doesn't that have the same effect or maybe not? It doesn't. I think there are so many beautiful and delicious blood vessels in your asshole. I think that when you get the drugs right there, it just really just and takes it right in. How are you enjoying being on tour?

Are you with your lover? Are they there or are you by yourself? Not by myself. It's just me and my assistant, Ty. He doesn't really come on the road with me. You know, that was the really big part of our relationship, like, growing to discover, like, how... Because I am super independent.

I, like, before my boyfriend, I had one boyfriend before him, but we were just together for, like, five months. It wasn't a real relationship. This is my first, like, real relationship. How long have you guys been together? Four years. Okay, so that's serious.

Yeah. So, and then so he is very... codependent. I'm super independent. So finding that balance of like, bitch, yes, I want you to feel valued and me being around, but you have to value my time and my solidarity. So he

comes to things here and day. Like, he came with me on the cruise, which was 10 days. And we just did that together. So now I'm going to do this stuff by myself. And maybe a few dates in October and November you'll come on. I think also being on the road by yourself is just a better way. Like, people always say they get

lonely on the road. I'm like, no, no, I don't get lonely on the road. I need that time alone where I don't have anything to do all day until the show. I like that. That is my time to fucking lie on my ass and watch TV or if I'm in a city that's worth seeing and going out. You know, like when I went to Europe, I was out and about every day. I never turned to the television on, you know. But like if you're in a city that's not happening, then, you know, you don't want to expose

someone else to that. Yeah. And I want to sit down. I want to fucking read my book. Order some fucking... Go to the gym. I love going. I'm going to the gym at a hotel.

That's my favorite activity. That's when I get my best workouts in when my trainer is nowhere to be seen and I'm on my own. So how have the crowd's been? Are there any cities that you've been to that you were really surprised about? Ooh, I was really surprised about Sacramento

because, I mean, I've done drag shows in Sacramento, but, you know, me doing Santa, I'm only been doing to Santa for what? Since 2021, so for four years now. So... That's when I started construction on my house, 2021. I've heard about this house, girl. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Where are you moving in Chelsea? Great question. Great question. I don't know. It's unreal. You're Chelsea handler. I know. I know.

It's unreal. It is unreal. I can't believe this is my life. I make millions of dollars a year, yet I am staying in the guest room of a fucking friend's house for four years. Which is a great friend. Let me tell you something. There is no one.

I have to bounce a right. By the way, it's not the same friend. I have to keep fucking moving because otherwise I'm going to ruin all my friendships. Yeah, I was like, I would tolerate someone staying with me for maybe a month until I'm like, okay, babies, we got to figure it out. Yeah, exactly. Like a month is my personal. Exactly.

I'm moving out now. I just got another rental to move out so that I don't overstay my welcome with a friend that I'm staying with because she's been so hospitable. And I really just don't want to like, you know, it's, we're having a really nice time together. So I want to leave while it's hot. You know what I mean? I don't want her to be like, when the fuck is this woman going to get out of my face? Because I don't just come with me.

I come with my housekeeper and then my dog person and then my dog. And then it's a whole factory of people that come over every morning to make sure I'm awake and going to my... So, not to bring everyone over to the house. No, but they have to perform for me because they think... Because I have no house. So they have to do something in order. They're like, well, you're paying me. I'm never going to like suspend their payment because I don't have the house.

You know what I mean? So I pay them... I've been paying everyone for four years to work at my house, but I don't have a house. So they just follow me wherever I go while I'm in the country at least. It's a hot mess anyway. You know what I mean? I need to call a podcast like this and get some fucking advice. When I renovated my house, I mean, so I bought the house.

And I was like, you know what? I saw those people who are renovating houses. I'm efficient. I'm great. I can do it. Two months into renovating, I was like this, I'm way over in, way in over my head. I can't do this. I found a friend of mine.

He used to be the senior vice president of merchandising for Mac for like 25 years. He had just retired. He moved to LA. He was like, what you're doing? I was like, I just bought this house. renovating is ridiculous. I don't know what fucking plugs, outlets, or Venetian plaster. I don't know any of these fucking terms. And then he came on and he project manager holding for me. And he is like a rude, nasty, angry gay that just gathered those fucking contractors.

And he got it done for me in two and a half years. Well, I hope you chef some ketamine straight up his asshole. It's a big thank you. I really hope you did because he sounds like he deserves it. The more people I bring on to this project, the longer it takes. Are you building the Taj Mahal? You would think so, I mean. No, it's cursed because it was RFK Jr's house. Yeah, it's cursed.

Oh, no. Yeah. That's what girl. Yeah, they play that. You're going to be talking like, hey, you're going to have a crazy voice too. I hope I run into that fucking asshole, RFK at some point. I have so much to say to him. Not that he would sit there and listen to it because I don't think he can even comprehend information. He's so stupid.

I mean. Shave a glass of raw milk in his hand. He needs a ketamine up his asshole. Boop him. Yeah, we need to booth him. Booth him. I'm going to start boofing people. That's what I want to do.

That'll be a good way for me to channel my anger. But, oh, sorry. So Sacramento, I love Sacramento. Sacramento's a really good time. I performed a years ago and drag, but never doing stand-up, and they were just, and what I realized, to every audience, every comedy club,

theater, whatever I go to the, oh, it's like, your audience tips really well. I'm like, yeah, the gays and girls and days, we tip. Like, we appreciate service workers. We appreciate when you make us, good cocktails, and we show that with her money. I'm like, these fucking straight people that come to your show, to your club, I can't speak

with it, but the gays, girls in days, we spend money on good service. Well, also, most of us are either, like, child-free or, you know, single. So I have the same audience, women and gays, right? And that's right. Because people, once they start having children, they're like, well, I need this money for that, and they become more peneurious with their money. And I feel like that's another reason not to have children, so you could be a better tipper.

Yeah, hell yeah. Chelsea, oh my god, I need I need advice really quick. So the work from my four years in, he wants children. I don't want children, I don't not want children. But I think I do not want

children, which means I shouldn't have them. You know what I mean? I'm too much on the fence to like want to have kids. Like I feel people who want kids should be like, I want children more than I want my next breath. Yeah. I want to go to the PTA. I want drive the car with the kid. Like, I am not that.

No, no. And you never will be. I will never be that way. Right. You're never going to be like that. So I think that's very good what you're saying. It's like you don't desire it.

I feel like if you're going to be a child, you have to desire it so badly. Is it a deal breaker for your partner to have kids? I mean, you know what? We didn't talk about deal breakers like at the beginning. We were kind of like, yeah, we'll get there. And now we're four years in. And it's like, I really want children.

I'm like, well, I don't know if I want children, you know? Yeah. I would try and push that as long as you can to, you know, know. But conversely, on the other side of the coin, I do believe that if you do have a child that is brought into your life because your partner feels so vehemently for it is so vehemently like passionate about having a baby, you are going to fucking love that baby. It's not like you're going to find, you're going to have a kid and be like, I don't like it. That doesn't happen, you know? Yes, it does. Well, it doesn't happen when somebody, it doesn't happen to people

like us. Like, I have children in my life and I fucking deal with it. I don't, I hate them. I'm not mad at them. I mean, yeah, I'm exhausted and I'd rather not have to deal with like stupid shit, but I'm always going to be available to a child. And you're going to be the same way. It's just like the kind of people and culture, like part of culture that we are. Like, I don't want one. And I hear what you're saying, but you're not going to ever, I don't know that you're going to regret having a child, you know, if it's something that's so important, like you've got a lot of love to give. And so, you know, like if I met a guy and he had some kids, I wouldn't not date him. I would. But, and I would be like, oh, this is a nice opportunity for me to kind of be a maternal figure or like a big sister kind of vibe.

But it's not like I would be like, oh, I want to, you know, if somebody said to me, I have to have children. It's like, well, obviously that ship has sailed. And I think that's the best way to do it. Meaning someone that has a kid sounds fucking great. Because worst case scenario, I can press the eject button and be out. Yeah. But if I want to stay and be a mother this child, great. But it's not of my own loins.

So I could like, you know. Right. And most kids are really, you know, most kids are lovable. You know, like, it's hard to find a kid that doesn't deserve love. I mean. He's never met my nephew. Yeah, well, I have a couple of nephews, too. That's the thing about, like, I'm down to have a, if we do have a kid, great.

What if that motherfucker has the audacity to be straight? Rude. What if I had a straight young man in my house? Some motherfucker walk around my house, crashing his balls. fucking his armpits and shit stink. Like, now I'm going to have to raise a straight person. That sounds awful. You're raising an ally then in that situation.

True, true. That's right. That's fair. That's a great point. You're raising an ally. And then he turns against his fathers when he grows up. And he's like, I can't handle these two, homos. He's like, it's enough already with my house.

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Back with Monet Exchange. She's on tour so you can buy tickets to her show at Monetexchange.com. Are you ready to give some advice today, Monet? Yes, yes, yes. She's always ready to give advice. Excellent. Well, I do have a Monet question to start out with. This one's just an email. But Hillary says...

This is Hillary Clinton? Yes, it absolutely is. Dear Chelsea, I have a question about how money changes relationships. I'm a 35-year-old woman who works as a child therapist at a nonprofit, so I don't make much money for what I do. I grew up as an only child to a single mother in a lower middle-class family, and I'm very used to living paycheck to paycheck. I lost my mother as a teenager and the only family I had left was my grandparents, who became my best friends and the only emotional support system. Two years ago, however, they both passed pretty quickly one after the other. It was a devastating blow and wrecked me pretty

badly emotionally. Now I just have my wife and young daughter as my only remaining family. This is where things took an unexpected turn. Upon their deaths, I received multiple requests from people I considered close friends asking for money. They needed help with mortgage, bills and other expenses. At first, I was happy to help, all while trying to establish a boundary that these were simply loans. To sum it up, I gave out about $18,000 before I realized what was happening. I stopped giving out money, and needless to say, I haven't seen a cent of it back. It's not about that, however. I feel embarrassed, taking advantage of. I'm shocked at how a few of them turned on me like that. Even more recently, my HOA community just outright asked me to

personally foot a $35,000 bill for something in our neighborhood because they knew I could. with the inheritance from her grandparents. I don't know how they knew. I don't speak to most of my neighbors. I considered it for a long time before asking them to come up with another solution. How do I trust the intentions of people going forward? I've never had a lot of money before, and I certainly want to share it, but I'm realizing now that certain people will use me for it

and not actually value me as a friend. Thanks so much, Hillary. Wait, I'm sorry, I missed this part. Did the inheritance was the inheritance? How did everyone know about the inheritance? Wasn't the public news? Seriously. I don't know how the neighbors knew.

I don't even think she knows how the neighbors knew. But her friends are family. Yeah, friends of family. Yeah. Yeah, but still, like, that's not an invitation to ask for money. Can I just say when I open up my DMs, how many fucking DMs I get asking me for money? How many DMs I get saying I'm going through a really tough time? I just got fired from my job.

We just need, I just need $30,000 to tide me over. It's unreal. VEMO requests. If I open my VEMA right now is, literally like, hey girl, hey girl, I need a... Wow. People find your Venmo and they request you all day long from a... I just can't imagine asking a stranger for money.

At all, I would love to. Like, I mean, I, you know, I want money too. My money's all out the window with this fucking house. I don't have any more money to give. First of all, you're going to lose all your money. Don't ever advertise that you have money. Don't advertise that. Just hold onto your money and save it

because you're going to need it for fucking something and use it for yourself. It's your inheritance. And definitely, you know how you can tell if people are using you for money? If they're asking you for it. They're asking you for money. Like, you don't give your money away. That's not, they're not entitled to that money.

Those are your grandparents, period. Yeah, girl, even if they're, even if their friends or family, even if, even of their family, that money is not yours. The inheritance went to you. However, your, your grandparent decided to give you that money and give it to whoever, that's who it belongs to. It is not belong to your mom or your cousin or Sister Keisha, whoever it is. No one is entitled to that money except for you.

And again, if you found it in your heart, you were so generous. You've already given $18,000 to your friends and family. That's it. You have to set a boundary like, hey, guys, the bank is closed. I am not willing to give any more of this money. And again, if there's someone that has a really soft space in your family, like a nephew that you really love, and you really want to help them out with whatever, then that's a different story. But to have this open-door policy when a family can just come and hit your offer money is dead.

It's done. No more. And why is your community asking you to pay for? The fucking road work in the building is crazy. That's if. That's so ridiculous. And also, like, there are going to be things that happen in your life where you are going to be able to help somebody out of a really bad situation.

And that person should be somebody who's close to you and a friend or a lover or whatever or a relative that you can help. Your child that, you know, God forbid something happens and you need like all this money. That's what you save that money for. You want to be nice and share the money. That's a very nice sentiment. But donate to charities that you care about then. Donate to homelessness.

Donate to food. shelters, donate to children's charities, donate, you know, to like the LGBTQ community for children who have been kicked out of their homes. There's a million places to give your money to you that you can actually track its use and track how it's being spent rather than just giving it to individuals. This story is as old as time. It doesn't work out well when you hand out money to people. One thing my parents taught me really early on through like mistakes that they had made was they're like never loan money to friends like these larger amounts of money

because A, they probably won't be in a position to pay it back and then they feel awkward but even if you say yes and say it's a gift then they still often feel awkward and you lose the friendship and then they become resentful of you in a sense because it's like you help them and they're embarrassed and so then you lose that friendship anyway that's happened to me 50 times

where I've given friends here's 20 grand you know here you're in a bind I actually saw somebody that I loan $20,000 to the other day. He's never paid me back. And he doesn't have to. It's fine. But I saw him, he's never brought it up. This was years ago.

He's never even brought it up. He's fine. And no one knows about it. It was like our secret. He was so embarrassed when he came to me. He's like, I can't believe I have to ask you for this. And I was like, okay, yeah, I guess who else can you ask? I guess I'm the only person to give it to you.

And he's never even once said, hey, I don't even care about the money. Just say I appreciate you doing that for me. Based on the fact we're not even, yes, something. Like, it's just kind of, you create a dynamic that is not good. Acting like it never happened is wild. So you guys go to like events, you've seen him out of place and it's just like, hey, girls, saw him, house, house, house, how's done doing? I hadn't seen him in a long time.

And then I saw him the other day. And he was just like, hey, how are you? And I'm like, I'm great. How are you? And like, I remember telling my friend, I was like, you know, I once gave him. She goes, you did? I go, yeah, it was in a bind. He's really close with someone I'm really close with.

And it was kind of weird for him to come to me in the first place, quite frankly. But, you know, I have a big heart. I always want to be generous when I have excess. I always do. I really do. And I did. But I just like, I'm like, it's interesting that that person feels no obligation to address it ever again. Like, just take it.

And okay, I guess we'll just forget that happened. So one, no is the answer for these friends. One way to kind of like get out of them blaming you is you could say, you know what, they left it in a trust. I don't really have access to it like that. Like that way it's, you're not saying no, you just can't. Unless you want to. You see, for me, though, I'm like, because it's really hard for me to like keep up with a lie.

Like, that's why I'm a pretty straight shoot. I would be like, girl, this store is closed. Like, I wouldn't tell the lie because then it might come up again instead of someone like, it's in a trust. No, it's not. And I feel like that might make it dodgy for me later on. But all you have to say is, listen, I've done this before. It doesn't work out well.

I wish I could share with you. I wish I could give you this money. but I've loaned people money before, or I've given away people money before, and it's actually ruined our relationship. So I'm so sorry, but I'm not doing that anymore. Yeah, people need to understand. It's a real fucking thing.

I just set that boundary, but like, no, girl, it's not happening. I'll take it out to the dinner. We can go out to the Applebee's. I'll get your last little chicken selects a trio deal. I won't. I won't be at the Applebee's, but good luck with everything. He'll take you on a cruise. He'll take you to an Applebee's that's actually on a cruise ship.

This is a virgin voyage. Chelsea, no, I feel like you will like a virgin voyage. It's a very nice show. Moving along. Moving on. Moving on. Well, our next question, and this is a first for us here on this show. But I have a question.

And Monet, this may be somebody that you are acquainted with. So I just want to preface with that. They like cruises. Probably. So this question starts, dear Chelsea. I've been a full-time drag queen for 16. years. Drag has been such a blessing in my life and given me opportunities beyond my wildest dreams. I became the first drag queen in history to perform on all seven continents, yes, even Antarctica,

performed in 35 countries, was Grand Marshal of NYC Pride, ran for city council, and was first drag queen to moderate a panel at the UN, so things have been good. However, at 38 years old, I keep wanting to push myself and try new things to take it to the next level. Challenging myself as a performer is really important to me. When I moved to NYC at 17 years old, it was to pursue a career in musical theater. I got signed to an agent last year to continue this dream, but haven't been able to book anything. All my auditions get great feedback and lots of, oh yeah, love them and their work, but no follow-through with getting the job. I've done a lot of different reality TV, but I want to do the real deal work as an actor, comedian, and performer.

What can I do to better help these goals and skills and get myself seen as more than a drag queen? Not that I don't love that, but I want people to see me as a more well-brown. performer who's versatile in what I'm able to do. Thank you, Marty Cummings. I know Marty go coming. Marty, do you guys know each other? I do know Marty for years. Oh my God, Marty, this is our special guest, Monet, is our special guest today.

And look at these two. They already know each other. We've never had that happen before on this podcast. I know, Monet, call me back. I will not. Is that one of the people, is that one of the people you auditioned for that you didn't hear back from? Yeah, she will cast me, Monet.

Hello? Monet, give Marty some advice. Marty, I can say Marty is one of the most talented entertainers in New York City. Marty is hilarious. Marty is a great host. Marty is a good singer. So, Marty, are you leading with, so are you leading with the drag for these auditions? Are you going with, with, like, headshots and, like, profiles of you in drag when you do these auditions?

It, like, very, so, like, my agent primarily sends me out on drag. stuff. So they'll send, you know, like my drag headshot, my non-drag headshot, auditions normally are self-tapes, like in drag, whatever. And the feedback, it's always the same feedback from the casting directors. Oh my God, we love Marty. They're amazing. We love, we love, we love, we love. And then like, I'll get a callback or whatever. And then I don't get it. And I'm like, okay, girl, you love me, but run me my chat. Like, hello? Do you audition as you, Marty, straight? Not straight. But like, it's a bit. Like, it's, You know what I mean?

I'm primarily sent out on castions for like drag roles and drag characters. There are some. So like, it's after Catherine and I talked, I actually, my agent emailed me that this big director emailed them and was like, we really want to see Marty for these two roles for his next film. One is drag. One is not drag. Obviously, if I book the drag one, like, yes, I want it.

But I want to be challenged. Like I want to be challenged. I want to try something different. and I want to show that I could do more than drag. Right. And also, drag is a very specific niche thing. Like, it's not as widespread. Like, you know, it's not like there's tons of drag movies out each year.

So I would really focus in on going in as yourself without being in drag also, in addition to auditioning for stuff in drag. Because you're probably going to find a lot more opportunities there. Yeah, and I was going to say, I think that that needs to be the directed to your agency and your manager. Like, hey, guys, let's say for six months, do not send me any drugs. drag castings, do not send my drag headshots. Like, only focus on Marty Cummings. Do not put drag into it. Like, I only want to focus on Marty Cummings, things for me out of drag, maybe some straight rolls, we get really crazy. Like, let's not get carried away, guys.

I'm sorry, ladies, I'm so sorry. I'm talented. I'm not that talented. Okay. But yeah, you should. You should cast a wider net. That's, you're going to catch more fish that way. That's just the way it works. Like, don't limit yourself to that, you know, like, go where the opportunities are too. I wouldn't say you have to excise all of your like submissions to drag, but I would say like definitely be open to playing yourself without being in drag. Yeah, I totally am. And I think, I think Monet is right. Like I have to stress to my agents like, hey, like I love the drag stuff. But please look at other castings for me also. I think that's, I think it's like, I don't want to say pigeonhole, but it's easy to see somebody as one thing.

And also have your agent be saying those specific things to casting directors and like saying, you know, Marty has these other talents and loves playing these, you know, quote unquote straight roles sort of thing, you know, comedy, drama, that sort of thing. I know Clayton Ferris, who's like somebody I follow on TikTok, he is an actor and like kind of in the same vein went to his agent and was like, listen, I really want to do a movie this year. And then he wound up being in weapons. He's like the boyfriend of the principal in weapons. And he was like, I just said it and, like, stuck to my guns about it and it happened, you know? So I think having your agent expressing that to other people and because people do just want to, like, go with the first thing they see, which is like, drag is more exciting than just like, yeah, the person. So. And I am not like a big, I'm not a big intention person.

And I, I, I mean, I feel like, I'm not that girl. But I do think because casting agents are so, they are so stupid. Like, they can, they can only see the thing that you're giving them. So, like, you have, like, drag can even be a part of it. Because once they know that drag is a thing, they've already written off in their mind. I was like, well, no, he can't play that role because he's the drag on over here. So I think it's really being intentional about, like, only giving them the Marty Cummings as opposed to Marty Cummings. You know what I mean?

Yeah, I mean, I think that's, like, I was telling Catherine, like, so many these casting directors, they follow me, they come to my shows. They're like, we love, we love, we love, we love, we love. And so I think in their mind, it's like, Marty, drag queen, Marty, drag queen. And I want, like, yeah, so I think, like, if my agent's sending tapes of me out of drag, that will start putting in their mind like, oh, Marty is a, like, layered human being, you know? Also, maybe one thing, this might be crazy, but maybe you need to have another, like, acting name. Like, be like Jake Sanchez. Maybe not Sanchez.

That may be a little problematic. Be somebody else. Be Tony, Tony Smith. I don't know. Like, have, like, a different pseudonym for your acting for out of, for stuff that is not drag at all. Have you tried boofing any of these directors that you're auditioning for? We just covered... I just learned about boofing and I'm very excited.

Wait, what's boofy? Oh, my God. Hello. Marty, Marty, you've boof some things in your day. I've seen you boof them. Wait, what's boofing? What is it? What do you do something up your butthole?

Oh, I move to God. Oh, I boof all the time. Buddy, that's my... That's going to be my... my name on the resume. Booth. Yeah, Marty Boof. Marty Boof.

That's cute. That's got a break to it. I just broke a sweat. Oh my God. Talking about boofing. Yeah. I would definitely be sweating if somebody boofed something up in my tushy hole without a forewarning. But at least hopefully I would have some sort of warning.

Okay. I have for sure. For sure. This is so crazy that you ended up being one of the questions with it. This is hilarious. Marty, I think you have your marching orders, right, Marty? Yeah. I have a call with my agent.

tomorrow morning, so I'll get on it. Also, signbar, I went to Antarctica, Catherine told me you're going, you're going to love it. Penguin shit smells disgusting. Okay. Okay, great. It smells that? I'll just snort a lot of ketamine before I go there,

so I won't smell anything. Booth the ketamine. Okay, boofs the ketamine. Okay, sorry. So I'll just, yeah, then my asshole. See, I've got to figure out which orifice to put what in. It's so confusing now. I'm so confused.

But thank you. Thank you, Marty. I appreciate your call. Thank you, guys. Bye. Bye, thanks. People also sometimes boof alcohol. Like if you, because sometimes you're allergic to it going down in something in here.

So they. Who's allergic to alcohol? I know a lot of people are allergic to alcohol. Especially in vodka. People are allergic to vodka because of the wheat. And so the next move is to put it in your butt? But if you're allergic to something, then putting it in your body in any capacity has got to be bad. I know.

But the gays will need their alcohol, Chelsea. Okay. Well, this doesn't sound like good advice. Anyway, moving on, Catherine. All right. Well, our next caller is Megan. And Megan says, Today I'm writing to you for advice

on an estranged father dynamic. I had a very normal childhood until about high school when my father's mental health took a huge hit. Turns out he had been sexually abused by a nun as a child. And about the time I hit fifth grade,

my father went off the deep end. He and my mom were separated off and on while I was a teen with me confronting him over cheating with sex workers and then him destroying my mother financially in the divorce. His family is full of addicts, criminals, and just all around conmen. I've not had contact with my father in the last 15 years,

despite him showing up at my workplaces, circling around my block, and just generally trying to make contact. I've never felt emotionally safe around him. Fast forward to this year, when I've started to wonder if I will ever have contact and how I'll feel if he passes away, I happened to Google him and found out he recently won an $11 million settlement in a personal injury lawsuit. Time to contact him.

He's been living on disability, running scams, and working under the table to avoid paying off his debts, including tens of thousands he owes my mom in the divorce, and 18 years of child support he never paid for my half-sister. My anger was palpable, him living in a $3 million mansion in Milwaukee, that's a dream home, with a brand-new sports car while I'm a struggling teacher and my mom had to put off retirement because he cleared out her 401k in the divorce. While I'm sitting here stewing on this information, cosmically, he just apparently knew what I was thinking about and sent me an email, apologizing for a quote, things he had done wrong and asking for contact again. Do I meet with him? Should we have contact with parents just because there are parents so we don't have regrets? Or should I maintain

my boundaries for my own mental health? This is the first time he's ever owned any wrongdoing or offered an apology, but I also don't want it to seem like I'm suddenly returning because he has money now. I have two small children that he has never met and who I haven't even considered introducing him to. I also feel like I might owe it to my mom and half sister to try and get them back the money they're owed. I'd appreciate your thoughts on family boundaries and estrangement. Thanks for all you do, Megan. Hi, Megan. Hi, how are you? Hi, this is our special guest, Monet Exchange. She's here today. Hi, Megan. Nice to meet you. So funny, Megan. We just had a conversation with somebody who had come into a lot of buddy and was starting to loan it out to people

and wondering what their boundaries should be about that because all of these people started, you know, approaching them. But this is a different situation because your father is trying to reach out to you and you got an email that you hadn't gotten before. My impetus, I'm of two schools of thought for this. I would be motivated to reimburse your mother and your sister for the money that he neglected to pay them. That would be my motivation for connecting with your father.

But he also did apologize in this email, which you said is something he's never done before, right? Right? Never. Yeah. Okay. So this is the first apology he's made to you. Absolutely. And how does that make you feel? Yeah. There's been years of no ownership, no talking. So angry, but also angry for my mother. When I mentioned it to her, her reaction, like I could just see the disappointment that he harmed her in so many ways. And she didn't get any ounce of an apology. And he said that this stemmed from him, he perseverates in this trial of the abuse that happened to him. And he had been rereading the. the trial and found a letter I wrote to the court. And he had, like, realized first time that I think he, like, recognized anything outside his own world. Like, in all of this, he's the victim in everything. And I think he just, like, for the first time, was starting to deal the end. He's a lonely old man who doesn't have his family in his life. And I think that's really hard. And money doesn't

solve your problems. So I think that was him reaching out. I think that you, this is a great opportunity for you to say, hey, listen, I know that you've come into $11 million that you want a lawsuit. If you want to speak to me, the way that you could speak to me and to move forward in our relationship is to do right by my mom and do right by my sister. And catalog all of the money that he didn't pay in child support and alimony. Catalog all of that and reiterate what your mom had to do, how she had to not, I think you said she didn't retire on time because she had to work, right? Reiterate all of those things and say, this is the decent thing to do.

And if and when you do this, if you decide to do the right thing, then I would be willing to talk to you. I'm also going to add an asterisk to that because I have recently learned that in some states, like this is state dependent, so you'll have to figure out what's, you know, with your state. But in some states, the child support stuff never goes away. So if the authorities are let know that he has this money, the money should just get like taken out of his account and literally put into your mom's account. Like it depends on the state, like I said, but some of this money might be able to be just transferred right over. We found out Wisconsin law doesn't get my sister anything back. Her stepfather is a lawyer, so they looked into it. So she, there's a statute

limitations on it. Hers is gone. But my mother has consulted a lawyer and is now going to go forward with it. Great. Yeah. Great. Awesome. That's amazing. Yeah. I think, I think that atoll, like, yes, he is, he seems to be in a different place where he's apologizing, making those to apologize and amend his wrongs. But for me, a big part of that is the atonement. The reparations for the wrongs you have done. So until he's able to do that, it's probably going to be really hard. For me, I'm going to guess for you, Megan, probably virtually impossible to move on when you are not writing the wrongs that you did, which is giving us this money back. Like, you have, you used to comply out on all these years of caring for me and for caring for my mother and all this stuff. So he has to atone to make you want to feel like this relationship is repairable because right now it doesn't seem like it is.

And you come into $11 million in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. You can live off a million dollars for the next 20 centuries. $11 million, you'll be just fine if you give whatever he's owed to you, your sister, and your mom to move on and then you all can build, you know, a family dynamic hopefully again or whatever that looks like

now that you're grown and you're not a child anymore, whatever that wants to life for you. And, you know, and in regards to him being your father, yes, he's your father, but he's a fucking human being first. So he needs to fix what you need to do to you guys can all move on and, you know, build something nice, hopefully,

if you want that, Meg. What do you think about this? Meg? Yeah, that makes a ton of sense. Okay. Okay, good. Let us know what happens. I will. Okay, cool. We'll send him that email and, you know, catalog everything for him. So he's not confused about anything. And then, you know, based on, and then the ball's in his court and he can decide. And maybe increase the amounts for inflation. Exactly. Hello. Catherine, absolutely, girl. Yeah. And pain and suffering. And whatever else you decide to throw in there.

We actually looked at it. There's a clause in their divorce that he owes interest. that was specifically written in. So it actually comes out, with interest of 17 years, it comes out to be a lot more for my mom. So hopefully, she'll at the very least get that back. Great. Amazing. Great.

Well, keep us posted, okay? Yes, keep us posted. Thanks, Meg. Thank you. I appreciate your time. Catherine, I have to say, I listen to y'all's pod so often. I just love your haircut. It's gorgeous.

Thank you. I was pink until very recently, and then I chopped it all off about six months ago. So, yeah, thank you. I appreciate that. Looks fierce. Bye. Okay. So we'll take a break and come back and do a,

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We're back and we're black, and we're all women in here. Okay, so our last question comes from Braden, and the subject line is, my boyfriend won't shut the fuck up about his job. Dear Chelsea, my boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, and I love him very much. We have so much fun together when he gets out of it. of his head about work, but most of the time he won't shut the fuck up about his job and how good he is at it. He loves his job and says so all the time. I'm so happy for him and proud of his hard

work and success, but it's not the only thing I want to talk about. It can also come off as very braggadocious sometimes, and I can't help but roll my eyes on the inside. We work in the same industry, so part of me wonders if that's why I don't enjoy the conversation. I even try to casually change the conversation sometimes, but still work seems to be his favorite topic. He is so preoccupied that even when we go out on dates, I can see he's in his head. When I ask what he's thinking about, he replies, work, and then goes into detail. Sometimes he can't sleep at night because he can't stop thinking about work. He acknowledges the fact that his brain never stops working, so that's a positive step in the right direction, I suppose. He really is very successful at

his job and constantly winning awards and acknowledgments. I'm so proud of him and try to be supportive, but I can't take this never-ending conversation about work. Any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated. I think you should just read that letter to him. I honestly think you should just read that letter to him because you have to be direct about it and you have to be like, nobody wants to hear about somebody's job all day long. Nobody wants to hear about it. Especially when you work in the same industry.

No, exactly. Like you've got to have a sense of self. And also, you know, the ingredients to be a successful human being mean that you have to have more than one thing going on in your life. Like not just work. It can't be one dimensional like that. You're in a relationship. There's got to be other shit to talk about.

There's nothing I want to hear. about all day long except for boofing. Nothing else. You and me both, sister. I mean, now that I know about boofing, it's all I want to talk about. And it's just so annoying to hear you to talk about your job all the time over and over and over again. Like, at least, like, make me bring up something. Like,

let me give you problems about your job. I don't want to hear you bring it up all the time. Let me be impressed by it. And again, I know in this day and age where a lot of my straight girlfriends are dating guys that can't find the job and don't fucking work. I know finding a dude that does have a job is very attractive, but you're on the other end of the spectrum now.

He won't fucking shut up about it. So, yeah, that seems like a lot. Yeah, absolutely. So, yeah. I also, this, to me, a little bit smacks of, like, maybe do some testing and see if he's got, like, either ADHD or some OCD that he can't stop sort of, like, spiraling and, like, thinking about work. That's a good idea.

Yeah. And maybe, if not, then just a little therapy. So he can get it out there. And if he does have any of those things, you can boof him as Adderall or you can boof him some Vivance. Just shove the pills right up his asshole. If you have been listening to this episode, everyone, when you. you get off of this episode, I want you, your dad listening to us, please try putting something

in your butt. I'm kidding. I don't want everyone to try that, but if you want to try it, go for it. But I'm not a doctor and I'm also not a therapist. You know, I was listening to Mel Robbins's podcast the other day and at the end of her podcast, she goes, I am not a doctor. There's a whole spiel about her not being a doctor or a therapist. I'm like, why don't we do that at the end of mine? We've got it in the description. Oh, okay, great, great, great, because I was like, she's not even giving advice like I'm giving advice. She kind of just like, you know, gives advice. and post it. It's like,

anyway, Monet, I love you. You're so funny. I love you. You're the best. And I hope you have a great tour. Everyone buy tickets for Monetexchange.com.

You can get the tickets there. And also, Chelsea, I want to come open for you somewhere. I would love that. I would love for us to spend a weekend,

a romantic, booffing weekend together in a very exotic locale like Ohio. Oh my God, I'm gluming on to this. Oh my, can I tell you?

I hate the state of Ohio. What an awful place. Cleveland, Columbus. They're all of it is You mean all the places Ohio? Well, that's good to know. Hopefully you won't stop there on your tour then. I know. I avoid Ohio

like the plague. Okay, Monet. I will, please hit me up. You have my phone number, so hit me up when you're back in L.A. where I know that you live now. You don't. Chelsea, we're going to have the same conversation about two months. If I'm like, girl, I'm in New York where you're at,

I'm like, I'm in a rolling blackout of life. Okay, I love you. It's so fun. Love you too. Have a great day. Bye, you all. Bye, y'all. Bye.

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