Dear Chelsea - Men Found Useless with Cody Rigsby

Episode Date: February 6, 2025

Cody Rigsby joins Chelsea to talk about the career he never could have imagined as a kid, why monogamy isn’t for him, and fulfilling his true purpose of becoming a carpetbagger.  Then: A woman getting treatment for an autoimmune disorder is concerned about her family’s comments about her body.  A newlywed loses her motivation.  And a friend group is all sleeping together - only one wife doesn’t know it.   * Check out Cody’s podcast Tactful Pettiness * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi, Catherine. Hello. Hello. This is Chelsea Handler. My name is Chelsea Handler. H-A-N-D-L-E-R. It sure is. How you doing? I'm ready. I'm ready. I'm ready for our show. I have the Critics' Choice Awards tomorrow night. Everyone can watch those on E! What else? Oh, I have exciting new lemonade coming out, you guys. I partnered with a lemonade brand called, well, a vodka brand, well, a boozy brand called Owls Brew. They're female founders. So I found these two women. You know, like I've been trying to come up with an alcoholic drink for many, many years,

but the alcohol industry, like many industries, is so male dominated that anytime I would get far along in an idea, there would be some massive hiccup and it just didn't work. And if you've read my book, well, you haven't read my book yet, because my book is not out, it comes out February 25th, so pre-order it, I'll have what she's having, it comes out on my 50th well, you haven't read my book yet because my book is not out. It comes out February 25th, so pre-order it. I'll have what she's having.

It comes out on my 50th birthday. Please celebrate with me. Your gift to me is you pre-ordering my book. We want to encourage all of our book club readers to have boozy book clubs. So we partnered with Owls Brew and we came up with three vodka lemonades. There's classic, which is yellow, then there's pink,

and then there is Mint Lemonade. So we have three really smooth, non-carbonated flavors. They're only $100 a can. I'm sorry, a hundred calories a can. And they're delicious. I vouch for them. I went in for the tastings and we found something and it took almost no time. It is so much nicer working with women. I vouch for them. I went in for the tastings and we found something

and it took almost no time. It is so much nicer working with women. It literally took one tasting day. I mean, I had spent hours and days with these other previous companies. Many years ago, I had given up on this idea. But when you do read my book, you will see why there is a vodka lemonade tie-in

because I was an entrepreneur at a very young age and I opened up a lemonade stand and then when I realized how much money I'd be making, I decided that I needed a larger margin of profit and opened up a hard lemonade stand. Perfect. So, now we are, it is called Chelsea Handler's Vodka Lemonade from Owls Brew. They are hitting the shelves this month. You can also order it online at theowlsbrew.com or you can go to your local stores. They're in lots of stores all across the country. So yes, Owls Brew

Chelsea Handler's Vodka Lemonade. Please for your book clubs. I mean, obviously for your personal life and having a great time too, but for your book clubs, when you're getting together to read my book, I really want you guys to enjoy Owls Brew with the book. It is- That's fantastic. Yeah, and we're gonna have it. All my book signings, we're gonna have Owls Brew.

Awesome. Yeah. You're never this excited about things. You must be really into it. I know, I know. I am excited, because it's so delicious. Yeah. My publicist who barely drinks at all,

she's like, I love this. She sends me a picture every night. She's like, I have one every night before I go to bed. I'm like, okay, well, you're a different kind of drinker than I am. Fantastic. Also I'll be on, oh yeah, this is Critics' Choice Award. The Critics' Choice Awards are tomorrow night.

I don't know what time, 4 p.m.? In the evening, in the afternoon. 7 p.m. Eastern, maybe, yes, something like that. 7 p.m. Eastern on the E Network. Well, we have a fun guest this week. Yes, we have a very fun guest today. Speaking of vodka and lemonade. Peloton star.

Peloton star, Cody Rigsby. He is our, well, he's a Peloton guru, dancer, author, and host of the Tactful Pettiness podcast. Please welcome a person I've worked out with several times, Cody Rigsby. Hi, Cody Rigsby. Chelsea B, very honest. Do you have any idea who I am?

Yeah, I do. You do? Yeah, I do Peloton all the time. Oh, you do? I appreciate the question though. You're not wrong to ask that. And I would have not been offended. I adore you.

I used to watch your show in college with my boyfriend and I've read your book and I just, and I love that you're an advocate for not having kids. Although I have turned the corner on that. I think I might want them, but I'm not sure. Are you pregnant? I will be in a few days. Oh, wow.

That's very premonitionary. Premonitionary. Oh, that's a good word. Yeah, that really flew right out of my mouth. That is unexpected. Is it a real word? It flew right out of my mouth. That is. Premon it a real word? It flew right out of my mouth. It is.

Premonitionary means like my friend has premonitionary dreams. She dreams about some things and then they happen. That's exciting. Yeah. No, I just know that I'm going to fuck someone this weekend. But you can't get pregnant in the tushy, Cody. I talk about this. You know, modern medicine, you never know.

Eventually, I feel like we're around the corner for men being able to carry a baby. I know we've had a couple of male people carry babies that had transitioned and kept transitioned from female to men. And then they were able to carry a baby because they still had their, what do you need to carry a baby, a uterus?

A uterus, yeah. Something like that. But I feel like men are going to become obsolete if they don't come up with some things, you know, like straight men. Straight men. Obviously gay men are fine, you know, in my view. But straight men are going to have to bring more

to the table because people are getting pregnant with or without them, you know. There are animals that, parthenogenesis, we've talked about this, where you can get pregnant, it happened to an anaconda. She got pregnant without a male. It happened to a condor, a bird. Yeah.

Uh-huh. It's happened to like a lot of, not a lot, but it's definitely happened. And it happened twice in zoos. So they had no exposure to the male species. And they were able to just fertilize their own eggs. Jurassic Park, here we come. Yeah.

Haven't I talked to you about this? No. OK, so. Men found useless. My friend Emily told me about this a long time ago, because I was doing it in my standup. And then nobody really seemed to understand what the fuck I was talking about.

So then I just started researching it more. But yes, you can, like, we are 1,000 years evolutionarily behind animals. So if animals are procreating without the help of sperm, there is a chance in the next 1,000 years that the human species might be there, especially if a chance in the next 1,000 years that the human species might be there, especially if a straight white man keep acting like this.

I love this. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I've been there. So anyway, back to your pregnancy. Congratulations in a few days, I guess. Yeah. How does it feel, Cody, to become a well-known person as an exercise instructor first and foremost?

Like, you couldn't have planned that, right? No, I did not plan that at all. I've been working at Peloton for 10 years now and I just thought it was going to be a side gig because I was tired of being a cater waiter and working late nights at a fucking nightclub. It's absolutely changed my life and I'm so glad that I get to help people be their best self while being a little silly gay boy on a bike.

Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's a real, I mean, you really do have a different spin on the class, no pun intended. Pun intended. You do have great energy, great vibes, you make the classes fun. I know people talk about you and how much they love taking your class.

So good for you, that's fucking awesome. Thanks, babe. Yeah, sometimes I'm like, you know, when I get into maybe my politician era, maybe when I run for Senate, like it will definitely be on my campaign speech. In Texas? You should run in Texas first. I think I should, you know, that should be my goal. I'll just be, I think they call that a carpet bagger.

Is that what they called it back in the day? Carpet bagger. But if that's if you go from the North to the South. Yeah, maybe so. I know JD Vance is a carpet bagger according to all the Appalachians. Let's look up carpet bagger, you guys. We need to get to the bottom of this.

Oh, okay. It is a person from the Northern States who went to the South after the Civil War to profit from the reconstruction. So a political candidate in a seat selection area where they have no local connections. But it's a double whammy because they went to go profit from reconstruction. So, a political candidate in a seat selection area where they have no local connections. But it's a double whammy because they went to go profit from reconstruction. So they were like, what only in America could a cycling instructor make

it into the pop culture zeitgeist and be successful at them? And then become a senator in Texas. I mean, I feel the trajectory for you passionately all of a sudden. Yeah. Someone's got to take out Ted Cruz one of these days. God willing. When the hell is that going to happen? I don't, unfortunately not anytime soon.

Question for you, Cody, you grew up in the South, right? North Carolina? Yeah, so I was born in Los Angeles, I moved to North Carolina when I was eight. By yourself? You moved by yourself at eight? Yep, just me, I got in a car and drove through. Now me and my mom and like our three cats and two dogs and a beat up Chrysler just packed across the country and headed to North Carolina. And how was that transition? I definitely cried when we arrived there. There was no sidewalks where I could rollerblade. And then, you know, the tons of homophobia and racism that's in the

South didn't settle well with my soul. So it was for an interesting upbringing. Yeah. I bet that wasn't a nice transition. It's not fun to go to the South once you've been exposed to the North. No, well, in all honesty, though, because I was in Los Angeles, I like looking back in retrospect, I am grateful that I grew up in North Carolina. I think it would have been it's a simpler sort of life.

Besides the homophobia and the racism, I think if I landed in L.A., stayed in L.A., maybe things wouldn't have been great. Yeah, I feel like the homophobia and racism is just different in different areas. Like, I feel like it is very pervasive, but it's not allowed to show it's like a face, you know, in certain parts of the country, even though it still exists, just like misogyny and all of the stuff kind of exists everywhere. But I once heard someone say like, oh, everyone thinks the South is so racist, but Southern people are able to like cohabitate and live next to people that are different from them

without having it be a big deal Whereas in the northern cities we do self segregate. Look if you come to LA you see that it's so segregated, right? There's like Koreatown. There's Chinatown Everybody kind of lives in their part of the thing which isn't exactly what we're aiming for either Anyway, Cody back to you. I hear that you have you have a long-term relationship, right? Okay, Cody, back to you. Yes. I hear that you have a long-term relationship, right? No.

Oh. Well, I did, but that ended about four months ago. Oh, well, I'm glad I could bring that up then. You know what? I'm in such a good place with it. It was a six-year relationship. We broke up once before for like six months, and I think that really affected the way that the second breakup happened.

And I had a really hard first month with it and then I accepted it and I've been living my life. Well, wait, can I ask you about that though? Tell me how you think the first six month breakup impacted the second breakup. That's a great question. I think in the first breakup, I was taking a lot of responsibility for my wrongdoing.

And so I just felt like I needed another chance to like give it a go and I could fix it and do all these things. And I think upon having another year and a half together where I was able to like go to couples therapy and do all the things and it still wasn't working. I think I landed in this space of just us not being able to meet our needs. And as much as that hurts and as much much as like I didn't make the decision, it was the best decision. I also really dove into the book, Attached,

which like goes into attachment styles within relationships. Yes, I've read that book. That's a good book. It's a great book. And like I'm anxiously attached. He's avoided it. And that's just like water and oil and like it's possible, but it's just gonna bring up a lot of confrontation.

Yeah, I wonder if it's ever possible to change your attachment style. It is, so half of the population is secure and then one fourth is avoidant, one fourth is anxious. And the goal is to put into practice self-awareness and things in your life that you then become securely attached. Okay, because that's interesting

because I remember being in a relationship where I was very anxious, not avoidant, anxious. And now, and I'm definitely not anxious anymore. Like with any relationship, I'm just secure because probably because I've done the therapy and gotten to understand myself in a much better way, which feels a lot better. There's nothing worse than feeling the preoccupation

of anxiety about a relationship, checking your phone, wondering if they're gonna show up when they say they're gonna show up, and having all those kind of negative thought cycles around a relationship. And yeah, you are secure because you know yourself, you know your boundaries, you know your worth, and when those things aren't being met,

you know how to be like, hey, this isn't for me. Absolutely Absolutely and there's really not a lot of like gray area anymore for me. It's like I don't care if something works out or it doesn't. I don't I'm not invested that much into anything even if I were to fall in love with someone I can't imagine getting so preoccupied at this stage in my life with like a lover. So that feels a lot healthier too and very mature. And I've never felt mature until I was in my forties. I aspire to be you in that situation. So you have a new podcast coming out. Yeah, no, me and my friend Andrew Chappelle

have launched Tackful Pettiness. We actually just shot, we just recorded an episode today. It's been out since June. So if anybody wants to listen to Tackle Pettiness, get it where your podcasts are gotten. What platform are you guys on? Apple and Spotify. Okay, great.

So what do you guys, you guys give advice on the podcast, yeah? Yeah, we kind of go through like, you know, cultural moments, anything that's topical. And then we try to focus on like a relationship topic. Like today was like fighting. We also did travel last week, which was a lot of fun. And we try to focus on like a relationship topic. Like today was like fighting. We also did travel last week, which was a lot of fun.

And we take like listeners questions, dish out advice, like only two opinionated homosexuals can. That's nice. That's nice. And your partner on the podcast, what's his name? Andrew Chappelle, who is an actor, Broadway actor, TV actor. Okay.

One of the funniest people I know. One of the funniest people you know? Yeah. That's nice. Can go round around with me. How did you guys hook up? You know, just being gay in New York City, we've known each other for probably a decade at this point,

like a friend of a friend and going out on Fire Island. And you know, our friendship is kind of interesting because he was one of those people that I didn't like at first, you know, like where you kind of give a little side eye and you're like, I don't like this bitch. And those usually are the foundations for great friendships because once you get past that initial,

that little initial bitchiness, and then you see that you have so much in common, it's like, oh, I don't know why I thought you were so horrible because you're awesome. Yeah, I agree with that. I always have stronger relationships where it's a kind of slow burn. I think the idea of making a great first impression

I don't I don't buy that like I I don't think that matters as much You know like I don't think every first of all people aren't who they are when you first meet them usually Everyone's kind of you know being on their best behavior or trying to show off or trying to be I have a problem We're trying to people try to be funny around me all the time And I find that extremely annoying you know what what I mean? Like when I'm in an airport or someone's on a plane next to me, they'll lean over and be like, and I'm like, no, no, it's not like that. I don't need you to entertain me. Or they'll say, they'll have conversations that they know I'm an earshot of saying things they know that I'm in accordance

with or agreement with. I also find that exhausting. I wish people would just be normal. You know what I mean? You don't have to make me laugh. Just talk to me. But whenever you're hanging out with, and I'll tell you the reason I'm thinking this, whenever you hang out with comedians or people that are in your field, do you feel like they're spitballing and trying to make you laugh or trying to like get in with it? Does that make sense? I mean, my friends brought it up the other day.

She goes, it's really annoying being around you and a bunch of other comics because everyone's just trying to be so funny. And I'm like, oh yeah, I would imagine that would be annoying without being a comedian, but I also don't pick up on that. You know what I mean? Because that's natural, they're comedians. But when regular people try to be funny,

sometimes it's very painful, you know? It's like, oh god. I only say that because I did, as a dancer, I did SNL twice. And I remember being on the set and I was just like, oh my god, these guys, like especially the guys, they were just like constantly trying to outdo each other with the funniness. And I was like, guys, enough. Like I'm just a little dancer extra, but like enough. That's fun that you were on a dance, that you, oh yeah, you were on Dancing with the

Stars. Yeah, Dancing with the Stars. Yeah, Dancing with the Stars as well. How was that experience? I'm so grateful that I did it, but it was honestly one of the most challenging and like things I've ever done and one of the things that beat me down so much physically and mentally and emotionally,

but I'm so glad that I did it and it was so good for my career and they couldn't pay me enough money to do it again. But it was great. Why did it beat you down emotionally so much? You know, okay, so a lot of my fame or notoriety came through the pandemic and I was kind of encapsulated in this like digital space and not really being on my own in that. And so then to take like go from internet famous to kind of TV famous and now have a lot of opinions

about you put out there, a lot of negative stuff, positive stuff, it was really hard to absorb. I'm pretty much someone who is pretty strong and confident about themselves. But after doing the show for two months, you have no days off, you're exhausted, you're tired. And just like seeing a negative comment like would take me down also I think with any reality TV show there's

There's things in play that are supposed to kind of fuck with you Yeah, totally and I wasn't ready for all that like I I I come in my partner Sheryl Burke Who's done that show for like 30 seasons? But I couldn't take the emotional ups and downs of that for 30 years, in no way. Seriously, because then you're also, she's having to, all of those regular people are having to deal with their guests that they have on for the season

and watching them go through their emotional turmoil, right? So they become like counselors. Exactly. With Peloton, isn't there like a chat room or chat board? Do they give you feedback on Peloton? Do you mean like members at home or are you talking about like my boss? Like members at home, is that a feature?

It's not a feature, there's a leaderboard so you can like compete. Right, oh, oh no, so you never got that kind of stuff. You know, like there is a very rambunctious Facebook group of Peloton members where they will spew and like say all the things that they need to. But I deleted my Facebook like probably three years ago. So I'm very far removed from it.

Good fucking move. Unless you're a conspiracy theorist. Yeah. Like, I think I deleted it close to like the 2020 election. I was like, I can't deal with this anymore. It's just people posting headlines about fucking politics. I can't. I got out.

I'm out. I know. I hear you. And do you ever co-mingle with the, sorry, not co-mingle, do you ever mingle with any of the other Peloton instructors? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I actually had like brunch on Sunday with two of my colleagues. Oh, that's fun.

Yeah, no, I mean, it's a very unique job and only we know what it feels like to be on the platform and to be teaching fitness in this capacity. And yeah, I have a lot of fun with them and a lot of respect for them. And yeah. know what it feels like to be on the platform and to be teaching fitness in this capacity. And yeah, I have a lot of fun with them and a lot of respect for them. And it's also not something it's so funny because it's, it's such a great career that you would have never been able to imagine as a child because this job didn't exist as a child.

Exactly. Yeah, exactly. And I never thought that this is how my life was gonna play out. I've always had like this idea of being, I guess, famous or being a personality. I think I tried to channel that through musical theater and then dance. And then it's so crazy that life put me in the right place at the right time for Peloton. And it was like literally the perfect job for me. Like perfect. Oh, I love that. What a nice success story. Yeah, no, I look back on it. I'm just

like super grateful, especially because I grew up so fucking poor and to have the world as my oyster is fantastic. Did you run a marathon recently or do an Iron Man? Absolutely not. You will not catch me doing that. Okay, because my friend, Ange from Whistler ran and I couldn't remember if it was you or one of the other guys and she was like, I saw so and so from the Luton and I was like, that must be so. She's like, I ran right up to him. I couldn't believe it was him in person. I'm like, that sounds so annoying and just like, stop. Don't approach them.

I'm glad it wasn't you, although it would have been funny if it were. The way that you feel about children is the way I feel about marathons. I don't need to do it. It does. It's going to do nothing for me. I'm glad it's happening, keep it over there. So happy it's happening over there. And this was the first year of 15 years of living

in New York City that I went to the marathon and cheered people on. And it was so cute. I love that. That was my perfect introduction to it. But you will not catch me running 23.6 miles, I think it is. I think it's 26.2 miles, right? Oh, 26.2, there we go.

I have no desire. I'm with you. I am not trying to prove anything to anyone, but really myself. Like I would never, I wouldn't run a half marathon. I mean, if it was for a charity, I would just pay for someone else to do it. You know what I mean?

Here's the donation. I can't be bothered with that kind of chicanery. It's too much. No, no, no, no. Also, you wanna keep your knees, you know? Yeah. And I've tackled enough emotional trauma from my past to feel like I've accomplished something, you know?

I hear you. I hear you. Okay, we're going to take a break and we're going to be right back with Cody Rigsby. And we're back with Cody Rigsby. We are back. We're going to give advice, Cody. You're good at this, right? I feel like you could be good at motivational.

Yeah. I mean, I love to give hard truths the hard way. That's what we're all about here. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't have good friends that are telling them honesty. I know. I know. That's what we're here for. The people don't.

Yeah. I mean, I know from my own set of friends that most people don't tell you the truth. Oh no, my friends will sit me the fuck down and be like, bitch, what are you doing? And I love that. And I will do the same. I always, I'm an interloper. I always will intervene, always.

Yeah. Well, our first question comes from Sherry. This one's a little confusing, but stick with it. Is it Sherry Shepherd? It is Sherry Shepherd. Okay, because she just posted a clip of me talking about me not washing my legs with Kevin Hart on her show and then invited me for a collab.

I'm like, no, I don't think so, bitch. You don't wash your legs? I don't wash my legs in the shower now. Do you? I mean, what's going on? Why are my legs dirty? They're not, they're covered up all day. And when I wash my hair,

the shampoo and the conditioner falls down my whole body and washes out. I get in my shower, I wash my Pikachu, I wash my asshole, I wash under my arms, and then I wash my butt. Like the cheeks, because I don't want to get any eczema. I see what you're saying there, and I can't say that like 100% of the times I'm washing my legs, but I'd say like 50%. If my legs are dirty, if there's dirt on them,

I will lush them, but they're not. There's not ever dirt. My legs are never exposed. They're covered all day long. Like, what am I washing them for? Cody, are you running around New York City with shorts on? That is the real question. Then you have to wash your legs.

So yes, I haven't been wearing a lot of pants. So yeah, I wear shorts as much as I possibly can. Well, then you should be washing your legs. Yeah, scrub it. Even though you're not, you should be. Yeah,. So yeah, I wear shorts as much as I possibly can. Well then you should be washing your legs. You gotta scrub it. Even though you're not, you should be. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But I do somewhat agree that the soap will trickle down and get onto the legs.

It's not a full scrub, but you're good. Like I go, if there's a crevice that I need to get into, then I will go there with the soap and the water. But the legs are out, my legs are out. I don't have to get in behind my kneecap. There's nothing fucking. Yeah, but if you don't wash your feet, nobody can put your feet in their mouth.

Well, that's fine. And then by the way, the water, the soap and all, everything lands on my feet too, right before it goes down the drain. So those are, I think I feel like are clean. They're good. They're really clean, yeah. Because my telltale sign, if someone likes you

and while you're fucking, if they put your feet in their mouth, then they're very into you. Definitely, or they have a foot fetish. Or they have a foot fetish. But I don't really need anyone to be sucking my foot. You know what I mean? There's so many other things to suck on.

I don't need it, but from time to time, hey, okay, this works, I'm here for it, go off. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I kind of have that attitude too. Like if you want to do it, but if you do it, if it is a fetishy thing, I'm not into it. Like if it happens every time, then no. It has to be like sporadic. One time, we haven't even gotten to the question,

I'm sorry. No, please. Should I show up? That's okay, continue. No, there was one time I was at this party in Fire Island and this guy asked me, he definitely had a foot fetish. He was like, can I just massage your feet? And I was like, you know what? Go for it. And it was an incredible massage.

Of course. And why would anyone say no to a foot massage? I mean, I will take a foot massage from someone from ISIS. You know what I mean? I don't care who's giving me a foot massage. I love getting my feet rubbed. Exactly. Question? We're ready. Great. So back to Sheri. She says, dear Chelsea, I have an ethical dilemma that I'm hoping you can give me advice on what I should do. Within my group of friends,

there are two couples with a messy situation. Let's call them couple A and couple B. I'm close friends with all of them, especially the wife from each couple. Both couples have young kids. The husband from couple A recently confided in us that his wife has been having an on-again, off-again affair with husband B for over 10 years.

Oh. Husband A confronted husband B about their affair and he admitted it too. Great. Husband A is devastated and heartbroken. He hasn't made any decisions yet about what he's going to do. He feels that coming out with this

and telling wife B will ultimately destroy two families. As far as I know, my husband and I are the only other people who know about the affair and I feel terrible that I know this information, but I haven't told my friend, wife B, about what her husband has been up to. What do I do? Do I tell wife B or leave it up to husband A to decide?

This is such a difficult position to be in and I wish I didn't know this information. If I keep it to myself, how can I continue my friendship with wife B? To make matters worse, this isn't the first time I've heard that husband B has been unfaithful, but in the past, I kept it to myself

because I didn't know for sure, and I figured that saying something to wife B would more than likely ruin our friendship because she would ultimately believe her husband because he talks for a living and can be very convincing and influential. What do I do, Sheri? My position on this constantly changes,

depending on the set of circumstances and depending on the feedback we've gotten from callers who've called in with similar problems. Cody, why don't you go first and give your advice on this situation? Oh, wow. First of all, the question felt like a fucking SAT question. I was like trying to keep up with- Hey, listen, just be happy she fucking divvied

them up to couple A and B. The other day, I tried to deal with 36 cousins, a nephew and an aunt and a priest. I was like, what? I can't follow the story. Yeah. They should honestly just be in a polycule because they're halfway there to all having sex

with each other. They honestly need to reframe their idea of like, I don't think monogamy is for everybody. And so maybe they want to explore some form of ethical, non monogamy. But that's really on them to decide what they're doing with the mess. If I were the friend, I would kind of stay out of it because you already know the thesis like Husband B is cheating on on wife B and she's not gonna believe you if you say it so it's gonna ruin your friendship anyways, I would stay the fuck out of it until it all comes out because Everything dark comes to the light one way or the other. I I would agree I'm gonna say that sometimes I say tell on them.

You know, like I want people to, but for this situation, I would say, it sounds like it's about to come out anyway. Like all the chips are falling and like not into place, out of place. Like everyone's gonna kind of get the situation soon. And it's not your responsibility. It sounds messy.

And if it's been going on for 10 years, that's a whole other level of unethical non-monogamy. I like what you said, ethical non-monogamy, because that's important. You can have that if you're ethical about it and honest, but that's not what's going on here. Especially if that guy's a talker, like you don't want to ruin your relationship with your friend. You know, I think it's best to just let the chips fall where they may and then you can get in there after and be like, listen, I was in a really uncomfortable situation and I didn't know if you knew and you know, all of that stuff. I didn't want to get involved in it because it was very confusing.

But yeah, I say stay out of it. Yeah, I think I think a post-mortem, when everything hits the fan, she can then come to the friend and be like, hey girl, like I did know this, but this is why it was complicated. I love you, I'm here for you. Let me help you through this.

Yeah. Are you a monogamous, Cody? I am not. I was gonna say, as someone who has cheated on boyfriends, I feel like the way to go is non-monogamy, but I am a firm believer that monogamy does need to be, at least for me, needs to be the foundation at first in the relationship, but as the years go on,

I don't think I could only sleep with one person for the rest of my life. I know that I can't, but I don't wanna be polyamorous. I couldn't have a relationship with those people. Just fucking. Yeah, I don't know who putamorous. I couldn't have a relationship with most people, just fucking. Yeah, I don't know who put this monogamy into our heads to begin with. It's just very antiquated.

It's starting to feel, even though I'm a monogamous, like when I'm with someone, I'm with them, I can totally see why it doesn't make any sense for long periods of time. Maybe five year, 10 year intervals, even 10 years sounds like too long. But some people really do love monogamy. So and for the people that love it, go for it, babe. I just know in my

soul, it's not for me. Yeah, it's like I know in my soul that I wasn't meant to be someone's wife or mother. Exactly. Like no regrets. In fact, every time I think about it, the fact that I don't have a child or the fact that I don't have a partner, I'm just so grateful. Like, I'm like, oh, this is so much nicer. So also like being married or like in a long term committed relationship is not your vibe either? I don't want to be married. No, no, no legal status, but you can be with someone maybe for the rest of your life, maybe.

Maybe, but let's be reasonable. I mean, it's doubtful. I love people who know what they want and that's the perfect way to be. Yeah, I like to be stimulated. So to be stimulated usually requires a newness at some point. Well, our next question, we'll start with Kelly.

Her subject line is how to lose weight without quote unquote compliments. Dear Chelsea, bottom line up front, I'm about to go on weight loss medication, but I don't want people close to me to comment on my body changes. How do I let people know this without sounding cunty? For context, for the past two years, my doctors and I have been trying to figure out why my body won't respond to eating responsibly and consistently attending a spin gym

for about 12 of those months. This summer, she and my endocrinologist diagnosed me with PCOS, and one of the symptoms is weight gain. We decided to try metformin and tweak my eating habits and exercise routine and regroup in December. Well, it's coming decision time and nothing has changed, so it's time to pivot to an injectable. I met Foreman and tweaked my eating habits and exercise routine and regroup in December. Well it's coming decision time and nothing has changed so it's time to pivot to an

injectable. From ages 13 to 27ish, I struggled with bulimia, trendy diets, obsessive workouts that made me a slave to the gym for hours a day while tracking every gram of macros across every piece of food among other disordered eating behaviors. After years of therapy, I'm now at my heaviest weight, but healthiest mental state. I'm a firm believer in body neutrality. However, I feel my body just isn't meant to carry

this much weight in this form, and I'm uncomfortable and know my body chemistry is just not operating correctly. Throughout my weight fluctuations, the one thing that has been consistent is that my family praises me when I'm in a smaller body. I understand this is a cultural thing and they have the best intentions. I also know I have done the work to deal with how I perceive myself, but I worry that those around me will keep up with their old ways. Is there a way to get ahead of

this or handle the quote unquote compliments when I know they mean well but also feel they could be damaging to me? Thank you for all the positive energy. Kelly. Hi, Kelly. Hey. Hey, Kelly. Hello. I don't know the answer to this. I don't know how you get people to not comment on your weight because it's so... If you have a history with your family, that's one thing. You can have a conversation with them and explain to them what's happening and how you don't think it's healthy for your mental health to hear their feedback about your physicality all the time. This

is Cody Rigsby, by the way. He's a- I noticed, yeah. Oh, okay, great. I noticed. It feels like, okay, are you going to have that? Is it going to have a deleterious impact on you if regular people are commenting on your way? Because it's a very hard thing for people not to do. No, I know that. It's my family and they're not great at taking those types of conversations.

Case in point, freshman year of college, I lost 40 pounds and my aunt who's been a pseudo grandmother to me my entire life called me over and was just like, Kelly, you look wonderful. I'm so proud of you and this, that, and the other thing. And that's where most of my compliments come from my family. May I take a stab at this? Yes. Yeah, please. Well, first of all, I commend you on like you being in the right place for your own

journey because you seem really grounded in like, this is for my health. This is for my mental health. This is for me to feel confident. This is for me to feel like my best, and I think that is the best mentality to have, especially around weight loss or working out, like our bodies are only gonna look a certain way for a certain time, they're gonna fluctuate,

they're gonna change, and we don't have control over that. So I think that's a great mental space. That being said, also, we can't control other people's actions. We're not gonna be able to control the compliments that they give us. But I think that you can start to reframe those physical comments into a space of,

if someone's like, hey, you look great, Kelly, since you lost weight, you're like, thank you. I think just saying thank you to any compliment is fine. You could also take lead on the conversation of being like, thank you. But honestly, I feel amazing and I've never felt better and I'm really happy and that's the thing that you wanna get across to them.

It's just the way you feel and just taking charge of the narrative and know you can't control anybody, whatever the fuck they're gonna say. I do think there's a little bit of room for some teaching here. I think if there are certain family members You're worried about kind of like really hitting the like, oh you look so skinny stuff hard

I think it's okay to like just address that with them Like I'm making some changes with my doctors for my health and like I just would so appreciate like not commenting on my body Or if someone does bring it up saying like thank you so much I know you mean well. But you know, I'm the same person in a larger or a smaller body, so thanks for letting me know, but I'm feeling really happy. And you know, like Cody said, going into like,

I'm feeling happy about this XYZ in my life, it doesn't necessarily have to be like a body thing. It can be something that's just like something you're doing that's making you feel better in your life. But I also think it wouldn't be like, okay okay if your family doesn't respond well to things if you wrote a thoughtful email to your Family and said listen. I'm on this like weight loss journey the times where I have lost weight and have heard Comments from you guys which I know you are, you know Giving me or compliments about how I look good when I lose weight or when I've dropped 40 pounds

You can you give specific examples about your freshman year in college. The comments, I know you mean well, but those kind of comments and getting rewarded for having a smaller body haven't helped. So moving forward, it would really mean the world to me if we could just keep the comments to yourself about me and any sort of weight loss or weight gain I have.

I need to do this for my own mental health and this is something that's really important to me and as people who love me I can only imagine that you want to support that. That sounds doable. My family's not the type of people that you can have that kind of conversation in person with so so write it yeah write it in an email let them all talk about it together and be like oh did you get the email we did it like let them reflect talk about it together and be like, oh, did you get the email? We did it. Like let them reflect and actually digest what you're saying.

It's not unreasonable. And once they know that it has that impact on you, they are gonna think twice about making those comments. And you can say we're in a different time. It's not really appropriate to be making these comments. I'm feeling so good about myself. I just want to keep feeling good about myself. And those kinds of comments are not helpful for me.

Okay. No, I like the sounds of that. I guess I'm just nervous for sounding like pretentious. And part of me is like why? Pretentious? But you're not being pretentious. You're being protective of yourself. That's on them. You're being self-empowering. There's nothing pretentious. Forget about your family and where they're from. This is about you and where you're from and where you're going.

Like there's nothing pretentious about that. That's actually being really upfront and honest and there's nothing wrong with it. Yeah. It's creating a boundary, communicating that boundary and telling people to not cross it. Yeah. And I think like when people do,

because you will have people who who cross that boundary, even if you've communicated with them, you know having that patience and being like thanks like this isn't really because I'm doing all these different things, this is because I'm treating the PCOS that you know caused some of this weight gain and that sort of thing. You know I'm working with my doctors and getting good treatment. Yeah. And also do some of the work that Cody mentioned about taking those comments and kind of having them turn into a different comment in your head. You really can't control what other people are going to say

or how they're going to react. So you have to kind of figure out the way that you're going to be able to digest them in a different way instead of having it make you feel like uncomfortable. There's a way you can kind of empower yourself with those comments and be like, I'm going to take that and this is what I know that they meant to say or that they wanted me to feel. So I am going to choose to feel that way, even though it's an annoying thing to keep

hearing. Yeah, I agree. There's probably like a different way to sort of metabolize those comments that you're getting, you know, so to speak. But I also think it's really important to underscore here that, you know, we're in 2025, like it's never OK to comment on someone else's body, you know, whether their skin is discolored or they have an injury or they've lost or gained weight or they're wearing a medical device, like it's okay to just not say anything. And in fact, it's preferable to not say anything unless they bring it up and it's something that they choose to talk about.

Unsolicited comments about someone's weight and especially weight loss can be really painful for people. I mean, people lose and gain weight for all kinds of reasons. I mean, they may be going through a period of grief. Maybe they've changed medication that's caused weight gain or weight loss. Maybe they're having a mental health crisis or they're dealing with an illness. Maybe they have an eating disorder. And those compliments really can get in their head and do really lasting damage. So I think

it's really something that we have to pay attention to that like our words do matter. And sometimes even when we're trying to be kind it can unintentionally be really damaging. So I think it's great to be able to set these boundaries with your family but if you have like a neighbor who comments or you know someone else in your life who comments one thing you can say is just like yeah, I know bodies change in all kinds of ways for all different reasons, right? And Yeah, I know bodies change in all kinds of ways for all different reasons, right? And just like leave it at that. And like if it's a little awkward, it's okay if it's a little bit awkward.

But with a comment like that, you're not really giving any credence to like it's a positive thing or a negative thing, but you're also not denying that it happened. So it's a good way to set a boundary. But don't be afraid of putting up boundaries. Like that's what we're lacking. Yeah. Especially as women. Oh yes, certainly with my family.

We're grossly close, so. Yeah, okay, well good. Put together an email, compose it, take your time to write it, and I guarantee you you'll be surprised by the results. Or the response, I mean. All right, thank you. Thanks so much, Kelly.

Thank you. Bye, Kelly. Bye, have a good one. Bye, Kelly. Bye. Have a good one. I think that's such a good question too because we don't necessarily know what people's backstories are, whether they have a condition that's causing weight gain. Maybe they were depressed and lost 50 pounds. It's a good teaching moment to have with her family.

Yeah. I was in Mallorca this summer and this server, this restaurant that I go to a lot, there was a server. And from the beginning, I went in June and then I went back in September. And when I went back in September, she had lost like, I mean, like 50 pounds. And she was never heavy to begin with. She was very muscular and like very healthy.

And I didn't say anything because I knew better than to say anything. And she said something and she was like, oh my God, look at me, I'm wasting away. And I go, oh my gosh, I know, you look amazing. Like, and she goes, no, I've lost weight because of stress. And I was like, oh, oh shit, I just fucked up. You know, you were just learning.

Terrible. I didn't, you know, and she wasn't happy about the weight loss, but I knew enough not to bring it up. But when she brought it up, I should have been like, oh, yeah. Yeah. Plus we were speaking Spanish, so that always goes sideways. You never know how someone's going to interpret it. It's like when people say I look so skinny, I'm like, oh yeah. Plus we were speaking Spanish, so that always goes sideways. You never know how someone's gonna interpret it. It's like when people say I look so skinny, I'm like, bitch, what, I don't wanna look skinny,

I wanna look like a muscular man. So it's like, it gets fucked up in your head. Yeah, we've been talking a lot about that lately, about like not talking about like skinny, but talking about strong. Strong. We like strong. Yes, yes, agree.

Fit and strong. Yes, well our next question comes from Brittany and she is seeking some fitness motivation advice. Oh, perfect. Yeah. She says, Dear Chelsea. Is it Britney Spears? I hope so.

Yeah. I'm writing in for some motivation on how to get into a better exercise routine and routines in general. I recently got married and before the wedding, I was able to motivate myself to eat clean and exercise by wanting to look amazing in my wedding gown, which I killed it. Now I'm several months post wedding and I can't get motivated to do anything unless there's a staunch deadline. My wedding guests thank you cards, I still haven't finished writing, and overall I just prefer to laze around than start any of my home improvement projects. My partner is also trying to get into a gym routine,

but oftentimes our preferred time to work out does not align. Pre-wedding, I was involved with a spin class that I loved, which by the way, like both of these ones that mentioned spin, it was like kind of just a fluke nice little thing there. So some serendipity. But the instructor moved away and the gym has not hired a replacement.

Lastly, I cannot seem for the life of me to wake up early for my own enjoyment, such as to meditate or write in a gratitude journal. I wake up with barely enough time to prepare for my work day and always seem to rush out the door five minutes late. It just seems like an overall lack of diligence and structure. Do you have any tools or advice that might help me in my journey? Sincerely, a very tired person, Brittany. Brittany? Hi Brittany. Hi Brittany. I love the way you spell it by the way. Oh, thank you. I'll let my mom know. Brittany, why are you so tired? I don't know. That's the thing. And I have energy throughout the day. But when it comes

to the motivation in the morning to get started, or the motivation after I've been working seven and a half hours. I don't have it in me to like I make excuses for myself as to why I don't want to wake up whenever my first alarm goes off or I end up you know after work. I just don't want to stop. I don't want to stop at the gym. I want to get home. I want to cook dinner. I want to chill in my PJs and watch TV. And I really want some, I want to see these changes in theory, but the action is just, I've had a hard time with that motivation to get there. Do you feel like you're getting enough sleep or you feel like you're not sleeping enough also? I feel like in general once I get going I'm awake so I don't feel like I'm overall like tired during the day. It's just when it gets to about 10 30 I'm done. Do you work at an

office or do you work from home? Like do you have the ability to like go work out in the middle of the day maybe since you have more energy throughout the day. So my workday is generally so I get to work at 730. I do go into the office most days of the week, I do have some flexibility to work from home. But I generally at work, do not have any. I try to limit distractions as much as possible. So I think it's like for me, it's about building habits that you're gonna do

regardless of when it's comfortable or convenient and just putting those into your day or week so that they're so consistent that you show up when you don't want to. If you have more energy throughout the day and you have the possibility of working, even if it's just two days a week from home and you are already getting dressed in like athleisure,

you can pump from your meeting and then work out from home like in some body with body weight and you're not taking too much time away from your work. And at least you're getting in a much time away from your work. At least you're getting in a few workouts a week. I feel like if you're already setting your goal on this mountain of like, I gotta work out every day, you're already gonna set yourself up for failure. So I think finding some opportunities

where you could work out 20 to 30 minutes, even if it's two to three times a week, maybe it's the two days you work from home and one like maybe it's Saturday or Sunday, and maybe you and your husband could work out on the weekend together, since you're both off and that might be something fun that you can do.

And don't let the workout have to be a chore, a task. Maybe you guys can go for a hike or a walk. Maybe you can just do something that's fun. I don't know if you like to dance, like do dance cardio. Do something that brings you a little bit of joy, even as you make it a task. And I would also say just get in the habit of like the exercise and lends itself to your life in multiple ways. It's not just about the exercise.

It's about your mental clarity. It's about getting rid of any cortisol. You don't want to overdo it, but you do want to exert yourself to a degree every day. Like I would say to get up every morning and just walk for 20 minutes, go power walking outside your neighborhood for 20 minutes, no matter what, you know what I mean? So that your body is moving, your body is getting energized and you're like creating more energy for yourself throughout the day. Like exercise is so related. If I don't exercise, I have no energy. That's why you have no energy. You know, if I go for three. If I don't exercise, I have no energy. That's why you have no energy. You know, if I go for three or four days without working out,

I feel it. Even when I'm hung over or I've just been on a flight and I've been performing, I always get up and make myself sweat a little because I just makes me feel so much better and have so much more mental clarity. So I would try to incorporate like as far as working out and doing a workout with weights and stuff, or you can get the Peloton app and do that at your house. You don't have to. I was gonna shamelessly plug that into your cycling instructor, your cycling instructor's gone.

I'm a cycling instructor on Peloton now too. That was our big announcement for today. I'm gonna announce that. No, I'm not. I'm not, I'm just joking. But if you do get the Peloton app and do these like, they have five minute abs classes. They have 10 minutes. You can do 40 minutes Pilates. You can do like, you just make a commitment and do it with your husband if you think that's a good partnership.

Do you think that is or would you rather exercise alone? I think that it's potential. Like there have been times intermittently that we've both woken up early and gone for a walk around our neighborhood together. And we do enjoy walking, but it's, for some reason, the mornings, my alarm clock will go off several times and I'll just keep snoozing it until I absolutely have to get up and going. And typically, I think if I were to walk every morning, I'd have to get up at five and go. And I feel like that's a normal time for people to get up and go. But for some reason, in the mornings, my mind is just like, this isn't... I have a hard time, I guess, in the mornings deciding that that's a priority.

Right. But it is a priority because you're calling into a podcast to talk about it. So you're going to make it a priority. What do you use? What's that? Is that a green like exercise ball that's behind you? It is. Yeah, so fucking use it.

I mean, first of all, what kind of caffeine do you take to get up in the morning? Do you drink caffeine? I drink a cup of coffee about 20 minutes after I get up. I make sure I drink some water first or at least a few sips of water before I go in on the coffee. But I do-

Okay, well that's healthy. That's a healthy habit. But why, do you really have to wake up at five to exercise? What time do you have to be at work? So I try to get to work by 7.30. It usually ends up walking in around 7.45 with traffic and everything. But I try to get, I try to leave my house by 6.45.

And then, okay, well that is a pretty early. That's probably why you're fucking tired. I mean, most people go to work around nine for an office job and you get done at 5 PM or 6 PM. I typically try to leave work by 4 30. Okay. Just skip some of the traffic and then I'll get home usually around 5 30, 5 40.

I know for me, I have to work out in the mornings to really get it done. I'll get home usually around 530, 540. I know for me, I have to work out in the mornings to really get it done. So it really, you have to kind of experiment with your personality because it sounds schedule wise, like it might be more prudent for you to get home from work and then go for a power walk around five. It's the perfect time. It's before dinner.

What do you, you know what I mean? You get home, go for a walk, reflect on the day's activities, and then figure out a workout that you could do like two or three days a week. But I think it's important, A, health-wise, to keep your body moving every single day. You know what I mean? And then it becomes kind of addictive in a great way. Like there's, you know, you don't want to be exercising for three hours a day, and no one's suggesting that.

But you need to pick a time to commit to whatever time you think it's going to be more feasible to actually follow through. And maybe that is when you get home from work. If it's not during your lunch break or if it's not at five in the morning, it's dark at five in the morning. So like I can understand why that would be hard to get up and start exercising. So let's figure out what time makes the most sense for you. What time do you think that is? Historically, I've definitely leaned towards getting off work, stopping by the gym, doing

whatever it is I do, whether it be a group workout class or an elliptical stair master, whatever it may be. I used to be really good about doing that. And then I think just over the last few years, I've kind of lost my way in a gym, like, I don't necessarily know what I should be like what I should be focusing on, I kind of walk in, I'm like, Okay, what do I want to do today? And then I spend 20 minutes looking on Pinterest for workouts to do at the gym for this muscle group. And then I end up, you know, doing that for a while and I feel really good about it. But I guess I haven't been successful in making that an weekly like scheduled thing.

Okay, well, you're going to do that now you're going to write it down that you're going to exercise, you're going to do a workout three times a week, and you're going to do a nice walk whether it's at the gym, whether it's the elliptical three times a week and you're going to do a nice walk, whether it's at the gym, whether it's the elliptical, three times a week you're going to do 20 minutes on an elliptical, on a treadmill or a bike, whatever kind of cardio. And then three times a week, either, and they could be on the same day or whatever, you're going to do a class. You could do a Pilates class, you could do weight training class. You write it down.

I am going to commit to this. And every single morning you're writing it down and keeping a diary of what you're doing so that you're accountable. And if your husband decides to come along for the ride or can join you on any of those activities, great. But I think you should go from work, commit to three days a week that you're going to leave work and go straight to the gym. You don't even have to spend a whole hour there. You can go there, jump on the elliptical for 20 minutes and leave. Just get into the habit of forming a habit. Yeah.

A lot of gyms have either an app or a program where they'll give you a list of here's what you do Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. And it's like 20 minutes of maybe strength exercises on different machines or using free weights. And it's all done for you. You don't have to think about anything. So ask at your gym and see if they have that.

I also think a workout buddy might be helpful here too, because your husband might not be the workout buddy you need. You might need somebody like, if I don't show up, someone's gonna be like sitting there pissed at me. So like, I gotta get my ass over there. Well, a workout buddy though, and like, especially with your husband, like it can be a double edged sword.

Like it might motivate you, but it also will be if he's not in the mood and he's like, Oh, let's skip today, you're going to be susceptible to falling into that, you know, habit. So I try to be on your own journey. Absolutely. He and I have definitely gone back and forth like, Hey, let's do this. And he'll be like, I don't feel like it. Yeah, I think it's gotta be not the husband. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Put your mask on first. Also, the exercise will permeate into your life in other ways. You're gonna finish your thank you cards.

You're gonna get all that shit together because you're gonna have. I've done that actually. I did finish my thank you cards. Oh, great. And just got them mailed out this week. So I'm really proud of that. But also like kind of kicking myself in the ass

because it took me seven months. But. That's okay, you have a year. Doesn't matter. So you are several months ahead. You're great. You got it done. Okay. And also I want you to write the sentence down to yourself. Write it down. I am a powerful, strong woman and I am going to become more powerful and more strong. Yes. Okay. And that's what you're going to do and write down your schedule for the week, what you're going to do.

And you're going to be able to take days off and you're going do and write down your schedule for the week, what you're gonna do. And you're gonna be able to take days off and you're gonna be able to get motivated. But write down the days, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, I'm going to the gym straight from work, even if it's for a half an hour, you're going to just get into the habit of forming a habit. It's as simple as that. And once you do that for three weeks,

you're gonna wanna keep doing it. And you're gonna wanna get stronger and you're gonna see the results and you're gonna feel healthier and you're gonna feel more motivated and it's all going to work out. So this is your pep talk. Okay. Thank you so much, Chelsea. You're welcome.

All right. Thanks, Brittany. Bye. Bye. Thank you all so much. Thanks. I like these questions. I'm so lazy.

I can't get out of bed. What do I do? Get out of bed. Get out of bed. What do I do? Get out of bed. Get out of bed. Do you know how grateful we are able to be able bodied and have the ability to move our bodies? Like we have to remember that not everybody can do that. You have full utilization of your body.

You better be fucking using it. And it only gets more limited the older you get. Yeah, and laziness gets more laziness. If you're lazy and you don't, yeah. I mean, I don't like to call anyone lazy, but some people just are. You know, and then what? Well, and on that note, we can take a little break

and come back to Wrap Up. Okay, we'll be right back. Okay, we're back with Cody Rigsby. TV magic. So you can catch Cody's podcast. Okay, we're back with Cody Rigsby. TV magic. So you can catch Cody's podcast. Tactful pettiness. It's tactful pettiness.

Anywhere you get your podcast and you can hear him talk about a bevy of different things. Cody, it was a delight to meet you. I'm sure I'll run into you somewhere or somewhere, somehow, sometime. I hope so. I hope so. I hope so. All right. And where can people find you on socials and stuff, Cody? At CodyRigsby on Instagram, at Cody underscore Rigsby on TikTok, because some bitch took my name before I could get it. But that's fine.

What a bitch. Okay. Thanks, Cody. Thank you, Cody. Have a great day. Thanks, friends. Bye, booze. If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email at dearchelseapodcast.gmail.com and be sure to include your phone number. Dear Chelsea is edited and engineered by Brad Dickert, executive producer, Catherine Law. And be sure to check out our merch at ChelseaHandler.com.