Dear Chelsea - Minisode: Getting Fit with Ben Bruno

Episode Date: July 31, 2026

Chelsea’s personal trainer Ben Bruno is here to discuss dumbbells, getting fit, and why doing things the simple way actually gets you a lot farther.  Sign up for Ben Bruno’s fitness program here! * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Yes. Oh, hi. This is it. This is what we're talking about. about, oh, duh, can you believe how magical you? I wish our listeners could see how beautiful you are, but he just, well, but he blends in with the sofa. You can't really see him ever, right? He's just a void. You could never see this beautiful brown eyes that you have. She'll lay a white blanket over it. My baby is a beautiful. There you go. Hello, Ben,

Bruno. Hi, Ben. We're here to talk about Ben's new workout app. How many, what number is this. What numbers? What? Your workout apps. You've done a few before. No, so I have a... You need a microphone, dumbass.

This is my personal trainer, everyone. Ben Bruno, Ben Bruno training. You can follow him on Instagram at Ben Bruno Training. Ben Bruno Training. Did I do this right? Dot com? Yeah. If we have to show you how to use a microphone, then we should just surround us on.

This is in my world. This is my world. Yeah. Does Doug hang out with you guys when you're working out? Yeah. Doug comes with me to the gym. He comes with me. Wherever I go.

knows because he sees my belt packing all my medication so he knows I'm on my way out. That's how he knows when he sees a lot of prescription bottles. He's like, oh, she's leaving. Right. Are you a king? Should we tell Catherine the story of when Chunk walked down a wheelchair two miles? Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah, this is a good story. Do you remember Chunk? I never met Chunk. Chunk was before my time. Chunk is the dog that made me a mother. When I met Chelsea, she was the mother to Chunk. I've trained Chelsea through many different employees, whatever, and also dogs.

And the first dog was Chunk. Was that your first dog period? Yeah. My first dog. Because it was on your show, right? Chunk was the best dog. When I met you, your show was not, was done. Chelsea Lately was done.

But Chunk was already a celebrity. So, long story short, we went to this gym that was an underground parking garage and Chelsea and I got to talking and Chunk just meandered away at some point. So Chelsea's assistant, this is actually a true story. The gym was between, if anybody knows Beverly Hills, it was in an alley between Roxbury and Linden right off Wilshire.

So smack dab in Beverly Hills, if you don't know Beverly Hills. I don't know how long goes by, but it must have been, Chunk wasn't fast, so it had to be a while. His chunk kind of walked slow. And so we get a call from Karen, her assistant, saying one of your fans found Chunk two miles down the road on Wilshire. I'm not making this up. I'm not putting anything on this.

Chunk just walked out of the garage and walked two miles down Wilshire and was so famous that some random person just spotted Chunk. And so Chelsea just I was thinking like, oh my God, we got to go get him. Chelsea goes, well, I don't want to get them. That's embarrassing. You go get them and just hung up. And Karen had to go pick up Chunk. I have no clue how Chunk lived through that.

Oh, my gosh. What about, Chunk was so funny because Chunk was famous. So people would stop at stoplights when we were on our way to the studio and they would recognize him and people, because his head would be out of the window. And people would be like, oh my God, is that Chon? Is that Chon? Because he had his bandana and it was kind of recognizable. And then I would always be like, oh, yeah, come quickly, take a picture if you want.

Get out of the car at the red light. And then one day after doing this like every morning, it would happen pretty frequently, right? And then one day, Chunk, literally a woman was coming over to take a picture and Chunk just put his paw on the window controller to put the window up. He had had it. He was like, fuck this shit. I'm sick of this. I'm with my family. What was the dog chronology?

It was Chunk. Chunk and then Tammy. Gary at some point, but Gary was returned to. Gary was a week. There was a return to sender. I think that was before. Then I had Hodor who Molly, my cousin took because he. And then there was Burton Bernice.

And then Burton Bernice and then Doug. And then Ray J short-lived. And we're going to get another one, though. Great. There's one in Mallorca. Oh, wait, you're bringing it from my York? I think so. That's the plan as of right now.

And we'll see. Do you remember when Bernice tumbled down that hill? That was Tammy. It was Tammy? Tammy would follow me. Bernice would never fucking follow me. She would hide from me. Another funny story that I don't know if translates to words,

because I think you had to be there. But Chelsea used to live on this giant hill. I'm not exaggerating. It was huge. It was like a 70-degree. to come down the hill. Yeah, it was really steep. So when Tammy was new and when Chelsea gets dogs, they don't look the best when she first

gets them. I don't know how to say that. She had a good heart, but she had very little hair. She had all these patches of hair and just looked like a hot mess. And so Chelsea and I were going to go walk to play tennis at the bottom of her street. And we look up and Tammy had tried to run to meet us, but went on the steep part of the hill. So I'm not putting anything on this. Oh, no.

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And we're the host of everyone watches women's sports, a new podcast from Together and IHeart Women's Sports. Because let's be real. Women's sports is giving us way too much to talk about. about these days. So Kelsey Finler, she became the first female solo rower to go from California to Hawaii. My first thought is, like, what's up with the snacks? Like, what are we eating? The highlights, the rivalries, the breakout stars, the moments that take over your entire timeline. And the conversations that start during the game and somehow keep going all week. Every week,

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Well, thank you, by the way. This means a lot. Oh, yeah. I love Ben Bruno here. Quick backstory on my app, but I started it three years ago. And then this past week, it was a third-party app service because I'm a tech moron. And the program, I'm proud of it. We have 25,000 people that do the app.

It's a lot of people. Wow. Which is, you know, and it's really cool because since I've known you, I've essentially just seen the same 10 clients in person every time. So it's been a great way to. Do you want to talk about the other people you train? Do you want to mention their name? or would you rather not?

I mean, it's going to just make you sound like a douche. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Do you want me to do it? Yeah, you can. Okay. Justin Timberlake, Jesse Beal, Ben Affleck, Matt Damon, you've trained, lots of basketball players.

Well, so the interesting thing about that is that's what I like about the app is, you know, when I moved to L.A., I didn't have a celebrity training background. I trained hockey players in Massachusetts. And then I moved here and got connected to you and some other people. and celebrity is an interesting thing to me as someone who comes from New Hampshire and like doesn't really, it's kind of funny to me, like, you name dropping that makes me seem like a starfucker. And really I just like watch ESPN all day. But there's a perceived expertise that comes from training celebrities. So like thanks for that. But the training is, I feel like training is, I always say it's one of life's equalizers, but the training that you do is the exact same. training that I did with moms back in Massachusetts is the same training that's on the app because it's like, you know, I think people think I hate the term celebrity trainer because one, I feel like it's just a dushy term, but two, I think they, there's just connotation like we're doing these wild workouts. Right. And at every point in the 11 years we've trained. 11 years, which is the longest relationship I've ever had with any man, including my brothers. But think about it, we work out with dumbbells and a bench and very, you know, basic workouts and stuff. out of New Jersey. And the training actors thing is funny to me because, again, you know, I'm sure there's a lot of

fields like this. I'm sure your hair people benefit, your makeup people benefit. There just is a perceived expertise with celebrity. But when I think of actors, you know, as somebody who came from an athletic training background, I look at trainers that train the athletes and be like, well, they really know what they're doing. And actors, I'm like, those were like the theater kids that aren't really that athletic. So the training isn't always what it's hyped up to be.

What is it hyped up to be, though? No, I think that a lot of people probably know of me, which is great, because I train you and people like you, famous people. But at the same time, I think you would agree with me. This isn't a knock. Our workouts are very average. Average, but I'm very strong. Yeah, you're really strong.

I mean, now I'm lifting like 35. I'm just squatting with like 35 pound dumbbells and stuff. No, you do 35. Awesome. And I'm tinier and stronger than I've ever been at 51 years old, first of all. So any ladies that are watching this or listening to this, like just, you know, this whole myth about weightlifting and this idea, this kind of fallacy that it makes you bigger is not true. It makes you smaller. But I think what I'm trying to do with this app is just basically bring the training that I do with you and my other clients to everyone.

Yeah. that has the say, you know, because for the people listening, Chelsea works out with dumbbells in a bench at her, you know, and slightly more at my house, but not crazy. And, you know, with good programming and just slow and steady progression, it goes along. How long is the course? Each program's six weeks, but there's seven total programs. And then what I basically did is I, what I created that just came out a week ago that's new is when I first started my app, it was a test to myself to see if I could do it as a tech moron, but also just see who was interested.

And I learned that I overshot my audience a little in the sense I thought they were going to be more gym people like me, but there's a lot of beginners. And so that is not, there's no judgment to that. I think that everyone follows the same process. And when I was scrolling my phone last week with your videos, I realized we didn't do any videos for like the first three years we trained. and I just shared like pictures of you to just say,

oh, I train celebrity or whatever, but your workouts were nothing to even, they weren't even postworthy. Well, who's fault is that then? You were the fucking trainer. No, because you're new to it. And my point is, I think that the online fitness social media world

shafts beginners a little bit because, because people really, like think, you know, people post the hard stuff, the novelty stuff, the cool looking move. in order to get clicks. But everyone that is doing those moves started with the basics, but we never share that because it doesn't look cool. And I never share that with my clients

because I'm not trying to throw them under the bus and say, here's Chelsea lunging with five-pound dumbbells, but you did. And now you're lunging with 30-pound dumbbells, and I'll show that because that's badass. But, you know, the thing about it is, like, if somebody listening to this without a training background tried to do what you do now after training,

with me for 11 years, they'd hurt themselves. And so it's not just, you know, the further along programs are what you're currently doing. We have programs if you've never done it. It's to kind of build up because I think, think about how when I met you, I came to your house and you had dumbbells up to eight pounds and we worked out on a deck. And that was it. And so we've come a long way since then. But I think that when enough time goes by, you sort of forget that stage.

But so the program instructs people how to, like, what level to start with, right? Yeah. For beginners or people who are just getting into weight lifting. It totally walks people through. I set out to make it as close to training with me a person as you can get. So each exercise from like every warm up move, you would actually hate it because you think I talk too much. But I give a one and a half minute tutorial for every single move. Okay.

Well, that's good. How to do. How much weight to do, how to start, whatever. And so you can, everyone else. to walk before they run. And I think that most women that aren't lifelong gym heads come into it with fear, either about bulking up or getting hurt. And so I think that I really just shoot to meet people where they're at and start slow

and then build. Yeah. But also just to know that that is not, first of all, as we get older, we need to be stronger, period. Yeah, totally. For your bone density. It's so good for your bone density. It's so good for your lean muscle mass.

Yeah, your hormones, everything. Like if I don't get a workout in for a couple days, I start to get, like, ornery. which is not a thing I would ever thought I would say, you know. And even when I'm not with him, which is most of the time, because now I'm traveling a lot. But like I have the same situation. I would love if you actually tried the app. I know you won't, but like.

I'll try it. Tell people how they can download the app. How do they do it? It's through the link on my Instagram. Okay. And Ben Brunow training. They have this, it's cool. I tried to make it very user-friendly.

I have seven programs and you can select which one you want in the series. and the more programs you buy, it adds like crazy discounts on top of it. It gets progressively cheaper. And it's, you know, it's a very cost-effective, simple program. We love it. Yeah. We love it. Do we have fitness questions?

I do. I have fitness questions. Okay. We have a couple of questions callers. Yeah. Okay. You want to put your headphones on? Yeah.

So Carla says, hi, Chelsea and crew from Down Under. I need some help and have nothing in the toolbox for my current situation. I'm a 44-year-old professional CPA, living independently. with multiple sclerosis. It's been about 11 years living with the diagnosis, and I've always found refuge in movement and exercise. My MS diagnosis was the best motivation to explore activities that challenge and support my body. I work out around four days a week, walking outdoors, Pilates, and swimming. I see a physio who has been life-changing with craniosacral therapy, but a sudden onset of fatigue is making it impossible to continue my normal workout schedule.

I'm very deliberate and sensible with my workouts, but would like some tips on how to manage fatigue and working out, and how I could start simple workouts at home. I'd love to get safely into weights and have no idea where to start. Oh, perfect. Yeah, I have some basic dumbbells and a barbell at home and unsure if I should start at two kilograms, 10 kilograms, or 20 kilograms. Do you have any tips on where to start? My goal is functional strength, Carla.

Hi, Carla. Hello, hello. Hi, Carla. Good morning. Hi. Hi. This is my personal trainer, so this is Ben Bruno, and he just launched an app that you could an exercise app and me not just launched you launched his newest exercise app so this is a perfect

app for you you can download it they he has you want to the program that i would recommend for you is called intro to strength training it's a beginner program but listening to what katherine just said i think it's really important to remember with exercise that the devil's in the dose and so when you're really struggling with fatigue i really i think that exercise gives you energy and as long as you don't overdo it, but if you overdo it, it'll suck your energy. So I really recommend people.

I always say seven out of ten hard in each set, and seven out of ten hard in each workout. So what that means is you do your set where you could do a few more reps, but you stop short because I think going to true failure is where injury happens and that'll zap your energy. And then stopping the workout before you feel,

feel crushed will go a long way and you just make long-term sustainable progress. So I would say consistent workouts two times a week, but not crushing yourself. I think that too many people look at a workout program as all or nothing. I'm either just going to go all in or it's not worth doing. Yeah, I do that a lot. And I think that. Yeah, I've been doing that in the past and that hasn't served to me very well. Yeah, part of why I'm, I was so grateful that Chelsea he had me on here is I think a lot of the mainstream info to women about strength training. I love it because I love that strength training is becoming more popular. But I think a lot of the advice comes from men and women like me who have worked out hard

their whole life and just like it. But they're trying to make those recommendations ubiquitous to everyone that just is brand new to training. And so it doesn't have to be that intense. A lot of the stuff that I see is telling women with no background that, you you have to go to failure, that you have to do sprints and super heavy weights. And I don't think you need to do any of that. I think it wouldn't make sense for a woman just starting out to train like they're training for the NFL Combine. So it's sort of a gentle, simple, sustainable

program will go a long way. And also remember the new buzzword that I actually like is called progressive overload. People teach women to progressively increase the weights. But I think the message that gets lost and can actually be defeating for women is that, for example, Chelsea is lifting 35 pound dumbbells now. And we started with five or 10 pound dumbbells. So that's only like five or six weight increases in 11 years. So I think that sometimes when you really break it down like that, if we were able to increase the way, you know, I see a lot of simple recommendations on mainstream women's podcast telling women to try to bump the weights up five pounds every time. And that sounds good and that works initially. But if that were the case, Chelsea and I have conservatively done

2,000 workouts. She'd be lifting 10,000 pounds on every single exercise. But I also think that's something that you're saying is really important, like with your level of energy and everything. Like, sometimes you can go in the gym and sometimes I'll just do a 20-minute workout. And that gives me the energy that I need. You don't have to commit to doing 45 minutes or an hour every single time. And if you do download a Ben's programs, each class is what? It's like 30, 40 minutes. 30, 40 minutes. But, you know, you don't have to finish the whole thing if you're not feeling it. You just kind of want to do a little bit of something when you feel, you know.

That's exactly right. I think it's also important to know, too, that when people say social media is a highlight real, so is fitness and I'm guilty of that in the sense that I'll show the day that Chelsea lifts 35 pounds because I'm trying to make her look good. I'm trying to make myself look good and whatever, but we're not doing that every time, if that makes sense. Some days we might only lift 20 pound dumbbells and live to fight another day when she's tired or feeling sore or, you know, whatever. Oh, 100%. Yeah, I've really been overdoing it in the past probably three months and that sort of led to a bit of burnout. So at the moment, I'm just, you know, some days it's only just a walk around the block. But, yeah, I think getting into a program and knowing that even if I just do,

like the 20 minutes, 30 minutes, maybe one day it might be 10 minutes. Like I think I like to keep that habit of doing that daily or, you know, at least four or five times a week, some sort of movement and exercise, because I've found in those times where I let it all go, well, then you sort of don't want to pick it up again. So it's, yeah, having another tool to give me a bit of motivation, do something a little bit differently. Sounds really great. Yeah.

Great. Great. Thank you so much for calling in. Thanks, Carla. That's a lot. Amazing. Thank you. Bye, bye.

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I never once doubted Kenny, and I always doubted the accusation. on season three of burden of guilt you'll hear a story about the length someone will go to in order to get what they want this case has got to be one of the most despicable listen to season three of burden of guilt on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts all right do we want to do another question sure yeah let's do another question all right um while i have getting my confidence back as an athlete or my brother-in-law works out too much. Do your brother-in-law works out too much? Okay. So Amy says, dear Chelsea, my younger sister has been married for two years and has been with him for six years and six months ago they had a baby. It should be noted that it was him who initiated and pushed to have a baby, not her. My sister has absolutely loved being

a mother and she's objectively a fantastic parent. Her husband, on the other hand, has been absent ever since the baby was born. He's at the gym. She gave birth on a Thursday. He came home on a Saturday, and then Monday morning he began a twice a day workout routine. He works out for an hour before work, then works all day, and then three times a week meets up with his friends to go rock climbing for several hours. On the weekends, he often goes climbing or to the gym or has evening plans with friends. Meanwhile, my sister is home with the baby. Because of all of this, my sister has spent most of these past six months alone with the baby.

He seems truly addicted to fitness. He's always been interested in it, but ever since the baby was born, it's gone to another level. My sister has talked to him many times, but he always tells her that he loves being at home, but he also loves being social and sees it as his social time with his friends. When she forces him to stay home, he's miserable and constantly checking his phone. I'm not sure what to do as the sister-in-law. I love my sister, and it's obvious to me she isn't very happy. He doesn't see it as a problem because when he is home, he's very present.

That being said, I don't know how to help. I have to stop myself from saying things like, wow, he sucks. The truth is, he is great when he's home. He's just never home. Any help would be appreciated. sometimes an outside perspective is what's needed, Amy. I have a brother-in-law who over-exercises. Yeah.

Yeah, he gets home, he works out, then he goes on a bike ride, then he goes, da-da-da-da. But, I mean, I don't ever, I don't know, I don't know. But it depends a new dad and a trainer. Yeah, I mean, as a dude, I kind of get it. I would imagine that both the guys you're talking about exercise more for mental reasons than physical reasons. I find working out to be a good mental outlet for me. and I'm in new debt.

I mean, I think this guy kind of needs to realize if you're going to have kids, you have to give up some shit in the beginning. It's just like very, you know, that's just what it is. My life got pretty small the last four months, and I understand where he's coming from in the sense that sometimes I miss my old life, but I think that it is what it is.

But in terms of working out, working out twice a day is just silly from a workout perspective. So I think that's probably more of a mental outlet. And I think in terms of working out, I will tell you when I get busy, I have a gym in my garage, but I just work out for 20 minutes. I would just call him out to his face as a sister-in-law. You have every right to do that as his sister-in-law. This doesn't feel like a workout question to me.

I feel like I just put on like my new dad hat and I'm like, dude, you just got to be home. Well, it covers two bases. You have the expertise in two areas now. But I will say as a guy, I feel like men when they deal with stress, for me, a big part of working out is that the common emotion I feel like as life comes at me is anger more so than sadness or stuff. And so for me, working out has always been an outlet. When I'm pissed off, I just live really heavy. And it's like a lot more socially acceptable than cussing out. your partner or cussing out your neighbor, you know, whatever. Actually, I'll tell you,

you know, Chelsea and I are pretty close in a lot of ways I view her kind of like a sister. I think you would probably agree in that way. And three or four days ago... I view you as a sister also. Yeah. Hey girl. No, but I, she sent me this text and I was just, she caught me in the wrong mood and I just responded like a dick. And then I just had to like, a couple hours later, I was like, oh, sorry. But I think that I understand where this guy is coming from because... Yeah, it's hard for guys with the dead kids for the... It's really, really hard.

This has been the hardest four months of Ben's life. It comes with amazing things, and it's also really hard. And at the same time, I think everyone tells me that these are the times I'll miss. And so I think this dude that's rock climbing with the homies is going to regret that in time. And like, I get that it's a social outlet, but like, guess what? You had a baby. Like, you don't get to hang out with your friends that much. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

You should definitely say something. I would say something as a sister-in-law. I would say something. And keep saying something until he, like, comes correct. What would you say is like, what's acceptable for a new dad? Like, should he just be doing his before work ones? Like, I don't know. I mean, I don't want to ever comment on people's relationships.

We have a situation. My wife and I both work from home. So it's the other extreme of just, we're just both of home all day every day. I do think it's important to take space and you time, but definitely not every day and definitely not for four hours. And definitely not with a newborn. Like that's not fair. Like you have to like acclimate and give up things. You have to sacrifice.

You've made a sacrifice. You've had a child. Now you have to. This is why many people don't have children because they can't have, they don't have room for this kind of sacrifice. But once you have them, you have to make the sacrifice. And you have to give up some of the things you love, not forever, but for the, you know, that. incremental important period of time to make sure that your baby is okay and that you're bonding with it. Totally. And one thing that I've learned, what I was talking before about the devil's in the dose,

I think when you talk about taking me time, the same things apply. So I know for my wife, Nicole and I are recharging right now might be like just 30 minutes solo. And that seems acceptable. I think four hours every day is selfish. It's not, you know, you're going to probably run into some significant relationship. relationship problem. Okay. Well, let's get Ben back to his baby. Okay, Ben. All right, Ben. Do you want to give your workout program another shout out for our minisode?

Yeah. It's called Bruno Strong. It's all through the link on my Instagram. And I have a website, Benbruno.com. And I'm very thankful for you giving me this opportunity because I find that everyone that signs up for the program has really liked it. It's a weird thing delving into the online stuff because you know I'm a true tech moron. And, you know, but as I've learned that if I just publish the workouts that I do with my clients and stuff,

it has really resonated with people. And I appreciate you giving me your platform because a lot of the stuff that I do, I speak to other trainers. And it's kind of like an echo chamber where we obviously all think the same. and I think that exercise for people who haven't done it before, haven't done it consistently, it's truly life-changing. I know that sounds like hyperbole. I think you would say it's changed your life.

Totally. Making it part of your routine. And so I hope to just bring that to more people. Awesome. Thanks for coming in, Ben, Bruno. Thanks for being here. And thanks for showing me for being such a tech idiot. You showed me how to edit a video this morning.

I'm working out. I kind of... I know. He showed me. I was like, hey, I need to get rid of this last part. I spent the last three years just swearing at my computer and my phone, but slowly but surely, I'm getting better. Okay. All right, everybody.

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