Dear Chelsea - Minisode: Not Interested in Being Exclusive with Chelsea + Catherine

Episode Date: October 31, 2025

Chelsea and Catherine cover Chelsea’s modern technology woes, and deal with a listener’s Tesla troubles. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I live below a cult leader and I fear I've angered her. Wait a minute, Sophia. How do you know she's a cult leader? Well, Dakota, luckily it's I'm not afraid of a scary story week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my neighbor has been blasting music every day and doing dirt rituals. And now my ceiling is collapsing. I try to report them, but things keep getting weirder.

I think they might be part of a cult. Hold up. A real life cult? And what is a dirt ritual? No clue, Dakota. Find out how it ends. Listen to the Okay Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Chicago.

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Oh, hello, Chelsea. It's come to my attention that you need a primer on substack. Well, yeah, it came to your attention because I told you, Catherine. So I'm glad that it came to your attention. I do need a primer on substack. So I would imagine a lot of your friends have that. Yes, yes. And somehow I'm getting updates from Substack, but I don't remember ever, like, joining.

I like to limit my email intake. Do you know what I mean? It's too many emails from too many places that I don't even, I never sign up for. All I do is unsubscribe, unsubscribe, unsubscribe. We have to have Carlos go in and, like, unsubscribe from everything. Well, so Substack is basically just like a fancy word for a newsletter. It's like a program where people can have stuff behind a paywall. So, like, they might have a free newsletter they send out, but you pay to get their podcast or that

sort of thing. It's, I mean, it's basically just a newsletter. That's on there. That's not available anywhere else. Correct. Correct. Yeah. And so you can sign up for like updates. It's sort of like a new cool version of a newsletter that seems less salesy. But why is our platform for that? I don't know. Okay. Okay. I don't understand anything. I'm losing my grip on reality. That's okay. You know what? We're just here to help you out with technology. I have an update from an episode that was a long time ago. So she wrote in, this is Elisa. She wrote in on our Heather Gay episode. so this is a while ago. She says, hey there, I was reminded today that I was on an episode in May 23 and wanted to give you an update. My question was, how do I have casual sex when I can't make the first move? I shared that I was taking myself out on dates, sitting at the bar with a glass

of wine, and reading my book. I love happy hour and I love my own company. Well, I got asked out by a bartender. L.O.L. He's a massage therapist that works a couple shifts a week at the bar because he likes the social aspect of that work. We dated for a year and ended up breaking up because I wanted to know where things were going and he wasn't ready to think about a future with me. A year passed and I accepted a job offer in another province of Canada, big move to prepare for. While I was packing, my bartender declared his regrets and love for me. While cautious, I chose to give him a second chance and we're currently in a committed

long-distance relationship. I love him very much and he is, as he says, quote, accepting the suffering of the consequences of his choices, as he should. We'll figure out how we can be together after I finish a contract of two years. Will I last that long? I don't know. I've never felt this way for someone, and I'm so comfortable with him. For now, there are parts of living alone in the city that I love, and I shared with you

before that I have a really good vibrator, so I'm good until we can figure it out. You are my community. Much love, Elisa. What was the advice? This is like a journal entry. I mean, I know, but, well, hey, at least she doesn't have to go out and have casual sex anymore. Although maybe she wants to while she's got this, like, boyfriend back home. Did I tell

her to go after it, to go get the sky? Did I tell her to have casual sex? I think we told her to like make the first move more. But then he did. Oh, okay. Okay. Okay. So another, okay, great. Well, this is very anticlimactic, Catherine. Very anticlimactic.

Elisa, let us know what happens in two years. Yeah, we'll talk to another two years. And be specific about what the actual advice was. I don't remember what I fucking said to her. That was 2023. Because I think the advice was about dating yourself. I think that's what you told her to do. Hold on straight man chiming in, Brad. Hold on the,

hold on, Brad is on the scene. Do you remember this one, Brad? Cathra is having a, Cathra. That's your name now. Cathra is having an inter-office, an inner-office affair with her husband, Brad, who is our sound engineer. And that's his voice that you're hearing. Thank you, Brad, for remembering.

Yes. That sounds like it tracks, Brad, that I told her to date herself. We're at a studio where we've been coming for, you know, the last several weeks, and I gave him a canoodle here in the office. And I was like, wait, did the other people here know that we're married? Or do they think we just carpal? We're married in case you guys did not know. Okay, so I have another follow-up.

This is from a more recent episode with Otko. This was about a gal who her sister-in-law was, like, basing her out. There was like a B-day party mishap where she didn't get invited to the niece's birthday party sort of thing. So she says hi Chelsea. I remember this. Yeah, yeah. Since we last spoke, I took your advice and had a conversation with my sister-in-law about what it was that had led her to cutting me off. A fact I should have mentioned from the start is that she is on the orange team, if you know what I mean. Oh, that took me a second. On the orange team, if you know what I mean. So the thought of having the conversation was extra daunting, knowing I would probably not be met where I was at.

It turns out the reason she cut me off was because I didn't wait until I saw her in person to discuss the birthday issue, causing my sister-in-law to get defensive of her daughter. I still can't believe this is the reason for the cutoff. Wow. I ended the conversation amicably by saying I love her and her daughter and only want to be in their lives. I've seen her at events since this conversation, and things have been awkward to say the least. I feel I've done all that I can, and I certainly appreciate the advice to confront the issue head on, despite the weird ending to the story. story. If this was any other relationship, I would have been done with it all. But as Chelsea said, we're family, so hoping things will someday improve. But for now, I think we're to stand still.

Thank you for everything, Sarah. Yeah. Well, now you have to employ Mel Robbins. Let them. Yes. Let her do her thing and let you do your thing. And it's not your problem. You stepped up to the plate. You did what you're supposed to do. There's nothing else you can do. Right. And like, if that's her reasoning for being upset with you, it's a non-reason. Yeah. When you're dealing with people like that are holding onto very small, petty things, there is no, it's like, it is like dealing with the terrorist on the other end of the spectrum. Yes, yes. And you can only, you know, like Chelsea said, you can only be responsible for how you're showing

up, like show up with light and love. And, you know, if she wants to be grumpy, let her be grumpy. And that's fine. Exactly. Exactly. I concur, Catherine. I concur. Cathera, I concur.

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I live below a cult leader, and I fear I've angered her. Well, wait a minute, Sophia Adia knows she's a cult leader. Well, Dakota, luckily it's I'm not afraid of a scary story week on the OK Storytime podcast, so you'll find out soon. This person writes, My neighbor has been blasting music every day and doing dirt rituals, and now my ceiling is collapsing. I try to report them, but things keep getting weirder.

I think they may be part of a cult? Hold up, Sophia. A real-life cult? And what is a dirt ritual? No clue. But according to this person, contractors are tearing down the patio to find out what's going on with their ceiling, and her neighbors are not happy. Well, she needs to report them ASAP. She did!

And now they've been confronting her in really creepy ways all the time. So, do we find out if this person survives their neighborhood cult or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. We just have a couple of quickies today. So our first question comes from MAG. MAGA, great. There's a new reg. There's a new reg.

There's a team too. There's another MAGA now and make America Gavin again for Gavin Newsome. How do you feel about Gavin Newsom? I'm into it big time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to fight fire with fire. All these fucking idiots tiptoeing around. I'm going, we're crying and doing, now he's doing something. And J.B. Pritzker, is that his name?

J.B. Pritzker? Sure, yeah. The governor of Illinois and Westmore, all these guys need to fucking do this. Yeah, for Donald Trump. They need to really go after him. Yeah, so it's nice to see somebody fighting the fight. I agree. I think, like, the last few years, especially journalists and it's like everyone's being so

polite and, like, respectful and like disagreeing, but in this really respectful way. And it's like you just can't. You can't respect somebody who behaves this way and treats people in this way. It's disgusting. Right, right. Well, Mag says, hey, Chelsea. As a 20-something who's just starting to dive into the dating pool, I wanted to know if you have any advice on dating multiple men at once. Do it. She says, is this a bitch move? No. If not, why do I feel bad about it, Meg? Yeah, no, date people. Definitely do it. Absolutely. I was dating multiple people when I met Brad. Yeah, exactly. And what's wrong with dating multiple people? As long as everybody knows, you're in the clear. Yeah, like we're not, I'm not exclusive, not interested in being exclusive right now. And then if one grows on you, like Brad did, then, you know.

Exactly. Then you can eliminate the other gentleman callers. But absolutely do not, like, there's nothing wrong with that. Also, like, who's got time to date one person at a time anymore? No, no. Keep it coming. Exactly. Fresh meat every hour on the hour.

And that way you don't feel like, okay, I just sunk two months into this guy and he ghosted me or whatever. You know, got people on the back burner. Our next question comes from L.C. So I know you ditched your Tesla. So this is about ditching her Tesla. Dear Chelsea, as a fellow Tesla owner, I'm feeling deeply conflicted these days, not because my car is judging me, but because my subconscious won't shut up about it. Given the current political climate and the ongoing Elon Trump saga, should I ditch my Tesla? Or are we just supposed to drive around pretending it's an ultra-fast, self-driving moral dilemma? We'd love to hear your take, Elsie. I'm all for ditching the Tesla. Yeah, because you ditched yours, right?

I ditched mine. My sister's waiting for her lease to be up, so she's not ditching hers, and I have judgment towards that. I feel like you have to stand on principles. Like, I'm sorry. Like, you have to have principles and you have to follow through with them. And this, he doesn't deserve your money. No, agreed.

And I mean, I do think with some people who maybe haven't given those back, they have that sticker. I thought that truck, first of all, the truck. The fiber truck? Yeah, I thought those all got recalled. Why do I keep seeing them? That's what I thought too. I mean, there was some part, at least, that got recalled on all of them.

Brad will know the answer to this. Yeah, well, Brad, Brad, where are you? We need a straight man. You're talking about the cyber truck? Yeah. I thought they got recalled. Well, I think they just have an excess of inventory. I think they just have like 100,000 vehicles that they can't sell so they're just sitting

in parking lots everywhere. No, but wasn't there like some specific thing? No, no, but there was an issue where they had to recall them. Oh, I'm sure there's tons of recalls. Why do we know about this and you don't? You're a car guy. Well, because it's a Tesla. And I don't know what you.

Way to misrepresent. Way to misrepresent yourself and this podcast, Brad. What a disappointment. All right. Goodbye, Brad. I tried. Sorry. Well, on that note, we can go ahead and wrap up.

Okay. Well, don't buy a Tesla. And if you have one, return it. Goodbye. I just announced all my tour dates. They just went on sale. It's called the High and Mighty Tour. I will be starting in February of next year.

So I will be touring from February through June. So go get your tickets now. If you want good seats and you want to come see me perform, I will be on the high and mighty tour. Do you want advice from Chelsea? Write into Dear Chelsea Podcast at gmail.com. Find full video episodes of Dear Chelsea on YouTube by searching at Dear Chelsea Pod.

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Push your gameplay beyond performance with Intel Core Ultra processors. For the next era of gaming, upgrade to smooth high-quality streaming with Intel Wi-Fi 6E and maximize game performance with enhanced overclocking. Win the tech search. Power up at Lenovo.com. Johnny Knoxville here, check out Crimeless, Hillbilly Heist, my new true crime podcast from smartless media, campside media, and big money players. It's the true story of the almost perfect crime and the Nimrods who almost pulled it off.

It was kind of like the perfect storm in a sewer. That was dumb. Do not follow my example. Listen to Crimless, Hillbilly Heist on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I live below a cult leader, and I fear I've angered her. Wait a minute, Sophia. How do you know she's a cult leader? Well, Dakota, luckily it's I'm not afraid of a scary story week on the OK Storytime podcast.

So we'll find out soon. This person writes, My neighbor has been blasting music every day and doing dirt rituals. And now my ceiling is collapsing. I try to report them, but things keep getting weirder. I think they might be part of a cult? Hold up. A real life cult? And what is a dirt ritual?

No clue, Dakota. Find out how it ends. Listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Chicago. A white woman's murder. A black man behind bars. For a crime he didn't commit. 90 years of killing somebody I have never seen.

The Crying Wolf podcast is the story of a corrupt detective, two men bound by injustice, and the quest for redemption, no matter the price. Listen to the Crying Wolf Podcasts on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is an IHeart podcast.