Dear Chelsea - Minisode: Toffee Pudding with Rosebud Baker and Andy Haynes

Episode Date: September 20, 2024

Rosebud Baker and Andy Haynes are in-studio with Chelsea to talk about why men buy too many gadgets, baby poop, and how to use toffee pudding in bed. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome back to Couples Counseling with Chelsea. I am here with my friends Rosebud Baker and her husband, Andy Haynes. Hi, Rosebud and Andy. Thank you for being here today as a couple. Thank you. Thank you for having us because we haven't been to couples therapy in a few weeks. Okay, great. That's why I would like to fill in the void however I can. I know that you guys have had a lot, you have a long history together, right? Can you break that down for our listeners? Give us kind of like a summary when you first became sexually attracted to Andy? Yes. So the first time I met Andy was at our friend's wedding.

It was not the first time that I met you, but it was the first time that we hung out. And I wouldn't describe it as a strong, burning sexual attraction. I would say I enjoyed being around him because he made me laugh. Yeah. And that, to me, is sexually attractive. Do you know what I'm saying? Absolutely. But it wasn't like oh

this guy's gonna wreck me or anything like that historically women have not been sexually attracted to me it's a more of a breaking them down kind of process right and that's where you had to come in with the humor right exactly to develop the humor because the humor is a much more powerful aphrodisiac than looks anyway right for relationships and i'm not saying there's anything wrong with the way that you look just want to i just want to acknowledge that we're all sitting here together and that we're just starting there yeah there's nothing wrong with how you look andy thanks so much so i remember if i recall correctly you guys kind of like left that party together didn't you and you kind of spent the next, what, four or five hours together?

We took a drive together. And then Andy tried to come upstairs. And I was like, ew, no. And then like three days later, I was like, actually, maybe. And then we hung out. We slept together once. And basically, he moved into my apartment. Oh, wow.

Yeah. It was like very impulsive, alcoholic vibes. But you weren't drinking at that time, were you? No, no. No, we'd both been sober for a while. But you got to find your highs where you can get them, you know? Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely.

And when you're both sober, isn't there a rule that you shouldn't be dating? There's no rules for us. It's like we've been sober long enough. So that wasn't a part of the attraction was that he was sober. It was part of it. Yeah, because it was like, oh, we have been sober long enough. So that wasn't a part of the attraction was that he was sober. It was part of it. Yeah. Because it was like, oh, we have like a similar language. There's like a he works on himself, that kind of thing where I was like, oh, he's in therapy.

He's sober. I was attracted to both of those things. He's funny. And also he's like as impulsive and down for whatever as I am. So that automatically was like, oh, he's so easy to be around. I'm so excited to be around this person. We had so much fun. And then we got engaged like nine months later. I think six months later. Yeah. I'm pretty sure. Yeah. We hooked up for the first time like in October and we were engaged on your birthday yeah okay so yeah we got

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First. Yeah. That was while we were having sex. While we were having sex. I know. Does it count when you say that while you're having sex? Because it's like everyone's impulse is when. No, she stopped and she said, I think I love you.

And then continued to have sex? I think we were done but we were you know post-coital post-coital yeah so someone had climaxed yeah and i'm guessing that was you not rosebud i'm i'm a pretty generous lover i would say i was raised by women uh not that that were you sleeping with those women yeah he's going down on his mom i had to go down on my mom a lot no but i just i never was one of those guys. I mean, I've definitely not pleased a woman. Let's get that out there. But I think I'm a pretty reciprocal lover. You know what I mean? 2025 is bound to be a fascinating year. It's going to be filled with money challenges

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Wow. Because it just seems so pleasure giving. So I just want to throw that out there. That just hit me. I mean, I'm not ordering, you know, you to do it.

I'm just, maybe you are giving him ideas. I'm giving you guys ideas. Which I don't appreciate. And you could possibly flip it and reverse it and use it on her so that she doesn't even have to do it. That seems like an unhealthy. That's going to be mandatory. Yeah. That seems like an issue. I don't know. I saw it and reverse it and use it on her so that she doesn't even have to do it. That seems like an unhealthy. That's going to be an issue.

Yeah, that seems like an issue. I don't know. I saw it and I was like, this needs, like, this is good. Whoever thought this up. Like, I just thought this was going to be helpful for so many couples that have hit. Not that you guys have hit a stale place in your relationship. I mean, we just had a kid. So that's a, you hit a wall for sure.

Okay, what's that? What's the wall? What is that? What is the wall that you hit? You just, you become like kind of like farmhands in your own home. And you just sort of are like, you're just like doing tasks all day. And then by the time you're done, you're both just like, oh my God, like the most sexual thing you can think of is lying in bed without anyone touching you. Yeah.

Because truly there's just someone pulling your hair out all day. Yeah. I think like Rosebud went through so much. Like her body changed so much. And then she had to literally get her organs moved around to get the baby out. And I was kind of like i don't think she wants anybody touching her for a while and so i kind of took that as my my guiding principles for the first i don't know four months yeah this is about four months before i was ready

to like let's let's get into it let's get the party started again well that's very respectful and necessary for men to actually understand what happens to a woman's body. Yeah. And her insides. Because, yeah, anyone who has a baby isn't horny. Right. Who has just had a baby. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, I guess there's women that are, but I'm like, I. But are there? I'm just like, if they are, I wish they'd keep it to themselves. That's right. Because it's a downer. And it's not fair to give men that kind of idea. Yes. Right?

Yes, exactly. I do kind of wish I was the kind of man that didn't care. You know what I mean? I think I would like to be. He has this like alpha fantasy. Yeah, yeah. That he would like to. Where I, you know, I work on Wall Street and I check in with her once in a while about her days.

And then I, you know, cheat on her with someone. Yeah, but he doesn't listen to anything I say. He wants to be that man but he's not well you guys have different even though you have a lot in common you have different personality types very you like to plan shit and you don't want anything to do with planning no i don't want to i don't either i don't neurologically opposed to i don't like any logistical talk yes i don't want to look on a map and i don't want to plan where we're going i just want you to tell me where to be and then I'll bring a fucking funny personality or whatever. It'll be upbeat. Yeah. No, I'll bring the party and you can bring the map. Yeah. That's how I feel. But is this a point of contention ever?

Like, does it ever escalate into a fight because you're planning become so annoying to her? Well, the problem is, is that Rosebud doesn't plan anything and then you know i have an entire life over here at one wall street is that yeah i work i work at the patriot center and i'm the head of uh forex there but uh no i mean like you know we have different schedules and then like i'll try to do something where it's like hey would you like to do something as married people and she i have to coordinate that because her schedule is so busy and she gets so annoyed by just the asking of it to where I'm like, all right, I'm not going to plan anything anymore. Yeah. And then I'm like, why aren't we going on dates? Yeah. Yeah, it does. It bothers me. I wish

I wasn't like this. I do try to like take a deep breath now. To get so easily irritated by the active planning. Because I do get really irritated. I know exactly what you mean. Not even, it doesn't even make sense. It's not even at him. It's like anyone in my life that asks me like, hey, what do you have this weekend of this month in this year? And I just immediately shut down. I'm like, I don't even want to talk to you anymore. I agree. I don't like when people ask me in advance for things. It's like, who fucking knows? I could be dead by then, you know, to hit me back on Tuesday, hit me back on the Tuesday before the Wednesday and I'll let you know. Right. I could be in the hospital. So with those things, can't you just go into her calendar and schedule a dinner and put it in

there? Sometimes, but it's not always there, but I'm more like, I want to do something for a week in the summer. You know what I mean? Like that, see. And I know that Rosebud's going to fill the entire calendar with work if she can. So I have to be like, can we do this? And she usually now will go like, okay, I'm not going to do anything for these two weeks or something like that. And so that's my two weeks. That was kind of like your Christmas trip that you had planned for Rosebud's birthday that she canceled, which was for you because you like skiing. Yeah. You guys were coming and then she pulled out and was like no no i don't like these

plans for you yeah yeah yeah that was true that was actually a rare occasion though where andy was like oh we can cancel he was he was disappointed but he wasn't like i could tell he was as overwhelmed as i was well traveling with a baby is fucking overwhelming. It was absolutely I mean we had done it all summer and I was like we went from being like the most dignified people in the airport to being just everything

on our backs like squatting in a corner feeding her like it was just crazy to me how the stuff that I used to judge parents for in the airport i was like oh this is an unavoidable reality of just like moving around with a baby yeah and i was like this is i told myself i will never i would be pregnant i was like seven months pregnant walking by these women being like not me and it fully was it was just I was like, because I love Whistler.

That's the first place I ever skied when I was two years old. So I was super excited. And then the idea of getting on the plane with the baby, I was like, I don't ever need to travel again. Yeah. Yeah. I think it beat us down. And that's all for this week with Rosebud and Andy. Tune in next time as we continue couples counseling with Chelsea.

You can check out Rosebud and Andy's podcast. It's called Find Your Beach. Andy will be on tour in Dallas, Oklahoma City, and Tulsa in September, Amsterdam on October 25th, and then he has two dates in Milwaukee in December. So check out his Instagram and TikTok at I'm Andy Haynes, H-A-Y-N-E-S,

for tickets to those dates and for more. And you can find both Andy and Rosebud on YouTube. Rosebud will be taping her new special on September 16th in New York at the Village Underground. And you can get tickets to this and more of her dates at rosebudbaker.com. And you can find her on Instagram and TikTok at Rosebud Baker. Upcoming shows that I have. I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to St. Louis and Kansas City.

And then I will be in Las Vegas performing at the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. I'm coming to Brooklyn, New York at the King's Theater on November 8th. And I have tickets on sale throughout the end of the year in December.

So if you're in a city like Philadelphia or Bethlehem or San Diego or New Orleans or Omaha, check ChelseaHandler.com for tickets. Okay. Do you want a shortcut to the best version of you? Here it is. Feed the good wolf. I'm Eric Zimmer, host of The One You Feed. Every week, I talk to brilliant minds and brave souls

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