Dear Hank & John - 120: Snake Cuddle Time

Episode Date: December 18, 2017

How do I memorize all the birds? Should I join the Navy? How do you eat trail mix? And more! Email us: [e-mail] patreon.com/dearhankandjohn

Hello and welcome to Dear Hank and John. Norez, I've for to think of it Dear John and Hank. It's a comedy podcast where two brothers answer your questions, give you a du-buse advice and bring you all the week's news from both Mars and AFC Wimbledon. How you doing, John? I am doing so well, Hank. I have mostly for reasons that we can't talk about until the end of the podcast. I have to confess that I am a little bit limping to the finish line of 2017.

It has been a pretty long year for me. I published my first book in six years. That was pretty stressful, exciting, but stressful. Lots of things have been happening, movie stuff, like just a lot of, and I had Labyrinthitis, which I don't recommend, despite its metaphorically resonant name. It's just been, the last couple months

have been a little intense. So I am, I am just trying to, just trying to get to the end and move onto 2018. How are you? I'm good. I have a baby and it's so good. I also really, really want to see the Star Wars movie. I want to see it. But I can't, because like, how do parents ever watch movies? How does it ever happen? You get a babysitter. Get a babysitter.

I guess, but I feel like I'm getting a babysitter. I should be doing something where Catherine and I hang out, not just staring something together. No, it's ridiculous. No, go see the Star Wars movie. It's a lovely, I still love a good movie as a date night. I think movies continue to be a great date night. You know what movie is gonna be a great date night, Hank? What movie?

Turtles all the way down, coming to a theater near you. Oh goodness. I, okay, John, who do you wanna babysit my baby while I will go watch the Star Wars movie? Yeah, that's a good idea. I wanna spend 12 hours flying to Mizzoula so I can spend three hours with my nephew. Well, I don't.

You wanna short poem? Okay. All right, this short poem was sent in by Heather. It's very good and it's about death so thank you Heather for Sharing a poem about death. I appreciate it. It's by Maria Senyaun whose name I'm sure I'm mispronouncing and it is translated from Japanese Bury me when I die beneath a wine barrel in a tavern with luck, the cask will leak. Ah.

It's good Hank, it's good. Ah. I would love to have just a few glasses of wine after my death, but I feel that the odds are against me. John, our first question. After your Hank and John comes from tin, who asks, dear Hank and John, ah, help, I have a final on birds in less than two hours, I have to memorize

all the birds, orders, family, and species of California and in two hours, I have to put all that knowledge to a test. Please help, please send help with the atomic number of 50 tin, like tin. Yeah, no, TIN, it does have the atomic number of 50, 10, like 10. Yeah, no, TIN, it does have the atomic number of 50. Hank, do you know where the elements get their atomic numbers from? I've thought this was just a fascinating fact. Ah, yes.

Where do they get their numbers from? The number of protons they have? See, I always thought it was from just a dart board that like chemists would throw a dart at a dart board and they'd be like 50, 10. But no, it turns out it's the number of protons they have. Well, there's a certain amount of logic to just like, oh, will, this is the lightest one,

and so it's number one, and this is the second lightest one, so it's number two, and we'll just order them by weight. And that is how they are ordered, but it just happens that's sort of also a consequence of the fact that protons are where a lot of the mass of an atom comes from, and as you increase protons, you also increase neutrons, which is the other place that the mass of the atom comes from.

But that is neither here nor there, John. That's chemistry, and we have a problem with regards to bird taxonomy, apparently. Yeah, it's a little weird to me. Taxonomy, bird taxonomy feels a little bit dated as a thing that you should have to memorize. Yeah. To me, maybe tin is writing from the distant past,

like 1964? Yeah, I'm like, what is gonna help you by, how are you going to be assisted? By knowing all of the order family and species of all birds in California. That is a huge, like California's a big and diverse place. It's got mountains, it's got ocean, it's got like cold, it's got hot, it's got like eosemite, and it's got all of the things.

Hank, would you like to take a guess how many bird species there are in California? I'm gonna go with, I'm gonna go with 500, 600. That I was remarkably close. Actually, yeah, I mean, I wouldn't have been within an order of magnitude. I would have said 12. I thought we'd eliminated most of the non-human species, but apparently a few of them are still going strong. You know what the official state bird of California is?

I bet tin does. Uh, the Herringgull, John, it's the Herringgull. No, it's the Condor, the California Condor must be. Nope, it's the California quail. That's terrible. You got to look at a picture of California quailhank. They've got one of those headdresses that makes them look a little bit like Napoleon.

They look like Bird Napoleon. Uh, I can't spell. And so I've just Googled the California quail. Well, the California quail, also is excellent, but the California quail, I mean, to be fair, the condor is a wonderful bird, very majestic, but I have never seen a bird that is so clearly suited to official statedom as the California quail. I mean, the California quail might be the next governor of California.

The California quail looks as if it is tipping its hat to you all of the time. It does, it's a hello sir. Hello sir. Hello, bam. Hello, madam. Hello. So, Tin, this is a dumb assignment and we disagree with it.

That is our, that is our take. We do not like this as an assignment. We think you should be learning about why Tin's atomic number is 50, not about all of the genuses and species and orders of birds in California. But I do wanna say Hank, I have a buddy who is an ornithologist. That's just something I wanted to say

because I very rarely find myself in a situation where I get to talk about my friend who's an ornithologist. Well, yeah, maybe we should talk to him about why not this is important though. I could probably talk real quick with my friend who's a professor of turtle studies and ask that him, what do you think about this? If you'd be interested in that.

I do, all right. It's Dr. Turtleman available. Hey, Dr. Turtleman. Hello, hey, how's it going? Yeah, we've got, so we've got somebody who needs to learn a bunch of species and orders and families of birds in California, is that, oh, that's, oh, come on, really?

There's still doing that? That's ridiculous. Yeah, I mean, when you gotta Oh, that's, oh, come on, really? There's still doing that? That's ridiculous. Yeah, I mean, what you gotta know is not, it's not like all of the different species and gene, it's that these things are related and how they're related. Understanding the connection between organisms is much more valuable than understanding,

like being able to name the genus and order of family and species of all the birds of California. Come on, teachers! There you go, Dr. Turtleman, everybody. Just when I thought he'd retire. Our next question comes from Talia, or possibly Talia, who asks, Dear John and Hank, two weeks ago, I got very sick and I ended up in the hospital. I'm very sorry to hear about that, Talia.

I'm a college student and now I'm left with a bill. I can't afford. Oh my god. This is even after the hospital cut my bill by more than 50% right, but it was cut by more than 50% from like tens of thousands of dollars. Whereas if you'd gotten sick anywhere else in the world, I assume that you're American, tell you,

because this isn't a problem for college students, usually outside of America, although it is occasionally. Oh God, anyway, what do you do when you can't pay for something that you have to pay for Tauya? I mean, usually you send up for a payment plan, John. Sorry, I was just opening a diet doctor pepper. I don't know if you heard that, but that's the sound of me feeling despondent.

Um, it's only one real response, which is go get yourself a six packet. Chris, diet doctor pepper. Not yet. Yeah, a sponsor of this podcast. It'll solve all your problems, Talia. No, yeah, I mean, usually you get in touch with the hospital and you see if you can work out a payment plan over a long period of time.

Another option in some cases is to file for bankruptcy. If you don't have a lot of assets, it may make sense to file for bankruptcy, although that comes with its own set of problems. I just wanted to read this question mostly because I want to make the point that I believe very strongly that it is really bad for our economy and for our social order to even have the possibility that a college student can be left with a bill that they cannot afford. It is bad. It is bad economically.

It is bad policy. It is bad economically, it is bad policy, it is bad social policy. It makes our lives as Americans worse period. Yeah, and it is, it kind of makes living in this country a little bit of a gamble. And I mean, I know that all life is a gamble and that things are bad things are gonna happen, but eliminating those uncertainties

is such a valuable thing for mental health, but also the economy, like allowing people to take the risks, to do interesting things and to try to make their own business that may end up then having its own employees. And it feels very strange to sometimes know that I have to compete with companies that don't have to pay for their employees' health insurance. And it's just like, huh, that must be easier in a lot of ways for you to not have to deal with that. Right, but also it's in the best interest of our country and our economy to have Talia focusing on her studies so that she can become a better educated person

and be productive in not just the labor market, but also in bringing new and interesting ideas into the world instead of having to stress out about paying her medical bills. It should not be a thing that exists. And we know that it doesn't have to exist because in a lot of the world, it doesn't. This next question comes from Lena, who asks, dear Hank and John, how do you eat trail mix? Am I supposed to stuff my face with a handful of it at all? It wants or do I eat each piece one by one?

Nuts and pretzels, Lena, are you what? What? What? It doesn't make any sense. Yeah, you fill your whole hand up, Lena, and then you put that whole handful in your mouth, and that's the whole great thing about trail mixes that you get all the different flavors all at once.

You get the little sight sweetness of the raisins and the crunchy salty of the nuts, but you also get the crunchy, very sweet of the peanut, peanuts, peanut butter, peanut, and what am I happening? Of the aminence? I have to say Hank, I feel like there've been a few occasions. Most of them have probably been cut out of the podcast by Nick,

but I think there've been a few occasions today where something went wrong with your circuitry and you just like, it's almost like you had to like reboot. It's been a very long week. It continues to be and I meant to eat a balanced bar sometime in the last four hours and I just haven't. Yeah, that also contributes to my having to reboot periodically.

This is what I wanna say to Lena. Lena, when I first started dating the woman who is now my wife, I remember we went out to see a movie. It was called Lost in Translation. And we sat next to each other as you do when you're on a first date, or usually. And we sat next to each other. And I had ordered a large popcorn because that's what I like to eat at the movies. And Sarah asked if she could have some of my popcorn. And I said, yeah, of course, not because I actually think it's okay for someone to take part of my large popcorn

because I strongly, strongly dislike it when someone takes any of my large popcorn, but because, you know, it was the first date I was trying to impress her. But these days, if anybody asks me, if they can have a part of my large popcorn, no, get your own popcorn. I didn't order this for you.

This is my popcorn, and yes, it comes with a free refill, but that's my free refill. refill anyway back to my story. So Sarah reaches over Into the popcorn bucket and pulls out a Single piece of popcorn and then puts a single piece of popcorn in her mouth and Hank I could not have been more surprised if she had grown a second head. Ah, it's good, it's like putting water in your cereal it's so weird. I, that's not fair.

When I see someone eat a single piece, like when I finish a large popcorn, like, and I stand up at the end of the movie, it looks like there's been a massacre. It looks like, it looks like there's been a massacre. It looks like there was the Spartan popcorns versus Persian popcorns. And they have a whole, like there was a shican. Yes, there are a million dents. Yes, yeah.

And I know that that's terrible. I do always throw away my stuff. I know that it makes it hard for movie theater employees, but I cannot. I eat popcorn a handful at a time. I eat trail mix a handful at a time. Of course, you want as much food in your mouth as possible at any given moment.

John, did she then later take a second piece of popcorn or did you just go correct? Okay, so it wasn't like, I will have this one, thank you very much. And then she was like, I felt the wave of animosity coming off of this man who, I thought it would be okay for me to ask me where is popcorn, but clearly it wasn't. No, not at all, no, it was just, it was a pure,

like she's still, like she still, she'll get a popcorn when we go to the movies and she'll eat it one piece at a time. Like, I mean, it's like, what, do you want another best popcorn related thing that ever happened to me? So I once went to, so I once went to the movies with one of our cousins and he got a popcorn

and a box of M&Ms and we sat down and this was the coolest thing that had ever happened to me. I was like, I was probably like 15 years old and he's like older than us and he got set down his popcorn and opened up his M&Ms and just poured the M&Ms into the popcorn. Oh yeah. Oh it's a miracle. Oh so cool. I was like, it is a miracle. Oh my God, it is so good. It's so good. It's like making your own trail mix. It really is.

It's like, it's like worse for you. Ah, I mean, I don't know about that. Just think about trail mix is that ostensibly you're eating it while walking. Right. With the popcorn M&M combo, you're eating it while reclining. Yeah.

Trail mix has like that, like if popcorn and M&Ms was sort of a normal trail food then it would be fine. Because the point of trail mix has like that like if popcorn and M&Ms was was like sort of a normal trail food Then it would be fine because the point of trail mix is that there's a lot of food in it and it's easy to eat Whereas the point of the point of popcorn M&Ms is not that like it's not like you need a lot of fuel for this three hour movie going experience All right, I think our next question comes from Hannah who writes, dear John and Hank, my sister's Python escaped several days ago and she just fed it so it's not even hungry. Oh, well, okay.

Okay. It's okay. I think I probably prefer a not hungry Python all things being equal. Yeah, so it's not even hungry. So I feel like it's good news that it's not hungry. It's such a bummer. We don't have a hungry escape snake in the house.

Yeah, if only the python was hungry, then it would reveal itself while strangling one of us to death. I'm coming home from the Christmas break very soon and my room hasn't had anyone in for weeks. Wait, how? Very soon. Wait, weeks?

Okay, okay. The pythons, how much do pythons eat? Do they eat like once every six months? How often do pythons eat? 10 to 14 days. Okay, all right. Okay, all right. So my room is the perfect quiet place for it to hide out.

How am I gonna sleep at night? How do I prevent it slithering next to me for heat? Oh, is that okay? If that's the main concern, like, I'm thought, like, if it's just cuddle time, I'm in. I'm in for a snake cuddle time. I don't, but I don't wanna wake up with an open stop. No, no, no, no.

I do not want to wake up out of a deep sleep to learn that there is a snake cududdled next to me. Hard stop. I mean, okay. All right, I agree. I just think that it's not the worst possible outcome. Uh, well, I mean, I guess it's not the worst possible outcome because the worst possible outcome is always deaf, but it's a very bad outcome. Hannah, there's an obvious solution here, which is that this is not your Python. This is not your problem, and this was not your mistake. So you come home for the Christmas holidays, and the first words out of your mouth are,

hello, sister, I will be sleeping in your room until the Python is recovered. Yeah, what I need from you, what I need from you, is when I arrive home, all of my furniture is out of the room. There is nothing, nothing in the room. And so I can see it's Python free-ness. Just complete lack of Pythonity. And then I can move all of the furniture back in.

One at a time, you reintroduce things into your room. I think we solved the problem. Unfortunately, Hannah's already home in real life and so she's probably already been strangled to death by her sister's python. Sorry about that Hannah, which we'd gotten to your question earlier, but you know, so it goes. Hey, it's okay to have a cuddle. I just don't like, I've met people

who've gotten constrictors slatched on their hands before and it sounds like it's real not good. Oh my God. Ah, this next question comes from Anika, who asks, dear Hank Adjana, I have a dilemma. I wanna try to get information on current events from a variety of sources I currently use BBC and the economist from my main news sources,

making you more better at this than literally everyone. However, in a recent conversation with a friend, she pointed out that both of those sources are fairly liberal. I would like to use moderate and more conservative sources as well in hopes to get a fuller picture of the economist as a liberal. And what world is the economist, which I believe endorsed both Ronald Reagan and George W. Bush, a liberal magazine.

I don't know. So the economist was in favor of American intervention into Vietnam and into Iraq. The economist is an extraordinarily, in my opinion, moderate news source. Like I think they endorse Hillary Clinton in 2016, but got, got, got. I think the economist is a very, very middle of the road news source, and it would only be considered like a liberal rag in my mind. Also, it doesn't really follow along the lines of like totally along the lines of contemporary

liberal conservative bias because its bias is pretty strongly toward free markets, which it used to be a conservative thing and now seems to be a thing that doesn't neatly fall on a liberal or conservative thing. Yeah. I feel like you're doing okay. Yeah, Anika's problem is that the only conservative news source she knows about is Fox News,

and I have some problems with them. Yeah, I actually, I would recommend, if you're looking for a conservative news source that isn't like Fox News, that isn't kind of aggressively partisan and always constantly trying to frame every news story around, you know, a left right access. I would read the Wall Street Journal. I think the Wall Street Journal is a pretty consistently conservative paper at least in its editorial column. And it's pretty in general not always, but in general, well-reported stories. So that's what I read. But I think you're doing okay with the BBC and the Economist. You're doing better than most of us. I mean, most of us, and I'm guilty of this as much

as anyone, do nothing but read like the opinion pages at blah blah blah.com slash opinion. Yeah, I mean, most to be very honest, most of what I read is the headlines on Twitter. So that's not. Oh, God. I'm one of them. Oh, God. Which is also the great thing is you retweet the headline

on Twitter because it's enraging. Yeah. Well, I do try to read a little bit of the article if I'm going to retweet it first, but I will say that there have been studies done that we tend not to do that as as As a rule so probably I do that as well Yeah, I mean in in limping to the finish line of 2017 Hick I have to tell you that part of what I'm thinking about is what my 2018 is going to look like in terms of my relationship to the social internet because just

Sorry, I had another hard reset there. I have such mixed feelings It's a hard one for me. I love the dopamine rush of the social internet and also it's a big part of my professional life, but at the same time, I think it might be really bad for my brain. Yeah, I think that it is, it may be, and it is very hard to use it in a constructive way. I'm trying to do that more by asking myself

how Mr. Rogers would tweet and that is rewarding to some extent. All right. Okay. I want to read some of your recent tweets to you just real quick, if I may. Just from the last, you know what? Hey, let's not just the last 24 hours. Okay. All right. I'm going to check out what I've said. Okay. Can anyone build a web page very quickly that auto updates from the IndieGoGo API, the person who donated the most recently and what perk they got by Friday?

That doesn't seem like something Mr. Rogers tweeted. Like I don't think Mr. Rogers had access to any of those ideas. Well, I mean, maybe if Mr. Rogers was running a charity campaign, he needed somebody to help him out real quick. Let's go a little bit further back because Hank has tweeted a lot in the last 24 hours,

which also I would submit is not something Mr. Rogers would have done. It's not surprising that Moore hasn't conceded his campaign was based on the idea that he is the only credible institution in the country. What? That's not something Mr. Rogers would have tweeted. People in power pushing the fake news narrative that he is the only credible institution in the country. What? That's not something Mr. Rogers would have tweeted. People in power pushing the fake news narrative

have nothing to lose from continuing to question every institution outside themselves. Again, I'm not convinced Mr. Rogers would have tweeted that. Let's go back to 20 hours ago. I agree. That was the one I knew you were gonna pick too. I was like, when I tweeted it,

I was like, this is Rogers wouldn't tweet this, but that I did it anyway. Okay, earlier yesterday, you tweeted. Okay, Hank, here's another example of a tweet that you tweeted very recently that I don't think Mr. Rogers would have tweeted. Quote, my mom just now, so very long pause, what is a furry?

Ah! Ah! Ah! Yeah, I don't think, yeah, Very long pause. What is a furry? Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha No, of a Twitter feed. I mean, actually, I do. I was gonna say I don't know of a Twitter feed that less resembles what Mr. Rogers tweets would look like, but of course I do. I know of a couple. Yeah, most of them. I, yeah. I, so my, my argument would be that I think Mr. Rogers

might not be tweeting. If he was, if he was around in this particular timeline, at this particular moment, he'd be like, I think I'm not gonna engage in that way. Yeah, because like, I think engaging in that way kind of comes with tweets that Mr. Rogers wouldn't tweet. Let's move on to another question. This one comes from Abigail, who writes,

dear John and Hank, after a recruiter came to my school, I've seriously considered going into the US Navy. Many people have told me that I can't do it because I'm only 5 feet tall and I've never really worked out a day in my life. But I'm very determined to succeed in this endeavor. I've started running and doing sit-ups and push-ups. My mom isn't fond of this idea as most mothers wouldn't be. She would rather me do two years of community college and then decide from there.

I'm 18 so I could use Surpur and enlist on my own, but I really want her approval on this. Life choice. I'm 18, so I could use Surpur and enlist on my own, but I really want her approval on this life choice, because you know, it's a big one. Any dubious advice is greatly appreciated. Not the root beer, Abigail Whitcomb. That's A and W for those of you paying attention at home. Hank, this is exciting because we get to decide if somebody goes into the Navy.

Well, if anybody's to be given that power, it should be me. First of all, I'll say that I don't know that there are physical requirements that you like that they won't take a person under a certain height. A lot of what is done in the Navy is work that doesn't necessarily require a lot of physicality. I have a lot of several friends who are in the Navy who are not big, strong people. But I think that your mom is the more interesting part of this question. And also maybe friends who are like maybe not do that. It's a big ask. It is a thing that it

is a big commitment and it is a commitment to something that you won't know if you like until you're there. And that is what it is. Yeah. I'm going to go ahead and just say, do it Abigail, join the Navy. No, I'm just kidding. Don't listen to podcasters about whether or not to join the Navy. Make that decision with your mom. I understand that you couldn'tlist on your own, but I also don't know that it will negatively impact your career to have two years of community college before you enlist in the Navy. In fact, it might be good for your career. And then even if you end up having

your whole career in the Navy, you know, a 20-year career, that would put you at 40 when you retire from the Navy, which isn't, ah, that old. I know it seems all to you right now Abigail. I remember being 18. It seemed like 40 was forever away, but let me tell you, it arrives before you know it. There's also separate kinds of being in the military. There's officer school, which is a very different track

from just enlisting, and that might be something that, if you had a couple of years of community college, might be an option more open to you, and that comes with a bunch of perks and options that you don't necessarily have a few just enlist. That said, Abigail, you've come to the worst possible podcast to get advice on a military career. Yeah, there are probably some out there

that actually have some experience, whereas John and I have less than none. Yeah, I mean, we have a couple cousins who are in the Navy, that's as close as we get. And actually, they're both out now. So, yeah. No, we have no experience. Today's podcast is brought to you by the United States Navy, the United States Navy.

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And maybe you'll be a little bit more careful to not drop any on the floor to create a battlefield of lost popcorn souls. All right, that went on longer than I think any of us expected. This one comes from Helen who writes, Dear John and Hank, I'm a first year university student and I have two friends.

I love my friends and I feel very grateful to have gotten to know such nice and genuine people so early on in my college experience. However, I've come across a huge problem and a threat to this sense of security I have in these friendships. To my dismay, recently both of them have separately confided in me that they have feelings for the other. Ooh. This is a problem.

Or is it how am I suddenly stuck in a teen romcom where I haven't won so much power of information and yet feel so powerless against the forces of my friends' love for each other? Should I tell them how the other feels? Should I see how long this takes to play out and stay out of it? Mostly, I'm worried that I will lose both of them if they're in pending relationship either fails or I become an eternal third wheel. Should I find new friends? Do be

as advice needed, Helen. Alright, Helen, I got a great idea. Okay, what is it? So you're gonna take your friends and you're gonna go on a fun little adventure. Just like go someplace, what did you have to drive to? And then get the, like, I don't know, just a playground in a nearby town. Hang out there, do the things that you like to do, and then be like, oh, I gotta go and drive away and leave them there. I mean, that would have been like a funny romcom idea

in 1997 pre-Uber, but now they would just be like three minutes behind you. Okay, okay. So instead of a Toyota Tursel, you would just be like, I'm sorry, Jane picked me up in the Toyota Tursel and we're coming back, we'll be at the dorm three minutes later. So this is even better.

This is better for all kinds of reasons. You get the Uber and leave your car, say, I'm gonna leave the car so you guys can go home. I'll just get an Uber home because my python is really hungry. And you're slashed the tires of the car. So they have to stay with the car, but they can't leave. Oh yeah, that's a really good way to ensure that your friendship doesn't get ruined

by this new relationship. Just one of the tires, it's like, it would slash us in nails. Just get a nail in there and it'll be like, oh, it's just a nail. And then they have to work together. Absolutely, resort to subterfuge. Yes, that's a great plan.

No, that's a terrible idea, Hank. Helen, here's the thing, man. This is actually a really obvious situation. Your friends don't actually have feelings for each other. They're testing you. They agreed to pretend to have feelings for each other and to go to you separately to see how you would react. It's a bitch.

Yeah, you have to reverse prank the prank. You've got to reverse prank the prank So what you need to do is you need to go to your friend Let's say your friends are named Joey and Bob you need to go to Joey and you need to say Joey Bob told me something very very serious He told me that no backup Hank. Let's say your friends are named Joey and Chandler. You need to go to Joey and you say, Joey, I have the most amazing news. Chandler has feelings for you.

And then you go to Chandler and you say Chandler, I have the most amazing news. I am in love with you. What? Is that way you've got a full friend situation? Right. That's a proper love triangle. Way better. Yeah, because this isn't even a love triangle. This is just like, I-

This is a love line. It's not even a plot, Helen. Yeah, I mean, I still, so what's the most romantic thing you can think of? John, what's the most romantic situation you can get in with your friends? You go shopping for a fish. That's very romantic. At a fish store. And then, but you only have enough money for one fish,

but then you realize as you're leaving that you don't, that you don't need the fish, so you give them the fish, and then they haven't shared fish. And it's basically like being married. Right, that's how love blossoms. I have a couple of problems with that strategy as well. You don't like any of my ideas.

Well, I've got, okay, so let's take a, the bold choice here, I think, is for Helen to go to both Joey and Chandler and say, you guys are crushing on each other, and I think you should pursue this, but I need to stay your friend, no matter what. No, that's not good. I think the, all right. The reason I'm sympathetic to this problem, Hank, is that I definitely had this happen to me a bunch of times in college.

Like one time I was on a road trip with my two best friends to the Grand Canyon and we would like sleep in like $30 a night hotels and then eventually like I realized that they like one afternoon I like saw them kissing at the Grand Canyon and I was like, oh yeah, no that explains why like I'm in one hotel room and they're like there and the other I see.

Well, I mean what's the actual thing you do is you pick one of them and you say, I'm pretty sure that if you go for it, it'll work out. Right, right, because the next time Joey comes to you and says, I really have feelings for Chandler, you can just say, listen, I'm not positive, but I suspect that if you talk to Chandler

about this Chandler's gonna reciprocate. Right. If you're like, hey, we should go to the to the to the fish store. And then it's a date. And it's it's going. It's moving. That's not a date. That's not a date. I mean, you have a weird definition of dates. You want to, what are your first dates with Sarah was to target? It was very romantic. See? And this is better because there's fish. I think they have fish at target actually. Not on my target.

Oh, maybe it's maybe the only one that fish at Walmart. Anyway, I'm not sure we feel about aquarium fish. I don't want to get in trouble with the anti-acquare in fish people. They do have fish fingers at target. All right, so now we're just in trouble with the vegans. Let's answer one more question from our listeners before we get to the incredible news for May MC Wimbledon.

I mean, oh god, alright, I'm so excited. Alright, Hank, it's your turn to ask a question. You ask. It is. This final question, John, comes from Sarah, who asks, dear Hank and John, when we say, it's raining. What is it?

Hmm. What is it? It is. That's an upsetting thought to me. I mean, it's just the experience that I am inside of, like the bubble of reality that I sort of consider to be applicable to me at the moment, is that it? Well, I mean, here's the thing Hank,

like what does it mean to be like, it is midnight? What is midnight time? It knows it. It is the thing that I am in. Right. It's my entire conception of my world that is applicable to me. It is midnight. It.

Oh man. It. Yeah. I just don't think it means anything. Oh, that's mean something. No, because you could just, it's just't think it means anything. I think, oh, that's mean something. No, because you could just, it's just a way of saying raining. But if you just say raining,

it doesn't feel like a sentence. Raining. Yeah, you do, you do need to sit and sentence and so you need a thing and you need a verb and you need an adjective. And so, so you need to, what you need the adjective to apply to something. And that is it.

But I think that the answer is there seems to be a phrase for this. It's called a dummy pronoun. Oh. Yeah, it's just a grammatical construct of English, is what I'm reading, which requires that a sentence have a subject. So if you didn't need a subject for the sentence, you could just say raining, but since you need a subject for the sentence, you could just say raining.

But since you need a subject for the sentence of some kind, you have to say it is raining. And the thing that is raining is, right, just like you said, like the universe around you, like the your world, in your world, it is raining. Just as in your world, it is midnight, or in your world, the sun is shining. This makes it is sunny.

This makes me think, is there an amount of like individuality that is based on linguistics, like knowing that like an occurrence has to be happening to a thing. And that thing is this dummy pronoun it, but that it has to do with the world as I perceive it. Like, does that affect how I see the world? Oh, totally. So Hank, you may be familiar with the hot new book Turtles All the Way Down. It's actually been number one on the New York Times

best seller list for eight consecutive weeks. It is that actual book and not a construct. Correct. It is not a dummy pronoun. It is a book. But I kind of wrote that book in the wake of this sort of extended period in which I felt that I was not a singular noun.

And I felt like all of the definitions that had been provided to me of self were completely inadequate in the face of my own experience with like the relationship between like consciousness and language and the relationship between what people were calling myself and the things that myself was supposed to be or be able to do. And I mean, my conclusion coming out of that period, which is a little bit what the book is about, but mostly just like my personal conclusion coming out of that period is that thought and self and constructing

self, there's no way you can really construct self separate from thought. And there's no way you can really, in my opinion, anyway, in my experience, no way you can really construct self separate from thought and there's no way you can really, in my opinion anyway, in my experience, no way I can construct thought separate from language. Like, I can't find a way into myself that makes sense except via language. So, it is raining is like a reflection to me of like the self-ness of my experience. It, there, where is it? It's there, it's here, it's all over. It's within, it's in me, it is in me. Okay, now it got weird. Hank, do you want to say the news from Mars first or can I say the

news from AFC with the world? Yeah, I'll give you some quick news from Mars. So right now, as of, when we're recording this podcast, some temperature differentials have spawned dust storm at Mars's North Pole. Dust storms are a thing that happen fairly frequently on Mars, but occasionally they will have, there will be these gigantic, like sort of planet-wide dust storms that can last for a very long time, like hundreds of days on the order of. And we actually haven't had those for a while, and that's very good because these dust storms

blow out a dust around, which can get into the equipment of our rovers. It can also block out the sun. So the rovers that are powered by solar panels have a harder time functioning. So it's nice that we have had a break in large dust storms, but it's possible that as since it has been a while since we've had one, that another one is sort of on the way

and maybe even forming right now. So there's big old dust storm and hopefully, it will not be one that affects too much of the areas where we have our rovers. That's what's happening on Mars right now, John. Oh, I really hope that the Martian weather stays good for our rovers. That would be, it's so hard.

I mean, think about working for NASA in this situation. It seems to me, is that you control for all the variables you can, but the stakes are so high and you can never control for all the variables. Yeah. Yeah. And that's crazy that weather is one of them, because of course we are aware of when we plan a wedding, we're like, well, we should probably have a place where we could do it indoors if we have to. Right.

But yeah, you cannot, when you have like every three to four years, there's a global Martian dust storm that will impact the ability to do the mission. That's, you know, three or four years is, you know, like the life of the curiosity over so far. Right. So it's nice that we have had this little dust storm drought. Yeah. No, thank goodness for dust storm droughts. Well, thank the news from AFC Wimbledon.

I have to say, it's just incredibly exciting, which is that earlier today as we are recording this, it was announced, it's all over the English newspapers, that AFC Wimbledon have been given final permission to build their new stadium at Plow Lane returning to their historic homeland. As you know, Hank, for the last 25 years, Wimbledon fans have been singing this song, show me the way to Plow Lane. I'm tired and I want to go home. I had a football ground 20 years ago and I want one of my own. And today they got

final, final approval to build that stadium to go home. And it is an incredible moment for this club. The stadium is going to seat between 11 and 20,000 people. I think 11,000 people to start, but it can be expanded to hold up to 20,000 people, which would probably be enough to support a Premier League club. I'm just saying. And it's a really wonderful moment. The construction will begin fairly soon now that they've been given final permission. It is a $25 million project.

That's a lot of money. A lot of that money has been raised. A lot hasn't. But they're hoping that this will be done. The new stadium will be finished in time to play the 2019-2020 season. Wimbledon back in Wimbledon back at their spiritual home. It's just an amazing story of what fans can do when they come together. Woo-woo.

Congratulations. It's done. It's very exciting. Thank you. And it just seems like things are going good for FC Llamodin right now, even though you guys are still pretty far down at the bottom of the table. Yeah, I mean, for the long-term health of the club and for the long-term well-being of the club, this stadium is such a big deal because it allows the club to have the kind of budget that you need to be in league wonder the championship because they won't have the smallest stadium in the football league anymore as they currently do. But yeah, it's definitely, it's going to be a difficult season. I mean,

20 games into a 46 game season and only one spot above the relegation places is definitely nerve-racking. But I am hopeful. I really am, not least because we've got that taught them money coming in from the third round of the FA Cup. All right, John, what did we learn today on this episode of Dear Hank and John?

We learned that Hank is weirdly unafraid of snake cuddling. I will learn that there are 600 species of birds in California. And also, we learned that the California quail is not just California state bird, but also maybe California's next governor? And finally, we learned that Sarah eats popcorn, one popcorn at a time. And also, I now just also learned that the plural of popcorn is apparently popcorn. I didn't know that. Well there you go. Oh well Hank thank you for potting with me thanks to everybody for listening. I hope it's been a good 2017 for you.

Even if it hasn't necessarily been the best year in a macro sense I hope it's been a good year for you. And thanks to everybody again for listening and you, pretty soon I'm gonna be reaching out to everybody asking them for several million dollars for the sayFC Wimbledon Stadium project. So if you are a billionaire out there, listen to it to your Hank and John. I've got a good place where your money can go without it saving any lives or curing any diseases.

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