Dear Hank & John - 271: The Best Pant (Live at VidCon London w/Hannah Witton!)

Episode Date: December 21, 2020

How do I make new friends? How do you feel about vulva-print trousers? What do I do while someone is saying hi to my dog? Does organization help you maintain a career with ulcerative colitis? Will people of the future have inaccurate fairs about us? How do you come up with good, engaging content? How do you decide how to spend your time? How do you birthday a person who hates birthdays? Should radar keys be prescribed?  Hank Green and Hannah Witton have answers!If you're in need of dubious advice, email us at [e-mail] us for monthly livestreams and an exclusive weekly podcast at patreon.com/dearhankandjohn.Follow us on Twitter! twitter.com/dearhankandjohn

Hello everyone, two pieces of news. First piece, if you've been a long time follower of our work and our community, you probably know that usually by now the project for awesome would have already happened, but it has not. That's because a while back, we decided to move it to early in the year instead of late in the year. So this year, project for awesome is happening the weekend of February 12th. This was not a response to COVID. Usually every big change is blamed on COVID.

It's not as just something we wanted to do to make life easier for all the people on our team who are often working really hard at the end of the year for various reasons. But since a calendar is less useful in February than it is in January, we're releasing the 2021 Hank and John Project for Awesome Calendar now, which you can get at dftba.com. At the very least, you should check it out

because it is real weird and I love it. Thanks to Megan Tenius for the design. Second, if you can get at dftba.com. At the very least, you should check it out because it is real weird and I love it. Thanks to Megan Tenius for the design. Second, if you can believe it, we have a special episode of Dear Hank and John for you that was filmed, recorded at VidCon London, which, yes, makes it very old in a lot of different ways. So, come and be transported back in time with me

with this special episode with guest John Hannah Whitt. Hello and welcome to Dear Hank and John. Or Salas, or Le De Hanna on time. It's a comedy podcast about death where two brothers and sometimes two friends answer your questions and give you the abuse advice and bring you all the weeks news from both Mars and AOC Wimbledon today in front of a live studio audience. Wow! That's great.

If you guys could be that enthusiastic at every possible moment, that would make the podcast sound fantastic. Hannah. Yes, hello. What do you call an egg and hunting season? I don't know what you call an egg and hunting season. You do know, that because I first it from the audience. Yes, but I'm playing a lot. No, it's a poached egg. Oh Oh Hannah, how you doing welcome to Vidcom London. Oh, thank you for having me your town is nice. Is this your town?

Yeah, I'm not from I'm not from here. I'm actually from Manchester, but I've lived in the southern regions of the UK for far too long, but it might accent's gone. Oh, I see. Yeah. Oh, you've asked your Manchester accent. Yeah, that's not true. Can you do a Manchester accent? To have a shot of vodka.

I've got an hang on. I'm from up north. I'm from Manchester. OK. There you go. That's a bit like that, really. Any Manchesteronians in the audience? Audi. Yeah.

Sound like that. So we do questions here on Dear Hank and John. And Dear Hank and Hannah as well. And we got. Hannah and Hank. For some. Yeah. Well done.

And we've sourced some from the audience and and and also we are going to be on the lookout for million dollar ideas. Oh yeah. So if you've got any of those just let me know. Right Roger. And I'm going to start here with with a question from Wolfgang. Are you here? Hey, yeah, I guess because you're Australian. It says so right here. So Wolfgang wants to know how do you make new friends in a new country if you're Australian and you're in England? Oh, there are so many Australians in England. Just go find some Australians. His hand is suggestion. They all live in West London. So to move back.

Do you live in West London? Kind of. There you go. Like go to Shepherds Bush. Like, is that a pub? Do you live in West London? Kind of. There you go. Like go to Shepherd's Bush. Like, is that a pub? No, it's a name of an area, but there's loads of Aussies around. So just go to an area and it's sort of like wander around and flop on the sidewalks.

That's if you want to make friends with other Australians. Right. But you might want to branch out. How do you make friends with British people? Because you guys are a little bit different and reserved. Yeah. And you've got culture, you've got things in your culture that I don't understand.

Well, I kind of feel that the making friends thing is the same across the board. It's more like making friends as an adult, which is the difficult thing. Just go back to school. The only way I know how to make friends. Well, it's about being in close proximity with people. But you could also be in close proximity with people, but you could also be in close proximity with people in the internet as well. But then you might not be making friends

of people who live close to you. But yeah, come to VidCon, go to the pub, join a club. Yeah, do it. But genuinely, go to spaces. Like go to spaces that you want to go to, and you'll find people in there. You've got to take up magic the gathering. If that's what you're into.

No, just the only way. That's the only way I know how to make friends. We got some nods in the back. OK, you guys talk. You can teach you magic. That's it. There you go. It's all I know.

It's all I know. This is a question for you and I don't understand it. Can you read it? Oh, Hannah, what do you think of the new vulva Lucy and Yaks? So Lucy and Yaks is a clothing brand in the UK. Uh-huh. They're like ethical and sustainable and they make these really amazing dungaries and this isn't sponsored by them, but I do have some gifted pairs of their items.

Yeah, and they've recently partnered with an artist. Who's the artist? Do you know who it is? They've partnered with an artist and they've got like a vulva print trousers and vulva print dungaries. And I'm you got to make a video. Yeah, I'm very in in them. Yeah, I'm very excited to get some. So what do you think of them? Just excitement. Just a pure excitement. And also I'm very excited for like all of the people who will potentially get them and then like be out in public and then and the questions or conversations that it might spark hopefully but like you said us Brits are a bit reserved. So even if you spot someone wearing like vulva patterned dungaries, you might not even talk to them. I mean, I think a lot of people might not talk to them, but even though ones were excited might not talk to them. Yeah.

Got a question from Bailey who asks, dear Hank and Hannah, I have a very cute seven-month-old puppy, so people often notice him while we are on walks. What am I supposed to do when someone says, hi to my dog? My dog is named Leo, but I also have a dog name, Bailey.

Bailey is a dog name, right? How did that happen? We used to name dogs not human names. I know so many h name dogs, not human names. I know so many hanks that are not human. And I'm just like, I'm over at my friend's house and it's like, Hank, and I'm like, what? You're yelling at me.

I'm like, good boy. That's a lot. It's much easier to talk to a dog than a person, isn't it? Wait, it doesn't talk back. Is yeah, it also can't judge you. Well, and they're always cute. I'm unlike people. Yeah.

Can't judge, can't judge you though. I feel like I've been judged by a dog. I think that says more about you. You're like, because you're feeling for the judgment, you know. Now you're judging me about me being judged by dogs. It's very human of you. Maybe.

I don't know, I don't know what that's like, but I would enjoy almost like being a little bit passive aggressive and like saying something that makes them feel bad about not grudging you. Yeah, like my eyes are up here. Just really direct. Yeah, like up here. I'm a human too. Wait. Or just bark at them.

I like this with my son. I have a three year old. And when I, and I know that not everybody is in this bag, but I like it when people are like, hello little buddy, how old are you? I'm like, yeah, talk, talk, and like. And so because I like it when people do it to my son, I do it to other people's kids. And then I'm like, yeah, talk, and like, and so because I like it when people do it to my son I do it to other people's kids and then I'm like you do not like me doing this.

So you don't you don't mind if they don't acknowledge you? No, and I understand people a grown-ups are intimidating. So you're like, yes, great son have this conversation for me. Yeah, it's like it's it's it's a it's like a catalyst. So I think in chemistry terms a lot. So you got to lower the activation energy so that the reaction will happen. And dogs and babies are ways to lower reactivation. Right, okay, so it's like de-escalating awkwardness. Yeah, it just like brings, it's like a door

into the relationship where it's like. Yeah, because you would never like talk to a stranger if they didn't have a dog or a baby. Yeah, and also like the best thing is when one person has a dog and the other person has a dog, and then you like become dog buds, and you're always on the same walk, and I could find the guy that thinks-

It's another start of 101 Dalmatians, and then they get married. And then they murder the Dalmatians, or they try to. Well, the Quellative Vildes, and not the other. I don't know, that's the only thing I know about that. Movie slash book show, I don't know what it is. I don't know what it started as, no idea.

I think, yeah. So there's like John, who was from my old neighborhood, and Rusty and his dog. And I thought you were talking about John, your brother then, John from your old neighborhood. My John, my brother from the old neighborhood. You lived with him, Jimmy. Now we see each other at the grocery store sometimes,

because we moved to a different neighborhood. And I'm like, how's Rusty? And he's like, he's great. You just search it different neighborhood. And I'm like, how's Rusty? And he's like, he's great. You just such a... And then I'm like, how's the radical progressive politics, John? And then he talks about that, John, because he's pretty anarchist. But you know, how would I know if not for Rusty and Lemons' cute little relationship? Yeah, so maybe it's a shift in mind, mind that, of seeing it as an opportunity. Here's a question that is relevant to both of us,

which is unusual, not probably, like it wouldn't happen very often, but it is. And it's anonymous, asks, does dear Hank and Hannah, does being very organized help with your career while dealing with ulcerative colitis? Oh, are you very organized? No.

Are you very organized? Yes. Oh, I have never met one of you. Really? How? A very organized person. Yeah. A very organized YouTuber, I guess, is the thing that I might not have met.

Yeah, no, I'm a rabbi. Yeah, no, I am very organized only in that I have human beings who force it upon me. Right, I choose it actively and I try and organize things that don't actually need it. I'll like spend my spare time organizing and planning. No, I mean, well, that's great. That's how I spend my spare time by which I mean meetings

that I don't want to be in. So you use it as a form of procrastination. I think I also do that as well. Well, it's not procrastination. It's just that I'm not necessary to the process. Pressure. And this is something that I can do and it looks like I'm working, which is deleting things

from my desktop. Do you want to see my desktop? Because it's not organized. No. I hate seeing people's emails where it's like 10,000 unreads I want to vomit. Oh, well, then I have... Don't show me.

Don't show me. Don't show me. What's going on? But how do you deal with work and you see? You probably, because your UC is different to mine. Yours is much more of a... From conversations we've had more of a daily manageable thing. Whereas for me, it was like, it would come in flares and I would be wiped out, but

then most of the time I find. Right. So how do you do that? Yeah, I mean, like, so, so part of it is like life organization. I think whenever we have a part of like a press, a pressure on us that is uncontrollable. So figuring out how to live a life with that problem. And for me, it's like, it's oftentimes that the hours between waking, like the sort of two or three hours after waking up aren't going to be productive hours.

And so like just knowing that and being able to schedule my life around it, which means maybe waking up earlier than I otherwise would have to, or once I became the boss, not working before 9 or 10 a.m. So that is nice. And also, I have several employees who have UC or Crohn's. And it's really nice for me to understand what that is. And also to extend that to other illnesses or disabilities or differences. And to be like, oh no, I understand. Like it's okay, you can have different work hours, you can have, you know, you can take days off, I understand there's going to be more sick days and like, you might have to

work differently than other people. Yeah, no, that's fair enough. I think, I guess we're in lucky positions that we can like choose our own hours as well. Someone I know with UC, she was asking me for advice because she hadn't told her colleagues or her boss about her UC and she was always really embarrassed about using the toilets at work constantly. And so I do think that's like a real struggle for people. Yeah, in America because there's like rules you don't have to tell and you probably shouldn't tell your employer about your disease before you get hired because you don't have to tell and you probably shouldn't tell your employer about your disease before you get hired. Because you don't want it to be part of your disease.

Because they usually pay for your health insurance as well? It's not so much that as... They don't want you to take us as sick days? Yeah, you don't want to hire somebody who might be inconvenient because we are all clogs and machines. And I had to employ... And it was clear that she had done this and we had just hired her. And then like the first conversation we had was like, I have ulcerative colitis. I'm sorry, I didn't tell you beforehand, but I've been told not to. And I'm like, no, I like,

it's never will you have a more receptive boss than me. And so, you know, we had a, and now she, she's doing so good. She's doing so good. I have a question here that I got from over email that I couldn't help but ask. It's from Grace, who asks, dear Hank and Hannah, do you think in 1,000 years, given human still exist at all, will people have very inaccurate fares

about the current culture, like we have for the Renaissance? Do you have Renaissance fares here? No. Oh, well, we're so into it. You are so into it. I remember having a conversation with some American friends years ago about, I want to say Renaissance fairs. Oh, yeah. I can just say Renfair. Oh, Renfair, okay, excuse me, Renfair.

And I was like, what's a Renfair? And they were like, oh my god, you don't have a Renaissance fairs? And I was like, we had the Renaissance. Yeah, we didn't. Yeah, you were like a little baby, like you weren't anything then. I mean, not the thing that I like about this question is that it recognizes how deeply, and it's like, when a friend fares are like, we picked these 400 years,

and it's like all of it happens at the same time. So it's just like pieces of different parts of medieval Renaissance history sort of slapped together. And I love the idea that in the future someday there will be like a thing that combines, you know, people listening to vinyl records, but also they're on their iPhones, but also they're sending telegraphs. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was just thinking, you know, it would have to be around like tech stuff,

but it would be like 400 years worth of development. And so you would have, yeah, you'd have, oh, the light bulb and radio, and then like whatever the hell is to come. Yeah, and also, I also iPhones and podcasts. Yeah, I love that, I love it. And everybody's wearing like a combination of tassy-dows and and bell-bottom jeans. Yeah. Yeah. And crop tops. I'd go to that. I would.

Yeah. I what I want to know is sort of like what in the because of course at the Renfairy you have like the Puffy bright red clothes, like Shakespearean sort of feeling. And I just want to know like what is the thing that people will pick out of our world that will like stand, will be all dead so it won't matter. But if we were alive to see it, we'd just be like, no! I think you didn't pick crop top.

In terms of clothing, I think it will be jeans. So well, I mean, jeans stretch, but yeah, it says hundreds of years of thing. So that's nice. Jeans, I think. I think lasting, yeah. But will they just be wearing jeans in the future? Did we hit the best pant?

Yeah. Maybe. Maybe. Yeah. I guess it depends on how warm the earth gets. Right. Because then we might want to stop wearing jeans. Yeah, we'll just put on pants.

They're not going to be very practical. Because also, if sea levels rise, and then we all get wet and drowned, jeans you're not going to be very practical because also like if see levels rise and then we all get wet and drowned like jeans you don't want to be wearing. You don't want to wear a wetly assault time. You don't want to be drowning in jeans. No, I think that they're not, it's for clarity. It's not going to like come up at us. I know. But I'm just thinking in terms of like some kind of some kind of apocalypse I wouldn't want to be wearing jeans. Oh, I would totally want to be wearing jeans. I mean I would totally want to be wearing jeans. They're super, I mean, but the jeans, lady jeans, which are like skinny and high and then

you don't have the pockets for your knives and stuff. Yeah, no, you got to do it like car hearts. Yeah. I don't know what that is. I just said, yeah, they're jeans that are made of like steel. Like you put them on and you can barely move. Oh, yeah, that makes. They're great.

They're great. And then like after two years, then they're good. Oh, so you have to like really well. Yeah, you have to be a farmer for two years. And then that can't be. Uh-huh. Great. Yeah, it's great, but then they'll

will ask you your whole life. Yeah. Oh, this is a very complimentary question, but also a good one. And I should have told you to put your names on, but I didn't. So anonymous asks, do your hand can hand out? How do you come up with such good and engaging content? The world is fascinating and weird, but you have to like be open to it. This is a thing that scientists are finding out about. You know, of course there are luck, parts of luck.

The part of luck is like having your mind open to the world. There was a study done and it was like, count the instances of like the word purple in this newspaper. Right. And so you had to read the newspaper to like find how many words purple there were, but there was an advertisement in this newspaper. Right. And so you had to read the newspaper to find how many words purple there were, but there was an advertisement in the newspaper,

or like a picture in the newspaper that said, there are 37 instances of the word purple in this newspaper. Oh nice. And it was like, it happened like four times throughout the paper. Oh, and how many people noticed it? Yeah, and people who finished early

and were like 37 were much more likely to have all kinds of sort of positive things in their life. They're much more likely to be more well educated, they're more likely to have better jobs and be happier with their spouses and all this stuff. Where it's just like, oh, so like, there's a thing there. And like, what does that mean? I don't know what exactly it means,

but there's an openness to experience that I think is necessary for me to come up with good video topics. That's interesting. That experiment is freaking me out because I'm such a sucker for like rules and like following instructions. So I feel like I would be the person

who would like go through. But I do think that it would be luck if I did see it. Yeah. Well, I mean, that's the thing. That's the thing. Yeah, that there is a part of luck that is having. Yeah, and I, and like people who are struggling with anxiety, it's very difficult to like have a conversation with someone and be like, this might be someone who I could do

something with and have a business relationship with a partnership with. Whereas every time I have a conversation, I'm like, I want to help you make YouTube videos. And sometimes I actually end up doing that. Yeah, fair enough. For me, in terms of making content, I think that one of the things that I've been doing recently that's been fun is like paying more attention to like what's actually popular on YouTube and like trends and stuff.

And then like twisting it in a way that, way that it's packaged in a way that still feels like what people on YouTube want to watch. But then it's like about sex and feminism. Yeah, and that's a suggestion I give all the time is find two things and make them one thing. And just when we started out making science content, it was like, what would science Like that's a suggestion I give all the time is like find two things and make them one thing. Yeah. Just like when we started out making science content, it was like what would science content look like if it were a video blog?

And I didn't really think of it in that frame, but those videos did well because they were science content but video blogs and no one had done that yet. Or people had done it. But it hadn't sort of become a genre yet. It didn't become a thing yet. And my favorite example is that I'd have 10 cats that's count down, which is just count down

and they don't have 10 cats, but both at the same time. Yeah. Love it. We love a good crossover. Yeah, and you love a good panel show, which we don't have in America, but thankfully you guys do. And then somebody disuppel it's them to YouTube. Oh, you do.

The BBC or whoever it is, Channel 4 is just like, eh, I can't be bothered to do copyright claim. Oh, I didn't thought about that. Yeah, you have other formats though that we don't feel the same. Yeah, and they're all bad. Yeah, and we've port them over here, and then you're like, well, you watch that too, I guess. Watch Howie Mandel decide which suitcases someone's gonna open. How is that a television show?

Do you know what I'm talking about? No. Oh yeah, no. Does it look like a date show? Yeah, it's like, one of these suitcases has, there's like 50 suitcases and one of them has a bunch of money and the rest of them have some money and then you pick a suitcase.

Oh, we have like deal or no deal. Yeah, basically. Is that what that show is called? Yeah, I don't know what it's called. I just found it once pick a suitcase. Oh, we have like deal or no deal. Yeah, basically that. Is that what that show is called? Yeah, I don't know what it's called. I just found it once in a while. Was it Meghan Markle on that years ago? Is that how they met? I don't know.

I don't know, like imagining this. Maybe it's someone else who got famous from something else and then suddenly we found out that they were on deal or no deal one time, I don't know. Was it Meghan Markle? You'd think that someone would know if it was Meghan Markle. Yeah, so maybe it's not.

I had to say is that how they met because I'm not sure which one it is that's married to her. Oh, it's Harry. Thanks for letting me know. Yeah, okay. Next question, dear Hank and Hannah, with so many options for how to spend your time, how do you decide how to spend your time,

how do you decide how to spend yours? And what advice would you give to others about how to spend your time? I need help with this. I do too. One time I probably told the story in the podcast before, but I was walking down the beach with my uncle Mike. My uncle Mike says no words. He is a silent man.

And he's very intimidating. He's a businessman.. Oh. And he's very intimidating as a businessman. He's very successful. And I accidentally was walking down the beach with him. So how do you want? Yeah, so we were at a family reunion and he was walking down the beach and I was walking down the beach

and then we were near enough to each other that it was weird to not be walking together. Right. So suddenly it was like, I'm walking on the beach with Uncle Mike. And like, so I had to say something, right? And he was like, so how are things? And I was like, well, Uncle Mike,

I'm having a hard time finding the balance between how much time to spend on my business life and how much time to spend on my personal life. And he said to me, that is the hardest thing in a man's life, or something like that. And it was just like five words. And I was like, all right, well, we did it. Uncle Mike and I had a conversation. It was deeper than probably it should have been. So it's the hardest thing in a man's life, but also probably other genders. But yeah, and I think that the main part of this is being intentional about it.

And you can't just let it, like you can't let your sort of ambitions or your insecurities drive you in only one direction. This is why I love planning, because then I can plan about what's important to me, or actually spend some introspective time being like, what brings me the most joy, what do I need to be doing in order to be making the living that I want to be making and actually taking stock of everything.

So then when it does come to figuring out how you're spending your hours in your day, then you already know what is important to you and what isn't. Find that easier to set boundaries and say no to things. Absolutely. Yeah, and I have had to do that too. And it's like, for me, it's setting times of the day when things are normal and must be a certain way.

Every day. Like I put Oran to bed every day that I'm home. And then like Catherine and I spend at least an hour together doing something. And then also we record a podcast together, which is like the, it's kind of cringy, like you know, the married couple that makes content together. But do you see that as like quality time together?

I do. Because we're going over the week and we're also going over over how my life is being impacted by my job and how stressed out I am. And I think that to some extent, when we start to talk about heavy stress stuff, sometimes we just stop recording or we will edit it out. And sometimes Catherine is kind of turns off

and is like, I don't wanna talk about this recording a podcast, but it is really good to have an hour of uninterrupted time to have a conversation. It's hard to justify that these days, which is really screwed up. We should prioritize that. And also, it's obviously one of the most important parts of life is just having chats with people we love. For me, the main connection point with my partner is dinner. So we will always eat dinner together.

We kind of take it in terms to cook or we cook together as well, but the eating of it is like, no, this is like us having a conversation and talking. Yeah, and you don't, there's no screen involved. Sometimes there is, but at the moment we don't have a 20 minute show to be watching. But then other times we'll be like, oh yeah, let's watch this episode and do another. is, but at the moment, we don't have a 20-minute show to be watching. All right. But then other times, we'll be like, oh, yeah, let's watch this episode and then other times, I'll be like, no, no, let's talk. But the actual just act of like sitting down and eating together is important.

Yeah. I mean, we're taking this question into a pretty specific direction, which is like focus on relationships, but I think that that's really true. Yeah. More and more, I've found that the only source of actual prolonged satisfaction and happiness is when I can find some relationships. Like really believe that I respect and have, and this is what, this is me. It's not everybody. But find the respect that I have for someone and believe in it and don't

question it and, you know, and of course somebody who's earned it, but and then and then have conversations with that person who I who I know that I can always trust. Yeah. One of the other things that came to my mind when first hearing that question though was this panic that I get of there are so many books, so many movies, so many TV shows, so many podcasts to be consuming and you can't consume all of it. And I do think also like being on social media really doesn't help with that because everyone's like, you have to check this out or like people are talking about this one thing and like

you, you have to prioritize. So for me, I know that books are important to me, but I will also do audiobooks, but then time spent listening to audiobooks is time spent not listening to podcasts. You know? And so I do have this. And then watching YouTube videos

is also really important to me. That is something that I love doing. And towards the end of last year, I was watching YouTube videos on 1.75 speed because it felt like, in a way, it did feel like a chore. I have to get through my watch later playlist and I would be doing something else while it was playing super fast.

And then I realized that I wasn't actually enjoying it. And so now this year, I've suddenly started watching YouTube videos at the speed that they are made in. And I feel like I'm much more chill because of that. And audiobooks and podcasts. Also, you talk way less fast. Maybe, maybe I'm slow, and now I'm slowing down. I don't know.

But audiobooks and podcasts also used to listen to you on 1.5. Oh, wow And now I just do it on one. Yeah, I get it. It's chilled me out. Really? Wow, we got, I just got my 10 minute notification. I'm gonna go a little over. I'm in charge. Which brings me to today's sponsors. The first sponsor, of course, is the 10 minute notification. Yes, thank you. The person with the 10 minute notification letting us know that we only have 10 minutes, but I'm going to take 15. This podcast is sponsored by them. Thank you very much for your service.

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This podcast is brought to you by connections of dogs and babies, but not humans. Oh, this is a good question. Someone asks, dear Hank and Hannah, how do you birthday a person who hates birthdays? This is, yeah. You get, and it's such a thing. It's like, I don't want to have a party, and it's like, it's a birthday though. You're a birthday person.

I'm like, look, I'm a party person. Right, yeah. Okay. There has to be times. Yeah. If it's not gonna be your birthday, there has to be some reason that I celebrate you. I want to celebrate you. Yeah, I'm like that. My partner's not a birthday person birthday, there has to be some reason that I celebrate you. I wanna celebrate you.

Yeah, I'm like that. My partner's not a birthday person, and I can't handle it. I don't understand. But then also then in this weird reverse, he struggles to understand why I care about my birthday so much, which was on Wednesday, by the way.

Thank you, sir. Thank you. See, this is me just being like, I just need to, it's my birthday month. We really have birthday. I do. But I also love it. Happy birthday to you. See, this is me just being like, I just need to, it's my birthday month. We're going to have a birthday to you. But I also love it. Happy birthday to you.

She's so happy right now. Happy birthday dear Hannah. Happy birthday to you. Do you guys just like, ought to play? Yeah. Hi. Is it a thing in the UK where you always harmonize on the last line of Happy Birthday? Oh yeah.

Because like, eight people did it. Yeah, yeah. That's a good thing. Oh, well done. Yeah. Yeah, I don't... I love celebrating birthdays. Yeah, I mean, I think you can not have it be a big party.

But you have Mark the occasion. Mark the day. It could just be like a nice dinner. Yeah, what's your favorite pretzel? Yeah, then you get a birthday pretzel. Mark the day. It could just be like a nice dinner. Yeah, what's your favorite pretzel? Yeah, then you get a birthday pretzel. Uh-huh. Yeah. Like do English breakfast for dinner. Oh. That sounds amazing. Yeah. Every meal of the day. Love it.

I got it. I love Heinz Beans. How much do you have to import them? Yeah. They're so expensive. It's like three dollars a can. And you'll, and like, eat one a day. So it's not cheap. One bean. I don't, yeah. That makes it, you gotta make it last.

No, I tend to do like a legit English breakfast like once a month after having spent time here. I'm like, why isn't this a thing? That's so good. Not that I can do the whole thing. Like, I can't do like a roasted tomato. I'm just like, both my skill set. So yeah, I don't know exactly how to birthday a person who doesn't do birthdays.

But I think to some extent, a wedding is this way too, where you have to understand that this is mostly about you, but it's also somewhat about your parents and that you do have to do some of the things that they want you to do. And I really struggled with that at my wedding where my mom was like, here are the people that I need you to invite. And I was like, I don't know those people. And they're in my mom's like,

what I do, they're my friends. I've heard about this. I'm getting married to this year, but I've not had any of that. Yeah. And I was like, I mean, if that's how you imagine what a wedding is supposed to be, and you're my mom and you're important to me,

then okay, I'm gonna have this stranger be there, not like a complete stranger to someone I'd met, but like not certainly not someone who'd make my list. So I think to some extent, there is an amount of like, maybe your partner's gonna be doing this for you, and you have to like make it clear. Like, I'm not gonna do something that you're make it clear, I'm not going to do something that you're going to hate,

but I do want you to do something. And if it's for me, it's for me. And that's okay. So to explain it in that way, and if it's just like a steak dinner or if your vegetarian's up, the chickpea steak dinner. And impossible steak dinner.

Then I've talked to a chickpea burger with a German recently and he called them chicken peas and I was just, I couldn't stop. I couldn't tell him that chicken peas is wrong because I wanted him to keep saying it. And he did. And I just think, I wanted to just keep talking about, I was like, so what's hummus made out of? Chicken peas.

And chicken peas. It's chicken peas. Also chicken peas. Except German, it was great. I don't know if they It's chicken peas. Also chicken peas. Except German. It was great. I don't know if they're called chicken peas in German or if he just doesn't know, but I loved it.

Well, he can speak English. He can. Oh my God. No, I'm not making fun of him. I'm going to call them chicken peas from now on. Does anyone have a final question that they would like to raise their hand and say out loud? You were the first person and that was very fast. So I have something called a radar key.

So it's a key that allows us to say both toilets and you can find one Amazon. So that means that anyone could theoretically get them without actually having proof of the disability. So I couldn't get more to be NHS because it was too hard to add more of this. But what do you think about that? Like people are using it for them because my union is easier to go to the one with the radar. I'm not going to hold the go downstairs. I'm not very proud of that. I'm going to restate your question for the listeners.

So in the UK, there's a thing called a radar key, and it lets you unlock disabled toilets. Is this the only thing the radar key does? It doesn't unlock any other special parts of the universe. Yeah. Oh, Hannah has one too. And you call it a radar key, but it looks like a physical, just normal key. Why doesn't it use RFID or something? It's just an actual key.

And so you can get a radar key through the NHS, and that's the legit way to do it. But you can also just get a radar key if you're like the NHS doesn't think my disability qualifies, but I need to toil it very fast sometimes or I need some space for various reasons. Is that cool? And I think what's not cool is it, this is a very pretty clear distinction for me. What's not cool is being like, I beat the system.

I got a radar key on Amazon. Like that's crappy. Like this is like awful. But to be like, this is a radar key on Amazon. Like that's crappy. Like this is like awful. But to be like, this is gonna make my life easier. I have a disability, but it's not being considered a disability by the NHS. You're not beating the system. You're not like saying to the world like,

ha ha ha, I get to use a toilet even though, like, you know, the stupid bureaucracy. Yeah, the system beat you in seconds. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, well, beat you in that case. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, well, if you're trying to beat the system, no, but if the system is trying to beat you, then yes. So good. And I also think that with most cases,

where it comes to like radar keys or claiming benefits, it's always such a slim, slim minority of people who do abuse the system. And also, I don't really believe that you do have to go through a process of proving disability or proving that you need to use an accessible toilet. So I actually do kind of like that you can just get one because I genuinely believe that majority of people who will buy one on Amazon do it because they need it and because they couldn't get one through the NHS. So it doesn't worry me, but I think if you hear people

talking about it or if you hear people doing the bragging thing, then maybe call them out on that. Yeah, I mean, my guess is you don't have any friends like that. But somebody does somewhere and if you're hearing it, call them out. It's no fun to call your friends, but you should do it. Call them in. That's what this thing is. I think that we are out of time. I'm sorry, I could only do one live question. But thank you all so much for being here for this thing.

I had an absolute pleasure talking to you. Thank you. Thanks for having me. Thanks to everybody in the audience as well for hanging out. Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! Yeah!

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