Decoding the Gurus - Matthew McConaughey: Selling is Love!
Episode Date: June 23, 2025In this episode, Matt and Chris try to get from where they are to where they want to be, accepting their hidden strengths and dismantling their egos as they immerse themselves fully in the wild world ...of Matthew McConaughey's burgeoning self-help empire. Join them as they uncover the true Art of Livin’ and learn how it is that an Academy Award-winning Hollywood star finds himself sharing life advice alongside the likes of Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi.With bongos, heartfelt confessions, and a sales pitch that'll make your wallet quiver, we break down the one-and-only event where journaling and wet dreams are your ticket to self-actualisation. Brace yourself for some heavy-duty motivational speeches, meaningful shared stories, and just a pinch of canned audience responses, as we ride shotgun on this once-in-a-lifetime self-help seminar.And how much will all this cost you? You ask? It should be $3000, but for today only, we give it all for free.LinksMcConaughey's segment from the The Art of Livin' EventKeyasWorld: Matthew McConaughey's self-help event WAS INSANEKeyasWorld: Is Matthew McConaughey Starting a Cult?Rolling Stone: Matthew McConaughey Will Dispense ‘Lyrics of Livin’ in New Weekly NewsletterThe Monastery in the DesertMikhaila Peterson: #32 Matthew McConaugheyLex Fridman: Matthew McConaughey: Freedom, Truth, Family, Hardship, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #384
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Alright, alright,, all right.
Welcome to the Code and the Guru, the podcast where an anthropologist and psychologist listen
to the greatest minds the world has to offer.
That's enough of that.
Anyway.
Oh, wait.
Excuse me.
That must be the incredible, the wonderful.
A man that is a legend.
He's a follower.
His kids love him.
His colleagues can't praise him enough.
He's published thousands of papers.
Is the most cited academic psychologist in the world.
World famous Matthew Brown.
But now, today, I see people like that.
I see Matthew.
We're hurting. You know, we're all not where we want to be. We want to go somewhere, but we wait, today I see people like that. I see Matthew, we're hurting, you know,
we're all not where we want to be.
We want to go somewhere, but we're not there yet.
We've all got things, we've got stuff that we want to do.
But maybe today, just today's the day.
Look yourself in the mirror, give yourself a chance.
Reach for where you can go.
You can get there, we can help.
We're all in this together.
You, me, Matthew, we're all the same.
We're one, we're different. We're the same, but we're different. We've got places to go. We've got places to
go.
Okay, shut up. Shut up. Shut up and take my money. Shut up and take my money. Yeah. Anyway,
okay. That's the intro. I'm Matt Brown. I'm the psychologist. He's Chris Kavanaugh. He's
the anthropologist. He is the Woody Howson to my
Matthew McConaughey. Oh
Spoiler alert
That's what this episode even need to say they would have got it just from your imitation
People would have been really confused going wait, I thought I was listening to the Co-Decorers, but this sounds like true detective
What's going on? Yeah,'s it. Well so yes in case you haven't worked it out we are covering Hollywood actor
Matthew McConaughey. Famed for many things roles in Dazed and Confused and True Detective more recently and so on and so forth. And why are we covering a Hollywood man? That's not within our remit, right?
We don't cover Hollywood people that much.
I mean, Eric Weinstein could be if he put his mind to it in Hollywood, but he's not.
So why are we looking at a big A-list Hollywood star?
It's confusing, isn't it?
Because Hollywood actors, secular gurus, different, different categories.
Yes. Some things to different, different categories.
Yes.
Some things to him, but they're French.
But yeah, there is some points of crossover as we'll hear.
Matthew McConaughey, hey, hey, hey has spread his wings and ventured beyond the, um, you know, the big white signs there on the hill and getting a little bit into the self-help
realm.
And I still think it's a bit different from our standard run of the mill, intellectually
branded guru.
But just like we cover alternative therapy people and self-improvement people, life extension
people, yeah, this kind of self-help Iment people, life extension people. Yeah.
This kind of self-help I think falls within our remit.
And it's just a pretty unusual, pretty interesting thing to look at.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And so Matthew McConaughey published a book called Green Lights in 2020, which was sort
of autobiographical, but like a very self healthy spiritual development kind of aspect to it.
And then he held this event, which is what we were looking at the art of living event.
There's no G on the living as well.
It's art of living apostrophe event.
And this was promoted across like social media at the time, like highly promoted. There
were YouTube ads. It was on Instagram. It was on Facebook. It was hard to avoid. And people were
like a little bit wondering what this is because it was billed as this like event. There's going
to be this art of living event. Sign up. Don't miss it. Matthew McConaughey in a way you've never
seen him before. Right. So like people, I think it genuinely were a little bit
like what's going on, but what is this?
And yeah, you could attend virtually
or there were various tiers that you could get
which would unlock extra interactions with McConaughey.
You could be on like a live Zoom with him
and he was gonna address more Q&A and this kind of thing.
So this was the event.
Now, Matt, the event at the time was five and a half hours long.
It was like a live stream event.
And if you think that's a long time for
McConaughey to talk, you'd be right. So he doesn't just talk.
He's got like a whole host of other people that come in and do segments
for 15 minutes or a half an hour.
So his actual component is probably only around an hour and a half of that event.
And we'll, we'll get into like what the event is, but I will note the event is now taken
down from YouTube.
You cannot get it anymore.
Fortunately one smart guy archived it back at the time
because we were talking about covering it.
So I have the full five and a half hours,
but you can only get the one hour McConaughey
one segment of it online.
But you Matt, you're in for a treat
because I've got stuff from all the other segments as well.
And I did listen to it all okay
It's just I listen to the shorter version. That was enough Chris. That was enough about 16 seconds in
I was beginning to regret my life choices. Yeah, it's something. It's really something. So, um, well good on you good on you
Um, yeah, so he was certainly headlining this event. He was the big draw card.
But there were other people with a more established career
and self-help who were also involved, weren't they?
Correct, correct.
And we'll go through some of them.
And I will also say that I had come across McConaughey
in other aspects of the gurus here,
because he'd appeared, for example,
on Jordan Peterson's podcast, on Makila Peterson's podcast and
with Lex Friedman. The Lex Friedman interview was more just like kind of a celebrity interview,
you know, like Robert Downey Jr. appearing with Rogan, that kind of thing. But the Peterson
appearances were more in the self-help vein. So this event is like in collaboration with a bunch of established self-help people.
But he appears to have learned from them and now has developed his own self-help
thing, which he is currently promoting.
So this is, you know, the beginning of his, of his story, but it still continues to
this day.
So you can, you know, go to his website and get weekly poetic affirmations and stuff.
So I don't think this is the end of Matthew McKenna Hay and self help land.
And he may very well end up doing a political run.
So you might be seeing a lot of them in the future.
So yeah.
All right.
And not many talents.
Yes.
So yes, we'll wait for Lord Dew. future. So, yeah. All right. And not many talents. Yes.
Yes.
We've worked for Lorde.
Let's start getting into the event because we've got a lot to get for it.
And a lot to get for it.
So to give some kind of context.
So this is the emcee of the event welcoming people to it.
OK, this is not McConaughey, but I've got a couple of clips from this that will set the vibe.
My question is, how are you feeling out there?
Show us with your body, get inside the chat box.
We've got Facebook, YouTube, Zoom, how you feeling?
My name is Karissa Koutchis,
and I will be your emcee for the day today.
I'm here basically to help you get the most out
of this virtual event,
especially if this is your very first time tuning in
to an incredible experience like this.
You know, some of you, and let us know in the chat box right now which category you
fall in.
Some of you maybe have connected with Matthew throughout the years through the movies or
maybe in the book Greenlights.
And some of you maybe just landed at an event like this for the very first time.
You saw an ad, you got invited by a friend and you're like, holy smokes, how the heck
did I even get here?
And now you're a couple minutes away from hanging out with Matthew
Freak in the McConaughey. Is that not the craziest thing?
Hey, I have a technical question for you, Chris. Yeah. The crowd from which you'll hear a lot. Oh, oh, yeah. Is this a
rent-a-crowd or something? How does this work exactly? Well, that's interesting. So this is what I think is happening. So to paint a picture with
words for people who haven't seen the event, the person is hosting but behind them there
is a kind of wall of Zoom videos, right? Like hundreds of them there. And they're kind of
responding to what's being said and you know they get some prompts at times so you can see they are listening or at least appear to be.
But I am almost certain that the audience cries, the noises that you hear are like canned,
like sound files, because they don't match and there's you'll hear them. There's no way that
those are organic. It's canned laughter and stuff.
And then on top of that, the other bit that is interactive or like actually happening is they
have a chat room that people are typing into. So I think the pictures and the chat room are
interactive and live, but the applause and the laughter that you'll hear later is not,
I mean, you can judge for yourself, but it's really...
I don't think the camera...
The camera certainly never pans to the audience.
We never see this noisy group of people do.
No, they're just in the background.
Yeah.
Yeah, okay. I pretty much 100% think you're right.
Okay, so that sets the scene.
You have to imagine these characters coming up on stage.
It's a nice big, it's a soundstage.
There must be cameras, but there's no one in front of them.
It's just a production team.
But they're acting as though they're talking to-
In front of a big huge crowd.
Yeah.
Okay, yeah.
There is an element, like the scenery, when it goes to different people,
shifts at certain times because they're
in different locations.
But like McConaughey's is kind of like a log cabin,
wooden building in the mountains kind of thing.
But it looks like a set.
It doesn't look like that's an actual place.
Like he's actually somewhere, but it appears to be. I said,
I can't tell, you know, if the scenery outside the window, I think it's fake, but it looks a
little bit like Star Wars. There's elements that are real and elements which are perhaps green
screened or whatever, but in any case, so a bit more mad about the kind of interactive vibe that
they're going for here. It's not just like watching a Matthew McConaughey movie kicking back with some popcorn.
This is actually deeply interactive.
So if you're a VIP, give me a wave right now.
You're actually on a Zoom call with Matthew McConaughey today.
How nuts is that?
And go ahead and put your cameras on.
This is a camera on experience.
And then Lena and I got to tell you something.
Please remember your camera is on.
Okay.
Wink, wink.
Um, for everybody else, whether you're tuning in on Facebook or YouTube or Zoom,
one of the most important ways that you're going to communicate today with Matthew
McConaughey and all of the incredible speakers that hit this stage is inside of
your chat box.
And so it's, it's not your normal thing, but this is the one way communication, but this is interactive.
You're actually hanging out live with McConaughey.
No, and if you paid the extra one hundred and forty seven dollars to get, you know, the zoom room,
you're in the same zoom.
Like that is can you believe that?
You know, you're basically best friends.
We're probably got a nice so that So that's who the video is.
The video is the people in the Zoom call, right?
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So this part is real.
This is an online event.
It's very exciting because people could dial in the part of a massive Zoom call.
If you've ever been in a giant Zoom call, like listening to your speaker, you know how exciting that is and how interactive it is.
You might be muted, but you're there, right?
You're there.
You're a little square in the background,
but you're as much a part of this as the speaker, okay?
So yeah, that was it.
Telling people it's interactive, we're all here,
we're gonna have a good time.
Now, let's get people a little bit more involved with this experience. Okay, lay your hands on the keyboard
and then leave them there today because that's how you're going to interact and pitch and catch
and hang out with Matthew McConaughey and all of our other speakers. They actually want to hear
from you. They want to connect with you. They want you to share your interpretation of today and
connect with other people, create community
and get the most out of this event.
A little on the nose, a little on the nose,
but like, keep, put your hands on your keyboard,
keep them there.
That's your connection with these amazing people,
including Matthew McConaughey.
How many times are you going to hear
Matthew McConaughey's name dropped here?
But like, just that thing of, you know, like they're really interested, the interact with you.
They really want to know what you think of what they're saying and stuff.
Like it's very much thinking up the cultish manipulation tactics that we talk about on the grometer.
Yeah, but it's doing it in fast forward, right?
Because typically those dynamics are developed over,
you know, a period of months or years through,
you know, whatever, forums and so on.
But this is like, right, you've never heard of us.
You've never heard of this event,
but we've got Matthew McConaughey right here.
We're a community now, okay.
Oh yeah, yeah, and oh, we are a community.
Perfect, Matt. Let's just hear a bit more about that.
By the way, this is a community here today, a group of us here to master the art of living.
We're starting as strangers, but what's uniting us is that we all want more in some capacity.
And so we get to show up and give more to this experience. So check in with yourself right now.
Are you sitting back like passively
in your chair? Do you have like a million tabs open on your computer? Do you have just
one ear button? Or are you completely and totally engaged? Are you leaned in? Do you
have a smile on your face for God's sakes? Are you ready to experience more is essentially
the basis of this question. Yes, my friends, if you want more, it's going to be highly advantageous
to give more of yourself to this day. So that is it. If you are ready, make some noise.
Let's just shake the body out. Shake off the day. Shake off the weekend. Stretch it up
to the ceiling. Lean over. Come on. Shake that day off. And it's time to get this party
started. Once you know that there's a canned applause track there, it changes everything because you just imagine this poor technician.
He's sitting there with his finger on the canned applause thing.
He's going, when's the right time for me to push it?
And she's doing stuff like saying, OK, now loosen up, loosen up, shake yourself up.
Because I think this is an applause point. I do enjoy that Alan Partridge aspect of, you know, imagining the production, but also,
Matt, can we take a minute for this creepiness? Like, you know, we're showing up here as
individuals, but we're going to leave as a community and you got to be invested. Are you
really locked in to the opportunity that's in front of you? Are you doing other things? Like you got to focus, Matt. Are you giving it all? Are you looking at me enough? Are you smiling enough?
You know, how committed are you to improving yourself today? It's like it's already in self-helpy, hard sell atmosphere mode. But you know, this is the kind of thing that the gurus do as well. But
like you said, they're not usually immediately up to like 11. Right? So it's just, it's the same
techniques, but like kind of in a very strong form from the get go. But here's the point where I
wonder whether you might be losing some of our audience, particularly our North American audience, because this...
I insulted North America.
Carry on.
Because this thing that you're referring to, this sort of rampant positivity, which, and I don't
know, like, because you see it not only in in self-help circles, but in corporate circles.
Like a Microsoft product launch will have them jumping around on stage.
It happens in corporate world too, and in a bunch of contexts.
It's a bit like the clinical speak, which for us is going, this is deeply wrong.
I think many North Americans shrug and go, but yeah, this is just wrong. I think many North Americans kind of shrug and go,
but yeah, this is just what you do when you're having an event.
if they want to watch it. There was a lot of people that were like,
I can't stop me one minute of this.
This is making me want to end it all here and so on.
But there were just a couple of responses that were like,
okay, it's a little bit cringy,
but like fundamentally,
this is just people trying to pump each other up.
And I was like, are you freaking kidding me?
You're like, this is, that is not what this is.
But that does speak to people's tolerance being different.
So if you happen to be a North American and so far you're like, what, what are they doing?
Like, oh, OK, well, the world contains multitudes.
Well, we'll see where it goes later.
But my flags are real.
That's the point I would make.
OK.
Yeah, fair enough. Fair enough. Just just just flagging that. But, you know, we'll continue. That's the point I would make. Okay. Yeah.
Fair enough.
Fair enough.
Just flagging that.
But you know, we'll continue.
We'll see whether or not any more red flags come up.
Yeah.
Maybe McConaughey is not going to be into all this.
Let's see.
But you know.
He'll be a nice grounded sensible voice of reason.
Yeah, maybe.
I mean, let's be in the test and see.
But, um.
Let's not spoil the surprise. see. But not spoiler surprised.
But one last thing from this map.
So this context, as you mentioned, it isn't entirely McConaughey's brainchild, right?
He's kind of joined forces with some of the worst people in the world.
So there's one that's called Dean Grazio.
And I just want to hear the way that he's kind of credited by the MC, right?
Because they, they're going to hand over to McConaughey, but they want to give a
shout out to like Dean and Tony Robbins is also going to show up, but listen to this.
Self growth, self exploration, self development were actually orchestrated by
Dean and he's the brain behind the art of live, this event here today, in partnership with Matthew.
And sure, he's wrote New York Times bestselling books, he's been a part of building a ton of companies,
he's created incredible amounts of success, but his claim to fame is three things.
Number one, he's an amazing husband, he's an incredible father, and he's most importantly a man on a mission to help important messages,
like what we're going to learn today
reach people around the world like us.
Dean, Matthew together they've been working for months to bring this project to life and today I'm so excited
you finally get to experience the magic that is the art of living.
Are you ready my friends?
Please help me welcome to the stage to kick this beautiful day off
it's Dean Graziosi!
What a setup. And so his main plan to find is he's an amazing husband and father. I'm
an amazing husband and father. I never get...
I don't think you just shoot it like that.
That's what I'm saying when people ask, you know, about the podcast and they're like,
can you give a, can you give a part of summary?
What's your background?
Well, you know, I'm an academic.
I do a podcast, but what I really want you to know remains land of fame.
Yeah, I'm a god damn great dad.
I'm an goddamn great dad.
I'm an incredible husband and everybody loves me. And like, you know, as you said, this could be a little bit of a cultural
difference in a way, right.
In terms of what's acceptable about, you know, kind of pumping people up.
But like I do hold hope for humanity that most people would
regard this as like incredibly cringy. Like, I'm not alone there, right? That is, that is,
right, like somebody doing this kind of endorsement is just like, it's just weird. It's just a weird
way to talk to you, just sitting, hug, greet someone else and they're so amazing.
And then, yeah, and also they're a great dad.
Yeah, yeah.
I bet again, I'm going to point out that this is in a way, part of the course for certain
cultural milieu, which is that you've been introducing your, you know, your flash tech
consultant management guy.
You know, I want to introduce Chris Kavanagh.
He's revolutionized the things.
He's brought dynamic change to countless organizations.
Chris Kavanagh, woo!
It's kind of what people do.
And it is incredibly fake, but it's whether or not
you think that's a problem or not, I suppose.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, anyway, let's continue on.
So Dings arrives, as norm. McDonald would say all of the stars are tonight. So let's let's hear a little bit more. Dean Graziosi, Marie Forleo, Trent Shelton, and we even have the incredible and the amazing
Mr. Tony Robbins joining us at the end of the day today.
So you're in for a treat.
It's gonna blow your mind and heart.
I got to sit in and be a part of the prep the last two days,
and what you're about to experience
is going to lead you to a land of more.
More love, more passion, more joy, more spunk, whatever it is you're here for.
This is the avenue where you get to create it.
More love, more joy, more spunk.
Sounds fantastic.
All the stars are out today.
You've got them all.
And that certainly didn't sound like counter applause.
Like that was just the audience reaction to hearing those luminaries in the field.
Now, Dean Grazio, let's let's hear a little bit from him.
Hey guys, hey everybody.
Now don't worry, McConaughey will be on in just a few minutes. I just want to jump in.
For those I'm meeting for the first time, hello. It's a pleasure, it's a privilege to be here.
For those that I see, we know each other. It's a pleasure. It's a privilege to be here. For those that I see,
we know each other. What's up? Hey, I wanted to give a little context, a little behind
the scenes on how an event like this happens.
Now, speaking of fakeness, you have to remember this is a guy in an empty room, but not empty.
There's a production crew there. He's pointing down to a blank wall going hey, what's up? Let's let's hope
I mean you're right. You're right. Of course, but like maybe they've got a screen up with like the zoom people maybe
That's what you're doing. But like but yeah, you know, that was that's really genuine
He's so happy to see these familiar faces and stuff. What's up? How's your family? You know, like he cares
happy to see these familiar faces and stuff. What's up? How's your family? You know, like he cares. Yeah, he's a he's a self-help guy. That's what it's about for him. And I do like
that every time one of these people comes on, they have to say, Matthew will be coming
shortly. You're waiting for Matthew. Like, don't worry, he's coming. He's coming.
You don't know this guy, but Matthew's coming. So, so Chris, did you check out the background of these people? So Tony Robinson.
Tony Robbins? Tony Robinson. Tony Robbins. He's obviously pretty famous. They've done this sort
of self-help circuit thing for decades probably. But this guy, who's speaking now, I've already
forgotten his name. He didn't seem as charismatic as the other guys and he seems like a new face
Oh, no. No, I mean, yes and no he is he he's not as charismatic. I
labeled the clips initially as chipmunk man
It is perhaps, you know, I might be making a relatively big cover to this appearance
But but um, but he he is like kind of chipmy, but he's very much like a polished self-help guy.
This guy has been around.
He's a big deal in the self-help world.
And he's just done all the things that you would expect,
published all these self-help books,
done events with Tony Robbins and Oprah, or whatever.
So he is a big deal in the self-help world, but not known.
Um, I think in general, more broadly, he claims to be a billionaire or like
I've set up 13 companies and also a serial entrepreneur and stuff, but like,
I think almost all of these companies are like self-help for the companies.
Yeah.
So he's not as big as Tony Robbins, but he's, he's in the league top tier
edge one of self-help people.
Okay.
And, but, um, no, let's, let's hear a little bit more from Dean.
Cause what I want to really know my, what everybody's here for is like, well,
how did you arrange this event, Dean?
But I got done reading greenlights about a year ago.
And when I got done, I wanted more.
I wanted more McConaughey.
I wanted more of what he was delivering.
I've been in this industry, helping serve people for over 27 years, and it was so different.
I could feel his heart speaking to mine, but not just as the actor, as someone giving you
a better path.
So I immediately called my dear friend, one of my best friends in the world,
and my partner Tony Robbins.
I'm like, you gotta read McConaughey's book.
I'm telling you.
So about a week later, I called him.
I said, hey, did you read that book?
He's like, not yet.
I'm like, read the damn thing.
So two days later, my phone rings.
I see it's Tony, and I pick it up.
And the words he says is,
this bastard's crazier than me.
And he said, when he got done with being funny, he said,
honest and truly, this guy's depth of wisdom is unlike
anything I've ever seen.
And the way he delivers it, it kind of sticks to the ribs.
I said, I know the world needs more McConaughey.
So we invited him to speak at a couple of our events.
And they were our biggest events.
We had over two million people over two events.
And people went nuts.
They went absolutely crazy.
Not one of the greatest actors of our time.
But they didn't go crazy for the actor.
They went crazy because of how he delivered
in a time when we all need it.
Can we all agree the last couple years
have been pretty damn crazy?
Right?
And can we all agree, can we all agree we all got stuff?
We all got past stuff.
We all got things we're fighting through.
We all got things.
And then you compound it with the craziness the last couple of years.
And so many people, I've been in the Facebook group, some people are lost looking for that
next level, looking for a path, looking for a plan.
Now this is the first example, I think, of something you're going to be hearing throughout, which is this amazing vagueness and generality.
So it's a way of doing pseudo profound bullshit, you know, where to make you,
was it truthiness?
So, you know, we all got stuff, don't we?
That's true.
Yeah.
We all got, yeah, I got, I got stuff.
You got stuff, man.
And last couple of years, man.
Oh, these last years.
These years.
I mean.
It's tough.
It's tough.
It's tough out there.
You know, like you racked up about six of those sorts of statements.
Like, I know, but they're kind of like, well, how do you describe those, Chris?
They're not Barnum statements, but they're like a, they're like a, a kind of a thing
that applies to everyone.
It feels true.
I don't know.
Yeah, yeah.
So I'm sure there is some nice piffy word that covers them, but I think some of them
do fall into Barnum statements because later on we'll get the more clear Barnum statements
where you think you could do more, but you also you've done a lot.
Like I could do more, but I have done a lot, right?
So it's a, there's that, but yeah, they are like, you know,
this is the kind of generic appeal
where you talk to people, they're dissatisfied.
You know, the things are not going perfect.
There's hardships.
One thing is that they're on this call.
That's a sign that things aren't going great.
And some aspect that you're here, you know, listening to this guy pitch you.
That's right. But many other bad life choices you've made, but you've made at least one.
Yeah. But you know, the other aspect of this is just so he weaves us into, you know, this incredible moment. He came across this book, Ma,
and it blew his cotton socks off, right?
And then he got on the phone with his good friend,
his best friend, his, you know, confidant in life,
Tony Robbins, and said, you know, gotta read this.
And Tony Robbins took a while, but you know,
when he read it, he called up and was like,
what the hell is this?
What is this?
This is incredible.
What that actually, I think is, is like a retelling of a thing, which is probably
true, which is that Dean came across his spotlights book and was like, Oh,
McConaughey is a kind of self-help guy.
This could be something.
Big opportunity.
Yeah, this is opportunity.
Maybe the serial entrepreneur who's, who's one of the dozens of self-help companies. Maybe he's smelled an opportunity. Yes. Maybe the serial entrepreneur who's a dozen of self-help companies.
Maybe he's smelt an opportunity.
I don't know.
Yeah.
And then he contacted Tony Robbins and said, you know, why don't we get, you know, this
McConaughey guy at our events?
Do you think we could?
And Tony Robbins says, yes, they contact McConaughey.
He comes and gives some talks at their events and it's very well received.
Big audiences.
There's a market for this.
Maybe we can do something more.
So like what he's describing is just basically like dollar
sides appearing in his eyes.
Yeah.
And it's.
It's kind of cute, I think, but he like his, his reframing oframing of it barely conceals the reality at all.
Yeah, so okay, that's that.
Let's hear a little bit more about the journey.
We're getting closer to Matthew McConaughey's appearance.
Don't worry guys, McConaughey's coming.
Don't go away.
Don't go away.
Stay tuned.
We all come from different religions maybe different religions, different politics,
but there's one thing we all have in common.
We all know we are meant for more. More love, more joy, more abundance,
more happiness, more freedom, more income, more impact on the world.
So who can admit we are meant for more and that unites us today?
Right? So who can admit we are meant for more? And that unites us today, right? And the other thing is we have this opportunity
to look into a better future for ourselves.
And the reason I believe McConaughey is so good,
the guy's been journaling for over 30 years.
So when you journal, you get to see patterns.
This pattern helps me be successful.
This pattern helps me go in a different direction, right?
And he loves to say, you know,
I'm not making A's and straight A's and everything.
But think about this.
I got to see behind the scenes, behind the curtain
on the amazing relationship with his wife.
And it's unbelievable.
I got to see behind the curtain of the father that he is,
the work he does
He is a hustler the work he put in to make this event live is unbelievable
That that bong going in the background
Because he's using the ball go at all our parts so, I don't think they have a ball go side track.
I think that's him.
I'm pretty sure that's him.
Yeah, that's him just drumming up.
So, yes, McConaughey, another great husband, another great father.
They have that in common. That's nice.
Yeah, it's good that they can like, you know, you get clear as you pass it on.
You get the next person. And I just love the way it's like, I know, you get glazed, you pass it on. You glaze the next person.
And I just love the way it's like, I look, let me tell you.
Can I admit something?
I got to see behind the scenes.
I'm going to tell you some behind the curtain.
This guy is a great husband.
He's a great father.
Just like and also that bit at the start where
just more of what we were talking about, like, you know, who here, Matt, can we all admit that we want more?
Like we we want more. And I like that he was like more freedom, more happy, more, more, but more income.
More income. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think you do. I think that is true. Yeah, it's that seeker mentality that he's talking to here is like,
don't you want more? Don't you think you deserve more? Don't we all agree that we can do better?
We can be better. That's the mentality of the self-help movement. What a praise on. And yeah,
yeah. So he's got them nailed. Yeah, indeed, indeed. Yeah, so this is just a perfect encapsulation,
distilled self-hope.
You want more.
Life isn't perfect.
Things have been tough.
You may be not the best husband, maybe not the best father,
maybe not the best lover that you could be.
Maybe you're not.
You feel like it could be more successful.
You could do more.
You could certainly use more money, right?
It casts a broad net. You could live somewhere. You could do more. You could you could certainly use more money, right? It casts a broad net.
You could lose some weight. You could do it. You could drink less sweet coffee. I could drink anyone could buy.
That's right. But you're struggling, right? It's hard to go to high expectations for yourself. Society demands a lot from you. You know, you live in the land of the free. This is the society where anyone can do anything, where
you can make anything of yourself.
Well, don't be too specific, though, Matt. As he says, you know, we all come from different
locations. This is the view from nowhere. It does sound like it's a very American self-actualization
spiel, but he's careful to say, no, this is universal. This is we are all seeking.
And those little bongos in the background led to McConaughey.
He pops out, right.
And he's asked about, you know, what brings you here?
Why are you here?
We've already heard that.
But like nonetheless, let's hear it from his point of view.
You know, after publishing Greenlight, I was bombarded with the request to go deeper
into the approach and reveal some process. And that, serendipitously, is when Tony and Dean
called saying, hey, hey, McConaughey, we love your book. We want to go deeper and get even more practical with it." I said, uh, yes.
And here we are.
After eight months of creating this project,
this one live, right here, right now with you,
we have all intentions today of supplying what you demand.
Applause
Dean and Tony, your ability and desire to influence so many people in such unanimously
positive ways is truly inspiring.
And the fact that you're out to do more than just inspire, you know, you're actually here
to transform.
Amen to that.
And thank you for giving me that call.
So thank you, Dean. Thank you for giving me that call. So thank you, Dean.
Thank you, Tony. Also, Marie, Trent, Carissa, and so many other talented folks behind the scenes, all right, for choosing
to make the time and do such specific and high end work that
we finally get to share with you today.
I'm getting the message everyone Everyone involved in this project is just fucking amazing, Chris.
They're just fucking, I mean, wow.
And look, this is coming from a man who's been journaling for 20 years.
He knows what he's talking about with that level of journaling.
My mom has kept a diary since she's 18.
God knows what insights she could provide to the world.
They should get her on.
I know she's got much more years of McConaughey journaling.
She could teach McConaughey a thing or two probably.
Yes.
That again, it's just the reverse of like,
I was bombarded with these requests to go deeper go deeper
Well, that's one way for it. But you guys, you know, you were the real deal
You wanted to transform people's lives and thank you for that call. Thanks for the call
Well, that's the thing. That's the thing
I mean my concern at the beginning of this was maybe McConaughey would just be one of these people but it's just seeking to inspire
But it's much more than that. He's also looking to transform. And
I think it's the follow through with the transformation after the inspiration that makes it such a
valuable process. So yeah, more very broad generalities. We haven't been very specific
yet. What we know so far is that everyone involved is amazing.
Yeah, they're good fathers. specific yet. What we know so far is that everyone involved is amazing. Yeah.
They could have this good husbands, probably good lovers. And, uh,
there's something very special going on. They've got something big in store. The buildup continues. We don't know what it is.
Yeah, it's coming. It's coming.
So the, the other hosts have been praised and,
and I do like nine Matt this image every time I'm listening to this clips of just imagining the guy with his finger for the button like do I push the
applause you don't like Dean and Carissa and yeah yeah yeah and they're going crazy right
yeah thank them.
They love Dean and Marissa they haven't seen them yet they don't know who they are but
I think it's great.
They're going crazy but it's not just these big celebrity hosts, the self-help superstars, Matt.
That's not the only people Matthew McConaughey wants to thank.
All right, now, here's the big one.
Thank you.
All of you.
Over two million of you?
You had a choice. You ain't got to be here. All of you. Over two million of you?
You had a choice. You ain't got to be here.
You'll be doing whatever you do every other Monday
or any other time, but you're not.
You're here.
You made the time.
You chose to take the risk, and you showed up.
Thank you.
Seriously, thank you for not being lazy with yourself.
I... Thank you for being humble.
Thank you for being curious.
Thank you for being willing to learn.
Thank you for being so generous with yourself.
For being honest and brave enough to interrogate
and investigate yourself.
Because we all know it's a whole hell of a lot easier not to.
Thank you also for not being afraid of change and admitting that you want and you need more.
Thanks for being courageous enough to find out what the heck your more is and take the
journey to get it.
Basically, I'm saying thank you for investing in yourself.
I'm just imagining lying in bed next to my Con of hair and hearing him talk to me like that.
Thank you for being. There's a lot of there's a lot of fags, right?
Well, look, we already established that everyone involved in this project,
top tier, really top tier people. And it's more than that, though, everyone who showed up.
The two million. That's a big that's a big YouTube. that's a big Zoom call, Chris. I didn't know they could get that big.
But yeah.
Two million.
They're all amazing.
Across platforms, Matt.
All across platforms.
Now, it still seems large, but you know, who knows?
Maybe, maybe it is.
But yeah, and you know, we talk about parasocial manipulation and whatnot, but what we're talking
about actually seems relatively amateur.
Like this, this, you know, explicit.
And I just like that delivery, Matt, as well, you know, like, thank you.
You know, Matt, thank, just thank you.
I mean, I'm, I'm serious, Matt.
Thank you.
Like me?
Me? You're thanking me? Yeah, I mean you. You right there.
So, it's...
Yeah, so I mean, look, you're speaking to another big aspect of the discourse and this kind of thing.
It's not just the sort of Barnum type statements, the generalities that everyone can identify with. It's the glazing.
We're all an amazing group here together.
We're all fantastic.
And yeah, you know, that's sort of flattery, I suppose.
You know, like we're special.
We're special people.
We're all in here together.
Yeah.
You know, when we're in two million people,
there should be a few lazy fuckers who aren't very nice.
But I guess we don't talk about them.
We don't talk about them.
Well, OK, so let's let's go on.
So, you know, you were worried about the general alibis and you wanted to get down to specific.
So, well, let's let's get to some, you know, very specific concrete things
about what we're going to address and what kind of things people
are interested in.
We're all trying to figure out the riddle, you know, put some rhyme to the reason and
answer the bigger existential question of what the hell are we doing here in this life
that we're living.
In this life that sometimes we feel like we're not living at all.
I get it.
I get it, man.
We live in such uncertain times.
We are constantly searching for answers.
Constantly searching for our sanity even.
We're just looking for some solid ground to step on.
It's damn hard to find.
We're not quite sure how to move forward,
much less where we'd be going when we do.
Yes, the future, it's foggy.
It seems like on this highway called life,
everybody's got their hazard lights on.
We're asking the question, is this all there is? Now, Chris, correct me if I'm wrong, but... every single fad that the world tells us we should chase. And none of them seem to get us where we want to go.
Now, Chris, correct me if I'm wrong, but at this point, it seems worth mentioning that
Matthew McConaughey is reading from a teleprompter, as he delivers this.
Correct. There is some parts in the video where there's a camera angle and you get the glimpse
that there is a teleprompter script that he's working from.
So I'm sure there's some parts where he riffs there.
As we'll see, there's audience interaction,
unscripted audience interaction,
but you could tell the difference.
So this is essentially a monologue delivered
by a Hollywood actor.
And I have to say, I find Matthew McConaughey
in his actual acting much better than this.
This is not true detective level delivery.
I think it falls into the category of overacting, right?
And this is the other key aspect, which is the authenticity, the transmission of authenticity.
So you could see why these other self-help entrepreneurs were attracted to the
idea of snagging McConaughey, right? Because it's all about that. Like they are desperate to protect
the message that this is not just a marketing pitch. This is not some joke. We care about you
and this is authentic. Everything we're saying is straight from the heart. You know, the references to husbands and the personal anecdotes and the, oh, let's go to
the little peek behind the curtain.
I've got to share with you something actually intimate.
The intimate thing is they're actually even more amazing than you.
Yeah, yeah.
Thank God.
Oh, shit, I was worried for a minute.
You were going to say he's a dick.
Yeah.
So we're talking about red flags and to people who might be thinking well, you know, this is all just you know
This is all just how the steel or whatever. I mean just keep in mind that they are
They are acting here. They are this is not real right? They are pretending to be
like when you're trying that hard to
Inculcate a sense of intimacy
that hard to inculcate a sense of intimacy, then I think your packles should be raised. The overactive accusation is pointed because you can't see it in the audio, but the bits
where he's like, you step on the ground, he looks down at his feet and you're going in
circles and he's drawing a circle with his finger. It's like me doing the drama.
He's a much better actor, right?
So it is like an evil version of his character in True Detective.
Because I think the opposite though.
I was like, well, it's got the same crazy wisdom.
Oh, sure.
But like the whole thing with the True Detective character is like a cynical and he you know,
like he's an idealist's a nihilist,
right?
And he doesn't believe in any of the goodness in the world anymore.
See, I like that.
Yeah, I like that, too.
Where's that guy?
I want to hear his self-help talk.
Pam is a flat circle man.
We're all doomed to fucking die around.
We're just ants.
And the Max comes.
Yeah, get that guy back.
But okay.
So we're all seeing each other.
We're all seeing each other.
We're all seeing each other.
We're all seeing each other.
We're all seeing each other.
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And you know what the... I'm sorry.
And congratulations!
At the same time, fact of our situation is...
No one's come to save us.
That's the first thing we gotta admit.
No that genie in a bottle is still just a genie.
That lottery ticket probably ain't gonna hit the jackpot.
And those goals and dreams that we have ain't gonna reach themselves on their own. And that's why right now is the time to adapt, to evolve, to take inventory.
That's why right now is the time to renegotiate who we are, how we treat each other.
That's why right now is the time to re-engineer how we can get to where we
want and need to go. That's why right now is the time to restore what's worth
keeping from our past and what's worth taking into our future. It is time to not
just find solid ground. It's time to admit that the solid ground that we seek is also higher ground.
A place where we can truly have more value, choice, balance, joy, love, health, security, freedom, divinity, where we can get more out of our life, our relationships,
our careers, ourselves.
Wow.
Now, to play devil's advocate here, Chris, if we put aside the deepities about, we need to be evolving, not revolving.
And the higher ground is also the something ground.
I don't know.
Solid ground, yeah.
Solid ground, yeah.
Yeah, the solid ground is the higher ground.
Lovely.
The counter-argument is this.
Yes, these are largely platitudes
devoid of any information content whatsoever.
Flowery language.
But maybe there are people out there, not you and me, Chris, we're fine just as we are,
we don't need to change.
But maybe people need to get this kind of pet talk in order to help them solve whatever
issues they have going on in their life.
Yeah, well, I think that's undermined by what's going to come later as the solution being
offered here to that problem. But you are correct that like for some people this will
resonate. And I do think that in general, the thing that resonates, including with Osma,
is like, you know, the general thing of like, you're not perfect where you are, you can improve.
Like there's always things that you can strive for and do better. Like that's, that's the human condition, right? The hedonistic treadmill as well.
Right. So like what he's saying, but the bit about the kind of delivery here, because there has to, you know, when you think about the autocue, there has to have been a bit like chuckle, brackets, chuckle, pause for chuckle or whatever, you know, when you think about the autocue, there has to have been a bit like chuckle, brackets, chuckle, pause for chuckle, or whatever, you know, and he delivered some of that. And that's
like emotionally manipulative, you know, no one's coming to save us. What about you guys? You guys
are here. Are you going to offer something that might be presented as saving? Maybe? No, Chris,
they're giving them the tool. They're giving them the tools for them to help themselves.
Yeah, man, the fish and you can feed himself for life. Yeah. So we'll get that. So I do agree.
It's not like nobody could get, you know, anything beneficial from listening to somebody give, you
know, a talk about like the need to take a hard look at themselves or, you know, be kind to themselves
or whatever the kids might be. But it's just where we'll see this goes, ma, that I think
makes it manipulative.
Um, so let's continue down that road.
I could, I could comment more, but there's a lot of, a lot of self help to get through.
That's right.
That's right.
More is coming.
Actually for all of us in the art of living, it's a rhythm of consistently coming. closer to what we want and need and inform us as to how to get where we truly want and need to go.
Questions that will allow us to adapt, evolve, and chart a course on life's highway that does
lead us to the ultimate destination. A life we love. A life that we are honored to be living.
A past that we're proud of.
And a future that we look forward to.
And that, my friends, is what we're going to do today.
No, we are not going to find all the answers.
But to get started, we are going to start asking the right questions.
Amen?
Now our goal is to expose the gap between the man or the woman that you want to be
and the man or the woman that you are and then show you the way to close that gap
through simple actions, choice making paradigms and daily habits that you can align with your
compass so you can feed your appetite.
Follow the science.
You will find the art. Wow.
I love the tune.
I love to take in.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Okay, so the destination is clear.
You want to be living a life that you love.
You want to have a past that you can be proud of and a future that you can look forward
to.
So that sounds pretty good.
Yeah, no, you're after the ultimate, the bliss, bliss,
a state of bliss.
And how do you get there?
You gotta ask yourself questions.
I thought it was journaling.
Journaling's important too, I think, but.
You ask yourself questions to stimulate yourself
to journal, you know?
I see, I see.
Like what does that do to you?
You're answering them in the journal.
Christian, answer. How do I journal? You answered them in the journal. Christian, answer.
How do I journal?
Well, I'm sorry.
OK, and what else do you do?
Well, it's a science.
What was the thing you said at the end?
So it's more than asking questions in terms
of getting to this ultimate destination.
It's not just asking questions, right?
It's not just asking questions.
It's not.
Yeah, it's more than that.
Questions allow us to adapt, evolve, chart a course on life's highway.
No, we're not going to find all the answers,
but to get started, we're going to ask the right questions.
OK, he wants to expose the gap between the man and woman that you are,
the man and woman that you want to be, and then show you how to close that
gate for simple actions, choice making paradigms and daily habits that you can align with your compass so you can feed your appetite. Follow the
science you will find the art.
Nice. Okay. So not much actually. Actually, not much there. Like when you actually think
about it, right? It's the same thing as usual, isn't it? You're not happy.
You're not happy with how you are at the moment.
You'd like things to be a lot better in every conceivable way.
You need to adapt, evolve, ask questions, explore, you know, stand on solid ground.
Uh, you know, it's kind of platitudinal.
Matt, there's some, I think you're taking this wrong.
We got to set some ground rules to this conversation.
Rule of the road here.
Need everyone to remember this is an open conversation.
We are here to admit, not judge.
All right.
So while we have everyone gathered around the table, over 2 million of us, I must say. Yes, 2 million
of us united in our quest for more. So know that you are not alone on this journey. Together,
we're going to start to peel back the layers, alright? We're're gonna start admitting the lies so to reveal the true you.
I'm telling you, watch what happens.
Watch what happens when you start doing that.
It's gonna start to clear the lane
between your head and your heart.
And that's gonna start to revive your connection
to the person you want, need, and are meant to be.
Watch it.
Yes, getting to the art of living starts with admitting.
Yes, we want to be legit.
We've got to first admit.
Yes, I just rhymed again.
Guilty.
I do that all the time.
Can't help myself.
All right, everybody ready?
Ready to clean house?
Ready to start admitting? All right.
Sounds very genuine. You know, at the start, we said maybe they can't, but I mean, that just
sounds organic, doesn't it? Yeah, yeah. So what was he saying there? I think I zoned out at some point
Um, you know, you want to you want to be king of the road master of your destiny
You know close the gap between the potential and the possible and the now and the here and the then and the when
I'm pointing point though. Matt. We're not here to judge. Okay, get that out of your system
No, no, we are not but it's interesting how step one is to confess
Yeah, don't get judge no judgment just
confession
I mean, you know, I think at the end I want to give some cultural commentary here
but don't you think Chris just by the by that there are interesting connections here between the
style and the content of the one preaching extravaganza and preaching, both of which
homegrown in the USA. Yeah, that's a coincidence. But yeah, it's good that it does have the
evangelical preacher vibe to it. And I think that aspect of it to start, Matt, you got to open
yourself up to this. It's a process, right? But nobody here is going to start, Matt, you got to open yourself up to this.
It's a process, right?
But nobody here is going to judge you for what you do.
You know, we're all here.
Christ doesn't judge you, Chris.
Christ doesn't judge you.
But step one is to open your heart to Jesus.
I mean, you could substitute a few words is all I'm saying.
Oh, yeah.
Well, I think we're going gonna get to that actually quite quickly.
So you mentioned Matt that like, you know, step on no judgment, kind of the Omega rule,
right?
We're yes and in here.
That's what we're up to.
But you do need to, you know, name what you're up to. to Already that arrogant self-judgment is probably starting to sneak in on some of you. But hey, kick it out
Again, this is a free speech zone and there is no gavel in this court today
Speak think and write freely raise your hand and say yes. Aye
Because today we are both guilty and approved at the same time name it claim it and declare it write it down
Put it in the chat
Why? are you here?
Yeah, this name it and claim it, name it and claim it.
That sounds submitted to prosperity gospel there, Chris.
Yeah, yes it is time for you to confess.
Yes it is, you gotta confess.
Yeah, so, you know, that's prosperity gospel
You can name what you want through positive confession unwavering faith, you know, and then you'll get everything
That you want which is kind of the theme of this redemption not redemption
And get sweet stuff, I mean get attention and the sweet stuff I mean it's
Hard to resist
Yeah, well, okay
So let's let's continue on this theme about confession because you know my if you're gonna ask people to tell you their deepest darkest
Feelings and faults you need to start right? You got a demonstrate before you I can't do it
I did it that's trying to figure something that rhymes. But in any case, you need to go first.
Me. Why am I here? I'm here because I admit that I'm still not living up to the man that I want need to be. I admit that I know that I'm not yet the person that I got the capacity to be.
I admit that sometimes I don't believe in myself enough, and I admit that I still have
a whole lot more to learn and that I need more courage to be more honest with myself.
The the protocols have come.
Foggers have have made an appearance.
They have entered the chat. All right. I think they're good.
I think they help underlying
the significance of is what he's saying there.
They certainly pad out the content, as we'll see.
But the other thing I meant to say, and it doesn't matter which clip
because it's eternally relevant, is that this notion of the true you, the you that you're
supposed to be and building towards it, we come across it so much in self-help, but also in the
guru sphere, they touch on this a lot. But here it's taken as a given. Within me, Chris, deep within me, there's a thin person trying to get out.
He's covered by layers of fat.
What a quote. Absolutely fabulous. The answer to that is just one, dear.
Yeah. So, um, Matthew McConaughey, anyway, he was getting his confessions out there.
You know, he's getting the ball rolling
no he's gonna ask people but um it does take him a little while to get right into this so let's
do this can you admit maybe something that you've been lying to yourself about
can you admit or maybe you're coming up short?
Can you admit where maybe you need to improve your aim?
Can you admit that what maybe you need to double down on in your life to have more.
Can you admit to what maybe you need less of, less of in your life to have more?
What?
Less?
That doesn't sound right.
So just to circle back, confession, confession, right?
It's a thing, as you know, Chris, in Christian circles, in traditional Christian circles.
You know, you're, you know.
I'm a Catholic.
You're a Catholic.
And you would know that your kind of confession, just riddled with guilt and self-loathing that it is, is different from this kind of positive name
and claim that prosperity gospel type thing and this self-help version of it, which is interesting
because they talk about confession as being like confessing that you love God, or just
that confessing that you have a right to be happy or things like that.
Yeah, but that's not what you normally do. If I said to the Catholic priest, like,
I confess that I have the right to be, you know, the me that I need to be. I need to be
happy and I deserve that. They'd be like, what are you talking about?
So, when you confess here. So, it's got that vibe of one of those like a job interview where they ask you to name your
biggest flaws. You know, you go, I just, I care too much. I work too hard. I'm a perfectionist.
This is the kind of confessions we're talking about. Well, you know, on the Barnum statement
front as well. So Barnum statements are these things in psychology where you make statements
with time specific, but they're, they're generic and they also are things that everybody can ascend to, but,
but they sound like they're personalized things like, you know, you're a bit of an
introvert, but sometimes you'd like to be around other people. And like most people
see themselves that, right. So he or he's not saying specifically, but it's like, do
you have things that you need to double down on like, do you have things that you need to double
down on?
But do you have things that you need to do less of?
Like you can confess anything, right?
It's like-
Yeah.
It was like, me too.
Me too.
Preach.
There's things that I want to achieve, but I can't be asked.
Does that resonate with you, Chris?
Yeah.
Yeah. So the reason he's doing this is because he wants to, part of the thing, like we said,
this is not a one way lecture, Matt.
This is an interactive, you know, unique experience in self-development technology.
So now you're going to get the chat coming in, right?
So he's going to be reading answers now that he's kind of generated the mood in the
seekers in the audience to give their answer to the prompt.
I can't remember what exactly it is.
I think you'll get the flow of it.
So this is the chat testimonials coming in.
Thank you for the chats everybody.
Keep them coming in.
Yes, I want a better life.
I want to find out, expose the gap.
I want to be a better life. I want to find out expose the gap. I want to be a better husband. Keep coming up short of a self-sabotager.
I'm lonely. I want to find some happiness with myself. I need less self-judgment.
I need less self judgment. I want to keep stepping.
I want to keep growing.
I want to be a better mom.
I don't believe what I know.
I want passion and purpose.
I want to love myself.
I want to escape the corporate rat race.
I need some more forgiveness.
I need some more resilience.
That's great. That's great. What was your favorite confession? I want to escape the corporate rat race. I need some more forgiveness. I need some more resilience.
That's great. That's great. What was your favorite confession? I think mine was, um, I want to believe what I know. That's really good. I've got, I've got a one that I like.
It's actually the next step. So I'll just play it. It's cause a good disc goes on. I wanted
to highlight how long it goes. My favorite is the next one. Amen. I want to play that drum you got. I want to be a ghost
rider. Just want some happiness or leave. I want to honor
myself. I want to recognize happiness when it's right in
front of me because right now I don't feel like I see it when it
is.
Yeah, so I like the Spaced Mountain one.
I like the Spaced Mountain one too.
I think I could steal some of those.
I like them.
I got a confession to make to you, Chris.
Okay.
I don't feel like I honor myself enough.
I think that's true.
You don't. I'm often telling people,
I see his spirit and he does not honor.
Yes, yes, yes. I'd like to remind people that I'm a full professor and tell them about my H index. But is it enough, Chris? Could I be doing it more?
Well, that's right. That's right. But, Matt, are you judging yourself? Because this is a judgment free zone. I believe that was one of the ground rules. So
I am judging myself, you know, because
So don't be doing that or do be doing that. It's mixed. I'm getting mixed messages. And speaking of which
Hello, I'm all for the notion that hey, if you ain't impressed with your reality, then create a reality that you're impressed with.
Yay, I'm all for having dreams
and in the spirit of shooting for the stars,
but not at the exclusion of missing out
on the reality of the day.
How about you?
Are you still looking for a perfect mate or a partner that you think is
going to fix all your problems, but you hadn't really done the work to fix your own? Illusion.
Yeah, yeah. So like I said, mixed messages on the one hand, you know, you got to work
it yourself. You got to work on yourself.
You got to realize you're the problem.
Stop looking for something out there.
On the other hand, maybe you need to change things.
You need to like take that first step.
You got to, you know, do the thing and make the change.
And yeah.
Well, yeah, Chris, I mean, you know, the fact that it's platitudes, putting that aside,
I'm going to go into that because that's actually perfect advice.
Though it might be unfortunate cookie type advice, which is, you know, it's a cliche because it's true.
You know, the cliche, you know, give me the strength to accept things I can't change and change things that I can't.
It's worth them.
I mean, it is trivial, but it is kind of true, right?
You should try to change things that are bad,
but at some point you should also,
not try to be like a weird perfectionist
and some things you just need to accept.
Okay, you're done with that
I accept that you're bad at scheduling
I've tried to change you
Didn't work and I'll move on to acceptance and I think this is a mature
Are you action? Are you sure Matt? You're not out there looking for to blame someone in the world for your problems
to blame someone in the world for your problems.
Well, I'm looking at it.
I'm very clear about this.
You're not allowed to do that, Matt.
That's clear.
So retract that.
But, OK, I take your point.
But, I mean, yes, I agree.
You know, you give me the wisdom to accept the things that I cannot change and,
you know, try to change the ones I can and recognize the difference between them.
Sure.
Yeah, yeah.
That's all fine.
But maybe this clip, Matt, will help you understand.
I know you've missed it.
My issue about the kind of mixed messages that people are receiving.
You want a best-selling book, but you hadn't even written first words yet.
Illusion. You want to solve world hunger
but you haven't fed one person yet. Illusion. You want the million dollar business but you
won't quit the nine to five job that you hate to make it happen. Illusion.
Or you want the million dollar business but won't take that nine to five job
that you need as the first step to get there.
Also, illusion.
So let's admit it.
Let's admit where we maybe don't have
appropriate expectations on a day toto-day basis of the
world and of ourselves.
Let's admit that maybe we're missing out on the truths, the beauties, and the tools
of the day that are right in front of us.
And let's admit that those very truths, beauties, and tools, those are what we are going to
need to build that rocket ship to get us to those stars that we're shooting for, the ones
we're trying to reach.
That is not an illusion.
That is reality.
So should you take the nine to five or should you go ahead?
It was unclear, I think.
Each person to themselves.
My issue is like kind of from that advice, you could both receive that you must give up on the job and take the risk in order to start the million dollar business,
or perhaps that you need the nine to five job in order to give you the foundation to start the million dollar business, you know, choose as you see fit.
So you could absolutely read it either way. I mean, I guess this speaks to a fundamental problem with self-help generally, right?
Which is that it is like our gurus, like an all encompassing kind of fundamental truth that addresses the needs and problems of all people.
This is the secret that will apply to everyone in this one book or this one presentation.
So buying needs must be incredibly vague.
And so they're not going to put their cards on the table and they're not going to say,
you should quit the job or no, no, you should stay in the job because you know, they can't, right?
He knows, right?
Nobody, it's a very specific situation.
And I think this is what distinguishes guru-esque bullshit self-help from certain kinds of self-help
that may well be useful.
Well, I've read very little self-help in my life because as you know Chris, I'm perfect as I am.
You're self-actualized. Yes, you're at the top of the hierarchy of Maslow. Yeah, that's right. I mean,
I could improve myself. Don't get me wrong, but I feel like I would just be showing off at this point.
So I think you just leave it there. But you know, one that was recommended to me was called
Getting Things Done. It's like a productivity self-organization thing. DTG. And look, GND. We're DTG. We're DTG. That's GTD. Yeah. Confusing.
Now, you know, whatever. It's fine. There's probably a dozen other books that are better.
Who knows, right? But it gives concrete things that actually do apply to people that are
dealing with, you know, task items and sitting in front
of a desk trying to get things done.
Yeah, so I guess my point for you, Chris,
is that isn't it baked in?
It doesn't this have to be just pure problem,
but there's no way for it not to be.
Well, I think the getting things done system
is actually a good counterpoint, because in that one,
there is a specific system. and you can take issues, you know, it's kind of like an optimizing
protocol kind of thing, right?
There's lots of alternative ones, but there, there is a system, right?
Of like, here's categories, here's how you deal with your inbox and you know, you can
watch like a 20 minute video on that system if you want and you'll get the basic idea,
right?
So in a way it is the same
because they've expanded that out into courses that will take thousands of hours to go for,
to help you with your procrastination. But I think that what we're lacking so far here is the
kind of practical steps. So far we're just been told like anything could be the right thing
to do. But the general thing is like the situation you're in now, it's not satisfactory and you want
to be somewhere else, right? Yeah, that's right. But that's not very helpful, is it, to stick to
those generalities. You know, cast a very broad net
so anyone who is in any way, shape or form
to satisfy with any aspect of their life
or wants to achieve anything at all
is part of the marketplace.
And what they're giving you so far,
look, maybe the hammer will drop
and we'll get some concrete actionable things.
But so far we've got journaling,
asking yourself questions, confessing.
Well, you know, you also mentioned, Matt, that like the goal here is they've got to cast a wide net,
right? Because they want to speak to people in lots of different situations. And they kind of flag
that up at the start, you know, saying there's going to be advice, which applies to some people,
not to others. But one thing that's interesting is start, you know, saying there's going to be advice, which applies to some people, not to others.
But one thing that's interesting is like, they don't want to alienate people around
politics, for example.
So this is a generic section of politics, which I find quite interesting because it's
as distinctly it's like saying things, but without saying anything.
So listen to this. Speaking of politics, can we just admit
how often we say to ourselves,
I don't need to be self-reliant and make up my own mind
if the people I agree with are in power.
Cause hey, they're gonna take care of me and my kind.
What happens when we do that?
We run to our echo chambers, we huddle up,
we get tribal, we start saying, me and my tribe, we don't really know what we're about
or what we're for. We just know that we're against whatever, whatever they're for.
Come on, it's not identity
There's no vision or a way forward in that thinking that's just some passive aggressive counterpunch default bullshit
Guilty I know I said no judging my bogey couldn't help myself
I can't help myself.
So, you know, the tribal, the left and the right, the politicking,
it's all it's all bad, this tribalistic thing.
But I just like the fact that it's, you know, it's so generic.
You're just speaking like the whatever
politics the person belongs to and deliberately so right like it's
this is supposed to just be that anybody any political stripe like kind of agrees with it. Yeah well look look I look I understand it's it's framed to appeal to anyone indian-american
of any political persuasion which is very right? This is a generic self-help thing, right? They're not looking to just cut the addressable market in half. I don't dig into
that. That just makes perfect sense. No, but I like that you have to mention it
because new politics is a thing. But the way to address it, like you say, with alienating,
is to just be like, you know, and tribalism,
we don't like that. And those, you know, the politicians, the people that are giving them
the power and saying, I don't need to do anything. Like, that's not right, right? That's not right.
Everybody can be like, yeah, yeah, that's right. You know, we're, we're all individuals. So I just
thought it was pretty nice marketing for everyone to not long to.
So cynical, so cynical.
So cynical.
Well, I think, but, you know, cut away the cliches and everything you said is true,
but it's not a bad opinion to say don't place your identity
with some political partisan group in an us versus them kind of manner.
You know, I think that's not bad advice.
It may be a platitude, but no, no, no, no.
I don't I don't mind that.
I mind that what they're going to suggest
in a while to replace that particular identity.
We have so they are saying, like, don't,
you know, have tribal don't get too attached to to those identities what will they suggest that we should get attached to and like sign on let's let's find out but before that just a little bit more suitable for him.
Oh I love this our greatest strength.
Can also be our greatest weaknesses.
also be our greatest weaknesses.
This one just came to be like six months ago.
I don't know why it took 52 and a half years to figure it out, but sure.
You ever notice how your greatest assets and strengths can also be your greatest Achilles heel?
Is that, are you going to argue in defense of that?
I mean, it's true.
I'm trying to figure out whether it's true or not. I don't know.
Well, he's, his example is like, you know, he is a workaholic perfectionist.
And that is like the strength, but it's, it comes with cost.
Matt. It's like with me, you know, like I, I care so much, but I'll,
I care too much in many ways, which takes a toll.
So yeah, it's like saying things like, we always hurt the ones we love, that kind of
thing.
There are so many- It's true.
It's so cynical.
Yeah, I think we're both saying the same thing.
There's a huge galaxy of aphorisms and platitudes and you can string
them all together in an event if you wish and they're not necessarily wrong but they're still
platitudes. That's right. Well, so that was talking about your greatest weaknesses can be
your greatest strengths. That's what McConaughey shares his then back to the testimonials put in the chat
Admit it
Procrastination
Overthinking I like to think a lot
Oh too organized.
Too organized.
Too proud. My honor turns to pride.
Oh, I'd like to take my time, but I can sometimes get lazy.
My patience. Sometimes I'll wait around too long for things to happen.
Oh, I love pleasing people.
Sometimes I please them at the expense of pleasing myself.
I think we can all identify with those, Chris.
I like this kind of like a celebrity reading out people's chat messages and like adding, you know, emphasis while background music plays.
It's I mean, obviously it is a thing designed for this like self-help course, but as content, I'm kind of enjoying this, you know, just riffing on what they're saying. Yeah, yeah, that's a good one. That's a good one.
And, you know, he's got like a rolling list of chats
so he could just pick the ones that he wants.
So that's that's a bit more of that.
Like, it's pretty good. I'm enjoying it.
Lies you've been telling.
Maybe you've been looking to slip into some bigger lies.
Ones that you might be telling others
or ones that you might be telling
yourself.
Didn't see that coming.
Guilty.
Admit it.
What do we got over here, chat?
That I'm fine.
That lies are okay.
That I'm not depressed.
That I can afford this.
That I'm not good enough.
That I'm disciplined, but I'm not.
That I'm disciplined, but I'm not. That the keto and dark chocolate are good for me.
That my dreams will be given to me.
That I don't miss my home.
That I'm not an addict. Okay. Thank you.
Keep them coming.
I forgot it got a bit heavier.
But you know, this is actually a good example because the one thing I will say here is like, you know, this is people typing in things and there's some self-help stuff, but there's also quite clear.
There's people here that are genuinely, you know, suffering.
There are addicts.
There are people that are feeling dissatisfied with their life in various different ways.
And this makes me aware, like these kind of segments, that a lot of people here are quite vulnerable.
You know, like they're people that are looking for some sort of... I think they're looking at the wrong players.
But, yeah.
Yeah, no, I'd actually forgotten about that because it is easy to slip into the mindset where it's, you know,
there'd be some portion of the audience who are basically self-indulgent
and seeker type people who enjoy this kind of thing,
basically, and enjoy a bit of self-analysis
and like the inspirational feeling and stuff.
The kind of people that are always starting diets
and giving up on them.
But then again, there are people, more often than not,
that the people who are there are people, you know, more often than not, but the people who are here
are people more likely to be someone that's actually genuinely got a problem that they
need to sort out and they can't, like being an addict. Or, you know, whatever, they're alienated
from their family and they haven't seen their kids or whatever for the years and they're struggling
to deal with it. So I guess when you're in a place like that, you're
going to be looking around for something or someone that's going to kind of, well,
how do I...
Matthew McConaughey approaches the stream of his bongos.
You see that he's the one that's going to help. So just don't let me lose the thread, Chris, because I'm just trying to remember.
So we're at the confession stage, right?
But mainly people are confessing, you know, like it's kind of these double edged confessions.
Same as in evangelical Christianity or any Christianity where everyone's guilty, right?
Like you cannot be a Catholic or evangelical.
Everyone is a sinner.
And likewise, with this kind of self-helpy thing, everyone is a sinner too, right? Like you cannot be a cat. Everyone is a sinner. And likewise, with this kind of self-help you think everyone is
a sinner too, right? Like you either don't try hard enough,
or you try too hard. You're too impatient for things to happen
quickly, or you wait around too long, when things don't happen,
you know, and you don't take action when things happen. Like,
most of the stuff we read out there was,
you could be wrong both ways.
So we're all sinners.
We're acknowledging where we're going wrong
and how we're not right.
Is that where we still are?
Yeah, yeah.
I mean, we're already into the part
where he's going to start giving lessons.
These are kind of like segments where he goes through a lesson, then sometimes he interacts with the chat, and then he goes to the next lesson, right? So this lesson is around acknowledging, you know, like my biggest weakness is that I try too hard.
And Matthew McCuddy does a gage in that when he's trying to, you know, say, look, you guys,
you're telling these lies. I'm just doing, you know, the same kind of thing. So listen to this.
Let's admit that our confidence is fickle. Take me for example.
I need achievement, confidence, a sense of significance.
I don't achieve, and I start to feel very insignificant.
I feel less confident.
Seriously, ask my wife.
I go 48 hours without achieving something, I start to feel unworthy.
I forget to remind myself. Like hey, Bac Hey, what about the last 53 years of your life?
Look around, look back.
You want to give yourself some credit for that?
And I forget to as much as we say, we enjoy the process.
So often we panic if we don't have constant achievement.
Right. So now this is more in the kind of accept yourself for who you are type five.
And I'm just puzzled by two things like Matthew McConaughey, he achieves something every 48
hours.
I wonder what it is like, mowing the lawn or?
It's much more profound than that.
He writes his journal.
He writes in his journal.
That's an achievement, I suppose.
Yeah.
Because he doesn't make a movie every 48 hours, right?
No, he does not.
But that's the interesting thing is that, Clem, is like, one, I achieve constantly.
I'm achieving every 48 hours.
And when I don't, I feel like I'm not worth it.
Just briefly, That is like... And then the second point is, and like I don't appreciate, you know, given how much I've
actually done and how successful I've been.
Like I should acknowledge that.
So his sin is that he's not acknowledging just how bloody awesome he is.
Because the people around him on stage didn't have any problem.
They were crazy.
No, they got it.
They got it.
So it's funny that he's got this particular problem,
because yeah.
They seems OK in a lot of different ways.
Well, actually, Matt, this leads to an interesting part,
where there's a story about a monk.
OK, so this is like a little bit of an extended monologue.
So there he was talking about that he doesn't give himself enough slack, basically.
And he went on to talk about he had all this success, you know, like he was working as an actor. He was not a success and suddenly blew up and he didn't feel worthy.
This is on the topic of imposter syndrome.
And then he decides to go do something. So I'll let him tell it.
I didn't feel like I had earned the sudden success, the attention, the affection, the overnight fame.
And I started to feel guilty about it.
Why me?
Do you say I deserve this?
What's real? What's not real?
So,
I did what in hindsight
I now know was a very smart thing.
I got the hell out of Dodge.
I left Hollywood
and I went to a monastery
in New Mexico, whose invitation
was, if you can make the 13-mile hike
down the washed-out dirt road off Highway 11 to get here,
pull the rope, ring the bell,
and we'll find you a place to sleep.
So I had a friend drop me off on the side of that highway.
I made the 13-mile pilgrimage.
I pulled the rope rang the bell
And a monk named brother Aldrew answered the door
He welcomed me in he said
Why do you come here brother? I?
said brother I
Got a lot of things on my mind. I
Need to talk somebody I need to I need to talk to somebody, I need to confess.
He listened to me and then said,
brother, I know just the right person for you to talk to.
His name is Brother Christian.
He'll meet you in the morning at sunrise.
The next morning, Brother Christian met me at sunrise And next morning
Brother Christian met me at sunrise
He said do you want to go for a walk brother so we did
Okay, so there's the start of the story. I came up. I'm following
It's like it's like in Batman where he goes. Oh, yeah, you went to the Tibetan monastery. Yeah.
So, yes, he's went out into the desert in New Mexico.
He's made a 14 mile pilgrimage and he's rang a bell in the monastery.
And the priestess let him in the abbot and
Briller Al and said, you need a place to say, Briller, what do you need?
And then he says, yeah, need someone to talk to.. So in the morning he's going to meet with brother Christian to a good name for a monk.
Well, a question.
So what happens when he meets brother Christian on this walk?
I began to purge.
I confessed where and what I felt were sins above my mind, sins of my flesh, sins of my
deeds.
Newfound indulgences that are making me feel gross.
Some of them make me feel like I just hadn't really earned them or deserved them.
Maybe I didn't even want them.
I went on and on and on with my confession.
Brother Christian, patiently listening,
as he walked beside me, hands behind his back,
never saying a word, he never said one word.
for saying a word. He never said one word. Four and a half hours later, me purging, confessing him not saying a word, we circled back to the chapel where we sat on a bench. Me, I'm
sitting there and tears are running down my face. I got snot running out of my nose and I'm sitting there coming out of this.
Purge and I finally wrap up my four and a half hour confessional rap sheet.
Brother Christian is still not said one word.
But now I'm finally done.
Heads down and wiping tears from my eyes and I'm awaiting his judgment.
I'm wiping tears from my eyes and I'm awaiting his judgment.
We go, I've left it on the cliffhanger.
So there's brother Christian.
They've went for a four and a half hour walk.
And he's just been purging, you know, confessing everything that's going on. What do you what do you think like this?
Crying, crying, sobbing.
It's very dramatic.
And I think it's really like like it adds to the poignancy
that the monk isn't saying a word, which...
Have you ever spoken to someone for four and a half hours?
With that?
You know, that's a point, Matt, because, you know,
if you said, look, I just let it all out,
I talked for half an hour,
and then I noticed he hadn't said anything,
but four and a half hours is longer than one of our podcasts. At some point you need to
take a drink, sit down, right? Have a wee. Have you finished? And like, no, no, I got
more. But he can't even say that. so I wonder if there's something slightly hyperbolic in the retelling of
This I wonder my call me a cynic, right? But um, you know
Alright, let's let's don't leave this one. Yeah. Okay. So what happened, you know so far the monk brother Christian he said
nothing and
He's there. He's awaiting the judgment, but it's coming because that's what monks do.
That's what monks do. They just judge.
They're all shaking their fingers at you.
And here it comes.
He says nothing.
20 seconds go by, he says nothing.
30 seconds go by, he says nothing.
A minute goes by, it's silent. Nothing.
Finally. I looked
up at him, and I see Brother Christian just staring at me. We just held each other's gaze,
just looked at each other's eyes for about ten seconds. The clock was ticking in my mind, like I was just waiting on his condemnation.
That's when he... he leaned slightly towards me.
He whispered,
Me too.
Ah! Ah! Thank you! Me too. Oh!
Oh! Thank you!
I laid out on the ground, man.
Tears all came back, but this time they were tears of relief.
Forgiveness. Joy.
You see, those two words, me too.
Those two words, Brother Christian didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't.
He let me know that I didn't have a't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't, didn't,
didn't, he let me know that I didn't have a singular, self-centered, independently original,
one and only, one of a kind problem.
No, I had a human condition.
With those two words, Brother Christian invited me back to the human race.
And it took so much pressure off of me. Like I said, I finally
I was able to forgive myself. Wow.
Wow. What a story. That was incredibly moving.
Actually, you know, the funny thing is, I've seen there's blogs and things because he's
told this story elsewhere. He tells it in his book as well., there's blogs and things, because he's told this story elsewhere.
He tells it in his book as well.
And there's a bunch of people that have responded saying the most powerful bit is the bit where he talks.
So there actually are quite a lot of people that find this to be incredibly compelling.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Now, Matt, why don't you know, I get I can see your jaded cynicism. I see through, you know, your mask.
So why are you not finding this as compelling as they do?
What's robbed it off the beauty for you?
It's a good question.
So, so many things, so many things.
It's like, it's hard to pick just one.
I mean, one thing that makes it a little bit less compelling is that given what Matthew
McConaughey has talked about so far, the kinds of sins that he hates himself for
is the sin of not accomplishing something every 48 hours or not being all he could be, or wanting to be too ambitious or something like that.
And unless he was confessing something really terrible, why would he think the monk would
go, you son of a bitch?
Well, I think in this case, he's implying that he had all the debauchery of Hollywood
and success and feeling in life and cheating on people and all.
So it's like it's everything.
Right.
To that moment.
It's not as like self help tone confession.
That's why presumably, unless he was confessing for four hours about what a great guy.
It's like I just I worked too hard for her.
Well, I think it's conceivable that something like that happened, right?
Because he, you know, he seems like a guy that would be into, you know, he's from California,
man.
He's Hollywood.
Of course, he goes on retreats and visits monks and has these sorts of soul searching
things.
He's the kind of guy who plays bongos in a rainforest, I'm sure, right?
So I think it's more the message. Like the
message is, first of all, you know, we got to acknowledge our sins. We're talking
about sin. We're using this religious stuff. It's so important. But the sins
we're talking about, uh, I kind of, I mean, I hate to use this phrase, but
they're kind of, they're kind of like neoliberal American dream type things.
Right. Am I procrastinating too much? And I accomplish, you know, accomplishing all I could be,
that kind of thing.
You know, do I have the perfect home and, you know,
are my kids all that stuff?
So that's fine.
But then it comes to the clincher there is that
to even feel that those are sins,
the revelation is that that is in itself is a sin, right?
That's a selfish, self-aggrandizing thing, right?
It's an arrogant, you know, he said too,
it's an arrogant thing to think that you're a special sinner.
Oh, you're the only, because everybody is.
Yeah, everyone is, it's a human condition.
So actually you're not a sinner at all, right?
Once you realize this. Well, you're just a sinner like everyone is, it's a human condition. So actually you're not a sinner at all, right? Once you realize this.
Well, you're just a sinner like everyone else
is the Christian version of that.
It's not that you're not a sinner.
I guess I'm thinking more of the self-help,
this is where it segues into self-helpiness, right?
It's take the, it's very Christian inspired, right?
But it's all the positive vibes, right?
So it's not like positive vibes, right?
So it's not like Jesus doesn't forgive you
in this cosmology, but you forgive yourself
and you forgive yourself by accepting yourself
for who you are and realizing that you're not a bad person.
I think the Christian version of it is
that Jesus tells you to do that.
Is it? Like Jesus tells you to forgive yourself because he forgave you, you know, he died for your sins
and whatnot. So like the least you can do is forgive yourself.
Really?
But I don't know.
I thought with Catholicism you needed God to forgive you.
Yeah, yeah, sure. But I'm saying if you combine the self-help with the Godly bit,
that's how
you could do that, where you're, you're realizing that that could be a halfway
house, yeah, but the pure self-help thing, which is Claudia was vibing there.
Was, was this thing?
And it, you know, it is the, it is the story and it is why these things can be
appealing, I think for people, right?
Because it's a little journey you go on to make
all your insecurities and your little self, you know, the little voice in your head, whatever,
and just banishing those bad thoughts. And who better to deliver that message than Matthew
McConaughey? Or Monk and the Destiny, you know, both via Matthew McConaughey. But then, you know,
the thing for me is like, if I take that story at peace value,
if I drop my old my cynicism,
what he said was like,
he found a monastery in the middle of the desert, right?
Then they rang a bell and then he went for a walk
with a monk for four hours.
He talked nonstop and the monk didn't say anything.
Then at the end he's like, you know.
He had a lot to confess, Chris.
He had a lot to confess.
A lot to confess.
He is having a lot of wild times there in Hollywood.
But go on.
The monk responded with two words, me too.
And then McConaughey lay on the ground, started crying, wiggling around like, I feel sorry
for the Lord.
Because Hollywood celebrity has come.
He's coming to me, he's screaming on the ground, crying.
That is not a situation I would find myself in for so many, many reasons.
But, you know, like you mentioned, so you said, you know, I think a version of this
happened now being the kind of person I am, of course, I looked into what is this
thing that he's talking about, it does exist.
And in fact, what's it called?
Christ in the desert, the monastery of Christ in the desert.
It's a Benedictine monastery.
And you can indeed go there and they have
visitors and they have retreats and this kind of thing.
It is at the end of a 13 mile path.
Now, McConaughey mentions that he'd be at the pilgrimage there,
but you can't just drive down the road. Look at the directions.
They're very clear. You can just drive up there. Sometimes there's backpackers and what, so don't be going. So it's not exactly that it's a unknown monastery. Indeed, lots of people go
there. And interesting, Brother Christian appears to now be the abbot of the monastery. It's Abbott
Christian. I wonder if this is a free service
that the Benedictine monks are providing
to listen to someone who rocks up for four hours
before imparting the wisdom.
Well, they have a gift shop,
and they have overnight stay options and whatnot,
so you can contribute to their cause.
And they do mention Matthew McConaughey
a couple of times on the website, not very much, just in the journals about him being around. So
I do believe that it's true that he did a version of this. I just think it's been heavily
dramatized in retelling. I suspect he had a walk in the chat with a monk and the monk said Look mom, you know, we all yeah. Yeah
Yeah, we're all i'm sure he says that's what i'd say. I think if somebody was going on like that
I don't think over four hours and I I don't think it's as dramatic as he recalls
But you know as you said, he's a sicker
type so this this kind of makes sense, right that he's
enlarged it in his mind.
But, um, in any case, I thought that was an interesting little interlude and you
can hear it in various other forms.
Now you mentioned this journal, my journaling is a world-class
journaler, um, and it's up there with confession.
Yeah.
And there's been a lot of dramatic delivery, right?
We just had a dramatic story.
The, the other point that I would also just mention is that one thing that perhaps Yeah, and there's been a lot of dramatic delivery, right? We just had a dramatic story.
The other point that I would also just mention is that one thing that perhaps eats into the
authenticity a little bit is that was all scripted, that whole retelling, right? Like,
so you know, the choking up and whatnot, maybe it's genuine or maybe it's just by the script,
maybe.
Yeah, I think this is the thing. I mean, when I think about like the sociological
or the interpersonal sort of things that give me red flags,
you were asking me before, what makes you skeptical?
Why doesn't this kind of vibe with you, right?
And like when someone is trying so hard to give the appearance of authenticity,
that I think it's reasonable to be authentic, to give the appearance of authenticity.
That I think it's reasonable to be suspicious, right?
Because this happens, right?
I actually had a, when I was living in Japan, Chris, you never told you this, but I was approached by some guy who turned out to be a total scammer.
He was, you know, it was like a legal scam.
They were trying to, they were clearly targeting expats in Japan who were making a bit of
money and wanted them to invest in their schemes or whatever. God knows. Once I figured out
what it was after, I just played him along. It keeps doing the same thing. It's run-of-the-mill
stuff. If you want to scam someone, you project as much authenticity, a much like, forging connection is the key thing.
Unfortunately, silly him, you didn't realize it's not that easy
to forge a connection with me, Chris.
He did not have the skills.
That's it. Yeah.
So, well, that is, I think, an aspect.
This is all about authenticity,
but it's the illusion of authenticity and
connection, right? Because this is a one way thing and we're going to get to the pitch,
right? You know, we've been leading to that.
Yeah. Like the fact that it's carefully scripted alone and all of these little jokes and asides
and emotional things, even the bongos or whatever, it was all, it's all planned out.
It's not like you just keep it across long goes.
They weren't like in the corner anyway.
I can play those.
No, no.
So yeah, when someone's scripting, they're like a pickup artist.
Like if someone's trying to pick you up and they're running from a script, then you should
be suspicious whether or not they really, really like you as a person and all that. Anyway, I think I'll make the point.
Well, actually, so it leads on to this next thing because his journal he has there with him and he picks it up.
That's a years old. So he's got a prop here. He's going to open it up and flick through for a piece of wisdom. So here's the next lesson for you, Matt.
for a piece of wisdom. So here's the next lessonyman? To look the boogeyman in the eye and laugh at him. To dare ourselves to be inconsiderate and not ask for
permission.
Sometimes we got to listen to that little whisper inside us
that only we can hear and chase that fucking dream down just
so we can find out.
That's a fun one, right?
You see that noise, by the way, Matt, that was him throwing the journalism.
So there was a there was a person who did like a critical kind of review of this event, chaos world.
And she was noticing that like he picked up the book, he's holding it,
you know, revered and then he just tosses it to the ground.
This side of the normal thing that you would do with a journal. But if that is an actual
entry in his journal, I think it also illustrates how different that Matthew McConaughey is
from like you or me, because that entry, you know, again, it's not a theme that you talked about to
dare ourselves to be considerate and not ask for permission.
Sometimes we've got to like, you know, listen to your heart.
It's in that theme of, you know, you got to be true to yourself.
No matter what it does to other people.
God damn it.
He's right though.
We shouldn't be asking permission to be considerate, Chris.
My God, this is a truth bomb.
He's dropped on it.
Can you imagine writing that down in a journal or anywhere else?
No, I can't. I can't definitely get that.
Well, I can't imagine you writing it down.
No, I can imagine writing other things, but not that. And so there was the theme there,
of the boogeyman, right? The boogeyman. So that gets us to the next testimonial section.
What's your boogeyman?
What's your boogeyman, Matt?
I'm going to ask you after you hear some prompts from other people.
And this time we get put it in the chat.
What do we got?
Whistle
Oh!
Alcohol!
Age, money,ion, mental health. My finances.
My father.
Heidi, control, letting go.
Hurt, pain, money and perfection.
Death, abuse.
Being average, my daughter, forgiveness, disorganization, being alone, burdened, losing it all.
I eat too much, solitude, irrelevant.
I'm a burden, abandonment, trust, being alone,
falling on my face.
There you go. What's your boogie mama?
What do you-
Well, we're going through stuff.
Are you looking at him?
We're going through stuff.
Yeah, you know, my boogie man is you texting me at six o'clock in the morning saying we've
got to decode Matthew McConaughey.
That's my boogie man.
But then, you know, you ask me about my demons.
What you got?
But be careful what you wish for.
You know what you see?
There's I there is something surreal about like Hollywood celebrity reading out
people's like alcoholism.
My daughter hates me to rock music and play in the bongos.
Right? This is lead-stage capitalism in action, I feel, Mark.
Yeah, I feel like there's also like a broad spectrum of problems that people have. On one hand,
like Matthew McConaughey is dealing with shit, for instance, feeling a bit antsy if he hasn't
accomplished something in the last 40 years. And then there's abuse, alcoholism and stuff on
the other end of the spectrum.
So, you know, it's, it's a broad, it's a broad secrets of things, but I guess,
I guess the rejoinder to that is it's all subjective, right?
So who can say, maybe the person, maybe, maybe, maybe Matthew McConaughey, you
know, suffers, suffers worse when he's thinking about not
accomplishing something for 48 hours and you can't compare, we're all suffering.
We're going to get into the end of this map, the pivot towards the hard sell and whatnot,
but there's just like little sprinkles of wisdom that I want you to ponder so I'll give you one more
Here start dissecting your successes more than your failures
They start being great at what you're good at instead of trying to be good what you bad at
What are you good at? What are you successful at?
Admit it What are you good at? What are you successful at?
Admit it.
Pfft. Shwee, shwee, shwee, shwee.
Pfft, pfft, pfft, pfft, pfft, pfft.
What are you good at, Matt?
Admit it, you're good at stats.
I know.
I'm good at, I should play to my strengths.
Yeah, I should do more stats. I should stop trying'm good. I should play to my strengths. Yeah, I should do more stats
I should stop trying to do impressions. He's right chris. He's right
There's a lot that we said I just I there's lots of other examples of that
Right, i've i've actually been restrained in playing it back. But
But this is basically the content right the content is oh, yeah, this is it. We're deep in it
No, we're deep in it now. We're deep in it.
There is music, there is people reading up their things, there's audience engagement,
and interspersed with that are aphorisms.
Yeah?
Yeah.
Don't...
What is it?
Jack of all trades, master of none.
Every one of the things that he said in this comes from a cliche.
An aphurism.
You know, that's, well...
I mean, that just seems like very light self-help.
It doesn't seem fleshed out.
It doesn't seem enough for five and a half hours.
No! A collection of cliches does not feel like it makes a self-help course.
If you think that the other speakers are going to give more meat and not do this, you're wrong.
This is par for the course here. But there was one segment that was a little bit like the monk in the desert.
I wonder if you noticed this or you had tuned out by this. So this is about a dream, a very unique dream. In 1999, I just had a dream that I was floating down a river, naked, wrapped up in anacondas,
sharks, piranhas, and crocodiles.
And lined along the ridge of the river, there were thousands of African tribesmen, each
holding a shield and a spear.
And it wasn't a nightmare. Actually, it was a wet dream.
No shit.
And it wasn't the first time that I'd had this dream.
I know, doesn't make sense.
But...
And because it wasn't the first time that I'd had this dream,
and because it was so peculiar and ironic,
the elements in the dream and the outcome,
I-I, I believe that
it had a message in it for me. A message I had to listen to. A message that I had to
chase. But what was the dream telling me? And just where was I supposed to chase it
to? Well, the only point of origin in the dream was the continent of Africa via the African tribesmen.
Well, Africa's a big continent.
Geez, where do I go?
A couple nights later, I'm sitting in my hotel room, still trying to figure out a clue to
help me chase the meaning of this dream down.
And I was listening to my favorite musician, Ali Farkatoure, when one of my favorite songs
of his came on. it's called I Do.
Now this had long been one of my favorite love songs, but I never really knew the exact meaning
of it because the lyrics were in the African language of Bambada, which I didn't understand.
It's quite an adventure to go on there, Matt.
So did you get the important details of that event?
Yeah.
So we started off with a wet dream, an autumnal emission, precipitated by the vision of going
down a river in Africa surrounded by African tribesmen.
Along with he was wrapped up in anacondas and crocodiles. W was wrapped up in anacondas and crocodiles.
Wrapped up in anacondas and crocodiles. Yeah, I mean that's normal for you in Australia. It's
probably why I didn't land that particular detail. And I do like how he described the situation as
like surreal and ironic, which just goes to show Chris that it's true that Americans don't know
what irony means. They really don't. Because you keep hearing Americans refer to the word,
use irony in situations that doesn't apply.
But that's on the side.
And by the way, I know when being to Americans,
I'm continually aware that most of our audience are American.
You're good sports. You're good sports.
Yeah, that's good.
How would you deal with it, Chris,
if you were listening to a podcast,
basically all in, every episode, day in, day out, there
is basically a pair of Americans criticizing stuff about Ireland.
How well would you take that?
No, that would never happen, Matt.
That would never happen because you are perfect.
Well, too many things would have had to go wrong for me to be in that situation.
You're like George Peterson, right? You just simply wouldn't be in that situation.
You're asking me a hypothetical, but I wouldn't be there, Matt.
Back to the story.
Yeah, I mean, they are good sports. I agree. But you know, it's meant with affection, so
that makes a difference. But I also think the, you know, one thing for me is
just like, this is a different kind of person for me, right? Because not that I might not have a
mental dream, like, you know, I have not experienced the kind of thing that he's talking about,
where is a recurring weirdo dream that leads to nocturnal emission. But nonetheless,
Dream that leads the bacterial emission but nonetheless if that happened I wouldn't be like what is the world trying to tell me? What does this dream mean?
Yeah, what does it mean and and but he does right? I think that's taken as a given right?
That's that's the premise or dreams dreams mean stuff means something
Yeah
And the fact that he's like talking about this in 1999,
I would be like, how do you remember a dream that you had?
And but like he journals and stuff, right?
So like this this could be a legitimate dream if we did this.
But it does speak to the way that he approaches things, because the outcome is,
like he said, he was thinking about it.
They listened to the CD.
It was by an African artist.
And then he read the lyrics. The lyrics were African artist. And then he read the lyrics.
The lyrics were poignant.
And then he decided thusly.
Well, that's when I thought, well, where's Ali from?
I looked it up.
Neofunk a Mali.
I said, well, that's where I'm going to go.
Trust that.
Two days later, I was on a flight to Mali, Africa to find Ali.
I did find Ali on that trip and many other truths that I to this day trust in.
I get it. It's hard to trust. So actually this story is well one just the end that is that like
so based on that dream insight he decided to take a trip to, you know, the country of origin for that singer.
And he had an adventure in Africa.
No doubt.
I'm sure if he went over and did that, that he would have an interesting time.
And, you know, if he tracked down the musician and told him I had a dream and blah, blah, blah, it would all lead to function at against.
But it does speak to the kind of like wealth we'd have that they could just decide to fly over.
They can literally follow their dreams?
Is that what you're saying?
But also, that story was just a pivot to, I get it.
It's hard to trust things.
His next lesson is about how we need to trust him away.
So that's very-
That was the takeaway for the dream Africa excursion.
Yeah.
Yeah, you got to trust-
He naturally might have struggled to trust that the dream was trying to tell him something.
Anything.
But it meant anything at all.
But he got over that and he went to Africa and had a great time.
Yeah. So that leads to these issues of trust.
This is directly after that story.
This is about trust.
So issues about trust, Matt.
Look, I think we can all admit that today the vibration of our lack of trust, it is separating us.
There is not much trust in the room.
And we are suffering from the fact.
You know, a study came out last year that less than 30% of people trust their own neighbors.
Oh, geez.
That's gross.
In our low trust society, we're anxious.
We're looking for a tribe. We're cynical.
We can't extend our hand to others
because we've forgotten how to extend our hand to ourselves.
We've got to shake hands again.
First with ourselves, then with each other.
It's the only way to build both of us up.
Mmm.
With the wisdom there.
There was a study, Mark. There was a study. Did you get by that study?
Yeah. Do I trust my neighbors? If that study exists, that's such a terrible survey question.
Do you trust your neighbors?
What does that mean?
Trust me, 30% ma, that's gross.
That is gross.
I trust you with my life.
That's kind of a less advanced version of the Dr. K or Huberman
use of studies.
There was a study that said 40% of us are not trusting our neighbors
Yep, 60% of Americans are unhappy. It's disgusting
And of us are too cynical for own good. That's right. It's three percent of aesthetic dreams about Africa and growing there
So these trust issues span again a huge spectrum on one hand you got people whatever maybe they've suffered abuse
So they can't trust other people in other sense the society is breaking down
So we can't even trust our own neighbors and Matthew McConaughey is struggling to trust his own sexual dreams about Africa
But you know what what can we do to resolve this today?
What would be a good thing for us to do today on this seminar?
What could it be?
What could it be?
Should I go to my neighbor's house, go visit him, extend my hand
in friendship, Chris?
Maybe after, not first.
Maybe there's something else you could do first.
So let's hear a little bit more about trust.
Look, I'm not asking us to blindly trust anybody and everyone all the time.
No, that would be foolish and unwise.
I get it.
Hell, it's a risk getting out of bed in the morning, but I am asking you.
I'm asking me to stop leading with distrust to stop making a lack of trust our default feeling on high.
If we distrust ourselves, if we distrust ourselves and our own intuitions,
we start missing out a lot in our life.
not a lot in our life. But when you trust others, when you give them a chance to heal,
we're also healing ourselves. I don't believe we're ever going to truly move forward, individually
or collectively, without having more trust. There has to be some amount of trust that we can all have the courage to give more than we do right now.
So I got a proposal.
How about this?
How about we agree and admit to having a five percent more trust coalition?
Yes, five percent. agree and admit to having a 5% more trust coalition.
Yes, 5%.
And look, and I know there's some tyrants out there sitting there listening going, oh, perfect.
I can't wait to take advantage of all these trust suckers.
And to that I say, you know what?
Yes, yes, if we trust more, we are going to get burned a time
or two more.
But the times that you get burned are going to pale in comparison to the strength, support,
victories and successes that you are going to get.
Watch out, there's a trust vampire in the building.
The trust tyrant might be closer than you think.
So he's looking to get that 30% statistic down to 25%.
Yeah, just for the good of his heart.
If you start out being cynical, opportunities are going to pass you by.
What kind of opportunities?
Well, we'll get to that.
As a general point of principle, just don't start out with your cynical, you know, mind games, right? Can we just be nicer?
And yeah, some people go and try and scam us, like some people.
Like they're the bad guys.
We know they're right there.
They're not here right now.
They're not in the room for a boss fight.
But if you're suspicious, if you're skeptical, then these opportunities are going to pass you by.
We wouldn't want that, would we? Yes.
So that's the end, by the way, of the Matthew McConaughey
segment.
He disappears here.
This is him going out.
There's a lot of what we might call
canned laughter, canned applause, just to him leaving.
So let's hear that.
Just imagine the technician is just mashing keyboards.
Yeah.
Or maybe it's genuine, Matt.
Maybe this is genuine. Let's see if we could listen to tell.
All right. So I've asked you to admit a whole lot of things today.
Thank you for playing along and interrogating yourself.
Thank you for not judging yourself.
And just good old admitting.
And now, if anything, can we all just have a good old giggle at ourselves for being human?
Remember, guilty and approved at the outset.
I think we've all earned a heartfelt laugh at the fact that we may not be as evolved
of a species as we like to think we are.
Sorry, but we gotta admit it.
What do you think? Genuine? we are. Sorry, but we gotta admit it.
What do you think? Genuine?
Because it's not that they've just used a canned laughter
track. It's that they've really decided to center it as a
feature. Like they went through the four different or five different options on the
keyboard there. And that was part of the thing. Like now, now, laugh at yourself.
Yeah, that's, I felt sorry for McConaughey's delivery there as well. Like, cause he, he
was also so, was the giggle at one point. It just does look a little bit painful, but
so there, Matt, you pivot out.
I'm not going to go through the whole thing. So don't worry. We're like, we're not going through
the other four hours of speakers, but I do have a clip from a couple of the other ones and then
the pivot. Right. So, you know, we heard the emotional kind of laughter appeal and now you're
going to hear Matthew McKenna, not MC person, do the introduction for the next kind
of self help guru. Right. So you'll hear the glazing again, but this time from Mafia McConaughey
directly. So listen to this.
I met our first guest recently on a podcast and we had a lot in common right away
She is willing to admit to truths about herself about life
successes and failures
She has faced and made many a boogeyman bow down
Never one to be complacent. She is committed
To making the hard choices that do bring
more balance, more joy, more love to her life, and the
lives of those around her.
That's cool.
Today, she's going to share a game-changing philosophy on
finding and committing to living more of your best life,
being more of your best life being more
Of your best you by making one simple change in how you think
You can only do what you do when you're clear about what you don't
Marie folio, that's a cool introduction
My professionalism is seeping away
No, that was it. Well, you know, that's all there's nothing you need to say Matt, you know
She's got a message and by the way, I'll spoil it cuz I'm not gonna play it after her
Single technique to solve your problems. So what I want to share now, this is something I'm so excited about.
This is a simple science back trick that helped me eliminate probably one of the most destructive patterns that I had.
Right.
It was this hidden addiction that was
preventing me from getting to my next level of more.
And I promise you this.
So I've taught this now to tens of thousands of people.
And what you're about to learn, it's it's so simple. It works like magic. And I promise you like pinky swear, it's
going to help you eliminate any emotional or behavioral or thought pattern that's holding you
back. Cool. Are you guys into this? Yes.
Instead, tell yourself, I'm not going to be anxious.
Like, just don't be anxious.
When you feel anxious, just like don't.
That's her thing.
That's her thing.
That's her thing.
That's it.
Wait a minute.
Marie Forleo, what are you saying right now?
Like, do you hear yourself?
Are you listening to yourself?
This is the same sad, I'm so overwhelmed song for years.
This is super stressful.
This is no way to live.
Are you finally ready, girl, to let this thing go?
And in an instant, I kid you not, this magical little
phrase appeared in my mental theater.
I didn't think it up.
I didn't try and create it.
It was a mantra that flashed in my mind
and I feel like it was a gift from the divine
or from my higher self.
Here it was, you ready for it?
I don't do overwhelm.
I don't do overwhelm.
The second I heard those words, I don't do overwhelm.
I gotta tell you, my shoulders relaxed.
I felt this like 400 pound weight lifted off of me.
It was as if a portal opened up
and I was shown this whole other possibility
for how to live my life.
And from that instant on, I don't do overwhelm,
that actually became a part of my new internal programming.
That became my new mantra, my new affirmation.
I kept saying it out loud and in my head.
I was like, I don't do overwhelm.
I don't do overwhelm.
You know what?
I actually, I don't do overwhelm.
I just feel like this is low effort self-help.
I mean, I'm not familiar with the self-help workers, but in my imagination, they have
like entire systems, like a whole baroque kind of thing.
Whereas McConaughey's is just take a journal, confess, trust.
Yeah, they're all like this.
They're all like this.
I'm sorry to spoil the illusion.
But so the woman that he introduced there, the Marie Forleo, she comes on and you'll hear some of the films that we've heard throughout.
Thank you so much. So first of all, how awesome is Matthew? Are you guys enjoying this? And I want to let you know he's coming back so much more today.
So let's see, we've got Arayne, we've got Kelly, we've Mike, Omar, oh my goodness. You guys, are we ready for some fun?
Let's do this.
Just in case you're worried, Matthew is coming back.
In case you get bored with the other speakers, he's coming back.
Don't go anywhere.
Yeah, he's coming back.
So I'll only play one more clip of her content to show that you don't need to hear it because it's the exact same thing that they've all been doing so far. So listen to this. achieve something or become something or build something. And then it finally happened, right?
You got that relationship, you got that career,
you got that business, you got that family.
And then all of a sudden, you hit a wall.
Either you ran out of gas, right?
You got exhausted, or maybe you got stressed,
or you lost your passion, or you got bored.
Or maybe, maybe your soul started nudging you from the inside
and saying, Hey, you know, this thing that you wanted for so long, this thing that you
work so hard for actually you're meant to go in a whole different direction.
And then in that transition, right in that realization, you started feeling totally lost,
unsure of yourself, and you started wondering like,
how the heck do I figure out where to go from here?
Anyone ever felt that?
If you felt that, I wanna let you know you are not alone.
Now look, if you also identify as a creative, right?
As a dreamer, as a go-getter,
if you're that person that people always come to
for ideas and for support, if you're that invisible strength
and that stability that other people rely on.
And right now, if you know in your heart
that there's a bigger future for you,
if you know that you are meant for more,
I gotta tell you, this is especially important
what we're gonna dig into right now because sometimes it's just harder for people like us.
I just felt like I was swimming in the munch.
Trico?
Yeah, yeah.
Well, it's got that aspect of got that aspect of you know, the the prayers for the audience right like are you the secret support?
Are you the hard done by that's me? I'm creative. I'm a I'm a candy person
I've accomplished things yet. I still feel dissatisfied sometimes. What do you feel? Is this for me? It feels like it's for me
Are you sometimes exhausted? Matt? Are you stressed you over it?
I was like, it's for me. Are you sometimes exhausted, Matt?
Are you stressed?
Are you over-eaten?
Yes, yes, and yes.
Yeah, and you heard the same thing.
You're a victim of your own success.
Yeah, the solution is to, don't worry.
First of all, don't worry about it.
Don't be anxious.
Accept yourself for who you are.
Find a community, other people, connection.
Acknowledge the rule in the same boat together.
Yeah, it's like if you took a religion and you stripped away all the religious bits,
this would be the stuff that's flipped over.
Yeah, I mean, it's not terrible.
You know, it's just...
Yeah.
If it was free.
Yes, that would be the difference.
That would be the difference.
So, okay, she goes on, you know, she gives a pivot.
There's also another speaker later.
They all come in different flavors.
There's like a there's one that does like a kind of a pep talk, like an intense, you know, like a coach kind of pep talk with like music building up and saying like, you are what you need to be. You need to work.
Never back down when your back's against the wall. It matters how many times you get back up, not how many times you fall.
It's about your mentality. What's the point of dreaming a dream
if you're not working to turn that dream into reality? So speak life into your life.
Speak life into your life right now in the chat. Speak life into your life right now in the chat speak life into your life.
Say I am purpose, I am healed, I am free, I am me, I am my next level, I am greatness.
Speak life into your life. As Marie said, I am not these things anymore. Speak life
into your life. Be your own motivation. You see a legend is just an ordinary person with extraordinary determination.
So find a way to make one because at the end you just regret the chances you didn't take.
So find the courage to take one.
Your only limit is you. Don't surrender to your struggle.
Make that struggle surrender to you.
You see pain is temporary, but giving up is forever.
Never settle for good enough when you know inside you live something better.
You didn't come this far just to settle. You didn't come this far just to accept whatever.
You came this far to take it to your next level. You came this far to become something greater.
You came this far to become something greater.
I don't care what I have to stack to get you, my friends.
You are highly faith.
So for your family, for your life, for your vision, for this world.
Don't you ever stop working?
You know, like the there's different delivery depending on what appeals.
You know what, our friend Aaron, Aaron Rabinowitz, he would say that this is like a church for
the meritocratic, secular religion that is neoliberal.
That's what neoliberal America.
Well, if it's not my church.
No, no, but it's like it does the same thing a church did for medieval Europe.
And it's doing the same sorts of functions for contemporary modernity.
That's what Aaron would say. That's exactly what he would say.
I hear a lot of the prosperity gospel stuff, like you are meant for, like it's just a self-actualization
thing. Like everybody is meant for bigger things. Yeah. I mean, but look, I mean, as a psychologist,
I tend to think about how religions tend to serve functions, right? Very much like how Manvier was
talking about how shamans serve functions. Religions serve functions. One of the things they do is they help solve, they help deal with,
address existential anxieties and stresses that are sort of
inherent in the lifestyle and the social order and the system in which people are
living. And you can see it very clearly that the medieval church was doing that for medieval people.
And my theory, this is a theory, and it's really Aaron's theory, but this is that, but
for contemporary capitalists, meritocratic, neoliberal, modern country.
But I guess the issue is like, I'm pretty much okay with meritocracies and capitalism
and whatnot.
But it's not a judgment.
There's no judgment to say that meritocracy is bad, right?
Or capitalism is bad or modernity is bad.
It's just saying that there is inherent anxieties and existential concerns.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
We're hooked up in it, right?
Because what bothers us? We're not stressing about God will be angry with us so the black death is going to come and our children will die. That's not an existential concern for us. It was for them. But for us, we have different ones.
We're not actualized enough. individual accomplishment and individual achievement, right? Passing grades, you know, look at the Twitter and all of the Manosphere and all of the people, like, you know, social media.
There's an image of a perfect life, which for the Manosphere kids, it's like lots of girlfriends
and they're driving a fancy car and stuff like that. For the tradcon, wives will be something
else. For the people with intellectual pretensions. It'll be our gurus, right?
But there is an image of, of what you should be.
And, you know, this self-help type stuff is about addressing like the 99.99%
of us that, that don't get it in, in our, in our life.
Oh, sure.
Sure.
Yeah.
I can see that point for it.
And I think you can see it does like a good thing in the shadow of contemporary individualist
capitalist society.
So I'm on board with that.
I'm just saying there are people that are generally on board with those societal things
who don't like this.
But yes, I agree.
I agree.
No, I'm not.
I am on board.
I am on board with this.
I know.
I know.
I'm not saying you know what I'm saying.
I know you're not.
I'm not making some leftist cultural critique of everything.
I don't mind if you were.
Aaron was.
Sorry.
Well, so, no, that girl goes away.
Okay.
And then you get back to Dean Grazio.
And this is where we're going to get to the CLPFET.
But Dean Grazio, same kind of thing.
Listen to this little clip. Wasn Was it nice to have Marie here?
And I gotta tell you so uh, mcconaughey's coming back out. So I hope nobody's leaving not even for a second and I have to tell you and
Being in the back here that he's helped create such a casual vibe that's going on here. I have to you know, we got
2.4 million people registered
from this event, and it is 150 countries around the world.
And it's such a cool vibe.
And when Matthew came off, I have to tell you,
I could see the excitement in his face
because of your chat.
I watched it happen.
Who in here watched it when he started reading the chats?
You could see him leaning in, having more fun, right?
I see it's Susan and Daniel and Juan and Linda and Linnae, right? I watched it too and it's pretty amazing.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. McConaughey was connecting with you. You touched Matthew McConaughey deep inside.
That's right. No, there was also the aspect there that he's coming back.
Don't worry, don't go anywhere.
He's like, Jesus Christ, he's definitely coming back.
Just wait.
But I also, I don't know, Matt, this might be reading between the lines too much, but
I did feel like a note of like, implicit criticism there where he's like, you know, when he was
interacting with you guys, you can see he was more engaged.
Like that's when it was feeling more real.
And yes, he is there, you know, suggesting he's enjoying the connection with you.
But I also felt like a little bit just feedback, you know, your delivery was a
little bit flat when it came to the scripted stuff, but the reading the things
as when you started to relax.
So I don't know.
That's, that's just what I meant because this guy is, you know, the Uber guru.
Okay.
No. Okay. So he's gonna get Matthew back. Don't worry. He's coming back, but he just wants to, you know, mention a couple of things first.
Now I got a couple of things to share here today. And then we we're gonna bring Matthew back out. But in the meantime,
I wanna share, in this shifting time,
we have to agree, I said it earlier,
I don't wanna beat it up, but this is a shifting time.
This is where, when we have things that are bugging us,
it's like there's a magnifying glass on it.
And sometimes we feel stuck.
Sometimes we're doing okay, we wanna go to the next level.
Sometimes we just gotta get back in the game. Sometimes we're doing okay, we want to go to the next level. Sometimes we just got to get back in the game.
Sometimes we want to reinvent, reconnect, start over.
Or as Matthew Sun said, just meet new people
and do cool things.
And for some reason, we're holding back.
But I want to give you a little kudos today.
Just by you being here, you're ahead of most.
Because most people complain about things going wrong. Most people are upset about what's happening in the world and they get
sucked into one way or another and they're not doing something. You guys are
taking the time to be here today so celebrate yourself. Celebrate yourself
being here. You are taking the uncomfortable action it takes to move
forward. Yep quite a few things going on there.
Call back to what you was doing at the beginning. You know, give yourself a great big clap on the back.
You've taken the first step towards yada, yada, yada.
Uh, but I liked in the beginning there, he, he like covered all the bases.
Oh, all of the situation, you know, you might be wanting to get into something.
You might be wanting to just get out of something you might be.
If that sounds like you.
Yeah, that's it. Reinvent, reconnect, start something new, start over, start again.
I mean, like it's it's a hell of a shtick.
And that bit, you know, the audience careers, the manipulative,
parasocial kind of thing about like, look, other people, they're doing nothing.
They're sitting on the fat arses.
You came out here today to this live stream.
Yeah, you're taking like the heart.
That's our courage, Chris.
That's our courage to log on to this live stream.
Yeah, it takes a lot of courage, I think,
for listeners of Decoded Negros to see a three hour Matthew McConaughey special
and take the plunge and say, yeah, I make that choice for themselves.
Yeah, I'm going to click on that.
This is for me.
I'm going to sit through this.
All of people working.
They learn it.
They don't have the brass balls that you've had.
And anyway.
Well, that's yeah.
But, you know, in the same way that like the gurus are often telling their audience,
you know, you guys are willing to look more critically at the stuff
to think about the science, you know, you're not swallowing what you're told. It's the same thing,
right? It's just delivered with more directness than we're used to in the content. Likewise,
Matt, strategic disclaimers and the Omega principle mixed in together.
Matt Moseley, The Omega Principle
And not everything we share, not everything I share is going to be perfect or Marie or
Trent or Tony or even Matthew.
But if there's one thing, if there's a couple of things that allow you to go, oh, I can
make a difference, then we did our job here today.
And I like to simplify.
We're here to learn the art of living.
Right?
So, you know, if Martin I've said some stuff, if it's not that insightful, if there's, you
know, if you think you've wasted three hours, so this is gonna be flat wrong, right?
But yeah, you can find in this entire thing. Just one thing
It was time well spent. Oh
This is so yeah, that's that's beautiful. Just remember that okay, but when you're writing your reviews any
Review makers, that's right. Just remember that. Okay. But when you're writing your reviews, any Review makers, that's right. Just remember, was there really nothing,
nothing at all in the three hours? That was good. You could have just chosen to focus on that.
Now we're going to get to the pitch mat and this is, this is some incredible stuff here. So
Dean is the pitch man, right? So you need to listen to how he's making the pivot because we've
been talking about spiritual stuff. We've been talking's making the pivot because we've been talking about spiritual stuff.
We've been talking about self-help.
We've been talking about the need to trust more.
We do need to talk about sales, Matt.
And sales makes people uncomfortable.
We think of sales, sometimes we think of it as icky.
I want you to tell you something, you know what's icky?
The people that do the wrong things when they influence.
If you sell a really bad car to an elderly person
and they don't know it, that's not sales,
you're just a bad human.
If you sell drugs to a drug addict, you're a bad human.
But sales, if you really take sales, influence, persuasion,
when you know it can help someone's life,
when it's a good product, or you're selling yourself
to your children, you're influencing your children,
influencing people you love, or offering something
that can really make a difference in their life,
then sales is love.
Sales is service.
Think about this, who in here is glad
that you were influenced to show up here today?
Raise your hand or put it in the chat.
McConaughey is watching your chat all.
So who is glad if you read green lights, who's glad you were influenced to read green lights?
So if we look through sales and influence in a different lens, then all of a sudden
we realize it's love.
There is just something so hilarious about the guy making those points, hammering home,
and then the guy pressing the button with the applause.
I just thought, oh my goodness me.
Have you ever considered that Seals is like-
I hadn't considered that Chris. Um, my mind was blown
Yeah, that is I thought this was pretty impressive
He drew a long bow there, but my god
He that arrow it hit the bullseye
I mean, it's basically I was convinced by the end of it. I realized that you know what we do with our children Chris
We're trying to we're trying to help them raise them.
We're influencing them.
That's what a person who is selling you something is doing to you.
If they know that you need the thing that they are selling you.
Brunen.
Yeah.
Well, influencers get a bad rap, but don't we want to influence people to do good things?
So should we really be dismissive of influencers? Like it's, you know, it's a case by case business,
man. And also I did like it, maybe, you know, you've talked quite a lot about the parallels
with, you know, religion. I like the notion that like, raise your hand, put it in the chat.
McConaughey's watching your chat.
He's just keeping an eye.
You wouldn't want that.
Cause he enjoyed it so much.
He really enjoyed it before reading it out, you know, doing the sort of beat poetry to the chat, so he's back there.
He's just glued to it now.
Yeah.
I, I, you know, he is coming back, so keep an eye, but like, so this is incredible.
Right.
Like seals his love. It's good that he sets this groundwork cause we're about to, you know, he is coming back. So keep it that way. But like, so this is incredible. Right. Like Seals is love.
It's good that he sets this groundwork because we're about to, you know, get there.
Yeah.
I wonder, I wonder what he could be talking about next Chris.
Yeah.
Some people think Seals is icky Matt, but they just, they have them.
They're just wrong.
No, because Seals is love.
When you think about it, if you have something that is very valuable and important,
it would actually be selfish not to sell it to someone, wouldn't it?
Yeah, yeah, definitely.
Listen, I wasn't joking before. Matthew's worked his tail off. I mean, we got eight months working
on this and what's next for you. I mean, we spent five days in a table in the other room
a month ago, we spent another four days this week
gaining the skills, fine tuning every bit of messaging.
He's doing that out of love.
And it would be a disservice to him not to offer it to you.
Is that true?
So in your life, if you start falling in love
with what you wanna provide a spouse, a friend,
your children, in your new business, in your career, the people you work with, you want to provide a spouse, a friend, your children, in your new business,
in your career, the people you work with, you realize that influence is one of the greatest
gifts to go to your next level.
All change starts with influence.
He's talking very quickly there.
So I may have lost the thread a little bit.
Help me.
Oh, well, it was very similar to what you were saying about, you know, like you want
to influence your children, your spouse, you want saying about, you know, like you want to influence your children your spouse
You want to provide you want to give them love? You've got something valuable
My Matthew has spent eight months
Eight months, but and not just a month. Yeah, it must have taken him
I'm surprised that you know, how long did it take him to come up with the we had the journaling idea
You had a trust idea. we had the confession idea.
I mean, he did a lot in eight months. He deserves to get paid for this, Chris. It would be a crime
not to. Yeah, yeah. And also, you know, they spent five days around the conference table,
talking about what they're going do. Yeah, that's exhausting
Yeah, four days this week fine tuning every bit of messaging. So that's you know, like it heads. It's
Incredible. That's nine days total
It once is not the sea of us like, you know, try the years I've spent 30 years holding this message like Like it once is actually a relatively, it was a harrowing experience, but it was the
love.
It was the love that carried them through it, Chris.
I know it's the love and sales and really is there any difference between sales?
I see now that it's the same thing.
That's good.
I'm glad you've seen that.
So now that you've seen that, let's bring Matthew back out.
He was there, you know, he was reading the chats, playing the bongos.
Here he is again.
People have known you for the amazing actor you are.
I watched your Oscar winning speech.
So so killer.
And you play amazing characters.
This is different.
This is you today.
Vulnerable. You being you.
They're not they're not, I love that character.
They're thanking you.
So I guess the question is, with all that you've done,
and we're halfway through this day,
we got a lot more coming, how you feeling?
I'm feeling as alive as I've ever felt.
I'm feeling a little more alive
than I maybe even thought I was gonna feel.
Look, I make films.
I'm playing someone else's character in a script that someone else wrote,
directed by someone else, lynched through a camera by someone else, and
edited by someone else.
So it's like four or five filters before my expression gets to get to you in the theater.
Even writing the book, it's still one filter.
You have to look at the written word.
This is filter-less.
That's what I mean by it's live and a-live.
To be there and to be here talking to each one of you
individually, but over 2.4 million of you,
that collective of individuals all here for the same purpose
and to get responses back from you?
Questions?
Admitances?
The conversation, the live conversation, I did not know it was going to be this much
of a buzz and a damn good buzz it is.
So I'm having a great time.
I don't really want it to end.
We're not close to the end, are we?
No, we got plenty going.
We got plenty going.
We're only halfway through, man.
We are not.
We are not. We're almost at the end. We're not close to the end, are we? No, we got plenty going. Go, go, go, go. We got plenty going. We're only halfway through, Matt.
We are not.
We are not.
We're almost at the end.
We're almost done.
They are true.
This is only like R2 of the FIVAR event.
Wow.
Wow.
They wear you down.
Maybe it's like you know the...
I think I understand.
Yeah, I think that's how like they get the sale, right? You You sit there. You're just gonna watch a little bit
Get a bit of hooked and after a while you're just swimming with all of this all of these words
Did you get at your credit card? But um
Yeah, yeah, so Matthew McConaughey. This is real right like he's
Is authentic he put himself on the line here, right?
He's extremely vulnerable to do this,
to come on stage with you guys.
So I'm feeling a little bit like I don't wanna let
the McConaughey down, yeah?
Cause it would be kind of sad if he was rejected, hey?
I was telling Dean earlier,
the immediate interaction and Achara having back with me and us and we're having back with you.
This is a buzz like I've never, never failed before.
And my heart is very filled with this relationship we got going today.
Thanks for being here.
This is the first time you've actually experienced him directly.
Like everything else is for a filter.
You know, you might have liked his movies, but that was through the director's filter, the producer's filter,
his book even, you know, that was the written word. And actually, as it turns out, if you listen to
him in all our interviews, there were ghost writers involved as well. He didn't mention that filter
in this episode, but this time Chris, he was reading those text messages out loud.
Directly, he was getting a buzz from that.
I wonder, I mean, I also, you know, we're being, I think appropriately cynical here,
but also I wonder if he did get the buzz of the self-help salesman buzz, you know,
where there's all these people and responding.
Like, I wonder if that is true, because like he's still doing that.
Yeah, I like I wonder too, like I wonder, well, you know, this is the same question
crops up every time, right?
Are they for real?
And because there are people, you know, he's a Hollywood actor anyway, from California.
He's a different world from us
So, you know, he went to the monastery
Talk to the monk, right? We don't know for how long but he's clearly a different kind of person. They definitely believe in
This so you know you you've said once or twice he's from California
But isn't he originally from Texas just because I'm sure somebody will point point that out. He's an honorary Californian. That's OK.
That's what you mean. That's fine.
That's just come on. Come on.
You'll get emails.
He's got a penthouse in Hollywood, I'm sure.
OK. Well, my.
So we're almost there, Matt.
We're almost at, you know, where this has been leading.
We're not going to go through the other
remaining three hours of content, but
there's just one more, you know, Matthew's there on stage with Dean.
What's going to happen now?
Second question I got for you.
You got a lot going on.
You got TV, something TV coming up.
You got movies coming up.
I get to see behind the curtain, like I said earlier, I know how important
your relationship is with your wife.
I love watching you two behind the scenes. It's even way better than you
would think in the front. Your connection is inspiring. The way you talk about your
kids, the time you spend with your kids. Man, you put a lot of time into this, a lot of
work into this, and some great things that we get to share with you, Terry, even more
of what this guy's done over the last eight months. Crazy nights. We've up to midnight going back and forth after midnight a few times. Yeah
What drove you to go deeper?
Just a great guy they've us he's worked so hard it's
Amazing. It's you know, he's an actor. He's doing tons of stuff. Matt. He's a good. He's a great husband. This is
Wonderful father. It's just beautiful of stuff, Matt. He's a good, he's a great husband. He's just wonderful father.
It's just beautiful theme.
Yeah. I mean, look, Chris, this is not connected actually, but so many
times I've mentioned the 2.4 million registrations.
I noticed they said 2.4 million people registered for the event.
That's a lot.
That's a big number, right?
Yes, it is. It is a lot.
But these are the premier league.
You know, you got Tony Robbins, you got Dean Grazio.
I mean, good God, man.
And you've got Matthew McConaughey.
So I suspect this is because they mentioned at their events
there was a huge audience, like in the millions.
So I think McConaughey's Hollywood star is that kind of supercharging their usual audience.
So I even with what I would imagine is some inflation there because like 2.4 million registrations. Sure. But like I've never a live stream of 2.4 million people seems very unlikely. So yeah.
million people seems very unlikely. So yeah.
Yeah. OK. Just checking.
Just checking. Yeah.
Well, OK.
So, you know, we know Matthew's worked a lot.
He's been up past midnight a couple of times, at least nine days.
It's total and now we get to the final part of our episode, the Seals Pipette.
Who's felt this man's heart today? The energy, he doesn't need to be here.
He wants to be here.
He doesn't need to go beyond.
He's got a bunch of acting roles,
and he could just go down that road.
But he kind of got bit with the book and seeing that.
Yeah.
And this kind of transformation that we need.
I'll tell you, Tony and I have been doing this.
I've been in this industry 27 years.
Tony for over 45. Tony's got number one best-selling personal
development course in ever, personal power, I've had a couple of number one best-selling
courses. But I'll tell you, what you put together is going to change the game. It truly is revolutionary.
It's an evolution. And it's an opportunity for you to go on a road trip with this guy,
let him ride shotgun.
So if you don't mind, I'm going to let them know what we did.
You're going to let them know?
I'm going to let them know.
I'm getting out of here.
You let them know.
Appreciate it.
Guys, Matty's going to be back in a few minutes here, but I get the privilege, I get the honor
to share with you what this man has worked on for eight months.
Can we just pause that for a second Chris because there's already so much good stuff there.
So it's really emphasized and you could tell that they planned this to make the point very clearly
Matthew McConaughey, he doesn't need your money. He doesn't need you to sign up. This isn't about that.
That he got bit with the bug, right?
He wrote the book and self-help,
he's seen the power to change and stuff like that.
And you know, he wants to be here.
He's here by his own choice.
And also just how much has been moved, you know?
He's connected with all you people.
So now he's discreetly leaving
the stage.
Discreetly. It's a rather awkward leaving. Will you let me tell them what you've done?
Are you going to tell them? You're going to tell them, no?
All right. You tell them.
I'm going to just go right here at the door, because I feel he's not polished enough to
do the sales pitch part, right?
This is the part where it's actually hard to do this.
This is closing the deal, right?
Yeah.
So he's just gotta go off stage now, but he'll be back!
After this distasteful function has been.
All right. I do. And that part is a big part of it, Matt. And I think it's also the reaction
I had when I saw this was like, why is Matthew McConaughey doing this? He's an A-League
multi-millionaire, multiple decade career in Hollywood as a leading man.
Why would he be getting into a self-help exploitation money grab?
I think that's part of the thing is it is a good justification.
Why would my people gonna scam you?
He's already got a lot of money.
He doesn't want your money.
Why would he be doing that? It's sort of like brazen to put that in people's faces.
It's very brazen because you know that's a standard confidence trick as well, right?
You know, you're the Mr. Moneybags with the suit and the top hat.
Yeah, I don't need your...
Of course I'm not going to be stealing your wallet. I'll write you a check, my good
sir. Anyway.
I also like that bit. Tony Robbins, he's been here 45 years, number one bestseller. I've
got bestsellers too. 27 years for me. But all of that, it's been pretty good, granted,
but no. With Matthew McConaughey, something big is coming.
We've supercharged it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
All their careers have been leading to this.
The revelations of the journaling and the confessions and the trust.
And the monk in the desert.
And the sexy dream in Africa.
I mean, it was all leading to this.
Yeah.
So let's hear it. This is the the money shot, so to speak.
So good. And speaking of that, speaking of a roadmap, you know,
we've been we have been working eight months on this part is this
event to put 2.4 million people together all these people. There's
125, actually 300 people working on this event behind the scenes
right now.
It's an incredible operation.
Y'all couldn't see it.
There's a lot going on and has been going on for eight months to get to this right now.
Yeah, and those late nights, it was part for this, but it was partly to go more.
You know, it's that transformation.
I always looked at it as the book today, as amazing as today is.
I hope you're inspired today.
I hope this book inspired you. But inspiration only lasts
a little bit. I learned that from Tony Robbins 25 years ago. Inspiration only lasts a little bit.
We need transformation. You called it, the book was an approach. It was time for the process,
what everybody was asking on you. So I'd love to share a little bit about what we've been working
on as well as this for the last eight months, because it's been a heavy lift. Oh sorry Matt, that comes slightly before.
So that was the intro.
But it's actually good you played it in that order because I missed something which is
the other justification before the ask is they've been working so hard on this.
How much they've put in.
Yeah.
Really, they've sweated blood to just crank
this stuff out. It looks like they just got a stage and they did some rehearsal speak
with... It looks like they've got a keyboard with a soundtrack, but yeah, just can you
imagine what went into that? Like to actually create that. That's... Yeah, that must have
been gruelling. They deserve to get paid something for all that, don't you think?
Yeah, yeah.
So this is true, Matt.
Let's move on with the pitch.
So now McConhaigh is offstage and we've got to get down to brass tacks, but maybe a little
bit more waffling before that.
Don't leave.
There's so much.
Tony Robbins is coming. Trent Shelling before that. where you could have this man ride shotgun with you to build something immersive.
Can't even call it a course.
We'll call it an immersive learning.
And this is what you get.
Guys, could you pull this up?
I'm so excited.
I get the honor to share this with you
because here's what I know.
If you're gonna get from where you are
to where you wanna go,
you're probably gonna need some help.
Sometimes we get stuck.
And at this phase, all this time with him, I think McConaughey is the perfect person You're probably going to need some help. Sometimes we get stuck.
And at this phase, all this time with him, I think McConaughey is the perfect person
to go along that ride with you.
Can you pull this up guys?
It's road trip, the highway to more.
Oh, okay.
This is exciting.
I'm keen to hear.
Yeah.
So what comes up then is like a, you know, an infographic like kind of thing.
And he's going to go through this is what's in the course.
You're going to get this and that's going to be like 12 sessions of this.
And we're going to throw in my course, which is usually it's all its own course,
but you're going to get like six months subscription there for free.
You're going to get this and blah, blah.
And also that I'm at that pitch that like, don't you want Matthew McConaughey
there on the journey beside you?
Like, wouldn't you want Matthew McConaughey?
Yeah, I want him running.
I want him riding shotgun on my life, Chris.
That's what I want him driving in the car, you two going on the road.
Yeah, it's it's so with it.
And especially given you you know, vulnerable
given who they're targeting.
That's right.
I know.
Yeah.
And McConaughey being like, I would love this.
You know, it's been great.
Like talk and not be, I forgot the venture map, but that bit where he's like
individually connecting with each one of you in a 2.4 million collective group.
Like he, he managed to both emphasize like that this is a huge group.
And yet I'm individually, you know, it's personal to every one of you.
So it's the kind of Barnum.
Yeah.
And we talk about parasocial stuff, those, those dynamics in the group here, but
you know, this is the, this is the purest stuff, right?
This is, this is where it comes from.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So are you going to play the clip of him
revealing all of the great stuff you're going to get like selling a set of steak nights Chris?
Yeah. We had so much fun partnering and working with McConaughey that we wanted to create something
so irresistible during this event that if you're thinking about it you got to say yes and this is
only for this event.
We decided to give you three months free of Mastermind.
Now that's a platform Tony and I created to have the
immersion, have the repetition, have the accountability.
And here's what we're going to do.
You'll also get three monthly live trainings.
Now if you think about the weekly you're going to get,
that's about the course.
This is next level. These are deep dive and I'll be live in May. In June
you'll have Marie Forleo back on how to have the big ask. Who'd like some more
Marie Forleo? And here's a cool part. Just a couple days ago Matthew McConaughey
agreed to come back in July for a training to show you how he uses
journaling to take his success to the next training to show you how he uses journaling
to take his success to the next level.
So you'll have live monthly trainings as well.
This is how you immerse yourself.
This is how you say, I'm not settling
for where my life was.
I'm going to where I deserve to be
and I wanna gain new skills,
look through a new set of glasses and take action.
So you have live monthly trainings.
Here's the cool part.
You get four years of the past trainings.
They're unbelievable.
OK, you have access to that.
Next, as a part of Mastermind, this bonus we're given three
months for free, you're going to get a new course every
month, and it's already got 20 courses in it.
Persuasion, creative storytelling, no limits,
confidence.
There are so many amazing mini courses.
And here's how I want you to look at these.
What Tony and I are giving you, the course is your main
focus.
You go through what McConaughey created.
You fill out your interactive workbook.
You show up for those eight week training game changer.
Look at what Tony and I are doing is like
Christmas presents.
I want a little bit more about persuasion.
Let me go grab this course.
I want a little bit more about relationships.
Let me go grab this course. We just want to bit more about relationships. Let me go grab this course.
We just want to give you that access to immerse yourself
to make the shift.
Who knows they have to make a shift?
Raise your hand if you know you have to do something different.
That you have to go all in, that you have to burn the boats.
And that's why we did this.
We'll also add another 50 meals through Feeding America.
We're already over a million, so let's go to two million so we can do a little good for ourselves and some good for other people.
Well, there you go. That's a fantastic offer.
You see that's for this, like, but they're usually for kitchen appliances and things and things like that.
But it's fantastic.
You know, you get this much value, you know, 12 months for this for free, you know, and this is at a low, low price.
It was $6,000 now only.
Oh, yeah.
All that.
And that's, that's this slip map.
So this, this, this is, you know, when we get down to brass tax, what, how much,
how much would you pay for this kind of thing?
Like how much could you afford to lose by not getting this?
Right.
Now here's the cool part.
Of course, like this again, Tony and I have been doing this
forever, 65 years between us.
This should be a thousand dollar course and it's not.
I'm just gonna be transparent with you, it's not.
McConaughey literally wants every single person
that wants to have him help ride shotgun,
be a part of this and see it, that everybody here
has the opportunity to get this.
But let me tell you what else we did.
Next, you're gonna have live,
we just decided to do this a couple days ago,
for the next eight weeks or so,
and the course, the first training starts next week,
we're gonna get together as a family,
do cool things together,
and we're gonna walk through each of the mile markers
together to keep you on track.
Because sometimes, who's ever bought something, a book,
you're excited about it, a course I love it and
Then you let it sit on the shelf Laney
I see you do it Linnae and Liz and Tracy right you're like I love that book but nothing to happen
We're not gonna let that happen. So for the next eight weeks in this studio. We'll be walking through
Making sure that you stay on track to your more
It should cost a thousand dollars, Matt. That's the first
thing you know.
It's that's that sounds cheap. If I get to be part of a family,
right? Like like a loving family where people are going to keep
me on track. And Matthew McConaughey is part of that.
He's gonna be in the car beside you. He's ready to check on you.
All right. All right. You're going down there together with
him. you guys are
our best friends now but it's not one point of mine because mcconaughey wouldn't let us like he
didn't want he wants that's what it should cost he wants to make sure that every single one of you
can get this um so he wouldn't let him because those other guys he understands we don't maybe
trust them in the same way that we might trust Matthew McConaughey.
So they're the bad guys.
Matthew McConaughey wouldn't let them change.
That's right.
So let's see what is the brass tacks at the end.
Here we go.
You get live weekly walkthroughs, so make sure you stay on track.
You get the community be a part of something bigger.
And you get a live training every month.
One of them will be with McConaughey.
You get a new course monthly, over 20, over 30
to choose from in the library, we'll donate 50 meals.
Honest and truly, this is real value at 3,900 bucks.
And if today we dropped it to $997,
I would say you guys should all run and get it right now.
But here's the cool part, and only during our live,
you can have Road Trip, the Highway to More, for $397.
Go to jointheroadtrip.com.
I'd write this down because it's today.
This is event only opportunity with Tony and I's bonuses,
that price, and there's even a three pay.
You can get started and have access to everything
for $150 today.
Guys, I feel so honored to be part of this,
to watch what this man has put in.
I can't wait for you to get this course in your hands.
The low, low ask of $397.
But it's a limited time now for Chris.
What?
You gotta act quickly. You gotta act quickly. It You got to act quickly. You got to act quickly.
It's got to be today.
Look, write it down.
Write it down.
Go to that website.
And finally, yes, this is an event only offer.
So all these amazing bonuses, this amazing price point, this is for you guys today, our
gift to you for saying thank you for just being here.
Thank you for saying yes to committing to yourself to going on this beautiful journey of
life. And that's our gift. So we hope you say yes. We hope you take it to the next level
and the next step of your journey. I don't have 397. Now I could stretch the 150. Oh,
fortunately they have an installment plan. Now if you do that, you will end up paying 450
free installments at 150. So that, you know, there's a little bit of an extra cost.
But I mean, it should be 3900 bucks in total.
It would be a steal at 997.
It's incredible savings.
It's incredible savings.
Yeah. So that's that's distasteful.
Oh, I think. Yeah. I think.
Well, you know, I'm so McConaughey is going to come back after this is done.
I understand why he left.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And they're going to have more.
Tony Robbins has yet to come on.
The big daddy, he comes in.
I just have to, I mean, did you notice, like, if you look at actually what you get, it doesn't
really matter what it costs, right? $400, $1,000, $ mean, did you notice like if you look at actually what you get, it doesn't really matter what it costs, right?
$400, $1,000, $4,000.
If you actually look at it, like the price, like what does it cost them to deliver that
per person, right?
Like nothing, right?
You get to be a member of an online community, which is like a forum where you can talk amongst
yourselves and stuff, right?
That's fine.
Yeah. You're going to get lectures though, Mark.
Yeah, you get lectures, like is it once a month, isn't it?
Or is there a chance?
Once a month, one of them is going to be with McConaughey.
Yeah, that's right.
So once a month, you'll get a lecture.
Again, a live streamed type lecture.
And one of them will be from McConaughey.
And is there anything else concrete that they actually get?
Because right now what they're describing is like an online forum and like a YouTube, right?
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's ultimately what it all is, right? And if you went on this,
like, you know, this is not the only sales pitch in the content.
It goes on, they need to come back to this, right.
And like they said, they're less than halfway through this.
So there's going to be more pitches.
McConaughey's got to come back with glasses this time, like looking like a scientist
and not so much bongos, like talking about, you know, the science part behind it and stuff
and it's going to go on. But I think people should have got the deal of like what's going
on here by now.
It seems like a good point for us to make a discreet exit from this thing.
Like Mr. McConaughey.
We will discreetly move off stage.
So we lost Matt.
Beauty.
We all had a good time here today.
I just got to go out there.
So yeah, this is really shameful.
And like I said, he here is kind of the apprentice to them.
And he continues on, you know, promoting stuff after he's now
he seemed to have like kind of finished his contract or whatever it is that he was doing
with them. And he's now got his own brand that he started to like put out. And I don't think he's
yet introduced the full course that he's going to do about it. But there's, you know, there's a weekly
lesson that you can get from him and it's got like a slightly different branding so yeah I don't think this
is the end for him I think this was like more the apprenticeship in this arena yes and he's
gonna now come out you know less of an apprentice and more of a full fledged guru. And so that's fun.
That's an interesting career choice for him.
I did enjoy I did enjoy him in True Detective, though.
It was I know better times, simpler times.
Yeah.
I wonder what, you know, as we said, I wonder what his character would think
of all this, but just a reminder, you know, there's the Hollywood actors and their ability to act
and there's the actual person they may not meet your expectations right um yeah indeed indeed well
I just hope that in future he continues to you know do the horse dick do the spiel, be the front man. And then I hope that he continues to go off stage
and let somebody else do the self. I hope he keeps that up. That's a good move. That would be,
that would be really good if that is his, you know, unique thing that he's just always like,
I'm just going to go off. I'm just going to go have, I'm just going to go have a smoke at the back. And I'll come back up.
Yeah, OK, so Chris, Chris, Chris, Chris, Chris, Chris.
I think, at first, I was skeptical when you said
Matthew McConaughey.
I was skeptical.
But like the audience for this event, I've come around.
I'm on board now.
I can feel it.
You can feel that?
Are you self-actualized?
Yeah, yeah.
I think this falls into the secular guruism template because for the reasons we talked
about, which is I think it's doing functionally a lot of the stuff that religion, especially
evangelical style religion does, just with the religion specific bits shunted out of it.
And the self-actualization, success, money, happiness stuff injected in.
And you know, you're going to need, you need the front men, you know, you need, you need
the pastor, you need the priests, you need the McConaughey's to be up there on stage
to do the song and dance.
I think it's a little, you know, it's the shame.
It's not shamanism by its definitions, but you know, it has some those aspects.
Oh, it definitely has aspects of the like kinetic performances.
It's the kinetic performance here because he's up there being self actualized.
You know, as a demonstration, yeah, like he's he's comfortable in his own skin.
He's playing the bongos, he's making jokes. He's he's riffin
He's beep up and you know in his Matthew fucking McConaughey, right?
You you want to be yeah, you know, so so I think in a way he's yeah, he's a bit shamanistic
So yeah, it's an interesting thing and I think it's helpful to you know, we had
I mean has bongo drums. He's got bongo drums
Is that and it does dream about Africa.
In a very personal way.
Yeah.
And you know, like with
he's a crazy physics guy, the real idiot.
The smartest man in the world.
What's his name?
Oh, Chris Langan. Chris Langan, right.
You know, we had doubts about Chris Langan because
you know, he's not very sophisticated.
It seems very obvious.
Yet at the same time, if you look at the internet, there's a lot of people that take him seriously.
Right. So it's actually not superfluous to point out what seems blindingly obvious.
And I think to most people, what's going on in this kind of self-help, adverterial format is pretty obvious, but it actually isn't to a lot of people sometimes.
So I think it's a helpful demonstration because you have the grandmasters like the Eric Weinstein's
and the Robins.
Oh, sorry.
No, no, I'm thinking about gurus now.
So the ones that are very subtle and very baroque, very intricate, they're playing
games within games, Chris. And then you have the Chris Langans of this world
or the self-help spectacular type here
where it's very plain to see.
So I think it's just good to have a demonstration.
Yeah, yeah.
And I mean, Tony Robbins,
you could have a look at his segment, right?
There's different flavors that we could get in theory.
But it's the underlying grammar is essentially the same
and the things that we highlighted.
And in a way there is a lot of overlap with the gurus
because like this thing about simultaneous casting,
that there's dissatisfaction, the world doesn't write,
things aren't going well,
the institutions are lying to you.
People are holding you back.
And you guys are the brave ones who are willing to look
at this more deeply.
And how do you do that?
By subscribing to my content.
By being a part of the.
These are all things that we've seen
in the other gurus' content.
But it's just like here, it feels a little bit more
cheesy at times and more self-helpy, but the underlying psychological dynamics are the same.
And I think the interesting part is that this works. Like you might think this is so silly,
like who's going to fall for this, but these guys are all millionaires. And this kind of event will have led to a massive windfall for them.
So like, regardless of how easy it is to look down on people, you know, who fall
for this or this, this kind of thing, they are pulling on the emotional strings of
people that are vulnerable and getting them to depart with their hard earned cash.
And like, you know, as you were saying at
the start, Matt, you know, in like devil's advocate mode, but like, what's the, you know, what's the
harm of like giving people pep talks and whatever. And it's because this, this is the bit that is
the harm. If this wasn't there, it's just like self help. That's it. I mean, that's the thing.
That's the thing to be aware of when defending this kind of thing. That last little bit with the pitch and the cell. That's what all the rest of it was for. Right? All of the rest was, it
might have seemed to be in about journaling or confessions or finding happiness, whatever.
But actually it was all a lead up to that. That was the important thing.
Oh, and you know, someone else that struck me about this that I didn't know,
cause I thought like self-help gurus,
they would probably like kind of be isolated from each other because they're
selling the same kind of thing. So they wouldn't want to like make you aware,
but it's, it's actually not like that. I mean, it might be like that in some
quarters, but it seems like it's more that they're cross promotional
collaborative and they're yeah, and collaborative. And they're, yeah, and collaborative.
And they're like, they're all promoting each other.
And you know, even, I don't know if the people appearing here
are getting a cut or they're getting like an appearance fee
or whatever, but they're getting exposure
for their own courses, right?
And I'm sure, so there's just that like affiliate marketing
Well, Chris, well, that is obviously exactly what we see with the gurus, right? And I'm sure there's just that affiliate marketing aspect.
Well, that is obviously exactly what we see with the gurus.
It's all about cross appearances,
cross promotional stuff, all a whole bunch of glazing,
basically.
So yeah, I think it is a collaborative exercise.
And they all have their little niches, that their specialties.
Like, like I think the underlying dynamic, you could, you know, if we wanted to take
it very seriously and analyze it like Manvier does with shamans, you could go, okay,
what they're all doing is that they're addressing some kind of psychological need
or problem, you know, some of them might be more money focused and more like, oh,
this is how to be success and, you know, achieve your dreams and get the, get the fancy car.
Other ones could be more about alleviating anxiety and guilt
and basically negative effect.
Yeah.
Um, you know, other ones could have a more spiritual bent, but, you know, so
they'll have their little specialities and they have their different tones, but,
you know, they're fundamentally doing the same kind of thing, but they do
have market segmentation as well. So I guess it makes sense to me, just like with our gurus who also specialize, it makes
sense that they are collaborative because they have a lot more to gain by cooperating with each
other than to lose. Yeah, yeah. So there you go. I look into this tasteful space. Maybe we'll get
round to Tony Robbins at some point. You can hear him after
you were kind of interacting with him again. Well, yeah, it was good, Chris. It was surprising
to me on many levels. There were many things that I listened to that I did not expect.
And made me smile. I just didn't realize that the content would be so meagre.
didn't realize that the content would be so meager. You know?
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Really, it really is.
They really have just pasted together
a bunch of aphorisms and platitudes.
That's what it is.
I want to emphasize to people that we are probably
less than halfway through this event.
And Dean Grazio is going to come back out.
Matthew McConaughey is going to come back out. Tony Robbins has come back out. And it's the same thing. A lot of it is you're here,
you want to be there. There's actually a bit where he draws a diagram of like you, you
know where you want to be in like an hour or at a question mark.
And that's what we can decide today. This is where we are, but we can decide to make a move.
So if you know where you are,
then you know where
do you
want to go?
Sorry for the sloppy writing.
I could've done this with fancy slides,
but it works better for me when it's,
you can zoom this whole thing out
so we can see the whole whiteboard.
So if you know where you are, I'd just like to put this on a 45 degree angle because we
want our year next year, next month, five years from now to be better than it was last
year, right? Raise your hand if you want next year to be better than last year. Who will
not accept next year to be like last year, right? So we want to go, and it's so sloppy,
sorry, but that says where do you want to go?
Now this is gonna lean into what Tony just shared,
and I'm glad he did.
Because so many times in life, we know what we don't want.
I don't want this job, I don't want to be alone anymore,
I don't want to feel insecure, I don't want,
I don't want, I don't want.
Well when is the last time you knew boldly
if we were in an elevator and I said,
hey, just met, saw you on McConaughey.
Where do you want to go?
That's the format is just constantly saying,
you know, couldn't things be better than what they are now?
And like, the answer is always like, yeah.
Yeah, join us, sign up to this thing
and things will be better.
That is the promise. But I mean, look, if thing and things will be better. That is, that is the promise.
But I mean, look, if anyone out there has had experience with these things,
like, can you imagine any of them actually doing some kind of randomized
placebo control trial to actually check whether or not any of this shit that
they're charging money for actually works?
Could you imagine?
Cause you could do it, right?
There's no reason you cannot.
Yeah. works. Could you imagine? Because you could do it, right? There's no reason you cannot. It would be easy to do. Yeah, but despite it being a billion dollar industry, just like complementary and alternative
medicines, they have very little interest in actually checking whether or not their product works.
That's right. That's right.
Well, speaking of products working on that map, people have assessed our product. They've looked
at the code in the gurus. How dare they? It's great. Come on. Yeah. After all the work we put in.
Chris was up late, you know, at least nine days. Nine days he was working on this.
Yeah. Eight months of preparation by them. So I've got our review of reviews, but just a short one,
a little segment, but because one of them I want to ding you for. That's my motivation here.
So one, this is the positive one, five stars that we like. My love for Matt and Chris is, dare I say,
as encompassing and monstrous as that of Lex Friedman's love for mankind,
that love of their decoding rain.
And that's Robsi in Ann Arbor, United States.
So.
Love it.
See, that's how you do it, people.
That's how you do a review.
I think you should do,
something you should do.
It'd be funny to do a review like that,
but just give like two or three stars.
Like.
Yeah, a lot.
That's mixed messages.
I love them, but not as much as I could.
Well, the next one is three stars map.
And this one, I kind of like these hyper-specific
conflicts where people have like an issue
and it's their issue, right?
But it's an issue with me, right?
You're gonna take me.
Well, in a way, in a way, I'm also like
guilt by association here
But um, the title of this is make your bed first. Okay
night
Uh, these academics are quick to call out pseudoscience and grifting yet remain blind to the immense harm caused by their own choices
Okay. No, I think I think I see where this is going
Okay. I think I see where this is going.
So let's find out what our own choices that they're calling out are.
Like eating animals or displaying sentient beings in glass boxes.
Critiquing others whilst avoiding industries built on suffering and environmental degradation
isn't critical thinking, it's selective ethics. Take a break from podcasting and pick up
some books from Kojo Karo, United States. So I think this is related to your aquatic tail,
where you mentioned having a tropical reef fish. So, yeah, I didn't know, like, apparently, you know,
not lied fish, it is known. So yeah, that's it, but but they're pretty needy meat and we both eat me. So yeah. Yeah. So, you know, no
We quit double the guilty
Doubly guilty. Yeah, it's the lot he gets hard to refute. Yeah, it is that to refute
Those animals that I ate and they're longer alive. Well, look, I think factory farming,
like if it makes you feel better,
in person listening, people out there,
I do agree that factory farming is a moral crime
for which we'll be judged by future generations.
I make better meat choices and egg choices
whenever possible.
Yeah, but you put fish in glass jars and look at them.
Well, you know, this is where, you know, Chris,
I will take this on the chin because I'm going
to plead guilty.
I, I felt a little bit bad about keeping like saltwater fish.
I mean, it's irrational.
It doesn't make any sense.
Like I have, have freshwater fish now and I don't feel a little bit bad about that because
they're bloody tetras, mate.
Like they're the size of your thumb.
The glass box is, it's like 800 litres.
It's huge.
Like to them, it's like a universe.
And it's full of plants and everything like that.
And they get fed every day.
They're very healthy and happy.
Why do you justify it in terms of...
Like, I've also got dogs, right?
I'd say the fish in their own particular way are just as happy as the dogs.
There was an exchange that I had on the picture and then the I was thinking like
there was a little bit of anthropomorphism in regards like, you know, fish.
And I'm not saying that there aren't fish that, you know, are put in non stimulating
environments that don't have good quality of life.
Shouldn't keep them in a fishbowl.
Right. Yes, agreed. Agreed.
But there are also like a lot of fishes, like dairies.
They're not living their best fish life, is what I'll say. Like, you know,
they're living in a small pond that they're gobbled up by a frog, right?
Yeah, it's tough out there. It's tough out there in the palms and the creeks.
I just, I felt like a couple of people were imagining fish frolicking like in reverse
like self actualizing themselves.
Yeah, but you know, I'm not saying that is everyone's objection.
But anyway, Matt, there you go.
About three stars.
So I kind of like that because they're like your moral monsters.
But you make a good podcast.
They're monsters.
But they make a good podcast. I're monsters, but they make a good podcast. I like that.
It's tempered criticism.
But I did feel bad about you being a fish.
And you know, but they're all bred.
They weren't, you know, they're ethically sourced, right?
They breed them and stuff like that.
Like they're not like, they're not rampaging through the seas.
And honestly, there are, like, it is one of my pet things, right?
Like, ecology. That's all uh, I'm not judging you.
That's a sensitive topic for me because I used to work for Marine
and atmospheric sciences and I like scuba diving and I love the reef and lots of
things are killing things in the oceans all the time, right?
There's like, not you, not me.
I don't even I just
buy it from the supermarket. But you know, there are, you know,
terrible trolling practices, there's there's pollution and
stuff like that causing absolute havoc to aquatic ecosystem.
That's, that's the thing that matters. Just gonna say not
saying it's not you can't compare. It doesn't mean that
other unethical things are okay, but that is that is the thing
That's a big thing looks like we've had a nerve, you know, you need to let that go Matt stop self-judging
This is a this is a no judgment zone. Yeah. Well, I
Live over here in Japan the treatment of fish. Hi. Oh my god. Oh my god. That's right
It is I do not participate in real
No, I can't talk about what goes on in Japan with respect to sea creatures because the person who made the review could be listening
And they'll be traumatized and they even find out
Yeah, I'm like so just yes. I'm in the glass box here. I'm the one
So I can't first though it's but um
People that can't first don't smile
Our features. Yes our features
We gotta give the best shot
They deserve it. They they've helped us long and you know, we remember we will not call you brave
We will not say will we not we will not say that you we're part of a community of love
We won't do a lot of things.
Oh yeah!
But that's a very good point.
I actually, I mean, you know, we're deep in, I really should save this for when everyone
will hear, but I'll repeat it next time.
So I'll just mention.
The Patreon comes with lots of benefits.
You get access to bonus content, you get stuff early, you get the Decoding Academia series
if you're at a high enough tier.
And tell us, Chris, what does it not buy you?
What does it not buy you?
Thank you Matt.
So I'm glad you asked.
Just to be clear, it does not, you pay us like three dollars a month or whatever, we're
very eternally grateful for it.
It does not mean that I must agree with you or like say that is a good point that you've
made.
Some people...
He won't even extend this courtesy to me, ladies and gentlemen.
No.
He's not going to do it for you.
That was never, that's not in the terms of service.
Most people seem to get this, I think, but there's just a couple of times where people
have been like unhappy at my response to something that they've said and largely it's because I've disagreed with them.
And on occasion, I might have been harsh.
Yeah, I was going to say, could it be how you disagreed with them?
Well, I only respond in tone to the tone that people deliver. But that's the thing, right?
So if you write a rather snarky critical comment that I disagree with, I may respond in kind, right? So, but that is,
I'm afraid that's part and parcel of the Patreon. So, just bear that in mind, like factor that in.
Like, do I expect that paying this $3 will make Chris agree with anything that I comment on the
Patreon? If that is what you're thinking, maybe don't join the Patreon cause you're gonna be
disappointed.
Okay, but I'm sure, you know, most people are not going to have terrible takes that
I need to disagree with publicly, but it's just, it's an occupational hazard.
That's all.
Okay.
We're all agreed.
That's fine.
I don't have to agree with our Patreon members.
We're all good with that.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Tough love.
Tough love. That's how you know you're in in a good place the people are not glazing you for
No, you know at all
Night you also do get access to my ball doing videos
And that's pretty corner where the almost wholesome spot on the internet
So there are plenty of things. These could be,
Matt, what would you say they're worth? $500 or more?
At least, at least. But wait, wait, wait. Do they get, do they get anything for free as well?
Like if they sign up, they'll get the, they'll get the like the main episodes, right? Sure.
They'll get to coding academia. Like, wow. Like that's worth $100 by itself.
Or there's the live streams. Like we're meeting up you know personally yeah you
know wisdom you get to reach out and touch us deep inside once a month
that would be worth 700 dollars you might think that you might think that
actually only that's the most you can pay.
That's the maximum.
There's no way to, even if you wanted to pay.
No, actually, there is a way you can.
You can specify your own amount, but it's actually very hard to do in Patreon, but you
could do it.
I mean, there's no limit.
You could spend.
Just saying.
You could, if you wanted.
And the other thing is, Matt, asked her, are there other things that you
get?
Well, you also get, that's pretty cool.
And we mentioned that, but that's worth saying twice, I think.
You do get random at times when I do live streams, which we don't mention anywhere because
there's like a function to stream.
So sometimes when I'm commuting, I use it as like a distraction in the car.
So you get that. That's
right benefit that we advertise. That's not only we advertise. Now you could say that this is merely
a way for Chris to keep himself, his ADHD adult mind occupied while he's commuting and he's
actually using you. No, you wouldn't, but you shouldn't say it like that. You should see it as an added benefit that nobody knew about till now, and there it is.
But I'm not promising them doing it, so if it happens...
But how much does that cost, Chris?
There's access to this special...
That's right.
That's free.
That's free, Matt.
Oh my god.
Yeah.
It's added for no cost.
No cost.
Everyone gets it, whether they want it or not.
But you don't have to go there.
It's just like, it is there in the stream.
Yes.
So that's all the benefits you can get, Matt.
And no, we will short out some people
that have made the good decision of contributing
at various levels.
You wouldn't want to miss out.
They are there already, getting all the extra good stuff.
You could be like them.
They're living their best life. You could be like them.
They're living their best life.
They're all self actualized.
And for the conspiracy hypothesizers, those that are on the three dollar tier.
Let me just shout out some of them.
So we have Chabob, Ty, David Paul James E. Player Worky Nat Torex
David Martino Ewan Beck
Jeremy Lord Mark Little
Jesse Wint Gillie 2.1
Sarah SF Dustin Markin
Rosie Stuff-Savant Mick K. O. West
James Sharp Aaron Allmark
Felix Swingyburger Cormac Brennan
Bridget Wilson James Stefan St Stephen Stapp, James Egan,
Ken, Kurt S, Stuart Woodridge, Martin Buchan, Fiona and Hans the High Maintenance Ho.
Hans the High Maintenance Ho. I like that. And also you mispronounced Stardescent, I think.
Did I? And also you mispronounced Stardust Hunt, I think. You said stuff, it was awful.
So I apologize to Miss Stardust Hunt.
Thank you for correcting that.
Okay, well, and here's the little side effect.
I feel like there was a conference
that none of us were invited to
that came to some very strong conclusions.
And they've all circulated this list of correct answers.
I wasn't at this
conference. This kind of shit makes me think man, it's almost like someone is being paid.
Like when when you hear these George Soros stories, he's trying to destroy the country
from within. We are not going to advance conspiracy theories. We will advance conspiracy hypotheses.
Okay, good job there. No, revolutionary geniuses, Matt,
the people who can get access to the Decoding Academia here.
And we'll be able to hear our review of the Buddhism book soon enough.
That includes Jared Martin, William Byrd, T.S., Scott McPherson, Bob Turbo, Henrik Hoyer, E.T., Michael Sutherland, Ingvar
Van Aar, David Garidou, Eamonn Doyle, Thomas, Brendan Downey, Mary Taylor, John, Shane,
S.J., Nye Rothwell, Jordan Schnipke, Finn Weddle, Lewis Burke, Daniel Johnson, Jonas
Acklin, Srikant Sivak Sangkaran,
Hopi 303, Sam Stephenson, Daniel Marchin,
Tom Wheatley, Aaron Isaac, Bezy Bezy Bezy,
Lena Neld Robinson, and Sam Hurd Photography.
Revolutionary geniuses, one and all.
Fantastic.
I think I know Sam Hurd Photography.
They come aware of it.
Yes, yes.
We have shouted them out before, but they're back, Matt.
Maybe they'd pick a brick, you know, it's possible.
Yeah, or maybe you're just getting confused at your shout out orderings.
No, no, that's not possible.
But in either case, thank them one and all.
I'm usually running, I don't know, 70 or 90 distinct paradigms simultaneously all the time.
And it is not to try to collapse them down to a single master
paradigm.
I'm someone who's a true polymath.
I'm all over the place.
But my main claim to fame, if you'd like in academia, is that I founded
the field of evolutionary consumption.
Now that's just a guess and it could easily be wrong, but it also could
not be wrong.
The fact that it's even plausible is stunning.
I just appreciate it.
It's funny you'll see these
and every time you find something new to appreciate,
I appreciate how the sense maker guy,
whatever his name was,
he doesn't just run 79 paradigms sometimes.
Jordan Hall.
Jordan Hall. He. Jordan Hall.
He runs them simultaneously all of the time.
All the time.
All the time.
He's on the toilet.
He's baking.
He's going for a walk.
He's the 79 paradigms are running simultaneously all the time.
In the context of his house, in the context of his house in the context of outside in the
context of watching the television.
Yeah.
That's it.
Well, actually he has collapsed them down to a master paradigm though, because he became
a Christian.
My God.
Never mind that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But now, Matt, our galaxy brain gurus, the shining stars of the guru night, the ones
that can actually join us on the live streams once a month, should they wish, should they
wish to inflict that upon themselves?
Um, what a rare experience.
Yeah.
They include Lorenzo Savicci, David McGowan, Tamoya Bowen, James Boney, Kindward Hearts Fellow, Greg Van Dyke, Mickey
Cohen, Zee Vee, Emma, Jaguar9400, GD Ajebola, Jeffrey Godwin, Taylor Voss-Smith, Mugwump,
and Joey Joe Junior-Shabadoo.
Well, some fun names there, Chris. Some fun names. Smith, Mugwump and Joey Joe Junior Shabadoo. Wow.
Some fun names there, Chris.
Some fun names.
Yeah.
We appreciate the support.
And please do join the live chat if it works with your schedule.
Yeah, they're good.
Or not, you can look at the recording.
Yeah, they're fun.
They're good.
Yeah, we enjoy them.
A lot of life advice too.
Important advice.
That's right.
Like Matthew McConaughey, you know,
don't get to talk to every one of you,
but I look at those messages there and I'm just, you know.
Yeah, that's it, he's talking about them for months after.
Did you see that one, Chris?
You remember that one?
Yeah, yeah, here, thank you all anyway.
We tried to warn people.
Yeah.
Like what was coming, how it was going to come in, the fact that it was everywhere and
in everything.
Considering me tribal just doesn't make any sense.
I have no tribe.
I'm in exile.
Think again, sunshine.
Yeah.
We actually do have some updated clips that I need to put in.
Martin Welsalus sent us new ones.
So look forward to an update coming soon.
But that's us for today, Matt.
We've done our duty to the discourse.
It's time for you to go and interpret your wet dreams.
I'm almost 50 years old, Chris.
Please be realistic.
Yes, yes, yes. Sorry. Please be realistic.
Yes, yes, yes.
Well, I do have wild dreams.
It's tempting to interpret them because of the melatonin.
It's wild, wild stuff.
But no nice sex involving snakes on a river in Africa.
Not yet.
Let's wait till tonight after all this decoding.
And yeah, just a last message.
Just be safe out there everyone.
Like keep an eye on these guys.
They're not your friends.
Matthew McCarty doesn't want to ride in the car with you.
He's too busy.
So yeah, a lot of sneak me on sneak me on those sneak oil seals.
Yeah, that's really serious salesman. This is ridiculous.
Yeah, that's right.
It's the same principle.
If you're buying a car, a used car, it's just signing up
for something, whatever, podcasting.
Don't be cynical like Chris.
Still keep a heart.
You've got to have a heart.
You've got to have trust. You
know, you got to hold on to that.
Let's agree today to all be 5% more trusting. Okay, just 5%.
Right? Like they said, it's not a lot. It's not a lot. They ask,
okay, so that's our message. 5%. But of the right people.
Of the right people. That 5% doesn't include that particular
program.
No.
With Matthew McConaughey. We do not endorse that.
That's in the remaining 25% that should remain in the do not trust category.
Yeah, yeah, but our affiliate links will be available in the show notes, so check them
out when you get a chance and yeah, that's it for us.
But we'll see you next time.
Who's going to come?
That remains a mystery.
You'll find out.
You'll find out.
Ciao. I'm going to be back. Music