Digital Social Hour - Are You Making This Networking Mistake in NYC? | Raquel DSH #820

Episode Date: October 22, 2024

Are you making this networking mistake in NYC? 🌆 Dive into this engaging episode of the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly, where we uncover the nuances of networking in the Big Apple! 💼🗽 Join us as we chat with Raquel about the unexpected challenges and hilarious anecdotes of navigating the conservative scene in a predominantly liberal city. Packed with valuable insights and authentic stories, this episode is sure to keep you entertained and informed. 😂📚 Discover how Raquel breaks stereotypes, connects with like-minded individuals, and throws unforgettable events that bridge the political divide. From sharing personal experiences as a Canadian living in NYC to throwing "Make America Hot Again" parties, this episode is full of surprises! 🎉🇺🇸 Tune in now! Don't miss out on these insider secrets. Watch now and subscribe for more exclusive conversations on the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly. 📺 Hit that subscribe button and stay tuned for more eye-opening stories! 🚀 #livenews #kamalaharris #foxnews #donaldtrump #trump CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Cancel Culture Impact on Men 00:27 - ADHD Effects on Daily Life 01:37 - Increasing Women's Political Involvement 05:19 - Importance of Authenticity 06:42 - How to Navigate Cancel Culture 10:02 - Discussion on Trump 13:40 - Dating Life Insights 16:01 - Challenges for Female Comedians 17:21 - Liberal Friendships Discussion 18:49 - Outro APPLY TO BE ON THE PODCAST: https://www.digitalsocialhour.com/application BUSINESS INQUIRIES/SPONSORS: [e-mail] GUEST: Raquel https://www.instagram.com/raqisright/ LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/digital-social-hour/id1676846015 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Jn7LXarRlI8Hc0GtTn759 Sean Kelly Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seanmikekelly/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Most guys have to fear that. Yes. No, I was going to say, it's actually really fucking scary for white straight men out there i always tell my guy friends i'm like you can't even it's it's like the the word in like for judges it's like there can't even be like an ounce of impropriety like you can't even look appear like there was yeah you don't because these days like if you send a sketchy message and she screenshots that. You're screwed. All right, guys, we got Raquel here today and we both have ADHD. We do.

We were just bonding about it. I don't even know what to call that. But yeah, we were bonding. Yeah, it was the Adderall coffee. And I don't know what the third one was anymore. Adderall coffee. I had a little Xanax phase, but I'm past that. That's not really my thing.

But I need no more uppers anymore. it's not a good vibe to get off i don't know but conservatives aren't allowed to say that out loud but that's the thing it's like you all take catterall okay just say it like a minute like you're skinny like you know i've seen you eat a few burgers you want me as epic wave yet um honestly i have been getting a lot of those epic ads like the skinny this skinny that um i get a lot of hate for promoting um how much i hate fat people so but it's honestly just like i'm fat shaming myself because i was like i really just don't want that to be me so if i fat shame enough then like if i ever do get fat people are gonna be like are you the girl who hates fatties

some accountability yeah you fat grown up um i was a little bit chubby i definitely could have lost a weight or two um definitely yeah i think builds personality. That's why I'm a bit funny and unhinged. I was the opposite. I was a twig. Oh, you were a twig. I was 130 pounds. Were you like forced to eat? They told you to eat more.

They told me they're going to inject me with food once. I thought I ate a lot, but I guess I didn't because I was also a runner. Oh, okay. So I would just run it off. So you were skinny little. I feel like you're like behind the board. Yeah, I'm a nerd. I'm a crypto nerd.

Crypto bro. Yeah, I can see it with the sneakers today. When I was suited up, he's like sitting behind the desk yesterday i was in sweatpants today this is like dressing up but this is no but that's good do your thing like be you be real that's what that's what it's about that's why that's another thing about like conservatism in general i kind of have a new brand my my own brand of kids like this is you your hoodie this that everyone has their own shtick everyone does their own thing you know what i mean like it's not i hate being pigeonholed and i think it's really i think it's actually harmful to the movement in general and i found that in general like so i'm based in new york city

i get a lot of hate from like uh some conservative groups these days yeah so um there's a group of people i won't say who they are but they've been uh they've been coming after me for throwing my parties i've been doing these make america hot again parties i've been getting a new uh a new a group of people a wave of people in the republican party who wouldn't normally care about politics wouldn't normally want to like socialize with people based on political affiliation and they've been coming out to my parties and interested and having fun and they're girls like me who want to talk about dumb shit. I almost had to sit there when I said shit there because I was like, I can't remember if I want to swear or not.

Okay, good. But, you know, people who like, like there's that clip. I like shopping, tanning and celebrity gossip. I like all those things, but I also care about politics. I, you know, I was a lawyer. I have a brain, you know, but I also do. It's so much more palatable when you like make things funny and chill. And some people have a stick so far up their ass.

And it's like, bro, you are not a fucking politician. Sit down, bitch. Take the stick out of your ass. Relax. Just be a normal person. It's not that serious. Yeah. And all I was doing is throwing parties for conservatives.

And we were calling it Make America Hot Again. That's hilarious. You were getting canceled for that? Well, not not canceled but a lot of people in the conservative movement were like oh she's like why do you care i'm getting more people involved in politics and i'm getting if you have a conservative event look around the room okay how many women are there my events were 50 women 50 male and that just doesn't happen so the fact that i got so many women to like show up and care and be interested. And people are like, how'd you do it?

I was like, I made a pink poster. It sounds insane. I'm like, sometimes we are that simple as creatures. And I'm not saying women are stupid. But I like pink. So I made a pink poster. Yeah. You should have seen the Tucker Carlson conference I was at.

Yeah. 99% white guys. Yes. No woman. But that's what I'm saying. But you can be. That's what I don't. And the other thing can be, that's what I don't like. And the other thing is like, we brought this up today too, when we're all talking about,

you know, women in conservatism too. And like, you know, the trad wife thing, how like a lot of people push like for a trad wife. That's not, I will never be a trad wife. I will never be a trad wife. And people are like, if you're conservative, you have to think this. Don't get me wrong. Like, I want a husband.

I want kids one day. Someone asked me, she's like, oh, but do you ever want to get married i'm like yeah eventually but like right now i'm chilling i'm having fun like am i not allowed to have fun if i'm a conservative and like that's the whole stigma like i want more young young people to care about politics and like for me it's being a social like i'm i'm very open i've always been open i talk like this but as a conservative you're not allowed to like have fun they're like oh you can't you can't drink. You can't do this. Yes. Yes, I can. Yes, I can. Just my my political my politics don't identify my entire personality, even though I ironically enough have made it my entire personality. We'll be right back. on every game day. With a variety of exciting features, BetMGM offers you plenty of seamless ways to jump straight onto the gridiron and to embrace peak sports action.

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That's why I don't label myself. Because I don't want to be grouped into something. Exactly. I just want to be myself. You're like, I'm just a normal guy. And that's what I don't get. And I don't want to be grouped into something. Exactly. Like I just want to be myself. You're like, I'm just a normal guy. And that's what I don't get. And like, even, you know, with the date right stuff, like John has this line where he says,

I'm not crazy, whatever. I'm just a normal guy from 15 years ago, which is like, that is so real. It's just, I just call out shit how it is. You know, I like to make skinny jokes. I like to make jokes about being DEI. Like I just say crazy shit and because no one else says it. Yeah. how it is you know i like to make skinny jokes i like to make jokes about being di like i just say crazy shit and because no one else says it yeah di is a funny one i know i was sitting beside a guy on the plane last night who was wearing a sweater okay that said di recruiting you can't

make this shit up i thought it was a joke so i initially saw it i burst into laugh like i can't control myself in public i just started laughing because I thought it was a joke. I was like, I want one of those. Like I was almost about to go up to him and be like, yo, bro, can I get one? And then he was on the phone on Zoom. I love eavesdropping. My favorite hobby of all time.

So he is talking on the phone. He's like, oh, I'm headed to the White House. And I was dying of laughter because I was like, obviously this man wearing the DEI sweater is headed to the White House. Good US tax dollars being put to this. Wow.

So the White House has a DEI person? Yeah, yeah. They have a DEI recruiter. I think it's a DEI recruiter or recruit or like something. I don't know. That's nuts. I mean, they say Kamala was a DEI hire as VP. Exactly.

So, but I just found it funny that he was like- No, that's hilarious. And he's like flexing like loud. That shirt would probably sell like as a meme right like that i think someone sent me a link to one because i posted on my story and someone was like wait you could actually buy these i was like no way that's like wearing the dare shirts yes well i was really hoping today we would get project 2025 shirts because i just thought that would be fun like i just like fucking with people i like doing crazy stuff so it's like yeah i would uh maybe i could cancel them you know i haven't

been canceled yet but really which is shocking really yeah so what's your yeah i would uh maybe i could cancel who knows i haven't been canceled yet but really which is shocking really yeah so what's your what do you think okay if you were to ever not me switching this around if you were to ever get canceled what would it be for that's what i want so i've only hooked up with one girl so i can't be canceled for anything sexual which is great because most guys have to fear that yes no i was gonna say it's actually really fucking scary for white straight men out there there. I always tell my guy friends, I'm like, you can't even, it's like the word for judges, it's like there can't even be an ounce of impropriety. You can't even look, appear.

Because these days, if you send a sketchy message and she screenshots that, you're fucked. So I've never sent nudes, so I'm good on that. But even if my nude got leaked, I mean, I don't think I'd care. Just make sure you look good like yeah it's whatever that's what if you're gonna send photos like do it like make america hot again i'm so fucked for that yeah so i don't know what it would be honestly like everything that most guys get canceled for i don't really have to worry about yeah like what's what's the craziest thing you've ever said you're like i'm not repeating it this is a trick i don't know yeah if i did say something crazy it's probably years ago when i was like a

dumb teenager or like did you did you delete all your old tweets no i still have them so maybe there's something there i went through mine and there was some crazy ones like there was like i would like tweet out the r word like i would say like i love retard i was a retard but like i like but i used to say that word too but i'm like but that now i'm bringing it back i'm bringing back retard because the thing is it's like the michael squaw quote it's like you can't call your you call your friends retards when they're being retards you don't call a retarded person retarded right so it's all about connotation yeah but that was a normal word back in the day exactly and you know what the my favorite genre of movies okay i'm a bit older than you so if you go watch like any 2000s like college movie they are so funny to

re-watch because they're like you fag like that's retarded like they're so fun and that's what i'm like bring back that era of just like not giving a fuck because no one was recorded no one always had a phone out like now everyone's always recording everyone has a phone out like everything is caught like any text you say will be used against you yep so but the thing is they could enjoy themselves they can say whatever it wasn't even controversial to call your friend a fag and i never thought about it yeah it's like it's like i'm not gonna call a gay person a fag but if my friend is something like if i have a male friend he's acting like a fag i'm gonna call him a fag i called straight friends gay like that was normal back then exactly but but but it's like

i just anyways so to me it's like a cultural war and that's why i just like that's when i started like caring yeah well now even comedians are getting canceled, which is crazy to me. It's crazy. And like the thing is a comedian is supposed to say offensive shit. And that's what makes them so funny. Yeah. Like truly. And if they can laugh at themselves, that's the best form of that.

Yeah. It just blows my mind because even Schultz, who just had Trump. Yeah. He's getting shows canceled. Oh, really? Because he did that. Interesting. And that's like, damn, like it's affecting his livelihood at that point. that point yeah well so for me my favorite stand-up comedian of all time is

obviously donald trump um like he just says some crazy shit like actually like he is a stand-up comedian and i don't know if he knows he's that funny but like i watch clips of him but i'm like man this guy is hilarious i'm like you can't even make this shit up like that debate performance honestly which one hillary the well all of them honestly all of them but like pure comedic gold like those sound clips i don't even know sometimes when i hear people using like a tiktok sound of like you're eating the cats are you i'm like are you making fun of trump or like defending him because at this point like it's so good it's and that's what i like about him too like he can laugh about it too yeah were you always pretty conservative? I was always conservative.

Oh, wow. I was like the, I was the, but actually, fun fact, I'm Canadian. Whoa. I can't vote. Whoa. But I'm a patriot to a country that's not my own. Wow. And I have a visa and I've been here illegally.

So it's like, that's the thing. I'm not an, you know, that's what makes me interesting. Yeah. Because people are like, why do you hate on immigrants? And I was like, do you know how much money I spent and how much time I put into like paying lawyers, doing paperwork, like doing what i have to do to be in this country because like i care and i want to be here legally i pay taxes in this country so you know to me people like me who are educated etc have their shit together are patriotic towards

a country that's not their own those are the kind of people like to me that you would want in your country facts i lived in canada i've seen the decline of canada over the last 10 years it's literally turned into a communist country people don't understand so if i get sent a link and i'm visiting my parents um i can't open a lot of links in canada they're banned they are banned like it says you cannot view view this page in canada and it'll be like a social media thing or whatever. And you just can't open it. That's so crazy. But people don't realize. And I'm like, and the thing about Canadians is they're so timid.

They so like, no one will say anything. No one gives a, I'll be the person to be like, I'm not fucking wearing masks. This is insane. Like we are all forced to get vaccinated. There was no way. You had to get it? I had to get it. I got one shot of Johnson & Johnson, which is like the least effective one.

So like, I feel like I'm fine. So at least you didn least you can get all four yeah but but like it was just insane but the reason we had to get it is we weren't allowed in america as a canadian you were not allowed to go to the u.s if you didn't have a vaccine wow and the thing is because my background is law i was like i can't like you know some of my friends were like just get a fake one and i was like i actually can't do that because i would get i would get fucked i was like i could never practice if anyone found out or any like it was too big of a risk for me and that's the thing like there's people in my position who like i've done everything i was asked i've done everything i was asked to be in this country like canada had the longest lockdown in north america in toronto in north america and i went

home i was living in london at the time i went home to Canada for a bit. And I was there and I was miserable. So I just became the quarantine queen. I would fly to a different country. I'm not kidding. Guys, five-star hotels in Mykonos, okay, were a bargain during the pandemic. I was traveling left and right. I lost followers every day.

I wasn't even on social media at this point. I was getting canceled. And everyone was like, oh my God, you can't post that you're in Florida. I was like, why? It's a free state of Florida. God bless Ron DeSantis. I'm like, this is amazing.

But I remember people getting canceled for traveling during COVID. And the thing is, I never even like was a big going out person. I started love going to clubs as soon as the pandemic hit because I just wanted to post that. Like just to piss everyone.

Like I didn't even care about going out. I was like, I just want to post that I'm at a club because a lot of people are gonna really be angry i love that i've never met a comedian that's also a lawyer that's interesting yeah no truly truly that's a rare mix because that's like two different mindsets it really is well i just call myself a comedian i'm not actually a comedian i'm a self-proclaimed comedian i'm more just like i'm a rant queen i just say shit so you're not doing the actual shows the stand-up um no i wrote a few and i think that they're too offensive to say out loud to not gonna lie like i'm not i can't say them in new york city i live in new york city like i yeah it's pretty liberal over there yeah it's a lot

liberal and that's why i threw these events because i like wanted people to find a refuge in you know liberal hell as i call it so we're doing an election night party and i'm calling it america uh season 46 finale i love it that'll be fun isn't it and i party and I'm calling it America season 46 finale. Oh, I love it. That'll be fun. Isn't it? And I'm doing it like a cool party. Like it's going to be crazy screens, like pizza, Shake Shack.

Like I'm making it my wedding, basically. They're like, why aren't you getting married? I'm like, because I'm throwing fun parties with a lot of alcohol and drinks called Red Wave. No conservative guys out there catching your attention? Oh, that is actually a really funny well i just have a lot of boyfriends boyfriends are fun you like hopping well okay this is the thing i go through phases i'll be like anti-social for a bit and like not date or whatever and then i'm like okay i'm gonna hop back in um i actually once i actually was seeing an illegal immigrant

recently whoa oh no i'm kidding i'm kidding no i'm not are you though i don't know we weren't seeing each other but isn't that hilarious i told everyone that they're like that is so funny i was like no no he has status i'll tell you my reasoning okay so i'm at the age where like i want to find a life partner yeah i know you're like okay where's where's this bitch going with this i want to find my life partner i want to find like a a guy good conservative values who i like will actually marry so i'm not gonna like kiss a boy who doesn't align with those values who i'm just like you know like i'm like oh whatever i'm killing time till i find my perfect man yeah so so i'm not gonna like kiss a boy who doesn't align with those values who i'm just like you know like i'm like oh whatever i'm killing time till i find my perfect man yeah so so i find people that i would never date and then i won't fall in love with them okay interesting so there's like mustache

tattoo men who live in bushwick who is not my type that's not my i don't like that yeah so i date guys who are the exact opposite of my type because I know that I won't fall in love with them. This is wild. No, it's actually so smart. It's so smart. But then you fall in love with them, don't you? Okay, kind of. But then I become crazy.

So right now, like, I have a crush on this boy who's, like, my neighbor. And he's, like, big on the internet, too. And, oh, this is so bad. You can't eat where you sleep or whatever that line is. Yeah, but don't shit where you eat or don't shit, I don't know. We're definitely both saying you're wrong, but that line is. Yeah, but don't shit where you eat or don't shit, I don't know. We're definitely both saying you're wrong, but that's okay. But like, it's just, he's like,

but I think I slid into his DMs and I said like, hey, you look really autistic and it worked. Whoa, that worked. Some of you guys, everyone lied. I'd be offended even though I have autism. Yeah, but like, no, but autism, I see autism as a positive trait. Like I like people who are like autistic

and quirky and like interesting. So that's like a hot thing now? Yes, okay, yes. Bring back, I don't like are like autistic and quirky and like interesting. So that's like a hot thing now. Yes. Okay. Yes. Bring back. I don't like hot men, hot men,

guys over. This is a public service announcement that no one cares about hot men. People want like funny, witty, like quirky, like hot woman too. They just lack personality. Exactly.

And the thing is like, you, you need to find a former fatty a, or like someone I have so much energy, but the problem is as soon as I opened my mouth, like I'm going to get into trouble. Um, so that's why I left corporate America. But, uh, yeah, I don so much energy, but the problem is as soon as I open my mouth, like I'm going to get into trouble. So that's why I left corporate America. But yeah, I don't know. But boys, yeah, I don't know.

I definitely no husband on the horizon yet, but I'm going to keep kissing illegal immigrants and tattooed men from Bushwick. And I don't even think he lives in Bushwick. It just looked like it was from Bushwick.

But female comedians have it tough. I've had on a few on the show. Nikki Glaser has been on and Jallyinging summers and um when you're that funny i think as a guy kind of like it's very intimidating yeah and like i like funny people i like funny men i have like very dry humor a lot of the time i'm very sarcastic like everything i say like the illegal immigrant thing obviously was complete fabrication like that's completely not true and i have a big mouth and i just say shit and i can't i have no filter yeah so sometimes i'll say things like i kissed an illegal immigrant and it's just obviously not true but like i'm kidding anyways no as a guy though because if you're making all my friends

laugh and i can't make them laugh it's like shit why am i with this girl she's the center of attention but i love demanding a room i love commanding a room i love walking and taking over the place but i love it if you ran into ran into Trump, what would you tell him right now? That's so hard. I've actually thought about this many times. Elevator pitch. Elevator pitch to Trump. I just want to let you know that you're the finance man of America's dreams.

You know, like 6'5". You would kiss up to him? Yeah. You're the finance boy. Because he's a big ego. It's not a bad thing. He's an ego guy. Yeah.

So you have to touch his ego a bit. You know, he used to say something that, or like Trump, like I'm making America hot again. He would like that. Yeah, he would like that. Yeah, I would go with that one. I'd be like, I'm getting the hot conservatives together. And he'd be like, yes. I'm like, I'm showing people that conservatives aren't weird.

Like, it's so much more exciting to be fun and cool. And like, you could do it all. I vibe with conservative women. I don't have any liberal woman friends to be honest no well i actually do have a lot of liberal friends but like we well actually a lot of them don't speak to me anymore i bet yeah which is a shame because i'm friends with liberals but liberal woman i mean partially because i have a fiance but yeah well that's a good thing that is a positive thing but this is the thing so liberal women so i have a lot of guy friends and's a good thing that is a positive thing but this is the thing so liberal women so i have a lot of guy friends and everyone kind of hates on me now and but i didn't

always i was not always the guy friend girl yeah i became the guy friend girl because more women are liberal in general and especially in like liberal hubs like new york city you're gonna get a lot more oh yeah so that's my issue. Makes sense. Yeah. Any major city, liberal woman. Exactly. So, so I have a lot of guy friends and it's just because like, they're all conservative.

We think the same, like it's easier to shoot the shit with them. They're not offended. Like, I'll be like, what's up, bag? Like,

I'm like a bro. They're like, we're guys a bro. Like the other day we were walking down the West side highway. My friend was like, Oh, this girl, I'm like,

Oh, can you set me up with someone? And he's like, what do you want? He's like, yeah, like a brunette girl. And then my friend was me up with someone and he's like what do you want he's like yeah like a brunette girl and then my friend was like oh raquel like do you know any like hot brunettes and i'm literally standing there like are you fucked like i what am i fucking chopped liver after we walk like oh dude that guy was so hot he was like he was like dressed well i'm like what the fuck and he's like oh sorry i forgot you're a girl through shade i was like bro damn did you get with him?

Well, he did follow me on Instagram. So there is hope. Work in progress. Yeah. Well, thanks for coming on. That was fun. Thank you so much. Yes, sir.