Digital Social Hour - Cam Girl to Spiritual Speaker: Natasha Graziano's Transformative Journey | Digital Social Hour #64

Episode Date: August 4, 2023

Ladies and gentlemen, brace yourselves for an episode that will leave you captivated and craving for more. In this week's edition of our podcast, we dive deep into the life of the remarkable Natasha Graziano, a woman whose journey will inspire, shock, and move you. From the very moment Natasha steps into the room, her vibrant energy is palpable. As she begins to share her story, you'll find yourself spellbound, hanging onto her every word. With candor and vulnerability, Natasha takes us on a rollercoaster ride through the lowest points of her life, a tale of redemption and self-discovery. We learn that Natasha's past as a webcam girl and her battle with drug addiction served as catalysts for her incredible transformation. Through sheer willpower and determination, Natasha clawed her way out of the darkness, rebirthing herself into the powerful, enlightened woman we see today. But Natasha's journey doesn't end there. She delves into the world of digital platforms, captivating thousands with her voice and energy. She recounts her Clubhouse glory days, where she commanded rooms filled with 25,000 people, even attracting the attention of icons like Damon John and Ja Rule. The conversation turns to relationships, and here, Natasha's insight is unparalleled. She shares invaluable wisdom on finding the "one," debunking societal norms and embracing the idea of multiple soulmates. With a mix of romance and practicality, she guides us through the intricate dance of passion, compatibility, and self-discovery. And just when you think you've heard it all, Natasha lets us in on her personal rituals and hobbies. From grounding in nature and breathwork to indulging in homemade chocolate delights, she is a force to be reckoned with. As our time with Natasha comes to a close, we are left in awe of her unyielding belief in the power of manifestation. She imparts her knowledge on the art of scripting, sharing the secrets behind achieving dreams with laser-like focus. Her book, "Be It Till You Become It," serves as a guide, weaving together neuroscience and ancient wisdom to help readers tap into their limitless potential. This episode is not one to be missed. Join us in immersing yourself in Natasha Graziano's captivating journey, as she invites you to step into your own power and rewrite your story. Trust us, you won't regret it. So grab your headphones and listen to this episode now, for an empowering and entertaining adventure awaits. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [e-mail] SPONSORS: AG1: https://www.drinkAG1.com/DSH Hostage Tape: https://hostagetape.com/DSH --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/digitalsocialhour/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is it hard for you to, like, date men? Yes, it does. The truth is, when some dude comes in and he is not shining in his flow, so when somebody is low energy and, like, just not really, like, performing at their highest level, I tell them, sit the f*** down so the man behind you can stand up, because you ain't being a superior man. So you're not a fan of these one-night stands? No, I mean, i'm done enough but like

welcome to the digital social hour i'm your host sean Kelly, with my co-host, Wayne Lewis. What up, what up? And our guest today, Natasha Graziano. How's it going? What's up, boys? Happy to be here. It's Graziano. He's in the building. I love her energy already. I bring the fire. Like, when I walk into a building, I'm like, I'm here. I have arrived. Right, right, right.

See, you came in with the whole glass set on. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Tell people your your story because i'm already feeling the energy thank you yeah crazy story i mean like i sit here now and i still pinch myself i'm like wow like when i look around me once i didn't even know where i was going to go the next thing i didn't even know if i was going to be able to show up for my son three years ago maybe four years ago something that I was in the lowest place of my life I was a single mom who had hit rock bottom emotionally physically spiritually financially I was ill I was unwell trying to overcome an illness and I was ashamed at who I become I've been a webcam girl for years had a drug

problem and I just thought where the fuck am I going from here how am I gonna get out of this mess but was from that place of rock bottom. It was from that place of pain and suffering that was rebirthed the Natasha that you see today. Wow. So you were a webcam girl. I didn't even know that. Oh, yeah. Well, I dropped that randomly like here and there.

They throw that in there. Yeah. Oh, and the rest. I loved it at the time. But like, it was I was trying to pay the bills. Yeah. Like I was trying to get by. So for me, it's like, I see the girls do it. I'm like, I rate you.

Cause I don't know your story. Everyone has a story. You know what I mean? Yeah. But I mean, I think I was telling you, I think you're, you're a unique case because like, um, I think black China's going through that right now. Right. Oh, that's interesting.

I was at Tiger's the other day. Her baby daddy. Yeah, I think she's going through a transitioning phase. She was like number one on there, right? I mean, she undid her body and everything. Wait, is she going the other way? Yeah, she's taking what they put in her body, she's taking it out now.

She's trying to... Tattoos, everything. Yeah, she's evolving, right? She's going through her own journey. So when did you reach that place of like, I guess, consciousness? Did you just wake up one day? What was the experience? Were you like, oh, wow, now I'm here. When did you arrive?

Love that. You know, it was an evolution evolution but there was a one day when it just hit me i was getting lower and lower doing my worst like when you're that low it's so hard to get out because nothing seems good anymore you just you just feel like the world is against you but i remember standing in the mirror and i was looking in the mirror and i was ready for my mom's wedding i was about to walk down the aisle to be her bridesmaid with my sisters. And my makeup was streaming down my face. I was still overcoming this illness.

And I looked at myself and I was listening to Denzel Washington in my ears. And it was like driving this like energy through my body. And I started preaching life over myself, saying like, this is just temporary. You are not meant to be in this place. Get out of it. Like leave this place. The pain is just temporary. Like you're to be in this place get out of it like leave this place the pain is just temporary like you're here to evolve get out of it like believe you can do it and i suddenly heard these words you're gonna be a motivational speaker and i was like what five foot four like this wounded soul like i'm gonna be a motivational speaker like how is that

possible right but in that moment is where i realized if I can just believe this for one day maybe tomorrow I'll believe it again just for one more day and then one day one day one day turned into a year and all of a sudden I'd healed myself wow so where did the voice come come from like when did um not the actual voice in your head but your voice like was it did you just started speaking one day or did you practice or just it was like yo set this camera up i'm just gonna go yo that's so funny so i've always been one like people say like were you born this way or did you did you learn it i was born this way like i used to bust out on the stage and like i'm gonna tell you some funny stories today i'm sure like for the first time i've never shared anywhere

but you know later on but i went out on the stage when i was a kid and it was like a fashion show or like a singing contest i don't know what you call it a beauty pageant i would go up there and i would do whatever and i would win like just my personality would win like i knew like when someone raised their hand in the audience i always get chosen shout out to today's episode sponsor hostage tape man Tape. Man, this stuff's good, bro. I know. Last night, I slept with my mouth open. I really needed it.

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Because I just believe I'm lucky. I believe it's going to happen for me. I believe it's my turn. And so I stood in front of the mirror and I then started preaching life. And then that one ripple there turned into a ripple effect of me then kind of recording these tapes. And they were almost imagine like a mixtape for an artist but i was just like recording these tapes and feeling alive and then i shared one on on youtube and it went viral and i was like oh my god my my denzel

washington speech is now mine like i'm now lifting somebody up i'm now saving somebody's life right right right you know so it just every day but i'll tell you what really cracked it for me do you remember clubhouse yeah yeah clubhouse is where i got famous like that's how i grew you know what clubhouse a lot of people pivoted from clubhouse bro because his voice and i mean she she look listen i mean parents into her energy yo that's crazy are you still on there my rooms used to have 25 000 people across four hours like you'd see the stats after i was like 25 000 across four hours we had everyone in there from damon john to ja rule all my boys will come in it was dope yeah and then it started to decline like something happened i

don't know what happened but something happened and it just i was like i'm out like i leave at the peak of the party like i'm not the girl who leaves like trust me you're gonna be missing this energy baby like i just i decided to leave but clubhouse was amazing and it gave everybody a platform who didn't have one and if you hit it at the right time which i did i grew my name on there and so i went from being on virtual stages practicing so i'd be like carrying my phone around the house. Like you're speaking into it. And so then COVID lifted. Like you allowed out the house all of a sudden.

So first thing I did, I was in the UK. I moved to America. I got out of there. Oh, you was in the UK this whole time? I was living in the UK. Whoa. Couldn't tell by her accent? I mean, no, no, no.

I mean, like I'm thinking she's in LA doing all this clubhouse stuff. That's so interesting. Yeah, I'm not thinking that you, like, during COVID. So you're kind of new to LA. Three years? I just moved two months ago to LA. I was in. Oh, two months ago?

Yeah. So I moved end of 21 to Vancouver and then was in LA back and forwards. Like, you know, staying in Airbnbs for, like, two years. And then I can't add up up but whatever the time difference is i think it's a year and then like now i'm like okay i just realized like i have to move like full-time so i moved my son and you know he was so seeing with your high energy you know um a positive thought process is it hard for you to like date men that's so interesting so and I'm saying not date men in general but I'm saying does the mindset of certain men turn you off of them I love this question yeah

oh my god love is like my favorite topic I just love this you know I'm gonna drop some knowledge for you on this this is my this is my thing yes it does the truth is when some dude comes in and he is not shining in his flow you know i don't care whether you're a marketing expert or whether you're a star or whether you're it doesn't matter what you do as long as you are doing it at such a high level that you feel amazing and you show up every day because then you match my energy you don't have to match my my my frequency like this we have to match my like determination ambition feeling for life right i'm so excited by life like i just i'm excited like i come to your show i'm just excited like yeah i love it so when somebody is is low energy and like just not really like performing at their highest level i tell them

sit down so the man behind you can stand up because you aren't being a superior man. You need to be a superior man. Like the book says, David Daler's book, sit down. If you want to be with a queen, you have to first be a king. All these men, oh, you know I'm dating and there's no one I like. I look after a lot of A-list stars, actors, rappers, DJs, all the rest of it. And I'm like, oh, I don't find love.

I don't find love. And I'm like, that's because you're just having so many one-night stands. You're not allowing a woman to be a queen. You've got to behave like a king. Go celibate. Pull your energy back. Hold your energy back and then release it into that woman you love. Wow.

So you're not a fan of these one-night stands? No. I mean, I've done enough, but like, shut up. I've got no filter. Like, I'm one of these people. No, that's perfect because it shows that you're human. I'm real. Like, I love it. You're a human being.

But I like that, though. So how can people raise their energy, raise their vibration? Because a lot of people operate so low and they're prone to disease because of it. They're prone to all these bad problems. How can people raise it? Okay, so if you're prone to something or you feel you're prone to something, the thing to do is to tap into a new version of you. Tap into like who you want to be.

So for example, we'll take love. If you want to attract a 10 out of 10, you you want to attract a 10 out of 10 you first have to be a 10 out of 10 you can't play at a 2 out of 10 expect a 10 because you're just going to attract what you are so if you're trying to overcome an illness i overcame an illness if i kept complaining and being in pain and allowing it which is very easy by the way it's very easy to get depressed and you lose your full sparkle i feel like you've lost you why is it so easy to get depressed it's so easy to be negative it is because your brain the science behind it is your brain is actually chemically prone to go that way it will go always into a negative thing it's like

a plane and the pilot the pilot constantly has to pull the plane back on track it's constantly going off course all it does the whole journey is pull it back on track pull it back on track pull it back on track and so your brain does the same it constantly wants to think negatively it wants to throw you down a dark path because we rent space in our mind for free we should be elevating saying no i'm not going to give you space in my mind for free i'm going to choose what serves me what if this belief in my head does not serve my mission and who I am I'm gonna remove you from my head because you are not gonna rent space for free wow so were you always super spiritual or did you sort of develop into that later you know I've always been this way because my dad became

Buddhist halfway through my life and so he would oh, and like chant in my ears. I went to bed. So I guess it started there, but I read, I just read a lot. Like I read the secret of 15. Um, I read a lot of these books and then,

you know, full 360. I'm now like speak on stages with them and coach with them. And it's amazing. But I, I definitely read a lot. Yeah. I just, I just, books are ingredients. Yeah. Do you believe in soulmates? Well, with them and coach with them and it's amazing but i i definitely read a lot yeah i just books

are ingredients yeah they're ingredients do you believe in soulmates well i love this question i believe in multiple soulmates i do not believe in one i believe in you believe in polygamy then so i oh yeah on on which end the woman's end or the guy right the woman or is it the woman could do it the man can't no like oh so the woman can do it but the man can't the truth is if the woman does it she's going to go off with the person she meets if the man does it it's just so they both have to do it or not at all like polygamy is a whole other thing soulmates i truly believe that like every guy i've been with i've been like you're my soulmate you're my soulmate and you'll see me like online in articles it been like, you're my soulmate. You're my soulmate. And you'll see me like online in articles.

It's like, oh, he's my soulmate. And people want to say, oh, she always says her soulmate. Yeah, babe. I think there's a lot of them. Like, that's just my thing. I do genuinely believe that we have multiple soulmates in our lifetime. However, some people don't actually find all their soulmates. They end up with one person and no matter what, they make it work.

And I rate that in some ways. You know, they stay together for the kids. But I believe everything has a sell-by by date so i'll give you my best she said sell by date shy sell by date i'll be in it for three years i might be in it for five i'm gonna give you my best like i'm gonna try so you don't believe in forever love no i don't believe in forever love because i've been burned and i've also been on the other side of that where i've been the one who's not and i i just know that the grass is always greener and the truth is if you can just water the grass where you are it will last longer and i have to tell myself that every day as i wear green but i just feel that if you can try and do forever

that's the best way because you'll try and get to 10 years but when it starts to turn off when the passion goes try and reign goes, try and reignite it. Try and reignite it three, four times. But when you've tried for three years and all you do is argue in front of the kids, that's not worth it. Get out. So there is a moment when it's like, you know, the word soulmate just becomes like not right for you anymore. Yeah, I feel like it's, I mean, like, I guess you can have multiple soulmates. I think that's the problem in society i think a lot of people are unhappy because they do have multiple soulmates and

they just don't want to be honest with themselves they like more than one woman well this is the thing so like you know we can look at many different people i can think of someone right now who's uh dating someone and what days and he's got a baby with her and he got another eight babies at the same time and like wow you know i look at that and i'm like he just understands it and they're all happy with it but i personally wouldn't be one of a many harim like i'll be you'll be with me and then if you weren't with me then you would be with somebody else at another time but you and i would have had our moment and if you have kids that's when it gets complicated because now it's like oh the kids like only three that's awkward like my son's six and we split up when he was

young so that was like you know really hard so like you have to think about like okay how can i evolve in a way with you and you evolve but when you stop evolving and they don't evolve or they evolve faster than you you have a problem there's a gap. You know? Yeah, there is, definitely. It's kind of like a chase. It becomes one person's trying to keep up with the other one. Yes. I mean, look, I'm all for,

a lot of women are very supportive of their person. They're like, sit behind them and they're like, I'm gonna make sure your food is done, I'm gonna make sure you look amazing and I don't moan the fact you're out all day because you're making the money. Like, I can give her her props. I would find that very boring because I did that before.

I was a housewife and I found it was tough. But out the other side of it, being somebody who's so empowered, I just say if you are super empowered, you will attract an amazing partner to you who won't ever be bored of you. I tell my guys who are super successful, you keep thinking you need a beta woman because you're an alpha. No, sweetie, you need an tell my guys who are super successful you keep thinking you need a beta woman because you're an alpha no sweetie you need an alpha because she's gonna

match you it's gonna be like two stars it's gonna be like two powerhouses together and then you only have two powerhouses together all of a sudden you you have this like excitement like what are you doing yeah but she has to and she has to know how to channel her alpha though because there's some women who take that alpha and they run with it meaning they exude masculine energy and alpha woman isn't supposed to exude masculine energy she's just supposed to be alpha in her space not in the household yes interesting yeah yes interesting yeah it's funny because you know you a lot of women are like i'm so you know my masculinity is so strong i over. Well, I don't overpower men. Like, I'm super, like, masculine.

Yeah, but I'm so feminine in my ways. I can soft touch you. I can, like, meditate with you. We can be calm together and sweet together. I can cry with you. I can be a cutesy with you. Like, I can go all the different phases, right? And that's who I am.

It's just who I am. But my masculine energy is just, like, you know, I'll just make a lot of decisions. I'll just make it easy for you. Like, I show up and I'm like, this is what we're going to do today. I'm going to make your life so easy. You know, we're going to do this. And by the way, in the meantime, I'm introducing you to, like, these four artists who you're going to do something with. Oh, my God, thank you.

You know? Sounds great. thank you like you know sounds great do you feel like a lot of women are now nowadays that are chasing after a certain kind of guy do you feel like a lot of those women are delusional yes they are wanting perfection but sweetie perfection is okay but how long you been single for if you've been single for more than three years maybe perfection doesn't happen like how long are you gonna go until you meet somebody perfect yeah look at how long you've been single for by choice is different when you're actually like cut away from the world you don't want to do it you're like choosing to do it that's very different but I really want this guy I really want this perfection or your partner whoever

it is you know I want this and I want this and that the perfection does not exist nine out of ten does you can't get a nine out of ten that's your soulmate you know I always used to wonder when I was with my ex he was um he was an actor a really famous actor and what's his name I'll say the first name Elijah okay so we were always together we lived together together. And he was cool. We had a great relationship. But it just got to that point. And I was like, wait, is this the one?

I was like, is this the one? So I started feeling like this is the one. But then I would cry all the time. And then it got to a point where I was like, this is not what the one would feel like, surely. Or is there anything better? So now I'm cross-questioning my own relationship my own self which is really sad so you have to recognize am i in something amazing is it the one how you know it's the one is it feels blissful you do not argue you feel amazing it's easy i keep telling

people that when you know that she's a solid chick or if she's the one it is easy it's easy to be with her easy to be around her easy to spend time with her nothing is forced so it almost feels like she's already been there even though if you guys just meet it it feels like she was kind of been there already it's weird like you just know her like it's it's odd yeah no you're right yeah it's very odd yeah time vortexes so it like time disappears so effectively what you'll do is you'll feel like you've been together for an hour but it will feel sorry you've been together three hours and it will be like boy we've been here for like days three hours is the equivalent of three days you get lost into this like space of love that's when

you know like i'm really with somebody i love somebody who's the one because you just it's so different with them and then you don't realize you've been with them as long as you've been with them until you look up it's like we've been together four years but time just there's no time it's just you've been with them for so long you just it doesn't feel like it but when they're not the one four years to to like 40, like, where the is it gonna end? No, I know, and we've all probably been in a relationship where we felt like, oh my God, I need to get out of here, but you know, you could've just followed your heart,

like you'll know when you meet the one, if it feels good. Like, I just, when I fall in love, I love falling in love, like I'm the worst. She said I love falling in love. Falling in love! How many times have you fallen in love? Oh God, like at least- Once a month?

Maybe, like, that's bad at this point. falling in love how many times have you fallen in love oh god like at least once a month maybe i know i'm the worst even like situations i love love like i love falling in love yeah like i love love i'm such a romantic and you know so what i put my heart on my sleeve i might get hurt but the hurt's gonna last for a few days maybe a week it'll be really painful and then like i'm gonna either win it back or i'm just going to continue into another realm and, like, you know, meet somebody else. And love is beautiful. What are, like, some of your hobbies

outside of your profession, what you do? Like, what do you do, like, when nobody's watching? Like, is it, like, bake? Is it cook? Snacks? Like, what's your thing? Oh, yeah, I eat snacks. Like, at night. What's your favorite snack oh well i

make them myself if you must know so i love chocolate so at night i go into my like naughty cupboard you said the naughty the naughty my grandmother used to use that word really cheers for that she's from the uk oh she's from the uk i was like said in the same way that's so cool oh my god of course because you're part british right love your mix not bad oh yeah don't mix okay so uh i go in the cupboard and uh whatever you call it they have a naughty drawer and although yeah another story about the north for a long time but i go in there and i get out chocolate and cacao nibs and dates and like dark dark dark chocolate and anything else i can find and then i put it together and i like heat it up mix it up

or i make squashy little things and then i eat it oh like that is what do you actually call that snack i would call that like a date cookie dough snack sounds Sounds good. I'll try it. You sound pretty healthy. Oh, I am so healthy. Like I take it. Oh yeah. So that's all like. All natural. Yeah. So again, you didn't see anything like bad in there.

It's all like, I take my health really seriously. I think when you've had a health challenge, you have no other way than to look at what, you know, you love. And back to the hobby thing as well. You know, I now do what I love. I once didn't. I was led by history and that's not mine right i was led by society i was led by what the world wanted for me whereas

now i live my life and i go and dance so when no one's there i love dancing and walking in nature like this morning with shoes off or shoes on? Off. Always. You know about grounding? Yeah, yeah. You ground? Yeah. You ground in Vegas. Well, we find some grass patches. Not much, but there's some there. So if I lived here, I would literally like go to the like garden center, whatever you

call it. And I would buy like a four foot patch of grass and I would plant that in my garden. And I would be like, that's my grounding spot. Like I would, I love grass. Standing on it and grounding is one of my favorite things to do. It is so refreshing. It is so good for the soul. It is.

It's so beautiful just to let the energy flow through your body. And then I breathe. I do breath work on there. And I do all of that for fun. I hang out with my son. I love studying and reading and learning more about my craft. I love to cook. I really don't do it enough because I'm always on tour.

But I love to cook if I have a chance to. ROBBIE REYNOLDSON, Yeah, I have stuff for healthy stuff. TAYLOR BOETTICHER, Yeah. ROBBIE REYNOLDSON, Bad or healthy? TAYLOR BOETTICHER, Oh, oh, good stuff. ROBBIE REYNOLDSON, Are you healthy? OK. So everybody can eat if you cook everybody clean,

not just like- TAYLOR BOETTICHER, Oh my god. It's gluten- free, dairy free, but like filled with goodness. Like the best one that I make is a roast chicken. So you'll know this with the British side. So like on a Sunday, you have a roast chicken. Basically we have Thanksgiving every Sunday.

Oh for real? So yeah, so it's like you feel so full after. And I do like nice portions of it. So I'll do like a roast chicken and then vegetables underneath. And like I bake it in the oven, like, nice portions of it. So I'll do, like, a roast chicken and then vegetables underneath. And, like, I bake it in the oven. And, like, oh, my God, the juice comes off it. I'm making someone hungry right now. And, like, pour the gravy over it at the end.

And, like, it is so good. Wow. I need to try that. That sounds insane. I love food. Yeah, for sure. It's in my top three. Oh, yeah, yeah.

Oh, really? That's really good. I put it above ****. Like, it's definitely up there.. Oh, yeah, yeah. Oh, really? I put it above. It's like it's it's definitely up there. Wow. She said wow. I would probably go with. That's a great question.

With the right person. OK. But but food is a big thing for me. Like everybody in my team and my family know, like I take my food seriously. Like I will not just go and grab a meal. Like you best know, like, you know, my food, what am I eating? Like I take it so seriously because I understand what it does to your body.

On top of that, I love the flavors and there's so much it can't eat. So I have to have a good one. Yeah. That's fire. How do you balance traveling the world with a six-year-old son does he come with you i know he's at school so we spend time on like the weekends or if i'm traveling during weekend like i'll see him when i'm back and then i just kind of give him my time when i'm there after school i'm like right here's an hour i'm just gonna be like rio and mommy time and we go and catch insects and like you know find snails to put in tanks and then like once we bought african land snails

they're like these giant snails and we bought them and they grew so big and then we had to set them free because they were too big but we set them free in the middle of a park in london and like you're not allowed to do that on this african land thank god i've moved out the uk i don't want to get arrested in doing this like you're not like you are not meant to like let like it says do not let live african land snails out they're so big and they i think they're really like i don't know they're huge and we had to set them free because we were moving country and they grew so big so we just let them wait so what do they eat well they eat lettuce and grass oh they could they could survive it was the problem that someone else is going to come across it and be like oh my god the dinosaurs are back like it's out there you know it's like

it's so loose what about growing up without a father figure does that worry you um no he he has he has his dad in this life um which is amazing he so his dad is in la too no his dad's in the uk um go back yeah exactly but like my partner now is like amazing with him as well so nice oh okay so you have someone you date in la um i am actually in a relationship yeah she manifested it i manifested it yeah yeah she wrote down 100 things right he wrote down i manifested it. Yeah, yeah. She wrote down a hundred things, right? I wrote down. I did my research. Oh, yeah, yeah.

I wrote, this is a crazy story. So I wrote down a hundred things I wanted in a guy. Like every detail. I was like, you know, he's this, he's this, he's this. Ambitious, loving, kind, quirky, funny. Like just everything I wanted. And it was just so detailed. And then I wrote a story and I scripted it.

And I was like, in the past tense, which is the method that I coach, which was like, you know, he is this. So wait, the past tense method. Explain that so that people understand. Oh, yeah. I'm glad we talked on that because I know people are going to mess with me. Like, what's scripting? Tell me about it.

What is the past tense method? You know, it's such a powerful method and it's so easy. You get a pen and paper. You have to do it with a pen and paper versus typing what's scripting? Tell me about it. Yeah, well, what is the past tense method? You know, it's such a powerful method, and it's so easy. You get a pen and paper. You have to do it with a pen and paper versus typing, because that's part of the science behind it. And what you do is you write, in the past tense, a story about yourself for, say, in a year's time or in three years' time. But you write a story about the future as though it's already happened. So it could be, I met the love of my life, and they were sensational. We just clicked.

We knew that we were the one for each other. We moved in after three months, got married after six and had a baby after a year. Boom. You are so detailed to the point. And then you explore that more. So you put lots of using your five senses. It felt amazing when we made love. They made me, they made me do this.

Like we ate the most delicious food together. We cook chicken all the time, whatever it is detail detail on detail you do it in the past tense because when you do it in the past tense it's scientifically proven to bring it to fruition faster there's actually an article citation from the harvard business review 2014 by ottengen uh which is she wrote about this article in positive thinking and it says when you write your goals down in the past tense you are scientifically likely to achieve them so much more than if you just wrote them down normally okay so in the past tense you had all you would have already achieved your goals yeah so you're saying I am married right now I will be I got married I got married yeah I got married

I do have a million dollars yeah I already have I live in the mansion I moved into the move into the mansion see so mostly most people are going on the reason why I'm saying it like that yeah we're going to they don't really know how to write it like that has to be written in a certain dialogue right start doing that how often do you do that honestly every day i miss days obviously but it's fun like i'll sit on the plane and like i just write or i i go to before i go to bed because your mind is more impressionable so if you are about to fall asleep we're going into the alpha state and then theta and delta these are slower brainwave states where your mind is more impressionable and that's when

you do all the hard wiring the rewiring of the brain. So right before you go to bed, you relax. You relax deeper. You relax more. And all of a sudden, you are in a really calm state. You're about to fall asleep. I usually do this with a candle and you can't even see what I'm writing. Or to be safe, just do it with a light.

But just like, you know, the candles are relevant of what I'm talking about. I'm just saying what I personally do. But you're writing it down you just you're really sleepy it's good to do it right before bed because your brain will find a way to bring it to fruition because when you've written it down it activates the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex of your brain which is in charge of behavior and emotional regulation and it doesn't know whether or not you've achieved that goal it doesn't know whether or not you've achieved that goal. It doesn't know whether it's a memory or an imaginary one. So it finds a way to mirror it in your outer reality, which is even more neuroscience. We'll do that another day.

But essentially before bed, writing it down helps you to bring it to fruition faster. Your brain does all the work while you're asleep, trying to find a way to make it happen. The next day you go out and you're like, like yo this is so nuts i feel like i'm 10 steps closer to my goal this person just came into my life this event just happened everything's just showing up in my life which is showing me i can achieve it like i'm feeling it everything's starting to mirror in my reality that i can do this goal it's a really nice feeling so that sucks not what are the what are the it's really good what are the key words again so that they know that you use specifically it's not that i have it's i was i was i met i met i had i had get it so it's like i had the most amazing year 2020

you're already claiming it yeah 23 24 25 whatever year it. But most people do this. I am amazing. I am loved. Now, they're beautiful. Affirmations do work. However, your brain, when you write it in the past tense, it is so much more powerful. So instead of using I am, they must use I have. I was. I was.

Yeah. So they're like, you've got I was, I am, and I will. I will is in the the future and it puts distance between you and the thing it's too far i am is affirmation yeah i was this past yeah i love that see we're starting you got it specific i'm telling you i read it it's specific words that still have to be used in dialogue in order for it to fully manifest because like she said i am is the affirmation it's kind of like a standstill yeah i will be his future creates distance but i was it's already happened you get what i'm saying that's a really good way of putting it yeah you have to actually use specific words in that

in order for it to really fully you know yeah come to manifest yeah yeah wow it's been a blast um what's over already yeah it's been 30 minutes, I could do this for four hours with you guys. Oh, my God. This is amazing. Next, I have so many things coming up. I just did my TED Talk on scripting on that exact topic. So it will be out now. You guys will be able to watch it.

If it's not out yet, it will be out in a minute. We're working on some really cool things in TV, which we'll stay tuned for. Nice. And just back on my speaking tour, helping TV, which we'll stay tuned for. Nice. And just back on my speaking tour, helping people around the world. That's fire. I love it. I appreciate you for coming through. Your energy is fire.

Thank you. Honestly, you're both really beautiful souls. Thank you. I've really enjoyed myself. Thank you for having me. So you have any books or anything that you work on? Any audio? My book is a wall street

journal bestseller it's what my latest book is my favorite one so it's called be it till you become it and you know it's a take on play you know fake it till you make it i never like that i like become it like decide it today just like become who you want to be step into it today and be it just don't wait till the future don't don't wait and think oh you know like i'll just do it one day no no do it today how would you behave if you were the billionaire today how would you behave if you had a top podcast how would you behave if you were a top genius in this area if you were a top public speaker how would you behave you'd be really calm and fulfilled and like certain and confident about what you do. And so that for me is,

you know what the book's about. It's the neuroscience and ancient wisdom behind the law of attraction. So you're coming out with a cookbook too then, right? Yeah, I should at some point. The law of attraction for cooking. Feel it in your stomach.

Think about the ingredients. It'll show up in the oven. Oh man, she and Aisha Curry can do right right for sure oh man thanks so much natasha appreciate you yeah we'll have to catch up again for sure so fun wayne you can follow us on instagram and thanks for watching thanks for watching digital social hour see you guys next time peace