Digital Social Hour - Confessions of a Male Escort Turned Bedroom Coach with Sterling Cooper | Digital Social Hour #19

Episode Date: May 24, 2023

Hello listeners! In this week's Digital Social Hour episode, we have tantalizing discussions with Ari Gold, Sean Kelly, Wayne Lewis, and our special guest, Stirling Cooper. We delve into Stirling's exciting life as a porn actor and a straight male escort, where he explains how he used his natural ability to shine and refused to rely on drugs to enhance his performances. We explore Stirling's profession as a sexual performance coach, where he provides expert advice on how to beat the four horsemen of the dick apocalypse: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and performance anxiety. As we continue our conversation, we touch on the intricate nuances of dating and the dating marketplace, where Stirling shares his experience and wisdom on what works and what doesn't. Swag and confidence are key to attracting women, and we learn that it's essential to learn boundaries and avoid oversexualizing oneself. We wrap up the episode by digging into the exciting world of self-improvement, where Stirling shares his tips on building self-esteem and social skills, trying new things, and pushing oneself out of their comfort zone. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/digitalsocialhour/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

all right welcome to the digital social hour i'm here with my co-host wayne lewis what up ari gold what's cracking and our guest today, Cooper Sterling. It's actually Sterling Cooper because my Instagram's backwards. It's a long story. Sterling Cooper. That's correct. That's correct. All right. What up? How you like in Vegas? I like Vegas, but I used to work out here every now and then. So, you know, I like the city. I'm kind of used to it. Okay. Was that during your male escort days? That was during my porn days. Damn, Sean just died right into it. I didn't know where to start with this. Male escort days. You can ask me about anything you like, bro.

I'm like, I'm booked. So did you get into porn before the male escort days? I was a straight male escort back in Australia. That's how I actually kind of got into porn in the first place. You ought to clarify with the straight there. I really have to clarify that shit. Where did you get into? Wealthy Chinese business ladies, mostly.

On film? No, they were fucking private.'re paying me they're paying me so wait wait so so you were being escorted so not live but after wait so you were being like the you're you were like a escort a male escort i was a uh a companion a companion yeah so y'all would meet and go straight you would hang out you you you you wine and dine well you wine and dine them but technically they're paying for the whining and dining yeah but it's like uh the boyfriend experience yeah that's what it's about so like how many times a week were you having sex like what was like your max you guys are so what what no what was like the max times you had sex in one week i mean honestly i didn't get into the stuff until i was in my late 20s so

i kind of paced myself i wouldn't do anything more than like four or five times a week oh four or four that's not bad yeah so you want to be out where like so you never like took anything you just worked out and just kept for the for the escalating stuff yeah it was mostly just like god-given talent then when i went to like porn like you'd say you'd use like a little blue pill for like the super super hard difficult scenes where it's just like one woman and there's like 10 dudes and you gotta like take your turn with like a vagina and you share that for like a fucking hour yeah so that would be like okay this is this day's gonna be tough i'll pop a little blue pill and then on the other days right it's not so tough you don't use that because then you other days, right, it's not so tough.

You don't use that because then you're not relying on it. It's not a crutch anymore. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You don't want to use it as like a crutch. Okay, so wait. I want to know, how did you go from porn to kicking it with Andrew Tate?

That's a jump. Yeah, it is a bit of a jump, isn't it? So, well, I mean, obviously, at the time, he was doing, him and his brother were doing webcam stuff. So we kind of had that in common. I actually started off on Twitter. I actually got into kind of a back and forth

with Tristan Tate about, like, the European porn industry. And we disagreed on some stuff. And then I had Tristan on my YouTube channel. And we, turns out, we were like Eskimo brothers. Oh, nice. That's not surprising. That's a bond. Yeah, it wasn't really surprising.

Yeah, it is, for sure. No, but that's a bond that can never be broken. Yeah, yeah,imo brothers. Oh, nice. That's not surprising. That's a bond. It wasn't really surprising. Yeah, it is for sure. No, but that's a bond that can never be broken. Most men know because once you've shared a plate of fish with another man, you know how that fish acts. You know the tendencies. You can bond over the bullshit. Yeah. It's a very beautiful moment to share with a man.

It's like, oh, Jessica. Yeah. Oh, my God. she hits you with this one for sure but if you do that and then they don't know it's like oh it's okay you don't fuck so these days i try to avoid that completely so so you always what do you deny it like no i don't know or you just kind of no no no like if i see like a girl's following my friend on instagram i would talk to her yeah like we have a very me and my close group of friends have a very very strict broker around that even if she just we try to completely avoid it i like that too although they say that's the same girls were sliding the rare

code the same girls the exact same girls will be sliding into all our dms simultaneously yeah so it's like it's a buckshot i'm like yeah they're trying to see which one they can snap. Yeah, they're trying to penetrate. I don't want to be a part of that. It's really more clout chasing, I feel like, these days. You think so? You know? Well, look at it this way. If the guy's hanging around Andrew Tate, who's got more eyes on him in the world?

Andrew Tate. Exactly. So, you know, if you're just even a side bitch in the background, just kind of – Yeah, yeah, yeah. For sure. You know? Oh, my God, girl, that's Stephanie with Andrew Tate. Look at that.

Yeah. And it's really obvious. It's really obvious when you see that. You're going to know. You're going to know right off rip. Do you think the Tates will get out of jail? Yeah, they'll get out. They're not going to be charged with anything.

The charges are baseless, man. I think it's conspiracy. Yeah. That's the reason they're detaining them. They still haven't been charged. They've been sitting there for, what, three months now? 60 days, yeah. They can keep them for, like, six months, really. God. Without charging them. So that haven't been charged. They've been sitting there for like, what, three months now? 60 days, yeah. They can keep them

for like six months, really. Oh. Without charging them. So that's all they're doing. They're just detaining them. Not going to charge them. At the end of the day, they might try and like

make something up so they can keep their watches and their cars. Yeah. But they're definitely not going to jail over any of these allegations. They're all completely fake.

So you help men perform better? No, no, no. Backjack, backjack. Tell them what the IG... Oh, he's curious man no no tell him what the ig handle is tell him what your ig and oh my tag yeah the world's best bedroom coach for that yeah so so so you help men get better in the bedroom yeah i help them

i help them beat the four horsemen of the dick apocalypse what the fuck is that the four to the four horsemen the dick apocalypse the four horsemen of the Dickpocalypse. What the fuck is that? So the Four Horsemen of the Dickpocalypse. The Four Horsemen of the Dickpocalypse. Someone break out a notepad. I know somebody about to go to school right now. What are the Four Horsemen of the Dickpocalypse? Okay. Erectile dysfunction. Okay.

Premature ejaculation. Okay. Delayed ejaculation. And performance anxiety. Back out, back out, back out. Delayed ejaculation. What? What is delayed?

Delayed. That's what a lot of young dudes have today because they watch too much fucking porn. So they jack off too much. They can't come at all when they're with a chick. Oh. So they're sitting there

like pounding away for like an hour and fucking nothing's happening. Poor bastards. So how do you balance the porn or watching porn and actually performance? Is there a healthy balance? That's a good question.

So I don't shoot porn anymore. I stopped shooting like two years ago now and I started helping guys out with this stuff and I the more guys I started talking to

the more I realized like how damaging being habitual with your porn use is to guys it really fucks them up it's a crutch yeah yeah yeah

you're living in fantasy but is it porn or is it the jacking off to porn it's a bit of both it's a combination of both I mean like back in our day like when we were jacking off it was like a magazine magazine yeah literally it was

the same magazine i got in trouble in the third grade for bringing a cut out of the baddest i ever saw on a playboy you were jacking off in third grade i mean i don't know call me out and it was definitely no no it was uh actually i'm sorry it wasn't third grade it was middle school so it must have been must have been like fifth or sixth grade. But some fucking asshole ratted me out just just because he thought it was gonna be funny. And I beat the shit out of him. Yeah, I took my fucking nudie mag. And then from there, all my parents, I was gonna be a horny little monster, you know.

So how do you like how do you like like combat with that like with those four dick you call them dick apocalypse haha how do you how do you there's gotta be a better name can you defeat them like are they absolutely like it's not that like so first first let's start with like say performance anxiety right that's kind of getting in your own head that's the thing that affects most that what's performance anxiety that's you psyching yourself out and your dick can't get hard most guys think oh that happens when you're drunk happened to me once well that's what happens to me when i'm not attracted technically okay so technically if it's happening when you're drunk that's actually more erectile

dysfunction that's the difference between the two like erectile dysfunction think of it as like a plumbing problem right which means your blood flows off your heart's got like some plaque in it or something like that are you calling me a fat ass is that what you're trying to say your words not mine right i thought we're gonna be friends mr sterling fuck you sir but then you got okay you got that's the rectal dysfunction performance anxiety is when you're psyching yourself out you're getting in your own head like oh she's really really pretty and i'm nervous that i'm not going to be able to perform and then lo and behold you don't perform right then you've got the other two like delayed ejaculation watching too much goddamn porn yeah premature

ejaculation tends to come down to like again a mental half mental component and then half physical component with like your your pelvic floor being imbalanced you're being too tense and too tight so there's a whole definitely definitely don't have enough time to go into details. All of it. But all four of them are very, very easily fixed. And it's only because I've been professionally laying pipe for like eight years.

Professionally. All right, so hold on. Professionally laying pipe. You heard that. I feel like most people struggle, or most people have premature. Out of the four, that's probably the number. You heard that. I feel like most people struggle or most people have premature. Out of the four, that's probably the number one. Yeah, I'd say that's pretty fair.

Okay. Premature ejaculation. So let's – that would be my fair bet because I think I know a lot of guys that, you know, don't last very long. They come before she come? And that's like a – yeah, but that's a common thing where guys are trying to learn like karma sutra and all that shit and like balance your cock with your brain. I'm curious. No, but listen. We're laughing because we don't struggle from that, but I'm sure if somebody is, it sucks.

I'm curious what your perspective is on something like that. What would you say to a guy that is struggling with nothing too quick? Okay, so one really easy thing he can do is he has to pay attention to the way he's trained his body to act. And one of the reasons why a lot of dudes will bust super quickly is because when they watch porn, they finish in like 30 seconds. They're literally training their own body to finish super quickly. There's other guys who will sit there and fat for hours. They don't have that problem.

But the dudes who, when they watch porn, they're like 30 seconds 30 seconds done they're literally training their entire body to respond like that so when they have a beautiful woman in front of them why are they surprised that they're busted and finishing so quickly right so you have to you can completely reverse that physical anchoring that physical training by well one way is literally by like practicing what you would call edging or blue balling yourself deliberately doing it yeah so you can on your body can start to unlearn that response and you can learn to when you can you need to understand like where you're where that point of no return is blue ball yourself blue ball yourself ah okay okay okay fascinating so look let me uh so premature ejaculation is that before sex or is that just coming too early or ejaculating it's really just

coming before you want to okay like you're having control you heard the man he's trying to lay the pipe down for hours or if you've got five minutes if you want to lay it down for five minutes and do it five minutes yeah you know like this come on Yeah. You know, like this. Come on, come on. Okay, Superman. Okay, Superman. Let's go. Come on, come on. Sorry, baby.

I only have five minutes. Five minutes. Oh, I'm out. Oh, you know what, honey? Daddy's got some time. Well, there's nothing wrong with a quickie here and there. Yeah. Girls can enjoy quickies too.

At all. Yeah. I feel that. For sure. A bit of passion and a bit like, a bit. You just can't help yourself. I used to think the longer you could fuck, the better it was. But it turns out anything past an hour, it kind of gets a little. Yeah, there's a balance.

Hours a long time. An hour's too long. Hours a long time. An hour's a long time if all you're doing is just pounding. That's all you're doing for an hour? You got to make love. Anything over an hour, you got to be making love. That a whole different time what's the four the foreplay too is that included in sex too yeah totally so like okay if you want to go if you want to go for like an

hour like okay there's going to be like she's going to suck you're talking you're going to go down on her from it maybe you want to get do some kinky like tie her up like a bit of role play but a bit of dirty talk that like that is an hour okay you know if you're just sitting there in mission doing this for an hour there's a problem yeah like that woman is bored yeah and then is numb now she can't feel shit yeah unless you got a small date and she's you know doing porn as long as you did it does it affect like your relationships now or like you your interactions with Or do you feel like you're more smooth when it comes to them? It kind of took away the power of sex.

You don't care about it. Most women will use sex as a power over men. They'll dangle the pussy to get what they want. If you've had just tons of sex. Honey, I've been to this buffet before i ain't seen nothing

new here that power's gone right so it makes you more resilient as a guy when it comes to relationships or dating but is that a good or a bad thing that i think it's a great thing the pussy has no power that's a great thing i think it's a good thing too because it doesn't have power to it i feel like especially living in vegas i'm just so numb to it that if you can't stimulate me mentally i really could give two shits it's not you can say something stupid or just something that's just not on my wavelength and i and i'm sorry i'm not there so you think it's smart for men to kind of like not over sexualize themselves but at some point in life like whoever they want to to get it out of their system because it prevents it it makes you have sexual discipline right yeah i mean because honestly somebody might laugh at

you like or somewhere might be gross i'll use he used to be a porn star but your sexual discipline, right? Yeah, I mean... I mean, because honestly, somebody might laugh at you and be like, or someone might be grossed out, like, oh, he used to be a porn star, but your sexual discipline is a lot higher than other men when it's going to clubs and all that stuff. You're more smooth, like, you know what I'm saying?

Yeah, and I'm not just, like, acting like a raging, horny teenager all the time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, most guys really are. If they get any whiff of pussy, they're just so desperate and they put their pussy

on a pedestal, man. And you'd be surprised, man. With my background, when women find out my background and stuff, it doesn't really turn them off. I think for males it's different. It's more curiosity than anything else. They just want to ask questions and figure out what it was like. But you're absolutely right.

I agree. For guys, it's the complete opposite. Like if a guy finds that out about his partner, it's a massive turn off for most guys. I think it is. Do you know your body count? Not really. It's like somewhere

600 plus ish, something like that. That's crazy. The only reason I know that is because I was counting scenes as well when I got into the industry. Does that count? Professional body count, personal body count? I mean...

Well, time out. You're getting paid. You're getting paid to fuck somebody. It is still fucking. Can most guys get paid to fuck? No. That's even more impressive. I will never forget. What about a prostitute? Would you count that in your body count? You have to.

No, no, no, no. Because she might give you something that you can't get rid of. Wait, you said yes? No, no, no, no. Because, like, what? I mean, like, with guys, they take body count as kind of like a badge of honor in a weird way. Yeah, you've got to earn that shit. I don't actually agree with that.

I don't think that's, like, something to measure your self-esteem by. I don't think it's a – hold on. I don't think it's a measuring of self-esteem. I think it's more of, like, the hunt. It's more getting the kill. I don't think it's a measuring of self-esteem. I think it's more of like the hunt. It's more getting the kill. Yeah, that's the point. If you're going out and you're dropping somebody off at a bar and you're going, meet a new bitch, boom, take her home and you, you know what I'm saying?

It's a skill. That's a fact. It's a skill set. That is a confirmed kill in my book. If you go out and you go to a bar and you're like, hey, baby, how much? And she's like, $400. That's not a skill set to me. That, $400. And you say, okay. That's not what she said to me.

That's not okay. That's what that doesn't count. But that's my point is that how can you add that into a body count if that takes no effort? Anybody can fucking do that. So you feel like body counts come down to effort. I feel like body counts have to be added into the whole hunt of the game. That's like going to a safari and saying you killed a lion when the was tranquilized but how many do you feel like you actually you're hunting a sponge that's true but do you feel like i mean getting for certain cast is easy so

they may not put it okay but that's the skill that's my point is that if you got swag right and i don't right then you got game i gotta learn game there's nothing it's nothing wrong you you you just learned in a better scenario i didn't have somebody to teach me got game i gotta learn game it's nothing it's nothing wrong you you you just learned in a better scenario i didn't have somebody to teach me so now i gotta go out and watch fucking youtube videos or however the fuck people learn how to bro but i feel like at the end of the day it's all about trial and error you don't understand how to talk to women or or be comfortable around women until you get shot down or until you learn that path of like okay they like when i talk about this they definitely don't like when I say

something about their boobs they like when I compliment their fucking eyes they hate when I say they have a nice ass there's you know you gotta learn the boundaries and then once you get there instead of damn baby that's a nice ass you go wow you have a beautiful smile can I offer to buy you drink right that kind of shit what do you think like the best approach is for a man like giving them advice like when it comes like how what do you mean when it comes to like just attracting a woman in the first place yeah like what's what's your advice to men with to have a problem attracting women get blue eyes like this

I bet look I bet this guy's at the the barn. He's like... Yeah, those eyes help for sure. Just hit him with a little pinky. Yeah, it doesn't hurt at all. Then the accent kind of helps a bit too. Oh, yeah. That's a game changer too. But your accents kill it in Australia as well.

So we're going to Australia. Yeah. No, it's mine. Man, we used to go out to the clubs and stuff and when we when like the sailing like the american navy came into town yeah we just all right we're going home yeah these boys are just going to clean up yeah every time so what would your best advice be like what's like the one-on-one like talking to a chick one-on-one yeah so you're at a bar like you have to to I'd start with yourself man like you gotta start with yourself

like if you're if you're low on self esteem it's because you realise there's something in your life that you need to work on like so maybe if you're maybe you're self conscious

about your body weight hit the fucking gym for a start maybe you're self conscious about the fact that you're broke well maybe you should learn skills and start levelling up your finances

you know maybe you're maybe you're not very charming maybe you're not very socially skilled alright well then start real simple and give every You know, maybe you're not very charming. Maybe you're not very socially skilled. All right, well, then start real simple and give every old lady you see a compliment. Oh, man, that's a great one.

Because being social and charming is kind of like a muscle. Yeah. Like, you've got to train it. Like, most people don't start the day very, very social. Right. If you... Force yourself. Yeah, if you... My dad started in the gym. It's social. Start in the gym, say hi to if you force yourself yeah if you my dad started in the gym it's social start the gym say hi to everyone you see literally get in the elevator in your

apartment say hi to everyone who walks in and out of the elevator like it's literally a muscle like that that builds up across the day and then okay when it's time to go to the club in the evening or whatever it's got to be comfortable you're you're like now at like a seven eight at a ten when you were like a one at the start of the day. Absolutely. It's just about being relaxed and taking those nerves away. Because that's a lot of the problems that guys have. They come across creepy if they're just nervous and they're like outcome dependent too. That's another big thing.

If I need this to go well, there's a problem. Women are so good at picking up that creepy vibe. They'll know for a second, this guy's got an agenda. He's trying to get my pants. And they kind of do know that if any guy's talking about this, I don't want to get my pants. But they don't want it to be so obvious. They don't want to feel like a piece of meat. You have to be subtle.

You got to be subtle. You got to be smooth. You got to have sort of a finesse to it. It's an art. It really is. It really is an art. Yeah. You just got to be like, yo, take those off.

Like that. Damn. Just like that, ladies and gentlemen. that. Damn. Just like that, ladies and gentlemen. Take those off. Say that in Australia where you'll clean up. Can you see yourself

being in a monogamous relationship? Well, do you think men today are built for monogamy? I'm not going to be monogamous. Okay. I mean,

I'm currently in three monogamous relationships if that makes sense. Do they all know about each other? They that i have other girls they don't meet them they don't meet each other okay i'm not exclusive are they all in the same place or different places they're in different places and why is that you feel is this you just don't want to be that guy that's in a monogamous relationship or they don't yeah i've cheated on every girlfriend i've ever had and i and i knew that at a very early age like, yeah, this is not like I can't do that.

Too many flavors in the ice cream shop, huh, bud? Oh, it's just I think it's honestly in every guy. Really? I just think a lot of guys. Don't get me in trouble. I said that. I said it in every guy. It's in every guy.

I'll preface this, though, because we've had these conversations before. And I will say it's not every guy. It's every guy in our generation now that our dads our dads never dealt with this you know why yeah because when they hit our moms they were like damn i ain't never gonna see some like this ever again they locked this down i disagree with that you know how you know before the internet you know what like dudes would have to like a whole nother family in a different literally 100 that shit still happens time so no no no yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes

yes yes yes no no yes yes yes what the fuck bro i know guys that literally have machines that just do it automatically wow so time out time out time out When we're talking about, you got Tinder, Bumble, Raya, fucking Hinge. I could go on for fucking days, bro. Seeking arrangements where people can literally pay for pussy. Okay, so you're telling me that my dumbass dad had more access to pussy than me? Absolutely the fuck not. You know what? I'll say he probably had a better shot than the average guy does today.

100%. Because those dating apps you're just talking about right there, 90% of dudes are getting no fucking action. Really? No, literally.

You can look at... A lot of those profiles are in the chat. You can look at dating app data. Again, now. Now. Today.

Right now. Sure. When these shits came out... Because of those dating apps and things, it's really skewed the way, what you would call the dating marketplace. I just think the accessibility,

Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter. But think about- You can shoot your shot with the girl of your dreams that you see on TikTok, and she might just message you back. But for 99% of dudes, she's going to ignore his ass. However, however- But there is still a 1%.

In your dad's generation, everyone wasn't on their phones. They were actually outside mingling and meeting people. Yeah, so you had to have a fucking personality. I have talked to some of the elders in my family who, as they've gotten older, they've been a bit more forthcoming with what they did as younger men. They were still fucking, man. They were happily married but they would have the occasional bit of side right i'm not saying they weren't and it definitely

i'm sure was a lot easier to get away with what i am trying to say is that the accessibility in options and the variance that you have at the touch of it you can literally be sleeping in the bed next to your girl and just swiping away. I agree with that. That's crazy. The temptation is greater. 1,000 times greater. The temptation is greater.

I just don't think the average guy – I mean, you guys are obviously not average. You're obviously exceptional above the average person, right? Because you get attention, right? Attention is the coin in today's world. That's the currency in today's world. You've got big social media. But that's why people are on OnlyFans right that's the currency in today's world you've got big social media because that's their way of getting attention they they can they can pay five dollars for a subscription for the baddest bitch that they know to talk to them and have a they're not even gonna fuck this girl they just want to have a relationship where they talk into

somebody little do they know at the end of the day they're not even talking to those creators at the time once they're big enough we have people in the philippines that just run and we train them we give them booklets this thick and this is how they have emojis and this how they do this and that and bro there's so many different ways that you're literally getting catfished just by thinking that you have companionship now oh yeah so it's scary i i don't think i think in the next five to ten years i mean kids won't be able to fucking talk in person. So you're basically saying that our parents – They won't be able to have real-life conversations. Pussy wasn't accessible as it is now, but he's saying they still had the same temptation

and still the same options because they were more social. I think the temptations increased. Yeah, exactly. I agree with that. Temptations increased. Yeah, absolutely. The odds are still the same, though. And again, I definitely feel like our our parents generation has more game than us

in in an accumulative average i'd say face to face just because of that just because of this we are inhibited and and we're raised to be fucking you know sucked into these little matrixy matrices of of social media. But, dude, I'll never forget. I went to the strip club for the first time with my dad. And I just remember, like, I'd never seen him spit game in, like, a real-life setting. And I'm watching him maneuver, and I'm like, damn, okay, old man's got juice. But I would have never known that had I not seen him you know put back on the

field in the hunt so i feel like it's good for every man once in a while to go out and experience that and get that adrenaline rush even if you're just getting someone to drink or going out and you know shaking the rust off but if you can't communicate to somebody face to face and look a woman in their eye or even even talk to another guy at the bar comfortably without seeing him as you know a thread or whatever whatever it is just be social and be open with people and i feel like that's the best thing that people can come from or learn from you know coming from this kind of technology space oh so what were you gonna say cool i was gonna add to that i was gonna say that like i think it makes i think it genuinely makes men feel better and feel greater self-esteem when they're talking to women.

Even if it doesn't lead to anything. Just by being a flirtatious guy. Hearing that sound of a woman being satisfied or just the joy, like, thank you, the subtle things that you can pick up and even just a light touch at a bar. Something like that where you're not engaging,

they are, you know, all right, cool. You know that where you're not engaging they are you know all right cool like you know if i wanted to i could i've still got it here yeah yeah i i could shoot a shot here yeah good game everybody hit the lockers and you know what like a guy knowing that let's say a guy's in a long-term relationship happily married or whatever girl from whatever and he gets that occasional ping of like oh yeah i've still got it yeah that's gonna make his dynamic at back at home way better. Oh, he's going to go home

with fucker brains as you're like, I'm a king! Literally. Literally, that's it. He's going to go home, feel like the fucking man, prove that he's the fucking man

in the bedroom. It's a confidence booster. I 100% agree. And then she ain't going to disrespect him either, which is a big thing too. Because if guys get lackadaisical,

if guys get lazy, guys lose their self-esteem, lose their swag, then what happens? Well, the women, she starts bitching about him not taking the trash out, whining,

complaining about things like this, and he gets cocked in the relationship. But if he keeps that swag about him, okay, much better. Yeah, the women's always

going to be attracted to you. That's why it's good to go to the gym and always stay fresh and always be attractive. Because your girl always be attractive. Bro your girl always be attractive. Bro, you can't, like being a man.

You can't lose yourself. Do you know the story of the Red Queen from Alice in Wonderland? No. I believe, I hope I'm not fucking this up. You said the Red Queen? The Red Queen is a character in Alice in Wonderland. And she has to run as fast as she possibly can to stay in the exact same place. That's her character.

And that's what it's like being a dude. You have to constantly work on something. For where you are right if you stop working stop going to the gym you stop making money you stop networking and socializing you go down real fast that's because there's so many motherfuckers right under you nipping at your feet it's true being a man's competition man it's competition listen i and and i i didn't really understand this until the past few years like the older i get it's funny because you know once i've exited my 20s and i look back i'm like fuck there are guys that are 18 19 and they're pushing millions a month or or doing whatever just via roblox or just you know gaming yeah but things changed since then.

But my point being is that it's fascinating to see the stuff that we were told coming up, that's not a real shit. That's not real. I don't care how good you were at GoldenEye. That's not a real job. Nowadays, it's like, shit, you're going to Call of Duty. Get one of those gaming chairs. Pile on fucking 100 pounds.

Get a sponsorship from Doritos and play 24 hours a day. Get a sponsorship from doritos and play 24 hours a day that's that's listen it's crazy to think that what we were as kids you know playing street football and shit now it's like bro everything's online or everything's via a phone so i'm curious to see what the next generation's coming up like how their toughness is going to be they don't they know where it's tough i guarantee. It won't be there. You know what the funny thing is in those environments,

like the eSports world, there's groupies still. Sure. These dudes, they're not going with that pussy. They're like the biggest nerds technically. They're still getting pussy.

They're getting anime pussy. They're getting all kinds of pussy. They're getting the gamer girls. Literally. Gamer girls are bad. Shout out to the gamer girls. So is watching porn a bad thing for men?

For guys, I think so. I think porn is like... In moderation. Yeah. Porn is a vice like anything else, right? If I give a certain man a bottle of whiskey, it'll ruin his life. And he'll end up under an underpass, homeless, broke. Right?

That is the same for basically every vice. Yeah, but you give him a shot and he can party with you all night right well somebody else if I give him a shot he's fine that's the point

I'm trying to make some guys they'll consume porn it won't fuck them up other guys they'll just go down this dark rabbit hole and they'll never get out of it

it'll become they'll ruin their motivation in every aspect of their life they'll do nothing nothing with their life they'll have no aspirations or dreams and goals they They won't pursue shit. I've never jacked off

before. Good for you. You serious? Never. Whoa. I've never jacked off before. I don't buy that. No, I'm dead ass. I'll buy that. I'm dead ass. I've never jacked off. I beat my meat before I came here. I've never jacked off. I've never porn or porn or masturbation has never been my thing.

So you've never watched porn? I mean, I've seen porn, but I don't watch it. So you're subscribed to some old fans? I don't watch porn either. No, no, no. I don't do none of that. Try to call them out. No, it's just...

Bro, it's okay. I don't watch porn either. I just skip through the parts that I like, and then I finish. I've seen porn. That breaks my heart. All that acting. I've seen porn, but I don't watch it.

You have any hours we spend on set doing the dialogue? I'm just going to skip over this. Yeah, I feel right. I like now that they have the benchmarks where it's like mouth, anal. Are they time-stepping now? I do feel like masturbation isn't a good thing for men. I don't feel like it's good. I don't think it's a good thing. I don't think it is either. I don't give a fuck what it men. I don't feel like it's good. I don't think it's a good thing.

I don't think it is either. I don't give a fuck what it is. I'm going to go to the topic. I want to hear one last point. We'll wrap this up because we're getting way too off the rails here. We're talking about pouring a horn, dog. I want to know what your best advice for men coming up today is and how men can come into watching this podcast and learn something or hear something from you

that can inspire them into doing something different that they're already doing? Good question. I think the number one skill you can learn as a young man is stress tolerance. So stress tolerance, if you look at everybody who is successful, they are able to solve problems, make money,

work long hours, under prime under pressure right tolerance to stress like the number of podcasts I've seen you guys crank out today right the average youtuber doesn't do that much work I'm really really impressed so it's like but that's you're able to keep going that stress tolerance it doesn't bother you you're used to it right if you look at like it's why I respect professional fighters as well a lot of friends who used to fight that's mad stress tolerance. Oh, yeah.

My line of work, what I used to do, sitting around with all these lights and cameras and a bunch of dudes watching you get your dick out and their paycheck depends upon it, that's a stressful environment. Right.

You have to be comfortable accepting that stress and get used to it and continue it. How do you build that stress? By putting yourself into uncomfortable situations deliberately. Give people a couple scenarios. How do you build that stress? By putting yourself into uncomfortable situations deliberately. Give people a couple scenarios. Well, you become comfortable in the uncomfortable.

So one real basic thing, going up to that pretty girl at the bar. I knew he was going there. That's the most uncomfortable situation for any man. Think about every aspect of your life, right? So that would be relationships, right? Going up to that pretty girl that you would intimidate her to talk to. Doing some really, really heavy squats with good form. Something that kind of scares you a little bit

or having like a personal trainer really push you in the gym, right? Like health-wise, committing, sticking out a tough diet and committing to it. Even though you're hungry and you hate the taste of lettuce. Doing something challenging. These are all things that, yeah,

that deliberately push you out of your comfort zone. You know what I'm saying? All right, so I appreciate the time. Tell people where they can find you. these are all things that deliberately push you out of your comfort zone you know what I'm saying alright so I appreciate the time tell people where they can find you what's the best avenue for them to keep up with what you're doing

cool my Instagram is at Cooper Sterling my YouTube is probably where I'm most active is if you just type in Sterling Cooper

I'll come up on YouTube you'll find a ton of stuff from me a bunch of free advice in regards to any aspect in the bedroom and my Twitter is at Sterling Wisdom

tell them where they can find you at the creator on Instagram it's spelled T-H-E-C-R-3-8-T-O-R Sean Sean Mike Kelly thanks for tuning in this week

Digital Social Hour see you guys next week peace