Digital Social Hour - Fixing Your Bedroom Life I Jackson Hightower DSH #454

Episode Date: May 5, 2024

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ED was used to be something that guys in their 40s, 50s, and 60s would get. It's like trending downwards. 30 guys in their 30s, guys in their 20s. The stats are pretty crazy. 30% of guys in their 20s are having some sort of ED issue at some point. And then it sort of scales up 10% per every decade after that. Wherever you guys are watching this show, I would truly appreciate it if you follow or subscribe.

It helps a lot with the algorithm. It helps us get bigger and better guests, and it helps us grow the team. Truly means a lot. Thank you guys for supporting, and here's the episode. All right, guys, we got Jackson Hightower here today. Very powerful message for guys out there, man. There's a lot of people struggling in their sex lives, so thanks for coming on to educate. It's my pleasure to be here thanks for having me yeah dude how'd you get started in this journey oh uh 15 years ago or so i started um studying the erotic arts um tantra daoism um i had some pretty challenging experiences when i was younger as a result of never really being educated in the space you know it would be intimate with women had some challenging experiences uh you know, premature erectile

dysfunction, not really knowing how to navigate a woman's body. And so I kind of was introduced to David Data when I was 25. And I just sort of, you know, went on that path. He's one of the great sort of masters of like masculine and feminine polarity and dynamics. And I really just like went down the path pretty hard. and I just, I'm a big learner. I love to explore, love to experience. And so I got into it and I started navigating this path on my personal life, kind of like didn't tell any of my friends that was outside of the professional stuff I was doing. And, um, and here I am now. So. That's cool, man. Sex ed class in high school was a joke. It is a joke. I didn't learn.

Yeah, I mean, you know, teachers aren't really well equipped to discuss these types of topics. You need some sort of specialized training or understanding or, you know, and so they're just giving you like the basics like here's how to put on a condom and you can have a child when you have sex without a condom. But there's so much more nuance to it.

And, you know, I don't so much more nuance to it. Yeah. Um, and, and, you know, I don't think they should really teach anything at school. I think it should be taught outside of school or with some sort of apps or programs or things like that. Cause right now kids are being educated through,

right. That's really where the education comes from, you know? And then that's a whole nother, you know, conversation. Yeah. Um,

but yeah, it's, it was a joke, you know? Yeah. I feel like righther you know conversation yeah um but yeah it was a joke you know yeah i feel like right now it's almost like a sex epidemic of just guys that are just struggling yeah even in their 20s we were talking about yeah so my dms i would say 25 of them are guys in their 20s who are addicted to and have erectile dysfunction and they're so it's actually called induced erectile dysfunction um ed was used to be something that that guys in their 40s 50s and 60s would get um much more common and now now it's like trending downwards 30 guys in their 30s guys in their 20s the stats are pretty crazy like you're looking at you know 30 percent of guys in their 20s are having some sort of ed issue at some point yeah Yeah, which is a lot. And then it sort of scales up 10% per every decade after that.

And it's just astounding. And so P-I-E-D, they call it, is like this new thing because of the prevalence of ****. It's just so easy to find and to navigate. So is it a mindset thing where they're getting turned on by certain videos and then when it comes to real life stuff, they just can't get it up? Yeah, so creates this like non-real situation, right?

Which is, it's a fantasy, it's a movie, it's shot with actors and they're, you know, performing, et cetera. And what happens is they've done a lot of studies and they say that sort of acts like a drug on your system so the dopamine reward response pathway dopamine is the thing that makes you happy right we go online we're getting you know dopamine hits from likes and follows so similarly when a guy's watching and sort of like the the intense visceral nature of the videos that are you know being created

nowadays um before you know playboy is a static image right you're looking at just a picture of a beautiful woman naked well now it's much more than that obviously um and so when a guy's like okay cool i want to be happy i want to feel get out of this like depression or slump or whatever it may be the body says what's the quickest path to pleasure and so they've been habituated to to watching the dopamine goes up up up up up but what happens is you need to keep getting that high and that novelty and the intensity gets higher and higher and higher. And the novelty of the needs to get higher and higher and higher. So you're like going from straight to, you know, maybe it's homosexual to three ways to gangbangs to all sorts of different

kinds of, it's much more intense, faster, quicker, harder. and the neuroplasticity in the brain is actually changing so video can really affect the neuroplasticity in a way that a static image really can't so the brain chemistry is actually changing and so when you're with a real partner it's never as intense right as that like hard quick you know fast stuff and so you know guys are watching i think the average time is like 10 minutes worldwide. They're watching it. Guys in the US, it's actually like less. I think it's like seven or eight minutes. And so you're getting into this habit of quick

release and then the satiated feeling. Well, that affects a lot of different things. It makes you not want to necessarily find a partner. You're getting on dating apps because it's easier. Well, if I'm satisfied, right, and I'm going three times a day,

well, why would you want to go out? Well, you don't have the energy to go out. You don't have the desire to go out because it's just sort of just like you're just dissipating all that energy. Totally draining you. Totally. Three a day is nuts. Is that people doing that?

That is crazy. Oh, yeah. Three a day. I've never done three a day. Yeah. I mean, three a day. And some older guys who are my clients, yeah. Three a day. I've never done three a day. Yeah. I mean, three a day. And some older guys who are my,

my clients, it's three a day. The guys in their 50s, 60s. And so I think obviously the pandemic didn't help, right? The pandemic, I think revenues in the is truing up like 25 to 40% after the pandemic,

you know, which is like everyone's at home. It's like, what am I going to do? And then guys post pandemic, it's like, okay, well I'm going three times a day. They don't have the vitality anymore home. It's like, what am I going to do? And then guys post-pandemic, it's like, okay, well, I'm going three times a day.

They don't have the vitality anymore. That's a really important energetic source for your body. So yeah, it's wild. It's a really interesting time right now. So that coupled with the testosterone epidemic right now. Testosterone and then sperm counts. T-levels, there's sort of conflicting studies on what's happening with guys' T-levels. Some say it's 20% over the last 40 years. Some say

it's up to 40% on average. There's obviously a problem, right? What's happening? And so the T-levels dropping plus the increase in just the availability of it, right? You can get it anywhere. It's a $100 billion industry. In the.s i think it's like 15 billion wow out of the whole world so the world is 100 billion u.s it's 15 billion yeah that's nuts i mean you know 17 of the top 100 sites are sites and every this is a really cool interesting so 35 of all downloads on the internet are no way yeah holy yeah so it's just like, it's rampant. You're like, well, how do you put the toothpaste back in the tube? Yeah.

You know, it's challenging, right? And so it's like, how do you educate guys more of like, here's what's going to happen. Here's what may happen as a result of this, right? And that's sort of where I spend a lot of my time, which is just like, let's just, you know, look, you're not going to close **** in a day. That's not going to happen. It's a big, big Titanic ship which is just like, let's just, you know, look, you're not going to close in a day. That's not going to happen.

It's a big, big Titanic ship, but you got to let people know, here are some things that may happen as a result of what it is that you're doing. So making smarter decisions, you know? Absolutely.

Yeah. Do you feel like, uh, the way they're prescribing ED now with Viagra and Cialis is kind of not the way to go about it? Yeah. So I'm, I'm a,

my motto is like as natural as possible for as long as possible. Obviously pharmaceutical drugs have their benefits at certain times. What I'm seeing is the prevalence of the younger guys is creating this induced ED, right? And then companies like hims and Roman and all these other pharmaceutical distribution companies, cause that's what they are.

They're just hammering. Right. So then a fill to the tat, how to fill a generic forms of Viagra on younger guys. pharmaceutical distribution companies, because that's what they are, they're just hammering sildenafil to tadafil, generic forms of Viagra, on younger guys. And then what happens is younger guys like I have EDL take Viagra. Well, the psychological dependency that you get once you start taking a Viagra-type product, I mean, you can't not take it.

I mean, what it does for you, if it's working, right? It doesn't work for everyone, but if it does work for you, it's giving you a massive embellished experience of what you're actually really capable of. And so you're like, well, if you're with a girl and you're taking Viagra and being intimate with her, and then you stop, she's going to be like, what happened? And so you get in this psychological state of like,

I have to have this in order to perform, perform. And that's, it's super dangerous, super dangerous. And so I, I'm always like, guys, like you have to remember the, you know, there's no such thing as a silver bullet. You have to make sure that like, there's a consequence to every action that you take. And if you're going to take something that's going to give you a false sense of, you know, you know, capacity or skills, what, what's the downside of that? Right. You know, a, you're going to have to take it for life, right? B there's a lot of physical side effects of it, but then the psychological side effect of like, well, what's going to happen if I don't have this with me? Right. And then I can just pop it. So I'm, I'm concerned about a lot of stuff,

you know, that's happening. And I think that these companies, because they're so well-funded and they're making billions of dollars, they've done a really good job of decoupling. It's like, oh, it's a HIMS, right? Well, the bottle, have you seen a bottle of HIMS? It just says HIMS, but it looks like a pharmaceutical bottle, but it doesn't have any of the other writing on it that you'd normally find.

You've got to admit their branding is exceptional. They're doing a tremendous job of decoupling the psychological stimulus. Like, oh, it's a hymns. It's not a drug. It's a hymns. Well, it's actually sildenafil, tadafil. I don't know how many guys know that those are just generic forms of Viagra.

Wow. I didn't know that, actually. There you go. I wonder what blue chew is. It's a generic form of Viagra. I see that all the time on podcasts. So, you know, that's what these companies are doing. And they do a great job with marketing.

And, you know, that's their job. And obviously, for certain people who need it, like, that's what these companies are doing and they do a great job with marketing and that's their job. And obviously for certain people who need it, that's fine. But I just am wary and I caution guys. I'm like, hey, there's going to be a negative side effect and you want to be really mindful about what that is and make the smartest decision possible with the most amount of information that you have. Because there are, creating an herbal V product,

no one's really done it yet, but there are ways that you can help your. Because there are, you know, creating an herbal V product, like, no one's really done it yet, but like, there are ways that you can help your system and help the root, right? Because Viagra is never healing the root issue.

If your issue is circulation or if your issue is the mental state and addiction to the **** you're watching, you're never healing what's going on with you.

So you're just sort of symptomatically, okay, I'll just take this. And, you know, that's, that's dangerous. Yeah, it's just, it's not, it's not a good way to to live your life but we're in this

quick fix culture right you know scary yeah so people with this pied this induced rectal dysfunction when they cut the out does that solve the problem or is it still there so the answer is yes and it the amount that they've been entrained and habituated in their body for that period of time usually determines how long it takes them to get back onto a normal cycle. Got it. Sometimes it could be a couple months. Sometimes it's a year. Depends on how much they go. I have guys like, hey, I'm addicted to ****.

I've been watching since I was 14. I go three times a day and I'm 24. I'm like, wow. That's crazy. Think about the cumulative effects of that on your body. So I can't tell you this is how long it's going to take, but I can say you have to start now and look forward. Right.

And when you start now, it's like, you also have to, you know, get your diet, right? You have to get your, you know, get off your ass and not have a sedentary lifestyle. You know, if you're obese, you have to like lose fat, right? Cause that's going to help with testosterone and also doing other things, exercises and things like that, taking herbs that are going to help your internal system, you know, get to a place where you need them to be.

Yeah. It's a full approach. It's not just one thing. Holistic approach. Absolutely. It's not like a little silo where it's like, you can just focus on that. You got to do, you got to do everything, right? Mental, physical, spiritual. Absolutely. I want to dive in the spiritual side. You mentioned sexual energies earlier. I'm actually a believer in that. Yeah. Cause there's these people hooking up with new people every day. I think that's kind of toxic to their body. Yeah. I mean, there's, you know, this belief that like, you know, there's obviously karma, you're exchanging DNA, you're exchanging energies when you're intimate with someone,

right. You're literally like inside of a woman. Right. So there's, there's a lot to be said for that. Um, you know, you want to be mindful that you're not doing it frivolously. You want to be mindful that you're doing with someone that you actually have a connection with. Um, obviously that's sort of like the, the most sort of enlightened path, right. Which is like being really mindful. Um, you know, and there's also the path of like, you know, trying to learn and explore and trying to get to know how to navigate, you know, a partner. Um, But yeah, there is a lot to be said for the sacredness of sexuality.

And so obviously I've gone through my 20s and my 30s. I've had a lot of experiences. And so then as you learn about some of the stuff I've learned from Taoism and Tantra, you start to have much more mindfulness about your sexual experiences. And it actually became a lot more of no for me as I've gotten older.

Whereas when I was younger, you don't really know that sort of stuff. I never learned about these things. It's like, cool, let's go have fun. But as you get older, it's like, okay, actually, what are we doing here? And also making sure that the partner has agency in the decision-making process so that you're both on the same page. Yeah. I think we should change the narrative because as young guys, you're taught to just go out there, get your body count up, and the cooler you are, the more bodies you have.

Right. But I think we should change it. Yeah, I agree. I believe that having experience that's consensual, that's respectful, where both partners are clear on your goals and what you're available for

is really important. Yeah. If you're not available for a relationship, and that's something that you need to communicate that at the beginning. And allow the partner to have agency in the decision whether they want to engage or not. And then also being much more mindful about how many are dating around or whatever it may be.

Just being clear with your communication with people so that they have an awareness of what's going on because sometimes you know a guy be like oh i don't want anyone to know that i'm you know into dating three different you know women or whatever it is we come to the age where it's like you got to be clear and upfront with that sort of stuff right so and if they say no that's like that's you got to deal with that and then you got to focus on you know the partners that you have that are interested in that. Absolutely. And finding more celibacy. But again, that's tough as a young guy.

It's like you want to go out and you want to be intimate. Sex is the most fun thing on the planet to do, in my opinion. So it's like the hard little path you have to navigate. One of your most viral clips was you said not to go out on a first date over dinner. Yeah. That's probably 80% of first dates. I know. I just, it's like, so it's just played out.

Like, so, and obviously like this is my perspective, but I want to learn as much as I can about someone on the first date, right? You can sit there and talk to somebody all day long and they're on their best behavior and whatever. But if you're doing an activity or you're doing something that creates a bit of like a stressful situation to see how they react, right? Or to see if my, my goal is like, I want to be with someone

who's athletic and fun and can do things like that. I want to see them in the situation so that they understand how they react to stress, how their bodies move, things like that. So I just, I usually encourage guys, you know, yeah, you can always go out to dinner. That's sort of easy, but it's just kind of played out. Right. So it's like, try to find something a little bit more creative to do where you learn more about the variables of what's important to you in a shorter period of time and learning through their actions, not necessarily what they're just talking about too. So, you know, I like that. I like that. It's just like a different little, you know, and also encouraging

guys like, yeah, be more creative. Like, you you know go find something else to do that's fun right um so that's you know because i go i go to dinner date still of course but also like i'm i'm encouraging myself to say like okay let's do something different also to see how they react yeah are they interested now they're just trying to get you know a meal whatever you know what i mean like there's a lot of that yeah dinner dates aren't the move because if you'll know if you like someone pretty quick i feel like yeah so you can be on the main entree and you'll be like i want to leave at this point exactly i don't even want dessert exactly you know um going on a walks doing activities like finding something to do that's a little bit different um is uh is always more fun it also adds like an element of like oh this guy's a bit creative right woman's

like oh he's cool he's doing something slightly off, you know, off-piste, which is nice. Yeah. So, yeah, I always tell guys, like, have a little bit more fun with it. I feel that.

All right. So, do you believe men and women can be friends without any sexual attraction? So, yeah, look, there's always, the answer is yes.

Some of my best friends are women. Are you interested in coming on the digital social hour podcast as a guest? We'll click the application link below in the description of this video. We are always looking for cool stories, cool entrepreneurs to talk to you about business and life. Click the application link below. And here's the episode guys. We've never been sexually intimate. You never were physically attracted to them. Nope. And I learned so much from them. And you know, I grew up an only child. They didn't have any brothers or sisters. And they're like sisters, right? Where it's like, I learn, we grow, like I get insight from them on

how women are because women are complicated, beautiful, complex beings. Right. And so what better, how are you going to learn from about women if you're only hanging out with guys? True. Can't. Yeah. So I spent a lot of my 20s and 30s really spending time um had great you know girlfriends um who taught me a lot about how women are right and you get to have insights you have like it's like uh it's like uh uh you know i don't know it's like a you get it like an entree into like their lives in a way that isn't sexual yeah um i have had female friends who we were intimate when we started, and then we realized it wasn't the way to go, and then we became friends.

Yeah. So that's another, you know, something that also can happen too. And they've become incredible, you know, mentors and guides for me and sort of like how to be an approach and, you know, be with women. So yeah, I think it's totally possible. And I think it's really healthy because we live in a world where it's like there's men and women right if you don't know how to integrate with them in a way that makes sense you know we don't live in this culture where it's like the guys are going out and hunting and the women are in the village

doing the community stuff like we live in a very integrated society so I think that's the best way to do it yeah I think you have that control over your biological sense right because as men we are programmed to reproduce so we are attracted to multiple girls yeah yeah we have a biological imperative um and at the same time you know the decision to be intimate is always with the woman right she has the final say it's true you know um so i think that if you have discipline you know in your own life now again if you're in a partnership, your relationships with them may shift and change.

If you're married, your relationships with those female women may shift and change. But the reality is it's like it's good to have other female influences in your life. And I think for women to have guys that are friends just so that they can learn about men. Same thing. Have you ever experimented with like open relationships i've never done it okay um i it doesn't really work for me all my relationships have been monogamous partnerships yeah i think that it's sort of like this idealized world that you can you know again open relationships is where like you're either in multi you're in you're in a

polyamorous relationship where you have multiple girlfriends and you are in a relationship with each of those women then there's open which is like you're in a relationship with one person but maybe you're sexually intimate with someone else yeah it's kind of just like i don't know what are you not getting from your partner right is there is your partner a real match for you or not i think it's very rare to find something that really works because, you know, when you're intimate with someone, especially as a woman, there's a lot of emotions that get involved. So for me, it doesn't work. I don't know a ton of people who it works really well for. You have to communicate so well. You have to be so evolved. You have to have boundaries and whatnot. And, and you know i think it's an x and it's an exercise

in like how much you can handle right because you know if you're in an open relationship then that woman may be also be sleeping with other men and is that something that you want right especially if you're getting to the point where like do you want to have children and family with this person to me i'm not into that no i'm not especially the energy transfer too because you don't know what kind of guy she's hooking up with and then you're inheriting that energy. Exactly, yeah. Yeah, I don't think it could work. Do you have a lot of guys message you with insecurities?

Yeah. Like about their size? Size. A lot of guys have performance anxiety. And again, part of it's because you're being entrained in learning how to have sex from watching right and you know they recruit guys that are hung well yeah and it's like it's a movie right it's not a real i mean there's actors doing things and they're actually having sex but

if you're learning that like oh that's what sex is supposed to be like and that's what my supposed to look like then you're like oh 50 of guys have that's under average size and you're like well where does that leave where does that leave half the guys in the world yeah so that creates a lot of insecurities it creates a lot of lack of desire to go out and be intimate with women because either they don't have the size they want or they don't have the skills and the performance capacity that that that they see you know these guys in movies having and so um that leads to them not even trying to be intimate right there's some it's like 60 of guys are don't even engage in sexual activity because of performance anxiety because they're afraid of the fact that like

they may not be able to do what they want to do you know up to yeah um so there's there's some interesting um data around that but a lot of guys are hurting. A lot of guys are in pain. The biggest word that I get is like, I need help. I need help. I need help because they don't know where to turn. And so for whatever the issue is, there's kind of four main categories. Like ED is one. Premature is one.

And size obviously is one. And then fertility is another area. But also the addiction to is a huge one that I've gotten much more recently. So kind of five main areas that I focus on. Wow. But yeah, there's a lot of – men are in pain, I think, globally. They're ashamed to talk about it. They don't have an outlet.

There's shame, there's guilt, there's embarrassment, right? And whether there's religious things that are involved where a lot of religion suppresses sexuality in conversations about sex. So yeah, there's something that's happening now. And my goal is just to like, let's bring light to stuff and let's talk about it. Let's get people into a different frame of reference.

If you can change one little thought pattern that a guy has about his experience with his own sexual energy, right? That's going to create much more beneficial relationships with a partner, right? How do you have a healthy connection to yourself, right? If you're dragging off three times to and releasing and losing all that energy and power, then how are you going to take that into a partnership? So, you know, it takes discipline, It takes drive. It takes effort. But I really believe that men have it in them. We're just inundated with some of the stuff that's like, it's like, it's always, uh, you know, grabbing at us. Um, yeah. Yeah.

Between only fans and that blew up during the pandemic, people just still never got over it. Yeah. Yeah. It's sort of normalized. It's, it's really normalizing. Oh yeah. I think, you know, Instagram, I get 50 messages a day for like, yeah,

my spam. Yeah. And, and, um, so it's a fascinating world in this like quick dopamine hit. And, um,

yeah, I don't know where it's going to go. It's really, it's alarming. No, it is. I discovered on accident. I mean, that's how it should be, right? Yeah. You shouldn't be it's alarming. No, it is. I discovered **** on accident. I mean, that's how it should be, right?

Yeah. You shouldn't be just blasted with it on social media. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, DMs and they're like, oh, check out this page. And you click through and you go through to their OF and you're like, okay, well, you know. Yeah. Yeah.

Scary, dude. And a lot of people can't last long and they think because of the **** videos that they need to last an hour. So they bust in like, like you said, like a minute premature. So they're getting habituated to, you know, they find the video, they're doing their thing. And then your body,

you know, it's like muscle memory, right? If you're habituating yourself to quick, intense release. Well, you know, and the average watch time is 10 minutes globally in the US. It's like probably less than eight. So it's like, how are you going to perform?

You practice like you play. You take that by yourself into game times in a scenario where you're with a woman. And the stakes may be a little bit higher. You're either not going to get it up or you're going to go really quick. 25% of men experience premature s**t. And then, you know, I think about, was it like 15 to 25% of men experience performance anxiety in some capacity?

That's 40% between those two alone. And then ED on top of that, and you're like 20 and 30% roughly between 20 and 30 years old. So like our odds are not in our favor. Yeah, that's 70%. And by the way, it takes a woman like 14 to 25 minutes in order to have really of like foreplay and sexual activity holy crap and these are sort of obviously averages and generalities but like you put all these things in in play

and you take the woman needing much more time well where does that live there's like a huge gap yeah massive gap yeah do you get a lot of girls in your dms complaining so i've started well, where does that live? There's like a huge gap. Yeah. Massive gap. Yeah. Do you get a lot of girls in your DMs complaining? So I've started to get more. Obviously my content was really geared towards men, but over the last, I would say six months, I have a lot more women following and then sending DMs asking, you know, hey, I need some advice or help about my partner.

How do I broach this with him? And, you know, a lot of it is how do I help him the best way, right? How do I broach this with him? And a lot of it is, how do I help him the best way? How do I get this information to him so that he receives it well? And what I've learned is that us men, we're very sensitive in that area. That is our most sensitive area of focus. It is our vital force. It's where a lot of our value and our worth is tied. It shouldn't necessarily be, but it kind of is. And so, you know, when I, when I talk to women, I'm like, look, you know, you have to be incredibly compassionate. You have to stroke their ego in that area and find something that they're good at and talk about that first and let them know that that you appreciate how it is you know whatever it may be they may need

to embellish i don't know maybe the guy's not good at anything i'm not sure but you got to stroke the ego and let them know that like this is something they do well and then slowly integrate some of the other stuff and all the other videos that you where you want them to encourage them to get better yeah but like amass getting a guy about his size or his ability to last long whatever it is some of the other stuff in all the other videos where you want them to encourage them to get better. But like amass getting a guy about his size or his ability to last long, whatever it is, you literally just shut him down. For sure. Totally demoralized.

Yeah, totally demoralized. And it's painful and it's really hard to recover. I'm sure there's guys out there who have ever been like, oh, you're not big enough or you didn't last long enough. It just stays with you, right? And it torments you and you can't get it out of your head. And so it takes a lot to be able to work through that. And obviously it takes a lot of work and discipline on yourself of like,

okay, well, how do I get better? How do I get bigger? How do I last longer? And it's just like going to the gym. It's like look at the mirror and magically build muscles. You got to work, you know, you got to put in the work, you got to put in the time and the effort, um, you know, doing exercises that seem weird, but like, guess what? Like it's effective, you know? So absolutely. There's a lot of people right now in their twenties and thirties and forties trying

to have kids right now and they can't. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, sperm counts. There was an Israeli study, I think, that they said like sperm counts have dropped 50% since 1972. Wow. Which is like astounding. Right. And so you get into, well, how much of infertility is the cause of men. Right.

And how much, everyone thinks it's the women's issue. Well, it's not always the woman's issue. You know, I think three, like 30 or 40% of infertility cases are because it's the male problem. And so, you know, the sperm counts are going down because the T's going down. T's responsible for healthy sperm, right? We're not getting the right minerals in our diet, right? Like zinc, boron, selenium, potassium, sodium, From our diet, we're eating food. We used to get healthy minerals from food. And since our soil is denatured, we're not getting that as readily anymore. We have a sedentary lifestyle,

which a lot of guys don't realize, but if you're sitting down all day long, you're nuts. You're supposed to be, they're outside your body because they need to be cooler. But if you're sitting in this position where your legs are tight around your body,

around your nuts, like you're just hot all the time. So getting up, walking around, being moving, you know, we used to be much more moving around in our culture and society. And so now, you know, that's an issue as well for sperm. So there's just so many things that are happening all at the same time right and you're like wow this is a real epidemic but like nobody's talking about it no one like sperm t like infertility like size ed all this stuff you're like wow yeah so um it's a big problem to tackle huge problem it seems like uh microplastics and this estrogen being everywhere is also contributing oh my god

so it's like it's death of a thousand cuts, right? So when these chemicals are introduced in the United States, they're never, you don't have to do any testing on them, right? Like atrazine, for instance, right? It's a crop that's sprayed on all non-organic crops all around the world. You know, atrazine is a known estrogenic, like endocrine disrupting factor, which means it has phytoestrogen in its chemical composition the phytoestrogen gets into your body through food through water and then it actually acts like estrogen so as a guy estrogen is important but not at the levels that we have in

our body and so you have um it basically like caps your your in the simplest way is like it just inhibits your body's ability to naturally produce testosterone um which is scary and it's stored in fat it's hydrophobic which means afraid of water so it stays in your fat cells and you know if you're that means that the best way to naturally reduce your test or increase your testosterone is actually to lose fat because the estrogen is stored in the fat yeah so if you lose that then you have less estrogen in your body um but it's atrazine it's plastics it's fragrances it's you know sunscreen it's mycotoxins it's phytoestrogen you know um uh mycotoxins and like mold uh like coffee

and grains and cereal you've got things in like uh what's it called um fungus you know it's it's really it's there it's everywhere everywhere you know fragrances plastics anything that comes in sort of plastic packaging it's like it all has plastic crazy and they all are you know over the past 40 years it's this proliferation of in our society of all these substances with no regulation so the united states is the only country that doesn't really regulate anything. Europe has a really good regulations on these things because they're a little bit more evolved and less capitalistic than we are, I would say.

And even China regulates some of these chemicals, which to me was like astounding. I'm like, that doesn't make any sense. I didn't expect that. Yeah, so the United States has literally zero regulation on any of this stuff. And so a lot of these things have been known to cause gonadal changes, hormonal changes

in small animals and fish. And so it's like you have to extrapolate that over a human body, right? It just takes longer, but it has the same effects. And so then you get men with much more estrogen in their system. Well, how does that affect their behaviors, their their actions the way that they are in the world men are the testosterone is the is the hormone that makes men men also makes them healthy and virile helps their immune

systems so testosterone isn't the enemy men need testosterone but it's being decimated right and so as it's being decimated by phytoestrogen, our culture and our society shifts and changes. And we hear about the stuff like men aren't the way they used to be anymore. Well, it's because their hormones are different. So you can't necessarily blame them for it. They're getting inundated with feminine chemicals, feminine hormones. So you do the math, like how does that affect our world? And so it's a pretty crazy topic of conversation

when you really go meta on it. It is. Yeah, thanks for bringing light to this, man. Anything else you want to close off with or promote? Let's see. Yeah, I mean, I would say guys, like being really mindful of the decisions that you make, taking a close account into the effects that **** is having on you,

getting off the phones, going out in the world, going and talking to women in real life, getting some huevos and being like, cool, the worst thing she can do is say no. But having a genuine, honest approach is really important. And don't give up on yourselves. If you have problems or whatever, call it out. Be like, hey, I want to work on this. Find someone to work with you, coach you, et cetera.

Find great influencers who have great, you know, things to say and share. Learn, read, focus on yourself. But don't go in that path of like red pill, blue pill, black pill, where you disengage from society. We don't want that. We want you to like engage in society in a healthy way. Love it.

Thanks for coming on, man. Very educational. Yep. Thanks for watching, guys. Hopefully you learned something. We'll link Jackson's below if you want to reach out to him. Otherwise, see you next time.