Digital Social Hour - From Dreaming to Doing: How I Became a Senior Influencer | Retirement House DSH #799

Episode Date: October 12, 2024

🌟 From Dreaming to Doing: How I Became a Senior Influencer 🌟 Tune in now to the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly, where we dive deep into the inspiring journey of becoming a senior influencer! 🚀 Join the conversation as we explore the power of manifestation, the value of embracing life's changes, and the wisdom that comes with age. Packed with valuable insights, this episode highlights the unique experiences of our guests, who defied norms to inspire a generation! 💡 Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion about finding purpose beyond just making money and how pivotal moments, like COVID, have reshaped our perspectives. Discover how social media can be a positive force and why embracing aging can be full of surprises and fun! 🎉 Watch now and subscribe for more insider secrets. 📺 Hit that subscribe button and stay tuned for more eye-opening stories on the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly! 🎙️ Let's embark on this transformative journey together! 🌟 #thefutureofageing #learningatoldage #mentalhealth #spirituality #healthyaging #empoweringbeliefs #motivationalspeech #lawofattraction #motivationalvideo #personaldevelopment CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Intro 00:31 - The Power of Manifestation 02:12 - Decades of Change: 70s to 2000s 04:35 - Everything Happens for Good 07:38 - Can We Love Each Other? 08:49 - Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness 11:32 - The Power of the Internet 19:20 - Helen’s Younger Brain 22:40 - OUTRO 22:48 - Importance of Education 31:00 - Affording a House in Your 20s 41:06 - Final Thoughts APPLY TO BE ON THE PODCAST: https://www.digitalsocialhour.com/application BUSINESS INQUIRIES/SPONSORS: [e-mail] GUEST: Retirement House https://www.instagram.com/retirementhouse/ LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/digital-social-hour/id1676846015 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Jn7LXarRlI8Hc0GtTn759 Sean Kelly Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seanmikekelly/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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You think about the mind and how powerful the mind is. Dreaming about things can bring them to you and all of that. The reason to be alive, to help people find that road that is so totally different from just making money. All right, guys, here with Retirement House Part 2. You guys ready? Ready. What did you think of the last episode? I thought it was wonderful, and I'd like to start where they left off

because I think the fact that you think about the mind and how powerful the mind is and how dreaming about things can bring them to you, and all of that. Brian Johnson, your stories about Brian Johnson, we had a great time with him. I think all of that is really the reason to be alive, to help people find that road that is so totally different from just making money. Yeah, manifestation, right? I feel like it's gaining popularity back in your day.

If you mentioned it, you probably looked at it like you're crazy, right? That's right. Well, it depends. I mean, in the 60s, there was a lot of that about people looking inwards and joining together as opposed to, you know, they were looking back at their parents that worked all their lives hard and their parents before that lived through the depression and they definitely worked hard all their lives so they looked at more inwards and towards you the humanity of it all and then things just

went to hell in a handbasket so so to speak. And hopefully we're going full circle. And I don't use the term manifestation. But manifestation is what actually happened. If I had to write a job description, this would be the job. And I had written it in my mind. I wanted to be an influencer when there were no senior influencers. I wanted to travel and spread the good news of people living wonderful lives, and that's what I'm doing. Nice.

So, yeah, you manifested it in a way, right? I did. Yeah. So you mentioned times were going bad. What era, what years are you talking there? Well, you know, from the 70s, 80s, 90s, and then, of course, you know, in the 70s, the first energy crisis really hit, and people really started looking inwards towards the ecology issues.

And at the same time that was going on, there was more financial areas that were going down, but then technology started coming in. So you had this confluence of ideas. And that's pretty much culminated into where we went through in the early 2000s. And then, of course, it really brought to a head during COVID. That really was like the icing on the cake. Yeah, that was rough times. Because shutting everything down and stopping the movement

really gave time for people to look inwards even more so, in small units, too. It wasn't mass, necessarily. And we're coming out of it now slowly, but with a new way of thinking, hopefully, and new directions that people have found are possible. Because people weren't really, you know, thinking about, oh, maybe I don't need the car. Maybe I don't need to drive today. Maybe I don't need to go into work there. I can do everything online. We found that out in our business, in acting. I mean, in-person auditions are a thing of the past.

Wow. I mean, they really are. I didn't know that. I thought you had to go in person still. Well, they're coming back. Trickling back in, yeah. But they're not coming back the way they were. They want us to self-tape, which makes you the location manager, the producer, the director.

And they claim that they and they can't legally expect us to have a professional background or a professional cameraman. But who would you hire? The person that came in all raggedy with all their raggedy backgrounds or the one who has their lines memorized have a beautiful scene. $10,000 set up. Seems like it's pay to play then, right? It kind of boils down to that sometimes. I have a little bit of a different

idea about it. And that is that everything that happens to each of us and to humanity is for good. Even the stuff that seems like it's really bad. When COVID hit, I thought, oh my goodness.

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What a positive mindset. Because most people during COVID were so fearful. They didn't know what was going on, right? Two, three years. Do you guys remember a moment like that in your lifetime? Or was that a once in a lifetime moment? I felt like this is going to, basically, as she said, it's going to work together for good. And I think a lot of people suffered, but you learn through suffering. going to basically, as she said, it's going to work together for good.

And I think a lot of people suffered, but you learn through suffering. I mean, you get great wine from crushed grapes. That's right. And I never felt that COVID was hopeless. I just wanted it to end. I was going crazy in my apartment, man. And I felt like it was glorious and that maybe human beings

would wake up to the fact that we have been living in such an inexcusable way on this planet, making things that we don't need out of a planet that was already trying to give us wonderful stuff.

Wow. Right. Or making everything disposable instead of repairable. And reusable. Plastic's terrible. Microplastics everywhere. It's like, no, no, no, stop it. And not only that, but showing that the universe and that the spirit that guides us on this universe really can kick our butts, really can shut us down, really can hope that we can take a different path through the woods. Wow.

You know, we're in the sixth stage of extinction now. And it's not just elephants and polar bears. No. It's human beings. So the sixth stage, how many stages are there? I don't know, but I don't want to gamble on it. Just trying to gauge how many years we got left here. Right.

Which one's the last step? I don't know. I don't know if there's any after this one. We're really damaging a lot of stuff, humans, if you look at it. It's pretty crazy, right? Yep. But it's crazy enough to wake us up. And wouldn't that be wonderful?

If everybody went into a positive mindset and actually let love. You know, we were so blessed last night with the Beatles love show, which and everything really was pointing is pointing to that. Can we love each other? Can we get along? Can we live on this planet in a way that works? Wow. I was shocked when I heard that in Ukraine and in Russia, we are still fighting wars after all of this time. Makes no sense at all. Oh, we still are fighting over there?

Yeah, they are still fighting over there. And not only that, but both sides are getting eaten by rats in trenches. If that isn't enough to wake us up to the fact that war doesn't work, what on earth is? War's been around since humans were here. I know. But how about if we change that? We can do it. Yeah. I mean, it sounds great. It's just people want to make money, unfortunately. Exactly.

But you, at age 27, have already learned that that's not the goal. Yeah. So I heard you sharing about that on the Tom Ward interview, and I was so impressed with you. It's been a big shift because for the first 25, 26 years, it was all about money for me, if we're being honest. But now, yeah, that's not number one goal anymore. But we learned that from our family. That's where we get it from our view of money,

how it's used, how it benefits. It's learned from our upbringing. And I think we have to change the model of that. I grew up in a family where money was barter for love so if you obeyed me in the family group then you were loved but if you didn't obey me i took away the money wow and you, that's the way a lot of people do it. Right. And my grandmother literally disowned me in Venice on a gondola

because I had refused to carry the luggage downstairs and the porters were on strike. I said, I'll find a man. I'm not carrying these suitcases down the stairs for me or for you. And my grandmother, who was a strong woman, carried her own suitcases down. But in the gondola that we ended up in, she sat there for as long as she could

and then she just, I'm disinheriting. And this poor man was in the gondola who had carried the luggage downstairs. And he was like, oh my God, these women are gonna throw each other off the boat. But I strongly believe it's taught by your family. Yeah. And most families have no idea of what happiness is.

That's why what we're teaching now and, you know, everybody out there really is our family. And podcasts have gotten so exciting because it's our chance to share this information. And that's exactly our – I really feel like that's our job. Nice. That Retirement House is wonderful, and we're having a great time shooting it, and we're really enjoying working with each other, but that the real job is shifting that thought, that very thought that's going to save human beings. Wow. That's massive. Yeah. Because right now people think the more money they have, the happier they are, right? Well, they're limited to that, that idea that it's, it's material, it's a hundred percent

material and where you're going with it. I need more to get there. And, you know, this rapid fire technology and communication we have now has really changed the whole ballgame. How anybody can really get online and put out their message. And now we're getting some clear voices that are pushing through. And in Retirement House, one of the things we've noticed in what we do, even though it's silly and goofy and crazy,

but you go into the comments and you find out it's like Chuck said about, you know, I was having a terrible day and you made me smile. Right. But there's also the other side of that, that I was really, really scared of getting older. And now I'm not afraid of it. Or you're breaking that wall down. And I see that it's not so bad getting old. And there is good in being older. Yeah. A lot of wisdom.

And yeah, you gain that experience. You gain that wisdom. And the only way to do that is by going on that journey and by taking good thoughts with you and being positive about where you're going. And the only way to do that is to do the right thing. Yeah. And we're learning. We're well, at our age, we're not as as hungry going forward as we have been in previous parts of our life when we had children or when we had those enormous bills to pay and whatnot. And we were just moving forward and moving forward and trying to keep your head above water water and live day to day with the nuts craziness that's going on in the world sometimes. Yeah.

And we're having the chance to do that now. Let our hair down. Be silly. Be goofy. But communicate to each other, through communicating to each other, that we can get along. We can have fun.

It's fine to get older. You don't have to act that way. You know, there's light at the end of this tunnel. And, yeah. What our generation had heard about social media was it bullies people, it makes them feel bad, it's a horrible place to be. We don't see that on our social media.

We see people, like you said he said that said you made my day i was out at a comedy club one night and i walked past a lady and i had a friend with me and the lady grabbed the friend's coattail i guess and said is that the lady from tiktok and my friend who thought oh you, you're just on TikTok, suddenly turned to me and said, you have a fan that wants to talk to you. And the woman said, it's my birthday. She was there alone.

And it hit me later. She was there alone. And she just was so excited. She said, I'm so happy to meet you. It's my birthday. This has made my birthday. And I was like, oh my God. You know, we really do hit people that strongly. Yeah, you're inspiring people.

Right, that they can do anything. There is that hateful side. I just pay no attention to it. So you curate your feed based off what you like and engage with. So I only engage with positive videos. But there is that side that's pretty toxic yeah there is but but you know back on the positive side the other thing is we

remind people of their older relatives and friends that are gone and they appreciate the fact that oh my gosh i forgot i forgot that person my life. They were such a positive motivator. And they're gone, and I just let that slip away. But here you are, and you remind me of them. Reborn. And it's so great, so positive, and lifts them up. And you read stuff like that, and you're thinking of, oh gosh, when am I going to see a hater or something like that? And you get these, and you read stuff like that you know and you're thinking of oh gosh you know when am i going

to see a hater or something like that and you get these and you melt yeah and you go gosh i guess this is this isn't such a bad gig hey you know i mean to do something like that for somebody else that you have no idea where they are yeah we went live one day in between shooting and um we had a couple thousand people show up in like 15 minutes. Dang. And we're international. We had people from Australia chiming in

and India of all places and just all around the world. And, you know, it was for 15 minutes and a producer's telling us where these people are coming from and we're just going, and they just want to say hi and we love you. And, you know, wow, what kind of power is that?

Well, and it's also exactly that same thing again, and that is that people are getting a different message than the one that they've been getting from this particular version of society that really isn't working. People are fighting each other and not taking care of each other and not loving each other and thinking that anti-aging is so important. I made up a new slogan that just said, embrace aging, it's full of surprises and so much fun, but don't let them trick you into getting old.

Wow. You know, and we were on, I think it was ABC, the announcer said it, started laughing when she heard it and said it back to me. And so that has been my motto for everyone. We went to the Caribbean because we're influencers. We get all this crazy, wonderful stuff. And we went with 30 young people. And there was a young woman there.

And I had this thought before we left to get a bikini. And I love the ocean. I lived in Hawaii for eight years. I love the ocean. And I thought, I don't have the body I had 10 years ago, but I have a great body. Why don't I get a bikini to wear? So this young woman somewhere in her 20s came up to me afterwards and she said, when I saw you rip off your T-shirt and you were in that bikini, I knew that my life was going to be OK. Whoa.

And so that, I think, is what we are really doing. One day a nurse came on. Remember that? A nurse came on and told us that she takes Retirement House into the critical care unit to make patients in there laugh or wake up. I mean, it's really exciting. Super cool, yeah. Because a lot of people fear aging, like you said, right? They fear death. Oh, when I was going to turn 30, my life was over.

I mean, I was 28 and a half, and I'm like dying because I'm dying. Wow. And a woman came up to me and she said, you don't have to turn 30. I said, I don't. She said, oh no, you could die. And I said, whoa, wait a minute. Two choices. Okay. I'll live. 70 years later. Well, not quite. Well, enough years later. A little not quite. Enough years later. A little bit down the road there. Yeah, I realized, no, getting old is great. Wow.

Similar story, though. I just turned 27, and I'm dreading the 3-0. Oh, yeah, no. You'll love it, and everything gets better and better. But while we have a few more minutes, let's get on Brian Johnson. Oh, yeah. Because I was thrilled when i found out he was one of your heroes he's one of our heroes too i want to he's a dream guest and i study all this stuff i'm all have you done the colonel no i'm doing that this year oh wonderful yeah okay

see if there's any trauma there we we uh got called in i i had a dream that the kernel existed, and I didn't know where. And then I found out that he had spent $30 million building it. Wow. And we had had one podcast with him that was really fun. And then I begged him to let me do the Colonel. And he was so wonderful. He invited us all back to do the Colonel. And so he had us line up on the couch for how old we really are.

And Chuck, as he said, is the youngest, and I'm the oldest member of the cast. And so then he had us line up also on video as to how old we thought each, where we thought we fit in on the youngest brain. And then we broke for lunch, and then we all did the kernel, and then he announced the winners like the Academy Awards. That's so cool. And you ended up being the youngest, right? 39. 39? 39.

Wow. Yeah, 39. And the wonderful thing about it is that all of my life, I made up a joke of just decide how old you are and be that for your whole life. I guess this aging thing has always been something really, you know, we talk about what you learn from your family. I used to think I was really handicapped because I didn't learn much of anything. And the wonderful thing is that that was probably the best thing, leaving an empty mind that could absorb the things that I really needed to know. But, yeah, I was 39 years.

My brain, 39. Incredible. And all my life people have been saying, wow, you're so young. How old do you feel? And I've been answering, oh, about 40. Wow. That is so cool. And it was 39.

I know. That is nuts. You've got to write a book on how you did that 40 years younger. I think I did it by holding the thoughts that I'm sharing with you today because the mind is that powerful, you know, and and moving through timelines and allowing my life to change and really believing that no matter what was happening, it was all happening for the better. And also taught yoga for 10 years, did a lot of meditation, hung out with the Indian gurus in the 70s. Okay. I don't eat processed food.

I heard that you didn't either. I don't eat processed food. I heard that you didn't either. Fresh food, Pilates, three hours of Pilates a week. No joke. Use it or lose it. That's no joke. I got to get into yoga, man. Yes, you'll love yoga.

Wow, I'm just stunned. This is so insightful learning from you guys. For real, I love this. Speaking of learning, I want to talk about public school, right? So back in your generation, if you went to college, you got a job right away, and that's how it worked. I feel like we're in a new era now where people with degrees aren't getting jobs. So do you guys still place a lot of importance on education?

Education, yes. College, I think there's a huge opening for trade schools. I mean, there's a lot of different trades out there that aren't taught in colleges. And not everybody's made for college. That's not necessarily your path. And I think that's what we need to find out sooner so that you can start on your path sooner. Yeah. If you even know it, you know, I mean, it takes a long time. I know how long it took me to find my path. And I'm still, you know, finding it but uh i think for me my my key is my attitude in life in moving forward and and not taking myself so seriously or the rest of the world trying not to knowing that there is

as long as i'm putting one foot in front of the other and trying to be true, knowing where true is, and keeping my eye on that ball helps me go through it. But I think, sure, there's always been education in one form or the other. We just got so, so conditioned to how things are and so rigid of keeping people in a box. I think my older brother and sister are probably the last generation that went into a job right out of school. Actually, they started in both their career jobs while they were still in school, like in the mailroom, worked themselves up. My brother was a top executive. My sister was also a top executive in her field. And that was their job for their entire life. And they worked the same job their whole life, right? Nowadays. And that was it. They retired and voila. Yeah. Now what? I mean,

and it was, you know, the generations before that, like my father's generation, they were forced to to to mandatory retirement at 65. Mandatory. Mandatory retirement at 65. Well, you know, in six months or so, most of them had done their their bucket list and then they didn't know what to do with themselves and they didn't last much longer. Yeah. Your brain starts to. And, you know, that's so sad. They were such great people, and it was so sad. And like I said, I think those ways, you don't do that anymore. You have, I don't know how many careers I have. I have this picture frame that I took once when I was moving,

and I started putting my little box with my business cards had fallen over. And I started setting them up, and I realized I filled this entire picture frames with all my different jobs. Wow. You know, up to now. Yeah. And how many different things I've done over the course of this short life. And, you know, that's okay. I mean, I've got a wonderful child who's a grown man now.

I have a beautiful marriage. And I'm okay. I'm happy with myself. I'm still going forward. I'm still learning and expanding and teaching. And, you know, what can be better than that? And people are finding out that they have that too. They want to do more than one thing. They don't want to work for a living. You know, that's one thing they have to do.

That's part of what you do along with your spiritual life and your giving life and your relatable life to your fellow human beings. But, yeah, and education has to evolve with that. Yeah. Because it used to be like you got a job guaranteed if you had a college degree. Yeah. And you trained for that. Yeah. Back from the beginning, it would be beaten into your head that you're going to be a doctor,

you're going to be a lawyer, you're going to be an architect. Come from a long line. Yeah. And the problem is the world has changed. There are so many different jobs that you can be exposed to and so many ways you can be exposed. The Internet is just a plethora of different things that you can do and learn. All the social media jobs did not exist 10 years ago. Yeah, they don't teach it in school either.

And they don't teach it in school. And if you try to tell your parent, oh, I want to be a social person, and I'll be doing these blogs, and they'll look at you like you've lost your mind. Yeah, that's a hobby. Right, that's a hobby, which is the way they looked at acting. Oh, yeah? You know, when are you going to get a real job? You know, it's like, when are you going to give up?

You know, it's like, I'm not going to give up, and I have to work a real job along the way, but I'm not going to give up. And now you can look at those things on the internet. All of the jobs are eventually going to go away. We're going to live in a totally different era. So we need to train people to be able to go forward in that. As my personal quest to do this is I try to use a bellhop when I'm in the hotel because they're not going to be there. And so it's like, no, I'm not taking my own card.

I would like the bellhop to help me. Or just pumping gas. I mean, when I was growing up, people wanted to be gasoline pump jockeys because it was a steady job. They were always going to need gas. You just said, well, that's fine. And you didn't have to have all the money that you have now just to be able to live comfortably.

And who can afford college at this point? It's like $200,000 these days. Right. And if you go to grad school, I mean, it's just you can't get out of debt. So I think that college is important. It needs to be there. I certainly don't want a doctor who has not been to college. I would like that to happen.

But I think we have to open it up and train up a child in the way he should go, and they won't depart from it. So if they start at three and they're great dancers, don't just say, oh, that's cute and walk away. Try to cultivate that. It's not what they're meant to do. It'll go away. Yeah.

They'll figure that out. And just they'll figure it out and find things that make you happy. Some people love going to college. Let them go. Okay. Others are billionaires. Without going. I was so lucky because I had a speech impediment.

I had an accident when I was about three years old. And so I got enrolled in dancing to bring the hemispheres of my brain into working with each other. And so, see, that seemed like a terrible thing at the time. But look at what it really was. I am obviously, I was obviously a dancer. I'm now Mabel who dances on tables in Retirement House. But I won a ballet scholarship to college. And then I had an opportunity to go to New York and perform. And I walked away. I don't have a college education. And I never gave it. I didn't look back one time. I knew that I was supposed to be in New York, that I was a performer, and I would see what would happen.

So all of those things, which could have been really terrible, worked in my favor. Everything happens for a reason, right? Yeah. When you guys were in your 20s and 30s, could you afford a house? Because right now they're super expensive and people were saying back then people could afford them. But I want to ask you guys, was that a possibility? It was a possibility. Lots of people lived and owned in houses. Maybe you remember or heard about the Watts riots.

And my mother and I had never been to Watts and so we decided after the riots were over we were gonna go drive and see where the poor people lived and this was in the 60s and we drove through and it's like they lived in houses so in my mind how bad could it be they have houses but you could buy a house for $20,000 mmm My stepfather bought a house that was, well, I think it's valued at like $1.5 million now. Wow. He bought it for $50,000. Dang.

In the late 60s. Beautiful house on a hill. Crazy. Great neighborhood, great schools. And nowadays, that same house, like I said, is over a million dollars. Who can afford that at 20? People can't afford it. The average salary is $40,000.

People can't afford a house until they're in their 40s, 50s now. It's pretty crazy. If then. But on the other hand. I love her positivity. On the other hand, who needs a house? You know, maybe it's leading us to think of living in a different way. It's like I've had a house and I've had no house.

It just isn't that important, really. Maybe families should live together. Maybe we should all live in tents. Do you know what I mean? What I'm trying to say, I don't mean to sound like an idiot, but what I'm trying to say is, if it's changing, how important is it? Why don't we let life change and see how it comes back together now? Because I never even thought about owning a house in my 20s. I wasn't the least. I just wanted to perform, go to New York, live in Europe.

So you were with your parents still? I'm sorry? Living at your parents' house still? Oh, no, because I didn't have parents with a house. See, that's what I'm saying. I really started with nothing. My dad died when I was five years old. My mom was struggling with two children for the rest of her life. It's like, no, we didn't have houses. We didn't have all of that stuff. Wow. Yeah, I think it's a comfort thing for families, just having a place to be.

I guess. And I wish that families, if I have a wish about people getting houses, I wish they were really felt like a family or that they sat down for dinner or that, you know, it's like that's always, I suppose, the place I'm coming from. Right. I just wish people were happier with each other. Yeah. Because I think if they can be happier with each other, that there is no limit to possibilities. I love that. I was at a restaurant and every table, someone was on their phone.

And I was like, wow, we've lost that human connection at meals. Because that was a big thing. My childhood, just sitting down with my parents and talking about our day. Yeah. They don't do that anymore. Yeah. I grew up having dinner with my folks every day. And that was a beautiful thing, you know, because families are messy.

You know, it wasn't beautiful every night. But it's what happened. And you were there and you communicated. Yeah. And you knew what was – that was the only time we found out what was going on. Yeah. You know, and especially in my family, we had two older kids and two younger kids where that was the family was split during the Second World War. And two of us before and two of us after. And so that was the only time we were there.

The other the other kids were out of the house. My my older brother, Bill, got married when I was like five. You know, so, yeah, that, that was early for him to leave. And then my sister was not too much after that. And my dad worked in the house upstairs. He was paralyzed on his total left side, but he was able to work. And my mom had to go to work to subsidize that. And the company owned the house. So we grew up not owning a house.

But having a house. Having a house, yes. We had a house and a forest around it. And that was, you know, we were in a wonderland there. Sounds like a fun time for kids. It was. We were definitely in a wonderland of our own making. And then it was, you know was rough growing up after that.

And my first house, I didn't buy until I was 50 years old. Wow. And that was because I moved around a lot. I did a lot of different jobs. I moved around in an area, still staying in Northern California pretty much. But I traveled a lot and then would come back to home base and work there. But once I hit 50, then I had my son. Well, a little earlier than that, 36.

But I had my son and I had those responsibilities. Right. So we rented and built up equity and did all those things that it takes. But that whole model is really kind of changing because of how we work. Working at home, two people working, all those differences, school being differently structured. And the phone. And the phone.

And how we do and don't communicate with each other. And I think we do that, you know, and take care of each other at the same time. Because right now we've run out of housing in all the cities. So the single family home is dying in places like my old hometown in San Francisco. And the outer parts of that city are all single-family homes. Well, that's not enough housing. They're all single-family homes with big backyards. Well, now the garage is gone.

That's a unit, and there's a unit in the backyard. And that's still not enough, so we'll tear down this one single-family home, and now you build a four-unit apartment house. And the garage and the backyard are gone. So the city's going up and getting more and more condensed and more congested.

And is that the answer? No. I don't think so. San Fran has a lot of problems right now. Yeah, it does, and that's part of it. That's one of the parts that's self-creating, you know, and we've got to figure that out. You know, you can't just go, like, to Sacramento and all the fields that used to grow food are now growing homes.

And where the hell are those people moving to? Or working, rather. Farmers are pretty much, they can't even make a living anymore, I heard. In a lot of ways, yeah. It's mostly company farms. Yeah, they bought them all up, right? Single family, yeah. A single family or a family farm really is a thing of the past. They're sprinkled around, you know, they still do it. I worked in the ag business up in Sonoma and Napa Valleys

in the wine industry. There's a lot of third-party farmers that grow grapes to sell to the vineyards or to the winemakers. They're also growing other crops, but that's getting smaller and smaller and more

corporate and more corporate because- Margins. Everything's just too expensive to do. Yeah. Are we thinking ahead about the fact that we still need to eat? Yeah. I love food.

Good for you. Yeah. I know I don't look like it, but I could eat. Yeah. Yeah. I'd eat some pho after this. You guys eat pho? Yeah. I could eat. I'd eat some pho after this. You guys eat pho?

You know, it's so wonderful because I listen to your podcast. Right now we're being spoiled in Vegas. Everybody's being so sweet to us and taking care of us and giving us a lovely place to stay and all of that. And I listen to your podcast, and I got up this morning in my wonderful, luxurious hotel. Yeah, Red Rock. And I walked around the room thanking it. Because remember what you said?

The most important thing is thanking the universe for what it's bringing you. And I was so tickled to be reminded of that and to walk around thanking the bathtub and thanking the bed and thanking, you know, because Red Rock has just been luxurious to that. And yet last night, I walked in to some place that had tables and there were four people sitting at a table, obviously a family, all of them on their phone. The two girls were on their phone

and I thought, where's the mother? And then I looked on the other side of the table, there was the mother on her phone. Yeah. Classic. Yeah. Guys, it's been refreshing. her phone. Yeah. Classic. Yeah. Guys, it's been refreshing. I could talk to you guys for hours.

Anything you want to leave off with with the audience before we wrap up? Embrace your life. Embrace your life. Be wonderful. Have a great time. And don't let them trick you into getting old and don't be afraid of the future

don't be afraid the future starts today this is how you do it and be part of it be an active member love it and prepare to grow old because if you're lucky you will get to grow old

and if you prepare for it you will get to grow old. And if you prepare for it, you will enjoy it as much, if not more, than your younger years. Wow. Beautiful. Yep. Retirement House guys, check them out on TikTok. They've got an amazing show there. Otherwise, I'll see you guys tomorrow.