Digital Social Hour - From Homeless to Success: My Journey Through Hard Choices I Tzachi Ozeri DSH#497

Episode Date: June 15, 2024

From Homeless to Success: My Journey Through Hard Choices 🌟 Tune in now to this jaw-dropping episode of the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly! 🌟 Ever wondered what it takes to rise from ...rock bottom to the pinnacle of success? Our guest, Tzachi Ozeri, shares his incredible journey from being homeless and battling addiction to becoming a successful author and entrepreneur. His story is packed with valuable insights that will inspire and motivate you to make the right choices in your own life. 💪✨ In this episode, Tzachi Ozeri dives deep into the tough choices he had to make, the power of persistence, and the importance of believing in yourself. He also talks about redefining success, overcoming the victim mentality, and why happiness is a choice. Whether you're struggling or thriving, there's something for everyone in this episode. Don't miss out on this eye-opening conversation! Watch now and subscribe for more insider secrets. 📺 Hit that subscribe button and stay tuned for more life-changing stories on the Digital Social Hour with Sean Kelly! 🚀 Join the conversation and be part of a community that values personal growth and resilience. 🙌 Keywords: Digital Social Hour, Sean Kelly, Podcast, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Tzachi Ozeri, Homeless to Success, Inspirational Journey, Personal Growth. #DigitalSocialHour #SeanKelly #FromHomelessToSuccess #Inspiration #Motivation #Podcast #SuccessStory #BelieveInYourself #LifeJourney #TakingRisks #SuccessStory #Homelessness #Inspiration CHAPTERS: 0:00 - Intro 0:37 - How to Overcome Adversity 2:18 - Your First Book: FYP 7:59 - Your Dad’s Movie Script 10:20 - What Values Did Your Dad Teach You 11:59 - Monk VS Monkey Mind 15:09 - The Domino Effect 18:41 - Is Freedom An Illusion 24:00 - Mental Journey 26:50 - Learning Styles 28:55 - Hiding Skills 30:50 - Brain Tricks 31:40 - Where to Find Dr. Joe’s Work 31:59 - Thanks for Watching APPLY TO BE ON THE PODCAST: https://forms.gle/D2cLkWfJx46pDK1MA BUSINESS INQUIRIES/SPONSORS: Jenna@DigitalSocialHour.com GUEST: Tzachi Ozeri  https://www.instagram.com/tzachiozeri/ SPONSORS: Deposyt Payment Processing: https://www.deposyt.com/seankelly LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/digital-social-hour/id1676846015 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Jn7LXarRlI8Hc0GtTn759 Sean Kelly Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seanmikekelly/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 If you are a parent and I'm hopefully one day I will be in order to have a good life for your kids. Either you need to be happy so you can provide them a good value as well or to find their niche or their gift and then push them and direct them to the gift so they can be successful with what they good at. Wherever you guys are watching this show, I would truly appreciate it if you follow or subscribe it helps a lot with the algorithm it helps us get bigger and better guests and it helps us grow the team truly means a lot thank you guys for supporting and here's the episode all right zaki zaki yeah zaki you can try and say zaki okay z Okay. Tzaki. Not Tzaki. It's not Japanese. But yeah. Try it again.
Starting point is 00:00:47 Tza. Tza. Hi. Hi. Yeah. Okay. Tzaki. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:00:51 There we go. Tzaki. Close enough. Ozari. Yeah. What a name. What a name, right? I've never seen that name.
Starting point is 00:00:56 Have you? Well, yeah. It's actually a very common name in Hebrew. Really? It's a short name of Isaac. So it's actually been a fresh air. Nice. Which I hope I am a fresh air.
Starting point is 00:01:06 Yeah, you are, man. You just ordered me lunch. No guest in 700 episodes has ever ordered me lunch. And you got it for the team, too. So I really appreciate that. Anytime, yeah. For sure. That's what I like to do.
Starting point is 00:01:15 Absolutely, man. And you said you're flying after this to? Back to LA and then to New York on Monday. But yeah, I love going to LA to relax. That's a rare saying, LA to usually la to work because i i stay in santa monica or venice and near the beach we'll go to um malibu but those are the areas that i because it's very close to the beach it's quite on the beach although there's a lot of people when you go you know know, crossing that street and get quiet and nice and chill. Absolutely.
Starting point is 00:01:47 Now you're a writer, so you're probably introverted, right? You don't like to be around too many people. Oh, that is actually a good point. Right? Yeah. A lot of writers are like that. The thing is, you know, with where I want to be in the next five years, even tomorrow, I probably will need to stand up and you know share my vision and words and hopefully i can inspire more people by doing so um so yeah it's it's a stage that i need to
Starting point is 00:02:15 cross i'm not sure i'm there yet yeah we'll help you get there man now let's let's go through these books one by one so fyp was the first one right yeah that's basically the time when i lost my partnership lost my friends um lost my girlfriend and most importantly lost myself wow so yeah and it was a very close to being for the third time homeless so geez yeah so i had to make a choice um and i decided to the reason why why I was almost in that point again is because I had, you know, construction wasn't my first ideal industry that I wanted to be, but somehow I got into it. And I didn't want to do it immediately because the people that taught me were still around me. So I didn't want to make them, because I knew they can do it better. I just didn't have the guts or the willing to take the risk on me
Starting point is 00:03:18 or bet on myself that I can do it better. And I felt comfortable being around them. And I know if I do this step, I'm going to lose them. And then living in New York, not with your real family, so it's really trying to create this community or a safe zone that you can go and enjoy time. And they were my safe zone. They were like a family.
Starting point is 00:03:39 We've been together for 24-7. So for me to not have it, it's understanding that alone, it's okay. Being alone, it's okay. And it's sometimes difficult. Yeah. When you have drugs included and stuff like that,
Starting point is 00:03:54 you're not aware of the right choices. Right. And I always say, you know, successful people, we're all born to be successful. And the difference between a successful and unsuccessful person is by the choices they make.
Starting point is 00:04:08 So even unsuccessful people successfully making the wrong choices over and over again, compared to somebody who is successful in making the right choices, when you make a wrong choice, you just tweak it in a way that, you know, you learn from it and then tweak it to make it work. So that's why this is not a failure decision you're making. It's just a learning curve. It's just the difference between unsuccessful people
Starting point is 00:04:35 to successful people. Yeah, there's a few key choices everyone has to go through in life. And I feel like that can make or break someone. Yeah, true. Yeah, a big one is leaving the house at what age, you know what I mean? Yeah. Because some people stay at their parents house till they're 30 40 years old
Starting point is 00:04:48 and i think that's too late yeah and i think when you live in a you know in israel it's very common to stay with your parents till you get old or get married and that um but i you know i felt if i'm going to stay in israel i would not be able to take those risks that I wanted to take because my family wasn't risk-taking. There was always a safety net. My brother wanted to be a lawyer. The other one, IT. My sister, computer engineer, but in the end of the day, she found her way with God and she became religious. But she became religious because she was missing the family part.
Starting point is 00:05:28 Our childhood, a reality that was built by my parents was difficult. The choices that they make was bad choices and they kept making it until they found their place, work that they kept for 20 years. And if it wasn't for my mom cancer she was still working till this day because work for my mom and dad was kind of a getaway from the from the house yeah not you know finding place that again like me with those friends finding this community and friendship with the work and people around it that gave them the love or the respect that they were looking in a
Starting point is 00:06:05 house and wasn't able to get it but if you go back to all of this it's all start with their childhood what's made them feel on you know unsuccessful or make them feel in a way that they um unwelcome i guess yeah so you felt that pressure from your parents to i felt the pressure best because again i i went through a lot um sean i if it was drug abuse mentally abused physical abuse um sexual abuse um and being homeless because of my parents and because of my choices. Wow. So I've been through a lot. But the reason why I've been through a lot is because my mom didn't know how to deal with her emotions and didn't know how to deal with life because she didn't get the right guidance from her parents. Now, I feel like parenting, if you are parenting, and hopefully one day I will be, in order to have a good life for your kids, either you need to be happy so you can provide them a good value as well, or to find their niche or their gift and then push them and direct them to their gift so they can be successful with what they're good at. And I feel my parents, if they look in between,
Starting point is 00:07:28 they will be able to see that I'm a writer, maybe push me towards writing. If you look at my dad that passed away two years ago, he was a writer too, but he never achieved the dream of being a writer. He had a full script, which I'm trying not to bring to light for to honor him to see that you know and especially for my mom to see that
Starting point is 00:07:48 she's not she didn't marry a failure she married somebody that had a gift but didn't know or didn't believe in himself in order to pursue that gift yeah if you are Sylvester Stallone if you can hear me I'm trying to get to him touch with him cause it's a movie script
Starting point is 00:08:03 it's a movie script but I also have two storylines for new Rocky movies and I'm I think you know to do a package deal with Sylvester Stallone
Starting point is 00:08:11 would be great wow but I see actually I see Sylvester Stallone compared to my dad is Sylvester Stallone
Starting point is 00:08:19 is a successful dad that I didn't have because he had also a script that he was pushing himself which was Rocky he was pushing himself and somehow got to that chance somebody believed in him and you know was able to put on a big screen compared to my dad they didn't believe in himself and that's why he never got the chance to do what I'm trying to do right now for him so your dad taught
Starting point is 00:08:41 you how to write it he never told me I'm how to write. I realized that I'm always like writing since I was a kid. When they sent me, because I was, I don't want to say a bad kid, but I was very energetic, let's say. I used to get into fights a lot. Really?
Starting point is 00:09:01 Yeah. What would cause them? Because my mom. My mom was, again, the abuse came from my mom. Yeah. And What would cause them? Because my mom. My mom was, again, the abuse came from my mom. Yeah. And the abuse,
Starting point is 00:09:08 and I love my mom and she, till this day, feels like she's a victim in a way. Instead of being kind of finding her superpower.
Starting point is 00:09:22 So she always feel like she's a victim. She always blame other people. And I used to be in a position when I was blaming other people. At the end of the day, you need to face yourself in the mirror because you are there because of your choices.
Starting point is 00:09:33 Even if somebody does something bad, if somebody cheating on you, you're cheating on yourself because you believe that this relationship is good enough. But because you are cheating yourself for believing that then they actually becoming a reality right and i think that people you know till they take
Starting point is 00:09:51 responsibility of every um action or every place that they've been they will not be able to step out of this circle the victim um mentality yeah victim mentality that's everywhere these days too i had it too yeah i think what happened uh i would blame everyone other than me i could never take accountability is there something to do with your um dad passing away in early age no i had it early before he passed and i feel like i could just never take action on my results like it was always someone else's fault and the time that your dad was alive did you able to get some value from him or you don't see that you have a i got value but not direct value so he was uh super smart 150 iq and had a lot of uh social
Starting point is 00:10:39 issues so he couldn't really use emotions yeah um so i would learn from a distance it wasn't like hands-on teaching so it's it's actually funny you saying that because for a long time i thought um my parents never gave me values but looking now because if you look i'm i'm the only four years ago i was in the victim stage so i will not see the values that they gave me. But now, looking back, there's a lot of values. The fact that they never stopped until they found a workplace. They never gave up, no matter what. Although they didn't have a goal or didn't have an idea what to do with their life, the steep kept going in order to be able to be where they were at that time,
Starting point is 00:11:23 which for them was a good place in a way. It wasn't the place that I was hoping they will be and that they couldn't be. Because if my dad would choose his path of writing, he might be in a different place if he believed in himself. But still, my dad, every time he used to call me and the call would never give up so it's also another value so it's this and keep going um it's not like how rocky says it's not about how you get knocked down it's how you get knocked down and keep moving forward right yeah classic um so that brings us to the second book this one just came out? This one came up last summer.
Starting point is 00:12:06 Okay. Monk. Monk. Monkey Mind. So what's the premise with that one? So the first one was for me, the first one was all about, you know,
Starting point is 00:12:16 moving on from the past. So if somebody like still stuck in the past, the first book will be ideal for you. The second book is all about how to change your habits. And one of the things that I learned is, you know, using words. So if you keep saying, work is hard, I need to, have to, then you're going to project things that's going to be hard for you. Even hard to get a solution for them. But if you start using can or um or other kind of positive words then it will change your mindset so the thing that comes is a hard for you will be easier for you to
Starting point is 00:12:52 you know get a solution get a result instead of just crying about the situation that you are right now um yeah and this that the idea is you know how to reprogram your subconscious and things that were stuck in my head or overthinking about things that are still in your head from the past. Why? For me, it was a reason because every sentence that I had in my head or every kind of thing that stuck was a story that I brought to this book and can help inspire people or people can feel connected to. That's major. I love that. Yeah. Words and just the way you think
Starting point is 00:13:29 is so powerful. It's crazy. Change your mind, change your life. Yeah. I used to have very negative thoughts. It took me years to change it. Do you ever heard about,
Starting point is 00:13:39 by the way, I need to thank you. I forgot. Do you ever heard about the domino effect or familiar with the domino effect? Kind of. So last summer, I had this,
Starting point is 00:13:58 a bad time. Basically, things are falling apart. It wasn't going well. And every solution that I was putting was kind of bending and it was ripping off after a few weeks and it just kept going it was about to really give up um with the construction company with the books and things that wasn't going well but suddenly and that's the domino effect it can go back it can go either positive or negative and for me it just was negative.
Starting point is 00:14:25 And out of the blue, I think it was Amy. Yeah. She texted me. Assistant, yeah. Yeah, yeah. She texted me and said, I think you have a value. And I see a value in you. And I was like, wait, what?
Starting point is 00:14:37 My Instagram was so bad. Yeah. I wasn't satisfied with my Instagram. And somebody coming out of the blue, I thought it was a scam. I thought it was a scam in the beginning. But yeah, and it turned out to be a real thing.
Starting point is 00:14:54 And then here I am here now with you. But at this point, started to do the other dominant effect, which is a positive effect. Things is getting better and better and better. Right. Yeah. Yeah, that's cool, man.
Starting point is 00:15:05 Thank you. Yeah, I've seen you talk in the group chat, and hopefully you got some value. Yeah. That's really cool, dude. And I know you're working on a third book now too, right? Yeah, The Tree of Life, which is all about childhood. And I feel like that would be my best one so far right now.
Starting point is 00:15:21 Wow. I can say, yeah. Because I started to basically put myself in front of my mom and see what the similarity is. Because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And you see
Starting point is 00:15:32 why I was acting the way I was acting for 38 years and why I was going through drugs trying to escape. Because I was for a long time in the lost and found.
Starting point is 00:15:41 I always knew that I want to be successful and wealthy, but I'd never had a plan. And I always tapped to somebody else's dream and thought, okay, maybe if I give my a hundred percent over there. Are you interested in coming on the digital social hour podcast as a guest? We'll click the application link below in the description of this video. We are always looking for cool stories, cool entrepreneurs to talk to you about business and life. Click the application link below and here's the episode, guys.
Starting point is 00:16:06 I will be a partnership, and that's what makes my life easier because I'm going to get where I want, but in somebody else's dream. But it doesn't work like this. Because people don't want to show you your value. In order for you to show your value, you need to find the value in yourself. That's the only way for you to be able to achieve anything. If it can be paycheck to paycheck you need just to love yourself in order for you can love the job or find the passion or find a dream or you know it
Starting point is 00:16:33 it just the childhood if you go back and start digging inside you you'd be amazed how similar you are to your parents and especially if you are struggling over and over again with the same kind of result wow yeah people don't even really think about it they just kind of move on but they don't ever go back it's normal it seems like it's just something that's supposed to happen yes my parents had it as i'm normal but it's not it's just the same cycle that you want to find a way to break it yeah we need to break that cycle because my my dad got abused too yeah so i saw him take the opposite approach and run away from just all human contact yeah you know because he was so scared yeah um and i feel like you know i don't like people when they say uh you have to take control of your life you can't take control of
Starting point is 00:17:20 anything in your life nothing it's i feel like uh control it's an illusion to be honest um what you can try to do is stabilize things because even if you make a choice you never know if the choice is right or wrong until you make it um you say i can control what comes to my mouth but yes you can but then do you know how your body will you know digest the food that you put in do you know where the food came from the other thing that you don't know so you cannot really control right anything in life um can you control when you pass away or not you know you don't know anything about it the only thing that you do is make the right choices or make a choices or the freedom of choice because again i don't think there is any kind of thing i don't believe in
Starting point is 00:18:03 freedom to be honest wow the freedom that i believe is the freedom of choice. Because again, I don't think there is any kind of thing. I don't believe in freedom, to be honest. Wow. The freedom that I believe is the freedom of choice. Interesting. Because if you look at it in a big picture, your body is not free. You need to not share with your body. It costs money, right?
Starting point is 00:18:20 You need, your house is not free. Even if you buy the house in cash, you still need to pay taxes. Tax, yeah. Every day, it's not free. Your car is not free. Even if you buy the house, pay in cash, you still need to pay taxes. Tax, yeah. Every day. It's not free. Your car is not free. Nothing is free.
Starting point is 00:18:31 Your body is temporary. It's not free. It's a time when you don't know when you're going to pass away. But again, it's temporary. Unless you can clone people, which we talked about. But yeah. Yeah. Yeah, so you think freedom is an illusion then?
Starting point is 00:18:43 It's an illusion. I really do believe in illusion. The only thing, the freedom that you have, it's the freedom of choice. But do you think you can use money as a tool to become more, more free or no? No.
Starting point is 00:18:58 It is also an illusion that you need money in order to be free. I think the, it's a good point because when, when it hits and I just opened my company, all my jobs got, you know, stopped or never even continued because we weren't able to go to the buildings and do the work. And it was, again, not at the point that I was, how can I get, how can I pay for it? How can I do this and that? And I realized that the thing that I was running from is from this feeling that to be a homeless. So if I can take this away,
Starting point is 00:19:35 or how can I take it away, will help me to basically not feel or need of the money, I guess. And I feel like money is a great tool to have. I'm not going to say that. But before I had dreams and goals and things that I wanted to do now, I just wanted to be stable.
Starting point is 00:19:59 And stable to me doesn't mean that I had to have a lot of money. Stable to me just to have enough money to pay my rent. Yeah. And be in the same building for more than a year, because in New York it's very tough to be more than a year in a building. And look at me now. I've been staying in, since I did the transformation, I've been staying in the same building for the past four years.
Starting point is 00:20:23 Yeah. transformation i mean stay in the same building for the past four years nice yeah so that was my my way of you know if you take out the it's a complicated question to be honest it's deep it is deep because i because i'm happy because i'm i'm happy with i do want to do, but it's not because I need the money. It's because I want to help people. I'm good with helping people. I feel better helping people. But in order to help them, I need to help myself.
Starting point is 00:20:54 And I think just a feeling. Because being happy is a choice. It's a choice? It's a choice. Whatever happened now, let's say me and you have a fight. It's your choice if you want to take this fight or this emotion
Starting point is 00:21:08 for the next day, for tomorrow. Tomorrow is a new, brand new day. It's a new opportunity. If you decide to be happy today, you might see an opportunity that you wouldn't see
Starting point is 00:21:18 if you were still in the mindset of being upset and the mindset that you're being, feel a victim more. So I feel like, you know, I'll tell you a story when i was working in the west village um i was working uh aside of me in a crappy place but i was a girl that taking order because in in the weekends it was packed
Starting point is 00:21:38 yeah it was really packed and she was always smiling always smiling no matter how the customer would treat her always smiling and i asked her like matter how the customer would treat her, always smiling. And I asked her, like, how the hell do you do it? Because I was making the crepes and I was, you know, being the, you can say the soup Nazi, but in a crepe kind of way. And she told me, look, I wake up every morning and I decide to be happy and I'll be able to take it to me. It's a choice. Wow.
Starting point is 00:22:05 And I was like, wait, what? Yeah, it is. What about the other way around? Because some people say they're depressed. Again, look, I'm not a medic, but I was depressed too. When I decided to be happy. It was overnight. It just took me, look, even drugs, it wasn't an overnight kind of transformation.
Starting point is 00:22:25 It took me a while to get off of it. But I never went to rehab. I did meditation. I did walks. I was near waters. I changed my habits. Woke up very early. Cold shower.
Starting point is 00:22:39 Drinks. Things that make me feel healthy, which is hot water with lemon every morning, stuff like that. I did physical stuff that makes me happy, gym, hot yoga. But that's how I got out. But by the way,
Starting point is 00:22:53 doing going to hot yoga, one of the reasons I go there is because the studio is so hot that you're suffocating from, it's hard to breathe. So you need to somehow find stillness. And it's very difficult. And when you muster that,
Starting point is 00:23:12 and I think it's easier to also muster the thoughts of happy and unhappy. Wow. Yeah, hot yoga is no joke. I've done a few sessions out here and I'm usually the only guy there, but it's really fun. It's intense
Starting point is 00:23:25 yeah it's every posture you do can create your heartbeat very fast yeah and that's why you stop
Starting point is 00:23:34 it's difficult for you to breathe that's why you need to take a moment and say it's nothing yeah it's a mental game in there for sure and that's why I love it so much because it's not about the posture it's a mental game in there for sure. And that's why I love it so much because it's not about the password. It's more about being able to stay in your zone,
Starting point is 00:23:50 in your stillness and focus on yourself. You don't care about anybody else. You just look at your mirror and focus on yourself. Understand that the battle is between you and your mind and that's it. Yeah. So you've had quite the mental journey too then? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:24:03 I think all of us. Yeah, for sure. When you were homeless, what age were you? How long was that? It was in New York. It was – so the first time I was homeless is because I took a risk on a different job, didn't work out, and then found myself not able to afford a house, an apartment. The second time is because what we talked about,
Starting point is 00:24:26 about the friendship that I didn't want to lose and put it on top instead of me. So when the second time, when I was sleeping in a van, I actually faced myself in the mirror and I took the small mirror, put it on my eyes and see, oh, I'm like, stop lying to yourself. You're not happy. Everybody else is going and you're not happy everybody else is growing
Starting point is 00:24:45 and you're just staying still or look where you are right now so what are you going to do what exactly are you going to do and I made a choice and I knew that taking that choice would probably cost me my friends but then you need to better yourself
Starting point is 00:25:00 how could we better yourself because nobody will better you better yourself and when you better yourself then you might attract people how could we Brian said bet on yourself because nobody will bet on you bet on yourself and when you bet on yourself then you might attract people that will give you
Starting point is 00:25:10 the opportunity will give you the seat and explain your life explain your how you got out of it right but until then if you don't bet on yourself
Starting point is 00:25:18 don't see any reasons that people will value you yeah because you don't value yourself were you able to find someone at that time to talk to a mentor some sort talk to, a mentor of some sort? Talk to myself.
Starting point is 00:25:27 Just yourself? Books. A lot of books. Rich Dad, Poor Dad gave me the observation of not even the money. It's not about the money of the book. That's a book to show you financially. I actually thought about the book
Starting point is 00:25:41 as a good experience to see a wealthy dad compared to an unwealthy dad the mindset in between uh the universe has your back by daniel gabriel burstein helped me to get into meditation and the fact that she had the same journey with the drugs and everything had you know got me closer and i think the third one that was very powerful for me was men searching for meaning, which is a guy that got to the camp and separated from his wife. The Holocaust? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:26:18 Yeah. And he find a way to stay positive, which is, you know, which second sense that he had you know define you know any day you can die but to find a way to create new habits and find happiness in that moment it's incredible yeah books are great because to be able to read that story of what happened 80 years ago yeah that's amazing yeah see that experience yeah that's why i'm a huge fan i listen to audiobooks once a week yeah yeah i don't i don't like audiobooks really yeah wow so there's different types of learners it sounds like you're more hands-on yeah are you
Starting point is 00:26:56 a kidney steologist like you like to learn from touch learn from touch um and i think i like the physicality yeah i think like i i'm all about doing yeah less than talking that's the rarest form of learning and then there's audio which is me i think and then there's visual some people just learn from seeing yeah i like visuals i can say yeah visual is yeah like watching a lot documentary movies i'm a big fan of movies my whole family that's something that really connected us because we are very separated movies was something that connected us music was something that connecting us by the way if if only my parents saw that the potential i have with books or understanding life in general our family and go back to my grandfather and grandmother are all artistic
Starting point is 00:27:48 but nobody believed in themselves none of them wow yeah so if they're only one of them because my grandfather was in manage a theater and my grandma used to love to create clothing. And when we didn't have any money, she used to create my costume for our Halloween Purim, which is for Jewish. But yeah, if he saw those, and my dad with his writing, and if somebody saw it in a bigger point of view, they might realize that maybe we are autistic. Maybe we're not into doing lawyer stuff and hectic stuff and stuff like this.
Starting point is 00:28:34 And that applies for anything, right? Because my fiance's family, super spiritual, but they all hid their powers. They were all scared of it. So now with her, we're really trying to tap into it more because we're not scared of it. We want to embrace it yeah so that goes with any skill yeah and you see it in families like it doesn't have to be anything business related but people just seem to hide their their skills for some reason yeah it's it's because again it's all about the
Starting point is 00:29:00 trauma that you have as a as a kid and as a parent as well um one of the reason i never went to a psychiatrist because my mom saw it as a weakness because when i was uh in school and i wanted to create this and i wanted to um myself yeah in school 12 years old holy crap that's young it was a day where I beat some one of my friends
Starting point is 00:29:29 I damaged his face really bad and things wasn't going good at home as well I decided I'm gonna 12 years old
Starting point is 00:29:37 that is that's like elementary middle school so they took me to do some tests and psychiatrist tests and stuff like that and my mom before said
Starting point is 00:29:44 don't say anything else decide lie to be honest my mom told me to lie when tests and psychiatry tests and stuff like that. And my mom before said, don't say anything else. Decide, lie. To be honest, my mom told me to lie when I was a kid because first grade, before working to class, my mom told me, you need to lie. And the reason why we need to lie because
Starting point is 00:29:59 she didn't want people to know that my dad is living with us because the deaths that he created and stuff like that. So I had to tell either a lie that I don't know the numbers, I don't know where I live, or to give my grandma. Holy crap. Yeah. In first grade, you're forced to lie.
Starting point is 00:30:18 That is such a young age. And I think I carried this for all my life. And I was lying to myself or lying to other people to get away with things away from with things but yeah in the end of the day I lied to myself and that's and I kept it for 38 years holy crap 38 years lying to myself that this is a safe place this is a good place is it yeah yeah it's easy to do that right to start believing them because your brain doesn't know better you can easily believe stuff and if you just repeat it out loud so many times you start to really believe it and live it yeah yeah that's crazy um there is a thing about the matrix when somebody i just saw it on instagram um posted
Starting point is 00:30:57 um a green uh blue circle and a red circle and And it asked the class, are they identical? And everybody says yes. And he told them, no. One of them is actually bigger than the other one. And he made them believe that one of them is bigger. And they asked, which one do you think is bigger? So some of them said red. Some of them said blue.
Starting point is 00:31:21 So when you reveal it, he said, what was your first thought? Was it identical, right right they are identical i just made you believe that they're not identical and that's how you know society or family wants you to wow that's how they program you yeah crazy where can people find out more about your books and what you got coming up any online store if amazon um barnes and nobles google um apple um and my instagram cool what's your instagram we'll link it below it's probably easier to do that yeah all right cool thanks so much for coming anytime sorry yeah thanks for watching as always. See you next time. Oh, oh, oh, O'Reilly.
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