Digital Social Hour - Living a Life of Abundance with David Meltzer | Digital Social Hour #77

Episode Date: August 17, 2023

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I evaluate a relationship by, okay, the more you feed me, the more time I'll spend feeding you. And I let people who bleed me fall away or even fire them from my life. So when I was wanting to move forward in my marriage and my life, my wife said, you're going to have to fire these three people from your life. Wow. My old life was like sitting at the project on a lawn chair, drinking a cold 45, doing a bump and looking at my best friend going, dude. And I had great ideas, right? And the guy's like, dude, that's a great idea. And drink.

When you're surrounded with the wrong people, that's what happens to inspiration. Whereas now I live in the luxury gated community and looking at my friend next to me going dude i i want to start this company oh can i give 10 million Welcome to the Digital Social Hour. I'm your host, Sean Kelly. I'm with my co-host, Wayne Lewis. What up, what up? And our guest today, David Meltzer. How's it going? Amazing. Even better now that I'm here with you two at this unbelievable place. Man, it's an honor to have you. Thanks for having me, man. What are we going to talk about today?

Whatever you want. First quick story I think would be good of your journey. Yeah, sure. You know, I always divide my journey into three different worlds. The first world, I say about half of the United States at least grows up in, and it's a world of not enough, not enough of anything. Single mom, six kids, driven to be rich so I could buy my mom a house. The only chance of being rich was either academics, which I was better suited for, and so were my five siblings, or athletics.

And I chose athletics, although my unconscious competency was more relative to the academics. They came a lot easier than sports did played football and baseball okay and then ended up pole vaulting as well in college so i could run scared really fast but the main objective of all of it to me was to buy my mom that house and car and i thought for sure because i grew up so happy with nothing that if I had money, you know, all those times I catch my mom crying or stressed over money would go away. And so I'd live in this unrealistic world of pure happiness that nothing would bother me. And so everything I did was in the trajectory of making as much money as I could as fast as I could.

And that world ended when i graduated law school and decided i'd work in the internet despite my mom telling me the internet was a fad it would never last which is important because i've lived through web 1 web 2 web 2.5 and 3 and there's the exact same mindset of people every level every level it's the same and it's like look the plat the the platform's gonna work the technology is gonna work it's just that early on 99 of the companies are gonna fail right right 99 of the companies in 1992 are not here today right but the internet is right and the same thing will happen with web 3. So I moved from a world. I made my first million dollars out of law school in nine months, moved from what I call the world of not enough, being a victim, things happening to me. Why me to this world of just enough for me?

And I thought I was like a super positive giving person because I would talk about everything happens for me. I'm blessed and I give to receive and all the things that people thought, but that world's really dangerous because it leaves you empty and unfulfilled. It actually has a false facade of a confirmation that money does buy love and happiness because in the short term, when you have a lot of money, and I was a multimillionaire running Samsung's phone division in 99. So our exit in 95 was 3.4 billion. I ran the most notable phone company, Samsung.

And what would happen was if I wasn't happy, I would use money to give that false facade. So I'd buy new things, different things, more things. I'd buy things to impress people. I'd buy things to impress people. I'd buy things to impress people I didn't like, but that will only last long enough. And so in the world of just enough, it's a scarce world. And so, uh, you know, I ran Samsung phone division, Lee Steinberg hires me as a CEO, most notable sports agency in the world. Did the movie Jerry Maguire. I meet Warren moon. We started, started sports marketing company. I'm worth over me as a ceo most notable sports agency in the world did the movie jerry mcguire i meet warren moon we started start a sports marketing company i'm worth over 100 million dollars and i have

access to what billionaires don't have access to so not only do i have a ton of money beautiful wife my dream girl three kids but i could go to anything sidelines at superbowl the grammys the emmys the oscars with the coolest people supposedly yeah in the world and that all came crashing down so i could learn to live not in the world of not enough not in the world of just enough but i lost over 100 million dollars went bankrupt not just financially morally bankrupt you know in my own fulfilling bankruptcy. And then over the last 17 years, worked in a different faith in order to make it all back and to live in the world of more than enough.

And that's why I'm here today. I want to teach the world how to live in the world of more than enough of everything for everyone. Wow. So what's more than enough? What does that meaning derive from? What's your answer to's your thank you for asking that you know because a lot of times people just assume what they think about more than enough

is what i think about it and for me most people live in a zero sum game they're constantly trading negotiating competing comparing and there's just enough for it's a zero sum if If I take from you, then you're going to have less and I'm going to have more. See, the world of more than enough says this. There's an infinite, all-knowing, unified system of thought that creates something bigger than you that knows everything. And it loves you more than your mom. So when we give, give receive or witness giving and

receiving right we're adding value so instead of a zero-sum game of giving and taking quid pro quo negotiating and trading and comparing I live in a world that there's value add to everything there's value add when I give there's value add when I receive, there's value add when I receive, and there's value add when I witness it. And so I use time as a dependent variable to determine how much of my time do I realistically in life circumstances actually spend my life. And there's a difference between life and life circumstances. Too many people blur that line. They think their life circumstances is their life. I don't. My life is a value-add life. And I know the life circumstances are going to interfere with that perception and

that faith. So I'll say, okay, I'm only going to spend minutes and moments with a need to be offended or scared or worried or angry, resentful, you know, all the little things that we do to interfere with our true potential in the value add perspective that i have and believe it or not by having that mindset that hard set that handset somehow i'm still here 17 years later with more than enough of everything for everyone and i can't believe that more people don't live in this world do you sit on on the couch, though, high, sick, broke, dreaming about what you want? No. You got to do, say, think, believe, and feel every day as well to make it happen.

So you believe in manifestation. With the context of you have to think, say, do, believe. You can't just put a vision board up and say, I want a house. I hate those parties. Vision board parties, I just hate them. Wait, there's parties? No, people have vision board parties. Are you serious wow i didn't know that i don't know what that means to them but it's like it's a first step party like a vision board to me see there's a mathematical equation to my madness and it goes like this what you focus in on from that

vision board so i see a house in del mar like John Asaroff in the secret. I see that house. That's the first step. Pay attention to what you want, but everyone ignores, especially at those parties, the second step, which is attention plus five levels of intention equals the coincidences, consequences, karma of your life. So what I say every day is, okay, this is what I want, a house in Del Mar. This is who can help me and who could I help. But I'm going to do everything I can today in the trajectory of that house or better. I'm going to say everything today in the trajectory of that house or better. I'm going to think it better. I'm going to feel it, which is inspiration.

And I'm going to believe it, which is faith. And within the context of those five things, now you got something I believe in. See, instead of people trying to get more, more happy, more healthy, more wealthy, more worthy. I say I am because I'm part of this system, right? I am happy, healthy, wealthy, and worthy, but what am I doing today to interfere with it? And I use my free will. I'm a ferocious Buddha, right? I believe in surrendering to the universe, but I don't believe in surrendering passively today. I believe in busting my balls to make it happen by clearing away what I'm doing to interfere with that abundance.

Yeah. People don't understand that concept. They have faith, but still worry. Right. And I'm like, that's counterintuitive yeah it's like well how does that work for you like how do you have faith and worry at the same time and then have a belief in god it's like you nailed it that's the biggest construct that people have it's like they say they have faith but every indication of their actions is worry. It's worry. How about just worry, right? Anxiety, guilt, resentment, offense, separation, inferiority, superiority, right?

Greed. All of these different things are indication you don't have faith. Why would you be offended if you believed in God? Yeah. Why would you ever be? Why would you be mad? Now, everyone's going to spend minutes and moments in the ego based consciousness afraid, but make it minutes and moments, not the days, weeks, months and years that most people do in hypocrisy saying, well, I believe in God, but I don't act like it. That's a crazy statement. Yeah. I believe in God, but I don't act like it. Yeah. I believe in God, but I don't act like it. So speaking of ego, when a lot of people become successful, their ego sort of kicks in. Do you think when you were on that rise to a hundred

million, that's sort of what was your downfall, your ego? Absolutely. I think it's everyone's downfall. If I can simplify it, it's like, how much time are you spending in ego? Because that'll be completely correlated to how much success and fulfillment, passion, purpose, and profitability you have. And so what I've learned to do is take clues from my life and determine not only fear. So there's two types of fear. There's only fear of the past and fear of the future. And so fear of the past is usually guilt and resentment. Fear of the future is worry and anxiety based. Then I look to see, okay, which one is it? Then I prescribe now today, what need do I have that is fueling that fear? So we went through like the need to be separate, inferior, superior, anxious, frustrated, angry, guilty, resentful, all worried, anxious. And once

I do that, now I can just stop and remind, remember, and recollect to God that, wait a second, this is where that corollary comes in, right? If I truly have faith, then why am I resentful, guilty, worried, or anxious? If I truly had faith that there's something bigger than me that knows everything and is protecting and promoting me and loves me more than my mom, because's the crux of this is another thing about religion right 99 of the religions 99 of them say there's something bigger than you that knows everything and loves you more than than your mom but yet right you have no belief in it people don't believe in two they separate themselves from every other religion as if there's some huge difference nothing at all right yeah they're always like putting them against each other yeah well with for um control separation obviously you want to kind of keep people uh at war against one another

because it's easy to control if they're separate groups people together it's yeah yeah it's hard unification is difficult to change collective consciousness is a powerful thing very powerful so why do you think you were happier when you were broke growing up with your family compared to when you had a hundred million dollar net worth values so uh there's three things that determine happiness and one is values and so when you have, my mom pressed upon me these values. And those were the values that I took stock in when my wife was going to leave me and told me I was going to end up dead if I didn't take stock in who I was and what I want to become. So my mom pressed in me gratitude. Right.

Gratitude was she would send me back upstairs if i didn't have an attitude of gratitude she said come back down in a different mindset before you sit at this breakfast table i don't want to hear why me you know and so then it was forgiveness was another one you know being able to forgive myself to be human to learn lessons accountability was a big one my mom used to just say stop living below the the line, blame, shame, and justification. When you got five siblings, it's easy to live in blame, shame, and justification. I grew up in a house with 11, so I understand. You get it, right? And I've put that on steroids.

Like accountability is not just that. To me, it's what did I do to attract this to myself? And what am I doing to participate in the perception of it? Most importantly, accountability says, what am I supposed to learn from it? And then finally, this idea of effective communication. My mom meant it when I was young that, hey, use the correct words to communicate with others. We don't have to use our fists. Effectively communicate who you are and what you want to be.

But she didn't really teach me the real effect of communication is not just how we're united together and use our words to communicate that and our actions, feelings, and beliefs. But this idea of faith, I wasn't effectively communicating with God or whatever you believe in, right? This source. And so when I went back and took those four values and realized that's what created fulfillment, passion, purpose, and even fueled my profitability, that no matter how much profit I had, if I wasn't living to my values, I was empty. And that's the way I felt so much of the time. When you're really wealthy or have a position of significance like an athlete or famous sports agent or agent or media stars whatever we are it's a glamorized stuck and that's way worse than just a stuck like it's a good because people are always

on you go man i wish i you know i wish i was like you're always right you're never wrong yeah it sucks yeah it's terrible and so i've stuck to my values and then instituted daily practices and then now that i'm 55 years old, seasoned, I actually have taken it to an execution model of how am I going to execute all my values and daily practices beyond just having them. Nice. So what are the daily practices you do? And these are the ones that, you know, I'd be more than happy. I send them to everyone. You know, I'm one of the few guys, I signed my book, I send it to you. I pay for the book and shipping. So it's not a straight hustle. Hey man, I'll give you my $5 book for free it to you i pay for the book and shipping so it's not a straight hustle hey man

i'll give you my five dollar book for free if you give me ten dollars of shipping um no i pay for everything but really what it's about is these five things number one know what you want each day in a trajectory of what you think you want in the future but also check the meaning that you're giving the defining moments of your past, the successes, failures, setbacks, mistakes, and historical references, right? Like I see people all the time that are Jewish like me, they'll use the Holocaust as an interference or a limitation of their future. I get, we got to give it, we got to give it a meaning, but why not give it a meaning of purpose and progress, right? Not punishment. Cause that's going to deter us. So I know every day what I want

in the trajectory of where I think I want to be or better and give the meaning of all the lessons I've learned in the past to help me not hurt me to know your, who This is a simple one that everyone skips. Know who you want to help and who can help you. Find someone that sits in a situation, and because of technology, they're easy to find today by Google or chat GPT. Who can help me with solar, right? And then ask them for help because the fastest way to get to where you want to be is find someone that's already there asking for directions. But when you say ask for help, most people won't help. Right. So what's the strategy there?

So most people will help if you can articulate quantitative value and utilize an open mind. See, what people do is they waste their time on a closed mind and so what are the nuances of understanding how we sell even let alone ask for help is we need to qualify people by if they have an open mind or not 100 of the time if someone has an open mind they will help you or know someone that can help you yeah all you gotta do is vet them yeah have a simple conversation i'll give you my easiest one to vet someone if they have an open mind you ready yeah are you. Are you a Cubs fan? No. No? I was going to ask you, did you get that shirt on sale?

What's crazy is that I had a brand, and the year that they won, I kind of had a feeling they were going to win, so I designed this jersey and put history on the back because that's the first time they won a World Series. That's awesome. But open mind is going to explain that, right? Not get offended. Right. Or just smile at someone they smile back but so much time on earth is spent with people that don't understand everyone has an open mind at a certain time some people have open minds the majority of the time some people have closed

minds the majority of the time but i will tell you from understanding statistics that if you can find someone with a closed mind majority of the time but you catch them you from understanding statistics that if you can find someone with a closed mind majority of the time but you catch them when they have an open mind it's a jackpot you want to know why because i have an open mind the majority of the time which means i have tons of options opportunities i've so if you ask me for help the only thing that's going to turn me from helping you is prioritization of all the people that i can help but where someone has a closed mind and you catch it when they have an open mind then they don't have very many options exactly the only one so this idea of knowing who is really

important yeah the third one is to know how and that requires a lens of productivity so when i say how it's like how much value can I bring to my time today in the trajectory of where I think I want to be, giving meaning to the past? How accessible am I to others? And how am I accessing what I want receiving? And the lens of gratitude that says, can I find the light, the love, and the lessons? In other words, I'm dealing with open minds. So I use the third step, knowing our how, to make time a dependent variable of all my

activities in the day. So activities I have planned, activities I don't have planned. I have non-negotiables of my health, my family, and a non-negotiable of studying time to be efficient, effective, and statistically successful. So I teach people how to be a student of the calendar, paying attention, giving intention to what I'm doing today in the trajectory, what I'm saying, thinking, feeling, believing

in the trajectory of what I think I want. Now, the first three steps allow you to have the fourth daily practice. If you know what you want, who you can help and who can help you, and how to use your time, you're gonna know how to prioritize what you have planned and what's unexpected. See prioritization is the antidote to the two biggest problems in progress.

One is procrastination. You're not going to progress if you procrastinate and two, feeling overwhelmed. You're not going to progress if you feel overwhelmed. If you know what's important to you by knowing your what, your who, and your how, when you know what's important to you, it's so easy to prioritize the now. If you know what you want to do now and next, 100% of the things you do now get done. It's the antidote to that procrastination and feeling overwhelmed. So I teach people how to prioritize their time in order to effectuate a future that they want or better. And then the last step, number five, is not searching for your why, not knowing your why,

it's applying your why. So I teach in the step five, okay, I've now know my now and my next, I'm going to apply my why. So I'm not searching for more happiness, more health, more wealth, more worthiness. I am happy, healthy, wealthy, and worthy. This is what's important to me. I'm doing it. And now I'm inspired by it because I'm figuring out what I'm doing to interfere with it, M-E-A-R, interfere with it by identifying the fear, prescribing the ego, and reconnecting to God or source to stay in spirit, not interference. So that's more like a mathematical way of starting your day or looking at it from a calendar standpoint, because you kind of break it down. Very pragmatic.

Yeah, yeah. It's like, it's unique. I mean, most people probably won't understand that. Right. They won't at all. They would have to listen to this hundreds of times right which is why i still study stuff every day i do too right because there's different different lenses as you raise your elevate your awareness right you're going to see things that

are there that weren't there before but they were always there and so when we go to five steps so what would i start with because here's the lessons that I've learned from what you stated, which is really, really, really important. Number one, zero to one takes as much time as one to 100. It takes as much energy as one to 100. So most people quit because zero to one doesn't feel good. Right. But so I try to teach people, OK, that's a whole bunch to swallow on a podcast let's try to just start with zero to one and let's lower the bar and do that the other thing that's

really important so let's just take gratitude nobody on earth thinks gratitude isn't impactful i think it is everyone i've ever met the smartest i mean i've been around like last weekend at vcon uh deepak chopra we're talking about gratitude i've been. I mean, I've been around like last weekend at VCon, Deepak Chopra. We're talking about gratitude. I've been with Oprah, gratitude. I've been with Jack Campbell and wrote a book with him, gratitude. But here's the interesting thing. There's nothing simpler to do than to say, thank you. It's free. It takes 0.1 seconds, but it has all this impact on your life. Why is it that we can't get people to say, thank you? I'll tell you the simple things to do are unfortunately simple not to do so what i teach people to do even in the

context of the sense of entitlement though and for could be for certain people and then for sure you said like you're able to take accountability but some people lack accountability so we live in a time now there's more narcissists now well people who exude narcissistic traits than ever just because they feel like they don't have to apologize they don't have to acknowledge which is gratitude and they don't and they can they're they're i feel like they're obligated to whatever it is which is entitlement. Absolutely. It's one of the predominant factors of why people aren't gracious, right? Because they feel entitled and they're still searching for more. And yet, if we can raise our awareness to the really easy things to do, to make sure we do those first, to have non-negotiables, we'll have the most impact because there's three characteristics

of behavior. There's three characteristics of energy and there's three characteristics of behavior there's three characteristics of energy and there's three characteristics of money which is an energy and they're all the same behaviors aggregate on themselves so that they track more of the same so if you have a good behavior like gratitude you're going to attract more gracious people. They also have an exponential outcome. So instead of if I'm a one in gratitude, I'm not going to be one more the next day. I go from one to two to four to eight to 16. That's how the hockey stick happens in life. And then the best thing about the energy behavior and, of course, money is it also accelerates which is great alignment with

human nature because we like instant gratification so if we're doing what we're supposed to do but we're not seeing the outcome we're more likely to quit and here's the interesting thing if we're doing what we're not supposed to do like smoking drinking doing things that hurt us eating bad foods it has the same thing it's aggregating compounding and accelerating so you sit there and go i've been smoking for 19 years and then you're surprised you get cancer in the 20th year right now you're asking how many people do you see like that right a lot of them compound effect yeah it's like then they try to heal themselves after that much time but it's like you got to heal 19 years of damage.

Right. Right. And instead of gaining from 19 years of good behavior. Right. Right. And wondering why I don't get sick when COVID happens. Yeah. Live an extra 10 years or extra 15 years.

Of quality life. Do you believe in that quote, 1% better every day? Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. I study Einstein for that reading. The rule of 72 shows you the outcome of 1% better every day. That allows you every 72 of the same segment. So as much time as it takes you to get 1% better, if it takes you a day, it would be 72 days till you double where you're at because of the compounding nature and exponentiality. So it's called the rule of 72, which is the outcome of 1% better. And so I also use time as that dependent variable. So if I'm 1% better in a week

and I can get to 1% better in six days than five days, now I'm effectuating an outcome even faster, but still getting the exponential result. So how do you make it a priority to improve 1% better every day? Like what did you do this morning that made you 1% better this morning than yesterday morning? First, you have to have your non-negotiables. So when I use time, so I spend a minimum of an hour a day on my health because that's the most important 1% better.

That's a fact fact that is, and look, I took me years to figure this out because I always thought family first. And I asked my wife when I rebounded from losing everything over a hundred million dollars, made it back. I went to my wife. Who's my savior, my best friend, the smartest thing I've ever done. I said, Hey, I would not be alive, but for you telling me the truth, what can I do for you? And she said, I'll buy you anything. I'll do anything for you. She said, you need to take care of yourself. I'm like, she said, cause if you don't take care of yourself, you're not going to take care of all those people that you're promising to take care of. And you want to take care of. So I made that with time, minimum of an hour a day on my health. Then came my family.

So I spend a minimum of 30 minutes a day with my wife, minimum of 30 minutes a day, no matter where I am in the world, with my son, minimum of two minutes a day with my three daughters, who are 24, 21, and 19. Two minutes? Yeah, minimum. People get pissed at me on the internet. They're like, dude, you only spent two minutes.

I was like, first of all. Wait, two minutes? of all exactly 30 minutes with my son two minutes with my daughter no but seriously i asked for five minimum they only said no two's enough oh it's them saying yeah but it's minimum of two because it has to be every day to get the one percent better okay then how about this one? This is the most powerful. You guys are young enough. Your moms are going to call me and thank me. And I'm not joking. They probably will. Here's the best piece of advice I give people.

I spend a minimum of a minute a day, every day, telling my mom four things. I'm healthy. I'm happy. I love her. And I appreciate her. That has healed my relationship so much with my mom. She doesn't make me drive an hour to go fix a screen door anymore to prove those four things. I reinforce it every day.

Does that mean I didn't spend eight hours with her this weekend because it was my daughter's graduation? Of course I did. But I don't miss a day because I don't want to lose out on that exponentiality of 1, 2, 4, 8, 16. So time and non-negotiables then this is a weird one for most people to understand the next non-negotiable is me studying my time being very intentional about the activity i plan don't have planned the activity i get paid for activity i don't get paid for and my sleep. I've had a sleep coach for 17 years. Wow. I don't understand how people can go to bed at night and wake up tired in the morning.

That's like, if we go out to eat after this and we like pick out an In-N-Out burger, and then you guys look at me and go, dude, I'm starving. We would question what just happened, but nobody questions on earth that they go to bed and wake up tired. So I got a coach to say a third of my life, I'm going to be productive and accessible and recover correctly so that when I wake up, I'm not living like a tube food in food out every day. I'm plateauing and growing 1% through using time and non-negotiables and then executing on the rest of the time by studying time. What are your non-negotiables when it comes to people? Like what's the type of people you don't deal with?

Well, I believe your frequency is your neighborhood. And this is the biggest mistake that I made beyond asking for help when I lost everything is that I have a spectrum of evaluation because you only have so much time. Of course, I'm spending time with the people most relative to me, like my wife, my kids, and my mom. But I also spend a minimum of 10 minutes a day reaching out to people I haven't seen in a long time. And then I also have a spectrum of feeding. And this is the one where I was bled by so many people. And so I evaluate a relationship by, okay, the more you feed me, the more time I'll spend feeding you. And I let people who bleed me fall away or even fire them from my life. My wife taught me this when I was a rat.

She said, fire them from my life. And this is how I fired them. I had three friends from childhood that took me to strip clubs i would do drugs with them drink with them party till five in the morning be around it all the time you did drugs yeah wow y'all i can't even tell i stopped doing it thanks to my wife so yeah so i would party all the time in my 30s lost and empty so my wife said you know look you got to take stock in who you are or you're gonna end up dead so when i was wanting to to you know move forward in my marriage and my life my wife said you're gonna have to fire these three people from your life wow and so i went out and i your childhood friends i said hey brother this has nothing to do with you this has to do with me i don't like who i am when i'm with you and i can't be around you because i care so much

about you that i want to please you and i don't want to be around what it takes to please you because you're bleeding me right you're like bleeding whole life. So I have re-transformed my entire collective consciousness to people with the highest vibration. Instead of surrounding myself with the wrong people and the wrong ideas. Low-library people. Right, man. I'm around Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield, John Assaraf. Like world thought leaders. Sadhguru is a mentor of mine.

If you guys know him. Yeah, fire. Fire, man. We're going to tour Australia together. That's powerful. And speak. But like my life changed because I surrounded myself. My neighborhood's completely different.

Here's the analogy that you guys will get. My old life was like sitting at the projects where I was born in Akron, Ohio on a lawn chair drinking a cold 45, doing a bump and looking at my best friend going, dude, and I had great ideas, right? Man, you know, I Uber, I got a gig economy idea. We'll have shared transportation. And the guy's like, dude, that's a great idea. And that's when you're surrounded with the wrong people. That's what happens to inspiration. Whereas now I live in the luxury gated community where I'm sitting at inspired every day, right? And looking at my friend next to me going, dude, I want to start this company.

Oh, can I give 10 million? You know how much easier it is to start a company? Yeah, because my frequency is my neighborhood and I'm at the elevated neighborhood with people who feed me and I can do things. We're limited by the people and ideas that we surround ourselves with. Wow. People don't understand. I suffocated by negative energy. Yeah.

It's such a powerful message. David, it's been an honor having you. I've learned a lot. I'm sure Wayne has as well. Both of you guys are awesome. Yeah. That was great. Any closing comments for the crowd?

Real simple ones. Well, one, please reach out to me. I'm happy for your community to give those books, guides, exercises. So put my email in the notes, david at dmelzer.com. But these are the two valuable lessons I tell everyone. Number one, be more interested than interesting. Too many people are trying to be interesting. They're standing in front of cars they don't own.

They're taking snapshots that are even better than the real moments of the real life. Stop trying to be interesting. Be interested. Learn from everything. And then most importantly, be kind to your future self. Do good deeds. One of those simple things that'll change your life.

I promise you, if you're feeling anxious, frustrated, angry, if you're feeling lonely, just go do something for someone else. It will heal immediately. I appreciate the opportunity to be here, both of you. And I look forward to having you on more of my shows. For sure. Just like that.

Thank you guys for watching. Make sure you follow me on Instagram at The Creator. Digital Social Hour. Thanks for tuning in, guys. See you next time. Peace.