Digital Social Hour - My Ayahuasca Experience Exposed: Life-Changing or Scam? | Brittany Schmitt DSH #605

Episode Date: August 5, 2024

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When you do an ayahuasca ceremony, it's three doses, three servings a night, two nights in a row. That was serving one night one. After I'm like crying, it's like, look at the mirror, and I'm like, it's like, ding, ding, ding, do you want more? And I'm like, what the fuck? Something different that revealed, you know, the way that I deal with relationships improperly. And finally it did nothing, and I went to the shaman. I was like, it's doing nothing. And she's like, well, the medicine knows you're done.

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yeah are you on tour right now no i'm off tour until fall taking some time off yeah needed a break yeah it was it was horrible it kicked my ass damn how long were you touring before i did a 35 city tour holy and yeah and And it was just exhausting. I did one-nighters, and there's nothing more stressful than, like, landing in a city and then, like, looking at my phone and getting a notification that it's time to go, like, check in for my next flight to leave. So it was just, yeah, it was a lot. So I'm just going to work on my material in LA for a while.

I feel that. Yeah. Yeah. Next tour, space it out, maybe do less cities. Yeah. Well, no, I won't space it out. I'll just do it smarter last time my agent had me like whiplashing across the country i was like philly to san diego back to toronto like it was just yeah it was a nightmare yeah i guess scheduling

it all around the same area and kind of go yeah yeah instead of coast to coast smarter yeah did you have a favorite city out of those toronto is actually my favorite really toronto was fucking lit toronto was great and then san francisco actually really surprised me san francob san francisco was incredible and i was really worried about san franc because they're so woke and i'm so dark and i just like don't really prescribe to the woke culture so yeah yeah i was worried but they were fucking rad wow that's surprising yeah you never know with some of these certain cities and communities how it's going to go right yeah because sometimes it's i mean out here it's pretty left so yeah it's yeah it's yeah it's pretty far left but that's why it's good to travel and see like what america

really wants to hear you know not just la not that's just the coastal elites that's very a small portion yeah how long you've been doing this did you start in wisconsin no i started uh i started here in 2012 but I was um I worked in advertising for almost 10 years so I was doing that full-time I wasn't doing comedy in a full-time capacity until 2019 I was like I'm gonna make the jump and it was 2019 like literally December 2019 I was like I'm going full-time into comedy I'm quitting advertising wow then I did that and then uh 2020 had other plans for me so you had to take two years off right off the rip yeah yeah well i i didn't take it off i mean la still had like secret

shows going on and stuff but yeah it wasn't we weren't touring yeah i would see that on the news oh this party got busted yeah that got busted they'd shut off the power i'm like yeah bro i mean the reality is you can't keep keep people inside like that it's like not good for anyone so if we have to sneak out and do it, we will. Yeah. You know. What a transition from marketing and comedy. So what were the first few shows like?

Just a small crowd? First few shows of my tour? Yeah. Yeah, it really depends where I went. Like I didn't ever have like a small, small crowd. Tulsa, Oklahoma was the smallest because I was like competing with the fair. And apparently the fair is like a big deal in Tulsa. Really? so I didn't really get a lot of people out in Tulsa but other than that it was like pretty good crowds everywhere yeah what's the biggest um I think

like 300 something was most I sold on my own yeah and is it a lot of crowd work or is it scripted no no I don't do I don't do crowd work okay I love I love, I give kudos to people who can. And I think, like, crowds, like, expect it now. Yeah, because of Schultz and... Matt Rife. Rife, yeah. I feel like Matt Rife's, like, the T-Pain of comedy. Like, he introduced auto-tune and now everyone does it.

You know what I mean? Like, I feel like, you know, he changed the industry and that, like, crowd work is expected. And, like, the crowds will start interacting with you even if you're not interacting with them. They want to be a part you're not interacting with them they want to be a part of it like people just want to be a part of something so they kind of like yell and interject yeah do that whole thing yeah did you see rife blowing up because you probably knew him before yeah i've known rife for a long time yeah did you see that coming um no but i'm not surprised that it did because he is a master at crowd work

he's so he's so good at it and he's just getting better i think he's like the best out there at crowd work schultz is really good too um but he's also just so charming and handsome and like you know the ladies love him it's very much like the boy but boy band phenomenon that we had with like backstreet boys and stuff like women will buy tickets to shit like women like guys will come out like the bros will come out but like the ladies will come out for stuff and Matt got like all women in a fucking chokehold like I remember I was in Spokane Washington doing I was flying to a different show and I saw like a 70 something year old woman on her phone just

like hating her husband like the worst body language towards her husband just like looking at matt rife and like smiling i like sent it to him the video to him i was like you've got bitches of all ages in a fucking chokehold yeah yeah yeah those women man i mean look at taylor swift if you can capture that i'm saying like the ladies are the best they will buy the merch they will buy the tickets they are like they will fucking ride at dawn absolutely what's your audience demo like i'm a lot of men oh yeah yeah wow a majority of my audience is men i have some women i want i want more like i love i love women and but i think just the nature of what i talk about i talk about really dark stuff

and like men tend to gravitate towards that more you know like suicide rape abortion damn that's not like you know uh girls like fun night out so yeah it's too relatable for them right yeah yeah exactly I saw Nikki Glazer she was pretty dark oh my god I was just with her last night I love Nikki we're hanging out tonight too yeah she had some dark humor for sure she's great i mean yeah dark it's like you know dark humor is like if you've lived life and you've been through anything hard you have to like make it funny yeah or you can just be a victim to it but that's boring absolutely yeah and one of the things you did to deal with your uh your dark past was taking ayahuasca right oh my god yeah i've done ayahuasca twice what was

that like the first time so ayahuasca changed my life it was very have you ever done it no i've done shrooms and acid have you done like a hero dose of shrooms yes i've done like an eighth of shrooms okay um so ayahuasca isn't i don't even think it's even close to that because you know the it's a medicinal practice. So you go in with intentions. Like I wrote down the intention to heal my mother wound. I had a really tumultuous relationship with my mom when I was growing up. She was borderline personality disorder,

very unwell my whole life, and then ended up killing herself three days before my wedding. So it was like, yeah, there was just like a lot of, and when she killed herself, we were, we had been estranged for six years. So there was just a lot of unanswered questions. And I just wanted to kind of heal that part of me that felt like unloved by her. And when I went in, you know, the shaman says, listen to your intuition on how much you should take the

dosing they do from one to 10. So 10 is the max, obviously. And when you're new, I think it's, um, or it's your first time it's everyone's instinct to go a little lower and take it easy because it is, you know, it can be a really scary and intense experience. But my instinct told me to take an eight on the first serving. And I did, and it it was I've never actually like talked about this publicly but it was one of the most extreme experiences of my life like I dropped into my mom's body when she was young when she was a child and like around 10 or 11 and I experienced um like her life in quantum time so it was like I experienced her as a child being sexually abused um and then I like fast it fast forwarded to her being pregnant with me because I didn't think she loved me and it was like you know the pregnancy is like the

profound amount of love that it takes a mother to bring a child to term it was like, you know, the pregnancy is like the profound amount of love that it takes a mother to bring a child to term. It was like showing just like how much she loved me. And then it sort of fast forwarded to her mental illness and her losing all of her friends and her getting uninvited to my sister's wedding. And, you know, her and I not talking and just all of the like chaos and instability that was in her life and in her heart and in her head. And then it fast forwarded to the day that she died and I woke up because I'm her, like I'm experiencing this as her in the medicine. It was the craziest thing ever. And I just knew it was the day I was going to kill myself. Like I woke up, I got dressed, I put on like black clothes, I took pills, I drank booze, I went in the basement.

And there was like a really emotional period where like, you know, I'm crying as her. Like I was feeling all the pain that she felt. And then when she slash I took the gun to her head and pulled the trigger, it was done. Like the pain was gone. Like it was just like she's at peace now. You know, like she's good like all the pain that she was holding was of this world and um i was just crying i was like i just i miss my mom i want to see her i want to tell her i love her and the medicine was like if you ever want to see

her look in the mirror like you are her and you you get to live the life that she always wanted to. And that was when you do an ayahuasca ceremony, it's three doses, three servings a night, two nights in a row. That was serving one night one. Oh, my God. And after I'm crying, it's like, look in the mirror. It's like, ding, ding, ding. Do you want more? And I'm like, what the fuck?

I'm like, how could I ever?, ding, ding. Do you want more? And I'm like, what the fuck? I'm like, how could I ever? Like, what else does the medicine have to show me? And then each dose was something different, like something different that revealed, you know, the way that I deal with relationships improperly, you know, just like everything. Every time I took it, it showed me something. And then finally it did nothing. And I went to the shaman. I was like, it's doing something. And then finally it did nothing. And I went to the shaman. I was like, it's doing nothing.

And she's like, well, the medicine knows you're done. Wow. You know, like you came for what you got. And I did because, you know, if I didn't know that my mom had those kind of challenges in her childhood, because she never talked about them when she was alive, I could never have understood the way she was the way she was. You know, it kind of made everything that she did when I was growing up make sense. That's so deep because you got to see her perspective, which you never understood.

And feel it. Like I feel like I lived her life because I literally did. Like every impactful thing, it's like I felt all of it as her. And I just, I remember we did like a sharing circle the next morning and people were like, you know, I saw my dog is in heaven and like, everything's great. And I was like, I was like, I don't think I could share this. Like, I don't think I can sit here and share that. I like dropped into my mom's life. I got like sexually assaulted. Like it was just a lot. So I just was like, you know what? I'm not gonna,

you know, share it. I've never shared that publicly either. So hopefully her family doesn't have access to this podcast because they're gonna find some shit out. They might see that. Yeah.

It's crazy how similar our parents' journeys are. Oh, really? My dad was sexually assaulted. Okay. By? Do you know who? By some guy in a school.

Okay. And then, so he had Asperger's and he had what's it called bipolar yeah so my whole childhood i'm like getting yelled at and stuff and i don't know why i think i'm doing the right thing and then he actually committed suicide too a few years ago and i was like wow what like was i not there for? I felt that way because we didn't talk that much. Isn't it interesting when someone commits suicide, how everyone around them is like, could I have stopped this? Or in some way thinks it's their fault.

Like, I do hope that you release that because that's not, I think, you know, I'm very spiritual and I think God's plan is perfect. And even if something ends kind of tragically, it's like that was their soul's journey this time. You know, it's not in your control. You know, I think you just kind of have to release any like shame or guilt or like was I not enough or, you know, because it's like then that just taints the rest of your time on this earth. I agree. Yeah, I felt that way. And I actually hired a spiritual coach.

I don't know if people watching this might think we're crazy, but I was able to connect with him. Literally don't care. Yeah. Yeah, I'm like, okay. Yeah, but no, I was able to connect with him, get some answers. But I do want to do ayahuasca. Yeah. It's on my list.

Yeah, I also worked with Thomas Dale who, you know, he does, he's a clairvoyant and he connects with the other side. And he told me some of the stuff that was exactly the same of what I experienced during the ayahuasca trip. But he told me before, like I met with him before and he told me all this stuff. Wow. Had all these crazy details about her childhood and things that like he would have never known even if he dug to the fucking depths of the earth to find out. Yeah. So, yeah, I mean, I think, you know, if you've ever lost a loved one and you're open to that kind of thing,

there are people who can help you connect with them again. Absolutely. During that process, is that when you started going sober? So I got sober right after my mom's funeral. The day after her funeral, it was December 10th and December 11th was when I had my last drink because I knew that her, you know, I kind of drank at her my whole life. I was so mad

at her and I was like very like defiant and she always called me an alcoholic. So I was like, I'm going to show you an alcoholic, you know, but I also wanted to have like all the things that she never had, like a loving partner and a great job and all of these things and still drink, be like, it's not the drinking. That's the problem. It's you. That's the problem. You know what I mean? Wow. So I was drinking at her in a sense. And then like I wanted to stop. I felt that it wasn't serving me anymore. But I was like just so defiant. And I so wanted to like prove something to somebody who like wasn't even in my life in any capacity even before she killed herself.

You know? So when she died, I was just very relieved. Because and people don't like hearing that you're relieved when somebody commits suicide but like when somebody is on earth struggling every single day every single day is a struggle they're not willing to get help and it's not going to get better then it is a relief to know that they don't have to to endure this life anymore you know but then I was also relieved for myself because I'm like, I can stop this elaborate performance art piece to try and prove to her that

alcohol's not the problem because it is fucking killing me. And so, yeah, I got sober the day after her funeral. Were your parents together during the split from? No, no, no. They got separated? They were divorced when I was very young. They had a very nasty divorce and it lasted like seven years.

Jeez. Yeah, it was a lot. So you grew up with your mom mainly? Are you interested in coming on the Digital Social Hour podcast as a guest? Well, click the application link below in the description of this video. We are always looking for cool stories, cool entrepreneurs to talk to about business and life. Click the application link below and here's the episode, guys. No, it was always 50-50, but they were always fighting. Wow.

And then my dad ended up just giving up. He's like, you can take the land and the houses and everything. Just like, I just want to see the kids. Our stories are so similar. I think we're meant to be connected. Oh, I love that. Because my parents, same thing. The nasty divorce during my childhood lasted years.

My dad got so scared. I didn't see him for like a year. So scared of what? Just the divorce just ruined him. He spent so much money on legal. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Fighting it. And then he just gave up and left for like a year yeah yeah that's i mean that's a crazy thing is like when my family started dividing itself um we had land and you know property and homes and we were like well off like we were one of the you know more successful families in like my school for sure and then through seven years of legal battles it's like all the money goes away and i'm like do you guys want to start over my mom was in real estate and

then like you know the bubble burst in 2008 and that's like when her life really i don't think she ever really recovered from that because her identity was so attached to being wealthy and to having money and to being successful. And so once that happened and she couldn't figure it out, she just started suing people and it was always just fucking chaos. But yeah, it's really sad to watch people like fight and waste all your money and everything you work so hard for just because you don't like each other. Like just fucking grow up, move out, move on. It's just bad for the kids to witness all that. that are you an only child i am you are you have a sister i have a sister i have an older sister yeah but that's so that's the thing it wasn't great for us either because as siblings we took sides you know she took my mom's side i took my dad's side

and like then as siblings we weren't even united wow so you know when my mom passed my sister and i have gotten a lot closer but our our childhood was very divided dang yeah that's interesting not to be close with your own sibling because of sides yeah yeah i think my sister was also very afraid she was very afraid of my mom my mom was very scary she was very stalin-esque she wrote like rolled with an iron fist So my sister just wanted to stay in line. And I was the opposite. I was defiant. I wanted to break the rules. I wanted to go out. I wanted to have friends. I wanted to have boyfriends. I wanted to get drunk. You know what I mean? I wanted to do all that stuff. And my sister was like, just fucking do this. It will

be fine. Did you know she had the personality disorder when you were growing up or did that come out later? Well, when you're a kid you don't know but you start to figure it out you know like i would be like my mom is not like the other moms you know there's something off like you know even though i wasn't allowed to like go to kids houses or have sleepovers or do any of that stuff i had enough exposure to other parents at school where i was like there's some there's something fucking off with my mom you know and she was just so intense in a way that like i was talking to my stepdad about this the other day i call him my stepdad he was he dated my mom for like 20 years so they never got married but it's just easier to call him that i was talking to him about it the

other day there was this girl that bullied me when i was growing up and horribly like very badly and but she was a she was a kid you know like kids when kids are bullying other kids in school it's because something horrible is going on at their house it's not like I don't think kids just come here and they're like let's fucking be evil you know I think they pass I think all humans pass down bad behavior um but she was bullying me and my mom I remember said like they were she was bullying me. And my mom, I remember, said, like, they were, she was, my mom confronted her. She's 10 or 11 years old, and Sam, this girl, like, pointed at her. And my mom was like, if you point your finger at me again,

she's like, I'm going to snap it off and stick it up your ass. And I was like, I don't think you can say that to a kid. I don't think you can say that to a kid at all. I was just like, you're very intense. But yeah. And then like the further it went along, you know, the older you get, the more you realize something is not right. And then I didn't really realize it was undiagnosed borderline personality disorder until I got into therapy when I got moved to LA and my therapist was like, it sounds like this. And then I researched it and I was like, that's it. Yeah. My dad didn't get diagnosed till 60 for asperger's damn so my whole life i was like

i knew he was different right i would see it he wouldn't talk to anyone and yeah just looking back it makes a lot of sense now yeah yeah it's nice it would be nice if you had the information earlier you know so you know how to deal with it that's part of the reason why i minored in psychology at marquette i was trying to figure it out i was like what does my mom have wow that's why you did it yeah i was literally just trying to figure it out. I was like, what does my mom have? Wow. That's why you did it? Yeah. I was literally just trying to figure it out. And I don't know if I was drunk through the borderline class or if I could skip the exam on that one, but I never figured it out on my own. Dang. Well, that's probably a useful thing to have for comedy though, being able to read the room and everything. I know Schultz majored in it too.

Did he? Yeah. That makes sense. Yeah. So your way of coping with all this trauma, part of it was comedy, right? Just telling jokes, dark humor. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, like, I don't know, life is fucking tough. And like, I know my life actually wasn't even that tough. Like, you know what I mean? Like we all have our own story and our own traumas and everything that we've been through. But like, there are people who have had much more brutal experiences than me. But I do think that like, anytime you go through something

hard, for me, at least I'm like, I want anyone who's going through what I'm going through to feel like they can laugh at it to feel like it's okay. And I've had so many people come up to me, like after my shows being like, you know, my dad killed himself. And I've never been able to laugh at it until tonight. You know, like, just like, I've never thought it was, I never found it funny until tonight. You know, and then on the flip side of that, you'll have people too who are like, you can't talk about this. This is so insensitive.

And I'm like, let me guess. Nobody in your life has ever committed suicide. You know what I mean? Like you can always tell who has no experience with it because they are the loudest people telling you, you can't say it. And then the people who have experienced, you know, having emotionally abusive parents and mentally ill parents, suicide in their family, they're all like, thank God, because it is so painful. It's like, what else are we going to do with this pain? And you don't want to just sit in it and wallow it

and then be a victim to it. You know know some people live in that pain for their whole lives yeah i saw it with my dad how did you deal with it when your dad yeah it's kind of messed up because like most people will grieve for a long amount of time uh but i knew it was important to understand what happened learn from it and move on quick yeah and how old are you i'm 27 okay you're young yeah so obviously i was crying like for the first few days but then like i was like let me find some answers so how long ago did it happen it was uh two years ago oh that's very new yeah so i was like i have a spiritual coach who's able to connect and i i wanted her to connect me with him and i found out why he did

it he was just going crazy yeah well yeah i mean it, you know, I've talked to a few clairvoyants. And the one I talked to most recently was like, you know, my mom. Because the clairvoyant literally said she's like, she knows the timing was horrible. Because she did it three days before my wedding. I was like, this bitch. Can we not ruin everything? You know? But she's like, she knows the timing was horrible.

But she couldn't hang out for another minute. Wow. You know, it's not personal. Yeah, I thought it was because of me not giving him attention. So I was just eating myself for like days. And then I was like, let me find out why. But he was generally going, he was in a psych ward and they put him on all sorts of meds. And he was just going crazy.

Yeah. And he couldn't take it. Oh my God. I, so when I, this is like parallel kind of not related story. I was flying to Paris from Toronto when I was on tour and I had a friend in Toronto and I was like, I need a sleeping pill for the flight because I need to like knock myself out. So I wake up and I'm like on schedule in Paris and he's like, I got you.

And he gave me a pill and I didn't look it up because it was like, this is my friend. He gave me, he gave me a fucking sleeping pill. When I tell you I lost my fucking mind on the plane like i was like you know when you see like crack heads going like this and like people like trying to get out of their skin i was doing that for like three hours of the flight and i was like what the fuck did i just take like what happened and then you get in that fear of like i'm never gonna feel normal i'm never gonna feel better again i'm never gonna feel and then again. I'm never going to feel. And then when I landed, I Googled it. And the pill he gave me was like a really strong antipsychotic. And if you have schizophrenia, it puts you to sleep.

But if you don't, it just makes you fucking nuts. So I was like, well, this is a fun way to learn. My friend is like schizophrenic and he just thought it was a sleeping pill. Yeah. So but but the point is, like I in that moment, I felt like I was losing my mind. And I empathize with your dad. Like, I feel like if you feel like you're losing your mind, you don't want to be here. I just think it's ironic how in the psych ward, they're giving you more drugs.

Right. To make you feel crazier. Yeah. And it's like, how is that helping? Right. You're paying so much money for it. know but it's just the thing i you know i have a very conflicted viewpoint on prescription meds like i some people need them absolutely and they work but a lot of them i think just like push down the problems and then we like never deal with it.

And then it just like, I don't know, it's kind of, I think, anger, resentment, anything you're dealing with, depression. It's kind of like a beach ball, like when you it's like pushing it underwater. You know, it's like you can push it down and down and down and down and down, but eventually it's going to like fly back up. I agree. So I just I yeah yeah i feel very conflicted about all of that stuff 100 agree i'm totally clean off them now but i was for tribes annex in college for anxiety yeah and at first it was great you know if i felt anxious i would take it but then what happens is you get so reliant on it so it got to the point where i was taking it once

a day then twice a day i literally blacked out for two months straight ended up trying to quit it cold turkey had a seizure yeah almost died got in an ambulance to the ER and I'm like 22. Yeah. So I just don't like to rely on them. Yeah. Yeah. No, Xanax is a motherfucker. Xanax is a motherfucker because your tolerance builds really quickly. And, um, yeah, that happens if you get, try and get off of it it cold turkey, you just fucking – you can die. It might have happened to my dad too. One of my soccer games as a kid, he had a seizure on the sidelines. Yeah.

Yeah, I've seen some weird stuff, man, as a kid. Yeah, I don't know. I just think – I'm very mistrustful of big pharma. Like I know that we're all anxious and we all have depression and it's like higher than it's ever been in society but i promise you it's these fucking phones you think it's the phones i think it's the fucking phones it is a yeah it's correlated right because it's gone up as they've yeah i just feel like people need to like get outside and take a walk and yeah because it wasn't this bad with our

parents yeah like they were in nature and i don't know yeah they're just or maybe they just couldn't maybe it was you know the boomer generation just like couldn't talk about being sad so they didn't now they're all alcoholics i don't know it is nuts yeah i don't know if it was the irish side of my family but yeah all of them were drinking daily yeah just surrounded by that yeah same i don't drink at all anymore it's just not worth it for when did you quit i mean i'll have like a drink but i don't get i haven't been drunk in like five, six years since college. Okay. Wow.

You too though. So no, I know, but that was, it wasn't since college. I was like 28. Okay. It took you a little longer. I was going hard in the paint. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Damn. Is that how you met your husband? Yeah. Drinking? Well, no, I mean, we worked in advertising together. We worked at Zambezi, which is Kobe Bryant's ad agency in Venice. Yeah venice yeah i didn't know he had one yeah he had an ad agency in venice it was run by this guy brian ford who i'm fucking still great friends with i met like a ton of really

significant adult friends when i was there it was my first job out of college and um yeah i was a creative recruiter there and my ex-husband is an art director and I met him there and he was married to someone else. And I remember. Yeah. No, no, I didn't do it. Don't don't you go there. I didn't do it. I remember when he got hired, I was like, this is the kind of man I would like want to marry. Like he was just like funny and cool and smart and had a good job. And but he was married and he was like madly in love with his wife. And then we were just friends and then

his ex-wife had an affair and got pregnant with the other guy's baby it was like gnarly and so i was like i'm here if you need me and then we like started dating immediately so okay because i have the belief that guys and girls can't really be friends that's um interesting just from a guy's point of view yeah no i would love to hear from a guy's point of view because as a girl i'm like i have tons of guy friends yes so basically and i've tested this on the podcast with other girls you could call any of those guy friends you have right now and ask them if they want to hook up and they'll say yes you think so well now that you're married it'd be harder because i'm not married i'm divorced oh yeah well then maybe yeah because sometimes they know you have a boyfriend but um yeah i've tested on the show with plenty of girls really

and they're all like yes yep never gotten a single no come over tonight let's have some drinks let's hook up no you don't think so i don't believe it we'll have to test it i don't know i'm not gonna do it on the show because the people that i'm friends with are like i wouldn't want to ruin figures yeah i don't want to like fuck their lives up i don't know so you don't see them sexually at all? Like be honest. I think about it with every single one. And then I think about all the reasons why I would rather be friends with them. You know, why I would rather be.

But then I'm like also aware of the fact that if they get into a relationship with a girl who's like, you can't have this fucking girl as your friend. I would probably be chopped liver. That probably happens to you sometimes too yeah oh yeah i mean i've like lost career opportunities because like wives or girlfriends don't want me opening for people right i mean you think i'm just like popping my pussy on the road like this is a fucking job i'm not hooking up with everyone yeah yeah well when there's business involved i think it is a little different i'm i'm purely speaking about just a guy friend and a girlfriend with no business involved okay i don't think i have any of the oh

no yeah no yeah i do have a lot of your guy friends are mainly business yeah i would say i've met them all through like work yeah that makes sense to me yeah because comedy is just so male driven it's like there's so many dudes right yeah yeah so standing out must be tough because a female right standing out yeah just because it's all dudes and you know it's really a boys club like they all like will have each other on their podcasts and like they don't you know what i mean like yeah like they it's all just like a rotating like you know everyone does each other's podcasts and they don't you know they'll bring girls on if girls are like you know if nikki glazer is like promoting a special or something like. They'll bring girls on if Nikki Glaser is promoting a special or something like that.

They'll bring girls on, but they don't oftentimes lift up women. Wow. I didn't know that about the comedy space. Yeah. Okay. But that makes sense because I see all those podcasts. I know exactly who you're thinking of. Yeah.

It's always all guys. Yeah. And it's the same guys. They'll have the same guy on three times before they'll have me on once. Yeah. Damn. So you got to fight extra hard to make it in that space. Yeah.

And then I'm also kind of like, I don't do I even want to fight anymore. Like, I'm just kind of like tired. I'm like, I don't know. I don't I don't really care. I used to like when I was younger, I was so ambitious. I was like, I want to be best at the comedy store. And I wanted this and I wanted that. And I'm just kind of like, whatever's supposed to happen is going to happen.

I'm not going to like force myself into positions that don't. as i've gotten older i've avoided more and more fights i've noticed yeah it's just like stressful and yeah you're just kind of like just let it be easy you know if it comes to you it's supposed to be if it doesn't it's not well britney it's been fun anything you want to promote or close off with oh no um just my instagram is britney schmidt b-r-i-t-t-a-n-y-S-T-H-M-I-T-T. Cool. And that's it. Thanks for coming on.

Thank you for having me. Yeah, thanks for watching, guys. See you tomorrow.