Digital Social Hour - Traveling the World: Impacting Lives with Tim Storey | Digital Social Hour #78

Episode Date: August 18, 2023

In this episode of the podcast, host Sean Kelly engages in a captivating conversation with renowned humanitarian and mindset coach, Tim Storey. Tim's transformative journey from being born and raised in LA to dedicating his life to helping others is truly inspiring. He shares impactful stories that shaped his perspective, including his experience at Disneyland and his travels around the world. Tim delves into the role observation plays in personal growth and the importance of maintaining a miracle mentality from childhood. He also discusses the significant influence of money in his life, not only as a means to help others but also in shaping his mindset. The episode takes an intriguing turn as Tim shares his involvement in prison reform and his experiences working with celebrities like Robert Downey Jr. He emphasizes the importance of trust, vulnerability, and finding genuine friendships. Tim's insights into changing mindsets, the power of positivity, and the constant journey of recovery and discovery are thought-provoking. Throughout the episode, Tim's calm and composed demeanor shines through, and his love for reading, authenticity, and personal growth is evident. Join Sean, Tim, and co-host Wayne Lewis as they navigate topics like charity, mental health, celebrity culture, and the significance of the "green room" in building meaningful connections. Topics Discussed: - The impact of travel on personal growth and perspective - The role of observation in recognizing one's potential - Money as a tool for helping others and finding personal freedom - Tim Storey's involvement in prison reform and work with Robert Downey Jr. - The challenges of mindset coaching and the ongoing journey of recovery and discovery - The importance of trust, vulnerability, and genuine friendships - The power of positive interactions and human connection in finding strength and inspiration - Handling provocation and maintaining control over emotions - Changing mindsets, taking inventory, and creating a remarkable journey - The value of reading and deeply absorbing knowledge - Mental health challenges faced by celebrities and the need for genuine friendships - The concept of the "green room" and the three levels of intimacy - Building a circle of quality friendships and prioritizing self-care --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/digitalsocialhour/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So you've been to 78 countries. A lot of people watching this haven't even left their state. Yeah. And they're confined. How has traveling the world sort of created your view on the world? So three ways to learn. Education, conversation, observation. Are you a fan of charities?

Big time. You don't feel like some charities are a scam though? No, some charities are a scam. Welcome to the Digital Social Hour. I'm your host, Sean Kelly. Here with my co-host, Wayne Lewis. What up, what up? And our guest today, Tim Story. How's it going? Tim Story, good to be here. I'm loving these studios. Not bad, right? It's a pleasure to have you. For people that don't know your story, could you give a quick summary? summary yeah uh born and raised southern california los angeles and uh loved sports as a kid

um but also like cared about people and i decided to go to seminary to be a humanitarian and uh that's what i've been doing all my life wow Wow. 78 countries deep. That's insane. Nice. So what is a humanitarian exactly? I think humanitarian is things you guys do. I just put a name to it, and that is looking out for others, lifting people up, finding answers, looking for a way where there was no way. And so part of that was being raised

in a family that was very confined and conflicted. And then I started to find answers through a lot of mentors and tutors. And when I found those answers, I'm like, man, this is dope. I could help other people. And then that's what I've spent my life doing right now. Wow. And you mentioned going to Disneyland was kind of a spark that changed your life, right? Yeah, that was cool. So I was seven. And somebody gave my family tickets to Disneyland because we could not afford them. And, man, I'd never seen anything like it.

Like someone could drop trash and then someone was picking it up. And then you see like Mickeykey mouse donald duck everything was right there so i think that so much of uh how we grow is observation so that observation of disney was so dope because i saw this life that was beyond and it just reminded me of the person that i knew i was going to be mine was um uh first prince of bel-air yeah that changed your life that was um yeah well not changed my life but it gave me a a different outlook gave me a different perspective although it was fake yeah it hit um i i wanted to shoot for that right i wanted to shoot for that but that makes sense because you saw how they lived on that tv show and even aesthetically

when you saw the house that they lived in i wanted to live like that yeah yeah so you've been to 78 countries a lot of people watching this haven't even left their state yeah and they're confined how has traveling the world sort of created your your view on the world so um three ways to learn education conversation observation so that's why i'm so excited about the podcast you guys are doing because on the conversational side we're really missing a lot so when I went to Sweden the first time when I was 20 I've now been there 68 times I went there in seminary to go speak to just schools about dreaming I'd created this dream course at 20 and I just sit there and I talk with these swedes and i noticed that like a lot of them didn't brag i could be with a really wealthy guy and he didn't even tell me about everything he had

and i learned a lot about different cultures on how they did things how they saw success and then um so i really expanded myself through traveling so you mentioned a dream course what role do dreams play in your life because they play a pretty big role in mine so i'm curious how you view dreams yeah so to me you know as as kids um we have what i call a miracle mentality a miracle is something extraordinary, uncommon, not regular, not the norm. So you ask little kids, what do you want to be when you get older? If they're like five, six, seven, an astronaut. I want to be like LeBron, a little girl.

I'm a princess. I'm a queen. I'm going to rule the world. It's always something super, super imaginative. And so I think that this miracle mentality is innate, is innate. And because of my spiritual background, what I say is an utmost God did not create almost children. So Oprah Winfrey asked me,

at what point did you know you were Tim Story? And I said, when I was 10. But we were broke when I was 10. But I knew I was Tim Story at 10. Right, right, right. So you were broke at 10. What role did money play throughout your life? Because now, obviously, you're successful.

Yeah. So the interesting thing about money is once I saw that you could make it and it could help people, it could help your mother, it could help her pay her bills. So that's when I talked a man into giving me a job as a dishwasher at age 15 1⁄2. So there was a white guy by the name of Mr. Anderson, and he had like a cool restaurant.

And so I went up to him and i said hey you know i'm a good athlete my name is timmy story and i want a job and so i talked to him into hiring me as a as a dishwasher but i like getting those little checks but those little checks meant that i was adding to my mother to take pressure off her. So to me, finances and getting some money at that time, then a lot of money later, was about leverage and being able to help somebody else. So when people say that money doesn't equal happiness, I feel i i hate that phrase so much because i feel like that phrase was created to keep a certain group of us in bondage to yeah and keep us like striving for less or be complacent with where we're at in life so i can definitely understand like the drive when the

driving force when it comes to money you're right it helps you it makes your life better yeah it definitely it definitely does so i i agree with what you're saying so to me money gets me out of the center seat on an airplane when i don't want to be in the center seat and coach so i feel like probably if i went into your childhood and your childhood there's times in life you felt like you're in the center seat the whole the whole time right and there's and there's times in life you felt like you're in the center seat. The whole time. Right? And there's no elbow room. Yeah.

So that's how I was raised, with no elbow room. And then when I began to see how other people lived, by being like in Paris, France, and being in Italy at 21, 22, 23, all by myself with my little passport and my little humanitarian self, I started thinking, man, these are not like people living in the center seat with no elbow room, so I'm going to find that way. Right. So you're a humanitarian. Are you a fan of charities?

Big time, yeah. I spend so much of my life on the charity side, and I continue to work with prison reform. Robert Downey Jr. is a great friend of mine. He started something to help incarcerated people and brought me and a few people on. Wow. And we started going in and educating people in the prison system and then helping them when they got out. So I'm deep in that space.

I'm also deep in the recovery space for mental health. I'm the only mindset coach in gaming. As you guys know more than me we have over three billion gaming gamers so i'm i'm the only mental health coach that we know of in the whole gaming capacity oh you don't feel like some charities are a scam though no some charities are a scam a lot of them are no some charities are a scam just like i came out of the laker game last week and they were cooking some bad hot dogs you get my point there's like people like making hot dogs you're like where'd they get the meat yeah yeah no a lot of charities

are a scam because i think that with this whole uh go fund me and all that you always have people with with with bad motives right so i think like at your guys level you're you're super wise and you just ask questions like um what charities do you guys think that we should roll with and uh that that's that's that's what i do but i i love to educate people out of the position and place that they're in, and it gives me a lot of joy in life. So how do you go about, how do you know when you've penetrated someone? Like what's the psychological aspect or strategy behind actually penetrating people when it comes to a mindset thing? Because sometimes a lot of people are in their own way from a mental standpoint.

Yeah, no doubt about it. So how do you break that? Yeah, so I think to. So how do you break that? Yeah. So I think to me it's about getting better. It's never about getting cured. I'm helping somebody get better. Not cure them. I'm not trying to cure somebody.

So if you've done your research, which you have, I work with the biggest rappers in the world. So I'm not trying to cure them. Even if they're saying crazy, insane stuff. But I do want them to be better. I want them to find a place of peace, a mindset of tranquility. And this whole idea of mental health, the whole idea is to be psychologically and emotionally better. So better is pretty good. Because you can't cure it, right?

No, I don't think that we're ever cured until we pass away. I think that there's two things that we all go through at the same time recovery and discovery so right when i think i'm cured somebody's gonna sue me right when i think i'm cured somebody my family's acting up right so i'm never looking for the for the cure i know i'm going through recovery and discovery at the same time. And if you could ever get that mindset, man, you're in a good place. Because someone could bring you bad news and you just go, okay, that's life. Some is recovery, some is discovery.

So your approach is to cure through mindset and not physical supplements and antidepressants and stuff? I think that there are times that you can come together as a collective. I do know that there are people that I am their life coach, if we can call it that way, that it has been good that they were on medication to even them out, in all fairness to them, because they were in a manic state. But more and more, we're finding out the power of exercise. And as you guys know, more and more, you probably had guys on the show, the power of breath work. Okay?

Yeah. The power of breath work, the power of exercise, the power of meditation. Like the normal human thing, sitting in water, going to the beach. 100%. Listening to the ocean. Yeah. So if you guys were ever around me for a long time, the thing that people say about me, they're like, Tim's story seems like he's got really cool music, slow jazz playing in his mind at all times and I do there could be a fire right there and I still won't get

dramatic in the drama Wow but a lot of that is I trained my mind to be this way so do you you smoke weed or microdose that's a great question i've never been asked uh i mean because the reason i'm asking is i've never been asked who helps to help yeah so when superman needs help who helps superman so who helps to help so what's your go-to is it is a microdose and uh mushrooms or psychedelics is it maybe you know drinking a wine or is it smoking weed i'm loving this podcast because no one had the balls to ask me well i got them okay that's why i'm loving this right right that's like deep box show bro do you smoke right what's what's what's your thing so and i would always answer you guys uh total honestly i like you guys but so number one i don Okay. But I don't have a problem with people doing what they feel like they want to do.

Okay. So for me, where I get a lot of strength is what I'm getting from right now. Because I'm getting some young energy, but I'm getting a lot of wise energy. Okay. So I don't ever run from an empty cup and part of the reason i get my my cup filled up like you just said i feed off people's energy man like i could be on the set of a movie because we all know entertainers and just like see a scene and see how they did it again and see this cinematography and see how that guy relit that or be in the studio with people that we know

no i get a lot of my energy feeding off humans nice touching back on robert downey jr how did you build a relationship with them i think that that what happened with us is there's a friend of mine named Brent who, you know, very, very well known. So he had the hide on Sunset that everybody used to go to. Oh, yeah. Like in the early days. Oh, yeah. Was this place called Hide? Yeah.

Yeah, I've been there. You'd always see Paris and Kim in the early days. Right. And then he had Body English here with DJ AM. So he was the biggest thing in the 90s, 2000s into today. All his stuff is dope still. So at Coachella, he does Neon Carnival. So he's a guy that introduced me to Leo DiCaprio, Cameron Diaz, Jared Leto,

probably no less than like 50 celebrities. Wow. So what I began to be known as is that, you know, Tim is a cool guy, and he has answers. And so that's how I started with Robert, of just us having conversations. So I never divulged, like the the depth of conversations with people that i have but but what i what i have with these people male and female is trust and uh i'm a good listener yeah that's a powerful skill to have a lot of people because they can't trust people

at that level think about it's always telling their business or leaking well you know that selling the story you know that i mean that's why i think that even with this uh jb fox situation you know at the time we will release this podcast yeah um it will still be news one way or another but that's why you don't no one really knew like well what really did happen yeah Yeah, no one understood. Yeah, because part of the situation is who can these people trust? So I became one of the go-to guys within my culture, within my skin color. I became the go-to guy. But I think part of that is listening, caring, but also having some pretty good answers.

So you seem to be able to control your emotions very well. Very well. How can people watching this get better at controlling theirs? Some people have anger issues. Some people are depressed. What's some strategy there? Yeah, the reality is that if you really break it down to basics, so if I get a thought thought that's just a thought

okay so that thought what i do is i let that thought go around in my mind once or twice before i respond because people the more successful you guys get, because you're successful already, but you're nowhere compared to where you're going. They're going to jack with you nonstop. Okay? Like, you could be the greatest singer, and someone's going to say something stupid at the end of the concert. Yeah, that was terrible. I'm telling you. Or you could be so proud of yourself, and then you end up at a family Thanksgiving,

and they're saying something that's not right. So I am a master at the projection. Like the old school days, like when I was a kid, they had like the projector. And then remember the slide would go around? You guys have at least seen this on YouTube. So someone can just say something really dumbass to me, and I just look, I'm just like, damn thing, go around. And I don't just respond, no matter what it is.

So you let it sit for a bit before you respond? 100%. So you're not reactive,'re responsive yes very much so but the the dope thing is whether somebody's into this biblical story or not but it's a dope one so the whole thing about jesus is he talked in parables he was the master of the riddle and the rhyme right he never told everything that was in his heart the bible says only a fool tells his whole heart because not everybody can handle the bigness in you or the bigness in you i can because i respect it and i honor it most people can't so if someone would tell jesus something he would always come back to them with a riddle and a rhyme.

And I started to pick this up at an early age. And the more I got around some dope people that were older, that were rolling like this from all walks of faith, I think, man, that brother, he talks in riddles and rhymes. He ain't even telling the whole stuff. But he's

like, he knows where he's going. He knows who he is, but he's he like he knows where he's going he knows who he is but he's not telling everything so that's how i roll i roll in riddles and rhymes interesting yeah it is because you can frustrate a lot of people it's dope you can frustrate a lot of people so that's where kanye messed up is giving his whole heart yeah heart. Yeah, but that's my little brother. And so, so close. I was with him for six albums straight in that studio nonstop. But that's, to me, a lot of it is the challenge of what he's going through right with with uh mindset but being pushed

and provoked right okay so one day i was at the san diego zoo and it was a big old gorilla he was taking piles and throwing them at the people. And I thought this was so funny. So I found the zookeeper. They were trying to stop him from doing it. So I said, let me tell you my background. I'm a psychologist. I said, why is that gorilla doing it? He says, because they're frustrating him.

He feels provoked. So therefore, he was retaliating by throwing his crap at them and so so do gorillas know that they're throwing their own heck yes he knew what he was like don't be messing with me acting the way i'm gonna throw so notice about this. You could be having like the greatest day and people start pushing, provoking, disrespecting. Right. It wants to take you out of that mindset, that place where you're supposed to be. Absolutely. So I think that with the Kanye, that he felt provoked and pushed.

And that's why you would see these strange interactions with the paparazzi. Because I could be with him maybe 18 minutes before that, and he was all chill. It's fine. And he's talking about Art Basel. And he's talking about something he's going to do with Nego. So, yeah, it's like two different people. Yeah. Yeah, you see that with Justin Bieber and the paparazzi yeah no doubt i think with me too

what i started to realize is that i'm not a victim i'm a participant so i have to then hold myself accountable too because my reactions actually matter in the situation not whether i'm being provoked or what's being said to me but it's also how i react that can be the outcome 100 good or bad situation so it's like you're the most important person in your life then you have to act in that matter like yeah and i and i think that that's the the challenge and the privilege of being both of you okay because now life has decided to go ding ding right right and and say okay we choose you to to be leaders now you have a lot of people that are following you okay so you're leaders so what i like to say is man when that calling is calling you you got to step up

yeah i mean nelson mandela was in in prison for 25 years for something he didn't do right but yet he continued to speak in parables continued to walk in love and continued to change a whole country a lot of people seem to have a negative mindset, unfortunately. You're very positive, it seems like. What's your advice to people to sort of change their mindset to becoming more positive? I think it's one step at a time. I think that the reality is you have to, number one, become awake. What's awake to you?

Awake to me is, if you just break it down the dictionary is to be conscious and like when you were a kid and you were a kid we both had we all three had moments where we got awake where like maybe other kids had like cool levi's and we did not and then you noticed that at school does that make sense yeah that could be like a wake moment or someone had dope converse but we didn't and oh snap i mean i don't have that much money so awake as you become conscious but once you become awake you now have to take inventory that's what most people are afraid to do and the inventory goes in various areas what's my mindset like what's what is my strength of my mind? Okay.

And what's the clarity of my mind? Okay. So awake, take inventory. And then the third thing, and this is really powerful, you've got to partner with the right people. Because if you don't partner with the wrong people you're surrounding, we're going to go to the wrong place place so how were you able to find the right partners i think first it was being okay to be by myself i think any any real creator uh that has

done like amazing things like if you were ever to interview uh timberland these guys are a lot were a lot by themselves pharrell williams a lot by himself right guys yeah i'm by myself a lot i live by myself i'm always alone okay so you got it yeah so i think that we have to be okay in our own aloneness and and then i always like to say it this way if you build your spot life will put the spotlight on your spot like all the beauty that you guys are creating out of this studio you you're building your spot and life is putting the spotlight on your spot so i knew if i was creating dope recipes people would kind of come and find my restaurant come to you yeah and that's what happened right a lot of self-work a lot of self-work no doubt because how does one how does one become like

and now here you hear you you are the life coach to the stars. You'd be a fool. You'd be voted off the island. No, I just got good at my craft. I'm not good at a lot of other people's crafts. People do some amazing stuff. But I became very good at my craft. But it did take a lot of loneliness a lot of um dedication and just um believing that someday it'd pay off how important is reading to you big time how often how many books do you do

you do you like what's your goal to reach every year like how many yeah i'm gonna challenge this theory of so many of my friends because i i roll with those guys it's talk about reading so much yeah because those are all my guys okay i don't i don't like that because i think that it's almost like a lyric to a song that when you hear a certain lyric no matter who the the person is let's say if it's a drake lyric you know when that doggone next thing is coming that next phrase is coming right and even like little kids i see little kids like they're like like they know that they know that they know the lyric i think people are rushing through books so quickly that they're not taking in the lyrics deeply so if i read atomic habits that book that's so dope i love it i will literally marinate in that thing for

three months but and guess what's gonna happen it's gonna come out of me are you audio booking or actually for me i'm a i'm an audio book guy yeah yeah because but because for me guys my life is um sometimes on airplanes yeah so that's like my little meditation time of um of listening to uh amazing people but but but but try to take in what I'm saying on this. I would rather have you guys take one dope book and marinate on it for a while. In fact, people are always trying to give me books. So I'll take them, but I'll say I'll be honest with you. I probably can't get to this for four to five to six months because I want to take in those other lyrics. Gotcha.

I'm the same way. I enjoy reading. I take time out every day and listen to audiobooks for sure. I don't finish it that day, but chapters. Why do you think a lot of celebrities have mental health issues? Do you think it's because their life is such a roller coaster of high highs and low lows? No doubt. So it's like, let's take even in Major League Baseball.

If you are hitting like, you know, over 300, that means you did something not to get a hit two times and got a hit one time. But in the space of being an actor you're getting rejected non-stop like you're you're you're up against three of the best actors or actresses or five or ten or twenty but i've seen some of these people on the set where the director could be brutal, take 26, take 27. Man, that could wear on you. So I think that there's so much rejection hitting you all the time. I'll tell you a cool story. Take me 60 seconds. I like Phil Jackson, who used to coach the Chicago Bulls, as you guys know, right?

One thing that he said is that I work my players hard during practice and that during the game I didn't call a lot of timeouts because I wanted them to try to sort out what was going wrong. I think too many people are calling timeout on everybody. Like, that sucked. You had a bad day. You're off. Time out.

Time out. Sometimes we need to just trust and let people sort it out. Wow. But I also think that it's a lot of pressure to perform at such a high level and not disappoint. And I think that actually in itself is a challenge and a struggle because how do you continue to reach these highs and you don't know if you're still the same person or is it going to grasp the audience like it did so i think it's there's a lot of mental stress to celebrities and then they don't really have friends bro really sean no bro i'm around these people they don't

really have friends trust issues they're around no they're around a group of people there's difference between a group of people and in france exactly a group of people we're out together a friend is hey sean what time is the game start okay cool we can actually conversate and you have a trust in me a lot of those guys around are they're useless not to say that they're useless human beings but for the person they're useless so who do you go to i think you got that exactly right yeah and so the way i the way i write it in in this book i say like there's three levels of intimacy one is the acquaintance and we we all have like a lot of people we know yeah the second is like the

friends and family the third you guys are gonna like is the green room so like if all three of us went and spoke at a conference somewhere here in las vegas right they would say okay there's your green room you can have eight people there there's your grooming you got eight people there's your green room there's eight people so the green room is invited guests i think we've all put people in our green room that should not have been there because the green room to me is a place of secrets it's a place of safety it's a place of seclusion vulnerability it's a place of vulnerability yo i can't have you in my green room yeah that means i don't need to be around you right and not to say that they can't but you know i need you gotta we as friends we have to pour into one another you know sean should

be able to come and talk to me about whatever yeah stays with me you know i should be able to give him advice about whatever he's ready give me advice and we should be able to correct one another yes so if you guys even noticed like i just came from a speaking engagement where everybody was clapping for me okay i came into this studio quietly yeah i didn't know you were here i just i just came in kind of disappeared i just came in all quiet, and then I just hugged you guys. And then basically what I'm saying is I respect you guys for what you're doing, and right now I was just an acquaintance at that point. Then we're getting along. You guys may upgrade me to friends and family

down the line we may collaborate and do dope stuff all over the world and we're crazy in each other's green room and so i think that that's a lot of how people need to approach each other yeah absolutely you can't just bum rush somebody's green room right yeah no i only want to be around green green room people yeah because they're going to stop you yeah they're going to stop your impulses they're going to stop your you know the emotion aspect they're going to speak life into you and stop you from doing a lot of things from self-destructing and that's the only group of people i want to be around yeah i really don't need a group of 50. Nah. Quality over quantity.

Yeah. Useless minds around me. I'm there with three people, but we're strong. Yeah. And I had that mindset in high school, trying to be friends with everyone. Yeah. But I was so upset back then. Yeah.

Trying to please everyone. But once I limited my circle to five people, I became really happy and i think that the idea of understanding that that is really normal to us is that we don't if we're not in the mood to talk a lot we shouldn't talk a lot that's it if you feel like having a quiet day don't answer your phone and that's just who we are i've been practicing dnd a lot i've never put my phone on dnd until like two weeks ago and i gave the best lead i get to pick the time where i'm ready of course yeah of course because there's there's there's so much um in quiet of rejuvenation and man the the creative thoughts you can come up with, right? Like driving down the road with no music on and something that just comes to you or just being quiet in some setting.

And I think we really have to fight for those moments. Absolutely. And keep them sacred. Absolutely. Tim, that was amazing, man. What are you up to next? Anything you want to promote? No. I'm just glad to be around you guys.

Appreciate you for coming, man. What's the 79th country you're going to? Israel. 79th is Israel. I've been to that many, 78, but I've been to some as many as 80 times.

Wow. So we're doing some dope stuff like to change people's lives in Ukraine, a lot of humanitarian work. I'm working on a good movie with somebody that you know. And I like all that stuff, but right now I'm just in the moment and being with two world shakers and proud of you guys. If you ever need us

for anything, you know, we'll be down to do some humanitarian stuff. Absolutely. Change the world, shake it up a little bit more. I love it.

I think we're going to do a lot together. Absolutely. For sure. Wayne, any closing comments? Thank you guys for watching and follow me on Instagram.

Sean Kelly here. Thanks for tuning in, guys. Digital Social Hour. I'll see you next time. Peace.