Don't Blame Me! - BAIW: Ghosting a Self-Proclaimed B

Episode Date: August 26, 2024

But Am I Wrong: Melisa - Third Party voting is throwing away your vote Meghan - Let women be mediocre, especially in comedy But Are You Wrong Judgmental mommy group Ghosting and exhaustive friend But Are They Wrong Melisa: Emory University Hospital Midtown - Meghan: Oklahoma State Football Write In: [e-mail] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

are we continuing in spanish or english english hi you went in english so this we have to continue Well, there was a pregnant pause. May all my Megan welcome to another episode of, but am I wrong? Starting to people who would not once ever in their lifetimes, they're short yet profound, long century spanning in the blink of an eye lifetimes have not once ever been wrong.

Yeah. Moises sent me a video on Tik TOK and, um, it was in spanish and they were like there's captions i was like i didn't tell them this but i was like i don't need captions i can understand it perfectly fine can i speak it no yeah yeah that's that's still to me to this day takes i've taken spanish from sixth grade all the way through like senior year and like grew up in california so there's like a lot of there's i mean there's a lot of lots of different languages but like a ton of spanish here hearing it understanding it

i'm pretty fucking solid like i would feel confident making decisions based on my comprehension my speaking no no no no no no no it's mostly the anxiety though yeah like if i go slow enough I can get it out but then it's just why when I can switch over and we can both just understand each other perfectly fine exactly exactly well welcome to another episode this is a podcast that we have where we will go into all these different segments it's a fun time but really we need to know is we're talking shit ethically ethically is in parentheses so if you don't want to ethically talk shit you don't have to listen ethically you know good way to put it like it's the mindset if you're in an ethical mindset welcome if you're in a destructive mindset also welcome

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we had discussed on it and or for our nomination the wrong of the week sometimes there's updates so it's a grand old time and we have today's episode today's monday so this is the beginning of the week which means tomorrow you can listen to next week's episode oh no tomorrow you can listen to the results from last week's episode it wouldn't know you can um you can listen to the results from last week's episode but am i wrong and then on thursday we have a new episode of don't blame me which is our advice podcast and then friday hang out with us chit chat catch up gossip by the way speaking of gossip do what i recently as in recently today learned what one of my favorite movies is rated 11 on rotten tomatoes which is crazy to me because there

are other movies i love which i could have confidently told you sleepover is probably rated seven percent but this movie i go no this is a real movie and it's 11 and i think it's one most underrated rom-coms ever what it's a rom-com about one of my favorite things that i say we need to bring it back not writing letters i don't know you got me a gift related to this hobby of mine treasure hunting yes what's a rom-com i don't even know it starring the lovebirds which i will say i think they shot the other movie before they had fucked and then i think they shot this movie after they thought it is fools gold Melissa 11 percent I can't believe that I can't I enjoyed the movie but I was a child when I saw it I watch it often I would ask I

want to write Mr. Tomato Head and be like I actually need you to revise this well you just go look at who were the people men of course yeah so look at that and then come back and send them hate mail yeah i just want to ask them to reverse their decision because it's objectively wrong okay well make that your goal for 2025 you know i do think there is more politically impactful things i could do you can do both but this is the thing about being multifaceted is that you can have a wide variety of interests as a as a multifaceted woman i can care about a lot of things at once and the the uh absolute devastation of the underselling and underrating of fool's gold is one of them i watched your rom-com this weekend what rom-com glenn powell

i watched anyone but you wait oh that one uh-huh that's the only glenn powell movie mott hasn't seen and i'm waiting for the day that he goes can we just put it on i mean it was a good it was a feel-good movie that's what i wanted i didn't want to invest in a tv show and i just wanted something to watch because i was very tired but it was like seven o'clock and so i was like i need something that will just tide me over for the next couple hours and then i can go to sleep yep i had nothing else to do so i took a chance also i canceled my netflix for next month because i was like i rarely use netflix so why don't i just you like pay for when i'm actually going to use it i was like it's going to run out in a couple days let me just see

if there's anything that i want to look at real quick and that was at the top and i watched it it's very there's a lot of like slapstick moments that i wasn't prepared for but it's it's like a it's a good i feel good movie you know i told you that i watched um mother of the bride a couple months ago or a month ago and it was not the greatest but it's kind of the same movie just better time it's about two people that used to date don't really like each other go to a destination wedding and then fall for each other again they're both the same movie but ones with older people ones with young ish or people because one of them is not yeah which they do make fun of they call it out what do they say about him being older she calls him a grandpa she talks about how

he's old like it's called out a few times okay that's fair as it should be all right well okay shall we get into our first segment let's do it all right our first segment is called but am i wrong and that's when we share a hot take or a situation in our life that we question if we were wrong about or sometimes it's just a rant that we want to go offline and uh i'm up first this week and mine is just thoughts and feelings i've touched on this before but haven't talked about it directly but i want to say that third party voting is throwing away your vote she went there whoa we live in a country that has a two-party system unfortunately and so it is throwing away your vote if you vote third party first of all none of the third party

candidates are on the ballot in every state so therefore they can't even get the votes needed to become. And since we, you know, have an electoral college, they can't even get the votes to become president. A lot of them aren't even on the ballot in battleground states, which you need to become president. And most of them are only pro whatever they need that year to get them in office. I'm looking directly at you, Jill Stein. If these people were so passionate about the causes they stand for why aren't they running for office on the local level that's not sexy building up their party sharing thoughts with the people that are locally because that's how i've been looking at how other countries operate that have more than one system

And like you have to get in on the ground floor. How do you expect to come in with no experience? I know that there are some people that have come in with no experience, Donald Trump, but he ran under a major party. But if you really believe what you're saying, run for school board, work your way up, share your ideas and thoughts with the people around you, build the party up. And specifically with Jill Stein, if you want to vote for a single issue, her stance on Palestine right now, she's accepted a lot of money from companies that they are the manufacturers of weapons. She also, the last time she ran was like pro-Assad in Syria who was killing his own people. So if she's the anti-genocide person, then why is that switch from where she stood? And I'm not saying people can't change, but it just seems like she's just grabbing at things that are hot button issues at the moment. And then also people were talking about how she had so much support at the DNC because people were holding up signs that said Jill on them. But I would like to remind people of who our first lady is, Jill Biden.

Those signs were for her. They were being held up while she was on stage when she was walking out. They had nothing to do with Jill Stein. Voting on a singular issue is not the approach. You should be looking at candidates from big picture, how they stand, not just on foreign politics, but on local politics, too. There's a lot at stake this election. And so don't throw away your vote. And I will also say that I have fallen for some of Jill Stein's shenanigans before, like when Hillary Clinton lost, Jill Stein said that she was going to fight the courts because she said that there was Russian interference and she needed people to donate money. and I sent, I think, $20 because I had it. And I was like, you know,

she's going to do something and do something. It never happened. There was no actual recount efforts. What'd she do with that money? It doesn't matter because she doesn't have like a big party that's actually checking her. Let's be smart. Let's be educated.

Let's vote for candidates that actually have a chance at winning and not ones that are opportunists. Thank you so much. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. It's as someone who grew up in a very political household, like both of the people, my household, people held positions in town as well as like county stuff and different stuff. and i grew up really political and my grew up with people who were they voted green in the primaries and can say a lot of shit about those people but they did not vote green in when they had to when we got to like the actual real real election and there is you cannot be a good quote-unquote good

morally like morally clean or whatever kind of like way you want to describe it politician who's actually participating in politics

because politics is a corrupt system so all of these perfect candidates can be perfect candidates because they've never had to do anything they've never had

to not be perfect and that's the thing that drives me crazy about Jill Stein because even if you read so many of her stuff she was like I would have probably

like just done this instead and it's like yeah but sure, in theory, wonderful. But also that's like the human nature response. Like we can all look at like there are horrible politicians

like Trump and then you've got the new age Republicans. And then for a lot of the time, the rest of you will kind of just like fall into this area of like just a person, just a person and like and like not all like morally

depraved and corrupt people who like want to make the most horrific decisions for people. And sometimes that's just the decisions you're faced with. And so this whole thing of like This is the perfect candidate. The only perfect candidate is a candidate who has no experience.

And in turn, that candidate is no longer perfect. And I personally am someone who a hard pass for me is anytime anyone at any point in their political career has talked about Wi-Fi affecting us, getting into like the 4G waves and all of when you get into anti-vaxxer rhetoric and that kind of stuff. metal on skin from vaccines to me that is where i go oh no no no i don't care that you went to an ivy league and you graduate with all of this because now you're confident and wrong to me that is the worst combination that is the worst fucking combination and yeah it pisses me off and also because yeah her stance on israel palestine has also changed exponentially in the last small

window of time which is totally fine but i think the fact that she has like a quote from like 2016 people asking her going i actually don't know much about that and i go okay cool so you are actually a full-grown adult who has already had already run for president at that point maybe even you already run twice i think at that point for someone who's you know young and uh not a professional complete ignorance to that but like no that's actually your job like stop we should not have the same response to that and I'm like 16 and you're running for president so yeah you're not wrong at all at all mine is uh not a hot take mostly it's an it's an observation of something I've come across and a realization that I would like to campaign behind okay and that is let women

to be mediocre. As I was scrolling through TikTok last week, I sat through probably four videos of various white men doing comedy on a stage. I didn't crack a smile. I didn't laugh. And I looked at their profiles and they had thousands, thousands of followers, so many views. And while they weren't offensive, while they weren't like super not funny, they were just kind of like, I could do that. Anyone I know could kind of do that. I just think we need more mediocre women because it was sandwiched between that

and then videos of Simone Biles flipping. And I go, let's get that heavy medium. I don't, I love what Simone Biles is doing, but I don't need everyone to be Simone Biles. I don't need you. But it can't be. No, I don't need you to be the best of the best of the best. I need us to have those same standards for women.

I want women to get on my, I have been curating my TikTok for you page that I just want to see you guys do whatever just coasting by let mediocrity happen for us the way that it gets to happen for men specifically for black women because good god Simone Biles I go I want you to be able to what at this point Simone Biles you should be able to be like a substitute teacher in like North Dakota and just like live your happy life but like she's extraordinary that's wonderful that's a fuck ton of pressure and I just think let women be mediocre because there's already

so many fucking men doing it i agree i agree it's crazy when you watch someone who's like a professional comedian getting paid for it and they have like a million dollar house and i'm watching video and my lip doesn't even twitch into a smile i think i've mentioned this before but i follow some comedians that are very funny and so therefore i get fed other comedians and sometimes they'll have a quote unquote joke that is like 30 seconds long. And I'm like, where's the punchline? No, I'm like, thanks for sharing. This is all set up. You're just talking. And like they sat there and edited this clip and put it up because they thought it was good. This was good enough that I needed to share with other people.

I wonder if we saw one of the same ones recently, because I had that same thought where I was like, as someone who can write i go okay set up set up and i'm waiting and i'm watching the bar go go go and then it was over and i was like okay so that was just a story you were just talking you those were just words we put together with some punctuation and you were just pacing and drinking your water um have you ever thought of therapy because you're just talking you're just talking you're just sharing your thoughts this is not funny there was nothing funny about it it wasn't even an engaging story no and like so much so that i don't even remember what it's about but i do remember that it was a man standing on stage with a microphone and i said where's the rest

yeah i looked for a part two that was it that was it and you know then they go on to be like check out all these dates that i have all of this stuff and i'm like oh and this is at this point in my life i'm never going to shit on a woman comic for her comedy unless it's problematic i'll shit on amy schumer for her genocidal views but not for her comedy maybe the joke stealing but again not for if i'm like oh that joke she wrote isn't funny because apparently it doesn't have to be right i just think it's crazy that like comedy as a whole is something people are like, I'll just go and try that. Like, bring back the fear of

performing stand-up. Because, like, that shit is hard and terrifying, and the stereotype of, like, comics are severely traumatized people. I'm not encouraging trauma, but I am saying it's nice for people with severe trauma to have a space.

And when you infiltrate that space with your happy home life, and you get up there and try to make it funny, sometimes it doesn't work so well. No. Terrible. Everyone has a profession that they can be good at. Bring back plumbers. Like, bring back, first of all, gaffers.

We need light. Like, there are so, so many jobs. We don't need any more comedians. And we really don't need any more men. Point blank. But also, parentheses, male comedians. I stand with you on this. Thank you for standing with me.

All right. Let's take a break. and we're back it's time for our next segment which is but are you wrong where you write into our email address but am i wrong pot at gmail.com with a circumstance or situation you found yourself in that you want to know if you are in the wrong about we ask that you keep it under 300 words it is all anonymous but please let us know your age ahead of like in right the age and because it is anonymous you can use pseudonyms for everyone involved in the story and give us as much information as we need please get full names not full names but like don't call people a or b or c

something that two people who have been recording for hours can follow you know k is fine if you spell it k-y totally lee l-e-e that's not a letter no that's not l sorry i meant l-e-l-l-e i just switched the dyslexic in my my brain i got lee l-e-e nope e-l-l-e okay you're up first all right hey megan and melissa am i wrong for storming out of this mom group i join So I am a relatively young mom in today's time. While my mom had three kids by the time she was 25, I had my first at 24, and I am one of the youngest moms. My son is in pre-K and involved in a lot of activities, so we've come across the same group of kids' moms several times. In the last month, they've invited us to their Saturday playdates.

We usually start at the park, then go to one of their houses for lunch. So they give me a little snide remark here and there. When exchanging birth stories, I mentioned I had a C-section. These bitches had the nerve to say how lucky I was to take the easy way out and get to be off my feet for a few weeks, as if that's not one of the most dangerous surgeries for women to go through and one that wasn't done by choice. When I mentioned I didn't breastfeed for long due to low milk production, they told me I was so brave to trust powder. So the straw that broke the camel's back when I mentioned his dad is my boyfriend, not my husband.

It's not something I hid, just assumptions on their part, I guess. I wear a promise ring on my ring finger, so I'm guessing they thought it was a wedding ring. They went to bombarding me with questions on how long we were together before the pregnancy. if i was planning to get married what was his hold up i made it i made up an excuse and left was i wrong for grabbing my son and leaving i just couldn't take it anymore no i would have left after the first comment i almost want to say that you're wrong because i'm like actually the correct course of action would have been like you guys are fucking losers and then you should have taken their purses and dumped them out on their heads and then like covered them in molasses and

like um and feathers and then like you know what i mean like tar and feathers is that a thing yes oh god we're getting back to the cartoons where i'm like that's what when they fall and slip in the thing of molasses take that back no no no no there's a looney tune moment where they fall into a thing and then yep no like to me that would have been um you guys are such fucking losers like what the hell are you like this is like so i'd be like wow it's so brave of you to say something like so stupid like did you go to college did you have your ged like the way i would have then started coming with like the most out-of-pocket questions back so i think that you handled this with like far more grace than i would have so you're super not wrong for getting up and

leaving this is insane this is so judgmental and tacky tacky is the right word it's exactly what it is these are tacky people c-sections like it was you this wasn't something that you elected to do and even if you did so what like also they could have done it too if it was elective right they had a choice and said it was lucky okay then and it was the easy way out then why don't you do it if that's how you felt why don't you do it do you know what goes into a c-section they literally take out all your goods and then stuff it back in your body and it's not the same way that it was when it went in no and like why do you why would there if it was like so easy and seamless and everybody like loved it no one would give birth vaginally anymore and also you wouldn't have

people who had already done c-sections and gone for a v-back oh so odd people just say shit and then the stuff about low milk production and brave to trust powder oh i'd be like oh the last powder you you you're just i'm not snorting it is that what your your implication was yeah i wasn't into coke but happy for you like what the fuck yeah i hope that you never see any of these women again i hope you find a cooler group to hang out with because they suck yeah this is miserable jobless behavior yeah like i don't understand like this these are things that people like in their 80s say yeah on also sitcoms and you all know it's the villain like this is these people i'm guessing are in their 30s and 40s and they're acting like this throw the fuck up

yeah and i will say as someone who uh grew up with uh where i grew up vast majority of the parents were like a lot older than like the country average or whatever anytime there was a mom which i can say anytime as in one there's one mom who was like younger younger and even though me and one other person ours was like the second youngest i think or no mine was the second youngest and still like you know exponentially like a lot younger than some of these other ones but closer in age to the younger one the way that this younger mom was treated was so fucking insane that even as a kid i could see it and um she just didn't hang out with the moms like that she just was like screw it and like if it was like a school event thing or whatever

she would hang out with the kids and like i loved her i thought she was so cool but like i would hear moms talk shit about her all the time and so uh at the end of the day never made me think any less of her made me think less of the people talking shit but i also really respected the fact that like she didn't put up with their shit like she would just hang out with us and she'd be like i'm not gonna hang out with your there's parents fucking talk i also like i don't think my parents were part of any like parent groups and i turned out perfect so your kid will too yep i think that's fine all right you're up megan hey eminem i'm wondering if i would be wrong to ghost a friend. No. I mean completely no contact. Her contact, she's a self-proclaimed

bitch and I couldn't agree more. Is this playing about us? She was also very self-centered. A lot of people around her have distanced themselves from her and for good reason. Being her friend is exhausting. It is always, always, always about her. Her wants, her needs, her issues. We've been friends for six years. I honestly don't think she would know my birthday if she didn't know from me discussing plans or Facebook telling her. I'm only considering ghosting her because I've tried to talk with her about us ending our friendship amicably and she always reels me back in making promises to be better and become a better friend i fall for it every time and i am tired of this endless cycle as i tape it out right now i'm realizing it sounds like a toxic

relationship and that's what it is would i be wrong for ghosting her i try to be an adult about it multiple times and nothing has changed i hope you take my submission no you would not be wrong at all she seems obsessed with you yeah but like in a controlling manipulative way in a way that like I don't want to watch that movie that's a little we're wearing a skin suit like it's getting like a little I want your life and I yeah to me I've said this before I would rather I think a friendship can be mended if people are realistic about like who they are what they bring to the table what their issues are or whatever but you have to like I want someone who like stand like is steadfast in like who they are and like stands stands in that and so for me when i'm like okay

you're being like a very bad friend and if that's just who they are and you fundamentally know that and they're like no no i'll change and it's like we both know you're not going to like what is this rigmarole like what the fuck is the point of this bullshit like we both know it's not true and so like stop saying that you're gonna do it when you don't even want to do it to me that's just like it's like flaccid shit i don't want that you know what i mean though like it's just like get away yeah flip floppy so that's not that in a whole if if i like said that and it was like i'll chat whatever when knowing it's a personality and you're just trying to end the friendship and it's like no no no no it's fine that's even more of an ick to me yeah i had a friend like that

that i ghosted sometimes that's the only option that's the only option because the thing is they're going to keep trying to come back and keep tricking you into a friendship that you don't want to be a part of when it's not even a real friendship it's just a one-sided person that's trying to control the whole situation if you need to get out get out and don't say anything blocker move if you're going to show up at your house yeah get a ring yep we all need better friends you know like it's just you're not wrong okay we're gonna take a quick break and we'll get into our final segment we're back from our break it is time for our final segment which is are they wrong aka wrong

of the week rachel of the week where we nominate the worst person place or thing idea whatever of a current events of culture niche events um this has brought us people like george santos and um what do you have in store for us today so this was a lawsuit that was filed on august 8th of this year melissa loves litigation i do i do love litigation tulsa oklahoma anywhere around y'all y'all have a break this week um emory university hospital in midtown atlanta was accused of losing part of a patient's skull following brain surgery. Fernando Cluster went and had a delicate procedure requiring the temporal removal of part of his skull, but when it was time to put the piece back, they lost it and then charged him thousands of dollars

for it. So Fernando and his wife claimed that Emory University Hospital Midtown demonstrated simple negligence and caused physical and emotional pain and suffering and unnecessary medical bills. He was admitted into the hospital on September 30th, 2022, diagnosed with the intracerebral hemorrhage and underwent decompressive hemocranolamine. And the procedure involved removing part of his skull and it's called a bone flap. I don't like the word flap. That's not to be like about anything medical. It's just I don't like the word flap in general. and so after he healed from the hemicranionomy he was scheduled to have his bone flap re-implanted on November 11th and then according to his chart there was a note left by the

neurosurgeon Matthew Agam that said although we were informed yesterday by the OR staff that Mr. Cluster's bone flap was located and ready for replacement it could not be found today when preparing for surgery. We inspected the freezer where bone flaps are stored and could not find a bone flap with Mr. Cluster's patient identification. There were several bone flaps with incomplete or missing patient identification, but we could not be certain which if any of these belonged to Mr. Cluster. After a delay, the staff told him that the bone flap could not be found and his cranial plastic surgery had to be canceled until they made a synthetic implant flap and could be replaced in his head and then according to the lawsuit they waited

almost two weeks for the synthetic flaps this man is sitting with part of his cranium not there and there's pictures like his head was just flat and then it came back from the manufacturer Then on November 23rd, which again, this is a few days before Thanksgiving, family holiday, he finally was able to get the surgery. And then the hospital gave him a bill that included not only the replacement bone flap, but also the extra time that he had to be in the hospital. and then after leaving the hospital he suffered an infection because of the synthetic flap and that required another additional surgery he was not able to work because of this and has over a hundred and forty six eight hundred and forty five thousand dollar medical bill he's requesting compensation for damages which i don't think that's even enough money like this man needs

billions of dollars and to be paid by Emory. His attorney Chloe Dallaire of Hornsby Law Group claimed her client suffered financial, emotional, and physical abuse and neglect and the infection just made things even worse. It is shocking that a medical provider like Emory would lose part of its patient's skulls and then refuse to accept responsibility. We now have to live with the consequences of Emory's negligence, including daily fear about another infection in my head and medical costs. We want to know if this has happened to other patients to see if they have been given an explanation by Emory. Our goal is to make sure this never happens to another patient. That was a statement from him. That's insane. Yes. Emory Hospital is, they've not been

in the news for some good things recently no this is where the nurse stuff happened so um and they're like one of the top yeah medical systems in the country this is not looking good how do you like lose a part of somebody's brains and then how i mean a part of somebody's crane cranium and then like just have incomplete information about them in a refrigerator that's wild yeah like there's a and there has been for like a long time and usually like like um teaching hot like college-based hospitals tend to be like slightly better about it um but like there's such a huge understaffing and overworking problem that like my uh the hospital that used to be the one in my town like that was the hospital and it wasn't first of all

was not my town it was my county we did not have hospital in my town but we had the hospital and it got bought by a private health care company and it like went to shit and it was like so bad there's like this pretty famous case from when i was a kid about um a nurse who was on like she was on like her she was on like a 20 like 30th hour of a shift or something like that and there was a life support machine and the sound she just like absentmindedly just turned it off because like the sound was driving her crazy and the person died and like at first instance you're like oh my god what a monster but it's like that sound is used in torture if you haven't slept you you're you can't think straight no and also when you have like a sound

of a beat a constant thing like that like that's used as a torture technique same thing of like babies crying like there is just like this aspect of like physiologically our bodies cannot perform well without sleep let alone care for other people's lives and like hold other people's lives at hand like people don't make sound decisions for their own safety when they're overtired let alone other people and it's like so bad but again usually like teaching hospitals tend to have a bit better of that because they tend to be better slightly better staffed just because it is a like a hot spot for that but again like the shortage is everywhere but to me that is like a failure of a system and like it's a great point that the wife made where it's like

how many other times has this happened like this this seems like it has like i can't imagine it hasn't because of the doctor on staff was like there are others in the refrigerator that don't have information on yeah that's horrible horrible horrible horrible horrible my actual nomination even though my sideline one is to feel the court is oklahoma state football they have introduced something which is so fucking crazy and before you get into that first of all i'm actually so sorry because melissa did make it sound like oklahoma was going away from this without a scratch so we should give the disclaimer no one is asking us to do no one's forcing us that oklahoma's not all bad and by not all bad i mean i really enjoyed the movie twisters

but first and foremost we know we know a lovely lovely person from oklahoma who is who is suffering at the hands of his oklahoma slander and we're so sorry babe like we know this is not about you week in a row yeah i'm really sorry i also didn't even clock that when you had said you're like oklahoma you get a break psych no you don't this is gonna be so mad i know she is i'm so sorry She's like, bitch, you should have just done the Sophia LaCorte drama. Okay, so it's Oklahoma State football. And this goes into, I will say, I think NFL teams, their social media employees need to be paid so much more because I historically have hated football. I've hated football.

I've hated like what it does to the brain. But also the prior to all of the new laws and things being passed of being able to take endorsements and stuff. like it was just like it's so you're using you're using all of these athletes and specifically depending on the sport for a lot of college athletes you're scouting from very poor places of schools they could not have afforded to get into or like or could not have gotten the whatever standards of grades to get into or scores and you literally beat them up on a field and then the vast majority of them don't even go pro and so they have not quote-unquote gained the college experience in a way that would elevate them to a career or whatever because they've had to dedicate

all their fucking time to sports i had friends who are d1 athletes like that shit is like it's what you do like that is your college is the fucking sport and so social media teams though they've been showing me sometimes it's just boys living their dream and the way i cry and i just see them so happy to be and i because it's the same thing about astronauts not like the historic like the problematic aspect not astronauts are problematic i'm talking about football cte but with there's so few jobs that you see people who they probably wrote it on as their dream job in kindergarten like there's so few people who get to do that like childhood dream job and so football is also like that so i've warmed up to certain players and certain teams social media

but this reminded me exactly why i don't fuck with it so they've introduced qr codes on the helmets so viewers can scan them and give them money because they're not paying their college athletes and guess what does it go to each individual player no it goes to a big pool of money that they pinky promise and swear will be distributed to the players a qr code how i'm sorry are they that bad at playing football that i'm able to get a clear shot of a qr code but also that's just icky feeling especially when the majority of football players are black so you're i either see it as like donations which to make people feel like bad for them or yep yep yep yep yep mm-hmm mm-hmm the way that i'm like have we thought about just paying them who thought was

this that's a great question i'm gonna say an old white man this is like it's because to me it's a much more fucked up version of the added on additional fees when you go to restaurants in like but i mean we have them here i'm sure there's other places but like oh here's an additional 25 percent or 30 percent fee so our employees can have health care i go yeah pay for them to have health care to tack it on so we're paying for that no like what what the fuck like it's just one of those things that it's like oh how can we offset this cost onto somebody else and you're not fucking thinking it through whatsoever and then also i do wonder the qr codes are not the most they're reliable most of the time but like there are times where people think it's one qr code and

it's a fucking different one and i again i think about sponsorships that individual players might have and then having that even if it's not even if it does doesn't get messed up it goes directly to the website for the fund or whatever that is if that is not viewed as looking so too much like advertising for other advertisers to feel like no this is not this is wrong you can also hack qr codes pretty easily the way i'm like so quickly you're gonna have one of your tech students change it and it's gonna scan a qr code and it's gonna be like a rickroll or just like titties boobs Yeah. And it's like, do the players get to opt out of this or? Why can't people just donate to the booster club and then they distribute it to the athletes?

Because that's who is collecting all the money is the booster club. I have a feeling that this is going to be very powder puff football vibes and it's going to be we're collecting the money and we're getting new uniforms. arms like i have a feeling that this is going to be money spent quote unquote towards the team and i do not feel like this is going to be towards the players and the shit that pisses me off about this is like this is college football and college sports have found ways to d1 college athletics have found ways to supplement what they can offer students before it was like legal that you could They could be getting like sponsorships and all that. They have found ways to supplement or entice people into joining with stipends.

So stipends for travel stipends, stipends for apartments, like living. Like I had a friend who played a D1 sport at my college and what she got for her like rent stipend every single year was exponentially more than any of like the median apartment or whatever. Like it was specifically done to entice her. it was part of the offer that she got when she they they offered they asked her to come to the school was that was part of the offer is it's essentially being like hey you know we're going to give you this we'll give you x amount of money for transportation which was basically money to

buy a car and then they're at all like the rent stipend which was money that she was able to like save and put away and it was like a full ride so she was still able to profit off of it and it was kind of like a wink wink nudge nudge you we all know that this is not what your rent costs but this i'm like but like they can you can legally pay that's what i mean just so it's like you've already done it sneakily before but now that well to me it's not even like you don't want to pay them it's like you want to it's degrading like that it's it feels it's that's like a key aspect of this because i'm like you found ways to get around paying them before by offering them all this stuff so they pick and go to your school and you've done that before they were you were

legally allowed to pay them. You've found ways to not pay them what they're worth, but like supplement and entice them to make this so they weren't spending any money whatsoever and they can make a little bit of money. But now when you legally have to pay them, you go, not if we don't embarrass them first. Huh? The fuck? So I'm hoping this is not going to work. Also, can you think of how big those fucking QR codes would have to be? Like how fucking big they would have to be to scan them also on tv what so yeah i hate it i really hope this is it's on their helmet so it's not even it can't be that like they're tiny i'm looking at the pictures like literally how how do they think it's just like a little stamp on the back of their helmet how would people be even be

able to do this you'll listen to this this is a revolutionary step forward to help keep oklahoma state football ahead of the game mike grundy says it gives a chance for everyday fans across the world to have a real impact when it comes to supporting nfl efforts for cowboys football i'm thrilled about this opportunity for our players you know that also sounds like to me qr code company came to you and there's a partnership you guys are getting a percentage in the back end it's a one and a half square inch decal at the back of each helmet yeah no it's ability to scan the code during broadcasts and post game photos that are posted onto social media,

except to help raise the team's value during football season. Oh my god. The QR codes are not limited to just the players' helmets. Other places they can be found include each player's bag tag will display the QR code during the walk for game days on travel. QR codes will be placed on the coasters in premium areas of the

stadium, on the university state football equipment truck, on signage throughout the stadium, and then a link to the fund will be available on the social media channels. the qr code initiative is part of saddle up campaign that is organized by pokes with a purpose what the fuck is a poke sport cowboy football today funds donated through the saddle up campaign are not earmarked for specific student athletes will go directly to the general team fund

see that's the part that i'm like for every student athlete on the roster donated money will be used to fund i see i'm right who used to fund current nil agreements with pwp that includes payments in exchange for services provided by these osu student they don't need the money like that like the school itself doesn't need the money pay the students directly and yeah this also to me it feels like a sabotage way of um especially with the walkout bags and stuff i don't know that they're because like a lot of the time that's one of the ways that they can get um brand deals like based on when their outfits of walking whatever that is that i'm like I think you're making them less desirable to advertisers as well because they feel like

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