Don't Blame Me! - BAIW: Hooking Up In God's Time

Episode Date: August 25, 2025

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You're richer than you think. cocoa don't over edit that so that you can't hear the wind blowing while we're on this beautiful summer vacation on the beach the heat waves i love that welcome to brand new episode of but am i wrong but am i wrong is a very interactive choose your own adventure show that we're actually guiding you on so it's not really choose your own adventure but you get to pipe in and say hey i got thoughts on that and we'll give you more details as we go along for each segment of the show crushing it crushing it crushing it

um and uh yeah all you need to know is one of the ways we want you to participate is by voting and who you think was wrong in each segment on this episode so over on our instagram stories we post on the story as well as the highlight around the day before so make sure you're following so you know when that goes up um we post a poll of who you think was wrong and you vote and then reply right in about why you voted the way you did your thoughts and feelings and then we read all those results on our tuesday episode called see you next tuesday great job megan should we get into our first segment let's do it our first segment is called but am i wrong that's when megan and i will share something from either our personal lives or something in the

world that we're just like oh i gotta talk about that it might be a rant it might be just something that is really grinding our gears and then we share it and as megan said you vote for if we were wrong in the situation and this week i'm up first trigger warning for sexual predators and uh suicide all right so this week i'm gonna talk about roblox a company that has a market value of $91 billion, a platform with over 120 million monthly active users, and a place where a significant portion of its audience is under 13 years old. And so what I want to present to y'all is, if you're an app for children, why aren't you protecting your audience? And this isn't just a theoretical question. It's a question brought to the forefront by the courageous actions of a young

man named michael also known as schlep he's a 22 year old youtuber who for the past two years has made it his mission to hunt down predators on on roblox why because when he was eight years old he was groomed on roblox an experience that he said led to a suicide attempt his efforts have reportedly led to six arrests he was doing what roblox itself seemed unable or unwilling to do You would think that a company so dedicated to its young audience would applaud such efforts or at the very least collaborate with them. Instead, Roblox's response was swift and definitive. They banned Schlepp. They sent him a cease and desist letter accusing him of simulated child engagement and directing users to move conversations off platform.

Think about that. The company is not just ignoring a problem. it's actively targeting the individuals who are exposing the problem roblox's justification is that vigilante groups will face consequences they argue that these groups while well-intentioned are violating their policies and creating an unsafe environment they say these hunters impersonate children and use tactics similar to the predators themselves but this argument is a smokescreen. It deflects from the fundamental issue. Roblox is a hunting ground for child sex predators. This isn't a hyperbolic claim. It's a stark reality supported by multiple lawsuits,

news investigations, and even official legal action. Louisiana's attorney general has filed a lawsuit alleging that Roblox prioritizes user growth, revenue, and profits over child safety. a bloomberg report found that over two dozen individuals have been arrested since 2018 for abducting or abusing victims they met on the platform the stories are heartbreaking and while roblox points to its moderation tools schlepp and others say their reports have fallen on deaf ears the cease and desist letter was in his own words the first real contact he'd ever had with the company. The only time Roblox seems to listen is when they're threatened or when their own image is at stake. Roblox's actions are a betrayal of trust. They are essentially saying that a

vigilante who catches a predator is a bigger threat to their company than the predator themselves. Why? Because predator hunting highlights the flaws in Roblox's security and moderation system. It peels back the curtain and reveals the uncomfortable truth that for all its profit, for all its immense popularity, Roblox has been, at best, a negligent caretaker of its youngest users. This is a David and Goliath situation. On one side, you have a young man who was hurt and now dedicates his life to ensuring no one else is. On the other hand, you have a multi-billion dollar corporation with AI-powered moderation tools and a team of lawyers who, when confronted with the reality of their platform decided to turn on the one who is trying to help the message is

clear roblox is prioritizing its bottom line over the safety of its children they've chosen to protect their brand rather than their audience and for that we must hold them accountable we must demand better because our children deserve a safe place to play not a place to be haunted thank you um that's wild timing i literally just saw a video of um a mom who was like her kid was like just like like scared to like go grab something from her room or whatever and mom was like what what's what's going on like why are you afraid of like being at the house and she like finally explained like she saw something it's like some something scary on like roblox and the mom was like my biggest regret is like letting her get on roblox but at the same time like i i'm trying to

like scale her going on it back versus like having this be something that like i'm afraid of what she's seeing i'm afraid of those interactions i want her to still be able to tell me and people were saying like this place is like roblox has never been uh safe for kids and i and people were saying like there's this youtuber and i'm sure that's who they were talking about in the comments but i didn't know who that was um but yeah like all like that to me i think of it as a kid game and that's like why parents have thought of that as well but it's like finding out that like oh no this has been like a pervasive issue for a long time yeah because you it's a platform where you can go in and create any type of avatar that you want and interact with everyone my nieces and

nephews are on it but they are heavily monitored while on it they also like are my parents are not my parents their parents my siblings um have them and not use the chat feature they have to use like the actual talking feature if they're going to communicate with people so they can hear what the conversations are being had and they're only playing with their friend and sometimes i'll jump on and like play and noah has literally i've gotten in a car that he was driving and he's left me in the middle of nowhere oh my god i don't understand the game there's because there's so many different games on the app so it's basically an app that has numerous games within and even like knockoff versions of like the sims and things like that

and so you're in a world where you're being the character that you are but you can interact with everybody else that's in the game so you're all playing like at the same time oh that sounds like like ready player one that sounds yes that's what it is movie yeah yeah that's really sketchy yeah and so you don't know who's behind these other faces i can't imagine like playing a sims like game where there's like someone else there like that's like that's the main one that me and noah play together is that it's like building these houses and then like you accumulate all these like really nice cars and stuff that are equivalent to real world cars and that's what he'll just come pick me up at my house and then drive me somewhere just leave me in the middle of

he like literally speeds off in his nissan no it's like a ferrari he's got the nice cars he's upgrading and he said get her to the curb that's funny yeah that's you're not wrong that's like a wildly fucked situation and and thing for them to just also not care about which i'm not surprised yeah unfortunately it's about money it always is about money all right we're gonna take a break when you're a mid-sized business you need every competitive advantage you can get like an ai solution that works for you not against you sap grow is built with ai embedded at its core, working across every system, and it's ready to go from day one so you can hit the ground running. Bring it with SAP Grow, AI cloud ERP for any size business.

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siblings go on dating shows together and then like there's a weird vibe of incest even though they're not hooking up with other they're hooking up with like not their siblings but there's this jealousy with their sit like these tv shows are really fucking weird so to say that like oh my god remember when reality tv like used to be unhinged it's always been unhinged it never stopped do y'all not remember when they had that whole show where it was like prince harry was the main person it was like a bachelor situation but it was prince harry but it wasn't him but it wasn't him at all pale ass redhead and all these women were like obsessed with him there's also been like so many shows that have aired the fox which fox was just shelling out shows every week there's

so many of them that only aired just one episode and they had to cancel their shows because they were so bad and they're 10 million dollars so um i would like to uh refresh everybody's memory for what i think is currently happening right now as we're recording is the season of bachelor in paradise where they've decided to do the age mixing of the old and the young no hold on so this is a refresh so i'm just letting you all know that this is where and this here's the thing the bachelor is the through line okay so we remember we remember paradise remember wow that's really uncomfortable that's fucked up and like the fucking host being like love to see if they the intergenerational mix i also saw on the bachelor or the bachelor subreddit people being

like well this like season sucks because part of the reason why there was so much drama is like they had them in these like horrifically hot living conditions they had like no ac they like couldn't go now it was too hot they slept on the beach like in these like little huts on the beach so they were sleep deprived because like you can't just like take a midday nap it's too fucking hot in there you have no ac but because there are old people and the risk of heat stroke is like so much greater they now are in air-conditioned facilities which apparently the drama is just not happening because people keep taking naps and they're very well rested

and thinking things through. Okay, okay. So I'm seeing people complain about that, which I'm like, okay. But now we have two new shows. One is called Age of Attraction, which comes from Nick Vial from The Bachelor and his child bride.

So they are doing a dating show about age gaps, old people. And to get ready though, there's another one coming. So then we have this and we have this in the docket. And then we have a new show that is already out.

Also starring Colton Underwood, the stalker from his season of The Bachelor, which to get out of the stalking, he thought the perfect timing for him to come out as being gay. Remember, he put a tracker on this girl's car,

tormented her. She had a restraining order. Yeah, he jumped a fence. And Caitlin Bristow, who we've talked about. she's messy and this is called are you my first and colton underwood was famously a virgin and this is a dating show about virgins and i have yet to know if they're both everyone's a virgin or if it's people vying to to pop the cherries was he a virgin or had he just not been with women

oh was he oh you're saying like what was it was he what was his terminology for a virgin there like had he never um i think he said he was like a virgin i mean which doesn't surprise me at the time so no but like he was like vibe wise it was vert it was virgin yeah i the sad thing is is that i've had i think everyone you just mentioned on yeah podcast as guests i know so i tried to get on our podcast yeah i just am like what is wrong with the bachelor like we need to bring back unreal and bring some shame back to these bachelor producers because the fact that these all have come from like the same fucking franchise is diabolical to me yeah but and they're also trying to just latch on to what they were doing before yeah but i'm just like their whole thing of being

like bachelors like supposed to be like you know finding actual connections and all of this and now we're actually gonna have old people fuck 14 year old and now we're gonna have like can you just say okay you're right 18 sure i don't know they're gonna have an 18 year old because that's the other part that i'm like when are you gonna start talking when is casting gonna start talking to this are you gonna start talking when they're 19 are you gonna be oh they're turning 18 so like i'm gonna start talking to a 16 year old to then like make sure they have other contracts signed by the time we're finally in pre-production they'll be 18 i'm like it you're ew ew and i really hate how they're trying to frame this the virgin one a group of virgin singles gather at a

tropical resort to find love through and explore intimate connections without judgment through romantic dates and challenges they navigate relationships while searching for their perfect match no you just got a bunch of virgins in the room together like it's the exact opposite of too hot to handle where it's like we got a bunch of whores in a room and we're saying you can't fuck each other and they're whores so of course all they want to do is fuck these sluts can't which i think that is such a funny premise of a show because i'm like they're not like addicted to fucking each other like they're all fine but they have to play it up for cameras they're like how am i ever gonna do this like what do you mean i have to sit in a room with this person and i can't

have sex with them but i'm like it's like the exact opposite of that and i'm just like wait and i also don't believe the people that are on now because they're like covid people they they could they could hold out oh my god without a doubt and also like money's on the table we're poor like they will not like i understand the first season because i also think they didn't tell them the premise until like later on but like now i'm like okay i'm sorry there's like it's that's not money is on the table my legs are closed they're fucking closed um so yeah they literally said like it's the hottest group of virgins ever assembled search for intimacy love and maybe their first time having sex what yeah literally colton underwood

when i first heard about this project i immediately called my team and said i want to be involved in some way shape or form and also like why caitlin brizzo caitlin brizzo like famously broke the bachelor bachelorette rules and like fucked someone before fantasy dates i think that's the justice oh they said we've got the virgin in the horror like that it is literally i'm just like i'm just i'm disgusted and i hate it and like we might watch it that's the worst course you are and my final conclusion is i'm okay with unhinged reality tv i love unhinged reality tv that is fine but do it like some give me some narrative give me some story and stop having these people be trapped on an island with each other because i think about like naked

attraction which is the in the uk and first of all we're learning about anatomy we're learning it's very body positive and guess what they're in a studio and then they leave they're not trapped there for all of this time together and i just think that if i was going to like blame anything i think i'm blaming love is blind because i think once you decided that you're going to put people in rooms where they can't see each other they said turns out we can actually like just go to like the dsm fight go to psychology like textbooks and figure out how exactly can we psychologically break these people down and fuck with these people let's do it like this whatever happened to real world whatever happened just real people living in house together the real world

what happens when five people stop being polite and start getting real and like what about the um even like you want to trap them in a house like big brother okay put it on the lot yeah put it on the lot don't have them be like on a 16 hour flight away no no i agree with you this is weird it's it's really but it's also i think the weirder we get that just shows how the network tv is trying to make that swing again because nothing's not as many things are getting made anymore tv show seasons are so much shorter now and now they're trying to just and they're canceling everything and so they're trying to get the cheapest option for what is considered high quality tv yep yep yep yep we're gonna pay you pennies you virgins like it's just like okay

and also just imagine like the old men who sign up for the age gap dating show like that's a list i don't want to i don't want to imagine it so you look at the screen this is the cover photo of the show i saw that on tv and i didn't know what it was on hulu it's a wet stomach with a chair it's a wet stomach and crotch shot with a cherry in the belly button i saw it i i saw it when i was going to watch general hospital of course and i thought that it was one of those summer um free form shows like a scripted summer free form show okay you're not wrong yeah we're gonna take a break and we get back we'll get into but are you wrong

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am I wrong in this situation? And we'll discuss it and then take it to the internet, to Instagram for a vote. Here's the first one. I'm 20 and in college. A few days ago, my girlfriend broke up with me.

She was the first girl I ever dated. I'd only dated guys before, so I hadn't really labeled myself on the sexuality spectrum. She's also the only person I've ever loved and the first person I was intimate with. We're both spiritual Christians, not super religious, but we care about our relationship with God.

We never came out to our families because we both come from very conservative backgrounds. Only a few close friends ever knew. She ended things saying she feels like it's not in God's timing and that he's telling her not to date me right now. She says she still loves me and it hurts her too, but she believes it's what she's supposed to do. I told her I respect her decision even though I'm

heartbroken. The hard part is we're already locked in as roommates for next semester. We live on campus and signed up to room together before the breakup. We can't change it now and honestly I don't think she wants to. On top of that I don't really have other friends here. I go to a Christian college my parents pushed me into and I don't connect with most people because our values are so different. She's been my only real friend even before we started dating. So am I wrong for struggling with the idea of living with her now? Is it selfish to feel like I can't go back to being friends and is it unfair of me to feel stuck when she still wants to be close even though she ended things this is like the most like sapphic tv show i've ever heard of this is so layered this

is like i'm not shocked like this whole being like oh like she's my like closest friend like that's that's not shocking to me whatsoever it happens in general in like not same sex relationships like that person becomes your best friend but also like even if there wasn't anything romantic there in freshman year of college like you tend to like you know have a person yeah but this person is checking off so many so many boxes um including yours why the fuck did you do that my god is this your first time listening to the podcast like because i'm like there's no first of all we already tell you not to live with friends and you're like i'm not gonna live but what if my girlfriend no i think that she didn't think they were gonna break up and this

was their secret way of being together like they wouldn't have to yeah they're at a christian college and they wouldn't have to sneak around i mean how much do you have to sneak like and they were roommates there's literally we reference history books they go they were very close friends it might be one of those situations where you can't have like picking up on the nuance or you can't have like the door well it's same sex so that's what i was about to say like i think that's true and they were roommates yeah that's true that's true they just wanted to fully full circle and they were roommates really like live it i well because they were supposed to be like romantic roommates well in history they are all those i know what i'm saying though is like you

were saying they were trying to no i'm just that they were they were being the meat full circle they could be like we were just roommates yeah um are you in a situation where you're in a like dorm room where you share the same room or is it where you're like in a pod where you both have your own rooms but you like share a bathroom or are you in a apartment together but but i think even if you were in an apartment if you're in an apartment together i would think because yeah you signed a lease i would think you would still have two bedrooms because you wouldn't want your parents to catch on right oh yeah good wonderful call you're right you're right without a doubt unless you guys didn't and then i would say okay this plan was not very well thought

out yeah so i hope i think you're in two different rooms i hope you're in two different rooms in that case i have been in several roommate situations where i never see the other person you know i know that she wants to still be friends and still be close but you need you have boundaries you need boundaries so you just have to tell her with that you have boundaries and you will be able to come and go as you want to and she it's not gonna be like we're gonna sit on the couch and watch tv and oops we're cuddly now no and also this thing about god saying it's not time for y'all to be together right now i believe in god but this is bullshit like she wanted to break up and she wanted a reason to break up what would what would be god's reason

for y'all not being together right now quickly what what's his reason yeah it this to me is like her still wanting to be friends and so wanting to live together and all of that like i just have zero faith that like that's coming from a not coming from a i want my i want to have my cake can eat at two kind of a place like when you are you don't have to be as like so couples in general will talk about the roommate phase when they move in together where it becomes like you don't actually have to put in as much effort about hanging out together and it can just start to feel like roommates but I think like this is gonna have the opposite it's like you're not gonna have to like you know go out of your way to spend time together and plan things and do all of that you're

just gonna be there together and so it's gonna be like okay even if we're not together we're still acting like we're playing house like we're still having things that make us feel like we're together and so then my question would be like okay cool so like what are you doing when you're planning your time out of the apartment like what do you like what is that like this feels like you still want all of the benefits of like our friendship and our romantic relationship together but just like without the like the actual like relationship part and like i can imagine this is like so fucking isolating at a christian college that like no shit she's your only friend like how the fuck do you talk to how do you vet other people who like you can get kicked out of school

you like they'll tell your parent like how do you vet other people to know that like or do you just like withhold a massive part of your college life like do you not introduce because you don't want them to like read into interactions like whatever like you know don't want them to follow you on social media and like see who you follow and like whatever like it's just like you're having to do so much like intel and recon work with like your social interactions that I think you're not gonna be you're not gonna be able to stop that when you're still living with her like I think it's gonna make things more complicated in the sense that like if I get invited over to like my friend and, like, I'm in college, I get invited over to, like, my new friend's apartment, and, like, her

and her roommate, the vibes are, like, really fucking weird. I'm gonna ask. Like, I'm, like, I'm gonna be more suspicious over this, because, like, this doesn't feel like a, you know, something, something going on here. So, I think that, like, it's incredibly selfish of her to, like, like, I think you can say, like, I would love to still be friends, but, like, I understand if that's not okay, but, like, to kind of be, like, I want us to live together, I want us to still be friends, act like that like you are well within your right and it's far more common to be like yeah i actually can't do that like it's a ridiculous assumption on her part that nothing's going to change in that way and you know it might be like an expensive issue where it's like oh shit now we have to like

figure out a new lease and figure out and do all that kind of stuff but i think it is exponentially worse for your mental health to stay in this like by any means like i don't think you're wrong for feeling this way at all and i have questions about her feelings because i'm like yeah i think she still wants to be together i think so too and like i don't want to put this in your head because you're heartbroken but like is does she have like a friend from high school who she recently like is there something there that it's like oh i don't want like i want to be i want to be single for this like window because like there's something i there's another connection there but i want to make sure that this is like ready to come back to and like sometimes you can ask

like that and like some people in some relationships it's like if there's an understanding of like truth and honesty like okay for sure but like just to put you on a back burner and then to think that like your feelings are going to be okay afterwards like it's just like really naive to me yeah i'm sorry you're not wrong and um yeah put school first yeah right now um and i think that the more you are not around her you'll be able to find other friends that are the same as you you just have to explore a little bit more it's going to be hard but i think you'll be able to find people that have the same values that you have if you branch out a little bit there might be clubs that are coded and uh yeah just branch out a little bit and join clubs

and meet more people yeah and even just like see who follows renee rap on instagram like see like there's different levels of accepting and like whether you're a part of the community you're accepting community or just like tolerant of and i think like there's a lot of people in these situations who will outwardly portray being more tolerant than bigots when in reality they're like true feelings that's them hiding where they align with like there's people are going to be doing the same kind of like sneaky work that you are doing to like hide and only show who you are to certain people who have been deemed safe so finding ways to like to flag that to other people figure out how you are doing that to people and then be receptive when to figure out how

other people might be doing that as well all right we're going to take a break and when we get back we'll get to the next one which is an update hear that it's your money calling it wants a promotion elevate your savings with the scotia high interest savings account always earn high regular interest rates that grow the more you save and invest. Conditions apply. Visit scotiabank.com slash H-I-S-A to learn more. Scotiabank. You're richer than you think. Okay, we have an update for the SZA Catwoman write-in. megan and melissa i forgot to i forgot i sent this see i told you the cold medicine was factoring in

and i never expected you to actually read it you've asked if i stand by my takes which i don't because i really never did i'm truly surprised by all those who said i was not wrong all dm writings that melissa read i fully agree with these takes i printed are misguided uninformed and significant and significantly and here's why i don't know what the last part means all of the takes all of these takes i've presented are misguided uninformed and significantly and here's why i've been struggling with ocd a major fear is being wrong and this means not doing adequate adequate research on the subject i'm writing as exposure therapy homework i wrote a silly little pricey while sick about something i knew little about

originally i wasn't going to send it in but i had the bad idea to further the exposure beyond the therapy session by sending the email gilmore girls is the only show i watch because my work is so time consuming i'm both a student and faculty at four-year university but when i had the flu i binge watch television i like the media i consumed while ill but i have no strong opinions other than cordelia cup i do think she's an interesting character i'd love to see more of even if it breaks from the clue homage thus making it unnecessary to set a separate limited series where she solves murder in a residence by the way that was in fact not picked up so we said that yeah in the last episode i don't keep up with this i'm sorry that's the craziest thing like

all of this and you don't even keep up with sisa you keep up with sisa enough to know she was cat woman in a commercial i like her music but i don't have the mental capacity to keep up with celebrity news i only rely on a couple of podcasts including yours to keep me in tune with current pop culture and online discourse as i have someone interested in i listened to these on my long commute i walked back in the room halfway through that commercial being on and i did think for a second it was a trailer and i was confused i don't even know if sid is actually in sag she is you have to be in especially in a major motion picture and the commercial the idea of her being cat woman just stuck with me because i just watched one of them days and because

oh because throughout the spring i was made to consume a plethora of marvel media from the first comics to present day this is my graduate degree in literature and counted as a credit in cultural studies nice i've been trained to be and currently i'm a published creative and academic writer perhaps this is the reason for the coherence although i read that email and i disagree with the claim that the previous email reads coherently in any capacity i appreciate your humoring me and apologize for taking your time i really do love the podcast and have been here from the beginning great hearing your opinions always i knew that was like a tamiflu cold induced and plus a writing uh exercise without a doubt and we read pretty much everything that everybody sends in

we do so not allowed always if yeah not allowed always but we're definitely taking it in so if you send it in there's a high chance it's going to end up in on air so don't just send if you just want to do a writing assignment send it to a fake email address because we will see it or like it's like leaving a voicemail being like i'm just like working on getting over my fear we're gonna hear it like we are going to hear it and like we might end up playing it i remember when we have someone who like just like butt dialed and like literally left like the longest one yes yes and they called like multiple times because i'm like three minutes it was somebody's grandma that she was gonna whoop somebody's ass yeah and we were like damn i wish she could call

back because i'm actually deeply curious i was i was invested i was into every part wow well i'm glad you're feeling better um and sisa is in sag yeah she has to be um thank you for the update all right let's get into uh but are they wrong this is when we pick some person place or thing that is wrong and share it with everyone here's my wrong of the week and is the texas republican legislatures so i want to start with an image it's an image that went viral an image that tells a story far deeper than just a single moment in time the image is one of a woman a state representative sleeping on a cold marble floor in the texas state capitol she's wrapped in a blanket a pink pillow beneath her head next to her a book on american ideas and a

big texas flag the pillow reads y'all means all this is the story of state representative nicole Collier, and her story is a powerful lesson in the dignity and the dignity, courage and the ongoing fight for democracy. You might know the headlines. Texas Democrats fled the state to block a vote on a controversial redistricting bill. They returned, a quorum was achieved and a legislative session could finally begin. But then the Texas Republican leadership imposed a new rule of the returning Democrats. If they wanted to leave the House floor, they had to sign a permission slip and be shadowed 24-7 by a Department of Public Safety officer. It sounds absurd, like something out of a political satire, and most of the Democrats wanting to get back to their lives

complied, but Nicole Collier refused. She refused to sign a slip. She refused the police escort, and because of that refusal, she was confined to the House floor. For over 24 hours, she stayed there, choosing to sleep on a chair and then on the floor rather than surrender her dignity. Why did she do this? She said it best herself. I refuse to sign away my dignity as a duly elected representative just so Republicans can control my movements and monitor me with police escorts. her protest was an act of profound civil disobedience it transformed a seemingly small procedural matter into a monumental stand for human rights it exposed the surveillance the intimidation and the performative power play that was happening she was making a statement that

a legislator should not be treated like a criminal for peacefully protesting a bill she believes is harmful to her constituents. She also showed us that freedom and dignity are not for sale, not even for the price of a permission slip. She became a political prisoner by choice and in doing so she became a hero. Her action was so powerful it sparked a cascade of solidarity. Lawmakers stayed with her. Protesters gathered outside the Capitol chanting, let her out. The image of a Black woman being held captive for standing up for her community resonated deeply with people across the country. But to fully understand her protest, you have to understand what she was fighting against. This wasn't just a piece of paper. It was about the redistricting plan itself.

Every 10 years after the census, states redraw their political maps to account for population changes. The process is supposed to ensure their fair representation, but too often it's used for gerrymandering, the practice of drawing district lines to give one political party an unfair advantage. And that's exactly what Democrats and civil rights advocates say the Texas Republican plan does. The goal is to create up to five new Republican-leaning seats, which would significantly increase their power in Congress. But they can't do that without undermining the voices of the people who are driving the state's population growth, the very community that Nicole Collier represents. Let's look at the numbers as shared by her colleagues. Representative Vince Perez,

in Texas, there's one congressional seat for every 430,000 white residents. But for Latinos, notes, it's one seat for every 1.2 million. And for Black Texans, it's one seat for every 2 million. The plan would make it even worse. This is what's known as packing and cracking. They pack minority voters into a handful of safe districts, concentrating their power so they can't influence nearby districts. They then crack other minority communities, splitting them up and merging them into sprawling majority white districts, effectively silencing their vote. This isn't just a political tactic. It's an act to discriminate that directly violates the Voting Rights Act and the very principles of fair representation. It's a strategy that says,

we will not let your numbers translate into political power. And this is why the Republican approach is so wrong. First, their actions are a transparent power grab. They're not focused on serving the public. They're focused on enriching their own power for the next decade. When a party has to change the rules, issue civil rights warrants, and demand police escorts just to pass a bill, it's a clear sign that they're not operating with the consent of the governed. Second, their methods are undemocratic. The use of police escorts is not just unnecessary, it's an act of humiliation and intimidation it treats elected officials who disagree with them as they are criminals it normalizes authoritarian behavior it's an abuse of power plain and simple

and finally it's wrong because it undermines the foundational promise of our republic that every person's voice matters and that our government should be representative of the people it serves representative collier's protest wasn't just about refusing an escort it was refusal to go along quietly with the system designed to silence the very people who sent her to Austin. The story of Nicole Collier sleeping on the House floor is a stark reminder that democracy is fragile. It's not just about big elections. It's about small, everyday fights, the fights for dignity, for representation, and for justice. Representative Collier stood up and stood on business, and by doing so, she gave voice to her community and to everyone who has ever felt

silence she showed us that courage isn't always a dramatic speech or a public rally sometimes it's just a woman and a pillow and the will to refuse to surrender damn you were right to write that at 6 a.m before you went to bed that was that ending was beautiful thank you and now we have our governor who's saying okay fight fire with fire we're redistricting and we'll get those five seats back and new york is saying that they're going to do the same thing too yeah and i i just i really do need republicans they're i mean they don't have a choice they're about to get very familiar with gavin newsom and when he says fight fire with fire he he means he's gonna light a bazooka on fire he's gonna light he's gonna send a cannon yeah yeah like that you he's he he is

goodbye oc yeah no like legitimately like he's about he's about to be like i'm bombing orange county and cutting it off and putting it into the water like fuck you all so you know well yeah it's it is this is it's all fucked it's all deeply fucked yeah and they made it illegal for her to leave yeah which is is nobody like concerned even the people who voted mike you're not concerned for all these like brand new things that like regulations and laws and things that you hmm you got to storm the capital yeah like yeah okay okay so similar to my hot take I am running it back to another person who has been talking about on this podcast because I'm not gonna let them rest and sometimes when I run it back I think it's important because

I don't want anyone to think that these people have improved they have gotten better they've like learned from their mistakes or they've even acknowledged that these things are mistakes if these people have no haters i am dead okay so we are running it back with madison pruitt and her husband trizzy trout grant trout so um shout out to barb peter weber's mom who was the bachelor that season she when peter picked maddie because maddie was originally who he picked barb barb was like distraught she was like no go get hannah ann and then she kept crying saying bring her home bring her home to me and everyone's like so barb must have seen something that we did because you said you cannot marry this girl i hate this girl essentially um so

they have been facing backlash as they should for saying it's going to be hilarious to spank their baby did you say hilarious to spank their baby yeah what yeah megan uh-huh brand new sentence brand new sentence so um like like there's actually organizations that we can't alert to this like that's the part that i'm like this is the privilege that they have to get on a fucking podcast mic and like say shit like this and like from their multi-bajillion dollar fucking mansion and like nothing happens and i'm like okay for sure for sure um so they welcomed their baby daughter which i have to assume this is a bible name hosanna yeah for a bit when i just heard it being spoken i thought it was like a josefina josefina

kind of a i thought it was in spanish and then i'm seeing it spelled out now and now i was like oh this i think is biblical so they spoke about this on their podcast which do they have sponsors like how how the fuck are we doing this stay true they probably have the ice which i have to contact because they're in dating the podcast that i produce ice they probably got those christian ones so there there's a lot of them that we say no to that they're saying yes to and by the way if anyone if you ever hear like an ad that you're like it's not read by us and it sounds like wild and like so anti us send us a message those are not we have like a list of things we don't want and sometimes they still slip through and they put them we don't put them on the podcast um so

they spoke about whether they'd spank their daughter when they were older and they said that um they would because it is supported in the bible but then grant goes on to say laughing it's gonna be hilarious when we get to spank her and he says the lord's discipline is always off the heels of disobedience or sin so think about it when you have a child you don't just discipline them for being good and obeying you right like if hosanna obeys us we're not just like come here girl all right pull him down get that you know what mama get her which will be hilarious by the way when we start spanking hosanna which we will on the record because the bible clearly says folly is the bound of the bound up in a child but discipline drives it far away and then

maddie chimes in saying it also specifically says discipline with a rod well people could say you discipline them with timeouts hold on it says a rod which is a metaphor and then that in the comments and then they've also taken there's this thing that's like uh spare the rod spoil the child but like it's a metaphor like i that's a verse in the bible but it's a metaphor saying that if you don't punish but it's not meaning like actual beating your child with a rod well it just means discipline them and like the way that people can these same people can point to things in the bible and be like that's a metaphor that's an allegory but then other things are completely literal and i'm just like you're just like that is just picking and fucking choosing it's just like don't

let your child go around doing whatever they want because they'll turn into a brat that's what that means it does not mean beat them no make sure that your respect your child and teach your child have to respect other people and your child will respect you like but um then Jana Kramer

who was on she's like a she was on One Tree Hill is how I know her and she also had like a country music career

she had the podcast she's she I would say is like the country music equivalent of like um I mean I wouldn't say this but some people might say like a Caitlin Bristow

like she's like over shares talks about her has talked about her divorces and infidelity on podcasts with her cheating husband

where people are like whoa this is kind of this kind of feels like a private conversation i i don't know that much better but like i always enjoyed her on um one tree hill i thought she was right that's what she was on yeah okay um and so she her and i don't know if it was two friends or two guests or whatever but she they were talking about on their podcast and one of the women not janna was basically being like i really don't like how people are saying that like it's hitting and they both were like i mean i mean it is hitting like i wouldn't you know i'm not judging you but i'd be like that's what and this person

was like so deeply uncomfortable and upset and hurt by people saying that her hitting her child was hitting that i'm just like this like mentality of like trying to differentiate between all of this and like seeing this discourse open i'm like more people should be talking about like the fact that you are so hurt that people would call that hitting when he's talking about how hilarious it's going to be too he's talking about hitting his baby is just like what the fuck and being excited to do so she's quite literally an infant also it's perverted it's weird also if you are someone that believes in the bible which these people claim they do but they just take it and interpret it in the way that they they see fit to live their lives then you would not think that it would be

hilarious because that would mean that any time that you were being disciplined by god then you think that he's laughing at you which is dark yeah that's really dark when you put it like that i never yeah i'm not so that's what they're thinking it's just that yeah god's laughing at us because we do things wrong you're weird yeah really fucking weird really really weird and And I like hate that, like the shit that they have said that their kid will eventually like see online. But at the same time, I have zero, I have like zero faith in the capability of them as like healthy parents that I'm like, it might also be kind of comforting at a certain

age to be like, oh, wow, you did all of, you said all this shit publicly. It's not in my, this isn't like, people are going to believe me because like you, you put all of this out there. You put this business out there when I was like literally an infant and like this is all like fucked up and it is my purse. It's like you shouldn't be doing any of this. But like the fact that you're doing it publicly and so unabashedly is like, you know, I also hope that like when someone eventually calls CP, like they've got they've got the record. They've got this shit there because like I don't like Maddie Pruitt. But like the fact her husband was the one who said that to me, I'm I'm like.

I would have immediately called him out and said, would be funny about that. But we wouldn't be having this conversation. No, but like you giggling, thinking about the idea, talking about pulling her pants down and hitting her butt is like really perverted to me. Like there's like no in there because in this hypothetical, like in reality, she is a baby who's not done anything wrong. There is no like you should never be excited for your kid to make a mistake that you think warrants physically spanking them. Like that is not something that should be like a fun and exciting thing for you. like i'm i'm looking at you in a way that i'm like oh okay you're not changing our baby's diaper anymore like i'm i'm deeply concerned about her well-being with you and like goodbye like

disgusting she's not having those same thoughts no that's what i'm saying so to me that's where i think they're both completely like incapable of being good parents yes because her essentially being like well we're not doing with a rod and i'm like perverts disgusting no better than i sent you the video but i didn't think you watched it no better than spider-man i was scared to watch it well i didn't know how it was gonna you said it's really good until the end then i was like well i don't want to watch it about the worst thing that could happen did the kid fall no it was perverted no i don't want did the weird the spider-man upside down thing and then his mom pulled his mask down and kissed him on the lips this is a three-year-old and this was a photo

shoot i'm so glad i didn't open it but like as soon as you said it was good until the end i was like i don't want to know it was fun like he was like crawling on walls and stuff like it was disgusting and then at the end that's how it ended and there are a lot of people in the comments defending here's the thing you want to kiss your kid on the mouth don't do that's not my problem like that's not my i'm not in your family it's not my problem i think like germ wise like kids are really gross like with like kids are nasty i don't know why you as an adult would be like yeah i want to i i'm going to subject myself to like that level of germs but like this is your you can't take something that is like sexual and like romantic and then make it

like family like yes i'm not making your kissing your kid on the mouth perverted when you put it in the context of a romantic relationship also those two actors were dating they were fucking when you put it in that context you're the pervert yep now suddenly kissing your kid on the mouth is perverse yes good god can't believe you sent that to me well i saw it and i well evens out when i showed you the sinners gulf my for you page is like trying to make up for it because i'm just getting all these glad that i clicked on the other one on my computer so then it wouldn't go to my for you it wouldn't be in my algorithm because i do not want that i just think like because that person's literally never seen sinners but i just think at that point like don't make an edit to a

song if you're not even going to look up what the movie's about or like what the what the edit of the whole thing is that's the same reason i couldn't get behind the tyrant stuff it just feels like call another form of colonization this that the the the sad yes the the that part of it that i mean i think like when you take it out of the context of like the song i saw like a lot of think pieces about the what does it mean to like have such a strong juxtaposition between like these lyrics and then these lyrics like how do those like relate or whatever which is like interesting but like when you only use this part of the edit you don't have the whole story of the song but also it's you don't have the whole story but you're saying it would be better if

she would have done it this way oh you mean the people saying just put this as a full song oh i thought you meant just like when people were using the beginning of tyrant no no when they're saying just use this as a song and then taking it and making it mean what they want it to mean and then it just felt like a form of colonization like you're taking this to change it to be what you wanted to do while taking it out the connotation of what it actually is well and also like what we talked about before which was like so irritating like the the song exists like you can you can listen to the these and like this just also tells me you know nothing about Beyonce's discography and then you just go oh I heard this clip and like this is how I want it to be done

and I'm like how do you know that's not how it's done like how do you and you like these like this is not like oh well I finally like a Beyonce song I go no no you not you like two Beyonce songs now Go listen to them both. And that's what I'm saying. It's like the same thing where they're taking the movie out of connotation and then giving it a meaning that it that's not the meaning of what's going on. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, just gives me the spooks.

Yeah. We went on a long tangent. Sorry. Oh, that's the end. Sorry. I was like, what happens after this? That is it. That is it for this episode.

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