Don't Blame Me! - BAIW: Vote to Make Your Ancestors Proud

Episode Date: November 4, 2024

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Search free until August 31st. Visit ancestry.ca for details. Terms apply. Welcome to a brand new episode of But Am I Wrong, the show where you write in to ask if you're wrong in a situation. We share moments in our lives that we may have been wrong about or just rant, and then we nominate somebody in the public sphere. The sphere.

Did you see the sphere in Vegas when the Harris-Waltz campaign took it over? No. I can never tell what's real and what's not. It's real. It came from them. Oh, okay. It's not a meme-ified.

Oh, I love that then. Yes. We have all these segments. Melissa talked about it, but our first segment and actually actually before we even talk most important part is we want you to participate so we put up votes let's not talk about the fact that they didn't go up yet um we they'll be up by the time you're hearing this we put up votes on our instagram story so you can vote who you think was wrong and who you agree with and all that stuff and then we read those results and we also

ask that you write in messages of like why you voted the way you did your thoughts your feelings and we want to share those opinions and we read all of those out loud and discuss on our see you next tuesday episode which comes out on tuesday so the the the best way to stay up to date is you know listen to the episode and i do my very best when i post the votes to phrase it in a way that you'll know what we're talking about and using the image as context clues so you're like let me let me know check let me remember what this what this meant and make sure you're following on instagram because there's no consistency of when those get posted so you just gotta keep checking and see when the highlights are there and vote vote vote first up we have what am i wrong where we propose

a hot take a lukewarm take something we might have done in our lives that we won't know if we are in the wrong about and i am first and i have two but i'm gonna start with this other one because the other one's very evergreen and my hot take is let's stop fucking with the dead if the dead want to fuck with us they'll let us know you're too horny for this you're disgusting you know how i feel about ghosts i don't know why you didn't even think i know i know on the table so i went to paris a couple years ago i'm like oh did you like oh god not that paris not opposed but i went to a different paris i went to i went to the paris city um and like what i was telling people that i was going or even like people I was seeing there that are you going to the catacombs and I was

like what's that I look it up and I go underground graves here's the other thing I'll say fundamentally as living breathing alive human beings you know where we don't belong under fucking ground no no no no no no anything that says it go it's so safe whatever recently in Colorado there are people who do tours of mine shafts I'm so sorry I'm so sorry I'm an Irish American you think I'm willingly going to go in my father worked in a steel mines coal mines you think i am going to go in there when most of the people he worked with didn't even survive i someone who he was able to have children like that's fucking insane to me that like this shit is so dangerous people do cave diving whatever this is like oh but like you know the earth is the earth also has earthquakes the

earth is fuck stop fucking with it stop fucking with the structural integrity of it like that's fucking crazy to me and so the combination of let's go underground i don't even feel comfortable i go i'm so sorry we're on top of graves and also hollow i'm a little i'm a little concerned but by no means am i ever going under there and they're like oh yeah people have parties under there like they like you know they break all the crazy and this popped up for me because i saw the mission in riverside which i have been to like that's what like they do like the orientation and stuff when you go to school in riverside because like it's like the and i say this with just truth and facts in my heart the only nice part and so like you are a little bit bamboozled because if

you take this like one specific drive you're like wow this is beautiful and if you go and the sun is down it's not 114 degrees and just like dead sprawling so fucking hot and like just horror it's just it's not that horrible and you're like wow beautiful so i've been there we've also had like sorority things there and they announced that they're opening up their catacombs for tours and i said i'm sorry you have catacombs i didn't want to know that and now you want me to go like no and again of all places i'm not going underground in riverside to just like walk through people's great like i already think like sure people who are like very interested in like going to like uh cemeteries or burial sites or like remembrance sites that are about like

specific incidences where people are buried there and like to honor that but just to walk through because like this is so cool i'm it's you're like walking through someone's house like leave the if they wanted us they would make it abundantly clear i don't think we need to go fucking around with them and then also people litter in there and i just think i'm like why why are you doing this why are you doing this what what is the market for people who want to fuck with the dead and also want to go underground to do so to me that's a death wish you're not wrong at all no thank you as much as i want to see be experienced by a ghost well they're seeking you out i want them to come to me not me go to them and disrupt where they are because they're tied to where

they are and there's a reason uh-huh there is also a city i saw this on tiktok and then i looked it up but i don't remember where it was i don't remember it was oregon or washington one of those places on top of us there was a city that like was shops and things and then they built on top of the new city on top of it and the reason they built on top was because it kept flooding where it was so you know like there's bodies down there but you can like go in go underground and see the stores and shops and and everything like the city is still intact underneath and i'm just like i don't want to go there's a reason why you only stay at the top and what if it rains structurally unsound if you mean to tell me i can take a tour of the underground i don't feel like

i'm on solid footing i would actually like to go somewhere where it's not totally hollow and like you might say oh that's because you live in in an earthquake country no new york just had an earthquake you bitches should be more afraid of the earthquake in breaking and separating and then also something that i told mots was his irrational fear until i did some research and turns out it's completely rational and it's been added to my list of my very plausible fears sinkholes what do you mean what do you mean we're just gonna fuck around with this shit sinkholes can just pop up out of nowhere and suck down a whole house yeah you might not even know that there's like something like that underneath you but to know that that's a mission in riverside i could have gone my entire

life not knowing that i had had brunch on top of catech like no no no no no no and that is not a tourist destination let them sleep i can't stand it that's mine i agree the 2026 chevrolet tracks is the stylish suv for those on the move and with the standard chevy safety assist package you have the backup to handle every turn with confidence the 2026 tracks start your build at chevrolet.ca all right this is coming up the day before election day so you okay yep so i just have reasons a rant about voting and why you should do it i'm just gonna catch you know some people that may be listening to this podcast and you may be new and you don't know how passionately we feel

about this. And I just feel like it is my duty to share. So the reasons to vote. One, as I just mentioned, is also a civic duty. This is something that every citizen of the United States that is in good standing with the United States, I guess, I don't know, I feel like anybody should be able to vote it is important to remember that we are fortunate to be able to participate in a free democratic election voting is a privilege that not everybody has and also someone running trump wants to change it so it's no longer something that we're able to participate in um i know we have a lot of listeners in this age group of 18 to 24 this particular age group has lagged behind other generations in voting rates so your vote matters the power that college students have is

to shift this election and we should not be ignoring that this is also according to a ton of polls this is a close election which i don't understand how but is a close election also you're not just voting on presidents. You're voting on ballot propositions. Your vote affects the criminal justice system. We're electing the sheriffs, district attorneys, judges. All these people make the decisions like how the police force is used, about body cams, about the officers and deputies that they're hiring, the kind of sentences that people get, or rehabilitation for other people. So like your vote directly impacts that. Housing and homelessness. When you vote for state and local officials such as city council, county board, state senate, assembly, you're

choosing the people who are making the decisions on how to address affordable housing and support the people who are unhousing your community. Climate change. You choose elected officials at every level who set and review climate change policies and make decisions that impact us and the future of this planet reproductive rights your vote chooses state and national representatives who will make laws that impact your reproductive choices and freedom to access reproductive health care again this is something that the republicans are taking are actively taking away uh you're choosing your representatives at every stage of government, not those of us that have greater wealth or systematic advantages. Also, immigration is a big thing, and I'm not talking about

securing our borders. I'm talking about influencing immigration reform, including determining the future policies like family reunification and political asylum. It also impacts our everyday life and families. This decides where your tax dollars goes. You're also fighting against racism and discrimination. You're fighting against people that don't believe in trans rights and gay rights. We're here to protect our rights as voters. There's also a lot of states that are enacting, this is actively happening with gerrymandering, where they're allowing for basically racism to happen in states like Georgia should be a blue state, Texas should be a blue state, but they redraw district lines. So then they're making it so that Republicans have a more

fair advantage in that way. So I want everybody listening to vote like your ancestors are breathing down your fucking neck. The majority of our audience are women. We also have a lot of people part of the queer community. We have a lot of people of color. We need to be protecting ourselves as a community. So get out there and vote and also be educated on the things that aren't just president and vice president. Also, I keep seeing this rhetoric that you're canceling out your husband or boyfriend's vote because they don't know who you're voting for when you get into the booth and unless you are taking financial advice from share seven sprinkle sprinkle and are using this man to run up your own bank account divorce or break up with this man immediately

i don't think that this trend is funny like i don't feel i find no humor in it i hope a lot of them are just like joking but i also don't think that it's like a funny thing to to joke about i saw a serious ad about it i will though i mean i don't have an issue with the ads because a lot of women don't their husbands have told them that they they will know who they vote for and so they they fearmonger them into not voting and like i saw a woman who voted for the first time in her life and she's in her 80s because her husband died and so that's beautiful and i'm not i'm not opposed to the ads but i think people who are like oh this is a funny trend for me to participate in and if it's like not serious i'm like either it's a cry for help or like

really insensitive to joke about because like the relation these are not healthy relationships in which these women are not allowed to vote yep so and then um i'm gonna quote somebody that i probably would not will never quote again andrew yang came out and said he has the chalk on your face you know the the yang gang is still strong i don't know that that's a lie i don't think the gang is still strong it is he has a lot of first of all the yang gang is strong because it's me and Bowen Yang. It's not me and Andrew Yang. Andrew Yang, my cousin, is part of this. Okay. Anyway, Andrew Yang said, at the time, people were convinced that they knew why I had started a third party. Oh, Andrew Yang wants to run for president. Then and now, people are asking me to

run just about every day. And of course, I want to make positive change with good policy, but I'm a math guy. And in 2021, I believe that if I were to run for president, I'd be more likely to do harm than good. I was convinced Donald Trump would be the Republican nominee. And because my supporters lean younger, I thought that if I were on the ballot in 2024, I'd increase the chances of Donald Trump winning, which is the opposite of what I wanted. But you should not vote for third party presidential candidates this cycle if you live in a swing state it might feel like you're voting you're conscious or voting for something different in reality you'll be voting for a lesser version of the status quo and that's something that we should all be striving to avoid we deserve

better i don't think donald trump is the path to get there vote accordingly i would like to show my shirt yes it says madam president if you're nasty i've had it since hillary ran since she was called a nasty woman um but hopefully everybody gets out there and does their part and votes for kamala harris and you vote down the ballot for things that align to make this world better so get out and vote um and i know a lot of people who are like oh i'm in a blue state it's totally fine i think that i did not vote for joe biden in the primary like i will say that i didn't and every and i still voted i voted and i did not vote for him and i did not abstain i did a like and then also every time i was asked from polling stuff from the dnca i responded to everything

told them exactly how i was feeling and doing all of that and like that is political advocacy in the for a presidential election when we were up against a fascist like that's what that is and the idea of like i'm just seeing a lot of like specifically i want to state it's like white people like if you are if you're palestinian and you're like i cannot stomach voting for anyone this year and you are not going on your platform and telling people who are not who are not a part of your community do not vote that is i can i will never be in a spot to tell you if you can stomach that or not but when i see people who look like me being like no we have to let this implode and it's like we're not going to be touched in that way that is such a privilege coming from

such a privileged statement to like i saw someone on reddit say it's people who think that they refuse to pick and they refuse to pull the lever in the trolley problem and they say that absolves them from it like it's not what direction what people do and it's like no i'm not gonna do that So therefore, like, just ask anybody who did not vote for Hillary Clinton if they felt morally superior afterwards. Like, ask anybody who felt like it just didn't happen. It didn't exist. And like, it's again, the phrase cutting off your nose to spite your face. Like, it is just like, to me, I get really disappointed when I see white women doing this, because like, as a group of white women, what we do is we make fun of white dudes for being fucking obsessed with the Joker and being obsessed with Heath Ledger as the Joker all the time.

I'm like, I want to watch the world burn. And I'm like, you're doing that. Like, you are doing this, like, very, like, sinister, maniacal kind of I want to watch the world implode and feel self-righteous and then hope it comes back together. And, like, that is wildly dangerous. And it also harms everybody, even the people you are saying that you're trying to protect in this. It's not this is not a time for you to take us like we took a stand.

And this is the first time we got a new fucking candidate. it that does not fucking happen like this was a win so to to just say like a big fuck you in the face i i like because i don't think joe i don't think joe biden would have won like i don't and so like we are given a second fucking opportunity and chance and just to say fuck it to that is insane to me and like again even if you're in a blue state and you're like oh no it's fine my vote whatever you know there's report people burning ballot boxes and all this stuff like just we cannot be so cocky and so comfortable our ancestors fought for our right to vote and to throw that away specifically again we have some people who i'm gonna speak to the white people because that's

i'm white like we were the first of the women who were allowed to vote and that wasn't that long ago like and so just to just kind of like to speak to to black people like there are still ancestors of ours that are alive today that were around when they could not vote yeah and like like you said like our ancestors alive or dead like the way that they would have every right to fucking slap us across the face and be like what the fuck are you doing and like it's the same thing i feel of people spouting anti-birth control propaganda like all of these things like we fought for this shit and then to just throw it away and give it to a man who wants to take that away from us and we have to fight for that again it's far too important and to claim that you care about people

who will be even more harmed under trump is like yeah it's it's shitty but i've seen i've seen a lot of people who have like had an awakening um about being like literally had been campaigning for jill stein and then realized like it all came to clicked for them and they just voted for kamala and i'm like oh thank god but yeah it's like it's really terrifying and uh a lot a lot of what you'll see is a lot of like russian bots who are participating in this to make people be like yeah they're agreeing with me they're on my side like these aren't even real people and specifically palestinians say like please don't let him be president please vote for her please vote for what like and you have to put on your own mask before you can put on someone else's

and again like he objectively is exponentially worse outcomes for domestic and foreign policy and if you don't vote for her and i say this again white people if you do not vote for her a third party vote is a vote for him it is you might not think it is morality i promise you if he wins it won't you will not feel morally superior you will not you will feel that guilt so don't like you're not going to avoid it you won't feel guilty if she wins you'll feel guilty if he does yeah and then you should feel guilty all right where we're going to take a break and we get back we'll get into but are you wrong in toronto every arrival is a statement and nothing says it better than this

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why don't you tell them what the requirements are well I pull it up for but are you wrong please send an email to but am I wrong pod at gmail.com keep it to 300 words or less include all parties please use fake names and when you use those fake names if you're going to use characters please make sure it correlates to what your story so we don't make assumptions about people that you don't mean to actually you know give us hints to who they are also please include pronouns if you'd like and ages ages are required ready yes okay hi megan and melissa i know i'm wrong but i just need you to tell me and hear everyone else tell me i'm wrong this is also very acceptable just let everyone know like we a lot of the time we know that you know because you're writing to us

or you're calling us whatever that is like if you've listened for a while like you know us So this is also fun. I, 24, she hurriedly dated this guy, 24, for two years and we broke up a year ago. I haven't dated anyone in that time because I spend all my time working or with friends and I live with my parents in a small town. Anyways, I found out who he's dating and I used another Instagram account to look through her entire profile and stories. I don't want to date my ex, so I'm not jealous about that. I was just curious and now I can't stop searching her profile. I know I'm wrong because it's definitely unhealthy. So I guess the question is, am I wrong for stalking my ex's new girlfriend instagram i think yes i hot take it's not wrong unless it

feels wrong like because i think like sometimes like i stalk people that i'm like oh i haven't thought about this person in a while but if you know that like how you feel about it afterwards is not good then that is wrong to do like i think being curious about who someone ended up with like i don't i don't have people like i didn't date at all like oh this is i'm curious about this if you have feelings about it and you think about it and it becomes a part of your routine, might I suggest joining our Patreon? Might I suggest joining a book club? Like routines are dangerous and diabolical. And once you get into the habit of something, and I say this as someone who has like a compulsive skin picking issue, like once your brain starts to

pay attention to those patterns and you don't have to think about like those kinds of things or you're stressed so you just pull your phone out and you start looking at this or whatever that is or you just log on to instagram and then the name is there and so it's a part of your routine you're used to it that's what people watch like stay watching shitty fucking shows stay listening to like racist fucking podcasts that's why people are still fucking addicted to that what do they call the uh the tote morning toast girls or whatever like people just get obsessed with the routine of it and so like you have to snap it out it's like a groundhog day movie you have to like one day you don't look and you're like oh my life is a lot better and the next day you also don't look

and then finally if you look again you're like oh wow my day is worse direct correlation to that but like we talk about like how can we like make a good habit of like taking my vitamins and like working out every day we also need to talk about like how to break a bad habit it's like it takes a while to get into the habit of something take a while to get out of the habit of something too but if you don't feel bad about it if she seems like cool and you'd like want to be friends with and she's like what if she seemingly she's public yeah so like does she have followers is she just interesting i think that the writer is more just interested who the boyfriend chose after her and now and you're probably comparing yourself it's not about jealousy

of being with him but comparing yourself to her that makes it you feel like this is unhealthy to do or like wondering like if i had did something different or if i had been more like her than me and him might still be together it's not a jealousy thing it's just what if what if what is what about her is intriguing to him or it could also be about making yourself feel better be like he was such a loser and look who he ended up with there can be a myriad of reasons why why you're doing this my question is did you make this instagram account specifically to do this or did you already have it created it's already created i have an instagram account where i look at people all the time that i don't particularly like anymore but i still want

to know what's going on in their lives i miss when we shared the finsta and then when one of us wouldn't clear it we'd be like who are you looking at and then we would start looking on my phone and then it would go back up to the top and you'd be like wait why'd you look at that I got in search I was curious who you're looking at yeah I just for me I've moved on to I just have my festa on my computer so like it's not as accessible as it was it's not a part of your routine you have to go out of your way to do that and it doesn't mean that like it changes how you use your social media on your phone in general because that's what I find hard yes and I also have time limits on my phone too and so i don't want to waste my time on my finsta when i could

be on actual instagram yeah i only have an hour a day for instagram so i'm also curious if you're looking to date because like if you have time to stalk spurs on instagram like that's not if you're looking to date this is not getting you any closer to that so like even downloading a dating app that Like you might not be ready to like go on actual dates yet, but you like want to talk to someone. But for me, when I'm like in a bad habit of something that I know is not good for me, like an immediate redirection is hard because then I have to be creative and then I have to use part of my brain.

And if like it's a habit, I don't have to be creative. Like I just it's easy and it's just like it's a super easy to slip back into that. But like coming up with projects and being like, oh, I'm going to knit a blanket. And so it's like, well, I have to get this much done or I'm going to read this many books this year or whatever like something that you set a goal for yourself or like a screen limit where it's like exactly like if I'm doing this it is detrimental to this other thing I'm trying to get done not just like oh my psyche because like unfortunately we don't always think that far ahead and into that of being like I'm now going to have to not meet this goal of this accomplishment

that I'm going to do it's like a very direct cause and effect is easier than like the slow generation is that the word of like your self-worth you know like that slow feeling like the generation yeah degeneration of your self-worth like that that's harder to track in that way agree but also don't beat yourself up about this like every everybody has done this and everybody's had to quit it too yeah just don't if you notice any obsessive things that's when it's really a problem if you look i think more than like When they just pop, like you're like, oh, I forgot about this. But if you're, if you've looked twice in a month, done.

Let alone twice in a week. All right, next one. Hey, Megan and Melissa, I'm 25 they them and just moved into a new apartment. I absolutely love it. And it's perfect for me. My dream apartment. The only issue is that the hallway is super dirty and smells absolutely terrible. I've lived here for two months now and not once has the property manager cleaned it.

Like dirt, cat hair, and spider webs all over. graphic if you don't like weird unknown things oh no fast forward last week there was a wet unidentified substance that had dripped down a full flight of stairs and smelled completely vile there are five other apartments that share this indoor hallway and it seems like no one else cares or at least i haven't heard anyone complain i finally got fed up and began cleaning the hallway myself, which has made me feel better. However, the issue is the smell is definitely coming from someone's apartment, like a cat pee, never been cleaned litter box, musty kind of smell. It comes and goes, but man, is it bad. Would I be wrong to A, slip a note under the suspect's door saying

they've got to get it together? What would be the kindest way of doing so? Or B, tell the property manager that something's gotta change. Am I wrong for cleaning the hallway myself instead of saying something? I'm not sure what else there is to do in this situation. I know the property manager is supposed to be cleaning, but I know that they also may not have much they can do about the smell. At this point, it's somewhat embarrassing too, as anyone I have over to the apartment usually comments on how gross the hallway is and how bad it smells. I just can't live like this. any thoughts would be appreciated. It is the landlord's job to keep all common areas clean. And if they are not doing this, then you need to either take legal action against that,

against the landlord, or actually this should be the first step is to contact the Department of Housing wherever you live. Because if they're not doing what they're supposed to do, this is actually against the law they can be fined by the city and so you should be making a complaint yeah and notoriously in big cities i don't know where you are there's so many housing disputes and stuff that they're really backlogged i think that you should do that and then immediately contact the department of health because like this is it that is something that is a much more pressing issue they their turnaround time is much quicker same thing with um unfortunately unfortunately like animal like endangered animals and stuff like that those kinds of things of like

oh there's tend to be a little bit more responsive than like if there's animal animal endangerment unfortunately that becomes prioritized over cps is much more backlogged so like there are times where like things can fall into multiple categories and you check off all of those boxes because some will be more backlogged than others don't touch don't clean anything you should be taking first of all like that is that's so dangerous your your your own health but you should be taking pictures of everything and filing that with your reports yeah like even if you have like a respirator and you have like you've got industrial you've got full ppe gear and like all of that kind of stuff if you don't know what the substances are and like what you're putting on them like the chemical wise

like that's really bad and i know this you said this is your dream apartment it's not your dream apartment because this is the hallway so fundamentally like you cannot make this work because it's not your job so like if the property manager of the land like if they do not get this together you can get out of your lease and like i know that sucks to be like i love this place i don't want to move i just want it to be fixed if it was going to get fixed it would have been fixed it's not within your control i'm extremely against sliding a note under a door to do this because a they're both most common things would be that this is uh someone who is very old someone who is disabled someone who is not doing well like mental health wise someone who does not have the

physical or mental capacity to clean at the level it could have a hoarding problem whatever that is like morally totally like not not a moral issue it is not uh unknown to them anyone who has like problems with cuddliness and they might get used to this but they know that there is a problem there that's not something that like it's never occurred to them and one neighbor saying something is going to fundamentally change that it's just not going to happen and then the much less likely scenario is this person is doing something incredibly unsafe in their apartment and like now you've inserted yourself into that i don't think that's likely at all but a lot of people tend to um you know like that rug lady on tiktok like to prefer the true crime version of that and

if that's what will get you to not fucking say anything then pretend your neighbor's fucking Jeffrey Dahmer like just it is not whatever it is it is not within your control whether they are old whether it is like a fun a choice that they're making whether it's an inability to maintain and do something like that none of those things you can do anything about and saying something to them you you will not have been the first person I think it's crazy that you don't you haven't like met your neighbors who are also talking about this i wonder how easy it was for you to get your apartment is this because this is an issue it's not a brand new issue but specifically for like an unidentified substance on the walls like this can also be making you sick let alone if you

touch it or put chemicals on it or whatever that is so like that needs to be of utmost importance and like if that means pausing like buying pictures to go in your picture frames and like hanging stuff in your like stop decorating your apartment and focus on this part of this because you might have to move and like that sucks and I have been there I moved my first nope yes my first apartment in LA Park La Brea if you're from LA you have lived here you know baby it's almost everybody's first apartment and I lived on like the 27th fucking floor and one of the giant towers huge and on the 27th floor cockroaches everywhere the fact that they were able to get there from the trash which is in the basement all the way up it was horrible and my hallway which I think is

a given every apartment in Los Angeles every hall every indoor hallway smells like soup and like that's just like what it is and like it's usually because like your neighbors are making soup and I had the most lovely amazing very kind neighbors and my they would they sprayed the building sprayed for cockroaches in my apartment I am not kidding every week I had to repack my stuff I was living out of boxes for months because I had unpacked and had to repack because I would have to move shit because they would spray and it got to the point where my neighbors I like they just weren't taking out their trash they were leaving food out and they were doing that kind of stuff and like they were going into their apartment and I can't change how they live their

life in their apartment it does affect me in my apartment and I had to move and I had to break my lease and I didn't have to pay like I didn't have to pay to break my lease like I was able to like legally get out and was it a hassle was it annoying yes would i've rather just stayed totally but like i talked with them like oh my god these cockroaches and they'd be like yeah totally and then i'm like it's you this is they're coming from your this is where it's coming from you guys are not emptying your trash out you're they were leaving trash in the hallway and not putting it right in the trash chute across from that but you can't control that as infuriating as it is and saying something isn't going to change that and to me this is a far more extreme

circumstance that like i think you're putting yourself in an incredibly awkward position that like i don't know who who'd be receptive and i don't know who is living like this would be receptive to a note because like they're not well like and that's like that a neighbor telling me that i'm not well it wouldn't help me be well no one wants to live like that you know yep and you got to put yourself first all right we're going to take a break when we get back we'll get into butter they run your playlist might get you through the workday but have you ever wondered how your ancestors spent theirs what work helped them build a life how did they adapt as the world around them changed

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memory with the viral audio jesus is the only one that can satisfy and there we have maddie pruitt she was just a bundle of bad vibes in dry crunchy extensions when she was on the show and i was viscerally uncomfortable with her the whole time was not a fan and um some there's a sect of more conservative specifically christian older women who watch the bachelor middle america ones who like loved her like oh she is just darling she's wonderful she's amazing she very clearly was there for because the guy that was bachelor he was fucking he was known for fucking hannah brown in the windmill three times you signed up for his season this man fucks he lives with his parents and he's like yeah i bring girls home and his parents like hi

honey how was your night like he fucks like he quite literally fucks so her being on that season to me it was like a very abundantly clear she's trying to parlay this into a pastor-y christian influencer kind of thing and her dad was i think assistant coach of um auburn maybe basketball or whatever and she was also like yeah like sporty kind of girl like i'm just like whatever all of kind of thing like it was very much painting a picture of a friday night lights character and she married a man named grant trout who refers to himself as trizzy trout their videos are the craziest cringiest things you've ever seen they talk about how much they essentially hate each other and you know they're married but he's a son of a bajillionaire and she has gone just full

christian influencer pipeline like she's doing the tiny britney spears microphones talking with her hands on a ted talk like stage delivering these kinds of speeches or whatever and she posts on her instagram story just something incredibly clear so no one would really get it uh twisted but what she stands for and i'm gonna share that is this the same couple that were on that podcast and it basically sounded like that they hated each other so much yes but that could also be someone else but yeah they like do not and the way that they talked on a podcast and it was very she basically said that she had to lower herself to start dating him and expect more less yes yes and being like when you're married like you know and like i

wanted to say these things i just have to meet him where he and like she's like there's an end there's an endless list of things i could talk about i don't like about like of these things that he does and i'm like oh my god no one is holding a fucking gun at your like why did you even get together in the first place like and he's also like he's like And then Maddie and I, our first date, like, pick her up. And here I am, DJ, Truzy Trapp. And, like, we pull up and, like, we're listening to Drake. And, like, she loves Drake.

And she's, like, hotline bling. And it is, it's painful to watch. And they have now, she's pivoted from just being, like, just her talking about, like, Jesus. Also, I would like to say, if anyone watches me and you've been around in this, like, same influencer kind of space, notice who she hangs out with. and like don't be like oh those people that everyone they line okay if she's hanging out with someone who you recognize they align with their views okay so i say that from personal experience i will not elaborate but trust me they share the same views so she is now pivoted to being instead of like the single christian you know find a good man who loves jesus and all

these things she's now pivoted to wife and i think she's having a baby and now her and her husband do like they go on podcasts together like you said they talk about these things or whatever and like consistently since they've been married she has just established that like as a woman we ask for too much and we need to meet these poor idiot fucking men where they are it's not even saying it like that but like and so to me i'm thinking of anybody who has still continued to follow her through all of this has been listening to her for the last over a year tell them that they're the problem, that they need to serve these men and they're like all of this kind of stuff that like if you have still listened to any of this stuff, I'm like, oh, no, you've primed your

audience exactly for this post that she made. So she posted on her Instagram story. And while we're on the topic, please, when you vote, focus on the policies and not the person. You are not choosing a spouse or a pastor. It's not a Valentine. The policies enforced will impact you and your children. This isn't about politics. This is biblical. Freedom of religion is at stake here, amongst a lot of other things and mass media has made this election a superficial thing where we focus on the personality gender and character of a person we should be looking at policies that impact god's design for family marriage and children and which candidate will promote god and bring this nation back to a nation under god so not only does she not know what freedom of

religion is whatsoever i find these kinds of specifically these kinds of white women like so wildly dangerous to be like she is rich she is successful she has this influence her life where like she's basking in attention, which I would think in your very rigid view of Christianity is like not a great thing. But you have these people who had followed her for all of this, who've been listening to her for the last year,

say, take your standards down for these men because these men like, you know, we have to serve and we have to do all of these things for that. And then posting something like this, like absolutely disgusting. She kept it up. Like she had no issue with any of that kind of a thing.

I just think that like paying attention to like who we make famous and someone who is not a there's a difference between a christian and a jesus freak someone who is a jesus freak will make it abundant no someone sorry someone who is a christian will make it abundantly clear they are not a jesus freak there will be no questions in your head like oh hmm do i think this person is a raging bigot and they will make it clear you won't have to hope you don't have to cross your fingers and you won't have to guess you won't even have to ask they will tell you so like if you align with someone from like a christian

religious standpoint seeing someone else who also is like oh my gosh i love jesus i love god and you go automatically good person and then they have to fall from grace from that position because they've already earned that no no no no no no also if you are actually following what is laid out in christianity you want to help the poor you want to uplift people you do not discriminate like the jesus freaks give the rest of us a bad name yeah mitch mcconnell not a christian donald trump not a christian uh uh clarence thomas not a christian they might say they're christian they're not no they're not but you know who is a christian kamala harris is a christian joe biden is a christian barack obama is a christian so yeah the absolute like

frustration i feel for people who are voting against their own best interest is like driving me crazy and like it's not related but like i've been getting so annoyed about all of the advertisements against prop 33 in california and people are messaging me being like i'm not going to vote for that it's taking away rent control and i go i don't know why they're legally allowed to lie to you they're just adding more rent and control they're not getting rid of what they're like it's just more and like no that's they're taking it away it's because landlords want to make more and i saw an advertisement that it was like prop 33 is with is about greedy landlords wanting to make more money tiny fine print at the end paid to you by the association of landlords

and i'm like yeah you're directly fucking lying and then i started getting things in the mail so like what i see on tv is like renters be prepared like you're a cat los angeles renter but what i got in the mail today was hey recent los angeles homeowner your prices of your home will deval and i was like you're marketing this completely different you're telling renters that their rent is going to go up they're not going to have any more housing options every time they move it's going to be exponentially higher that they're going to have every month it's going to get higher and higher and higher and there's going to be zero inventory and you're telling homeowners that you're going to have to charge market value and not make a profit when you're renting out

your homes and i was like which one is it but come on like tell me and it's all paid for by the same fucking people and it makes me so mad because like i also don't fault anybody who would have voted like no on that because like the advertisements all of these kinds of things it's like yeah that sounds totally right like i i think how we write them is should be so i i don't think it should be allowed how they're written specifically the advertisements for against because you don't put a lot of money into passing something as much as you because you've already put in so much money to get to that point but like you don't they don't put in as much money for the advertisements it's all just the against part and yeah people voting against

their own best interest is infuriating and i just fuck maddie perwitt i can't stand that girl and fuck everyone she's friends with too i'm along on this on the same lines again we are tomorrow is election day so all this is very important to keep in mind and mine is everyone putting on or attending the trump rallies aka the kkk rallies well most recent to when we are recording this on october 31st there was a rally that including disparaging comments against puerto rico and this shithead tony henchcliffe made a quote-unquote joke but jokes are meant to be funny um saying that it is a floating island of garbage in the middle of the ocean he also like went on the internet online on social media really digging his heels in on that later in that same i guess

stand-up act i don't know he said he pointed to somebody out in the audience a black man and was like said something about the weird hat on his head and then he was like this is one of my black buddies and talked about how they carved watermelons together and then uh trump said that it was an it was his honor to be involved in all the controversies at madison square garden where this rally took place. I don't think anybody has ever seen anything like what happened the other night at Madison Square Garden. He was talking to the people at Mar-a-Lago and saying the love in that room, it was breathtaking and you could have filled it many, many times with people that were unable to get in. And I just want to go over all, well, not even all, a few, because I can't go over

all it would be impossible a few of the preposterous things that trump has said and he is my racial of the week my wrong of the week not even the week of the century and i hope that this is the last time that we talk about him i also you know like we made a point pretty early on that like we couldn't just keep talking about him every week yeah and so hopefully this will be the final time. But he said that he would decimate public education. He wants to take $20 billion of existing federal dollars to fund private school voucher programs. He says that his $20 billion program would provide vouchers for 11 million students to attend schools of their choice. But the reality is it will mean that every dollar now spent on disadvantaged kids,

English language learners, and students with special needs would be redirected out of the public education system if you do the math his plan his plan would harm 10 students for every one student that it covers he is also he had rooted for the great recession in 20 in 2006 and him and musk have said like when he's elected that basically there will be another recession and it's just something that we would have to deal with trump said that i sort of hope real estate markets tanked so he could take the opportunity to buy a cheap property and make a buck off men and women who just lost everything. He also doesn't respect women. I don't have to go into details with that because he has so many lawsuits that are pending on that and has also

lost numerous ones as well. He's a rapist. He's a rapist. In 1992, he told the New York magazine, You have to treat them like shit. And that's how he's always treated women in his life. He also peddles xenophobia and racism and doesn't discriminate with this discrimination. He's made plenty of xenophobic comments and hateful remarks about Muslims, Mexicans, Native Americans, African-Americans and Jews. and he also promotes white supremacy at any chance that he gets and he's friends with and is a white nationalist and his chief his campaign chief is a white nationalist he's threatened national security i mean we all know what happened on january 6th he's also made friends and allies with people that in america we generally see as vile and our enemies like putin kim jong-un and he continues to praise saddam hussein and gaddafi and i will put a link to the 100 worst things trump has done since descending down that escalator

so fuck him yeah i thought it was also so ironic to see the people in the audience laugh about the island of garbage and i'm like half of you are probably from staten island that is quite literally an island built on trash and like it it happens also i don't know who told like he was not briefed in the fact that like there are a ton of people who are not born in puerto rico the fucking paul brothers for example who get residences in puerto rico for taxes and i was like puerto rico is not like blue like there are a lot of people who are from like the 50s not the territories who then are like some of the most conservative who moved to puerto rico and i'm like even them i think you'd piss them off right like if it's such a trash place then why are so many

people moving there and also why are so many of your conservative buddies moving like if anything you should be touting like puerto rico as this like tax evasion fucking mecca and like again like The people who are moving to Puerto Rico from the state who have no family, no ties there, they are the most conservative and the most rich. And I'm like, and even this would have pissed them off. They are trash individuals. Yeah. And I'm like, and I'm like, it's not like they're going to be like, ah, yeah, laughing

along with it. I go, you're even pissing them off with that. And like, that's so odd to me. It's not like you came in here and talked shit about California. Like, OK, like you pissed off people who are also voting for you. Like, that's crazy. i also saw somebody on line was arguing talking about that puerto rico one has nothing to do with this election i was like they vote just like we do they are a territory they are part of the united

states even though they're not an official state and then two saying like well they're not because they have their own governing bodies i was like every state has their own governing bodies that's terrifying every state what do you think your governor is that's fucking crazy also that also shows you didn't even watch the when they do the roll call for everybody because puerto rico is they're just like everybody else and if you want to talk about how you're like hey i don't know that we should be staking claim in puerto rico maybe they maybe they do not want to be a part we can have that convo yeah but to say that like they're not like that's that's fucking insane to me i'm like let me introduce you to a territory do you feel icky about it we might feel like you

about it for different reasons for you you know but like but that's it's just so fucking insane to me i maybe those are the same people who don't think hawaii is part of the united states probably the same people that don't think guam is that don't think the samoa samoa is like those same people wow wow wow alaska is i think there was also an argument talking about how it's not connected physically to the united states and i was like neither is alaska hawaii neither is alcatraz neither is like any parts of california on the coast yeah like you could neither are places that like we could get to 30 minutes on a fucking boat that's what do you mean like that's and also in a couple years florida might not be in a couple years like other parts like they're

that's wild there's all those islands in fucking washington i saw becky habersburg did a tiktok she posted tiktok and on her instagram reels and she said that she another creator had said it so she wasn't saying claiming it was hers but it was like not every uh trump supporter is racist but every race it is every racist is a trump supporter like it is just that and like so to look around and like i'll say there are races also that are democrats oh no totally or maybe vote voting for or bigots that might have been not even the word she used but something along the lines of like you might say that like oh i don't identify as this but everybody who i did like who's like yeah i this is this is what they're doing and you look around the same thing like kkk you've got like

neo-nazis you've got all of this and it's like and all those groups have have endorsed trump yeah and so then to be like well i like him but like it's it's just slightly different like it's just not there is not room for nuance in that and specifically for anyone who wants to say like oh well foreign policy in the economy and i go cool so for like business economics all of these top people who said that she will be exponentially better for the economy she has a plan he does not how do you feel about that how do you feel about the fact that his tax breaks are not for people within your income range like it's all these things that are like proven that it's he's doesn't he doesn't even work for that so even you want to say like oh not this parts but these other parts

it's just like it's not that and like what is your single issue of voting and your idea i saw someone else talk about bryce hall or whatever who i guess is a trump supporter he's a tiktoker um and his girlfriend is not from america um and someone's like do you think someone needs to tell bryce hall that like when they're going to when trump will forcefully at gunpoint kick out all immigrants in this country tell bryce hall he's also kicking out the ones with fat asses who are hot like it's not it's not like oh no but like what like no no this idea that you have that you have of what the like the opponent the thing you're the boogeyman the thing you're supposed to be afraid of what that looks like like you you don't know there are so many people within

your daily life that you interact with that you might not know are on deca you might not know all of these other aspects and these things and these things that directly affect you because you have just been lied to about this phantom idea of these fear things and all that it is is to get your vote and then he's going to make all if he would make all this money and all and you the middle the middle class and poor people would be fucking screwed all right so well get out and vote if you have not already vote vote yeah i'm a person that likes to vote in person on the day so like i totally understand if you haven't voted yet um but yeah get out and vote vote vote vote please go vote in your your interest yeah and if you live in a place uh i mean i think honestly any place

but if you live in a place where it's tight or um your vote really it's you're like things are a little bit more of a toss-up and you feel safer voting in person go for that like even if it feels like a little bit more of a hassle if you just also make sure you're clear where you put your ballots like the like the gerrymandering right yeah yeah the gerrymandering is like it's like i said like i did a couple weeks ago like sending things to like in the mail to like put your ballot in here and mail that back like there are all these things that seem legit just double check everything and if you don't feel safe at like the location where a ballot box is or doesn't feel secure go find a different one like just know that that's happening and then check in and make

sure your vote was counted so and also if you vote in person and you're in a place that sends out ballots automatically like in california make sure you take your early voting ballot to where you're voting and they will just properly discard it so that it doesn't get mixed up in trash and someone else votes on your behalf yeah in a lot of states you can do i think most states a lot of not most but a lot of states you can still do like same day registration and vote so it's not it's not too late and if you have a partner who is preventing that from happening call a friend text a friend and come up with an excuse all of those kinds of things um let people help you like if someone said that to me like trying to figure out how to i would help in a heartbeat um so

just know that like your voice like this is like we were like our answer everyone fought so hard for us to be able to vote and um i want to keep voting i don't want this to be the last time i get to vote and be careful of white leftists on tiktok telling you specific california props to vote or not vote for all right the end have a great day and we will circle back Took me a minute. Goodbye. This is a Sister Sign production hosted by me, Megan Rinks. And me, Melissa D. Montz, plus Diamond Imprint Productions.

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