Don't Blame Me! - But Am I Wrong? Results: Not Invited to a Wedding But Expected to Buy a Gift

Episode Date: October 28, 2022

After reading the poll results from But Am I Wrong? Meghan and Melisa discuss: Melisa's gluten/dairy cooking journey An antisemitism DM Meghan received Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

sampling dora the explorer no i was trying to do the thing from um kim possible i think i've seen it once is it what's the sitch yeah like the situation situation i've seen it once so the tv show well no one can see you right now you're right um but if you watched i don't know why you listen to the results without watching i don't know maybe it auto played on your maybe you're in your car you're like i only like don't blame me so i'm just skipping through these that's fine and then it auto played in your car and you're like well i can't text and drive and i can't even use my phone and drive and so then you're here and you're like what the fuck am i

doing here and to that i say welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome welcome to hey if the pentatonix are looking for a new beatboxer i think you've just secured your position thanks i really wish i videotaped your face you just went straight into it like you're like i know what to do and uh this is what i'm doing i'm impressed i'm very impressed welcome to fisting friday where we receive we receive okay i have slept for not a lot of time i mean we could if it's fisting you could be a receiver the fisting

if I'm fisting I don't want either anyways you know what always when I think about when we're talking about fisting Fridays I always think about the butthole but you can get it in your cat too there's nothing sexy about that

because to you no to me yeah well this is all about me there's nothing sexy to me about that because like when you talk like automatically i'm gonna go to how many centimeters centimeters dilated is that and that's like what i think of like childbirth not a sexy time to some people it is i told you about that one real housewife that while she was giving birth disgusting her husband jizzed on her back there are some things that need to be kept to your as someone with multiple podcasts who talks about herself constantly some things we don't consent to hearing she wrote it in a book some things i don't consent to reading or hearing because you heard someone else talk

got it from a book that i presume you didn't read and then you know she talked about it on the show there you go because the other women were disgusted it was a home birth right okay and that's i think marginally i think it might have been i think it was like a one that's in a little bathtub like a pool that's that's what i meant little little baby pool kitty pool so then the kids all the kids you had the full-grown kids and then the ones that ejaculated and the little spermies came out and then you had the the kids that wouldn't amount to anything just laying on your back that's disgusting okay i'm glad it was at home though i think it better been at fucking home because that hospital should sue if it was not if it was at a hospital sue

oh my god disgusting anyways um on fisting fridays we fist yeah you fist us back and we give you the results of the last week's episode the voting for who was wrong in all the situations and then we usually just talk some shit in between i think my cup is in a weird angle i'll be back drink up hey rapunzel put down your fucking pew you said it was tangled oh i forget that that's her we talked about that before yeah we were talking about tangled and we're like what's her name yeah i was giving us more credit than my memory was how's your cup the first yeah the first day there's just not enough juices in there you can't it's like

trying to create a dry suction yeah yeah so like day after first day you can just pop it in there and it's fine and i yeah it's a crock pot and so i did uh yeah i was thinking more of a second day instead of a first day and didn't do the full squat down hold up i think i just came up with our next marketing strategy that was the word strategy if you didn't catch that because i didn't say it well i thought that's what you said it is it's there needs to be a collab with crock pot and menstrual cups set it and forget it the set of forget it was like that rotisserie thing oh remember that rotisserie chicken thing you just said it and forget it it was an infomercial oh i just thought that was like the slag slag lined yeah oh what is it for

that rotisserie chicken thing i have no idea what that is i that was like my own personal mandela effect where i heard set it and forget it and thought it was the crockpot line okay well crockpot needs to buy that it's still around the wrong codes that's just a rotisserie yeah also you can't set it and forget it that's the whole thing with that thing oh they've upgraded oh of course because that commercial was from the 90s but look no no my oven actually has a rotisserie thing my grill does and i've never used it i've never i don't it scares me a little bit that's why i have bots i didn't have a grill before i got a boyfriend but yeah my oven has like rotisserie thingies so you can stick it spigots i know so that's probably why you knew

set it and forget it no but i have no idea i've never seen that thing in my life so what's crock pot slogan i mean because that makes more sense as a crock pot you leave it on well that's what you did with that that was the whole thing about that rotisserie chicken thing is that you literally set it and forget it and you can walk around with it spinning for a while however long it takes to cook a rotisserie chicken but you don't have like that doesn't like smell like there's something nice about like if i'm putting it in a pot like wow this is really cute crockpots at target shut the fuck up these are i don't need one i have a pressure cooker but like that's very cute like little mint everyone like and the font looks cute mint and cream they're how much is it

i meant that was your ipad 44 it does that one's 44 that's all they cost and there's a small one that's 1999 i want to make some oxtails have you had oxtails before will you also make barrier tacos i'll make i want to make some i'm gonna try now her fucking cooking i'm trying to figure out like all the gluten-free dairy-free stuff so i'm trying to figure yeah so i'm figuring out how to make a good gravy for oxtails tapioca starch i know but i don't you just it's it's really just a matter not like it doesn't taste like southern no you would have to do like uh depending so like you could toy around with like a very very small bit of like a gluten-free worcestershire sauce that can add like you need a new mommy yeah kind of flavor there yeah and it's the best the best

advice i can get for like gluten-free dairy-free stuff is like not it if you think it'll be weird and they're like oh well no that won't work like the flavor profiles because there is something like lacking you can be a little bit weirder to kind of get to that same yeah i think that fake soy sauce that i have would be good yeah um for the umami because it's more umami than soy flavor um so i think that'll be good i've been i've watched a lot of videos over the on sunday when my all my plans got canceled on sunday and also maybe you'll do like a liquid like a very small amount of liquid smoke in something but you would it would have to be balanced out with other stuff but if you're trying to get like what smoke just reminds me of burger king

couldn't tell you i don't think i've ever eaten there well as somebody because they they say all their stuff is like flame broiled oh no she's liquid smoke yeah i mean they do put it like run it through a quick flame but not enough to cook it just to char it exactly okay well i'm gonna get me a crock pot so i can get some and i um found you a pressure cooker no i found a bison some bison oxtail and it's about to be on dude the weather dips below 70 degrees and melissa's just out here making made mackerel i made all the i'm i honestly though i felt the same like i'm like i'm fucking ready like i'm ready i made short ribs like when we first moved in it was like nice and chilly but now i'm like oh i want to be again yeah we

had some cold days in may i don't remember they all run together well everything feels cold when it was 119 degrees true okay crock pot slogan cooks all day while the cooks away too many words i need you to trade it do-si-do trade that shit um you didn't tell me what you thought about the uh video i posted to promote oh i didn't look at it oh that one i enjoyed it do you like my caption someone else laughed anyone's curious it's white chicks in the club and it's when i say i need a club night this is what i mean and the caption is melissa will be choreographing megan will be doing her best and then kyle's comment yes kyle and i we say that to each other all the time a salad perhaps a salad for the lady perhaps not okay we're gonna read the results

from episode 46 i am first up me versus people who draw the line in quotations at bullying one percent said i was wrong 99 said i was not wrong and checks out great job thank you and then melissa freethinkers are maggots and yeezys who was wrong one percent said i was wrong 99 said that i was not wrong then we have a writer number one versus boyfriend who's passionate about 3d printing which is so kind for you to phrase it that way and that's what the writer said yeah no okay i thought i would have inflicted my own judgment into the wording sometimes i do find you're not harsh enough and then i will tweak a little bit but i usually just take it straight from the call i know i mean right in and usually i don't as we've been corrected or

i just entered this child again gavin gavin is friends with the i smell like beef girl i don't know i smell like beef i don't know who these people like beef what about fucking bats or something like that no nope okay well she's a meme and i saw her on tiktok and i was like this kid is like she was being funny or something and then the mom did like the like or someone was like i can't believe this is i smell like beef girl and she's just been like cranking out viral clip after viral clip and the smell like beef clip it's a it's a it's a vine so fucking funny the mom is they got like back from a like a party or something and she's like filming her daughter like her daughter's looking at the sunset and just like for over an

hour has kept looking at the sunset going I smell like beef I smell like beef and it's so funny she was like I just like she's so weird like I don't know and like the kid is so weird but she's like a like a preteen now and she's like really funny and like really quick and she goes yeah she's just like always been like hella weird it's cute I love it anyways that's Gavin um I didn't even read the result 5% said the writer is wrong 95% said the boyfriend is wrong did you see that someone wrote in totally agree with Eminem that you're not wrong but want to add that you may need to look into ventilation for your partner's printers and he definitely needs to move them out of your bedroom my boyfriend 3d prints as his side hustle and used to have the printer beside

his desk he didn't know that a lot of equipment fumes etc can be harmful until he came up with an allergic reaction on his skin as well as issues with his eyes nose and throat pnt this presented like normal allergies but after cutting out everything else we realized it was the printer but some research rediscovered that you need to have your printers in a separate area ventilated or both our hours is now in a wardrobe in a room we don't use often and we bought a small ventilation unit which runs when it's on don't freak out it's not hugely harmful but you definitely need to get something sorted if this is a long-term hobby of his if it's running for 12 hours 12 plus hours and it's in a room that you're using then you should at a minimum

have a fresh air circulating or have ventilation units it's definitely not recommended to have it running in a bedroom especially without ventilation and then someone else wrote i asked my boyfriend who has a 3d printer about this and he did say that 3d printers decrease the quality of air within the room they are in so it's definitely good to point a good point to bring up to your boyfriend instead saying that hey maybe these shouldn't be in the place we sleep fucking wonderful advice yeah get it out holy shit and that solves a lot of problems no yeah it's like you don't even become the villain it's like well do we vow do we want to die someone else also brought up not only like a lot of electricity but like running again like you could potentially

not just pour ventilate like you know you you could start like a small electric you could start an electrical fire like not just one like the machines might be fine but you might start a fire within your walls which is fucking terrifying all right then we've got writer number two versus doctor that won't treat her for adhd who is wrong 45 said the writer's wrong 55 said the doctor is wrong yeah most people said they agreed with like you know it's a hard place to be in but it's doctors can always have more uh you can never have too much good bedside manner you know then we have writer number three versus not buying a friend a wedding present because you aren't invited to the wedding three percent of the writer is wrong which i have to assume all

ten of you that was an accident and then 97 said the writer is not wrong okay i click on the writer is wrong and i just like see all the profile pictures and wedding dresses imagine they're also i didn't think of this at the time they're a co-worker and they probably just gave you an invitation as a courtesy anyway no that's like that's like that's like without a doubt what i like think and no one by the way that writer uh everybody wrote in and was like writer's not wrong but also like don't fucking go to the wedding yep that's true i mean don't go to the engagement party what if you just showed up at the wedding hi writer number four and james versus sarah who makes ableist statements against her ex who is wrong three percent said the writer and james

are wrong 97 said that sarah is wrong then we have wrong of the week brad pitt 99 said brad pitt is wrong and one percent said brad pitt is not wrong um but i would just like to note how hard it is how hard it was to find a photo of him that is not like so gorgeous and absolutely glamorous it's just so easy to find unflattering photos of women online really really quickly especially women who make claims of abuse uh and it's very hard to find any somewhat unflattering photos of men so just food for thought all right then we've got my wrong of the week nuri martinez uh 97 said that martinez is wrong three percent said she's not wrong i only saw one person write in and said they um made a mistake and here's the thing if you made

a mistake message us because we'll remember like you know we'll remember and then sometimes people will vote wrong and they will message in a big oh my bad my bad and then i see someone who's voted wrong like voted something not i don't say wrong but like voted in a way that's like i mean that that isn't in support of our community yeah exactly and not just like differing of opinions it's for like the bigoted ones and then i'll see that they voted wrong on that one and then i'm like oh yeah that i you know we we build up a repertoire so i can we can understand and see that but if you continually vote wrong and you're just like bad at voting at a certain point you like no like we might just like block you or like we might just like because we don't want to make

sure that you know safe place because we can we monitor all our communities uh heavily with a heavy hand we do so that was the result right that's all it was that's all it is out of like left field in the uh like I'm really good at I'm pretty good at well maybe I'm not actually that good at reading situations but I'm like pretty good at like having a conversation like uh through DMs like I like to you know talk with people and especially if like so I posted um Matt Bernstein great follow on Instagram everybody posted he did a post about Kanye and said Kanye West claims that Adidas company that produces Yeezy sneaker line won't drop him regardless of the anti-Semitic statements that Adidas Yeezy collaboration generates about two billion in sales every year

and Matt is Jewish and does a lot of like I mean he has a lot of activism for everything but I always like to like look at his stuff that he's posting when anti-Semitism is uh very very publicly happening and so the person responds and said he's not wrong though dot dot dot and i said he's not wrong about what the fact that adidas won't drop him because of money and i said oh i would definitely not phrase it like that again because i certainly because it definitely sounded like you were saying he's not wrong about being anti-semitic lol like here i was thinking that like i responded to that and based on like the previous responses it's not like i can tell this person's been like very hostile or argumentative in like other political or social causes that

I've talked about and so that to me was like I don't know I I enjoy if I say something like oh you do that to me all when I say something you're like oh don't say it like that and it's never like oh I don't think you're trying to say it like that it's just like my you know my mouth works faster than my brain so I always really appreciate that and so I just thought that that was going to end there and they said I think that's the problem with Kanye he talks out of his ass he can mean one thing which is relative and really just pointing out that adidas is money hungry the world and the world is so hung up on jewish hate which yes it's wrong but like everyone's missing what he's trying to communicate not that jews suck dot dot dot but that adidas is so money hungry that he can say

such evil shit and they would still be sucking his dick the whole world is blind and i said he is anti-semitic and adidas is valuing their bottom dollar the world is not hung up on anti-semitism it's at an all-time high and jewish people are constantly being harassed and killed for being jewish kanye is an anti-semitic piece of shit and if adidas does not pull the contract then they are too this response again even with that response i'm like maybe i'm misunderstanding like what you're saying but like both things can be true at the same time i think you're agreeing that kanye is anti-semitic and that adidas is valuing money over like the safety protection and peace of mind for the Jewish community.

She says, wah, wah. Not trying to argue with you, smiley face, but I will say this because you are no longer relatable, dot, dot, dot, out of touch with the average Joe. Lately, you have a quote unquote, always right persona since you've become quote unquote famous. Well, enjoy your glamorous solitude. I truly wish you the best,

but I'm going to unfollow you now, waving emoji, because wow, I am tired of hearing you complain about your first world problem, then jumping on whatever is politically popular to bash i'm not even reading all the dot dot dots but like pretty much between like every line there's a dot dot dot dot then jumping on whatever is politically popular to bash like damn what happened to having a real personality or a true conversation without assuming you're right oof get over yourself did you just become famous like right now did you just become famous i'm not offended by the message like i was i was just

purely taken aback because i go i had no idea that this whole time you were not thinking that kanye was anti-semitic or you were which is anti-semitic or you were agreeing with his statements in being anti-semitic like i so thought that like that is so not where i thought this was and i'm like i'm sorry it's being against anti-semitism not relatable to you i'm so sorry if at any point i made it seem like before i got quote-unquote famous i was like cool with anti-semitism that's on me when did you get famous when you were 16 if that's the word we're using sure i i'm just saying like yeah you had like a public figure when i started my instagram account yes yes so like people who and they got on instagram and they followed me it was not for

my personal it was for everybody like it was i've been here since the beginning so where have they been the last 15 14 years it's a good question And I don't want to, like, diminish how intense anti-Semitism is, but of all of the things that I talk about on my platform, this is the least fucking controversial. This is the least ones that I get the amount of, like, well, pushback on. Just fact of the matter. Like, there is a lot of very casual anti-Semitism, a lot of, like, things around like that. But when you're faced with glaringly obvious and blatant anti-Semitism, my audience and my – nobody there is being like, well, all lives matter. Like, they're not – there's no slipping through the cracks there.

And so I'm just like, of all the things that you – what? It was just, like, blowing my mind. And I'm like, you have to be so angry at me for something else. like maybe you're upset i've never responded to any of your other dms this is the one that i responded to maybe you're like misreading my like i thought i was misinterpreting your message and or i thought i was like i was interpreting misinterpreting your message i'm going i don't think that's what you mean and then the the whole thing here i'm like i did not know we were hostile and we were arguing about anti-semitism like i fully had if that was the case i would have come

at you a lot fucking harder because i i was coming at you like a friend yeah is that so i was just like oh fuck off fuck off so weird it's just funny to me how every few months you just have these people coming out the woodworks and it's like how long have you been here the thing i'm specifically confused about like this one is like and i think it has to be that i have well no i guess i have i responded to a message of theirs in 2020 um but they like what they say in 2020 no well they've been like responding to my since 2017 i think it was something they responded something about like my skin and they were like take vitamin a daily and i said uh i do it's just a hormonal imbalance um i thought it was gonna be something well no and because that's like i usually will

like especially if it's like a a message like their initial one where i'm like i don't know what this means here and like i'm very if someone is being like super fucking hateful and like anti-semitic and just like a big racist or whatever like so fucking like horrific then i have the same feeling of like why do you even follow me and i will like scroll up and seen a lot of the times like they don't and like this is just like you found me here and like i'm like i'm not gonna waste my breath like satisfying a troll by responding to this but if it's like you've been around before or I'm trying to get some clarity or it feels like you're misinformed like I will 100% respond and we can have a conversation like about this but I and I you and I vet to

before to be like is this person who said does this align with their other shit are they just trying to like bait to get a response and I didn't find any of that like I like they responded to like my story from 2021 about matt james is saying i was so excited for the bachelor but he's he's so jesus-y and he's a republican and they said oh my god right wow and like they're just you know what i mean like well jesus is jewish so i i don't know anything about jesus but i do know that anytime um i've heard someone who's like christian talk to someone who's jewish they go jesus was a jew and it's always like yeah right it's but i'm saying second if she was mad because he was too jesus

oh that was the first religion is not the first depth enough because it could have gone one of two ways i just think it's so odd like the whole thing was so weird weird and then like i'm complaining about my first world problems like what's my first world problem here me talking about anti-semitism yeah like it's not people will some people like will be like oh my god and we've said i said this before i think on the last episode of being like oh my god like she complains too much and i'm like okay sure i verbal process and i talk about things that i'm going through but i always try and be like here this actionable steps i'm taking or i'm like sourcing advice from people and like i'll share what i have like i don't go online and just like trauma dump i'm

sure i fucking did that when i was a teenager but you're also a vlogger like that's part of it even of it, it's like, I don't film a video and then I'm like, well, there's nothing to do. Like, well, blah, blah, blah. Like, you know, I'm like, oh, I'm going to talk about long COVID update. And like, I went to phthalmologist, here's what I heard here. And like, these are my next plants and this is what's been going on. And like, this is what I think. Like, that's also like how my brain works in general. Like I, I need those things. My thing, I have a very hard time with them. My therapist said, well, feelings are meant to be felt. And I was like, what? Like, just because like you talk through like, like making it logical, right? Well, I feel like this and this,

this and this and like well i know that i'm feeling this way like you have to feel it you can't just like think about it and know that that's how you feel like recognizing your emotions is not feeling your emotions um so i know that that's like literally a therapy issue for me so like i'm not getting on the internet and just being like sitting in my feelings like i'm working on trying to do that but like not on the internet but then when some people are like oh you just complain too much i'm like do you mean about like school shootings and like and like gun control and uh like abortion access and and racism like is that what is that what you mean by complaining about first world problems or you can call like for sure did i complain when i was moving yeah

oh yeah it was hell privileged very very privileged that we got to buy a house and do all that we had so much help with movers and just lots of people who are helping us and you know it's a privilege that everybody has and you know i acknowledge that and i still complained it was still fucking hell but also find me somebody who enjoys moving but it's still a problem it's your problem like but also like i i understand like i when you're complaining about something that like if you're like oh god fuck i don't want to move and it's like yeah moving sucks i do you want people to be like no i enjoy because i'm like you don't like why if you don't enjoy something that i should have to enjoy it like there are certain things that like going

to the dmv regardless of like how privileged you are regardless of like how much access you have i mean maybe you can be very rich you don't have to go to the dmv you might be one of those people that pays for that pass to go through do you have that at some point you might but like that that kind of stuff i'm like there are certain things like a root canal like no matter what like the compiled list of like struggles and obstacles you've faced in that day or that week or that month the pot might be a lot smaller so it might be a lot and it will be a lot harder for someone who like does not have the emotional or financial bandwidth to deal with it on top of the already like shitty or uncomfortable process but the process is always going to be shitty and uncomfortable

you know anyways just thought that was wild um absolutely wild so fuck antisemitism and apparently that girl who apparently is antisemitic yep so sorry everyone that i did not catch that earlier i guess my spidey senses were tingling because i did ask her to clarify what she meant at the beginning yeah maybe my brain was like i'm doing her a solid and like my big brain was like red flag no it's your little brain oh what's my little brain i'm asking oh did i say my brain and then my big brain my little brain's the one i operate with 95 because usually when when people with penises say that they're talking about their penis so you're talking about your clit

i wanted to almost show you something that i was thinking of um i don't want to see your clit no it's something that i was gonna i think i was gonna get you for christmas well do you want to see it no okay some people like to know beforehand i like the gifts that you get me you see you got the plate up there you probably can't see i don't know it's because they come to me in the same way that we get those like weird shivers like it'll just like suddenly like i have like i've had an idea for something i want to get you forever um but like i don't want you to have it if i don't have a matching one okay and they're so fucking expensive and like so why don't we get if it's a good thing then it's not that good like we need to go on tour

so like should i just tell you what it is yeah i really wanted to get like uh do like those custom like denim jackets that have like the cool patches with our names on it and then like potentially even like the rhinestone side ones just like really cute and fun like that and like coordinating colors but i was like that's like pink when the fuck are we going to wear that unless we go to a rodeo or we're on tour and i'll do both i me too but i did think like it would be a little weird if i got you this like totally decked out yeah like very and like way too expensive when you start making money from the podcast oh my god fingers crossed we will do it and we could go on tour at some point yeah we do a tour in vegas welcome to the club the club the club i need to

watch that show i've seen so many clips i feel like i've watched the whole show but i know i haven't i don't know what even what it's a cool broad city oh i love it i've watched that like clip of that broad city 30 times please watch it i again i feel like i've honestly seen it because i've seen yeah but i want to watch the whole thing in sequence and you know all of that yeah i wonder if like lena dunham looks at broad city and goes that's what i should have made no i think she looks down on it i actually think that i think that she doesn't think it's She, like, looks and she goes, they tried to be me, but they could never. And they're, like.

They were, like, we had our. Because it was a digital thing first. Yeah. And then Amy Poehler saw it. But that's it. That's it. Check back next Fisting Friday. Mm-hmm.

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goodbye what if i was like it was so ugly i would know you're lying i just put it up there to embarrass you you would never do it to me i would never no i know that's that's so mean we would never both never do that to each other no that's so mean because it would be an embarrassment for me too yeah my name is on the shit i can't have you looking ugly and goofy