Don't Blame Me! - DBM: Dorm-Level Soap Opera

Episode Date: September 18, 2025

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hello hi welcome to a brand new episode of don't blame me don't do it don't blame us we have officer we have nothing to do with this situation my hands are up sorry um yeah not us not us it's a baby goo goo gaga well we're gonna give you advice not from babies from the opposite of babies adults we are grown-ups we swear we are adults and we're going to give you adult advice well anyways we're gonna give you advice if you want to call in you can leave us voicemail at 310-694-0976 international listeners it's in the same megan podcast at gmail.com if also you're like i don't want to do a voice recording you can just type it out to that same email address or you can fill out the form that we have listed on our socials for all of them you

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that was about is it though maybe i was feeling sensitive because my tummy was hurting because i was drinking algae anyways um yeah shall we hop in yeah hi melissa and megan i told mega that's not my name megatron unfortunately i used to call my sister megan you called her megatron because there was a cartoon that was robots actually i think it might have been transformers yeah the cartoon version of megatron too yeah unfortunately megatron is the villain but like yeah but it goes with your name it goes in her name i like as i was saying actually that was transformers the cartoon everything comes back to transformers um hi melissa and megan i 25 female met this guy 27 male on a dating app

on the second date end of august i invited him to come to my place we were kissing and he takes that as a go-ahead for sex i paused and told him we need to talk first i asked him what his intentions when it comes to dating are essentially asking if he's going to sleep with me and disappear because that's not for me everyone i've been with i had the intention of a long-term relationship he told me the chronic disease i have scares him he looked it up on he's already eliminated yeah i mean he was before this but yeah he looked it up on chat gpt and it told him It makes it hard to get pregnant. We had not yet discussed kids. I said, I don't know yet if I want kids and I'm very okay adopting. We're still kissing during this, not a tense conversation.

Basically, I was stunned at this and told him to go home. I'm a human, not a womb. The chronic disease I have only makes it hard to get pregnant if you don't take care of yourself, which I do. not that he asked me I decided this would not work between us but he is attractive and I did want to hook up with him I told him this and he was good with it so now he has been coming over to hook up and watch tv I've never done casual before I think this will work for me because conversation is surface level text is dry and then same thing about my unhealthy womb but I tend to get attached how can i not let this happen also is this a reasonable thing for a man to say i think it's kind of crazy but my friends are giving me mixed reviews thank you okay i were so

they they gave us some more of like the health um details that we're obviously not going to share but i just want to say that like my assumption which i think a lot of people's assumption are so i want to make sure that people know that we're not talking about this my assumption was endometriosis it is not endometriosis no this is not even close no like whatsoever like not in a way that like oh this is a thing that like if you are a look to like to paint people with broad strokes if you are a like a cishet straight man and you know about endometriosis and like you know it affects that part of your body like that is because you know somebody with it that is because like you have like someone in your family or someone you know a personal experience with it

because like there's a hell of a lot of people who have uteruses and ovaries who don't even know about it like and doctors who don't know about it this is like not that whatsoever it's something that's serious but is very as long as you're as the writer said as long as they're taking care of themselves they're fine but it's also something that like is not directly related no like if you don't take care of yourself with this you you die like it's like sure yeah you wouldn't like you would not be able to carry a child because you would die like it is not like uh it's something that's common enough that a lot of people have it but when they have it is controlled yes like as long as you're you are controlled you're very fine yeah and i'm i'm glad that you told us what

it was because like this to me like low-key i mean i have the same feelings but like it does change aspects of it that like i don't think he knows what this is he's familiar with there's no way he doesn't it's not his first day on fucking earth so to me i'm like you are either like very weird breeding kink and you specifically looked up the ties to this and reproductive i've never even considered that the relation between reproductive health and this like ever so the fact that either he has like a weird breeding kink and he like looks up that or he's lying and like tried to find an excuse to be like oh i'm not interested in something serious let me make it about your medical history yes that's exactly what i was thinking

one he looked it up on chat gpt which idiot that's so the least attractive thing in the fucking world and then you look it up and you that is what jumps out to you is that it could be about that yeah and then I'm not I'm not blaming you for this at all but I'm just saying like when we're gonna do this again the next guy you date let's have the conversation before we've invited them over and we're making out about where this relationship is going yes but we need to stop letting men get away with this and like respectfully like you need to cut this off like yesterday

because like this was such a fucking insane out of pocket disrespectful thing to say but beyond that like I think there's like

insidious meaning behind that like that's just like really gross it's either again I've got like this breeding kink

and I'm obsessed with genetics which is giving eugenics or I'm looking for an excuse and like I'm really cool

with like using your health against you in a way that like your only value is your womb but it's like again with love he's saying your only value is your womb and you're like but i still have a vagina you can still have sex with the vagina like no no no like he is being rewarded for his bad behavior and i think like yes it doesn't always have to be all about him like you can focus on your needs and do something that you want

but you can do that with someone who actually respects you right like just because there's a lot of hot people out here yes there's a lot of hot men that aren't i mean most men are dumb but a lot of hot men that don't that will respect you and also like will want to be in a relationship with you and so let's not just settle just because he's hot and you want to fuck no like go outside find somebody else like it's just like when we when we like co-sign behavior being like well i can get over it like can you get over it if like he did it to your best friend because like when we like don't hold men accountable for their actions and we just like let them treat us like this they go and treat another girl like this they go and treat someone else like this and like

whether that's like your sibling or your friend or whatever it's like there's just so much enabling and enabling and enabling and hell even men who are held to higher standards oftentimes are enabled by other people in their life and they still perpetuate those exact same cycles in different relationships but like being a participant in that is like you are lowering your expectations to then the next person you date you're gonna accept you're like well i accepted this from this guy so like maybe i'll accept this here like new new new new new new especially when it's like shit that like it's such a bigger picture thing and it does make me question because you're like you got mixed like responses from your friends that i'm i'm taking a fine-tooth comb and checking

about which of my friends is slipping down the alt-right pipeline because like anything about like healthy wounds and you like anything about like oh being able to bear my child and all of that shit like is their eugenic see also paired with the reliance on chat gpt it's like oh you are deeply unintelligent i don't want a kid with you you can't even you don't even know how to google yeah you can't go to web md no it goes i have to ask chat gpt like that's i cannot stress you how like that makes my vagina like shrivel and dry like that is so deeply unattractive wikipedia would have been better oh my god a wiki how yeah like anything anything anything anything anything it's like i uh did you tell me this or i know i saw it on tiktok but you might have told

me before i saw it on tiktok of this guy that um went out to a restaurant asked the girl if like she had any dietary restrictions and she said she was vegan so he took her to a vegan restaurant and while they were seated she took out her phone and asked chat gpt what she should get to the restaurant at the restaurant instead of you know looking at the menu deciding what you want and then she shows the person that's working there like the waiter and they're like we've never had this on the menu it makes me i right like i can't it studies it is scientifically backed up with data it is making you stupid it is making you stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid so so even what he was reading on chat gpt might have just been very exaggerated information that wasn't even

correct and you can ask questions so it gives you like he's framing it in a way of being like people with this thing have a hard time like can't carry children right like and then it's going to confirm in that specific tone of this which again like is you should be so fucking offended by this and like to me this is also like a litmus test for your friends like this is like a what the fuck is wrong with you yeah dump him find somebody else hot also on your dating apps don't go out if you know being in a serious relationship is something that's important to you don't go don't swipe on people that don't have on their profile that they want a serious relationship yeah so yeah we'll just we just want to set you up for success better with the next guy

mm-hmm because this is is insane behavior on his part these are all indicators of mixing the perfect seed to create the perfect specimen of a human of all of this kind of stuff and even if he's like not actually thinking that right now and he's just using it to get out of it it's because he feels that way like he feels a way about superior genetics also i don't i also don't want you to downplay your feelings in this too because you've said you said we're still kissing during this not a tense conversation but then the next sentence you said basically i was stunned at this so don't downplay how you were feeling just because you were kissing and you know the it made it a less

scary conversation you were still stunned at it so pay attention to your emotions in that in that moment i feel like this whole episode is a red flag yeah everyone i just need everyone to stop having sex with people who are who are using chat gpt and like if you are using chat gpt you need to stop like and i say that with love like you are all too intelligent and if you're like oh well it helps me do this it helps me do this it helps me do this all of that i need you to view it the same thing as wearing a mask and being like well if people are like well wearing a mask makes me makes me feel anxious and it's like okay it is better for you to feel anxious than for people to die and like looking up what it is actively doing right now what look at the fucking faces

of the people who are suffocating who are dealing with all the who their town is completely destroyed by this you don't have fucking water like please just look up that and know that like the this is like real life current day present cause and effect consequence not like hypothetically the icebergs are melting they are melting but i'm saying like but in the sense of like this is something that like there are faces to this this is not just like oh generations from now we'll see the ramifications. We're seeing the ramifications now. Look at that. If that makes you uncomfortable, that's because you have a moral compass. All right. We're going to take a break. When we get back, we'll get into the next one.

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time after that we went on a couple dates and it felt really good like maybe this could be something then he left for three weeks in spain for a study abroad program how old is he we're getting there um okay i'm wondering why you're not asking this question because i'm immediately asking the question is coming no i'm just wondering why in this lila not immediately is like he said he's going to study abroad i went oh god how old are you when he while he was gone we texted constantly. I'm talking morning updates, good night messages, sending each other memes. I felt like we were building something even from a distance. But ever since he came back, things have shifted. I just moved into a new apartment downtown. He was settling back into

his routine and suddenly all of our conversations became dry. Just the same. What are you up to today? Back and forth. He lives literally two blocks from my job, but he never suggests meeting up. If I hint at hanging out, he always says he's busy. Part of me feels like I already know the answer if he wanted to see me he would but I also have real feelings for him now which makes it harder to let go he's only 22 yeah uh-huh I'm 25 and maybe we are just different places in life so here's my question do I stop wasting my time on a guy who keeps me hanging on with texts but never shows up in person or do I give him one more chance and flat out ask if he wants to see me thanks so much love the show you lose the number of the 22 year old boy burn it ceremoniously I

don't know like if you knew this man was 22 from the start i know for a fact you're just like why am i upset about like because like you're this is the you can't you can't give first of all don't give men chances you really can't give 22 year old men chances because like they're gonna 22 like they're gonna 22 at the end of it and like i'm sure that's part of this feeling for you is being like i saw this coming and like i still made the choice and now i'm like well fuck like you know should should i give him another chance because i thought he was different he's not he's a 22 year old also i'm sure he went to spain and had a good ass time hell yeah and was texting you when it was convenient because it probably wasn't the same time zone so it felt like that you were

texting a lot more than you were i had someone that we were better long distance and then when we were in the same spot he and I just didn't it just didn't gel it was more like it just it was just a comfort of like at a distance it felt safe and then when he was here it was just like I'm not really interested yeah and the conversation did the same thing it just dried up and yeah it's probably in a different space if for for you if it would make you feel better to like just say hey i like you what's up then do it i think because if you just cut him off and block him and you still have that question then you're gonna be always wondering what if so tell him how you're feeling i just want to set you up that you probably will be rejected just because of the

way he's acting but at least you know a little bruise will heal later and you can move on yeah and i think like if he doesn't respond that's an answer if he's like no i'm still totally into you and nothing changes that's your answer like i think like reaching out to him needs to be for the confirmation like i say this with love the confirmation of what we're saying like he is too young he is not much like this is just not not it like this is just not the fucking you're in such different places in your life he's not he's literally not capable of showing up for you how you want him to show up for you and how you deserve to be shown up for because you're going to be able to show up for him so much better than he is for you like he'll

have finals he'll have like shit like it is just such a different life stage that you will constantly be left like what like feeling like there's like something is missing because it is because he's not mature enough for this yet you're he's in doing so many different things but you need to ask in a way that it is knowing that it's for confirmation and ultimately like i i i think that i hope he has the maturity to like tell you straight up but like please do not take if he like his if his words don't match his actions as like a oh i'll just keep waiting around for this mm-hmm 22 year old men are like diabolical like no one should date them unless you're 22 and you also are going into this as like i'm just going to fuck around yeah 22 you can you

terrorize them back but like you can't terrorize back because that's bullying no and then 25 you're living downtown in nashville too so i know you got a little you got a little money nashville is expensive and you're living downtown nashville is expensive so like i need you to go find you somebody and it still could be a fuck boy but at least a 25 at this age 25 to 27 yes i'm saying like if you want to get a fuck boy get a fuck boy if you want if you like a collegiate get a med student like again like someone who's in that like there there are ways to like scratch the itch of like toxic frat boy um he can be an alum you don't want to know what he got up to that's probably why he's not talking to you yeah like because he doesn't want to have to tell you

what he like what did you get up to a lot of pussy yeah a lot of pussy yeah all right well we're gonna take a break when we get back we'll get to the next one in toronto every arrival is a statement and nothing says it better than this Cadillac Optic was the number one selling luxury EV in Canada for 2025. Find your rhythm across a seamless 33-inch display and an immersive 19-speaker AKG surround audio system. This city demands agility, and Optic delivers with precision to make every drive extraordinary. Let's take the Cadillac. Find out more at CadillacCanada.ca. Luxury sales claim based on S&P Global Mobility Canadian New Vehicle Total Registrations for calendar year 2025 for the Cadillac definition of luxury.

we're back all right here's the next one y'all what it's just another one oh my god you you guys is it because it's the end of summer everybody's like cuffing season i gotta settle down with the last the last dick that has been in my vicinity no matter how bad it is okay oh no i've been seeing a guy for about two months and i cannot tell if i'm being ghosted or if finals plus summer travel ate his phone we met in spain while we were and this person is 24 she heard we met at a rooftop trivia through mutual friends first date was great then we slid into a once a week situationship i've only slept with one other

person before him, my ex, who was very experienced with my ex, I never did oral, partly because I do not think I liked him enough to want to. With this new guy, Liam, he is a little less experienced and we went straight to sex. I actually like him a lot, which makes me more nervous about being bad at anything. I want to try things I've skipped before, but I do not want to tank the vibe by being awkward. Complication alert. Before Liam, I used to text his roommate Marco. We never hooked up, but there was flirty energy. They both play on the university team and share a place near campus. It has been a week since I heard from Liam. He mentioned a family trip and exams, but now I am spiraling. Did Marco say something? Is Liam just busy or did I get soft ghosted? I'm going to a

house party tonight where both of them might show. I hate that I still have a tiny crush on both, which is chaotic, I know. My question, how do I build sexual confidence when I am still learning without turning intimacy into a performance review? If I am being slow fade ghosted, do I send one clear text and move on or wait to see him at the party and read the room? And if both guys are there, how do I be normal and not start a dorm level soap opera? If this party explodes, i will report back i can't wait to hear well so are you 24 in college maybe she's in grad school or she maybe she's in college but like because it sounds like dorm yeah right so i would say like if you are in that college and even if it's like post-grad this would be this would be right

after school and you move into that i wouldn't worry about the roommate situation because like roommates fuck the same people all the time and you don't even sleep with what marco polo he's up with polo not marco liam yeah for sure polo so i'm like i wouldn't stress about that like at all like they might have said something it might have deterred him though no totally but i'm if if it did then it it did like it's and i think at this point it either is like it deterred because like and I say that trying to say this gently if you if this was like the love of your life it would not deter it like it would be like it'd be fine but if it's like oh okay enough that like you

know it's we're not serious enough and like this isn't like my person so like yeah I'm gonna be done with this but there's also a chance that like he's known like the whole time because like it is what it it is what it is but i just think that that part is not something that you is your responsibility or your thing to like worry about at all because like again it just happens like you never hooked up with this guy you just texted you can also play dumb and be like oh my god i didn't even know we were flirting like whatever um but also hey if you're being soft ghosted go back to go to marco yes go to marco from polo reverse it yeah i don't see i don't see an issue here well i see options and that's always a good thing exactly i i think i've told this

before where i had someone i was dating in college he had a very close friend who was hot and his friend had whispered to me if i would have met you first well actually two of his friends had told me one of them not interested at all also he was dating my friend had said it and the other one was like and i was like yeah me too yeah other one actually no nothing would have changed you something would have changed something yeah and then we both ended up here in la and we hooked up and it was a great night of exploration a great it started about four o'clock lasted to the next day damn you gotta get a protein bar break he brought what he was very caring like brought water and snacks to bed i love that like drink yeah like okay yeah thank you

we got up and walked and got breakfast the next day oh i love that yeah it's true sexcapade and so that's what i wish for you somebody that you can just explore and marco might be that guy where it was the friend you were flirting with at first but liam gave you the attention that you wanted but if he's not giving it to you now go back to marco take a loop or find another guy at the party yeah and i don't want to like burst any sort of like feminist sex positive bubble for you a blowjob is a performance it is and i and i want you to know that like i say that as a feminist like that is not like the opposite of that like those things are all true but like ultimately it like it is a performance so witness yeah like

mouth eye contact there's a lot that goes into this and the performance isn't just for him the performance is also for you yes and so I think that like your nerves for this and like being like well I don't want to like you know how do I feel confident doing this without like having this be like a performance I think you are looking at text in like a experienced versus not experienced kind of way and like a hierarchy and like if you felt that your last boyfriend was much more experienced than you that you felt like lesser like it there is no ranking of that but like ultimately like it is a performance and that is something that like if that makes you like nervous and uncomfortable like that's totally okay but like there isn't like a way around

that like you have to embrace that and like lean into the fact that like it is it is a performance and like the person you're with is also performing and like performing doesn't mean like being fake it doesn't mean being inauthentic like it's still you but like this is it's a different version of you that that comes out at different times like it would be grossly inappropriate if like this version of you came out at like a work meeting like that's grotesque that's inappropriate but like it really kind of is like a fake it till you make it sort of a thing but like you need to get comfortable with owning the fact that is a performance and like you are the star of the show yeah you are performing this is your stage

lights camera action yeah dick x marks as well that's your mark so also and i feel like this goes without saying so like if you're like i know just if you are feeling like i would just do your best to separate these things of like this person i feel like is soft ghosting me but i also like want to try sexual things this they that needs that second part needs to stop because like if you are hoping that this person is still into you and you're having stronger feelings for them then you will be using sex as a way to try and get him to stay or try and get whatever but like the answer of whether he's interested or not it exists regardless of how well you perform in bed like that he's either interested or he's not and trying to like woo him one last time

is only going to make you feel more like guarded when it comes to like exploring sexually with other people i always say like you regardless of who you're sleeping with or doing anything sexual with you just have to like each other the same amount it can be like i don't like you at all i just want to fuck it could be we're friends we get along not into a relationship but we want to have sex or like i really like you i really like you too i love you i don't i love you you love me but like it just needs to be doesn't matter how strong the feelings are it just has to be the same feeling yep and also with the blow job if that's what you're most scared about as long as you don't use teeth and it's wet you'll be fine yeah and we have episodes giving

detailed advice on how to give a great blow job because if anybody's the star star of that show i'm give me an oscar i'm also great yeah this is this is this is one of our claims to fame like we are we are great at giving blowjobs and you're not and we enjoy them yes we enjoy giving and they are a performance and like the reason why we're nobody is fantastic at giving blowjobs if they are not enjoying giving a blow like you're it's just those they're counterintuitive and ultimately like it is a performance and it is requires practice but like you're not born being good at that like that's something that you you get better you get better and you work out and enjoy that's what enticed you about liam is that he didn't have a lot to measure against but

your ex did and don't worry they'll tell you ask him what do you like yeah i i think that like thinking that you can only really start to explore that with someone who like doesn't have a lot of experience like to compare you to you're going about this in the totally wrong way like you're not you're not comparing to anyone you're not stacking up to anyone like this has to be a separate individual thing otherwise like because i don't want to like scare you off of this and make you well then who am i supposed to pick but like being with someone yeah like being with someone who like hasn't been with a lot of people they can also be like i wonder what else is out there like there is no like safe way to do that if you're constantly in competition with theoretical

people like you just need to be confident in yourself and if you're so concerned about what he's thinking and all of that kind of stuff like you just a might not be at the right place for this and like this might not be the right person for you because like you need to feel secure there's no way you're going to give a great blow job to someone you're like i don't want to touch you yeah or like i don't know if like you're in like if you're so worried about like making sure that this person still like likes you or whatever like you're gonna be in your it's not gonna be good you have to feel safe and secure and you don't right now with this guy and like you know that's okay but like it's time on to the next polo marco you also need to be vocal about what

you like and don't like too yeah i want to know what else is happening yeah like sexually give us give us the rest of the story it sounds like you already went to the party and you were wanting us to give our thoughts regarding what should happen i want to know what happened all right we're gonna take a break when we get back we'll get into don't blame them across canada in a volvo destination vancouver turn left to leave Travel west through Approaching Continue toward

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had been seen ghosted her and um she wanted to know how like she moved on from that and we were like trying to figure out what happened because this person was also um an immigrant so we were just talking through it so then here's somebody giving advice to that update my partner is in the u.s on a visa and went through renewal renewal this year my best guess is that he probably couldn't find a job and left the u.s since the combo of shitty job market and hostile immigration policy has made getting and keeping a work visa so hard he's likely just an asshole and him ghosting you doesn't have anything to do with his visa status people just suck and you have full permission to hate him if you want yeah yeah agree but now we have an update to that update see if the theory

is true breaking news update that's what she said yeah he has updated his hinge and the location on there now says a different neighborhood than where he used to live so it seems like he's still in the city just ghosted i do have a friend who's asking her fbi friend to do some investigative work so we'll see how that goes what are they investigating well just seeing like i'm i'm assuming just if he's actually really here yeah or just like you know did he start dating someone new does he something else like that but i think that's the all the confirmation that we need of being like okay it's the it's the better of the outcomes that we want yes so i'm glad that he did not get detained but he's still an asshole and this whole episode has been about ghosting yeah red flags and

ghosting everyone i just i i i need us to have higher standards and like i understand that in some parts of the country it's starting to get cold and you're like i want to drink like hot apple cider i want to get cuffed up i want to i want um what's the sZA song which i like didn't even realize it was a song for SNL for so long and i kept trying to find out yeah you want a big boy again you want a big boy to keep you warm i cannot stress enough that you need to maintain hawk girl summer mentality yes all season yeah all year round non-stop don't get played by these dudes no they already have so much they have so many rights they get so much money they are constantly getting promotions like life is so easy for them if you

if your man is not making you happy you need to start terrorizing you need to start terrorizing him it is your responsibility to terrorize him back and like if you're bored we don't need to like sleep with shitty men we can like terrorize them yeah i just think that that's like such a better use of our time in every one of these situations i could come up with oh my god the way that you can still maintain quote-unquote relationships with these men but you're just using the fuck out of him yeah i want you to be on that other side where you're using them i want him to go to his friends being like i don't know what's going on i want him i want him to be stressed out i want him i want him questioning his every move and your every move

i want him going into work meetings and i'm going like are you sick you look like there's something yeah you're about you and you're like no i'm just tired i just haven't been sleeping i like want you to be the star of his waking dreams his nightmares his terrors like but like he wants this he wants so much to be part of your life if you are going to accept this kind of like toxic what like from a man i need you to give that right fucking back and i think the last one i think you're on the verge where you're like yes you've been given an opportunity and i need you to take it i do i need us to stop being the bigger person in this situation because it's like should i let this guy who's like treating me like shit i should be considerate of his feelings though no no also i

thought they didn't have feelings remember we're the emotional yeah we're the emotional ones like women have too many feelings he has no feelings don't worry about it they can't get hurt if they never existed all right so thank you so much for listening join us tomorrow for fisting friday monday we've got but am i wrong tuesday see you next tuesday wednesday you've got a little break and then on thursday we'll be back for another episode of don't blame me bye This is a Sister Sign production hosted by me, Megan Rinks. And me, Melissa D. Montz, plus Diamond Imprint Productions. Post-production by Coco Lorenz.

Production assistance by Melanie D. Watson. And music by Ryan Hunter and Giacomo Picasso.