Don't Blame Me! - FF: But Am I Wrong? Results - Mother's Day Guilt

Episode Date: May 24, 2024

Meghan and Melisa share the results from But Am I Wrong, Episode 100. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

i think you should actually start with the side that you let out right before we press record so there you go welcome to fisting friday everyone this is going to be a gentle fist this might just be a pinky in the bum it's been a a rough couple days um my computer is messed up i'll talk about it on see you next tuesday because it's really stupid what is happening with it um like take the stupidest thing that you can think of and then be like you have to do that and that's what will be and then like my allergies are super bad right now um so that's why i sound extra nasally i know i sound nasally anyway but super nasally today um and it even took i'm on my desktop it took um 15 minutes to turn on to begin with and then um probably 20 minutes because i

was actually sitting here at, um, 12, we were going to start at, uh, 1245. So I sat down at 1240 and I was like, it shouldn't take more than five minutes to turn on. No, it took 20 minutes to turn on. And then, um, my camera said it wasn't connecting to this either. Um, like the camera that's built into my computer, but luckily I do have an external camera that I plugged in, but then i had to figure out how to set it up because i can't be in an angle or i can't see megan and then that took another like 15 minutes but then we don't even use video for fisting friday so it was all for not even though we will eventually use video it was just like i could have been doing this literally while we were recording this i could have been setting it up true true true um but

you know and i also lost my my phone well i thought i lost it but it was less than two inches away on my little stand that holds my laptop while i'm sitting here if i had a laptop so i'm going your phone is nearby i'm like i know but where is it so that's what's happening um so if the eyeline when you watch the video version is a little off this is fisting friday they can't even the video version of the the rest of the podcast um you'll know earlier than everyone else because you're listening to fisting friday and you would have to be a subscriber of our patreon to know for sure so you're like a ultra ultra winner in our eyes because you actually can buy our love and it is available for a sliding scale on patreon you can buy our like i will say

oh true you have to earn you have to earn our love and earning our love means that you have to come to our live streams and we have to vibe you know because like i love i love the i love some of those bitches me too do you hear me say some no but i just because some of them we also don't know don't know we don't know what very well yet but some of you bitches yeah i love some of those bitches me too i'm not gonna name check because if you know you know you know and also like i don't want people to know if they know if they know it's like you know keep you on your edge to be like oh i hope she's i hope she loves me look at me toxic oh okay my eyes are literally watering all right i forgot my eye drop today so it will be happening to me too yeah it's if i

don't put it on before i put my eye makeup on i'm done for the day if i don't for sunscreen if i don't put it and then i do it after my sunscreen then i go cool sunscreen's in my eye now i'm just burning and i look high yeah so here we are struggling but we'll get through this we will we'll get through it together everybody and we're gonna read the results of last week's episode of our 100th episode oh yeah didn't everyone love the celebration we did nothing yay maybe for 150 we'll do like an actual one yeah we're just we've been discombobulated for a while someone needs to screw our heads back on straight like we've been discombobulated for some time and i do think we have we can blame so many things first pollen yes next grass and if

you're a bridgerton fan we're not talking about penelope and colin oh speaking of i'm gonna be talking about on see you next tuesday did you start watching i started watching and melissa first of all i have problems and i know i have problems but like i literally was googling being like what's wrong with me um and we'll get into it okay so i guess we should just hop into uh reading the results episode 100 first up is me megan wants to stop memefying activism and i that mandy pataken my king is the image uh four percent said i was wrong 96 percent said i was not wrong i don't think i found anyone who replied to this one i don't think so either so I'm curious the people who voted that the next up we have Melissa thinks if you have to

create a breathing technique to attend a function you should be permanently banned four percent said I was wrong I did have to ask Melissa for clarification I was like what was this about again because like in picking a picture I was like I know it's like not about people with asthma because I made that joke and so I was like and also that would be a self to your own self-detriment um so i'm glad i included the picture because people were like if you didn't include this this would have made i forgot for a second what this was so thank you for coming and clutch so quickly yesterday you're welcome in the videos of kim you could also literally see how she was barely able to walk in the corset and i was just watching screaming get her out of that

fucking outfit is killing her to myself like we all know that kim always goes very far for her outfits but this was several steps too far and just straight up unnecessary she could have worn the exact same outfit but without the corset squeezing the life out of her and she would have achieved the exact same effect with the look without hurting herself agree also she was walking on her tiptoes so that also added to it because she couldn't wear shoes that would mess with um whatever was going on at the bottom of that dress because she was him it yeah him it like she was literally just walking on her toes and couldn't breathe yeah um and the outfit still wasn't good like that's the whole thing that i'm like you're going to do all this if you think the most

interesting thing about you is your it is contorting your body when in fact one of the best dress things you ever wore was a silhouette that was your body uh and like you're not making the best dress list and you're doing all of this look at the people who are making it and they're not doing it stupid little cardigan too oh my god it's a shrug like a full-on little fucking limited to shrug it's like a pashmina i know for for her babies when they're i don't even know how old her kids are they're like bigger now i don't know but like when they were like infants this that was one of theirs what they took from the hospital and she said she's like it's kind of like you know you just grabbed your boyfriend's cardigan i was like bitch who is your boyfriend

alert the authorities your boyfriend is a cheap elf yeah literally get him out of that tree all right and then someone else said as a girl with anxiety and asthma i was giggling so much at this at first i was like whoa whoa whoa what do you mean haha but totally agree as a girl with asthma and anxiety as well i was not talking about us um i this earlier this week i think it was yesterday maybe i don't know whatever day it was um i was i thought i was having a panic attack and so i was trying to take deep breaths i took a puff my inhaler because that has worked in the past still nothing i was like i'm drinking so much water spiritual warfare i was like no i just mean like i was like i don't know like i'm not leveling out like i don't i'm not dehydrated like it's not

that. And then I was like, maybe my electrolytes are imbalanced. So then I just ate some pickles and I was fine. Yeah. The shutdown of your body of that feeling where you're like, oh, actually my heart is stopping. My blood's no longer pumping. Like it becomes like a, this is do or die. And then when you think it's anxiety and then the anxiety things don't work, you're like, oh no, this is actually death. This is so crazy. Good on you. It would have taken me a while to figure No, it was like a couple, a few, like a couple hours. Like I was sitting there, I was like, I don't, I don't know what's wrong with me. And I was just like, I just got to, I was just going down the list when it just, after

I took the inhaler and it wasn't helping, I was like, then it's not respiratory. Like the breathing isn't going to help with that. So it's got to be something else. It's also been uncharacteristically, actually, it's now characteristically humid for Los Angeles at this time. and that uh fucks with our um cool down sweating process or whatever so we need more electrolytes when it's humid yep i also had turned the air conditioner down like way down i was like it's it's cold in here and that's not helping so yeah i was going through all the different things

i've been putting pickles on everything i've been eating um since last week yeah that pick that someone said someone sent did you see it someone said and i was like this is why like i love our audience because the same way that you and i will see something and we're like oh my god i have to send that or like people do that for us and i'm like god looking out for us but someone sent saying like saw this and thought of you and it says pickles are fantastic until you're in one i was like i love that's perfect for our audience because everybody's always like i'm in a pickle exactly um yeah i um after when i i did finally to give follow up if you weren't following me on instagram and you didn't attend our live stream um i did make the pickle sandwich

it was delicious it was a little when i got to the second half a little too salty where it was too much but like for half a sandwich is very delicious like oh yeah it was scrumptious um but then i just ate the rest of it later so you know some for now some for later that's how i feel about sandwiches in general i am usually i'm a half a sandwich girl unless i've like really like i am have pushed myself so hard that like i'm getting tired because uh not that i'm full but because like eating takes a lot of energy out of me so then i just pause and then i go actually i could have the second half yep so i usually need like a five to ten minute breather and then i'm ready yeah but yeah otherwise i'm like half a sandwich girl that had to be one of my most

popular stories that I've ever done so many people were writing in so excited about this thing saying that they were going to make one too so I can't wait to hear from everybody send pictures please it wasn't even just like our listeners it was also just like

friends oh well you like as soon as you sent me that tiktok I was like this actually has to happen immediately and I tagged the sandwich company in it and they said the one on the east coast yeah we need you all to come here because you fucking teased us you blue balled us with your goddamn fucking location they said so glad you were able to create your own pickle

sandwich it's great when you're craving something but don't want bread hope you loved it we did thank you i said i absolutely loved it thank you for your inspiration i feel like jimmy johns could get on it yeah i feel like you could probably go to any there's so many delis here in la i'm sure if you just went to one and just asked them to do it then they would do it yeah because jimmy johns was doing um for before anyone maybe like around the same time internet started but they're they do like lettuce wrapped sandwiches and i gotta say the lettuce wrapped tuna sandwich it's giving the like chicken lettuce cups from pf chains and it's like such a fucking like it's so good you think like oh that's a lot of tuna to lettuce no the crunch is so fucking perfect yes

i could go for that maybe that'll be my lunch then we have writer number one versus rachel who posted a picture with the writer's boyfriend 77 77 said the writer's wrong 23 said the writer is not wrong which is kind of like what i expected that it would be a little more torn someone said i agree with megan about the writer not being wrong for her feeling for feeling her feelings but i think through the way she went about it and how the message came off was wrong and someone else said writer's not wrong for having feelings and thinking it's weird that this girl kept those pictures up but so wrong for messaging and like y'all were saying i don't think her feelings were wrong but yeah reaching out to rachel to try and

get her take the picture take the photo down wasn't the best plan gives rachel the power insecurity is a pain but no one can fix it from the outside that's a great way to phrase it yeah i think about that stuff all the time same thing with like being happy or whatever it's like it's if you rely on any of those outside forces to do any of that then you just start getting resentful and mad because it's never going to work you have to be open to it it can like help and be like stepping stones but like you have to want it exactly so i hope that they're feeling better about this and also they can recover from this like i hope they don't think that like we think that like that they're stupid or that like they should feel embarrassed whatsoever like we've

all acted on emotions before and this is just a it's one of those learning lessons that like sometimes the lesson is expensive and sometimes the lesson is kind of embarrassing and this one's just like a little embarrassing and that's fine you gotta get humbled a little bit sometimes all right and then we have writer number two versus not wanting to see their mother for mother's day who's wrong two percent said the writer is wrong 98 said the writer is not wrong Here's a response that someone sent in. I forgot what the specifics of this call were, but as someone who also has a complicated relationship with their mother, I called in about it a while ago. I also really didn't want to see her for Mother's Day to the point where I was severely anxious in the weeks leading up.

But since she is recently divorced and her other child is in jail, I felt obligated to do something for her that day. So we had an hour long, awkward lunch, upside down, smiley emoji. So no, the writer's definitely not wrong. Yeah. I did see this creator I follow on TikTok that had posted about how her mom has recently passed. And so she's still in the thick of grieving. And there were a couple brands that she's just on email lists for, not even PR, but

just like you know you get on the list from ordering something and they yeah I saw this too yeah and it was like basically being like like we know there's how there's a holiday coming up that can be so super celebratory for some and like super hard for others like please check this box if you want to opt out of receiving those emails and I was like that's so nice and like so great that you know using it as a marketing marketing tactic it's just kind of like you just have to cast such a wide net and like I know that people who work at those companies like they know that like it's going to be on the receiving end of some other people but it's like ultimately like it's the bottom line um but that makes me want to like shop from those companies that I've never heard

of before you know yeah and it was probably it probably took somebody on the team that was going through those emotions to say hey maybe we shouldn't send this to everybody yeah like especially just because like the headlines are like did you forget about mom and it's like people who have like yeah on purpose or or like or i am trying to forget because it's hurtful yeah yeah it's like there's so many things that like i you know i i feel for uh especially people who like are grieving good parents like i feel so bad for them having to endure that um stuff so i wish more companies were like that yeah me too oh my god did we have my wrong of the week where i nominated caroline constner however you say her name 99 said she was wrong 1 said she is

not wrong seeing this picture makes me so irate because i hadn't seen it when you initially did it i just heard what you were saying but she actually like like what did she do it was just a photoshop but she also like the video in itself is supposed to be like where i've been and so what she's doing in that is like pretending it's over the course of all this time of her getting more and more pregnant. So she's not saying that she suffered an early miscarriage. Like that's not what the implication is when she has her next video, uh, being like, I lost the baby. Cause like, she's like rubbing her belly and like doing all of this stuff in the video. Like it's fucking crazy. Like it's crazy. And she like goes into like talking about like her health

stuff and like how that's really scary and I was like you're like sick like this is like there's this is sick um someone said the more the story went on the more shock ran through my bones this is so far out of pocket I can't believe people are still following her one of the craziest things for me was reading the comments on her video and how many people or even in replies on twitter were like you just like don't get her and like just staunchly defending her being like I knew it was a joke from the beginning and i'm like but did you like did you watch that video did you comment like ha ha ha like lol we all we all know this isn't real do you know what i mean like i'm like no no you're just trying to be ahead of it but like you as a polite person even if you didn't

think it was real you would never fucking comment on someone saying that they're they're pregnant and they're single and they're in their 20s they're really struggling with health issues you would never comment like that's that's not true like you're a fucking liar like love the lying girl like keep it up like you wouldn't comment that because on the off chance you would be wrong you would never want to put someone through that let alone have other people watch like see your comment and i'm like so don't pretend that like this is like this is crazy crazy i was shocked how many people were on her patreon yeah i guess she's on a podcast and like that's like what people were like well if you're a real fan of her you would like listening to the

podcast if she was really pregnant she would talk about on the podcast but she doesn't i'm like everybody can't consume everybody's content across all platforms erica um so she won't hear that somebody will report back to her love you that's one of the ones we can say love you but like thinking about the sense that like a podcast is primarily first and foremost an audio uh-huh like unless she had set it up on the podcast that i'm about to do this really funny prank yeah but then it would have never worked no yeah she also like i guess has done uh like she does like fake like infomercials for like problematic products too and everyone's like she's just like an edgelord i'm like okay she's

like at the time she's doing i'm like no she's like a 16 year old white girl from like the midwest like stop like this is just no so yeah i'm i'm aghast even editing that photo like i mean just like pulling the fucking screenshot from like the thumbnail of the video i was like this is so crazy all right and then mine was veneer ticks 98 said the ticks are wrong two percent said the texts are not wrong someone said the texts are wrong but even more wrong are the companies targeting these mostly women to train them as some sort of boss babe mlm adjacent bs i don't think it's mostly women though i think it's there's a lot of dudes that are doing it too um and and there are and it's not like companies it's just people that are making shit up yeah it's

like an mlm it's like you've got one of those people at the top who's getting other people to mostly the people i've seen have been women um but i've seen and most ones that i've seen have been men oh yeah so that's just algorithm i would say for the lip injection ones i've seen 99 of the people i've been seeing them are women and then also single moms which i was like this is so fucked up so fucked up and someone else said the techs aren't the problem here it's the people selling the fake certificates well the certificates aren't real and like there's no certification in general so like it's a two-hander like i explained in the yeah it's like the people are coming like when there are problems then the quote-unquote texts are giving them like

solutions that aren't actually problem or not actually solutions so like they're contributing to the problem there it's two-hander yeah but you also cannot the certification doesn't exist it's like a can it's in canva like it's not that like someone is selling fake certifications the certification there is not a real version of the certification that's like there are people that are posing to be the people that are doing the certifications no but like even you can't get certified because it's not you have to go i know there's no saying some people don't know that it's not something that you can actually get certified like there is this the when i first heard about it was because of this man that had he was posing with it with his certificate and then people were

like saying, this isn't a real job. And he was like, um, I got certified by this person and, um, I, um, and y'all just don't want to see a man on the come up. And then someone else said, okay, I work for the ADA. So I was literally getting calls for people that don't know that's the American Dental Association. So I was literally getting calls from people that happened to, that this happened to and it's awful to see but actually the ada is a non-profit dentist organization so we don't oversee dentistry in terms of procedures and regulations so for people who are wanting to report this should actually reach out to their state dental boards these are the government bodies that oversee these issues it's fucked it's fucked fucked fucked fucked

fucked but yeah my biggest issue is obviously the people practicing it but it's not my biggest issue is the people who are training the people to practice it and then someone else said r.i.p to atlanta and that is one of our um atlanta delegates yep that don't know the other one yeah that's one of our atlanta delegates actually you know what i don't neither of them appendixes correct i was gonna say though i'm with an appendix i said actually i don't think they've got an appendix nope appendix list atlanta well that is it um we hope you all enjoyed and don't forget to vote for next week's or last week's episode or the one that just came out and maybe you're not caught up yesterday's episode if you're not caught up go listen and vote and um who knows

when the voting will be up we should try to get it out a little bit sooner because people are forgetting yeah well first of all the person who's forgetting to upload is me um and then uh then other people are forgetting to vote and i can't be mad at them because yeah we're birds of a feather i know i'll be a little less chaotic um after the end of this week because we're getting our tree stumps grinded down oh yeah we will fish later goodbye bye Thank you.