Don't Blame Me! - Hypocritical Siblings

Episode Date: June 1, 2023

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And to explain that segment, this is where we each present our case to each other of something either happening in our own life. We're like, hey, did I fuck up? Am I the villain in this? Or it could be a hot take, something we would like to propose or just a rant, something that we are very confident. in our thoughts. We don't even want to acknowledge that it could be a hot take because we do not subscribe to the notion, even if it is considered a hot take, something we're incredibly impassioned by and we need to share it with the class. You're up first. Let's see what I wrote down. Oh, I forgot what I wrote down. This is funny. So I don't know if I can classify this as a hot take

because I think in in in certain circles it would be a hot take and then in other ones not so much within the acting circle with a lot of actors it would be considered a hot take if those actors were men what about if it's somebody who retired from acting when they were um 22 years old what you acting at 22 years old i've acted in in quite a few things i was a star of the arkansas kids for health videos where i played a plethora of different characters with like ailments i played a potato in one when i was teaching people about vegetables i played a kid with polio like i played a professor i played scientists i had different personal yes and so i was kind of like the spokesperson for arkansas kids for health that they showed all across arkansas in elementary

schools and i would get noticed by children wow so i if if if i would have stayed down this path think about everything we could have been we could still be we could still do it yeah let's what's fucking stopping us right even as someone who retired at 20 you're you will agree with me because uh the real crucial thing is that you are a a woman yeah i am yep so this is my my hot take method acting is for bad actors method acting is for bad actors i'm so impassioned about this and i like can't even explain to you how much so here's where i will get farther into like this is this part is not a hot take this is just a fact because anyone who disputes this is uh you don't support women like method acting is an excuse for men to be abusive and call it

their work day and get paid for it and there's a reason why you don't see women who are method actors and it's not for the patriarchy in the way you think that like oh men are allowed to be they're allowed to kind of dive into that and like women are too like you know they're not they are not allowed to be too emotional. They have to, you know, they have to do it all. They have to be able to bounce back. They still have to be pleasant and nice to be around like all of that. Sure. But it's because it's not having the desire to absolutely torture and abuse the people that you're around. The environment doesn't support women doing that because nobody should support anyone being abusive. Like it's not any of the fluffy stuff off the top because it's the

idea that that's the issue no no the issue with the patriarchy and this is that men want to be abusive and then get to be abusive for their job so i hate this and if anyone has like that you know you can think of lots of like famous actors who who are your top two jared leto enemy of the show big fat fucking enemy of the show if anyone's read about him and his suicide squad yes everybody hated everyone hate so it does not help your performance at all it truly does not help your performance and if a director allows an actor to go method that is your indicator that the director does not think that you are very good that you have to immerse yourself in this and that that's the only way to do it and this whole thing of like

this is like so important and like this is like so like we have to like respect this and all of this shit. You will see the people who have like considered like that they go method. They don't work that much. And it's not because they aren't, you know, maybe that they aren't that famous and all that. They're not nice people to work with. Like nobody enjoys that. Like Jared Leto was like literally like sending like dead fucking animals to castmates and torturing them with that. And it's just like, haha, funny, like whatever. No, no, no, no. Men will do anything except go to therapy they will they will they will act the role of a serial killer do everything up until like murdering people and then be like oh my god like wow this is a lot and it goes go to

therapy you fucking loser right drives me fucking crazy and this all stemmed because i saw on a reddit post that this their this person was talking about their partner and i think it might have been in like the la's i don't remember what subreddit was in um but their partner was in a play and they have asthma and they're part, like they were coming home from rehearsals and they're not in full-time actor. Like this is a community theater production. Like they would, it's a passion they would love to do,

but this is not their full-time gig. And he was coming home from rehearsal smelling like cigarettes. And she was like, are you smoking? Like what's going, like really bad-ass. And I was like, what's like, oh no, no, no. The play that we're in, like people are smoking through most of the play

and the director wanted it to be real. So everyone's just like smoking like cigarettes. What? And the amount of people, oh, I think it might've even been, am I the asshole? The amount of people who were like, everyone was anti her

and was just like, it's acting, like, you know, all this. And I go, no, no, no. If you're a director and you need your actors to smoke legitimate cigarettes in a theater, which theaters are old. All of them are fucking old. They have so much fucking cloth

and upholstery that holds onto smells and they're not well ventilated because they need the acoustics. But also- like fire hazard code like that's you you're not supposed to do that yes it's it's not allowed in most places and the entire entire comments were all like ripping them apart being like oh my god like this is like this is acting like you'll literally be fine i go well no they're it's only going to be for like a part of it like you'll be so far away the idea that method acting is

being this like renowned regaled thing whether it's directors who want their actors to like live in it you're not a good director that's what i was about to say or you want or you're an actor and you're like no i have to live in this because it's not just about you then you need everybody else to play into your fucking shit you're just then controlling and you're also then not a good actor right being a professional actor is 90 spent on set not recording not filming and the product that you make at the end of the day is a small, small part of what your entire workday was. And to torment the people that you are working with, to torment yourself, to like literally cause yourself to be in this like horrific spiral to like feel so shitty and all of that, like

you're going to be a miserable coworker for the sake of art. I don't even think it's for the sake of art I feel like it's so that they can be who they truly are without consequences I think it's it's they can be abusive and be awful because they have while being praised for it which is truly what that's really what they people want to be abusive and they want to be praised for being abusive or it's a self-loathing and I want to punish myself because I don't want to go to therapy yeah and I want to treat myself super fucking poorly and I'm either wounded or I want to wound other people and it's infuriating and there's another actor which I will not talk shit on this show because it is so big and I think it's a really well done show but I really love to see

older actors who've been in the business for a very long time I'll talk about it okay go ahead I love to see older actors who've been in the business for a very long time publicly call out, specifically men calling out other men for method acting and not being a good person, a nice person to work with and a good cast member and a good co-worker and making everybody else's jobs harder because actors don't have a lot of control most of their career. but once you get to a certain level in your career you don't have control over like producers you don't have control over directors and the term is usually above the line people but like you can be awful to like a props coordinator or something and then you can get them fired and then they don't have a job like if you're gonna make other people's jobs and lives miserable you're ruining people's dreams you know what i mean yes for those who don't know she may or may not be referring to succession and the dude that plays kendall i don't know what his real name is but brian cox

who plays his father i love has called him an asshole on numerous occasions and says that it's just not good acting if he can if he has to do this which is very true to brian's character but also if you watch like brian and interviews and stuff he's very much not that character but he is uh if you want to be entertained especially if you dislike kindle i mean the character could be the actor too whatever your choice is same person read the interviews because they're very uh hilarious like if you want a good he he ha ha i strongly recommend it weed don't smoke weed before you read them because they're they're a trip they're like they made me there it's a lot like it's like yes whoa okay holding on to my seat and my final point of all this is the the

real proof in all this to me that method acting is bad acting but more than that is an excuse to be abusive is nobody method acts for positive and happy people yeah you don't go for like oh i'm gonna method act and be a really kind lovely person someone just dropped that they do it i'm watching her sift through the files in her brain to figure out who it is tom hanks he said that he pretends to be nice because he wanted everybody to think he was a good person but he said there were days when he was cranky and he just put it on oh no totally but it's not but it's not like a mean thing no no it's not like in the way that we all i'm playing mr it's when i'm playing mr like when i'm like i'm literally like a piece of shit and then i'm playing mr rogers and i'm like

i'm method acting i'm incredibly nice like no one does that like you only do it when it's like oh i can kill animals and treat women like absolute shit like sign me the fuck up yeah it's a tough one yeah it's a tough one all right well here's my but am i wrong for this week oh i'm ready why are you looking at me like that why were you looking at me that way look at you anymore okay so we have ai that can make our dead relatives talk hard pass we have cars that can drive themselves hard pass we also have robots that can deliver our food love it well i am very upset with how we have all these advancements and you know we even got those those robot animals that run around and now they can hammer shit that like i think it's mit that

have been doing those things i've progressively watched them advance over the last 20 years and now they can hammer stuff i i'm not thinking of like the commercials with the dog with the little blue ears no no no no no they can i'm sorry if they can hammer stuff they can hammer my my brain yes i hope everybody's being nice to technology anyway i'll look it up later so you can see maybe it's not mit but why is it that when i order french fries from a restaurant they're still arriving to my fucking door soggy why is there not a container that is properly ventilated also why are we still putting fries in paper bags why why with all these advancements in the world there's not just like a proper container for french fries to be delivered if it can be delivered in a

robot why is this robot not ventilated for fries why haven't we put an air fryer on wheels that You would think that Austin would be could be an air fryer on wheels as you're describing this, because when you put them in bags or you put them in even cardboard boxes, you're trapping steam in there. So then you're steaming them. You are steaming them. So we need something that's sucking the moisture out. So I like this. My rant is very short. This is all really that I have to say about this. but can someone please give us french fries that are delivered to my door crispy still that's all i think it's i mean someone invented dry ice yes and i feel like this should be in their wheelhouse for the opposite direction with all the things that i just named 3d printer we can do right yeah and after they do that i would i think they should work on printers but like not the 3d ones but yeah

no this this is a tale as old as time this is a problem that no one has solved yet and you know i would think that the same mechanism could be used to transport hard shell tacos as well yes i mean you know over the pandemic we had so many you think about before the pandemic when we had things delivered they were not taped do you remember that when the pandemic hits that i realized that i was like i was just blowing out candles on a cake i go oh i never allowed that i know you were ahead of the curve as always and i was like we were disgusting yeah but like before the pandemic i don't like thinking about just getting food delivered open no protection raw dog our drinks would just like have the straw in it open people touching you don't know if people

like sucked on your shot before and then during the pandemic they were like let's put tape on these things seal it up you know we've got better to go tainers for cups but no one in the three years where we were locked in the house and everybody was getting food delivered was like we need to we need to fix this problem with soggy fries that it's a travesty and you're right and you should say it and you know what i will say that so far you know who actually make the champions at this because they are the best fries delivered fries ever because they are some of the best fries ever not palm strings obviously nothing nothing can compare to that i hop fries i hop when did you have IHOP delivered first of all I've been to VidCon so many times I thought you meant like

recently no I also used to live near an IHOP but no I've I've had IHOP delivered like that I I IHOP french fries like my IHOP is open so fucking late and for some reason IHOP makes a great french fry and of all the places I've had fries delivered from it's because they they start them crispier and i think they it's some i don't know but they're not there they're not you're not eating the same fries you're eating at the table and also those those thick ceramic plates and the glass bottle ketchup it does something change things but they're better than most so i think someone one of these fucking mit one one of one of your young bright minds head on over to ihop collaborate and give us what we deserve right yeah it's a sad time it is and we the government

hasn't given everybody an air fryer so that's like the only saving grace is afterwards reheating but how annoying is it when you're like my food's finally here now let me heat it and goes if i wanted to wait to heat something up i would have just made my own food exactly so someone fix this and why haven't they yet what's the bigger question big french fries big fry air fryers kind of really popped off during the pandemic what if it was because everyone was getting their fries delivered and they were having to put them in the air fryer it's a question that's not because they did pop off in a way that we got to a point where people are just putting like pieces of plastic like let me put an eraser in my air fryer and i'm like

i missed a few steps yes maybe i started with fries and we just got less and less logical yeah huh something to make you think all right we're gonna take a little break and when we come back prepare yourselves for but are you wrong all right we're back from our break and now it's time for but are you wrong and that's When y'all write in and share your thoughts and feelings, you're up. done. Like if we were just out of dish soap, I know for a fact that he wouldn't take initiative to buy more unless I asked. Most of the time I just do slash clean things myself because it's so annoying to tell him, remind him or explain to him how to vacuum the carpet, clean the bathroom

counter or feed the cat. When I bring it up, he asks for examples and everything I bring up feels insignificant. He also says, quote unquote, those things aren't noticeable or it doesn't bother me to have a messy house. It really bothers me. I have ADHD and my environment really impacts my ability to focus and emotionally regulate. And I'm open about this. I try compromising and I don't expect it to be perfectly clean by any means. And I'm okay with taking a larger share of the chores to maintain my mental health. But I, but am I wrong to expect him to learn how to notice when things need attention around the house and take initiative? Sometimes it baffles me that he thinks I'm just naturally better at cleaning and more attentive to messes

when really I learned from my mom who took care of everything for my family and my dad and dad who didn't lift a finger unless asked and it makes me scared i'll resent my boyfriend one day you're not wrong at all didn't you do a but i know i did that was exactly like this and someone was like mad and they were like you literally like like something something about talking shit about mods or something yeah and i'm like this is not if you think that i would get on the podcast and say anything about my personal life involving him that i have not talked to him before about like hell no but i guess some people um so like couples do that like they use it as a means of communication which is not me you're not wrong at all and there are some things here that i think

that make this like truly weaponized incompetence so this is not only like weaponized incompetence it's it's your partner like you being like this is weaponized incompetence and him going yes it is like do it and you do it yeah and so it's just like this is like really like not knowing how to feed a cat like that's the dumbest thing i've ever without a doubt like there are certain things that it's like yes some people are more comfortable living in mess than other people and that's that that yes that that's that's not i don't disagree with him on that and there are certain things that you might enjoy and want to clean more than others, but nobody is cleaning solely because it's giving them serotonin. Do you know what I mean? Like you can enjoy cleaning.

You could like cleaning, but if, but this one thing, if you were cleaning and the result of cleaning is making a total mess, no, it's, it's effective. Like it's sufficient for your day. It can make things a lot easier. And like organizing, like, I don't think there's cleaning is not morally doesn't hold any moral value. But people are cleaning because it's a it's a visual task that start to finish. You can like sometimes turn your brain off, but you can see like I think like tasks that show visual completion, those tend to be things that you have instant or gratification from because you're building towards a goal. So for all of this to say for him, some men who use weaponizing competence and the idiots like this, like truly think, oh, you like cleaning. I don't

like cleaning. So you can just clean because you like you like things being clean. So therefore you like cleaning. I don't like cleaning. So I'm just not going to clean or I don't do it as good as you. And I'm just going to make you mad if I do it. So, you know, I'm not going to learn how to do it better. You can just keep doing it. So then you'll be satisfied. Yeah, he's making this So he's like, oh, I would live in complete and total filth. And it goes, but you wouldn't. If you were single, if you were inviting someone over who you're trying to sleep with

and you would leave your entire place a complete, you wouldn't. Like it's just for the fact like you truly would not do that. So nothing, none of this should feel insignificant. Like these are really frustrating. So if he says those things aren't noticeable, it doesn't bother me to have a messy house. I this would be you have I would I would give like an ultimatum like you have to research

and learn how to do if you need to watch a YouTube video to learn how to clean something if you need to like do this this and this and do that like you've got a week and otherwise I'm taking your credit card and I'm signing us up for a weekly cleaning service that you're paying for I was going to say the time that you use that you would be cleaning, go get another job that, you know, like a little part time job. So then you can pay for it. Yeah. Like if he doesn't want to pull his weight, then he has to pay for his weight to be pulled. And it shouldn't take away from your other finances, you know?

No, it's just from him. Because you're putting time in, then he can put money in. That's the trade off. Like there's no other way of that. and he has no desire to learn and you're not the whole thing of like women being naturally better at it it's not true no and it's what it's not natural because it's what you're saying like your mom had to clean up after your dad and so you learned from your mom because women were put in this position and that's not uh an instinct that is a uh nature that is that is a circumstance

and you will resent him and you will it will end up the the same way and i think anyone fighting back on this is like infuriating because i think that there's like you can be passively men can be a passive victim of the patriarchy like not even noticing that they're participating in it because that's the patriarchy it benefits them they go i didn't even realize i'm just floating like this was just so easy and it's the response the reaction should be wow i'm so embarrassed I'm going to do better and there should be a conscious effort and a visible effort put in and that effort very quickly should turn into success yeah there's not a very large learning curve there like you can fuck something I've fucked things up where I'm like oh shit I use

this cleaning thing on that I shouldn't I've kind of like tarnished this or whatever but you make a mistake you learn and you keep going forward but yeah I would probably reflect on what the rest of your dynamics are like like about cooking and other quote-unquote domestic tasks yeah i don't know if you're wanting to have children or we already have a cat or any more pets feeding the cat like i can't get over that you're either just putting some dry food in a container or opening a can and putting a few things in yeah that's not hard and it freaks me out because the two things that I think it sets the precursor for is if the cat dies while you're not here that's on you or you can never leave and you can never trust that anything living

like dead or alive whether it's plants animals your possessions are safe here and secure here while you're gone so if you're trapped and that's like not not it so in conclusion you are not wrong you're not wrong and i resent your boyfriend already all right next one content warning for gun use hey megan and melissa my 28 female sister re 37 female has had a strained relationship with our brother Brady 40 mil for the past year after he disowned her son Arthur 15 mil. Last summer Arthur got into some trouble with the law after he was found with a gun on him on two separate occasions. He was arrested and spent some time in a detention center but has been on the mend after receiving one year probation from the courts. Brady when he was a teenager was part of a dangerous

gang in town and had made far worse decisions but was able to turn his life around after becoming a father. Brady has now made several comments about Arthur not being allowed around his daughter, 16 female, and Arthur's bestie and refuses to help guide him. Knowing this, I have kept my relationship with my brother at arm's length as I feel he is being a complete asshat. Brady and I have never been close as where my sister is my best friend Ari is upset with me though about still having contact with Brady but refuses to acknowledge that she still talks to Kate 38 female one of my dad's kids who shut me out Ari was there to witness all the trauma I endured after losing not only my dad but his side of the family too she's seen me go from being a confident

grown woman to a scared child hiding behind racks all because kate or one of the others was passing by i have tried to explain to ari how it's hypocritical for her to expect me to cut someone out of my life for her sake when she wouldn't do the same for me so am i wrong for keeping contact with brady given the circumstances i mean given the circumstances that it's hypocritical then no no but i think you're trying to use this teacher sister like a lesson because i don't it doesn't seem like you want to have a relationship with brady and like the way that you're describing it to me is that this is an opportunity to show your sister that like this hurts you i would like you because it sounds like you want her to cut kate off and if she did that you'd be happy cutting

brady off i didn't read it like that but like if you and this is actually kind of similar to what we have and don't blame me earlier this week yeah but if you should have a conversation with Ari about like a serious conversation of like you know if y'all want to maintain these outside relationships with siblings then you just have to keep those parts of your life separate like don't talk about them together don't try to have family events where y'all all are together like you just have to keep them separate if kate wasn't a factor then i would be like yeah you're wrong but since it is a factor and this is what y'all's life is then just keeping them separate and i don't think that anybody is wrong i do think though the reverse of it is she could then call

you hypocritical of like well you want me to cut kate off but you still have contact with that's you're both yeah so I think in this instance like for me if I were in your shoes sometimes like yeah if an opportunity presents itself you go wow I can now be petty essentially and like show this person like look how much it sucks now but there's also the other side of like yeah I can be like yeah no I'm they clearly have hurt you and I don't align with that so like I'm cutting them off and that I'm not one who's always like lead by example in that kind of way but if the goal is to like teach her a lesson to show that she's being hypocritical i think participating in the game by also being like hypocritical then neither of you really have strong footing like you're

neither you have you can't say anything to yeah it cancels it out so like i just don't talk about it yeah so i and i think like it you said you're not even you're not really close you're keeping him at arm's length and like she's your best friend so i think the issue is that she's friends with and is still close with talks to kate like i think that's the the issue but once you bring brady in there then you suddenly have a tit for tat thing right and neither of you are probably gonna budge and i don't think you'll actually get what you want which is your sister to understand how much that hurts you so i think cutting out brady is an act of good will that's not doesn't seem like it's hard for you at all yeah yeah this isn't an advice show no but those are just

thoughts maybe what this has taught me is in most situations when there's like it's hypocritical two people both people end up if you like stand your ground in something where it's like oh you're being hypocritical about this and it's like well both people dig their heels and then you're both technically yeah and then you lose all argument exactly i never thought about that in this situation i think both of you are wrong but since both of you are wrong then that makes you not wrong so if you're right that's true anyway we're gonna take another break now we're back from our break and it's time for but are they wrong and that's when we pick someone from popular culture yep or unpopular culture or just some random small town and we nominate them

as the worst of the week or as we like to call it and for some reason people have picked up on it rachel of the week so i had two options uh actually i was pretty confident with the one that I was choosing. And then last night, my timeline was violently attacked by a video from, I think her username is culture works. She's great. You'd love her. If she's not an Aquarius, I'll be shocked. She's either an Aquarius or a Capricorn. Yes. Culture work. So she did this video. So I'm going to just give a first little quick little shout out, just a nod to someone being a fucking asshat is uh the la dodgers and uh the la dodgers that this conservative this faux this real conservative faux legitimate organization of uh christians that have

they're a quote-unquote catholic organization they're they're like a like a club like they're not this is not like a government agents like this is not a a thing this is like some buddies with a twitter account they have bullied the la dodgers into dropping charity drag group from pride night and dodgers having a pride night and they've decided that the sisters of perpetual intelligence which is a community non-profit who have done catholic inspired like they like not the nun stuff and they talk a lot about deconverting from religions and you know religious trauma which is heavily ingrained in the lgbtqi community they have removed them from participating in this because they're listening to the conservative bigots who have

said that it's mean to catholics in la in la do these people contribute a lot to the booster club no and also it's pride night right and they're like they're cosplaying as catholic they're appropriating our culture it's laughable and senator mark rubio was the one who was really championing why he doesn't live here because he hates gay people and found a way that he could make it about pseudo religion so yeah they had uninvited them and this is from mark harris myc on twitter the sisters of perpetual indulgence was founded in 1979 one was on newsweek's first aids cover their major activists in the first year of crisis they are sewn into the aids quilt this is just pathetic that is the response to this like they've literally been a huge part of

the la culture for a long yeah and like groundbreaking in championing safety in health access for people who with hiv and aids and like this is la this is a literal event for pride and then we're censoring that for a group of people who are unhappy with the entirety of it like why are you talking you why are we catering to our haters do you know what i mean like then just fucking cancel the whole thing at that point like what so they're the catholic league who says this and they're literally not real people and their twitter account on the 17th January of this year said Pete Buttigieg should call Chasten his partner, not his husband. The two of them may not like it, but the truth is not determined by what is popular. It is determined by

what makes sense according to nature and nature's God. Like, why are we, are we just listening to homophobes? Like of how we should do pride? Like the fuck? So that's my little one. But then I was visually accosted by this story, which I'm not going to say that it's her fault at all, Because she did give a trigger warning on the video and said, like, this is super fucked up, which enticed me. And I kept watching. Of course. And she said this again, culture work on TikTok, the opening line. I need everybody in Los Angeles to sit down for a second right now.

And I said, ma'am, I'm sitting. Were you sitting and were you were you sat or were you lying down? I was reclined. My head was not at the same level as my chest, like as my heart. Like, you know, my legs were up. My body was reclined. I was like I am not scrolling you've got me in she then goes on to talk about a twitter thread that no joke moments prior I had just been on twitter saw the thread and went that seems like

a whole thing I don't want to open and read I'll I'll look into that later and she just starts opening it I go well boy oh boy am I glad that I imagine I skipped by it I didn't see this TikTok I would have missed all of this. Do you need to give a content warning? Yes. Okay. I'm about to give the content warning. The content warning is bestiality and unaliving kittens.

Okay. Uh-huh. So I would like to nominate the restaurant Horses. Horses is a restaurant in LA and it's co-owned by two chefs, former husband and wife, Elizabeth Johnson. Okay. They were husband and wife up until very recently. They're filing for divorce.

So when this restaurant was operating, which is up until very recently, a husband and wife, a duo. And then her husband, Will, and his last name is A-G-H-A-J-A-N-I-A-N. And she's filing for divorce and has accused her husband of killing multiple family cats. So she filed a request for a domestic violence restraining order in November of last year. And it was granted in December and has been extended. And according to the LA Times, she alleges that Will and I had have had cats that mysteriously ended up dying, including one in 2017, who I took to a shelter when she became seriously wounded overnight. The shelter informed her that the cat had been seriously abused, but her husband denied any involvement. And then she believed him up until there was another incident with a new kitten that was put in their care.

and according to this twitter thread they had like they used the term like they had an open door policy for stray cats and i go i did not open door to me that's i'm thinking where our marriage is open to other humans but it was like oh we love rescuing cats and so it was it's a given that like we're just anytime there's a stray cat or kitten like we're taking them in so that's important because it's been alleged that there's been more than dozens of cats that they've had over the years some have even speculated like 50 plus with the new kitten there was another incident that she was like oh shit actually maybe you have something to do with this so she alleges that he threatened to feed a cat to coyotes and then walked in like and witnessed

him violently shaking one of the cats at night and the kitten ended up dying the next day and then she said we'll put the dead cat in the trash and insisted on keeping the corpse in the house and again this is on like the divorce shit like this isn't like her going to a paper to say to talk shit like this is i'm trying to get my fucking money and get my uh permanent restraining order against him and have people know that he's not this is this is through the courts so she also alleges that he physically abused her saying that in 2019 he dragged her across the floor by her legs. And then he threw on his own restraining order to her, saying that she threatened to kill him repeatedly, burned him with a metal spatula, and then has asked for custody of some of their

animals back, but not all of them. And then he alleges that she falsely accuses me of things that she has done or has threatened to do to me and my pets. My pets are like children to me, and I love them dearly. So that's what the story is being reported in the LA Times and in all of the other articles because for the most part on those specific publications, they're not going to report things that have been completely unfounded

without sources who might not be revealing themselves to the public, but will be revealing themselves and their reason why they know these things and their connections to the journalist. But you can go to Twitter for when people are good, When the streets are, you know, people are gossiping and talking. It's a small town. So according to Twitter user Nike PS5, the story gets a whole lot weirder.

And the tweets are are fucked. And again, they're all allegations. They're anonymous. So from another. So from that account, I just said these are screenshots of a text message that he's posted. So Liz, the chef, was with this dude, Will, that was that was the co-chef at Horses when it opened till the top of this year. Apparently, they had an open-door policy about adopting stray cats at home.

And mysteriously, like half a dozen of them have died over the span of a year or so. Apparently, Liz was already feeling increasingly freaked out and thinking something was up. This is the really disturbing part. So if anyone, feel free to skip 10 seconds. She comes home a few months ago and Will is, and this is their words, Will is beating his meat while strangling a kitten. And this is all before the LA Times story comes out. Is this is what is being broke, like first.

And so people are tweeting. Someone tweeted horses really closing or Lauren Sherman tweeted. If horses is really closing, I might have to move my family and our entire life back to New York. And then Foster Kramer replied on Twitter. Oh, I assure you, when the story comes out, you're going to want to move your family to like the woods. And that was prior to the L.A. Times story coming out. Does that person say what their relationship is to them or do they access the court documents before it hit public record? editor-in-chief at futurism best american food writing 2021 bylines for new york time like it's a they're a writer so that to me is sources and then another screenshot saying this from another source apparently the husband and wife who own it are divorcing because he cheated on her with a

bunch of sex workers and gave his wife a ton of stds and the cat story is more or less a part of the story and that the last straw was what her walking on the cap into in walking in on him with the cat and all the investors are dropping out and someone said l said i mentioned the story with some random friends of colleagues at drinks tonight and they all apparently know the wife and then they're claiming that it's a lie that she's making up to regain ownership and then someone else is claiming that they are both cat killers with screenshots of alleged text messages between them but that's uh that who fucking knows right so saying i'm hungry sorry i can't talk now should i get in and out in service. I leave early tonight. Last table seven. Sure. If I get famous, will

anyone ever find out about pancakes or the cats? No. Love you. Which is like saying that Liz is the one saying, will anyone find out about the cats? And then another one alleging that it's her saying, what apron should I get? And whatever you want, I will kill Poncho, the cat, and you will eat Poncho oil pills. This is horrific. And now that I've watched one TikTok, my entire TikTok is this well you gotta do the thing not interested unless you are well the amount of people who are trying to get reserved like I saw TikTok people going when you're standing outside because you have reservations at horses for dinner tonight and you're like uh I'm gonna go home now yeah so who knows if any of it's true all of it's true some of it's true

but wow if this is all fake maybe James Corden is behind this so then the biggest restaurant drama of late is not him sending back his wife's omelet

which I forgot about that Melissa I will never forget about that because she got an egg yolk only omelet and the fact that you would even be able to chew that and swallow that who does that? Melissa I don't know. Alright that is horrific and I don't like it. So for mine, I'm nominating Trevor Jacob, 29 year old former Olympian

who had 140,000 subscribers on YouTube. He recently pled guilty to a felony charge after he purposely crashed an airplane for views. So he had been under investigation for staging a plane crashed in 2020 in december 2021 and uh this past thursday the justice department announced that a plea agreement was filed with the u.s district court in la and in the video that he titled i crashed my plane jacob had been seen diving out of a civilian aircraft and popping his parachute he claims the video why not pop your pussy sorry uh popping the parachute he claims in the video that the airplane malfunctioned while it was flying over the los padres national forest in california the video is still on youtube and it has 4.1 million views on it

And it was, like, met with skepticism that it was staged, and the U.S. Federal Aviation Administration agreed that it seemed odd that Jacob was wearing a parachute at the time of the crash. And furthermore, according to the FAA's letter, authorities took note that Jacob didn't make an attempt to contact air traffic control and also didn't attempt to restart the plane's engine. It was also perceived that Jacob could have safely glided to numerous landing spots around the area, but the FAA says Jacob didn't attempt to do so. After the crash, Jacob, quote unquote, recovered and then disposed of the wreckage, according to the FAA, and Jacob has admitted that he lied about that. In the weeks following the crash, Jacob lied to investigators and said that he did not know the wreckage's location. According to the plea agreement, the DOJ says, in fact, on December 10th, 2021, Jacob and a friend flew by helicopter to the wreckage site. And Jacob used straps to secure the wreckage and carry it to Santa Barbara County, where it was loaded onto a trailer attached to Jacob's pickup truck. And Jacob drove the wreckage to the airport and unloaded it on a hangar.

And then he cut up and destroyed the plane wreckage over the course of a few days and deposited the detached parts of the wreckage plane. Why is it serial killery? Right. into trash bins at the airport elsewhere which he admitted in his plea agreement was done with the intent to obstruct federal authorities from investigating the plane crash so he admitted to planned on making money from the youtube video and he has of course already had his pilot's license revoked just a fun fact he was on the u.s snowboarding team in 2014 I was going to ask you, what sport was it?

Yeah, and he competed in several winner X games where his best finish time was fifth place. And he faces up to 20 years in prison. All our Rachels of the Week were Los Angeles-based. Oh, wow, you're right. City of angels, baby. Okay, so did anyone get hurt? No, he knew where he was going to dump it.

Like, he planned all this out. This is so embarrassing for him. It's very embarrassing. like and the fact that like in the video he already has on his parachute that's like so embarrassing like this is mortifying that you filmed this i love the fact that he wanted to do this but like well i need to be smart and safe about it like this is if you want to be smart what you do is in the video when you reportedly have problems you pick up the parachute and put it on in the video you don't you're not already sitting there with it on i didn't realize that this is

that illegal and i know it's because it's like the risk of safety like if you didn't you didn't hurt anyone but you could have and this could have been a huge ordeal and then there's all of those specific things with like having your pilot like you having a pilot's license is different than having like a car license because you have to report things to all of that other stuff so he never reported i mean so like let it wreck and then he lied and then he he's also getting like some of the charges are because he's obstructing justice so i mean that for a lot of people for a lot of other things you could fake something for a video and there's no specific group of like there's no organization that is in literal plane crashes like people they have to look at the

manufacturers like there's all of those kinds of things like if you crash your car for a video into your own your house that you own into a wall like on your own property the city might have something to say if there's like a technicality but like no one really gives a shit but like but it's also in national forest yeah like there's the sky there you know there's all of these other things here so i'm just like sure you have to go through the effort of getting a pilot license like you know that what you're doing is illegal like this is like tax evasion like someone's gonna you have to lie then to the those people it's not just about getting caught yeah because you filmed it and i'm also like what did the people that you hired with the helicopter

like what did they think you were doing yeah have you went in how much money did he spend on all this has he ever thought about being an office coordinator like the people who buy all of the snacks and like make all of the calendars like he seems to be very like diligent and lots of planning no because that's not going to get him views i follow i watch a lot of those people doing those on tiktok and i'm like okay this looks like he he would be a very good pta member but he needs the thrill of it he's like i can't get the thrill from snowboarding anymore so much of a thrill i still have to wear my parachute the whole time like you know what david dobrik is seeing this and he's going like i've got an idea and he's just stroking his cat like

like look fucking evil his eyes glowing i'm like like you could have glided the plane and i think people would have been more into the the the excitement of that of you like real life sully yeah i my my plane was going down and i was real life it wasn't just tom hanks in a movie sully was real life you're right i know my bad my bad but like you know i'm the youtube sully like oh like you you're like a close call sort of thing but like look at my skills like this to me was just this is like not very good no acting in in all of this like like 20 years like holy shit bro like you do you know that that's what you could face because he didn't hurt anyone like he did every like in a way you know what I mean like it's not like he left a bunch of damage and like

wreckage and like he like did all of this other shit but it's like no no point blank even if you did this in a way that wasn't a nuisance or harmful to other people there's a part of that that's just pure chance and luck and like there was a risk but then also like even through all of that and I'm sorry I'm just gonna say it if you're facing 20 years in prison for 4.1 million views that's not good like it was a year ago if you're gonna really risk prison for content i expect something better the uh top comment on youtube says this was epic please try again after 20 years my video of putting tape on dylan o'brien's face has more views than that and i'm not going to jail yeah that was a sponsored video that was in part i don't know if it's technically sponsored but that's

i tried on my bikinis eight years ago well you were also naked in that video i peeled i peeled dead skin off of my feet i hate that sir have you thought about being a beauty guru i just have to tell you like or what about those rage baiting videos of people who like make sexual fetish videos of like food where it's like oh you're gonna like blah blah and you're like oh like why is this person making like why are you putting a raw egg into popcorn and then just taking it out at the end like that makes no sir there are other ways I don't know who Charlie is so forgive me if they're problematic but somebody said I love that Charlie made more views talking about this video than Jacob did by crashing the plane and getting 20 years yeah I'm shocked and

even a year ago when this was posted someone said if this wasn't staged you're a bad pilot if this was staged you're possibly a criminal so like somebody that's a pilot like looking at this automatically knows what i mean i'm like i don't know that this is illegal but like i also don't have my pilot's license and like that's not something you fucking get like half-assed paying attention like that's something that like some people like you have to clock in not only like hours but like studying like it's it's a hard feat to get and like you know the laws and you know the regular you know those things so you knew all of that if some of i did this i would be like oh shit yeah you're an idiot you know what i mean because you didn't but i didn't even know this was

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