Don't Blame Me! - S1E6: What Are The Sexual Bases?!

Episode Date: June 23, 2017

This week I’m answering your questions on post-coital religious guilt, dealing with old-ass supermarket customers hitting on you, and keeping your old work friends while seeking a new job with better pay!AND, if you don’t want to just listen, you’re in for a very special treat. Head over to my YouTube channel and you can watch this episode as well!https://www.youtube.com/user/meghanrosetteI’m still soliciting your sex questions - those questions you’re too afraid to discuss with your friends. Come on! (No pun intended) Give me a call...[phone]...with your question, age, and as much detail as possible. And I will do my best to offer my words of wisdom.If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only. Don’t blame me if it ruins your life. lol jk my advice is THE BEST.[phone]Call!Thanks to HelloFresh for supporting our podcast. Go to HelloFresh.com and use the code blame30 to get $30 off your first week of deliveries.Also, thanks to MeUndies for supporting Don’t Blame Me. Get 20% off your first pair by going to MeUndies.com/blame.Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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no offer code with this one. We just have our own fancy URL. One more time for 20% off your order at MeUndies. Go to MeUndies.com slash blame. It's a fancy URL. I feel legit. Hi, guys. Welcome to another episode of Don't Blame Me with Megan Rinks. And today is a very exciting episode um that's because not only am i megan rinks which is the common denominator in all of these i'm actually filming this episode for my youtube channel which i'm sure a lot of you know of um or all three of these listeners who are listening right now but we're trying to get more listeners so we can continue to do this because it's fun so i thought why not pop on my youtube channel and do this so you might be watching this or you might be listening to it

or maybe you've like synced it up and you're doing both and there's like a little bit of an echo and you just feel like surrounded by my voice. Hello. Uh, yes, this is very exciting. So if you've never heard of this podcast, now you have, wow, this is so cool. This is my advice podcast. Um, yeah, you guys call in with questions and things in your life that you need advice on. And then I offer my expert opinion aka i'm a know-it-all um and uh then i tell you exactly what to do with your life or i tell you that you're pretty much screwed and at the end i always say that you can't blame me because um honestly for legal reasons and also like on brand because that's the name of this podcast so if you guys want to call in there's a phone number that i can give you in

three two one oh that's not the number that's just me like counting down giving you the number which starts with a three three one zero six nine four zero nine seven six again the number is three one zero six nine four zero nine seven six if you're watching the video component of this you saw that i just looked down because it is a paper clipped to uh the tripod of the camera because i can't remember it even though we're on episode whatever episode we're on i can't even remember the phone number five six six what's eight six oh oh my god hi megan oh this is also my producer director jack ferry can i film you with my iphone and insert it so they can see you i guess if you like he's like this is ratchet i don't have two cameras ratchet i wasn't thinking this is ratchet

i can assure you oh let me turn it yeah if you're gonna do it at least get the right uh aspect ratio hi megan's iphone i don't have two cameras so this is what we're resorting to i just wanted them to see you i appreciate that thank you nice thank you do you have a meeting after this No, I just want to look good for you. Oh, it's like a Selena Gomez song. I'm really excited. I really enjoy watching podcasts along with listening to them. So there's some episodes like of Grace's podcast.

I'll watch on the full screen app. Some certain ones that I'll want to save for that because I'm like, I bet some shenanigans will go down. So I always thought the video component of podcasts are really cool. And even Jenna and Julian's where they just sit and talk. So maybe if this goes well, we can do it again. But in order for it to go well, you guys have to go download my podcast and subscribe to it.

So download the app, whatever app you're using to listen to podcasts. You can do SoundCloud, Apple Podcast app, and you could also just find us anywhere. If you're like, but I don't have either of those, where can I listen to you? If you go to don'tblameme.show. So this is the first time we've done a video version of this podcast, which I'm excited for. It's a special treat, and this is actually episode six. So there's five other episodes that are just audio, but I really wanted to kind of share it with you guys because I still get tweets and stuff and people being like oh my god I didn't know you had a

podcast I didn't know you had a podcast I'm like really do you not follow me on all of my other social media so I thought it'd be cool to kind of introduce you guys to this and if it goes well maybe we can do some more video versions or video components of the podcast um but yeah there's five other episodes for you guys to listen to if you enjoyed this and if you guys are wondering when we release episodes it is every other Friday so mark your calendars or set alarms on your phone or guess what you could just subscribe to the podcast then you get alerts and then it's like wow look you have a new episode out which is what i do i get the alerts and then it's like hey megan there's a new episode of don't blame me out and i'm like that's so ironic that is my podcast i'm

gonna go listen to it in my car nothing is more narcissistic than me driving to set every day and like listening to my own podcast and me like that was funny megan good one i do that so so if you guys have been following me for a while you might have known my dr megan videos or my advice videos but this is pretty much an extension of that so if you guys are long time or five episode deep audio listeners this is pretty much reiterating it for you guys but think of this podcast kind of like not necessarily like a twitter q a or anything like that but similar to when you guys would ask me for advice but this time instead of just reading people's questions or things like that um you guys actually left voicemails and so these are people if you're watching this this is people

just like you who discovered me just through my youtube video similar to what you probably did uh calling in and leaving voicemails and asking for advice and so i get to hear your guys's voices and hear you ask these questions and tell me about things and then i get to respond with my voice and not just like a tweet of like thumbs up when you ask me if you should eat like tacos or a burger for dinner it's more interactive and also a little bit deeper than that most of the time so let's get into some calls i had my first job and i've worked at a grocery store for about seven eight months now and it seems like all of my like 50 year old customers hit on me and like they always want to hug me and do all the stuff and they're always like you're so cute and like you're like what's

like your instagram or like what's your phone number like i don't know like what to say to them or like do or anything like that ew ew ew ew gross okay so you say you work at a grocery store first of all why is someone trying to hug you in a grocery store that speaks so much more of them than I get that's so weird to me I don't like hugging people in an everyday situation in life let alone like someone who works at a grocery store I think you tell your boss about it that doesn't really come with the territory it's not like hi ma'am would you like paper or plastic also do you want my phone number let's go out like that's not really how it works at all so I think this is a common thing that happens to a lot of uh people in general but I'm gonna speak to being a

young girl because that's the only person I can actively relate to because that was me I still like to think I'm a young girl I'm still a girl but I'm pretend I'm still young it's something that you deal with I don't necessarily think that you should have to deal with it but you do and I think there's I think it's really important to stand up for yourself and stick up for yourself in those situations when you feel uncomfortable because if you start to kind of let things if you start to kind of just deal with stuff even if you're not actually dealing with and you're just letting things happen like that, it can kind of get out of hand and uncomfortable.

So if you feel uncomfortable by any unwanted advances, I think you should be super honest and upfront about it. And just, I mean, A, it's unprofessional for them to be doing that at your workplace, so you're not going to get in trouble. And I would just say something along the lines of being like, hi, thank you, that's very flattering. Those kinds of comments do make me feel

a little bit uncomfortable I'd rather maintain some sort of like professional relationship I am at my job um thank you so much for saying that I look really pretty but it does make me feel a little uncomfortable at work and I'm trying to do my job you can just be super frank and be like I'm not interested goodbye kind of thing and also when they will when they will definitely turn around and then call you a bitch you're just like okay thank you uh do not come again to this grocery store okay on to the next call hey megan i am a 21 year old bisexual guy and i'm i'm kind of looking into settling down maybe finding someone to actually have a long-term relationship with and i just have always kind of found it hard to let people in and let people

kind of see the real the real me and I don't I don't know how to like let people in because I want to start a relationship with someone but I know it'll be hard if I can't fully like let them in and let them like trust them so I guess my question is how do I how do I know when when it's the right time to let someone in to trust someone into to know and how to know like if they're the one to start a long-term relationship with so please answer this question i don't think you can ever really be guaranteed to know that it's whether it's the right time or the right person to trust with your like emotions and your feelings but i think that's kind of just like the gamble of dating um there is no certainty and there is

no guarantee but if you live your life forever like a closed off hermit anti-love kind of thing you are going to become a cat person and be that way I totally relate to that I'm definitely very like super guarded of a person when it comes to dating and when my boyfriend and I started dating it took me a long while before I was kind of like put those walls down or whatever but I wouldn't say there was necessarily a moment um a moment that happened that made me be like oh I'm gonna let my I'm gonna let my guard down it kind of just happened and I didn't realize it and I think that's the I think that's the best advice that I could give where I think if you actively try and go into a situation or being in relationship if you go into the situation looking for a relationship

like I'm gonna be super trusting and ready and willing and able with all of that stuff I don't I don't, I think, I don't really think that's realistic, but also I think there's a reason why people are guarded and there's a reason why we don't automatically trust everybody. And I think that if that person shows you that, shows you that they give you reasons to trust them and they also give you reasons to figure out if that's who you want to be with, that natural opening up and like being ready for that relationship, I think that can kind of happen. but I also think it's about being aware of when you're closing yourself off and maybe giving

yourself like little pushes towards things where if you're not one to if you usually like run away after a first date or something because you get really nervous maybe like promise yourself that you're always going to give someone a second chance and you're always going to go on a second date with them you need to have faith in yourself that you're a good judge of character and that if someone feels if you feel like someone is in your life for a reason and you feel like hey maybe I'm going to do this I say go with that because you can't promise yourself you're not going to get your heart broken it's that risk of that gamble and you can also take it slow I mean I definitely told my boyfriend that he could like hook up with other girls for like the first four months of us

dating and he was like no we're dating and I'm like oh let's not oh let's not define this and then one day we like defined it or whatever and I was like oh okay cool on to the next call so I was about 15 and my boyfriend and I were just hanging out today at the pool and basically we were just hanging out afterwards i was like hey i want to go make out and he's like sure let's go and so we're just hanging out making out stuff and we've only been really to like first the edge of first base and so we basically went in between first and third today and then i we both consented to it and he really thought it was great and then afterwards like 10 minutes after he dropped me off at my house he texted me saying how he regretted it and all this stuff and then how

he had talked to his like religious leaders about it and it just kind of pissed me off and i just i just needed advice because i love him and we're not breaking up i just i feel really worried about like i'm the bad guy and i don't know just please help me thanks okay what is the area between first of all what are the fucking bases like what are the bases and what are like we went are you asking me i'm asking i'm surveying the room what are the bases okay guys so for those of you who don't know what the bases are i definitely didn't either and uh co-producer mel has now filled me in in what the uh the hip new base terms are uh first is french second is feel third is finger fourth is fuck where do blowjobs fall in this maybe that's what she meant by saying it was between first and

third i don't know okay well here i would classify first base as i think a bj would be third base i think a bj's third base too i think well i think mouths on either genitalia are third base i love the word genitalia such a fun name like charcuterie and genitalia like two of my favorite words and pistachio okay i've used the phrase before that it takes two to tango kind of thing and when you are in the midst of some consensual sexual relations whether whatever base that is i really don't understand if like you sucked his dick or what I have no idea um but congratulations on any things that went happened or went down um but it's not fair for him to turn around and make this something that you did because he was also there and participating and consensual in the moment of

all of that um just speak on the religious aspect of it I'm not religious I've always said that which is probably something I mean whatever I know you're not supposed to say if you are you aren't but I am not so I do not really understand that whole sense of things um but I can speak to the fact that no one should ever make you feel guilty for something like that and make it feel like it's your fault I think if this is like a relationship that you want to salvage I will also remind you that you're 15 years old and if I was still dating the person I dated at fifth did I even date anyone at 15 how old was I freshman high school uh nope I was really ugly okay but if you're like you're so young that you want to have your whether it's like relationship experiences or sexual

experiences with someone who's going to enjoy them with you and also be supportive of both of you in that and there is so much like slut shaming and like sexual shaming when it comes to women in general that you really don't need the person that you're with to be the one also doing that to you because it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do more with his whatever issues he's dealing with and wherever he's kind of feeling guilty for that's really not your problem but staying with somebody who's going to continue to make you feel guilty about things like that then that becomes kind of a choice on your end so I think if it's a relationship that you want to salvage I would talk to him about it and be like hey that made

me feel really shitty and crappy I was super excited I had a really great time with you and I really really like you and I really enjoy spending time with you but I don't want to continue something with somebody who makes me feel bad about stuff that we do together because I mean then we're both as guilty as we should be but I also don't feel guilty and I don't really want to feel guilty for doing this kind of stuff um and then kind of let it go from there or otherwise I would just be like you know what that's completely ridiculous walk away from the situation just in general because I don't think there's really no there's really no excuse for that because it's about your feelings and any personal things that he's struggling with

regarding doing sexual things or doing anything in general that's really his problem but if you're the person who's getting blamed for it then then it becomes your problem and that's a sucky problem okay guys is the part of the episode where we do ads because that's how podcasts get paid for because you think these fancy mics are things that i own they're not so this episode is sponsored by hello fresh which i'm excited about because i have used hello fresh i am an avid podcast listener so i've listened to other people talk about hello fresh and the delicious meals and then i got to try them and boy oh boy did it make me delegating tasks to all of my friends who don't we cook them? So easy. I'm usually like the cook of the friends and I will like make food and

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on to the next call hi megan my name is also megan i am 19 years old and um i'm gonna talk about my boyfriend we've been dating for about a year now coming up in July and it's been going really well but the hard thing for me is he joined the Marine Corps and he's been gone for about a month so far for basic training he only comes back for 10 days before he leaves for a year again and I'm actually really nervous about it I don't know why I just am he's only going for training he's not doing the active duty he's doing reserves but for some reason I just have this overwhelming feeling that something bad's gonna happen I don't know why I just do and now I'm crying about it I've actually haven't broken down about this just yet because I'm trying to keep

myself together I've been trying to distract myself as much as I can I actually put a deposit down a puppy just so I have something to like actually like wrap myself in like completely i'm working two jobs i'm trying to hang out with my friends as best as i can but when it comes to nighttime i kind of just get swallowed in my feelings i think getting a puppy's a really really good idea i think you're really aware of the situation um and i think there's i don't think you're crazy for being afraid i also like you're aware that it's not necessarily not i'm saying it's not a rational fear but like you're like well i know i'm like i have a bad feeling about this or I feel sad about it and I think the having a bad feeling is also probably manifesting just

you being sad um I think hobbies are a really great thing I think also um maybe maybe even just like for an interim period of time uh like just having a lot of sleepovers with your friends which sounds I know it sounds like super childish or whatever but that stuff I totally understand like the more being lonely at night thing kind of thing and like you're able to distract yourself during the day but I also think it's a really really cool situation for you to find a lot of independence and a lot of hobbies um and really be able to throw yourself into your job or school or anything that you want to do learning a new language and all that stuff you you're able to have that kind of free time but I also think it makes the time that you spend together that much

more important I'm not sure the technicalities of exactly how often you're allowed you can talk to him and all of that stuff but maybe in times when you like really really miss him and you can't have like a FaceTime call or something like that maybe it's like writing a heartfelt letter or doing things that take up your time that are not necessarily about him but involve like thinking of him and all of that kind of stuff and being able to do that when you can't actually talk to him but then also not wrapping up your whole life around him there's a YouTuber I love named Casey holmes um and her boyfriend just graduated from might have navy or one one one of the military things and there's like started a youtube channel like i mean that was prior to them dating but

that's like her really big thing that she does and i think there's definitely a community of people who have that sort of similar like issues and stuff there's a part of you that doesn't that wants to be like oh it's fine kind of thing because you don't want to be like oh i'm really gonna miss you this is really gonna suck um but i think it's also kind of nice to say that and get that off your chest and be able to have him kind of like ease your nerves with that sort of thing and maybe if you are feeling still really nervous about like the logistics of it and like his safety even though you seem to be kind of aware that there really isn't too much and it's kind of reading into it maybe ask him questions so you can kind of have more information and kind of like

learn about exactly what he's doing and uh keep the lines of communication open with him so you don't get crazy on to the next call hey Megan I'm 18 and I'm currently living with my boyfriend we share one bedroom apartment we're both like full-time students we both work full-time and this is like the first time I've ever had like true real girlfriends like multiple at a time and I'm coming across this problem where I'm just stressed out every day and I'm so stressed out about money I'm stressed out about school I'm stressed out about work and I'm just not making enough money to add up to like my boyfriend not saying that like I have to make more money than him or anything but it's making life a little complicated because we don't get to do anything

fun and then I always want to go out with my friends and then it just leads to a fight because he doesn't understand like where I'm getting this money which is true I am not getting any money I am still coming up short so I have this problem where I don't know if I want to leave my job or not because this is where i met my friends and i just i don't want to leave the job and then what if they forget about me but i also like can't keep living like this where i just don't have money and i can't afford school and i can't afford anything else and then when we're so stressed out i take it out on my boyfriend so it's just causing so much conflict and it all comes back down to money and i just don't want to leave the job where all my friends are your job is not a sorority

and you've already made the friends there and now you need to make money otherwise you're gonna be broke forever which is not fun this just I honestly just want to say welcome to adulting like welcome to adulting join the club it's fabulous we would have t-shirts but we're all too poor um yeah I think at 18 too this isn't or most likely not your forever job um and it's amazing that you've got these friends and all of that stuff but you like this is like one of those like relatable tumblr venn diagrams like social life money a relationship mental sanity like you can't have it all so pick a couple um I think if you want to I think also at the same time like this job and these friendships at this job is costing you a lot of money. So staying at this

job with this amount of money because you want to maintain these friends and this lifestyle you have with your friends is also draining you money. And yeah, I think if you want to get real technical and real adult with it, your money automatically first needs to go to rent. And then once you have enough money to pay for rent, then you can pay for the fun stuff and the fun stuff you can not spend money on until you have your money saved away for rent. And if your job can't pay for your rent then you should have a different job that's just kind of like the mathematics of it you sure you could google what they say and like suggestions of how to save your money and also I'm concerned you're not saving your money um and that's something that I if I could recommend anything

to people like my age and younger is just start saving just because you never know what's going to happen down the road and being 18 and having a job and living with your boyfriend that's awesome and that's amazing and those friendships if they're true friendships are going to withstand you having a different job and if they're also really good friends they're going to be supportive and understand and want you to have a job which also is able to maintain your lifestyle and then secondly also maybe scale back on your lifestyle until you can afford your life next call time so i am high school age and i recently got out of a relationship because for multiple months my boyfriend was sexually assaulting me and now my parents have

taken me out of school just because I don't feel comfortable there and so I've been doing homeschooling but I have also seen him around and it's really hard for me to kind of like keep my cool because I just like freeze up and it's really hard because we live in the same city obviously and so seeing him is kind of a frequent occurrence and if I ever want to go to any sort of school gatherings or anything he is there because he's kind of like a really popular guy and I don't really know how to deal with that and another part is also that I have had so much social fallout from my friends because they all think I'm overreacting and they just don't really want to see it for what it is because it's kind of a real thing and they just want to keep living

in their own little bubbles um and so I don't really know what to do because I don't really have any friends um to support me and I just I just need help I just don't know what to do about being comfortable around him and also about my whole friend situation thanks oh my god this is the saddest call in the world uh I want to give you a hug so bad oh my god this sucks dude fuck that sucks so much um okay a couple of different I've got a lot of random jumbled thoughts so I'm just gonna kind of pick and choose where to go with this one firstly I don't think you need to feel comfortable around him at all um that's one of the last things that you said was you don't know how to feel comfortable around him I don't think you should

I not only do I think that it's okay that you don't I really can't imagine how you would or that you should um I know when it comes to like prosecution of these things it's expensive and it's a lot of like more emotional like shit for you to deal with but I just have to get that out there and say that that's that's something that um I think should be talked about a little more in things like that that age I think a lot when you're in high school everything gets broken down into like principals and school and that kind of discipline and not so much about like actual law enforcement being involved but again I also know that that's like absolutely terrible to go through and not something that I can be like you should do this because there's also

another no guarantee and that costs a lot of money but I just feel like I have to say that right off the bat um also I would really suggest talking to a therapist I don't know if you are um I'm not assuming that you are you aren't but that's something that I think would be really important um and I also just have to stress how much people in high school can fucking suck and in that I'm kind of really more talking about your friends um it's that's just that's such a situation to be in and that nobody should be put in but also it's something that I can't imagine how much crappier it feels when you're kind of being belittled about it and your support system is not really there for you I think it's great that you're not at school and you're doing

homeschooling and those things um and yeah like the school school events where he's there and being popular and all that stuff that really does suck and i think there's nothing weak about choosing not to participate in those things um i think there's a misconception your playlist might get you through the workday but have you ever wondered how your ancestors spent theirs what work helped them build a life how did they adapt as the world around them changed with ancestry You can search Select Historical Occupational Records for free for a limited time and discover the stories behind the jobs in your family tree. You've got questions. We've got ancestors. Search free until August 31st.

Visit Ancestry.ca for details. Terms apply. Exception with the idea that things like prom and these like high school things, those memories you're really going to miss out on. but I mean dude if you know that you just feel crap when you see him and you've gone through something really traumatizing those like high school experiences or whatever aren't necessarily worth putting yourself through that I think if you're able to I mean I I again like I really I never been in the situation so I can't I can't say exactly what I would be doing or but I think if there's some being able to do homeschooling get ahead of your school work and focus on college and going away to college and making friends there because this as much as this feels like

this is your world right now and like there is no real person to turn to that's also not a permanent situation and high schoolers are dumb like I mean I say this as a high school girl like there was definitely like traumatic super sad stuff that happened to girls and boys that I went to school with and like at 16 years old or 15 years old you're not really equipped to handle other people's emotions and things like that and that blissful ignorance by them and them wanting to kind of live their own lives is super sucky and something that I can say as a 23 year old like makes me really sad and like I really hope when I have kids they're more empathetic and understanding than that but also I could see that happening at my high school or my middle school or anything in

that age at age area so I think if you're able to really focus on things that aren't so centered around that high school and those group of friends and him and running into him or anything like that and taking seeing if you can take college courses and really focus on that stuff but then ultimately I would say really talking to a therapist because like this is like a super shitty situation and it's absolutely terrible and there's no way you should be dealing with it or no right way to deal with it but you have to like figure out how to deal with it and I don't think that you're being traumatic and I also don't think that you should be expected to maintain friendships with these people if they're not going to be supportive of you going through something like this and I also

don't think that you need to sacrifice your mental well-being just to attend high school functions where he's at and that sucks like it really would suck like you maybe you just really want to go to a football game and have him not be there and you really want that and maybe sometimes you do it and you see him and it really sucks and then other times you're like you know it's not worth it so I think playing it by ear and like kind of gauging your comfortability as it comes but then also knowing that this situation is a really terrible thing that happened but the people who are in your life right now who aren't supportive aren't not everyone in your life is going to be like that okay guys so that is the end of this podcast ending on a little bit

of a sad or no but it's okay we conquered um is it or is it not a blow job uh what the what the bases are and then more heavy topics so i feel like we got a good um round of questions in this so for those of you video watchers watching slash listening with your eyeballs and ears at the same time oh you multitaskers you yeah that was kind of a taste of what this podcast is again if you guys want to call in the phone number is 310-694-0976 i would also love if any of you guys had like if you've called in before i would also kind of like to see if like any of the advice i gave you like did you take it did it work was it terrible like a follow-up that'd be fun i mean maybe maybe not also girl who called into other bases please clarify i'm so curious what base it

was um yeah and again if you guys want to figure out where to listen to either previous episodes of this podcast or future ones you can go to don't blame me dot show and uh get it on your phones or your listening devices or your computers and all of that stuff also guys we are soliciting calls also the word solicit is a fun word too again with charcuterie we're soliciting calls for a themed episode we did a themed episode a couple months ago that was like back to school or no end of school summer kind of theme and it was really fun but this time i want to do a sex themed one and not the kind of like generic sex themed one I want this to be the kind of questions you wouldn't ask your friends the kind of questions that you would google where you're like is it

weird that I'm into blah blah blah or what does it mean if blah blah blah or help I'm thinking about blah blah blah does that mean I'm blah blah blah that last one I really don't even know what I would feel in the blanks with but you catch my drift so yeah I really like the idea of this podcast being something where it's like talking to a friend it's the kind of friend that's like the cool older friend that you're like oh i would like to ask you about something but also have you not judge me so that's kind of what i think would be cool asking those sort of questions so things you wouldn't just sit around and gab with your girls about things you're like i should google this because i feel uncomfortable asking my sister this or something like that so if you have like

questions like is this a kind of kink that i have because i'm into this or weird fetish things or um sex safety things or what does it mean if I'm peeing bad STD colors yeah come on or like how to do something Megan gives a really really really accurate step-by-step how to give a blowjob I don't know I'm into it cool we can do that even if it's like super graphic super gross stuff I'm hella down I'm hella down we can talk about what it feels like to lose your virginity as a girl maybe we can uh get a guy on here and give his advice on butt sex and other stuff like that who knows um but i would really like to do that because i feel like even at 18 even though i had sex and things i had sex before i was 18 for real but um yeah i feel like those a lot there's

a lot of questions that i wish i had answers to earlier on so if you have sexy sexy related questions you should leave them in a voicemail calling the don't blame me show and that phone number is 310-694-0976. Again, call that phone number. Leave some sexual questions at 310-694-0976. Okay, guys, I will see you guys in two weeks. Don't Blame Me is a production by me, produced and directed by Jack Ferry, associate producer Melissa DeMonts edited by Melissa DeMonts

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