Don't Blame Me! - S1E8: Answering Weird Sex Questions!

Episode Date: July 21, 2017

Let’s talk about sex! This week I’m answering your questions ranging from walking in on your boyfriend masturbating, to taking a dump... on his face. Fair warning, as you can guess, this one is very explicit!We’re filming a couple more episodes! Check them out on my YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/user/meghanrosetteMake sure you subscribe to the show wherever you get your podcast so you don’t miss out on future episodes. Call me at...[phone]...with your question, age, and as much detail as possible. And I will do my best to offer my words of wisdom.INTERNATIONAL LISTENERS - email me an audio file with your questions at: [e-mail] you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only. Don’t blame me if it ruins your life. lol jk my advice is THE BEST.[phone]Call!Thanks to HelloFresh for supporting our podcast. Go to HelloFresh.com and use the code blame30 to get $30 off your first week of deliveries.Also thanks to Audible for supporting our podcast. Get a free audiobook with a free 30 day trial at audible.com/blame.Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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that's not my theme song i just decided to sing it today we are doing another audio and visual podcast if you're listening to this hello in your ears and if you're watching this hello to your ears and my face you're seeing which by the way i definitely didn't know we were filming it today, which is why I look like this. So if you want to see me look ugly, check out my YouTube channel and you can go watch that and leave a thumbs up because you support my accidental decision to wear a bandana. It's cute. I'm trying. So this is Don't Blame Me. If you guys have been here for a while, you're just going to hear me spiel again. This is my advice podcast where you guys call in and I'm giving you guys advice. Today we have an exciting one because we're talking

about sex, which, you know, it's a great, wonderful topic. And a lot of questions you guys have already sent in have related to sex, but I want to do one that's solely dedicated to sexual things because, you know, I'm creepy. And if you guys want to call into the podcast, the phone number is 310-694-0976. Again, the phone number is 310-694-0976. You can call in and leave a voicemail And then I'm going to give you advice on your life and tell you how to live it. And then probably not mess it up. Speaking of messing up, you're not an accident. Oh, man.

No, that was really dark. That's the best introduction I could ask for. Jack Ferry, ladies and gentlemen. Hi, Megan. Hello. You have a camera. I have a camera this time. He's loving it.

He's wearing his Miami Coke dealer outfit. I just came from shooting Not Too Deep where we did an episode where I had to wear all white. I didn't even, like, I honestly saw the picture on Instagram and the thought didn't even cross my head. Like, oh, Jack had to wear this. Yeah. Because you wore the similar outfit unprompted a couple days ago. Well, I did wear a mostly white outfit in Palm Springs. You just wore this with jorts instead of pants.

It wasn't jorts. They were shorts. Aren't jorts jeans? No, jorts are jean shorts. Do they have to be DIY to be jorts? No. No. Just jean shorts.

Anyway, I was, I'm dressed in my, because we're doing a Labor Day episode, so we decided to both wear all white for the theme. Anyway, yes, I'm here. I thought it would be appropriate that I would continue wearing all white since that is your Instagram aesthetic. It is. I'm trying to dial back. You are also wearing all white.

I know. I'm mostly an all white background. You have mostly an all white background. Anyway, yes, we are, today we're talking about, we're taking sex advice questions, which you're going to answer, which I'm very excited about. And also, I wanted to mention, too, that if you don't know where to find the podcast, because we're only doing a couple video episodes of this podcast to help promote it, pretty soon we're only going to be doing it as audio podcasts again soon. And if you're looking for where to find it, the best place you can always go is Don'tBlameMe.show. Oh, my God, Jake.

Yeah, so just go to Don'tBlameMe.show, and you can always find it. We're available on the Apple Podcast app, formerly known as iTunes. We are also available on SoundCloud. We're kind of all over the place. And we're on Tumblr now. Yeah, we're on Tumblr. There's an RSS feed. So you can pretty much get it from pretty much anywhere you get your podcasts.

So go to don'tblameme.show in case you can't find us. Yeah, and there's other episodes that haven't been visually recorded. So you guys can listen, like backlog. Hear me talk about it a couple weeks ago. And I don't want to spend too much time taking up the – because we've got some amazing, amazing calls. so what do you say we just get into it oh i'm so ready i'm in like a dirty mindset today so i feel like this is great uh then we are in for a feeling feisty all right let's get into it first call

please um i'm a 21 year old girl in a relationship and i've been dating this guy for two and a half years we are in a very loving relationship so like of course we have sex but unfortunately i'm not on birth control because every time i want to try to talk to my mom about it she gets really awkward and completely shuts it down and changes the conversation. She refuses to talk to me about it. And I've tried to talk to my sisters and they say, oh, we'll talk to her, but nothing has happened and or changed, which is super frustrating because my boyfriend and I have had to stop having sex because my anxiety about pregnancy gets so bad that I just, I can't even sleep. So we stopped a while ago and luckily he was super amazing and understanding about it,

but it really still bothers me because I love them and I want to have sex with them. I really want to be on birth control, but I don't want to go behind my mom's back because every time I try and think about maybe doing it, I get really guilty and all anxiety about it, and I really don't want to lie to my mom. My sisters won't really give me advice about it, and neither will she, and I really would love to talk to someone. So I am coming to you as my internet older sister of sorts, And I'm sure I'm not the only girl out there with this problem, um, with kind of a mom who won't talk to you or anyone about it.

So, um, I hope you can give me advice on it and, you know, kind of let me know what you would do in this situation. If you would go behind your mom's back or just have a frank conversation. I don't really know. Okay. I feel like, I feel like having a child is worse than lying to your mom. Um, and I also think your mom would probably agree with that. that I think like, like the number one thing that she doesn't want, I'm assuming, I think probably the cover, like the lack of conversation around birth control is probably because she

doesn't want you having sex. But if that's like, man, like ship has sailed, like that's already done. It's going to happen. I think her next big priority would just be like, okay, well then I would rather you be safe because I also don't, I mean, mad kudos to you for being like, we're just not going to have sex because they, I don't, I don't want to get pregnant, which is very, very impressive that you can just like turn that off also it makes me you you can still use condoms that's what i yeah that's the first thing that's what i would say i i think you don't need to ask your mom's permission for condoms just go to the store and buy some yeah i think there's what's the i don't understand the issue here to be honest i get i get having like a piece this is terrible

i understand having like is that because she wants to have a backup she wants to have a backup but i'm not on birth control because it makes me fucking crazy all right um i'm just gonna say this uh people say condoms are not all that effective the thing is if you use a condom properly it's very very effective you're not gonna get pregnant if you use it right no and i think also if you if you want the backup plan but i mean also pulling out is not a form of birth control i just like have to reiterate that to everybody how old did she say she was 21 so why does she need to talk to her mom about birth control um i i does she feels guilty going behind her mom's back that's the whole thing oh so this is an issue about guilt it's just feeling guilty of it i think

you just need to be on here's the thing i think there's something comes along line where you're like i should really be open and honest because i think my parent would want to know or like my elder would want to know that i'm having sex when i have children maybe maybe i'll want to know i also think there's a part of some parents are like i they know when they're back of their in the back of their head but they don't really want you to like explicitly say it but i think if she's giving you a hard time about wanting to go on birth control, you should be like, well, I don't want to go on it because I think taking a pill every day seems fun. Like if you're like, I'm literally going to have sex and I don't want to get pregnant. And that's something that I'd rather

do it safely. So I think I would say that. I also think, I mean, as you get older, you're more comfortable lying to people just in general. So I think, uh, if you want to get birth control, you're old enough where you don't need to get your parents permission. Um, and you could go to your doctor and do it and just like take it in secret and like set an alarm on your phone to take at like 2 p.m every day when you know you're not with them and then like keep it in your car or something like that just getting into elaborate lie but i also think like use use condoms i don't see any reason to lie at all just say yeah mom i'm going on birth control yeah i maybe maybe don't give her like don't ask her permission because you don't need her permission just tell her or

tell her you did also birth control doesn't protect against things like sexually transmitted infections so she's dating been dating the same guy for two years even so you know we don't know all of the details of their relationship. And his leaky penis. You're making a lot of assumptions. No, I was just listening to a podcast earlier and they were talking about leaky dick and I just couldn't get over it.

What is leaky dick? It's an STD. Don't want to know. No, because I just kept thinking of the leaky cauldron from Harry Potter and I was like, ooh. All right, let's go to the next call. Let's go to the next call. Hi, Megan.

I have a boyfriend who I've been with for about um a year and a half almost two years now and it was really embarrassing but he I recently caught him masturbating and I don't really have anybody to talk about it to and I don't really know how to feel about it because I feel like you know I it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him if he has to do that but at the same time I can understand you know sex is a lot of work and you know sometimes you just don't feel like having sex but you know I don't it just makes me feel bad and so I don't know like how to perceive this or like how to process it so if you could give me advice you know on how to like handle this on my

end and see if I'm okay with it or like if I'm not okay with that how to handle that and I mean I'm totally fine with it but it's still just it's a situation I've never run into before and you know I don't want this to be something that affects our relationship negatively okay um well here's the thing everybody masturbates or no okay that's why not everyone everyone should masturbate um I think here I will I will say my instinct reaction was to be like this is just this is just how it goes like this is just you but you caught him masturbating so I get if you were hanging out or something and he's in the other room and you're like we could be having sex right now why aren't we having sex I think if it's like a standalone thing that

happened and like he's like scrolling through Instagram and suddenly there's like a paid promotion for like bikini models or something like that you don't need to go to the paid promotions there's plenty of bikini models on instagram i'm giving him benefit out that he doesn't follow all of those people but i'm saying if something like that happened where you were like super down to have sex and you're like what i am here readily available and i'm hella down why not um but i think if it's i i also think like it's you you can masturbate he can masturbate it's like you get the hankering at like 2 p.m on a wednesday and your significant other's not there i don't think there's anything it doesn't mean that you're not enough for them and also sometimes like

it's like you're not even like having sexual fantasies about other people you're just like i'm horny this is a need that needs to be fulfilled now it's done but i do think if you want it i think if you have an open conversation with him and you're like hey uh just any of you can bring it up a like crazy bitch way when you're just like really subtle and like you don't even relate it back to what this is but like you know that that's what it's about and like ask him if he's happy with your sex life and if there's anything that like he wants to try or anything that he feels like uh would be fun for you two to do together and maybe it's like that could open a conversation if he is interested in like trying something new but i honestly think he probably

just like wanted to jerk off and just did it but i think he probably still wants to would rather have sex with you than his hand anyway um the male perspective on this question i would say this if you really don't want him masturbating um have sex more no just say to him listen uh i saw you doing that it makes me very uncomfortable because it makes me feel less than any time and i mean any time you want to masturbate let me know and i will give you a blow job oh that and then i promise you she will let him masturbate after that he either he will stop masturbating or she's gonna be so fine she's gonna be so fine because she's giving so many blowjobs wow i'm that's yeah it's just it's it's it's a lot sometimes guys depending on how old he is it's possible that he does that

two maybe three times a day yeah i also think there's nothing wrong with that too yeah there is nothing wrong with that and it's not that you're less than it's just and he's also probably thinking about you well maybe he is maybe he isn't but it isn't a comment on you at all it's just it's that is a totally separate thing yeah it isn't about anything and you shouldn't read into it i would say if she was disturbed though because she caught him looking at a certain kind of pornography yeah it was like okay well that's not the kind of girl that i am or that's not the kind of stuff that we do that's worth a conversation but if it's just i caught him masturbating it's flag i just i got news for you everyone does it everyone i just think if you're there and you feel

like he's choosing that over you i think that's yeah like i said then then do the um free blow jobs anytime you want i don't think you need to offer free blow jobs don't listen to that i'm just saying that is a i am i'm thinking about her poor gag reflex it's a lot of blow jobs i was obviously i'm kidding i'm not saying you should actually do that but But, I mean, I think if you did offer, you know, let me help you get off every single time, you would realize, oh, wow. It's a lot. Yeah, never mind. It's a lot.

Go back to what you were doing. Yeah. Yeah. Or send some sexy pictures of you so then you know. It's like he's jacking off to you. Yeah, let me give you something to use next time. Exactly. Polaroids.

Don't take them in class. Oh, next call time. How do I get my boyfriend to finish? finish usually I'm the one that finishes and he doesn't like almost not at all like when we're actually having sex and if I need to get him to finish I need to do personal work I don't know what to do I don't know what he's doing I've actually had to google this before which is embarrassing for me because I don't know how to talk to him about it because he gets weird about it i'm personally not i have a lot of male friends and they talk about that crap like 24 7 but for

some reason he's really shy about it and i don't know what to do i don't want to make him feel uncomfortable i actually have i i what does personal work mean personal work means blow jobs are you sure yeah personal work are you sure it's it's blow jobs and not hjs does anyone come my hand job anymore is that still a thing yeah i yes i mean i mean like i i don't know a lot of girls who give hand jobs like start to finish hand jobs i i think she's they're saying i think what she's saying is they're having they're having sexual intercourse and he can't finish so she has to finish him off finish him off in some way which also i just want to say first of all you're in the complete role reversal than any any like heterosexual relationship that i know of

at all where it's like the girl's finishing from sex before the guy's finishing first of all you're a unicorn you should be so happy so i think it's good that you're saying that you're recognizing it he's feeling like kind of awkward and embarrassed about it and you don't feel like that way at all i also think like sometimes some people just have other they're just gonna need other things to finish them off so i don't really necessarily think that's a bad thing um i like I don't even know really any girls who are like, I come 10 out of 10 times when I'm having penetration sex with my boyfriend. I don't really ever hear of that. So I don't think it's – I think it's more of an uncommon role reversal, but I don't think it's uncommon to finish one person off and not have both people come at the exact same time like they do in movies.

So I think if you're okay with doing stuff like that, I would. But then I would also just bring up in conversation, like just ask him what he's into, because I think it's so much of it at this point is probably just nerves and feeling like anxious about not finishing. So I think if you like try and like ease it and make it like a conversation outside of sex, too, or maybe like talk dirty, try and then try and those kind of things. I think if the roles were reversed and I would be so fucking mad. Well, if the girl was, no, if the roles were reversed and the girl was saying, we have sex and then he finishes and then he has to finish me off with, by touching me or going down on me, I think people would say, yeah, that is very common. That's not exactly, because like I- And there's something wrong with that. So you have to finish him off in other ways that isn't intercourse.

I don't know, is that a problem? I don't think there should be a problem with that. There shouldn't be a problem. Sex is not just intercourse. No, no, no, no. There's lots of things that are on that menu. And I think you're super lucky from the fact that this specific relationship, you've been able to get there like quickly,

but that also might not be you in every single relationship. So think about that going forward with this stuff. It was like being like a generous lover or whatever. It's going to come back for you eventually. The good thing is they are both finishing. Yeah. If they weren't, if one of them wasn't, then that would be a problem. But I don't know.

It's kind of like, who cares how you get there? Exactly. You got the fun, the finish line. Okay, guys, we are going to take a quick break and we will be back. Okay, guys, this is the part of the podcast where we do ads. That's how we make our podcast. That's how this happens. These fancy equipment things and all that stuff.

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kind of like repulsed by dicks um i've had sex i've never given a blow job never given a hand job um and like just the idea of getting a blow job kind of makes me gag and I've almost thrown up once when my friend told me they gave a guy a blow job like it's just something I could never do I could never compromise on that but I feel like I should at least try and please the guys with I'm not with anyone right now but um I should at least try to give someone a hand job um I'm like my ex boyfriend tried to show me how to do it but he basically just showed me how he jerked off and it looked really stupid um but again like the dicks just kind of repulsed me like I don't want to see it I don't want to touch it but like what should I compromise with well I'm kind of hooking

up with someone so should I compromise with him and just like give him a handjob if I expect him to finger me like is that what I should do or should I explain to him the situation I just don't want to seem stupid and I I need I want to have a sexual partner eventually what do I do I'd appreciate your help thanks Megan okay not to be like super blunt do you think you might be gay and like not in like a I I could be totally off basis here but I think I remember being like when I was younger like penises were like well what the penis like that's creepy and scary but as you got older I think I don't know I think for me the hardest thing I'm having like the difference of being repulsed and scared. Cause I, I, I get being scared of penis. I totally get it. I get it. If

you're like not super, like, and I think with every, every sexual partner you have, like it takes a while to build up like a comfortability level and every, every relationship is going to be different. And so I think I get being like timid and kind of like, Oh my God, I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm terrified of this thing in your pants and all of that stuff. But then being repulsed by it and like just the idea of just penises in general um that's the only thing that i would and i'm not i'm not trying to yeah i'm obviously can't force you to be whatever i think she's attracted to men she just doesn't like dick and i think that's also not uncommon what yeah it's not uncommon that you're like that you're a straight woman repulsed by penis yeah

I think you can be attracted to, uh, I can say too that, um, I found, uh, the female reproductive system very foreign as well when I was younger. But foreign, but like, were you, but that's what I'm saying. Like there's a difference between scared and repulsed. Because it's foreign. Yeah. It can be that way. And then, yeah, you kind of grow up and it changes, but some people are just, it's just

not their thing. And I think that's. And every new penis is scary. There's also like, I think there's people, some people just don't like to do things like blow jobs and hand jobs. And also I think that that's, again, that can be okay so long as the person that you're with is okay with doing, okay, then you kind of have to be game for a lot of other things. Yeah, I think it's being confident because I think that's half the people who don't enjoy, like half of my friends who like hate giving blowjobs or whatever, it's because they think they're terrible at it and some of them are, not that I've been told, are terrible at it. So I think the confidence that you have when it comes to like your sexuality and feeling

like, oh, I know what I'm doing. I like know how to like, I know what you're into. And like, that makes me feel really great because I can tell like, this feels really great for you. That kind of confidence, I feel like would help the situation. And I think that also comes with like experience and age. But I think, yeah, I think being scared and repulsed is different. The thing that I always say about, about anything sexual is you don't really choose the things

that you're into but the reverse side of that is you don't choose the things that you aren't into either. That's true. I think you just

have to acknowledge okay you're super not into that you just gotta be with somebody who is okay with you not being But she's never

tried it. Yeah but she sounds like she's gonna throw up just at the thought of it so probably not something that she's gonna be interested

in trying. She barfs on his dick. She should try things that she is excited about and then see where that goes I think. That's true.

Okay. I'm just over here telling you to give a blowjob. I'm like, try it. Try it. You might have fun. You're scared of heights. Go skydiving. Get over it.

Yeah. On to the next call. I'm 16, and I've only recently started dating this really cute boy named Jake. We've been dating for a while. The only problem is I know fetishes are really popular at my school at least, but he wants me to shit on his face. i don't think i'm ready for that oh my god i love my boyfriend we've been dating for about five months now really cute six months and only a week but i'm just not down for that

i'm willing to do other things like maybe pee on him but i'm just not ready to shit on my boyfriend's face what do i do dude she's fucking with us hang on what if she's not no she's fuck i need a minute I like the idea that there is this, like... This school full of fetishes? This school full of, like, people in the scat. Wait, I really, I really don't want... Because either, like, we're just being, like, completely fucked with.

Well, hang on. The President of the United States is into being peed on. Golden shower. Yeah. So, it is conceivable that, you know, it's in the zeitgeist. Okay, I feel... Fuck. they you know now there's these young people 16 years old coming of age and that there's an entire

high school that's into can you imagine asking someone like at 16 i might imagine asking my 16 year old boyfriend i was terrified of kissing girls yeah it's like him being like me being like i don't think he knows what a clit is by the way will you shit on me oh my god holy all right let's for the sake of argument let's let's just assume that she's being real because because we don't be laughing at somebody who's actually going through a lot of like stress because maybe maybe it's real and maybe this person actually is into this and so what would you say first of all i would say i'm so sorry i spent the last like two minutes just laughing i'm so sorry um i would say fuck no um and you can watch that kind of porn go for it but i'm not into that at all um if you

want to you sound like you're down to pee on him so i mean offer that as a compromise if you want to but if that's just because like he wants i don't i don't think you should do it either i also why on his face here's the thing the thing about sexual fetishes are um that's so messy they're very specific generally and if you're not also into them that's gonna be a scarring experience maybe it will maybe it won't the point is though like sexual compatibility is very important okay for instance if you're somebody who requires blowjobs because that is like the thing that you're into the most maybe don't date the girl who vomits but at the thought of blowjobs like there's a sexual incompatibility there ditto this if you don't feel comfortable uh

pooing on your significant other's face then um maybe don't go out with somebody who requires that yeah and and i think that that goes across the board if if your significant other is into clowns and clowns scare you some people really are into that and clowns scare you then you know but if you're like but if you're kind of game for it be like well i'm not that's not really my thing but like yeah i'm not i'm not bothered so yeah i can you know put on some white face paint and a red nose whatever that's gonna help you get off then i'm all for it i'm down to be giving as a lover but i don't think in general you should do stuff that squicks you out and like makes you super uncomfortable that makes me super uncomfortable well and i'm the idea of clowns no the idea of

like that of him shitting she's shitting on his also that's so unsanitary and so messy and you're 16 where are you gonna do it in a car like where do you have that's where you have sex at 16 we don't know where they live maybe there's a barn somewhere a barn oh my god i'm just thinking there's like horse shit on a bar yeah get someone else's poop and put it on his face even then it's If you're not into it and you're super grossed out by it, I don't think you should do it. I'm also really curious if this is real. I'm really curious how he brought it up at 16.

Yeah, that is something you should be concerned about. Maybe he's fucking with you. That's what I'm thinking. Then she shits on his face. He's like, I was fucking with you. I was kidding. Oh, my God. Can you imagine?

You're definitely going to fart before you shit. And he's like, no. maybe you're fucking with us maybe he's fucking with you and maybe maybe no one's fucking with anyone and you're gonna go pee on him after you listen to this yeah and then maybe he'll become the president of the united states just if you're gonna pee on him don't have asparagus beforehand smells real bad good boy good tip next up so i'm a 20 year old and um i've just been having a hard time i'm not can't really talk to any of my friends about it because they don't understand but like I've had sex with multiple people not like a whole bunch of people

but more than one more than two people um both guys and girls and my biggest thing is is I'll make a connection with somebody I'll flirt with them I'll talk to them but then I don't feel anything physically like I don't there's no emotional pull there like and then when I've talk to my friends about it they all think that that's really weird so I stopped talking to them about it because like it feels like they're judging me because I literally all kiss somebody and feel nothing and it's not that they're bad kissers and like people that I genuinely was friends with and cared about but like I just didn't feel anything and then when I didn't feel anything they would try to go more into it and I would I would go back because I just wasn't

feeling it and I just don't know what to do because I don't have anybody to talk to about because all my friends both the ones that are straight and then gay they're like oh well maybe you just haven't met the right person but and I get that there's plenty of people out in the world but at the same time I've never felt any romantic feelings like I flirted with people and that's and that's about as much as the feelings go so I need your advice thanks bye I don't really think there's anything wrong with this um I think you're probably just really self-aware of like how you feel. I think there's like a difference of like liking someone's personality and flirting with them and having a really good time, like

talking to them and all of that kind of stuff. And I don't necessarily believe in like the spark or whatever, when you kiss somebody and you feel that like that sexual attraction or that like real tie and pull to them. Um, but I also, I've definitely been in situations where like I a hundred percent have like thought I really had feelings for somebody, uh, like on an emotional level, like really good friends, like really liked them texting all the time, like going on dates and all that stuff. And then like the second it got to the physical stuff, I was like, Nope, I don't feel anything. And then I never once thought something was wrong with me. And I never saw thought something wrong with them. It was kind of just like, Oh, like this just, we're not compatible.

So I kind of agree with your friends when they say you just haven't met the right person yet. I think if you're not interested in romantic relationships, it would be different. But I think you sound like you're interested in like having like partners and like all of that kind of stuff, but I just think that you probably haven't found the person that you want to be with. And I also think too, there's a hard comparison of like seeing your friends date people and do all of that stuff. Um, but maybe, maybe you just, you are really decisive and you know exactly what you want and what you like and what you don't like, even if you're not consciously thinking of that. And maybe they're dating people and trying to figure it out along

the way, but you kind of already know automatically. Um, but I, I, this not to, not to bring this back to me, but I, I always had an issue where I would like somebody and date somebody and be super into them for like maximum three months. Like, and then it would be like, wake up like three months and one day roll over, see them asleep in my bed and have absolutely no feelings to them. Like full on. Like I was like, Nope, it's gone. Literally could, would not care if he moved like to Yemen, like zero of those feelings. And that always freaked me out because I was like, how am I ever going to like someone for more than like this short period of time that like it fizzled out so fast and then my current boyfriend like after three months i literally

woke up three months in one day i was like oh my god i hope i still like you i hope i still like you and i was like oh my god i still like you and it only has to work like once it literally only has to work once i think it's cool that she's uh super like cool and open about experimenting with lots of people because that's the best bet is you know you eventually you're gonna run into somebody and uh and also like i don't know it's one of those things i think if you're having a good time you shouldn't worry about it you should continue having a good time because sooner or later you're gonna catch feelings for somebody and uh when that happens usually it's terrible oh it's the feelings are awful but i also think it's cool if you're if you're not just if you're pursuing

like if you start pursuing romantic relationships out of friendships i think that can also be difficult too because it is hard to tell if those there is that like chemistry connection so i think like dating people um who you might not automatically be think you're like attracted to or think any of that stuff because like maybe you your mind thinks that you're really interested in this one thing and like physically you're like oh no apparently i'm not actually into that and like you might surprise yourself uh all right is it time for producer's corner it is time for producer's corner so um you want to set this up it's time for producer's corner and this is where uh producer jack ferry picks his favorite or a memorable question yeah so i thought it'd be fun

if uh we don't do this every week um because uh there there isn't always the best call but when there is no offense guys uh it's not that there isn't the best call there isn't the appropriate call for producers corner you'll see what that means in a minute um i like to pick a call that i feel like is uh really memorable and um i'm so nervous especially with the theme this week oh god don't worry they're they're great um so i i picked a very exciting call this week and let's just get into it hi megan long time listener first time caller um i couldn't help noticed recently that you have started wearing a wedding ring. And first of all, I just want to say congratulations. That's very exciting. I can't believe you got married. That's really, really

cool. And second, now that you're married, I'm just curious. We all know that you've been saving yourself for marriage. But now that you're married, I guess that means you probably finally lost your virginity and uh i kind of just wanted to know what's that like and um do you feel like it was worth it are you glad you saved yourself and um you know i guess i am i am a single person and i'm not married yet so of course i haven't had sex yet and i just wanted to know do you have any tips for me things to look forward to for when you know that that magical night of wedded bliss comes um any advice you have for me would be really great so thanks love the show wow i didn't realize you're you're married let's show everybody your wedding band i didn't realize it

either i put i put a ring on this finger wow yeah congratulations that's really cool thank you that's really cool it looks like you have a very uh your your collar is very um like perceptive he's that he caught that very perceptive they only put this ring on a couple of days ago but now it makes perfect sense why the person uh this guy at the nail salon i go to didn't get all weird with me sometimes i do one or the grocery checkout guy yeah no i am a caller i'm not actually married i'm just dumb and uh put this ring on this finger and it looks like a bit of like a domestic partnership like that's what this looks like because it doesn't like it does look like a wedding band it looks like a band but i have no engagement ring and hello do you know me i have

i want a rock i want a rock i want it to look like i want it to look like someone went to yosemite and like like there's like a giant diamond in you i want it to look like this would i want to look like people would have killed for over it wow okay like titanic okay yeah mods has to we're gonna get engaged in a very long time because we have to hey babe we're speaking up do you know we're married hey congratulations mods just walked in hey babe Did you know we're married? Yeah. Megan's wearing a wedding ring.

You gave me this ring too. Doesn't it look like we're in a domestic partnership though? He's not amused. It does. It does. I'm talking about how we're not going to get engaged for a long time because I want a massive ring. Okay.

And the second part of the question, um, because I'm saving myself for marriage. Well, because you saved yourself for marriage, but I'm not married. It was a misconception. Right. So I still remain a virgin. right the look on mozzie's face oh my god wow so thank you caller that was an excellent call it was a really good one now what fucking finger do i put this damn ring on just put it on the other hand oh you're right that's not the engagement hand yeah okay guys

i hope you enjoyed this episode of don't blame me um yeah i had a lot of fun talking about sex because i'm a 12 year old boy inside if you guys enjoyed listening to this and you want to listen to it again, but with your eyeballs and your ears at the same time, because you're multi-talented, you can go to my YouTube channel and that'll be linked and all that stuff. And you can actually watch this go down. And if you are watching it right now, then you can just go listen to all the other episodes because we've only filmed a couple of them, but there are a bunch of other ones and it comes out every other Friday. I'm going to give you the number so you guys can call in and uh leave your voicemails the phone number is 310-694-0976 again it's 310-694-0976

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