Don't Blame Me! - S2E5: Guest: Tayler Vee Robinson - Boyfriends Watch Porn!??!

Episode Date: June 8, 2018

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The Dog Stars, directed by Ridley Scott. In theaters Friday. Get tickets now. Hello, everybody, and welcome to this episode of Don't Blame Me. Our wonderful guest today is Taylor V. Robinson, and we discuss a girl who lives with her boyfriend and wants to break up with him but doesn't know how to tell him. A girl who slept with her boss.

It got pretty kinky. Should they still date? and um we we discuss is porn really terrible some girl thinks her boyfriend should stop watching porn and we're gonna talk about it coming up hello everybody and welcome back to another episode of don't blame me it's our new intro song oh yeah i'm a really fantastic performer um our guest today is one of my dear dear friends taylor oh yeah how do you want to be introduced um however you want to introduce me was your middle name v yes that's that's my uh professional name yeah i know i was

gonna say i was like what's your professional name and then what's like your friendship name my friendship name is taylor yeah what you call me on a day-to-day basis my professional name is taylor v robinson because it's such a good name all of the best like directors and actors have three clues their middle name yeah so i was like i have to i just have to do that um it's also a weird middle name it's vee so it's it sounds like you have like two last names like the third or something most people think i made it up which i did i did for a while it's okay you're like i that that was just for facebook yeah i'm like who does tyler's name is made up oh no that's his middle name chase is it yeah oh i didn't know that tyler chase weisner come on megan oh also

fun fact i did not know this fun fact guys um how did we meet we met through tyler chase because because you two were co-stars on the hit hulu show it was a hitch and you dated him or you date him currently i currently date him and i came to set well i don't know when we first oh we first met at that party the rap party yes and you guys all knew so much about me because he talks about me constantly that's not even a joke because who wouldn't know true true i talk about you constantly but and then you and everyone came up to me acelyn paul who i know is a guest on the show friend of the podcast she's been on a couple times yeah um and you were like oh my god we heard so much about you and i was like i felt so loved so we were instantly friends because you're

like you like me great that's like that's my like literally like my prerequisite for friendship like as long as you like me like i'm gonna like you yeah it's really that easy no but it's funny we actually uh the first time that i met tyler um or one of the first times i met tyler he was talking about how he had a crush on a girl in his acting class and how he like wanted to ask her out and that was me yeah so we like it was someone else can you imagine so we heard the whole fucking evolution of your relationship which is why or like while you when you first started dating or whatever and um also we were the ones who we would just like to say we are the ones who made your relationship official i think it's me and leo and acelyn because we told um we like told

one of our showrunners he was like talking about you or something and he just kept referring to you as taylor and it's like who's this taylor and then i was like oh i'm just like my girlfriend and we were like oh my god she's officially your girlfriend he's like i mean no i just and so then he's like i guess i have to make it official it's all because of you that's great and And so Taylor is an amazing film writer, film writer, filmmaker, actor, writer, director. Great. Great things. I want to just say real quick, I found myself in a tabloid.

Shut the fuck up. Due to someone I used to date. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. He who will not be named. She did it in Baltimore. In Baltimore. Tom Riddle. And they credited me.

They were like, oh, this person. They were like, he used to date Taylor V. Robinson, short film enthusiast. I was like I made a short film you could call me a director but I don't know logical I don't know so that was honestly better than past credits I've received honestly still one of my favorite articles I know you heard that that person's show is not it's not going forward right not that one none of them do yeah he's jinxed um but yeah so uh um yeah guys this is this is the podcast i'm so excited for you to be on this a because i feel like you're one of the perfect kinds of guests because not only um do i think you're like a great professional person and i just saw taylor do a

staged reading of a play which you did such a good job at i can't read aloud so i find that harder than memorizing it so i think i couldn't do that um but you're a great like professional person you're one of my favorite people to follow on social media because your twitter commentary is great and you also reply to my tweets which i really like needed a friend um yeah i mean like i love when someone responds to my tweet with a gif being like yeah that's me yeah that's her um and we're like actually friends so we can like talk so i'm so excited and we did this so it's not tyler's not here at the time so yeah because tyler would have been so awkward the whole time the entire time he would have been either if you were talking he would have been staring at you

and if he was talking the entire time he'd be like can i babe can i say this can i say this so this is a this is a free open space oh he's the sweetest he's the sweetest we like him we do we're big fans um but yeah so if you guys are just listening to this podcast we are also filming it for the internet youtube youtube youtube youtube so you can watch it see our facial expressions the episode that sasha and i did um i just got all these tweets about how we make the same facial expression at the same time and we already look alike so like at every moment that we're both like so you can see that um and yeah mel's here doing her mel thing what up i think we need a mel cam she mel doesn't like that idea we can have one i think we need a mel cam okay because i just

think it'd be great because also you laugh really hard sometimes with the jokes and i i would really like people to see cut away i usually cut it out because you can't see me and it just sounds weird and i would really like that so people could hear that like you find us funny yeah okay so everyone we're we're definitely staring at this beautiful woman over here oh she's so that's who we're looking at or i constantly am because i get nervous i'm like i need to make eye contact oh yeah no mel's my go-to of being like i feel uncomfortable let me look at mel during the entire duration of this phone call and that's what i'll make eyes to the whole time being like when's trying to talk to our brains um but yeah so this is don't blame me it's an advice podcast i also

just like mouthed this microphone hard like my bottom lip just like got stuck on it yeah um this is an advice podcast where you guys call in leave voicemails and um we give advice on things and uh yeah if you guys want to call in the phone number is 310-694-0976 yeah perfect and um international callers we also accept emails from y'all with voice memos so just record a voice memo email it to meganpodcast at gmail.com and now we're gonna give people some advice which i always say to the guest i actually don't always say you can probably note which ones i didn't say i feel like he'll be really good at this because it's probably ones i don't know that well or i i don't know if i said it to tyler but maybe i did he was great on it though um but i feel like you're gonna be

really really good at this better i think you're better yeah you are better we are the superior gender it's true there's no denying it it's just it's 2018 everybody should know that it's a fact like it's a fact just like the world is round rosanna's canceled amen oh my fucking god i am so happy oh god it's it's beautiful it's a bright new world it is a bright new fucking world um okay so we start with the first call let's go hi megan my name is gabby and i am 21 years old um i've been dating my current boyfriend now for about a year and a half um but recently i realized that i don't want to be with him anymore um our relationship really started going downhill i would say about six months ago and since then we've tried or at least i feel like we've tried

and it's just gotten worse um i recently i i'm confident now that i don't want to be with him at all i don't see us ending up together and i'm completely unhappy with my life with him The problem is, though, is that we moved into our own apartment together this past March. And this isn't our first time living together. I would say about a year ago, he moved in to my parents' house with me because he had roommate troubles. So we've been living together for a while. We know what it's like to live together. But it's just gotten worse since we've moved out into our own place.

and since our apartment is a year contract we can break the lease anytime soon so one of us would have to stay and he can't stay there because actually a family member of mine manages the apartment so that would be awkward for him and i don't think i could afford living there on my own and I can't get a roommate because it's a one bedroom so I don't know what to do Megan I also don't want to move back in with my parents because you know how bad it is so please help me out any advice would help tremendously thank you I got a lot of fucking questions you've dated for a year and a half you he moved in with you over a year ago to your parents house and also you've been not into him for six months yet you sign you re up to your lease in march i just want to say

i had a very similar experience with this because because i was like and i don't know new york no i was here oh not with not anyone you know but i was in this like with this boyfriend and it's hard she's 21 right so she's probably like right out of college or something like that um and you probably don't have a ton of money because if you did you would be able to live in that apartment by yourself so you kind of get in these situations where you're like I need someone to spend the rent with and this is convenient because we're dating even if I don't totally like you I was in the exact same situation and I decided like I did not want to date that person anymore and it ended really badly so I feel like on the other side of it so what did you do so what I ended up doing

i mean this is probably the bad advice and i think you can learn from my mistakes i told that person we had i don't know how long she said she had the lease remaining march so they signed re-upped it in march it's only may right now oh shit and that's probably a one-year lease oh girl girl well i decided like six months before our lease was up to let my boyfriend know that i didn't want to date him anymore nice and so we legitimately kept living together yeah while we like weren't dating so slowly but surely over six months it got worse and worse and worse until I started dating somebody else while we were still living together yeah and then basically what happened is I had to find a friend like I had to find a friend that was

sympathetic that I could be like can I just move in your place for I don't know how long I've got this badly situation and I did I found a friend that was you know like oh I've got a room open And you can sleep on my couch or whatever. And honestly, if the relationship is that bad, moving in with your parents for a little bit is not that bad of an idea. Unless you hate them. Who do you hate more, your boyfriend or your parents? Yeah, I would totally live with my parents over a bad relationship. If my parents lived here, I would be so grateful because it would have gotten me out of a lot of sticky situations.

But yeah, I would just say, like, decide. Yeah, you would pick the lesser of the evils. Exactly. like what's the worst situation and don't do that do the one that's second yeah because it's all gonna suck like it is a sucky situation and you're i mean like you're totally right in the living together thing i like money and pressured stuff can force people to live together in different ways and like i'll be the first to say that like i was like super lucky that i started working i also didn't go to college so i have like i didn't have debt um and i started working at 19 so for

me a roommate was always like a choice and something like that but like so all of my friends in new york all of them have moved in with their like significant others so much quicker than anyone else i know but they're like no i have to pay rent that way and i would say ultimately like you just it's a big deal to choose to live with a significant other because like i've had roommates before like that were like girls and stuff but like when moths and i decided to live together like that was like a process of deciding and i don't think the option is i don't think the the the um it's not like i live with a boyfriend pretty early on in a relationship could get rocky or i don't have a roommate and it's super expensive like i think ultimately like learning

lesson down the road live with another friend and also like do you have any like close friends that you can share a one bedroom with for a while or like a friend like when my best friend sydney she had an internship in la for one summer and we i had a one bedroom apartment and like she stayed with me all summer like is there a way to do something like that and also i know that you said that it's awkward for him oh i gotta burp hold on yeah i felt that one did you feel it deep in your soul did it rattle it was like my left shoulder oh yeah direct it direct it right at you you said that it would be your family manages or owns and operates that building whatever so it's awkward for him i think you have to give him that choice too because moving's

hella fucking convenient inconvenient for both of you and so i think if you approach the situation and you want to break your lease um a see if you can get a fucking deal on breaking your lease because it's like family owned and operated or whatever and tell him and just and know that you kind of got to take the blame for this because you're he's going to be shit out of luck like this needs to be on you of being like i'm so incredibly sorry that um i wasn't truthful and honest with my feelings earlier with myself and i've really come to this realization like i didn't have any intention of screwing you over but like it took me a while to kind of understand what i was feeling and i uh really i just feel like our relationship has run its course and i don't want to walk away

from this with like tons of like emotional and baggage and issues with you and i think if we continue to live together like that's where it's going to be and i don't want to like harbor those feelings towards you and so say like i've been able to strike strike a deal uh with like the building and we can like get out of our lease for x amount of money and then i think you on like if i know financially like if it was me like i would if i were you i would say i'm gonna cover it because it's not really fair to make hey you're getting dumped and also you need to pay to break this lease that you had no desire to break so i think you need to kind of own up to that and literally like pay the cost of like pay the price of like what this has happened um and then given

the options like so i'm i'm more than happy to i can't afford to live here by myself and i don't want to kick you out so if you want to stay here you're more than welcome to and like you can just be the sole person on the lease or get a roommate or anything like that so i want to give you that option or we can both move our separate ways and like get new places and i will cover the cost of breaking this lease because i don't i also don't think it's fair to um to live with him because i I do think if you're saying that he's not the one I think living together at like 21 too um and like you've been together for over a year and a half I think it just kind of sets you're giving him the wrong idea of like where you think this is going like if I I also think

like if Matz and I were dating and I realized like oh wow this is not this isn't it like this isn't like who I want to end up with like I would want to break even if I really liked him still I wouldn't I would want to break up with him because we live together like living together makes it like you're playing house like you're not just a roommate in like a college situation and especially if it's just you two not another roommate i think it's not really fair because you're just kind of leading them on to thinking that this is going to be like oh imagine we have a dog and kids partnership you're building a life together and that's not really fair a lot of times um if you find someone else to fill in it for you um they'll allow you to either

break your lease or let you sublease yeah that's true oh wow yeah yeah especially because it's a one bedroom and you just find just find somebody else's facebook post yeah fine but talk to him first yeah but yeah of course don't be like hey you're being a victim and you're being dumped too and then um later down the road just try and live with friends as much as like living with a roommate as people talk about like living with friends can be rough living with a the guy you date or a girl you date i think can be a lot harder yeah yeah okay guys should we go on to the next call yes go go go go go hi megan okay so i am 19 i live in a quite populated area i started a job in october and for the friends who know me they know that i'm into kinkier things

mostly dominant and submissive and I am a submissive person and I did this thing where I hooked up and kind of dated one of my assistant managers at my job from November till about the beginning of January and things were okay but we broke up because we knew that like we weren't going in the same direction we didn't have same things um and so that is it well over the next month and well I guess half a month or so um things are just tense between us at work I tried to not work with him on a lot of things when we were there and then in February I got hurt I was out on workman's comp I'm still gone technically and I go back to this week well the thing is me in his talk because i told him we need to talk before i come back about things being tense

and i have a feeling that we're gonna end up hooking up when i go back like not like immediately but sooner or later and i have a feeling that he's going to catch feeling a lot faster this time than i did last time and let me tell you last time well i caught feeling real real quick okay so i guess what i'm asking is do i sleep with my box my boss who actually gave into like my sexual desires and was someone who actually experimented with me and bought stuff for us to play with and whatnot or do i try and leave it alone because let me tell you i'm gonna work in there for at least another year until i'm completely leaving and i don't know how to go about this anyways thank you so much megan great question it's a good question um i mean my instinct reaction

is to be like i feel like it's never a good idea to sleep with your boss i think like the cardinal rule is don't do that well first of all like we're not even talking about hr like i don't think it's allowed probably they could it could be but could be something that they don't care about yeah yeah where do you work i know if it's at a kink shop then you're probably fine we're gonna wall street um i think like a i would just say uh you're young right you're young 19 19 yeah you're young um and i think there's like a lot of like vanilla frat boys in college that makes you think that like you're super not that i'm saying you are not kinky like i'm sure you're totally kinky but there are there are more kinky guys out there as opposed to like

this is not the only one um and i think i mean i mean also like you caught feelings fast why don't you think you're gonna catch feelings again right yeah that's that was my question it's like are you are you not into him why are you gonna hook up with him what's changed what is your goal here do you is it just sex if you both have feelings then why fight them exactly if you both have feelings and you're both into the same shit then that seems like a match made in heaven and then you can just go through whatever channels you need to go to with hr or whatever or ignore that i don't really i don't have we don't have real jobs no not a real job like i don't know we don't have hr anyone looking out no no nobody nobody cares they encourage bad behavior if anything

oh they do always so but yeah i would say maybe before you guys do the dirty again yeah just have a quick chat just like clothed clothed chat maybe in a public place maybe at a coffee shop she might be into public yeah true get it girl i love that but yeah just like a quick like hey um we work together just the reality of the situation if we're gonna keep doing this that's great but i want to be on top of it no pun intended no she's submissive you want to be on the bottom yeah um um if like just kind of talk first figure out what's going on yeah and then pursue whatever you want and get it girl because i love i love that me too i think ultimately you just have to figure out because you said earlier that you guys stopped hooking up because um you just weren't on

the same page or you didn't want the same things or whatever you just have to figure out what's changed that's kind of how i feel with like getting back together with exes or like rekindling old flames like are those same problems still there and those same issues like if they're not still there like go ahead go for it um because it's like so fun when you're sexually compatible with somebody you're like great i don't have to teach somebody all something and like convince any convince any not that okay that's bad but um but i get that and so i think yeah exactly like have a conversation to figure out what both of your intentions are because if you think he's gonna catch feelings um talk to him about it because i think so much of the time if you guys

kind of if you had feelings for him prior and you called things off and you're reinitiating it maybe he thinks you have feelings for him again and it's going to lead to something more but if you're just looking for friends with benefits i'll be honest i have not um i think i've only been turned down for that one time really one time um he would not have sex he just wouldn't have sex with me in general like he just like hardly wanted to be my friend and i was just like he was he was also like a virgin in college and so he became like the unicorn that every girl wanted to like be like and he lived on my hall floor sup it's okay we can keep it in we talk on facebook sometimes we're still bleeding okay just in case you should have seen this

let me email him i was just sitting there like no no um but yeah so i would say also if you're up front with that that's not um i even me as a girl like if i had like a guy friend or somebody who i'd like hooked up with or whatever and he like came to me and was like trying to rekindle things like my head would automatically go to like more romantic stuff but if he was like hey i'd like i really love hooking up with you like just to be super blunt how do you feel about kind of being like hookup buddies or whatever i think when people get hurt and the issue of like him potentially catching feelings is when people think that everyone else is like the you're going into it with a different goal and especially if you had feelings before right what i mean maybe he

thinks like oh she's ready now yeah to date and i'd also consider like if you think he is generally a trustworthy person just because this whole work situation like you don't want to jeopardize your because he works above you yeah he works above you and that's in more recent one yeah but it can also be problematic so just really like you're smart i'm sure decide for yourself like is this a person that even if things did not pan out the way like either of us wanted to am i risking my job am i risking like security um or is he generally a good guy and i think you can make that yeah and also have you dated anybody or like hooked up with anyone post that because i am so guilty of like getting hung up on one person and then romanticizing them even if like things don't

really go well and kind of just going back to that one thing where um yeah you can kind of relate like if you have like a great experience with someone else you can kind of forget that that the reason you had a great experience is because you had that experience if you don't have other ones you're not really giving the opportunity so um yeah maybe if if you're trying to remember like hey am i just like hella fucking horny and remembering that like we had great sex uh and if that's the case like you're bumble yeah bumble tinder like date around um there are everyone is far less vanilla than you think and um yeah i think she said she lived in a quiet town yeah so that's probably part of it you're feeling like oh i might not have a bunch of options but they're

out there yeah like they're get on the internets and you'll find them i mean be careful but yeah yeah be safe because you're in a public place always yeah i got a question yeah for us or for her for her so she's on workers club did you injure yourself sexually when you guys were doing that would be and then he would be indebted to you and your vagina yeah wow i wonder what it was i wonder where she fucking works too where do you get injured at work like do you work at tcby did you slip and fall on a banana peel or like is it an office is it a restaurant you do slip and fall on that banana milk yes we need this so bad god yeah that's i'm really curious i want an update on this one yeah so if you want to write in more whatever please would like to know we'd like to

follow this story yeah you don't have to be specific but i'm curious your age difference and i'm curious where you work what the injury is and then um what the what the follow-through with this guy totally oh so hot though i know it's right do you think they hook up in the office i hope that's so hot what if it's a restaurant and it's in like the it's in the meat freezer oh my god dry up so fast It's so cold. Can you imagine clenching her vagina?

It'd be so terrible. It's too cold. It's too cold. It's too cold. Oh, my God. Okay. We'll stick. Should we go on to the next one?

Hi, Megan. I'm 20 years old, and I'm from the U.S. I'm studying abroad in Australia for the semester, and a couple days after being here, I met this guy who's also from the U.S. He's about six hours away from me. things quickly escalated between us and I knew that I wanted to have sex with him but he didn't get hard the first couple of times and that happens I understand but this continued for three months he told me he's been with one other girl while he was pretty drunk and barely

remembers it and he's pretty anxious so I think this could be why he doesn't get hard but it really started to get to me I started to feel insecure but knew I shouldn't and I knew we were both disappointed by the fact that we couldn't have sex but I tried as hard as I could to be encouraging as possible I've tried basically everything and I started to get really strong feelings for this guy which sucked um because I can't be with him in the way that I want to and he's never been in a relationship before so it was hard for him to express his feelings for me so I felt like feelings weren't being reciprocated so I told him I was gonna see other people while also seeing him and he agreed with that he had no issue with it whatsoever but when he found

out I was with another guy he was so distraught and told me he didn't want to lose me so he said it was fine for me to be with other people but he regrets that he wants to be exclusive with me I like seeing other people because I came here wanting to experience new things new people and i honestly like that i can have sex with this other guy um i know sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but i feel like i want to connect with someone in that way if i'm dating them and i just don't know what to do because i really have strong feelings for this guy i'm seeing um the one that's six hours away from me but i don't know if i can look past the fact that we can't have sex and I also keep reminding myself I came here to experience

new things and date around I've been in a three-year on and off like part-time long-distance relationship so I feel like I shouldn't commit to someone I'm also worried because if I decide I want to see this guy for the remaining six weeks in Australia I know I want to be single when I go home because I just don't want to do long distance again and same thing I want to experience new things but it seems like he wants to be exclusive back home also so I don't know what to do because I really like all the time I have with him and I everything else with him is awesome like and I I just don't know what to do because I don't want to lose everything we have together but I also want to experience new things and new people so tell me what you think thanks

i really love her life isn't there something like so romantic about like like a broken man yes a broken penis no about like just like a vulnerable man like okay i me megan disagrees no not i mean like i love a vulnerable i mean what are you talking about i mean like okay so a broken man is so not hot so no not hot but like there's something i understand the feeling of like guys that are kind of like really sensitive and i i get the feeling i mean i either there's something actually wrong yeah but most of the time it's psychological the reason why guys can't get it up right and stay hard my best friend in the world dated a guy for like three months who could not get it up the whole time and they broke up because of that because is he

straight yeah he's straight but he's got such severe self-performance anxiety yeah yeah performance anxiety self-esteem issues like he's a stand-up comedian you know like yeah like definitely hates himself yeah so i mean that's just um prerequisite and there's something like that i think it's you can confuse like romantic it's just romantic feelings with like i don't want to say pity but like this feeling of like motherly motherly like i want to take care of you in this nurturing feeling especially if he's nice he's like he sounds like sweet maybe he's artistic um you know you're in a foreign land and timothy chalamet he's passionate he's coming to you like i want to be with only you i made a mistake and you like i understand that feeling but then girl you're right

you gotta get your own yeah you gotta pursue what you want so i feel like in dating other people like what you're doing right now sounds kind of like the ideal sit yeah i fully agree i think ultimately not the guy me asking if he like whatever so my first thought is there either there's something medically wrong and he should totally go to a doctor and like talk to a doctor about that because if he can't you you didn't say why he can't get it up and you haven't said that you guys have had a conversation not that i'm gonna say that it's like not normal but it's definitely something like either he's like suffering for some like real like uh i mean ptsd like it can happen like sexual abuse victims like things like that so it's an important part

of relationships as you said it is you're not crazy so it needs to be something ultimately it's like i don't know it's like it's it's part of your needs and if it's important if he if you are important to him this aspect should be something that you guys are working on and something that he's working on but at the same time like there's totally um there is totally like that embarrassment factor that you don't really want to admit that stuff um i'm curious if you guys like are intimate in other ways yeah because um not that i'm sick and i fully oh my god fully fucking so feel bad for you because i would feel so goddamn insecure yeah like holy shit i would feel awful um which you totally shouldn't but i that's just a natural reaction because i

would also say too um depending on if there's like a medical reason or if it's like from an insecurity aspect or he could be um it's what's what's it called when so there's a a romantic when you have is asexual asexual and a romantic and one of them is you're not sexually attracted to people but you can sexual yeah it's asexual but asexual you can still be like you can have like life partners or you can do whatever you want but like you can still have very romantic feelings towards somebody and not be sexually attracted to somebody and i don't know if that's what you guys are experiencing or that's what he's experiencing on his end or if it's an insecurity thing um or a medical thing or something like that but i also think ultimately you answered

your own question because you you said that you don't want to be in a relationship long term after this and that's what he wants and ultimately like he can be the nicest guy ever and you don't really want to ruin what you guys have but you don't want to date him when you're done so like it's going to end in six weeks no matter what on your end like you don't want to be long distance with him after this um but you don't want to like ruin what you guys have but you only have what you have for six more weeks and how often do you want to be driving six hours one way to visit a guy to not get laid and i think he can be so nice i hope she's not doing the driving i hope he's doing the driving oh i like yeah is she driving six hours that's what i was thinking what's his tongue

game i know because i'm like it's like penetration great cool but if if he is he going down on you yeah that's a really important question because if he's not then your friends that's just your friend that's just your friend and i think that's that's great great you can yeah i mean also i don't know i think like that's that's a long time to if and if and it's also like some people have different sex drives than others like sex like sex is so important to me in a relationship i always i always say that i'm like i swear to god i would know if i like someone more sleeping with them than going on a second date like it's just like i can fast track my feelings i would say it's like 50 in the beginning and then like as it goes on it's like it comes becomes a little

less important when i'm first meeting someone it's equally like chemistry in life and chemistry oh my god yeah like compatibility and chemistry because like otherwise like i'll just be your friend yeah like i'm not attracted to you like that so like this is what we'll just do um but yeah i think like ultimately you need to be selfish with your own feelings in this and by being selfish with your feelings and being honest and upfront with you want i think that's the most fair thing to him and everybody else and there's probably a chance that because of his um short i don't want to say shortcomings but we'll call them shortcomings um lack of coming no coming

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please you you know someone who's trying really hard and you're like you're still around you haven't like walked you like him you're still hanging out with him romantically and now you're like oh i gotta sleep with other people because you can't get it up he might be freaking out a little bit so that might not necessarily be him being like i love you as much as it is please don't leave i need this situation because it's not working

very well also if he's taking antidepressants yes i was gonna i yeah i forgot i was gonna say that antidepressants and also i'm gonna say i don't think he ever had sex before when she said that he was drunk and didn't remember it first of all if he's got an issue getting hard if he's drunk he's there there's no way he's getting hard and that sounds like um maybe make him watch the season of the bachelorette there's a male virgin on the bachelorette this season yeah also like the foreplay situation is a good question like are you spending time going i know he should first of all be going down on you a lot yeah are you spending time like yeah going down on him being like have you guys watched like porn together like does like what is he into yeah because that could

also be it he could have some like uh i don't know where he grew up but if he grew up in like a sexually repressed place feeling a feeling like guilty about having those kinds of feelings but then also maybe if he's into things that aren't he hasn't deemed super conventional right maybe he's like not really admitting um what he's into sexually or maybe he's gay yeah that one too it could potentially be it but i mean i've i've hooked up with my fair share of gay guys and they got hard yeah me too one one i think no i mean for i'm pretty sure for sure one guy i've hooked up with is um gay but he also came in his pants and i'm wearing hooking up and i felt great about myself my 16 year old self was like i'm a fucking baddie like i'm so hot i still carry

with me to this day half my confidence is from him coming in his pants i hope we helped um i love your sexual confidence i think it's amazing um and i wish i had the sexual confidence at her age how old is she she's like 21 oh 20 i did i know i was just about to be like i actually might have at 20 oh okay well i hope it works out and um yeah get that live live that best rom-com life yeah seriously in the outback in the outback yeah i also hate that he's not even australian yeah oh my god i'll see you guys are the hottest guy exactly they're fucking crazy but they're crazy yeah oh i'm getting your nose on the other side of the camera she was in australia for like two years and she's like all the australian guys are gross we get the good ones

the hot ones travel here yeah guys guys we're gonna go on a break and we will be right back don't go anywhere hey guys producer melissa here i want to take this break to thank you guys so much for listening to don't blame me without you this show wouldn't be possible and i'm not just saying this we literally need your calls to make this a show so megan and i were discussing how much we love doing the topical shows first season we did a show on back to school advice a couple on sex and one for Valentine's Day advice. When we did those, we picked the topics,

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Now back to the show. Okay, guys, we are back from the break. and we're going to go into more calls. Are you ready? I'm ready. Me too. I am 21 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend

for the past two years. We have known each other for way longer than that and, you know, been complicated, that whole thing, for longer than that, but we have been in a committed relationship for two years. And just the other day,

I found out that my boyfriend like super into porn and definitely was not prepared for that um yeah I guess I just I'm looking for some advice on how to approach that whole thing I think the way that it kind of made me feel when I heard all of that is almost like I'm not enough um or maybe like now it's not just a relationship between me and him and my body and his body but like all of these other girls that like he doesn't even know are there and yeah I don't know I feel like in our culture today porn is like not something that people talk about because it's something people talk about so much like it's just so there in the media um and I see that and it totally sucks that like that's

something that he's gotten into and that he enjoys um and yeah it's a real bummer but at the same time I think like I don't know it's never talked about from the other side like how does that affect the people that are in the relationship with you if that makes sense um and so yeah just looking for some advice on that when I confronted him and talked to him about it he was totally open and like told me the truth um about what was going on and what he was doing um and said he didn't want to do it anymore and like yeah I trust him I think but I guess I'm just a little bit apprehensive of like if it'll stick and like how can i trust him that he won't do it anymore should i care that he's even doing it like i don't care that he's jacking off i guess it's more just

like these other girls that are now in it kind of i don't know um your help would be great and i really appreciate it love your podcast and uh hope that you can help thanks bye thank you so much for loving this podcast and i'm so sorry this is gonna be the last episode you ever listen to because i'm about to go fucking in okay and i want to say this as like this isn't even going to be like uh like a harsh talking to you i just want to do this for everybody who's listening to this podcast porn is so fucking natural if anybody so i will admit i'm not super into porn at all like that's not like my idea of a hot time to like watch porn but like i also know that like i'm a rare person in that case and also like there's no issue with porn well piggyback off of that there's issue with

porn the porn industry in some cases i was gonna say one thing yeah porn i'm all for yeah i'm not all for porn where you like they're you know this free porn online where they like get young women to do it yeah and they like harass them but there are lots of kinds of porn that are like real couples um i can't remember the sites yeah my friend was telling me about one recently and she was like you'd like this one because it's so much less like i don't need to see a girl like pretending to come from like getting her nipple touch exactly there are some there's some like bitch i wish problematic parts of the porn industry there's also problems and like my question is like is his watching porn affecting your sex life is he railing you from behind to

the point where it's like coming all over your tent without asking yeah like shit like that that is like not actually pleasurable for you but something that he's learned from these kind of like shittier porn hub or whatever the hell um but porn and like you're saying like porn in general like there there's porn out there that is totally fine and good and natural and it's a way for men more than women but women too my roommate like 100 to just like get off and like pleasure yourself when you're not the other person's not around or like you're not having sex yeah and there's also something like i oh my god sorry right shoulder that's it i don't know if you masturbate but like um which first of all you so should it'll make your sex life so much better um but like i there's

such a difference in like having sex with somebody and like getting yourself off yeah and even if you're watching something um what i would say in that situation is like first like half the time it's like i don't know it's like cracking your neck like it's not like you know i mean like oh this is like an itch i need to scratch and like you're like sometimes there are some times where i'm like literally not even in a good mood i'm like fuck i need to masquerade like it's like it's on my checklist of something that i have to do because i'm in a bad mood and like i'm not yeah and it's like it's not like i'm gonna be like a 45 minute like go me love myself session like I want five minutes in and out like that's not and like also the amount of times that your

boyfriend like wants to have sex because his body is like hey this needs to happen right now like you're gonna bust a nut do you want to be there every single time to have sex with him for that I know I don't like I know compared to like all men that I've dated I have a pretty high libido and still uh they're like you're busy most of the time I'm like I'm busy but you can like right next to me if you want to like go at it I'll be here I'll like take my pants off so you can look like I'll like help you out but I'm like I'm like I'm on my laptop right now you can put your hand there but I gotta send these emails you know like and it's it's like yeah you don't you want this is the thing you want your partnership and your relationship to feel like this the sexual part

of it should never be yeah it should never be like neither of you at any point should feel restrained or like like feel like they can't truly be themselves and if he's telling if he's turning around and he's like oh i'm not gonna do it anymore i don't want to do it he might be like repressing something that he just kind of naturally needs to do um and the porn aspect of it i know it when it can feel like other girl it's it's not about these girls it literally is just about like visualizing like what the act is and being like okay that's what i'm feeling right now is like what i'm visualizing it's not like he's look it's i promise you he's not looking at these girls like oh that beautiful woman i want to fuck her yeah it's not that it's or i don't maybe it's probably

not it's probably not i also think like i would say um there i think you're kind of leaning in the territory of like just like porn shaming and like there's an issue there with your relation to as porn but there's also like this like it's it's it's porn but it's like this is it's about sex like that's what this is about like it's about like whether it's like fetishes and things that turn him on like we've had people who've called into podcasts where they've had like boyfriends who are like super into watching like anal porn and stuff and it's like there are girls who don't want to do anal and like for sure get your rocks off doing something that i'm not into here but it's not

there's a difference with okay so this is something I'd say like what I really dislike about the porn industry and what I also really dislike about my friend and I just got in this whole long talk her boyfriend went to a strip club and he's like what and she was very uncomfortable with it which I think is I understand that and she was uncomfortable

with it and he kept saying no I think it's just really funny and then it became I'm like no it's not funny these are real people like you can't laugh that's not like that's not okay and ultimately the thing that I have with porn and the difference of this and this will ease your mind but i think it's a fucked up aspect of it is that these aren't really necessarily real people to these men like they're not these aren't objects to lust after

these are not people who they even know their real name or their real last name or who they think about when they think about like raising a family and stuff like they are purely like west world hosts that are like yeah having sex and doing something for someone else's pleasure which i think is like a very fucked up notion that these are actual humans that uh people they're dehumanized like men or men or whatever whoever's watching this and can kind of not think about that or they're being dehumanized so i think like ultimately in that sense but also you kind of have to get to like men are most of the time pretty aware of how not realistic it is and i think again like if it's infiltrating your sex life like if he's expecting you to come solely

from penetration in five minutes or if he's pressured which is literally laughable um but like if he's also pressuring oh my god i'm getting so cold from drinking this i'm shivering i'm drinking a frozen drink um but if he's like pressuring you to do things that you're not into or whatever but ultimately like it's i don't know i don't think it's really fair to tell him that like he can't or can't do something because like it's his own sexual journey and the same thing with you like what if he said oh you know it really doesn't like if you masturbate like i'm not comfortable with you masturbating like i want to be the only person who ever gets you off like i just don't think that's really fair and there's nothing wrong there's nothing wrong with porn and

there's also nothing wrong with you because you don't look like those girls and i get that insecurity of it like i i i have an issue i don't have an issue with my boyfriend like watching porn i've got an issue if my boyfriend follows porn stars on instagram and if he follows people like that because i'm like you're this is infiltrating your daily life when you're at work and you're suddenly scrolling through and thinking of these girls but if you're logging on to accomplish a need and these are the people there and then they live and die on that site and these aren't things that you follow through the rest of your life like that i think it's fine um i would also suggest just like before if you really love this guy like if he's a guy worth you know sticking around i

would suggest finding one of these cool sites where it's like couples that upload their own porn um i love them because they're real people they don't look like porn stars which is the really cool thing and i would try watching it with him and like having sex or masturbating together and just try so you so you are like going out of your way to be like hey babe i'm uncomfortable with this but i see that you really like it and need it and it's something that helps you know get you off i want to participate with you i don't want to feel like shut up i want to be open with each other so let's try it and then and then at least you've like taken the step to try to meet him like where you know where his needs and then maybe in doing that you'll be like oh cool like

i don't need it and like i've got this great girlfriend and now i can like also good idea um make some little videos for him or like maybe next time you're going down on him like he can video it yeah and then he has something of you to reference we're getting some head shakes we're getting some nos because of the internet but um maybe get like one of those vid cam flip cam something sony handy cam yeah something that's my first youtube camera something you can't directly upload to the internet polaroid pictures too like polaroids yeah like cute like stuff of you guys and yeah of course okay so like sex vids isn't necessarily unless you really really trust him sex vids isn't the best idea but yeah um yeah just kind of try to meet him halfway instead of

being like what you're doing is wrong and making him like repress his sexual desires and feel bad about himself which will only that's gonna fuck up your sex life yeah that's gonna it's just gonna go south um yeah i would just try to try to be understanding um and also get out with him if you want to feel like empowered in it too and feeling because i can get the feeling of feeling less than and comparing yourself to these girls ask him what he's into in that stuff because also he might be watching things that he thinks that you wouldn't be into doing yeah and like be able to give your give him the opportunity to be like no like like maybe i'm going to be into this stuff like maybe i want to try that kind of stuff out because i think you can feel left out because you're like

what if he's looking at stuff not only what if he's looking at stuff of girls who look super different than me which is just i think it's just the case that it's always going to be but i wouldn't i don't think it's an alarming thing because that's not necessarily like his type or whatever um but then maybe it's like maybe it's that insecurity of feeling like oh is he watching things of girls doing things that like we don't do and so um seeing like maybe like maybe there are things that you'd be more comfortable doing and then also yeah if you're uncomfortable watching with him for the first time which i think you should totally do that watch watch it yourself for the first time and see and like it doesn't it's not always it's not always the horrible yeah

it's not always hot girls wanted and you see these like young underage girls like in basements in florida and like avoid that yeah don't don't watch that kind of stuff but it's a great documentary um but um but yeah like find something and like maybe you'll realize that you're actually like you get turned on by some of this stuff too and there's no shame in that there's no shame in being like it's just a natural human reaction like your body's reaction to that kind of stuff yeah totally yeah we nailed that go us and i don't even like porn on to the next call hi megan um i'm 23 years old and i just started dating this guy probably about five months ago and things are going really well we get along really well um everything is great in our

relationship and so we started integrating each other into our friend groups um he has a really close-knit friend group from college and i also have a really close friend group from college and he's really integrated himself into my friend group really well and i'm starting to hang out with his friends as well the only problem is um so there's this girl in his friend group and they've been friends for probably about six years now um and i know for a fact that she has been interested in him almost the entire time she's like basically obsessed with him um and so i'm just not quite sure what to do about it because i know for a fact that there never seen history there he was never interested in her he's actually turned her down two or three

times and i don't know i just feel kind of weird about them being so close like they don't really hang out or talk one-on-one all that much it's mainly just in like group settings and i'm not worried about it or jealous about it i just feel kind of weird being in their friend group knowing that she's in love with my boyfriend um and so she's definitely been stalking my social media I know this so I'll she doesn't follow me I know that and so but I'll catch her like looking at my Instagram stories because it tells you who looks at them and then I'll also get like notifications but she's like really old pictures of mine but then when I go back to like look at the notification it looks like she unliked it but

the photo is from like 2014. So I don't know what to do about the situation because I feel like she's automatically going to hate me and I really want his friend group to like me and I don't want her infiltrating the other people in the group. Your playlist might get you through the workday, but have you ever wondered how your ancestors spent theirs? What work helped them build a life? How did they adapt as the world around them changed? With Ancestry, you can search select historical occupational records for free for a limited time and discover the stories behind the jobs in your family tree. You've got questions. We've got ancestors.

Search free until August 31st. Visit Ancestry.ca for details. Terms apply. Based off of her feelings that forced him. So, I don't know, can we just, what do you think I should do? again i'm not worried that there's any history there anything i'm just i don't know am i being crazy am i being petty like what what do you think let me know no as petty master general here hi reporting for duty you're not being petty hello ready and accounted for um what do you feel um what was the question i just um i feel like a couple things first of all have you talked to

your boyfriend about this matter it sounds like you kind of did because he was like oh i turned her down a bunch of times and second of all it seems like the best and hardest approach is to probably talk to this girl is to probably be like if she's i mean did she say she's like treating her badly to her face or no no she's just stalking her and she's afraid that she's going to infiltrate the friend group with disliking her because she thinks it's bad this girl's bound to dislike her right right right so i just think that take the bitch to lunch take the bitch take the bitch to lunch invite her reach out to her especially if she's like especially if she's like the only girl in that friend group you're like oh i want to connect with you you're my boyfriend's

friend and really kill her with kindness just like and go to her and try to establish a relationship with her because then if she sees that you're like a cool chill girl then maybe she'll maybe unless she's totally a basket case like let up a bit and be like oh my friend is really happy with this new girl and she's really cool and I should be friends with her and I should probably move on from this romantic one-sided thing yeah yeah I mean I would do that I would take her to lunch i would like one-on-one befriend her and then i would set her up with somebody yeah and like give her that or talk to her about who she's dating um because i think the idea of being interested in somebody in your friend group for an extended period of time is just a convenience

based thing um and also not to say that your boyfriend might not be stellar um i i i don't know um it's hard to believe yeah it's hard it's can you believe that your boyfriend turned her down multiple times I think like and hasn't led her on yeah and also hasn't given her some I don't know like either either some some things being lost in communication here because first of all there's I mean respect to this girl if she's resilient enough to be have have been turned down multiple times by one of her guy friends and maintain a fine relationship in the friend group that to me just doesn't really sound possible or someone's someone's over someone's downplaying or overplaying something like either her feelings really

weren't that strong and she didn't actually come out and say anything and it's kind of just been a like seed that's been planted that hasn't been directly turned down or maybe her boy your boyfriend and her like drunkenly made out one time at a party and she's been maintaining those feelings like for me it just seemed a little far-fetched that she would have been outright turned down multiple times and then still be going for it right and all that and maybe the concern is like not that she's going for it but that she's around and clearly has feelings and is like more of a friend with those guys than you are and you feel like you can't really integrate yourself in that friend group until she accepts you which brings us back to the you just got to get with

her one-on-one and funny i don't think we actually recorded this but i won't i don't think i recorded this so i won't say which guest it was but i had a talk with one of our other guests about this same situation she was in the same situation there was a girl in the friend group and her issue we didn't record it did we no okay so um her boyfriend she talked to her boyfriend about it and was like yo it's like crystal crystal clear that this girl has feelings for you and he said that he he like said he like had known but like was just kind of like oh like they he he she knew that he didn't have feelings for her and he addressed her to whoever and then uh the friend of mine uh saw when they were all hanging out together that he was friendly enough that this girl was definitely

just getting the wrong idea and he was trying to be such a nice guy and not hurt her feelings and not make it awkward in the friend group by not that he wasn't shutting it down but he was kind of just like pushing it away and not addressing it head on and especially if you have feelings for somebody you can fucking justify what they do left and right and unless you're being like really really if unless he's being really blunt with her then then there she might be holding on to like a few like aspects of hope that this is something more than it is and that's what so what my friend had done was talked to i think she had talked to the girl i think the girl kind of denied it and then um eventually the girl just stopped being friends with the whole friend group and

everything like that because it became clear that it was it was never going to happen but i think like talk talk to your boyfriend about it and just be like and go at it because you guys have only been dating for five months go at it from a not accusatory place of being like hey i just want to be on the same page because like i don't want to go and i don't want to end up in a situation where i'm the one who doesn't know anything so when you say that she's had feelings for you and she's like you've turned her down like in what context what do you mean with that kind of stuff and then yeah you can you're able to find out also because you don't really want to i don't know you don't you don't want to like go at the situation with her and like confront her and have it get a

little like heated and then find out that your boyfriend has like completely let her on like that's not really like girl code wise i would say talk to your boyfriend find out exactly what went down and then meet her show her that like i don't know you're also like if she really cares about your boyfriend as a friend too that you're not a threat like you're that you're not about to be that girl who's like he can't have any girlfriends he can't do blah blah blah show that you're like chill and you're cool and that um you you want to create a relationship with her and you actually might end up really liking her yeah like she might end up being really cool and she could just be i'm definitely so guilty of like holding on to feelings for someone and then just for so just

for so long because it's convenient um and then yeah yeah and if she turns out to be like crazy and that this goes totally awry then you have every right to go to your boyfriend and be like hey i tried i like held out the what kind of leaf olive branch olive leaf here's a palm and she was like you know i love your boyfriend you bitch like if she does something crazy then you have every right to go to your boyfriend and be like hey i really tried to you know form some sort of friendship and it's not working so what's your what's your put it in his court yeah like boyfriend what do you suggest we do because your guy already tried it and also i wouldn't worry about if his friend group is mostly men one of like the wonderfully terrible things about men

is men just like stick together and they don't really listen to what women say so if she hates you and it's a group of guy friends they're not gonna really give a shit if she hates you but they don't care otherwise like i don't know um yeah i mean i can't imagine the rest of the friend group would be tainted by that a because if if if she has she is really just being crazy she doesn't she doesn't have any she has no what's it called like you don't get up she has nothing to go on for her craziness ammo ammo that kind of thing like she has nothing to go on for that so she can't admit that she hates you because the right she yeah she's got she's not sitting on anything with that so the friend group would be like what are you talking about like you've got

no reason to do that so either if she's crazy she's not the friend group's not going to believe not going to go along with her because she'll that's just embarrassing for her um and then if she does have amo and have like that explanation and the friend group is like oh they've always been like a will they won't they kind of get together sort of thing i think it's up to you to um i think it's up to your boyfriend like if you guys are serious really explain that to his friends that like that's like a serious thing and then I think while you're befriending her befriend his other friends too um and yeah like and I think like hanging out with each other's friend groups is like a great thing to establish yeah um and like establishing your own friendships

with those friends because then they're also going to go up to bat to you take the high road until someone fucks with you and then you're allowed to fight back that's always my motto is always I'm like I won't I won't throw the first punch and I'm not going to start this fight but oh bitch if you push me i will end it like i will i won't start it but i will finish you like i i use my powers i only use my powers for good not evil and i won't start because i know i have like a lot of powers right and so then when it when it comes to sub powers i'm like well you asked for it yeah i will end it i'm a good person to have on your side in a fight very confrontational she's very good

as if you for all of you just listening that was a violent punch she watched it on youtube really scary punch really scary it hurt really bad so bad oh god this is dramatic so now it's on to producer's corner and producer's corner is where mel will pick either a callback from someone who's updating us from a previous caller or we'll also get some feedback and if anyone had some had some if they felt some type of way about a previous call i heard someone say that in a serious way recently and i was like i love that i was like it made me feel some type of way um and yeah so if you guys want to uh be in producer's corner with a callback or an update we love the updates and the callbacks um you can just same thing three one zero six nine four zero nine

seven six and then megan podcast at gmail.com with an mp3 or mp4 which one's sound three three oh i should have known that lime wire life that's a lime wire kid but yeah so which what kind do we have today so we have someone that's calling in response to another call this was from episode 22 with mods um so this was the uh caller that was 22 years old she was an au pair um living in sweden um and so she started dating a guy that everyone loves um and they're trying to make it work long distance and she's working on getting her visa oh yes yeah and so um this is someone calling in response to that who's been through a similar situation oh okay let's hear it um so i'm 22 now i met my um then boyfriend when i was 16 and i met him online i lived in california and he lived in

canada um so we were pretty far apart um but we talked all the time we fell in love um we met after three months he drove down to see me and then we met again 10 months after that so there a 10-month period of time where we didn't see each other at all we just talked on the phone and skyped and everything and that period was really tough but i knew that like at the end of that time i would be moving so i planned to move to washington for university um but i would be close to him um and then um so we we had that to look forward to i moved to washington which was closer close to him but it still wasn't we weren't in the same city or in the same country still So I went to school for four years.

He lived in Canada, and we just made it work. We visited each other as much as we could. It was only three hours instead of an 18-hour drive. And then eventually we got married so that I could move here. So we just had it in mind that our end goal was going to be here where he lived. We worked towards that and made sure to visit each other as much as possible. Now I'm 22, and I live in Canada. I'm married to him and we get to see each other every day which is awesome um so long distance

does work and like Megan said um when you have an end goal in mind it works a lot better and us being in the same time zone also helped a lot too um but I think just if you're dedicated and you both know that's what you want then it's able to work um so I hope that helped thank you so much bye again that's hella cute I did nothing really I just want to plug my favorite one of my favorite romances of all time it's called like crazy oh yeah yeah anybody seen it drake drianus with the late anton yelchin and felicity jones sorry yelchin um and felicity jones before she was famous it is oh yeah gorgeous beautiful funny sad jennifer lawrence is a bit part like it was before she was famous but it's about this couple he's in california she's in london and they're

like trying to make it work and it's so it's so beautifully encapsulates that experience of trying and they kept getting denied their visa and they're like we have to make you know they love each other so they i don't know what you said on the podcast but but it was yeah my whole thing was the end goal that i think like long distance can work if it's not like an indefinite amount of time because i think like i have one friend who i know who uh her and her boyfriend have been long distance i mean i haven't talked to her for a while but her and her boyfriend have been long distance for like three and a half years and like he was in the bay and she's here and they would just fly and neither of them had any desire to move to either place no and i'm like that eventually

like i think can get hard but if you've got an end goal in mind you also something to look forward to yeah and so i think that's i think that makes it easier but that's like hella sweet also do you just want do you realize how old she was 22 and she's married they've been together since they were 16 no no i'm like mad i'm just mostly looking at taylor being like are we supposed to be married according to I don't know like people from my hometown are married

with babies crazy this is the year for babies for people in my hometown really yeah 25 someone someone in LA

needs to have a baby so we can play with them I know I don't do we need to knock up will you have a baby yeah you'd have such a cute baby

you would have the cutest baby it'd be so tiny it would be so cute like a baby like a baby okay so that's my goal for this year

yeah 2018 manifest it's really easy to manifest pregnancy just like get pregnant and we have mel cam and baby and your breastfeed the whole time oh my god we're just so progressive here that'd be a podcast for 2018 2019 in the future because it takes a while to like cook a baby oh my god i really do want someone i have two friends who've got one just had her baby and the other one is like due in august but they have so many fucking friends that i'm like i'm not gonna be able to play with your baby all the time the baby's gonna be so popular but they're gonna want she's gonna want your friend's gonna want time like to themselves no but they have so many friends who don't have kids who want the baby too so they say we'll see when it actually

it's true that's true yeah thank you so much for being on the podcast thank you for having you were more fun than i thought you were going to be oh which i had high hope you guys want to follow taylor what's your socials i mean i follow them it's at taylor v but it's spelled in a really funky fun way which is t-a-y-l-e-r-v-e-e yeah yeah i like how you spell your name thank you it wasn't my choice but oh well go go go your mom your mom chose thanks mom yeah um you guys should um we should okay first of all everyone should watch garbage your short film garbage it's fantastic it's funny it's it is it's so funny and it's so good and if you haven't already watched the youtube video of this you need to put a face to the name um you look like such a manic pixie

dream girl in it i love it i do i kind of look like that one girl in um scott versus pilgrim oh yeah yeah no that's not the name of it yeah scott pilgrim verse scott scott versus the pilgrims scott pilgrim versus the world right yeah yeah or the universe or everything my favorite movie is eternal sunshine so i'm constantly trying to be kate winslet in that movie well for you and tyler did it for halloween we did do that again obsessed with it was really cute it was you guys are gross thanks for being on the podcast um if you guys want to watch the youtube video it's on my youtube channel um or also listen to it on the podcast app apple podcast we would love you subscribed um gave us give us five stars we're also on soundcloud and if you

go to don't blame me dot show you can listen to other you can find other places to listen which is ironic because you're listening to it right now but if you're watching it you're curious where you can listen to it um and yeah the phone number again 310-694-0976 call in with your advice call in with things you need help on or call backs and then international callers megan podcast at gmail.com yeah yeah yeah we'll see you next week or hear you or you'll hear us we won't hear you that'd be fucking creepy if you just heard like audience ambient audience noises you suck you should do a live one oh that's a good idea okay coming to you no not yet not yet maybe soon okay bye guys

don't blame me is a production by me produced directed and edited by melissa demont's camera operator shereen yunes post-production sound by chris henry production assistant julie carley and music by Giacomo Picasso and Ryan Hunter. I'll see you guys next week. And don't blame me if your life, you know, completely fucks up before then. Oh.