Don't Blame Me! - S2E7: Guest: Melvin Gregg - Friends With Benefits?

Episode Date: June 22, 2018

My “Freakish,” co-star Melvin Gregg is here this week to share advice on your calls. We’re covering how to deal with a cheating boyfriend, if you should be mad that your boyfriend is asking girls for nudes, and what to do if your friends think your boyfriend’s uncircumcised penis is gross. We also had a listener give commentary on her the caller who was dealing with a monster-in-law.Follow me: @meghanrienksFollow Melvin Gregg: @MelvinGreggTweet Melisa Your Topic Ideas: @sheisnotmelissaNeed Advice?www.dontblameme.showDomestic Listeners Call: [phone]International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [e-mail]… with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING.- Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:http://youtube.com/meghanrosetteSupport the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Visit ancestry.ca for details. Terms apply. On this episode of Don't Blame Me, we have Melvin Gregg. We talked about a girl whose friends are judging her for her boyfriend's penis being uncut. A friend who's also judging her friend for sleeping with her boss. Oh my gosh. And a girl who's wondering if it's okay that her boyfriend told her that it's okay that he asked for nudes from other girls. Nudes. I like that fully sounds.

Nudes, nudes, nudes, nudes. Mama. hi guys welcome back to don't blame me today's episode we have melvin greg say hi hello hello you have a nice podcast voice and you're gonna start a podcast yeah that's my podcast voice nice it's not like my regular voice it sounds exactly like your voice oh because i just got a podcast voice oh nice yeah so um melvin and i know each other because we played boyfriend and girlfriend on freakish if you guys watched it melvin loved it he was so nervous to kiss me for the first time yeah but it wasn't it wasn't personal what no

offense i wasn't offended um it was just now i'm offended no it's weird having an on-screen kiss because you don't really know it's like permitted because it's not a natural occurrence you know what i mean so it's like i don't want to do anything i'm not supposed to do and like get me to in trouble yeah well fun fact i did make melvin kiss me when we weren't on camera for the first time so he'd be less nervous do you not remember this yeah i do he's walking towards like and you were like what are we gonna do because it's like i think what killed me when i was younger is a show called martin um people might know what martin is but uh yeah martin his uh his co-star um she's campbell she she like sued him because they were kissing and like he kept putting his

tongue in her mouth or something like something that was inappropriate and towards the end of the show like they were never in the same scenes because it was a situation so that always restraining orders against each other so that's that's in my head when i'm doing like these on-screen kisses like do i gotta like swallow my tongue so it's not included in the kiss do i like what do i do with my hands like it's just you know what i mean it's not comfortable yeah okay well i made him kiss me under the bleachers and i was like are you less nervous and you're like not really how high school i know right super high i was like just kiss me now um well you guys are listening and or watching to uh don't blame me which is my podcast it's an advice podcast we're filming this

for youtube but um you also might be listening to this on the podcast app or anywhere like that so if you want to see the video and see melvin and his earrings which i didn't know we almost have matching earrings uh-huh that's do you not like that you don't want to match i don't like well you worded it what do we have matching earrings they don't match what do you mean i'd wear yours they're similar in shape the bigger the oh the bigger the ho i guess neither of us are hoes my earrings match michael jordan's oh okay yeah okay sure i get it i get it um so this is an advice podcast um so i can explain it to you because melvin definitely doesn't know it um and people call in and leave us voicemails and we give them advice on the things that they

tell us about that are happening in their lives so good at that you are yeah so um if you guys want to call in the phone number is 310-694-0976 and international callers can email a audio file to meganpodcast at gmail.com it's a lot of work you gotta really appreciate them if they do that all of that i do appreciate them i appreciate them a lot i'm curious what you're gonna say because one time um though i think it was we've only gotten in one fight before when melvin told me that i was he told he said a girl can only be um pretty or cute no cute and funny no you're phrasing it wrong okay then do it how you come on go ahead no you're not about to blast me i am about to either i'm gonna say it or you're gonna say no you're gonna say it wrong so basically

that's not what i said first off i'm a quote unquote comedian so a lot of things i say in context of making a joke yeah and i was picking i was picking with megan and i was saying dang it's crazy because most girls not all girls most girls are either funny or pretty and the reason i said that because a lot of girls who are pretty are conscious of how they look when they really do comedy and a lot of times when you're concentrating on looking pretty it's hard to be funny you know what i mean and the girls the girls were like you know doing comedy they don't care about them that they just and they're still pretty too anyway i was just trying to set up a joke for for Megan

to say she wasn't funny and then at the other end I was complimenting Liza and saying Liza was pretty and funny but that was all

that like me you know that's so not what happened you know as an actor I'm like a method actor sometimes and that day there was a lot of frustration

between me and Megan's character so I just wanted to plant that seed so when they say action it'd be organic and authentic is that the same I'm all about the craft

no I won't put you on blast for the other thing I was gonna say I won't do that though you've told that story on the podcast but you didn't say it was cute or funny

yeah but you didn't say who it was now we have a now we know who it is name to the story you said girls can only be cute or funny you said Liza was funny

and Liza was like not offended that she wasn't cute and you told me that I was cute and I was so mad that I wasn't funny that I didn't talk to you

for a week I said Liza was both that's even more fucked up but you're not really funny Megan I'm so funny do you want to fight again I didn't talk to you

for a week and you like apologized you were smart cause I had to cause I realized it was an on screen boyfriend and sometimes you got to bite the bullet and just apologize.

I don't know why I brought you on the podcast. Men, you know, sometimes you got to figure out the fights that you, you know. Pick your battles. Yeah, you got to pick your battles. Ugh. Regretting this immediately.

Mel is here too, guys. What's up? Woo woo. I just realized she was actually doing it too and not just talking. You're like Robin from the Sway Show. Yeah. We want to get a Mel cam though.

I need one of those. So she can have a little camera. Yeah, right. You never see Robin either. Are you ready to give advice? Yeah, always. Are you going to be in character or are you going to be nice? I'm mean in real life.

No, I'm playing. No, I'm going to give good advice. Okay. I'm not in character anymore. Freakish is over. It is over. Finito. Over.

Over. Okay, on to the first call. Hi, Megan. This is a 21-year-old in a struggling relationship with a guy. And I'm bisexual. I am currently in college. And I'm just dealing with this relationship that's been bugging me for so long. And every time I tell somebody about it, they just keep telling me that the guy's an asshole and that I should just let it go.

But that's the exact problem. I can't let it go. So basically, what's been going on, I met this guy my freshman year of college. I'm a junior right now. And we've been doing this whole friends with benefits thing. and I know everybody says that's never worse and that's always going to turn into a relationship or you guys are going to end up wanting to be with each other well that did happen except that I was the only one who wanted to be with him and once I expressed my feelings about this three years into

this he rejected me so that obviously hurt and I wanted to obviously take everything back and just like act like i never had feelings for him ever but the thing is that now we're still friends with benefits and we're kind of just friends and every time i tell this to somebody everybody just assumes that we've been in a relationship but we haven't obviously because we've just been friends with benefits and neither of us has ever said that oh we're each other's girlfriend or boyfriend so the thing is that my feelings i don't i just don't know what to do with them because like i I know that I should probably just like let him go and just, you know, forget about him and move on, especially because now he's graduated and I can just start my college year fresh and keep on going with my studies and my life. But it's just so hard because like he's been my support system for so long and well, yeah, I just, I don't know what to do.

And we're still friends with benefits and we still see each other a lot. So we have the same friends, we hang out with the same people. so I just I don't know what to do you seem to have a lot of feelings on this already no you know I'm a reactive person you know typically you can see what I'm thinking on my face yeah yeah so maybe um but the the keyword in there that wasn't addressed later on so you gotta find keywords and hints and things you know what I mean she mentioned she was bisexual but that had nothing to do with anything else in the thing right but she felt she needed to put that out yeah i don't know if that was a pass at you or maybe you know it's an underlining thing

that maybe she want to you know be with a girl yeah but i mean she mentioned it and it had no i know i was curious about that too she's curious too i think yeah i'm like you had a lot of options right yeah no limitations um i don't know the format you usually advise first do i i can i can advice first and sure i think what i would automatically say is have you you've i'm stupid you've had you've done friends with benefits right yeah you're allowed to say that no the friend part is blurry oh good god he said benefits good god um no but i've definitely done that and the first thing i would say is it it all i think more often than not it happens exactly like it's happening for her i think that's kind of always how it ends um is one person developing feelings

and the other i think it rarely rarely works out where both of you i mean i also feel like the asshole who was in the opposite situation where i was like friends with benefits with this guy and then we ended up dating but like neither of us were really that into each other we were just highly jealous people and so we just didn't want each other to hook up with other people i definitely didn't follow that um i'm sorry um but but it wasn't like if you're gonna like if you want to date somebody you're gonna know pretty early on especially if you're sleeping with somebody i always say that i wish like not that i that i i will get to know if i i will know if i like somebody quicker if i sleep with them than if i like date them for six months like i think it's

an automatic thing that you know and the second that you start sleeping with somebody you're either going to develop feelings or you're not and if you can do that for like three years and he hasn't he's been okay with like you being with other people or like anything like that like you're just yeah yeah i just like i don't foresee that kind of developing um at that slow of a pace because you're just you're doing all of the things that people do in relationships without dating and so if he doesn't have the desire to date from there there's really nothing you can do and also there's nothing you don't want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you like there's no chance like point in convincing somebody because then you're like oh wow i've like forced this

person to feel the same things i do for them but i mean my ultimate advice is just you can't do this anymore like you're still going to keep liking him it's not going to change and if he doesn't have those feelings for you after three years he's i don't think he's going to bye ready for a guy's perspective um it's gonna be the same no it's not okay i got a different perspective this is pretty honest um should i start trying to come up with a different perspective nah nah i mean what you what you said is true um i'm not i'm not like trying to go against what you said i just feel like like kind of you said you said you'll have sex with a guy first to see what it is i feel like that's true like the testament of how he feels about you is how he

you after sex because before sex you're gonna get uh the guy who's trying to have sex with you yeah yeah that's what you're gonna get depending on the person but most of the time that's what it's gonna be and if three years y'all not in a relationship he don't want to be with you even though like y'all relationship might be what a relationship is as far as the time you spend together the only difference between that and actual relationship i guess is the commitment and the monogamy and he might want to be with her she said he's uh her support system so they probably talk and kick it all the time but he still want to fuck other girl you can say whatever fart did you say fart oh i just had to get it out i didn't say fart just i wasn't confident with the

one of the fucks and it sounded like fart um but yeah he not ready to like just have be with her he still want his options out there like guys guys could i could have this one girl who's like perfect i would like my best friend i want to kick with her all the time we have sex and everything but i'm still not ready to only have sex with her because a lot of times sex isn't always emotionally like emotions aren't involved it's like recreational with guys sometimes so it's like i want her but i still want to like yeah go out and play ball every time quote unquote play ball um fuck yeah fuck so that might be yeah he might not be ready to really settle down and i mean you got to respect him ball that's not even a good like that's you know don't worry

I'm just pretending you're fondling balls. No. What? Sorry. You said play ball. But it'd be my own. No, I was saying like, because his recreation was like going to the court

and playing basketball sometimes. Anyway, he might really like her, but he's just not ready to commit. They're young. He was in college. In college, you go crazy. I went crazy in college. I wasn't about to commit.

And you got to respect him for being honest because he could have easily committed to her and just cheated like you did. I didn't cheat. Okay, maybe. Sure. Yeah, actually. Pass off to that guy.

He's a good guy. um i think also the guy she was sleeping with he's no i don't know who that is i'm talking about the guy that she's talking about well i also think like uh exactly going off what you're saying i think wanting to be in a relationship is so much more to do with a personal thing less about the person so like you could want to be in security yeah but i mean like there's like times where it's like if you don't want to be in a relationship it's not because you don't want to be in a relationship with like this specific girl it could be the greatest girl ever but you're like no i don't want that for me i'm not ready yeah and so it's such a personal choice so even though

you guys do have that really great friendship and you have all the benefits of a relationship just without the commitment that doesn't necessarily mean that obviously exactly you're saying obviously he's still interested in you and like has like cares for you and it was not a hit it and quit it situation but it's just like he doesn't want a relationship and if he did want a relationship it would happen yeah you would know that and you also don't want to be with somebody who doesn't want a relationship. So I also, I wouldn't even say

the ultimatum thing because I think ultimately, I need to stop saying ultimately. You're going to get a guy, you're going to tell him that he's going to lose you unless he commits, but then you're going to get a guy

who doesn't want to commit. You ain't got to, yeah, you shouldn't even do all of that. Like she 20, what she say, she 21, she's bisexual.

That means she out here just trying to live her life. But she putting so much pressure, she putting so much pressure on this guy being in a relationship. She probably don't even really want to be

in a relationship with him. It's just like, oh I'm hanging with him I feel like I'm supposed to be in a relationship so I'm chasing his status quo and it's him not wanting to be with her

yeah she's like it's like a dog chasing his tail oh sorry my life if you're not into me that's the quickest way for me to be into you yeah because you want him more

right like she need to just forget all of that enjoy her life do what's best for her find her happiness have three swims and just wild out

you know yeah sure if that's what she's into if that's what she's into she is I would say too like cut him cut him off cold turkey

I think like the sex can be great um but that's not it's like sex will be great with other people besides him but in order to get over somebody you not you can get under somebody else but you just need to like that ain't gonna hook up with him because the worst thing you're gonna go back to it start crying when you're having sex with somebody else have you cried no because if they in that type of situation they ain't gonna do it no i ain't gonna cry but if i see you emotionally like hurt and You, like, bound to cry.

I'm not about to be having sex with you. Like, I'd rather you just lay there. Heartbreak is not hot? No, hell no. And then I feel like I'm not really there because she wants me there. It's like I'm a rebound. And I kind of got an ego, and I ain't about to be nobody rebound. Kind of have an ego?

I had no idea. I hide it. I suppress it. Really? You do a really good job. Thanks. Yeah. I think the final advice is ditch him.

Start. That doesn't mean you don't have to, like, be friends with him. Keep fucking them. Let them be your support system, but go and live your life. And if you find somebody better for you, move on. Well,

I think it's also when you not, when you don't have any other, not that you don't have any other options. Keep your options open. Options are good. But when you put all your eggs in one basket and you only continually see the same person, you kind of just relate every,

you associate like sex and enjoying all that stuff and like romance with that person. But you have to go meet other people and be like, oh wait, wow, I can have this with other people.

That's a dumb saying. Not to you as well. Eggs in a basket. you're supposed to put eggs in different baskets so they don't all break in the one basket if one egg break is not like a domino effect if you drop the basket

they'll all break what farmer came up with this shit Dill Dill Dill and Beth pitchfork holding that's a good one well I hope it all works out for you

let us know what happens I care, Melvin might care too Yeah, I care for all people. I want her to be happy. On the next call. Hey, Megan, I'm in desperate need of advice. I'm 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for over eight years now and everything was going really well until he admitted to making out with another girl in 2016. So like two years ago, basically how it all came out was that my girlfriends and I were talking about cheating and things like that.

And I just immediately felt this pit in my stomach because there was a time when my boyfriend got a little too close to this girl. like there's photos of them on Facebook with their arms around each other like super closely to the point where other people saw them and were wondering like what the fuck is going on here so I pretty much just came home and called my boyfriend and said hey so my friends and I had this conversation and made me really uncomfortable so I need to know have you ever cheated on me he said he made out with this girl same girl in the photos and I think it was around the same time when these photos were taken he's had a million chances to admit this to me but he chooses now in 2018 two years after it happened and I know this girl and I've always been really nice

to her little did I know that they did this the next day when we were talking again my boyfriend and I he said that it was actually twice that they made out it's been a little it's been a little over two weeks now and I really want to make this work he's been putting in the effort and wrote me a love apology letter and vowed to never talk to that girl again and untagged himself from the photos and deleted her off of all his social medias which is really great and I appreciate that but I just cannot stop feeling angry and heartbroken and sad and I can't trust him and overall I just don't feel as secure in my relationship anymore like two years before all that happened in 2014 I was anorexic and he was by my side throughout the whole thing throughout

my entire recovery and then he goes and does something like this so yeah I'm feeling pretty awful and another problem I'm having is that at first of course I refused to have sex with him and he was like really bummed out about it like oh my god this is gonna be so much harder than I thought and then when we did have sex finally he's like oh my god we're gonna be fine we're gonna make this work and we're gonna be okay everything's gonna be okay and that was a big red flag to me because I just I just feel like he just wants to have sex with me and he vowed that's not the case and he said that he wants me for the rest of his life and just like I said I just can't trust him so basically I need advice on how I can learn to trust him again and how we

can make this work and um basically yeah just how our relationship can just move past all this at 13 you shouldn't like okay I know people not gonna really listen to this but I didn't have my first girlfriend so i was like 24 you want to say how short you are the thing but it doesn't make it i wasn't short at 18 through 24 no that's short people were in relationships what are you your heightest no you used to say that you were so tiny i was tiny that don't mean i can't be in a relationship that's what you said the point i'm making is at 13 you're not mature enough or responsible enough to be responsible for somebody else's feelings or to be in a relationship or commit you can't sign a contract at 13 you shouldn't be able to commit to a relationship

But kids don't listen Because they want to be grown And then they end up In a situation like Shorty and right now You're not going to be able to Like Y'all going to grow apart

Y'all don't know Who y'all are at 13 So at Eight years later Y'all Probably aren't the same people That you were in the beginning And you just shouldn't

Be in a relationship At that young You should be living your life You should be like Playing kickball To some of you 13 Anyway Moving away from that

Eight years He's definitely cheating I'm pretty sure Y'all lost your virginity To each other at 13 i hope so i'm pretty sure at 21 22 however old you are y'all he might be the only guy she's with because girls chase this fairytale story life that they see on disney but i'm pretty sure she's not the only person that he's been with yeah and like you can't expect that to be the

the case and it's sad but it's just human nature i'm like i'm not telling you what's expected i'm telling you like what's real and i'm pretty sure he did more than kiss that girl if he admitted to kissing twice he did more than that and also if he was so quick to delete everything and apologize i think it's because he knows he got away with like something a little more right and then she was like he was there for me through my anorexic recovery and now he goes and does this she said like he did something bad and then did something else bad like that doesn't take away from him being a good guy being there for you like if anything that's like that's a positive to the situation and then he went and wrote her a love letter and all that stuff he

obviously want to be with her and her holding back sex isn't gonna help the situation no it's never make him want to go have sex with somebody else like but also it's like it's it that's a thing that like i'll struggle with if like moths and i get in a fight i'm like we're not gonna have sex which will last for like 30 minutes but that doesn't do i know it's really fucked up but like it doesn't like it doesn't especially as a girl too like if you feel like betrayed or upset about something like that's a way that you can feel close to your partner and like that's something like taking that away also i don't think he wants just sex from you at all because he wouldn't he's been dating you for eight years i think if you really want to be with him and he really wants

to be with you you just you guys just have to like work through this and like for you have to forgive him if you can't forgive him then you can't forgive him and you can't move past this and be together like that's just how simple it is if you can't forgive someone for something like that's not a relationship and even if you decide that you want to i don't think you need to forgive him immediately but i think if you guys i don't know i think having an open dialogue about where you guys want to be and like i think just that long of being in a relationship it sounds really really romantic but just like you're saying like you're such different it's such like formidable years of your life growing up that you really aren't going to be the same people that you were

and if you guys are really serious about being together if one of you or both of you has kind of had interest in other people or like being with other people i think that's something like if you don't explore that now that feeling is not going to go away like you're always going to wonder like oh wow i really have been a part of this my entire like teen and young adult years i'm like really curious that curiosity isn't going to die down no matter how much you love somebody it's human nature to be like well what else is out here no matter how much you love somebody and so i think you guys should have like an open conversation with that and like that would totally suck if he's like i really care about you but i really care i want to be with other people

and maybe we'll come back together but it's i think whether you have the conversation or not if those feelings are there like it's gonna happen and i think it's yeah it's natural i think they should take a break yeah i i i think so and i think it's smart if you take a break because you're really upset about it too and you don't have to forgive him for this and you haven't you're not that you said this but like i i have a couple friends who like have dated guys for like a long period of time and then when something goes wrong like i wasted all this time you're 21 like eight years of a relationship that's not every marriage wasn't built in eight years i have friends who just celebrated their two year two years of knowing each other and they've they've

been married for a year of that like when you kind of it's we were saying this before on the other call it's about you you personally and your kind of age and your maturity and where you're at So if you take a break, you might realize, too, wow, oh, I want to kind of meet other people or you guys might come back together from that. But I think assuming that both of you are only going to, like, have slept with each other for your entire lives, it's like it's just a lot. It's not just about sex either. Like, she sounds stressed out. She needs to, like, find her own personal happiness. That guy can't be her world.

She needs to have her own world, find her maximum happiness there. he do the same in his world and then they coexist together like it shouldn't be she needs him to be happy vice versa she need to like focus on herself because she sound kind of stressed out and just you know i mean worn and take a break away from it and yeah what works for her yeah they've never been themselves as an adult no it's always been the two of them yeah they caught up in that and that identity like you just associate who you are with somebody else but yeah you need some some some life experience i would say which sounds again sounds bitchy but i think that's the best thing because i don't think you have to forgive him but i think you gotta you gotta figure out

what you want and it can't just be him because until he's yeah that understand what you want without him being around you know be single be 21 fuck around safely with protection on to the next one hello um i am 19 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year um and recently i have been in a very deep depression so recently when my boyfriend asked me for nudes i said no and then he proceeded to text other girls asking them for pictures and said that i couldn't be mad about it because i said no should i be upset with him about it or should i be understanding because like i did say no so i don't know i mean nah you shouldn't you shouldn't feel coming from a guy's perspective you know if i'm asking you for nukes i personally

don't get the nude thing like what am i gonna do with the picture like just look at it i'm about to be a weirdo and beat off to it like we have the world wide web this is like free porn everywhere if that's the case so with that being said even if you did say no which was a intelligent decision don't send nukes because it leaks out and it's just gonna be bad for you nothing good can come from it um tell his ass no he'll see you when he see you and if you say no that don't mean go ask other girls for news because you just don't randomly hit up a girl say hey you got news you gotta already have some type of pre-existing relationship in conversations that's gonna bait into hey you want some news so that mean he already talking to other girls and if he really

want news that bad go to point hub like do your thing you know what i mean there's a stranger's there they do more than take pictures like yeah go at it nah you shouldn't feel bad he's he's stupid i'm sorry whoever this dude is but yeah you went about it dumb too how you gonna tell her it's her fault that you asked for news because she didn't send you news like it's horrible i'm very excited for your podcast this is your responses to things yeah i mean i agree i think melvin said everything right yeah you have every right to be mad break up with this loser he's a total asshole and um uh yeah i also have never really heard that take on nudes before about like why do i need them which i really like but yeah no him no that's he's an idiot and um yeah you're right

he probably is pre-existing relationships with the other girls unless he's yeah he's just one of those also i wonder how she found out too how did she find out that he asked other girls she probably found her in his i don't know right he put it on facebook Craigslist currently looking for nudes oh my gosh looking for nudes yeah

yeah ditch his ditch his ass he's an asshole nudes are stupid yeah so you have you ever sent a nude

no no no it's too high risk if a girl like I've been in situations where like I'm bored and a girl keep like

she's trying to send me stuff no I don't take no pictures of my dick it's too much work going to I gotta find the angles and enlighten and make sure like throw a cell phone next to it so there's like a point of reference put a remote yep and maybe it's because i'm a heterosexual man but dicks aren't attractive i don't want to just take pictures of my dick i don't see a girl looking at it like

what a nice dick you know what i mean yeah but like i've googled other i've googled dicks which is hella awkward but google dicks and then you just find one and send it to the girl she don't know the difference and if you get to a situation and so she see it but it's too late when she see the person she like

and also she gonna compare and contrast she's like hold on let me pull this up right there's a freckle yeah you that close to it

don't worry about the picture yeah that's good yeah no girl should send nudes dudes will hate me for that nah y'all shouldn't send nudes man setting yourself up

for disappointment cause I'm telling you for sure if you're not your boyfriend friend he's definitely showing his friends i've seen so many nudes of girls like the that's like all of my guy friends if i've seen every almost every girl they've ever hooked up with and other random ones naked and i'm just like oh okay cool like i've been texted ones of like my guy friends like oh my god look this girl sent me nudes yeah don't send them it's gonna bite you in your ass you never know where you're gonna be in five years might be like the president or some shit you never

them you know donald trump has nudes oh my god i want i want to see it but i don't want but you know it's crazy like right now we're in a generation of millennial c generation or whatever where it's like everything is people take pictures of everything so in 20 30 years where these people are like people that rule the world they still have a history that's like been documented by photographs like they didn't have cell phone pictures when donald trump was younger but i'm pretty sure he would have been sending out dick pics and it would have been out on the internet right now yeah that's what should i be tiny little ones the world's tiniest dick pic okay guys we are going to take a break song what it's break time that was like a very blues clues it was yeah i

grew up on blues did you steve you know they auditioned for a new one i got two friends who they were like i don't want to be new blues blues guy yeah i wouldn't go out for that except i would i'm desperate i'd be the worst blue school guy you would cursing this up blue okay we're going on a break we'll be back this episode of don't blame me is brought to you by us go us us not usa because this podcast is international um i am going to be giving some uh apple podcast itunes love for you guys have been leaving really great and wonderfully nice comments it really does make me super happy um you know when i don't book an audition and i can just look and be like wow these people like the podcast but it's also great to get your guys's feedback on uh what you like about it

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weren't recording anyway just like to hi megan um i'm just coming in this is so weird because i never thought i would have to call in to ask for advice but anyway here it goes so i have a friend who recently told me she was sleeping with someone um who is quite significantly older than her and there's nothing wrong with that but the worst part of it is that that person is her boss and I think that I felt really uncomfortable when she told me this and I didn't know how to take it because I feel like because he is older and he's her boss and she's now pretty much and the play he has working for him. I feel like he's probably using her and she's going to get screwed over by this.

And to top it all off, she's also married as well. And I do quite like her husband. And as she told me the reason why she started doing this is because things weren't going so great. and I also she talked about it and she said no she feels like she can't say anything and I mean I don't know what it's like to be married I am in a committed relationship myself so I would hope that if my partner thought things weren't going so well he'd talk to me before doing that but yeah I just don't know what to do do I tell her that I feel uncomfortable with

the situation do i tell her what i think about what's going on like i don't think it's my place to tell her husband what's going on but yeah i just feel like i'm stuck in a rock and a hard place no patrick you're not stuck between a rock and a hard place it's none of your business none of your business be your friend's friend and that's it stay out of it because it's gonna go bad in your favor you hop in the middle of somebody's relationship then they get back together but now it's like tension between you and that person so then it's tension between you and your friend and then y'all gonna eventually fade away because you was looking out for that person's best interest but it was none of your business

yeah stay out of it i think you have to let people make their own choices and your friend's clearly making her own choices um i think you can say that if she wants like to talk to you about it you can be like honestly like i don't like you do you like i don't really want to like hear about it like you can say that but i wouldn't like have a sit down and tell her like oh i feel very uncomfortable with it i think the next time she brings it up to you you can just like casually say and be like hey um you know i'm like whatever you want to do however you want to live your life Like, I do feel a little weird hearing about it. And you can say that and put your foot down there and just say that you don't want to hear about it.

But also at the same time, she might, I don't know, she might want, if you don't want to hear about it, she's going to feel judged. And then you might be pushing her away there, too. She's definitely going to be judgmental because I could tell the way that she, she like, you know, asked the question because she was already judging it. She was judging the situation with the guy aside from her friend being married. so she was like he's older and she works for him and she's like his only employee yeah like none of this stuff matters she's married she shouldn't even be with him like okay what if she was dating somebody who's her age and who wasn't her boss and you know what i mean it's it's wrong so it's like she's already judgmental so i can imagine how she would be when she's talking to her not

now that's your fault because it's not you doing it but yeah if you try to talk to her about it you're gonna be judgmental she's gonna get defensive um and it's just not gonna be a good it's not gonna be good yeah i would just downplay it um when when it comes up again i think uh we don't know if you like she said that to you once and you guys haven't really talked about it and maybe it's something that you feel really guilty about and you feel kind of like gross with but i also think like as i get older like things that i've judged other people on for and like for doing as i've gotten older i've kind of been like not that i understand and like there's a way to justify any of it but i think getting involved in other people's business a always always ends

badly but then more than that i think i don't know i think like there's i think karma is very real in that sense that you get involved with somebody else you get very judgy with somebody else's doing and you end up in a situation when you're like fuck i'm i would be judging myself for this kind of stuff um and i don't think yeah i think you can be a great friend to her and still be like awesome and sick and you guys can hang out um and then yeah if she brings it up you can kind of just like smile and nod or just be like yeah i mean i'll be honest like i don't really want to like i don't really care hearing about it like i love you and all that stuff but if it's really really hard for you to hear it and you feel terrible then you have to decide like do you want to stop

being friends with your friend because of this because people are going to make bad decisions and anybody who doesn't condone their bad decisions are like dead to them like i think that when like i dated some terrible guys my friends were like your boyfriend's terrible i'm like no you're terrible and then years later i was like ah he was a really shitty boyfriend but like you want to make those own choices you want to make those choices sometimes we also make choices that we know are stupid and we know are bad and we've already gone through all the consequences and like the things in our mind and we're still actively choosing to do something super fucking stupid and so i don't need somebody else to tell me what i'm doing is stupid because

i already know and i'm already okay with this yeah i have a friend that um she is dating her boss as well he's married and has a newborn baby shut the fuck up yeah and um according to her they're in love and i i'm not gonna be judgmental about it they can live their life i think uh the truth will eventually come out but it's none of my business yeah and he's not gonna leave his family yeah no I've told her that but and that's it and that's all I can say that's it

because also I think even if you were able to convince your friend that this is a bad idea and that she needs to end it with him she's going to associate her ending it with this guy with you and that maybe if she hadn't done that he would have left his wife they would have been together and that's your fault

so like you're the one doing that so I think sometimes too when you make bad decisions she's the one that married though she's the one married oh yeah no yeah but i mean like doing doing anything like that like thinking that something's going to be okay and fine um i think people when people make bad decisions they've already kind of gone through they've they've been able to justify in their own heads and anything that you can say to them they've already been able to justify all of that stuff and so you want to keep her as a friend it's just not worth it to say anything you shouldn't

sleep with your boss so that's so awkward like do you get work done or do you just like have sex yeah that's why you don't have that's why you don't sleep with your employees you employ people to get work done is this why you employ like your family so you don't have sex with them i'm employing your family not good either because they really don't get shit done no you gotta employ people you don't like my opinion that's not you get you don't like them like we we have no personal relationships so if you and mel work together because you don't like no no i have to like her because this is a different type of situation but yeah if it's like i don't know yeah you want to be able to tell if you have an assistant tell your sister we got a

relationship and she's good at her job and then it's cool we could be cool yeah but if she's bad i'm not gonna want to hang out with you because i'm gonna be thinking like yo it's some shit you ain't get done today you should be at the office of practicing or something for tomorrow yeah but if you good then you could have a relationship not a sexual relationship but yeah yeah i think it's just yeah bad judgment on his part especially it's a conflict of interest and there's like something like there's very much something to be said about like the attractiveness of like superiority and like someone who works above you um and yeah it's like i mean we see that now it's like a very it's just like a very powerful situation that makes like especially women

working underneath feel a really special and really unique and then you also have this like weird sense of obligation to that person she's the only employee though like what's the job and what are y'all doing okay that's what i wonder like is she are you a personal assistant are you like really like being personal with your assisting yeah this world is a circus so bleak well yeah stay out of your friend's business um it'll it'll come to a head wherever and you kind of want to stay out of the line of fire so then you guys will still be friends after it On to the next call. Hi, Megan.

I'm 18, and I recently just finished my first year of college. And with that first year came a lot of other firsts, like losing my virginity. The guy that I lost it to was great. He's really attentive in bed. He's super sweet, and I have an amazing time with him. And since then, I've slept with him a lot. Great part of this, though, is finally being able to have, like, true sex conversations with my friends and being able to actually relate to what they're saying.

And this was so fun for me, like being able to talk to my friends and open up about this stuff and get giddy about sex, you know what I mean? And it was great until I happened to mention to them that the guy I'm sleeping with is uncircumcised. They instantly all reacted like I said he had the plague or something and acted so gross out. They said, oh, I can never sleep with a guy that's uncircumcised or suck his dick or whatever.

and this really upset me it made me feel ostracized and like I had done something dirty um and even though I'm completely fine with him being uncut I mean he's very hygienic he has a dick and always makes sure I'm satisfied like I don't have any problem with a little bit of extra skin but it's anytime I want to talk to any of my sexual exploits now I feel like I should be ashamed of it so i was wondering if you had any tips on how i should open up to my friends about how how they reacted made me upset um but doing so without it being awkward or sounding like i'm being defensive um also if you've ever slept with an uncircumcised guy yourself i was wondering if you had any tips on how to navigate that a little differently yo it's so funny the

she fluctuates she's like yeah because we were really talking we were hanging out we lost our virginity he was really attentive in bed and so i was fucking around with him a lot and then you know we were just talking we were hanging out and i was talking with my friends i get real giddy when it's talking about sex she's getting good she's getting good it's good like what does that mean you sound like she's ready to chop his head off fucked around a lot she just enjoyed it She's waited a really long time and now she's really enjoying it. And he's a tennis.

That means he's good. He's good. He's going down. How long did she wait? Tuesday? Tuesday. Tuesday? She had sex on Tuesday.

Nah, I didn't lose my virginity until after high school. I know. Because you told me. Yeah, because I was being a kid when I was a kid. Oh, back to the subject at hand. I mean, it's none of their business.

is i guess like you don't have to open up they probably clown you but whatever find something to clown them about a lot of them probably not getting dick or you know what i mean you happy you happy i i mean i'm circumcised so i don't know that side of the world and you've ever seen an uncircumcised penis nah i think i've seen it on a porn before yeah yeah um i mean but i'm not concentrating on a dick to really know the specifics of the whole situation i heard it's not hygienic but i mean that's natural right you're not naturally cut and i heard the circumcision was like some like religious jewish ritual that just became like the norm i'm not jewish but i'm circumcised yeah i don't fucking know i didn't make the decision most guys in the world aren't

yeah it's circumcised i mean i've been with both cut and uncut guys and stop smiling i can see you watch youtube i do this email i'm smiling um and what i would say is like i mean honestly okay so the amount of times especially in like your early like sexual endeavors the amount of times you are seeing the guy that you're sleeping with dick not hard is like it is uncircumcised don't even like you got a turtleneck on like with a little head like a the blanket yeah but honestly only really when a guy's not hard and how often are you like seeing like just a flaccid penis like if you are a lot and you're hooking up like that's another issue but great but like good for you yeah but i yeah but i just i mean like it's it's kind of like

it's it's like six one way half a dozen the other like it's not i mean half the time what like like she's seen it hard six out of the time it's just like i'm saying it's guys you're confusing one way a half a dozen the other what that's confusing half and half like in saying so it's like it's like either either no matter what it's just kind of like guys it's it's not like you would have only ever been unless you're jewish like my jewish friends have like never seen an uncut dick but like most of my friends it's like 50 50 you've slept with is it like you in the hospital and it's like how would you like to get the circumcision with that birth yeah it's like how much more is it oh it's actually 12 nah you're good i mean some people

because you do lose sensation when you're circumcised yeah what you don't know this but yeah and as a kid you don't have i mean you're a baby you don't have a choice but so sex can feel different if i wasn't so yeah i don't think i could handle more i'm cool like you ever seen that video with a guy having sex he's like that's you that's you no no if you were uncircumcised i'm asking maybe that that's is that how it is when you're uncircumcised i should like think about that and be like so the people i've slept with been more enjoying it more if they were circumcised or not i think it depends on the doctor because i feel like you know when you got like bad it's not a bad or a good thing it's just that you either have it or you don't some people

get circumcised some people don't um the only way to truly test that is to get a grown adult man who's uncircumcised circumcise them and then let him have sex afterwards and let him tell you you can't do adult circumcision yeah you can you can you got it down when he was a teenager or if you like i thought it was like tonsils once you got to a certain point if you convert to after you can't my doctor just told me i should get my tonsils you can't get your tonsils out unless you have really tiny like really tiny veins yeah you can't you're not supposed to because the veins get too big and they're harder to like clot up.

But you still can. Technically you can. Yeah. Megan. Megan, I don't know what she talked about. But anyway, let's say you're later in life and you're like,

I'm going to be Jewish. Oh, okay. You're going to need to get circumcised. So you can do that adult wise. Yeah. I'm Jewish ready. You're ready and primed to be Jewish? I'm ready to convert.

I think also like your friends, that to me just shows like sexual inexperience is your friends making fun of that. It's immature. It's so immature. and it's me it's funny though do you know what i mean like a bunch of girls sitting around talking about like oh your boyfriend's dick that sounds like your friends have all been lying to you and they've been virgins this whole time and also they've just probably only ever been a virgin

all right don't let anybody yeah no there's not but don't judge other people's penises exactly especially if you've been like you finally feel like you can talk about sex with your friends and now you can talk about it and now they're like oh we're just gonna like judge your boyfriend's that it's probably all exciting oh my god and she's enjoying it if it's working for you what's the problem it's not right it's not going inside them so why do they care exactly and it's no different for a girl like you're not like oh i can totally tell the guy that i'm fucking is cut like you can't tell again you can only really notice if a guy's not hard yeah no that's not true because it's true i've seen it in a porn okay but i've had sex with it you pull the head

up over the head it's like the skin come over the head like a protective sheet no no not when it's hard not when it's hard it goes back already oh so where the extra skin go it just pulls back so it like moves like yeah like it like it grows and it pulls back so the skin can move up and down like a t-shirt on the arm yes revelations interesting i don't know how that could be better oh you can protect your dick in war no it's no what yeah it's like when they oh never mind say go ahead no so it's like if they masturbate right see a regular guy yeah you probably need some lubrication because it's okay yep look at my arm you know if i just do this my skin not moving yeah so you got to put the lotion on so

but if you uncircumcised it's like the skin move with your hand that's weird but we're not judging it that's like every woman's vagina is differently too what if you have a fat flabby

vagina and are they gonna judge you for that don't respond to that it may feel bad we talked about this yeah we had somebody call because some guy told her that she had

a fat vagina that's like it's like cushion warmer more surface area yeah there's literally nothing there's no difference and the hygienic thing I think is also like it's

really only applies to little boys like little boys of being like hey clean yourself better but it's also like as a little girl do you ever remember like sitting at the beach with like just like sitting with your leg spread and then the sand like getting in your vagina and be like oh wow now i have to clean my vagina yeah it's really i saw a girl do like a little kid doing it at the beach and i'm like oh sweetie you get a rude awakening when you sit in the car and you stand up there's a pile of

sand but i just mean like it's something like you're gonna have to learn how to clean your body anyway and i think like the hygiene thing really only applies to little boys who a are smelly anyways but it's like oh you have to clean yourself or whatever yeah his dick's probably cleaner than a completely because he's paying more attention to it yeah

just saying yeah and there's really no difference as a girl who's if you circumcise your dick airs out itself what

see exactly exactly my point I'm joking I set that point up for her as an assist I don't get it

never mind Megan no explain it to me no because me saying that saying I'm not conscious of cleaning it because I said

it aired out itself and it contributed to her point of a guy being more attentive if he's not circumcised I got it now thank you so much for explaining it Jesus Christ I want all your friends to look at everybody's at their own vaginas

and be like yeah like who's this better and also the other thing is who can ever get a hand mirror like the thing that a small mirror they teach you that when you're in middle school stand over and look at your vagina

it and then you'll be like okay definitely straight um but i was also gonna say though like some of the guys that i slept with it took me a little while to even be like oh he's cut he's not cut like it's not even something that you would know immediately so the fact that like some of these girls if guys they've slept with these guys could also be uncut and they wouldn't know plot twist yeah grow up yeah grow the fuck up and then like get enjoy the sex do what you're doing there's like literally i mean i think my friends and i maybe had like one and my jewish friends the only the only people who've ever asked me like have you ever slept with a guy who's like i'm cut and i was like yeah they're like cool and that's it but like most of my friends i don't sit

around and be hey is your boyfriend cut like i have no idea if my friend's boyfriends are like have foreskin and or literally i don't know i don't want to know either why the fuck would you want to know no that's what i'm saying you don't talk about that hey what's your girl coochie look like right exactly hey how's your girlfriend's labia i don't even like looking at the labias i'm with what i just i guess they go back to me not wanting nudes like it's just you just don't want to see a vagina you're not really attractive i like what it does and it feels like i want to just stare at it and oh look at that vagina no it's not my thing definitely not a peeping Tom no definitely

doesn't want to go see George O'Keefe it's my turn for a joke I told you you weren't funny she was just on a fine art level fine art humor humor comes from being able to relate

I'm relatable okay guys so that was our last question but now we're on to producer's corner where we either have a callback or we've got someone kind of giving their input on a previous call from a different episode so what do we have um we've got a response to a call this is from episode 28 with jonah green um this is the woman that had the monster in law remember fuck yeah yeah and so that was yeah that her and her husband had been together for three years they've been married for one year the mother-in-law was going around spreading rumors that were completely untrue and giving

the daughter-in-law's phone number out just to random people and she got like a hundred messages and like bullying her yeah and so um she's been like harassed and she was angry and she was just trying to figure out how to get over it and so this is a caller that was calling in response to that right I really broke my heart hearing her call and talk about like what she's been going through and I think you guys gave her some really good advice and I personally I'm not married so I haven't experienced this but my mom actually went through a similar thing so my parents have been married for 24 years and um my dad's parents were not okay with my dad marrying my mom um for a couple different reasons um they were a different religion she was from the cities from

the country my mom didn't want to uh kind of abide by their rules and pretty much what happened was it started you know my dad's family kind of started you know shaming her and trying to and intimidate her to not like ending up with my dad but um the one big thing I wanted to touch on is the caller she didn't mention anything about how her husband felt about it and how if they've had a conversation about it but like one major thing is my dad told his parents pretty much to like fuck off um you know he he told them you know that he's going to be with my mom regardless and that he pretty much chose her and that like made a big impact on their relationship because you know he he ended up like he chose her and so this you know um kind of made

his parents stop they didn't really bother her my mom doesn't really have a relationship with my dad's parents I me and my sister don't have really a relationship with my dad's parents like My dad calls them for, like, holidays and their birthdays, but we're not that involved. But, you know, the thing about in-laws is it's a privilege for them to be a part of your relationship. It's not a right. And so you're allowed to choose to not have a relationship with them. So I was going to tell her, you know, it's important for her to have this conversation with her husband and see where he's at and that he needs in the end he needs to defend her and he needs to choose

her he's allowed to have relation with his parents but it doesn't mean she has to and if it's causing her a lot of stress then like you know if that means that he can't stand up to his parents then she needs someone else my aunt um went through the same thing except in this case the opposite thing happened her husband chose his mom and they're still married that they just have a bad marriage and my cousins don't like their dad or their grandma that's it that was it she ran out it was three minutes long so she ran out of time this is funny because i mean great response so happy to hear about it my friends and i actually had a conversation about this this weekend um because just a similar thing and have different different but similar thing that happened to one

of my friends of like having an issue with their significant other's family um and my friends and and i were talking about it we were like it just doesn't make sense because like moms especially or like who feel threatened it's like these relationships are not mutually exclusive like having a girlfriend or having like a wife and a mom like mom is never going to be your wife like mom is never going to they're completely different roles in your life and like your oedipus but i mean like they fulfill such different things so the idea of like that power struggle to me is so odd because it's like you can't be you can you're the only mom that your son will ever have but you cannot be your son's wife you cannot do and like so that it's like I find it so just

odd how much like that like that like hatred and stuff can brew when or like that idea of like nobody is good enough but it's like but you can't fulfill that so either you you want your kid to be single forever um and never like be in love because like you can't you you should not love your kid like a wife can love your kids i think like the duties are similar though like i'm looking at it from a mom's perspective right like imagine a mom with like a 10 year old kid like her duty is to make sure uh her son is safe make sure he's okay make sure he's fair make she's clothed to protect them i'm not gonna make sure but i'm saying but but when you're married it's like you know a wife kind of has a lot of those duties she's like the mom the woman at a

house i mean okay sex is included and it's different but from a mom's perspective if she did everything to look out for the best inches of her son and now it's a woman who's taking part of that task and you don't feel like she's suitable or best for it you're gonna look at her animosity like no she's not good she doesn't cook for you she doesn't clean because the mom still wants to look out for the best interests of the same well i also i think that i can see that happening and i think it's because there is like a dated difference of like moms who did really baby and take care of their kids like that and then this very dated oh no i'm saying no no i'm saying like and then now for there being like thank god this wave of like strong women who are like you

can cook for yourself we can be like co-captains in life but like oh my that's what i'm saying and like and then a mom can be upset because it's like oh you don't cook and clean for my son you he does those that you you guys are partners in this and this isn't like the woman's chores and the man's chores because that's something for me like i am never going like it's not my job to get dinner on the table like if i don't feel like cooking and moss doesn't feel like cooking we'll go out to eat but like it's not my job to do that it's not my job to do laundry it's not any of that and i think because i could see that also because the the people who are are like our parents age now that was the traditional role of like the female in the house that if your like daughter

in law is not doing that traditional like female housewife kind of role that you're going to be disappointed by her do you know what i mean yeah she should be don't fucking go there i mean what like okay no no like all right we were doing so good melvin no i can't angle be fake look so it depends on the woman right because like my um my ex-girlfriend she like she enjoyed doing all of that stuff and like me she will ask me to cook and i'm like oh i could just you know we just go out to eat yeah you know and sometimes she's like no it just means something different if you cook it And I understand that. And me being a man, too, like, me personally, I would enjoy if, like, my woman cooked for me or, you know, did small things like that.

And I understand, like, this co-captain thing that people really running for. But I feel like that's biased, too. We don't really go co-captain all the way through. No, I think it's, like, can be 60-40 and, like, the different days. Like, if Matz is working longer at work, I'm going to be, I'll do more stuff. But the same thing, vice versa. But it's, like, I don't know. But it's about what you want in a relationship.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what it boils down to. I also know a lot of women who want to get married young and have babies young, and they just want to be moms. But there's nothing wrong with that. Being a mom is a full-time job. And if that's what you want, but I think this has to be the same thing for the man.

And I also have guys I know that don't want to be the breadwinner. They don't want to have to cover financially their entire family, and they want to be with a girl who also is financially independent and so that they can do that together because he doesn't want the responsibility of funding everything.

I feel like, I feel like if, first of all, I'm going to say, I feel like women are, tell me if this is offensive. It's going to be offensive. Tell me.

I feel like women are more naturally nurturing and enduring and more like affectionate to different things than guys are. It depends on the woman. And that's a fallacy

to most guys because I wish I was like, had some of those things that women have. Like, it's just, I feel like it's natural with you guys being like, maternal birth people you know what i mean so it's just like it's different instinctive things

that like i'm not good at that i wish i was that i feel like women are more like better at um but okay i just wanted to put that out there but okay say it was the co-captain and both people are breadwinners right everyone just goes to work makes the money no one's really keeping a house at that point you're just gonna hire other people to do it well no because it's not like you both just gonna go to work wake up get your coffee go out the door and then come back home when it's time well you might have different type of jobs but you're gonna hire other people to do all this no i mean not necessarily so mox lives here with me uh we both work we i mean me less than him now but like we both work we both pay rent here and like some nights i will be home

earlier and i'll cook dinner there's other nights that he'll be home earlier and like i mean those nights are few and far between that he'll do that or he'll pick up food like it just has to be something where it's not expected that's the thing it's like if we don't clean if i if it's the house is messy that means that night we're gonna clean it or that saturday we're gonna clean it like it's the same thing with like like it's just planning ahead it's like oh we're gonna like dinner's going to be it's gonna be a crazy night on wednesday night so i'm gonna we're gonna pre-cook dinner on sunday night that we have for that day so it just becomes that kind of it's not like anyone either one of us walks home through like walks through the door and expects dinner to be

on the table in the house to be clean it's like if i didn't clean the house i'm not going to expect that you it was your job to clean the house while i was gone and vice versa and so like it's the same thing like i'll do if i'm doing laundry i'll do his laundry too if he's doing laundry he'll do my laundry too who's ever got like i was out of town this weekend he went grocery shopping but that's not it's not like the house goes to shit if i'm not here and vice versa like we are we're both able to i don't know i think it's also just i think it's also depends on when it's yeah i think it can be a dated outlook it kind of reminds me of like the the women who are taking care of the household reminds me of the idea of a woman who has lived with her parents

until she marries somebody and moves in with them and she takes that responsibility but if you're a girl or a guy who's lived with other roommates, you've had to do your part. And so it becomes ingrained in you that I'll take the trash out. I will do the dishes. But there are some chores that I don't like that I'd prefer Mott's to do that I'll ask him to do. But because I had to be a self-sufficient, all my own stuff kind of thing, I think that that's a weird... It'd just be a weird thing to give up once you're in a relationship of being like, oh, I would also get so bored sitting at home doing nothing but that's me i know girls who like that's what they strive to be is to like be a mom and not not and have that be their job which is like totally a full-time job it's just

you have to be on the same page and i think what the issue with the call is and this is also just total speculation is that you her and her husband might be on the same page and his mom is just not on that page and so exactly like the callback says i think like she needs to talk to her husband and figure that out because then if he has those expectations maybe he's talking to his mom about how he's like oh i wish she did this or i wish she did this and um yeah i mean i have the moths and i have those conversations like i'm never going to be i'm never going to be like a stay at home the house is like spick and span and clean and like perfect all the time like the kids are dressed in matching outfits we posted an instagram picture all together and we did a diy

like i'm never gonna be like that and so i think you should be on the same page but i also don't think there's anything wrong with the other side of it yeah like with my parents my both my parents quote-unquote breadwinners my mom traveled a lot for her job my dad was at home more he cooked more he did like three girls he did our hair um and then like my mom enjoyed mowing the grass and she would be the one that mowed the grass and things like that so it's just how you balance your relationship and i like to cook so i end up cooking dinner way way way more but i hate doing dishes and so moths will be doing that so i think like where it goes into more of like a traditional like I'm more likely to have dinner on the table that for me doesn't really feel as much of a chore

as some other things that he would do he'll do for me but then like the same time like it's not we don't have that really like that we haven't established it like if I don't cook dinner he's not like where's dinner like he could just as likely walk through the door I've like roasted entire chicken or he could walk through the door and I'm like in sweatpants and being like I'm gonna eat popcorn for dinner I'll be like okay I think like you just have to be on the same page I agree yeah I also love your ex-girlfriend

if you're talking about the one that I know okay guys thank you so much for listening Melvin thank you so much

for being on the podcast thanks for having me you gonna do your own podcast one day yeah one day soon you're gonna have me on it mm-hmm

it's so convincing I feel really really assured that you're gonna invite me on it see I'm not I'm not dramatic I'm not oh my god

yeah sure you are no I'd feel weird if you were like that yeah do you want to plug anything you have coming up I don't know what you're allowed to say that you're doing i mean everything is out um i mean it's early though it's early it's

early well you guys can still vandal come on netflix uh end of the end of september okay cool yeah the movie i don't know nothing about that so we'll see when it comes and you guys can still watch melvin and unreal that's still on is it on yeah it's on hulu okay yeah check out unreal season by season you were so endearing and cute on it though thanks you were like it was i got excited me and aced and watched it together yeah and every time you came out we were like like you just are you're very charming it's very cute thank you even though you're not supposed to be like like adorable and lovable but like you are do i mean like your guy i'm not supposed to be no that's what i mean like oh yeah i was supposed to be like the friend that's insane

the typical guy like that typical like that character that you play you make it so endearing and lovable that i'm like oh oh thanks and you guys can totally watch this on freakish still can they yeah i don't know i don't know i think it's on hulu some girl you can go look at our kissing that was talking about oh yeah first one that was episode one episode one what was the crazy one what it was like this is what i was going to get frisky what were they saying oh yeah something really gross we're like and also we got like really no direct i think the only direction we got was it's like an implied sex scene and then our only direction was just don't like have sex or do anything like that we were like okay oops i slipped and fell yeah exactly

like my dick fell inside of her well um that's all there is for us talking about boobs and things like that okay guys so if you enjoyed this episode first of all please leave us a review on the apple podcast app we would love it um and share on social because you'd send it send the link to melvin so melvin knows to retweet it um and if you guys want to that's what it sucks you guys can call in for future episodes the number is 310-694-0976 and again for international callers email meganpodcasts at gmail.com with a audio file um but yeah so uh yeah leave us we would love to hear callbacks too those are some of my favorites to hear updates so if you guys have previously called in the girl who hooked up with her boyfriend and then his twin brothers would

just love to hear how you're doing yeah it was about mistake no nope all on purpose all on purpose she's my hero oh my god i love her well i don't know how you're doing girl she lives in canada why that's a pointless no no body count like it's the same person no no no it's the brother and then twins it's like the twin brother three of them yeah three total well uh i hope you guys enjoyed this episode if you want to follow melvin where can they see you on the internet okay melvin greg do you want me to do it at melvin greg that's it everywhere it's just his instagram stories are great melvin greg yeah i'm bad at playing myself i feel like if they want to find me they'll find me

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