Don't Blame Me! - S4E14: M&M - The One Where We Drop the Advice You’ve All Been DM’ing About

Episode Date: September 2, 2019

Here’s your September M&M episode. We share our advice on what to do when your boyfriend dates someone while you’re broken up, handling your bf’s cousin who bullies his sister, how to stop falling too hard for someone, and getting over your baby daddy drama. In Don’t Blame Them a caller shares her advice on when to tell your parents you’re living with your partner.  Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa Listen to ad-free and bonus episodes on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: [phone]   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [e-mail]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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do that but um check us out on Instagram guys I'm pretty excited about our content um cool should we get into the advice giving let's do it let's go hi Megan I love your podcast and I'm going through a lot of big life changes right now so I wanted to get your opinion on something. I'm 21 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now. It's my first serious relationship and we've been having a lot of relationship issues pretty much since January of this year. I have my own mental health struggles that I wasn't acknowledging for a really long time and there was definitely blame on both sides pretty equally I would say. So we've been very on again, off again for all of 2019 so far pretty much. And about three weeks ago, we broke up

before I left to go on vacation with my family. So to me, I thought, you know, we're very on again, off again. I didn't really see it as a final breakup. I definitely thought I just needed a couple weeks away and I'd come back and we would talk, clear the air and kind of try to salvage the rest of 2019 and get back to where we used to be. But like I said, we were technically broken up so while I was on vacation he actually met someone and started seeing her. So when I came back he was very honest about all this and we talked but I am not comfortable sharing or compromising so essentially I've made it pretty clear to him that he would need to completely stop talking to her in order for me to even consider getting back into relationship and

giving this a shot. But honestly, the more I've sat with this information, I don't think this is something I can get past. But I've also been told from people in my life I've talked to that I don't really have a right to hold it against him since technically we were broken up. And I guess I just want your advice on what you see as forgivable and not forgivable because technically this wasn't a cheating situation but he was my first everything and I do feel kind of uncomfortable so I guess I just want your advice and opinion on if you think this is still worth a shot and I should work on it or if you think the relationships run its course and I should move on so any feedback you have I would really appreciate thanks I love when people just ask for

my straight up opinion you know yeah i like that what do you think i think there's a difference between being on a break and breaking up yeah and you specified that you had broken up so then therefore there's nothing to hold against him against for this and i do agree though that he should not be talking to this girl yeah because it's not like you're gonna casually date your boyfriend yeah like if you guys get back together like you're back together boyfriend girlfriend right so I think that's totally valid um I agree with you I think you guys were broken up so he is every right just like you would have every right to sleep with somebody else or date somebody else or see somebody else um I think like you calling the shots of being like I we broke up I needed

this time to think like I think you're being a little I don't want to say selfish because I don't necessarily think it's selfish i think like it's a mature thing to do to take a step back from a relationship and figure out what you want but also you need to understand when you're doing that for you he's also gonna do it there's two people in the relationship so you saying hey i need some space and time and i need to figure my shit out and then we can work on it that's very much all about you and i don't know how the breakup conversation went down and if maybe you took the lead on it and you kind of just assumed that like he was only into it because you wanted you because you instigated it and maybe he didn't have a chance to like or maybe he just agreed

and you just assumed that he wouldn't be doing anything because it was more about you figuring your stuff out but i think anybody who's i mean in my if i had told mots that i would have wanted to like take a break or whatever like it it would have to it would have yeah that conversation needs to be more specific if you had wanted just to have a break right if you needed just time apart yeah then it should have been like hey i just need some time away from you i don't want to see other people but i just need some space to figure figure things out yeah but you broke up yeah and also you guys have been saying like really on and off again for like a like a good like a good chunk of this year um and i think if it were me in that position um a i think like this

is totally something that you could forgive him for i think but i don't it doesn't really sound like you want to but like is there anything to forgive oh no no i guess not forgive move past like you're saying like is this something like i don't i think this is something like like your friends and family are saying that like a i don't think you can hold it against him but i also think that like this is something that like if you could move past this i think like it doesn't doom your relationship at all um i also don't think like cheating necessarily doomed your relationship at all either like i think it just depends on how you guys react moving forward it's not really about like the acts that happen I think it's about like how you recover from it but I think

I think there's there's a reason why it wasn't a break I think there's a reason why I think maybe some subconsciously like you kind of wanted him to do something that maybe you you and yourself like couldn't necessarily like quote-unquote like forgive him for and move past because maybe you maybe you needed like a thing like a thing that you're like okay this is it this is like this is the final straw like now i feel like i can actually like we can actually break up and move on as opposed to like just like small little things building up you needed like like you needed something or on the other side are you did you want to be like broken up and then he dated this other girl and you just got jealous and now you want him back yeah i mean

i've definitely been like the whole my first my high school boyfriend i when we i was like i instigated the breakup and then he was like when he was like yeah okay I was like what what do you mean you're not fighting for me like what do you mean you don't want any of this and like it can become like a jealous competition sort of thing but I think like I don't know I think like I think you're not I think I think your relationship has run its course and I think like you guys wouldn't have gotten to this point if it like if it hadn't and like just the on again off again like all of that stuff like I think if there's like issues in your relationship and you go to therapy for them and you guys really work on them but if it's been like months of this kind of stuff um yeah I think

like I say like move on and be like you know what this has been like great and everything like that I mean I also I don't think I if I had yeah I personally like I wouldn't want to date someone who like also I just really want to know about that other girl I'm like does she know like that's awkward but yeah I think for me if like I was trying to figure stuff out and then the person I was with started dating somebody else I think for me it'd be a sign of being like okay you know what like I don't think we're gonna be it and that's okay and like not saying that he did anything wrong but more along the lines with like I think you guys can both find other people who are probably better suited to your life like your life right now but that doesn't mean that your

relationship wasn't great but it's a lot of pressure to put on like a young relationship for that many years and like he was your first and all of that stuff but like yeah that doesn't really matter yeah in the long run i think like the last person that you do all those things with i think is far more important than the first person yeah and i think you should take more time to figure out what you truly want and then you guys figure out what you want together because maybe it's just friendship yeah yeah but i would yeah i would not i don't know yeah i would i would actually like take this time to be broken up broken up and like like like give yourself like not like a couple weeks on a family vacation like give yourself like months and not to think about

this relationship with him but like to think about you right and like what do like what you said like what do i want um because when you have a specific person in mind when you're trying to figure all of like when you're trying to figure out stuff about a relationship i think like the more time apart you have from him the more also you're going to realize like oh maybe like not even specifically him but like oh maybe that relationship if i take away like the love that i have for him like on paper maybe it's not exactly what i want right now um but yeah i think it's run its course but enjoy being single yeah masturbate go out dance you're under she's 21 she's 21 she's 21 do a body shot you know that's that's that those are the things to do and maybe mute him on social

media yeah for a extended period of time and don't stalk that girl you probably already have i would have already yeah it seems like that she's still around yeah yeah wow hi megan uh this is like a third time i've tried calling into this under the right time limit and blah blah but i'm gonna do it again um so I'm in my early 20s my boyfriend is two we've been together a year and a half and then he has a sister who's 21 and he has um another female cousin who's I believe 23 I'm not 100% sure she's younger than me and my boyfriend but uh older than his younger sister and um when I first like saw pictures of her when I was internet stalking him when we started dating because of course that's what everyone does um I just looked at this girl and I was like oh fuck

this bitch I don't like her and I don't know why which is very weird for me because I love female friendships and I love hanging out with girls and this is actually my first relationship because I've just always been around women all the time and just not had enough like uh time to meet guys um and I have a younger sister and like I would die for her I would die for my boyfriend's sister and the thing that's really bothering me is that um his cousin bullies his sister constantly and he does jack shit about it and I think part of it is that he's just not a very confrontational person I however on the other hand am very confrontational and very protective of female friends and especially very protective of female friends who are younger than me because

it reminds me of my sister and i am soon going to meet his cousin and i'm very very afraid i'm just gonna beat the crap out of her um because she's just been an absolute bitch to my brother's sister he she even tied her up at one point and gagged her that's like how terrible the fucking person she's been and people have just kind of been skirting around it because they don't want to deal with it um from internet stalking her it seems like she definitely identifies the whole thing of like oh I don't like other girls they're mean to me like which I hate I fucking hate when other girl when women are like oh I don't like women it's like you are a woman um so I'm just wondering if you could give me some advice on how to handle this in a mature situation but also like

how to not be a shitty girlfriend but still be a feminist and still be like a good friend to his sister especially because like this clearly has a lot to do with the fact that she like is the only other female cousin I like um she doesn't like that she kind of like got her spotlight stolen which pisses me off and is ridiculous and not why someone should be treating someone that badly um so yeah I really appreciate some advice thanks bye that was a roller coaster there was a lot yeah i really went from like being like bish calm down to being like oh i see you yeah you're also definitely a fire sign i would love to know uh which one slide into my dms or slide into our shows dms that's ones i'll actually see um okay i mean the thing is i think like

so from the i would i'm gonna to read in between the lines i'm assuming that you know that this girl the reason why you stalked her and you're like oh wow fuck this bitch is because your boyfriend's sister has talked to you about her because there's no other way that you know that she's not posting that on social unless she is bullying her on like instagram yeah but you've definitely had it like you've definitely like yeah you know specific things through your boyfriend's sister um so yeah i also agree with you like i really don't like girls from like i don't fucking i like don't get along with girl yeah i think she hit something when she said you're a girl and you don't like yourself so that means that you probably yeah have issues with your own self 100 um and i

very much understand the whole um i'm also very very fucking confrontational and i'm super fucking protective of my friends and i understand like the younger thing too um jerry who's one of my best friends is two years younger than me and like if anyone even like fucking remotely talks shit about her like i will lose my goddamn mind also because she's so small and tiny but like so i get that but i think the thing here is like you are not a part of this family and the thing with confrontation that i've learned the hard way is confrontation can make things really uncomfortable and awkward for other people so for you it can be like a crusade of being like oh fuck you i'm not gonna let you do like blah blah blah but that can make everyone really

uncomfortable and that's also probably why no one has brought it up I think I also don't know if she's like getting if your brothers I mean your boyfriend's little sister if she's getting bullied I'm sure she probably told you that in more in like confidence more and the reason why maybe her brother hasn't done anything or maybe the other family members haven't done anything is they've seen it but she hasn't felt comfortable coming to them and telling them that and maybe like the fact that she's told you you assume that she's told all these other people that same way and they haven't done anything i think i mean not i think you have to ask her what she wants because like maybe for her just having someone who's on her side to quietly know like at

family functions like that you're gonna be there and you're gonna be looking out for her and you can hang out with her so this cousin doesn't fucking come like that you can stand up for but like maybe she's not asking you to put a stop to it completely because also you can't protect her and save her because like you not no offense your relationship you might not always be around and you that can't be the role that she sees you as because then she can't see herself helping herself they only you can do it it's the same thing when it's like if you're in a relationship with someone who's like struggling with like addiction and they associate recovery and help with you not with them it's a lot of pressure to put on you also even if you might like want to be

able to like take on that role you also don't want to make things uncomfortable for her so i would just like ask her and be like hey obviously like i really fucking hate what this girl's done to you and like it makes me like livid and really really upset and like in my ideal world like i'd love to fucking beat her ass but like i don't want to do that a because like it's a family fuck like right i'm seeing like a barbecue and she's like you're a guest you're not part of the family that's not gonna look good on you no and be like just tell me like what to do tell me like everything that like how can i make this experience like make when you see her and all that stuff like how can i make that better and like just how can i aid you and assist you and like anything like

that and then i think like from there i think that needs to be addressed based on like when you actually like are together in that event but then also i would say like hang out with just his if he if your boyfriend's okay with it like hang out with just her sometimes like take her to the movies go hang out with her build up like her confidence with like because it sounds like her cousin's older yeah build up some confidence with like oh hey look these older women or not i won't call you older but like yeah older women in your life somebody i can look up to or can be really nice and really great to me and then i think that can also switch um that like flip that switch in her head that won't maybe if she's like gets uncomfortable around if it's kind of been

triggering around like other like older people that she would want to look up to in general if that's been triggering um and also can help build her own confidence so she can stick up for herself um but yeah you can't do anything without her permission and just find out what she wants because it might be nothing but yeah and i would say like if the cousin does say something like in front of you then that's a time where you can like yeah you can be confrontational but don't do it unless it's done where you can see it and i wouldn't do it physically i know i really wouldn't enjoy but like this yeah just the smart thing to do and like if you come at it from like such a mature standpoint if people and if the rest of the family hasn't been able to see how terrible

she's been if you can come at it from like this really level-headed rational very mature way and she's not there everyone else is going to see that and that's going to get everyone to be on the same page and it'll click yeah yeah halfway what you're going to say like prepared so then you can be calm and level practice a few times have a couple options turn into a preschool teacher that's like when i'm really pissed so you can patronize like it's just very much like sort of a thing so it's not like aggressive and like stooping to her level and like being uh yeah just like being a bitch um in that way i think it's like you can just say like well that like that seems like a very uncalled for necessarily rude thing to say like why are you

why do you feel like you can do this type of thing like are you good like what's up with you what's going on with you you sound like you're harboring a lot of anger issues like do you want to talk and like it can be very much like a and it'll be like it's like no i'm just i'm just saying like it sounds like you're really upset and you can do it like in a in a cunty way that from the outside will be like oh that seems really mature yeah you can undercut everything that's gonna happen yeah yeah we're good yeah hey megan melissa and possible guest um so this one might be a little bit more, I'm not going to say raunchy, but like a little bit more intense. Okay, so I am 19. So basically pretty young, but I started out the game in sexual encounters pretty

young. I mean, pretty old, goodness. I didn't have my first anything until I was 18. And, you know, I'm new to things and trying to figure things out still um I am recently in a relationship we just hit one month a couple days ago so I know it's like really new um but I've known this guy for like six years so him and I are really good friends before anything and we've like you know had fun um a lot of fun and I'm still trying to get like the courage to keep doing more fun things and get closer and closer um because I told him that I like I'm still a virgin of course but that I wasn't going to have sex until I was ready and he's just fine with that like he respects that and so I have set things up I am I'm not ready ready but I have things where if I am ready I

have it I have birth control set up um like I have things ready the thing is I am scared that like because I know women don't orgasm used to penetrative sex like I get that but I'm scared that I am not physically able to have an orgasm like I've you know talked to some doctors and they said it's like probably just I you know need to focus but I've tried to do it myself I just can't get into it I get too much into my brain and it becomes this whole not cool thing and when my boyfriend he like goes down on me and does these other things like I can feel it but it goes away and I just can't get it back and then I get mad at myself because I can't do it and I'm like I feel bad because like you know I can't do it it's just this whole thing of

am I letting him down like I'm letting myself down because I want to feel that good like I want to do that and it's just really complicated and then as a little extra um I know he's gonna want head because he really likes things that would lead up to head and I've never done that before I've never put a penis to my mouth before and I just don't know how to I wouldn't know how to do it so if any pointers you can give that would be fantastic I love you guys and I love the podcast bye this is probably i'm so excited for this like i'm i'm just so excited for you and for all of the advice that i can give you oh my god first of all you have to masturbate um that's you're not going to get there okay i don't want to say you're not going to yeah because this

is like shireen who yeah is very much in her head and she's never had which is still a thing like it like i mean even even if you once you start having sex and yeah you orgasm like you can still be in your head like there are still times i'm like i'm fucking way too much in my head um i think you have to kind of treat it like and i'm talking about masturbation not even like penetrative sex with him in general um oh first of all if you you saying you have everything in place birth control um you gotta start it's about i think three months taking it the exact same time every single time of uh at the same time every single day in order for it to actually start working so i would do that and also you don't necessarily know depending on what kind you got

how it's going to affect your body and you might want to switch to another one and those three months like it does but usually can restart so i would start taking it now um just to like see how that changes and makes you feel before all of that stuff um yes and okay so you need to masturbate um because i totally get what you i mean i like i've said like i didn't come with other guys until moths and i started like moths is the first guy who's ever like made me come so But like, yeah, I've gotten eaten out by like, I was like, this is fun, but like, I'm not getting there. Literally, I'm like 17 in high school, like, like, sure.

But I, okay, if you're like, just using your hands, that's something that like, I can't know, that's so much fucking effort. And like, I will just get bored and lazy. And that for me already gets in my head. I would say if you don't feel comfortable, like buying a sex toy, if you have a bathtub, up utilize that faucet so fucking easy do a deep conditioner in your hair yeah you know like throw on some drake throw on some music i don't know not drake um okay you're right what's a frank ocean yeah drake would get me out the mood true honestly i don't know i was just like thinking of like

people used to say chris brown and so i was like yeah lesser evil um but i would work on that and the way that like treating it like sounds dumb but like treating it like a date in a way that like you need to like maximize your like just de-stress as much as possible so like maybe take a bubble bath beforehand like maybe get a massage before yeah do something else is rubbing on you but not like not we're not into report that if that fucking happened yeah um but things that make and even if it's like starting with that day that you wear an outfit that makes you feel really pretty something that you feel really sexy and like really build up that kind of like confidence and calm feeling in yourself and then work at it and try it read articles about it like

all of those different things because like it definitely the first time i masturbated i mean i definitely masturbated late but like the first time i masturbated like you didn't get there it takes a while it takes a while yeah it also takes a while like for your body to get comfortable with a different sensation and like you're not afraid you're not afraid of it you're not afraid because you're like there and like when you finally cross over it's like a new sensation that you don't quite like understand and even just getting there takes a minute so and you can like pull back and you pull back from being like oh my god i don't yeah so i would i would really focus on that i don't know if you're in a state where it's legal to smoke weed but like that's a really great way

to relax cbd like anything that's going to like calm your nerves it doesn't it makes me more like anxious so i can't do it but it's like i know but it's still like i can't do it even if it has no thc but like yeah really i don't like yeah oh i should give you some of my regular maybe i should try yours yeah because it has no thc because thc makes me paranoid yeah um so yeah those things and then yeah i would say like you just gotta an instrument yes get like bathtub removable shower head like something like that and give yourself the time it can like the like you can it can take like even with a trained partner who you've been with a bunch of times like it can take you like an hour to get there like don't rush yourself and be be patient with

yourself yeah and maybe the more you can read about it and like also like locations of things and like different like techniques and things to try um to get yourself there uh and yeah just be patient with yourself okay blowjob tips first of all you put it in your mouth not like on your mouth yeah i did like that i don't remember how to take on my mouth um you don't just lay it there just just give it little kisses um okay uh first of all listen to the episode with the cool buyer where she gives like a great deep threading um technique so another one um this so if you this i don't even know if this is actually this actually works my friends this was like a big thing in high school where you would take your you have to watch the video you're really gonna

have to watch the video for this you would take your thumb and then the rest of your fingers around it and squeeze and apparently it helps your gag reflex um i would just be very wary of your gag reflex in general you're squeezing your hand oh i thought you meant his dick it was like what oh my god no no like you do this with your hand okay i've never heard of this it might not work but like psychosomatic stuff like i'm all here for okay like it's gonna make it better um no teeth at all at all at all when you first start i would say to like curve yeah your lips over your teeth until you have the like you train yourself where you don't use teeth yeah yeah like you've dentures yeah uh-huh um make sure you're it's wet around that area too yeah

make sure like it and even like making sure his like dick is super fucking wet so like lick it like a fucking ice cream cone like again no teeth but like you can play up that sexy aspect of it like if you like if you're into like that kind of like foreplay thing before you actually start because like the whole thing is once you're like giving a blowjob or whatever like it's like a steady rhythm and pace that like is tiring so the more that you can get him excited before you start in there the quicker it's going to be and especially if like he's been waiting for right because like your first few times your jaw's gonna get tired you gotta you're yeah you gotta i would say do some stretching do yeah do some stretching yourself up the most sensitive part of the penis

though is like okay so okay you have to watch this if the microphone is the penis so the penis is looking at me hello so look at it in the eye this is the attached person who's there um the under part of the back is the most sensitive part of the penis so that like if you want to like use your hand and your thumb um everything should just be really wet that's the whole thing it's like that's everything's gonna slide more and be better if everything oh i've got a hair in my mouth it's like a pube that might happen um but that you know like rub it with your thumb if you um depending on like how long he is or like how much of a gag reflex you have or eventually like you can like lick it out with your tongue as you're doing stuff but just like focusing your

intention there um i think a good like leeway into it is also like the hand job meets blow job thing um and going like in the opposite like turning your wrist while you're doing it that'll help get it over yeah yeah but um i think like that that's what i would like focus on like the tip is also really sensitive but if you can do like tip work and like yeah hand that work there yeah if you can flick your tongue over the tip while you're doing it you swirl around with your tongue i don't want to give you some advanced moves if anyone wants advanced moves i can totally help you out um i would also um you know if you are like afraid of um come i think you tell him like hey like let me know when you're like gonna come i mean he's probably he most guys usually oh my

good so i mean you can kind of it gets saltier too like you can taste it when it's getting to that part if you like figure out if you're gonna spit or swallow because i think like it can be a little jarring also depending on what they've eaten that day oh yeah a little foul feed them some like you can't do pineapple yeah but that's but no but yeah you should feed him some pineapple yeah um but yeah decide that what you're gonna do no asparagus no no no not good but yeah decide if you're gonna spit or swallow because um it's just like you the whole thing i think that you want to like minimize the probability of throwing up when you give a blow job like the first couple of times because like it when it comes it comes out you're fast it comes fast and depending on

how much cum he had it could be like you could feel over your mouth could feel overwhelmed yeah um but i'd say like start slow don't start with like jackhammer like fast fast pace start off really slow and the more you can like tease him and like like lick him up it like lick it up and down before you like fully go into it like that's gonna be like build the anticipation for him and he'll get like more excited and get there faster um but yeah it's a lot of like tongue swirly around tongue back and then hand when we when you get into like the nitty-gritty of like hand that whole thing and um just keeping your mouth like as what is possible like yeah spit on his you know don't blow no as the name says do not blow on it and don't suck that's like a really

like yeah like it's also because like they like suck you off kind of term it's like that hurts yeah it's yeah it's just not it's not it's not but then also once pay attention and you can also ask oh also don't forget the balls oh yeah a hand yeah the balls a little bit of like a little like fondle of the balls um but you can also ask him i don't know if he's been with if he's gotten like other blowjobs before you can ask him what he likes or also tell him be like hey like be vocal as this is going on like let me know like what you like and also just be really like listen to him when you're doing something he's like oh wow like continue with that and then once you get to a certain place and you can like hopefully hear him i fucking hate guys for styling your giving head

i'm like that's weird all you hear is yeah i'm like okay fucking crazy um then continue on with one thing so like you don't want to switch it up right as he's about to come like you want to maintain that pace um but yeah just like feel sexy like take your like top off like make your like have your boobs hit his leg or like that kind of thing to like the more that he's going to be into it vocally also the the more that you're going to feel confident um and it might take a while but hopefully that helped yeah the more you get to know him like know his penis than the usual become yeah and i wouldn't be afraid of it no i think like i think a lot of the time obviously like there's exceptions but i think a lot of the time people who really really hate

giving head um if i'm ignoring anyone who's had like bad sexual experiences or like trauma but like people who haven't who they just really don't like it i think a huge part of it comes from like i don't like doing things i'm not good at right you don't see me fucking playing soccer like i can't do that shit like i'm not running i'm not your knees are weird no i look like fucking insane i look like phoebe on crack from friends um so you can if you once you get good at it and there's the confidence there um i think you'll like it like a lot more like i definitely was like very nervous like the first couple of times and now i'm like fucking great at this i constantly ask myself i'm like would you rather and it's all about like giving up blowjobs

do this a lot all the time i asked him i was like how much would you pay for a blow job he's like from you nothing why i'm just saying like if i were to sell blow jobs he was like no you're my girlfriend i was like oh fine for sure um but yeah so uh the confidence comes from i don't know getting good at it but also like it's gonna be like a turn on and i think for you like you're gonna enjoy it when you see how much he enjoys it yeah as long as you don't use teeth i think you'll be fine yeah like he's gonna be excited about as wet as possible especially with like your hand moving up and down like that's friction yep um so like if you want to like spit on your hand lick your hand um i'm sure there's like edible like lube that you can like yeah there is

but edible yeah yeah i'd say coconut oil but i fucking hate that like i don't like the consistency the filminess yeah but you can get like do you remember those like candies that were like liquid candy oh my god yeah yeah you can get lube that's kind of like that that's that same consistency and then it'll have like the cherry flavor or something yeah yeah if you are but i would also just like really go old school lick your hand just start and see what you like yeah and if you are into it maybe watch some porn to see like i don't know because some of them they do too much okay i don't watch porn so i really don't know but i would just just wet yeah just really wet is the only advice that i can if i would say if you'd watch porn

it should be gay porn for the blowjobs and not the the straight girls because it just they do too much that's not what you want yeah also maybe watch porn to see if like that helps you get off yeah that's true yeah also i would say vote no no offense to your boyfriend and his dick and like first of all i feel like you're gonna give an amazing blowjob now focus on masturbating first yes because um that also like that empowerment of knowing that you can make yourself come like that's really like empowering and sexy and i think that'll make you feel like a lot sexier and a lot less insecure when it comes to like giving head but i also definitely thought i was broken and i thought i was never gonna be like never thought i'd be able to come it took me

months of masturbating before i finally look was like it takes a while to get it was a fucking mission i was like i'm gonna lock my goddamn self in here and i'm gonna fucking do it but yeah i have faith in you you're not broken at all okay i'm really excited for you let us know how it goes yeah your boyfriend calls in he's like so i'm here to give the review on the blood down and let me know when you want advanced tips yeah those are fun ones okay time for a break let's move on oh my gosh it's time for a break though okay it's time for a break let's be back okay guys we are back from our break we're ready to get back into it hey megan um so i'm 27 and i just started talking to this guy that um that i really really like

uh i'm really into him okay we got together we've been talking for about a week now um i'm the kind of girl that just like fall weak makes fucking sense when i like meet a guy for a first time and i get to know him a little bit i get so infatuated cancer that i feel like i just fall for sydney is this you and i'm kind of scared of that yeah you should be yeah very much anyway you're the kind of girl who dates ted bundy seems to really like me um he i told him actually the first time meeting him that i like him and he told me that he likes me too um 27 and i guess i just i don't know what is the right amount of speed like you're already going to tell a guy that you like him like right away no or is it too fast um yeah and he happens

to be like a little bit older he actually told me that he's a virgin and he's like 37 and like it's not a problem for me like I actually find that really attractive that a guy is willing to wait that long um I don't know I kind of feel some pressure there in that category um yeah i i could use some help thanks megan why are you looking at me like i'm gonna like chop your head as you are i'm not gonna chop your head off yeah here's the thing i'm gonna i'm gonna preface this by saying i'm a pessimist and this is coming up a lot now in my friends who are dating people that like i my type of guy is like confident frat boy has slept with 90 of the universe and like i am the chosen vagina like in a way the one that that they settled down with i

like that i like a guy who's really experienced like i'm that that kind of like sexual confidence and like i like an arrogant kind of like i got my shit down kind of guy that's my type would i say that like that's like the greatest type in the world no it's definitely not but like so my mind automatically goes to like when like really nice guys or like someone who's like really like sweet and innocent I personally don't buy it a lot of the time and the only reason I'm like saying this with this in mind is like not necessarily like for this call but like in general I knew this girl once who had gone out with this guy um and she was like very into him and like very like forthcoming and open about it and he like told her that he had like a micro penis and she was

like wow i can't believe he trusts me this like information and all of that stuff and like for him it was like i really like i want you to be with someone who can like really like give you everything and that's not me and he used that as an out which i was like he doesn't have a micro penis like he just doesn't want to date you you were coming on too strong so i i'm saying like if this if you guys like if the virginity thing was not like a if he wasn't backing away from the situation like if it was just like a hey fyi um i would have questions which i think is totally fine i think it's fine at any age to like ask someone like like things that also like affect like are you saving yourself for marriage like is this something that like you're comfortable

doing in a relationship like was there like you don't have to ask them if they're a sexual trauma but like if they want to be forthcoming with that information is like is there anything i should know like is there like a something that like is this something you'd want to like do with me sort of a thing um but that's that's i feel like that's too early like they've only been that's why i feel like it's a lie i don't know i don't know if it's a lie maybe he just hasn't felt comfortable with someone yet but comfortable at one date in probably because she's over here spilling her guts about her feelings yeah i'm gonna say i think that is a little too soon um I think it's I think honesty is really great and like being forthcoming with your emotions is

great but I do think I think there is something to be said about like quote-unquote playing the game because I think not I'm not saying that in a way to like keep a guy interested but I think also for you it's I think it's also like a good way to protect yourself from being really vulnerable and open with your emotions with somebody you don't know that well yet and you're giving them essentially the permission and like the ammo to really fucking hurt you and i think like it's a really strong and amazing thing to do to like like just be super forthcoming with your feelings but i'm just afraid that it's gonna end up in a position where you're doing that and you're gonna end up getting your feelings hurt a lot that is going to then flip backwards and make

you really closed off so something with like playing the game and kind of like i mean you can tell your friends that you really like yeah but like but i would say get to know him first so you don't you you just like what you see yeah you don't really know him yet so you don't know if you like him or not yeah on and on like the flip side if i was dating someone and one date in they told me they'd really liked me for me that's that's scary in the sense that like not that i'm like oh my god you're gonna slash my tires but it's also like fuck i'm like i'm wearing my fucking cutest outfit i literally look like i've catfished what i normally fucking look like like i'm putting my best behavior on like i'm not snorting when i'm laughing like i'm really like

doing everything like the most and someone's like oh my god i really like you and you're like oh shit i'm like this isn't necessarily me like holy and it's putting him or putting anyone on a pedestal that can be a little much like a little bit like well fuck what what if when you really get to know me you don't actually like me yeah it's something it can be really nice to tell someone that you've had and i'm not saying don't tell them you have a great time on the date it's like i'd really like to see you again i think we're really hitting it off i like spending time with you i want to get to know you better yeah but i you you and also the compliment saying that you really like someone it's gonna mean a lot more once like they've opened up who they really

are to you and i think like that's gonna create more of a lasting relationship um and also like you can be interested in somebody without like liking them yet you can like what you know so far but i think like you're saying that like you fall really hard really fast sort of a thing um and i think like maybe that's also because like you're just labeling everything with like oh i really like you i really like this person as opposed to like i like this thing about them and think about it in the bachelor style how many fucking steps do they get to it being like i really enjoy spending time with you i really like spending time with you like i could see myself being in like they're all of those things and enjoy that because i also think like it'll

make you more in touch with your emotions and also more specific compliments i think are so much more flattering of like saying to him like wow i like really love the way that you like tell stories like i love that or like i really like the nonsense i love like i really like the way that you tell stories like i like i enjoy this type of thing yeah or like i just any like specific compliment because i think yeah it just it means more and it's not something that they can't live up to i think it's also a really good thing to be very forthcoming with your feelings maybe journal yeah you know like i don't think you need to like squash that like very open nature of like who you are because it's a really really great thing but i just think in order to preserve that and reserve

that for like the right people maybe like turn that inward for a while until you know that you're not i just want you to put yourself in like the line of fire because like there's so many fucking like like if you said that to me on a first date like i would just be like you know what i mean like i don't want you to have me like yeah that sort of a thing but it also sounds like you're dating someone who is who likes that yeah the other thing was that she felt pressure about his virginity don't you're you have nothing you're a wormhole i mean you're more than i think it's more like you need to find out if he wants to have sex with you like what's the pressure why do you have pressure well if you feel like you're gonna be the first one so you have to make it

magical yeah it's it's it's gonna last two seconds yeah and it's as opposed to like a a guy being a um being like a woman's first or someone with a vagina's first um that's a much harder orgasm to achieve and it's also more of a it can be more of a painful experience like physically uncomfortable experience um you i really would not worry about it he's gonna be like floored like more than a 40 year old virgin yeah it's like the end sequence where they have sex like the first time and it's like two seconds and then they have it the second time you could literally like have missionary and i'm sure he'd be like this is amazing but yeah i would talk to him about it um and see if that's something that he's wanting to have or if there's a reason if

he's waiting for something specific yeah or if that he's interested in having sex with you yeah also is he like completely aversion has he had blow jobs oh yeah what's his definition of virginity yeah yeah has he masturbated i'm sure he has oh my god when i was younger i used to think like blue balls literally meant your balls like turned blue and you're a lot of people and your whole dick would be like frostbite and i was like well you have to masturbate otherwise your dick is gonna explode because they're just like semen just living in it and just building up uh well um best of luck i hope it works out in your favor and his let us know let us know what happens and let us know why he's a virgin

i'm curious unless it's like if he says hey by the way don't tell any podcasts but if he doesn't you're totally right yeah he's like just between us it's like well don't blame me okay on to the next megan hi megan i am 24 and i have a little bit of an issue that i'm calling about um with kind of what to do about a guy and i'm gonna try to get as much information in the three minutes that I have as possible. Anyways, let's start with the fact that I am 27 weeks pregnant with a guy that I only knew for about a month and we weren't even really dating. I was actually kind of with his like one of his close friends first and then him and the guy I'm now pregnant by hooked up and I ended up realizing I liked him way more than I liked his friends

that I was like kind of with so I ended up getting with uh the guy that I got pregnant with again and that's when I ended up getting pregnant and so now we there's been some drama and everything with getting uh things situated the first 10 weeks he didn't want to talk to me because he wanted me to get an abortion and I wasn't for getting an abortion just for some personal reasons so he told me not to talk to him so I was 10 weeks along and in that 10 weeks though he told me he wanted to move in together however um he didn't give me any more information to that and then still wouldn't talk to me till I was 10 weeks along and I was hearing like rumors from different friends and things about how they were trying to find a house and I was like well how

come I wasn't involved there was that aspect and then um finally there was more drama but we got over the drama hurdle and then there was also an issue where he was dating he was like with another girl and I ended up telling this girl that I was pregnant with his kid and that blew up in my face kind of really badly and again we got over it now anyways fast forward this was at like 10-12 weeks now I'm obviously three months farther than that I'm 27 weeks and we ended up moving in together but here's where my issue is is that I really like him I know you're gonna say like oh parents don't have to be together you can just co-parent but like he wanted us to live together because he thinks the baby should have both parents I still really like him he has a job where he goes

he's basically a professional partier like I can explain what I need more by that but he's basically a professional partier he goes out a lot and it just sucks because I can't do that also he will like text other girls when I'm around but we don't have like I just need to know if I am because I really like him i don't know if i'm putting too many eggs in one basket trying to get with him and trying to make us be together or if i should just kind of back off and co-parent with him i don't even know if he's gonna make sense because this is kind of a lot of information and i only have three minutes but if you can give advice on it and you understand it that'd be great thanks bye wow that is a story girl okay so we just need to be where she is now let's not make any no 100

how many fucking i don't understand the goddamn weeks so you're more than three months pregnant plus 10 to 12 weeks which is whatever that doesn't matter like she's far enough along where your hormones are i know all over the place right now so you guys aren't in a relationship are you sleeping in the same bed that was something you left out like you're living together are you sleeping in the same bed are you guys having sex um i think you need to define what you are before this baby gets here yeah and you're right if i'm gonna say like you guys can like co-parent and be great and him saying that the kid should have two parents around that also just implies co-parenting yeah that's not him saying i want

to be in a relationship maybe he's worried about the optics from like his family and friends like yeah this girl pregnant and they are not in a relationship also is he a club promoter is that what this is right like okay here's the thing um uh living together and having feelings for him and having him text other girls and having all this other stuff this is like drama and something that you're dealing with now while you're pregnant that's not something to deal with when the when there's a baby there because living with somebody you you're requiring some living with like your baby daddy that's requiring him to parent physically it's not just required of like that's not just on you and that's gonna put a lot of fucking stress i don't know like what

your relationship's like with your parents if there's somebody else that you could live with that could help you through like parenting your kid or if there's like a friend um if i had a friend who got pregnant i'd be like move into our guest room like i'll fucking help but i just think like i'm not even saying you're putting too many eggs in one basket like with like trying to be with him because I think like that's in consequential when a baby comes that no matter what feelings you have for him if he's if he's not like if he's not gonna be like a physical like their parent to actually parent your kid um I I think it doesn't really like it just doesn't really matter to have a roommate and the only thing I mean it doesn't matter have him as your

roommate because the only thing I think right now it's just complicating everything because like you have feelings for him if he wanted to i'm just if he wanted to fucking be with you he would be with you he wouldn't be texting other girls he um also i have a really really major issue with people who pressure other people into having abortions especially someone that you're in a relationship with because that's um and you also don't even need to say like i didn't want to have an abortion for personal reasons you don't you just didn't want to have one that doesn't fucking it doesn't fucking matter why or why not and anyone who's pressuring you either way especially someone who is a part of making that baby that is like such a level of like i

think disrespect of the actions that you guys have both done of the like i don't want to call a baby a consequences of actions but like something that could possibly happen that you both well knew going into this um and also it's it's not respecting your body either and it becomes like your body is an instrument and you need to get rid of this thing that's not working for me and that i think is just fucking disgusting um and it's not like and i also don't think it's necessarily in general when it comes to relationships it's not about like the actions that happen or the things that like the drama it's about like how you recover from it there's no real recovery he's still texting all of these other girls i think truthfully he's showing you how he feels um and you have to take his word

for it there as opposed to oh he wants to live with me and he wants to like be a parent like he wants to parent this baby those are not mutually exclusive with being in a relationship with you and I think he's showing you right now that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and I think like because you have feelings for him you need to get out of there and you need to mourn this breakup and like take the like if you can I'm sure it's incredibly hard to never been pregnant but like when you're factoring this in take the baby out of the equation and this is are you're trying to salvage this relationship with someone who might not necessarily want to because of a kid and like you need to factor in your feelings without the baby because it's so

much more important to have even if he doesn't want to even if he didn't want to be a parent it's i think it's so much more important to have one parent who's really present and really there who really wants to be and you obviously really want this you really want your baby and you really want to be a great mom that means so much more than having your mom really really really want your dad to be involved if he's not necessarily being involved in any sort of tension and drama and fighting between you guys is like that's what hurts your baby that's what affects your baby that's what your like kid sees growing up um and it's it's I don't think it's I don't think it's worth it for either of you and I think it's just putting your body through a lot of stress and I

also think that like hormone wise i feel like you're probably just gonna have this baby and then be like oh wow no you can leave now like we're good like we don't need you like well not like no but no but like this like i don't want i don't want to be in a relationship with you yeah i think they're yeah it yeah you're you're the parent like the yeah the father of your kid that's so much like his job is kind of i don't want to say his job is done but if his if his only job and the only thing that he attributed to like your kid is the fact that like he helped create your kid like that can be enough and like it it's more about um like a safe and like a place where you also feel really happy and like that's gonna make you the best mom

and if it's not this then it's cutting your losses and co-parenting and being like friends and being cordial and being cool with it um because like i just think you need to take away like your fantasy idea and your ideal situation it's not happening and it hasn't happened yet and i don't think if it hasn't happened now i don't think it will and also i don't think like i don't know um like self-respect wise if he decides that that's what he wants to be as soon as the baby's there then it's really more about the kid and less it's more about your kid and less about you and i think you need to be selfish and focus on you and if he wants to be with you then he wants to be with you now while you're pregnant while you're not going out to clubs and parties and

all of that stuff but if he like really then is like oh no i'm really gonna try when the baby's around then that means like he wants to be a dad it doesn't right it's not mutually exclusive with wanting to be with you also are you guys living with friends like who is this we that was looking for housing like mutual friends and then you guys ended up living together yeah i just think figure out what you want baby aside do you actually want to be in a relationship with him because once his baby's here everything's gonna change again yeah and also does he want to be in a relationship with you and that has to be like a and sit him down and like have that hard conversation and be like are you doing this because you want it like do you want to be a dad or do you want

to be with me like no baby right now like would we be together like is this something that we want to do like then you need to not be like this then you need to establish a relationship um because like right now i just think like you're taking whatever he's giving to you and like you deserve so much more than that but again he can still be a fantastic fucking dad yeah and then that preserves your your friendship and your relationship with him that i think is going to be so much more important to the baby than having like like having like that's what i don't understand people like well you need to have like a mother and father around for the baby like or we're like staying together because of the the kids oh my as a child of that don't fucking do it it doesn't

work you go to therapy multiple times a week because how bad it doesn't work it fucks you up let us know what happens best of luck excited for you me too um don't blame them don't blame them this is where uh you guys who are listeners you call in with your own advice from previous episodes if you have like personal experience with this kind of stuff so i mean also listen to this if you listen to this episode and you're like hey i've experienced you should call in and let us know um but what is this one from this is from episode season four episode seven with natasha and the original caller was living with her boyfriend in her parents home and they didn't know about it so oh i loved this call to share advice hi megan so i'm calling in response to

the girl who was scared to tell her parents that she wanted to live with her boyfriend and oh my gosh talk about having like a similar situation so I lived with my boyfriend before we got married and my parents like didn't know they're super anti all of that and we were I was actually paying for my apartment and I lived six hours away from them and I was paying for my apartment just to keep up the facade that I like wasn't living with my boyfriend um my boyfriend I did end up getting engaged and it was at that time where I was like okay I need to be honest with them um because I didn't want to have to pay for that apartment anymore and I was really afraid um that my parents were going to like completely cut me off that they um we were in

a position where they were going to be paying for my wedding and I was like oh my god they're not going to pay for my wedding like blah blah blah and I basically just decided like I need to have an open and honest conversation with them I sat them down and I was really honest and I was like look like I want to live with my boyfriend this is why we want to save money like you know um that you know I'm an adult and xyz and fortunately like my parents my mom cried she saw so my dad actually understood and he was like look you're an adult like you can make your own decisions like I can't control you and it was kind of a relief and a breath of fresh air and um my relationship with my parents ended up improving after that actually um and so I just encouraged this girl

to like be honest with your parents and you know expect the worst if they do end up picking you out or whatever but it's more important I think to be honest with your with your parents and live the life that you want to live um because I don't know it's just you'll be so much happier that way and um you will live without regrets knowing that like you were honest with your family and that you stood up for yourself as hard as it was you stood up for yourself and you were able to live the life that you wanted with your future partner and with yourself so i hope that's encouraging you're not alone and um you know best of luck to you best of luck thanks bye i truly love how she stressed being honest yes she told her parents i really want to live with my boyfriend like

been fucking living with him the whole goddamn time how much money did you waste oh my gosh wait no i i can't get over that but yeah like i i think it's great that you were forthcoming with some new information yeah but you weren't being completely honest you're not being completely honest which i think is the smart decision i don't think you should be completely honest in that situation um i mean yeah yeah i'm glad your parents are paying for your wedding yeah am i jealous for sure not that i've been living in sin though oh i've been living in sin for a long time um yeah this is yeah this is yeah that's pretty much it yeah tell the truth ish yeah tell that's really really the moral of this entire podcast tell the truth ish yeah ish tell the

truth that is like the most favorable that is like but like mostly the truth yeah just leaving out things that could be detrimental to you in the long run yeah and like things that could prevent people from paying for your wedding yeah because shit that's expensive i mean you already wasted a bunch of money on your apartment i'm i cannot believe that like how did they know do they get bank state like right do like do they were you afraid that they were going to pop up so then you'd have to like go over to your empty house six hours away your dusty ass house that you don't live like were you paying for it or were they paying for your old place right you know like why would they even know yeah that like i think she was like scared they would come visit and then they'd be

like oh let's go over to your place oh did they come if they didn't come visit that whole time and you're like god maybe that's why you were like i have to fucking tell them now wow that's crazy what did your mom cry about too by the way her daughter's innocence being taken is that what you think it is because i'm so curious like why is she sad you're engaged i know you know you've already said that you're getting or maybe she hates your yeah i'm like why is she sad like she's crying that you want to live with him yeah the guy that you're going to marry yeah i'm i i'm confused me too but great story yeah i think that's good advice i think the other gal needs to tell her parents yes or she needs what did i say i said i think she's i said he needs to like

shave his head so that he cannot leave or diet diet yeah same color as her hair yeah and grow it So it's the same thing. Yeah. So when the heirs are everywhere, it makes total sense. Maybe they just, maybe, but maybe, but really what this advice is saying is they need to get engaged and therefore then tell the parents. Because that's like living less in sin, right? Yeah.

Is the sin sleeping in the same bed or is the sin like sex? Yeah. So then like if you're roommates with each other, like is that technically sin? Mm-mm. What if you just get two separate bedrooms and you like pretend? Right. I remember this joke that I read one time when I was a young chap, maybe 7th grade

I love this story it was like a joke that I had on my website that I had made from what was that old thing called? no, not MySpace no, it was like you made the website you know what I'm talking about

yeah but anyway I made the website and there was this joke that my mom made me take off of it but it was like this girl came over uh or this guy's parent came to visit them and they were like keeping up with the facade that they were just roommates and then they like asked their mom it was like a spoon or something they had um like lost when she left and they were like hey mom i think you use this while you're here do you know where it is and she was like yeah i put it in the other bedroom so therefore it had been in the other

bed because the mom was testing to see if they were actually like sleeping together so it had been in oh she put oh my god that's a power that is just in the second bedroom yeah the one that that you guys that you that's supposed to be roommates that's funny yeah why'd your mom make you take it off i don't know i think because of my age she was like you're too young to have that on your website that's funny yeah wow can't cannot cannot imagine um well i highly recommend living in sin it's fun someone else does the dishes you get to split the chores that's what we do well yeah that's what they're doing but she's paying more rent that's insane um well that's it for our episode guys i hope you

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yeah and they like ran it through some like thing that's free that they it changed their voice so they can do it so

you can do that too there's no excuse not at all um the only time I ever answered a DM was someone who um

was asking how long they should wait to take plan B oh well and I was like now fucking take it now bitch

go now it was like 2 a.m i was like get out of your house drive your car go fucking buy it also you could have googled that i know well um hope you guys enjoyed oh i already asked i already said that yeah so i really hope you did to follow us on instagram don't blah meme pod it's really great cute stuff uh both of our instagrams will also be like listed in the show notes um if you're listening and you want to watch it check it out on youtube um because you need to see how to give a blowjob and um what else oh don't blame me that shows our website and you can also figure out every other place to listen to us there that's good and yeah awesome we'll see you guys next time don't blame me is a production by me executive produced by melissa demonts camera operator

amanda lechner and music by ryan hunter and giacomo picasso part of the her pod network Thank you.