Don't Blame Me! - S4E8: Guest: Kingsley - No Room For Towels?

Episode Date: July 22, 2019

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so ripped i feel so objectified i'm so sorry no but you just look great thank you not to make you uncomfortable thank you so much it was great too oh thank you look fresh i washed my hair i took some cbd i have some really bad cramps so i am actually pretty fucking relaxed right now i it is the only thing that helps me with like migraines and cramps like with painkillers but no no i'm not it's advil like it's not real painkillers it's no the cbd is like actually what helps so much and it like can make me fall asleep and be relaxed like i just never knew what it was like to like not be like a high-strung person like i feel like someone might describe me as chill oh on cbd this is like no you're still not chill

but like this is chill me and i'm not like writhing in pain well if you guys are new here this is an advice podcast um and if you want to call in the phone number is 310-694-0976 and international listeners you can send us an audio message at meganpodcast at gmail.com and this is your second time on right yes fuck yeah we had such a good time last time yeah it was scandalous yeah i loved your advice so i'm like really fucking excited to ever hear back from that person that like slept with their straight best friend oh no i don't know if we did no we did if you're still out there i think about that every day oh my god i need to go back and listen we have to find her yeah we do well should we hop in let's do it hello megan melissa

and guests so i am 22 years old and i have um some sort of weird little things i don't know if you call it that but um so i me and my sister went clubbing um for pride with a couple of our friends that we like grew up with in high school we're like really close and all that and we have just like one friend well mostly my sister is like really really close with him and um he and i kind of hit it off and we like danced our asses off got really drunk never having a wet pussy ever again don't i don't even know what's in there but it tastes like diabetes anyways um well we like accidentally kissed and by accidentally it's because he like tried to like playfully kiss me in the cheek and i turned my head and then we were like anyway um i don't know like then we ended

of like like i don't know like it's just weird and like i know that they're really really really really close friends with each other and he and i like really got close in high school and now we're like i guess closer now so i don't know i just like don't want to make it weird because like they're really best friends and you know like it's weird when like siblings and friends like date each other and all that stuff you know what I mean I don't know I'm not grambling I'm not making any sense I forgot my medication anyways just please help me I don't know like I just don't want to make it weird like do I just ignore it and like casually go on tinder like I am now or uh just make things awkward I don't know girl do you like him I feel like he has to

like him he clearly yeah I got so confused in that story at first I thought there was like a girlfriend oh god like try there's some incest there no thank god though I mean I think you really I think you like him I think that's why you're worried about it being like weird I wonder also like if you were as like subtle at pride as you think that you were because I'm sure your sister saw right you know what I mean it sounds like she had to have seen yeah and why would your sister panic are they not if you're close with your sister this is like a non-issue I think It would get way worse than it needs to be. I feel like your sister would be, like, happy that you found a guy that at least she knows and trusts and isn't going to, like, fuck you over.

Yeah. But I guess he's more worried about if things don't work out. Yeah. And that becomes awkward. But you can't worry about that. Yeah. And I get that. But I think the only way that you, like, you can worry about the awkwardness of it.

And, like, first of all, there's no way to avoid awkward. Like, awkward is just, like, an inevitable thing that's going to happen in your life, like, in any situation. shit will get awkward um but i think if you're worried about feelings which it sounds like you are like your sisters talk to her because also i think there's definitely like i had friends who like had siblings and like there were some times that it was like oh this would be fine if you dated this person but like if it's your absolute best friend your only best friend and then they start dating your sibling and you can't really like talk about it that can be very different but i think at the same time like you they're you they're close but you guys also knew each

other in high school i don't think she necessarily has like she might have like the more of a friendship but it's not you don't know this guy because of her like so i think that you kind of have um you don't need to worry about that as much but i would just talk to her and i think if she's like cool with it and chill with it and if you express you know maybe take me take your medication before i always do that before like a big long talk where i have to like actually get my words out yeah um before the podcast before the podcast if you can tell there's certain points of podcasts where like it starts to wear off and then we go on a break and let's like take your months you're not finishing sentences um but uh if you express to her that you like actually like

really like him and you want to see where this goes um i would i would see like gauge how she feels about it and just be honest with how you feel and then also i'd say you're i don't want to be like oh my god you're so young but like i mean it's compliment you are young but also i wouldn't stress too much about if it doesn't work out um because also you don't know where her friendship with him is going to be and if you guys both if you go into it knowing the consequences of being like oh we might like this might be awkward so i'm gonna really make sure if things start to go south or whatever that we end it amicably and you're being aware of the consequences and i think that's how you avoid shitty ones you know like i think you have an open window right

now just be like yo we were at pride and like we made out and we're dancing and like i think i like him like go with it yeah it's like the best time to do it 100% 100% talk to your sister and then also maybe find out I would talk to your sister and then find out if he likes you too yeah and then you know make out kiss I also love the idea that

he's like kiss on the cheek and then they're like that's so I can just fully picture that too yeah I love it where did that go in the middle though I know like the pussy diabetes thing it was a drink yeah wet pussy why would you serve that

vodka, gin, coconut rum, peach schnapps and then pineapple juice. I know I just want to say I take that back I take that back. In my mind you were at like at a boys and boys but your sister was there. No so wet pussy people enjoy I mean enjoy it. Yeah it's fun

to order. Yeah I guess it's not why it's at Pride it's more like why I don't know if I I don't know I also like as a girl who's like sucked dick I wouldn't order a drink that's like you know like sweaty dick like sweaty balls it's gonna taste like sweaty balls do you think the sweaty balls taste like

like Kraft macaroni the dry the cheesy part the actual sweaty balls yeah it depends on who it is and what they've had to eat and what they're secreting you love sweaty balls like after like like a basketball game but I'm talking about dry sweat like

this like sweat has come and gone like it is dry like crusty I mean I'm gonna say is it crusty there's not snow that's some other shit that you just came and you just gave yourself like a dick mask with your gum like that's so gross no but i do i do think sweaty balls also maybe more smell kind of like the dry cheese from craft macaroni and cheese wait what is what what is craft macaroni and cheese coming from that's the smell that's what you think that's what is that from

your experience you is it every guy or is there's a certain guy no no i've always thought this but Also, at the same time, I haven't smelled Kraft macaroni and cheese in forever. This was like a thing that I said in high school, along with tequila tastes like barbecue sauce and caramel mixed together. Dark tequila. Well, yeah, I think you're in a good position. I think just tell everyone how you feel. And yeah, also assess how you feel and like maybe give it a couple of days for you if

you're unsure exactly. Like, but if you've been on Tinder and you're like swiping and you're like, I'm not really into these guys. I think that's a good way to tell like, oh, I really do like this guy. Yeah. Give it give it a shot. Go for it. Not a wet pussy shot, though.

no you would do a dry pussy shot yeah i do wonder what that tastes like not real okay i can just like you know if i ever wanted to but i'm just curious we'll google it yeah yeah you got one yeah they're tasty yeah because it's just like juice yeah it's all juice and then gin and juicy the emphasis on juice it's juice juicy juicy juicy pussy hi megan uh melissa and potential guests i'm going to try and keep this simple and sweet um so i my boyfriend and i have been together about four years and i live in a really shady area of town and i'm doing so because i just don't have enough money for rent so he suggested that uh we should start to share the bedroom that he rents and that we could split the rent and it would be

about the same price for me a little less um and be in a safer area and i think it would be a lot better for my mental health because i definitely have issues with anxiety um especially living in that area because it's just so crime ridden but the problem is that so he is renting the same house that his parents rented when he was growing up in and then he took over the lease when they left and got some of his cousins and his sister to move in and so they all each have different bedrooms and then they split the rent together um and the problem with that is his bedroom has not changed um because of that and he does not want to change it because he's such a nostalgic person and so his solution to the whole idea is that I should with my extra money get a storage

unit and put my stuff in it and it's to the extent that like i'm not able to store enough towels to be able to bathe throughout the week um and his solution his solution is basically oh just like go and you know reuse your towels which i don't fucking do and i don't understand um and there's like not enough space in his bedroom partly because like he's kept old toys there's enough space in the bathroom because he's let his sister share um the bathroom space even though she has her own bathroom and he has his own bathroom all to himself um and I sat down with him and basically explained to him look like you're not ready for this if you don't want to make these changes and then he gets super upset and he's like no no no no like I am ready and then

doesn't do anything at all and i'm really tired of it and i'm really tired of trying to explain to him look like this doesn't work you need to stop pretending it's gonna work because you don't want to change anything um so i'm just wondering if you have any advice um he's 25 by the way and out of school who you had me going until toys can't be going until towel true like i was expecting there like not to be space yeah like i don't know her clothes or like a foosball table yeah her laptop she's in school like towel a towel yeah some towels you can't find anywhere in the house for some towels it's like under the bed you can't get one of those storage things do you think he has it's already all full though i mean to me it sounds

like there's a difference between like nostalgia and hoarding yes and like true motz is super fucking nostalgic which like i'm the least nostalgic person in the world like someone gives me like a card and i feel obligated to keep it but i'm like i don't like we get wedding invitations i'm like put it on my calendar i'll toss it like i'm not like a i don't know i'm not like sentimental it's my aquarius rising um and like but there's like a difference between keeping like letters and like things that are really important to you and like maybe like one like toy that you had as a kid and photos but keeping everything is to me that's just that's like a different level like it's not wanting to move on especially with toys like he's 25 years old with

that i mean i have a box full of cards that i've gotten since i was like eight yeah and i have like certain things like all my harry potter books oh and just like stuff in my room at home home so i'm like i get it but at the same time like i wish i knew where the relationship was going because it's like if it's still his parents house yeah maybe they also like to keep it the same they rented it and so he picked up the lease after that but he grew up in that house so it's always been elise i know i'm not like maybe he puts his toys in storage with some stuff oh yeah that's a compromise those core things that you both need and then any of that supplemental stuff if he's not looking at it every day and using it every single day or even like once a week that

should be the stuff that goes into storage so it should be both of your storage units like you should just share one he can put the toys in if you have extra furniture that you want to keep eventually with you guys got your own place or you got your own place later down the road um that you really like you can keep that stuff there but also do you have to move in with him like i get that this sounds like she's like miserable and i think you should move but is he the only person that you can live with right but i would also say like i think moving you into significant other it shouldn't be done um i think if you don't have to do it out of like need and necessity i think it can be better but already you're starting off before you move in with all

these obstacles drama and yeah and moving in together is hard it is it really is it's really hard to live with somebody um and yeah there's some stuff that like you'll also just kind of i don't know like when you move in with your brother you have to deal with there's something there's family there yeah i wouldn't even want to do this like i there's too many people in this house too many and the sister's using the bathroom and you can't put your towels anywhere like it's just a lot and i feel like maybe she if it she said it's a little less than what she's paying now yeah yeah but she's not like trying to she didn't say she didn't specify that she's trying to save money she just wants to get out of that neighborhood she was in yeah maybe there's a way

for you and even if it's like finding a very safe random on like uh like through like college or through like anyone that you like a friend of a friend and find that like i mean my one of my friends she's thinking about moving to san francisco and she met this really great nice guy on um uh craigslist who works at restoration hardware which i was like oh he's vetted he works at restoration hardware they do so much vetting there like i'm sure they did a background check like he seems wonderful and great furniture exactly it's gonna be totally your style he's gonna be very type a probably also a virgo like her um so i think like you there's a better way to do it and also like because the same thing with like the cousins and the sister um he's all

and like i think it's nice that he's definitely being accommodating to the fact that they're the women so oh i'm gonna give them more bathroom space and all that stuff but if also that they're not being like oh his girlfriend's gonna move in oh let us move all of our shit and be accommodating for you you're gonna move in and you're not gonna feel like you live there like you're gonna feel like you're crashing there absolute facts so yeah it's i feel like she this is hard because i had a friend that was living also in like a really shitty area yeah and she just like went she was telling me like a couple weeks ago actually all the stuff she dealt with like people breaking into her house and this woman trying to fight her in the courtyard um and it's just like i

i totally get like wanting to escape but i feel like if the relationship means something to you and you're already seeing these like red flags about moving you should definitely find an alternative yeah because you don't want to like force your boyfriend to change yeah but it's like you also want to maintain your mental health and the two in this situation seem to conflict yeah you can't do one without the other and like if your goal is which it should be to like better your mental health i don't think that this situation i think might it's going to be a different sort of like anxiety and frustration and it's not going to feel like you want your place to feel like a safe homey haven it's just going to feel like you're

squatting in some hoarder's apartment and it seems like the relationship is fine yeah except for this so it's like i wouldn't even want to put that stress on that that's like one of the good parts of your life yeah and he might grow out of it to a point where he wants to get move into another place and i would say that would probably be a lot easier for him to get rid of his shit because it's not he hasn't changed it because he hasn't had to and so like if I think back to like the my parents house my bedroom probably I haven't been back in a long time but like I'm sure it probably looks quite similar to when I lived there but like I and if I still continued to like live there I would have and I moved in with my boyfriend I would have a hard time changing it

because like that's what you're used to but if then eventually he decides that like he wants to move out and move in with you and you guys get a new place together I think all of that stuff will kind of get paired down and like half a bathroom that's not fair it's while the sister's getting a bathroom and a half yeah that's gonna be a mess like are they gonna glam you every day when it's like you're picking between me and your sister like it's just like get no stop it no i couldn't do that it's too much i can be i need to be the only woman i'm not good at sharing i feel that yeah i definitely feel that and it reminds me like think like a man when like michael ely was fighting with

wait was it Michael Ealy like the mama's boy no Terrence J his character was like Regina Hall kept having to fight him and his mom and I see that happening if this girl is in the house with him and his sister yep it's just like oh I gotta use the bathroom oh well I have a meeting in like 30 minutes the boyfriend

is just sitting there he's like are you gonna say something oh god yeah it's too much that's too that's no that's not fun that's not fun though I do appreciate your boyfriend living with like two women i feel like he must be very sensitive to him i mean clearly yeah do you desperately want to know what kind of toys like i want to know picture so bad are we talking legos a bop it he's 25 so that i okay well praying for you and your towels

and your relationship let us know how it goes and your mental health yeah i hope you get out of that yeah and also download the app um uh noon light is a great one for if you ever feel unsafe i found it on twitter because like you know people retweet those like very scary videos people following them and it's basically um not sponsored but it's basically an app uh in which like if you're in an unsafe situation you hold down the um there's like a button on it and as soon as you let go that's the alert it geotracks your phone and they alert someone of your location and then you can enter in a passcode but you only have like five seconds to do it so if someone else like if you had an attacker who's like entering the passcode like they can't do it super you can't do it super

you have to do it super super super fast um and then they uh will send uh police to your exact geolocation and it keeps tracking you even if they like turn off your phone or anything um so it's a great one and also like if like you do it by accident or it ends up being fine they'll still send somebody somebody like to check and uh it's like there's like someone to talk to if you can say like oh this was the person who was like following me or being creepy or whatever so it's a great one yeah i made all my friends who live like close to the tenderloin in san francisco download it i'm like please please do this please guys uh well best of luck on to the next hey megan big fan hi your guest today um my can't say my name um i have a best friend who i

have had for years like since high school i'm 21 years old turning 22 and she um and i go out in town together all the time because we're both just a little socially awkward but together we have just enough confidence to really go out and have fun and dress how you want to and do what you want to so we just give each other that boost all the time we are best friends we talk about everything we even get high with her mom and laugh about things and the other night we went out and we met this really sweet guy and he danced with both of us he talked to both of us and it wasn't even her or I who asked for his number it was actually her mom playing our wing woman which was actually hilarious and we died laughing about it and I don't know I guess I just thought that

we'd both wait to contact him and then I found out the next day she had asked to go out with him and he went out with her and I didn't realize how much it would affect me like I was literally a puddle of tears and it's not even like anyone had did done him I just thought that it would move slower and that I might have a chance speaking like within the situation I just came out as bisexual and as demisexual so dating for me is awkward enough and I'm also not skinny And sometimes that can mess with my self-esteem. And to have someone make me a priority, it just hadn't happened in a really, really, really long time. And I hadn't been that happy in forever.

And I don't think she realized how much it hurts. And I told her about it and I told her how I felt. And she was really dismissive. And, of course, I don't want to be selfish and take away her happiness. but at the same time it feels kind of messed up but anyways I hope I give you enough information I don't want to take too long um but yeah she's a few years older than me she's moving in a little bit and I don't know I thought that she might be able to let me have this one for a change because I always do feel like a wing woman and I confided in her about that before just because she's more

traditionally the standard of beauty so i guess maybe my own insecurities kind of sabotage me i suppose any advice ladies or fellas who's ever on the podcast today thank you guys i want to be her friend right you're so fucking sweet oh that voice i know right yeah i just like want her to like read me a bedtime story and give me compliments any thoughts to the turn i thought they were gonna get them together yeah the same time i mean the first thing i'd say is like obviously you can't go back in time but and as close as you are with your friend's mom your friend's mom has her daughter's interest at heart like when she's getting the number she's not getting the number for you she's getting it for her kid and the part that you said that you felt

like no one had prioritized you and all of that first of all straight boys are fucking idiots like they're just like the fucking worst like they're so dumb like they really truly are like i said like white straight men are like a whole different breed of humans um and if the purge happens i think only a few will survive um truly i don't i i there you think they're on everybody they're so everyone has at least like if you know a white straight guy there's at least like five girls like no he's my number one on my shit list if the purge happens like there's only a few who are gonna go through i don't even know if mox would end up on skates like i might be single who knows um but i think like when you said like you think your insecurities are talking i i would

say that i think your insecurities were which is fine i'm totally i'm a very insecure person i think that they prevented you from like seeing the fact that like he wasn't prioritizing you from the beginning like he was dancing with you and your your your friend he was flirting with both of you guys like he was keeping it really open-ended he wasn't prioritizing you like that's why this happened and that's not the guy for you also i don't think it's the guy for your friend either i think like any person that's going to be interested in you like my friends and i when we used to go out if one guy came up and just like immediately was talking to us as a group like flirting we're like no dude he's just casting his line yeah and seeing who's gonna yeah who's

gonna bite and it's it should be a guy like who comes up to like one of you or talks to you and then it's so it's clearly really focused on one of you and not like oh I'll take whoever's interested in me and so I just think like from the beginning like it's rough because I've I don't know I've definitely been there I've had like friends who who always get the guy and I always like was definitely getting sloppy seconds um and it just at a certain point like you want somebody the greatest feeling ever like you're saying is like when someone chooses you I think you're just a little misconstrued on like what that is and what that feeling is and I think if you can like I hate to say like practice self-love or whatever but like I go to therapy all the time now so like

now that's the things that I say but you have to prioritize like yourself to then know what it's like and what it feels like to see when someone else is doing that to you because if you don't do that it's not even like oh if you don't love yourself no one else can love you because like I don't believe that but if you don't like you don't even have to like yourself all the time you can still be insecure but if you don't like prioritize yourself whatever that means for you like putting yourself first like oh I'm like gonna wake up an hour earlier and like read my book that I really want to do like I want to do like do things that are just about me that I really like then when you see like meet some guy or girl whoever um you're talking to at the time like you're gonna

be able to tell when they do that to you and it's not just attention because like attention is very different than like singular attention like if he's giving attention to like all of you it's not your friend's responsibility to be like oh here you can have this guy that's just a shitty guy right though truth yeah like i was like oh my god jesus you really laid it out there and told her i mean that's what needs to be done i guess that's what this is because like would you go if like if someone came out to you and a group of friends and it's like hey like what's up and it doesn't like attention on one like don't you think sleazy territorial yeah talking to everybody get away from me i don't even want a drink from you like just stop it you can have him exactly that's

exactly what it doesn't even make sense but i feel bad for her me too but what you said is so true like you yeah from the beginning like it was never i think going the way that she thought it was going yeah um and that's sad and i do relate to that because i definitely like you said have been the ugly duckling and like next to the friend that's just like oh oh that i'm like every guy is just like just passing me by getting whiplash and another one and another one but um it's it's a it sucks that feeling sucks oh yeah so i definitely get what she's going through especially if her friend's moving um but then again i i feel like because of her complex like she's even thinking about it way further than it ever might have gone yeah so i feel like

she's like oh my friend's leaving she should have let me have this guy thinking like they're gonna just yeah elope and date and get married and all this stuff um and i think for your age you can't look at prospective relationships like that take it like a day at a time yeah um because once you get all these images in your head and how you think things are gonna go is when you end up in situations like this where you're kind of disappointed i wouldn't say i like googled this one time recently because i was like am i a codependent person and then i read it and i was like oh no i'm definitely not a codependent person um but i like i i thrive i'm not good in situations like alone like i get terrible social anxiety and if i have like one friend

there but i don't want like a ton of friends like if i've got like one good friend or a couple good friends they're like that's when i feel like the most me and like the most confident and like the most comfortable to like really be myself so I understand that aspect and like I have a best friend like that where when we go out together or we do anything together like that's like the version of myself that I absolutely like love the most and like you're saying that combined confidence and everything like that but I when I went away we both went away to college that was really hard for me because like I didn't know how to like have that sense of confidence and really like myself without her because like that's the person that I felt and not even like oh it's our

necessarily combined confidence but I think you also really like who you are around her and you like like the kind of the fun that you have like the way you talk about your friendship like it's so sweet and it's like so it's just like so great and I think you now need to practice especially with her moving away is finding a like finding different ways and different people so it's not your confidence and like your comfortability isn't just riding on one person and I still feel far more confident when i have someone with me but now i don't need it doesn't it cannot it doesn't need to be just that one specific person like i can feel really confident doing certain things with uh like other friends but also even like the confidence that i had like i get really nervous

going to new workout classes but like once i start going and i know the person who works the front desk like we're not friends but i'm like no i feel more comfortable because like these are faces that i know um so i would try and practice that because that confidence and everything like it's you you bring something it's like she's not completing you like you're bringing something there too like whether you feel like your confidence tank or whatever is like 50 full like that's still something like you don't need her to then feel comfortable enough to like talk to like people that you're into and then maybe it's it's not like throwing yourself and going like i don't advise going to a bar by yourself um uh but i think like find those different things where you

do feel more comfortable like maybe you feel more comfortable on apps like you feel more comfortable like talking to someone first and you build that confidence but i think you need to like build that up uh and realize that someone else is really gonna like they're gonna meet you and they're really they're gonna have eyes only for you and really really like you and you won't feel so attached to her and like she needs to like do you a solid because like you're fucking great you're gonna meet someone who's not into your friend and it's not like hey can you do me a solid and like let me have this one like it's gonna be someone's like oh no i wasn't looking at your friend like i was totally completely into you the whole time and you're like oh what like

and that's the feeling when you've been the person who's been overlooked you're like shut up me you like me and it's like oh great and then but then you have to get to the tough part of being like wait do you like them you have to like get over that where i'm like oh my god i like you i'm like oh do you like me do i like you or do i just really like that you like me that's like a figuring out thing and please don't let this like ruin your friendship no like i know you've talked to her about this before but like it's just one guy honestly personally i'd like i root for my friends like i might have a moment where it's like damn that dude went over there but then it's like the next day i want the details like let me know how it went yeah how it was what it looked like

yeah have it like yeah i don't know like i think it's feelings are valid and it's okay to like have your moment but like get over it and like move on and become that relationship that you have again like talk about it and just like okay i lost that one and don't and don't romanticize it because like we're saying from the very beginning it wasn't what you felt like it was and what you thought it was and also i don't think that they're necessarily like i don't think that's a really strong footing for their relationship to even go off of but i'd say like the next time you hang out with your friend if whether this relationship with him works out or not if a guy approaches you guys and you can't tell which of you he's flirting with i would just like drop it then like on your

end. And like, you be the one to give it to her. Even though in reality, like you're giving her a guy who's like, just like shooting a shot with like the whole group. When WestJet first took flight in 1996, the vibes were a bit different. People thought denim on denim was peak fashion. Inline skates were everywhere. And two out of three women rocked the Rachel. While those things stayed in the nineties, one thing that hasn't is that fuzzy feeling you get when WestJet welcomes you on board. Here's to WestJetting since 96. Travel back in time with us and actually travel with us at westjet.com slash 30 years group but like you you can take that power back and be like oh here like you take this one yeah you know take the power back yeah and you seem like so

fucking lovely and amazing and sweet literally like i was just i didn't even want it to end i know i had a great storytelling yeah you should want to read my book when i do an audiobook i don't want to do it you want to do it for me she's gonna sound so much nicer though it's gonna be like and then i called her a cunt and i pushed her down a flight there were a lot of vocal tone changes in that story I was like captivated it's like someone reading Harry Potter all the characters have different voices

I love it I would have loved if the guy was actually into the mom or the mom like started texting the guy and that's it smoked him out that's amazing I would have died that's the biggest plot twist

what if that's happening the daughter Diane Keaton and oh yeah yeah it's complicated no something's gotta give something's gotta give what if we've got situation going on mom starts fucking

the boyfriend yeah wow I mean I don't respect that but like I respect it like it's a power fucking move yeah it's a power move okay we're gonna take a break and we'll be back okay guys we're back and uh let's hop into the rest hi megan you know i called so many times

i should probably just be on your podcast um but basically i'm 22 year 22 wow i'm 22 years old and i'm having issues with one of my best friends um she has kind of just been an asshole she blew me off on her birthday. I asked her to, uh, basically go out to brunch with me. And like, I was gonna, you know, plan this whole thing. And then I texted her the night before she didn't respond, text her in the morning. She didn't respond until like three o'clock, uh, in the afternoon. And she said, Oh, sorry. I was, I'm already out with people. Maybe, um, maybe some other time. And that kind of hurt my feelings. I was like, okay, whatever. And then she comes over to my neighbor's house all the time, but she doesn't even say hi to me. Um, I don't really

get to see her that often because we both work off the schedule but I'll pull up to my house and see that she's there and um I guess she just parks her car there when they go out but I don't know it's just kind of it kind of just like well I mean you can't like come see me or make time for me but you can go to my neighbor's house anyways um I really didn't say anything until the final straw I invited her to come to my college graduation I really wanted her there and I sent her a text about two months before and after she would go. She said, yes, absolutely, definitely, wouldn't miss it for the world. And then I made a Facebook page, invited literally everybody that I knew,

and she didn't respond to the invite. She didn't comment on any of the posts, and I know that she was on Facebook because she was posting other things. And she didn't show up. She didn't say happy graduation. She didn't say anything. So I texted her asking her why she was ignoring me, if I did something, or if she's ghosting me. And she said that she thought that it was impersonal and that I don't really reach out to her either.

And I just kind of thought it was bullshit because she's constantly going out drinking at night. She's always, always, always posting on her social media that she's out of the bar, that she's wasted, that she is you know going to all these different like i don't know events rodeos concerts whatever so i mean i don't know it does go both ways but she just kept turning that around on me because i was trying to be really nice um but i kind of just got fed up so uh i could really use some advice and thank you so much love you the rodeo is fucking great okay i know but like She just is listing off all of these things. I was like, are you just like on the stories for like events?

It was like a rager. It was a party. It was a shindig, a hoedown, a rodeo. Like that's what it felt like. I love that. I was like, no, but literally rodeo. Oh my God. Wow.

I mean. Cut her off. What is going on? Do you like her? She's not your friend. Yeah. Like, do you even like her? Who would not come to your college graduation if they were invited and they're your friend?

like your friend yeah it just like no one like that's not a like a thing like I when I went to my best friend's graduation and I like flew there to go like what like it's it's it's just like the idea that it's a impersonal thing I had like a friend like once even like we weren't even really great friends it was definitely like she put more effort into the friendship than I ever did but um she got the final straw for her was the fact that like for my birthday I didn't want to hang out with just her and that she was like well what do you mean like you're having all these people like that just like I'm your best friend I'm like not actually my best friend like but like it was one of those things that it was like I'm inviting you but it was like no that's like

this is the kind of this is the kind of friendship that I need from you and if you can't give me that then like you're not worth my time which at a certain point I'm like then fine like if that I can't give you that then go find that with somebody else and I think like I don't even think your friends necessarily like being possessive because it's like she's saying like oh that was a really impersonal thing and like it's not even that you at least wanted to have your friend in addition to other people she's out with other people and didn't even invite the girl literally next door yeah not hitting her up like this is not this sounds almost delusional yeah and if she's posting about her being out all the time like i get that is a two-way street that like

two people do kind of need to reach out to make a relationship work but if she's posting about being out all the time and like you're not like that's you're seeing someone who's like oh she looks busy like she hasn't invited me out to go do this stuff like she's making these plans I think also like I don't want to put like words and thoughts in your mouth in your mouth or your head but I don't think you like her I just don't think that you wanted to be the one that to get ditched I think like as I'm I'm kind of the person I'm like if someone I find out someone hates me I'm like pissed that I didn't hate them first that I'm like I'm pissed I waste all the time to be fucking nice to you like now i like i didn't even fucking like you but like now now i want to

win and i think like you have to reassess like assess like i don't think you want to be friends with this girl i just think that she's being so shitty that you don't want to then be the villain because you're not but like she's just going to paint you like that no matter what like i don't think she's going to see the error in her ways and do you really want to hang out with somebody who hasn't invited you to go do stuff for months and no you're ditched your like all of that stuff like you're just not a priority to her and it's not worth your time like a friend who wants like plain brunch and a whole day for your birthday like oh my god spend that time on some other friends who would like really appreciate that like at least say no I don't want to do that

it sounds like she's not even answering her yeah like I don't get it it's no that's just and you did nothing wrong I just don't think I think she's being a bitch and is trying to ghost you but when you ask as someone who's a ghost serial ghoster if you ask me if I'm ghosting I'm gonna say no and that's what she's saying she's like no of course not or I won't respond because that's what a true ghost true just fades away I don't know it made me sad yeah it's like weird like I don't know like she's just seeing her on social media and like I'm texting her but she's not responding like it's just it's it's have some self-respect yeah like I don't I don't even think the girls I mean she's being a bitch but like you're also like going way past your expiration

date like i don't why are you reaching out to her still yeah why are you even inviting her to your graduation if she ditched your birthday plans and is constantly next door and like i just people have to value themselves and take that as who she is now don't think about oh all the great times we had i really like her i really miss her you miss that relationship she's gone that's not fucking there and if that's not there and you see that relationship do you want that do you want you don't have this so yeah this is you're right it's a relationship that's way past its expiration date and i think like you seem like a very like understanding nice person who's trying to get it back to where it was before but unless you have two people who are making a conscious

effort like you're just about to be friends with the girl who's like a total bitch who doesn't give a shit about you you got a degree fuck her yeah a hundred bye goodbye mute her or just block yeah yeah it's too much yeah or block and just key your car that is interesting what you said though i feel like some people do have that thing where like if someone's going away they want them come back yeah it's just like they just can't let it go and i've like definitely done that before especially when like if if someone's treat a friend has treated me badly and i've taken it and i've let it happen and then they start turning around as if i've been the like the person who's been a bitch that's like psychological mind fuck and it's like and then when someone tells you like

you've been doing something and if you've been kind of like letting someone else kind of treat you like shit and like you've been taking it and then they tell you you've been treating them badly if you don't have like a crazy amount of confidence and like a ton of other friends to like compare and contrast the situation to if like that's really your like core friend then you can get in your own head and like I definitely was like am I being a bitch like am I not and then I got older and I was like oh no like I don't you don't need anybody who doesn't need you and like I've definitely like I can definitely even like when like dating if like I was dating a guy and like I was like if he started to pull away even if I wasn't that interested I would then be like oh no

now I'm more interested but I'm like I'm not you have to like sit back and realize and think like oh is this like a aspect of like i i want to fix this because like i truly think that like it's a misunderstanding i don't think it's a misunderstanding like i think you just want to fix this because like you want the old relationship and it really hurts to see someone i don't know it sucks when a friendship or a relationship ends and like you didn't want it to like you didn't ask for this to happen so you're doing you're putting like a hundred like 200 into it to try and like get it back because you didn't want it to end and you didn't consent to this ending you didn't ask her to do any of this stuff like it's not your idea but it's happening and you can't stop it from

happening like you just got to get yourself out of the situation and then you'll realize like a couple years down the road when you have like other friends who will be there for like anything like it's it's remarkable I definitely had my fair share of really terrible shitty friends and now I like have friends like Aislinn's in Canada right now and I was like when are you coming home she goes oh well let me know what you want to do for your birthday and I'll come back either like three like right around like either like three days before your birthday if we want to do something like after like i'll come all the time i was like oh wow okay cool like that's just like you're just gonna like fly home and like be here for my birthday cool and it's like you know

like the friends who will just like be there when you need shit and you don't have to like i don't know you shouldn't pull teeth for somebody to be your friend exactly and it's also not a friendship because then you're not gonna feel comfortable asking for support or anything because you're gonna be afraid she's gonna like peace out at any moment sometimes things just run their course yeah like maybe y'all just outgrown each other maybe she's scared to say it and like yeah just can't deal with it I think I've been in that situation before too oh yeah it's like I don't want to hang out with someone but I like think of an excuse at least I won't just not reply but it's just like it is awkward sometimes when you grow apart and it's like why are we hanging

out like yeah are we just remembering what we used to do when we have nothing in common anymore um but it's like how do you vocalize that and it's hard because it's like are both people on the same page at the same time or are you not and then if you're like if you feel like the relationships run its course and you still keep like hanging out are you getting like frustrated and like is there animosity and like it just becomes this like very awkward thing because rarely are both people on the same page at the same time on to the next your playlist might get you through the workday but have you ever wondered how your ancestors spent theirs what work helped them build a life how did they adapt as the world around them changed with ancestry you can search

select historical occupational records for free for a limited time and discover the stories behind the jobs in your family tree you've got questions we've got ancestors search free until august 31st Visit Ancestry.ca for details. Terms apply. I am 21 years old and I'm calling about a boy. So I recently, like in the last month, was broken up with. We were together for a year and he kind of dumped me suddenly. um, pretty much for the whole relationship. I was kind of a support for him. I mean, I have my own apartment with a roommate. I'm in school. I have my own job and I'm financially

independent. Um, he still lives at home and works and is kind of doing the community college thing, kind of not. So I kind of just supported him financially. There was a period of time when he lived with me so I mean things were kind of pretty one-sided looking back um from an emotional standpoint as well I never really felt supported uh leading up to our breakup uh he had actually gotten me pregnant and he broke up with me pretty much at the start of my abortion process so I went through that alone and I know that's like all these reasons are enough

to be done with the person but after a month of being broken up he reached out again and wanted to get back together and you know has been like catering to me the past week that we've been in contact and really wanting

to get back together and I've just kind of been enjoying having the friend back but last night I found out that while we were broken up he had sex with a girl you know that had kind of been a problem for us for a while and I'm just not really sure how to handle it um he'd been lying to me for the whole week telling me that they hadn't had sex and his friend just kind of like drunkenly blurted it out and i just i don't know i feel like everything is telling me to be done with this guy but i love

him so much and he seems so apologetic that i just i don't know what to do so any advice would help i hope this isn't too long bye girl have bonnie from monterey push him down the stairs literally this is a mess yeah it's like is his rent due is he like honestly what does he need did he find out the other girl couldn't pay for shit lying like lied about it not even coming back clean like coming back out the gate just dirty you need to stop it yeah you and also like a guy like a guy who's going to break up with you when you're going through an abortion and then comes back after is not a that's a boy that is a little fucking boy who's like oh okay so I'm back now like I'm really apologetic like that's that's like someone like if you would like

a like a oh I don't want to compare it to that but like if you have something like where like something traumatic happens in your life that they're like oh I'm gonna break up and then once you're doing awesome and like you're like you've moved through that like that period of time that they come back like he doesn't want to be there with you when he actually has to do something like when you can't be when you need support and you need like even not even financial support you need like emotional support and just like a partner he's gonna peace out until he feels like oh she's probably ready to like come like let me mooch off of her again like there's certain things I like I surprise I mean I hold grudges but like there are like I've forgiven people from

for shitty things that they've done but like and I understand what you mean by saying like oh he seems like incredibly apologetic there are some things that but there are some things that like but that that that don't apply that that doesn't apply to he can't be apologetic for that because that's a like that's a fucking like heathen like fucking devil terrible person going straight to hell sociopath kind of move like that's a block you don't that's you don't move past that you don't move past someone who's like oh I'm like we like we're pregnant and like we're gonna terminate this abortion and they're like I'm gonna break up with you like that's not something that you move past and like he's just a shit a shit shit shit guy and there's like

there's no way around it like you had a year of it and you also had all of this clarity and I think now like you felt really abandoned at a time when you really needed him and 20 yeah and like you can be pissed off and like you should be really angry but then when he comes back like he's playing to the fact that he had your emotions for a year and you just need to recognize like anyone who's not gonna be with you through that like also even a guy who even shitty guys guys who aren't as shitty as him but like even shitty guys would stay with a girl through an abortion and break up with her six months after my friend got abortion in college and she went back home with her parents when she was going through it and her boyfriend like went home with her and stayed with her and

took care of her during all of that and they're married now with other kids so it's just like it's just not it's not a comment it's not a thing like that's also isn't the story you tell your grandkids like yeah well then this is this is what happened and this is how we got together like you know anyone with a heart can't i can't believe what i just heard i'm in shock like this is the kind of thing that people are like oh i want to break up with my girlfriend but i'm going to fucking wait because this is not a time if someone breaks up with you after an abortion on your birthday even a week before your birthday major holiday funeral family trauma anything like that like that is someone who does not get a fucking free pass no like even shitty guys

would stick through and continue to be there for you at all and he's still lying like yeah why are you always lying look i know you're she's 21 now right yeah you see i know what that feels like not that yeah but just that young relationship and like thinking he's apologetic when he comes back and like you have to see the bigger picture as you grow up you're going to see that this guy is trash and he is not your be-all end-all right now and you need to like really look at what play back what you just said and think about it because that is ridiculous that's so i'm like hurting for her yeah because that's just disrespect and i feel like where are your friends like they should be stopping all of this from happening your parents i don't know your situation i'm

sorry if it's bad but like the people in your life yeah if they know this went down there's no way this guy should even be around no it it's 100 it's true and i think like you need to think about it in the sense that like take your feelings out of it and like you said like tell the story back to you but yourself but tell it in like a way and I'm not going to say like no one should compare their life to a movie but let's just say let's say don't it's not a horror movie try and compare your movie your life to a romantic comedy can you make so boy meets girl started out he she was paying for his entire life and supporting him financially and emotionally all of that then she got pregnant they got pregnant she got an abortion he broke up with her during all of that then he

came back slept with another girl all of that stuff like is that a romantic story and is that a story that you hear people talk about and that they move past because there are so many people talk about like whether it's cheating that they moved past that and they get their relationship grew but that's something that you can talk about if the things that he did were so terrible that you don't feel like you could tell your family if you have a relationship if like friends that you couldn't see yourself telling your kids that this is the story of how you got together or if your friend said like oh this is where we're at like does this sound like if you had a year of this that does not does not a good relationship make you don't that like that's not like one

industry like that's not one mistake that's not one thing that you're able to move past like that's a relationship you had a bad relationship because he's a bad fucking guy and that doesn't change you can he can say that he's sorry but he clearly clearly isn't and like the the fact that he didn't even tell you like oh yeah I like slept with someone we were broken up which by the way he's allowed to do if you break up he's allowed to sleep with someone else but the fact that his friend also said that to me that friend is trying to protect you from him you lied about it why are you lying you were single and it's a girl that was causing problems before so he was probably sleeping with her before it's just not it's not worth it and like this isn't a like i can only

say like it isn't a love story you love him but this is not a love story this is not a romantic story and i've definitely loved shitty guys through shitty things that they've done but like the older that i get and moving past all of it like you realize like oh i can love you but this doesn't this I can love somebody else and I can have a I deserve a better love than this it doesn't mean that this wasn't love that doesn't mean that that relationship like is like you should have never done it like I'm not saying any of that like you can love somebody despite the fact that like they don't love you how you should be loved back and that that relationship is not going to move forward like when you fall in love it can be so hard because you think like oh one true love like

when I fall in love like that's how I'm gonna know you can love people that you like have not ended up with like i don't i truly think that like age-wise like i loved my 16 year old boyfriend but i loved him as much as i could as for a fucking like 16 to like 17 18 year old and then as i like dated and like moved on and like dated other guys like i loved someone else as much as i could love somebody when i was like 21 and then now i'm like 25 like i like the love that i have for months now like it's so much bigger than that love that i had at 16 but that's not saying that that wasn't real love or that didn't exist or whatever but it's also knowing that when you go through something really shitty just because you love him doesn't mean like oh I have to stick

through this because this is it like you're gonna fall in love again yeah I think you need like girlfriends right now and I think you just need I don't know I don't want to say it sounds like you're I you have been isolated by him but it does like if that's an like a mode like an emotionally like one-sided relationship which I think can also be like a neglectful abusive relationship and you need to separate yourself from him to see that and you need to spend time with your friends you need to like let just spend time with like other women and other like people who just like there's no there's no like ulterior motive there aside just to support you because I think also like you went through this thing you went through this alone and I think just like

where are the roommates she says she has roommates oh yeah and he was over there maybe they're not her yeah but I think you need to like if he was the person that you relied on I think like you need to open up to some other people and if you don't have a ton of close friends like start by like reaching out like I think like especially when you're in your early 20s like it's really hard to make friends and people really appreciate when other people reach out and make some friends and really like let other people in like it's so hard I'm currently learning how to do that in therapy where it's like if you only have one person that you open up to and share with and if it's not beneficial for you and or you don't even have that ability to do that then you don't

do it but that doesn't mean you're not you can't deal with everything alone like you need to kind of talk stuff out with friends and even if you dealt with the abortion on your own and you didn't confide in people like confide now like you didn't have that then but like you can still have conversations with people about this and like open up and heal from that because you were it's like a it got abandoned in a time when you really needed somebody and I think now more than ever know that you that that's that's a level of like respect that's like a bare minimum level of respect that you should have from the people in your life and this should be the new like wow i'm never gonna like let anyone friend family member relationship anyone treat me like that

ever fucking again like this should be like the cut off move forward yeah you will look back oh my god i hope she's okay yeah if she keeps messing around with this no no don't do it i can't i'm gonna be consumed with this i'm worried about her because that is toxic it is it's super toxic and if you can afford it therapy and if you can't she's in school she can go to therapist at school yeah talk about that you're yeah yeah we're telling you to be done everyone in your life i'm sure is telling you to be done so you're done you're welcome you're already done goodbye and if he tries to slip his way back and call me oh we will show up in my new jeep beep beep run you over bitch oh god what a fucking dick so now it's time for don't blame them and this is a segment

where listeners call in with their own advice and experience on previous episodes so you know if someone pretend for chances hit their ex with a car and they're like oh dumb that let me tell you how it went this is when they would call him all right so the original call was from an eminem episode episode uh me and eminem eminem wasn't on the podcast yeah um season four episode four the original caller she had a friend that was very into herself and the girl thought that everyone

was in love with her and she also thought that she was going to be like a pop singer but she couldn't sing she was also in love with a guy who was gay who had a boyfriend and she was like no he's not she's also in love well she thinks that her friend's boyfriend is in love with her too

but here's someone calling with some advice Hi, Megan. I am calling as a response to the June 2 episode that was just posted with Mel regarding the girl who has the delusional friend. And with those types of people that are really, really, really in their own world, I have found that you honestly just have to wait for shit to hit the fan. I have a little bit of a different situation. I have had a friend since 10th grade, and I'm 23 now. He is a really bad, compulsive liar, not in any way that has ever been harmful or malicious. Just like, oh, I'm going to play volleyball at Hawaii State for college when he didn't even apply.

Like, very, very strange lies that don't do him any good, that don't do anybody else any good. Like, ask him where he was five minutes ago, and he'll say the bathroom when he was driving to the restaurant. Like, very, very strange things. And I feel like this chick is, like, kind of in the same headspace, which I would love to understand. Um, but it turned out that I stopped being friends with him because he just this past year because he bought a car from my boyfriend and, um, did some shady stuff and then didn't pay some of the money and then made this big, big lie about why it's like it was not his fault and why it was my boyfriend's fault or ex-boyfriend's fault. and um it destroyed their friendship and and you know of course I'm going to take my boyfriend's side especially because I know that this is a pattern but like this chick already did something to hurt you like she already went to the extent of saying that your boyfriend was in love with her

and for me that would have ended the friendship right now or right there but honestly I think that you should probably just cut ties with this person because it really didn't seem like you like her at all um and it doesn't seem like she really like benefits you like you you should be with hang out with people that benefit you i think um make you a better person whatever and just she just seemed very annoying um but yeah my advice is to drop her before she hurts you even more so uh megan love you mel love you thanks for the podcast lady oh do you know what that girl's life reminded me of though confessions of a teenage drama queen oh my gosh that girl was a one-time number one billboard hot 100 hit honestly though deserved so fucking deserved i when i was a little

kid i used to like in preschool apparently i like lied about shit all the time um which like makes sense because like i like wanted to be an actor and also like i probably should have gone to like a child therapist but uh i used to like say i was like i went to disneyland i would just like come up with like elaborate stories but like i just loved the attention i'm just saying but younger but yeah and like i got older and then i was like fuck i don't want to lie like that you get caught in that shit that is so odd you look like such an idiot everyone's like why are you lying like and it's not even anything about like it's like why did you just lie about where you were like it's so odd so fucking odd but i think that's the advice the advice rings true why

I don't get why why do people keep these people in their lives that are not good that they don't like that are doing dumb stuff like where do you have the time I'm we're serial ghosters like if I don't like someone like first of all I'm like not gonna hang out with you like I'm I'm not gonna I'm gonna suss you out for a fucking long time before we're actually friends like it's gonna take a lot and these to me these are people who like it's easy to be they're friends with lots of people and it's like easy to become friends with them and then it's like oh well like you know it's like if you keep your circle small you can't stand shit like this you know you can't

because like you're like i'm not gonna waste like i've got like i've got a small bench i'm not gonna fucking waste my bench with like like billy like the lying asshole like just about everything when you have people that treat you right and vibe with like it's not even this is a mess like it's such these are people who had like big pre-prom groups just like huge groups of friends and my pre-prom pictures with sydney it's literally like we are just talking to each other laughing the whole time and everybody else is like doing these like specific poses and we're like laughing at all of them like clearly we were just friends with each other but yeah i don't know i i think like you know 2020 and 2019 and my 26th birthday for all of you is coming up um so this should be the

year my 26th birthday should be the year that all of you get rid of your shitty fucking friends For your birthday. Yeah, that's right. That's your gift. Your playlist might get you through the workday, but have you ever wondered how your ancestors spent theirs? What work helped them build a life? How did they adapt as the world around them changed?

With Ancestry, you can search select historical occupational records for free for a limited time and discover the stories behind the jobs in your family tree. You've got questions. We've got ancestors. Search free until August 31st. 31st visit ancestry.ca for details terms apply that's what that is my gift to you and that's the gift i want from all of you guys is to stop being friends with fucking shitty people like it's just not it should be it's a waste of time worth it like who even wants to do that like you

could spend your time with so much other stuff just by yourself with people you like watching like just it's not the stress the things that i'm hearing make absolutely no sense and they shit they bring isn't unique like oh they're nice lots of people are nice i mean i might not be one of them all the time but like there are night if like nice is your right like criteria they're really nice people aren't gonna like oh your boyfriend's in love with me i would just laugh i'd be like what that would have pissed me off i'm glad i wasn't here that week because she would have got it because that's a mess and what do you look like being friends with someone who's talking about they're playing volleyball at hawaii yeah that's so weird like that's i'd be like what do

you like if you're lying that much i'm like are you hiding like are you like addicted to pills like are you like hiding something really really massive that you're like i need to lie about every other thing in my life how you are friends with someone you can't trust that's crazy so weird what do you talk about like what it's like hey what'd you do today and it's like oh i'm not gonna listen to what you said because it's all fucking lies like what are you what can you talk about i saved a panda from a freeway pile up like what is going on like oh really where he's like oh man weird he's like going to the beach we're in a landlocked state yeah i flew here my parents like what the fuck too much that's so weird that's so fucking that's a series

yeah i was like a netflix series or something yeah just a pathological and then you find out he's not actually lying and he just like really is like right i gotta get my private jet he's actually hopping on one and you're like oh my god he can actually like fly the jet oh my god and he's got all that shit he's like yeah i live in a mansion you're like no you fucking don't and then you realize he lit all of that shit yeah like he's like been like in the guest house because he doesn't want it yeah oh my god we should write it yeah you should write it i'll be good god well that's it for our episode i'm so sad you have to come back that's it i know we'll come back you're fucking great we'll just have you we'll keep having you

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