Don't Blame Me! - SYNT: But Am I Wrong Results- Boyfriend is Too Close to His Girl Friend

Episode Date: August 20, 2024

Meghan and Melisa share the results from: Boyfriend is Too Close to His Girl Friend. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

hello happy happy tuesday welcome to see you next tuesday the podcast where we read you the exactly you caught exactly what i said i don't even need to repeat myself but i will just you know i assume you heard it where we read the results of last week's episode of but am i wrong and this was the one that was a wee bit of a clusterfuck so my apologies this was the one that accidentally went up before the other one um and was mislabeled so i just again want to extend my apologies everybody and uh let you all know that melissa did in fact send me a text this week when she sent me the votes with all caps saying next week and i was like perfect perfect perfect. I didn't know if you saw it. I did. I've been out of it for the last couple of days or the

last couple of weeks. Well, this is for one Oh, Nope. This is no one 10. Yep. It's labeled as one Oh nine. Everyone it's one 10 and let's hop into it. First up, Megan wants to get rid of non-Olympic sports in the Olympics. 27% said I was wrong. 73% said I was not wrong. honestly i'm torn on this one well i do believe that each sport has a time and a place and with nfl finals and etc they get enough recognition i agree that if a certain sport is played worldwide there should be a chance for them to go to the olympics and tbh if we're taking olympic break dancing seriously we may as well throw in whatever we want in there so it turns out we're actually not that response was a little premature yes so i did some digging about this um because was i

obsessed with watching break dancing yes moths did make us turn it off because he's like i actually can't watch us any longer yeah each hosting country gets the opportunity to introduce one potential sport that only for like that year and they can opt to upgrade it um do you know what um los angeles is suggesting we have two squash which might be like a bigger one but the one that i know for sure that la said is lacrosse and i said months oh no we had this conversation yeah but like it is your chance to get out there on the field get your little stick with your little net start training with me because he kept saying he was like there's no way that that's gonna work because he's like first of all like not even every state in like the country plays

lacrosse like it's not big everywhere and he's like it's really not international he's like this feels like we're rigging another sport so he gave another medal and i was like yeah and okay so you say rigging i say strategic gameplay right so um yeah but i read about that break dancer about how she got her like did her dissertation in the history of it have you seen like the other i'm doing this is my but am i wrong so perfect okay so we won't go into it too much um yeah so rip to olympic break dancing i'm obsessed with the fact that like you knew they were so not confident in like how it works that they were like we're just gonna trust the experts on this and that's why they had a panel of like 20 judges because they're like i don't know how you judge it

yep um but also it was because uh ballroom dancing has been trying to get in and it's part of the world dancing federation or something like that and so ballroom dancing has been trying to get in they keep getting denied but they're like oh breaking is a little cool or maybe they'll accept it it was accepted but then it's not accepted so also ballroom dancing is exponentially like more worldwide recognition i would say so like you would think that that would be what they would put in first well some people don't consider it a sport they think of it as an art why a lot of people consider also with breaking people consider that an art and not a sport and like even the people that compete in it they're like this is an artistic thing that

you don't really yeah you score on like this so that's why one a lot of like the people that we see on corners that can dance exponentially better than what we were seeing on screen they didn't either either didn't participate or something that's prevalent in the community same with why there's so many children in the skateboarding category is because you're smoking weed is very prevalent so therefore they do not qualify yeah i was i won't lie though i was a little excited to see breakdancing in lx i was about to be like you bitches about to get eaten the fuck up like we're gonna we're gonna pull over the man who paints himself silver from hollywood boulevard and like you guys are fucked like we're about to crush you again like walk

down the street you're fine like you're we're gonna we're gonna have the best fucking team ever Even when I lived in Arkansas, in the bus terminal, the bus where people, the school, not school bus, but the university buses, there'd just be people practicing in there. And I was like, those people were exponentially better than what I'm seeing. What I saw on TV was similar to a guy I grew up with who decided he was going to become a B-boy. Melissa, when I tell you that I would be refreshing my Facebook every week waiting for his new upload because it was quite similar to the australian um and specifically i loved it because i watched it in college where at like southern california specifically ie some of the

best dancing ever like all of our fraternities and sororities were also like oh like half of them are clipper girls half of them are laker girls the guys are like choreographing fucking music videos like they're performing the vmas with people like great dancing so i did feel i was like this is very marin coated just like a white girl coming in here and being like watch me watch me do the elevator watch me do the staircase sprinkler oh my gosh um did anyone else write in for this there we go i love olympic basketball there are some things precious to me about watching all the pros relax because they aren't used to playing with a team full of people on their level it's kind of cute they're like having so much fun oh also the u.s crushes every olympic so the one

season where i get to be patriotic i will choose to keep the sports that i know we're good at you know that's also fair and i will say i have changed my stance on basketball somewhat just from seeing the lebron and steph edits like i i was loving that because as a as a warrior's girl um lebron is not someone that we um necessarily love and adore but then seeing them together i was like oh my god it's like your cousins who what i was gonna say that's literally what i was saying though i know but i saw all the edits because i wasn't watching them play together um but then when i watched the edits i was like oh no this is it's like you finally stop you finally stop fighting and like we can all kind of and now i'm like you know we're back to it but i was like

okay you're right this is this is pretty sweet um but i only changed my stance on um basketball that's it i don't change my stance on any of those sports what were the other ones well okay but i did also throw the caveat last time that i specifically mean the men's sports because like women should be going to the olympics point and we dominated the olympics for america so yeah and so like women yes uh but i don't need um golf at all um i don't i didn't see one highlight one clip one person talking about golf in the olympics no i don't even know when it was it wasn't even watching the recaps on Peacock they didn't talk about it at all Mott's didn't even watch it Mott's had no does he and he likes to just sit and watch golf he likes watching golf

on YouTube from like tournaments from like 18 years ago and he was like why would I watch Olympic golf like it's stupid like no so I think that needs to be gone women can say um soccer again the women can stay tennis again the women can say but also with tennis like they i don't yeah and i'm against tennis especially because in two weeks they're my issue doing the is it the whatever the thing what's in new york uh u.s open yes which i recently learned that um you can get free tickets to the first week or two um when they're warming up per se uh so i might try to go one year yeah mott and i would love to do that that would be a good old fun time but yeah like i just think even mott suggested he goes oh i wonder if

they'll um they'll uh play tennis in in palm springs and i said in august no there's no like first of all if they say that that's where they're going to be playing because like there is a huge tennis tournament there but it's in february i was like if they say that it's palm springs in august i'm gonna promise you nobody is coming no to play it's on the website hold on la what was it la 28 is the website yeah did you sign up for the alerts oh i think so let me double check it's gonna be in Carson so still fucking hot the tennis center in Carson yeah so those are ones that I'm like out on and also they're reintroducing I know they're introducing softball again but I think they're reintroducing baseball we don't need that um we do need softball because women

are playing yeah but they're it's gonna be in Oklahoma I know which we're gonna talk about on Fisting Friday because I found out something else was going to be in Oklahoma and I'm so upset. So, yeah, I will say basketball is the only thing that I've changed my mind on.

Okay. I think that is officially it. Okay. Alright, then mine is Melissa says men's gymnastics needs more sparkle. Someone said their outfits also need more sparkle it just looks like they're warming up another person said melissa's not wrong i saw a something maybe megan said it that said that women's gymnastics is beautiful incredible

athletic and men's gymnastics has an air of mommy mommy look what i can do oh my god someone else said feels like the only issue is the music they'll be playing is probably boring, straight music like Drake. They need cunty music or at least play Kendrick. I disagree with that. After seeing interviews, I think that our team, that they would pick exactly what we want. The U.S. team? Yeah. Yeah. The U.S. men's team. They're all girly pop. As a girly for equality, I definitely agree. Women and men's gymnastics both take incredible strength and balance. If the girls can do all that and add beautiful songs and dance, then these men can give us a cute little twirl and whirl. I agree. All right. That's it. Then we have writer number

one. Would they be wrong to ask their boyfriend to take a step back from his friendship with a woman? 31% of the writer is wrong. 69% of the writer is not wrong. Someone said, in the grand scheme of things, as y'all said, if their boyfriend actually cared, the writer wouldn't have to feel burdened to ask him to take a step back. Any person who respects their partner wouldn't put them in position couldn't put them in this type of situation no matter how much trust you think you built with your partner there's still a level of respect that you have to follow when it comes to friendships the fact that he didn't establish boundaries in the first place and had these issues in a previous relationship just shows his unhealthy patterns there's no way his female

friend isn't aware of how this comes off and i wouldn't be surprised if she thought slash wanted something to be going on between them that's what i agree i that's without a doubt my stance very will sit he fully knows and she and she does too like everybody knows um i think the writer should ask to meet the girlfriend and post it as oh i want to meet the person who the people who are closest to you and feel it out that way more evidence is needed to determine wrong or not wrong i think controlling who your partner can hang out with is always wrong so i can't vote for that that being said the partner in question is an asshole about this and he is wrong he definitely is doing this on purpose and messing with the writer's feelings and knows this hurts her and

makes her uncomfortable and insecure. He manipulates her to quote unquote be okay with them hanging out by telling her about the ex situation having to go behind her back. I personally think he probably just cheated on his girlfriend with this girl just by hanging out with her behind her ex's back. That's cheating to me. Doesn't matter that the ex was wrong for telling him to not hang out with her. Break up, but don't lie. This relationship is not healthy. I can't imagine this is the only thing that he gaslights her about. Big word I know, but that's what it sounds like to me and i know i can't judge that from just this one specific situation but it just gives me an icky feeling yep yep yep yep it's difficult but there's definitely a conversation

to be had my boyfriend's best friend in flatmate is a girl and since i met her he has been very forthcoming about their friendship and wanting us to pursue one which we have i love her and we get along so well we've had a very open conversation about how i felt about their friendship and closeness so it never becomes an issue when it would seem like she's coming in between us or would be a quote-unquote threat to our relationship the writer needs to have a pretty serious tough conversation about her feelings and boundaries with the boyfriend and if he doesn't honor that then there's an issue of trust being intentionally broken even if nothing is going on writer is wrong if she hasn't put an effort to get to know the girl and see their interactions irl if she has

and still raising red flags then she's not wrong i disagree i think that the boyfriend is the one that needs to initiate the friendship though yeah i think if you are the one who you have to go out of the way to do that then to me it's not just that you're that the boyfriend is sus it's the other girl too because like i think if the boyfriend is telling the girl the female friend oh like don't reach out like she's like don't judge my girlfriend like she's like really not like like that or whatever but if you're trying and they're both like shutting it down then to me i'm like yeah no no you don't just then have a boyfriend problem that like he doesn't respect your boundaries like I think something is going on I also think it's the girl's responsibility as

well you know because like that's also my I don't necessarily like I can like love and trust my friend but I also don't necessarily know what you're saying to your girlfriend and like how as a woman I would feel and like maybe not your intention but like how that comes across and so like my reputation is also on the line there so like I we both have said this before and like done this in our personal lives like i as the friend will be going out of my way to have a friendship with you uh and not put that on the new girlfriend right at all that's it all right then writer number two are they wrong for wanting to ask their boyfriend to stop telling them about his day 32 said the writer's wrong 68 said the writer is not wrong someone said this

boyfriend is purposely grossing you out tell him to stop being graphic and if it doesn't work he deserves one small rock in his shoe daily until he does stop someone else said time and place and he did it at her birthday dinner that quote honestly works because time and place dude i don't know what that is it's tati westbrook talking about james charles she goes sucking dick and cock time and place we were at my birthday dinner someone said it's hard for me to believe that the writer's boyfriend doesn't get a rise out of knowing that this irritates them even if it isn't a malicious way it could be something along the lines of look at all the cool things I get to do at my job that you could never do not necessarily trying to villainize the

boyfriend but he is a man so but if you really wanted to be considerate of the writer's feelings he definitely would know how to alter his stories to still inform her about his day without making her squeamish then we have my wrong of the week danielle bernstein 97 said she is wrong three percent said she is not wrong i like when you sent it to me you said rachel bernstein and i was like i love that oh is that what it said yep and i was like not on purpose but it was like a freudian slip like it's exactly as it should be and i and i seems like a rachel no without a doubt i'm sure that was like i'm sure she's done a tiktok video about like names i was almost named listen to this crazy rachel it's like yeah checks out fitting um someone replied and said over the past three

weeks i was on a work trip in colorado and one of my cats got sick he ended up being fine there was just a day or so where he was throwing up a lot the way that i was almost in tears dramatic i know on the phone with the vet trying to book him the appointment stressing for a day and a half trying to make sure someone could pick him up and get him back to my apartment i was one step away from buying a plane ticket to go home to make sure everything was fine i can't imagine what if my animal is having cancer then going on a trip even if she was hoping to be engaged on that trip i would hope your partner would advise your number advise you number one to not post dumb shit on the internet or number two postpone the trip in order to take care of your terminally ill pet even if

this whole charade was about keeping up a good image on the internet by acting like she cares about things other than herself she's doing an insanely bad job at that um yeah yeah yeah you that is spot on um just an update for everybody she actually did not get engaged she definitely thought she would because she was wearing white outfits pretty much the entire time um and then she also was like posting a q a and i've been like oh my gosh like how do you guys like split the cost for this and then this i find quite embarrassing um for someone who like thought this was her engagement trip was like we split the cost of all of this and i was like so is she implied at first it was kind of like a work trip it's not like they went for fun and then also i

was like i don't think this is your engagement trip like you bought this and then like a lot of people are thinking that maybe he didn't split so much of the cost i don't know how much money this guy's making and it was like it was giving the vibes that like she planned this trip paid for the trip and was like hoping that his his his half would be getting proposing and that didn't happen um and then she like posted photos of like i guess their hotel room and it's like oh my god look what he did like it's like there's roses everywhere and like he's taking me to like a michelin star restaurant blah blah and everyone's like i've been to this hotel before like they just do this for people like this is not he didn't do this so she didn't get engaged and uh her dog still

has cancer so how embarrassing for her so but to be i she has a humiliation king she absolutely has to at this point she also like launched a whole jewelry line of like crosses and was like i love this aesthetic is she jewish yes and like specifically she's like picking like old like italian crop like specific like ones that i go to me it's giving the pope is a pedophile like this is not the era of catholicism i would like romanticize as being like fashionable you know yeah i'm like this is fucking weird okay that's it all right and then my proposal was gavin newsom 97 said that newsom is wrong three percent said he is not wrong someone said listen earlier today and i already forgot

who this is but i see white man and i know he's wrong your assessment he's giving like bad like you know when Fitz is like being a dick and you're like you're doing everything wrong this is the era of that he's giving it's like but it's like one week he'll do something great in the next week and it's been like that for the last couple years it's like every other week he just actually since the pandemic everything shut down but me and my friends are going hawaii out to eat no it is giving like what is it season once olivia after they break up and she moves out of the white house and he's just like and then he does something you're like oh okay he's back and then he just fucks it up again and this is what that's giving

it's giving late seasons fits and that's i need you to clean it up and i actually haven't finished the last season so i don't know if i want him to end on the same note but i'll um hopefully watch and report back you should finish it i don't want to we're why haven't you because i i am with a man who i love dearly but he loves he needs to binge a show but then he will inevitably get tired of it right before it ends so usually in the last if it like depending on how many seasons it is but i swear to god if it's two seasons he will get tired of it halfway through the second one if it's six seasons he'll get tired of it halfway through season five 12 seasons we can get up to where we literally have the last one left and he finally came back around

and we're watching blacklist again but the issue is he always wants to start from the beginning and i go we're never gonna finish if you do this you're gonna get burnt out again so we're we picked up blacklist where we left off and my goal is to finish blacklist and then he will hopefully let us finish scandal and then i want to finish criminal minds because we have the last we have the season finale of that one left which i had that one left before we even started dating um and he he'll want to watch all that again i'm like no we have to just finish it yeah there i mean i have a list of shows that i haven't finished but scandalous i know that's one of them that i actually re-watched the um pilot the other day i was watching the pilot for a few shows

scandal was one of them we did also watch the season finale of lost because we gave up and we were like let's just skip ahead and watch season finale i'll never watch that show so the way that jj abrams was essentially like you gave me all this money and i wanted to make this a movie you guys made me make this a fucking tv show with all these seasons i'm gonna make like he i on purpose he was trolling like he trolled with it and everybody's so confused the entire wikipedia page for it is like up for interpretation of being like i get or maybe but like what and i was like oh he literally is like like you fuckers and i was like good god i don't like planes so i will never watch that show that's fair you don't need to watch the show yeah it doesn't have a

satisfying ending no it and also again it's it's a mini series it should have been one season and he clearly wanted to see one season and they were like keep pushing it forward um and so they're not even necessarily like loose ends to tie up there's just like string everywhere it's just like a hair ball all right then and then someone else said the hate that people have for unhoused people actually disgust me these people literally have nothing left and are doing their best to keep things afloat and all these dumbasses want to do is take money away from them and continue to displace them. It's almost as if we fix the problem of people being unhoused by giving them safe shelter, food, and ability to get suitable and ethical work, and if they need it, giving

them a safe way to handle managed substance usage would actually fix the problem of these overcrowding the cities. Continuing to move them around just relocates the problem and creates even more chaos. This is disgusting, and I truly can't fathom how someone can have that much hate inside of them well said yep that is it for this episode we hope you all enjoyed thank you for writing in don't forget to write in and vote for for last week's episode um we will be reading the results again and we've got all of our other podcasts that you have to look forward to this week we have a new episode of but am i wrong as well as i came out yesterday you're right we have a new episode of don't blame me that's coming out on thursday and then we have fisting friday

which we're gonna we're gonna gab we're gonna talk we're gonna chat all right fist you later this isn't fisting friday we'll see you next tuesday i'm struggling so hard