Drama Queens - Sophia Answers Fans' Questions!
Episode Date: June 10, 2026In this special Pride Month fan Q&A, Sophia gets candid about everything from coming out and finding the courage to be fully yourself to the surprisingly personal fear she’s working to balan...ce alongside the excitement she’s feeling about her upcoming memoir. Plus, Sophia shares some practical packing tips, her presidential picks and why she can never go incognito. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Hi, everyone. It's Sophia.
Welcome to Work in Progress.
Welcome back to Work in Progress, friends.
Happy Pride.
We are a week into celebrating love in June.
And we've gotten so many questions from folks lately that we felt like maybe this week we do another Q&A.
It's been a while.
So let us dive right in.
Thank you for your questions.
You know, some of them are very vulnerable.
Some of them are very nerdy and sweet.
Some of them really need to think.
And I, yeah, I just love this stuff with you guys.
So let's dive right in on the subject of the month.
B said, happy pride.
I am ready to come out to my parents.
They're cool.
but I'm still nervous. Can you hype me up?
Oh, dear one, yes.
Here's what I think about that.
No matter where things fall on the scale for you in your own house,
whether your parents are pretty cool or very affirming of people,
queer people in the world,
or even if your parents might be whatever they are,
that might make you feel afraid.
Coming out is a big deal
because it forces you to integrate things.
You might not realize you'd been carrying all your life.
You know, you learn as a queer person who is not out.
I also would sidebar for a moment and say
people who experience domestic violence learn this.
people who have experienced sexual violence and not talked about this, learn this,
you learn to reduce and perform.
You withhold a part of yourself while performing like a whole self.
You keep something back for fear of that violence in the world.
Or if you have very prejudiced parents for some folks listening,
you withhold because you're afraid of that violence at home.
It is a very intense thing, I think, as a person to come to terms with what you have withheld
in order to perform.
You know, it was something I had to realize, even for myself, in as affirming a person
as I've always been, as a ride or die supporter of my community, that I've always been,
as someone who has been pretty damn open, playing characters across the spectrum,
and knowing that that mattered, that even my own desire to not have every single relationship
I was ever in, you know, chopped up for parts out in the world, my desire for some mode of
privacy, even though I don't think I thought for a moment. I had a desire not to specifically share
my identity. I felt like I'd been sharing it on screen for 20 years. My desire for privacy was in a way
of protection against the violence, the violation of being used for clicks and tabloids and gossip.
And it was really a surprising thing to realize that that, in a way, had also reduced me.
And so I share all of that only to say, in whatever way you feel like it's all going to be okay,
there's still a part of you that's withholding, and there's still a part of you that's required to perform because of that.
And performing is exhausting, sweetheart.
it's it's tiring it takes more energy in the day than a than a human body normally has and so
especially for you be if you feel ready and you do think your parents are going to be cool about it
i'd say go for it go for it be your full self with your family and the world because the
the deep breath you will take when you stop performing is
going to give you something, I would wager you didn't even know you were missing. So good luck to you.
And I hope you are met with every ounce of being seen so you really know what it feels like
to see yourself in the world. Sammy takes a left turn and says, you're always on the go.
What are some of your travel rituals and packing hacks and jet lag cures? Girl, this is something
I could talk about for days.
I still keep a running note in my phone about how to travel better.
Like, ooh, I might need this.
Ooh, I might need that.
I love to have things that are always in my carry-on bag.
I recently ordered a bunch of little mesh zipper pouches.
And one has safety pins, tide sticks, shout wipes,
because sometimes when you're on the go and you spill something,
you don't have time to get something dry cleaned or laundered
and you've got to figure it out yourself.
I have another one of those that has all the tech things I need.
An HTML cable, if I want to plug my laptop
and to watch something on the TV in the hotel,
two extra iPhone chargers.
I always have a charging brick.
I keep an extra set of AirPods and an extra set of wired headphones
in my bag at all times.
and because I have a podcast, I keep a set of wired headphones with the USBC
and a wired set of headphones that are old school style that can plug into my laptop.
I also, you know, for the podcasters out there, have an actual travel mic setup that is
always in my suitcase because I once forgot it and it was so deeply stressful and terrible
that I will never let that happen again.
I keep a toiletry set that is travel sized also in a mesh.
zipper pouch that's essentially the size of a Ziplock with all your you know under three ounce
things in it that you need one for hair one for skin and don't laugh at me i also keep another kind of
zipper pouch but it's like a it's some sort of i guess a plastic material which i know is terrible
but here we are i don't want to use single use plastic so it's like a white um
grid, almost like a blown up mesh that has colored zippers on the top. And then in those,
I have full-size hair products, full-size skincare products, because if I'm going anywhere longer
than a weekend where I'm only taking a carry-on bag and I'm checking luggage, then I bring
full-sized toiletries. I have most of my sort of toiletries and makeup in two drawers in my home.
but I keep the makeup I use the most in my travel case.
It has like a zip top that folds down and then that goes just in the drawer.
So when I'm at home, I can use everything together, but when I need to travel,
I pull that out, zip it shut, throw it in the bag, I'm ready to go.
Yeah, those are sort of the hacks.
I also finally, in the last couple of years, after 20 years of traveling this much,
invested in some hair tools with European plugs
because I shorted out two very nice curling irons,
even though I bought the converters that said they were converter adapters
and then they weren't.
And then they cost me a lot more money than the converter did.
So I gave up on that.
I now have a European plug curling iron, straightening iron,
and I finally bit the bullet.
here's a pro tip, going through customs so I could buy it at the duty-free in Europe on my way
home, I bought a Dyson Air Wrap that has a European plug as well. So I got it at quite a nice
discount thanks to the duty-free, but that was still a tough pill to swallow. It has made
traveling for the last two years so much easier. So that's a big hack if you're at a point where
you can invest in something like that. And jet lag cures. I work really hard to try to get on a time
zone as quickly as possible. So if I'm flying east over an ocean overnight, I will take a unisome.
It's an over-the-counter sleep aid. This is not an ad, by the way. I just learned this from a nurse
friend. It's an over-the-counter sleep aid. It's the only one pregnant women are allowed to take. And you know
they spend no money on medical research for women. So if we know pregnant women can take this with no
side effects, it's like got to be. And again, I don't know this for a fact. I'm assuming it has to
probably be one of the safest things available on the market. And so I'll get on a flight that's, you know,
at 4 p.m. landing wherever I'm going to work, London or somewhere at 9 a.m. And I will just knock
myself out at four. I will force myself to sleep. I bring an eye mask. I bring ear plugs. I bring a
blanket that is mine so that I feel very comfortable on the plane. I have a pillow that I like
get under my neck just so so it stops my head from falling over. And I force myself to sleep so that
then at least I wake up in the morning and I just suffer through that first day. I drink a lot of coffee.
I stay awake until at least 9 or 10 p.m.
And then I try to be on the time zone.
And then coming back, the jet lag cure, which is so hard.
But if you can do it, is necessary.
You get on your flight.
I try to book an afternoon flight.
I just did this coming back from London for South by Southwest.
So I'm giving you that, you know, nine and a half hour flight or whatever it is.
I got on, oh, a 6 p.m. flight.
I was very ready to go to sleep by halfway through that flight,
but I didn't let myself.
I kept my window shade up because I was chasing the sun the whole time.
So seeing sunlight really helps trick your brain.
And I drank a coffee on the plane.
I went through movies I really wanted to see so I would be interested.
And I stayed awake until I landed at 10 o'clock, got my bags, got home,
absolutely took another unison to make sure I really.
slept through the night and I woke up the next morning at 6.45.
Wasn't quite ready to get up.
Laid in bed for another hour.
Not sure if I fell back asleep.
And then I got up and I haven't had a hard time and I've been home now for almost a week.
So I think I crushed it.
The flight was tough.
I had to give myself a couple little smacks in the face along the way.
But I did it and I believe in you.
You can do it too.
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Bella, oh, this is a good question besides your therapist, I love that you ask that because you all
know how much I love my therapist, he's a good dude. Besides your therapist, who in your life
gives you the best advice.
Oh my goodness.
I have a handful of friends
who give incredible advice.
Obviously,
Nia, who's my best friend,
is the kind of person
who just sees me
and she meets me
and everyone in her life
with a judgment-free
openness
and really thoughtful questions
and just such a level of
real genuine support.
that I think she makes everybody feel safe and cared for.
She's an incredible advice giver.
We joke, though, that we are both so incredibly adept at political engagement and civic work and fiscal work and, you know, our entertainment work, all the things we do.
And that sometimes the simpler sort of personal stuff is harder.
and it's nice to have someone who has the same thing in common with you that's also hard for you to
figure out. I can solve a systemic problem much more quickly than I can solve a close to me
personal one. So we can really bounce ideas off each other that way. My friend Lauren is one of the
best advice givers I know. She's been living abroad for a year, so I don't get to talk to her as much.
And I like feel the way my soul misses her advice. I can't mean for her.
her to come home. Likewise, my friends, Sam and Sammy, who are two different people,
sometimes people get confused. Unbelievable advice givers. My friend Rory, if you haven't read her book
or listened to our podcast episode, Rory Uphold was on the pod to talk about her first book,
The Horrors of Dating, a final girl's guide to getting through relationships. You guys,
it's so good. And Rory's the kind of friend you want to call when you're.
You want really exacting advice that also reminds you who the fuck you are.
So I've got a really good list of humans who do that with me, and I'm very, very grateful.
Skyler, who would you like to see run for president in 2028?
Anyone who's not a fascist, anyone with actual expertise in democracy, public health, you know, the way actual
systems of government work. I mean, guys, seeing everything explode from the measles to the
screw worm coming back to infect American beef herds, which, by the way, we've eradicated since
the 1960s by assisting south of our own border with these, it's complicated, but read up on it.
Basically, we drop these flies that then eradicate the bug population that spreads upwards and
causes the screw worm infestations.
I know it's going to sound crazy.
It's like, oh, we spent $40 million a year on that.
When you have a multi-billion dollar, multi-trillion dollar budget,
that's not a lot of money.
When you protect the food sources of 332 million citizens in America
and then all of the other people who, you know,
live in our country on, you know, visas and green cards and all of the other things.
And the people, by the way, who are our neighbors just across the board.
border. Like, that is, that is not even a drop in the bucket when you were talking about that sort of
money at that scale. And they called it waste fraud and abuse and they got rid of it. And now we're
like literally at risk of not being able to feed people. It's just those are two examples where I
just cannot fathom what we're doing. And I think about the harm done by incompetent administrations.
I think about the harm done that we are seeing in our economy and our gas prices and entering into another war.
Nobody wanted to be in.
I mean, the list goes on and on and on.
The reduction of rights for everyone who doesn't look like the president, for women who are dying at record rates since the overturning of jobs,
for people of color in our country who are losing their constitutional rights to have their voices heard.
And by the way, it's against American law to have taxation without representation.
Don't even get me started on the people who live in the district of Washington, D.C.
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The amount of work we're going to have to do just to fix the fuck-ups,
if we even can't, the science we've lost, the cancer research that stopped,
the scientists who have left the country, you guys,
who are now setting up lives and labs in other places.
We are losing the wind,
and energy projects that have been canceled that are going elsewhere. We've lost the future of the energy
race to China already. These are things that will take so long to fix. They will take so much more
money to fix, so much time, so much effort, and what frustrates me and what I want you to talk to the
people in your lives about is we could have spent the last decade that we have been dealing with
this man in office twice, we could have spent the last 10 years building by leaps and bounds.
We could have cured certain cancers.
We could have become the global green energy leader of the world.
We could have taken American citizens who have worked in energy production that has hurt them
and their families caused cancer,
caused injury, caused death in some instances,
we could have given all of those people
the best clean energy jobs
that would pay them more, give them benefits,
create health care for their families.
We could have continued to change everything here and abroad.
We could have stopped this Ebola outbreak.
We could have taken the magic we all,
felt watching Artemis to go to the dark side of the moon and doubled it tenfold instead of
cut NASA to one of its lowest budgets, I believe ever. We're going to have to spend all this time
and money fixing instead of building. And that pisses me off. That's the waste, fraud, and abuse.
And so when we think about the run for 2028, I'm open. Is it Pete Buttigieg? Is it Gavich? Is it Gavis?
Evan Newsom, let me tell you something.
As a person who was born and raised and lived in California for a long time, yes.
Is Kamala Harris coming back to run?
Let me tell you something else as a person who worked alongside her and her administration
for a very long time, both in the White House and in California as well.
Seeing what she has doggedly done for people, does she want to come back?
Yes, I'm in any of them.
But we cannot risk
turning our political system into reality TV,
into wanting to watch the drama on Love Island or Summerhouse from the Oval Office,
like enough.
We have to get a little sane again where it comes to how we build a nation.
And I think we need to understand that so many of these systems that we need,
never saw or perhaps paid attention to in real time. They matter. Each of those things is a
piece of the net that literally held up society. And I would argue the world. And while I think we have a lot
to add to that net and a lot to build, to be better, ripping the whole thing.
apart because nobody bothered paying attention how it worked in the first place is not working.
So that's what I think about that. And if you are thinking about the midterms, if you're thinking
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this is a good question
from Linda
are there any stories in your upcoming memoir
that you are anxious about
sharing. Yeah. All of them. You know, working on my first book has been such a labor of love.
You know, for anyone who's busy and hasn't seen the news announcement or the posts about it, I'm working on my first book.
My memoir in parts titled I Will Tell You Mine.
is coming out this fall, and I'm so excited about it. I also need to give a shout-out book agent,
Kate Hoyt, who has literally been chasing me for nine years trying to get me to write this book.
Kate started sending me email compilations of the essays. You all know I like to write on Instagram
and saying, hey, hi, you're writing short-form essays on social media. You're a writer. You need to write a book.
And I was like, you're sweet. I don't have time for that.
And we went back and forth for nearly a decade.
And I think, I know, there was finally a point when I had realized I'd started to write
reflections like that nearly every day in my own private journals for about 18 months where I went,
oh, I think I'm starting.
You know, I think I'm actually starting to write a book.
And here we are.
And it's still very scary.
You know, it's, it's terrifying to share about things that shaped you that might hurt other people in the sharing, even though you've done the work in those groups or those family structures to process those things and everyone loves each other and everything's okay.
you can't talk about how you got somewhere without talking about what shaped you,
which is good and bad.
And I think my greatest fear is to ever make anyone feel embarrassed now about things I used to feel
embarrassed about or carry shame about before I did the work to unpack that.
I think also, guys, it's 2026.
Like everyone's just mean about everything.
The internet thinks everything is cringe.
I'm scared to share about things that I find beautiful and be made fun of for it.
You know, I'm scared to share about my aha moments and the slow revelations I'm still experiencing and have people be cruel or say like,
I can't believe it took you this long to figure it out or whatever.
I mean, I don't feel like I can move outside of the space of my home without seeing such vitriol.
And I have to do a lot of work to remind myself that there's also so much kindness.
But the world gets off on the cruelty now.
And it's a scary time to choose to share.
you know it's um it's tough because maybe if i'd written you know my book in 2015 it would feel different
but i don't think i was a fully formed version of myself yet so it is the greatest kind of
whiplash I've ever experienced working on this book from from pride and tenderness to like
terror but here we are and it's coming oh I love this question Fee asks Ashland's documentary looks
amazing what's something you learned about her from it so much you know it's really beautiful it was
really beautiful to watch her a little backstory. You know, she's been producing a lot of
amazing sports content, amazing sports stories. You know, she EP'd pitched and then EP'd a whole
sports documentary series that was produced by Hello Sunshine. It was on Peacock. I hope you guys
watched it. The Rise. It's so incredible. I learned so much about all those athletes and all
those sports in every one of those episodes. And then her next idea was to do more in-depth,
you know, single athlete documentary, every episode series, mini-series with Roku.
You know, in separate verticals, she was looking at their documentary space, their unscripted
space, and I was looking at their feature film space. And frankly,
knowing what was coming, you know, after the 2024 election, knowing that everything the expert
economists said was true, we knew the economy was going to get really hard for people.
We kept joking. I mean, not that it was funny, but being like gas is about to get so expensive.
People aren't going to be able to afford to go to the movies. It was really important for both
of us to put our producing hats on and make content that was accessible for families for free.
And so I was off making broad transit.
my film with Lauren Holly that came out in May on Roku while she was pitching this
and then this got picked up by Roku for unscripted.
So I like get a FaceTime and the executives on my movie are talking to her executives
and I'm like, this is crazy anyway, very sweet, felt very kismet.
And it was really cool to then hear because I'm not like an eavesdropper,
but if I'm in the room I'm going to listen to the Zoom you're on obviously.
And to hear them say, you know, with everything you shared with us across our pitch meetings,
we've had our internal conversations.
We want the first story to be your story.
And she was kind of like, what?
So I knew so many parts of her story.
But there's something about such an amazing documentary crew,
such an incredible director, you know, going home and gathering all the research, all the photos,
you know, hearing Anson Dorrance talk about her, hearing about what it's like to, you know,
be chosen to be the backup for the best goalkeeper ever. So like, okay, you're the second best goalkeeper
ever. Like, what? It's such a crazy.
place to be in and and to watch someone sit with what it is to have a lifelong passion,
to have that passion dinged by injury and to have this whole very public athletic life
with this whole thing happening underneath that nobody knew about.
I knew those stories, but to see them tied together the way they were,
while I've been working on the same process for myself with my book
to see how sometimes what you go through at home,
what you learn by osmosis as a child,
the way it follows you and affects you for so long in your life,
mirrors into your own everything.
It's really profound,
and it's been really beautiful to feel like
through this project for her and this project I'm working on for me,
we're connecting even more dots.
I think it's a way to see and love a person even more deeply.
And I'm really grateful that I've been with her through this process
because I love her more.
And I think her being with me through my process is helping me, you know,
learn to love myself more as well.
which is beautiful.
Oh, Maya has a really good question.
Oh, my goodness.
Would you ever do a one-woman show like Cynthia Arevo just did in London?
Okay, so you saw me post about Cynthia and Dracula.
I have never in my life seen such a thing.
I would love to work with Kip Williams.
I would love to do something like that.
And I don't think I could do that for 16 weeks like she did.
I don't, maybe I could, you know, maybe if I really went underground for long enough to store up the energy to do it and then did the same afterwards.
part of me is like, I think I think I could do like eight weeks of that after all the weeks of
rehearsal. I don't know if I could do 16 weeks. I don't know. Maybe I have to try. But oh my goodness,
what a feat. I mean, just what an incredible feat of artistry. Unreal. Okay. I love the last one.
So good.
Alex, have you ever been mistaken for another celebrity?
Here's what's funny.
No.
And I've come to learn, apparently, it's because of my voice.
Because even if someone sees me and has a moment where they're trying to figure out why I'm familiar,
once I reply, they know.
And they say it's my voice.
that makes the final aha click.
I even had that experience during COVID when we were all masking.
People would hear my voice and know it was me behind the mask.
So I don't know, guys.
I don't think I'm going to get away with it.
Thanks for joining today.
This has just been so much fun.
Your questions are wonderful.
Keep sending them in.
We'll try to get to these a little more often.
I really enjoy this time with you.
all. Have a great week, fam, and happy pride.
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