Drama Queens - Work In Progress: Monica Lewinsky Part 1

Episode Date: December 1, 2025

As a 22-year-old White House intern, Monica Lewinsky engaged in an intimate relationship with the most powerful man in the world. Two years later, she became the center of a national frenzy, political scandal and unprecedented public shaming. Behind the headlines, there is more truth to Monica's story, and it's her turn to reclaim the narrative. In Part 1 of this 2-part conversation, Monica reflects candidly about the dreams she once had for her future and the choices that changed everything. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hello, friends. Welcome back to Work in Progress. This week, we have a guest who has been a sensation in the news since the 90s, who lots of people think they know, lots of people have a. opinions about. And I think in recent years, a lot of us are having to self-interrogate where those opinions come from. And maybe, just maybe, ask her who she is. Today we're joined by Monica Lewinsky. She went to Washington at 22 years old, thinking that she was chasing a dream opportunity and had no way of knowing that she would become the center of a frankly nightmarish national frenzy. Many of you know that Monica engaged in an intimate relationship with the most

powerful man in the world that then exploded into relentless scrutiny and judgment and public shaming involving investigators, politician, and a voracious media that turned her life inside out. Every private moment, even from second grade, was dissected, broadcast, and weaponized and overnight she became the target of what might be the first, modern digital stoning. Her name synonymous with scandal and debate across the nation. You may assume that you know her full story or her intentions. And if you do, you're probably an unknowing participant in the most successful public shaming and scapegoating of a woman in our country's political history. But what could have destroyed her became the foundation

for Monica's reinvention. She has turned trauma and healing from it into a pletka. for examining power, consent, and the mechanics of man-made humiliation, reclaiming a narrative that the world once tried to own. Becoming a podcaster herself, an incredible executive producer, and someone who is working to accurately tell the stories of women, reveal who they are beneath the headlines. Monica is a trailblazer. I've been lucky enough to be a guest on her podcast reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky, which you can listen to wherever you get your podcasts. And today, I'm very fortunate that she's joining me here on Work in Progress. Let's dive in with Monica.

Hi. Hi. I'm just so excited that you're here. Oh, thank you. I'm excited to be here. I enjoyed our chat before so much. Me too. Any opportunity. I don't know if you found this, but I have found having people I know on the podcast.

I get this concentrated time of having a conversation. Yeah. That I feel like it's not, it's different than when we go to dinner or there are other people around or whatever. So. Yeah. I agree.

There's something really, there's something really special about the contain. of these conversations and the unbothered or uninterrupted time because we're so connected now that you're sort of always supposed to be doing five things. So to do just one thing with one person is a gift. Yeah. I had this fantasy. I think it might have been yesterday at some point where I was like, what if I just said I no longer accept email? That's my dream. And people have to call me. And just like in the old, in the old days, we got things done because you were doing one thing at a time.

And, you know, because it is such, I don't know about for you, but I just get so overwhelmed. I get so overwhelmed. It's kind of like, I think all these verticals of communication, even though they're supposed to make us more connected, make us feel so much more separated. because it's constant interruption rather than any one focused thing, which is part of why I think we love our podcasts so much. It's part of why I think we get so excited when we get to be with another person. But just the management of inboxes, it takes all your time up and it also takes all your time away from real connection and it's confusing. Yeah, yeah. I mean, I've started to feel like Oh, am I a loser that I only have one phone? I think everybody I know has two or three phones

and I just, I feel like I actually maybe I don't care. I can't. I don't want to. I want to go back to my old flip phone. I still have it. And I'm like, I wonder if I could just turn this thing back on. Yeah. Come back. Baby Nokia. Right? What I would give. Well, my gosh, I'm so happy that you're here. Our conversation on your show was so fortifying for me. And I know I told you this then, but I think it's worth repeating for all of our friends who are listening at home. I am so deeply inspired by the person that you are, by your resilience, by your willingness to give so much to people and to do it with real vulnerability and real humility and also you strike me as a woman who's just kind of run out of fucks to give. And I love that about you. And I know from my own versions of

experience with public life, even when you run out of them, there's still no way to be a person who's been through what you've been through and not feel so sensitive to the world. And I think, I don't think. I know there are people who've chosen to look deeper into your personhood, your story. I know there's a lot of people. I mean, I even talked about this with some of the team at, you know, the big media company that runs this podcast for me. There were women who were like, oh, we didn't even get it until we were prepping this episode with you, that we absolutely fall into the camp of the women who claim to be feminists and who judged this woman, who mistook this woman, who didn't think to look deeper at this woman as we've

learned more about power and gender and all these dynamics in the world. And there's so much we have to talk about, but also I hate that you always have to talk about it. So I want to do something that has nothing to do with any of this first in the spirit of your show, I want to reclaim our space together and you together in a way and go way back in time before anybody knew anything about you on the global stage. I know through my own journey of therapy, I think a lot about the younger versions of myself that I carry with me. You know, this woman, this author, Maggie Smith, who I love, has this metaphor of nesting dolls.

And I think about all the younger versions of us and the little versions of us. and the little versions of us that are inside of us always. I think a lot about my eight-year-old self because of things that were happening in my life at the time. And I'm really curious if you and I could walk onto a playground right now and run into our eight-year-old selves. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. What qualities would you see in that little girl

and that version of yourself that would feel like an aha moment for you given who you are as a woman today? What an interesting question. I guess the similarities that I would see are very sensitive. I would understand, I think some of that sensitivity I would understand now as having come from different kinds of trauma, different ways. And so that the eight-year-old who was a people-pleaser who struggled to not be the best, and so I think I see some of those parts there, and I'm probably still working on that. Not probably am, still working on those versions.

But I also, you know, it's weird. I look back on my childhood, and my parents would probably say something different. I look back on my childhood, and I feel like I was kind of a serious kid, even though I like to have fun at times, you know, there's a heaviness there. I didn't, and in some ways still don't understand that maybe it's something I came in with. Maybe it's not even really mine, you know, in that way. But that there's, I always cared about other people. And I think I was very sensitive, as I said, you know.

but yeah because wait eight is is that second grade eight second grade yeah around there i think or second or third grade right yeah so i think i i feel like i look back now and there are these moments that um you know stand out of a moment in first grade of like the first time i couldn't get the math answers and that frustration and i couldn't go see Carrie Burles Bunny, whom I ran into randomly at the spot, like within the last six months and she looks exactly the same. So, but you know, it was like Friday show and tell and she brought her bunny and I couldn't, you weren't allowed to go to show and tell until you finish the thing. And so there's a very marked moment for me of, I think not ever having struggled with anything in

in school in first grade and that moment. And I look back on that now and I sort of wonder, you know, we just parenting and I'm not a parent, but I think it's, I see for my friends, it's so different now, right? So if I were parenting myself today at that age, I would be looking at that moment and sort of going, what's going on? What's going on around all this, right? I'm not really sure what I'm babbling about, but, you know, that that was sort of little me. And, you know, they're definitely there, I think there is a strong sense of resilience and survival that came from early on. And as my therapist will say, it serves me very well that I don't give up in many places and sometimes it's a little maladaptive.

Yeah. We have that in common. I will make this relationship work. Yeah. You know, so. Yeah. It's really interesting. You talk about it as a heaviness that seems out of place for a young child because I

feel a real kinship to that. You know, I spent most of my childhood being told that I was an old soul and always talking to adults, you know, even when there were other kids around. And I think there's all sorts of great parts of that kind of identity. I do find for me that as I look back and look back at certain choices and to your point, look back at things I've tried to make work even when if I were looking at a friend, I'd be like, give it up, like get out of there, that thing or that person doesn't deserve you, I think there is something common for those types of kids, whereas you get older, you really are seeking a safety or a stability.

You know, you want to build a life. When I think about some of the decisions I made, some of the things I pursued, you know, in my early 20s, I wanted to create something more stable than what. what I came from, even though what I came from looked very stable on the surface. And I wonder if it's part of what led me to early career success, which is great, and also to early personal pain and humiliation, which wasn't. Like, it really is a double-edge sort. Right. When you think about that sense and the way you were learning resiliency and to, show up in a way so early, when you look back at that little girl and think about your evolution

from second grade on through high school, would you say that she was ambitious, confident, more shy? Did you find validation in, you know, scholastic success, for example? How does she seem to you now from this like very healthy, grown-up place? I would say outgoing is probably the first word that kind of comes to mind, that it was, I think I always wanted to be liked, but it was also really important to me that people around me felt included, too. That was something that was important to me from a young age. And I'm sort of still that way because I think anybody who's gone through, and I've had this in every state. of my life, that sense of not feeling like you don't belong or aren't wanted, it's so terrifying when you're a young person. You know, it's, I think, very early on from a primal point of view, right, we won't survive. If our parents, if our parents don't love us, if our parents don't

take care of us or someone, some adult doesn't take care of us, we will not survive, full stop, right? And so it begins there and then it becomes more about those social circles And I think there's that sort of the paradox of both being someone for whom those things are important. It then means any kind of public shaming, whether it's a small group of public shaming or the world, is felt, you know, infinitely deeper. You know, so there's sort of that mix there. I also, I just want to jump back to what you were saying before. for to, I just want, I want to thank you for your kind words. And I also want to say that even having been at the center of a gendered global scandal with a lot of misogyny, I still also

to make that mistake of judging other women or judging other situations or not seeing something fully. So even going through it doesn't necessarily inoculate you from, I think a lot of the culture or whatever those things are. So I'm also f***ed up. Yeah. And now a word from our sponsors who make this show possible. No one can resist

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You can look back and see the mistakes you are making. the moment, you're having emotional and physical and psychosocial experiences and they just happen. I think what's really important, and you just said it, is even the ability when you're in the midst of a moment, when you're forming thoughts, judgments, opinions, just the ability to go, oh, wait a second, where'd that come from? Or the ability to look back and go, wow, you know, I had an opinion about this thing 10 years ago, and it's different now based on this information that I now have. I think that's kind of the best we can do. I don't think anyone ever becomes some sort of perfect, like, non-judgmental ball of light. Like, then you're in the place

wherever your soul goes after you die, I think. Right. I don't think you're like, here on the third dimension. That's not here. But yeah, it's, it is. I think there's, you know, And I also think it's important if people feel comfortable, but people who were in the public eye who have some sort of a public platform, it's important to talk about those moments, you know, because I think it allows other people to, you, you were reaching a lot of people at once with something for them to consider. You know, I, I, until, like my experiences in 98, I judged a lot of women who went through things who then posed in a magazine like Playboy or Penhouse or Hustler, whatever those

were for money. I had a lot of judgment of like, you know, I would never do that. And I was, but I was only able to not do it because I came from an upper middle class family. Right. You know? And so I wasn't responsible for putting food on the table for my children or maybe responsible and so you come to understand or I came to understand you know that those people make those choices women make those choices oftentimes because there is no alternative yes and so and that that sort of critical thinking through experience and empathy and emotion I try to find ways to do that in in other places but I don't know you know. I mean, you're human. I, you know, I come from like a very hot-headed line of

Italian women. Right. Like I, sometimes my initial feeling is very different than the feeling I am able to process or speak about in a moment like this when I'm in a calm state. I've had time. I've really been able to self-interrogate. I've been able to ask more. information, more questions of the world around me. It's like, and I think you have to let yourself off the hook a little bit for your humanity because otherwise you're just performing. You're just becoming a kind of fractional version of yourself because you're worried about how you might seem to other people. You know? Yes. I mean, I think I still do that. I, you know, and I, I think, you know, sort of you were maybe not using this word, but sort of talking about it earlier.

But I think that one of the most important things, it seems like in the world right now of those of us who are sort of in that, the deep divers, you know, the ones who look, not the ones who look away as around the importance and the relationship between noticing and a nervous system, you know, and that how important. the noticing is. And it seems so, there are times where I catch myself where it's like, oh, big fucking deal. I, you know, realize there's another younger version of myself here. And it's like that that doesn't change that outcome and the this and then that. But I have to remember that there was a version of me that didn't notice at all before. And so it's like when we start to notice, when we're able to just try to untangle things, right? That can lead us more towards the ability to, you know, calm our nervous systems. And I think that's, you know, that's been a big part of the conversations. Like I was interested to call the podcast reclaiming because I feel like reclaiming is this sort of, it's a bigger body of experience than just the definition. And it feels like that of mindfulness to me. And I feel like, like, or talk about the nervous system and polyvagal theory and all of that has become,

that's like the next phase for mindfulness. And I think reclaiming comes right in there or right after. Absolutely. And I think when you've, when you've been through something particularly in public life and you get kind of cast as an archetype rather than represented as yourself, the desire to reclaim. It's such like an internal fire. I have felt it.

You know, I think it was part of the reason, I think it was part of the core reason I started this interview series. You know, I did it because I was thinking to myself, I have access to these wonderful people and these rooms that so many people don't get to come into and I want to be able to bring them in. It feels like service. It feels like advocacy.

It feels like, you know, all of these things. that I care so much about. And it enabled me to be my most empathetic, curious, and intellectual self in a world that, you know, from the early odds on TV, wanted me to be like the hot vixen. And I was like, hold on. That's not the sum total of me. And, you know, even the girls and I doing our podcast to go back and re-watch our first show and reclaim it from the Me Too universe of that. Yeah. I think there's really something when you are reduced in the eyes of others, anywhere you can be your full self feels so powerful.

And it's not lost on me that from these vantage points you and I sit at in our adult lives, having gone back and, you know, reparented and given therapy to and re-loved in a way our younger selves, you also studied psychology in college. Like there's a really interesting kind of rainbow to now and then, the arc of that. You know, do you think when you look back at that choice

and you think about that heaviness that you couldn't exactly identify, but that you knew you carried as a kid, was psychology a way for you to consider processing that bigger internal life? Was it also something that felt like a great path to go down for service? Was it something that you thought this could be great for understanding people in a political world that I'm hoping to go and enter into and maybe work in? How do you? you choose it? Well, I didn't have any political ambitions. Like that was, in college even. No. Wow. No. When I was, when I was, I think, in kindergarten for about five minutes, I wanted to be president. I think every kid maybe goes through that. I'm not sure.

And it's, but other than that, I did not have political aspirations at all. And I think this psychology, all the things that you were just mentioning, I think both a fascination with people. A fascination. I'm not sure I would have used the word fascination, but the exploration of my own internal experiences and the weight of pain and not understanding that, I think, in many ways. And then there was also, I became really fascinated. I took a, what was it called? I can't remember what the class was called, but in my major, it was a class that taught you. about psychological instruments, so like how all these tests are devised. And I was really fascinated by that. I think just this idea of, oh, if you look at something and analyze something enough and you pull out the right pieces, you can come up with a formula in the shape of a test that will

give you an answer that puts someone in a bucket that helps you understand and helps you fix. And that was, it was endlessly fascinating to me. And so from there, in particular, I was, I think I was fascinated by certain personality tests that they gave at the FBI, which led me to want to possibly work at the FBI. And I was also interested by, I can't remember what the test is called, but it's something they do in jury selection where they show people images and they ask you to tell a story about the image. So not Roershack, but like a proper image. And it uncovers biases. And so I was really interested by that. And so that's why when I was in college, like the plan sort of probably

junior and senior year was to get a PhD in forensic psychology. How then did the idea to apply to work at the White House happened. So forensic psychology is brewing. Did someone suggest it to you? You know, it feels so intimidating to me. So how did you begin? Yeah, two things. I guess really three things happened at roughly around the same time. And so one was, while I got a good enough score on the GRE, I did not get a high enough score on the psych-specific test to, like, get into the PhD program I wanted to go to, according to my advisor, who then said, if you want a PhD, you shouldn't go somewhere else for a master's, because you'll have to repeat a lot of those credits and blah, blah, blah.

So I was like, okay, I guess I'll retake the GREs and psych-specific or psych-specific test next year. and move that way. Then at some point before I graduated college, whether it was summer or winter, I can't remember, sorry, I was with my aunt in D.C. And I remember when we passed by the White House and the old executive office building for the first time, I said out loud to her,

wow, it is so beautiful. Could you imagine going to work there every day? I can't even, I'm very impacted by the aesthetic of my. environment so whether it's um you know just just beauty beauty in some way and so i feel like in some ways i i set an intention which i didn't realize you know or or created this opening of an opportunity and then the third was we had a family friend who was a big donor and his grandson had done this program and so my mom was wanting me to come out East because the whole, my mom's side of the family had moved east. And I was living in

Portland, Oregon. And so it was, she was like, well, why don't you apply and Walter write a letter of recommendation? So I was like, okay, fine. So I applied. I wrote an essay basically like, because I was a psych major. You know, in psychology, we study the mind of the individual, but the White House is the mind of the country. And so that was really, that was where there was an interest for me. And then I, you know, I think about that I got accepted probably because of our family friend donor, but I was not just Xeroxing and I was writing, I think, because of my essay. Yeah.

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So what was it like to arrive there? I mean, I know that you worked in Leon Panetta's office. office, when you're in your early 20s and suddenly you are going to work at the White House every day, how do you get adjusted? How do you figure out where things are? You know, who's the person you go to for advice in that moment? Is it other interns or junior staffers who kind of help you learn the ropes? I had an amazing, I guess boss who was like the head of a division in the chief of staff's office, who had you said was Leon Panetta at the time. So I'm not going to say her last name in case.

I mean, we've stayed in touch like I've seen her post everything, but Tracy, who was an amazing mentor. And so I think that there, her, you know, there was another intern in myself who were her basically. So, you know, I think that really was the process. And our office was nested inside a bigger office of other departments in the old executive office building. And so when you arrived, what do you get assigned to? Like, what's the project? What do you get to see? What are you working on? Well, we're handling all of the correspondence that Leon Panetta got. So because he was a congressman before he came to the White House. He had a huge following from California. People who

wrote to him, some people who wrote daily, lots of people. And so our job was to manage the flow of his correspondence. It was kind of the, not so much personal because it was reaching out to him in a official capacity. Of course. So you were really also getting to see the in a way, the issues that had the highest importance to voters, to constituents. You know, if you're managing somebody's mail from a state as large as California, you know that people are writing in about environmental regulation, about, who knows, forestry, like, any, anything. I would love to tell you that I paid attention to that and was focused on that, but I wasn't.

It was, you know, I loved, working. I had always, you know, I just sort of, I worked from, like, I tried to get a job before it was legally, I was legally allowed. I lied about my age, trying to get a job. So, and I worked all through college. And I really liked working. So I loved being in this environment. And I tried to do the best job I could, but I wasn't, I mean, I look back now and I even think about my time at the Pentagon, I had ridiculously high security clearance. And I don't look at anything. I just wasn't interested. I just, I wasn't, I wasn't the kind of young 20 year old who was interested in that stuff, which is probably why I got into so much trouble. So, but, you know, it's, I just, I think it's, it's

interesting to me because probably, you know, one of the narratives that came out about me from my time in D.C. was that I was a ditsy Bimbo. And it was always sort of this, it was kind of fascinating to me because I've never really been a big intellectual, but I've always been an interesting thinker. And so it, in that way, it was very meaningful to me when I, when I started to talk to people at the TED organization about doing my TED talk. And the first person I engaged with there, when she said to me, your first job out of college was at the White House. Like, you are not an idiot. And so that was sort of a really something I had been waiting to hear for a long time. Because I often thought about if you had taken all the facts about me.

Like if I had, you know, if I had tragically passed away for some reason. And so there was some obituary written about me as pre-98, but being in D.C., you know, it's, it was impressive. Yes. You know. And so, and all of that got lost. And when I, I participated in a documentary that came out in 2018 for the 20-year mark of the impeachment. And Blair Foster, the director, was so, you know, she really wanted to spend time with these photos and talking about the period when I was working at the Pentagon and these

photos of me on a plane, you know, with the Secretary of Defense and the reporters who have now been P.S. kicked out of the Pentagon where they worked down the hall from where I was. It's so crazy. It's so crazy. And so that I actually worked, you know, And I worked hard. I might have done other things that were wrong and fucked up, but I was a really hard worker. Yeah. But I think, again, what you're talking about is the totality of yourself, your identity, not just the clickbait or the headline. And it's something I understand so deeply. And it's so frustrating. I've tried to explain it to people. It's like an itch on the inside of your body. It's something you can never scratch. Yes. You know, it's like you,

you get a piece of shrapnel in you and they can't take it out and you turn and when you least expected, it zings from the inside. Yes. And I think so much about what that must have meant for you to be able to be reminded of your being gifted, you're being a smart young kid who was on a really impressive career track. And then the shift, you know, the shift of exposure that you went through, I'm going to list off, if you don't mind, a couple of things that strike me. It drives me crazy because your whole self got eclipsed by something that happened, by essentially a chapter of your book became your whole book. Also, there were dynamics at play that I'm sure from today's standpoint and the things that we've learned, yes, I will be the first

person to say a lot of that was not in the social consciousness in the 90s. You know, the ways we talk about gender and patriarchy and power structures. Misogyny was talked about, but I think the, I think we have so broadened the spectrum for how we understand it now. Yeah, I think we have just had so much more time, knowledge, research. were so much more connected. We understand things in ways we didn't necessarily then. We were much more stereotypical and tropey than. You know, yes, of course,

women like Audrey Lord and Gloria Steinem had been screaming this stuff from the rooftops, but it wasn't in the mind of every single woman in America in the way that I would say it is or is close to now. Yeah. And, you know, I also understand what it's like to be 21, 22, and think that something amazing is happening to you. You know, I don't, I know that our experiences are not the same,

but in a way, I feel such a kinship to what you went through. You know, I was in a different position in the sort of classic tale. But I think the reason that I feel so passionate about it is especially because it's always the women that get zeroed in on. Yeah. It's the spouse or the quote other woman. Yeah. It's always the women.

And for some reason, it's like women are never allowed to forget either what was done to them or what they did in not their best moment. And the men like sort of go, well, you know, boys will be boys at whatever age they are. Exactly. Well, I mean, we're seeing this play out right now even in that frame of the conversation of all this like Megan Kelly shit of like a 15 year old is a young woman and not I mean but it is the difference that we see between men and women between races like it is it is it is horrifying and and exactly what you're saying too but I I don't know about for you I think for me and it's actually annoyingly something I still working work on. It's like the chosen thing. There's something

about when you feel kind of chosen and that chosen comes wrapped in specialness and somehow, you know, if this person sees you in a way that no one else has seen you and they think you're special, I don't really understand it biologically or evolutionarily, but there is something about that. If that's been a place where you've had a dearth of experience, being that one person, you know, it is intoxicating no matter how dangerous, no matter how wrong. Absolutely. And I also think there's something really important to touch on that people often miss because there's this idea that when you're in these. circles of privilege or or sort of elitism everything is just so fancy and and things become relative pretty quick you're super impressed the first couple times you walk in the white house gates

i imagine and then eventually it's just the place you go to work right you know the the gravity of things wears off and you're just kind of living your life and i i wonder for you know when we talk about that what happens next from your early career to 98. The world knows or thinks they know your story through the spin of media and politicians and agendas. You know, there was so much animus to really good progressive work being done in President Clinton's White House that people wanted a reason to take him down. Also, deeply inappropriate behavior, also, rather again than really figuring out this dynamic, it seems, at least, you got thrown on the fire, HRC got thrown on the fire, it really became this scandal of the women. Right.

And I'm curious for you. I know that in hindsight, you know, nobody was looking out for you. No, the opposite. Clearly. They were like, oh, we can use this. Right. I was way more expendable than I think I ever could have imagined because I couldn't do that to someone else. Right.

You know. I guess I'm curious for you, you know, what were you aware of about the way your personal experience was being amplified and really distorted at the time? And what do you think you've been able to understand since? Because this wasn't just a personal kerfuffle in, right, two overlapping groups of people. This was the power of an entire national landscape, White House Pentagon, on all sorts of people who had all sorts of goals that had nothing to do with you or at either of them. It's a big machine to get chewed up in and spit out by.

When you sit with it today, what do you think are the biggest misconceptions? Is there anything you want to correct? Or are you like, let's move on to the next question because I've done it and I'm good? Because in the weirdest way, I don't want to ask you to relive things. You've had to rehash forever. and I want to give you the chance, so I don't know what it is. Let me say this, Sophia. I totally, now that I sit in the interviewer chair or the driver of the conversation chair,

I 100% understand that, the sort of the wanting to have a meaningful conversation and also not wanting to ask someone to go through their trauma. And I get that. Exactly. And I appreciate it. And I, you know, I think. that there are there's so many different aspects of what happened that my mind like my mind reworked over years you know I'd say relensed maybe in some ways I've always been really

careful and really mindful to to sort of hold on to the fact too. I was so mindful of not wanting to be someone who like got on a bandwagon and totally changed what my experience was because now it fit some different narrative. And so it was, you know, and I still work on piecing together. Okay, what how, how I took so much responsibility at the time too. And that, and I remember the kind of grownups in the room. being like, you are a child. I mean, I was 22. I was 24 when it happened, when 24 when it became public. Yes. So, which is not a child for sure, but it's still so young. But it's like a really young adult. And I took on so much responsibility. And I felt an enormous amount of guilt because

if I had not, I mean, there's obviously making different choices about behavior. engaged in, but if I had also not confided in Linda Tripp, this never would have become public. This is such an incredible conversation, and I'm thrilled to let you know that while we are at the end of part one, there is a part two with Monica Lewinsky. We'll discuss what her life would have been like if this all didn't happen, who helped her with the scary parts, and maybe find the silver lining of what good came with this tremendous amount of hardship. I'm also going to ask her her thoughts about the Epstein emails and victims. We'll touch on what's wrong with telling people they have to stand up to a bully to reclaim their story. And we'll learn about

what it means to both grieve and thrive in tiny pockets. I'll see you for part two with Monica. This is an IHeart podcast, guaranteed human.