Drama Queens - Work In Progress: Sophia answers fan questions

Episode Date: January 7, 2026

A new year opens with reflection, resolve, and radical honesty as Sophia answers listeners' bold questions about ambition, love, anxiety, joy, and some behind the scenes set details, too!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome back to Work in Progress, friends, and happy New Year. I hope you all are feeling excited. about this big shift into 2026. It is, according to the numerologists, the end of a nine year, the beginning of a one year, which they say has incredible power about cycles ending and new beginnings. It's also the year of the midterms.

Can't wait to continue fighting for democracy here in the U.S. And hopefully by extension with our friends around the world. I know whether it's, you know, personal political or something small. Everyone tends to, I don't want to say launch resolutions, although maybe I think you all know by now I'm more a fan of intentions than resolutions because at least for me, resolutions just feel like a recipe for failure. But I think the idea of a personal reset, you know, of wanting to be intentional about positive change in our lives,

that resonates with me. So I'm curious what you all are thinking about in terms of what you want to reset or reshape. I'd love to hear it. You all send in such great questions for this. And so now I now have more questions for you. My goodness, we got so many. I'm going to try to make my way through them. Sammy asks, what do you look forward to the most in 2026? Gosh, I'm just excited that the last year is over. There were incredible times of joy and wonderful highs. But I think the year in general was pretty hard for a lot of people.

You know, the authoritarian shift around the world and certainly here at home. You know, current leadership making its way through over half of Project 2025 in 11 months was pretty hard for a lot of us. I just like, I want to feel like instead of going backwards, we're going forwards. Maybe that's why the numerology stuff is clicking for me these days. The year of the horse, the idea that it's forward momentum. I want that for all of us. Things I'm looking forward to while I'm speaking to you all. from my travel mic set in South Africa. I'm here to make a film that I'm really excited about.

I spoke at the top of last year. I tried to speak the intention of wanting to do more and more rom-coms. And I closed out 2025 making one and I'm starting 2026 making one. So that's incredibly fun for me. I am really looking forward to our little one turning five in February. You know my partner has two really beautiful kids and I am lucky enough to be a present figure in their lives and they're just the coolest and five feels like a really big deal for a little girl so I'm excited about that and I'm hoping that I get some more time at home in the spring I've been traveling for work so much and while that is an immense privilege it's hard to leave And so, yeah, just hoping for some springtime in New York.

And just looking forward to, yeah, the new energy. I keep coming back to that. But it's a good question, Sammy. The next one, I'm not going to read your name. It seems like a question that deserves some anonymous respect. So I'll just read your question here, which is, do you have a question? have any advice for a 20-year-old closeted queer woman in South Alabama in the current political climate? I'm very sorry that it's a question you even have to ask because I know that the asking

comes from the reality that you don't feel safe. And that makes me incredibly sad for you, and for our community at large, really. You know, I think it's a very strange thing that in a world filled with a lot of danger and suffering that anyone could be judged for who they love, especially being judged for who they love, you know, based on a lie. The religious books don't preach any version of homophobia, but mistranslations in the 40s did, and now here we are. Check out Monti Mater and her incredible faith-based research. on that stuff if you need a point to bring up, given that you are in the South. I know that not any person, not being able to live fully as who they are, you know,

trapped in secrecy or shrouded in a shame spiral, it really takes a toll on you. You know, it does damage to your soul. It has the capacity to lessen your joy. And I don't want any of that for you or anyone else. And so I think my advice to you would be to be discerning because your safety is of paramount importance. Figure out who in your life is safe to talk to. Figure out who in your life you trust, who your allies are,

and whether for your safety you want this reality to be hidden or you can manage to be safe and find places where you don't have to hide or you have enough of a community where you don't really have to hide at all but you just haven't taken the leap you'll know what the right answer is for you my advice isn't advice so much as a wish and the way wish is that you find the ability to be fully who you are sooner than later because everything is better on the other side of that leap. And I know that not everywhere is safe to take it. So I'm sending you a lot of love. And I hope that the future is less in the closet for you when you feel

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Nabila asks if you feel overwhelmed, well, if someone feels overwhelmed by the world and what's going on, what would be your advice? Sister, I am overwhelmed all the time. My only advice is to try to spend more time around people who feel like sunshine. to try to give of your time to support causes and people who need and deserve support. If you can build community not just by location but by purpose, you will really feel less alone. And I think the overwhelm is designed to make us isolate.

It's designed to make us feel alone in the world. And I think our advocacy work, You know, go to a local food pantry, go volunteer somewhere, gather your friends for a dance class, do anything that will put you in joyful community with people because we can do without a lot of things, but we can't do without delight. And so we have to make sure we don't let that get crushed.

Some of our greatest teachers, you know, like Audrey Lord, talked, you know, said, talked a lot about how joy is an act of resistance. And while I don't think that gives us permission to turn a blind eye to what's happening, I do think you really need to make sure you're tapping into joy regularly. So you can stay in the fight. Haley asks, what is one thing everyone should try to better themselves this year? Oh gosh. I think listening more is really important. You know, we live in a time where the internet especially has made everybody feel more binary about their opinions, and life's not black and white. Everything's in shades of gray, hopefully really in shades of color, a rainbow even, if you will.

But I think we've got to listen to each other, ask more questions with less anger first. I think it's a good exercise, and I think if you try to be kinder to other people, it'll also make kinder to yourself. I think everyone deserves some self-love after surviving 2025. Henry, what's a belief you've completely changed your mind about as an adult? I think I spent a lot of time thinking if I only worked harder, pretzeled more, figured out how to please us. others more than everything would be okay. I've really gotten over the idea that I'm supposed to be liked by everyone. It makes me really sad to think about being disliked.

I'm a human. But I can't care about other people's opinions more than I care about my own or those of my friends and family. And I just am really done making myself. small to please other people. And I think that would be something I'd wish for you guys, too. You know? The likability thing, especially for women, is just a trap. So, throw it in the garbage. New Year's resolution. Cleo says, what is a green flag that instantly makes you like someone? Geez, a green flag. I pay a lot of attention to the way that people talk to people.

You know, are they polite in public? Do they hold the door open for people, you know, entering or exiting a building around them? Are people kind to wait staff and service folks? Like, are you nice to city workers and the folks on the subway and the people at the airport? You know, when people go out of their way to be courteous or to ask a person in a service position how their day is going. and mean it, that instantly makes me like someone in their energy. Oh, Joel, this is a good question. What's the most reckless thing you've ever done that you'd probably do again? Take an international flight to go on a date. I would do that with my partner anytime, any day, and hope we get to do that for a very, very long time. I think it's always reckless to show up for love and to take a risk to see if you're going to fall in love or better yet rise in love.

And sometimes it's been great and sometimes it hasn't, but I don't regret any of it. It's something I'll always bet big on for sure. Georgie favorite thing to do in New York City with friends um god there's so many fun things to do in New York some of which I don't want to share uh because I got to have my spots but you know what I will say I did this year that was so sweet um Ash and I took our families and the kids to a Christmas market like we did the whole Midtown thing we did Rockefeller Center and the big beautiful tree and then went to Bryant Park through all the, like, cute little Christmas village and got, you know, all the snacks, churros and chocolate and hot cocoa and donuts.

And it was, it was sort of like dropping into a Christmas movie set. And it's not something you normally do in a place where you live. You know, it's like a tourist thing. And we did it with the kids. And it was the sweetest, just lovely. little family adventure and I was talking about how you know for the 10 years I lived in Wilmington I never actually toured the battleship on the Cape Fear River that's a museum now and like we've filmed next to it multiple times a month if multiple times a week and I never went in there

because I lived there and I didn't like do the tourist stuff and I wish that I had and this was a really fun thing to do. So I'll say for you fellow residents, like try the holiday tourist thing. It's really cute. And now a word from our sponsors. You want to advance your education, but not on a traditional path. At Rasmussen University, you'll find flexible and engaging online experiences, tuition savings options, exceptional student support, and much more. You may also, qualify for a new laptop when you enroll in select online or campus programs. Enroll for a fully online program or one of their 20 campuses across six states. Start when you're ready and get the support you need. Visit rasmussen.edu.

Maddie Jones, dream podcast guest that are alive. Oh my God, immediately, John Lewis. I was lucky enough to be in his presence a few times over the years, you know, working for progress. And I don't know. I thought I'd have more time. And he was such an incredible leader and such an icon. And the stories that he lived were things I wish I'd been able to have a long conversation with him about. just for inspiration you know i'd say on the like purely fun and alive side i'd love to interview

madonna like she's wild and cool and just has such a power to her i would i would love that so if she's around hit me up girl um linda oh this is a great question before a big meeting or audition, what song do you blast to pump yourself up? So this changes all the time for me. Particularly, you know, if I'm, if I'm like memorizing material for an audition or, you know, a test or something, I usually will make a playlist for a character. And, you know, sometimes they start as three, four, five songs and then through the span of the job, they grow. But I think music can really set a mood. So I don't have a go-to song. I have songs I pick based on the vibe of the project. Cool Beans. Do you ever get nervous or self-conscious before I love seeing? Oh my God,

it's so funny. I know that intimate scenes must seem so wild for people out there in the world, but they're like the most choreographed things we do of anything. I mean, love scenes and stunts are choreographed to equal measure. And so they're very technical and really not romantic in any way. It's a lot of like make sure your nose is tilted just like this so you don't block this person's light. So no, I don't think I've ever felt nervous Because I always go in feeling very prepared

For me, it's always more that like awkward moment after Where you've got to figure out how to, you know, get up in front of your whole crew And then like look at everybody and be like, well, we just did a weird thing together It's more that moment that makes me feel a little bit bashful But it's just part of the job Another Haley different from the one up top I'm just not reading y'all's full handles or last names because I don't know who wants. There's stuff on blast, but asks, what's your favorite thing to do when your anxiety is high?

Girl, send tips. My anxiety is high, but I try to remind myself something I do a lot is a reframe that's been really transformative for me, where when things feel overwhelming and I'm like, well, I have to do this and I have to do that, and then I have to do these next three things is to shift that method or way of speaking to myself to I get to. I get to do this and I get to do that and then I get to do these next three things. I get to do these things in my life

and I think that feels like a big deal. Smashley, what's one thing you're quietly proud of but haven't said out loud? Oh, man, I'm really proud of continuing to do the work that I try to do on myself. You know, that's an inside job. It's not something people get to see or hear about. But to be at a point where I've done a lot of work to heal the things I've had to heal, and I am choosing to continue pulling at those threads to offer the same kind of

kind of tenderness to people who've hurt me, two people I've had to heal from, because I do really digging into life experiences, think everyone deserves that. And I think when you can not only forgive yourself, but forgive the people that have hurt you, you can encourage other people to forgive themselves. And hopefully you can encourage people to extend forgiveness to you for the ways you've inevitably hurt them. You know, we've all hurt someone. We've all been absolutely eviscerated by someone. And I think choosing to grow your capacity for tenderness in both directions is really important.

And it's something I work really hard at. And the world probably won't ever hear about any of that in detail. but I am proud of it. Thank you for that great question. Glaring at you, which moment of your life would you want to relive if given the choice? Oh, I know what it is,

but I'm going to keep it for myself, but thank you for the smile. Vinanti, what would eight or nine-year-old Sophia say looking at you thriving right now? Wow. You know, she was like a little granny and a little kid's body. I think she would be really proud that I work so hard and that I'm also choosing a life that I love. It was really all about work for a long, long time, and I think that's okay. I love my career, and I think we should all love our career. but I think the willingness to pursue happiness and the willingness to fail in public when it would be easier not to

if I just settled would really tickle her because she was an adventurous little kid and there was a lot of the world that told her to be less so for a long time. And I don't abide by that telling in my adulthood, and I think she'd be thrilled by that, and probably would say, well, you could have done it sooner. And then this kills me the last of the filtered questions. I know my producers did this to surprise me, you sweet souls.

I want to call you out by your first and, last name, Ashlyn Harris, I can't believe you responded to this Instagram story. What is the most profound thing you've learned about love? I think the most profound thing I have learned about love from you and with you is that, yes, those adages of relationships are hard or true. building a life is hard you know running a what is essentially a company you know like a an industry that has all these arms two people and their lives and their multifaceted careers and kids and travel and all the things like that's complicated but what i've the most profound thing

I've learned about love is that it doesn't have to feel like rock it can be water it can have flow and it can surprise you and it can be wild and powerful and it can be really slow and quiet and when it is all of those things it finds its way into every little crevice of your life and nurtures who you are and that is a profound thing to learn after four decades on this planet. And I feel immensely grateful. And I think that's a pretty special place to end. Thank you all for your questions. Thank you to my person for my favorite one. Thank you for taking the time. And after you listen to this, I'd love to hear your thoughts about 2026. Let us know what some of your goals are, you know, what you want to learn, what you

want to do, what you want to set intentions around this year. We'd love to chat. Thanks, everyone. Happy holidays. You want to advance your education, but not on a traditional path. At Rasmussen University, you'll find flexible and engaging online experiences, tuition savings options, exceptional student support, and much more. You may also qualify for a new laptop when you enroll in select online or campus programs. Enroll for a fully online program or one of their 20 campuses across six states. Start when you're ready and get the support you need.

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