Drinking Wine and Talking Shit - Sauvignon Blanc & Social Media FOMO: A Crisp Reality Check

Episode Date: March 1, 2025

Ever scroll through your feed and feel like everyone else is living their best life while you're... just existing? You're not alone! In this episode of Drinking Wine and Talking Shit, we uncork the truth about Social Media FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). 🍷We're diving deep into the highlight reels, filters, and curated realities that make social media a breeding ground for anxiety. Is it all just smoke and mirrors? We're breaking it down with humour, honesty, and a crisp New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc, paired perfectly with a delicious Mango and chili cheese Salad.Join us as we discuss:The difference between the highlight reel and reality.Tips for handling the FOMO monster and reclaiming your peace of mind.Ridiculous social media moments and the lengths people go to for likes.Real listener stories about their FOMO experiences.Pop culture references that perfectly capture the social media struggle.And of course, plenty of laughs and unfiltered conversation!We know social media can have a real impact on mental health, and we're here to talk about it with a dose of reality. If you're struggling, please know you're not alone. We've included resources in our show notes, and our resident counsellor, Sensi Walters, is available to our listeners.So grab a glass of your favourite wine, settle in, and let's get real about social media. Cheers to real life – the unfiltered, messy, and beautiful version!Don't forget to:👍 Like this video!🔔 Subscribe for more wine-fueled truth bombs!💬 Leave a comment with your own FOMO stories or wine pairings!Resources (Include links here):Link to mental health resources: https://www.accph.org.uk/england/leicester/therapists-and-coaches/sensi-waltersLink to Social Media free time tracker app: https://clockify.me/Link to our social media: https://www.instagram.com/dwt_shit/#SocialMediaFOMO #WinePodcast #RealTalk #PodcastLife #SauvignonBlanc #MentalHealth #FOMO #DrinkingWineAndTalkingShit #Podcast #WineLoversFind us on Instagram and Tiktok @DWTS_Shit. And you can follow @only_aamy & sadie.cubitt on Instagram too. Let's laugh with wine together!

Music Right, how's your week been? Oh actually quite good. Yeah, good. Working less and less and less. I've had to take a step back if I'm honest Because I've just been doing too much and I'm stressed out She says try to do a podcast learn Spanish do MMA. I don't know why I'm learning Spanish. You don't know why I'm learning Spanish What's done? You're trying to learn French. I've decided I'm quitting that. Oh, no, I'm gonna continue to do that You know why I'm really good thing to learn especially? No I've decided I'm quitting that. Oh no I'm gonna continue to do that. Do you know why I'm quitting? It's a really good thing to learn especially in my trade. Yeah but again soon there'll be those

things you just pop in your ear and it translates it for you and then it speaks for you so you can tell them what you're saying. I don't want to. I want to be able to teach it and learn it myself. Fine that's absolutely fantastic good for you. Thanks. Anyway. Wasting my time. Let's get cracking. So much for 2025 goals guys. I can say what I need to say. El cambio para tobacco por favor. I don't even smoke anymore, but I can say it. Right, let's get into it. So, hey there, wine lovers and again truth spillers and welcome back to drinking wine and talking shit the podcast where we sip laugh and get real about life and don't we know it. Today we are diving headfirst into the digital world and in uncorking a juicy conversation about social media

FOMO sorry social media FOMO fear of missing out. Yes we're tackling that sinking feeling when you scroll through your feed and suddenly it seems like everyone else is living their dream life while you're just well living. But before we get into it a quick note we do we do know that social media has a real impact on mental health the episode isn't about dismissing that but rather breaking it down with some humour and honesty. If you're struggling with social media's impact and we do know how that can affect people. Please know that you are not alone. We'll list resources in our show notes and as always we've got Sensi Walters, our resident counsellor, available to our listeners.

Yes we do. Let's address then, let's start off then with the highlight reel versus reality kind of moment. So let's address the elephant in the digital room. The highlight reel. Social media is like a perfectly edited movie trailer and it really is. You get the best bits but not the whole story and they say a particular programme I've been watching that I'd like to relate to that but we'll come into it a little bit later. Okie dokie. Well it's like everyone's living in a romcomcom isn't it? Not even a rom-com, to me it's like

oh look how amazing my life is but then you turn the camera around and your house is a tip. That's me, that is me. And we'll admit it. Yeah on social media. I love my Instagram account. Me and Erin always say that my Instagram account is a perfect collage of our lives together and we all do it. I just love looking back through, it's like my own little photo wall and real wall where I watch the videos that I love the most. So I love it, I love social media but obviously there are other things you know it's just you know it's not always all fun and games for a lot of people and

we'll come back to that. Yeah, absolutely. And yeah, that's right obviously. So you know, like that influencer posted in front of a tropical sunset, probably spent an hour finding the right angle, sorry, and another hour editing out tourists in the background or making sure that they stood there for so long before so that everyone left so they could take the perfect picture. I would not be arsed. Same. Just get me a glass of wine I'll just sit here. I'll just take a further one. Quick selfie with my wine. And obviously you've also got like the Snapchat

filters and Instagram filters which then also get you comparing yourself to a really digitally enhanced version of not even you really. Like I took a really nice selfie last night whilst I was in the bathroom and I just sent it on my Snapchat to Ria, I think I sent it to you. And it was like a cartoon kind of, I was like oh my God I look so amazing. I look beautiful. Oh my God, what a great photo.

Even me fat rolls looked good. Have you ever done that thing though where you're on a filter and then it comes off and you're like, oh that's what I actually look like. But again guys, that's the same for everybody. All these people you see on TV are AI animation. Have you seen on Sheena now and you're looking for clothes and it's all like whether it's Sheena or not, something else, maybe another website. So there's really edited people, like they're not real and they're like AI people and then obviously women then think that that's how all women

should look and should look and so they need to look like that. It's not even a real person, it is an AI created person. And I saw on Instagram yesterday it was a baby, a baby fashion meme, when a meme was like an ad and it was AI babies in like, well like toddlers in like these beautiful outfits and it was just, it was too much. Yeah. I'll tell you what I like about AI though, guys that watch these YouTube videos of like, I don't know, name a show, like a TV show kids watch. Sonic. No. Bugs Bunny. No, ones without animals in in okay so like for example Simon Sam as a dog and then oh yeah generate a dog that resembles oh he did one the other day

they were doing Mario yeah Mario was dogs made of Mario's puppies but don't you think it was a little bit smart wasn't very good because I think you should choose a dog that resembles that that person yeah so like I don't know Mario could probably be a little shit soo like an Italian dog I mean what is it's a nice Italian yeah but it's not a bite it not they're all Italian in it Italian dinosaur peach be more peaches obviously than Italian but yeah so they didn't they just kind of kept using the same dog for everyone to change their outfit best one was Yoshi Yoshi one I loved it I thought it was great.

Yes some things about AI are fine. Poor patrol has dinosaurs. Some things about AI are fine obviously in that case fine but obviously when it comes to like you know you that's why I like it I wouldn't like it if it was yeah and like obviously like saying you know you feel this for you the need to then be something that you're not. So yeah, social media phobos, it is real and we're going to go into way more as to how that impacts people and all the ways that it can be. But for now though, it is time for the why and the why. Sadie, what are we sipping on today?

Well, today I have decided to kind of come up with my own little concoction so normally I look online for little recipes that I can make and obviously I did do a bit of research but I have decided on, you can't see them just yet, some mango and chilli cheese salads one of which has a sweet chilli dressing and one has a balsamic. We wanted to see what worked best. I also thought that probably what would have gone best with this was for like a yogurt-y style dressing. Probably would have been the best just to cut through the chilli on the cheese but it's not really that chilli fried. Anyway we have a New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc today to try with this so we'll

just quickly show you the food and then we will cut whilst we do our taste test. So guys here you go, I'll just hold this up to the screen there it looks amazing so um this one I'm holding has got sweet chilli on it and I'm going to stop the salie because I would like to try the balsamic. We're gonna try both. Oh we'll try both um but I will say as I'm the one who scores I'm not a very good I'm not very good with sweet and savory combos yeah I really thought she'd actually hate this so let's see how she gets on see how we get on we're gonna pull the wine try the food and we'll be back after this taste test all right welcome back Amy what did you think of my mango and chili cheese salad? I was so far up surprisingly surprised

Yeah, pleasantly surprised sorry Really really nice again. I'm not a big fan of like the combination But actually it was quite nice because I think the cut the mango actually took away some of the spice of the cheese I prefer the balsamic to the chili, but I think that's just too much of one thing But it was dead easy to me the wine is banging and goes really well with it and actually for saying I wouldn't normally like something like that I actually really enjoyed it so I'm gonna go for an 8 out of 10. Really good and the only reason the other two aren't there is because I just don't normally like mango and I think I would have been

I would have still been happier without it sort of thing but I did really enjoy it so yeah and I think as well like I was saying like small pieces of mango because I think the mango is too chunky whereas if you had a nice mouthful of cheese and small bits of mango it would have complimented it a bit. Also it's really easy to make so if you're rushing like I say, nice quick salad, yeah just really really tasty. Loved it. We'll put the information on Instagram and if you ever want to make the recipe you can do so and please let us know what you think.

Okay so let's get back onto our topic of the episode. How do we shut down this FOMO monster? Obviously first of all you can recognise that it's normal and we all feel it but not only that most of the time when people post on social media they are just posting the good parts. But obviously, and remember social media is not real life, it is a highlight reel, not the full movie. And what happens in movies, there's always an up and a down and up and a down and up and a down and then it ends in an up. Yeah, if only real life was the same and it always ended on an up but obviously sometimes that's not the case. And it is just important to be aware that you are going to see things on social media that you envy and you want and literally

life just isn't that way. Okay, so if that's the case then, give me some examples of what you see on social media that you envy. Personally for me, I wouldn't necessarily say it actually affects me that well, that badly, and we will come more into this, but I just follow things that are funny. so I don't really look at them go don't get me wrong I follow DIY things and I follow like home decor because I'm rubbish at it so I need ideas but I don't sit there and and go don't get me wrong God I sit there and go I want this I want that I want that but I want to work hard for it and that's that's mine and my

partner's kind of plan but then I think you are it's easily to sit there and look at someone's beautiful house, someone's beautiful things, someone's children if you can't have babies or you know, you're not got as much money. But there's always gonna be something that you don't have that someone else does have. But you don't have to sit there and watch it over and over

and destroy yourself because of it. Really, like that's the point. My friend said to me, she's given up smoking, she's given up drinking, she's been amazing. She's doing 10,000 steps a day easy and her next thing to give up is social media and I was like why like at the end of the day or 20 minutes of like just for me in the middle of the day when I've been working and I were like nip to the ensuite and I go toilet and I'll just literally just sit scrolling on my phone.

I love it. I love it. I follow only funny things and even if it's things that like, okay I follow people that do have these amazing lifestyles and I'm like oh my god but then it's like to me I look at that and think that's a lot of maidsense mate. I just couldn't cope with it. I know I'm sure they've got cleaners and maids and childcare providers and all that. And that's another thing for people to envy though isn't it? Oh I wish I had somebody who could come and clean my house. I wish my house was that big. I wish my house was that clean all the time and that beautiful and had this best Christmas tree and I could afford all these presents. I think the full point of it is social media

can be amazing. It can take you away from reality. So you can go and watch something funny, you can watch a funny video or re and memes, which is what I do, and sit there and sit on the toilet and send them to Stady all day, or my friends or whatever. That's fine. But then the other element of it, and I know we know people who may struggle with this, is they'll watch stuff that they want, and then it makes them depressed. I think one thing that helps is obviously setting yourself limits. I mean, sometimes I think give yourself social media time like a cap, or like only have like an hour on it in the afternoon or something like that.

Maybe even schedule when you check your feed. Also, if you've got that much time to be on social media, get a job because you obviously haven't got one. Not necessarily, probably doing what we're doing, sit on the dollar. Mean sender. Yeah, but that's the time cap anyway, isn't it? It doesn't mean that you're on it for hours, does it?

Because you're seeing these things. It doesn't mean that you're on it for hours, does it? Because you're seeing these things. It doesn't mean that you're on it for hours and hours and hours scrolling. Absolutely. And you know. Or cap yourself at what you follow, I'd say. But also, oh, what annoys me on social media are, oh, you should do this daily routine.

Can you just say that again in case the listeners didn't understand the word of what you said? You should do this daily routine. You should get up at 5 a.m. You should read these books. If you want to be the smartest person in the room, get this app. You need, I Googled once, water filter.

Social media. Oh, get this water filter, get this water filter, get this water filter. Leave me alone. If I'm gonna buy a water filter, I'll do it without you telling me which one to buy, okay? I Googled it out of the invalition now you're just sending me adverts for flipping water filters I am

gonna get one but I won't choose none of you. Isn't that interesting as well like you you and as well we've done this but we've just spoken about something you haven't even googled it and it's still coming up on your feed so Siri Alexa stop bloody listening to us. They're always listening. They're always listening, you don't have to say hey at the beginning. In a minute we'll hear. Yeah, I'm just going to sit here and listen to everything you say. No, Siri does that, doesn't she, if you don't say it quicker.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Alright, give me a minute! So Siri! God. But yeah, so, you know, there's little things you can do, but like I said, we'll go into it a little bit more anyway. Yeah, and obviously just be mindful of how it makes you feel. If you start feeling anxious or inadequate, just come off it, grab a glass of wine, take a deep breath. We always do

that in our house. Have a chat to a friend as well, like you don't need to be sat there by yourself just with your glass of wine on your own. Yeah, of course, yeah. Yeah, and sometimes if and sometimes if I'm bored I think oh I've been scrolling for ages and then I see that one of my friends has like recently been like she'll you'll never know she's been online but I know she's responded to something she was as her offline thing she doesn't show that she's online I just know that she's probably responded to a message or maybe she sent me a reel and I'm like oh she's awake it's like 10 o'clock I'll just FaceTime her or guaranteed if her son

needs a mass help she'll FaceTime me and then I'll just keep talking. Yeah so like always good to have a friend but you know also just focus on your life what's good in your world what's exciting there's going to be some nice things always and sometimes we're just so busy looking at others that we forget to enjoy our own moments and trust me I like we have we have done that we have but especially lately I do this thing and I don't know if if this is gonna be helpful for you or whatever but sometimes you know when you're getting frustrated with your kids or frustrated with work or frustrated, especially like when

it comes to your children, I always tell myself, I close my eyes and I imagine that I'm really old and I'm in my care home. I don't know if I've mentioned this before. I imagine that I'm really old, all alone in my care home, my partner's no longer around, my kids are grown, they've got their own lives, their own family and I'm all by myself in this cold ass care home bed and... With horrible people who don't look after you very well. That's joking. Just saying if it's gonna be the worst situation. Yeah, yeah. And then I open my eyes and I'm so glad I'm not there and my kids are here

and they're still little and actually Kaisal's going to school soon and I don't want it to go. I even said to him, I said, it's only three so he's starting pre-school actually. It's okay Sadie, you can put all these lovely pictures on your social media account of him starting school and look how brilliant and beautiful they are, look how smart my child is. In his new uniform. And I said but what am I going to do whilst you're at school? And he went, it's okay, Mummy,

Daddy will look after you. I was like, okay. I said, but what am I going to do? And he went, wait to come and pick me up. I was like, okay. Just carried on casually. You'll be fine, Mum. Just wait at home until I'm free when I'm ready.

Yeah, when I'm done. Yeah. Caj. Alright, so let's lighten things up then. What is the most ridiculous social media post you've ever seen? I hope you've got some. Got it. Because I've got a good one. Got it. Got it. Right. So today, I was giving through my messages on Facebook that my boyfriend sends me. Randomly he does this thing where he'll send them to me personally and then he's

now created a group with just me and him in because that's normal because that's not the same as just sending each other messages. He uses the group for is to send me fighting videos which is actually handy because then I don't have to look through them if I don't want to. And then look on the funny stuff if you want to funny slash stuff to do with growing our lives business whatever anyway send me one now I thought what the hell is this I go on it and it's like a Judge Judy thing I don't know who the judge was don't know what the show is it's a Judge Judy thing so I'm watching it for ages now there was two and it's nothing to do with people's gender or anything like that this was

just a weird story I was like one why is it on social media for one two it's nothing related to FOMO but it's still funny and hilarious and I was like what related to FOMO well maybe anyway tell me if you guys feeling like you're missing out so the video starts and it's two women who were together in a relationship perfectly fine on one side and they're suing a man who got them both pregnant for five thousand pounds now the reason they're suing a man who got them both pregnant for five thousand pounds. Now the reason they're suing him for five thousand pounds is because after they had a baby shower to celebrate this is American dollars then sorry five thousand dollars my bad five

thousand dollars. Now the reason they're suing him is because they both decided that they wanted to have a baby together so instead to save money they did it the old-fashioned way and they wanted the babies, both babies, that both these women had and they were in the relationship. They both wanted a baby each in the relationship together by the same man so they were related. Bay with the story. Fair enough, I can see why you'd want that. Yeah absolutely, I'm not judging them for that at all. Even the judge was like yeah get it save you money.

Yeah. Why not? Don't know if it's a threesome or two separate moments. Don't care. Not judging. Fine. Then they decided to sue this man for $5,000 because he offered to pay for a baby shower for both of the people, gender reveal sorry, for both of the women who were having his children. Fair enough. The reason he then decided that he didn't want to pay for this $5,000 baby shower, by the way they were trying to save money, but they spent $5,000 on a, sorry, gender reveal.

Who decided to spend $5,000? The women? I don't know, that wasn't necessarily clear. He was happy to do so, but they were all, he's still going to be the father of their children, like this was something they decided. And he was happy, he wanted to be involved in these. He was very nice, he seemed very nice in this in this situation anyway he obviously was nice

because comments in there will be saved until after the show but yeah he got double sex with two women so anyway they he said the reason that he didn't want to no longer pay for this this baby shower is because he felt that things happened during that baby shower that made him think that one of the babies at least, if not both, were no longer his. Oh. And... Gender reveal, by the way. It was a gender, sorry, gender reveal. Whatever. Same difference, man. Celebrating babies.

So, they, his argument was, look, during this baby shower, there was a lot of ex-partners there and both these women are stood there and the one woman, so this woman who's probably Latina and the woman who's white, so just for description sake, the white lady was like, yes we are in a very mature, secure relationship and we are on very good terms with our exes, we were happy for them to be there. So she's got an ex-husband, he was there. This man, Mr Fab, fan, something like that, FA something. We'll just call him Mr. X for now. The dad. Dad. The supposed dad. Dad. Okay.

Said, during the baby shower, from what I gathered as well, he was with the Latina girl previously. They were a previous relationship, I think. But even if that was his- Before they decided to enter into a lesbian relationship and I just checked that they are a couple, yeah? Yeah, they were a couple.

They broke up. Like, they broke up, they were fine. They were very happy with the breakup, they were fine, they were very, what's the word I'm looking for? Mutual, it was a mutual breakup. Yeah, and they were fine. Anyway, go on. So, sorry, sorry, still feel like I need the detail.

We don't. So anyway, the bloke who's the daddy, he says at the baby shower, the white lady and her ex-husband were very, very, like, because they looked like they were actually having sex without their clothes on, touchy feely, neck kisses, the lot. Kissing? Neck kisses. Oh. The lot.

Wait, wait for it. Okay. I mean, he says, look, I just feel like there was more going on there, and now I'm more re-in, because originally the plan, one of them did say to him, one of the women did say to him, was to have it with his ex. No, no, at the baby shower, sorry. Oh, the original plan was to have it with her ex? At the baby shower, no, sorry, gender reveal, the ex-husband said, actually, one of the women did say to him, was to have it with his ex. No, no, at the baby shower, sorry. Oh, the original plan was to have it with her ex? At the baby shower, no, sorry, gender reveal. The ex has been said, actually they actually

asked me first to do that. Oh, okay. And now they've asked you, well he didn't know this. Anyway, he's really thinking about this, he's like, why am I paying £5,000 if these girls are kind of cheating on me basically and getting another guy to get them pregnant and I'm paying $5,000 for a baby shower for babies that aren't mine? Do a test, don't they? Do a test, the Latina girl is his. The white lady is her ex's brides,

and the Latina woman is devastated. She's like, what? So you've loosed me, you've outused me, we've come on national TV and do this thinking that we were right. And they've come, she was adamant the whole time as well. And also, sorry, but you are a couple. That's, you've had an affair with your ex's brides. Yeah, because she said, she says, but this was a you're a couple that's you've had a new man Yeah

Because she said she says but this was before we decided to get this to have this baby together with this person and she went But what about our commitment together? Yeah? Yeah, I felt really sorry for the woman this little senior lady and this bloke But seemed really nice. He was willing to pay five grand for a bit gender reveal for two kids He thought where is and he knew it because I just knew it and knew it and then yeah so it wasn't his. Probably not related to FOMO but you'll be missing out if you don't watch that video. Put it in the show notes. I'm gonna watch that now. But it was. My story which is definitely related to bloody FOMO. Stay near my mic CD. I saw it today and I thought as soon as you sent me the script I was like, oh, got a good one, because even I was like fucking hell. This woman, I don't

know if she lives in Dubai, I don't know if she lives in America, I don't know if she lives in Saudi Arabia. She was obviously a Muslim woman and I was like, well you know, I always see these women in Saudi Arabia with all this bloody money. Anyway she was like what my husband bought for me when I was when I was having our baby girl $150,000 on a bright pink something 4x4. $150,000. It gets way worse than that. I've saved it actually. This is a really good one. I'll just have another one. And a bright pink 4x4 because you know my baby's got travelling style. 4x4. She didn't do all that. This is my accent that I'm giving her. 2 million on a new house because you know our family's increasing in size, she

only had a son first, there's only two children. Two million dollar house plus an extra one million dollars on renovations and a pool because she's not going out to swim. Come in. Yes please. Great, fine. Yeah, I mean I was like bloody hell yeah. Then it was, I don't know how much it cost. So she did say $50,000 allowance per month for her baby girl's only wardrobe, just for her daughters. Not hers or her sons or... 50K.

Yep. Must be the bias, sorry. And we'll rewind, there's poverty in the world. Well, I know, we'll come on to that because we've got another bit for later. Anyway, then she was going on about she had postnatal massages for her hand and her daughter for the first 12 weeks after she was born. I mean, I'll be like, yeah, straight on that, yeah, cool.

Yep, just take the film. Then another 150,000 on another new car because she said she couldn't always drive the pink one. Obviously. Just loads of things. That's ridiculous. I was just like, oh mental re- There was a documentary I was watching the other day on a girl called Gabby Petito. She was murdered by her partner, fiance. All over social media she did a massive block.

She looked happy, she was traveling the world. Join us in our van as we travel the world, Dad. Killed her. Why? Because he annoyed her, I don't know. She annoyed him. She annoyed him, yeah. But watch the documentary, guys.

I'll pop it in the show notes. But this is a prime example. There's a catch. Not always a catch, but you know what I mean? Sometimes don't sit, my point is, my point isn't that there's always a catch. My point is don't sit there and obsess about what somebody else has got because they're probably not as happy as they're making out.

The same as this girl who's blogging all over the country in America, going travelling with her fiance who didn't even get her a ring. Not that much but I'm just saying, get the ring. You didn't even get her a ring. Get the damn ring, mate. Before you kill me. Before you kill her. Right?

But then, you know, all you see on social media, they showed her social media, it just looked beautiful. You would think, wow, she's got a great life. Murdered by her boyfriend. Left in the middle. And do you know what I found odd at the end? Their family, which, oh fine to them, you know, went back to the place where she was found. And they scattered her ashes there. I was like, I don to them, you know. Went back to the place where she was found.

And they scattered her ashes there. I was like, I don't wanna be left there. What, so now I stay here and keep my memory of where I died? Cause my ashes are here so I can't leave. I'm gonna be stuck here. Maybe somewhere nice. Like not.

Home, my house, with you guys, which is where I wanted to go back to. Yeah, okay. So nothing to do with that. I'm just saying, not everything that you see on social media is this beautiful thing that you see. You're seeing someone on social media who's constantly sharing stuff like that, no matter where they're from. Let me give you another example.

Maybe it means because they're sometimes probably not that happy, so they feel the need to share. Yeah, there's a white woman who does live in Dubai with her husband who's from Dubai, and she is so annoying. She's like, think of the amount of money my husband spent on me this month. I got this, I got this. I'm like, oh you're really annoying. Like if you look at her social media, like it's all gloat, gloat, gloat, gloat, gloat, gloat. And I feel like that's just a bit much. Like you can have a really nice social media showing people what you're doing without being like, this is how much money my husband spent on me this month. A housewife living in Dubai with her husband who's from Dubai. Oh God. There's a caption, a woman in Dubai with her husband from Dubai.

Yeah. And don't we all just want to go to Dubai? God don't we? I'm really looking forward to going to Dubai. Yeah me and Aaron said, but we also said we're gonna go Vegas you know when the kids are older. I wanna go to Vegas. I feel like Vegas you just never sleep, it's like nothing asleep does it? It's called the city that never sleeps. Yeah that's what I meant. That's what I was trying to get to. It's like you never sleep! Yeah that's what they call it. Yeah but that's what I'm saying they don't sleep so I want to be in that time zone where you're not really in time. Like an air-on was like oh I don't know about America. I was like it's just Vegas it's cool like we'll just wait till the kids go to bed. Also you were allowed to go to sleep you did it. Yeah but I want to be... The city doesn't sleep. But what I'm saying is is I want to be in a place I'm thinking about the time yeah and I feel

like Vegas would be great because you oh my god another casino I'm gonna pull oh my god let's go as a cocktail let's go oh my god that ride that I don't know let's all those yeah I would love to come up right I should do that I'd take Nikola I'd say we're at Vegas I'd take Nikola I'd say Nikola too. She can come up we'll bring Nicola. Me, you and Chris, I'm Nicola. Ok Nic, so let's get on. Yes, ok so. Oh yeah, what people do for likes, go about that. Yeah, people do like clickbait as well. There's loads of clickbait. Like I saw this thing on Instagram earlier, it was Angelina Jolie and it said her new boyfriend and she looked great by the way not dead skinny or anything I think it

was AI. I clicked it and it was literally just sex linked to a website and I was like go away! That just made me go to a sex website I didn't want to go to. I choose to go to them on my own time thank you. Well I saw one the other day and it was obviously a joke. So it's obviously, the woman is obviously living on our council estate but don't make her a bad person. No not at all. But she's obviously making a joke saying she's got like ten kids and they're not giving her a bigger house and council shit and she deserves a bigger house and all this. Obviously a joke right? And people are commenting like you trash, you're this. I think that's? And people are commenting like, you trash, you

this. Oh I think that's unfair. Cross your legs and then people underneath are like, they obviously don't know who you are and that this is a joke. And then there's more, keep your legs shut. And she's like, she's literally the girl, the woman looks about 30 and she's like, me and my daughter are both pregnant, like the council need to give us a bigger ass. And and you and your daughter are slaughtered. I'm like, oh my god, he's a joke. And then she did another one where she goes dinner time kids, kids all lined up and she gives them one chicken nugget. People's comments, oh you're dicked.

And how do people not get that he's a joke then? Honestly, listen, you grow up on a cancer state, we have good meals. And it's like, I think with people, I think again, like you know when you go somewhere where you're doing something and you want to try and look like you're doing something good or you're doing well and then you're there with your selfie stick or whatever. I think one that I saw was I see with someone posting that they were volunteering somewhere and then they were holding this perfectly posed selfie stick. You can see yourself, I think that you can see they were holding a selfie stick so it just looked a bit too

posed. Like, if you're going to do something nice for the community you don't have to show it off. Oh you mean like at a food show? Yeah. Oh. And it was just ridiculous. I ate that. Erm, but yeah like erm.

I'm not going to go and take a photo of myself giving someone a fiver and a chocolate bar. Yeah exactly. That's just like next level. Look how nice I am. Cringy. Oh, oh I've seen it before though where we were like oh so I gave this man, I got this That's just like next level cringy. Oh I've seen it before though, we were like, oh so I gave this man, I got this tramp off the street, that's what they said, it says tramp, not homeless person, it says tramp.

And gave them a makeover, oh! Do my head in, do the ask. Oh, did they ask you? I mean, they're probably grateful of it, probably go out and get some crack now because they look pretty. Literally. I get crackies you know. They're not gonna get a job. My beard won't get in my lips. Jokes. Terrible joke.

But, even like, just rude. It's like, do you know what annoys me? It's like that white, those, I know, and I know, I know I'm showing you how to help him, but like white people that then go to like African countries or you know, like Malaysia or wherever there is supposed poverty. And they're going to help. I'm going to help. Help with what? Do you have billions of pounds that you give to them to stop the economy? And even if they did.

Not where I'm going with it, right? There's people there helping that are black or Malaysian or Indonesian or Indian I don't know they don't need you you are not their white savior come to give them thousands and thousands of pounds does my head in I remember when I went to Zimbabwe right me and Phyllis we did go to some orphanages or whatever right Phyllis is black I'm gonna point out that. First of all, didn't post anything, sent my friend a photo and she went that's such a nice photo shame you can't post that I went yeah I know. Because I wouldn't post it. Because I looked like a twat.

Look how good of a person I am! Cringe. Next level cringe. Um. The E.I. likes. Yeah, likes. And also I saw, yeah, people just... Look at me, I can help you tramp. Length people go to for likes. I can give someone a burger. Yeah.

Give someone a burger. I mean, if you were on the last episode, and I talked about giving that homeless person my hot dog, that wasn't for me to be a nice person. That was because I was full. She didn't want it. I was full. I didn't want my partner to know I wasn't eating it. I was like, quick, quick, quick. They were there.

Yeah, did I post it on fucking Facebook? No, I didn't. Look at me giving my, wait, wait, wait. I can't believe it. No, wait, no, wait, I'm having a good joke. Look at me giving a trap my hot dog. Boof. What are you giving that trap your hot dog for? In case you didn't catch the last episode, that boom was my ex boyfriend punching me.

Go and watch it if you're a loser if you haven't. Right, literally, we've got to go and slow it down a bit. FYI, that's fucking real. Right, it is time to start kind of moving it forward a little bit guys and we are coming to a close now so we just want to share a couple of stories with you that we've had listeners write into us. Do you want me to go first and do you want to have a look through what you may want? I'll read the first one. Alright. Okay, these are a couple of writings and we're really happy that people have really started writing

in so we're really grateful thank you and the first three are ones that we can say sorry the first four ones we can say. Okay so hey Amy and Sadie love the podcast thank you so I had a serious case of vacation FOMO last summer my Instagram was flooded with people on yachts in Santorini oh yeah fucking Santorini. They love it. Sipping cocktails with perfect ocean views. Meanwhile, I was stuck at home with a broken AC, oh, sorry, air conditioner. I got so frustrated that I booked a last minute trip

to Mexico, maxed out my credit card, and then got food poisoning from a street taco on day two. Why would you eat a street taco? I'm a street fan. No, I don't eat from street vans. Never. That would make me ill. Oh my god, I'm ill all the time.

From food. Anyway lesson learned just because it looks perfect online doesn't mean it actually is. Lauren29 I mean I would not have eaten a street taco but that's me I don't eat from any street van ever because I've had food poisoning so many times when I was younger that I dared even eat air-ond chicken, let alone someone else's. But, not your fault, love, you went on a trip, ate some food, and unfortunately for you, you got food poisoning and it ruined your holiday. That's such a shame, especially after you felt like you'd done that because you were like, where do I want to go? And to be fair, that could have happened at the hotel. I remember I went to Egypt once, I ate crab at the hotel, all-inclusive, five-star hotel.

I still got food poisoning. I still got on the plane the next day to go to see the pyramids and I was dying. Got there, was sick in the toilet at the airport in Cairo. Got off, felt fantastic. I was amazing, I was like brilliant. We enjoyed the pyramids, got to the Egyptian Museum, left us standing outside for ages.

I didn't have a hat and I literally get sunstroke at the drop of a hat, which I learned from that trip, actually, because we weren't stood out there that long. Got sunstroke, ill all over again. I had to stay in Tutankhamun's tomb because it was so cold. I don't know why I thought that was so funny. Waited for the bus to arrive, took us back to the airport.

Hung around with two children, and then our flight was delayed back to Chameleon Shake and I was dying at the airport for ages. That was what I thought I was going to say. Killer. Killer. That is horrible. As I've been poorly on holiday, it is horrible. My next one is my favourite one and probably one that I feel like has happened is one like proper real kind of moment not not the

whole thing but I think it was something that people resonate with but we'll just like kind of connect with. Okay so this is from Marcus 25 thank you Marcus Marcus sorry I say Marcus because I work with someone called Marcus so now I have to get confused between Marcus and Marcus. I have to get confused with Aaron and Aaron Sadie's partner. Oh Marcus, my first crush. So one time, it's not him. Not this guy. Obviously. One time, so this is his story. One time I saw a bunch of my friends posting stories

from what looked like the best party ever. Champagne music, everyone dressed up, I felt so left out. Turns out the party was actually just them taking a bunch of pictures before heading home at nine o'clock because the club was so dead. A friend had told me about this later. Meanwhile I had a great night binging Netflix in dramas sometimes social media is just one big illusion and he he did

think like his friends I don't invite him somewhere or whatever and he probably would have still been bothered he wasn't invited but at the same time there what they put on social media was just a snapshot of what was happening like there was just their food and their drinks and like god you've got four people around a table and loads of food and a couple of drinks you can make everywhere, anywhere on a social media picture look busy and happening. So I totally get that one Marcus, thank you for sharing. Okay so this next one is from Jess who's 31. Fake flex gone wrong. So I used to follow

this girl who always had the best outfits, the best vacations, the best everything. I was so jealous of her life until I ran into her at a coffee shop. She was wearing the same trendy outfit I saw her post three months ago. Turns out she takes a ton of pics in different clothes on the same day and sprints them out to make it look like she's always living large. Mind blown. I think you should show one more and then I think we'll probably come to a bit of a close. Can I just quickly say what I do to, because this is a really good tip.

Absolutely. It's a great tip, right? So I do love to post on social media and I also do think that my life is amazing. I have a fantastic family, I enjoy my job, I am taking down my hours, yeah, earning my money. I do feel like 2025 is becoming my year and I'm really, really lucky to have a lovely roof

over my head, fantastic partner, beautiful children. I'm so, so happy. But when you post on social media, you can't wear the same outfit, can you? It's not a done thing. You have to look like you're wearing the same outfit. Even I'm like, we need to change for the pod. We need to change for the pod.

Yeah. Hey, I've been wearing this outfit for three days. Dude, this is my mom's jumper. This is change for the pod! I've been wearing this outfit for three days. No, sorry, two. Two. Two. This is my mum's jumper. I changed into it today just for this reason. It's probably got baby sick down it. It's actually clean. It was in the wardrobe. But if it had baby sick down it,

it was a different top to what I've worn on the podcast before. Anyway, so my tip. Now, first of all, I love a supermarket clothing brand. I think you can always get some really nice things. I stick to one colour scheme so I'm very much a cream, like light brown, beige, yeah, I just like that. If you don't like that colour that's fine but it's very easy then to mix and match your clothes. And if you're really struggling and I love doing this because it's so much fun is go to a posh town and go to the charity shops. I'm not even joking because I pair a Nike running

trainers for a 5R. I thought you were going to say go to a posh town and take pictures there and then come back. No, no. That's the only thing that defeats the objective is telling people to go for a 5R. No, no, no. It's just that then you've got, and obviously I bought this really nice Mac and everyone has complimented me on this Mac. Now it's from Tesco. So it's from a charity a charity shop I got it for a fiver but from Tesco's it would probably have been 30 quid don't get me wrong love a supermarket as well

some of the kids clothes in supermarkets can be fantastic Seansbury's, Morrison's, Tesco's great and Literally this Mac fiver everyone has said how nice it is. I'm like oh yeah cheers Yeah, don't say anything but I see if you want to be taking a lot of photos and not look like you're wearing the same thing all the time, and also, I haven't got that many clothes, so I mix and match really well because I try and keep the same colour scheme, everyone always compliments me, everyone always says, oh, that's a well-nice outfit, that's their primer, who's 12 pounds. It doesn't matter anyway.

No, but it's just a good tip. Yeah, it's a great tip. It's just a good tip, like, you're not not spending a fortune and if you don't want to wear it again You don't have to because it only cost you a fiver. It's great. Yeah, definitely We're gonna do a section aren't we we're gonna do a bit of a real and a bit of an Instagram kind of thing where We both get a tenner or maybe 15 pounds because cherry shops get expensive And we buy a whole outfit and show you what we've bought from a cherry shop I know like you might not think that you love our fashion or whatever but tell me now.

Ignore what we look like when we're filming though. Let me go out, we look great. Yeah look at our Instagrams. Can I just share one last story which is my favourite. It's from Olivia who is 36 not 30. Let me try and put her on the thing by mistake and it is my favorite story. So this was written in by somebody who actually I used to work with. So it's called The Perfect Proposal. I gave them all little titles. So her story is, Hi Amy and Sadie, I wanted to write in as a girl I know got engaged in the most Instagram perfect way and I was also speaking to her about what our top podcast topic was going to be. She said that she got a rooftop dinner, fairy lights, professional photos, everyone was gushing in the comments. Then I found out later that she made her fiance

redo the proposal three times to get the perfect shot. Three times? I laughed so hard, meanwhile my boyfriend proposed to me at home in our pajamas and it was perfect. No filter needed. Olivia? It's beautiful. And I think that's a great example. Like, it's never going to be perfect. To try and get it to be perfect is so unrealistic. You've obviously had the money to make it fucking perfect. Yeah, I know, three times. I mean, they must have had a photographer friend. It just kept

coming along. Yeah, sometimes. It literally just sounds. My most recent Christmas photo and my photos. So we had photos taken in the summer and it looked lovely. People thought we had professional photos taken. Amy took them on her phone in our garden. That was me. It was lovely. They were great. I was pregnant. Kaisel looked amazing. We all looked so happy, didn't we? Even though I was like, Aaron, don't be fucking idiot. Cause he was winding it up, messing around with her hair, poking at her. He was gaslighting me the other day.

Right, what was the other day? The other day, he's winding me up, winding me up, winding me up, getting the hoover, sucking me. I'm trying to wash the parts, just annoying me, right? And then I go, would you just fucking top it? He's like, don't know what you're getting so wound up for. I went, don't gaslight me.

I was like, you know you are winding me up, so then when I get wound up, then you're making it out like I'm the one who's angry and got the problem. And he was like, look, that's not in you, and he's laughing, and I'm like. Because he can't, it wasn't that bad, he's not doing it on purpose.

He knows what he's doing, and then he knows he's trying to wind me up further by saying, don't know what you're getting so on for I'm not doing anything I went out there I was in the kitchen I went out and I was like don't gaslight me I was like you know you're winding me up and then when I react which you've caused it's my fault and he just was like yeah okay sorry sorry I'm kidding I'm sorry Of course he does he knows what's wrong But yeah, cute. Going off into it, just in terms of FOMO itself and things like that, we just want to touch

on a few popular culture references that might hit our home and that you guys can check out if you want to. One of my favourites. I'll let you start but a couple on here are my favourites. Okay so, yeah like the Kardashian one. So obviously, yeah, implements to shape unrealistic beauty standards, fine. That is one way of, and lifestyle expectations, yes. That is one aspect of the Kardashians. Another one was where I saw a video of them,

like they were messing about at dinner and they started throwing all of their food at each other. And I thought, oh God, that's what, waste food. I hate wasting food. I think, you know, there's people out there that don't eat. And that's so annoying. I just felt like you're so privileged that you think it's okay to be throwing bowls,

not like a whole bowl of pasta, a whole tray of salad, loads of food at each other. Don't get me wrong, I don't think their intentions were that way. I'm sure it wasn't. They were probably just trying to have a bit of fun with the kids, and I get it. It wasn't with the kids, it was with each other.

All adults. Oh, okay. I've only had that case. They were probably just trying to have a bit of fun with the kids and I get it. It wasn't with the kids, it was with each other. Oh, right, okay. Oh, right, okay. I thought we had that case. I haven't seen this. But yeah, like you think about it, there's people who go without food every day. Yeah, and I suppose it's a bit of a joke. My favorite one is the Emily in Paris show.

So when this first came out, I was like, there were a couple of reasons why it annoys me. I'm not gonna go too much into this. I mean, an American in France. An American in France trying to tell French people. How to do fashion. Fashion. Shut up. I spat them. How to do fashion. So annoyed about it.

Also, in the first few episodes, because a couple of years ago when it first came out, or whenever it was, one of my friends was watching it, and it started to really annoy me straight away, because she was speaking to these people as though they were stupid, because they didn't know how to do marketing or fashion. They have Christian Dior you pleb. Oh yeah and she erm. They are the. As though they didn't know how to do marketing or any business.

It was really patronising and not to judge America but I feel like sometimes it's a bit like oh well we know better because we're American and you're French. You don't know better. What's that? Dior. And we already have, because we're American and you're French. You don't know better. I was like, do you? And we already have a go at the French, don't we? I'm like, no. We mind the French. What have the French ever done, really? In history, that's the same as hate in Germany.

Of course, of course, of course. Do we? No, we don't. It's like we- Some people do. They invented Haute Couture, like you can't tell them how to do fashion. Right?

But anyway, also on that though, with the Louis Vuitton Paris, it's perfect for poking fun at how influence seems to have the perfect picture, like picture perfect, sorry, unrealistic lives. Have you seen her? She's like at a cafe with a handsome man every day. She has the perfect outfit and she never has a bad day, she's never stressed, and she's never ugly, and she never goes to work without makeup on. Oh my god! Fuck me. I mean, in January I was at a cafe with a really handsome man in France. It was your boyfriend and you went to France on holiday.

It ain't the same thing! Nobody's cute. Did you work in a marketing business? I rarely had coffee. It was on wine every time. Screw the coffee. Why are you working in France drinking coffee? Never. I don't think I drank a coffee, unless it was the morning and it was when I woke up I drank a coffee, but every was the morning and it was when I woke up I drank a coffee but every time we went out it was our wine. Yeah, exactly. I know, I'm not that, I'll be having lunch, wine. Dinner, wine, breakfast,

alright I'll have a coffee. I should have been French or Italian or Spanish. Because even I've got, I've worked with someone who actually lives in Spain so we're all freelancers and he actually lives in Spain, perfect life, right? He says I love my life, he says I am time rich and cash poor, he says but he owns his own little villa and he does just enough work to get by and it was about five o'clock one that evening and I said oh look I'm done, I'm having some wine. He's like oh have you got some wine there? He goes I went yeah I'm sorry I'm going to drink it. He was like that's fine because I went out for lunch today to this little, had an Indian for lunch and he went it didn't involve alcohol at all. Sorry, just quickly going back to Instagram versus reality,

another thing is I saw this real where it was like at the Met Gala and you saw all these people all dressed up and then it cut to people in the streets who couldn't afford anywhere to live or eat or basic necessities and all that. Then it cut to people like on a yacht eating oysters and then it cut to the seas being covered in plastics and do you know what I mean it does irritate me and today I've been looking at

holidays right and there was a Caribbean cruise one that said that was like I don't know 700 something pound per person for this cruise. And then someone had commented 200 kilograms of waste per person per week or something on these cruises. So like carbon footprint or whatever. Is that going into the, well, just in general, the fact that you're on the cruise, what you're eating, what you're doing.

As a person per week, you are using, I don't know, it's too easy, probably wrong. But it was a lot, it was a lot, I can't remember what it was. Ridiculous, and you just think, gosh, and then also some of those rooms were up to 3,800 pounds per person. Well, Chris was telling me, because we once went on a cruise, and he had one booked with his ex-partner,

and he lost all the money from it because he paid for it all, and then they broke up and I don't know if she went to another. I mean they're still gone. I don't know if she went, I don't know what happened. However, he did say like it is insane. The amount of you've got everything, all day, everyday, drinks, food, all types of food, all types of everything and it, I mean I'd love to experience it but at the same time like it is interesting when you think about the other side of it and what you've done and what you've done. And what you've, you know. Yeah, and obviously like our holiday,

I think even, I even think for a week, I'm paying £800 per person. And that's a lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Exactly, that is a lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think I'm going to be wrong, all inclusive, because mum said, oh, well, I've never been

on an all inclusive, like, how much would it be if I paid, obviously she's not got to pay, I'm paying for her. How much would it be if I paid for my room and my flight separate? I was like, probably about the same, Mum. And you're not gonna get all your stuff included. I was like, 800 pound for a week, really? You'd probably spend way more than that

if you didn't pay for all-inclusive. And I think it's been a while since Mum's been on a proper holiday, and she says she's actually never been on an all-inclusive holiday before, and I couldn't believe that, so I said, we've got to start taking her on more. On that note, in a way, it's just kind of thinking to yourselves, do you do this?

Do you sit there and scroll and scroll and then hate things or be depressed and sad that you haven't got something? And if that's the case, in terms of advice, think about what you do have, be happy with what you've got. Stop watching things that make you that way, feel that way, watch things that make you happier. Take some time to be mindful

and be grateful of what you have. And at the end of the day, social media can be a great way to connect with other people, but only if we use it mindfully and don't let it define our happiness. Absolutely. So next time you're scrolling and feeling like that FOMO, that FOMO creeping in, take a deep breath, remember it's not just a highlight reel and maybe pour yourself another glass

of wine. It is just a highlight reel. Oh sorry, remember it's just a highlight reel, sorry. And pour yourself another glass of wine and also just remember to yourself you are worth everything and whatever you see on social media is just not, it's not real. Thanks. So cheers to real life, the unfiltered, messy and beautiful version. Yes, absolutely. And don't forget to like, subscribe and drop us a comment. Until next time, keep sleeping

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