Dumb Blonde - 77: Dumb Blonde Unrated - All Access With Savannah Dexter

Episode Date: December 27, 2020

Savannah Dexter is a singer on her rise to fame, a Southern Belle and strong woman at heart, and most importantly - a guest on Bunnie's game of "Sexy Truth or Dare" this week. Things get wild on the game, and then Savannah joins Bunnie for a deep conversation on getting out of domestic violence, conquering her own demons, and embracing the high road. Savannah also talks about what's really going on with Adam, and what we can expect from her in 2021. Is it possible for a babe to be this hot and inspiring at the same time? We think yes.  Say Hi to Bunnie:  linktr.ee/Bunniexo Watch Full Episodes & More: www.dumbblondeunrated.com Savannah's instagram: @savannahdextermusic   "You don't have to be what was projected on you. You can be better than that." - Savannah See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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my little fucking cutie pie here and i'm so excited to have her savannah motherfucking dexter what's up baby how are you are you? I'm good, dude. You literally just flew in. Yes. Bobby, Bobby jellied you. That's what I call it. Like jelly will literally take me somewhere and expect me to be dressed and ready to go the minute we walk. He does this to me all the time. Every music video, every photo shoot, everything. It's a dude thing. I swear. Like they don't realize like we need our time. We got to vibe out. Like you don't have to get ready and stuff for this, right? Right. Like we just, we, we need to vibe out. We need our time. We got to vibe out. Like you don't have to get ready and stuff for this, right? Right?

Like we just, we need to vibe out. We need to shower. We need to like listen to music and just get in our own zone before we have to do something. But I'm so happy you're here. I've been wanting to get you on for a long time. And, you know, I'm a fan of the music. I think the music is amazing.

I appreciate that. We're going to talk about all of that jazz. But I think first to loosen things up because I know not a lot of people know too much about you. They know stuff from your music, but they don't really know like you. So we're going to play a little version of Truth or Dare that I have here. I've never played this app. So bear with me. here we go okay so bear with me and if you don't want to answer the things or do the things that it says to do um you know we can move on to the next one i'm pretty open so let's see

all right unless it's like flash a booty hole i might like oh well you came to the wrong show listen dumb blonde dumb blonde just turned up and literally we are having nothing but buttholes i saw and i'm i'm living for it, honestly. I'm living for it. But I would never do that to you. Bravo would kill me. Yeah, you'd be like, bunny? Yeah, like, what the fuck? I should have never let her go with you.

You're going to turn Sav out. All right. So here we go. I had to put on my bifocals because I am blind as shit. All right. To start out, truth or dare? I'm going to go with dare. Oh, my God.

Right off the bat? All right. You do know this is dirty, truth or dare i'm gonna go with dare oh my god right off right off the bat all right you do know this is dirty truth or dare okay listen and she doesn't tell me that before she's like i've never played this up it's just truth or dare it's dirty but listen so literally i'm just gonna hit a button right here that says dare and it's gonna tell us what the dare is so here we go ready one two three switch clothing of your choice with the player across the room for you we're not doing that okay because that would be death yeah do you want to wear this crop top yeah death's outfit definitely would not look good on sav i think we all want to see what Saf has on right now. So I'm going to go to the next dare.

Here we go. While blindfolded, have your hand guided over the body of whoever is to your right. Chachi. Chachi. Get over there. All right, we can do that. We're just not going to blindfold you. Okay.

Chachi, come over there. Mimi, you got to get him over there. Chachi. Somebody wants to rub all over you. Come here, babe. Come here. Oh, you got to get him over there. Somebody wants to rub all over you. Come here, babe. Come here. Oh, hi, mister. There we go.

Oh, rub his body all over. Oh, look at getting the loving. That dare wasn't too bad. See, we can make dirty dares somewhat nice. All right. So are we going to do truth or dare this time? We'll do truth. We're going to do truth. Okay. Approximately how many times a week do you masturbate?

Well, God, it really depends on the weekend when I have time. Yeah, I know. Like it's like, I'll be sitting there like fully thinking about wanting to, and I'm like, but it's 630 in the morning and you were just up for like 15 hours. So, but that'll help you go to sleep. You're right. It'll really put you to sleep. But there's some days, there are some days that I'm so horny and like I'll masturbate two or three times a day. And then there's days, weeks that I'll go and I'm like, I don't care. There's days where I'm like flicking the beans.

I'm ready. And then some days I'm just like, do I really do that? Yeah. I'm like myself. I would say like, you know know three would be a good roundabout yeah exactly yeah yeah totally and i think it's so funny like when i like i'll watch porn sometimes i don't watch it all the time but sometimes i need a little visual stimuli right and as soon as i the meme that is going around that says like as soon as the porn it's like you turn it off and

you're like what is wrong with me i'm a terrible person yeah exactly just fucking repeat offender always it's so bad all right truth or dare let me do truth again okay truth wasn't bad what was the most embarrassing thing that happened to you during sex oh gosh i don't even know i shit on somebody one time it was an accident it was an accident we were having anal and little poop balls were sprinkled around it was they look like little fucking raisins i don't even know i honestly something kind of like that's happened to me one time do you do i was dating the guy oh yeah you fucking i love you i'm sorry i love it i love you so does momo i do i don't know what it is oh my gosh you guys don't kill me no we love it are do you are

you kidding me we stand an anal queen it's like bad how much i like it like that's awesome it's abnormal no and i talked to some females and they're like, oh my God, it hurts. I'm like, no, babe, you got to get in like this position. Yes, girl. Oh my God. Just like once it's in, it's in. I think we need a sex tips with Sav. We need to fucking have a little segment that's called sex tips with Sav. Because I think that show would go fucking viral.

That was probably pretty embarrassing though. I mean, it was my ex, but we were doing anal. And yeah. God, I hate when that happens god we were right by the shower yeah so i guess it was like fine but i was like oh that's never happened so i'm like i mean they've got men have to expect that deaf when you have anal do you expect to get poop on your dick okay see what i mean it's normal i mean you can't like go in yeah totally so all right truth or dare my anal queen We'll do dare again. Ready? Here we go.

Dare. Choose a girl and feel her boobs. If you are a girl, you cannot touch your own. Whose tits do you want to feel on here? There's three. Oh, definitely one for bunnies. Oh, come on. Oh, man. Here we go.

Is it? Oh, I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I tripped over myself. Yes. Give me the boobs. Oh, wow. Oh, there's three. I love that. Yes, baby tripped over myself. Yes. Give me the food. Oh, wow. Oh, there's so much.

I love that. Yes, baby. Oh, yeah. Yes. That is what I'm talking about. Dude, I could play this game all day. Seriously. This is amazing.

God, we need to play this game more often. We got to do this in Vegas. Yeah, this is awesome. I told Sav, too, one of these times when we go to Vegas, we need to take her. I think it would be awesome. We could show her around. I've never her. I think it would be awesome. We could show her around. I've never been.

I want to go so bad. Dude. So let me know. You'll fucking. Listen, I see the sex kitten in you trying to come out and roar. Don't worry. It's in there. Dude, I'm here for it.

I am so ready. Vegas will fucking make you roar. I'm telling you. Let's do it. All right. Truth or dare? Truth. All right. here we go have you fantasized

about someone while having sex yeah i can't lie like you're banging somebody else and you're just like fuck i wish i was banging charlie hunnam right now terrible because i feel like people are gonna watch this and be like oh i bet it was me but you know what you know what if you're feeling like that then maybe you weren't putting it down i mean i don't know who's your celebrity crush who do you fan who's your go-to celebrity being flicking crush i don't know my first crush ever was um john travolta like different like greece is my favorite oh i think every i think everybody had a crush on danny zucco yeah so i, he's always like has my heart. I used to like fangirl over Jesse McCartney, but he's kind of like nowhere to be seen anymore.

Yeah. Did he even get any taller? Like, isn't he? He was like a little nugget. He's a little. Zac Efron's really hot. You like these little nuggets. Zac Efron's like 4'11", isn't he?

Right? Yeah. But see, I would. It's more just like a. The body? You look nice. Yeah. You look good. Like, just sit in the corner and let me just yeah i'll just stare at you yeah i get it i get it my thing i used to love jason momoa and then fucking my best friend started dating somebody who looks like jason simone so i'm like that's ruined so that's great i gotta go back to jack's teller now like i'm just like fucking where's Charlie when I need him man he needs to come out with another series all right truth or dare truth here we go what's your most secret

turn on my most secret turn on mine is getting like my ear lobes licked and like my neck sucked i love that i i mean that's a go-to for me too i love i'm i'm i like it rough like i'm really like one of those girls that's like we had trauma as children obviously oh yeah we'll get there uh we're gonna go back to the booty so like i like when like i mean being, you know, played with. Yes. And you like at least stimulate. Yes. It's something about it makes me like.

Well, you have all those nerves in there. I mean, it's just a given. And they say that that men have a G spot in there. So, I mean, girls probably have something in there going on in there too. I just found that out recently. Yeah, you could make a dude cum. And I was like, that's why. That's why.

That's why. I like it. Okay. i'm like this is all makes sense now no you can literally make a guy ejaculate without even touching his penis just by touching that walnut it's like the shape of a walnut in their butthole it's crazy it's called milk the prostate oh yeah read up on that watch some porn like that whenever next time you're masturbating watch out yeah it's hot all right truth or dare dare all right i hope i get my boobies oh we can't do this one this is crazy in front of the group switch underwear with the first player to your left for three rounds and then switch back i Oh, even better. Well, shit. All right. Let's go to another deal. Hold on one second. Pretend to have an orgasm. You have to be convincing, be in a position or masturbating. You definitely don't have to do that, but you can do sleepless in Seattle.

Have you ever seen that movie? Y'all are really trying to get this out of me. Oh, I don't even know if I can do that. Oh my God. You have the cutest voice too so i guarantee you fucking have the cutest little orgasm noises she's like i am really loud so all right we'll skip that we won't make you do it all right all right hold on one second god another person wants you to trade their underwear strip down to your underwear hold on this is my kind of game uh this is gonna make you make out with somebody choose a partner and make your best sex noise together out loud for 30 seconds monica she's like i'm not doing it hold on choose another player from the opposite oh my god this is really good you want me to truth it i can truth crazy oh my god it's gonna try to make you kiss me put a blindfold on and feel another player

try to guess who it is i don't have a blindfold do we can we anything we can have a blindfold i'll definitely do that somebody take their shirt off and tie it around her face mo is there a blindfold in there I have Hey there's a black sheet right there Sheet Just put it over my Body don't worry Sab's like what did I get myself into here We gotta guess whose body it is

Alright Here we go So you have to Blind blindfold and somebody has to put their body in front of her and she has to touch them and figure out who it is we'll figure it out just put them just i know i'm like now like she's really narrowing it down for us. This might be a little big. Just put it over her face.

Poor baby. So you don't mess up her makeup. There you go. Yep. Okay. Oh, I definitely can't see it. Okay. Wow.

I'm stunned. Alright, here they come. Here it comes. right in front of you you gotta guess who it is oh that's Mo you can take it off wait you can go back yeah Mo you should have just gone over there naked

alright truth or dare we'll do a couple more of these and then we'll get on with the interview let's do truth okay she's like no more of this fucking shit over my face do you ever take nude photographs of yourself honestly i have haven't in such a long time i I don't know. I'm scarred from a couple things. Oh. I. What happened? Like, just, I feel like when I'm in a relationship, that's something I do.

Yeah, of course. Like, it's, you know, I'm like, oh, nudes every day. Yeah, of course. And just with everything I have with my ex. Once you've been together for fucking five years, then you don't. Well, yeah. What happened with the ex? With everything that happened with my ex and just being so violated like i feel like i haven't gotten to that point i take some i mean you see what i post on instagram like i'll get

kind of sexy with it i just haven't so we can't expect an only fans from from sav anytime soon as much as i'd love to say yes girl i get asked that question you know what you could all day long you could even do it and fucking not be naked I thought about it and people will still pay you I enjoy being in front of the camera yeah I've always wanted to model I love the little outfits like you're you inspire me like you're you're everything that I would want to be hey girl I got you take you under my wing anytime fucking sister wives let. Let's do it. But, um, you know, now I'm a, God, now tonight I'm going to go take a nude. Like that's kind of happened. No, you do things on your own

time and we're also going to get into that relationship so that people can understand, you know, why. And then we'll just do, we'll do one more question our uh truth or dare which one okay we'll do the truth again excuse you um if you had to choose that is a terrible question let me go to the next one oh my god next one do you prefer sex on do you prefer sex with the lights on or off it really depends what mood i'm in yeah because like there's sometimes where i'm like i want to see you and like you know let's get into it yeah but then like if i'm like yeah sometimes i'm just in the mood maybe that's a little bit more romantic yeah yeah yeah like dull like dull lighting yeah just let me like feel your presence and like everything as opposed to seeing everything you're doing.

I like that. It's kind of exciting. I can tell you're super sensual. I am. My thing is I fucking hate morning sex. Really? It's so, your breath smells and it's fucking so bright. I'm like, I'm not awake.

I can't come. What are you doing? No, I hate morning sex. But any other time of the day after I get my juices flowing, let's go.'s go let's go poor death he's sitting in here like jesus christ is this what girls fucking really talk about oh yeah so sav i want to head over to the i like to call it my little couch where we talk about life and i just want to get to know you a little bit and you know i think a lot of people want to get to know you. You obviously have been through some shit because if anybody listens to the lyrics of your songs, they are touched and they absolutely know that there's definitely a story there. So are you from Florida?

Did you grow up in Florida? I am born and raised. Oh, you're a little Florida baby. I was born in South Florida. I lived in Missouri for a few years of my life with my father, but I've always been in Florida other than that. Yeah. Floridian through and through, which I didn't know you don't meet too many of those. That's crazy. So because everybody's like transplant or whatever. Yeah. And people will ask me like back home and I'm like, yeah, I'm a Floridian. They're like, oh,

whoa. I was like, I didn't know. But yeah, That's what Jay says, how it is with people in Nashville. Like nobody's ever really from here anymore. Yeah. I think that's how it is in Vegas too. I think everybody just fucking moves to everybody else's shit. They really do. So growing up in Florida, how was childhood? Was it a good childhood?

Parents together or split? How was it? So my parents were young when they had me. My mom was 17. My dad was 19. They were never married. I think they tried to work it out for like the first two, three years. Didn't go.

That's a hard dude. 17 and 19 with a kid. That's a hard. Oh, yeah. I remember being that age, like thinking about having a child. Yeah. I was like, I don't know how they did it. Yeah.

I definitely don't blame them for not knowing how to handle it. And, you know, juggling life and their own issues, you know, that they ran into along the way. That's really mature of you. Most, a lot of people hold on to resentment for their parents, even though they don't really, you know, think about put themselves in their shoes. So, yeah. Um, but I did have my grandparents and thank God for them. They really instilled, you know, I would say like my better qualities that I have. They did their best to raise me.

I don't know where I would be without them. But child help is... Are they still around? Oh, yeah. Oh, good. They live in North Carolina. So it's kind of sad because we're separate for like the first time in my entire life. But yeah, and they're younger too.

Yeah. My parents were younger. That's awesome. So they're around too yeah my parents were younger that's awesome so they're around i'm going there for christmas i love them i owe them everything that's gonna be yeah i bet they're so fucking proud of you they are they're probably like holy shit we did good yes they're very happy um has music always been a thing for you always ever since you were a baby just i always tell people like since i could talk i've been singing yeah and they always would get me like little karaoke machines like those would be like my big christmas gifts yeah um and i always had like big mirrors in my room and i would just stand

in there for hours and just sing every song i could possibly think of so it's always been a thing i was very suppressed as a child and like, you know, don't speak unless you're spoken to. You're not allowed to speak about your emotions. Like, shut up. Don't talk. All of that. Children should be seen, not heard. That's how I was raised.

So I went directly to music. I'm like, OK, well, you can't tell me not to sing. So I'd find a song that was relatable or matched what I was going through and I would sing it. And that's how I would release. So, yeah, I love that. So when you play guitar, right? When did you pick up the guitar? I picked it up when I was like 12, 13. Okay. And I was like, hell no, this shit hurts my fingers. I'm not doing this. I didn't have like a good teacher. Um, and then when I was married, uh, my father-in-law had like 12 guitars.

And so I picked up one. This was when I was like 18. And he showed me like the basic chords. And I taught myself like 15 songs that night. That's amazing. Bailey has been doing guitar for the past three years. And we're just trying to really instill in her like, dude, if you can just master this instrument, you can literally

sit down and just whatever you want have therapy like so it's so nice yeah no I love it I did I watched a couple of your videos just doing a little bit of research and I saw that and I was like that's really cool uh rewind really quick you said that you were married oh yeah let's talk about this so I went to a private school most of my life me too that is so funny look at how we turn look at how we turned out yeah like they're yeah school ever but i went to a private school um going in high school and i met this guy and we kind of like dated here and there it was never anything serious but i always like had it in me he reminded me of my dad oh so so did dad leave when you were younger he didn't leave he was just absent emotionally not even really like he tried but then he went and immediately rushed into marrying this lady and she hates me like she

does not she did not treat me good at all when i lived with him she was very very nasty to me that's crazy how similar our stories are i grew up with a wicked stepmother also just even to this day just miserable she is just so miserable and it's like you know i'm to the point in my life where i understand you're projecting right something's wrong with you yeah it's not me because i've tried to make good for you i accepted your apology i told you i would be open in the relationship and you still continue to be how you are so that's just the character wanted to be there he he tried and then she just drove that wedge right and like no conversation don't hold her hand like just weird stuff like yeah

like you're his kid but i i understand i went through the same thing and as a stepmother i want to say i'm sorry because i could never imagine treating bailey like that and it's like don't walk into something if if you know you can't handle seeing the person you love. First of all. You know have a child with somebody else don't do it. Dude love that child more. Right. You know because. Especially because you know I had mommy issues too. Yeah. And that was the only

time that she would validate anything that I said or actually have a conversation with me was when I was talking shit about my mom. And which sucks. She sounds like a great human. Oh. But it's like you know if you know that I'm struggling with my mom and she sounds like a great human but it's like you know if you know that I'm struggling with my mom and I don't have that figure why would you not try to be better right you know but every day you just spent tearing me down and making me feel like literally nothing I did was right and then I'm not even allowed to have a relationship with my

father because you're jealous or what i don't understand there's a special place in hell for people like that i don't i don't understand the thought process so there came my daddy issues where he was there but he wasn't there right that's what i say about both my parents like yeah you guys were there you were present i remember my mom dressing me up for halloween etc but you weren't there with me there There wasn't that connection at all. Right. And so that led into, you know, the issues with the men. Right. I was never sat down and told about the world and how cruel it was. I was a lover. I still am. I'm thinking everybody wants to be my friend. I can trust everybody, love everybody. That's not the case. Yeah, no, it's fucking so fucked up. It's

terrible. So, uh, yeah, I met my ex-husband in high school and you know, we were kind of on and off dabbled. I switched schools. We didn't talk for a while. And then we met up again, um, right before I turned 18 and we dated. I kind of moved right into him or in with him because I was having issues with my family. That's usually how it happens too. It's, it's too it's it's called

love bombing so in the beginning of a toxic relationship it's like you get love bond and you just literally want to just eat sleep and breathe that human you know um and that's what happened and then you know he was a very angry person very aggressive he had mommy issues so the ones with mommy issues are the meanest they're like yeah i'm like i'm sorry i like i can't do that for you yeah and that's not you should never go into a relationship expecting that your partner to fill those roles right you know it's not their job right so we actually broke up after like six months of dating and then i moved back with my grandparents I got into a terrible car accident oh no is that why you're hitting the brakes we were driving over here and

I was just hitting the brakes over there I was like it's okay baby like it's all good I got this I know I drive like a bat out of hell but I swear I honestly do too like I am the same but I get a little bit it's different whenever you have somebody else yeah so let's hear about this car accident what happened it was so bad so I was driving I literally just had dinner with my boss and I was in the right hand lane I had a green light it was sunny outside there was no rain on the pavement and I went right under the traffic light and there was a person who was going to turn red turn right on red and instead of going into I don't know what they were thinking they had to be on their phone or something right they just weren't paying attention knocked me in

because I was going 45 you know imagine getting hit oh you're running really fast my car flipped over another car like I was like all the way in the air and it landed on the side but by the grace of god I only walked out with like a burn on one knee and a scrape on the other I believe I have a herniated disc in my back so that kind of sucks because I'm young but I do yoga and my things yeah you know you have a purpose that there's a reason why you didn't get hurt yeah yeah and i was living for that reason i'll tell you that yeah so right after that my ex-husband he came to my beck and call and was using that oh and i'm gonna be better and i love you and let's get married he knew that's

what i wanted to hear i was that girl that was like i'm gonna do just what nana and papa did i'm gonna get married at 18 i'm gonna have four kids by 22 off of your yes yeah so we went to the courthouse we got married we didn't have a wedding there was my family wasn't involved they did not like him they did not approve of it and i would say it was good for the first couple months i will say i had my toxic traits and my faults because i resented him for how he treated me before right and i And I let it out. Right. And so it just was never really healthy. Right. You know? And then I just decided, okay, I'm not doing this anymore.

Right. It sucks. Was it ever abusive? Was it physically? Was that the physically abusive one or that was the next one? Okay. Yeah. He raised his fist to me and that was like my last straw hit.

Yeah. Because I was like, no. Yeah. We're not doing that and i knew how aggressive i see i i had seen him punch holes in walls that's still abuse people don't realize that but punching holes in walls any any sort of scare tactic like that that's still abuse yeah so but he never actually physically touched me um how long was the marriage? I mean, we were together for, we were together for like four years. Wow. So you, I mean, you gave it, you're a pretty good

I really tried. Like I gave him a lot of my years. So it wasn't like just a flash in the pan. You guys really tried to make this shit work no matter how toxic it was. And knowing him since I was 14, you know, it's not like, so it was very hard yeah it was very very hard so how old were you when you got out of this relationship 21 21 so tell me about me i'm sorry 20 tell me about 20 year old sav oh god she was a lost one oh i think we were all fucking shit faced when we were 20 dude in life not even on drugs or alcohol just shit faced in life um speaking of that i was never a partier i never did hardcore drugs i never was the one who was like let's go out and get you know fucked up i didn't want to go to the bars or the clubs i

wanted a family that was always my goal i wanted a family and i wanted what you didn't have as a child yes you know right and i wanted to be whole and just feel good. And I never got that. But I did not love myself. I had no self-confidence. And it showed in all of my relationships, not just my romantic ones. Right. My friendships, my family.

I was blaming my past for how I was, you know, then and not speaking to my father. Hadn't dealt with that situation, not really talking to my mom, you know, um, I was, I was definitely very unhealthy. Um, I tried to figure it out. You know, our parents didn't teach us coping mechanisms and they also, we're, we, I tell everybody this, we are trying to break generational curses that our parents inflicted upon us. We are that generation though that's going to figure it out and we are figuring it out 100 you know so this is all just you know part of your journey and part of your story and it's just gonna be a beautiful and i'm thankful for it all i think that's something that you know i wish a lot more

people would realize like if you go through something that's just shitty like take the good out of it absolutely something's something there's there's good in there you know yeah so you don't have to be what was projected onto you right you don't have to carry that absolutely and that's something that i learned i didn't know it when i was 20 yeah or 21 or 22 yeah but i got there absolutely and i've really transformed as a person you know and now i'm able to now i have my mom and dad calling me. Yeah. Asking me their advice on things and really listening to me.

So it's interesting how things work out. Yeah, it's crazy. So you wrote a song about domestic violence. Which relationship was that about? This was my ex. Okay. Yeah. It was like the most recent ex?

Yes. Okay. Tell us, how old is sav with this relationship sav was 20 i mean we've only been broken up for like eight months oh wow so this is fresh like literally when i i left him i think i met bobby like a month later and then my life just took off um we're gonna talk about that too let's talk about this domestic violence really quick oh man you know when you're just like how long was the relationship a year and a half a year and a half where'd you meet him work no but you know when

it's like i should have known right like oh red flags are our favorite color there was no red flags but then you're like let's be honest there was all the red flags yeah they were all there and it never should have happened and he hated when i said that to him i'm like but it it shouldn't have though right um but it did and i learned from it and i grew so he was that guy he's he's very attractive but very insecure oh yeah i never understood that i thought when i met him he was very secure and he was very about me being confident and loving myself a lot of love bombing i mean he just latched oh yeah that's how it works and i was in heaven a lot of people mistake that for passion and it took me a long time to it took me getting with jelly to realize

like that's not love that's not it's it's toxicity right people mistake passion toxicity for passion right and every relationship that i had before jay exactly like that. Just fast, furious. And he, it's so funny because he literally used that word. Oh, I just want a passion. You give me that. You have that. Oh,

okay. So, I mean, the second that we started, it was every single day together, every moment. And, and he was cool at first,

you know, everything I posted on social media and me trying to be in the limelight and chase my dreams and all these things and he was all for it and then I moved to Naples with him right and it was I mean good lord it was only a few months into it it just I shouldn't have done it but I didn't have a home at the time no I get it my grandparents weren't there my mom was in an unhealthy relationship she couldn't give me a home. I didn't have friends. Like, where was I supposed to go? It's not an excuse, but I put myself in that situation. But it's really not your fault, though, either. It's just you were in love and you wanted, you know, sometimes we get caught up in the whirlwind, you know, and it's OK.

You know, you're it's this is life. This is part. This is just another chapter in your story. And if it hadn't happened that way you wouldn't have wrote such a beautiful song about it you know right so you moved in naples with them and then what else yeah um i was so in love with him bunny i swore up and down on everything that he was the one like saw him at the end of the aisle was never gonna have to worry about finding someone else again and it it immediately started. So I worked at Blue Martini.

Oh, we had one of those in Vegas. Yeah. Loved it. Super fun. Very up my alley because I get to dance and you just get to be free. And, you know. Oh, I wonder if it's the same chain. It is.

Oh, it is? Okay, cool. Yeah, I believe so because we have, yeah, it is. So, and then he started working at this bar. have yeah it is um so and then he started working at this bar and i mean he just started going in on like who you're talking to that i mean just on and on and on why are you posting that on social media you must want attention please don't get me started on that i'm like what do you mean like i love myself yeah i'm confident and i am you said you love that about me now you're knocking me for it right and then it was just like a whirlwind of bullshit all the time like i'm not

saying we didn't have good times but it was that narcissistic yeah it's always your fault i could never be mad at him because he would turn it around oh yeah and then one night he came to the bar and I begged him to not get super drunk. Shit-faced, yeah. Because when he does, he acts a fool. Like, embarrassing. And he did. And I don't know if, like, me talking to his friend that he brought with him bothered him or what. But we got home and he was like, fuck you.

You're a bitch. Like, oh, this is the devil. Six, six, six. Like crazy. He like shoved me on the ground. That was the first time. And of course he got the excuse because he was drunk and he didn't really hit me. Right.

So we just went right past that. Right. Right. I'll never do it again. Yeah. Okay. And then. Hey, daddy.

and then um and then the second time that happened he so he stayed in contact with his ex they always do it they form a love triangle right because they have to always make sure somebody is there waiting for them right yes and he would argue with me on it like this isn't wrong and i'm like but how is it not wrong? Right. So I think he got a message from her or something. And his phone was sitting on my bathroom counter. And I'm like, are you kidding me? And I had been drinking.

I was pissed. Yeah, of course. I'm like, get away from me. Like, he's trying to come at me. I'm like, get away from me. And I threw my hand out. And like, this part of my hand hit his cheek. And he got a black eye.

And I'm like, I'm sorry. Like immediately I was like, I didn't mean to do that. Like it's not, I would never hit somebody or anything of the sort. But I leave. He goes to the bar to watch the game. I leave with my friend to go sing karaoke because that's what we were supposed to do. And she's like, we're not going to sit here and cry. So we go and do that.

I come back. He's not drunk at all. He's laying on the bed. And I'm like trying to get in the shower, literally butt ass naked. And he was like asking me about my night. And I guess I smirked. And so he thought I was being sarcastic. He got up and he shoved me so hard.

I like fell back. My head cracked the like door frame. And I got a concussion so then i wasn't able to move up in bartender at um blue martini lost that job oh no had to go find another job at a doctor's office and then i mean it progressively got worse we were arguing all the time about social media to the point where i deleted it i told him i wouldn't post anymore like just all this crazy he really made me think that I was doing something wrong. It's called gaslighting. I was telling, I mean, he said the words to me, well, what if you do all this and you don't make

it? Like, what if, what if you're doing all this for no reason? Look at me now, bitch. Right. And you're wasting all this time and nothing happens and you could have been spending time with me. Oh God. That's so eerie because I wasn in a really really before jelly for four years um i was in a relationship and it started out like that just so passionate i mean we had the most amazing sex and it was just like dude and he was like you know just ripped and he was attractive he's not anymore um he was like super hot back in the day and like he was like the the alpha of alphas, you know And he was like everybody just kind of like bowed down to him. So I was just like this is like my ideal, dude I love street dudes. I love gangsters. That's my thing

And yeah always and fucking the minute I moved in with him, dude Uh, it just went downhill from there. He fucking used to choke me out like a ufc fighter He choked me. He strangled me so bad that literally it burst every blood vessel in both of my eyes. And this was just one instance. I think I saw the pictures on your story the other day. I was like, man. Yep. He beat the fuck out of me in the back of a taxi one time because he wanted to go to

a strip club on Christmas Eve. And it was our first Christmas Eve. And I was like, I'm not going to go to a place where you've you've fucked everybody like that's not where I want to go spend holidays together beat me the entire way home to our house this taxi driver did not even try to stop him really like beat the fuck out of me he beat me so bad I saw Jesus in the passenger seat I saw an angel in the passenger seat because literally I I thought I was gonna die and I kept saying help me you know to the person in the passenger seat and they wouldn't help me and as weeks went on I asked him I was like there was another person in the

taxi with us and he was like no there wasn't it was just me you and the taxi driver and it dawned on me I was like dude that was a fucking angel yeah and I remember he was just sitting there just looking straight ahead he wouldn't even look back and he was like a big dude it was crazy but yeah I literally went through four years of that kind of abuse i'm so sorry bunny oh dude it's but like you say like going through something like that if you can take the blessing from the lesson it's a beautiful thing like i don't hate that dude i'm not mad at that dude that dude literally comments on me and jelly shit all the time like it's so weird how they do that i don't what are you doing they swear they don't care if you leave they swear they don't care if they

they'll block you first oh yeah then they make the fake accounts then they'll block you then yeah it's really crazy it's really crazy but when you take the blessing from it it's a beautiful thing and look what you've done dude like. Like you. So you meet Bobby. Bobby is Bravo Gator for everybody who is listening and in tune with this whole. Yeah. Who's in tune with this whole situation. Him and Jolly have been friends since they were fucking kids, dude. Like love each other like homies.

So I remember hearing about you when your song Raise Hell came out. I didn't know you were Bobby's artist. I did not at the at first and i am all about girl power i know as bad as a motherfucker is i am always for the underdog like okay you know what she says weird shit maybe she's just going through something type of shit i always try to give everybody the benefit of the doubt so i didn't know you were bobby's artist at the time and when i heard the song I was like what the fuck like who does this like I was so mad because the girl power in me I'm like wait a second what this isn't what we're supposed to do and then you know Jay came

to me he's like this is Bobby's artist this is what's going on and I was like I did not even mean to insert my foot in my mouth when this happened but I was literally just trying to stick up for the situation as two women don't tear each other down not taking sides for anybody you know just like this is like not my jam and everybody knows that that's how I how I am and I totally understand that I'm honestly the same way yeah I really am what inspired the song raise hell so obviously I wanted people's attention. Yeah, of course.

Like 100%. And you came out swinging, bitch. So I'm like, what can I speak on? How do I do this in a way that I can back up? Right. Right? If I hadn't been through what I've been through, I never would have done that. Right.

It's something that I felt in my gut. Now, obviously it's a diss song i have to go for the the jugular kill like i really do um did you guys have beef before this or was there any sort of like really it was really just that was just it was a situation yeah and me letting that breathe right you know i'm not gonna attack something that's very raw. Right. Especially because of how hard that was for them and very public. Yeah. And the fans started talking about it first. Right.

It wasn't even me. I didn't say anything online. Oh, they'll pin you guys. They'll pin people against each other. I didn't say anything online. They tried to pin me and you against each other whenever you first came out. I was like, Savannah is beautiful. Yeah.

Like, why would I? They did that Facebook post? Yeah. I'm like why why i was like this is crazy this right yeah but but that's why us as you know the the public figures i hate using that fucking word but sometimes we have to as the public figures we have to take a united stand and be like no we don't rock that way no and that's exactly what i stole their thunder i was like this is i was like savannah can come home with me anytime same i'm always in your dms right yeah no we talk all the time yeah no for sure so but what really got me going was when the fans started talking and i wasn't entertaining it she was right and i was like, are we really doing this? Or have you not learned? Like you're talking all this shit.

You don't know me. I know at that point I knew way more about her than she could ever find on me. Right. Because I wasn't in the public eye. Right. I considered not releasing it. Right. I had Cinderella and just another story, which you guys haven't heard yet.

I love Cinderella. Already recorded, you know, because Cinderella is also a a gut cinderella is what won me over cinderella is right to the gut and it's such a true story and it's right from my heart right but then she got on her high horse and that's i think that's her biggest downfall just admit just be like you know what the pride is just so bad and sometimes and i and this isn't anything i wouldn't say to her if she was sitting on my couch. Sometimes silence is golden. Golden. It would have got her out of the entire situation.

Right. But then she decides she's going to diss me first. Then her and her management decide they're going to have these three other girls. I don't even know their names or remember them. But they're going to try to diss me. Or they're going to be all three other girls. I don't even know their names or remember them, but they're going to try to diss me or they're going to be all online talking crap about me, whatever. And so when she, the second she put her diss out, I was like, all right. And I released mine.

Of course. Okay. So she dropped hers first. Yeah. Okay. See, I didn't know that. Yeah. She thought that she was being, like I said, I was going to sit on it.

Right. I was like, you know, maybe. Right. Maybe not. Right. was being and then like i said i was gonna sit on it right i was like you know maybe right maybe not like i hadn't said again i hadn't said anything online publicly right i didn't get on my story she popped off and you were and you answered yeah okay which is respected i will go for it absolutely and then she took hers down and i'm like okay well it's out there now if i say something i'm not gonna take it back it's out there there. If I say something, I'm not going to take it back. It's out there. There's no deleting it.

Everybody still would have known that I did it. So it's out. And, you know, I'm like, I have my reasonings and my answers to everything I said. I was a victim of rape. I don't appreciate someone lying about that. I'm also someone who loves females. I'm not like a full-blown lesbian, but girls are hot.

You can appreciate that. I'm the same way. I love girls. I'm not a full-blown lesbian. I've done a lot of things with females. I'm all for it. I love dick, but I will fill on some titties. 100% clearly, right?

So I love girls, but I I mean my best friends are gay I mean yeah absolutely 8, 9 years we're going strong I have no problem with the LGBT community absolutely

love them but I don't like when someone isn't walking in their truth like if that's what you are don't use something else to benefit you

right you know and that's what she did and when she started swinging first I was like okay I'm going to say what I need to say on it and let's what she did and when she started swinging first i was like okay i'm going to say what i need to say on it and i think if she was smart you guys should team up that shit would be fucking crazy right which i kind of thought that might have came about but

instead she still continues to talk she's just still mad like okay like i think uh she has a lot of growth to do too i don't know her as a human. I'm not taking shots, not talking shit. We're just literally speaking from what we see from actions, you know? And you know, once you've evolved from certain situations, it's easier to identify when somebody else is needing to grow, you know? So she needs to find herself. She needs to love herself. She needs, you know, some direction. Um, I don't know that much about her, but I know enough and i wish her the best i don't want her to absolutely i think her and her girlfriend just got engaged too so i mean

hopefully that'll bring her some peace yeah hopefully that'll bring her some peace i hope so i want to talk about you and adam calhoun this is your baby like i crack up every time you post something about him because i'm just like, this is fucking hilarious. And I bet the fans are just eating it up. They do. I love Adam. I know the fans love it. Obviously, I will just say, as I haven't said it, we're not in a relationship.

Oh, damn it. You know, I would love. I was hoping to get some juicy tea. You know, he we talk. He's a sweetheart. I've met Adam a few times and he's just always such a pleasant he is energy he is and very calm very calm yeah in person he really is on camera he's that's like up church well up church is is wild in person too but is yeah but it's like you

know just on camera they have to be like this person definitely is it is his you know, just on camera, they have to be like this person. He definitely is his, you know, he's got his camera personality. And then in person, he, I compliment him. He listens more than he speaks. And I always appreciate that about a person. But, you know, we flirt and we do our things and I love him. But I was very set on remaining single. Yes. And just kind of, you know, feeling out.

This is a lot for someone to step into absolutely and i've taken on a lot and i don't want to be unfair to someone and not give them what they deserve because i'm preoccupied with you know i'm staying up till 6 30 a.m absolutely and people don't realize relationship being with an artist is extremely hard yeah you've got to find somebody who is one either has their own thing going on is secure in themselves or literally just lets you have free freedom you can't be in the studio fucking arguing with somebody no at all that's gonna mess up all your mojo oh absolutely so yeah you gotta have somebody who lets you be fresh out of yeah what just happened i i i don't agree

with getting into a relationship and taking that out on the next person. Absolutely. I needed to heal from that. No, that's such a good, such a, such a, I keep saying mature, but it really is such a mature thing because how old are you? 24. Yeah. When I was 24, I was not, I was not that mature. It took me probably until about five years ago. Getting with jelly has really made me grow up before I got with Jay, I had just so much trauma that I had ran from. You know, I drank, I did drugs, and just, you know, you live the Vegas lifestyle, but hearing you at 24 say this stuff I think is really fucking cool, dude. I appreciate that.

You're very well-rounded. Thank you. And I dig that. So nothing's going on with you and Adam. Nothing to report about with you and Adam. Can you talk about why you're out here in Nashville? Okay. So, I mean, Bobby was like, we're going to Nashville.

I'm like, I've always wanted to go to Nashville. What are we doing in Nashville? He's like, well, you can get on the podcast with Bunny. And I have wanted to do this since I've known of you guys because I love it. I think it's an empowering and fun place to be. I just feel the energy sitting in the room. So he was like, we'll do that. They wanted to watch the game together.

Yeah. That's what they're doing now. Yes. And they're at home being old geezers watching the game. That's what rock rock stars do on their days off. Yeah. It's the football. And I actually have a couple of meetings tomorrow bobby with some labels and distribution companies um they're just not so much taking me it's more of

a label yeah thing but we'll see so they wanted to meet me and you know see what the plan is for 2021 and etc so what is the plan for 2021 there's so much dude can we talk can we just yeah can we get a little sample um i actually have a song dropping the 23rd i believe it's called savage the december 23rd yeah yay okay video shot oh that's what that you have the outfit in that i love yeah i was like that's a bunny outfit right there it's probably it's the best song in the best video hands down by far and i don't normally like brag about my stuff like that it's okay girl because it's just like song and the best video hands down by far and i don't normally like brag about my stuff like that it's okay girl because it's just like oh that's me numbers don't lie and your numbers are fucking crazy dude yeah i just i don't know i'm so weird like people are like oh you hit

and i'm like okay yeah i'm thankful and grateful but i'm just not like yeah you know but this video i won't shoot the horn because it is it is very very very good um and i'm i'm swinging hard i'm proud of myself are you rapping singing oh you're rapping again okay i love when you rap but when did you realize that you could rap let's talk about that i used to play like my my gay best friends they would be like sav like you know because they they were obsessed with the fact that i sang they're like just get on this beat and like try to write something and i would do it oh so i kind of always like always knew i could play but i never thought that anybody else would enjoy me rapping like i don't i just with this song savage when i stepped in the booth i'm finally like okay i found my rapping voice like okay i'm comfortable oh you're gonna be doing

jay still switches his flow up and he's been doing this 15 years right so you're it's literally every album you do it'll change we're gonna get to see a different side of you that's why nikki minaj has like roman and all of those other voices that she does because literally each new album and each new song that she does she's like holy shit i have a new voice i have a new personality yeah you know so you're literally gonna be doing this your whole career yeah but it's it's really cool it's cool to see i'm finally like comfortable in it um and then you know of course that bobby raps and so he's like obsessed he's like yeah oh you're like my little you know protege yeah he loves it so um i enjoy rapping yeah i feel like it's both sides of me yeah because i do truly have like that sweet heart you're like a gangster taylor swift kind of like yeah i i i'll come home and meet your parents you know and i can be polite and

all those things but i'll also fuck you up and i'll also give you anal yeah so i'm you know it's definitely both sides of me I get to release my emotional yeah and then my like fuck you side when is this gonna drop is this gonna drop before the 23rd or can we drop it around the 23rd is that possible yeah we could try to make this coincide with your dropping so that would be great yeah I love that yeah I'm really excited 2021 my album was already supposed to be out we paused for a specific reason yeah i don't know that i can speak on that yeah but there was a big reason for it um so then i was like okay let's add something to it so i was like can you slap him really quick he is like a song right there okay i'm sorry go

ahead um so i was like let's add something else to it. So then we did Savage. I actually already have songs that are done or being worked on for my second album, which will be released pretty quickly after my first one. That's so exciting. Big things are coming. I'm excited for 2021. We're not letting up. This is like full throttle. I can't believe what you've done in just this short amount of time.

I can only imagine what you're going to do in a full year that you have especially because you have you know what is it mako is it mako yeah you have mako behind you just pushing everything and the team's phenomenal oh no they don't fuck around no i could not have handpicked a better squad i say that about our team too man like if you don't have a good team behind you you're not gonna make it's gonna fail it's gonna fucking suck trying to do the shit on your own and i'm telling you a good team if you don't have a team it's just you you gotta have a team and it's gotta be a good one not that fake shit yeah the people you really love that you want to see every day who want to see you succeed

and for the right reasons yes so and we're all about like you know we're all just givers nobody on the Nobody on the team is selfish. Yeah. And is like out for themselves. Oh, yeah. That's how it is here. We all literally. I really love that. No, it's awesome. Well, Sav, I really am just so happy that I got you in here and got you to open up and talk. And I'm sure everybody's just even more in love with you because I know I am. And I don't make me blush. in love with you because I know I am and I am don't make me blush she's like I can talk about anal but don't tell me that I'm a sweetheart okay um I can't wait to have you back dude please come back in like the next six months and check in with me every six months and just you know fucking I just want to hear all the good stuff that's going to be coming your way for sure why don't you drop your socials and tell people where they can find you? So Instagram is at Savannah Dexter music. Facebook is Savannah Dexter. I have like my main page and then a fan page. YouTube is Savannah Dexter.

Pretty much like Google me, bitch. Yeah. Like it's pretty much all the same. I tried to do it all the same. Yeah. Talk Savannah Dexter music. I try to keep it all the same. So yeah.

Thank you so much, babe. I really appreciate you being here. I appreciate it. And thank you guys so much for tuning in to another it all the same. Thank you so much, babe. I really appreciate you being here. I appreciate it. And thank you guys so much for tuning in to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye. Bye, y'all.