Dumb Blonde - Ask, Tell, Confess: How Did I Not See His Red Flags??

Episode Date: September 12, 2026

Ask, Tell, Confess is back and this week we’re getting into the red flags y’all saw, ignored, and somehow still said, “Yeah, but he’s hot.” Bunnie, Meme, and Hailee kick things off with a wild L.A. cop bar story, some Del Taco drive-thru scheming, and why a pretty face will have you out here making decisions you know d*mn well you shouldn’t be making.Then the gang gets into your confessions, and baby… some of y’all really put up with some sh*t. We’re talking mattress-on-the-floor men, crusty yellow pillows, secret girlfriends, cheating boyfriends, validation smashes, and dating app disasters with enough red flags to fill a whole parade.At some point, we gotta stop calling it “potential” and call it what it is. If the red flags are waving, believe them. Raise your standards, trust your gut, and stop letting somebody being fine make you lose all common sense.Want to be part of the next Ask, Tell, Confess? Send your stories to our Instagram DMs and make sure you’re following along.Watch Full Episodes & More: YouTube

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It's so hot in this fucking studio. It's Mimi has me in here just working up a storm. Let me tell you. It's a freaking prison in here. No days off. Yeah, no days off. We literally have only been away from each other for 24 hours. I know.

I saw you like last night. No, I saw you yesterday, but yeah, me and me and Haley only 24 hours. And I'm trying to go out with her tonight. She's like, no. She's like, no. She's like, please, please no. Turned off my location. Yeah.

The way I watch your location, I don't watch anyone's location like I do Haley's. I get so worried. And if you're like in one spot for too long, I'm like, you good, bro? No. Good. You make me worried. Oh, I got to worry about our little bandina. Yeah, I feel like you end up with like a lot of red flags and that just worries me.

Oh, this weekend in L.A. I'll be with one tonight. Should we talk about what happened in L.A.? Oh, with the light. Guys. That was crazy. So we're at this bar. We're going to leave unnamed.

And we're there. And we're just having a fun. We're just having so much fun. Because it's literally like our local bar that we just hang out at and have a blast. I turned to this dude who is so cute. I mean, like, gorgeous, right? And I'm like, my friend Haley would love you because he looked like a book talk boy, you know? And he's like, oh, who's your friend?

And I'm like, oh, she's over there playing dark. and he's like, oh, we're already hanging out with them. And I was like, oh, of course you are. Okay, cool. I didn't know this happened. Yeah. I just learned this. This is what started.

So this is what started the whole thing. All I saw happened was you at the bar and you said, and I said, that's all I know that happened. Yeah. So I was like, cool, we'll be over there in a minute. Well, I was having a deep conversation and we were at the bar just having this conversation. and 20 minutes later, the dude comes back and sits next to me, but his friend stands right here next to pretty little baby, right? And so I turned and I look at his friend and he goes,

you're really hot. And I was like, thank you. Yes. And I go, oh, thank you. That's so sweet. I was like, but I'm here with, you know, and he goes, he goes, I think you just met him tonight. So weird.

And I said, no, actually, it's, we've been together for two months. Clearly never seen TMZ. Yeah. Oh, fuck. And I was like, no, we've been, you know, talking for two months. I was like, this is my guy, you know, like, we're just hanging out having a blast. And I turn and I look and his friend is pushing up on him like this close to his face. And I put my hand in between him and I pushed him back.

I go, dude, leave room for the Holy Spirit. I was like, what's happening, you know? And so that's when we got up and we walked over to you guys. And I was like, dude, these dudes are tripping. Like, what is happening? And so then that's when they got all crazy or whatever. So anyways, Haley was already solidifying the homie. They had a third homie.

Okay, so wait, wait, I have to ask a question. The guy who pushed up on you, was that the cop? The cop, yes. No, not on me, pushed up on. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, but like, so the cop did that. Yes. Yes.

And I put my hand. It's crazy. They were just, like, so chill and cool. They were so nice. to us. Yeah. I was really just talking to one of them about the wings. But they had the weirdest energy with us.

It was so weird. So that's why we came over to you guys. And then that's when it kind of like popped off a little bit. And luckily we had our cop friend there with us. I literally was like, guys, he's a cop. And then Zach goes, so am I. Yeah. I said, my bad.

Yeah. I joke a lot that he's not a cop. And I kind of believed it for a second. I know. And I like to do that. Yeah. So anyways. Poor cop.

poor cops in our lives, guys. Yeah. So anyways, Haley was already solidifying the third dude. And after that, we were just kind of like, let's just go home. Because obviously,

fucking, you know, the energy's a little off. Let's just go home. So we all go home. And Haley's like, no, I'm not going home.

I'm going to fucking hunch on this dude. And I was like, okay. Hunch is crazy. And I was like, okay, so I'm helping Haley call. I'm like, you're not bringing them to

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available now wherever you get your podcasts. So me and Haley are trying to call hotel rooms. In the Del Taco Drive-Thru? She's like, you got any rooms? We're waiting for our order. I'm ordering Del Taco. I'm hearing, yeah, do you got like a king bed? And he's like, what the fuck do you guys want?

You give me your order. I'm like so two-girl chicken tacos. And so anyways, Haley ended up going and getting smashed by the homie and fucking had a blast. I was watching her little location. But we were worried about her. This circles back to why we worry about her. Because she does end up in these crazy situations.

I was right where I wanted to be. Yeah. Oh, we know. You walk right into the line of fire, sister. And the next morning I was cleaning up the Del Taco. I just hear a door open and just footsteps and something's dragging. And I just see her come into the doorway. She's like, I got his belt.

She's like a serial killer. She collects items from her fucking conquest. You took his belt? I said, why do you have his belt? She's like, I grabbed it. And I said, why? He said, because then he'll have to call me. And she just walks away.

Did he ever call you? Nope. He's like, he's like ripped. RIP baby. Oh my God. That's crazy. Well, it's trying to get under someone to get over someone else.

Who are we getting over? I'm not saying that on. Just we'll bleep it. Oh, God. Wait, I thought you guys were literally talking like two seconds ago. Anyway. By the way, we do nickname. Everybody that is in Haley's life.

Yeah, and everybody that's in each other's life. Yeah, yeah. I'll mention the guy's actual name. They'll be like, who? There's been times you said a name and I was like, I don't know who that is. And then you'll be like, this. And they're like, oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

Yeah. No, I'll nickname a motherfucker in her beat. I've already told you this. And I'll go on the record to say he's a weirdo. You've given him ample opportunity to come out and see you. Dude's playing with you. Dude is literally, he is one of these stories that we're about to fucking read today.

He is a walking red flag. Walking red flag, sister. So we put in our stories and which we'll, we got so many of them. We'll probably do a continuation podcast episode of it. So many, you guys. So many. Like I didn't realize we all fucking had the same.

type. Yeah. What were some red flags that you ignored because they were hot? And you guys fucking filled up our DMs. So we're going to kick it off. We're going to read a few. And then because Ashtal confesses are a little short, we're going to go into it and do an entire episode on them. You guys really sent it with these. Yeah. No. If you want to submit, just go to our Instagrams. Submit them to Highmay too, guys. Because I feel like Highman needs to be a part of reading the stories. I'm in my inbox. Give time. Get into his DMs.

My DMs. But yeah, the DMs were flooded with this one. I'm excited. Bro. Yeah. So funny.

And people we knew. Should we call a friend? Sure. Let's call Amber. Call Amber and Demps. Yeah, Dems for sure. I'll call Dems right now. Right now, please.

All right. Do we FaceTimers? Yes. She knows I never. Every time I face timer, she gets worried. She's like, why are you FaceTiming me?

Not liking cats is a red flag. That's your red flag is not liking cats. I can go deeper. It's, oh, well, a little red over there. He said, you know what? I'm packing my shit up. He's like, I'm not working for you anymore.

And I quit. Demp's never reply answers. All right, hold on. He said, I'll take my cats. I'll take my cats. A little cat statue behind you. He has like only two things. He walks out with just the two things.

You know, like people like pack a box on the TV show. It's just that picture. in the picture in a little. What we call you now? Amber. Oh. She's got an answer.

Yeah. Hi, beautiful. What are you wearing? What are you wearing? Okay. You're on air right now too, by the way. Native and Nashville. Shout out native and Nashville.

com. Go buy your fucking merch right now. Oh, Amber. Oh, Amber looks hot, baby. Yeah, always where he yells you sexy slut. All right. So listen, we want to put you on the podcast. Tell us, yeah, tell us a red flag that you ignored because they were hot.

It's always the big dicks. I get it. So it's like for women, literally they will always just put their feelings aside for a big dick. Yeah. Yeah. But don't do it. It's never worth it. It's worth it in the meantime.

I'll take a little schmeckle that treats me good over a fucking big dick that. that treats me bad. Yeah, any day. Any day. Any day. All right, I love you. I'll see you soon. Bye.

That was good. All right, let's read one. I'm going to hop into my DMs really quick. Damn, that one's long. Not going to read that one. Hold on. Long ones hurt. There's some that are novels.

Yeah, someone did send me a book the other day. I said, hey, I can't read that on that. If you would like to summarize it to a pair of, I had a chat had to summarize him before. Yeah. Rough. Oh, you know, when a girl says, I don't like to taste of water, that's a red flag. Ew, that's weird.

That means she has a toxic pus. Damn. Red flag. That just means you're nasty. Sorry. This guy. She definitely didn't have the aquafina. She had the fucking mountain dew.

Mountain dew puss is wild. His mattress on the floor with no sheets on it. One crusty pillow with no pillow case, but I was post-divorce. He was hot and I needed a validation smash. I love that. Okay. Did I leave with possibly some salmonella and regret? Maybe.

But did I go back because his snake slither left me like a giraffe on roller, like a giraffe on roller skates? You bet your sweet ass I did. I love her. Yeah. That's like me. Kayla, she's great. Kayla, we love you.

That was fantastic. That was hilarious. I get it. Can we talk? about men in their pillows. Can we talk about men in their mattresses? Can we talk about men and no pillowcases on the pillows? I've told this. I've told this story. I've told this story before. I was talking to this guy. He was so fucking hot. It was right before I got with Jay. He was so hot. Tall, skinny. You know guys know my type. Baby arm. You guys know baby arm. You guys know baby arm.

I never stayed the night at his house. The one night I stayed the night at his house. I know what happened. I wake up the next day. and bedbugs have ravaged my entire back. I'm talking like I got bit from shoulder blades to buckrat. You looked like you had hives. It was so bad. It was so bad. Bedbugs fucking ate me the fuck up.

I bought that motherfucker a new mattress and never stayed the night over there again. I would not have bought him shit. I didn't listen. I like to do charity work. All right. That's crazy. I mean, I was going to still keep fucking them.

Yeah, you need to do a new mattress to fuck on. I didn't know if I was going to stay the night over there again. What if he brought them to your house? I don't know, man. I've never had bed bugs. You know, it's crazy? You have a bed frame? Yeah, he at least had a bed frame for sure.

Took me a minute to get that. No, the bedding thing is crazy, though. Like, I literally, like, wash your fucking cheese. Get a new pillow. I know. Or how do you guys sleep on the thin ones? The thin, crusty ones. And they're literally yellow and you know those started white.

It's like two hots and a cot. Like, they fucking are in jail. Yeah. You know what they call it like two hots and a cot? you get two hot meals and you sleep on a cop when you're in jail. I haven't been in jail. I have a few times, obviously. You guys have seen all my mugshots.

There's literally a mugshot t-shirt right there. That's crazy. Yeah. All right, go ahead, Haley. It's crazy because my story was he had bedbugs but failed to tell me until I was on my back getting fucked. I wonder if it was the same guy. Wait. Did he tell her mid-stroke?

I'm sure she saw them. Imagine. Saw them. You don't see bed bugs. Yes, you can. If they're big, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

If they've been for a while, you can see them. Hold on. Yep. Stop. Yes. No. You check the crevices of like hotel beds for them. You can literally see them.

Yeah. Yes. You can. Little black dust. I've never seen them. Shine your flashlight and you'll see like little eyes. Eyes. You guys.

Have you never checked a mattress for bedbugs? Clearly. Obviously not. I've never fucking been in such a way. like until that one that fucking needed it. I've never fucked a dude with a mattress on the floor. Hold on. Let me think about this.

I can't say the same. I can't say the same. Yeah, no, I've never fucked a dude with a mattress on the floor. I definitely have. I fucked a dude on a floor, but never because he had a mattress on the floor. Mom,

you really got to stop watching these. I know. I need my name. She texted me the day. But then again, I've also fucked dudes who don't even have their own places to live. So that doesn't make me better than anybody.

I did an ask tell confess in my DMs the other day. you guys and this one said this one literally said that the guy told her it was his apartment and then when he walked out when they were done the people were outside waiting to go inside and go to bed.

I love a good charity case. Yeah. Can we all have a moment of silence? Amen. She fucking said silence, bitch. She can't. All right, who's next go memes? Me and silence do not ever.

You tell Haley you want her to be quiet and she gets louder. Oop, another red flag for a dude. If you wear flip-flops with your pants, red flag. Y'all know what I love about summer? Everything just feels a little more free. You're traveling, you're outdoing stuff. You're spending money everywhere you turn.

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A woman, that's perfectly fine. If a man has his feet out at any point, unless you're by the beach or by a body of water, red flag. Yeah, I'm not. I don't like men's toes that much. So when the toes are out. Insert photo here.

Insert the clip. That was so funny. No, I agree. But also there is a type of sandal a man is okay to wear. A little Tyrannosaurus Rex foot. There's a slide that has the big top and then there's the one that goes between the toe. Yeah. Why are we wearing the one between the toe?

The thong one, the thong flip-flop. Don't wear that. I'm so upset about it. A lot of California dudes do that though. They do. Wear a slide like a man. Wear a slide like, well, yeah. Go get advanced.

You know what? No, it's even harder. Socks with your slides. Thank you. Yeah. Hot. Hot. Yeah, you love that.

I do. You love a minute? That's some D1 athlete. Dude. Okay, that's not what I was thinking. I was thinking like, I was thinking like Dickies with a high sock and a slide. Hot. Two different styles.

I was going. Basketball shorts. That's where she was going. The thing between the toe pisses me off. I don't think that should be doing. Grilling. It doesn't bother. It doesn't bother me.

You're not staying in front of a grill. That's the only other exception. But what? It doesn't bother me. Not an exception. Not in a square shoes. You're grown men. Because you know the food's going to be bom.

Grow up. If he has those dad grilling shoes, food's going to be bombed. You can grow just as good in slides. I love a dude who wears like a flowy shirt with jeans and like flip flops in Cali by the beach or something. Maybe if we're in Europe. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Or if they wear the sandals with all the individual toes. But if they're hot, it doesn't matter. That's your red flag. I'm not even nor the toes. Not looking. What if they're just like, er.

Not looking. Don't look. I'm not going to look. Back to it. The biggest red flag I ignored because they were hot. I used to work as a server at a fine dining restaurant in my area. The head sous chef was my crush and always let me get free food. Made my food first and then we would sneak into the elevator and make out on the way up to the walk.

Hot. Just to have a few minutes of intimacy. As far as I knew, he was single. But I thought he was odd. He had a girl at work come up to him very. often. He told me she was his sister. He invited me to hang out one night after work for drinks. And after I left, I invited him over to my place. We had a great night together. A little too much fun, but that's for a different story. Then the next morning, I wake up. He's laying next to me

and someone is pounding down my front door. Damn. Come to find out his girlfriend had his location. He forgot to turn it off. He let me escape out the window and let himself out. I ended up moving up North later because she was stalking me. Oh, damn. So he was with the real life obsession. Oh, great movie, by the way. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. Really crazy. Well, you know. I got one. When I was 18, I wanted out of my parents' house so bad I downloaded Tinder. I met this hot guy. We hit it off. And because apparently I had lost my damn mind, we got married after two months.

Oh. Everything was heaven. until one week after the wedding, my mother got a screenshot of him trying to hit her up on plenty of fish. I confronted him and he said, someone's impersonating me. And I believed him. Three weeks later, my cousin sent my mom a screenshot of him trying to send her a dick pick on plenty of fish. He has a type. That's when I said, oh, so it wasn't an imposter.

Imposter. Immediately cut that shit and move my ass back home. Why is dude sending dick picks on plenty of fish? Why are we on plenty of fish? I thought plenty of fish was so 2002. I didn't even know that shit was still around. It might be an old story. Okay.

Yeah. Yeah, because she said when I was 18. Yeah. Poff. Poth. That's crazy. You're sending the mom and the cousin dance? Mom is crazy.

The mom is wild. I wonder if they all kind of look alike and he's got like a type and he's like, well, if she was 18, mom had to be like what? Maybe like 30. I don't know. No. Are we doing... All right.

I am leaving another man. He had a Twitter full of him with other guys, but told me it was old and he needed money. It was happening behind my back the whole time. Nope. Got it. That's so hurtful. Damn. Yeah, that's super hurtful.

I don't know. I feel like if... That's also you can be giving shit to other people. Yeah, you're jeopardizing somebody's health or life. Like, there's just so many things. go into that. Like, just be honest. Just be like, I still need money or I like it. I do it because I like it. You guys can be passionate about it together. Yeah, exactly. Or she can choose to leave. Like, always give somebody the choice to stay or go. Always. Yeah. Don't take that. Don't take their free will

away from them. They don't deserve that. Yeah. Look, I've, I've needed money, but ain't nothing going in my ass. Just saying that. I don't know. We heard a story the other day. About something going in my ass? Near it. That's different. That was so funny, bro. That was crazy. That was crazy work going. Yeah. We were only allowed to hang out on Sunday because he was busy the rest of the week.

We dated a full year. You also would frequently sing Chris Brown's These Hose ain't loyal to me while he was cheating on me the last three He sounds like a real fucking gym. Sounds like one of my exes. Yeah, he sounds like a real sweetheart. That's crazy. That is crazy. Two times in a year as well.

And a year. That's some serious time. Like ladies, stop fucking wasting your time for fuck boys. Yeah, not of people who said they stuck around for a year is crazy. And I've never stuck around that. If I might have, like, put up with some shit, it's because that person was in my life daily. You know, like, there's no way you're going to see. me twice in a year.

And I'm just going to be okay with it. Yeah. Not happening. Like ladies, let's go. It's fucking 2026. We are raising our standards. Move on.

Move on or fucking just let go. Let the dude go. They don't deserve you. Yeah. I feel like this topic is, you know, kind of. Let them go.

This is an intervention actually. Is this what this was today? We did this topic for you, Haley. Damn it. it. Yeah. So let him go.

I'm a head out. All right, guys, we're going to continue this into another podcast, and it's going to be a lot longer. So you guys go watch that. Love you guys. See you next week. When you're running a business, you learn real quick that you cannot do everything yourself.

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