Dumb Blonde - Ask, Tell, Confess: Why Staying in a Toxic Relationship Will Ruin You

Episode Date: January 2, 2026

On this episode of Ask, Tell, Confess, the conversation shifts from lighthearted to heavy real fast. The crew starts off joking about filming projects in the same outfits until January, before moving into some intense and emotional Tell submissions that stop everyone in their tracks.From there, they dive into real relationship talk—self-love, knowing your worth, and why staying in toxic situations can cost you more than you realize. Of course, it wouldn’t be ATC without some chaos along the way, including hilarious parenting moments and a son’s wildly inappropriate school assignment. The episode wraps with reflections on school days, personal struggles, and growing through the messy parts of life—honest, emotional, and unapologetically real.Watch Full Episodes & More: YouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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how is everybody today? Doing dandy. We are mass filming today. So if you guys are wondering why we're in the same outfits, it's because that's what we're doing. Getting through the holidays. Because we are in the same outfit. Yes.

You don't break it up a little bit. Yeah, we're good. It's just, you know what? It's the end of the year. We've got a lot of shit to do. And the season ends when in January? Season ends in January and then it's book to our baby. Yeah.

So we're excited. I can't wait. None of us know what to talk about. Yeah, we're not allowed to talk about anything. That was so much. She just went, we all just went silent. I get yelled at any time I try to get. of details.

I literally, I was staring at her. I was like, we've talked enough. Yeah. I literally fucking, I hate it because I would tell you guys everything. She would. Yeah. And I don't see anything wrong with that because at least people can start preparing and get ready, you know?

Things change. I like solidified details. I mean, I think we're pretty solidified in. We know where we're going. He's a logistic for. I'm a little. Thank you so much for that. What happened?

She called me a logistics whore. I'm very, She's logistical. Keen on details. Yes. She is. And it's fucking annoying. You guys, my dog's breath smells so bad.

Like, it's gotten worse in the past, like, six months. And somebody said that it might be a bad tooth in there, but I'm like, the dude don't have very many more teeth to get rid of. Those back ones, though, once they rot. But what am I supposed to do? Just let them gum everything? You start going to softer foods for senior dogs. Do not fucking call him a senior dog. I saw that coming.

You bitch, I saw red. You bitch. This fucking guy is young and spry. I'm trying to help him out here. He's only seven. Some little canned food. I thought he was eight. He will be eight in May.

Oh, seven and a half. You're not old, honey. Don't listen to that fucking turd. God. How dare you fucking insult my damn dog? that is rude all right well I'm going to kick this off the air gets sucked out of the room I'm literally going to kick this off because I already know you were going to try to steal the one I got all all sitting here reading the same one and it went oh so you guys

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nurses and three pediatricians they were told to watch her closely in the upcoming days and all as well with little until our next crazy adventure i'm crying because i'm gagging so bad what fucking would make that little girl think a tick looked scrumptious what about a tick is tantalizing for a child i mean i hate a ladybug one time the really big ones they look like gushers I don't know if you've ever seen him on like cows and horses. The really big ones look like gushers. You never thought they looked like a gusher. They look like fucking...

I mean, when you're like little, you probably don't know any better. It's goddamn legs. That's true. I mean... That is true. I've never once even... And I bet you it was like very dossile though because that means it was like full, full.

Dossal. All right. Why is he flexing his butt hole like that? Ew. It's talking to us. It's a great. Okay Crouchy Allen Jackson

Get up here right now God This dog just strutting around You got to poop I just The whole tick thing is disgusting I freak out with ticks Have you guys ever had a tick on you

And then like when you pull it off Like you can literally feel The crunch No What? I just like I had one in my head And you can feel it as like

When you pull it off Because you can feel like ripping Stop because it's got it's like hooks in you it does digs its head into your skin i pulled one off my arm the other day but i i felt like for like the next hour i was like because it's like a venom that they have or something it like numbs have you ever had one yeah i grew up in the midwest i thought i had right in our backyard one time remember when i found that you made me look and i remember that it was a tick yeah she bent over the couch she said hey i need you to check them for ticks yeah it was a mole

And my little mole in the hole that looked like a tick. We all checked it. Yeah. I think you just wanted to show us your butthole. No, I never want to show anybody my butthole. I mean, she's cute, though. I've seen her. She's been through a lot online.

She's been through a lot online. Hi. Do you know what your butt hole looks like? Honestly, no. You've never spread your cheeks in the mirror. I have done that, but I'm not as like agile to like see. Stop to look back. You know, like I.

No, you just look. look in the mirror. But my mirror's kind of high, so whenever, like... You've never put a mirror on the floor. I never tried standing on the counter, though. Or you can get, you know, the one of those... Like a selfie. Yeah.

Or, no, or get one of those mirrors that, like, goes up against the wall and you lay it on the ground and you just squat over it. Never thought about that. One of my confesses literally says I took a picture of my butthole to see my hemorrhoids and it's actually kind of cute. That's one of my confessions. The hemorrhoid? That's what that person said, yeah.

Have you ever had a hemorrhoid? Oh, for sure. What did you get him from pushing? too much? I think pushing too much. You're a pooper. You poop a lot. I'm a pooper. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it's like, I've definitely had them before. But I didn't know what they were previously. Like, maybe

to like maybe six months ago. Have you ever had a hemmy? Oh, lucky you. Really? No. Not that tight little sphincter. You don't know when I was pregnant. Keep lifting weights. You'll have one. It's going to pop out. Sorry.

Yay. Have you ever had a hernia? No. Those suck. Fuck no. Had you had a hernia? Oh, for sure, yeah. What is a hernia?

It's like, you can get them. The muscle in your stomach. It like kind of, I don't know how it is exactly, but your, it separates. It separates and it becomes like a little ball. It's like a hemorrhoid on your body. Yeah. So your muscle separates and part of like your guts kind of come out. Yeah.

What the fuck? You need surgery. A lot of people get them in their belly button and stuff. Can we get off this? What's next? It was next. Sometimes I think we forget we have microphones in front of us. We do a lot.

yeah yeah go ahead i just read my what happened mine's just a sad one oh god leave it to you to fucking go to the next one don't gotta go in order my next one was the dick one oh got one okay okay okay um this person said i wanted to send the story of how i lost my son we were teaching him that our 14 year old i'm are you kidding that's the viability that's the viability We're bringing, okay. You know what? Everybody's confessions mean a lot to us. I know.

I'm not mentally prepared for this, but go ahead. Yep. We were teaching him that our 14-year-old dog was dying. He had a great idea to take her for a few walks back the road from our house to have special time with her before she left us. It's a woods road, so on our first walk, I was ahead of him a bit, and then I hear screaming. He was climbing a pile of huge logs, and they tumbled on top of him. I ran as fast as I could to him, called 911. It took 18 minutes before anyone came.

They worked on him, but it was of no use. In that instance, a double rainbow appeared and he was gone. That was four years ago now on October 18th. He was seven years old. God, that's a baby. I know. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I know. I don't know this person's name, but we love you. I'm so sorry for your loss. That's fucking horrific, dude. The holidays are over and now comes the part where all that spending finally catches up with us. Between the drinks, the food, and the gifts, It adds up quicker than you think.

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this one? Please keep me anonymous. If your husband has been caught messaging and deleting messages on Facebook and confront him with these things and he lies to you, then gets offensive and trying to blame me for not having sex with him. He deleted messages, has someone messaging at 5.30 a.m. and is always putting me down. Are my gut feelings correct? He's talking with other women and I'm just a dumbass for saying. How do I get him to have a real conversation without being hateful and downright rude? How can I trust what he says? Well, go with your gut intuition.

Yeah. Well, it's not only that. I think you answered your own question. And anytime a man makes you feel like that, you don't, sometimes you have to be okay with never getting the apology that you deserve or the answer or closure that you want. And you need to remove your energy. That is going to be the biggest statement to that man is you withdrawing from his life and shutting him out completely. I think it's only going to hurt her more finding out the truth rather than just leaving. And if he's already lying and hiding it, he knows he's doing something wrong. A hundred percent. If he's not cheating on you already, the intention is there. And that's just as worse. And emotional cheating is way worse than fucking somebody else. I don't care what anybody says.

I would rather the person I'm with fuck somebody else than have a continuous relationship. Emotional relationship with them. Absolutely. So I think you know the answer to your own questions. you just need confirmation and you know if you um are feeling really weak right now that's normal you know like a lot of women when they're in those situations they don't want to leave or they want to try to make the man love them more or they want to try to compete with the women that he's you know cheating with and you're never going to win why would you want to be with somebody who

doesn't want to be with you exactly i when i was young and dumb i used to always like be super self-conscious and these guys would cheat on me and all that kind of stuff and then one day I was just like why would I want someone who doesn't want me and when I held the power it all changes your entire mindset changes in that moment yeah if you're in the position to leave leave even if you're not in the position to leave leave start making the the moves towards that yeah absolutely because use gaslighting too use your pain for purpose you know like you don't want to just be beaten down and literally staying is going to cause more trauma to yourself. Yeah.

You don't deserve that. You deserve to be happy and free and find somebody who really loves you or better yet, fall in love with yourself. Yeah. The best love you can have is self-love. If I could go back to my fucking past, I would have not wasted so much time on men. I would have literally done my own thing. Ben, I was independent.

I didn't need anybody. Nobody ever supported me or helped me. It was always me. supporting them like relationships are cool but they're a lot of work and you know it needs to be beneficial and mutual respect wise and just the relationship you guys have to wake up every day and choose each other and choose not to um hurt the other person especially on purpose he knows what he's doing yeah he's deleting stuff he doesn't want you to see it because he knows he's wrong so i hope that uh helped you and give us an update later on down

the road and let us know if you took our advice or not. I saw one of the confesses say that she's only staying with her significant other because they have kids. And I'm like, that's not healthy for you or like kids. Like that's way worse than staying together. My parents did. You stay together for the kids. I think that's such an old mindset. It's a it's a cop out. Yeah. You guys are saying that you're staying together for the kids, but you guys are both too lazy to move on and do the work. You guys are in such a toxic situation that it's like a toxic mirror go around and you guys are addicted to that you know and you're holding the kids on the ride nothing to do with the kids because the kids know that you guys hate each other we've always known

we can hear the arguments we can see it we know when there's love in the house and when there's not so staying for kids is a complete fucking cop out yeah don't do that ever you're going to end up fucking your kids up more. Yeah. It really. All right. I already talked about buttholes. Okay. I mean, we already had a fucking, we already found out that Jaime's got little dingleberries. Wait, did I miss that? Hammerids. Okay.

Just a little, yeah. You were just talking. The bloody dingleberry. Yes. No, he talked about washing his ass. You got to wash your ass. This one said, happened to me this week with my 14, year old son he got suspended from school the reason he submitted an assignment for construction class and in the powerpoint talking about erecting things he put a photo of a fully erect penis parenting as a teenager is these days is not for the faint of heart and that's for sure someone

please send help i think that's fucking genius and hilarious he should have got i get that it was inappropriate because at school and they have to penalize him for that but that boy's going to be a comedian one day. That's hilarious. That's like such a cash move. Yeah. Oh, literally. Such a cash move. Yeah, that's fucking funny. Damn. Good for him. I would have gone and bought a ice cream. I'd have been like, you just like your dad. But I got in trouble in school one time and my mom literally ended up just like, okay, you're not in actual trouble over it. Did you ever get suspended? So many times. Really? Oh my gosh. I was, I would call my mom before the school could and be like, hey, I just got kicked out of school, do you want me to bring you lunch or what do you want Taco Bell? I can swing by on my way

home sort of thing. Like, I threw a desk at a teacher one time. I called her a fucking bitch and threw a desk at her because she took my phone out of my purse. I would let you up a me, me. Bro, I was in detention all the time. I would fight. I would. The one with 30 chickens and a donkey. Yeah. In middle school I got suspended because this kid was huffing paint and I didn't know it and I went up and hit the bag he had dumped a bunch of white out in it and they said I was assisting in it that's the time I was talking about my mom went there and she was like are you not listening to her words she didn't do it and the assistant principal was like no she assisted in the drugs those kill brain cells my mom's like get the fuck out of here and so she just

took me home wait I can't get past the fact that he was huffing white out I know that was a thing that I didn't either I know about the gold paint but not you can empty the white out into a bag I only use white out to paint my nails God I'm so glad I didn't become a huffer in my fucking, I've done a lot of shit, but huffing is rough. Rough on the brain. So rough. Yeah. So, but yeah, I got, dude, I literally couldn't stay in school to save my life. I hated school. I loved it. Did you ever get suspended? No. Me either. No. Oh, good for you. You fucking dorks. Yeah. I used to sit in the secretary, like, office. Yeah. I wasn't a teacher's. Oh, you're Bailey. That's how Bailey is.

Yeah, I wasn't a teacher's pet, but that was pretty, I mean, I was like next to it. Like, they just didn't mess with, like, they just knew I wasn't going to do anything. Reading the part in your book about like that last time, like the final kind of straw, that shit sent me. Yeah. Sent me. Yeah. My teachers hated me. I was not a good student.

I was not very studious. Still, I'm not studious. I will fall asleep. You can't put me on a seminar or anything. I just automatically start. A hundred percent. I can't do it. Also, found out.

Is that an ADD thing or an. ADHD thing. Yeah, it's like the attention deficit of it. Yeah. Being able to stay on it. I found out way later in life, though, that I'm dyslexic. So I just always thought I was bad at school. Like my entire life, I was bad at school.

And then in my adulthood, I was like, oh, that's dyslexia. I got it. Well, look at you now. Look at you now. You freaking, you're just crushing it at life memes. So proud of you. All right, guys. Thanks for tuning in to another episode of Astrogan lives.

See you guys next week. Bye.