Dumb Blonde - Bunnie & Meme Q&A

Episode Date: July 9, 2024

Bunnie and Meme reach deep into the fan questions this week and give their advice on everything from self confidence to relationships, health, and paying those bills. Bunnie talks about the first time she laid eyes on Jelly and the transition from rock to country, and Meme shares her journey to self love and tips for finding hobbies you'll actually like. Watch Full Episodes & More:www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey guys, I need to ask you a question. I want to know why in the hell are you not on Patreon? I don't think you guys even realize how much content we have on Patreon. Let me break it down for you. We have the BunnyXO show. We have Meet the D-Fords. We have Popaganda. We have more shows that we're adding.

And not to mention, we have the visuals of the podcast. Not only that, we have four tiers that caters to everybody's budget and everybody gets the podcast. There's that, we have four tiers that caters to everybody's budget and everybody gets the podcast. There's no more excuses. Head over to www.patreon.com backslash dumb blonde podcast and sign up. Stop missing out. We have built a huge community over there, guys. I'm talking about hundreds of thousands of people over there. We even have live chats, live chats that I actually am talking in every single night. Last but not least, we give away gifts every freaking month. I'm talking like signed stuff from Jay and I, lives. You just never know what kind of surprise you're going to get.

It's like a Cracker Jack box. I love the community that we've built over there at Patreon. If you are already a Patreon member, I freaking love you, dude. Thank you so much. You guys are my babies for life, my writers. If I could, I would literally make out with each and every one of you. I love you guys so much. And that's a lot of kisses, actually. Gotta go back.

Is this thing on? Bonnie, who used to be a former sex worker, now hosts the podcast Dumb Blonde. Most little girls grow up wanting to be doctors and lawyers and shit. And I was like, I want to be super hot, make a a lot of fucking money and be a rock star's wife that was my goal as a child and here we are all right how should we kick this off just like that sup guys mimi and i have decided to do a q&A with you guys today. I feel like this is the most requested thing people want. Yeah. A Q&A or advice or anything along those lines. Yeah. No, we had like a lot. So I'm sorry if we don't get to everyone. Like you guys emailed, you guys DM'd, you guys commented on the post that she put up and there was a lot. So we sifted through them.

We chose some of our favorites and yeah let's dive into this i just love this guy so much he's been getting all the love today he's just very active he you know he got a million views on another video on tiktok and he just he's the star of the show big yeah he's just you're too famous chuch yeah i think all of us to shame you're normally laying down. I know. He wants to be a part of it today. Yeah, he wants to.

I'm looking at him on the camera right now. Say hi. I think it's my favorite part of the podcast is when he pops his little head up above it. All right. Well, just here. All right. We're just going to hang out. Stop it.

What are you doing, Bubba? That's the best thing I've ever seen all right well we're just i gotta be some people like parrots on their shoulders i've got an exotic bully let's dive into these questions there was a lot there was i mean some people sent us their life stories and like it was a lot to go through not asking questions anymore um so we're just gonna dive off into one of my favorite ones in here let me see where it's at uh because i thought it was such a good question and we're starting out strong would you rather be able to speak to animals or speak every language to animals i don't care to talk to people i already knew your i already knew you said fuck people yeah no let me walk up to a

horse and be like saw dude yeah let me fucking dude if i could communicate with chachi you already do sometimes i wonder i'm like are we on the same level like i literally can hold conversations with him and even though he doesn't respond back i know he's listening you guys like have this really special bond i don't see many people have a bond like you and judge yeah he's my baby i love him to death sweet baby my son um this one asked stephanie said what's your workout what about you though hold on what about you what would you rather talk to what would i i don't know i kind of wish i would be able to speak every language yeah well you've been trying to like learn fucking i'm doing duolingo and i've been doing it for 200 days yeah you have i've been almost a year yes say some say some i can't hold the conversation

yet say some just words like uh mujer means woman and then like you know like uh yeah i can i can order beer like pinche to cerveza or like those surveys say por favor yeah i feel like i can read it really well i can like when i go shopping i can understand the people talking but i think he speaks spanish i said me gusto and he turned what is happening over here he's like i don't know he's freaking out you all right i feel like he responded to your spanish he did are you spanish i knew it i knew you were a spaniard it's the gold chain you okay what's the matter it's his little cuban links he's on alert right now i know he's very like i think he's staring outside and he's catching a shadow i don't know what he's looking at do you no okay well she's acting up today

what is your favorite desserts or cheat day meals desserts i love a good brownie it has to be dark chocolate she really likes the dolly parton brownies so fucking good you guys they will make you slap yo mama okay like they are so good i don't know if she puts crack in them or something but even jay jay and i had two separate conversations i fucking told bug i was like sorry dolly if you're watching this i'm cussing i'm trying not to cuss so you can use it um i told bug i was like those dolly parton brownies are lit i was like they are so good what's in them and she's like nothing i don't think and then jay comes in an hour later goes dude those jolly barton brownies were bomb and that's what i told you about them yeah and so i went to the store that night literally got them me and olivia

made them the next day and they're like fudge brownies and you add this like package of fudge into it and i don't know they're like not cakey but they're not like chewy like they're the perfect mix of them yeah i don't know what she puts in there no crack amazing amazing so good yeah yeah go buy a dolly parton brownies and the only time you really cheat is like during your period it's my excuse i would say like cheat meal because i refuse to get on a scale during my period so i'm like you know what it's a fucking free for all but i need to stop doing that because it's really not good for your body but you just jump back onto it i literally just like give myself grace for a week and i'm just like fuck it i'm just gonna eat the chip i'm gonna eat the fucking bread i'm gonna do whatever and then as soon as i'm like three days into my

period i'm like okay i'm eating better yeah yeah i would say my favorite would probably be creme brulee and it's hard to find like a good creme brulee. I used to love it. And then I ordered it one night from a from room service at a hotel. And I was so ready for it. I was like drunk, wanted it, bit into it. It tasted like fucking hand lotion. It probably was.

Yeah. That's so fucking gross. Because creme brulee is the texture of lotion. Yeah, exactly. And it tasted like lotion. Very perfumey. Yes. Yeah.

I would freak. No, somebody fucking, I might have been rude to the room service guy or something. And he just put fucking, oh, probably. I'm sure I've swallowed a few babies I didn't mean to along the way. Oh, my God. I can't. I can't even. But where did you and Jelly meet?

We met at Las Vegas Country Saloon in 2015 in Vegas. That's the first time you laid eyes. I know. But, like, that could be new. Yeah. First time you laid eyes on him yep he was opening for the moonshine bandits and I was like what is this what is this man this big southern boy were you at the concert were you backstage or like so there was not that many people there so it was more of like

everybody was walking around oh like it was like a big room and just with a stage so everybody was walking around but yeah we were backstage like drinking and stuff like that but like there was it wasn't jay wasn't nobody even knew who he was he was opening for the moonshine bandits you know like he might have had a little pop in nashville but people on the west coast didn't know who he was we were there for the moonshine bandits that goes into my next question that someone asked they wanted to know how has your transition been going from rap to country it's been smoother than i thought yeah they have been we haven't met any assholes yet they're so welcoming yeah they have literally been so welcoming and just so um non-judgmental i mean at least not

to our face i mean whatever they say behind closed doors they're entitled to but yeah no everybody's been like so sweet you guys have made some really nice friends yeah i love that while we were at cmt awards you had a little special something backstage with winona oh i love winona i'm glad i got that call on camera too that was such a special moment she i mean she literally like snuck up on you she had her eyes locked on you and just beelined oh she is so sweet like she's just everything that you and she's so tiny yeah i didn't expect that yeah i thought she was gonna be like super tall she is tiny that's been my biggest like like epiphany with even like just being meeting people you see

online or in movies yeah everything everybody's so much smaller so much smaller than you except for me you and callie like tower over people everybody you guys are already naturally tall yeah and then you add heels yeah and you guys are much taller everyone's so tiny i'm five five five six and i tower over everybody yeah like it's crazy it's so wild like even some of the musicians we met when you met carly pierce is tall yes she is she's very tall yeah when you met eddie vetter i didn't expect him to be like you kind of bent down a little bit to give him a hug and i was like i didn't he was a little nugget yeah these people

look so much bigger through a little screen yeah i was yeah they're very very tiny it's crazy the camera really does add height yeah not even pounds but height really yeah that's crazy blake shelton's tall as fuck too yeah gwen was too was she i didn't get to see her yeah stand next to her yeah she was tall because she was standing next to um she performed with um carly carly and carly's already kind of a little bit taller carly's taller than me yeah she walked by me and she's taller than me like they were very comparison wow yeah i would picture i would think gwen would be tiny i mean i guess when you look at her with blake like he's already such a tall human she doesn't look super small

next to him so she's got to have some height she's probably like five six yeah she wears those tall ass she does she wears huge shoes yeah yeah who's got a teenager we do and guess what she is ridiculously hard to keep track of and if i didn't have life 360 on my phone i would never know where this kid is the entire family and i have life 360 and my husband actually uses it more than i do he knows where everybody is at every time, which I think is so funny, but I'm telling you right now, Life360, if you have a teen, especially one that's newly licensed, you want to know how many miles per hour they're driving. You want to know how long it took him to get from point A to point B. It sounds crazy, but in this world, it's not. Life360 has been a game changer for our family. Life can get chaotic sometimes with that to-do list for yourself and things to do with or for your family. One thing you don't have to worry about is where

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it into your calendar literally and it's like by the end of the night, like he's fucking had a day I've had a day and we're just like, our thing is like, we love crawling into bed and just watching a TV show together. Cause it's like, we don't ever get to really do that, especially like during tour and shit like that. Like,

so whenever we can just like have a normal sit down and watch a show, that's like foreplay for us. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, but me and Jason, you know, Jason's at home raising our kids and he's working and trying to do all the household stuff, too. I'm constantly working. So by the time we like get into bed, it's like, oh, yeah, it's just like the last thing I want to do is get my heart rate up. And that's how I know I'm getting old, because normally the 20 year old me would be swinging from the chandeliers and me now I'm just like I'm not about to fucking do cardio before I go to bed when I gotta wake up and do it again like fuck that I've never felt as old as I

did when we finally got one of the beds that the head goes up yeah and that's I can't sleep without it when we tour and like we go places I'm man, I really wish that my bed like came up at least three inches right now because that's how I really felt old was the day I got excited about my bed being able to be elevated. We'll never not have a sleep number. Oh, it's crazy. I don't have a sleep number. We got a Tempur-Pedic, but it's just, it's a life changing.

Like you don't realize how good it feels on your body and you can lift your feet up and yeah, it's been great. I love the feet thing jay hates it really he hates it are you guys are individuals right yeah or is it one whole bed ours is one whole bed no so it's individual heads oh and then the feet are connected so now he wants separate beds because i literally i will i'll sleep like cradled like with my head up and my feet zero gravity yeah like i love this you're me too and he hates it he's like please fucking stop i'm like god why i tell him i'm like why do you gotta come into bed so early i'm like you used to come in at like three and now you're coming in at 10 30 what is happening what is going on yeah i'm like what is

going on that's funny um this person said um what is your biggest insecurity because i mean you do exude confidence like i think people misunderstand misjudge having confidence with not having any insecurities you can be confident and still be insecure yeah that's what i was gonna ask like what would an insecurity have because i think I don't think people realize that like everyone struggles with that no matter how confident you look online or in person or whatever someone's gonna still have an insecurity yeah I mean I think I wish I could fucking grow muscular legs and not have my dad's arms and like you know I think women pick their bodies apart all the time um which is why I'm a perfectionist with my appearance and stuff. Probably like my anxiety is an insecurity because I'm constantly having to apologize to people for like, sorry, I just can't hang out.

Like, you know, or like if people or if I'm in the middle of a fucking podcast, hey, if you see me wiping myself down with a fucking ice pack or yeah you know like so i mean that that's an insecurity yeah it doesn't always have to be physical it could definitely be like you know mental or it could be you know like certain things like that yeah yeah what about you um that one's hard because i've gone through this huge self-love journey over the last since I had cash yeah you know like after I had cash that I really don't give any more fucks like it's really hard to say like it's an insecurity yeah yeah like after him I worked so hard on like not having insecurities because I felt like it held me back so much because I I really let almost my insecurities because I felt like it held me back so much because I really let almost my insecurities cripple me yeah so I feel like if I admit to having an insecurity it's kind of like

a crippling thing to me like yeah you know before it was always my weight you know being plus size and I've been plus size my entire life that I started taking as a child oh yeah like not like at like Olivia's age or anything but quickly like right at the edge of puberty was when my PCOS set in, which I didn't know at the time was PCOS. So I just gained weight dramatically. But I was always a thick girl too. Like even as a child. We like those things.

Listen, motherfuckers are in my DM for you all the time. Girls and guys. Yeah. Sorry, Jason. I'm always like, she's fucking married. Like, what do you want me to do? Yeah. No, I was always like thicker.

Even like when I played sports as a kid kid like I was never like a beanpole my body's just not structured that way at all like just being naturally thick that was a huge insecurity until I let it not defeat me any longer and that's been like huge because even when I lose weight now I think like I talked about that before was like getting through the hurdles of like self image before i decided to lose weight because i got to my biggest it was a very very unhappy place but i was like you know what fuck this like if i just like let these insecurities like take a hold of me it's like a miserable life to live so i took a hold of the insecurities and i i don't give a fuck if someone thinks I'm plus size.

Like it doesn't affect them. I think age too. Like the older you get ladies, the more you do not give a shit about what people think about you. You're just, you get to a point where like, I can't fucking please you. I don't give a shit. I am me. I'm going to pull whoever I need to pull.

The people who love me are going to love me. Like if you don't fuck with me, I do not care. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. a poll the people who love me are gonna love me like if you don't fuck with me i do not care exactly yeah yeah you get to a point like you said it it probably has to do with age too because like i had cash around 29 so like you know going into my 30s and i'll be 31 this weekend and it just really made me realize like even if you if you thought badly of me like this whole time like oh god i wouldn't wear a crop top because like what if someone thinks badly of me? Yeah. I wouldn't want you in my life if you were thinking badly of me.

Yeah. You know, so that's been a huge thing for me was like in that insecurities is like if you thought those things about me, why the fuck would I want you in my life? Yeah. No, I couldn't agree more. So like it's like people have accepted me. The people who have accepted me accepted me being plus size it's not a fucking i used to hide behind you and you know this like big oversized clothes when i first met you yes that's all i would wear and i was like it's like i thought that was like

camouflage like someone doesn't know i'm plus size under here if i just wear oversized shirts and leggings yeah no i'm so fat regardless you know so like if i wear the crop top and jeans it's no different at least now i'm comfortable you know and i feel pretty before it was like you only could choose certain clothes yeah sort of thing i can't wait till jay gets there because he's such a cute little squishy baby and i just feel like because he is in front of such a huge audience just critiquing him all the time all the time that like he always feels like he has to hide behind jackets and flannels and i'm like layers was another thing yeah baby you don't gotta do that like just be the little squish that you are yeah and just yeah like i said and jason struggles

too like sorry to put your you know info out on there but like he struggles being a bigger dude also with like his insecurities and i've really tried to help him and all you can do is love those people because it does not matter jason has told me i was beautiful since the day we met but until you see it yourself nothing's going to change that yeah you could be behind that person pushing them for years oh yeah you know you're certain like you said you tell him all the time how like you know you love everything about him that doesn't matter until the person themselves decides to make that change the same thing with weight loss yeah you know like this past like two months i've lost 30 pounds and i'm more appreciative of those 30 pounds now that i've loved myself because i wasn't doing

it to love myself right that was the biggest biggest difference i've ever done was i didn't i'm not trying to lose weight to love myself i'm doing it because i want to be healthier yeah i want to be able to you know like go jump on the trampoline with my kids and things like that, which I wasn't able to do at that weight. So I'm doing it for a whole different reason than I ever have before. And I appreciate it so much more now. And I've kept it off. Like I have not fluctuated at all, which normally I would have probably off the bandwagon a

long time ago and already started like eating shit food again. But yeah. No, I love that for you. Yeah. That was a whole nother rant. No, i think people needed to hear that yeah you know and i think i can talk about stuff till i'm blue in the face but people don't believe me because i've had work done or i you know work out all the time but hearing it from somebody who is who really battles weight issues and hearing you be able to be confident i think they need to hear that because and i i always had the misconception that you had to be born confident or you just

were naturally confident and that's not the case like it can be learned and i told myself that i was like i didn't come out of the fucking womb knowing how to drive a car or do hair or do our lifestyle that we're doing now all those things were learned learned. So why can't I learn confidence? Yeah. So that it was just a learning journey. It wasn't that I had to be born with it. Right. Or like I was naturally confident. Because that's not the case.

And what actually helped me. And I don't think I've ever told you this. Was you and Viking Barbie were like a huge part of my confidence journey. Because I got close with both of you guys. And I got to see that even the industry's most perfect humans. Like in the eye of the world like you and Viking Barbie are like perfect you know I love you but like you still struggle oh yeah you you don't see yourself like how the world sees you you see yourself how you see yourself

and to me I was like man so even if I looked perfect if I would still struggle, I would still have anxiety or depression. Because, like, Viking Barbie opened up about, like, her mental health also. And you were very open about your mental health. And I was like, oh, so being skinny doesn't make my depression just fucking go away, you know? Like, that wasn't the case. And I was like, damn. I was like, I don't think I ever told you guys that. But yeah, that was a huge part of me. Like making that flip is being closer to you guys and realizing like looking perfect doesn't make you mentally stable.

You will pick yourself apart no matter what. Exactly. I'm sure Alex Earl looks in the mirror and is like, fuck, I fucking feel fat today. Meanwhile, she's a fucking just gorgeous being, you know? Exactly. Yeah. And I didn't, but I never saw that because you never get close enough to people right that are look that far away from you you know like i never thought of my life being this right now so to be able to be close and like you are so open about your

mental health online which helps i mean more people than i think you'll ever know well i don't have a choice i'm a weird bitch i don't want people to think i'm stuck up it's just more of like i'm not stuck up i'm not up it's just more of like I'm not stuck up I'm not guarded I'm just I have fucking panic disorder you're raw and real and like that helps so many people like realize that it it doesn't take those things to be mentally stable speaking of food our fucking subs are on the way I've been checking the phone I was like did you see me I was like so excited no that's why I've been checking this I'm like, did you see me? I was like, I'm going to get the fucking sandwiches. No, that's why I've been checking this. I'm like, they're on the way. That's fucking funny.

I just hope it's for us and not the house because I just ordered fucking that for them. Let me see. Hold on. I'll tell you right. Let me get my glasses on. Sorry, guys. We are hungry. We have pulled it all day here at the house.

It's our third recording. Yeah. It's been crazy. Yep. This is ours on the way. Yay. Perfect. This is a good one because I chose this specifically because I know this is the struggle of both

of ours. Kimberly wants to know, what do you do during your mean time? Mean or me? Me. Oh. Me time. Do we really have me time? Do we have me?

When I'm off, I'm literally making clips for TikTok. I'm posting on YouTube Shorts. I'm posting on YouTube shorts. I'm posting. I post on Facebook like it's Twitter. Yeah. You know, like I don't I just always feel like idle hands are of the devil. And I know that's trauma from my childhood. Yeah.

But I just can't break it. I have to always be doing something. Because March was hard for you to like. And you said it was a month off. It wasn't a month off. You sound like my husband. He even said that last night. I was like, said it was a month off it wasn't a month off guys you sound like my husband he even said that last night i was like i've had a month off in five years and he was like when did you have a month off i was like no i said fucking march and he was like

and then actually technically i had one last march too but i was still fucking doing shit you still made content yeah yeah no there there's not been a month off like a step away from it because and i get it though because like if you sit in your thoughts for too long or you just like stagnant it's rough sit still yeah like even if i'm at home like okay i finally have trained myself to be able to lay on the couch maybe a little too good now but before i would have never laid on the couch before jay taught me how to relax yeah because i literally would i'd be around everybody just nervous energy cleaning fucking doing something and jay would finally be like bitch sit the fuck down yeah quarantine is actually what kind of made me have to sit down yeah he's like how many times are you going to clean the kitchen yeah you know like sit the

fuck down we're trying to watch a movie you know yeah that's and it's hard for both of us like we both struggle on that because also things like um that we do we don't attribute to work right because we've just been doing it for so long yeah you know it's we're just building exactly and like it may like it exactly it's just part of the machine yeah and so like that wasn't really a month off like a month off would be us like literally putting our phones down which is like you can't do that there's no way exactly there's literally no way to make that possible we've built our entire life online so yes if if it's not us pushing the the patreon the fucking podcast the tiktoks the fucking everything yeah yeah like absolutely then people people have attention spans of gnats yeah you know

literally like they'll forget you in two seconds oh yeah or that or what happens is people like well where is she is she okay and then they start speculating and it's just like bro yeah i'm just it's just better if i stay here exactly yeah if i don't post you know there's a problem i would say my me time is like when we do our car shows because I think that's the only, it's the two times a year my husband and I go out and I put my phones down. I even tell the salon, I am not relevant for the next three days. And I know that six days a year isn't much, but that is my moment. And I still manage to bother her.

No. While she's there. like my like and I still managed to bother her no like she's there like I just I I can't stress that enough that like it's so important to at least have like something you know and like even though it's not a whole month off there were days that you very much like stepped away and I was very proud of you like you just you did you you know you you've started meditating which I think is incredible I'm a little jealous i don't have a quiet space to meditate ever i just go out front or out in the backyard and my kids would be yeah up my ass 24 if i'm home my kids are with me yeah like i don't i don't even pee alone like

jason had to start being like all right when mom goes poop like everyone out of the bathroom just standing there what are you doing yeah then olivia's like look at this thing i made and like i know that like i'm not home much i try to use those moments to be like wow that's a beautiful art project uh smoking used to be my vice because the kids couldn't be around it and i'm sober now yeah i have nowhere to go she's like i am present very fucking present yes oh god no being sober is the worst this age right now having a two-year-old i just got olivia out of my bed okay so she's now in her bedroom in her beautiful little bed and cash has decided he can no longer sleep alone i there was no there was no transition it literally went from one kid to another and now i'm sleeping with another kid in my bed and it is he won't sleep with live no no and they both are like the weirdest

like movers oh bailey is the worst in the air does she move like that she'll slap you in your face yes turns around she's like a head at the end of the bed but she like like makes noises in her sleep they do too what are you fucking doing straight talking in their sleep yeah like olivia will have a full conversation in her sleep yeah cash is just like cries sometimes in his sleep and i don't know what it is like night terrors or i don't know i need to have night terrors from the room with the womb yeah literally i'm just like what is up with these kids and like now he's in our fucking bed you know and it's like it is it's the the young age is the toughest now that i'm like she's at almost seven this year i'm like wait come back like no you know now she's like i

want to go sit in my room and like i want to go do these oh wait till she's a teenager bailey i can't even get she'll eat dinner with us and then she goes up to her room i'm like hey where are you going yeah i'm like where are you going she's like i'm going to my room i'm like all right well let me know if you miss me you know like while you're up there that age you know and it is it's it's rough having a little they are up your ass 24 7 you know oh bailey's bailey's fucking three years away from being 18 yeah yeah and i mean driving alone i don't think she's ever, Bailey's always going to live with us. I really don't think she's ever going to branch out on her own unless she

goes to college. But yeah, she recently decided that she doesn't want to be a doctor anymore. She wants to pursue music. And I'm like, okay, well, that's happened now.

Nice. I know I was bummed because I was, I really loved how headstrong she was about wanting to be a doctor. Yeah. But you's not our journey yeah you know so it's like well she's flip-flopped a lot she made me give it a year she's a fucking gemini she's gonna flip-flop her whole life but luckily she has a capricorn moon and i'm really betting on that capricorn moon to just pull her together yeah you're like come on yeah doctor come on capricornie let's go yeah or even like something like in a field that she's very passionate about because i knew that the whole doctor thing she was doing it for seizures and like things like that so you know that's

something she was really passionate she has a very caretaker uh personality so she loves helping people she finds herself worth in helping people yeah so which I wish I did I'm a people pleaser you know that about me yeah I love it I'm like let me work that's my that's what brings me happiness you know makes me feel good but no she's uh she's definitely a caretaker so I thought the medical industry would have been great for someone said they wanted to know what your heritage was. And their guess was you are Latino. I am white trash and Brazilian. So my Volvo was 100% Brazilian. And my mom is white trash roots from Kentucky.

But you didn't always know this. What have you? I've told this story before, but I'll tell it again. My fucking dad, a good old bill okay let me just tell you that motherfucker told me my entire life i was brazilian and italian so i've told everybody i'm brazilian and italian you know like and fucking you know because it sounds so exotic and this fucking guy i don't think he thought i was his kid came to me one time and was like, hey, I'm going to come out and visit you, but I want you to take this test that I took to

find out what percentage everything you are. And I'm like something like, oh, my dad wants to find out our heritage and stuff like that, you know. So he comes out here, swabs me and, you know, gets me to send the thing in or whatever. Meanwhile, he was low key trying to figure out if I was his kid because my mom had just admitted that my sister's dad wasn't her dad. Oh, yeah, we're white trash around here. But anyway, so I think in the back of his mind, he was like, is this fucking kid mine, you know?

So we get our test results back, and there's not any fucking Italian at all. I'm like, hey, Bill, are we fucking Italian? He's like, well, no. I'm like, well, no. I'm like, my whole fucking life is a lie. And I'm telling you, I just found this out when I was 41. Yeah.

So when I finally got to meet my mom and I was like, mom, where are we from? Apparently, I come from like a long line of like witches from southern Kentucky wow yeah and I was like oh so we're just white trash it makes sense white trash gypsies oh I love it yeah so I'm like fuck it I'll take it it's better than being Italian I guess yeah uh this next question is when did you begin your holistic journey I began that probably when I started getting sober um technically I started that in 2020 whenever I felt my first bout of suicidal ideation that was I will never forget laying in my bed and literally I felt so tired and just like I didn't want to be here anymore the thought of living to like 50 years old

made me fucking like, I was exhausted. And I was just like, I can't do this anymore. And I didn't even realize like how bad that's that shit gets. I've always not kind of scoffed at people with depression, but I didn't understand it because I had anxiety. I'm a go getter. I'm going to get up, get out and do something. If I'm having a panic attack, I'm a go getter I'm gonna get up get out and do something if I'm having a panic attack I'm gonna fucking run through it you know and when I got that suicidal ideation that was a different level of fear because you don't trust yourself and you're just like holy shit this is dark yeah you know and so you know me being a person who tries to fight and figure it out, I was like, okay, first of all, I'm never going to let this overcome me. Secondly, I need to figure out why I'm feeling like this. And by that time, I had been sober about a year and a half, two years off alcohol, sober off pills almost since 2017.

I think it was probably late 2017 that I stopped taking pills. since 2017. I think I was probably late 2017 that I stopped taking pills. So I think, you know, it took two years for my brain to just even think about healing after all the drugs I'd been on. I've been on fucking Xanax since I was 20 something years old. You know, that's right there alone is neurological damage, pills, alcohol. I mean, I'm talking like I i drank like it was scary i could drink a whole bottle of belvedere and still be standing yeah and people don't realize the tolerance you can build up oh having drank as much oh yeah as you had like i mean you know i'm sober but i did have like this much wine the other night and when i say this much wine had me turnt tipsy i was like i remember i had like a year ago you know eight fucking red bulls and vodkas yeah i drink this much chardonnay and i'm like spinning

on the couch i'm like jason's like you good and i'm like i'm a little percolating over here like fucking you know i don't fuck you up too yeah i was like damn it was a martha stewart one too i love and i'm probably gonna get a lot of shit for this but i love how a lot of southern women hide alcoholism behind wine drinking oh i have stories yeah but a lot of women hide their alcoholism behind wine and i get it that's their only way to relax but i mean are you really relaxing or are you covering up some those same people will like scoff at like marijuana smokers yeah or judge people who don't go to church every day exactly and i'm like sunday you're literally like you know mimosas before you're taking your kids to school. Yeah. Like, those are the things.

Those are the choices you're making. That's fair. And it's not just Southern women, too. Bitches in Vegas are the same way, except it's not wine. It's champagne. Yeah. Yeah. They all get lit on champagne at 10 a.m.

Like, it's nothing. Yeah. I'm like, man, I wish I could do that. Yeah. I wish I could be that free. I could never imagine. And we're not judging no we're just saying like you know yeah absolutely pay attention to why you're drinking as opposed to how you're

drinking what are you masking yeah exactly what are you running from are you in an unhappy marriage are the kids driving you fucking crazy you know listen if i had kids i would drink bottles of wine too okay so we're definitely not judging at all but i was just saying that you know listen if i had kids i would drink bottles of wine too okay so we're definitely not judging at all but i was just saying that you know you can be an alcoholic and not even realize it yeah exactly well and like because they don't see that as alcohol abuse or anything like that you know yeah that's so true like i feel like sometimes it goes in hand in hand with like men who are beer drinkers it's just a beer yeah you know you're like five packs in it's no longer just a beer yeah like the whole bed of your truck is full of them

and it's the same thing like with women and their wine some fucking troll the other day was talking shit about my husband and then he's like he's not sober i saw him fucking pound a beer at a concert the other day i said my first of all that's a lie what secondly my husband doesn't drink beer yeah i don't think i've ever seen him touch a beer ever my husband would never drink a fucking beer ew yeah jay's bougie when it comes to shit oh no it was just crazy to me so when you said that about the beer i was like oh this is hilarious i gotta tell this what would you tell someone that is fresh out of a domestic relationship? Domestic violence or like domestic marriage.

You said relationship. Probably relationship. Allow yourself grace. You know, you're going to probably go back seven more times. You're going to be mad at yourself. You're going to be mad at that person. You're going to think you're making be mad at yourself you're gonna be mad at that person you're gonna think you're making the wrong choice you are going to be addicted to the chaos it's like you go through like withdrawal it's like a drug withdrawal yeah from that person you touched on this in the kale podcast both of her podcast and your podcast and i feel like that's very insightful so i would say to hear

more about that I would go listen to those podcasts because you guys really went in depth with like how you felt in those moments yeah and like coming out of those and like how you guys are now on the other end of your domestic relationships and you said something really really like kind of caught me and you said you always think they're gonna do better but they never do no they never do like you it's like you want to fix them um and you want so badly for them to be the person that you need and they're just never going to be that person yeah they're literally just trapped in their own toxicity and until they want to actually really get help i don't know if you can ever really calm a violent nature like that in a human a man that beats on women that's a different breed yes you know i don't know if that's ever really fixable and what did you say

about the narcissism is that like they don't want people knowing about it oh yeah because they don't want to be embarrassed they don't want to be embarrassed they don't want to be embarrassed about themselves they don't care that they hurt you the guilt isn't there that they hurt you they don't want to look like monsters to other people yes it's the ego yeah part of it yeah so very very tell people tell you know if you need help find the help that you yeah tell people but just know that if you do tell people about it and then you run back to them you're gonna have to deal with that too too. So it's just a whole. So be ready to wipe your hands clean.

Yeah, it's a whole cycle. And once you are ready to get off the fucking hamster wheel, you will. Hamster wheel. That's a good one. That's literally what it is. You're just fucking spinning your wheels. Yeah. What would you tell a young woman with big dreams in her 20s, relationship or life advice?

In your 20s, I would tell you don't worry about a relationship i would say have fun and our food is here i would say have fun um you're 20 literally love is gonna be there if i could go back and talk to 20 year old bunny i would eliminate half the dudes i fucking dated and wasted my time with. Yeah. No dude ever brought any fucking sort of worth to my relation to my relationship with myself or to my life. I was always me fucking bringing in the money, fucking helping, trying to fix them, chasing them, fucking dealing with cheaters and fuck that dude. Yeah. Invest in in yourself fall in love with yourself love will come once you fall in love with yourself literally once you fall in love with yourself you'll find somebody who will know how to love you because you will know how you want to be loved yes and

when people you know get into their 30s okay cool you want to start settling down whatever i still think you should still be having fun. Find your groove. Find what you want to do. Don't live for everybody else. Live for yourself because this is, you need to be selfish with your time because you are only going to be in your twenties once. Yeah.

You don't get to go back. Yep. You know, so make those fucking, you don't have to have a career in your twenties. No, you don't need to know what you want to do in your twenties. No,

you literally just need to have fun. Yes. Do everything that you fucking love and do it twice yeah you know exactly like uh i think it's so important like everyone is so pressed for you to find out what you want to be when you're 18 yeah no one knows what the fuck they want to be when you're 18 weird when you're 20 when you're 21 like i spent 10 years behind the chair and you have no idea when i stepped away and like i retired from behind the chair and went full-time with you how many of my friends reached out within the beauty industry and was like how'd you step away i didn't realize how many people were so miserable that the hair community is filled with people who thought that was a quick answer when we were 18 yeah we wanted to please a parent or it was a cheap college to go to or something along that

there are so many miserable people out there working behind the chair because they're so afraid to go do something else yeah and at 28 years old not just hair but in life yes yeah like if your family has a family business or you know if your parents make you go to college i mean go to fucking college have fun it's okay everybody careers yeah don't try to be who you're gonna get a few stds in your 20s get it all out of the way just do it you know yeah i can do it dude yeah it's so crazy i i was so scared because i thought for sure whatever i decided to be when i was 18 is what i had to be the rest of my life and i'm so glad i told my parents to go fuck themselves happy i'm not he's

like i'm gonna do whatever i want to do yeah i've been doing whatever i wanted to do my entire life yeah and i don't regret it the only thing i regret in my life is the men i allowed to hurt me yeah wow and you don't realize that until you're fucking so far removed out of it and just in a different headspace you're like you're like golly what you can't see it when you're in it at all like why did i even deal with that yeah it's looking back that you then realize yeah in hopes that someone is listening right now that needs that help yeah that step away because you can't be on the other end looking back if you're constantly in it that and just you just men don't really bring much value especially men nowadays i couldn't even imagine i'm so lucky i got so yeah i feel so bad for you guys having a date right now i could never i feel so bad for them

literally i if i was that age bailey i'm gonna fucking freak out when she starts really dating i couldn't do it that it's just too much like i'm so happy that i'm just i'm so happy where i'm at yeah yeah like i was so lucky to find that person when i found them and it was a very young age like i met him when i was 18 so like we were young but i'm so fucking thankful for it yeah absolutely not just saying that because you're editing this we love you we love work daddy should i get our sandwiches so we can eat if not because i'll eat while we fucking answer questions you know me i do not care we could answer a couple more questions as long as i have a sandwich in my mouth i'm fine are you bringing the sandwiches okay i'm like wait wait don't tease me you've been working me to the bone all day

like jason leave all this in i don't even know what we ordered. There's only two people here. What did we eat? I'm starved. What did we order? Did they get us? Whose order is this? This is not ours. Okay, this is ours. Oh my god, that's theirs. They combined ours because I ordered right behind each other. Shit. All right, well, don't mind me smacking in the wind. What's the best thing you have found to help with anxiety and the constant nervous scared feeling? Meditation.

I was going to say your new meditation has been incredible meditation yeah um one of my stylists has been struggling with like anxiety and stuff like that come to find out i think she's having heart palpitations like you did um and they they weren't able to find it but they kept telling her anxiety anxiety just like go on anxiety medication or whatever i was like before you try like med like try meditation you know apparently heart palpitations are normal they say that they're normal yeah it's fucking weird but i don't i don't think they're normal that's weird wow yeah jason gets them a lot but i thought it was from his sleep apnea. Meditation has been the most healing thing because when you learn how to control your breath, it is a game changer. Because anxiety, you're hyperventilating, you know, you're not getting enough oxygen or you're getting too much oxygen.

So to be able to acknowledge that and be like take a deep breath and then breathe out like it's it's phenomenal what it can do for you and literally I have so much control now over my thoughts because of meditation I haven't done it in two days and I can feel a difference but like this other thing I've been doing I saw this girl on TikTok who said if you want to rewire your brain, every time you think a thought that you don't think belongs to you, because you can say other people's thoughts too, or you can think other people's thoughts. One, you say, that's not my thought, pass it. And you can pass it to another person, which I don't, you guys don't want some

of my thoughts, but another thing you can do is say change so now anytime anything negative pops into my head I say change and it's become such a habit now so like things I don't like change and I can really slowly feel myself changing because a lot of things that I would have would have participated in before I don't want anything to do with because I just don't feel like it does any good for me you know and? And, you know, like people saying shit online or, you know, like normally would have pissed me off. And now I'm just like, go heal, you know? Like I'm just over it. Go heal.

Yeah, literally go heal, bitch. That's what I say to all these fucking grumpy ass trolls online. I'm like, you are too old to be this toxic. Like, golly, Do better with your life. Unhealed, like you said. And just toxic people, like, find themselves online. Yeah. And it's like, they hide behind it.

They all find each other. Yeah. Yeah. They all look the same, too. Literally. That's the fucking truth. A lot of them won't even put profile pictures up they hide so much behind it it's crazy this person kelly said i want to know how to move towards an open relationship and i know you guys don't have an open relationship

um so we might not be able to give too much advice on this but i thought this was an interesting question she said i kind of am into poly but my man only wants to welcome women into the relationship but i want a relationship that's because there's no ownership if that makes sense yeah absolutely so so that's how jay and i are there's just no ownership yeah we're not here to tell you that you can't do something you have free will um i don't i don't like giving advice to the for this because everybody's emotions are different you know i don't want to ever cause problems in people's relationships but i think the best thing that you can do is communicate talk about how you're feeling like hey i don't want

to just have only girls yeah i want to have fun too and you know if that bothers him then i don't think that you should have to give in to how what he wants if he's not willing to compromise for what you want yeah that's just my opinion You know, agreed upon boundaries like you and Jay have boundaries. Yeah. To your guys' relationship. It's an agreement. Yeah. You know, like, look, I love you.

I'm going to do life with you for the rest of my life. But I don't expect you to only put your dick in me. Don't let it be one sided. That is ownership. Yeah. You know, that's what you're trying to get away from. That's just adding to it. So you need to be able to have your boundaries accepted and you know not not that you both have to have like

your own boundaries but like you guys have to come to a mutual ground because it is a marriage and there is two of you that are making this work that and you're going to end up resenting your partner if he's doing everything if you see him sleep with another woman and he tells you you can't sleep with another man you are going to end up being really resentful and in the end that's really bad for a relationship yeah you could cause yourself more problems yes and accepting in something like this because you're wanting to make it work for one person and in reality it needs to work for both of you yeah exactly like that's not that's not fair does that mean that just because i'm allowed to sleep with other people i'm running out banging everybody in the world absolutely fucking not i

can't i feel like so many people think that yeah it's so weird and my team knows because they're with me 24 fucking 7 i can't even fucking shake people's hands i'm not gonna let somebody put their dick in me you know yeah you won't even touch a rail coming downstairs no what the fuck makes you think you're just put a bunch of random dicks no i'm such an energy person yeah and like you said earlier in the podcast like it's an exchange of energy it is you're not just fucking the fuck like there is something more there and like you have to be very selective with what you're allowing absolutely how do i find a career do i do what i love or just work a job that pays the bills that's a question for you so if i was to answer that that's hard because i have this mindset of like i can monetize anything

so like if i have a hobby i'm like how can we make money off this hobby like it's a really sick way to think because then that turns into like not being able to have the me time or the hobbies or anything like that because I'm constantly like like I I don't know I'm just that type of person so I would almost say don't do what you love to do like if you love something and you're super passionate about it it will burn you out you know find something that you love doing that you could make a career out of but not what you absolutely love like if it if i guess i don't know that's hard too it's like you know a baker like you love baking and i'm gonna stem this back to i had a conversation with one of my stylists

and her boyfriend loves to cook and like he and she showed me the plate like he plates it like he knows the flavors and she always said like why don't you go be a chef and he said because then i won't love to do this this is my hobby this is my getaway they say when you love something you'll let it kill you yes exactly so mate don't find the thing that you are most passionate about and make a career out of it let hobbies be hobbies let me time be me time and just find something that you enjoy doing as far as like working a regular job i would i would work to afford to do whatever it is that you want to do that you can do for the rest of your life yeah yes you know like i had only your lifestyle until i kept my only fans and

that fueled my podcast until my podcast could finally pay for itself as soon as it started doing that and i I even told Mimi, once it reaches a certain number, I'm shutting down my only fans. And I did that, you know? So that's probably, I think that's kind of what she was asking too, is like, do I just work a job that I can't stand? And it's like, don't work a job. You can't stand, but do something that's going to help put you in a position to be able to

choose what you want to do. Yeah. And work for your lifestyle. for your lifestyle that's another thing like uh you don't so many times like you think you everyone's goal is to just be this like crazy rich yeah like is that what you really want i don't want a fucking huge mansion i could never i i would never strive to have the size house that you have yeah that's just me though like i would rather have like tons of cars you know because that's just what the lifestyle i want no i get it i don't want to i don't like having a lot of money yeah it scares the shit out of me i i always thought i did for like because i don't know if we're just conditioned from being young we are like you have to be rich you got to be become a millionaire okay become a millionaire now what yeah it's like you pay so much more taxes than anybody.

Yeah. You're fucking robbed. Yeah. Your circle gets smaller. You can't trust people. Like it's just when they say more money, more problems, they really meant that.

Yeah, truly. And I think a happy life is just quaint, quiet. And not that I'm complaining. I, this is the position that I have put myself in and I'm happy to be here and I'm happy to be here and I'm happy

to be my family's first millionaire. You're so thankful for it. Yeah. So thankful. But, you know, it comes with a price. And I think me seeing those kind of things and like, you know, I just personally don't want something big because one, it's a lot of upkeep. Yeah.

You know, at first I don't want to clean all that, you know, and I know Jason don't want to clean all that, you know, and so it's like i would be cool i mean i would be so happy with like literally uh a four bedroom house so that both my kids have bedrooms and we have you know an extra playroom for them and then an office in it i would be so cool with that but in like hella acreage and then like a shop for jason that would be like so goal for me i don't have to have this like crazy large home yeah that's just not what makes you happy so i hope that she finds something that a middle ground yeah fuels her lifestyle that she strives to have don't mind me guys i'm just switching sandwiches she's like here's some asmr real fast of my jersey that's honestly what i feel like that's pretty much a lot of my questions i feel like i we've gotten all the questions i mean you guys sent in a lot but any other ideas you guys

want on patreon shoot them our way i know we were thinking about doing a cooking one doing some cooking for you guys because everyone really enjoyed enjoyed bailey's cooking episode you guys really wrote in she wrote about yeah like you guys have used that recipe and have really, you know, enjoyed that. So her and I were thinking about doing that. Don't mind me. Give them a little ASMR. It's gluten-free bread. So it's really dry, but it's so good.

I love gluten-free bread over regular bread. Really? I need to have a take a bite. I'm good. Love you guys guys we'll see you later bye