Dumb Blonde - Demps: Breakups Suck

Episode Date: November 11, 2024

Our girl Demps is back to talk about what went down with her recent breakup, the freedom of moving on to focus on herself, and...um...being a size queen? She also spills on the red flags she missed, how heartbreak’s fueling her new music, and Bunnie reads her birth chart to help manifest her next true love. Demps: TikTok | Spotify Watch Full Episodes & MoreSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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And not to mention, we have the visuals of the podcast. Head over to www.patreon.com backslash dumb blonde podcast and sign up bunny xo bunny xo bunny xo is this thing on what's up you sexy motherfuckers today you know my girl's going through a breakup so of course who am i gonna bring on the podcast to spill all the tea but my girl dimps baby what's up babes what is happening man as i was walking in here i was like why does it seem like every fucking time i'm on this couch or anything i got like i'm just going through something dude going through some sort of breakup last time you were here it was you and cat daddy were going through it and then i think

you guys kind of like didn't you guys reunite a little bit after the podcast yeah after the podcast we kind of like we were mutuals but then we weren't mutuals i mean there was like a whole thing to where his friends try to jump me at a fucking bar that was all over the fucking internet demps gets kicked out of a bar and all of that but yeah i, I think I, um, I left him blocked after that. Yeah. So you guys aren't cool.

Nobody from that side is cool. You guys are just not cool. I haven't talked to him. I hope all is well though. Yeah. Hope he's taking care of that kitten. I bought him. Now that you're going through another breakup,

do you think that you would rekindle anything with cat daddy? No, no. And you know, it's funny because in some of the comments, people, my followers were like, anything with cat daddy? No, no. And you know, it's funny. Cause in some of the comments, people, my followers were like, we need cat daddy.

And he commented, he was like, I've been summoned. I was like, Oh, hell no. He's like, you know who he is?

You know what he is? You know, those guys that go and clean up roadkill on the road. It's like, it's like, he knows that you're vulnerable right now. So he's like, hello. I'm just like, hell no. And I'm so happy I've have him blocked because you know, uh, the past two weeks I've been in a very vulnerable state and I can honestly say, I mean, I've never

seen myself like this. I mean, I had to check myself, girl. I looked at myself in the mirror. I was like, you need to get your fucking shit together. So I knew I was in a vulnerable place. I probably would have felt for his shit. Oh, son of a bitch, Dems. And we would have just like recycled, girl. Do not fucking do it, Dems. We would have just like been back here in like three more weeks talking about this.

No. What about the shit with, we'll block her name out, but are you cool with it? No, you guys are just, no, but it's so crazy because after all that happened, you know, Todd was there and all his friends were there. And after all that, the dust settled. I mean, you guys saw somebody vandalized my home, right? Yeah. Clout chaser on the back of my home. Yeah. We're going to talk about all that. Cause now you can actually talk about it yeah now i can talk about it okay perfect yeah yeah because i know before when you had come on the podcast we were tiptoeing around it because you had a court case going on and i won yeah baby that's fucking because light always wins over darkness man oh my god god bunny

it's been a minute since i've done like I mean obviously I text you and everything but to like really get it out yeah yeah so after the whole my home getting vandalized and all of that I um just took a step back and I didn't reach out to anybody but it's so funny because I saw some of them singing my songs and I ignored it I thought they were like kind of being petty about it but they were like no this is actually a great song, bitch on wine and all of that. I was like, y'all are just see, I'm a good fucking time and a good person. If you guys weren't such fucking dicks to me. OK, well, I also think that I don't want to use the word jealousy, but sometimes when there's men involved, too, it just makes a whole fucking, you know, one of them had the audacity to show up to one of my husband's shows i was actually quite remember i texted i was like you want me to kick her out because i will

and you're so sweet you were like no and i was like all right she lives to see another day i was like but you know who you are showing up at my husband's uh fucking concert was very ballsy of you especially knowing that i ride for dimps all day long my girl but other than like that whole thing I just um it was like new years of last year I literally started to um just kind of heal a little bit yeah but then for some reason some fucking reason I run into somebody who's friends with my ex and I mind you I have him blocked but I started snapchatting him which ex is this most current one okay I don't want to like give him so much clout or whatever um okay well hey let's change his name what are we gonna call him let's call him Bill Bill dated Bill all right not

Bill okay let's think of something else yeah we don't want to call him because my dad's name is Bill let's call him Ronon ron 11 fucking ron so was this ron we're talking about yeah so right after cat daddy and all that new year's is um around and i was like man i don't i just need to keep doing me and just keep pushing forward because you know todd i mean that fucker like yeah he broke my heart but screw him did he really break your heart long story short um obviously i love attention yeah i mean i'm a leo you're a leo yeah and we're gonna you know we're gonna do your birth chart today because i need to figure out what the fuck's wrong with you no i know we're getting to the bottom of it today,

everybody. I need to figure out what the fuck is going on with Dempsey inside her fucking body and mind and heart. And then we're going to figure out who will be, we're going to figure out who will be a soulmate for you once I get all your deets. So we'll figure it out. Good. Maybe I can get some fucking answers and some sleep tonight. We're manifesting so long story short bill ron ron ron ron and i rekindled things and it was very simple in the beginning it was just like hey you started snapchatting him okay and like what made you even want to reopen that door because if i can remember correctly and this is why i never came around because i didn't like the dude is didn't he do some fuck boy shit the first time around what did he do and

you know it's crazy I always kept my mouth shut I never aired my laundry I'd let you talk your shit on I let you just take in all the energy that you want to and then I'm just gonna go over here and do my thing I'm not one to even with Todd I was like fuck you dude yeah um yeah so he was just in a fuck boy stage and I've I I'm the type of person I think that somebody's gonna change you know what I mean or that you can change them or I can change them I said this recently I was like I don't know what it is when I date these men that they just need love so bad and I have so much love to give because I'm a mom myself and I want to be loved. You know what I mean? But why is it every time I date someone, I'm the masculine one in the relationship? Because you're in your masculine energy, baby. And your masculine energy attracts feminine men.

Oh my God. And until you change that, you're going to keep attracting feminine men. But Bunny, it's literally a reoccurrence and i had a wake-up call i literally when i was two weeks ago i was like bitch you need to pull yourself fucking together i was like what is it that i'm attracting these men because i know what i want and i know what my daughter deserves and i know know what I deserve. And it's a shame because, you know, if anything, I know I'm being played as a victim. And I know he's saying some things that like, oh, Dempst just loves to be a victim. If I'm a victim of anything, it's for me to just over communicating because I set this guy down in my kitchen.

Well, let's circle back to when you guys first broke up. Why did you guys first break up? What did he do? He was a folk boy. Well, let's be honest. What did he do? At Ritual, we know what goes into a magical holiday season. The potluck planning, the gift giving, the spreadsheets.

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by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. He just wasn't giving me the attention that I needed. And I remember being at a show. I remember being at a show with him. Mind you, I went and got a babysitter, got all dolled up. This is the first time you guys broke up. First time. Okay. It takes a lot for me to damn silence your damn phone I'm trying but thing it takes a lot for me to go out of my way and go on a date with a guy okay let me just start there okay I'm finding the babysitter it's my time my energy to go out with you I remember going out with this guy that night. He didn't acknowledge me once and talk to a girl the whole time that I was out with him.

And I was like, you know what? I don't fucking need this. I need it. I'm just going to go the fuck home. And I remember him calling me at 3 a.m. or 2 a.m. or something like that. And I remember being so excited. Oh, my God, he called me. What does he want?

Like, he wants to talk to me. Oh, he's missing me no girl he there was somebody that wanted to talk to me that he was with because he was dating demps whatever and so he let you go home so that right there didn't show you that he was in it for clout no girl how did that i would have been like click and never answered the fucking phone for that man ever again girl i think i am so gullible that like i'll just believe like if you say i'm beautiful and all this i'm gonna fucking believe you i'm gonna fall at my knees and but that is a major ick the man let you leave you went home because you felt like you were being ignored.

And then he calls you and is like, hey, can you talk to this person? Because I'm telling them that I'm dating you, but I'm not treating you like I'm dating you. That's like a fucking ew. So I blocked him for two years. And then I unblocked him after the whole Todd thing. Because you were in a vulnerable state. But can I be honest with you, Bunny? Yeah.

I think the reason why I was so upset with myself is because I never gave grace after the Todd, how he treated me in this with him, Ron. So I was just so mad at myself, all this anger. And I'm like, I'm a fucking great person. Ron, when you say i thought you can you silence this shit ron i crack up when i hear that so i'm a great fucking person so it's just like why the fuck does this keep fucking happening to me yeah i don't get it seriously

do you see the between the lines can you tell me? Yeah, because Demps, you have something that is some sort of trauma in you that needs to be addressed before you can even get into the type of relationship that you yearn for. Yes, your heart and your mind want a certain type of relationship. But because there's something that happened maybe in your childhood or in a relationship that triggered some sort of trauma in you, in a relationship that triggered some sort of trauma in you you're going to keep seeking out that same type of man until you can figure out what's going on inside of you you know yeah that's what i tried to tell you last time i just it was a shame that things ended the way it did and um i'm not gonna bat i'm not gonna sit here on your podcast and bash someone because so let's get into your guys's relationship you guys research you guys will circle back around you guys start dating again how does that even happen you start snapchatting and then you guys just see each other and you're like we decided

we want to be together because didn't he start dating somebody too that like worked at a bar the first time too yeah i remember girl yeah she was on and she was on my talk forget no no no because I don't I don't forget people who are rude to my friends yeah you know like that like people can be rude to me all day but if you're fucking rude to my friends I'm gonna remember that yeah I just immediately saw and I think that girl has me blocked and it's like bitch I don't even know you like remember I think I went to go like lurk one day and fucking I was like how am I blocked I didn't even know who you were until today. Yeah, there was a time, well, they were running with all that crew.

Yeah, which I don't care, bitches, block me, please, because the only thing you're going to see is success and thriving over here, so. I think after we started hanging out the second time around, he started coming over. Um, he started coming over, um, again, mind you, I was paying for babysitters to go out on dates with him, mind you, you know, taking time away from my daughter because I wanted to spend time with him. You know what I mean? And I, we just grew to like each other's company, if I might say, and we grew like fond of each other. And I remember like, wow, I think he really changed.

And I really love this man. I mean, and then slowly after like five months of us dating, I finally brought him around Lily. And that was like it made my heart so full to see Lily. Because mind you, this is the first guy Lily's ever seen me affectionate with. She didn't see you affectionate with Todd, though? No. Oh, okay. Mm-mm.

No. So, you know, I mean, laying on the couch, you know, kissing and loving on. So Lily sees that, and she knows, like, oh, Mommy loves this person. Yeah. And everything. So it was just a special moment for me to share that with my daughter and everything. And I was like, wow. Did Lily like him? Yeah, Lily did like him. And, um, it was really sad to her to like, tell me,

you know, mommy, I'm really going to miss him. You know, he was fun and everything. But one day I think it's for the better, the things that worked out because I opened up my eyes. Like I don't need someone like that in my life because of my needs. If I'm being too much because I'm over communicating with you because, Hey, I need this. I need to be told that I'm this because the way I perceive love is I'm words of affirmation. I need to be told I'm doing a good job.

I need to be told that, you know, Hey, you look beautiful today you know what i mean and that comes with past trauma with domestic violence i mean getting called a cunt and a bitch every day for almost fucking four years you know with my lily's father so and i expressed this to him and I think it just became too much. So you guys work, you guys got back together for how long? Sorry.

Can we hold on real quick? Someone's opening the garage. Hold on. Sorry. Dumps. No, you're fine. I'm not going to get emotional on this.

I'm not trying to give him anything. Get emotional. It's okay. If you can't, if you do get emotional, though, you're going through a fucking breakup. You're human. He's on fucking tick tock saying though you're going through a fucking breakup. You're human. But he's on fucking TikTok

saying Dempsey likes to play the victim. You motherfucking narcissist. How dare you sit there two weeks ago and tell me you love me back home in Indiana for you to leave me on read for days and you break up with me over text?

That's really fucked up. No. It is. Bunny, when I say, it was bad, bitch. It was really bad. I was over at Priscilla's house. I had no makeup on. She called me.

She was like, just come over for coffee. And I remember just in Priscilla's kitchen, I was like, I don't coffee and i remember just in priscilla's kitchen i was like i don't know what's wrong with me that this one fucking hurt and i know fuck todd i wasn't even upset with todd but this this i felt pain like uh leaving lily's father and it fucking fucked with my head i think it's because you really genuinely loved him though dempsey i think and it's okay to love people and it's okay to be sad about it you don't have to be hard just because of what he's saying on the internet right now or he's trying to gaslight

you you know and we know how guys are there's and there's always three sides to every story there's your side his side and the truth you know but the truth is you're hurt right now, and that's okay. That doesn't give him more power because you're showing emotion. It's you're fucking human, dude. Yeah. You know? And breaking up with anybody fucking sucks. And I think that you deserved more than a text message.

Yeah, for real, girl. Because my daughter was involved, and we were together for a year and there was it was it would have been different if it was just like a month fling like the first time we dated you know like okay bye you know okay have a great life but there was so much connection you know a little girl was involved and I remember um before all this sitting in my kitchen expressing to him crying to him like I don't this is what I need and I don't know what's going on with you and he told me that you know he has issues himself that he misses his parents and he and all that I think he just has some trauma that he has never dealt with

and I don't think he's ever had a woman love him other than his mother I mean I'm grateful that I got to show him how a woman should love a man because he got to experience that but I don't think maybe it was just too much. My life was just too much. Because it is a lot. My life is a lot. I mean, hello. I just started releasing music and everything. Yeah, we're going to talk about that.

You guys had gotten back together. You had introduced him to Lily. How long did this stint together last? About five months, six months? What do you mean? Like you guys got back together a second time about a year okay okay gotcha and so and he didn't meet lily until almost about four to five months into the relationship so mind you i was going out of my way to pay for babysitters

to make that make that time for him right you know what know what I mean? So when do you guys start having problems? Can I be honest with you? I'm blindsided. Oh, so this was just completely out of the blue. Out of the blue. Okay. Because I told him that I feel like every time I was kid free, it always felt like something was about,

and my time was never appreciated when I was kid free, it always felt like something was about, and my time was never appreciated when I was kid free. Mind you, as a single mom, we go to the lengths to be kid free as moms here. So just like you, when you dated Jelly and all that, like you were fully committed to Jelly when he had Bailey and all that, right? Yeah, absolutely. And you were there.

So I feel like, and you valued your time with jelly when you guys didn't have a kid and everything right so all I wanted to feel like was I was appreciated when I didn't have that a kid with me I just wanted to feel alone with him to bond with him even more right he just could care less so he would rather go home and be alone so you expressed to him like and because i'm just trying to figure out why where the text came from like you expressed to him like hey i need you to pay more attention to me this is how i'm feeling and you only did that one time or multiple times multiple times okay it was multiple times that I expressed my feelings to him. But it was almost like... Was it because there was no change, though?

There was no change. So the first couple... So it was like a broken record. Okay. And I said this to him. I was like, I feel exhausted and I feel like a broken record trying to communicate with you and what I need for this to work because I want it to work. I love you and what I need for this to work because I want it to work. I love you

and my daughter loves you. So, and here we are, the first text happened and then we decided. What did he say in the text message? Cause I would, I mean, we're so, we're grown. I couldn't imagine if my husband texted me and said, Hey, we're going to get a divorce. I'd be like, right. Hello. First of all, no, we're so we're grown. I couldn't imagine if my husband texted me and said, hey, we're going to get a divorce. I'd be like, right. Hello. First of all, no, we're not. And secondly, what the fuck is going on? You don't text somebody that, you know, I think breaking up over text is a real pussy move.

Coward shit. Yeah. That's like, yeah, it's like I can't face my fucking fears or responsibilities. Especially because you guys are a year in you know like that's exactly so you have to understand the manic state that I was in I hope you don't think really that I would do something like this on purpose that's pretty low god bless it the fucking paragraphs is he one of those paragraph text texters i can't do it i have to leave voice messages i can't read the phone and call me

yeah pretty much if i had it all together this wouldn't have happened i would have just i wouldn't just do this to you i wouldn't just do this to you guys for no reason. And there was no way I would have been able to say this in person because you would have been hysterical the whole time and I wouldn't be able to compose myself doing that to you. So say what you want about not saying things in person, but easy said than done. So my life is just pretty much just it's too much it's too

much for me communicating my feelings and my expectations because I told him I was like you know you're the first like father figure my daughter has and that it's a lot to me yeah and I think versus him talent sitting me down like a grown adult for dating for a year he'd rather just send that well men run from any sort of emotional confrontation also and i'm not giving him an out it's not cool what he did at all i'm just saying most men just don't know how to face shit head-on that's just how they are and then you have his mother and and i think i saw um the silver lining is that his mother, it's one thing for your mom to like go in your comments and like back you up on some things.

But for your mom to be in your comments, making false allegations, saying I was physically abusive and all of this and mentally abusive. Well, here's the problem. You don't know what he's telling her. Exactly. That's what my friends say.

And you just said it. You don't know what he's telling her. Exactly. That's what my friends say. And you just said it. And he went on and made a public statement like, Dems never did this. She has a huge heart. Well, thank you. Why the hell would you even let your mother do that? Yeah.

Say those things about me. Well, nothing screams I'm trying to get clout off of a breakup by making fucking multiple videos about it. I don't even follow the dude see and they've popped up in my fyp the most hilarious one was about his hairline though i was like tell me that you got your feelings hurt without telling me i was like holy upset about that and his hairline's not brawn your hairline's not bad dude it's a little weird but it's not bad yeah it's very crisp yeah it's very crisp but i mean hey at least he's got a hairline some of these dudes out here fucking look like they got the donut starting as i'm just growing and evolving and getting prettier

i am his hairline is just receiving so uh but yeah i just nothing screams i'm trying to milk this breakup for views and which it'll by next, people will be moved on to something else. And I think this is your time to just be alone and fucking kind of figure some shit out. I think you want to have a little family so badly that you're willing to overlook like the red flags that are literally there when you first meet these guys. And it's like you got to stop doing that. It's not awful. doing that it's not awful no it's not awful you're it's you're human it's toxic bitch tell me why you unblocked him to begin with were you seeking here's the thing or he was never blocked on snapchat and i remember with um

you know back with my first of all he has snapchat yeah i know don't fucking date any more dudes that have snapchat i only have snapchat because i get paid like a motherfucker on there and i'm barely your ways yeah but other than that fucking any man grown man that has snapchat has no fucking business even being in a relationship moral of the story of this whole breakup and it obviously a public breakup i don't wish this upon fucking anybody this shit is just no awful everybody has to put their fucking two cents in um at the end of the day I am a regular fucking person and this shit hurts the only difference is is that I choose to put myself out there on

the internet and show people millions of people my love life with my daughter as a single mom. Um, at the end of the day, um, I was fucking heartbroken and I deserved a lot more than what I got for me and my daughter. Now you need to remember that. Okay. The next time the next fuck boy tries to reenter or be summoned, remember that statement right there that you deserve a lot more and you need to tell yourself that because I think the problem is, is you just, there's something in you that is broken and you find men that trigger your own childhood trauma. So it's like you find dudes who are broken also, and you guys both trigger each other's childhood trauma. That's what Jay and I did. And I'm not saying that it can't work because look at Jay and I, we're almost a decade in

and we've somehow managed to make it work. He's still a dick and pisses me off half the time, but I love that man. You know what I'm saying? And it can work, but you guys have to both be willing to fucking stick it out. You can't break up over every little thing and you can't walk.

And people aren't going to be perfect either, Demps. And I get that. And I was willing to work it out yeah but then again I'm not the one to beg for a man's love or attention if you want to go go yeah I'm not gonna I've already said what I needed to see say to you you've seen me in my most vulnerable state crying to you in my house like expressing this to your face you know we're not doing the long paragraphs like i'm i'm physically in front of you showing you what i need telling you what i need to make this work so if you want to not take that and you don't want to fight or work this out good riddance well if he has that close attachment to his mom too that might be hindering

him being able to have a relationship with another woman you know when they don't cut that umbilical cord dude i'll have to tell you something i do are they really close yeah i am so happy that things ended up the way they did she She sounds like she would be a momster-in-law. Yeah, for real. But I am so blessed that he ended things the way he did because I saw the bigger picture outside. Because let's be honest here, Bonnie. I would have never broken up with him.

I would have fought. And here we are back in the same toxic cycle that I put myself through. I have nobody else to blame but myself. I put myself through this, the heartbreak and all that. For like, who knows, maybe seventh time of trying to work things out. So at the end of the day, there was love there. I did love him.

Did I deserve better? Abso-fucking-lutely. Did my daughter? Abso-fucking-lutely. absolutely did my daughter absolutely but um i never want to see that girl ever again how that man made me feel it was bad yeah it was very bad your little heart was hurt but you know what this is your time to shine baby 2025 it's a new year that's fucking right you're going into 2025 you've got your music that you've been dropping which by the way is not bad it's not bad it's not bad at all i was the first time i heard

she said that about me so you know that's good no no you don't suck i said all things yeah no like i when i first heard it i was I was really impressed. And I was so proud of you. Was it Bitch Online? Because I sent it to Mimi and Haley first. I was like, you want to hear something with a little emoji? Yeah, no, it's so good. And I'm so proud of you for doing it. Because you have promoted everybody else's music for years.

And it's time that you invest in yourself. Yeah, I'm excited about this new chapter and i think with all this heartbreak that i've been going through in life experiences i've been working with other writers and everything and just channel in like putting it through music because music is such a big part of me like promoting it wise and all that and i was like well instead of fucking going online and making like a fucking fuck you video let's make a fuck you song about it you know yeah or even a heartbreak song heartbreak songs are always needed I love a heartbreak you know how many motherfuckers we need a we need a

song that we can sit in our car and cry to you know you just stay tuned girl you just stay fucking tuned but no I'm excited I'm just you've dropped what like three songs now yeah four four what are the names of them so people so if you were a country girl bitch on one is my favorite yeah i made um the dj earlier at brunch play that for me yeah i was like play my song um who's who has to be my absolutely favorite song i actually like that one that one's really cute yeah who's who um and then rough cut diamond which rough cut diamond is speaking a lot to me right now because these flaws are making me flawless i'm a rough cut diamond yeah i wasn't mine for you and it's a shame because i'm a badass fucking person yeah and you're just working on yourself, baby. And you're getting better. Who's writing these songs.

Are you writing? Oh my God. I've had like the pleasure, pleasure, uh, for who's who, um, Kelsey Ballerini.

Absolutely. Uh, I wrote that and she commented on one of my videos saying, I always fucking love this song. And she said, um, it was like meant for me. And I was like, really? Because when I sing it, I feel like was like meant for me and I was like really because when I sing

it I feel like it was meant for me yeah so it's just been like amazing um artists like Hardy, Maren Morris, Kelsey Ballerini yeah but I'm taking a dive into writing my own music good we just wrapped my Christmas song we did an original Christmas song oh yeah girl oh god it's so good I got to write with Jessie Joe Dillon and Alicia Vanderheim, who are all Kelsey ballerini's writers and a Nicolette. I do not know Nicolette's fucking last name, but her name's pillbox Patty. You guys go listen to her music. She's fucking amazing. But we, it, we literally started the, the song with just a harmony that, that nicolette came up with and then alicia put the guitars and the beat to it so it's like wild it's it's crazy to watch a song come to life

like that i love it it's a beautiful process and i think it's just like a new passion of mine like when i stepped into that booth and to record my first song i was like oh my god no wonder i have friends who do this for a living this is so much fucking fun what got you to that point though like i know you always like sang on lives and things like that but like how did you get to the point of the booth so what i obviously i was a music promoter and i'm still a music promoter um somebody reached out to me and they were like demps we have these songs and we want you to sing them like Jimmy uh Robbins who's an amazing writer like number one hits and he had these songs that he co-wrote with Kelsey, Maren Morris, Hardy and all that and they thought it would just be fun

to do a project just like a simple project I didn't think it was gonna do anything or anything and here I am getting booked shows. Y'all buy tickets for my show. Let's go, baby. November 15th. Oh, we'll be home. We could probably go to it. Oh, girl, you got to dress incognito and come out there.

Put on a wig. Just bring me on stage. I'll show my titties. I'll only do that for you. Oh, my God. Stop. We'll talk after this. Oh, my God.

My little heart. Yeah, we'll come. I mean,. Oh my God. Stop. We'll talk after this. Oh my God. My little heart. Yeah. Yeah. We'll come. I mean, I don't see why not. Where are we filming with CBS that day? 15th and 16th or is it 17th and 18th? 15th is your hair.

15th is my hair. Okay. We'll figure it out. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'll call me. Yeah.

I'll have my people call you. Okay. Good. Good. Good. No, no, no.

Yeah. So, but I, where's it at? Cahoots in Lebanon. Okay. Okay. Yeah, girl girl we're fucking just i'm super i'll bring security so that's how it all came about and then i can honestly say

the first time hearing myself come out the speakers and seeing my daughter's eyes light up i was just like yeah girl you can do anything you set your mind to yeah yeah who cares what anybody else says or all these back noises if you want to do something go do it yeah go do it absolutely but i will say my first show that i did bunny i want to tell you i didn't think you could throw up from nerves girl i was in the bathroom i went through the fuck up oh but when i got on that stage it felt like i was just doing it for years yeah so i'm enjoying life right now and i think i'm gonna take you know what you said and just enjoy myself like putting out music dude life's so good right now date music yeah date music but you already have a family

you have you and lily and if you just pour your love into both of you and stop looking i promise you that love is gonna fall out of the sky cats and my dog literally you got well yeah coleslaw fucking what's the other one's name we have coleslaw sauerkraut and zeus i don't know if i've ever even seen zeus but yeah he's an old man he isn't lying to me. Gotcha. Gotcha. I feel like Coleslaw's like the star of the show. He is. He's your Chachi.

He really is. One of these days I'm going to bring him over here. Oh God. I don't know how Chachi will act towards a cat. We're going to see how he's going to act

with a possum tomorrow. He doesn't even like his cousin, so I don't know about a cat. Only one way to find out here. Okay. I got a cat book bag. But like all that love and that pizzazz for life

that you have just harness that for all of 2025 and literally pour into you whether that's going and fucking getting a little bit of therapy or going and fucking you know feeding the homeless or going and just doing something that is like chicken soup for your soul writing music writing a heartbreak song doing a fucking rap song whatever you want to fucking do put all that energy into you because these men man i learned a big lesson with this one yeah oh my goodness i would have i would have gave that man like the moon yeah and all i wanted was um to start this new journey and share it with someone. But I was like, well, I'm already sharing it with someone, my daughter who watches me, you know?

So why am I trying so hard for something when it's already there with my daughter? And you can give the man the moon and he's still going to want the stars. Maybe a planet. That's right, baby. That's right. Remember that ladies write that down.

Ladies, I'm a van wilder of fucking quotes over here okay i'm fucking oscar oscar wilde um but no it's for real and until that real love comes along for you baby just focus on yourself i think um 2025 people are gonna see a different i mean we've seen demps like be the funny comedian you know go through fuck with the internet with my love life that's like my favorite thing to do I will admit it's my favorite thing that is my favorite thing to watch one thing you know how to do is play your crowd and they go into a fucking frenzy anytime you date somebody yes no but I think I'm so thankful

I'm married like I just there's no way i could deal with all the shit you have to deal with dating in this day and age sucks oh yeah i see what hayley has to go through me and me we don't even date we listen i'm trying to force her to you know but it's it's rough it's rough out there we need a dating show for dempsey and hayley oh my god that would be great i'll do it let's do it we can make one we could do we could make anything come to life oh my god get the buzzers and Haley. Oh my God. That would be great. I'll do it. Let's do it. We can make one. We can do it. We could make anything come to life. Oh my God. Get the buzzers. That would be fucking awesome. Yeah. Let's throw it around. How much are you packing down there?

Yeah. They all have, they all have to wear banana hammocks. And if they get measured with a ruler, if they're not a certain size they're off the show because we know you're a fucking you're a size queen yeah a lot of people don't know this about dems she is a size queen like you love a good stealthy healthy wiener i do is your chef still with you oh he's here actually oh my god yeah my God. Very happy we're in a relationship. Is he downstairs? Wait, is Larios hanging? I never knew that. Yeah.

Larios has a date. I said this to you. I don't remember. You don't remember that thing you made him try on? Oh, God. The banana head? I don't look at Larios like that, though. So I just never even pay attention to his wiener.

Oh, is he downstairs? He's in Hawaii with his girlfriend right his girlfriend right now but he is here he's back on but he's back on sorry girlfriend sorry sorry but he's back on tour with us oh well good to know ladies chef larios is packing a fucking big one yeah if he wasn't with his girlfriend right now i would call him i'd be like dude demps just said you got a big one live on air he's in he gets so shy he does he does he's a sweetheart but i'm excited for 2025 with um just people get to see um just like really focus on myself you know where obviously i'll still fuck with the internet and i'm super excited to tell people about my dating life. I'm not going to go on a date with my Uber driver. I will never do that again. Did you go on a date with your Uber driver again?

He took me to Thai on our first date. Wait, hold on. He was weird. Wait a second. Rewind. Take me on this journey of going on a date. It was right after Thai. Why did I?

See, I missed everything. What happened? My Uber driver takes me home. Did you talk about this online? No. it was right after why did i see i missed everything what happened so my uber driver did you did you talk about this online no okay okay my uber driver takes me home and then it was like one of those huh was he hot at night time i was leaving a concert oh you were lit baby yeah it was cool okay you had beer goggles on anyway he did like lost item so he can contact me and get my phone number and all that so long story short we started texting was he young he was like 24 okay yeah he was a baby but I think what stirred me the wrong way is as I go on a date with him he kept asking questions about my daughter and seeing like well will I ever meet her and i'm just like the fuck i was like

and i couldn't get out of that thai restaurant so fucking fast oh that's weird i gotta go to the bathroom yeah yeah i pulled a poly shore like pretty much just like we gotta go oh my god oh my god thai food upset my stomach that's a little strange yeah grown men should not be asking about a woman's child no it fucking freaked me the fuck out but i'm excited for 2025 listen if you set me up with a dating game show i'm on it should we do a dating game show for dems i'll do it i'll do a season of it and see how it goes i think it would be fucking hilarious yeah who's gonna pick these people maybe he's gonna be laying in bed at night looking at portfolio

resumes i would love to do it i think it would be fucking awesome dude i don't have to give blood samples and testosterone counts oh god are you circumcised just put dimps in a house with like fucking 12 dudes remember your when we went to vegas for your wedding she goes i cannot wait to see demps in full action yeah with all the men yeah no you know how demps is she's got raging hormones dude put her in a room with a bunch of dudes and she's gonna find one hello so moving on from that let's talk about this court case that you won because you've never really gotten to talk i didn't know we were talking about this court case that you won because you've never really gotten to talk i know we were talking about this yeah i know you've never really gotten to talk about it

publicly and i really think that it's something that um people need to talk about because you know there's a website that i absolutely despise and i've seen and the reason i despise this website is one you have to be a certain type of person who sits on here all day and just talks shit about people. But two, I have seen it tear people's lives apart. And like what you had to go through, you're not the only one. There's a lot of content creators who did not put their foots down with these, the, with this website. And these people literally become obsessed in the sickest way and like start doing the weirdest shit like

what they did to you vandalizing your house fucking calling cps calling your daughter's schools um i'm an active poster right so i would post that i'm at this restaurant you know having a dinner or a meal with my daughter they would know where i'm posting from call that restaurant and say oh you have a drunk woman there, blah, blah. Like literally it was full on fucking harassment. And I didn't really, I slowly started talking about it, but it was like a lifetime movie that I lived where a person can see somebody on the internet and get so fatuated with someone

and want their life and become obsessed. And mind you, I don't know this person at all. People don't realize that there's a thin line between love and hate. And to hate somebody as much as you say you hate them, you have to have some sort of love for them also and some sort of obsession. And that's where it gets scary. So, yeah, I had to finally I found out my stalker's identity. And mind you, I this is after years of years for somebody calling your landlord. I mean, like, let's go place where she went to dance, calling my landlord. So I had my landlord sneaking in my house while I wasn't there because, you know, these people were calling

them saying, oh, Dempsey has drugs in there. She has these animals, blah, blah, just making up any false allegations they can. Right. So literally fucking with my real life and let alone reaching out to my, I think the most fucked up thing that I cannot get my head wrapped around is that this person who I've never met became friends with my baby daddy's wife. Best friends, best fucking friends. Mind you, I've never met her and I haven't seen my baby daddy in years.

Hate brings people together. So the fact that I have felt like I just had like these group, she got close to me, mind you, my stalker. She knew how to get close to me. And my God, she did by reaching out to him and becoming friends with all of them. The stuff that I've seen, the text messages of how they were going to ruin my life and put me in jail for whatever reason, what the fuck am I doing that I need to go to jail? You know, it was sick in the head. And I had to deal with that all on my own. I mean,

I remember texting you like, bitch, I'm going fucking through it. But finally I found out her identity and I took her to court. You know how exhausting it is to look in front of a judge to explain to them, hey, I'm a social media content creator. You know, this is what's happening. I don't know this woman. And this is what she's doing to me. They look at you like you're a joke. Like, well, this is social media. You know what I mean? Like how, you know, they could say whatever you want. Freedom of speech, First Amendment. You know how exhausting it was to look at this judge like you don't understand this person.

I don't know her. And it's full on fucking harassment that I had to endure for almost fucking three years. And I never let it show that it got to me on the Internet, whatever. But my fucking God god I hope she found fucking Jesus so how did you sway the judge how did you sway the judge in your favor because you ended up winning the court case I did I had to show proof yeah and catch her in all her lies screenshots bunny we're talking a binder this fucking big of just documentation of what this woman did to me and my daughter it was so disturbing and i hope one day maybe it will turn into like a netflix series

or a lifetime movie because in this reality we live in such a digital world that there's no new laws placed for this type of shit and And some things need to be happening. And if I can be an advocate for this, then so be it. Me too. I will totally be an advocate for internet bullies. I have zero tolerance for it. You're literally lying on people's lives. And making shit up. Just the grossest lies that you could even imagine.

And then it's like the game of telephone. So it's like you tell one person then i mean there's a banana phone there's so many lies that go around about jay and i on that website that jay and i bring uh underage drunk underaged girls home we've never done that in our entire lives never once have we fucking done that but go to on that website and they will you'll literally have fucking 50 people who say that every time and it's like it's not true and you guys it's just disgusting and what you went through is not okay what a lot of these social media content creators have had to go to go through is not okay and just because we are open

with our lives on the internet does not give you the freedom to try to destroy what we've built with lies now if we're out doing things fucking crazy and we're really fucking you know doing weird shit okay cool yeah call us out and you know we'll own it and we'll change our behavior but that's not the case with these people you know it's like you guys are you're just living your life they just wanted to paint me like i'm a fucking just horrible mother they tried so hard to get my daughter taken away from me. No, it was sad. And I was like, fuck you. I don't know you.

I'll be damned if you take my, get away from me. I fought so hard for the little life that I have because I have a little life. I'm not this big person. I'm just like over here, just doing my thing, sharing my life on the internet. Yeah. So I'll be damned if I have a stranger

who fucking doesn't like what I do, take it away from me just because she thinks, you know, she's jealous of me. Well, I'm glad more people are starting to fight back. Meg Thee Stallion just filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who was coming up with fake shit. Cardi B filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who fucking defamed her and she won. You know, so it's like people are starting to fight back and i think that the rules definitely need to change and i too will be an advocate right along with you and whatever i can do to help and use my voice and my platforms yeah but i would love to make i've always wanted to make a documentary about everything a little bit more peace it's been um

it's been like um like since last march and i've had like good sleep at night and not worrying about like, oh my God, is somebody going to show up at my fucking house? Because in my old house, girl, the stuff that I saw on court, there was somebody watching me, photos of me getting in and out of my car. And I told my mom one day, I was like, I feel like somebody is watching me all the way out at my old house. That's so gross. Oh, girl. What were you? It was the girl just sitting there watching you? I guess it was some. But there was photos of like just me living my life, like pops, paparazzi photos.

Like I didn't know what these people are taking photos of me. That's so invasive. How did they get these photos? Well, my lawyer did got them and he i asked him i was like what the fuck are those and he was like don't worry about him i was like the fuck i am worrying about him obviously i'm in a new house and all that now did you ever find out who who fucking spray painted clout chaser on the outside of your house i don't know but it's a little ironic that all that happened at the bar and i go on vacation to Florida and then I come home with clout

chased around my windows and nobody's going to admit it. I never got the full evidence. I have a great idea of who it is, but I hope your house is camera up now. My our houses are camera. Oh, I got fucking cameras. Yeah. And it's so funny because the one time the camera was, I didn't put it on the back of my house and I just left the fucking one time.

Well, somebody looked for that. They looked to see if there was a camera and probably went in the space that there wasn't a camera. Yeah. People are fucking weird, man. I'm just glad you're over that and got through that. And you're just, you know, besides these men, everything else in your life is really good Demps you got a good life and I just I I know um I'm a great person and I know

one day that somebody's gonna be able to see it well let's find out who that person is I'm gonna do your birth chart really quick all right Demps I need to know I'm so excited for this birth chart. You have no idea. First off, I have not complimented you on your hair. I fucking love it. Way better than the green, huh? No, I love the green. I don't know. I felt like I thought I loved the green until I saw the orange. And then I was like, I like the orange way better.

But maybe you can pull it all off, girl. You're sweet. I love it. Sweet girl. Man, I was at Mother's. Have you ever been to Mother's Ruin in Germantown? No. I don't go to Nashville, Dems.

Yeah. I don't go to Nashville. We don't go to Nashville unless we have to. Ever. All right. I need the, what's your birth date? What's your birthplace? Hopefully after this podcast, I don't want anything to do with that man ever again.

Good. And I'm just going to. He's been blocked this time. And his mom blocked dude oh i was in the comments reading what a fucking psycho bitch yeah that's weird like when you're a psycho bitch when you're old she's in love with her son and i don't mean like a love for her son is her screensaver yeah Yeah. Well, yeah. It's one thing to have your kid. No, I feel like it's one of those like Mommy Dearest type weird...

All right. I got Dempsey's birth chart pulled up here. I'm so fucking nervous. Don't be nervous. All right. So your son is a Leo. Your moon is a Libra. Your Mercury is a Leo. Your moon is a Libra. Your Mercury is a Leo.

Your Venus is a Cancer. Mars is a Libra. So you have a Libra stellium. This is crazy. One, two, three. Yeah, you have a Libra stellium. Aw. No wonder you're a little just lover.

Libras really like balance. It's so crazy because Libras usually really like balance, but they're the most unbalanced people of the Zodiac until you heal and learn how to channel that. Um, but anyways, your Venus is a cancer. So you're just like, let's, uh, let's get in here and I'll be able to put it into words for you. This, uh, your Venus is how you love people and like the love that you receive so you're probably gonna want like a taurus you would probably want like a taurus venus which leo and taurus cancer and taurus you would like any earth sign or any other water sign so scorpio um cancer

pisces venus would be amazing for you dimps is looking at me all crazy. My ex was a Pisces. Yeah. How was the love? Passionate? Yeah. I was like, choke me. Yeah. Pat me around.

Choke me, spank me, pull my hair. Yeah. Hold on. I'm getting to the Venus. There's so much. I got to send you this. Okay. So your Venus represents an interest in emotions and values exchanged and sharing with others.

Venus in Cancer, love for Venus in Cancer is best when it's committed and rather predictable. These people are sensitive in love, even if their sun sign is more playful and outgoing signs like Gemini or Leo. You may even say their egos are a little under a little underdeveloped when it comes to love but they have a lot to give in return namely security comfort and care venus and cancer people show their love by caring for you they pay more attention to your feelings than your words and observe you rather carefully they want a safe solid relationship they can be a little moody in love and some go as far as giving silent treatments and engaging in pouting routines to get attention from their mate. Demps do that?

Never. Never. I couldn't see that happening. They are turned off by anything too impersonal and too much rationalizing leaves them cold. They are not afraid of emotional confrontations. These lovers are always worried they'll be left high and dry. If you've hurt them, they'll have a hard time forgetting. Every so often they'll retreat into themselves, not unlike a crab, and it can be difficult to pull them out. This is why when they are using their extraordinary nursing abilities on themselves instead of you and you simply don't want that so and there's so much more that we could go into yeah venus is in your send me that i will your venus is in your ninth house too yeah there's just so much here but that makes complete sense of why you're we'll sum it up such a lover well you are you're very sensitive and you're very

i am sensitive and i think that was the problem. Leo is a big, boisterous personality, and that's why your sun sign, the way you present to the world, you're very outgoing, you're very loud, you're very damp. That's how you are. I'm here. But when it comes to love, you want a soft love. You want somebody to just kind of coddle you all the time and just tell you that they love you want to be babied yeah but why is it i'm always the masculine one in fucking

relationships even when it comes to like being sexual i'm like you do this do that this is how you do this this is how you use this like because you're in your masculine energy and you haven't you haven't learned how to be in your feminine energy once you learn how to switch that you will attract men who will start doting on you and waiting on you you can't it's hard so the hardest thing for me to have ever learned was to switch into my feminine energy because i'm the same way that you are i'm very masculine energy but when it comes to my husband i am so soft and so loving and so like, okay, daddy, whatever you want, you know? And I mean, don't get me wrong. If he does something fucking crazy, I'll be like, what is wrong with you? Like, let's reel it back in. But I've learned to let him lead because that's how

it's supposed to be. And I know we're in an era where it's like, we're independent women. We're baddies. Yeah, we can do that. But at home, I truly feel like a woman should be submissive as long as her man is doing the things that make her feel safe and want to be submissive i get a lot of slack for that but i truly feel like if you can learn how to be submissive to a man and let him learn how to lead what you can't you're not going to know that in the first few months but you'll be able to tell if a man is going to be a man or if he's going to be fucking a titty baby sucking on his mommy's tit still.

Also, it doesn't have to be submissive. It can just be bringing your walls down. Yeah. I mean, it could just be you being raw and vulnerable instead of always being masculine. Mimi, I tried doing that with this past one. No, I think she is raw and vulnerable. I do think that, but he's not a man, baby. Yeah, I think she is raw and vulnerable. I do think that.

But he's not a man, baby. Yeah, I know. And that's what you got to understand. And that's not me talking shit about him because I've never met the dude. But from what I hear from your side of things, it sounds to me like he's still very attached to his mom. And he's not ready to be a man. I know. You know?

And I think it hurts. And it's going to hurt for a while, but I'm excited for this new chapter in my life, releasing some music and just putting my love back into music. Yeah.

Do it. And who knows? Write us a fucking heartbreak anthem, bitch. I'm ready. Okay? I'm going to get a number one out of this, okay?

Let's do it. I've been crying my eyes out for two weeks. Well, I know how to write songs now so maybe we can all sit down and write a heartbreak song together right bunny i would love to do it i would fucking love to do that now i'm excited for the dating uh in the future let's do a dating game and then i'm just excited to just kick ass and yeah keep doing what i'm doing let's do it just long Just fucking live, laugh, love with Lily.

That's all you can do. That's all I can do. Yeah. Dude, you don't have any man fucking stressing you out and shit. Like, good. It's always when you stop looking that the one shows up. Yes, I swear to God, man. I have ones if I don't want anybody to show up.

Good. Well, then don't. Take a year off. Don't expect anything. All right, how about this? I challenge you, 2025, no How about this? I challenge you. OK, 2025. No fucking relationship.

Just focus on you. Get some dick. Do whatever you got to do. Don't get attached. But, you know, fucking don't jump into a relationship like being a relationship with yourself. Fall in love with yourself. And there's one thing I know how to do is be in a relationship with myself. There you go. There's no complaints there i think it's just um you just wanted to share it your life with

someone yeah you know and i mean you've got enough time for that dude you're not on it your biological clock is not taking your good right now yeah i don't want any more kids there you go so if i can take your time oh i love you bunny i love you too and thank you for coming by of course why don't you shout out your socials where everybody can find you if they don't already follow you yeah so you can just google uh don't read the bad shit um but no just uh go ahead and check me out on spotify all streaming platforms just type in demps d-e-m-p-s yeah d- D-E-M-P-S. D-E-M-P-S. I'm just pretty much everywhere.

Just don't read the bad shit, okay? Do it one time for me. Get you some. Get you some. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.