Dumb Blonde - Kay Jenkins: Trauma and Hard Work

Episode Date: August 11, 2021

Kay Jenkins is an example of doing it yourself when the world won't do it for you. This gorgeous and big hearted model, Life Coach, and Real Estate professional talks with Bunnie about her run ins with the law as a teen, and the horrific accident that changed her brother's life. Kay shares how she worked to get her brother the best care possible, and we guarantee you'll be shedding a tear. Kay and Bunnie also talk about how they spent their pandemic, and Kay shares what she can't wait to get done next on her body. "The problem keeps happening until you learn the lesson." - Bunnie "The universe saved me for a reason." - Kay  "Nobody cares. Work harder." - Kay  Bunnie: www.dumbblondeunrated.com Kay: IG | Kay Jenkins  Watch Full Episodes & More: www.dumbblondeunrated.com adamandeve.com Discount code: BUNNIE Offer: 50% Off 1 Item and Free Shipping in the US & Canada *certain exclusions applySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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I was first intrigued by her honesty of her past. And she has just like the most beautiful story that we will definitely get into Kay Jenkins how are you baby I'm so good I'm adapting to my new environment dude we're here in Miami we are here in Miami it's fucking it I literally walked outside this morning and it feels like I'm in a fucking blow dryer it's wet it's moist Everybody loves that word. Okay. So I, we, you have such a massive story. Let's go ahead and start from the beginning. So you are actually from Utah, correct? Okay. No, I'm not Mormon. That was my next question. That's always the first thing I get asked. And also people are just surprised because I don't think a lot of authenticity comes from

that state at all. Exactly. Why a lot of authenticity comes from that state. At all. Which is exactly why I had to remove myself from that environment. Were you born there? Born and raised. What part? Salt Lake City. Okay, Salt Lake.

Gotcha. So just grew up in a trailer park in the middle of Salt Lake City, Utah with my mom and my brother. I love that. I grew up in a trailer too. Yeah. I mean, hey, come out in the mud. And here we are. Here we are. So so I mean, what do you want to know? So you grew up in a trailer park and, um, you know, I, you posted a couple of like mug shots and stuff like that. So as a child,

would you, would you say that you were like a troubled teen out there? Yeah, absolutely. Um, my brother was the favorite of child. So I was constantly craving attention from my mom. And my dad was completely absent. So I was kind of invisible. So I was constantly trying to lash out so that I could be noticed. Right. And so I think now, even being who I am today, the one thing I'm constantly seeking is validation.

Right. It's really fucked up, but at least I'm aware of it. I think we all are. I think all of us on fucking Instagram that have like huge followings and shit, we've invested in ourselves and our narcissism a little bit, you know? So when you were getting in trouble, when, when did you start getting in trouble? How about that? I got my first alcohol ticket when I was 13 years old. Alcohol ticket. What exactly is an alcohol ticket? They have them about like candy in Utah so it's like an underage drinking okay gotcha so um you know I'm 13 and I'm drinking a bottle

of Everclear at a party oh those were the days right yeah and um so I after that over the course of the next five years um from 13 to 17, I actually accumulated 12 underage drinking tickets. Wow. And so that's when... You were on a mission. Yeah, I was. And honestly, no one even want to party with me after that. They're like, Jenkins is here. The cops are coming. Yeah. I didn't get invited anywhere anymore because everyone knew we were getting caught if you were with me. So I think the universe just really had a larger plan for me and it really and I had to learn that lesson over and over again in order to to really they say they say the lesson keeps happening until you learn you know the lesson the problem keeps happening until you learn the lesson um when did alcohol turn into drugs for you

uh but probably mid 15 to 16 I was going to raves and sneaking in half naked going around asking guys if they had pills like what the fuck no i was i would have beat the fuck out of myself like no if my daughter ever behaves that way she's going to boot camp yeah no i trust me i have a 13 year old right now she wants to grow up so bad and i'm just like bro please i'm like calm down you have plenty of time for that. So going to raves and stuff. So what was your drug of choice? Ecstasy?

Honestly, anything I could get my hands on. I dabbled in a lot of, I've done, I mean, I did cocaine. I did a lot of ecstasy. I even tried meth and heroin once just because of the guys I was hanging out with. It never stuck. I always knew that that wasn't something I wanted to do after reflecting. How did heroin make you feel? Because they say that the first time you do it, you're either hooked or you're not. Exactly. And I was sick. And the reason why I did it was because my brother was actually addicted a couple of weeks before his accident and he was using

copious amounts of it. And I just saw, again, him getting so much attention from my mom. Right. My teenage mind justified, well, if I have a drug problem, maybe she'll pay attention to me. Right. And so that's where I thought about that. Was dad in the house at all or was he raised by a single mom? After my dad's second wife left him, he took us as kids like on the weekends and stuff. But after his second wife left him which i cheers her for that

because he is the most arrogant man you'll ever meet in your life um he dipped out he was gone you know i became a womanizer and just he only ever wanted to see kyler and i when it was showing us off to his new girlfriend we were trophies um and making him look good yeah you know but we always made him look bad because we're like we haven't seen him in how long and you guys were all nice yeah exactly dad nice to see you again and you wonder why he's single in the next week you know it was always our fault no that's how my dad is my dad is a complete womanizer dude like it's insane um okay so you said before your brother's accident that's another thing i wanted to get to that's like a monumental yes thing in your life right now so he's your older brother.

Yes. You guys are, he's had a drug problem. You guys are partying together. He was the favorite child. What happened? Well, so I'll, I'll rewind just a bit. Um, so after my 12th drinking ticket, I actually got taken away from my mom and put into state's custody, um, because they just looked at her as unfit, which was relevant because I had no structure at home. I had no punishment at all and I could do whatever I wanted. And so when I got taken away from my mom, I was in state's custody for a year and a half. So I lived in solitary confinement. I was in group home to group home. I was in multiple different detention centers. And then treatment, then they eventually evolved me into a treatment program. That's got to be traumatic. How old were you?

I was 17 when they finally took me. I didn't get out until I was almost 19. You're like literally about, so they didn't let you out when you were 18? They can keep you till you're 21. Wow. I didn't know that. Well, in the state of Utah, it might be different in other states. Yeah. In Vegas, I think it's 18, right? Yeah.

They'll just say goodbye. And typically it would be right. They try. But I think with my case, they did see potential in me. And at first I fought it so fucking hard. I was like, I'm going to sit here and do what I want. And I'm not going to take any of the things. I didn't go through therapy, nothing.

I called bullshit on my therapist I was not but eventually once I was cut off from society for so long I knew that if I couldn't beat the system I had to be the system right and so eventually I did start you can you gotta join them exactly and so I um eventually just started to work the program and as stubborn as I hated it yeah it did help me yeah it did help me a lot and it gave me a lot of clarity and that's when um as soon as I started to work on getting out my home visits of course I had smoked some weed and got in trouble and got set back levels but I think they invested so much time in in keeping me there because they saw the potential that I had they saw that I was smarter and your head strong yeah tenacious exactly compared to a lot of the other girls

in there I was actually really blessed they were on the streets at 14 heroin pregnant you know gangs things like that so I was like yo I was just playing beer pong at a party I'm just here to party I just got here that was that's literally why I got locked up and so I was actually you know the pussy white girl because I wasn't, I wasn't repping a gang or anything like that. And so eventually when I got released, um, they actually knew my therapist and them, they, they have to evaluate your home life before they send you home, of course. Um, and that's when my mom's drug use had actually evolved.

Um, so did mom use the entire time you were growing up? Yeah, she was a functioning addict, I would would say so she liked her opiates and that's why kyler got addicted to heroin was because as soon as he started stealing her pills she locked them up and where do you turn which is right and you get the cheap stuff which is heroin um and things got really bad after his accident that's when I did start like just going off the rails. So what happened with his accident? And then we'll get into, yeah. So, um, so about his accident happened, um, a couple months before I got taken. And so we were out at a party. I, um, it was actually my party that I took him to with a bunch of friends. And Kyler just got his first car.

He felt high on life. Keep in mind, Kyler was everyone's dream guy. Like, I had girls only want to be friends with me in high school because I was Kyler's little sister. I barely had a name for a really long time. And I was cool with it, though. I loved my big brother. I was like, I'm Kyler's little sister. Do you know who I am?

You can't fuck with me. You know what I mean? I can feel the love for your brother through all of your posts yeah like it evokes emotion in me whenever I see that I'm like that he holds a special place in her heart which is why I want you to tell the story of what's going on so people can feel that yeah of course um yeah Kyler and I were writers it's as I mentioned I didn't I didn't give him enough credit so although my mom was extremely neglecting and abusive towards me, the only attention I did get from my mom was when she was hitting me, um, because that was the discipline I got, but it was never anything.

So you did grow up in an abusive home. Very much so. Um, but no one would have ever known because we looked so functional, you know, and because Kyler was so popular, he was quarterback of the football team, point guard of the basketball team. I mean, everyone's star yeah um and so and that's the thing is he was an extremist so once he got kicked out of school for smoking weed he got kicked out of the football team and everything he was like fuck when's his birthday i'm gonna go for it he's a pisces so he's uh march 5th is his they have my mom's 16th personality so both of them are pisces i grew up with two pisces and her for everybody who uh wants to know her birthday your birthday is one day after mine

yeah the 23rd yeah and i'm the 22nd and i was a rebel child i was born a rebel without a cause but what we don't realize is our sign is born under karma and rebellion so anything that we rebel against is our karma it's crazy so that's gonna follow you with the rest for the rest of your she's like fuck my life so if i have kids i'm basically fucked yeah pretty much okay so you guys uh he had his first car yeah he had um and you know after getting kicked out of school he was he's an extremist so when he did something he went for it so when he started using drugs he really fucking went for it um but he did get a job and he got a car and we were going out to celebrate that he got a car we actually did have a dd that night um yeah my my stepbrother um which my mom's

husband at the time his son and him and kyler were actually very close in age and so we all went out it's kind of like a family um with me and a couple of my girlfriends as well and um i remember the party specifically because there was it was a big jungle juice party and everyone was drinking jungle juice so to this day i have not drinking it ever again oh my gosh um we we left probably around 2 a.m everyone was drunk except for ben my stepbrother who's the designated driver and um kyler got angry for whatever reason i think he was trying to make out with both my friends in the back seat and none of them were they were like no you gotta pick one and he was like no and so a pisces man yeah exactly so i remember him getting extremely aggressive like just give me my fucking keys things got kind of blurry but

we were at a gas station getting gas and there was cops a couple pumps down and so all my friends like my girlfriends were like we're gonna go like we're not trying to get alcohol tickets because we've been there and um ben eventually was like you know what fuck it dude here take the keys and i remember that very bluntly because that was the last time I really like saw my brother as like him normal yeah that's a word so I was I refused to leave Kyler though like I said we were we're so close that I just refused I would everyone was leaving and I'm like I'm going with you and so I remember him peeling out of the gas station um and I was in the back seat and um I started flying around and I'm calling my mom he gotta come get us because Kyler's driving drunk and

something bad's gonna happen I know oh I want to hug you it's okay oh sorry I don't get to tell this story a lot. This is therapy for you. I just knew something really bad was going to happen that night. And, you know, when we hit a yield sign, swerved through the intersection, and the car wrapped completely around a metal pole. But because I was in the back seat, I wasn't affected. And he had whiplash so bad that he ripped his brain stem.

Oh, my God. And no two brain injuries are the same. Right. So they couldn't tell us, you know, if this happens, he'll be better. Or, you know, we do this, he's going to get better. So Kyler is actually in a coma for six months. Oh, my gosh. And he was on life support for three and um

we didn't really know what his like if he was gonna wake up or you know when when you see in the movies people wake up from comas and they're like ah everything's fine um but with a brain injury he oh yeah he couldn't communicate I can't imagine how he felt. He was trapped in his own body. He couldn't communicate. But I do remember the day before I actually got arrested and put into state's custody. They took you away from him after that happened. It was necessary, though. How angry were you, though? I would have been fucking just.

I was mad. But I was really unhealthy because I'd go to the hospital and spend my day with him. And then I'd go out and get drunk to forget about it. And that it wasn't healthy. You know, I was spiraling in a very, I was going to end up like him. Right. And so when I got my last ticket, the judge we actually had was this Kyler's judge and, um, looked at me and said, I, I could have blocked your brother. Kyler had a court date two weeks before his accident and they could have locked him up. And she said, I'm not going to let the same thing happen to you that happened to your brother. Oh my God. So, um, and that's when things got really bad with my mom. She started heavily using meth, um, to stay awake and make sure that

she was taking care of him. Um, it was her way of coping. Yeah, exactly. Which, you know, I don't blame her at that point um but after so long when kyler did wake up like that's all i needed was family you know um and eventually you know the doctors did say he would never walk and talk again he was going to be a vegetable the rest of his life or he wouldn't wake up from his coma and so um he surpassed all those expectations uh that's honestly when I really decided I needed to get my life together after, you know, graduating my program. I knew that college wasn't an option for me. And I really wanted to have time and financial freedom to be able to care for Kyler.

Because at that point, my mom was completely out of the picture. Actually, I should back up. When I got out, I came home to my mom was completely out of the picture. Actually, I should back up. When I got out, I came home to my mom on meth and my brother was starving in a basement. He was 80 pounds underweight and he had a doorbell that he would ring to get my mom to come downstairs to take care of him. He couldn't communicate. And I was only there for 48 hours before I, my mom, one morning I, she wasn't answering the doorbell, you know, when I'd go down and check on him, but she did a lot of the maneuvering with taking, like changing him and stuff. And, um, she wouldn't answer her phone or her door. So I literally went upstairs and had to kick down her door. I put on my like snow boots

and kick down the door. How old are you at this time um i was just past 18. this was like literally the week i got released from rehab yeah you're like welcome home yeah and i kicked down the door which by the way going in my mom's room growing up it was kind of like when things were good that was the spot me and kyler would go crawl into bed with her and chill and watch movies so this new house i hadn't even lived there because they had moved while i was in custody right so i hadn't really like been in my mom's room right which is very weird because you know i was it was an open home with family pictures i got to the house there's no family pictures there's no food in the fridge like things were just weird the

energy was really off so when i kicked down the door I actually woke her up she had a cigarette with an ash this long on her chest um and three lines of meth just oh my god on her on her bed stand um I was I didn't really know what to do um but I just looked at her and said you're done this is this has got to stop I didn't just get out of rehab so I could come home to this yeah um and my brother's downstairs starving to death so I immediately called my grandparents um which are her parents they're my heart and soul I love graham cracker and my grandpa they actually live on a farm were they always your stability always they didn't know half of what was going on they tried to take me and kyler multiple times and we my we didn't want to though because you know we had the freedom right when you're a kid yeah when you're a kid

you have you want to go where the coolest situation is and when we we knew if we lived with grandma and grandpa we were going to have strict rules because my mom always had that growing up they were very strict with her you know um and so when they came in they actually lived three hours outside of salt lake city they have a farm it's our family farm and um they got there within literally two hours they drove so fast they came in we called the ambulance we had called the cops we got kyler removed out of the situation immediately the next day or the next week they had actually been evicted from the property they weren't paying rent um

your mom's yeah my mom yeah my mom and her um my stepfather her husband he sounds like a real winner too to let his wife like that he was out of town working they were using together honestly that's when things got really bad with my mom was when she married her third husband okay um because when i was a kid her second husband robbed a bank with me in the car nice and then she ended up marrying his husband where did all your mom's trauma come from is what i your mom obviously had something happen to her i think she wanted to rebel so she liked the bad boys because grandma grandpa didn't let her have that freedom growing up so after darren got arrested with me in the car by the way there's still a report on google you can go read it um

i was a 10 year old girl who um her stepdad brought the pick me up from school went to the bank and then he slid the note to the bank teller on the back of our car registration oh nice his name what an idiot well he was coked out right okay okay so when he went away guess who mom married his brother his best friend oh even better right so it's been a whole journey and then um when grandma grandpa got there and got kyler out of that situation that was really the determining factor where i you were like i was so because they invited me to go to vernal um which is a very small town they live on 80 acres and there's nothing out there right Um, but I'd have a stable place to live and be safe. Um, but that was really when I decided that I, I knew I was

meant for something great. Like, um, the universe heartache. Yeah. The universe saved me that night for a reason. Um, and it also put me through that program to learn the life skills that I needed, that I wasn't learning out like at home. Right. To how to be a woman, like how to, you know, balance my checkbook and how to be, you know, like a like a sophisticated adult. And so that's like I literally had like seven hundred dollars saved up. I went and registered myself in real estate school I finished that within three months I started working at a brokerage as a transaction coordinator and executive assistant and I went for it I knew that real estate was what I wanted to do and I immediately started paying for physical

speech and occupational therapy so that Kyler could have the best care possible um and after that I mean he's now fluent in sign language um he's completely coherent he's still definitely him inside um he'll never be the same he can make noise right but he can't fully formulate words gotcha um and that's just because when you the brain the brain it has to rewire itself and so um after so long though insurance cut him off because he wasn't progressing at the rate that they wanted insurance is such a fucking scam dude that's a whole nother fucking subject but yeah they um he didn't he didn't get his best shot that's for sure and so that's when i knew like i needed to step up because my grandparents weren't gonna have the means to do it what a lot

to take on you know at such a young age that's got to be heavy to have to know that you're not only are you responsible for your sobriety for your growth for yourself but you also are have to worry about kyler too you know and have to worry about how he's living and what's going on with him so well i'm not i think that's the thing is all that pressure i didn't even think about like relapsing i you know you couldn't like in your mind it really wasn't even like it's not an option because i looked at the quality of my life from where i was at um you know previously to uh where i was at then and how i felt about myself right just the confidence and really wanting to sell real estate i think real estate

saved my life like your passion it really I, I, my, I, if people ask me my idols, it's literally like Paul Benson. He's the number one agent in Utah. Like, I like, we talk real estate and I'm like, I get off on that. I get so excited. Um, but then that's, you know, when I started being a top producer, I got, you know, I was the youngest producing agent in the entire West coast division of my company. Um, and everyone doubted me because I was sexy and because I was different. And because I was different, especially in Utah though, the culture, you know, I'm walking in, in a short little skirt and I'm ready to close a deal. And these guys are like, Whoa, I'm really uncomfortable right now. You know, fun fact. I did real estate too, when I was around your age

and I ended up having to sue the company for sexual harassment because my boss would not leave me alone. Oh my goodness. Yeah. No, it's a, it's a very cutthroat industry that you're in and people, and very male dominated, very ego, ego ran. But I feel like the women now are coming in and just like, we're kind of, yeah. So, and I'm doing my research out here, um, because I'm going to start joining a luxury brokerage and some of the, like literally three of the top producers out here are females yeah it's because they're sharks you know what i mean and they're um i think we have the ability women in general to appeal to both women and men and men yep the thing with men is they can come off very harsh so it's not

appealing to both sexes no right um and so i've honestly, I've really loved my journey in real estate because it's also allowed me to explore my other passions in life, you know, and get the work done that I've had on my body. So I have my ideology of how I look now. Well, let's rewind real quick. Okay. So after you started doing really good in the, the, the real estate world, did you have work done while you were in Utah? Oh yeah. Okay. Okay. So you started getting work done on your body and stuff like that. And then did you, were you doing the IG thing while you were living in Utah? Okay. So let's talk. I just wasn't really on the map, but yeah. Right. Let's

talk about that. So when, so you first started getting your body done, your, her body's beautiful by the way. Um, and she, she's the only other girl that i've seen who who's kind of built like me like with the hips and everything that's on yeah that's on uh on on ig um you so you started like modeling while you were doing real estate okay let's talk about that well i um so actually I started getting my body done. Well, I, okay. I backed a sugar daddy. Yes. So that helps because I had spent, I had put thousands and thousands of dollars into Kyler's care, which I would do it 10 times over again, but I didn't leave a lot for myself. And, um, I, it was so weird. The universe, like put this man in my path. I'm more so as like an investor. He wanted to see me succeed. He helped me build my real estate website. it was so weird the universe like put this man in my path I'm more so as like an investor he

wanted to see me succeed he helped me build my real estate website that's just a pause real quick a lot of people don't realize that the sugar baby sugar daddy relationship isn't just about sex like a lot of the times especially men that have a lot of money they want to make you a better human and help you with your goals yeah I wouldn't I wouldn't be the business woman that I am today without that. You're almost like a project to them, you know? Exactly. And, um, he invested a lot into helping me succeed and I damn well earned it though, you know? Um, and I was still producing. So everything that I got from him, I, I implemented it into my own business and into, um, everything that I had, I bought a beautiful home, my dream car, my dream body. Um, and made sure my family was very, very, very well taken care of at that point. That was God blessing you.

Yeah. It came back. It lifted this like weight off my shoulders where I could breathe because for literally five years I couldn't breathe. No one offered to help. I was in, I had a serious relationship. He, his family loved me and they did take me in and help me. But him as an individual never was like, hey, let me lighten the load a little bit. What can I do to help? When he was very well off. So you just see the difference in men. And I also.

That's why I married my husband, because he's the first man that I ever met that was like, yo, let's do this together. You know, I'm going to lift you up while you lift me up. Yeah, exactly. I never had that date with dudes in Vegas. Oh God, it was fucking slum in it. It was crazy. I can only imagine.

Um, and I, I was, I, I loved my arrangement because it helps me realize what kind of man I actually wanted in my, in my real relationship, right. Someone who was dominant and caring and,

um, nurturing and also like, let me have my standards for myself. It's very, it's very much so hired like my standards and expectations for what I want for myself and for the person I give my time and energy to. Absolutely. Um,

and so, okay. We, he invested in me. I got, I spent all of 2020, by the way, everyone was,

you know, upset about the pandemic. I was getting a body. Listen, we, we fucking, we, we blew up in the quarantine. i'm always like if you weren't hustling during that time you were not doing what you were supposed to do exactly yeah if you didn't make a lot of fucking money or make

huge growths personally physically emotionally during 2020 you were sleeping yeah to set yourself up like because now things are skyrocketing again yeah you know and so i did i had um four bbls yay and my breasts done you look amazing though most girls who have had that much work done don't look that good they look like you still look natural that was the goal yeah and i didn't have well actually i was i got in a lot of shape before i had my surgery so a lot of girls don't and so that's why they have so much fat to put back there. I didn't, I was very in shape. He's like, where the fuck do you want to take this from? I'm like getting creative. But I also, I designed my body particularly to have the wide hips. A lot of girls do put it all in the back. And I just, I don't, I didn't really like that aesthetic for me. I've always had white hips. And so I really just wanted to accentuate that.

I always had white hips too. Yeah. And so I, and so now I love my body. I'm so proud of it. I actually had the fat buckle removed out of my cheeks as well to kind of slim everything out. And so, you know, I share my mug shots and everyone's like, oh, it's all plastic surgery. And I'm like, yeah, but it's also mental. Like it actually, 90 like oh it's all plastic surgery and I'm like yeah but it's also mental

like it actually I'm so 90% of it's mental because if I didn't if I didn't reach the mindset that I had yeah um to be able to love myself enough to make that investment in the way that I present myself none of it would have happened absolutely money or not sure that you're not I couldn't agree more I literally posted a thing about my domestic violence on TikTok and it's almost to like a million views and you wouldn't believe

the amount of people who are like, oh, that's makeup. Oh, you got plastic surgery. Like, anybody will try to discredit your hard work. When they're not doing

the work themselves. At all. Literally deflected. They're at home sitting, fucking eating Cheetos, fucking yelling out there, beating their wife,

talking shit, you know? Like, these motherfuckers, like, never let anybody dull your shine because these trolls literally live for that shit so you started getting your body done when did you decide to move to miami well um i me and my you know previous arrangement we decided to part ways um he was a big politician and so with the election and everything coming up and being in a conservative state it was he had to lay low yeah so i understood that um which i got my settlement and walked away because that's how things work yeah so when i got my settlement i decided um

i love that you're so honest about it because most girls would lie and be like oh i did this or i you know i got money this way yeah suck a dick for an outfit no no no yeah yeah no most girls wouldn't be that honest and say oh you know I got a settlement so I set myself up like girls wouldn't say that so I think that's really endearing well it was it was um it was kind of our we had actually previously agreed upon that if if anything were to ever end um he would pay me a certain amount to walk away quietly right yeah because he was married i'm gonna be very honest about that but again in a very conservative relationship or environment these men aren't even they only they get sex once a year yeah or just to reproduce yeah you know he

hadn't been with his wife in almost 12 years wow and i'm like i will take very good care of you you're like ponder come on to my house. Yeah, exactly. So he actually, honestly, um, talked about wanting to marry me, you know, for a long time. He was like, well, would you be open to that? I'll you'll never have to worry about anything ever again. And I'm like, as great as that sounds, I don't want to be rescued. You know, uh, I said maybe when I'm 35, 40, and if we revisit the situation and I haven't met someone, because he's an amazing man. I would do it in a heartbeat if I was in a position with age. And I just want to accomplish certain things.

Yeah. So, yeah, when I got that, I just decided that I wasn't meant to be in Utah anymore. You know, I was the only girl with a body getting plastic surgery done. And believe me, I've got an I hate K fan club on Twitter of these girls just so upset. And they're from high school. Like, I literally haven't seen them since high school. Imagine having that much time in the day. But they were, they're bullied.

It's funny. They're upset because they bullied me and called me ugly and broke because I didn't have any of the nice things. I didn't get a car. My daddy didn't buy me a car when I was 16 you know I had to wait till I was 24 but my daddy bought me a real car so yeah so I you know I had to wait but the payoff was longer because all these pretty girls were cute in high school now they're all working at coffee shops and they look like swamp donkeys and here I am on the cover of magazines yeah and traveling the world and they're just sick exactly and they're and they're really

upset and the funny thing is though is I'm not even bitter about it I actually genuinely feel bad for these women yeah you know I really hope that it gets better so honestly that just got really bad I actually had um a company attempt to sue me for half a million dollars um it was a blow-dry company um blow-dry bar I was giving them like 90% of their business. And one of their employees, who is a cute little gay boy, started harassing me because I wouldn't like mentor him and tell him like he wanted to my body. He wanted makeup and to cling on to me. And one time I just said, baby, you got to step the fuck back.

So I put him in his place. He was a receptionist. And that he went crazy he was making fake accounts he was harassing me blasting me all over snapchat craziness and I'm like just because I told you no you know like a little boy so anyways typical man even if he's gay so I went to the I went to the owner of the blowjob company it was like look your employee is harassing me i would really like to terminate our agreement if you're not going to do anything about it because she didn't refuse she was like that happened outside of my work environment so it has nothing to do with me i'm like but that still represents your company exactly you know like if if mimi or monica was bullying somebody and they came to me i would have to address that yeah That's a direct representation of you.

Yeah, absolutely. You know what I mean? And that's why you got to be careful and selective about who you let represent your brand. And so long story short, a lot of people noticed I wasn't going there anymore because I was posting twice a week. I was going to get blowouts.

I was, you know, full blown thing. And so I did one of those question dares on instagram and um i someone asked about it and so i you're honest to the point just said i was being harassed the owner refused to do something about it so i terminated the relationship literally which is professional i didn't say anything i wasn't like yeah i quit doing that a long time ago yeah you know what i mean like i'm a grown-ass woman but when someone asks me something i will point blank you know tell the truth absolutely and so they took that as slander but honestly they were just waiting they were no they were they were waiting for that and um they they were already they were already doing so badly right without my business even three

weeks of me not being there they were like damn like cause it was called the bougie blow dry bar. Yeah. And are we allowed to mention them? Yeah. Okay. I am. Oh, I'm done now. Yeah. Um, they had no grounds to stand on whatsoever. I got served papers. So for almost a whole year, I was there. I was like nine months I was dealing with, I had to pay a lawyer because if I didn't, if I didn't handle it correctly, I could be liable for that money. Right. Right. So they were just hoping that I wouldn't be smart enough to handle it the right way and so um honestly once that was done and things ended with my everything I feel like I've had enough of this fucking city I'm good I'm free like you know what I mean I'm just I and and also my mom started to um you know to first full circle circle back. My mom is clean for five years.

She is, you know, bipolar schizophrenic. So she has my mom. Yeah. She has to be heavily medicated. But as long as she has her medication and she's in her routine, she does really well. And she is, I, I, I'm actually overwhelmed with gratitude that my mom is who she is right now. Because she is, she's done everything she can to make up for it yeah because she knows she was a bad mom and she knows that she neglected

me and that little girl inside of you needs that yeah and she just I and I just now I love her so much I love her so much you guys are gonna make me fucking cry she just um so she actually you know I hadn't I started spending a lot of time with her. I'd go get her. We'd go to get our nails done. And I just felt like I was that little girl who like had a mom, you know what I mean? And so I kind of fell off grid. I didn't go out a lot anymore. I was really just focused on Kyler's care, selling a lot of real estate and being with my mom again, because I didn't really get that time with her. And, but also with all that other stuff going on, mom again because I didn't really get that time with her and but also with all that other stuff going on I just knew that I wasn't meant to be in Utah the rest of my life and so I um actually

went to Jamaica for the paradise challenge yeah yeah I said those all the time with black tape projects and um it changed my life yeah I met so many incredible people I actually started a new Instagram two weeks before I went. And, um, I met some of the most amazing people in the world and they were 90% of them were from Miami. Yeah. And they're all like Utah. Yeah. Cause you don't look like you're from Utah at all. No, so they, they were extremely surprised. And I just like, I was so inspired. I came back and was like, I'm, I'm going, but I'm not, but I had already tried LA once when I was 21 for like three months. It chewed me up, spit me out.

It was like, no, you're not meant to be here. Which is too liberal for me anyways. Yeah, and it's just LA I feel like has just a dark cloud over it. It really does. There's just so much hate and anger and anguish and hurt. Overcrowded too. Toxicity there. It's crazy. Exactly. Well, and anger and anguish and hurt. Overcrowded. Toxicity there.

Yeah. It's crazy. Exactly. Well, and I had to start like calculating. I was like, okay, so what's going to be, you know, the smartest decision to, because I'm not trying to just pick up and be like, peace, you know, because then that's when you fail. Right. You have to formulate a plan, map out your steps and make it happen. So I started thinking, okay, where can I sell multimillion dollar real estate?

Because I had only reached like maybe a mil in utah yeah unless i wanted to go put on a turtleneck and pretend to be somebody i wasn't i could have went to park city and sold that real estate but i didn't yeah so i had to think about where can i sell um very high-end property and where can i still model yeah because i'm a really fucking good mom yeah no i mean your pictures i send them to mimi all the time and they're just gorgeous thank you I'm like dude look how pretty she is you guys are amazing I um so and that's when I really started to level up in my modeling too because of the photographers that I've had on my vision board for so long but never had access to because I was in Utah yeah I was like wow these people are like accessible yeah and reachable all I have to do

is like be somewhere be somewhere and and have the the courage to go put myself in front of them yeah because you know um you know secret agents don't sell so you have to make yourself known and so that's um really when i started thinking about the best place for me i thought about vegas thought about scottsdale even because i love scottsdale yeah it's fucking hot as shit out there. And it was still on the West Coast too, but Miami just spoke to me. And you have so much life left that you could literally do Miami for a year or two and then go somewhere else that you want to go. Exactly.

So it's not like you're like a little butterfly right now. You're just spreading your wings. Well, I was tied down for a really long time um because i had an obligation um to my brother i wouldn't say obligation let me correct that i had a a commitment right to ensure that my brother was taken care of and i couldn't leave until i knew that he would have that support that was necessary for him to feel loved and so like i was getting back with my mom you know when her and i started to get closer and I told her I was going to leave, I kind of, I asked her, mom, can you, can you step up? I've been doing this for seven years now.

I've been doing, and you're a disability. You don't work. You're, so is Kyler. You know what I mean? You guys can eat each other. Yeah. And I will make sure you guys are very well taken care of, but I'm not going to be able to provide the lifestyle that I want for both of you and myself here in Utah.

I've reached my full capacity. Yeah. So let me go spread my wings and fly. And I can, I promise you I will have grandpa retired on the family farm and a house bought for you guys, handicapped equipped so that you guys can all just be together, and everything will be taken care of.

And so she just was like, okay. She's like, okay, what do you want me to do? So I bought her a car before I left, and she gets to go two or three times a week. And they actually had closed down his entire facility for a whole year, COVID, because he's in respiratory. So the whole facility was shut down for a year. So I actually got to go be with him for about two months before I left. So this was last September, October that I had made the decision to leave. And I knew that I was going to come in spring. So I came out for

my birthday in January, did some house shopping, and I found the perfect place. And I went home and tied everything up. And here I am today. There you are. Like, what a fucking insane story, though. Like, you literally rose from ashes. What would you say to a little girl that is in the same situation that you were in if you could look back at you when you were going through all that what would you need to hear

I mean really you want me to say it yeah of course uh nobody cares work harder I mean it's real though but really though because for a long time I threw myself a pity party no one was attending but me yep and and now that's why I'm so blunt to the point like if I fuck up I hold myself accountable immediately I'm like you're the one that did this you need to work harder this is what you need to do do it yeah you know what I mean don't talk about it be about it and so I guess I have the same attitude on the hard side that's really what I would say but also um I mean I think a reassurance that it's always extremely dark before it gets very bright absolutely and so all of this was meant for something very very big if you allow it to yeah because you've got you've got a choice it's either going to make you or it's going to

or it's going to break you and that that term has never been more relevant than it is now because if you choose to be a product of your circumstances, you can't blame anybody else but yourself. You can't even be mad at your parents anymore. It was your choice because once you get to a certain age, we know right from wrong. If you're going to swim and being a victim, you're going to stay there. You're literally going to drown and just be a victim.

But if you choose to rise up above gonna drown and just be a victim but if you choose to rise up above the water and just fucking kick ass you're you're gonna make something of yourself as long as you learn from your your life which you definitely have um you've been having problems with instagram they hate me dude this poor baby i bring i have so many of the ig girls come on and literally like, you poor baby. So they deleted her account. You got it back. And then they deleted it again.

Well, I got extorted. So the hacker who got my account back sent me a text last Friday and said, rip to your Instagram account. And I'm like, what do you mean? He's like, pay me $2,000 right now or I'm going to permanently delete you. And I was like, have a great mean? He's like, pay me $2,000 right now, or I'm going to permanently delete you. And I was like, have a great day. Was he from in this country? Yeah, his name is Anthony Carlson.

Ladies, do not buy from Anthony Carlson, OK? I actually wanted to blast him, because I have all the information. But I also didn't want, because I had been building my backup, I didn't want to target my backup and blast him. But then it's like, okay, then he'll take down that one. You know what I mean? And so at this point, I also think, um, once you mess with a hacker, yeah, it's game over, you know, once you start buying it,

and this is another thing, like once you start buying engagement or verifications or, or doing anything that's not legitimate, you fuck yourself. Yeah. And so for me, I had worked extremely hard to build very raw and authentic engagement. I mean, you know, I'm at 60,000 followers, but I'm getting 10 to 15,000 likes of people who are fully invested in me, seeing me evolve in my modeling career. Right. And then Slang House is on the side. Like they were, they were loving it, you know? Um, and, and so, but as soon as you, like I said, as soon as you, you know, dabble and, and as soon as it was gone, I should have just

handled with Instagram directly. You start fucking with someone who's not with Instagram or those forms that they make you feel like you're screwed you know so I actually just um I heard from someone today they said that my account is recoverable yeah but at this point I just don't even know if I want it I really don't because it's already targeted it's targeted and it's like it's so much stress trying because the first time it was gone guys I was like I'm picking my shit up I'm going back to utah you guys are assholes because i really thought like that's my livelihood you know i need my sources of income my leads my network my database people don't realize how much we invest in our profiles do yeah

they think we're just posting pictures for fun and it's like no we are building a brand i'm sharing a message with you i'm inspiring yeah i mean whatever's doing it, like the way you do yours, you know, people are invested in you and seeing you succeed in your podcast and everything else, your family, all of it, you know? And so for even me, like Kyla, even Kyler, people are like, how's Kyler? Is he, you know, is he doing well since your move? They're checking in on me to make sure I'm alive because I'm in a new city completely alone.

I packed up my entire life and ship myself across the country with nobody here which is so admirable though you know yeah and so I think honestly at this point with Instagram they can keep it she's like fuck it I don't care because here's the thing um like I said I had just started that account um back in September before I moved before I went to the paradise challenge right right right and i built it in the last nine months of 70k yeah all organic that's i think that's amazing some people have had their accounts for 10 plus years and it's taken forever me yes i literally it took me nine years to get fucking verified oh my god didn't matter how many articles i had which i never paid for articles yeah didn't matter how many articles i had didn't matter that i was married to a rapper didn't matter fucking anything dude Instagram did

not want to give me verification it took us getting our tv show to fucking get me verified that's so crazy insane right I'm like dude I think they pick and choose though oh they do they like they like they like skinny bitches dude I don't know because there's there's a girl one of your friends her account is fucking huge and she's literally half naked all the time and i'm not being a hater i love bitches don't get me wrong but at the same time i'm like how are you gonna take viking barbie's account and leave that account up you know it's just crazy trust me so okay the story is amazing and i want to keep having you coming back of course all the time i want to check in with you we we come out to Miami so you know maybe we'll have you I want to go to Nashville though dude

come you would love it a little countryside dude you would love it the boys out that you and Mo needs a friend to party with yeah yeah yeah for sure I want to bring you back on so I mean if you want to come to Nashville you can come see our studio out in Nashville, too. Just I love everything about you and I love what you're doing. And I'm so excited to see where this Miami venture goes for you. I'm so excited to see the growth out here with you. Just, you know, spreading your wings, becoming a little butterfly. I want to see I want to keep up with Kyler and all that stuff, dude. Like you have a really good story.

Have you ever thought about writing a book? Yeah, I'm going to get a ghostwriter ghostwriter though because my attention span i tried i literally wrote three chapters and i'm like i can't do this annoying yeah but a ghostwriter you can just send voice notes and they put everything together yeah it's still my word so i that is gonna come unapologetically self-expressed will be my book yes from beginning to end i just i feel like i want to get to a certain threshold to where the ending is better. Yeah. What do we, what, what can we expect from Kay in the next year? Um, I will be one of the top producing agents in Miami. Yes, ma'am. Um, I'm going to sell a multimillion dollar property. That's honestly what my focus is right now. Um, I actually take my exam on Friday. Wish

me luck guys. Um, it's a lot of, you know, rehearsed stuff because I did it in Utah for so long. But it's a different playing field out here. So I'm actually going to step back from shooting for a little while because I've got a lot of content on deck. And I'm rebuilding my portfolio because I had to start from scratch. So in the next year, you guys will see me on the cover of multiple magazines.

You just got one. You just got one. Adult Star came out. And then I'm actually going to be in Rogue, on the cover of Rogue in August. And then AJK and I are working on some Playboy Mexico stuff. Oh, dude, you need to be in Playboy. I know. You are like the ideal Playboy. And you're what they need to bring back, the body.

Because I feel like they got so far away from women. Exactly. And we're not bashing anybody. the body, you know, because I feel like they got so far away from like women, you know, now they have like, and we're not bashing anybody. I love all bodies, but I just feel like Playboy is the essence of woman and woman is hips and curves and booties and boobs, you know? So I feel like they got away from that, but I can't, I'm excited to see. All of that's coming. So thank you so much for your time and energy and the opportunity. I'm really grateful. Why don't you tell people where they can find you? Uh, my Instagram is at Kay Jenkins, K A Y J E N K I N S dot TV. I used to be.co. Okay. But it's a Kay Jenkins dot TV. Yay. And you guys need to go check out her profile

cause she's hot and she does not disappoint. And you engage with everybody too, which I think is really cool. Yes. All right. Well, thank you everybody too, which I think is really cool. I try to. Yes. All right. Well, thank you guys for listening to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.