Dumb Blonde - Mama Tot: S & M & How She Met Her Husband

Episode Date: June 8, 2022

In Part 2, Mama Tot aka Ophelia Nichols opens up about being emancipated at 17, what she has learned from her marriages, and creating the family she has always dreamed of. Things also get fiery when she talks to Bunnie about passion parties, her love of S&M, and how she became an accidental TikTok phenomenon.  Mama Tot: Podcast | TikTok Mama Tot IG   Bunnie: Website  Watch Full Episodes & More: www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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today i have somebody that i have been looking forward to meeting not only me looking forward to meeting but my husband was more excited about this guest than I was Ophelia aka Mama Tot is in the house baby how are you that is me I'm perfect I'm so excited to be here I don't think I have ever been so afraid and so quiet in any of her episodes as I was at this moment right on this one and it was because this baby was here right um I grabbed the car seat and I walked out that damn door now our nearest neighbor was about a mile and a half because there were wooded areas between us and I took that carrier and I walked to my neighbor's house where my friend Amanda lived and I I mean I wasn't crying I was upset I I was afraid because I didn't know if she was going to come behind me in the vehicle and

try to run me I just didn't know you can't trust her it was the look on her eye if the look on her face it was I've never seen I call it shark eyes they look like sharks whenever they get like that. Her eyes in general were traumatizing enough. Right. And my feelings were right. She was. Is this thing on? All right, gentlemen, coming to main stage next. This is Bunny.

Get up there. She's got a tornado of titties coming your way. Get those dollar bills ready. She's got an ass that shakes like Michael J. Fox. So get up there and throw, throw, throw dude that is fucking iconic it's on an episode because it continued for a few days not because of me i was nowhere near her but just calling people in the family all hours of the night and just you know just doing these did she use drugs oh no no she did not smoke no drink nothing the only thing she took was her medication for her bipolar or depression right and or both that's that's it

gotcha you know she was one of these christians that don't you know right if if she's seen you smoking a cigarette or me smoking a cigarette it would be like you're going to hell. It would straight tell you you're going to hell. That's how my stepmom was. She was this perfect Christian Southern woman who was just mentally ill and the most judgmental woman I've ever met in my life. And would use religion as a complete weapon. I have religious trauma because of what I went through. Oh, yes.

It's very, people don't talk about religious trauma enough it is brutal literally I live with anxiety every day about death and like that's just a whole another subject but yeah it's just women who hide behind that just it baffles me I don't understand she used to tell me this is it took me a while to get over my anxiety about driving a vehicle I didn't get my license when I was 16. I was scared. I didn't even get my license at 18, 19, 20. I was in my early 20s before I got my driver's license because she told me that God told her that I was going to die in a car accident because I didn't honor her. That was really big to her honor her terrible honor thy mother like the bible

says yeah so i had such fear of driving a vehicle because of that wow it was it's horrible that is terrible she is i if i could fight your mom i would so after she kicked you out where do you go from here i called my son's biological grandmother i did his mom um because even though he had broken my little heart she never did she i'm so happy you had these other women that were so good to you she would check on she'd call me and check on me and she came down there to that hospital and held that grandbaby and she said oh my god he looks just like garrett you know she knew instantly that was her grandbaby yeah and she was the best grandma to my son until unfortunately she passed away um and gibson has her name roxanne tattooed on his arm because he was in elementary school when she passed

but my son was her light in her life she loved everything about him yeah uh so I called her um and I said Miss Roxanne I'm sorry but I I don't know what to do and I don't know where to go but me and Gibson have just been thrown out of my mama's house and i don't know what to do she said give me your address i'm on my way and she drove all the way from biloxi mississippi wow um about six o'clock in the evening and came and picked us up now this is where it gets really bad um i move in with sam and garrett but we, we're, we're not in a relationship. We're not. I mean, I think he even had a girlfriend at the time.

I love how you laugh every time you say his name. Oh, I just want to knock him out sometimes. But, um, he, so we were living together, but we did not have a relationship. We were just, we were really best friends is what it was. Right. Um, both of us. Sometimes that's what you need to make it work. Well,

I thought it, I looked back at it now and I think it's really cool that both of us at those young ages were able to realize that we didn't want to be together, but we had this baby. So we was just going to be best friends for life. That's literally how it went down. That's amazing that you guys both could do that. Oh yeah. oh yeah oh yeah so and he knew how much his mama just loved me right and loved his baby you know okay so i'm living there for about a month month and a half

and all of a sudden miss roxanne gets a knock at the door and she's thinking don't nobody even know we're even living here because if i'm remembering right they were living in that apartment while they were building the house right so not a lot of people knew they even lived there right she looks through the peephole and it's the the biloxi police so she's thinking garrett has done went and did something stupid you know because he used to be a little wild back when he was 16 17. think now he's he's probably 18 18 and a half so she's thinking he done did something so she opens the door and says is this about my son and he said no ma'am um we need to see if you have ophelia and then you know gave him a maiden

name and she says well she's right here and i'm feeding the baby and i was like me so i get up and walk over there and i was like what do you need me for you know i'm feeding the baby and i was like me so i get up and walk over there and i was like what do you need me for you know i'm like why is the police wanting me she had to cover her eyes my mother because the evil lion canine person she is called the youth center in mobile because she didn't want me telling anybody that she threw me and this baby out on the street so she called them and told them that i was a runaway so the police officer comes in and sits down and roxanne is like runaway i had to go and get her because she was sitting at the neighbor's house with my grandson with nowhere to go right she absolutely not didn't run away she has no money she has nothing right um and i'm just crying i'm like what is what do you have to do with me i don't understand back then when you

reported a juvenile as a runaway you had to be brought into that facility that's what happened to me so he told her he said well i'm sorry miss roxanne i believe you i believe y'all are telling the truth but you do have to go and turn her in within 24 hours or you will be harboring a runaway i feel like the state does not protect children no they because i would literally be in fistfights with my stepmom and have to leave the house because i was getting my face put through doors and they would report me as a runaway cops would find me and bring me right back send you right back and it's like it's just a cycle that doesn't stop and they don't you know i feel like that there needs to be more of some sort of like a a law that's passed that where the parents have to be investigated also.

If you call to report your child as a runaway, okay, well, why are they habitually running away? You know, let's investigate the home. Let's see what we can do to help these children instead of just putting them right back in. I can't agree more. I mean, they do. They will send them back to the same environment. Yeah. You know, and I agree if a child continues to run away, damn it, there's a reason for

that. Absolutely. No child is just going to leave home because they have such a great life, you know, like they're leaving, they're running away from something. Isn't that crazy? They don't do that. It does need to change. Yeah, it definitely does.

So what did they, what did she have to do? Did she bring you down to the, with the baby or did they did what did she have to do did she bring you down to me down there the next morning or did they get the baby oh my god the next morning we piled up in the car uh garrett took off work because even he was concerned because he was like you know again we we were friends and um we get down there and now ro Roxanne was a spitfire. Okay. She would tell you. Can't have a name like Roxanne and not be a spitfire. She would tell you off in a hot minute.

You know, anytime we showed up, she'd be on that porch with her Virginia slams. Just wanting you to say something. Thank you to her. You know, right. So she gets in there and she's demanding to speak to whoever's running this place. And, you know, she wasn't being irate. She was like, I need you to understand what is happening here type of a situation. Yeah.

Just going to bat for you. Yeah. So they bring an investigator in and the investigator listens. He says, well, you know, can you can you prove that you didn't run away and you know your mother says that you you that you have also you ran away and then came back and took a tv and i said took a tv like like broke in and took it and he said yes and i said what do you i don't what i said i don't even have a vehicle like yeah i said was i walking down the street with this you know at this point i'm like oh sir come on like i can't

yeah like this is too much yeah here's what happened um you know my son couldn't go to kid jail with me right um so i i gave temporary guardianship to Roxanne so that I could do what needed to be done. And it even said on there, this was only for during the time I was there, you know, all that kind of stuff. But in case she needed to take him to the doctor or something, I wanted him to be with her and her only. Right. Right. So court comes and Roxanne had gotten in touch with my brother, my daddy's son. And she says, you need to do something.

You're the big brother. Your daddy's not here no more. Why are y'all not even doing anything to help me? Oh, she acted up on him. Get him, Roxanne. So he says, you're right. You know, I guess let me do something court comes my mother doesn't show up shocking and i was able to be emancipated wow that day i just got goosebumps so at seven was i 17 yet almost 17 i was able to be emancipated oh that's so amazing there was nothing she could do

ever again she could not she couldn't do anything i could live wherever i wanted i could do whatever i wanted control you nothing then roxanne does a little bit so i was able to leave that day right and the second i walked out the door i was where's my baby? Where's my baby? And it was perfect. I mean, thank goodness. Did you cry? Oh, yes. All I wanted was to just love on my baby.

And he just knew who I was. He knew who I was. Your mama. And I asked her, I said, how do you think? Because I stayed stayed there I want to say it was three months or something that I remember um because we you have to wait for court right and uh one time oh you were in the juvenile facility for almost three months almost three months holy shit there was one court date that she didn't show up but she rescheduled so I had to sit there she was doing that on purpose because she knew I couldn't leave out of there until so when she didn't show up a second time she wasn't aware

that the state just ripped me from her because they probably caught on to what she was doing and gave me my own authority um but I found out fromxanne i was like how do you think he remembers me and she said honey i've been showing him your picture every night saying mom okay every night when we're rocking his milk bottle that she just was good what a great woman um so what happens with your mom did you ever go back home after you were emancipated you were like fuck that never dealing with this again my life starts to move on a little bit. Yes. And then I'm about 17 and a half, and I go to a teen nightclub.

I get a babysitter. I go to a teen nightclub, and I'm standing on the stairs, and I feel somebody touching my back, and I turn around, and it's my future husband that's who it is um just goof totally not my type this is the first husband right this is my first okay just goofy goofies I don't know what and um you know told me he had an identical twin brother which he does yeah um so we start dating the reason I think i just kind of loved him is the way that he was to gibson no um he was very good to him and i also fell in love with his family

his dad who was pretty much my daddy today that's papa ronnie um they they just adopted me in gibson no they it was never a day that they didn't treat us like family right being around them right um and i walked in there and i told papa this was before he became you know papa ronnie i walked in there i said look i'm about to turn 18. I'm going to marry your son. I did it just like this. I said, I'm going to marry your son. He said, no, no, no. Y'all, y'all too young. Y'all just wait a minute. Well, his twin brother had just gotten married, had a baby on the way. And we were just set on getting married and being together and, you know, starting our life with, you know, like Lonnie and

Heather, the twin and his wife. Um, and Papa Ronnie said, well, I can't stop you if that's what you want to do. So we did, we went down there to the courthouse that December, I got pregnant that December, um, with my daughter. Uh, She was born early too due to preeclampsia. Now everything was going fine with him. How were you feeling during this time? Were you finally happy?

Did you have peace? I was happy. I had a husband. I had a dad. A good dad for Gibson. I had this family. This man that reminded me of my dad yeah you know one of the greatest men ever yeah uh you know completely devoted his life to his kids and grandchildren and you know I'd I'd come in the door and Gibson already be sitting on his lap calling him papa it was a dream for me yeah it was a dream for me everything you deserve and I thought this is it this this is my

life now this is my life um and then things just started to change he my first husband lost his mother due to a brain aneurysm um October of um 96 I think it it wasn't long after excuse me i'm sorry 1998 um so it'd been about eight months before i met him right he did he never came back from that he just never came back from that um he started doing drugs um where i didn know, you know what I mean? Like behind my back, I didn't know he had a problem. Then he started getting like he'd run out of them and not be able to find them and go into withdrawal. And then I would be the attack bunny for it, you know. Then I get pregnant again.

Was it physical abuse? Yeah. pregnant again was it physically physical abuse yeah so it was a domestic violence relationship the first physical time it happened i just had beige so it was maybe right after we'd been together a year i would think been married a year because we was only together six months he was putting his hands on you before his mom passed away this was after i never got a chance to meet his mother okay gotcha she passed before we met by eight months prior to us meeting okay gotcha um so yeah we were together about six months and then um we went down there and got married at the courthouse because he told me he said if we get married at the courthouse I'll give you a big old wedding on our fifth anniversary and that he did he kept

his promise yeah was we should we have been having a wedding back then no no you should see those pictures of me oh no I was in the worst condition ever oh no with you know my eating disorder and I look at those pictures and it is scary to me how just thin and frail I was. Did you pick up the eating disorder as a child or is this something you bottled as a child? It came, and I feel I have every right to blame my mama for this. Oh, for sure. The first time that I recognized that I might have been affected by her words like this, I was somewhere around nine, ten years old.

Dance was my life. I all love it. Tap, jazz, ballet. Oh, man. And I went big with it. I went all the way to point. I mean, I was a real ballerina. I loved it.

It came time for my recital at the end of the year everybody's got those may and june recitals yes and my dance teacher told me she said when you get home tell your mom i need your measurements so i can send a man for the costume i said okay i'll tell her well i did i got there and i said mama you got to measure me for the dance costume. So I stood in front of her. We were in the living room by our chair and I stood in front of her. She brings that fabric measure out.

She measures all this. She gets down to my hips and my thighs and proceeds to tell me that they are too big for my age. are too big for my age and then starts restricting my dinners at night time but telling my dad you know i wasn't hungry or i'm starting to go through puberty so my appetite has changed right just making up anything wow she was projecting her own thoughts and insecurities onto me. Absolutely, yeah. The entire time I was growing up, she would always, do you think I look pretty today? Do you think I've gained some weight? It's very vain. Very, very, was very.

It's part of the narcissism. Yes, that's right. Yeah. But whatever it was, at at that moment something triggered in me something triggered in me um when she started restricting the the food at night time then i started doing it at lunchtime at school yeah i just pick little pieces subconsciously you wanted her approval you know oh it has to be from that. Yeah.

It has to be. Definitely. I grew up with an eating disorder, too. It took me until last year when I started working with a nutritionist that I'm eating more now than I ever have in my entire life. And it was, I still have to fight it. You know, like every day is a battle and people don't understand how bad eating disorders really affect you and they stick it consumes your life absolutely every i had the worst relationship with food up until a year ago i i would starve myself and i couldn't lose weight and i'd never

and i would train five days a week and couldn't put on muscle didn't understand why and it was because of things that you were conditioned as a child to think that's right you know that comes back and just rears its ugly head and just follows you your entire life it was very it was to go through ed and because i've also been diagnosed with body dysmorphia and that is a struggle lord have mercy the hardest time for me was when i was fine when i was pregnant with gibson i was fine i mean i was a little bitty old thing i was a baby um when i got when i got pregnant with those other three babies with my first husband i had gained so much weight I'd gained over 80 100 pounds yeah her pregnancy well it was so difficult for me to deal with both of those disorders during my pregnancy I couldn't imagine and after would

you believe that after I had Randen which is the baby child that I as I, as soon as I got to the room, I started lifting up my hospital, get looking at my body, trying to thinking like I legit just had a baby and I was going to come out of there looking a certain size. I was holding up my gown, looking at my body to see what it looked like because I was so consumed with that oh my goodness it was it's I feel for anybody that has to deal with you know an eating disorder or body

dysmorphia or both yeah and going through the pregnancy in the aftermath it is so difficult I couldn't imagine I and that's probably another reason why I have, I've decided to not have kids on my own because one, I just mentally can't handle the hormones. And secondly, I just, the body, the body dysmorphia, I couldn't, I couldn't imagine going through that and then just having to fight those demons. They say that, uh, you know, a lot of women that struggle with eating disorders, um, hold on, I'm starting to get emotional again this whole podcast has been so like therapeutic for me they say that women who struggle with eating disorders it's our way of controlling because everything else around us was so chaotic that controlling our food intake and how we look and you know our weight is a way of just having some sort of control over our lives because we've

been through so much shit so i don't know if that ever applies to you no it's 100 accurate so the abuse that were you was he abusing you while you were pregnant also no no okay never never while i was pregnant uh and he never abused our children he never he wouldn't lay a hand i don't think you would let that happen though either hell no hell no you're you're from small and mighty but you are fierce look he might have been a shitty husband right but he loved them babies right like they were his life yeah he just had problems yeah that ultimately led to him passing away right oh and did he overdose well um it is so hard to answer this uh we don't know um Um, he was found in a vehicle on Mother's Day, 2019. He was found laying in his vehicle, a Tahoe, laying down in the back seat with just a pair

of boxers on and a female that we didn't know. Of course, we've learned now she was a beautiful person. She was in the front seat. Both of them were already gone the toxicology and i won't speak on her but the toxicology on him he had about 14 different drugs in his system the the death certificate says smoke inhalation but let me let me explain it like this the way the vehicle went off the road it didn't hit nothing right it didn't hit anything right it's like the car just drove and parked in somebody's corner of their yard the vehicle catches on fire how did these two individuals um pass out at the same time and none of it neither one of them

had those kind of drugs that would do that to you right might not add which would be heroin right fentanyl something stuff yeah neither one of those had that in their system okay so they didn't have any kind of drug that would do that to them right i can understand if you had two people maybe iv drug users they do it at the same time they not and then something happens to the vehicle i don't know but they didn't have that wow so somehow both of them pass out at the same time no damage to the vehicle okay the vehicle catches on fire and they both die due to smoke. Sounds like a, sounds like a setup almost like somebody like something there was foul play and then somebody burned the car to make it look like that.

Papa Ronnie, his dad has been nonstop with detectives and, um, you know, the fire chief. Papa Ronnie is still around. Oh yes. Oh yes. I mean, he's, and then COVID hits, of course, you know the fire chief papa ronnie's still around oh yes oh yes i mean he's and then covid hits of course you know because randy the ex-husband passed in 2019 then covid happens right so a lot of these courthouses and things like that papa ronnie you know had to put a halt

on it because of code of covid but now that things are getting better around the world, he's now speeded up the process on this investigation stuff. So death certificate says smoke inhalation. We don't know. We just, it's so bizarre. It's got to be hard for your kids too. Yeah. It was.

Because you guys had three together and then Gibson, right? It was devastating. It was, it was because you guys had three together and then gibson right it was devastating it was it was devastating yeah you know he you know when he passed he was in much worse shape right i left him you know when did you guys split we split um uh 2004 okay five something like that Derek and I got married on our four year together anniversary which was 2010 right I'm terrible at math yeah me too we met about a year so bad with dates we met about a year later um I have a heating pad on after um we met about a year later after Randy and I divorced right um and he and I divorced this is hubby now yes Derek is my husband now um but Randy and I like we got a divorce and left the courthouse and went and ate lunch together right it was it was just time yes you guys did it like adults correct um and

he's the one that always said you know I was I was a crappy husband, but I'm a good dad. Yeah. Hands down. Oh. He just could not be faithful. He couldn't leave the drugs alone. He couldn't do a lot of things. He had a serious sex addiction.

Yeah. That is. They usually go hand in hand with drugs. Yes. That is the only reason why I was pregnant the whole time. that we were married you know um that and i guess the lord in the universe had a plan for me to have these four but um yeah so that was very exhausting to deal with yeah that led to him having multiple affairs that led to him, let me try to put this right. That led to me doing things to please him.

Okay. That I would never do in my marriage today. You know? Yeah. It's probably from the drug use because they get real, it's like depravity, you know, just like really just grotesque sex acts because it just it's a it's a high that they're chasing they just want to get deeper and deeper and deeper into he was so dangerous with it though like when i finally filed i was what can i have an example like meet somebody

at a strip club and have unprotected sex with him in the backseat of his car oh and then come home to you and then come home this man these men just have that respect that's dangerous right now you're putting my life at risk absolutely okay like i was going i was constantly like every time i would find out there's been another one there's been another one he obviously wasn't good at this cheating situation oh he not that anybody needs to be good at cheating i'm not condoning it at all i never had to find out because he would feel so bad and come and tell me it's kind of abusive with tear yes with tears down his face you know he was he he was addicted to sex yeah he couldn't quit he didn't know how to quit

he didn't know how to deal with it so then he's taking drugs on top of that lortabs and vicodin and you know you know pain pills and whatever so he would feel terrible yeah and just come home and say i'm so sorry you you you can leave me if you want to this is what i did you know it was just constant up and down up and down and it it i loved him dearly i did but i really wanted to help him yeah you wanted to save him yeah i really think i stayed as long as i did for that dadgum family yeah i loved that family and I ain't missed a Christmas since I have been at every family function since then you know um but then I meet Derek yeah no we divorce and you know I I meet Derek and he meets his soon-to-be second wife

now um the kids spent a lot of time over there like it they were back and forth at our houses it was never they were at my house and then they go to him every week uh-uh no no they could have been at dad's for two weeks straight and then at mine for a week right it was it was so off of a schedule right well it was just you tried to keep it like a family yes you didn't want to be like court ordered to have to be somewhere because that's when it starts getting like weird and just feeling institutionalized it was it's it was too stressful yeah like that yeah you know um so him and him and his new girlfriend um they don't have a good relationship. They just get worse together. And it really sucked because Randy and I had a conversation, um, you know, a couple of months after we divorced and we both

agreed we need to do better on our next marriages. Right. Everything that we messed up on this one let's promise to be better on the second one right and i was like you know that was his idea and i said you're right i'm gonna do that you know so i always wished yeah that whoever he loved next that he would be faithful and he would be honest and authentic and because he had a good heart damn sure had a good heart yeah but he he didn't the drugs got worse the sex addiction got worse the violence got worse then i i just loved her as a friend so then i'm worried about her now yeah his new the new wife and then it really sucks to be the ex-wife on the phone with the new wife consoling her and because i know everything she's telling me right because i lived

she's in my old life right you know yeah it's terrible it's terrible that's so selfless of you though to still be there you know and try to support and just love them through all the toxicity. I wanted them to be okay. I wanted them to be happy like me and Derek was, you know, let's talk about Derek. Oh, he's a mess. He is such a mess. How did you guys meet? I had a passion party. What's a passion party? I had a passion party. What's a passion party? Like adult toys. Oh, okay.

Penises and dolls and all of that. We love that. I was not trying to date anybody. I wasn't looking for nobody. What was he doing at a passion party? Well, here's the thing, though. I think they tricked us. but apparently we had the same common friends right for years right but had never met each other which is quite around

the same circle um one of my friends that was there Tracy there during this time that I had left my mother's house at 16 you know I lived with the grandmother for a little while I lived with them for a little while. These were all the little families I stayed with until I met Randy and moved completely in with their family. And that's kind of like how my life started in adulthood. Okay, so Tracy, everybody kind of knew each other. So Tracy invited me to this passion party. And I said, well, what the hell do I need to go to a passion party for she said I said I don't have a boyfriend she said that's exactly why you need to go have her

you know um I have some toys mama taught I told her no a million times till she got on my damn right and I said fine I'm going I'm going um it was a co-ed and it was for couples. They all had invited Derek, the guys, and the girls had invited me. So when everybody shows up, the only two people that were there that were not in a committed relationship was Derek and myself. Definitely a setup. I was big on passion parties because they are just hilarious they are so fun um i am very open like that so they're they're literally right up my alley yeah um does mama tot get freaky yes of course i do i love i love bd bdism that's what i call it bd oh bdsm i call it bdism get the out of here. I call it that because I got drunk one

time and I was 24 and called it BDSM. And it's been that name ever since. Yes, I love it. I mean, not an everyday thing. Right. Yes, of course. So when you say BDS or BDSM, let's use Mama Todd's word. When you say that, what do you mean? Like whips and chains? Do you like being tied up all of it I like to be completely submissive dominated that all of it I love that all of it yes I could I could never be a dom I know me either I love being submissive too but it is very attractive when my husband comes home off the road on a Friday night and walks past me and says, get your ass in the shower. Oh, love that. Clothes fall off. Okay. I love Oh, yes, I love it all. I love that. I think that really everybody should experiment the things that they like. I think they should experiment with the things that they think they never would do I always tell everybody try something once and if you like it do it twice exactly because how are

you going to be able to tell your partner yeah what you like if you don't even know what the hell you like absolutely you know so yeah I'm all for that stuff I love it yeah um so we went and it got time to play the games and they paired us together. I had been eyeballing him across the room. He had been eyeballing me at just different times. Nothing like sex toys, bringing a couple together. Yeah. I love that. Because it already starts off kinky.

It was hilarious because everybody was drinking and I had to blindfold him. And he was sitting on a couch and i went to blindfold him and i i shit you not the second i looked at him in his eyes to blindfold him i knew i was gonna love him one day i don't know how i felt it i felt it i believe it that's how it was when i met jelly i felt it i just knew it um and then that's it he called me a couple couple days, or it might have been the next day, I don't know, and we were together ever since. And how long have you guys been together now? We just celebrated back in March together 16 years.

Wow. And married for 12. Wow. Yeah, married for 12. We got married back in 2010, but we got married on our four-year together anniversary. So now that's our wedding. He don't have any children of his own. I cannot have children anymore because back when I was married to Randy, I got my tubes tied.

Because everything that was going on, I just didn't want to get pregnant again. Right, yeah. I mean, you had to protect yourself somehow. And for me, getting the tubes was so it was such a breeze I mean I I literally woke up the next day like I did nothing right it was very easy you're like I'm free no more child childbearing days so childbearing days are behind me had I known that I was going to get a divorce and I was going to meet this lovely man with no children, I would have never,

you know, gotten my tubes tied, but it wasn't everything in our cards works out how it's supposed to be. Yeah. It's just not in our car. It's your turn to, uh, kind of be selfless and enjoy your time with your husband.

You have spent your entire life taking care of other people's emotions, their feelings, tiptoeing around life to make sure everybody else is happy oh yeah and this is your time to just be and just be happy and now look what you're doing i know i told my youngins that the other day same thing i said look y'all grown now yeah okay get the hell away from me y'all don't need y'all need me to make no doctor's appointment right you've got google on your smartphone be smart yeah yeah it is you know for for Derek to um not even be around anybody's youngins when he met me and just kind of bounce in our life with these four small little children it's a built-in family you know he didn't skip a

beat with them he has been at every important you know everything everything with them and you deserve that i will say um since their dad has passed my daughter has been like you know just real real close to him no that's right that's the next thing that she has to a father that is right and what a great guy to have you know to take the place of you know her dad who probably wasn't was he there for her in the last few years of his addiction and stuff yeah he wasn't um they would hear from him once every six months probably and i asked randy that right before he passed actually i said why do you stay away yeah why you know they have their own phones you you know why do you stay away and he said because I'm embarrassed yeah a lot of addicts do that Bailey's mom isn't it well was she's doing amazing

now so I never I want to always give her her flowers but you know for the first five years that we had Bailey she would not come around and she would disappear and you know the hardest thing is trying to explain to a kid you know why why doesn't my mom want to call me? Why won't she just come and see me, you know, and addicts stay away because they're just ashamed, you know? And I think it's almost like a blessing that they do that though, because have, if they showed up all intoxicated, don't you think that would be a little bit more trauma for the child too? I mean, it sucks both ways around, you know, but it's like, do you want them to see their parent in that state or just have them stay away? You know? So I think, yeah, totally. Let's talk about Mama Tot on TikTok. Yes. How did this start? Because you are literally

like a phenomenon on TikTok. By accident. You have an army behind you. Oh, they are something else. You have an army behind you. Oh, they are something else. Are they not hilarious? They are something else. They love Mama Tott. I'm just going to readjust your mic. It's kind of over the time. Thank you, Maya.

Yay. Your army loves you. Like, they love Mama Tott. And I remember the first time I came across you. I remember thinking to myself, who is this sweet lady that reminds me of Dolly Parton and Steel Magnolias? Like total compliment. Absolutely. I mean, I'm a Dolly Parton fan. Everybody knows that. But just the way you carry yourself just your empathy just your compassion and I literally was just like

follow and I've been following you ever since and this was probably about two years ago maybe year and a half two years ago almost almost two years yeah how long have we been on TikTok because I fought getting on TikTok for the longest time probably a year and a half yeah okay so yeah almost two years ago

that I started following you and I just see I love what you're doing like and I don't even think you know how you said earlier about Jay that he doesn't even realize you know how many people he touches right I think you're in the same situation like you are that same human. You are literally. Probably. Because I don't see myself as anybody other than Derek's wife, my kid's mama, just some lady from Mobile, Alabama. You know, I don't see myself as anything other than that. And Rissa, you met my friend earlier, said the same thing. She said, Opie, you know, you can't just be going to the dollar store with your hair in curlers no more.

Like people are going to, they see you as somebody that they look up to. Absolutely. You are a role model and a good one because Lord knows there's a lot of people that have a platform that should not have a platform you know very and just toxic and it's like you are just a breath of fresh air you said this happened by accident yes what how first of all how did you get on tiktok my youngins yeah you know they kept sending me tiktok videos you know They love, they know I love funny stuff because I, I'm a total comedian, comedian fan. Yeah. I mean, there's so many comics in the world that I'm a fan.

I love comedy. Yeah. So they would send me these funny TikToks and finally I'm like, what the hell is this app? Let me open this app. Well, it wouldn't let me go any further than just that video until I created an account. let me go any further than just that video until I created an account so I created the account and then a whole new world opened I was like okay this is nice this is funny it's like comedy at your hands it is literally people are literally inviting you into their lives of everything

absolutely so that's how I started an account just to get in, you know, to the TikTok world. Right. Um, how my niche started, which is, you know, and I hate to call it a niche because this is literally like just who I am as a person, but I didn't, I didn't realize so many people needed it, but, um, I was sitting at work one day because I had been in the furniture business for about 15 years. You know, furniture sales. And I was the operations manager for two stores and the store manager for that particular one. So I had a lot going on. Right.

Boss, your boss baby. Yes. I seen this video. I didn't even know how to stitch duet make a tiktok yeah i knew how to make a tiktok just recording post right but i didn't know anything that went into it okay so i see this video pop up um and it's of this girl she gets a new dress and all she wants to do is show her mama how beautiful she looked in this dress and that she did but when she shows it to her mom she got the complete opposite she got you're too big for that that's not for your body type take it off i seen this video i sent it to my daughter because I did know how to share

I sent it to my daughter I said tell me how to how to make it where I can say something first I mean the video first and then it goes into me yeah it took my daughter all the five minutes to train me on how to stitch okay I got up I walked in the break room at the furniture store because I was looking at myself with her. Right. That's how my mama was. Absolutely. Would tell me I was too fat. Would tell me that's not the right color.

All of that. And I said, I can't do this. I have to tell her how fucking beautiful she looks in this dress. Yeah. So I stitched it. She was on first. so I stitched it she was on first and I stitched it and all I really said was I had a mama like that too honey and as I got older I quit listening to that heifer because I did and then I said I think you look lovely in your dress all of it you know

and I hit the post button and I went back to my desk and it was ding ding ding ding ding ding ding because at the time I had the notifications on right oh yeah you can't keep because I wanted to know if my one friend on TikTok was saying hello yeah um and I realized at that moment what viral looked like because within about 45 minutes it was at 700,000 views. Wow. And still today, it's my highest viewing video. When I started reading the comments, it was, I wish I had a mom like that. It was, if my mama would have raised me, I wouldn't have felt this awful about myself. It was, oh, she's so sweet. the number one comment I seen the most of was

I feel safe right here oh honey that's all it took I thought that's it I can help people feel better about themselves yeah using my account to do that because I've always been this way I've just only been able to help one person at a time, you know, face to face with a social media platform. You can help thousands at one time. Absolutely. That's amazing. You know, so I told my husband right then I said, that's it, honey. Uh, that's how I can help people with things. I can share my own stories I can you know make sure that nobody goes a day without knowing how important they are here like your life has a purpose even when you lay down at nighttime and don't feel that way yeah you you you have a space here absolutely um

and it just took off from there that's that's that's how it took off. But I started that video by saying, Hey, my little tater tot. That's where the tater tots come from. That's where mama tot came from. That's where the army has now recruited thousands of people. Millions, not thousands, mama. That's how it happened. So have you ever stopped to think that you're a combination of the women who made you feel safe and that you're giving back what they gave to you

when you were a child 100 yeah 100 um i have taken so many little things from miss jenny you know uh from sarah's mama from lee's mama miss vicky from roxanne from all these people that are from my mother-in-law from all these women who kind of molded me into who i am today i took a lot from my daddy as far as being a good person and sticking up for people um you know back on religion my my mother tried my mother was extremely homophobic i'm talking the worst the worst and my daddy wasn't right you know my dad was a good old christian man but my daddy was not homophobic right my daddy said they're people too and just because they love somebody a little different don't mean shit that's what he told me in the vehicle one day right um I'd gotten in the car with him he was taking me to go get some new school

clothes and I had told him what my mama said and I told him I said mama said that gay people are gonna go to hell I think that's how i said it and mama said i can't be friends with anybody if they're gay or if they tell me they're gay at school my daddy looked at me and he said don't you listen to that shit he said you can be friends with whoever the hell you want to be friends and they are not going to hell your mama's just crazy it's funny how he was yes my dad was hilarious actually um but he would shut her down he didn't like that he did not like her saying things it's crazy that such a good man put up with such a wild woman says that yeah everybody says that where is mom now she lives about 15 minutes from

me evil lives forever it's crazy right like i have not seen i have not seen her you know a lot of people don't realize that i didn't like not ever talk to my mama again after she threw me out the house right of course i did i had forgiven her and allowed her back in oh so many times and then she just shows herself each time thinking of myself it'll be better this time right it'll be different this time it never was different right and she did something really bad in that first or second year relationship with Derek before we got married she did something really bad that I just was like I'm done can we talk about what she did yeah we can talk about it um I was at a you know WWE wrestling okay

my boys loved them and there's a little loved them and I had let my mama back into my life and I had gotten tickets I think it was I don't know if it was Randy the ex-husband or Papa Ronnie the grandpa who got the boys and myself tickets for the WWE show yeah I can't remember but somehow we got the tickets from one of them um me and Derek because this was right when Derek and I first got together um we took the boys to WWE and beige I get confused at this story but I'm almost positive this house this house went um my daughter stayed there my mother I allowed my mother to watch her i'm almost positive because there's there were two incidents that happened almost back to back right um and anyway regardless i i was nowhere in her home nowhere i was nowhere near her right okay she went into an episode

to an episode called the police in the city and told them that i abused her that i attacked her in her home okay so when me and derrick pull into the driveway with my boys i see the police there i freak out because i think something's wrong with my daughter right I'm like oh my god what's happened I jump out of the car and I start running Derek too with the kids and I open up the door and I'm like mom they you know I'm just going crazy and I see her standing there and as soon as she sees me she takes her face and does this and says get her out of here and I'm like what what are you are you talking about? Where's my daughter? Because I didn't see that. Well, Baze was asleep. That's why. But she did her face like this and said, get her out of here. They handcuffed me. They handcuffed me, honey, because she told them that I had attacked, physically harmed her and that I had left the property. So to them, it looked like I'm just coming back, I guess.

I don't know. I have no idea. But they took me to jail. Wow. Long story short, I won my case. I mean, I won. This went to court and everything? Oh, hell yeah, I was taken into court.

Hell yeah. You ain't gonna lie on me, honey. Yeah. Because if I'm gonna put my hands on you, I'm gonna tell them I put my hands on you. Yeah, for sure. Okay? Yeah. Oh, yeah. I yeah oh yeah i took

it i took it all the way up how do your kids feel about her they remember moments of her right when they got into middle school i kind of gave them the authority that they could make that decision themselves right because that is their only biological living grandmother right they chose no well they remembered some things because they were old enough to remember it. Wow. Now, at that time, I did not go into details about everything she did to me. I just told them that I couldn't have her around me because she was not good to me. Right.

So they don't really know the extent of what, you know, she did. know the extent of what you know she did but the thing with my mother is crazy because lying to the police and making up a story like that to get one of her children arrested yeah is a thing for her she's did it to my brother i had to go bail my brother out my sibling my sister had to come down from florida and show up for court and say look she has a history of this like this is not true it's yeah but i i won my case and it was never on my record the judge apologized to me um i was apologized by two of the police officers wow um at the court hearing after it went to trial i had to have my attorney um show proof that just recently she was in a mental

hospital. I'm sorry. I had to use that, but I had to prove to them that this was a history with her. Right. Okay. Yeah. Um, but once she did that, I was, I'm done. Yeah. You cannot your whole life. she did that i was i'm done yeah you cannot your whole life you i can't be around you there's no telling what you will do what if you call the police and tell them i'm trying to poison your food or something yeah or do something worse and poison yourself and blame it on me and then write a note and say if you find me dead my daughter did it yeah like we can't risk that yeah that's crazy i won't do it i won't have it has she seen you on tiktok or is she too old for that um i have heard she has um i heard she seen me on that game show with jay leno that i did back in august um

i i don't talk to anybody that is connected to her side of the family. Associated with her. Yeah. I understand that. Just, just my big sis. Yeah. Laurie, you know. Yeah.

Um, her and I are like this. I love my big sister. Yeah. Um, that's it. Yeah. Um, my grandmother's passed away. She was just as bad. Mm-hmm. Um, you know, even, it's just, I don't know what the issue is with those people right with

that genetic line right you're breaking the generational curses though it stops with you i don't want my kids around this madness yeah you know what do your kids think about you on tiktok they it's always a catch-22 with the kids when it when the account started growing like you know 400,000 followers 700,000 followers they were like mom you hit it you know 700,000 and you know whatnot and now they don't even don't even pay attention right they are so used to their friends coming up to them saying hey can I come over and see your mom you know they're so used to that it just it don't even bother them anymore yeah it doesn't phase them um you know they love what you're doing though do they love the message they're very proud of me good very proud of me are you proud of you yeah but I need people to understand that you know just because I'm

loving and kind and and you know I want the best for that does not mean I will not cuss your ass out right okay no I think everybody knows that about you I'm gonna stick up for my kids I'm gonna stick up look do not mess with my husband my kids my dogs or my mom okay um have i made mistakes being a mama hell yeah i have absolutely i've made a million of them you know it's just i'm not perfect and i'm never gonna be perfect you can still be proud of yourself and the woman that you are definitely proud yes but i just don't want people to think that i'm this this perfect mama that just has never made no mistake in life. I have been drunk flipping down the sidewalks. I've snorted a line of cocaine.

Not you. I mean, I have a past. You know, when I went through that divorce with Randy, I damn near lost my shit. You just went buck wild. I went wild. divorce with Randy I damn near lost my shit yeah okay you just went buck wild I went wild I lost my mind I needed somebody to reel my ass in okay no but I actually think you needed it after all the shit you went through and then you ended up having three more kids went through a crazy marriage it was time for you to let your freak flag fly it was flying honey it was flying high um so yes i mean i did things that i'm not proud of but that's what makes you who you are people don't uh look at people who are perfect as role models

they look at people who are perfectly imperfect you know and that's what everybody loves about you is they know that you've been through some shit they know that you know even my following and that's what i try to preach too is you know people know that we come from some fucked up ass shit but we are trying our best to be better humans and that's what people love about you and this you know this empire that you've built is admirable. You know, you just. I love that. I pray for them every day. Yeah. And I know not, you know, not everybody believes in the Lord. And everybody has their own spiritual journeys.

And they know I love them. But I pray for them every day that they are okay. And that they know how much but to know how much i love them like for somebody that just didn't have that family i needed i damn sure got one now they're your family you know and they've made it where I have been able to, you know, travel this year. Yeah. They've made it where I was able to buy my first jet ski, you know, even though I had to finance it. It's okay.

They've changed my life just as much as they feel I've changed theirs. they've changed my life yeah just as much as they feel I've changed theirs I would not have this platform to even help this next person without them yeah and I really do I love them I love these complete strangers yeah all 5.6 million of them they love you I know it I I mean, yesterday I made a post about who I should have on the podcast. And you were the number one person who is in those comments, you know. And just watching what you're doing, you're literally changing the world one video at a time. And you're showing people that love is possible without judgment and in sincerity like everything you do is just sincere and the world needs more of that because everything is just so fake now and manufactured and when it comes to you it's just stripped down raw and this is you are our generation's you know

dolly parton right now dolly dolly's here but you're like a younger version you know, Dolly Parton right now. Dolly, Dolly's here, but you're like a younger version. You know, that was always something that I always said was that I was secretly trying to change the world. Yeah. You know, with COVID and the election and all these, you know, political arguments and all this other stuff that everybody was dealing with. I mean, people were losing family with COVID mean people were losing family with covid and they were losing their homes because they couldn't there was so much hurt in the world yeah a lot of people were coming to tiktok to just get a little comic relief yeah of love and comedy and just joy and you know open up that app, and I just see people having babies, getting married, and, you know, throwing their cap and gown up because they just graduated

their favorite college. You know, it's, it makes me feel good to be happy for other people. You know, I, there's not a jealous bone in my body. I will never look at someone else because they have more than me and feel a certain. No, I want to see you being successful. I want to see that. That gives me great joy. That's why people love you and why you have built the platform that you've built because people know that about you. It's very contagious too. If you keep surrounding yourself around

somebody like that, you'll start to act like that. Absolutely. I've always said smiles are contagious. Yes. What do you think, what do we, what can we expect from you in the next year? Oh, hell, I don't know. Do you have any plans you have any do you have anything that you want to do for yourself this year that you haven't been able to do this is gonna sound so corny and stupid but if i could just take my husband on a cruise i'll be happy he has wanted to go on a cruise for so long and a while while back, about half a year ago, I was trying to save secretly to surprise him with one. But these other trips came into play that was due to my social media stuff. Right.

So I had to dig into those finances to pay for some things. Right. to you know those finances to pay for some things you know right um but i just wish this year i could surprise my husband with going on a cruise for like seven days because he needs it it's i know it sounds so small but i have been trying to do this for i don't know three years but as far as like a year plan i don't know i'm just gonna continue to get up every day and do what I normally do just be me check on everybody's excellence you know I just I think you get so much with me though it's such a broad list of all these things that I give out you know you'll get advice you'll get a little pick me up you damn sure get some comedy. Not on purpose.

People just think I'm funny. The fork thing was hilarious. We were cracking up about that today. A fucking fork. I had to brush my hair with a fork. No, it was awesome. That is, but it's relatable. And that's what we need is more people who are just real and relatable.

You know, Derek called me. He said, listen, he said listen he said honey he said when I asked you yesterday if you brought everything you said you did because he knows I'm always gonna forget yeah something like the hairbrush I said I know I did but I thought I had and he said well I just want you to know I think this is damn near hilarious yeah you used a fork to brush your hair and I said well funny newsflash I got a brush this morning, so I'm fine. But I did. That was the only thing in that damn freaking room was a damn fork. I love that.

Why don't you tell everybody where they can find you on your social medias? Well, of course, on TikTok, the big mama jamma. It's under shoelover99. I do have a backup account that I post on. And that, of course course is MamaTot99 my Facebook and my Instagram and then my YouTube are all the same they're going to be Ophelia Nichols

I didn't name them anything I just used my name I figure people are going to be looking for me it's so original and I post on them daily you know sometimes I'll post a few on TikTok I'm not one of those people it's gonna be posting 15 a day you need to go to bed i don't know how they do that i can do three

or four and then i'm done who the hell has time to post 15 i don't know i have no idea i can't do it no i can't do it also that does affect your view status yeah when you post that much oh yes wow oh yes you know i have an agency so i get like some intel on like what to do and what not to do if you are posting 10 or 15 even six wow a day um and i just got this information and if you look at my account you'll see it's been changed to maybe like three a day yeah that's what i try to do i try to do three yeah day um but yes it affects it a great deal wow um and i was glad that they told me that because i didn't know yeah i didn't know yeah we think that we're just pouring out content you know and just helping people and just doing what we can my goal is to not for followers it is to reach more people right absolutely so i don't want to affect that at any point right um but but yeah just i i post on my facebook and instagram daily i wish i could

get you know my instagram i want it to be a little cooler it's a dead platform instagram will be out the window in about two years it's difficult it's on its way out they have um shadow banned us and censored us so much on that app i don't even like what posting on there yeah my account's at almost 800 000 and my reach is shit because it's like they just censor everybody you have to pay to have your uh post promoted they just they just took my manager's account. She had 20,000 people, took her account, and she's a mother of two and owns a hair salon.

Doesn't do anything bad. What the hell did they take your account for? They said she was impersonating somebody else. Excuse me? And just took her fucking account. So TikTok is the platform. Don't even worry about Instagram. I won't even bring instagram uh models

on anymore like i used to because there's just no point instagram is really just going down the drain so don't know facebook and tiktok are your are your jams yeah yeah i definitely focus a lot of time i'll do a few reels a day from uh facebook people because i just i think it's real sweet because a lot of my Facebook people um I've got like some older ones that don't do TikTok right so it's really yeah really cool to have like a different crowd over there too because I don't post the same things on every social right everything is oh I'm sorry it's original everything is is right it's different awesome so it's really cool to to see this new crowd come in and they're like, they're asking questions

about me because I think I've got like, I don't know, like 615,000 on the Facebook or something. I don't know. Yeah. But it's cool because they didn't, not all of it come from TikTok. Right. This is new people. So I'm getting to know a lot of my followers over there which is really cool

yeah they that facebook is where the real toxic people are oh they be mean as hell they are mean i'm like i wake up every day and i'm like i'm not checking those comments like i i can handle tiktok tiktok's like my writers they love me facebook they love me too i have a huge i love my people over there i'm with you i'm at like 630,000 I think um but man let me tell you there are those few that are just so insane and they say the most off the wall shit I'm just like where do you get this from you could be doing a video and have a brand of a paper towel that they don't like are you serious yeah use those yeah i can't i don't use those i use these and it's like okay okay like and yeah i had somebody the other day and i'm not used to this on tiktok um so many of my followers are like a an ally like me for lgbtq plus yeah um so i i i cannot tell you last time i've

seen a mean comment about that right um i i never really do which is wonderful you know and i think it's i don't know if they know them tater tots have come rolling in i don't know um but i had one the other day on facebook because i i forgot what kind of I think it was one of my merchandise shirts because I've got a lot of shirts that are geared towards LGBTQ plus um and here comes this asshole in there shame on you for being a Christian and oh yeah I was like man I want to go off I want to go off and I'm gonna just block your ass I hate that like here's the thing everybody knows this i do not care what like what religion or non i don't care if if you're anything right but just be keep it positive keep it g you don't have to like just because you don't agree with what somebody's doing you just

yeah you don't have to stupid yeah it's just they're a part of the problem they're why i always say that the world is turning into that movie um idiocracy like oh my god i've not seen that movie in years but if you think about it that's how people are they're like fucking neanderthals that just spew hate on keyboards all the time and it's just it's crazy pretty much ophelia i am so happy that you came by the podcast and i really want you to come back next year. And I want you to check in. And I know for a fact I'm very big on putting things into the universe that you will be taking your husband on that cruise this year.

I can't wait to see. You put it in the air. The universe is going to grab it. So you already put it in the air. But I ain't selling my shoe collection to get no money. What about what? Can we get Mama Todd on OnlyFans? You know what my husband told me the other day? Oh, is gonna blow y'all's mind do you know he told me

that i could get that i could do an only fans account as long as i was doing it for my feet does he have a foot fetish no he just loves my feet that is all but you know what you could probably and you got those you said you used to be a dancer so you probably got those ballerina feet it's crazy yeah you could probably make some money range honey i couldn't believe he said that i said babe you know there's people that really get happy over them you're okay with that and he was like I don't care he'd be making money and I'm I was really shocked that he said that so if y'all see my feet on OnlyFans don't say shit to me okay I'm trying to get this man's cruise you could listen I'm gonna kill you started OnlyFans for feet I'll

be your biggest tipper how about that I'm gonna get you that damn cruise I thought it was funny that's amazing he's precious we love him I'm maybe next get you that damn cruise. I thought it was funny. That's amazing. He's precious. We love him. Maybe next time you come bring him too. Well, he wanted to come this time. But you know, he's an owner operator. You know, drives an 18 wheeler. And because I just drug him to Florida,

he really couldn't afford to take off like another weekend or whatnot. So I said, well, I'll just take it with me. Well, next time we'll set it up to where you guys can both come because we want to see Mr. Tot too. Daddy Tot. Can we call him Daddy Tot? They call him Papa Tot. Okay so Papa Tot. He is five foot one and he is fine

as hell. He's bald headed and he's got a salt and pepper beard. Oh God I gotta get home. We gotta let Mama Tot go. Well Mama I cannot wait to have you back and I can't wait to see what you do this year. I gotta get home. We gotta let Mama Toc go. Well, Mama, I cannot wait to have you back. And I can't wait to see what you do this year. I love what you're doing. And, you know, I just, and we're going to sit back and just watch all these good things come your way.

Because you're just putting out so much good energy that it's going to come back to you tenfold. I appreciate it. And I appreciate you. I am coming back. What'd you say? I am coming back. Oh, no. You to come back to you tenfold. So I appreciate it. And I appreciate you. I am coming back. What'd you say? I am coming. Oh no, you better come back or I'm going to go down to mobile and hunch down.

You're gonna be like, who is this crazy bitch showing up on my doorstep with a microphone? Thank you guys for tuning into another episode of dumb blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.