Dumb Blonde - Perfectly Kelsey Part 2: Breakups, Broken Friendships and Babies

Episode Date: December 28, 2022

In Part 2, Perfectly Kelsey picks back up telling Bunnie how she got out of a few toxic relationships, came full circle with her baby daddy, and met Curtis. She talks about embracing motherhood with confidence and empowerment, and what she's learned from friendships that have come and gone in recent years. Kelsey opens up about wanting to have a baby, and she doesn't hold back on one ounce of spilling the piping hot tea.   Bunnie: Website  Watch Full Episodes & More: www.dumbblondeunrated.com Perfectly Kelsey: TikTok | Instagram   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Welcome to another episode of Dawn Blonde. Today I have one of my most requested guests besides Demps on the podcast. Everybody wants to know the tea. And I do believe that she's here to spill it. So we're going to definitely be sipping some fucking tea. But Kelsey Pummel, what's up, baby? How are you? I'm good. How are you? I'm good. I just got nervous. I started sweating. Tell me to shut the fuck up. Remember? So he immediately comes over and that's when he is this thing on? All right, gentlemen, coming to main stage next. This is Bunny.

Get up there. She's got a tornado of titties coming your way. Get those dollar bills ready. She's got an ass that shakes like Michael J. Fox. So get up there and throw, throw, throw them dollars. Dude, that is fucking iconic. He punched me in the throat in the side right there and then like grabs me like, it was like a punch hit. I don't fricking remember.

Grabs me up by my neck. I'm holding her. She's in preemie clothes. She was eight weeks old, but she weighed like seven pounds. Yeah. And I remember just clinging to her and him holding me up in a choke hold. And I get out of this. I remember I had scratches all over.

I get out of this and I get to the other side of the bed and I'm just trying to protect her and he comes you guys go that way so I go that way and he comes over and he rips her from my arms and I just I hate this one vision that'll never go away it's just her little head falling back I just remember her head we ripped her and I was like that's it this can't if we don't leave one of us is gonna die yeah and i can't do that i was like i gotta go i gotta get out i didn't know how i called his parents come get dude shit um so they come to help him pack he's just taking dressers and throwing them all over my room like just barely missing me like i'm just sitting in this rocking chair that's rocking that's all i did sat in this rocking chair for two months rocking this child but he's throwing these things all over and he's

basically you're gonna regret this don't fucking call me when you realize you're gonna you know all that get him out and i just remember in that moment thinking like because i stayed because i thought i needed a man to show her how to love you know how she's supposed to be loved he needed to show her how a man is supposed to love her she's supposed to be loved. He needed to show her how a man is supposed to love her by the way he loves me. And I remember sitting there like, oh my God, this is what he's going to show her. She's going to grow up and think this is love. I can't do that. And so that was when this new mission came over me where I'm like, I'm going to learn how to love myself enough for the both of us. I'm going to teach her that loving herself is the first and utmost important thing.

So she never ends up here. Because that's why I ended up here. I didn't love myself. And so that's what I started doing. And he was quiet for a couple weeks. Yeah. Because he thought I'd call. And then it didn't get bad again until I started dating.

Oh, of course. Well, they always come back around whenever you start dating. Right. It's like, you're like, where the fuck did you come from? Right. Stay gone. So moving on from that abusive relationship, how are you feeling? Are you...

Liberated. Yeah, just ready to fucking conquer the world. I felt great. How long after that relationship did you meet? Is it Curtis? Is that his name? Yes. Curtis. Did you meet Curtis? So I left him in 2017. I met Curtis in 2020. Okay. Gotcha. So I really had my healing era, 2018, 2019. Gotcha. Um, and it was great. I was doing yoga. I was working out. I looked great.

I was weightlifting. My body looked bomb.com. I had a rotation of hot milk on the prowl. I had a rotation of four men. There you go, baby. I had a rotation. That's all right, baby. Listen, you came to the right show for that. That's why people don't think I'm vanilla because I used to openly talk about my rotation. Yeah. But I mean, it wasn't very impressive. I might call one here and there once a month. I don't think it wasn't, it wasn't as glorified as I probably made it, might call one here and there once a month. I don't like it. It wasn't as glorified as I probably made it, but I was having a good time. I was dating, I was enjoying life. Um, and then 2020 happened, uh, pandemic. Right. And so our company shut down for a month and I was just at my house and I did, I opened my house to a few different clients to come in, but with, I was a beast. Oh,

that was another thing. So during this time when, you know, Kobe was just born, I was studying for my board exams. So the entire first two months of her life, I was in that rocking chair studying. That's all I did. That seems to be your common, um, ground when you go through something, you kind of like not so much study, but throw yourself into something else and kind of shut out the world. Yep. Yep. Absolutely. Um, working towards something else, but it does, it helps like, um, nothing else is real just right there. I don't know how to describe it. No, that's what I'm doing. I'm working through, you know, losing my mom by working, by working, you know, like it just keeps you busy. You feel like you're accomplishing something. And if you can make other people happy, you can make yourself happy, you know, so you don you don't have to sit in it yes sitting in it's the hard part yeah which we get to

yes i had to learn to sit in all of it yes um yeah i mean so i got on tick tock yeah i think that i think we all got on tick tock in 2020. yeah right i rebuked it forever i was like i'm not fucking getting on this app dude and here i am right here we are so you got on tiktok what okay and then were you with curtis before tiktok or after okay so you got on tiktok and this is where the juice is gonna come i know this is what everybody's been waiting for and just i just want to give a disclaimer I was telling Kelsey this before we got on the mic I don't know you know people are like I've had people send me screenshots from the other site and they're like she doesn't research her guests no you're damn right because I don't want to have a pre-judged misconception about somebody I am not a follower I'm a leader I fucking would I want

to make my own you know decision on how I feel about somebody. I fucking would, I want to make my own, you know, decision on how I feel about somebody after I meet them and I feel their energy. You can look at somebody on TV, on a screen, on fucking the internet all day long, and you can fucking make your own opinions, but you've never shook that person's hand and you've never stood in their fucking, you know, energy. So I don't know any of the drama that goes on with you. I've tried to get into it a little bit last night. I made a couple notes. And then after this, I was like, you know what? I am going to let her talk about what she wants to talk about and address what she wants to address. I do, like I said, have a couple notes that I kind of did, but I went through like four

videos and I was just like, you know what? My girl, my girl, I'm going to let her tell her side. So, all right. So you get on TikTok. It's 2020. Um, I think my first viral video really was me giving my family's reactions to me being pregnant with my baby daddy. Um, and I made it really funny. I exaggerated a bit in a funny way. Like my friends were excited, right? were excited right i was scared my baby daddy was leaving to go cheat oh seems to be a common theme with that dude right um my mom i think not to cut you off but is he better now or does he still cheat on everybody i'm sure okay gotcha she's like i'm not gonna answer that uh yeah no i mean we can definitely get into it a little more.

Because he is seeing Kobe again. Good. And she, you know, he is still supervised because it didn't stop after me. Okay, so is that, did that happen in between 2017 and 2020? Yes. Okay, so. So he was in and out of jail. He was finally getting caught, finally getting charged.

What was he getting charged for? Beating other women. Wow, okay. Yeah, so everyone since, I think he's had for beating other women wow yeah so everyone since um i think he's had well i don't know everyone so i don't know who the hell he's dating but um there has been one every year that he's been in jail for wow um there is one that is the repetitive one the one that was around that he was cheating on me with uh he oh she inherited that she's still there i think she made it to number one. And now he has all these other side bitches.

She won by default. Yep. And then that was always the goal. Karma finds everybody. So I don't know. I don't know. He got, I mean. We'll pray for her.

Right. We'll pray for her. To jump ahead, he claims that that's finally done. He did let me put that legally in our custody agreement. One, she can have no contact with my child she did threaten my child's life on two different occasions wow right after my kid was born actually when i was pregnant and then right after my kid was born so i had protective orders for kobe on this woman yeah um she said she was gonna kill my bastard child throw her in the road kick my stomach like

there's all kinds of threats that were made by this lady. Look at Renee's arm. Lady. This one was a tough one. This is special. We love Jesus. We love Jesus. But yeah, so he let me write it in our last custody that he will also have no contact. And if it is found that he has contact with this girl, he'll lose custody. Wow.

He'll lose what rights he has got. So I thought that was a bold move um and so that gives me a little bit of maybe finally it is done right because that was that was a bold move yeah because all it takes is one picture and he loses rights to his kid again and i'm like i don't know if he'd risk that or not so i don't know we'll see uh but he is still supervised by his parents she goes four times a year up there and we'll see right now we're finally communicating yeah so we used to just go through the parents right um i've dropped all protective orders and him and i communicate and it's been really effective his dad died this last summer and that kind of seemed to just snap something in his head good um because

he really he really stepped up and realized like he's got one more parent what happens when she's gone if he's not talking to me if he's out here doing x y and z he'll lose her completely right so i think it did something yeah i hope it did so far it's been okay it's no we're all for the healing process dude you guys have been through some shit so it's really cool to hear that you know that's come full circle and you guys are communicating and i mean that's amazing for kobe too yes does kurt do curtis and him get along um so they've only had one exchange okay um my baby daddy wished him a happy father's day oh and he said it back well that was nice this is wild who thought this was gonna happen

that's awesome did curtis have you know of course with you know many reasons to have a preconceived judgment oh absolutely okay i mean he still probably don't like him right he's gonna be kind and he always speaks kindly about him in front of kobe good i've never heard him say a mean thing he just wouldn't he knows his place um and he owns it and he's just he's always very he talks so kindly about him to Kobe. Love that. And that's been, yeah, it's been awesome. And Kobe's great.

Kobe's like, I got two dads. Yeah. Like she brags about it. Love that. Yeah. So she's, she's happy. She's, she's in a good place. I love that.

And all parties are effectively operating in a good place. Even the ex-wife. We're all, right now, everything's very cordial. Very cool. It's very nice. I love that. Yes. Harmony. So 2020, you get on TikTok, you went viral and take me from there. the ex-wife we're all right now everything's very cordial very nice i love that yes harmony

so 2020 you get on tiktok you went viral and take me from there i just keep going viral right and you can tell at that point it did start where it was like this overwhelming love and support like just an insane amount like people just like would go hard for me. Like if you came at me, they called them my minions. Like this is crazy. Like they loved me. I've never been loved except for Kobe. Like that at that point.

I was in fear. Like just, it was, it was like literally living in a state of euphoria. Like I asked her, like I, everything changed overnight. And it was like this whole new bright, shiny bubble of something new. And it was crazy. And it was like this whole new bright shiny bubble of something new and it was crazy and it was wild and I started there was like there was this other guy on TikTok that I dated first I didn't even like him like I met him did you meet him on TikTok he was 5'4 he told me he

was 5'9 what is happening I met him he might have been 5'6 I don't know not that we're shaming dudes about height but come on be honest I'm kidding I'm in trouble I height, but come on, be honest. I'm kidding. I'm in trouble. I love that. But I mean, just be honest. They harp on us for everything. Don't lie about your fucking height, homie. But I mean, I wouldn't have met you. Yeah.

Five nine was cutting it for me. Listen, I won't date short dudes either. I dated one and he was abusive and look how that fucking turned out. So now my husband is 6'2 and I'm just like. My baby daddy was 6'2 so I can't really speak on that yeah but i met him he had a big following i'd be at this point i think it was like 200 000 each like we both had that um i we meet up and i remember going down there with a fuck boy mindset so i'm gonna go fuck this dude and go home like i was very much living in this i have your vanilla ass was like i'm going go fuck this dude and go home like I was very much living in this I have your vanilla

ass was like I'm going to fuck this dude right I was trying to be something I definitely wasn't um but I get down there and I didn't like him I remember even telling him like we had put on this show right I remember even telling him like I think we're gonna make great friends yeah but then we came back and he did like me and he had already told the internet he loved me yeah like literally the second day i met him he told me he loved me um told the internet it as well and then there's just all this attention and there's all this pressure and so i'm like that's my boyfriend and we were together but then eventually i did i did catch more feelings i did like him uh it was only last like two months right

um and then he ended up breaking up with me and I was like you're like excuse me motherfucker I was hurt but hurt in a way that he love bombed you yeah and it was so I was like what the fuck just happened yeah but I can absolutely admit like I did it for attention so I deserve it I love it I love that you own it. You know, you have to fucking respect it. Like, I was getting a lot of views. I mean, in that two months, it went from like 2,000 followers to 600,000. She said, I was getting a lot of views.

200,000 to 600,000. Yeah. In like a month and a half, two months. So I was like, I'm going to chalk this the hell up. Yeah. Well, you never jump off a winning horse what'd you say I said until he broke my heart and I was like he didn't break my heart yeah yeah don't want to jump off a winning horse I mean maybe scratch the ego but not breaking the heart exactly yeah so I was like well I did cry

the night he broke up with me so I was like well let me film it I love it so I stuck my ass in a bathtub and I cried and I was really crying I mean that was real but the setup of the camera looking back I'm like hey you knew what you were doing yeah it did great views wonderful uh but that became his reason to hate me oh because now I was sending him hate and I'm like so I can't be emotional on the internet I can't say what's happening are you allowed to say who the guy is do we know his name is matthew girl who cares right yeah i'm like no he's no longer on tiktok okay because remember i have minutes gotcha he broke my heart gotcha and they were like absolutely not sir yeah and that's my fault it's not but the world says it's my fault gotcha now don't get me wrong i did make a video

once where i was like remember that one time I canceled a dude off the internet? Yeah, that didn't go well. Apparently, that was bullying. I was like, it's the same. It's almost like you can't have a personality and joke about things. Exactly. All the things I did.

Yeah. Yeah. All the things I did. Because in the next video I put up, I talked about how I got pumpkin. I can't even remember what it means. I was like, when it's a guy comes and he like guts you out from the inside and fucks your life out. Like, I don't remember what it was. I was like, he got ghosted.

Like a pumpkin. I can't even remember what it was. But it was like a meme. And I just made a video and said it. But it's really dogging myself out. Yeah. Like, it was literally dogging me. And people got mad at you?

People got mad. And I'm like, oh, Jesus Christ. I mean, do people, I mean, people get mad about everything. Everything. Literally everything. But they like think I'm bullying. I'm like, let me laugh at my own downfalls, please. Because if I don't, I'm going to cry.

And I don't want to cry because when I cry, I beat people up. Absolutely. No, I understand that. That speaks my language. I want to fight when I cry. I'm going to cry. Do you feel like the internet just misunderstands you? Oh, my entire life I've been misunderstood.

Right. I'm the most miss one of the most misunderstood i mean if you look at my star chart you'll be like oh i think you posted it and i it actually gave me anxiety because i was like oh my you're that's like your blueprint and you never want to post i know i know i did it because i had my but i didn't know you i didn't know you well enough to be like hey baby somebody luckily did but i thought if my head was covering most of it and then someone was like no no we can still see people can still see what they see yeah yeah yeah take it down yeah I thought I was covering enough yeah no I saw that and I was like I was like no no no and then so many people

mess with me I was like oh good I didn't want to you know I let people live their lives so I'm not going to be that person but also you can mess with me anything no I will now from now on I'll be like just like you corrected me yesterday you know like I'm still learning what you're taking that nicely i sweated no i mean here's the thing i grew up in a generation where we were way tougher and just like things didn't mean what they do now yes you know and 100 i needed that because and i got in trouble the other day for saying dementia we're gonna do that too with the tea because well when i get into it i'll tell you how okay okay yeah yeah we'll go okay so let's get back on track we got off yeah no right all right so 2020 you got your heart broke and you're in a bathtub crying yeah oh what's going on and

making fun of the situation so it's like this and he ends up deleting his tick tock because of people coming for him yes okay sorry uh he's probably watching this now doing hexes at home okay somebody did put a hex on me we'll get into that later oh goodness because i'm outing her for that one yeah uh that's you just don't play around with witchcraft plays around with dark magic i'm like i've never in my life done a dark magic nothing no you can't do that healer it comes back it comes back tenfold yes it will um so everything's you know it took me about two weeks and then i'm back on my feet and i am glowing right i look great growing and glowing i was oh having the best time but this point i do want to touch on one thing because we talked about the racism stuff right so in september i did have a video uh where i was like i've been invited to the barbecue cringe it's the cookout i said barbecue dumbass but like i'm just trying to say like i've been involved in the black community like and i in my what i was trying to

say is don't judge a book by its cover that's all you said no um i was like okay this is getting so i got told stop acting black stop talking like you're black now granted i didn't do any research i didn't go to see who this person was i didn't couldn't even find the comment later i remember i had a screenshot of it so i used that so i never actually looked at the person's profile but i come from a place i don't look at people who hate on me's profile yeah unless i'm gonna pick them apart physically right which i can't do because then i'm like you molly um but like when this situation like I came when I grew up, like biracial was black. Right.

That's just how where I grew up. And honestly, I think that because the black community is 10 times more welcoming and accepting. And so I didn't realize there was now this huge divide. White, black, biracial. I did not realize. That's where the racial ignorance definitely comes in here because I just thought biracial black. Because that's just what I remember seeing growing up. Right.

I was always almost always the only white person in the room. But every biracial kid was with all the black kids. Right. Like and that's just that was a group. And it was. And again, I think it's because the black community is so welcoming. I think that's also why I felt like I was damn near a part of it. Because all my life I was just welcomed with open arms.

That's your childhood though. And you should not have to apologize for what you grew up in like to me that's crazy it's like people get mad at me for saying i'm white trash and trailer park i'm like how the fuck can you tell me about me and i'm never gonna back down i don't give a fuck what anybody says that's where the fuck i'm from you know like i don't give a fuck what you think about me that is my childhood and i'm not gonna correct correct myself to make you happy. Yeah. You know,

like I'm just so tired of their bullies. Yes. People on the internet are fucking bullies. But I did want to, you know, listen, like there were black women telling me things and I did think it was a part of my responsibility to listen. Right.

Well, if they come at you in a respectful manner and it's, you can learn from them. Absolutely. Anybody. Anybody comes to you in a respectful manner and it's you can learn from them absolutely anybody just respect respect is always fucking so important reciprocated right you know it's it's your delivery and i'll listen to that when you like if anyone like comes like bullies on the internet like if they come full throttle like when you attack me i'm like first of all who the fuck are you like i'm gonna listen no absolutely anybody anybody coming at me like that i'm not gonna listen to.

But there were some amazing women during this time and the next one because it didn't stop at our first one. Kelsey, what the fuck? What the hell is going on? Just stay with me. Just stay with me. There's some amazing women who did help me. I mean, Renee, obviously, the first person I called, like, what the fuck did I just do?

Jabril, I showed the video too and he was like yeah video's great oh no set you up totally set you up oh god oh i'm sorry it's not my guy anymore sorry they changed their pronoun um i think that was offensive so i do apologize what happened i said my guy oh it's not my guy anymore i say my guy is that you're not allowed to say that um uh they are non-binary now okay so they are they them so i don't want to offend i said my guy just in general i probably said that with you yeah but i just want to correct myself because i'm learning there too i really suck when it comes to grammar no i suck when it comes to all of these fucking new

fucking labels i cannot it's a change i think i'm not and I want to learn I'm never trying to be disrespectful to anybody but you guys have to show people grace because this is all new shit and if we don't practice it like if it's not our lifestyle have mercy on us because we're learning you know we're gonna make mistakes I think what people don't realize is with behavior however long you've been doing a behavior this is just science it takes that long that long to actively change absolutely and so i think that's the hard part for me but i will give the benefit out where i feel like at one point in my relationship they were my best friend right i think i i was i gave more energy to excuses okay than actively trying and who is this person he's my best oh i saw that was my person yeah so they

came in my life 2014 okay um and they're very spiritual um so that's what introduced me to like tarot cards and tarot readings and if it weren't for that person i don't think i would have got out are they on tiktok okay they're very private life we are no longer friends because of my stupid choices we're about to get into my energy was placed in all the wrong places I became a bad friend because I was so hyper focused on TikTok and this new life and all this and it's easy to get sucked in yeah and I just really failed in my friendship uh with them I did with everybody uh with them I was also failing in the pronouns I was struggling to pick it up and when

i say struggling again like i look back and i'm like i probably was more i gave more energy to making excuses why it was hard right then actively trying and i mean we've talked we're good like they know that i am like deeply apologetic and we're good yeah but that that like if you want to talk about losing something like that was a piece of my heart that was probably the only person in my life that i'm like i fucked up yeah and hopefully one day but i don't know um that was like they raised kobe with me right like that was my person they were there always so it's one of those um is he snoring i know i was like she's got the headphones on i'm like i'm over here shaking his head. Chachi, wake up.

Sorry, I'll get emotional with that one, too. No, I saw that. They're great. They're a great person. But they did slip up by letting me post that. Yeah. So that was the first. That was the first one.

And what it was where it definitely got taken away, I didn't mean for it to, because the comment was like, you know, stop acting black, stop talking black, blah, blah, blah. And again, I didn't look at this person's profile and I'm thinking biracial is black. That's just my mindset from where I was coming from. Again, racial ignorance. Can I ask what biracial is considered?

Biracial. Okay, so it's not black. Okay, gotcha. Or white. And this is new. This was new to me at the time. I really did not. Yeah, no, I didn't know. You just taught me that. I didn't know. I never knew. Yeah, so it's, and I do think it's not black okay gotcha and this is new this was new to me at the time i really did not i didn't

know you just taught me that i didn't know yeah so it's it's and i do think it's new um overall like again i have an entire degree but didn't they don't they call biracial like mulatto or is that completely different too oh look at her i don't know she don't i don't know i don't know no i don't know no i don't know that I don't know yeah like genuinely I was only asking because I know the rapper mulatto had to change her name because big lotto used to call herself mulatto and she ended up having to change her name to big lotto so that's the only reason why I was like okay is this offensive now like I don't know what that is yeah that is you do you've heard it i do okay what is that song she sings uh i could be your fantasy i could tell you got big dick

yeah okay yeah yeah so her original rap name was mulatto is she white no i think she's mixed right or i'm not sure i could be wrong i wonder what that term means i'll have to look it up yeah i don't i don't know but yeah i I'm guessing if it does mean something full black, that that would then be offensive to use. Right, okay. I'm guessing. I don't know. Again, I'm still learning so much too.

But the comment, in my mind, what I thought I was saying was don't judge a book by its cover. Right. Right? Because I'm like, you don't know what ethnicity I am. That's how I took it when you just told me what you said. But I did say, for all you know, I could be blacker than you. And again, I'm thinking biracial.

I'm thinking genetic. I'm thinking genes. I'm thinking I could have a higher percentage. But that's where your smart ass comes in and comedy. Because why is it okay for comedians to stand on a stage and say stuff like this? I don't think it is anymore. They're getting torn apart too nowadays. Are they?

Yeah. I mean, this is just, I'm sorry, but the world is too fucking sensitive. It is sensitive. It is crazy. Like, can we learn to laugh and just love again? Or is it, are we just going to get hung up on every single thing a fucking person says? That's the thing. When I first posted the video, it was taken well.

About the first 150,000 views. Like, I had so many amazing women coming in there like, girl, come over here and make that mac and cheese. Yes, your cousin. Like, everybody was so nice. until that one comment that said, this isn't sitting right with me. So that happened to me. I'm on Worldstar the next day. So that just happened to me whenever I posted my Trap House cornbread.

I was only going to put Texas cornbread. My husband's like, put Trap House cornbread because, one, we call our house the Trap House. Two, I was a hoe in Vegas. I have hung out in many a fucking Trap H fucking trap houses three my husband was a fucking drug dealer he has hung out in many of trap houses yeah so we the trap house term to us we didn't think was a dig to anybody exactly but they look at us and they're like oh a little you know white girl blonde hair blue eye yeah green eyes fucking husband you know whatever so it's like from the trap house take offense 12 million people fucking on this video just losing their minds that i use

the fucking term trap house and i'm just like this is fucking ridiculous and i didn't turn the comments off i didn't fight with anybody all i said was everybody that's offended this was my life i have lived this yeah i have earned. I can use that word without people getting fucking offended, you know, and it finally died down. But Jesus, I was just like, come on. It's a fucking cooking video. Right. I'm not trying to disrespect anybody.

Like, I feel like everybody is just having to like mind their P's and Q's when it's supposed to be fun. And I don't think again, I think when you put something out to the whole world, that's what I learned because nobody blinked that I I mean indiana with how i talk how i walk how i act like everyone knows in indiana yeah first of all don't be racist kelsey i'll fight you like i was the person that i'm standing with all my black sisters and brothers every day of the week twice on sundays okay because i don't i'll fight a white person right what'd you say renee when i i called her and I said,

Renee, the internet thinks I'm racist. She said, I guess who? White people? I love that. And I was like, ah! She's so pretty, too. I've been watching her smile over here. She is so pretty.

She has a heart, too. So what was the second video? OK, so real quick. Because you didn't learn the first time well see i'm good um but okay so that one gets put on world star all this stuff so before i jump to the second incident okay i did my first meetup in november okay and it was with britney jade and cody elise i just invited britney to come on the podcast i know she's been having a hard time going through some stuff but she's gonna get through it And I saw her video and you know

I've had a miscarriage and been Through everything too and at first I was Just kind of like that was bad That was hard to watch But I didn't hate her I wasn't like fuck this Bitch I'm fucking gonna ruin her life I called and said what was that

The fuck did you just do yeah you know and i just feel bad for her like you know if i'm gonna be hated for loving people then i could be hated for way worse things you know so britney you're always welcome to come on the podcast she's she's a good-hearted soul yeah she has a good heart and i think that at the end of the day that's more important than anything absolutely everybody fucks up she has a good heart so i always stand by her because she has a good heart yeah and that's rare so you did this meetup so we did this meetup and on-site besties yeah we are all bffs so you met up with britney jayden who again cody elise okay okay okay i did i watch a little bit about the cody thing let me get my glasses on. Hold on.

Let me see what I fucking wrote for the notes. But yeah, go ahead. So it was fun. We all got along great. It was a good time. I will probably jump back to a couple of things that I learned, you know, retrospect. But it was good. Everything's moving forward.

Next thing that happens is V, Vanessa cosio uh it's v cosio i believe on tiktok she reaches out to jenna my best friend jenna he's my best friend too she reached out to jenna asking to do a mom strip right um so this is getting planned they asked bonnie bonnie says no i can't go and then they ask me I'm like yeah I can go and then all of a sudden Bonnie can go because she was a huge fan she was a huge fan of me don't ever let her forget it internet Bonnie Cox is a huge fan of mine um Bonnie invites Darren Cole um because she was nervous she wanted to go lunch provided Darren because that was one of her closer friends at the time I invite Cody that's one of mine and I didn't invite Brittany because i knew there'd be drinking so i did talk to britney right i was like

you know i don't she's a recovering alcoholic for everybody who doesn't know that and i did give her the option if you want to come that's fine but i want you to be ready right because i will be drinking because when i went there like when i went out there i didn't drink in front of her and do any of that i wouldn't um and so you know she made the right choice not to come i believe um and then cody brought a friend, Jesse. So that was the group that went. And we had the best time. Is this what was dubbed as the queen team?

Yes. Okay, gotcha. This is when queen team had full of tech. I'm hip. I know a little bit about what's going on. I just literally learned it last night. Well, it was great. It was honestly a great time.

Oh, my God, Curtis. Oh, yeah, fuck, Curtis. I'm so sorry. Listen, all this stuff is happening simultaneously okay curtis we forgot all about you okay so 2020 you get on tiktok you're going viral you got your heart broke curtis when does he come into play timeline real quick we're just gonna timeline yeah the biggest thing was the timeline that i wanted to do i wanted to show everyone the exact abc timeline right i meet britney Brittany and Cody mid-November. He is at a Friendsgiving with like JT Laybourne

and other people on TikTok. I know none of these people. I didn't even know who Cody was until last night. No, it was a week before this. A week before this. I'm in a live and I was like deemed as TikTok's bachelorette, right? And he's like a TikTok bachelor. And so everyone's like throwing his name in my life.

There are all kinds of guys in me, first of all. There were so many guys. I was like, there's a lot of guys to choose from. But someone kept saying him. And they were like, he's in his live right now talking about how beautiful you are. This is like November 8th-ish. November 7th, at the beginning. He's talking about how beautiful you are in his live, which is a public platform.

I want to make sure he's publicly telling the world world how beautiful i am and just raving about me um and i was like how old is he someone said i think he's like 43 he wasn't he was 39 but i was like wow that's too old for me no immediately shut it down in my mind but then i was like oh let me look him up after this live so i click on his name he's following me so i fall back i did remember who he was because i did remember seeing him with his fake son so michael adantonio that's how they got big on tiktok is they pretended to be father and son right so i do remember him so i add him back um i think i had followed i don't think i did i had followed him in the past he never followed me back and i was like that's rude so i followed him back follow so he took a video of me you know perfectly kelsey following right and he used an audio this is a public platform by the way it's like november 8th timeline's important uh makes this video and he walks in he's pointing to me following him and he's like

things get pretty serious looks like things get pretty serious right and i go in and i put a couple hearts you know in the comments a little flirty and then i look at the comments and i was like oh my god they were ripping me to shreds in this comment section yeah oh don't do it she's drama she's horrible she's a terrible person run like ripping me and i was like i always wonder what kind of person does comments like that right like why are you so fucking invested in my life it's so fucking me at all yeah but then I look at the other end and I'm like but then people love me and they're invested and don't know me but I'm like at least they're using kindness yeah that's psychopathic tactics like yeah um so I'm immediately like well that's probably gonna turn him away yeah and so i don't really

expect anything from it and i think like a week went by and then i got a dm from him so we're we're mid-november or i go out there see them i get a dm like that next week and he's trying to sell me ketones so hold on a second so you went and you met with the queen team or did the it was just britney and cody at this point okay mid-november britney and cody and then so curtis is selling ketones curtis was what selling attractive oh my god sold me right into those ketones there you go baby so we come to the matters right well first things first as i look and i'm like did he just really try to sell me some shit and the next thing i know he sends a follow-up and he's like oh by the way this is me trying to slide in your dm i was gonna say this is mid-november he's sliding in my dm anyways uh just kidding um so i'm like and i literally go back i'm like about time here's my number let's get this freaking

ball started dude at this point like i'm turned on by this man because he did not message me right right away right he tried to hit on me and i was confused and i was flustered so i'm all invested and so i does he know who i am okay i was like i have the audacity so he texts me and one of the first things he asked he says i need to know what happened in your last relationship and why it ended and i was like he's crazy he's great he must really like me he wants to know let me write him a novel i should probably write him a novel right wrote him a novel trying to explain my situation guess what he wrote back i was just kidding okay no the letter k i was like okay he doesn't like me i just ruined that it was too much so i'm in my head freaking out he's the worst texter ever

so we're like texting here and there but it's not a ton um so at this point i'm about to go to thanksgiving right queen team still full effect right into the top things are going great um everybody's happy we hadn't met the other girls yet but everyone it's we are good britney and cody and i are good right Right. I get, I go to Atlanta for Thanksgiving to see my brother and his, well now wife. I get a text on the way down. He was like, hey, are you going to be in Atlanta? It's Curtis. Hey, are you going to be in Atlanta for Thanksgiving? I was like, yeah.

He's like, I'm there visiting my mom. Can I take you on a date? I'm like, sure. And at this point I'm very open. I was like, I got two dates scheduled. Just need to let you know. I did. I let everybody know. I did not care. First day, I got all dressed up. He brought me roses, took me to a nice steakhouse, right? And

then Curtis texts me. Well, one, he invited me to Six Flags, but I'm like, I have Kobe here, trying to spend time with my family. So no, I'll just wait to the date. And he was like, well, my friends are in town. Can we make it a group date? And I'm like, this dude does not like me. Like, this is so weird. I'm like, sure. And he and he wanted to go to top golf so i got a sweatshirt on and a ponytail and apparently he was like i watched you dress up for this guy the night before then you show up with him just like hey here i am right he's like i didn't know what to think but we had that's when i fell in love that night like we had very good connection very good energy when's his birthday it's it he's an aries it's march 25th

aries and taurus that's what you guys are jason and mimi i'm trying to tell her it's a great combo no fire and earth yeah for sure good combo and it also depends on you guys's men signs yeah he's a scorpio and i'm an aries so his scorpio probably talks to you have a scorpio rising right yes yeah so for sure yep we we are very i mean it seems compatible everything's been great yeah um he's great so i had butterflies he kissed me for the first night i got butterflies i was like oh shit here we go again so i'm all in love um the next day he comes over like he went out with his friends ends up ditching his friends to come over we stayed up till like six something in the morning just talking i love those i was absolutely in love

um after that no hanky panky no hanky panky we made out yeah we made out she's like i'm not giving it up yet nothing i probably would have uh he would she's like if he would have tried i was going oh what a gentleman yeah didn't try nothing so i said that later i was like i probably would have i probably would have yeah i was in love um but then yeah every night after that he called me every night and we talked on the phone for an hour like after that um at this point i need to bring up something he had been talking to multiple girls right because he was just out here dating just like i was just a player yeah but i was doing the same thing we're just dating you date until you find one worth just dating that's what dating's about right so we're doing that um there was one girl that he had flown to florida to see and she had flown to see him and there were conversations between the two that made it very

clear that he was single right they were not together absolutely and you could tell all over the internet he was plastering himself as single for those couple months that they were talking right and people did eventually go back and find all those captions their comments and screenshots and i was like thank you because this becomes an issue later right one of my cancellations was this woman uh but he slowly stops talking to her after he meets me now she did ask him to his face if you saw kelsey because i think she knew i was going to be down there too in atlanta would you take her on a date and he was like yeah that ain't your boyfriend if he's telling you he's gonna take another bitch on a date you guys got you guys listen you have to watch the video of this podcast because kelsey's fucking facial expressions are priceless dude just mind-blowing to me but it's here nor there

right now right so they're slowly he's slowly stopping communication right because that's what he does he's not gonna be like

hey well that's what all men do they always want a plan A B C D E F you know so I think he's very much invested in me he does not see her anymore

that the last time he had seen her was uh early November or like the week the week he posted about me right in me he does not see her anymore that the last time he had seen her was uh early november or like the week the week he posted about me right um last time he saw it um so anyways now moving into december we go on to our queen team trip and that's when things like just really kind of take off um queen team's a big deal it's supposed to be women empowerment i think things are great right the first incident that happened when i was getting calls first of all way too many calls like some of these girls

wanted to facetime all the time and just talk i'm not a talker i don't don't call me could have fooled me i can tell don't call me after this no worries like i'm not i i'm not a talker as like none of my friends like we talk when we talk but like i'm not big sit down and talk forever and i was getting blown up face time left and right and i just wouldn't answer most of the time yeah and then i found i was being talked about that's later in the story but the first instance that came up it was cody basically telling me that tish was talking shit about me so i'm not a person that's gonna be like all right well let's talk shit about her that no i'm like okay well give me a second i call tish yeah hey that's going to be like, all right, well, let's talk shit about her. No, I'm like, OK, well, give me a second. I call Tish.

Yeah. Hey, what's going on? I heard, you know, you had this. Let's go straight to the source. I was straight fucking to it. And she was like, um, no, they were talking shit about you. And yes, I did, too, because they were. So I did.

Oh, God. And so I'm like, so everyone's just calling people talking shit. I was so confused. Like, why? What's the point? I was like, what did I do? Right. And Cody hits this big viral video.

Right? And so half the shit talking is how I'm probably so jealous of her. And I'm going to be so mad that she hits a million before. I'm like I'm not even thinking about this shit. I was basically wrapping presents for kids in Ronald McDonald house all December. And they're thinking I'm. And I'm like my brain's not there. So Cody made a video that went viral saying that you were.

No, no, no. She just had a viral video. Okay. And it got like 45 million views. Gotcha. And everyone was happy for her. Like I even like orchestrated her like 1 million TikTok. But there was conversations behind my back acting like I was going to be jealous or upset

that she hit a million before me. People really think like this? That is insane to me. Girl. And that's what I'm thinking. Like I didn't know any of this was going on. Right. So I'm still thinking he's all my friends.

Okay. So moving forward, I go. It's almost hurtful to hear this. It's like, come on. Because if people really knew how in the dark I was to all this. Like, I, and that's why most of my friends now, they're like, Kelsey's the most like fucking oblivious of everyone. Cause I just don't assume people are hateful.

You don't have to cater to people's emotions. I don't. I really don't. That are supposed to be your friends. Yeah. I think, I just assume we're all good unless I hear otherwise.

Right. So I didn't know any of this was, I didn't know any of this chatter was going on. I didn't know any of these private conversations we're having. I didn't know anything. And so then,

I have like this, there's this girl and she had a niece whose mom was killed in a domestic violence relationship. Right. So I sign up with this other non-for-profit and we fly out to texas and buy this girl his presents try to do a good deed at christmas she just lost her mom she was two yeah sorry jumping ahead didn't find

out until the end of january so we're still in december um so moving along i meet curtis and i do our first like trip together sorry it's so much this was like the worst three months since i was beaten it was just and my whole face was broke out and acne my hair was falling out like i was so stressed by everything going on um but curtis and curtis still no curtis was wonderful that was i was literally diving into that because it was the only thing that felt euphoric. You know what I mean? Like it just was just wonderful.

And so I didn't give a shit about anything going on. I just focused on him this whole time. So our first like real, real time together, we took our kids to a cabin in North Carolina and spent the weekend together for New Year's. So New Year's is kind of, he asked me to be his girlfriend on New Year's Eve. How many kids does he have? Three boys. Okay, three boys.

I think I saw a video of you talking about them. They're great. But so when I met them, they're a couple years younger than they are now. It's crazy. They look like babies, I feel like, now when I look back. I was like, holy crap. But so we're at this cabin, asked me to be his girlfriend. Things are going great.

We actually had to put up a video, like, teasing people or whatever. It was cute. On my way home, I get dm from a girl named kristin and that's the girl i was talking about really okay but i don't know who this person was but i get this dm and she's like i just want to let you know that him and i were talking and so i'm not messaging back because i don't know you so i call him and i'm like hey listen first and foremost you just asked me to be your girlfriend last night so anything that happened before last night ain't none of my goddamn business but i did want to show you i'm getting this message if you want to handle it whatever you don't have to explain shit to me because that's before me right and but he does

he explains the situation he's like yeah you know i was talking to her uh met up a few times uh but it wasn't serious i told her i was on tiktok also is she big on tiktok okay um at this point she had like 20 000 okay she gets a little bit bigger off my name okay because the use and abuse of kelsey on tiktok has been outlandish there goes those facial expressions again guys and that word like people are like oh my god she's such a victim i'm clearly being sarcastic but people don't pick up on sarcasm no i did now that i'm in front of you i can see i it's just crazy to me that people are obvious i'm like i'm hilarious i'm sorry yeah i'm gonna be here all day people it's okay if you don't mind jesse lawless will be coming in

so we'll just have to transition i'm gonna really yeah no worries baby no you're good you're good um so i i ignore it obviously he's like he ignores it she wanted to meet you anyways so oh good i wanted to be here yeah um and so then the next week we go to an event next thing you know this girl puts up a video well you brought in the new year on attacking me stitched my video coming at me you brought in the new year on a lie he was dating me that was my boyfriend like oh whatever and so i'm like and i make a video it responds back so this is fucking nuts and i'm just like dude everyone was dating i was dating i went on a date two days before i decided i liked it like that's what you do and i was like yeah we weren't together like but i now

have the internet coming at me like i'm some homewrecker and she is inciting all this and then at the same time I named a plant Shaniqua because I love that name okay well technically Pixar named it because I just picked my best plant for that name you know the Pixar he's naming the trophies yeah and so I picked my favorite plant for Shaniqua I it was legit like you can ask my friend Renee in college Shanaynay was my name when you go out and we would go out completely sober and just dance and that was my ultra ego yeah I was just out there having the best time I like I genuinely love the name I always have not so much anymore a little traumatic but I named my plant it so I was getting in trouble for that and then one drunk night in a bathtub with curtis

people kept calling me fat basically they kept saying oh are you pregnant oh you look pregnant oh you look pregnant and i just i'm like i am pregnant pregnant with quadruplets i'm rhyming with shaniqua like i'm not trying to you're just funny i thought i was being funny and it wasn't because I think what happened was or how it was explained to me is, you know,

impact over intent. So I spoke to a lot of people who were like, your intent wasn't bad. You weren't being mean. You weren't being disrespectful. You didn't, in your mind, see it the way others did.

But the impact is bad because little black girls could have thought you were making fun of their name. And then I was like, oh, well, that's not what I meant to do. I genuinely love the name. So at this point'm getting canceled hard left and right but here's

the thing can we just let's fucking be real here nobody ever really gets canceled nobody ever look at me yeah nobody ever so can we stop with fucking saying people are canceled because they tried to cancel me when i had dimps on here too and i was like I fucking made a shirt in my merch that said like cancel me or cancel my fucking, I don't give a fuck. Cancel me. I get canceled every Tuesday. Yeah. Cancel me.

I do not give a fuck. You know, like I'm just so tired. They just throw that. We're canceling them because they like shut the fuck up. I just can't. I hate it. It's ridiculous. But nobody ever really gets canceled.

Right. So at this point though though it was bad though because no one like no one had seen it happen really like i was like one of the first yeah thank you uh but it was bad thank you for taking that l for us kelsey well this one says it's coming in left and right i'm obviously looking bad for the queen team right um and so what happened this is where i got really upset at the last video she put up because she literally took what happened to me and switched it and pretended it happened to her she literally talked about how she got canceled and we threw her under the bus and i'm like

my story who did this cody cody she just made a video a couple months ago that's okay hold on did we talk about how the girl the were we talking about the girl who DM'd you? Did you say she made a video or no? Yes. And so everyone, I was getting canceled for that because I'm a homewrecker. Okay, gotcha. I know who the girl was. I just wanted to make sure.

It wasn't that. Okay, gotcha. So Cody made a thing. Okay. So all this eventually comes out later. The truth does get told, but people forget the truth. And then it takes one creator to make a video. Well, they don't want to know the truth

because they want to wallow in the toxicity. Exactly. That makes people feel like they belong to something whether it's evil and hateful and spiteful or not right i'm sorry but misery loves company i'm not trying to hang with y'all it absolutely really does and it it was insane watching all these pieces fall like people i thought were my friends like now granted i will say this if cody would have just left it at, hey sis, I just had these viral videos. My shit's doing really well.

Yo ass is out here acting up. It's bad for my brand. I would have been like, that's fair. I am acting up a little bit. I'm going to do better. Good luck. Like as a single mom to a single mom. See, to me, that's still fucking weird to me.

I think it's annoying because I'm not that type of friend. I'm not going to just dispose of my friends. But I would have respected that than what did happen. Right. So like if she would have just done that, like we'd have no beef. Like I get it. Brands are weird,

especially at that time. You didn't want to be affiliated. I was acting up. That's on me. It's fine. And so I did, we did get a text. The queen team group chat got a text

saying she was backing away. If that would have been it, that would have been fine. Right. I honestly was like, I get it. But then what had happened was, so I'm canceled. She throws me under the bus.

She is now calling, her and Paige are calling all of my friends. The Bonnie, Darren, Kat, all these people. They're calling and trying to get to hate me. And I didn't realize any of these conversations are even going on. That's just gross. Exactly. It literally is gross. That's gross behavior. And I didn't even know it was happening. Like, what are we, fucking 12? Right. And so that's why I exactly it literally is gross that's gross behavior

and i didn't even know like what are we fucking 12 right and so that's why i'm like when people are like mad at me for stuff i'm like i was never on the fucking phone doing this i didn't answer none of y'all's face time kelsey maybe i should answer okay but so at the end of january cat calls me just another creator. I'm no longer friends with her either. I know. Do not know any of these people. Because we're not going into that one. But she does call me and tells me, she's like, I just think you need the heads up.

This is what's going on. I'm getting these calls. They're getting these calls. They're basically trying to turn everyone against you, throwing you under the bus. They wanted to use me as like the, because everyone was calling us mean girls. So like Kelsey was the mean girl. See, we got rid of her. So now we can all be queen team and happy.

Fuck Kelsey. Like that was literally a plan that they had. But then people realized, because my first instinct when all this was going out is I told the other girls, I said, listen, you don't have to pick sides. Yeah. You can ask them.

I told every single one, you do not have to pick sides. You can be her friend, my friend. You make your own choice. You're an adult. She did this to me or this person's doing this to me. At this point, I knew she was throwing me out. So I'm like, make your own decision. You shouldn't do anything to me.

So I back up. Like, I'm like, whatever. Do what y'all want to do. Well, next thing you know, since I'm guessing since they didn't choose her side, she goes, oh, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I skipped the rum, bang, bang. Now she's being canceled herself.

Right. Because she slept with her best friend's husband. I did. Mimi, all you hear is Mimi go. I love how she's so invested. I did see a video. Now this was before. That's in my notes. You're literally covering everything in my notes. I mean, you're hitting all the points. So I'm just I'm gonna let you you keep going this was a big ordeal going on because if when i was friends with cody um so the first day i met cody she told me this story but the story was that her best friend's up with her husband and then she ended up dating her best friend's husband because why not at that point so cody's the problem i would say yes but you guys decide

and i mean i don't know cody i don't know you know anything but i'm gonna tell you what the biggest issue i ever realized in retrospect going into all this was okay so when she wanted to meet up with britney she gave britney a sobriety date she confided in britney that she was sober too and gave her a sobriety date she met me and gave me a bottle of wine and we were drinking together like and so britney was like i thought she was sober she made up a sobriety date to get close to britney who at that time had 800 000 when she only had 200 000 fault that is so weird she made up a sub that's where i'm like and then things started to fall in place and i'm like with me and then you keep seeing this pattern and then it's the taking of people's stories and making yourself the victim when you cause the pain

like she just did when she said i was being canceled everyone threw me under the bus but you had already thrown me under four tires of that bus right what do you mean like you took my story and made it yourself jesse when she lost that friend she took what she did and had happened to jesse and jesse's business and she told the internet that it happened to her yeah it's the taking of other people's stories and then she just becomes whoever the person of other people's stories and then she just becomes whoever the person is she's with right so when she was like a clap that when she's with page she has like more she's more emotional and all kind and i don't know like she literally evolved it's it was wild to watch it's like a chameleon she evolves to who she's around

and then her story would change constantly and she'd pick up pieces of other people's story and make it her own and it's so warped to watch because you're watching it like i literally didn't even watch most of the last video she made i watched the beginning and i heard just that part and i was like i can't i can't fucking watch this yeah because you just you change and it always starts with i've never talked about this publicly after she's talked about it three or four times and i'm like how many times you're gonna tell your story and it's gonna be a different story so it's frustrating on my end and then people forget you know i mean the internet's a forgetful place it's not a forgiving place but it's a i feel like i feel like they only remember what they want to yes and then someone because i've

had them do that to me whenever the dim situation was going on they literally took a piece of something i said and tried to say that I remember that they were going to cancel me because I was talking about a sexual abuse victim. And I was just like, that's not what the fuck was said. People don't like that either. Yeah. And I'm a sexual abuse victim, you know, and it's crazy. But like when I know someone's lying, I'm supposed to be like, stop fucking lying about that. Right. I'm going to call it out. Yeah. You know, know like it's crazy i think the issue with tiktok is and why that fucking terrible website that shall remain unnamed is even a thing is because reality tv has always been a huge fucking thing everybody loves reality tv because one a lot of people live boring lives and they don't have drama in their lives so they get their fix off of reality TV. Well, now we have TikTok where

normal everyday people are coming in and becoming famous because of who they are and they get these followings and people get so invested in their lives. So you guys are pretty much like reality TV to them now, except you're on a phone. So now these people on this website literally have a place to discuss all the drama that's going on, but never the positive things that are going on. I never knew you owned an autism center like that. I never knew you graduated from college. Like that's beautiful.

That's what the fuck people should be focusing on. Not fucking what you ate for dinner, who you're beefing with a queen teams, fucking breaking up Cody's fucking another another personality like that's not what that's not what the world needs anymore right like we are healing here we're gonna fucking stop this is crazy unless you just ignore it so i i just pretend the hate doesn't exist half the time anymore at least that's what i'm working on yeah um because i refuse to be consumed by it like i live in my own little bubble yeah i like i said i didn't know any of you guys's drama and i would rather be hated for loving people than

hated for being fucking toxic and a part of the fucking problem absolutely all of these people are a fucking problem and it breaks my heart that you have to sit here and explain yourself for things that are so fucking juvenile that's why i said i was like this is the last time i'm talking about it but i've never actually just it just hurts my heart yeah stupid yeah so stupid and honestly if it would stop if this person would stop every four to six months making a video about it like i wouldn't well she has to stay relevant you know but i'm like you have 3.9 million you don't need me to stay relevant right so but i mean does she have 3.9 million. You don't need me to stay relevant anymore. But I mean, does she have 3.9 million that are invested in her or invested in the drama? She has a lot of teenage followers.

And so I think they are. Those ones are very invested. Which I mean, honestly, I don't care. Like, good for you. I hope it's all working out. I hope you're living your dream. I genuinely wish nothing but good things for this person. I don't give a shit anymore.

Right. But stop lying on my name. Right. Like, at this point, just leave me alone. genuinely wish nothing but good things for this person i don't give a shit anymore right but stop lying on my name right like at this point just leave me alone the only time i talk about you at this point is after you've made some big scene about me or talk about me if cody was sitting here right now look at the camera if cody was sitting here right now what do you want her to know what do you what would you say to her if she was sitting here right here right now and you guys could just have a conversation would you squash the beef would you okay so part of me wants to be like i would rather do like the tiktok boxing and her and i just getting ready but i don't

i love that let's do it we can make it happen you and i don't but no i mean at this point like i feel like i'm in a place where i'm like i would literally just like you were fucked up in 2020 in 2020 you were a bad friend you were not a good friend you were not a kind person she hurt you you hurt me you very much hurt me yeah I protected this person on the internet and then she threw me away like I'm in nothing she used me to gain following and then treated me like I was a problem and it did hurt because I lost a friend to be her friend. I lost Jabril. So be this, oh, I hate that I'm crying. I lost Jabril infesting myself in this.

And it wasn't fucking worth it. So yeah, you did. You fucking hurt me. And you're not a good person, but I'm sure you could be. Also, this is the person who's putting fucking hexes on me. Just do the fucking egg cleanse. You'll be fine. I did protect himself.

I mean, do we even know if she's a real witch? But Paige said that she didn't think she was strong enough to really do anything. Nobody's ever strong enough to ever. But I was like, what? Listen, light always outweighs the darkness. Exactly. And that's why I always come up. Return to cinder.

And that's why I always rise again. Because I know the light in me burns way brighter than any of this. Any of this negativity, any of this dark. But yeah, I think she did fucked up shit. I don't want an apology. I don't want anything.

She did try to apologize once, but she said, I don't know what I did, but I'm sorry. No, I saw it. I saw the text messages. I did see that.

You know exactly what you did. Yeah. That's another thing. She went on the internet during all this especially when the girls didn't stop being my friend she then threw them under the bus she didn't lose friends because of me she lost them because of her yeah she went on and she said that she told none of us to say anything because you know i did a video defending her and the story she told me found out later that she fucked her best friend's husband and she didn't fuck her it sounds like it was a lie it sounds to me like cody has a lot of healing to do too and she might be doing that now i don't know how long has it been since you guys have talked the last time she made a

video about me was like three months ago yeah and it was all lies and so it's frustrating it's all lies but you know what i'm not putting on my page your feelings are valid and i can see that you are really hurt by the whole situation you know like it let's not disregard that you literally it brings tears to your eyes what you guys went through so obviously you did consider her a friend even if it was in a short amount of time and then all the shit that you've had to go through losing one of your best friends who helped raise your baby with you for her was hurtful and of course in return you're going gonna be fucking pissed and you're

gonna want to speak up when she speaks your name and you you're like me we always want to like get our side out like it doesn't matter like very hard for me not to yeah oh no same last three months because i'm but i i'm learning this like well what drake has like that 72 hour rule yeah you know like wait and i was like you know what i'm gonna sit with this for a while yeah and if it still means something to me after sitting with it yes and not becoming emotionally attached or becoming the emotion and i still feel the need to say something right then i'm gonna plan how i'm going to and that's when i was like i'm gonna do it here because i don't want to do it on my tiktok page because i'm sick of fucking talking about my tiktok so i feel like half the time it's brought up so that i do because the videos are always ended with i'm sure they're gonna make a

million videos about me well that's her that's that's uh reverse psychology yes she's trying to implant that and so everyone is around me like don't make a fucking video don't do it i'm just like and it's eating away at me but i'm like how are you just gonna spread misinformation and lies and then i have to just sit with that right but i'm learning how to and it's eating away at me, but I'm like, how are you just going to spread misinformation and lies? And then I have to just sit with that. Right. But I'm learning how to, and that's where my growing is coming is I'm learning how to sit and not react. I am an Aries moon.

I'm an impulsive. So am I. Oh, hey queen. Yes, I'm impulsive. I'm ready to react. Well, here's the thing, but I do think that that friendship happened and everything happened the way that it did because it's forcing you to grow. It's forcing you to become a better person it's forcing you to change some pattern behavior you know being

silent is aries moons like i know we don't we and i'm an aquarius too so i'm all about justice i'm all about the truth i'm all about mars is aquarius yeah so i'm always just wanting to fucking just be like nope these are the facts if you don't fucking it, suck me while it's soft and fucking moving on, you know, like that's just how it is. Yes. So I think that's the silver lining in all the drama that has gone on with you guys. And I know we didn't even tip the iceberg or whatever of everything that has gone on the internet, but I just want to focus. Yeah. And I just, and I'm happy that you were able to say that to her because maybe she needed to hear that even though you probably have said that to her in text messages, has she ever really got to see the emotion behind how you felt?

I do want to get into one subject before you go. You guys are trying to have a baby. Yes. I'm so excited for you. I think that is such a fucking amazing. Jay and I, I'm wishing you so much luck because Jay and I, for a brief moment in time wanted to do in vitro and I went and I got the test done to find out like if your tubes are clogged when they

shoot that stuff in there and it was the most painful thing I ever went through and I was like if this is fucking what childbirth is like I'm not never mind my pussy clammed up I was like I have none rope fucking just barbed wire around my pussy hole i was like in my ovaries and shit i was like i am not fucking doing this so i know it's not an easy journey that you're going you know into but i just think that it's really cool can you tell us about it yes um so we we just really started everything um i just had my first ultrasound um i go in we should be pulling the eggs out of me and pulling sperm out of him on december 1st i saw that you said you wanted a sagittarius baby i do but i'm not gonna are you sure

because my husband's a sagittarius and he's a fucking nut no i'm just kidding but seriously jenna's one so i thought it'd be great oh i love the other one whitney's whitney is sages i have all kinds of Sages around I love No they're the most Jovial Kindest Fucking people And they have Jupiter And they're fucking

They're ruled by Jupiter So they literally are just The luckiest motherfuckers Ever dude I wanted that I wanted a little bit of it She's like I need some luck Let me just have some luck

I'm really scared She's gonna be a Virgo Oh it's gonna be a she Cause we're picking Yes But yeah So they'll They'll fertilize it

They're gonna do all the Genetic testing Find the female Atyypical embryo and they're gonna put it back in me probably i think that's mid-december so um by mid-december i'll be pregnant without otherwise are you gonna have to start taking the clomid and all that stuff i'm on birth control right now okay they stopped my birth control the 16th and I think I start my shots. You know, that's going to fuck with you mentally, right? Curtis already knows like, Hey, whatever happens during this journey, let's just get through it, get the baby and fucking we'll get back to normal.

Cause that was, that was one of the things that worried me because I battle anxiety and depression and stuff like that. And just reading about all the fucking, I had a miscarriage and fucking had suicidal. No, no, no. I'm just keeping it real. She's like, bitch, I thought this was supposed to be happy. Um, I had a miscarriage and fucking had the worst suicidal ideation of my life, dude. It was really bad. So just, I think what I'm trying to say is don't be scared, be prepared. You know, it's better to know than not know and fucking go into it and be blindsided by it. Whereas, you know, absolutely. better to know than not know and fucking go into it and be blindsided by it. Whereas,

you know, absolutely. So you're documenting on all of it for your YouTube. Yes. And then YouTube is blended with the woods.

It's on all of our social stuff, but we're going to document the whole journey. And hopefully, you know, it's happens the first time. It will put it in the air. Manifest.

Literally. Today is 11, 11, 22. Put it in the air right now we're manifesting the first time you're gonna get knocked up baby i will find out i am pregnant are you gonna name her shaquisha or jesus shaniqua it immediately gives me anxiety i had to do it no it has to be k name oh kobe is cute i don't know how you're gonna top that i have a cute one but we'll see

are you gonna are you gonna release it are you gonna do like kylie jenner does and fucking not tell anybody after i might try those one tiktoks that like the it's like it's the herbert family and they just do these six acts like we got a big announcement wait for the next tiktok i hate when people do that background to see if you can find the clue all right well 2023 what can we expect hopefully pregnancy yeah definitely pregnant kelsey is there any other goals that you want to accomplish in 2023 or just baby is all honestly i'm really focused on the baby like i'm really excited i didn't think i get to do motherhood again so i'm really excited the first round obviously i loved being pregnant yeah i loved labor yeah weird i loved infancy you guys are

gonna have a beautiful fucking kid. It's going to be very, it's so funny because his mom, his mom is, she's white German. Dad was black American. I saw your TikToks when you guys were out there. Yeah,

it was great. But she's like, please let it skip a generation. And this baby come out dark and beautiful. And beautiful curly hair. Like she's like praying. And Curtis is like, the baby's going to probably have blonde hair and be damn near right right skin day can you guys pick that

is that part okay i didn't know no because i know that it's like they have fucking crazy shit now that you can pick their eye color you can pick fucking hair color it sounded like just gender okay i was only all for gender yeah i don't know i wouldn't want to i just what i get i'm in love yeah i can't wait you're just like no fucking boys right no boys but i'm excited to experience pregnancy like being loved no i didn't have that i'm excited i didn't get that so i'm really excited kelsey thank you so much for coming here thanks for having me i'm really happy that i got to meet you why don't you tell people where your socials are if they already don't know so that they can go and follow you.

Follow the shit show. No, I'm just kidding. Follow the shit show. No. Growing with Kelsey from here on out. Yes, there you go. I love that. Literally.

Yeah. Follow me at perfectlykelsey underscore on TikTok and just perfectlykelsey on Instagram. My name is Kelsey Pummel on Facebook. Starting that one. And then blended with the woods on Instagram. My name is Kelsey Pummel on Facebook. Starting that one. And then blended with the woods on YouTube. Do you have merch or anything like that or like a website? No, she's like, no, I'm not doing that. I tried the, it's a nightmare. Mimi handles all that for me. It is. It really is. Nope. Not right now. Just kind of hanging out. Stay at home. Mom on TikTok. I love that. Well, thank you for coming on i really appreciate having you and i'm so happy that i got to hear your story i'm happy you heard and gave me a place to stay

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