Dumb Blonde - TBT: Alexandra Kay

Episode Date: September 18, 2025

Throwback ThursdayThis week, Bunnie is joined by rising country star Alexandra Kay, whose gift is turning ordinary moments into something unforgettable. From dive bars to viral coffee-singing videos, Alexandra shares how she carved her path all the way to touring with Jelly Roll—and finding love with her boyfriend, Rocko. She opens up about pushing through two record deals, navigating life after divorce, and the highs and lows that shaped her journey. Through it all, Alexandra stays grounded, embraces the setbacks, and proves that her independent spirit is stronger than ever as the world takes notice.Alexandra: Website | TikTokWatch Full Episodes & More:www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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We are back with another episode of Dumbon, except this time we are on tour. So, of course, I had to have my favorite person on the tour, Don't Tell Warren. Ms. Alexander Kay is in the house, baby. How are you? I'm so good. I'm so happy to be here.

You have no idea. Dude, I'm stoked to have you. I've been wanting you on for a long time. I have been watching you for so long. Like, on TikTok is how I found you, was doing the coffee things and stuff like that. And I always thought you were just so cute. And I was like, I don't want to talk to her.

Thank you. Because you just have such a warm energy. Oh, thank you. That means a lot. Well, I'm super excited to get into it because, like, I'm a huge fan of your podcast. And I love that you ask, like, all of the, like, outside the box questions. So I'm ready, baby. Give it to me.

Oh, I love it. Girl, how about this? You just tell me what you want to tell me. And we'll be good. So what's it like being on tour with Daddy Roll? Like, are you excited? Honestly, like, it feels. like a dream every single day and we were talking about that this morning it's like when is somebody

just going to like knock on our bus door and say okay like you're done now you're having entirely too much fun working yeah and like it's it just feels like a dream it's insane and and every single time that i get to even pass him in the hallway it's like i always try to stop and talk to him for like five minutes because i get just like the little gems of knowledge gems of wisdom in five minutes it's insane. It's like the best five-minute conversation you'll ever have in your life is with him. Try being married, don't mean. You get to a point where you're just like, all right, dude, enough. You're like, I don't want to know anymore. I don't want to be wise. I don't want to be any more wiser than I already am. No, I remember when Jay came to me about this tour, we were sitting

out back and were you guys there? I'm not sure. You guys might have been there or not, but we were picking people to have on and he gave me a list of like girls that he wanted to come on. And I was like, Alexandra Kay. He was like, absolutely. Thank you. Yeah, no, it was, we were really excited to have you and just getting to see you out there every night and just you know in front of the crowd you're like a natural showman like a lot of people don't have that thank you you know I feel like a lot of that I've built just playing in dive bars for so long I feel like you have to go through that those years of playing for nobody or playing for just like five drunk guys on bar stools you don't give a shit what you're singing about or saying um in order to just kind of figure out how to

get even the craziest people's attention or people who just don't really care what you're doing to try to just kind of like get their attention I feel like is how you figure out how to hold a crowd's attention. So I'm really, really grateful for all of the little dive bars I've played

and all of the shows that nobody really came to so that I could be ready for this. It may do who you are, but I forgot who I was talking about last night. I think it was Polly Shore. And we were talking about the growth with my husband. And I was like, I've seen my husband play to 20 people exactly how he's doing out there for 15,000. And I used to always say, I'm, baby, why do you put so much energy into a show for just 20 people? He's like, because they came here to see me.

And like, you know, it's just that it's those humble beginnings that whenever you do make it to the big time, it's just kind of like, all right, I got this. Exactly. And it's like training. Like, that's kind of how I think about it. Whenever I think back on it now, I'm just like, man, if I would. if I would have been too scared to go out the night that, okay, so I showed up to my first, my first tour I ever put on, I drove myself in my Buick Concord to 27 cities. Wow.

And I know. And my guitar player, it was just me and him, but he didn't have a driver's license. So I would literally play until 2 o'clock in the morning and then wake up at like 5 a.m. and drive us to the next city. We did that for a little over a month. But the first, it was my first tour ever, so I didn't know what to expect. And we showed up in Louisville, huge place. I was also booking it myself.

This was before I met Beth. Wow. So I also booked it myself. So I booked in a huge room. And I didn't know what I was doing. Oh, no. And, yeah, I showed up and there was like six people in like a 500-cap room. And I went to the bathroom and I bawled my eyes out.

And then I went out and just put on a show as if the place was packed. And, you know, it's like I did not want to go up there and do that that night. But I was so excited at the end of it. I'm like, these six people paid money to come see me and then didn't turn around and leave when they saw the place was empty. Like, that's what it's about. And then they bring more people and they bring more people in. That was probably the best night of their life.

That is probably like a core memory for them. They're like, I was one of the six people that was watching her perform and now look at her. You know, they tell everybody that. Well, I'm sure Jelly did this too. Like, we would hang out and drink afterwards. Oh, yeah. You know what I mean? I couldn't get my husband out of the venue.

Yeah. Like now when he leaves, I'm like, are you sure? Because he's such a venue rat. So I could never, he would want to hang out with you. He wanted to freaking move people in by the end of the night. And I'd be like, babe, no, we're going home. Hear your life story. Exactly.

And the people would be like, oh, where are you guys going tomorrow? Like, come over to our house. Yeah, yeah. No, that's how my husband was too. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, great, great memories. So let's bring it back. You grew up, you were born in Missouri.

Yeah, I was born in Missouri, southern Illinois. So I'm like right on the border. So I always just tell everybody I'm from St. Louis because it's like the closest city. That's it. Illinois, they're like, oh, you're from Chicago. I'm like six hours away from there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, I was born in Missouri, grew up in a small town in Southern Illinois, and then, like, got into music in St. Louis. That was, like, my first taste in the music business. So growing up, how was your relationship with your parents? How do you have brothers, sisters?

I have two sisters. Yeah. And I'm the middle child, so I'm, like, best friends with both of them. Yeah. And it worked out to where, like, I was a freshman when my oldest sister was a senior. And then I was a senior when my youngest was a freshman. So we all, you know, did the high school parties thing together and everything my older sister would take me out when I was a freshman I would take my little sister out so we're all really really close that's amazing oh man it's I really really am blessed with the just how close my family was went on a lot of like family vacations and stuff we were a softball family so we all play competitive softball and for the same organization so I would be in like 16 you Courtney was 18 and Taylor was in like 14 or 12s and we would travel together and then all play like

the same tournaments. So we were just always together. Athletic family. Yeah. I was surprised when I learned that about you. I was like, okay, a softball. I love that. You know, I feel like it's how I learned my kind of, that's how I got my like determination, I guess, and just never to take no for an answer. It made me tough. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I would think so. I mean, just getting out there and having balls thrown your face every day. Right. I mean, that's a little scary. Right. And just like, you know, physical punishment every single time you did anything wrong. They're like, run. Yeah. It's kind of like the Army. Like, it's like boot camp.

Oh, man. And like when you get to a certain level, like at the club level or whatever, and we were like a nationally ranked team. So they, yeah, they did not play. We played all through the winter on turf indoors and everything. We never had breaks. I didn't really have any friends outside of softball because, you know, during the summertime, I didn't get to hang out with anybody like at school or anything.

We were just always traveling. But once you had your sisters, though, you guys were so close, you know? So those are like built in. Yeah. And you're like built in. best friends. Yeah, for sure. But yeah, I really think it's what made me ready for this kind of lifestyle because it was just work, work, work, work. And so now everybody's like, you don't get any breaks. I'm like, I never really had any breaks anyways. I think it's the Virgo in you too. When I found

out your birthday was the other day, I was like, okay, that makes sense. Because I have a Virgo Stellium, which means four planets that are in Virgo in my chart. I don't know how to give up. I don't quit. Like, I'm always working. So you have that same drive. Oh, my gosh. So much. So much so I wish I could turn it off sometimes. But, but. It can't. No, literally, like, even on our days off, I'm working. Yeah. Like, it doesn't matter what's going on.

Like, even if I'm just making content or doing something, it's like you have to always be making a goal. Yeah. You know, to feel fulfilled, I guess. You're so on your social posting, too. Oh. Because, like, I follow you on everything. And I'm just like, there is all, something is always going up.

And I'm like, Nick, Steph, we got to get something else out. Like, it's pretty good, though. No, no, they do. They're, honestly, they're incredible. I love what you've been doing with the tour. I did that last year where every day we filmed, like, a look, video. or like something like that and that is so good

because people get to see a different side of you too. For sure. We really started leaning in heavier to the vlogs which we didn't have as much time on our headlining tour

to do that and so we really are leaning into that and I feel like everybody's getting to see everyone's personalities and getting to know everybody on the team which is really, really cool

and I thought it was so awesome the other day when I introduced I was talking to jelly and I was like this is Rocco my boyfriend and I just went I'd never like introduced him

as my boyfriend She figured he'd know he was like, I watched the blogs. I love that. And I was like, step, you're going to watch the blogs. We're going to talk about Rocco in a little bit. Let's circle back to childhood though. So mom and dad are still together. You guys are super close, all that jazz.

You grew up doing softball. And then when did you start writing? When did you know like music was kind of in your soul and your spirit? So my mom used to tell me that she would just hear me sing in church. And she was like, oh, okay, she could just tell, you know, that I had a little bit of like a musical ear. And then, you know, growing up in church and singing in the choir and all of that stuff, like I always really loved it. And I was kind of the child that was just pretty outgoing and always wanted to be in front of the camera if like there was a camera

rolling. And so I think that that's when they realized that I was just more creative than my other sisters like they didn't they were just more kind of like shy and I was just out there yeah um and then I went through my first relationship I ever had was it lasted five years so my first and it sounds really weird to say now right now that I'm in my 30s but like my first boyfriend was from 13 to 18 you do long relationships I've noticed that's crazy but that's amazing that you find these people and it's a good and a bad thing because is it is it do you stay because you're in love or do you stay because it becomes a sense of like I have to be here to make it work well I think that now and and once I went through my divorce and I went started in therapy is when I started

to realize why I think I hang on to things for entirely too long sometimes um you know when they're not good for me and I know that and I just won't let it go um but I think that it we kind realize it all stemmed from my first experience of being in love and that not being a healthy first experience of being in love what happened and um you know he was very heavy into drugs and it became a physically abusive relationship and how old were you from 13 to 18 that's those are like pivotal years yeah growth also yeah so to go through two things of having to deal with somebody who's an addict and then also domestic violence is pretty heavy. Yeah, and I hit it, you know, because I loved him and I knew my parents would never let me

see him again. And I was just very anxiously attached to him. I mean, he was my first love, you know, and now I know that he actually wasn't. And he was just trauma bond. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And he did not grow up in a great situation. And when I look back on it now. It's like it makes the whole situation make a lot more sense to me, but I didn't understand it then. Right. And blame myself a lot for it. And you can't blame yourself though. I feel like those lessons are always put into place no matter how bad they are. As we get older, we understand that they do become kind of like a blessing because it's like had you have never gone through that, you would never know that side of life. For sure. So that's how I always try to look at things

too. Right. And had I never have gone through that, I wouldn't, I don't think I would have fallen into songwriting the way that I did because I was just so full of so many things that I couldn't talk about and I was always a very emotional child anyway. I just feel everything times 10. And so when I was going through that, I remember walking through Walmart and seeing this little book that had like daisies on it. And I picked it up, took it home, started writing like just diary entries. and those turned into poems and then I just started hearing melodies and I just started writing songs

and it was all about what I was going through with him and just being in love for the first time and at that time I was also I switched from Catholic school to public school oh wow that's a big change I did that too yeah how old were you when you did that I went from junior high into high school and I didn't know one cuss word

and people used to make fun of me because I would wear like dresses down to my ankles They would call me, like, Little House on the Prairie and stuff like that. No. Yeah, because I came from a Christian school into a Las Vegas public school. Oh, my gosh. So, yeah, it was a huge change. How was it for you?

Yeah, it was pretty much the same. I mean, but a lot of it is, you know, being, I switched from seventh grade. So I had seventh and eighth grade in public school before I went to high school. Oh, my goodness. That's brutal. It's a weird age to change and try to find, try to make friends. Right. And I think that I was just so desperate to fit in that it was like anybody who would take me in.

I was just like, okay, cool. And so I fell into a group that, you know, wasn't the best and developed some pretty unhealthy friendships and relationships at that time. And, you know, gotten a lot of fights. Yeah. Crazy. I can't see Alexander Jay out there. I know. And I never talked about any of this.

there, so I'm giving it all to you, great. I love it. No, I love it. And I think it makes you relatable, because I grew up fighting, too. I got kicked out of my private school for fighting. I got kicked out of public school for fighting. I got kicked out of church for fighting. Wow. So I get it. I understand it. And what do you think that stemmed from? Well, I was just about to ask you that. Yeah. Do you think that that, well, you met your boyfriend went 13, so that's what's sixth grade, seventh grade? Yeah, seventh grade. So do you think what you guys were going through is what made you so volatile towards people? Or was it things at home that were causing that? No, no, it wasn't anything at home. And honestly, I think that the, because I was

able to go home every night to, you know, a very loving and accepting family is the reason why I didn't go down a completely different path. That's so amazing. Yeah. And I, I talk a lot about that with, with my therapist. She's like, you need to write a book because no one knows any of this is happening. And she's like, you should be like under a bridge somewhere. And like, based on, you know, everything that I've been through and just statistically. Like, um, you know i've dealt with my fair share of banking headaches overdraft fees hitting at the worst time waiting days for a paycheck to clear or not knowing exactly what's in my account that's why i really like what chime is doing chime understands that every dollar counts that's why when you set up

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And my whole goal was to just make him stop. So I didn't want to... What was his drug or choice, if I can ask? Well, it started pills when I first found out. And then, you know, the story was that he was just holding onto him for somebody else or selling them for, you know, money or whatever. And so I was just like, okay, well, as long as you're not, you know, doing it. And then it was that, then it was cocaine, then it was heroin, then it was everything else. Wow.

So he went down a really deep spiral. with drugs. Yeah, for sure. That's a lot to deal with that in junior high. That's crazy. So do you think that from that relationship just being so frustrated is what was causing you to lash out

with other people in the fighting? Well, I think that it was also it was also the fact that when he got angry, it was physical. And so when my friends got angry, it was physical. Everything was always fighting with my friends. I mean, it was like some pretty,

It was some pretty traumatic stuff, like, in this group of just, like... Everybody's just beating each other up when they get mad? That's terrible. Yeah, it was pretty like, you know, there was like a hierarchy in this, like, group, and it was just like, you two are going to fight or I'm going to fight you. Wow. Yeah, it was pretty, it's pretty rough. That is rough.

You got to, like, live in fight or flight every time you're around them. For sure, and it was just, you know, fight back or get your ass kicked all the time. And it was just, you know, and it made me really, really hard for a while. And, um, and I think that I just kind of fell into, oh, this is how we handle things. Okay. So then this is how I handled things for a few years until I completely separated myself from that whole group of people and broke up with my boyfriend and spent a lot more time with my family and just as they say anyway, they just kind of think I fell back into who I had

always been. So from 13 to 18, though, those are like huge growth years. So aside from that relationship, you're, so you start. writing and then where does the writing take you musically i just started you know working with anybody who knew how to use garage band for pro tools you're like i've got some songs like literally written in this book and i'm like can i record these and they're like cool uh do you play guitar no it's just spoken word oh you're like it's just poetry yeah right and so i just found somebody who could just kind of put the music with everything for me and started cutting these songs

putting them on sound cloud you know oh yeah yeah just doing i I could never imagine you on SoundCloud, but that's amazing. Yes. Like, you're just willing to do whatever. You won't find me now. I made sure there was no evidence of those first. What is the first song you uploaded on SoundCloud? Oh, I believe it was called Let You Go.

Yeah, and it was very, it almost had like a, mm-mms, like dance. Because you were supposed to be a pop artist, right? So I signed, my first record deal I signed was in 2012, and I signed with Network Entertainment. How old were you then? I was 21. Okay, you were 21. Yeah. And I signed this deal, ended up going into, well, okay, I had been working in hip hop for a little bit.

So I worked from like 19 until I was like 22 at the Four Seasons Hotel. Didn't you have your first agent when you were 16? I think I had read that somewhere. Yes, I did. So take me from there. I went into acting, modeling, did that whole voiceover. I did voiceover work. What does voiceover work exactly?

So I basically would do like the are you ranking material and like the college, like the local college radio spots. Oh, I love that. Stuff like that. Yeah. And just go in and do that, which was really fun. I loved it. And so I did that and I did a couple commercials. And I loved it.

I just wanted to be in front of the camera. And that was when I got into musical theater as well. and did a lot of theater. And I feel like that, especially from like my junior, senior year of high school, it really kept me out of trouble because I stopped going out on the weekends and I would just be like with all the theater kids building sets, you know? And I was just like, gosh, this is so much more peaceful than what I used to be doing. So, yeah, so I did that and then kind of took it a step further and got an agent

and did some of those commercials. And then that's when I started meeting people in the music business when I was working at the Four Seasons. and met a couple of rappers. And I was just like, hey, if you guys ever need hooks, like I sing and I'll do it for free, you know, just call me. And so they did. And then they just kind of passed my name around there. Like, this girl does it for free and she sounds good, you know, with everybody.

And so then I just ended up in every closet studio in St. Louis for a couple of years. And one of those rappers was Nelly. Yeah, yeah. I ended up working with Nellie and got in the studio with Huey and Ching. Where the hell did Huey go? Huey died. Oh, he did? Yeah.

Did he? I never knew. Did everybody know that? Your face? What? No, because I, seriously. He's the one that's saying pop lock and drop it, right? I never knew he died.

Yeah, and he was a St. Louis guy. Damn, what did he die from? A gunshot. Oh, son of a bitch. All right. Well, RIP Huey. I'm sorry, baby. I did not know.

I genuinely did know. Yeah, I know. And, yeah, but that was a crazy time and it was so much fun. and that's how I signed my first deal. Yay. So what was that like signing your first deal? Like, were you just, did you think that the world was going to change? Of course.

We all do, right? We think, oh, this is it. This is it. I'm going to the top. Nobody could tell me shit. I mean, why, my contract was like one piece of paper. Like, it was just, it was so illegitimate. Who did you sign with?

Network entertainment. It was like a, like a little indie label. Okay, gotcha. Yeah, I think everybody has, that it has never been in the music industry or wants to be in the music industry and wants to be signed so bad. I don't think they realize how not for the artist these deals are. And I always stress that on the podcast that, you know, yes, being in the music industry is awesome. And there's so many blessings that come with it.

But there's also so many deals that just you have to be very careful for and look out for. For sure. I mean, my creative freedom just completely went out the window with that deal. And I was just so young and naive And I just wanted any help that I could get And so I took it And don't get me wrong Like I had a blast

And I learned a lot in that I think it was about a year and a half I was with them And but still to this day You know, the songs I released with them I haven't seen any money from them They still own everything How is that legal?

How do they get away with that? Honestly, I don't know And I just... It's so unfair because you guys Without you guys, there's no them you know so it's like you would think that they would treat people better yeah you would think so um i mean the last conversation we had was that they were like yeah if you re-record the song and put it out with us then we'll take the original down and i was like no why would i ever do that

i feel like if you if you know you sign with a big label because i'm sure everybody and their mom is looking at you know they'll be able to handle that for you and that's called karma yeah yeah we're looking forward to that yeah yeah she's like i'm like please get that song out of here No, is it rough? I want to hear it. It's rough, please don't. We're going to look it up one of these days. We're going to go on the bus and listen to it, and then I'm going to FaceTime you while we're listening to it in the background.

Oh, my God. And then the owner of the label had this clothing brand as well. And so in the music video, he, like, made me wear his clothing brand. No. There's a music video up to. What is the name of it? We have to go look at it. Okay.

Oh, my God. I'm so scared. It's so bad. You guys, it's so bad. No, you are so funny. It sounds, I'm singing out of my nose. You know who I'm married to, right? There's some videos up that he has up, and I'm like, honey, what is going on?

What the fucking cornrows? Are you kidding me? Like, I'm like, who is this man? I mean, we have all done some, like, when you first get started and you're like, you'll do anything. I mean, we've all got questionable shit out there. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah. You should see some of the first shit I uploaded on YouTube and TikTok.

Like, don't, let's not do it. But, you know, it's like you don't know who you are. You're finding your sound, you're finding your persona online or who you want to be. So don't ever, that's a part of your journey. And that's why I've kept it up, you know. There's some really bad very first YouTube videos. Those are gone. Nobody will ever find those.

But, you know, it's cool to look back on, right? And you're just like, oh, my gosh, I thought this was so great. Yeah. When I did it and I was so excited. No, please. Stop. Girl. But that's a testament of how far you've come, you know?

I know. They cut my hair off. I was blonde. Not the bed. Not the bed shot. Oh, the hairdo. Let me see the hairdo. Oh, my God. That is so like Sarah Fawcett. Oh, my God. And the mountains in the background. This is very Bob Ross. Very Bob Ross. Is he painting as we speak? I love it. I love it. Oh, my God. So during all of this, you also had a relationship that you started with somebody correct, with your high school boyfriend. who you ended up being with for about 10 years.

Yeah, so my ex and I met right around the time I signed this record deal. Oh, wow. So, 2012. And we were together for, yeah, 11 years. And then we... That's a long time. Yeah. Long, long time.

We stopped dating for a year pretty early on. We just weren't seeing eye to eye on what we wanted. And I was really, really career focused. And he wasn't really there at that point. And so we split and then ended up getting back together and, you know, kept it going for a long time. I held on to that for a long time. Yeah, that's crazy. And we'll, we're going to circle back into that when we talk about when you dropped your first, our, which album was it right here?

The, I have it in my notes. Oh, yeah, yeah, all I've ever known. Yes, all I've ever known. Sorry, I have so many notes and I'm trying to look through them. But you also, during this time, got signed to a Netflix show. Were you doing a Netflix show? Yeah. Take me on this journey.

I know. And I also have to tell you how I got it. Yes, please do. So it's so invisible string. Okay. And like, okay, so first of all, like God puts me in situations in my life way before it's ever, I'm ever going to be back and realize why I was there to begin with. Oh, I love that.

So, and I have a couple really pretty creepy scenarios for you. And I just had another one. What yet? Was it yesterday two days ago? But so. I had just come back from being on the voice. I mean, they didn't air my episode. So, like, was I ever really on it?

I don't know. And no one turned around for me. It was an audition, right? Yeah, it was an audition. But, you know, during that time, they keep you in a hotel room for a month, and you literally can't leave the hotel for a month. They make you do that for a month, and then don't even air your episode. That's brutal.

Yeah, it's a pretty crazy scenario. So I'm just going to tell you this while we're on this. So the other day, two days ago, when we were going through, um we were at our hotel realized our tour manager had booked a different hotel and he was like oh i'm so sorry guys we're actually somewhere else we all get back in i'm like okay i'm gonna run in and go to the bathroom and then Rocco and i went to a different hotel and then went and saw hamilton which is so fun for my birthday um and we walk into this hotel and i just like get this really like eerie feeling and i'm like that's it smells familiar it looks familiar and then i see all

these people walk around with guitars and I was like oh my gosh this is the hotel that I lived in for a month when I was on the voice no way and I've never been back oh my god but you're back now on your own terms like that's amazing and the day before you know I got to play crypto with you guys and and like what isn't I got goosebumps I was like standing outside like this is where I was bawling my eyes out like oh my gosh my career is over nothing's going to happen for me they just didn't you know yeah it's over and then I'm just standing right back Oh, my gosh. Isn't that wild? But it's crazy how the universe brings you back to say, see, see how far you've come

because you probably are really hard on yourself. And like, because you always do have your head down working, I'm the same way. We rarely stop to smell the roses and like appreciate what we do. You know, so that's kind of like the Lord telling you like, hey, hello. I know. Look at you. Hi, it wasn't supposed to happen then. It was supposed to happen now. But that was a part of what it took to get you here. Absolutely.

And so I had one of those, the other. day. And so back to, I left my record deal, started going on Facebook, posting videos of me singing 90s country songs on my parents' staircase. From there, I recorded Jolene. And that was my first viral video. It got like 80 million views on Facebook and kind of grew my Facebook page enough for a producer from The Voice to see that video. That's how I'm. I got my blind audition, did that, didn't work out. 30 days later, I get a call for my friend who's driving for Uber in Los Angeles. And he's like, dude, I just had the craziest Uber ride.

I don't know if anything's going to come from it, but like, I have to tell you what just happened. I'm like, what's up? He says, this guy gets in the back of my Uber and we've got an hour ride somewhere and we're talking. And I'm like, what do you do? He's like, what do you do when you're not Ubering, yada, yada. And he's like, he, I was driving him to a showcase because he was telling me about this show that he was casting and how they needed a country singer to fill out, to round out this cast. And this was going to be the last person they cast. And he was just like, oh, do they have to live here?

And he's like, I don't know what it was in me, but I just pulled up your Jolene video and I just handed it to him in the back seat. And he was like, who is this and how do I get in contact with her? And they cast me in the show. How strange is that? Shout out to good friends. I know. Like that speak good about you and you're not in the room. That's amazing.

Insane. Insane. And so I was just sitting in Southern Illinois, 30 days after getting cut and feeling like, oh, what am I going to do now? Thank God, though, because Bob Ross. Right, for sure. Come on. Thank God.

At the time, you were very upset, but, I mean, it's like, it was such a blessing. You know, I really thought I was going to be living in those mountains. So. When one door closes, another one open. So, no, that's amazing. So that was really cool. And I got cast in the show, and they were like, we need you out here in 30 days.

You have to find your own place to live. So I ended up living with Scotty, which is so random. He's like, I was like, where am I going to live? Scottie was the Uber driver. Yeah. And he was like, somebody just moved out. And he was like, do you want the room? And I'm like, yeah, I moved out there.

I didn't know anybody. Didn't have any friends. I figured out how to drive the crazy highways out there pretty quickly. I had a lot of panic attacks. This is in L.A., right? Yeah. Okay, yeah. Oh, yeah.

The L.A. freeways fucking scare me. I'd make me, we drive all the time. And I'm from the West Coast. Oh, my God. I'm like from Waterloo, and I'm like, where are all the parking lots? Like, this is crazy. And so, yeah, I just jumped right into shooting that show, made friends with everybody on the cast. It was a wild experience.

Unfortunately, the show just, there were too many cooks in the kitchen, you know, call it what you will, whatever the reason was. It just wasn't as successful. And that was just another heartbreak after that. And I was, I have to tell you, like, I was devastated when that happened. I mean, it really put me in a rut. Well, it's like an extremely high high, you know, and then to have to be let down from that, I mean, you just, it's a lot. It's pretty heavy.

I mean, not only the producers and everybody saying, this is our most funded show of the year, this is going to change your lives, and shooting it for two years. Wow. Yeah. That's a long time. Yeah. Holy shit. It was a long time we worked with all of the big music video director.

and we got signed to Warner Brothers at that time. It's when I signed my record deal with Warner. So this is your second record deal that you're signing? Yeah, and I was, you know, just on cloud nine. Thought it was all going to happen. And then the show came out. It was mismarketed. And this is from them.

This is what they said happened. So basically it was marketed as a reality TV show. So, you know, you get recommended things on Netflix. And it was kind of pushed to people who watch reality shows. So, like, people who, watch ice road truckers were notified about our musical television show right that was it like glee kind of or like what no and that's that is what i was pitched whenever i got cast in show was something like that and then what ended up happening is it just the storyline got extremely

confusing they were following our careers but then we were also creating our own musical about our own lives in the middle of it but then also already i'm confused oh and then you're just watching and it breaks out into a big budget music video okay yeah it was it still up can we watch that too yeah oh god we're doing a deep dive tonight i mean welcome to the graveyard here's all the things i did that i love it though but this is so cool that you have such an extensive digital footprint though like that's amazing because when you're winning fucking grammies you're gonna look back on what is it called i'm so sorry uh west oh yeah west side you're gonna look back on west side and you're going to be like this was all part of my journey. And you have it all documented, dude. So like when

you do do like a documentary of your life story, they're going to be able to pull all these clips. And like, it's just going to be such a beautiful montage of your life. I can't wait for that. Yeah. No, don't look at it with embarrassment. Well, no, you know, it's what's really cool is all of the moments I got to feel that were like those real rock bottom moments. Because it's what makes me so grateful for moments like these. Yeah. So when when Westside came out, there were, we were all over Times Square. We did all the big TV shows and there are billboards all over L.A. And, I mean, it was crazy.

And then we get the call around Thanksgiving, hey, we're not putting any more, they're not putting any more money into the show. It's buried in the algorithm. Like, it's done. It's over. And your checks are going away. And we're not doing a second season. Yikes.

Also, then Warner Brothers calls days later, and they dropped us all. You don't get residuals? No. Wow, that's crazy. And then you lose your second record deal. Just out of the blue? Yeah. What was their reasoning?

They just didn't. Okay, so what happened was we lost the deal with the show, and then they started dropping people from the record label, but they held on to two of us. And so I was with them a little bit longer, and we just weren't seeing eye to eye as far as, like, the songs they were pitching me and wanted me to cut,

and I was just like, this doesn't even sound anything like anything I do. And so that was more, hey, it doesn't feel like it's going to be a good fit, but they did drop everybody else. I love that you stand up for yourself, though, because most people want it so bad, they're willing to be who they aren't. And you are like, no, I'm not going to cut this song. This isn't a good fit. I don't care if I'm going to lose this record deal or not.

But, you know, if I wouldn't have gone through that first record deal, where I did record a bunch of things that didn't feel like me, you know, I wouldn't have known to stand up for myself then. And then, so I had still some time left on my lease in California. And, like, I had to pay my bills. So I was driving all through Burbank with my little, my bartending resume because I bartended for a long time. And I was going to every single bar. And as I'm driving, I was, like, on sunset.

And they are literally painting over our billboard of our show as I am, like, handing out my resume to bartend. I feel like that's your life, though. I feel like God has a sense of you know with you. Yeah. I was like, twist it. Why don't you? Oh, my gosh. Yeah, it was, it was really, really wild. I feel like, you're going to really feel this right now, but I promise you, I'm going to bring you out of this. He's like, we're going to make it hurt real bad so that you just really appreciate everything good that's about to have. But that's amazing because some people don't get those lessons and they don't get to learn those valuable things that, you know, make you grow in life and become a better kid's character development. 100% yeah absolutely so during all this how is your relationship because you are with your ex at this time during all of this how is that going um so at that time like if you if you watch the show ever that we do have a lot of rocky moments in the show and there were a lot of things going on behind the scenes where you know i have that song on my record called painted imperfect and like that is exactly what i did and a lot of things were happening that were huge red flags at that

time that I just really covered up. And we stayed together. We moved back from L.A. to Southern Illinois because that's where he could work. And so I said, here's what we'll do. Since you moved out to L.A. with me, we'll go back to Southern Illinois. You go back to work in the union. And I will commute to Nashville. And so I started driving, I started driving to Nashville every Monday, which is a four and a half hour drive from St. Louis. I would couch surf Monday through Friday, just wherever I could crash and write songs, record, make content. I joined 615 house at that time. And then I would get back in my car and drive home Friday, spend Saturday and Sunday,

and then Monday I would drive back. And I did that for almost three years. Did he ever, do you ever feel like he supported your dream? Because I feel like all of these highs and lows that you've gone through, I don't hear about him being by your side through it. I do feel like he was, I do feel like he was supportive. Yeah. And, you know, we went through a lot together. And, you know, he moved to L.A. for me, with me. Yeah. And I moved back home for him and then commuted for him. So there was a lot of things that we did for each other. And, you know, it wasn't all bad with us. He was my best friend. Yeah. And unfortunately, we just grew apart. Like, we grew up. I tell people this all the time. It's like, and in my song, you know, in Everlee,

when I say, I guess me at 21 and 31 just wanted different things. Well, I mean, yeah. Like, imagine yourself at 21 and what you wanted and what was important in a relationship to you. And then at 31, what's important now?

It was like, it was just really cool when we got together that his parents owned the bar down the street and that our friends kicked it together and that my friend was dating his friend. Do you know what I mean? And a lot of it was just going out and drinking, partying, and like,

being young and stupid and having a good time. Yeah. And moving into our first apartment together and splitting rent because neither of us could afford it by ourselves. I mean, we were kids. And then we got older and we just didn't want the same things anymore. Yeah.

I know how that goes. But, I mean, people don't understand every year you're growing, but 21 to 31 is a huge jump and maturity levels also. So, you know, to be able to acknowledge that. get out of that marriage is huge on both of you guys as parts too because some people would have hung on for even longer so to know that you weren't happy and just be like hey man we need to just part ways even though that dude was your best friend and you guys had a decade plus under your belt that's not easy to walk away from not at all it was devastating it was like how do you get the

strength to do that i i didn't have a choice at that point i didn't have a choice there was something that just snapped in me. I'll never forget where I even was. I was in San Diego and I was playing San Diego Hassel Blues like the small room that night and we were just out on another headlining tour and things had just really gone downhill and it was just getting worse and worse and worse and worse and was it like arguing? What was it like? It was arguing it was he wasn't working at the time and so when you have a lot of free time and I'm on the road you know there's a lot of drinking and then with the drinking comes more arguing and so and then you know spending money because money's not coming in and you're not working it's just a lot

easier to spend money right because you got to entertain yourself somehow yeah that's still not fair to you though right and then you know I'm on the road and calling you from a closet because I don't have a green room because I'm in clubs like small 300 cap clubs and being like like please stop spending the money on the credit card like we cannot afford you know what is he spending money on just going out yeah pretty much was there any infidelity or anything like no no um there you know once we separated it was instant that he was out wild and out um you know and we were from a small town so it was nobody knew we were separated oh no so yeah so the girl was like, yo, your husband was trying to take me home last night.

Oh, that's so hurtful. And so that's how I was finding out because no one knew. And at that time we were still- Shout out to the girl who told you though. Yeah, she's a real one. Nobody ever wants to hear that. Yeah, I know. I was just like, thanks. Yeah. And, you know, because there were a lot of girls that did do things that I found out from other people and they didn't tell me. So, you know, it was, it was really, really hard, but you know how when somebody just keeps proving that this was the right decision, it just gets easier every single day. You know, it's different if they're completely turning their life around and changing things, but when you just watch them continue to spiral in the opposite direction as you're going, you're like, thank you for the strength to get out

while, you know, while I could. I, um, I, I applaud you for how you went through the divorce because you were so classy about it. You didn't speak about it. You literally just poured your heart out into an album, and that was it. Like, you know, you didn't go into the press. It wasn't messy. Like, you just did it so...

Not what normal people in the spotlight would do. You know, divorces get pretty hectic and disturbing sometimes, and I really appreciated the way you did yours, so... Thank you. You know, I really loved him. And so the last thing I ever wanted to... to do was destroy him

further than I know I destroyed him when I had to leave. You know? Because it's not what he wanted, but it was what was going to be best for me in the long run. And what I think is going to be best for him

because at the end of it, I was not in love anymore. And so when you're in a relationship with somebody and you're not in love anymore, that's not easy on the person who still is in love and I'm like you don't you don't deserve to be with somebody who is not in love with you anymore so I want you to go find love and go be happy but the last thing that I wanted was

to destroy his reputation it was really tough to hear you know what was really hard was when it came out and then everybody speculated that it was because I got famous which is so weird you know what I mean like that's not even a real thing I'm not but like you know what I mean like that's the comment section is oh she blew up and just left her husband in the dust and it's like I had to read that over and over and over the internet cheated and I'm like yeah it was brutal that was brutal and also to just be super heartbroken I lived by myself for the very first time at 30 years old oh my goodness I had never lived alone take me on that first night that you're alone in your apartment i was terrified

you know like later on i loved it but it was like i was scared i never like sure i slept alone but in like hotel rooms and in my home that i was comfortable in but like i moved in with my manager beth for a while like at the beginning of it because first of all i was extremely unstable and there was plenty of times when she just brought tequila upstairs to my sobbing ass It was like, that's a real one. Yeah, she is. She is, I never got through it without her. And she was just like, okay, do we need to go out?

Like, what are you? You know? And I'm like, you know, like, it was really, really tough. So she, moving in with her, really helped my transition. But it was a couple weeks into living alone and realizing that every decision I made was my own. And that's when I ended up writing all I've ever known was because I was like, oh my gosh, I didn't even realize that this is how I've always wanted my house to look because I never really got to say on that. He was, he was very much things his way. And if it wasn't his

way, it would eventually be his way. Right. You know what I mean? And I am very much a people pleaser have always been. So I would end up being just be like, fine, whatever you want, you know. After these relationships and after learning so many life lessons, do you still consider yourself a people pleaser? Yes, because I feel like it's in my heart to be. But in the best way. But with boundaries now? Yes, with boundaries now, but not in a bad way, not in an unhealthy way. Because I feel like having the heart of a servant is why I have such a connection with my fans, because I really want to, it's so important to me that they know that they are loved and appreciated. And I don't know that everybody really cares that much that their fans feel real true.

genuine love and appreciation um and gratefulness every day you know as long as they're happy with the music it's like that's enough sometimes for some artists but that's not enough for me um and so if that part of me completely went away then i would lose myself completely so i don't ever want to lose that no your fans and the people who love you and your music are lucky to have you because not a lot of people especially in this industry as you know feel that way they want to just do the and go home and do it all over again. You know, you actually want to get out there and meet these people who are supporting you

and love on them like they love on you. You know what I was thinking is like, because jelly's the same way. Oh, yeah, no, he is. And when I watch him up there, it makes a lot of sense because we haven't been through the same things, but all the highs and lows in life

and the highs and lows that I've witnessed and experienced in my career, like I can see it up there like when he gets so emotional it's like he did not expect his life to turn out this way and there were so many times

when I had another letdown that like I truly didn't expect my life to turn out this way either and it's like I feel like you just have to go through shit to really really stand here and be like thank you

you know yeah it's a part of your journey and that's you know it's special because not a lot of people get to experience the lessons that you guys have and that it's made you who you guys are. Did he do mean greets for a long time? My husband.

I was like, I bet you were dragging him out at some point. Like, there are 10,000 people here. You cannot meet everyone. Literally does. My husband does meet and greets when we go to the grocery store. Yeah. Okay? Like, we, there's a rule.

I will not go on a date with him in Nashville because it's not a date. It's literally a meet and greet. And I'm just sitting there eat, you know, just, hi guys. Yep, sure, I'll take the picture for you, you know? Like, and I don't mind. I love my husband, I'll do whatever. But it's like, you know, my husband does not know how to turn it off. He does, he just, if you come up to him and you want to talk, he's going to talk to you.

And I love that about him, you know, and I'm never going to get in the way of him being who he is. For sure. Sometimes I'm like, baby, can we just have one freaking meal together? Just me and you, please. So take me on this journey with TikTok because you got on TikTok, and that's how I found you was on TikTok. You were doing those. I know people have told you this before, but I think that you are the closest thing

that this generation has to Dolly's voice. I think Megamaroni is, what is that, Barbara Mandrell of this generation. I think Cody Johnson is the George Strait of this generation, and I think that you have the Dolly vocals, man. Oh, thank you so much. You're welcome. You hear it all the time, though.

I know you do. But it's so cool. Like, every time I hear it, it's like, she's the best. Like, you don't get any better than that to me. You know what I mean? She's just a great human too. Who she is.

I know because I know you've met her. I have never met her. Oh my God, you've got to meet her. I know. And however long I've been singing her songs and I haven't met her. You'll meet her. Yeah, I can't wait. I can't wait.

And what an incredible person too. Just me, just watching videos from afar. And she just shines so bright. And but thank you. That's a huge compliment. And I want to continue to kind of live in that. And I really leaned into that in my record.

You know, I wanted like the soft kind of spoken word thing that she does. And I wanted to be able to do that. And it's just really, it was very convenient that I was able to do that because the record is just so emotional. Yeah. Yeah, so with TikTok, I came home from the TV show, wrote a song called I Kind of Don't, which ended up being my first number one on iTunes,

and was the first time that label started. started to, you know, slide into the DMs and show some interest. Do they really do that? Labels just slide in the DMs? That's how, yeah, that's how I had my first. Not even a freaking email. They're sliding in DMs. Yeah, they're just like, hey, on Instagram.

Yeah. And so that's how, you know, I have my first label meetings. But I was writing this song called I Kind of Don, and I was with Tana Mats and Ryan Robbinette. And I remember Ryan being like, have you guys heard about this app called TikTok? And I was like, isn't that a kid's app? I think that's like for kids. I was like, you're not getting me on there.

She tried for a year and a half to get me on there. I was like, you're not doing it. I was like, guys, I think that's going to be creepy. I was like,

I'm like too old for that, I think. I said the same thing. And he was like, no, like artists are putting their music on there and it's like going.

And this was 2019 or 20, yeah, 2019. Your Facebook was already popping though, right? Yeah, Facebook was my first platform that I had virality on.

I love Facebook. Me too. Not a lot of people utilize Facebook. I love Facebook. I know. I'm looking at Nick because it's like, it's like our little, okay, we're not telling anybody. You guys don't go to Facebook. Nick's our social media guy. And we just, we just scheme about Facebook all the time because it's like everybody just

thinks it's for the older generation and it's over. And I'm like, man, no, it pops. I'm on there every day post and shit. Like I love Facebook. I know. I follow you on Facebook. Oh, I love that. Yeah, but I mean like reals, like they go crazy. Yeah. And so. Don't go over there people. I had, no, don't, I'm just kidding, it's really true. Yeah, it sucks, it's terrible. But I, yeah, I, I started posting on Facebook, had virality over there, and then when Instagram became a thing, worked that as much as I could, but it wasn't as easy to grow on Instagram back then.

Yeah, I know, Instagram is still my lowest platform. Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's really hard to grow up there. They don't care about us over there. Literally, they do not. I feel like Facebook and TikTok at least shows us a little bit of love. Yeah. Instagram was like, fuck you, pay me. Right.

That's all they care about. Yeah, I know. Facebook can get ruthless, though. Oh, I was making... Facebook's my most ruthless platform in the comments. Oh, the comments? Oh, yeah, yeah. It's terrible.

I don't even read the comments. And if I do, it's always an asshole at the top. And then I always respond to it. And then it gets like a thousand more, you know, comments on it. And I do it on purpose. But, no, they're brutal over there. They do not care. No, they don't.

It's definitely where I get destroyed the most there. So I'll just like go on. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And I mean, the crazier it gets in the comments, the view is just like skyrocket. Keep it going. Okay, I just won't read. Oh, no.

I'll turn a blind eye. You have to post and ghost. That's what I do. So I decided, okay, let me try this TikTok thing. I started posting just little clips of me singing here and there, playing a little guitar. Nothing happened, of course. And then posted, I kind of don't. And that was my first song to ever go viral.

And then I think it got like 10,000 presaves. Like my first song I ever. released and from one video from one viral video and I said oh my gosh they are not kidding like this is this is a big platform so I just kept feeding it feeding it I post like three times a day post all my songs and my monthly listeners started going up and I started making money girl the first time I made money off of my music um was after I kind of don't money came in which is about three months after the song comes out and it was my first payment And I was just sitting on my bed, and my ex at the time was, like, out there mowing the lawn.

It was just a normal day. We were poor as shit. And I opened up my tune core, and I was like, my jaw just dropped. And I booked it outside and, like, ran into his arms. And I was like, we made $10,000. Like, it was, like, life-changing for us, you know? and yeah it was it was wild we were crying it was like a whole thing I'll never forget that day I'll never forget that day and then I was like all right TikTok is my job let's go you know

that's what it did for me we were one of the first podcast to get on TikTok do you remember that me and we were so ahead of our time with the podcast that TikTok used to flag all my podcast videos because they didn't know what it was and then once they finally started letting them on then they started blown up and then now everybody else and their mom has a freaking podcast on there But once it's, it's almost like I compare it to gambling in Vegas. Yeah. When you hit a jackpot on a slot machine, you just get so addicted to those numbers and just the virulness of everything.

And that's really what keeps people going. It's an addiction. 100%. But when you see it actually like helping your career too, then that's also, you know, for sure. For we do it for. It just felt so like it was just a door opening. Like I just found like a little crack and I was just like, all right, I'm walking through here

and I'm just going to chase this because had that. that time, I had nothing else going on. And I felt like I just kind of snuck into this little, like, crack in the door. And I was just like, don't tell anybody I'm in here, but I'm going to work while I'm in here, you know? And so that happened, had a couple of other songs go viral, started making some money off my music. One random morning, I, every morning I wake up and I would be like, Alexa play 90s country. And it would just play whatever. And I had my phone propped up.

and I had avocado toast and I had just started making my own like lattes because I couldn't afford to go to Starbucks anymore and so I was like I'm gonna figure out how to homemade lattes are better anyways they are and the coffee's not burnt yeah exactly

not a Starbucks fan either yeah yeah all the time and so I slid in singing a Jody Mastina no saying yeah a Jody Mastina song and then somebody comments and says how do you make your coffee and I responded to that

and I made my second coffee and I sang Cowboy take me away and got three million views and I said okay this might be a thing next morning woke up did it again a few more million and I'm not kidding it was everything I posted was a million

at least no I remember that era I was like this girl is singing making coffee and just the views are crazy go girl wild and so at this time Nick had just started in a social media role for me so I called him and was like

dude what is happening and he was like I don't know but like you better be making coffee I was making those videos three times a day oh my goodness yeah and just stockpiling them so that if I couldn't be at my house in the morning I had something to post and it was every single day and then did you ever get burnt out doing that? Very much yeah I do that too

and it became stressful which is so strange to think, right, that I would get stressed about making coffee in my kitchen and posting a video. But it felt like my lifeline because I got so addicted to those numbers and I was like, so I started this kind of strategy. Okay, this is going to go viral and then I can post an original song and that will kind of like fall into that same momentum tornado and I'll get a lot of views on an original song and I would post coffee original, coffee original and I'd post at least twice a day. and that's how I got my numbers up for my original music

and eventually I just had to stop doing it because I was like I'm stressed yeah it's a lot of pressure people don't realize like they're like oh all you do is create content and it's like let me see you do it for six months straight and see how you feel like

it's a lot of pressure to put on yourself because if something tanks you're like what happened why did I do this or you know like you just want to always make sure that you're moving forward and sometimes the algorithms don't allow us to do that. Right. And I mean, I'm sure you've heard just as much as I've heard really incredible songs on TikTok that have no views.

Oh, yeah. And I'm like, it's not because this song isn't amazing. You just didn't get picked to go into that algorithm. And it's, it's heartbreaking because I don't think that way anymore. Like, we post our blogs on TikTok. If they get 100,000 views, like, we're happy. Yeah, that's how I am too. Yeah.

But we're not going to just not post vlogs just because they only get 100,000 views because that core fan base that knows us. Loves it. They love it. And they want to see personality and they want to meet Steph and they want to meet Nick and see how funny Beth is.

And like, you know? And so why would we just deprive them of that just because it's not hitting the for you page and going viral every single time? I love that you include your team because I'm the same exact way. I remember I sat down with my team and I was like, listen,

you guys need to make Facebook pages. You need to get your Facebooks up. We're going to start, you know, I want people to get to know your personalities. And I really feel like the people that help you it's you want them to win with you you know and I think that's a sign of you know just somebody who brings their team along with them is just and I don't want to like compliment because then I sound like I'm bragging on myself but I feel like that's a character of a good human because a lot of

people don't do that you know they don't they want to keep their teams hidden and you know we don't do that so I think that's amazing I mean it would be detrimental to me if Beth and I weren't working together if Nick and I never leave she ain't going anywhere girl I was like I will find you with Mimi I'm like Mimi don't ever leave me I will hunt you down you have no idea no she can't and you know when Beth and I um Paley too Beth found me on Facebook in 2020 which we didn't we didn't really touch on this but during the pandemic yeah all of my dive bar shows went away so and that's how I was making my money so I would play Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday four hour sets a night. And by Sunday, I could not even talk. Yeah, that's a lot. Yeah, it was crazy. And then

we would, you know, talk, drink, hang out of everybody afterwards. And I started to gain like a local following during this. Well, all of that gets shut down, all the bars closed during the pandemic. So I called up my band and I was like, your guys are going to come over every Thursday and we're going to do a Facebook live session. Aw. Girl, these Facebook live sessions were paying us more. than what we were making at our shows because I put my PayPal link up there and they were tipping us. So anytime somebody would,

they'd be like $5 in PayPal and you know how you can add a little note, they'd be like strawberry wine. And I'd be like, thank you so much, read their full name, and then sing strawberry wine for them. And I mean, the tips would roll. And I kept my whole band afloat and me,

the whole pandemic from doing those Facebook lives. But we would have half a million people in there at once. Wow. by the end of it just because it became a thing like it was like people would look forward to it they would put on their days around people love live entertainment on their computers because they don't have to go anywhere yeah and they would be like hey like we're so excited we have our dinner in our in our wine and we're just we have you on the tv yeah like watching it every thursday so that was really cool and one of beth's friends shared a facebook live and was like oh this girl's awesome

and so beth checked me out and then called me and she wanted to book me as an agent and then I mean we just became best friends and like I've never met anybody who works like who matches my work ethic when's your birthday Beth 1222 you're Capicor

I knew it before you she even said it Does that make sense with our signs? Capricorn and Virgo are soulmate signs That makes so much sense Also did you see that? I'm a Cap Aquarius and Cap Rising so that's why I you know the and the Virgo too I just I don't stop Oh it makes so much sense I mean she would

she was in LA and I would have a couple hours on her and she would still be up. I would have to get up earlier just to make sure that I was up when she was up so that we could work together. We worked for over Skype all day long. I mean, like we never weren't on the phone. And we grew it together and this is another invisible string moment. But we had our first number one. I kind of don't on iTunes.

second one which nobody had done yet in like the indie country thing so priscilla had her number one song on iTunes and then right after yeah she's amazing such a sweetie boy and then right after her came mine and then I had put a second song out and I was like oh yeah we definitely need this one to be up there too like pre-save pre-save and like nobody we really couldn't get the attention of anybody in Nashville they were just kind of like dusting us off because she was in LA and I was in Illinois and like we weren't part of the you know yeah Nashville's kind of a little do I dare say culty yeah they're culty you have to know somebody that knows somebody like you have to be accepted they're not just going to let you in and just come in off the street no I just now

you have to court them right 100 percent I just now feel like we're getting let in the doors and I mean we've been you know five years in there and so we went and bought a billboard with my last actually Beth had to pay for it because it overdrafted my account. No. And we spent every cent. We spent every send on this door. And we put it up, all the Cowboys, we put it up on Music Row. We took a picture in front of it.

I shit you not. There were cranes. There are cranes in the back. And it's building my building I live in. Oh, my goodness. I love that. Yeah. That's amazing.

And we were in there, and I was in there, you know, with my ex and who is now her ex. And, you know. And now it's, you know, us. And when I look down from my balcony, it's that billboard that I bought the first board. Oh, my goodness. I love that. That's what I mean, where God is just like, and you're right back where you're supposed to be. No, just showing your growth every step of the way.

That's amazing. Yeah, it was incredible. And so when we started shopping for managers, Beth and I met with everybody. And I sat in the car with her. We went through all of our options. And I was like, I don't trust anybody like, I trust you. And I know you've never managed anybody in your life. but will you please manage me?

And she's like, let's do it. We'll see what happens, you know? That's so me and Mimi, dude. I swear to God it's the same. We've built everything from the ground up. We've like, I don't trust anybody. I don't want anybody in my, like, to hire anybody new. Mimi has to literally like, it's a process.

Yeah. Because it's our baby, dude, you know? Like, it's so hard when you've built something so big that you're just so scared to let just anybody in. For sure. You only want to keep the people around that you trust. That's how we are with our touring. family too because we're all on one bus yeah so 12 people on one bus and we are literally family we do

everything together we get our coffees together in the morning if we're off and we're going to dinner we go together yeah if we're going to a movie we go together yeah and so when when we're trying to figure out like who's coming into our crew it's like they have to vibe with everybody otherwise it's just a deal breaker oh I love that though I love that I love how close you guys are tell me about Rocco. Okay, okay, sorry, I'm a talker. We'll stretch it a little bit. No, please, we're good.

We'll stretch it a little bit. So tell me about Rocco. Okay, so Rocco and I met because I was working with a producer in Los Angeles. This producer used to be roommates with Rocco's brother. One day I... Another invisible string. I know. Isn't that insane?

That's crazy. And one day I, once I moved back, he calls me. And he's like, hey, miss you. I used to be at this dude's house all the time. And he was like, hey, my roommate's brother is moving to Nashville. I know that you're going back and forth to Nashville. You ever need a guitar player, hit him up. I said, you got it.

A couple weeks go by, my guitar player couldn't do a gig. I couldn't find anybody. I was like, maybe I'll see if this guy from California can do it. Called him. He paid for his own flight because I couldn't pay him like anything. But, like, I think it was like $100 is all we were, like, getting. So he paid for his own flight and Uber and everything came. He was so prepared, and he was just incredible and so talented.

And then he ended up just becoming my guitar player full time from then on. And so when we were friends and he was with somebody, he had a girlfriend, I was married, we never looked at each other like that. like he sounds really weird to say now but he was like my little brother right no no i get it but like sometimes the best relationships come from friendships yeah like we were besties and like i always felt a trust with him so it was like if i ever needed anything done i always trusted that rocko would get it done and do it right yeah um anyways fast forward to my relationship fell apart and we were out on the road and we would just be hanging out and you know drinking and I would just fall

apart and I just one day just ended up opening up to everybody about what was going on and he was just really an incredible friend and was really there for me during that time and then what maybe a year later we were out on tour again and I had had a crush on him but I was only telling Beth. I didn't tell anybody else. Bed holds all the secrets. I was just like dropping little flirtatious like whatever and he would just be like oh boss is drunk like you know. What a great guy though

like didn't take advantage of the situation Not at all. He actually like pushed me away when I came on to him he was like you were my boss no I love my job this could go so wrong we're not doing this and I was just like you'll come around She's like oh yes we are just like you know because we all would drink and hang out

and go to bars and stuff afterwards and I would just get more flirty and more flirty with him and then, yeah, we just ended up it happened really, really naturally and he is the best human I have ever had in a romantic relationship.

Like, do you know what I mean when I say that I became so feminine with him? Soft. Yes, that's what my husband does to me. Oh my gosh, he softened me up so much. Because I was the one who took care of everything financially, and if he got into trouble, I was the one to, you know, make it go away and fix everything.

And I just had a hard shell from that for so long. And with him, it's like, if the guy sees my shoes untied, he will stop and tie my shoe. I'm not kidding. He is just Prince Charming in every sense of the word. That says something about a man that can bring a woman out of her masculine energy and put her into her feminine. energy. He really did. He really did. And he's been absolutely amazing. We work so well together. Everybody always asked about our working relationship on the road, but it's amazing. I'm looking at Beth. And Beth's like, yeah, it's actually really good. I'm like, I think it's great. Beth, do you think it's

great? Yeah. So it's, yeah, it's been the best year of my life. I love that for you because you deserve that. You deserve all the happiness that's coming. You know, it's been a hard road here. And I don't think people realize the journey that you've, had because I know I didn't realize your journey until I started researching you too. And I know that, you know, I think I've heard you say in some interviews that people look at you and they're like, oh, it's just the TikTok girl, but it's not. Like you've done some, you've earned your stripes. Thank you. Yeah, for sure. Absolutely. What does the rest of 2024, 2025 hold for Ms. Alexander Kay? Well, you know, every night that I'm on this tour, I'm just going out and

trying to be as present as possible, take it all in, learn everything. I possibly can and I feel like it's going to be over before you know it so I'm just really living in the moment right now and then at the end of the year I think you're going to be around for a while I do thank you you have that longevity thank you and I and I'm working on my second record right now and is this going to be a love record since you're in love because you do pour your feelings out on paper yes but not a cheesy love record yeah do you know what I mean yeah yeah because I started to write love songs at the beginning and I was like this feels so cheesy it doesn't feel like me at all you know what I mean and so I'm really excited it's a very new sound yeah for me and I'm stoked

what is it is it like country still or is it country still but it's it's a little heavier it's like a little rock yeah yeah and it's got a lot a lot of pop going on in there so I definitely kind of stepped away a little bit from my my kind of traditional country sound and and leaned into the pop a little bit more, but I think it's really, really cool. And, you know, I've been exploring opportunities with different labels, and I'm just really excited to take that step and expand our team and, you know, do all the things. Like, as an independent artist, there are things that I haven't gotten to do, and I'm excited to, you know, sign with this partner because they're incredible and they believe in me and they believe in my music and the deal was so fair and so um right for the artist it was so

for the artist and i'm just really really proud that we got there and i'm proud that i held out until we got there yeah i'm excited for you yeah thank you yeah they were life changing for my husband too is like really fair for the artists so fair yeah which i feel like no other record labels are like that. No, I was very, you know, I was surprised. Yeah. But really, really happy and it makes you trust them. Yeah. You know? You can. You can trust them. They're a great team. Yeah, they're incredible and they've been so great just in this because it's, it's been really nice that they've been around so much for Jelly because then they've brought me into opportunities and I'm like, I'm not even, you know, legally with them yet. Yeah. And they brought me into every radio room

and introduced me to everybody and they've been really, really amazing. So, you know, Jelly and I've talked a lot about how I've waived my independent flag so high and how. So did he. Yeah, he did too. Yeah, but you know, the last thing that you want is for people to, you know, think you're, you're like a sellout, right? That's the word, you know. I don't think people understand what signing a label can do. You can only do so much as an independent artist, you know, and to, for people who call, you know, I'm like people call my husband a sell out all the time, and I'm just like, do you even know, like, how long my husband's been doing this? Right. Like, and he, my husband actually has changed the trajectory for some artists because of how he did his deal. And I don't

know if I can go into details about it, but, you know, he has kind of been the blueprint for independent artists signing deals. I mean, he definitely helped out in my scenario. Yeah, absolutely. You know, and to be able to see what he was able to accomplish based on what he brought to the table kind of showed me it was a blueprint of what I could get and what was possible. And so, you know, we've talked a lot about it and he's been super, super supportive.

And I'm just really excited for my fans to come on this journey. Everybody that wants to hear me on the radio, like, we got to ink this deal and then you'll hear me on the radio. You know, so I'm excited. I'm excited. Well, tell everybody where they can find you if they already don't follow you. You can find me, Alexandra K. Music on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok.

I'm on Twitter, everywhere. God, Twitter scares me. Oh, yeah, X. Yeah, whatever. That app I don't even get on because those people over there are crazy. They're ruthless. No, they're like, Facebook I can handle. Over there, it's dark.

I'm like, what is going on? Thank you, Alexandra, so much. Thank you. This was such an incredible conversation, and I'm so happy that we did this. No, I appreciate you so much. And I can't wait to see how far you go, dude. We're rooting you on. Thank you so much.

You're welcome. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Dunblonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.