Dumb Blonde - TBT: Bunnie & Meme Q&A

Episode Date: December 11, 2025

Throwback Thursday Bunnie and Meme are in the hot seat this week, answering fan questions about everything from confidence and relationships to health and handling life’s chaos. Bunnie spills about the first time she locked eyes with Jelly and his wild leap from rock to country, while Meme shares her blueprint for self-love and finding hobbies you won’t ditch after a week.Watch Full Episodes & More:YouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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the post that she put up and there was a lot so we sifted through them we chose some of our favorites and yeah let's dive into this I should love this guy so much he's been getting all the love today he's just very active he you know he got a million views on another video on TikTok and he just thinks he's the star of the show now big yeah you're too famous touch yeah I think all of us to shame you're normally laying down I know he wants to be a part of it today yeah he wants to I'm looking at him on the camera right now say hi I think it's my favorite part of the podcast is when he pops his little head up above it all right well just here all right we're just gonna hang out

That's the best thing I've ever seen. All right. Well, we're just, I got to be some people like parrots on their shoulders. I've got an exotic bully. Let's dive into these questions. There was a lot. There was, I mean, some people sent us their life stories and like, it was a lot to go through. I'm not asking questions anymore.

So we're just going to dive off into one of my favorite ones in here. Let me see where it's at. Because I thought it was such a good question. and we're starting out strong would you rather be able to speak to animals or speak every language to animals i don't care to talk to people you're i already knew you're yeah you said fuck people yeah no let me walk up to a horse and be like saw dude yeah let me fucking dude if i could communicate with chachi you already do sometimes i wonder i'm like are we on the same level like i literally can hold conversations with him and even though he doesn't respond back i know he's listening you guys

like have this really special bond. I don't see many people have a bond like you and Judge. Yeah, he's my baby. I love him to death. Sweet baby. My son. Um, this one asked, Stephanie said, what's your workout? What about you though? Hold on. What about you? What would you? What would I? I don't know. I kind of wish I would be able to speak every language. Yeah. Well, you've been trying to like learn fucking Spanish. I'm doing Duolingo. And I've been doing it for 200 days. Yeah, you have. Almost a year. Yes.

Say some words for us. I can't hold the conversation yet. Say some just words. Like, uh, moheer means woman and then like, you know, like, uh. Cabesa. Yeah. I can, I can order beer. Pinche.

To servesa. Or like those servesa, porpo, boy. De don't it is. Yeah. I'm not like, I feel like I can read it really well. I can like, uh, when I go shopping. I can understand the people talking. But I think.

he speak Spanish. I said me gusto and he turned. What is happening over here? He's like, I don't know, it's freaking out. You all right? I feel like he responded to your Spanish. He did. Are you Spanish? Chashi, I knew it. I knew you were a Spaniard. It's the gold chain. You okay? What's it matter? It's his little Cuban links. He's on alert right now. I know he's very like, I think he's staring outside and he's catching a shadow. I don't know what he's looking at, do you? No. Okay.

Well. Josh is acting up today. What is your favorite desserts or cheat day meals? Desserts? I love a good brownie. It has to be dark chocolate. She really likes the Dolly Parton brownies. The Dolly Parton brownies.

So fucking good, you guys. They will make you slap yo mama. Jay, like they are so good. I don't know if she puts crack in them or something. But even Jay, Jay and I had two separate conversations. I fucking told Bug, I was like, sorry, Dolly, if you're watching this, I'm cussing. I'm trying not to cuss so you can use it. I told Bug, I was like, those Dolly Parton Brownies are lit.

I was like, they are so good. What's in them? And she's like, nothing, I don't think. And then Jay comes in an hour later, he goes, dude, those Dolly Parton Brownies were bomb. And then that's what I told you about them. Yeah. And so I went to the store that night.

I literally got them. Me and Olivia made them the next day. And they're like fudge brownies. And you add this like package of fudge into it. And I don't know. They're like not cakey, but they're not like chewy. Like they're the perfect mix of them. Yeah. I don't know what she puts in there. No. Amazing. Amazing. So good. Yeah. Yeah. Go buy a dolly part and brownies. And the only time you really cheat is like during your period. It's my excuse. I would say like cheat meal. Because I refuse to get on a scale during my period. So I'm like, you know what? It's a fucking free for all.

But I need to stop doing that because it's really not good for your body. And then you just jump back on to your body. I literally just like give myself grace for a week. And I'm just like, fuck it. I'm just going to eat the chip. I'm going to eat the fucking bread. I'm going to do whatever. And then as soon as I'm like three days into my period, I'm like, okay, I'm eating better.

Yeah. Yeah. I would say my favorite would probably be crumbrolet. And that's hard to find, like a good crumbrily. I used to love it. And then I ordered it one night from a, um, from room service at a hotel and i was so ready for it i was like drunk wanted it bit into it it

tasted like fucking hand lotion it probably was yeah that's so fucking gross because crumbullet is the texture of yeah exactly and it it tasted like lotion yes oh yeah and i would freak no somebody fucking i might have been rude to the room service guy or something oh probably probably probably I'm sure I've swallowed a few babies I didn't mean to along the way Oh my God I can't I can't even Where did you in jelly meat?

We met at Las Vegas Country Saloon in 2015 in Vegas We tell the first time you laid eyes I know but like That could be new Yeah First time you laid eyes on him Yep he was opening for the moonshine bandits

And I was like what is this what is this man this big southern boy were you at the concert were you backstage or like so there was not that many people there so it was more of like everybody was walking around

oh like it was like a big room and just with a stage so everybody was walking around but yeah we were backstage like drinking and stuff like that but like there was it wasn't Jay wasn't nobody even knew who he was he was opening for the moonshine bandits

you know like he might have had a little pop in Nashville but people in the West Coast didn't know who he was. We were there for the moonshine bandits. That goes into my next question that someone asked, they wanted to know, how has your transition been going from rap to country? It's been smoother than I thought. Yeah. They have been, we haven't met any assholes yet. They're so welcoming. Yeah, they have literally been so welcoming and just so, um, non-judgmental. I mean, at least not to our face. I mean, whatever they say behind closed doors, they're entitled to. But yeah, no, everybody's been like so sweet.

have made some really nice friends. Yeah. I love that while we were at CMT Awards, you had a little special something backstage with Wynonna. Oh, I love Wynonna. I'm glad I got that call on camera too. That was such a special moment. She, I mean, she literally like snuck up on you. She had her eyes logged on you and just beeline. Oh, she is so sweet. Like she's just everything that you with and she's so tiny. Yeah, I didn't expect that. Yeah, I thought she was going to be like super tall. She is tiny. That's been my biggest like like epiphany with even like just being meeting people you see online or in movies. Yeah, everything. Everybody's so much smaller. So much smaller than you think. Except for me. You and Cali like tower over people. Everybody. You guys are already naturally tall. Yeah.

And then you add heels. Yeah. And you guys are much taller. Yeah. Yeah. So tiny. I'm five, five, five, six and I tower over everybody. Yeah. Like it's crazy. It's so. wild like even some of the musicians we met when you met carly pierce is tall yes she is she's very tall yeah when you met eddie better i didn't expect him to be like you kind of bent down a little bit to give him a hug and i was like he was a little nugget yeah these people look so much bigger uh through a little screen yeah i would i yeah they're very very tiny yeah it's crazy the camera really does add tight yeah not even pounds but height really yeah that's crazy Blake Shelton's tall as fuck too.

Yeah. Gwen was too. I didn't get to see her. Yeah. I didn't get to stand next to her. Yeah. She was tall because she was standing next to she performed with Carly. Carly.

And Carly's already kind of a little bit taller. Carly's taller than me. Yeah. She walked by me and she's taller than me. Like they were very comparison. Wow. Yeah. I would think Gwen would be tiny.

I mean, I guess when you look at her with Blake, like he's already such a tall human, she doesn't look super small next one. So she's got to have some height to her. probably like five, six. Yeah, I would say probably. She wears those tall ass heels. She does. She wears huge shoes.

Yeah. Yeah. This one, should we add dirty stuff to this? Sure. Yeah. Does jelly let you squirt on his face? My husband refuses, but it feels so good. My husband is so vanilla.

He doesn't like any of that shit. He is like, just ride me and get off. Literally. Give me a blowdrop, ride me, get off. Someone asked how you guys get in your mood. How does it? Dude, we're so busy, like, really the last thing we ever think about is sex. I mean, I think about it all the time, and I'm sure he does too, but we're just so busy

and so tired. It's like you guys have to schedule it into your calendars. Literally. And it's like, by the end of the night, like, he's fucking had a day. I've had a day. And we're just like, our thing is, like, we love crawling into bed and just watching a TV show together. Because it's like, we don't ever get to really do that, especially, like, during tour and

shit like that. Like, so whenever we can just, like, have a normal sit down. watch a show that's like foreplay for us yeah yeah that me and jason you know jason's at home raising our kids and he's working and trying to do all the household stuff too i'm constantly working so by the time we like get into bed it's like oh yeah it's just like the last thing i want to do is get my heart rate up and that's how i know i'm getting old because normally the 20 year old me would be swinging from the chandeliers and me now i'm just like i'm not about to fucking do cardio before I go to bed when I got to wake up and do it again. Like, fuck that. I've never felt as old as I did

when we finally got one of the beds that the head goes up. Yeah. And that's, I can't sleep without it. Yeah. When we tour and like we go places, I'm like, man, I really wish that my bed like came up at least three inches right now because that's how I really felt old was the day I got extended about my bed being able to be elevated. We'll never not have a sleep number. Oh, it's, I don't have a sleep number. We got a temprapedic, but it's just, it's a life-changing, like, you don't realize how good it feels on your body and you can lift your feet up. Yeah, it's been great. I love the feet thing. Jay hates it. Really? He hates it. Are you guys, those are individuals, right? Yeah. Or is it a whole bed? Ours is one whole bed. No, so it's individual heads. Oh. And then the feet are

connected. So now he wants separate beds. Because I literally, I will, I'll sleep like cradled, like with my head up and my feet up. And the zero gravity. Yeah, like kind of like that. Me too. And he hates it. He's like, please fucking stop. I'm like, I tell him, I'm like, why do you got to come into bed so early? I'm like, you used to come in at like three and now you're coming in at 10.30. What is happening? What is going on? Yeah. I'm like, what is going on? That's funny. All right, y'all. Let me put you onto something that actually makes sense. Old school banks love to hit you with random fees, overdraft charges and make you wait forever just to get your own paycheck. Half the time, it feels like they're working against you instead of for you. Chime is the complete opposite. They're not like

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I mean, I think I wish I could fucking grow muscular legs and not have my dad's arms and like, you know, I think women pick their bodies apart all the time, which is why I'm a perfectionist with my appearance and stuff. Probably, like, my anxiety is an insecurity because I'm constantly having to apologize to people for, like, sorry, I just can't hang out, like, you know?

Or like if people, or if I'm in the middle of a fucking podcast, hey, if you see me wiping myself down with a fucking ice pack or yeah you know like so I mean that that's an insecurity yeah it doesn't always have to be physical it could definitely be like you know mental or it could be you know like there's certain things like that yeah yeah yeah what about you um that one's hard because I've gone through this huge self-love journey over the last since I had cash yeah you know like after I had cash that I really don't give any more fucks. Like, it's really hard to say like it's an insecurity.

Yeah. Yeah. Like, after him, I worked so hard on, like, not having insecurities because I felt like it held me back so much because I really let almost my insecurities cripple me. Yeah. So I feel like if I admit to having an insecurity, it's kind of like a crippling thing to me. Like, you know, before it was always my weight. You know, being plus size and I've been plus size my entire life that I started taking my

a child oh yeah like not like at like Olivia's age or anything but quickly like right at the edge of puberty was when my PCOS set in which I didn't know at the time was PCOS yeah um so I just gained weight dramatically but I was always a thick girl too like even as a child listen motherfuckers are in my DM for you all the time girls and guys yeah sorry Jason I'm always like she's fucking married like what do you want me to do yeah no I was always like thicker even like when I played sports as a kid like I was never like a bean pole my body's just not structured that way at all like just being naturally thick that was a huge insecurity until I let it not defeat me any longer and that's been like huge because even when I lose weight now I think like I talked about that before was

like getting through the hurdles of like self image before I decided to lose weight because I got to my biggest it was a very very unhappy place but I was like you know what fuck this like if I just like let these insecurities like take a hold of me it's like a miserable life to live so yeah i took a hold of the insecurities and i i don't give a fuck if someone thinks um plus size like it doesn't affect them i think age too like the older you get ladies the more you do not give a shit at all about what people think about you you're just you get to a point where like i can't fucking please you i don't give a shit i am me i'm gonna pull whoever i need to pull the people who love me are gonna love me like if you don't fuck with me I do not care exactly yeah yeah you get to a point like you said

it it probably has to do with age too because like I had cash around 29 so like you know going into my 30s and I'll be 31 this weekend and it just really made me realize like even if you if you thought badly of me like this whole time like oh god I wouldn't wear a crop top because like what if someone thinks badly of me yeah I wouldn't want you in my life if you were thinking badly of me yeah you know so like that's been a huge thing for me was like in that insecurities is like if you thought those things about me why the fuck would I want you in my life yeah no I couldn't agree more so like it's like people have accepted me the people who have accepted me accepted me being plus size it's not a fucking I used to hide behind

you and you know this like big oversized clothes with like I first met you yes that's all I would wear and I was like it's like I thought that was like camouflage like someone doesn't know I'm plus size under here if I just wear oversized shirts and leggings no I'm so fat Regardless, you know, so like if I wear the crop top and jeans, it's no different. At least now I'm comfortable, you know, and I feel pretty before it was like you only could choose certain clothes. Yeah. Sort of thing. I can't wait until Jay gets there because he's such a cute little squishy baby.

And I just feel like because he is in front of such a huge audience, just critiquing him all the time, all the time that like he always feels like he has to hide behind jackets and flannel's. And I'm like, like layers was another thing. Yeah. I'm like, baby, you don't got to do that. Like just be the little squish that you are. Yeah. And just, yeah, like I said, and Jason struggles too. Like, sorry to put your, you know, info out on there. But like, he struggles being a bigger dude also with like his insecurities. And I've really tried to help him. And all you can do is love those people because it does not matter. Jason has told me I was beautiful since the day we met. But until you see it yourself, nothing's going to change that. Yeah. You could be behind that person pushing them for years. Oh, yeah. You know, you're certain, like you said, you tell him all the time, how like, you know, you love everything about him. doesn't matter until the person themselves decides to make that change. The same thing with weight loss. You know, like this past like two months, I've lost 30 pounds and I'm more appreciative of

those 30 pounds now that I've loved myself because I wasn't doing it to love myself. Right. That was the biggest, biggest difference I've ever done. I didn't, I'm not trying to lose weight to love myself. I'm doing it because I want to be healthier. Yeah. I want to be able to, you know, like go jump on the trampoline with my kids and things like that, which I wasn't able to do it that weight. So I'm doing it for a whole different reason than I ever have before. And I'm I appreciate it so much more now. And I've kept it off. Like I have not fluctuated at all, which normally I would have probably off the bandwagon

a long time ago and already started like eating shit food again. But yeah. No, I love that for you. Yeah. That was a whole other rant. No, I think people needed to hear that. Yeah. You know, and I think I can talk about stuff until I'm blue in the face, but people don't

believe me because I've had work done or I, you know, work out all the time. But hearing it from somebody who is, who really battles weight issues. And hearing you be able to be confident, I think they need to hear that. Because, and I, I always had the misconception that you had to be born confident or you just were naturally confident. And that's not the case. Like, it can be learned. And I told myself that.

I was like, I didn't come out of the fucking womb knowing how to drive a car or do hair or do our, our lifestyle that we're doing now. All those things were learned. So why can't I learn confidence? Yeah. So that it was just a learning journey. It wasn't that I had to be born with it or like I was naturally confident because that's not the case. And what actually helped me, and I don't think I've ever told you this, was you and Viking Barbie were like a huge part of my confidence journey because I got close with both of you guys. And I got to see that even the industry's most perfect humans, like in the eye of the world, like you and Viking Barbie are like perfect, you know?

I love you. But like you still struggle. Oh, yeah. You don't see yourself like how the world sees you. You see yourself how you see yourself. And to me, I was like, man, so even if I looked perfect, even if I would still struggle, I would still have anxiety or depression because, like, Viking Barbie opened up about, like, her mental health also, and you were very open about your mental health.

And I was like, oh, so being skinny doesn't make my depression just fucking go away, you know? Like, that wasn't the case. And I was like, damn, I was like, I don't think I ever told you guys that. But yeah, that was a huge part of me, like, making that flip is being closer to you guys in realizing like looking perfect doesn't make you mentally stable or you will pick yourself apart no matter what exactly i'm sure Alex Earl looks in the mirror and is like fuck i fucking feel fat today they have meanwhile she's a fucking just gorgeous being you know exactly yeah and i didn't but i never saw that because you never get close enough to people right that are look that far away

from you you know like i never thought of my life being this right now so to be able to be close and like you are so open about your mental health online which helps I mean more people than I think you'll ever know well I don't have a choice I'm a weird bitch I don't want people to think I'm stuck up it's just more of like I'm not stuck up I'm not guarded I'm just I have fucking panic disorder you're raw and real and like that helps so many people like realize that it it doesn't take those things to be mentally stable speaking of food our fucking subs are on the way I've been checking the phone oh I was like did you see me I was like I'm going to get the fucking sandwiches I've been checking this. I'm like, they're on the way. I just hope it's for us and not the house because I just ordered fucking that for them. Let me see. Hold on. I'll tell you right. Let me get them glass. Sorry, guys. We are hungry. We have pulled it all day or here at the house. It's our third recording. Yeah. It's been crazy. Yep, this is ours on the way.

Yay. Perfect. This is a good one because I chose this specifically because I know this is the struggle of both of ours. Kimberly wants to know what do you do during your meantime. mean or me me me oh me time do we really have do we have me when I'm off I'm literally making clips for TikTok I'm posting on YouTube shorts I'm posting yeah I post on Facebook like it's Twitter yeah you know like I don't I just always feel like idle hands are of the devil and I know that's trauma from my childhood yeah but I just can't break it I have to always be doing something because March was hard for you to like and it you said it was a off. It wasn't a month off guys. You sound like my husband. He even said that last night. I was like, I've had a month off in five years and he was like, when did you have a month off? I was like, no. I said fucking March and he was like and then actually technically I had one last March too, but I was still fucking doing shit. You still made content. Yeah. Yeah. No, there, there's not been a month off. Like I step away from it because and I get it though because like if you sit in your thoughts for too long or you just like stagnant, it's rough. I just can't sit still. Yeah. Like even if I'm at home. home like okay i finally have trained myself to be able to lay on the couch maybe a little too good

now but before i would have never laid on the couch before jay taught me how to relax yeah because i literally would i'd be around everybody just nervous energy cleaning fucking doing something and jay would finally be like bitch sit the fuck down yeah quarantine is actually what kind of made me have to sit down yeah he's like how many times are you going to clean the kitchen yeah you know like sit the fuck down we're trying to watch a movie you know yeah that's and it's hard for both of us like we both struggle on that because also things like that we do we don't attribute to work right because we've just been doing it for so yeah you know it's we're just building exactly and like it may like exactly it's just part of the machine yeah and so like that wasn't really a month off like a month

off would be us like literally putting our phones down which is like you can't do that there's no way exactly there's literally no way to make that possible we built our entire life online so if if it's It's not us pushing the Patreon, the fucking podcast, the TikToks, the fucking everything. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, then people, people have attention spans of gnats. Yeah. You know, literally. They'll forget you in two seconds.

Oh, yeah. Or that, or what happens is people like, well, where is she? Is she okay? And then they start speculating. And it's just like, bro. Yeah. I'm just, it's just better if I stay here. Exactly.

Yeah. Yeah. If I don't post, you know there's a problem. I would say my me time. is like when we do our car shows because I think that's the only it's the two times a year my husband and I go out and I put my phones down like I even tell the salon like I am not relevant for the next three days yeah and I know that six days a year isn't much but that is like my moments yeah and I still manage to bother her no like she's there like I just I I can't stress

that enough that like it's so important to at least have like something you know and And, like, even though it's not a whole month off, there were days that you very much, like, stepped away. And I was very proud of you. Like, you just, you did you. You know, you, you've started meditating, which I think is incredible. I'm a little jealous. I don't have a quiet space to meditate ever. I just go out front or out in the backyard and my kids would be.

Yeah. Up my ass 24. If I'm home, my kids are with me. Like, I don't, I don't even pee alone. Like, Jason had to start being like, all right, when mom goes poop, like everyone out of the bathroom. Like, Cass is just standing. there what are you doing yeah then Olivia's like look at this thing I made and like I know that like I'm not home much I try to use those moments to be like wow that's a beautiful art project uh smoking

used to be my vice yeah kids couldn't be around it and I'm sober now yeah I have nowhere to go she's like I am present yeah very very fucking present yeah oh god no being sober is the worst this age right now having a two year old I just got Olivia out of my bed okay yeah so she's now in her bedroom in her beautiful little bed and cash has decided he can no longer sleep alone i there was no there was no transition it literally went from one kid to another and now i'm sleeping with another kid in my bed and it is he won't sleep with live no no and they both are like the weirdest like movers oh bailey is the worst in the air does she move like oh she'll slap you on your face yes turns around she's like a head at the end of the bed but she like like like

makes noises in her sleep they do too what are you fucking doing straight talking in their sleep yeah like olivia will have a full conversation in her sleep yeah cash is just like cries sometimes in his sleep and i don't know what it is like um night tears or i don't know i need to have night tears from the room yeah yeah literally i'm just like what is up with these kids and like now he's in our fucking bed you know and it's like it is it's the the young age is the toughest now that I'm at like she's at almost seven this year I'm like wait come back like no you know now she's like I want to go sit in my room and like I want to go do these oh wait until she's a teenager Bailey I can't even get she'll eat dinner with us and then she goes up to her room I'm like hey where are you doing yeah

I'm like where you going she's like I'm going to my room I'm like all right well let me know if you miss me you know like while you're up there that age you know and it is it's it's it's rough having a little they are up your ass 24 seven you know oh bailey is fucking three years away from being 18 yeah yeah and i mean driving alone i don't think she's ever bailey's always gonna live with us i really don't think she's ever gonna branch out on her own unless she goes to college but yeah she recently decided that she doesn't want to be a doctor anymore she wants to pursue music and i'm like okay oh that's happened now nice i know i was bummed because i was i really loved how headstrong she was about wanting to be a doctor yeah

But, you know, it's not our journey. Yeah. You know, so it's like, well, she's flip-flop a lot. She made me give it a year. She's a fucking Gemini. She's going to flip-flop her whole life. But luckily, she has a Capricorn moon. And I'm really betting on that Capricorn moon to just pull her together.

Yeah. You're like, come on. Yeah. Come on, Dr. Come on, Capricorny. Let's go. Or even, like, something like in a field that she's very passionate about. Because I knew that the whole doctor thing, she was doing it for seizures and, like, things like that.

So, you know, that's something she was really passionate. She has a very caretaker personality, so she loves helping people. She finds herself worth in helping people. Yeah. So, which I wish I did. I'm a people pleaser. You know that about me. Yeah.

I love it. I'm like, let me work. That's my, that's what brings me happiness, you know, makes me feel good. But no, she's definitely a caretaker. So I thought the medical industry would have been great for. Someone said they wanted to know what your heritage was, and their guess was you are Latino. You know, starting your own business or podcast sounds glamorous until you're suddenly the host, editor, marketer, accountant, and social media manager all at once. It's intimidating and honestly, it can get really lonely when you're figuring it out as you go.

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I've told the story before, but I'll tell it again. My fucking dad, a good old bill, okay? Let me just tell you. That motherfucker told me my entire life I was Brazilian and Italian. So I've told everybody, I'm Brazilian and Italian, you know? Like, mm-hmm. And fucking, you know, because it sounds so exotic. And this fucking guy, I don't think he thought I was his kid, came to me one time and was like,

hey, I'm going to come out and visit you, but I want you to take this test that I took to find out what percentage everything you are. And I'm like, something like, oh, my dad wants to find out our heritage and stuff like that, you know? So he comes out here, swabs me and, you know, gets me to send the thing in or whatever. Meanwhile, he was low-key trying to figure out if I was his kid, because my mom had just admitted that my sister's dad wasn't her dad. Oh, yeah, we're white trash around here. But anyway, so I think in a back of his mind, he was like, is this fucking kid mine, you know? So, we get our test results back and there's not any fucking Italian at all. I'm like, hey, Bill,

are we fucking Italian? He's like, well, no. I'm like, well, no. I'm like, my whole fucking life is a lie. And I'm telling you, I just found this out when I was 41. Yeah. So when I finally got to meet my mom and I was like, mom, where are we from? Apparently, I come from like a long line of like witches from southern kentucky wow yeah and i was like oh so we're just white trash it makes sense white trash gypsies oh i love it yeah so i'm like fuck it i'll take it it's better than being italian i guess yeah uh this next question is when did you begin your holistic journey i began that probably when i started getting sober um technically i started that in 2020 whenever i felt my first bout of suicidal ideation that was i will never forget laying in my bed and literally i felt

so tired and just like i didn't want to be here anymore the thought of living to like 50 years old made me fucking like i was exhausted and i was just like i can't do this anymore and i didn't even realize like how bad that that shit gets i've always not kind of scoffed at people with depression but i didn't understand it because i had anxiety I'm a go-getter. I'm going to get up, get out, and do something. If I'm having a panic attack, I'm going to fucking run through it, you know? And when I got that suicidal ideation, that was a different level of fear because you don't trust yourself.

And you're just like, holy shit, this is dark. Yeah. You know? And so, you know, me being a person who tries to fight and figure it out, I was like, okay, first of all, I'm never going to let this overcome me. secondly I need to figure out why I'm feeling like this and you know by that time I had been sober about a year and a half two years off alcohol sober off pills almost since 2017 I think it was probably late 2017 that I stopped taking pills so I think you know it took two years for my brain to just even think about healing after all the drugs I'd been on I've been on fucking Xanax since I was 20 something

years old you know that's right there alone is neurological damage, pills, alcohol. I mean, I'm talking like I drank. Like it was scary. I could drink a whole bottle of Belvedere and still be standing. Yeah. And people don't realize the tolerance you can build up having drank as much. Oh, yeah. As you had. Like, I mean, you know, I'm sober, but I did have like this much wine the other night. And when I say this much wine had me turned. Tipsy. I was like, I remember I had like a year ago, you know, eight fucking red bulls and bodkas yeah i drink this much chardonnay and i'm like spinning on the couch i'm like jason's like you good and i'm like i'm a little percolate never do yeah i know

fucking you know i'll fuck you up too yeah i was a diana stuart one too i love and i'm probably going to get a lot of shit for this but i love how a lot of southern women hide alcoholism behind wine drinking oh i have stories yeah but a lot of lot of women hide their alcoholism behind wine and I get it that's their only way to relax but I mean are you really relaxing or are you covering up some more shit people will like scoff at like marijuana smokers yeah or judge people who don't go to church every day exactly and I'm like you're literally like you know mimosa's before you're taking your kids to school yeah like those are the things those are the choices you're making that's very and it's not just southern

women too. Bitches in Vegas are the same way, except it's not wine. It's champagne. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You all get lit on champagne at 10 a.m. Like, it's nothing. Yeah. I'm like, man, I wish I could do that. Yeah. I wish I could be that free. I could never imagine. And we're not judging. No. We're just saying like, you know. Yeah, absolutely. Pay attention to why you're drinking as opposed to how you're drinking. Yeah. What are you masking? Yeah, exactly. What are you running from? Are you in an unhappy marriage? are the kids driving you fucking crazy you know listen if i had kids i would drink bottles of wine too okay so we're definitely not judging at all but i was just saying that you know you can be an alcoholic and not even realize it yeah exactly well and like because they don't see that as alcohol

abuse or anything like that you know yeah that's so true like i feel like sometimes it goes in hand in hand with like men who are beer drinkers it's just a beer you know you're like five packs in It's no longer just a beer Like the whole bed of your truck is full of them And it's the same thing like with women in their wine Some fucking troll the other day Was talking shit about my husband And he's like, he's not sober

I saw him fucking pound a beer At a concert the other day I said my first of all that's a lie What? And secondly my husband doesn't drink beer Yeah I don't think I've ever seen him touch a beer Ever my husband would never drink a fucking beer

Ew Yeah Jay's boogey when it comes to shit Oh no it was just crazy to me So when you said that about the beer, I was like, oh, this is hilarious. I got to tell this. What would you tell someone that is fresh out of a domestic relationship? Domestic violence or like domestic marriage.

He said relationship. Probably DV relationship. Allow yourself grace. You know, you're going to probably go back seven more times. You're going to be mad at yourself. You're going to be mad at that person. you're going to think you're making the wrong choice you are going to be addicted to the chaos it's like you go through like withdrawal it's like a drug withdrawal yeah from that person

you touched on this in the kl podcast both of her podcast and your podcast and i feel like that's very insightful so i would say to hear more about that i would go listen to those podcasts because you guys really went in depth with like how you felt in those moments yeah and like coming out of those and like how you guys are now on the other end of your domestic relationships and you said something really really like kind of caught me and you said you always think they're going to do better but they never do no they never do like you it's like you want to fix them um and you want so badly for them to be the person that you need and they're just never going to be that person yeah they're literally just trapped in their own toxicity and until they want to actually really get help

I don't know if you can ever really calm a violent nature like that in a human. A man that beats on women, that's a different breed. Yes. You know, I don't know if that's ever really fixable. And what did you say about the narcissism is that, like, they don't want people knowing about it. Oh, yeah, because they don't want to be embarrassed. They don't want to be embarrassed about themselves. They don't care that they hurt you.

The guilt isn't there that they hurt you. They don't want to look like monsters to other people. Yes, it's the ego. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. So tell people, tell, you know, if you need help, find the help that you. Yeah, tell people. But just know that if you do tell people about it and then you run back to them, you're

going to have to deal with that too. So it's just a whole. So be ready to wipe your hands clean. Yeah. It's a whole cycle. And once you are ready to get off the fucking hamster wheel, you will. Hamster wheel. That's a good one.

That's literally what it is. You're just fucking spinning your wheels. Yeah. What would you tell a young woman with big dreams in her 20s relationship or life advice um in your 20s i would tell you don't worry about a relationship i would say have fun and our food is here i would say have fun um you're 20 literally love is going to be there if i could go back and talk to 20 year old bunny i would eliminate half the dudes i fucking dated and wasted my time with yeah no dude ever brought any fucking sort of worth to my relation to my relationship with

myself or to my life I was always me fucking bringing in the money fucking helping trying to fix them chasing them fucking dealing with cheaters and fuck that dude yeah invest in yourself fall in love with yourself love with yourself literally once you fall in love with yourself literally once you fall in love with yourself you'll find somebody who will know how to love you because you will know how you want to be loved yes and when people you know get into their 30s okay cool you want to start settling down whatever i still think you should still be having fun find your groove find what you want to do don't live for everybody else live for yourself because this is you need to be selfish with your time yeah because you are only going to be in your 20s once yeah you don't get to go

back yep you know so make those fucking you don't have to have a career in your 20s no you don't need to know what you want to do in your 20s no you literally just need to have fun yes do everything that you fucking love and do it twice yeah you know exactly like uh I think it's so important. Like, everyone is so pressed for you to find out what you want to be when you're 18. Yeah. No one knows what the fuck they want to be when they're 18. Weird.

When you're 20, when you're 21. Like, I spent 10 years behind the chair. And you have no idea when I stepped away and, like, I retired from behind the chair and went full time with you. How many of my friends reached out within the beauty industry and was like, how'd you step away? I didn't realize how many people were so miserable that the hair community. is filled with people who thought that it was a quick answer when we were 18. Yeah. We wanted to please a parent or it was a cheap college to go to or something along that.

There are so many miserable people out there working behind the chair because they're so afraid to go do something else. Yeah. And at 28 years old. Not just hair, but in life. Yes. Like if your family has a family business or, you know, if your parents make you go to college.

I mean, go to fucking college. Have fun. It's okay to change careers. Yeah. Like, don't try to be who you're going to be the rest of your life in your 20s. Get it all out of the way. Just do it, you know. Just fucking do it, dude.

Yeah, it's so crazy. I was so scared because I thought for sure, whatever I decided to be when I was 18 is what I had to be the rest of my life. I'm so glad I told my parents to go fuck themselves. Fucking happy. I'm not. I was like, I'm going to do whatever I want to do. Yeah. I've been doing whatever I wanted to do my entire life.

Yeah. And I don't regret it. The only thing I regret in my life is the men I allowed to hurt me. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Well. And you don't realize that until you're fucking so far removed out of it and just in a different headspace. You're like, you're like, golly. You can't see it when you're in it at all.

Like, why did I even deal with that? Yeah. It's looking back that you then realize. Yeah. And hopes that someone is listening right now that needs that help. Yeah. That step away because you can't be on the other end looking back if you're constantly in it. That and just, you just men don't really bring much value, especially men nowadays.

I couldn't even imagine. I'm so lucky I got the money did yeah I feel so bad for you guys having a date right now I could never I feel so bad for them literally I if I was that age Bailey I'm gonna fucking freak out when she starts really dating I couldn't do it it's just too much like I'm so happy that I'm just I'm so happy where I'm at yeah yeah I was so lucky to find that person when I found them and it was a very young age like I met him when I was 18 so like we were young but I'm so fucking thankful for it yeah absolutely not just saying that because you're editing this we love you we love work daddy should i get

our sandwiches so we eat you know if not because i'll eat while we fucking answer questions you know me i do not care we could answer a couple more questions as long as i have a sandwich in my mouth i'm fine are you bringing the sandwiches okay i'm like wait wait don't tease me you've been working me to the bone all day like jason leave all this in i don't even know what we ordered there's only two people here what did we eat i'm starved What did we order? Did they give us... Is this their order?

Whose order is this? This is not ours. Okay, this is ours. Oh my God, that's theirs. They combined ours because I ordered right behind each other. Shit. All right, well, don't mind me smack it in the wind. What's the best thing you have found to help with anxiety and the constant nervous scared feeling?

meditation i was going to say your new meditation has been incredible meditation yeah um one of my stylists who has been struggling with like anxiety and stuff like that come to find out i think she's having heart palpitations like you did um and they they wouldn't able to find it but they kept telling her anxiety anxiety just like go on anxiety medication or whatever I was like, before you try, like, try meditation, you know, and I told her about you. Apparently, heart palpitations are normal. They say that they're normal. Yeah, it's fucking weird, but I don't, I don't think they're normal.

That's weird. Mm-hmm. Wow. Yeah. Meditation gets them a lot, but I thought it was from his sleep apnea. Meditation has been the most healing thing because when you learn how to control your breath, it is a game changer. because anxiety you're hyperventilating you know you're not getting enough oxygen or you're getting too

much oxygen so to be able to acknowledge that and be like take a deep breath and then breathe out like it's it's phenomenal what it can do for you and literally I have so much control now over my thoughts because of meditation I haven't done it in two days and I can feel a difference but like this other thing I've been doing I saw this girl on TikTok who said if you want to rewire your brain every time you think a thought that you don't think belongs to you because you can say other people's thoughts too or you can think other people's thoughts one you say that's not my thought pass it and you can pass it to another person which i don't you guys don't pass it over here you guys don't want some of my thoughts but another thing you can do is say change so now anytime

anything negative pops into my head i say change and it's become such a habit now so like things I don't like change and I can really slowly feel myself changing because a lot of things that I would have would have participated in before I don't want anything to do with because I just don't feel like it does any good for me you know and you know like people saying shit online or you know like normally would have pissed me off and now I'm just like go heal you know like I'm just over it go heal yeah literally go heal bitch I that's what I say to all these fucking grumpy-ass trolls online. I'm like, you are too old to be this toxic.

Like, golly. Do better with your life. Unhealed, like you said. And just toxic people like find themselves online. Yeah. It is like they hide behind it. They all find each other. Yeah.

Yeah. They all look the same too. Literally. That's the fucking truth. A lot of them won't even put profile pictures up. Mm-mm. They hide so much behind it. It's crazy.

This person, Kelly, said, I want to know how to move towards an open relationship. And I know you guys don't have an open relationship. So we might not be able to give too much advice on this, but I thought this was an interesting question. She said, I kind of am into Polly, but my man only wants to welcome women into the relationship. But I want a relationship that's because there's no ownership, if that makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. so so that's how j and i are there's just no ownership yeah we're not here to tell you that you can't do something you have free will um i don't i don't like giving advice to the for this because

everybody's emotions are different you know i don't want to ever cause problems in people's relationships but i think the best thing that you can do is communicate talk about how you're feeling like, hey, I don't want to just have only girls. I want to have fun too. And, you know, if that bothers him, then I don't think that you should have to give in to how, what he wants if he's not willing to compromise for what you want. Yeah. That's just my opinion, you know. Agreed upon boundaries. Like you and Jay have boundaries. Yeah. To your guys's relationship. It's an agreement. Yeah. You know, like, look, I love you. I'm going to do life with you for the rest of my life but I don't expect you to only put your dick in me don't let it be um one-sided

that is ownership yeah you know and if that's what you're trying to get away from that's just adding to it so you need to be able to have your boundaries accepted and you know not not that you both have to have to have to have to a mutual ground because it is a marriage and there is two of you that are making this work that and you're going to end up resenting your partner if he's doing everything. If you see him sleep with another woman and he tells you you can't sleep with another man, you are going to end up being really resentful. And in the end, that's really bad for a relationship. Yeah. You could cause yourself more problems. Yes. And accepting in something like this because you're wanting to make it work for one person. And in reality, it needs to work for both

of you. Yeah, exactly. Like, that's not, that's not fair. Does that mean that just because I'm allowed to sleep with other people, I'm running out banging everybody in the world? Absolutely fucking not. I can't even. I feel like so many people think. That's not. I feel like so many people think that yeah it's so weird and my team knows because they're with me 24 fucking 7 i can't even fucking shake people's hands i'm not gonna let somebody put their dick in me you know yeah you won't even touch a rail coming downstairs no what the fuck makes you think you're just put a bunch of random dicks no i'm such an energy person yeah and like you said earlier in the podcast like it's an exchange of energy it is you're not just fucking to fuck like there is something

more there. And like, you have to be very selective with what you're allowing. Absolutely. How do I find a career? Do I do what I love or just work a job that pays the bills? That's a question for you. So if I was to answer that, that's hard because I have this mindset of like I can monetize anything. So like if I have a hobby, I'm like, how can we make money off this hobby. Like it's a really sick way to think because then that turns into like not being able to have the me time or the hobbies or anything like that because I'm constantly like I don't know. I'm just that type of person. So I would almost say don't do what you love to do. Like if you were a love something and you're super passionate about it, it will burn you out.

you know find something that you love doing that you could make a career out of but not what you absolutely love like if it if i guess i don't know that's hard too it's like you know a baker like you love baking and i'm going to stem this back to i had a conversation with one of my stylists and her boyfriend loves to cook and like he and she showed me the plate like he plates it like he knows the flavors and she always said like why don't you go be a chef and he said because then I won't love to do this this is my hobby this is my getaway they say when you love something you'll you'll let it kill you yes exactly so me don't find the thing that you are most passionate about and make a career out of it let hobbies be hobbies let me time

be me time and just find something that you enjoy doing as far as like working a regular job Um, I would, I would work to afford to do whatever it is that you want to do that you can do for the rest of your life. Yeah. Yes. You know, like I had only for your lifestyle until I kept my only fans and that fueled my podcast until my podcast could finally pay for itself. Mm-hmm. As soon as it started doing that. And I even told me, once it reaches a certain number, I'm shutting out my only fans. Yeah. Yeah. And I did that. You know, so that's probably I think that's kind of what she was asking to is like, do I just work a job that I can't stand? And it's like, don't work a job you can't stand, but do something that's going to help put you in a position to be able to choose what you want to do. Yeah. And work for your lifestyle.

That's another thing. Like, you don't, so many times, like, you think you, everyone's goal is to just be this, like, crazy rich. Yeah. Like, is that what you really want? I don't want a fucking huge mansion. I could never, I would never strive to have a size house that you have. Yeah.

That's just me, though. Like, I would rather have, like, tons of cars, you know, because that's just what. The lifestyle I want. No, I get it. I don't want to keep it. I don't like having a lot of money. Yeah. It scares the shit out of me.

I always thought I did for like, because I don't know if we're just conditioned from being young. We are like you're conditioned to be rich. You got to become a millionaire. Okay. Become a millionaire. Now what? Yeah.

It's like you pay so much more taxes than anybody. Yeah. You fucking robbed. Yeah. Your circle gets smaller. You can't trust people. Like, it's just when they say more money, more problems, they really meant die.

Yeah, truly. And I think a happy life. life is just quaint, quiet, and not that I'm complaining. I, this is the position that I have put myself in and I'm happy to be here and I'm happy to be my family's first millionaire. You're so thankful for it. Yeah. So thankful.

But, you know, it's, it comes with a price. And I think me seeing those kind of things and like, you know, I, I just personally don't want something big because one, it's a lot of upkeep. Yeah. You know, like at first, I don't want to clean all that, you know? And I know Jason don't want to clean all that, you know, and so it's like, I would be cool. I mean,

I would be so happy with like literally a four bedroom house so that both my kids have bedrooms and we have, you know, an extra playroom for them and then an office in it. I would be so cool with that, but like hella acreage and then like a shop for Jason. That would be like so goal for me.

I don't have to have this like crazy large home. Yeah. That's just not what makes you happy. So I hope that she finds something that... A middle ground. Yeah, fuels her lifestyle that she strives to have. Don't mind me, guys. like she's like here's some ASMR roll fast of my jersey my that's honestly what I feel like

that's pretty much a lot of my questions I feel like I we've gotten all the questions I mean you guys sent in a lot but any other ideas you guys want on patreon shoot them our way I know we were thinking about doing a cooking one mm-hmm doing some cooking for you guys because everyone really enjoyed Bailey's cooking episode good you guys really wrote in she wrote in about yeah like you guys have used that recipe and have really you know enjoy that so her and I were thinking about doing that don't make me give them a SMA it's gluten-free bread so it's really dry but it's so good I love gluten-free bread over regular bread really really I didn't have to take a bite I'm good love you guys we'll see you later bye bye