Dumb Blonde - TBT: Kristin Cavallari

Episode Date: August 7, 2025

The legendary Kristin Cavallari joins Bunnie, bringing all her iconic energy. The two dive into Kristin’s wild journey from reality TV queen on Laguna Beach and The Hills to her lasting status as a Hollywood "it" girl. Kristin dishes on flings with Morgan Wallen and the mysterious Montana Boy (yes, their big… hearts), life in the dating world after divorce, and spills some juicy behind-the-scenes drama from Very Cavallari. She also shares how she built her booming jewelry and skincare brand, Uncommon James, and what exciting moves she’s planning for 2025 and beyond.Kristin: IG | Let's Be Honest with Kristin CavallariWatch Full Episodes & More:www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Podcasts me of the coolest kids Barney Is this thing on? Hi, babies. Welcome back to another episode of Don Blonde. My girl, Kristen Cavalry, is in the house, baby. Hi, I'm so excited to be here. Dude, I am so stoked to have you here. This has been a long time coming.

I know. We've been talking about this for, I mean, months, months. Maybe it might even be a year. That's what I was going to say. It might be. Yeah. So yay, I'm so happy. It's finally happening.

Dude, you are an icon in your own right. Dude, you have been around forever. And I don't think, like, I don't feel like the new TikTok people really know, like, your whole lore. I love you. You have, like, a lore to you. And it's like, people are just like, oh, Kristen Cavalary just came on the scene. I've seen comments like that. And I'm like, and they're like, who is she?

And I'm like, how do you guys not know who Kristen is? I love when people comment, who are you? Yeah. You're the one commenting on my page. Yeah, yeah. Get out of here. I'm the one who's going viral. Who the fuck are you, you know?

It's so funny. TikTok is its own thing. I just did a voiceover to myself from Laguna Beach. and people thought it was like a real, like, in real time, like, I was just doing it. Yeah. And some people obviously get it. But TikTok is, it's, yeah, is it a younger generation? I, I don't, not on my FYP, but I feel like there's so many people that do use TikTok

that it's like, the age group is just so vast over there. Well, I don't know what four you pages I'm falling on, but it's like, it's such a mixed bag. It's either like, Laguna Beach fans who have known me for 20 years, you know, or these people are like, who the fuck is this chick? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I get all kinds of comments. Well, let's get them familiar with you because I have an entire interview planned out for you because there's just, you have so much.

So it's like, I just want to cover everything. And hopefully in this interview, people and podcasts, people will be able to get to get a sense and a feel for you of like everything that you've accomplished before you, you know, became on TikTok and was on very cavaliery and all that stuff. All right. I love it. So let's dig in. Yeah, let's take it.

Let's take it back to the hills because that's where I fell in love with you. you you had like this huge personality and you didn't take anybody shit yeah and I was like who is this woman how did that all come about because was it like a bunch of rich kids whose parents like sent them to casting agents or like how did this even come about okay so laguna beach or the hills the hills the hills the hills was first right no so laguna beach was first okay laguna beach so I mean literally it fell into my lap I was going to high school we all were just going to school and MTV showed up one day and did an open casting call.

And how they were able to come to the school was the school initially was on board with it. MTV was paying the school. So they found all of us. And then, of course, the parents freaked out and they were like, there's no way we can have cameras in these classrooms. So MTV was like, that's fine.

We already found our cast. So what we would do is we would just film on the weekends. But it was right place, right time. It fell into my lap and it completely changed my life. That's insanity. Yeah. So you grew up in Laguna Beach.

Or did you grow up in, like, so now? I grew up all over. So a lot of people think I'm from Laguna, but I didn't move to Laguna until I was a freshman in high school. So I was born in Colorado. Oh, wow. Moved to Connecticut, moved back to Colorado. My parents got a divorce.

I moved to a suburb of Chicago. And then I was getting into a lot of trouble. And so I ended up moving in with my dad, my freshman year of high school, to Laguna. What kind of trouble were we getting into? Well, Bunny. Because I need to hear this. Makes me feel better about my childhood. What's funny is for so long

I was kind of ashamed of my childhood and then like my partying ways and stuff and now I just fully embrace it you know. You have to. That's what made you the woman you are today. Exactly. But so I started smoking pot in eighth grade. I started drinking. I was sneaking out. Eighth grade. Yeah, I was young and so and my boyfriend Johnny at the time lived close

and he would drive his golf cart over to my house and pick me up and we would just, I mean just animals. I got taken home by the cops in eighth grade. It's like all all your typical stuff. Who introduced you to drugs and that scene so early? Was it just like ditching school, partying? Ditching school and just friends.

Yeah. You know, it's just, I think I was sort of drawn to that group of kids because I had a lot of trauma. And so, you know, my escape was to start drinking and doing drugs. And the only way I found a connection was with my boyfriend. I didn't have a connection at home. And so that was where I found it was with my boyfriend and through all of my friends.

when you talk about the trauma can we touch base on that like was it just a rough relationship with the parents it so my dad is a narcissist typical narcissist so is mine I'm just dealing with my dad today actually and he died in May oh really yeah no it's having a narcissistic father is so it just it's you can't explain it unless you've gone through it or somebody can relate to it because there's so many layers to it so complicated it's disgusting it really is disgusting I actually cut my dad out of my life a couple years ago, which is the best thing I've ever done, quite honestly.

I feel like it was the last thing I needed to do in my healing journey. And there was a period where I was like, I felt like, am I going to have bad karma if I cut him out of my life? And am I going to have to like come back in another lifetime and have to like, you know, work through all the same shit again? And I actually had a medium say to me, she was like, no, actually, that was like what you came to do in this lifetime was to be able to stand up for yourself and set boundaries and cut him out of your life.

I was like, okay, that made me feel so much better. Yeah, just validated everything. But anyway, so I had a narcissistic dad growing up and then parents, divorce, step families, some sexual trauma with a couple different guys in my life and just, you know, it was just like one thing after another. Yeah. And so, yeah, I was just looking for any kind of connection,

an outlet as well. So that was why I kind of, you know, went down the path that I did. did yeah they say that children who are born capricorns um normally have issues with the mom so for you to have issues with you i wonder what your moon sign is well okay i don't know which one is moon and which one is uh what's the other one there's venus there's venus so i'm cancer and aries but i don't know which one is which i could see you be in an aries moon because i'm an aries moon also so you might have i don't know we'll do your chart i'll do i'll have to text you i'll get your number and we'll we can do it on the podcast i don't even care i love it do you mimi do you know

how to look up the birth charts yeah will you look it up oh fun just give um you were born and where you were born i was born at i think p.m. the fact that i know that's so easily i was a fucking an a m baby and i can i'm a night owl oh really i can isn't that crazy like i came in the world a.m and you will never catch me up at 6.30 a.m. ever. That is hilarious yeah. Ever, dude. While she's looking that up, we'll continue. But isn't it crazy, though, that, like, so much happens in your early life. And it's like you don't know how to deal with it and you carry it so deeply.

So it comes out in other ways, which was, of course, for you was the partying and stuff like that. Yeah. I know. I think everyone is the way they are because of their childhood. This is, like, my favorite conversation. Yeah. You know, because I just think, and I think a lot of people, they don't take the time to actually look inward and really work through their trauma.

and figure out why they are the way they are. Yes. And I feel like that's been my whole fucking life, basically. It's like having to like figure it out. Breaking generational classes. Literally. That's me too. Same.

And finally I'm about to turn 38 and I finally feel like I'm in a good place with everything and have a good handle on it, you know? I'm so glad you got a hold of it early because I didn't want to start dealing with my shit until I hit 40. And when I tell you, I hit 40 years old, I had the most crazy depression. Like it's like you can be so strong your entire life. and then it's that one day that you just wake up and everything fucking hits you like a brick wall.

So the fact that you have gotten ahead of it is just amazing. I'm so proud of you for doing that. I mean, I've always said I feel like the first half of my life was just like thing after thing. Just like it was just a lot. And now I'm hoping that I'm setting the second half of my life up to just be fucking chill.

Yeah. Just like relax and be able to just enjoy my life. Do you think all that trauma that you had was why you were so fierce on Laguna Beach and the hills. I think it definitely played a role. And I think always being the new girl and moving around constantly, I was able to be put in any situation. And it was like sink or swim. And I figured out how to survive, you know, and how to make the most of it. So I think I naturally sort of had this tough exterior, this like take no shit attitude. But I also was able to figure out any situation you could put me in. So I think the combination,

yeah is what made me this like you know fucking firecracker i love that though and that's what you were known for and that's literally why people fell in love with you because you know back then we didn't have a lot of like strong personalities like that on tv well i got a lot of hate for it at the time and now it's interesting because people are like wait a minute maybe christian wasn't the villain oh my fuck 20 years later i'll take it yeah yeah i you know and i don't want to talk shit about her but it Lauren always rubbed me the wrong way and i was just like oh i don't know like it just seems a little too manufactured, like it just didn't seem real to me, but you always came across as authentic. Thank you. Do you feel like because you were always the, you know, fierce one and the one to

speak up and the one to fight back, do you feel like people didn't really get a sense of who you really were because of that? 100%. And I think that was the thing. Laguna Beach showed one side of my personality. And I mean, you know, we're all, we have so many different sides to our personality. And so you know people because I do have a very soft side too and of course as I've gotten older and became a mom and everything I've really honed in on that but even back then I mean I did as well and I still have that that you know take no shit side to me but um when that's the only thing they're showing yes I mean you can't really get to know someone and it's interesting because Stephen and I actually did a back to the beach podcast it was a rewatch podcast and we went back

and it was the first time I had seen it and since it aired And at the time, I remember being like, MTV fucked with me so hard. And I thought it was unfair. And then going back and rewatching it and talking to everybody, I was like, oh, no, they fucked with everyone. Like they did, what they did to me, they did to every single cast member. Even, you know, Lauren, they only showed one side of her personality, too. Stephen the same thing.

And so I walked away from that being like, it just, it was what it was. And I was so mad about it for so long. But it was a nice way to kind of like wrap that up and be like, it wasn't just me. I wasn't the victim in that situation. Like it happened to us all. Aw, that's actually a really cool perspective, though, because most people would internalize that and be like, I was picked on and victimized themselves.

And you were like, no, actually, they did it to everybody. So you guys didn't have any control of what was getting put out there. Nothing. Nothing. I feel like reality TV back in the day did that to everybody. Like, you signed your life and rights away as a human. And what they wanted to present you as was what you were going to be known as. Yep.

I know. Because, you know, it was one of the first. reality shows. So we didn't know what we were signing up for. Right. And, you know, even things like they would have us just record wild lines, just lines, and they could splice them in wherever they wanted. And so in a sense, I mean, we kind of had an idea of what they were doing because we're like, well, obviously I didn't say this, but you're having me say it into a microphone, so you're clearly going to use it somewhere. So we knew that they were manipulating it to a degree. Yeah. But until we actually saw it, we had no idea what

was going on. And you guys were kids. I was 17. Did your guys as parents have any say so in any of that? Yeah, our parents had to sign off on it. My mom had a lot of reservations, but I wasn't living with her at the time. So it kind of didn't matter. My dad was on board with it. So, yeah. I know.

You know what? Look at where you are now. No, it's all good. It's all good. Yeah, I'm happy my mom didn't stop it, you know. But it was hard to deal with at that age just because it's hard enough being a teenager, you know? And then having your lives being manipulated when it's your real boyfriend, your real friend, it just gets really, just really messy, quite honestly.

So was it, how real was it, though? Because, you know, reality TV back then wasn't quite real. Didn't they give you guys plots and like, or was it genuine? Well, so Laguna Beach was more put us in situations and then kind of see what happens, knowing that a particular situation is going to probably press my buttons or, you know, this is not the group of people I would normally hang out with kind of a thing. let's have Kristen's boyfriend go up to this other girl's house

even though they're dating and so situations that they know is gonna piss us off but I don't think any show is 100% real I think it's impossible to have a show even if you have cameras on you 24-7 like Jersey Shore for example

they still have to edit it down into a 42 episode or whatever it is yeah 30 minute episodes for right and so there's no way that something can be 100% real. You just, there's no way to capture all of that. Yeah, absolutely.

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You're an Ares moon because I can see it in you. Oh, you're a Capricorn rising. So your Mercury is Capricorn. Wait. Capricorn. Why did I think I had cancer? Your Venus is Scorpio. Ooh, so you're a lover.

Oh, that makes sense. You're a lover, baby. I love that Pisces, Pisces. You got a lot of cap. You have a Capricorn Stellium in you, baby. You have one, two, three. Does you have three or four planets in Capricorn?

Three planets in Capricorn, yeah. So that's a stellium. Wow. Yeah, so you're a hardcore cat, baby. Yeah, I could have told you that. But I could see the Aries moon in you because I'm an Ares moon too, and we're just so fiery. Yes.

Okay, so the Aries is the fiery. Well, and Cap too. Okay. Cap is Earth, but also the Ares part of it too is just it all i'll have to sit down and explain birth charts too because i'm super into that but i just feel like astrology really tells people like who they are it's like it's a love language totally i believe in all this stuff i love it yeah do you i love that well i'll have to i'll have to start sending you stuff because i'm totally into that so moving on from the hills and all that stuff

are you friends with anybody still from the cast i mean i still talk to pretty much everybody and the rewatch podcast kind of brought us all back together which was really fun yeah and and And I have my 20-year high school reunion coming up in the fall. And so I can't, I can't wait. Are you excited? I'm so excited. You're going to be like the hottest one there, going back there. I don't know.

Everyone in Laguna Beach still looks really good. There's something in the water. I'm telling you, the West Coast girls are just. It's true. That's sunshine, baby. I do think it's good for you. I'm from Vegas and we were always in Cali. Like, Vegas girls and Cali girls kind of like we all just ran this in the circles.

That's like we were always in Vegas because it's so easy. Yeah. we would we'd have nights where we're like let's just go to Vegas yeah half hour flight oh my god it's so easy you know how many coked out trips I took on a flight same bro being locked on a plane we would drive out of your mind oh I couldn't do it that's just fucking drive fuck three hours I couldn't do it three and a half hours locked in a car just oh train wreck yeah fucking cracked out of my mind there's no I've done it but there's just I could now I could never I like never no way no no I love that Dude, I look back.

We just got some pictures from my best friend who passed away. Her sister sent me a bunch of pictures of us. And there's one of me in there that's like methed out. Girl, where are my eyebrows? I know. Well, I was the same way. I had no, I had them up forever now. I had to see, no, your eyebrows look fucking good.

Well, they're funny. Mine are too, but yours, like, you have hair. I can't even fucking grow up fucking eyebrow back. Okay, you know what I'm going to tell you? Caster oil. Do you ever put castor oil on them? I tried it on my belly button and it made me feel weird. I put it in my belly butt

I can't do it It made me feel weird So I get scared now I'm so sensitive I rub it all over my stomach And it works for you Do you love it And I put it on my face too

I tried to do the castor oil thing Because I wanted to be like The castor oil girlies too And it just made me I woke up the next day I'm such a sensitive Like girly now Because of all the fucking shit

I did in my past Well yeah So like now I can't It's like I used to fucking snort eight balls And now I can't even use casseroil Right Yeah it's fucked up It is fucking

No, it's fucking, it's bullshit, dude. Anyways, moving on from the cast royal packs. How did you take, so you did Laguna Beach, you did the hills, and then after that, did you want to stay in reality TV, or was that more of like your exit out? I was like, get me the fuck out. And I think more than reality TV, just living in L.A. And feeling like I was, my life felt really claustrophobic because at that point, I had paparazzi on me every single day.

Yeah. So every time I wanted to leave my house, whether it be just run to Walgreens or whatever, I'd have to be like, fuck, am I going to have to deal with this? And, you know, this is before social media. So the tabloid world was just ruthless. It was so bad back then. It was really bad. And I was on the cover of fucking every magazine. It seemed like every other week for some bullshit I didn't do or like saying I needed to go to rehab and all this shit.

I just, I had sort of hit my wall and I really wanted out of L.A. Yeah. It wasn't even so much like, it wasn't even, I wanted to be done with an entertainment career. I knew I wanted to be done with reality TV, but it was more like, I got to get the fuck out of L.A. for my own sanity. And I actually met my ex-husband a month after we wrapped the hills. Oh, wow. So Jay came in that. Are we allowed to say his name? Yeah, yeah, we can totally say his name. Yeah, I met him when I was 23 a month after we wrapped the hills and it just sort of naturally got me out of L.A., which was great. Oh, that's how it was when I met my J.

was literally it got me out of Vegas. If I would have stayed in Vegas, I would have killed myself. Right? That's how I felt like in L.A. Yeah. Yeah. I know. It's kind of cool how, you know,

when you really want something, how the universe just sort of delivers it when you're ready. Absolutely. All you do is ask and the universe will grab it. That's true. So you meet Jay. Take me on that journey with you guys' relationship. So, Jay, a year prior,

I got a call from my publicist, and he said that Jay Cutler wanted to fly me. to Chicago and take me on a date. And I didn't know who Jay was. So I googled him and I was like, I mean, I don't. I was like, whatever, I don't know. I didn't know who Jay was until he was on your show. I love you.

I knew who you were. I didn't know who Jay was. I love it. So I said no. So, okay, fine. So a year later, I was visiting my mom who happened to still live there and I was going to a Bears preseason game with my cousin who was Bears obsessed. I totally forgot Jay even asked me out.

My mom brought it up. And my cousin was like, what the fuck? You're such an idiot. Jay's the man. You've got to go out with him. So I ended up getting us family passes to meet Jay after the game thinking it was going to make my cousin's life. I would probably never talk to this guy ever again. And he walked in and I was like, oh, shit, he's cuter than I thought he was going to be.

When he asked you out, how did he ask you out? Well, it was through my publicist. Okay, got you. So it was never, we never had any interaction. So he walked in. He was really cute. He was very smart because he kind of like won my mom over. I was talking to my mom the whole time.

he drove us to our car and then he texted me immediately and he was like something about like well you got to come back or something and then i think i came back like a week later and then it was like that was it we moved really fast oh i love relationships like that though yeah you know granted you know do you guys have gone your separate ways but i still feel like a moment in time that moment in time was what you needed and it was like magical yeah yeah and he was he was he was exactly what i was looking for at the time and again i mean i was 23 I think I was a baby you know like hindsight is 2020 I don't regret a damn thing though I mean there's so much good that came out of our relationship and ultimately not only did I get my kids

and it got me out to Franklin Tennessee and you know all these great things but it forced me to figure out my shit and grow up and do the work that I needed to do and so I'm really thankful for that as well what do you what would you say was kind of I don't want to use the word downfall because that's heavy, but what do you think was part of the reason for the relationship unraveling? So, Jay and I always had a tough relationship, even from the very beginning. And I think, I'm really careful about what I say,

obviously, because we have three kids together. Absolutely. But I think... And we can always cut things out too. Yeah. I haven't talked about them in so many years. of like I made a vow that was like I'm done talking about it but I'm happy to talk about it it's just I'm trying to think about like the best way to say it because you know I think

um it things were just never good and we tried really hard I will say like we really did everything that we could and ultimately I had to make a decision of taking care of myself and putting myself first, and especially as a mom and having these three little kids, I really wanted my kids to see me happy and see that I was making myself a priority and taking care of myself, especially now having a daughter too. I think that's so important. It is so important because I feel like when parents stay together and they're miserable, that causes more fucking trauma for the kids. One thousand percent. Than just seeing healthy co-parenting. Yeah. Yeah, because what you're teaching your kids then is a stay in something because you're fucking miserable yeah and

b they have no idea now what a healthy relationship looks like and it just if you can't be your best self that obviously trickles down to your kids and you take out your hurt and your sadness on your kids it's just a such a negative toxic environment yes and you know as soon as i got out of my marriage um i remember even my mom saying to me like shit i had no idea how bad it was but like i was a shell of who i was and immediately I got my spark back. I love that for you. Yeah. When you say that it was bad,

was it just polar opposites or was it arguing? Like, what was it that was so bad? It was just, it was toxic, you know? And I think, because I hadn't done the work with, on myself and. You were a baby too. I was a fucking baby.

Like, I didn't know any better. How old was he when you guys got together? He was, um, I think he had, I think he was 28, 27 or 28. Okay, so you guys were both young. We were both. That's young love. I feel like the first, like the first love or the first young love like that where you get married or something like is like toxic, you know.

You guys don't know how to fucking navigate life. I know how I was a fucking 23. I'm sorry to anybody whose paths had to cross with mine in that era of my life. Because I was just a shit show. Like you shouldn't be allowed to get married before age 30, quite honestly. I agree. You shouldn't be allowed to. I agree.

You don't know who the fuck you are at that age. Bro, I swear. 100% agree. I know it. But yeah, but so the thing is I was repeating a pattern with my dad, you know? And because I hadn't done the work on my relationship with my dad, that's what you do. You know, I ended up marrying my dad. And so it really forced me then to work through my shit, which is what I did.

So when we got a divorce, for the last almost five years, quite honestly, it's, I've really taken the time to like get my shit together so that I don't then make the same mistake. Yeah. I don't want to say a mistake. That's not the right word. I don't want to be repeating that pattern. Absolutely. Yeah. For sure.

And they do always say that unless you do the work, you will meet the same person, the same human, in different bodies until you learn that lesson. Over and over again. Over and over again. So what we saw of Jay on Very Cavalry, because when did Very Cavalry come into the picture? Did you start on Common James first?

I did, but they were pretty close together. Very Cavalry must have been 2017, I want to say. Is that right? Yeah, because we did three seasons, and it ended in 2020. So, yeah. Yeah, 2017. How did Uncommon James come about? So I had a shoe line with Chinese laundry.

Do you remember that? I do. I loved all their shoes. My brand growing up. So I had a shoe line with them, and I loved it. But because I was doing shoes with them, I wanted to do something on my own, and I felt like jewelry was the next natural step. I love accessories.

I think they make or break your outfit. it. So I, um, well, I had this fire in me to show everybody that I knew what I was doing in the branding world. Because with Chinese laundry at the end of the day, while I had final say, I didn't really, because it was a whole team of people. This is a well-established company. And I learned to trust my gut. I knew my customer. And so I had this fire in me of like, I'm going to show everyone that I know what I'm doing in the branding world. So I launched Uncommon James out of our house. And at the time I was essentially a stay-at-home mom like I did little things I would host these big award shows these pre-shows for e on the red carpets but other than that I was basically a stay-at-home mom

and so I just honestly wanted something to do also um and probably set yourself apart from the reality star yes you know because you've grown you've got a baby by now you're married yeah I wanted like my own thing yeah and so launched it and then I knew because you know I had been offered a million reality shows obviously like you know coming off of laguna beach in the hills i knew i could always fall back on that if i needed to but i wanted to do a show similar to vanderpump rules and have it be about uncommon james yeah so pitched it to e and they were like we'll do it if you're on it more so i had to get jay on board then and i had to get one of my friends on board and then yeah we did it. And I did it. One of your friends being Kelly. Yes. And we, yeah, we can talk about that. Yeah. And she,

or so, so we, we did the show. And honestly, the only reason I did it was for Uncommon James. Best decision I've ever made for the company. But I also, because I was an executive producer, I had such a different experience doing very Cavalry. And the producers really looked at me like an equal. I was involved in every creative conversation. I always knew it was going on. And it was, that aspect of it was such an enjoyable experience. It was a great way for me to end my reality TV career just with such a positive taste in my mouth. So I was really, really happy that I ended up doing it. That's amazing.

So did you actually get a say-so on what was aired? I was able to get shit taken out. I mean, like, yeah. I mean, it was juicy. There was a lot of drama under it. I watched it. It could have been way better. I'm like, I don't know.

I thought you guys did a great fucking job. I mean, I think it could have been better. I think it could have been funnier. I wanted it to be like, I mean, and there were definitely, Jay was very funny on the show. Well, he was hit or miss. He was either really funny or it was like, what is going on with this guy?

Well, and I mean, you should have seen this shit that got edited out. There was one time we were filming and we were fighting so bad that the camera guys were like, okay, cameras down. Like, everyone take a break. Oh, shit.

But they can't show that because they wanted Jay and I to seem like we were perfect, you know, or like had this great relationship. You could pick up on the tension though. You could feel it. I think you could too. Like now, obviously, we got divorced pretty quickly thereafter.

I think people then could kind of see the cracks, you know, but they try to do a really good job of showing us in a very positive light. You don't have a good, I'm the same way. You don't have a good poker face. Nope. I can't bullshit, man. It's like, I got to be real. Yeah, there was a couple times I was like, she's pissed at him.

Like, you could feel the energy on it. Because I watched Very Cavalry too. Yeah. Well, I, the whole time that we were doing that show, I was really unhappy, really unhappy in my marriage. was sort of like, well, that was a distraction probably also, you know. At that point, I was throwing myself into so much work stuff. Yeah. That it was, it was all a distraction. Do you feel like the drama from the show overshadowed the brand of Uncommon James? No, because what it did for the company was insane. I mean, you can't buy that kind of marketing overnight. It just catapulted

us to the next level. And it just, it set Uncommon James up, honestly, to something I never even could have imagined and so and still I mean we continue to grow and and I'm I really do think it's because of the show initially I really do so no no I agree I couldn't agree more no I mean what is it what do they say all news is good news yeah all press is good press yeah exactly like fuck it sometimes it's hard to hard to wrap my head around but yeah we're learning that now we're new into the the fame thing so there's a couple like we go viral for some things that we've said in like 2020 and it's like we're not even we're not even those fucking people anymore you're like let us grow let but the internet well man that will just hold you to who you were at that moment in time hold on to everything

yeah and they like to bring it back and rerun it and you're just like what is fucking happening god i know like let's see you five years ago what you were doing literally let's fucking let's shake those skeletons yeah for sure where do you get the inspiration for uncommon james like for the jewelry and you have clothes too correct So we do, we're primarily jewelry and actually now we have skin care. We've got merch, like we've got sweats and t-shirts and shit. Yeah, but I wouldn't say we do clothing. But so for the jewelry, it just depends. I find that whatever's kind of going on in my life is where I'm pulling inspiration from.

So I mean, you know, like during COVID, it was like I was doing a collection about adventure. Like when we could, you know, when the world started opening up again, like what we would be doing, like a daydreaming collection. I was in Greece this past summer and that inspired a whole collection. So it just kind of depends on whatever is happening in my life. I love that. It's fun. It's like just little glimpses of where you're at in your life. Yeah, yeah.

You'll be able to look back on your collections and be like, oh, okay, I did this when I was here. And I did this when I was with this person and like, yeah. Well, and so my daughter is Sailor, she has a collection coming out in, I think it's April. But we designed it last New Year's actually when we were at the beach. And so like, and that's really sweet. And it's all, you know, this beach theme and stuff. So yeah, it is kind of like a little scrapbook in a lot of ways of like. Yeah, where I was at in my life.

It is fun. I love that for you. Yeah. Moving on to the very cavaliery drama that had happened, you had your best friend, Kelly Henderson, on the show. You guys had been friends for a really long time, correct? Yeah, we had known each other. Well, actually, we met in 2010 when Jay and I started dating,

but we didn't become close until a couple years later. But yes, I mean, we definitely were friends for a while. What happened on the show? Was that, was it a story? line or was that really unfolding? No, that was real. So what happened was, um, so I think it was season two, uh, people started saying that it seemed like Jay and Kelly

were having an affair. Right. And I actually was completely oblivious to any, any of that, um, but then I remember being like, wait, what the fuck? And like, really starting to pay attention to it. And I was like, I never once thought that anything was going on. I stand by that. I don't, I don't think anything happened.

But my issue was how Kelly was handling it and adding fuel to the fire and sort of taking advantage of it for her own benefit. And I said something to her and it just blew up in my face. I mean, I will always stand by the fact that if a friend came to me and said, hey, listen, here's how your actions made me feel. I would go, holy shit, that was not my intention. I am so sorry. Let's talk about this.

And this is relationships too. But when people can't take any accountability and turn it around and throw it in your face, like I don't, I can't do that. You know what I'm saying? And I've had a lot of experience with that. That's actually like a huge thing for me moving forward with all of my friendships, relationships, whatever, is accountability is so fucking huge. And it's really hard for a lot of people.

Preach it, sister. Clip that, Jason. That's a good one. That is a good one. But it's, I just, I'm at a point in my life where. because there's not I can't do anything with that then right like this is how I feel and if you can't acknowledge that well then I don't I can't move on yeah so um that's basically what happened so the rumors were that they were having an affair you never once thought like this is possibly true like

where does a rumor like that come around from well it was because of how she was with him um she definitely uh she was crossing the line and and then like The way she would talk about him on social media, it was just, it was always adding fuel to it, where I was like, wait, what the fuck is actually going on? Right. But no, I really, I really don't think anything happened. I mean, fuck, I don't know, to be honest with you. Like, do I know for sure?

No. And Jay used to trash her, which I now sort of think of a guy is trashing a girl. It's because there's probably something going on. And I did you ever confront him? Like, hey, is this really going on? Yeah, I mean, he walked, you know, hand in hand with me during that whole thing. but okay confession time i used to think budget was a fancy word for suggestion then i realized my daily snack attacks and impulse buys were totally trashing my savings that's when i found chime no fees

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for you. You know what I mean? You have to forgive them. And because at the end of the day, people who are lying to you or who are cheating or whatever the situation may be, that's because they're hurt. Yeah. That's about them. Like that has nothing to do with me. And so when you can get to that place and almost have empathy for those people and realize how much they're struggling, like it's it's not about me so I I forgive Kelly I forgive Jay for anything that he did like I just anyone in my life my dad even I've I have empathy for my dad because I understand why my dad is the way he is I can have empathy and forgive these people and still not have them in my life you know those two things can coexist if Kelly has Kelly tried to apologize to you no and in fact I saw her one time

at the airport and she fucking bolted I was like I could give you a big hug right now and be like whatever you know like I don't hold grudges but that just tells me she doesn't work through it she's still holding on to that so that's that's rough man yeah because it's it it also at the same time makes her like really guilty like 100% like why can't you just face me like I'm not even with this dude anymore like 100% never let a man get in between a friendship type of girl code girl code like what that is like I can't even wrap my head around that yeah so you're you're you're you're You are on this TV show, you know, you're doing your last who are off with reality TV, as you said, and then, you know, all this blows up. What happened with Shannon Ford? Are you guys friends now?

I've seen her. Yeah. We're totally cool. You guys are good now? Okay, because I remember that was a whole thing, too. Yeah. You're going through all of this, and then you and Jay are headed for divorce. You guys get this divorce. How are you feeling in that moment? like oh that was such a crazy time i felt so many different things yeah i mean it was everything from such a weight being lifted to feeling like i could finally breathe yeah to being so fucking devastated that i that i was tearing up our family you know obviously coming from divorced parents

the last thing i ever wanted was a divorce so and and i won't lie to you that still will creep up once in a while. Christmas, I felt that. I got really sad Christmas Eve because I was like, it just sucks that we're not together as a family. I don't want to be back with Jay at all, but it's that family unit, you know? That bums me out sometimes. Do you guys think you could ever do a Christmas together eventually? How are you guys co-parenting right now? It's been so up and down. Well, not shocking because I mean, we've seen Jay's behavior. Zero fucking inconsistency, which is really hard. Yeah, you poor baby.

Yeah, it has not been easy to say the least. You know, we sat together at a basketball game earlier in the year, and I was like, holy fuck. This is the best thing that's ever happened. You're like, I'll fucking take it. Like, Jesus Christ, we made it. Like, wow, we can sit next to each other. And we haven't sat together since.

So I don't fucking know. Jay, come on, baby. What the fuck. Let's get it together. it's a it's a bumpy road so i'm going to say probably no christmas is together which is fine and to be honest that's not even what i want it's you know it's just um i think when you go through a divorce and you have kids like there are those moments where you're like it's a bummer just because you don't want that but there's also a lot of good of course that came out of that

and i think even for my kids you know it's going to make them stronger like there's i could list a thousand things of why it's positive um but i do have those moments but But in that moment, you know, going through the divorce, just wrapping a reality show. How are you feeling? Like, even getting back into like the dating scene. That was easy for me. I was like riding a bike. We're going to get there, baby.

We're going to get there, sister. That was a piece of cake. Well, you know what it was? I think so I actually immediately started dating someone. And then I went from that to another thing immediately. And so for the first year, I was like, woo, having fun. I'm free, I'm dating, I'm like getting my spark back. Like just fucking loving life, quite honestly.

And then Jay and I actually went on a couple dates. Yeah, we went on a couple dates trying to see if like, because, man, it's fucking hard. And I think unless you've gone through this, especially with a toxic marriage, it's like, it has this hold on you. And until you can like, trauma bond almost. It's a fucking trauma bond.

And until you can really break that, I would go back a couple times and be like, but I know it's not right but like why am I doing it but so we did we went on a couple dates and then after I finally you know for the 18th millionth time was like I can't do this then I really did the work and then it like I had lonely times I had sad times it was really hard for me then to meet someone like I dated but I didn't meet anyone that I liked for a really long time because you're in the process of healing and you're just like ew like you get the ick so easy so easy which is a good thing you know um but yeah

Then I had to really, you know, get real with myself and do the healing journey. So it was, it was good. What's a wellness, like, ritual that you do for yourself, like to ground yourself? I mean, I really do love meditating. Me too. I don't do it as much as I would like to. But when I do it, it's fucking powerful. I just started doing sauna.

Yes. Do you meditate in the sauna? That's my new thing. That's what I do. I just started doing it. It's the best. It's the best. Because you can't take your phone in there.

Yes. I just set mine outside and I just kind of like sit in there for a half hour and just zone out. It's the best. And you feel so good after you do it. Well, they say it literally changes your vibration. Like it literally, you know, yeah. So I do love it. What else do I do?

I actually have these Oracle cards too. I like pulling Oracle cards. Oh, I love that for you. It's just kind of fun. I got tarot cards too. I think I'm like a fucking medium all of a sudden. You're like a little gypsy over there. Like reading them for all my friends.

I would let you read my tarot cards. I would love to read your. dude let's do it we'll have to do that like i'm coming over for dinner just so you can read my tarot cards so you've written books you've built businesses and you're raising a family how do you define success um for yourself these days i love that question success i think is inner peace quite honestly like period it's that simple but i think um there's no there's no piece is priceless that's the thing and i think you know what we were talking about earlier like when your whole life has not been peaceful, I value it so much.

And I feel lucky because I've gotten to a place where I've been able to sort of like curate my life to be exactly what I want. You know, my podcast that I'm doing, Uncommon James, everything's on my terms. I'm my own boss. I can work when I want to work. My kids are always my priority. And if I want to take a week off and go fuck around, I can. And that for me is heaven.

So I feel very, very lucky. You're like a phoenix that rose after that, you know, that rises. through the ashes. The phoenix rising. Yeah. Thanks. That's how I feel. No.

Listen, girl, you're a warrior. You know, real, recognize real. I get it, man. It's when you go through so much, like, just tragedy and bullshit in the beginning of your life, all you want now is peace. Like, you can ask my girls, I don't fucking even want. If it's not fucking me, feeding me or financing me, I don't fucking care. Amen, baby.

About what the fuck is you got going on? You want to come to move some bullshit? Take it elsewhere. Exactly. No time for that. Um, so, you know, after the divorce, you said that it was really easy for you to start dating. Here we go. I love that little smile on your face.

Because you already know what's coming, baby. I know, let's go. Let's go. So was one of those men happened to be Morgan Mawin? How did I know? Because you dropped a bomb and the entire internet went insane. What was your friend, Justin Anderson? Yeah, our suspect video.

Yes. Can we elaborate on this? Because, you know, and I have to navigate this. Yeah, you guys know Morgan. Well, see, here's the thing. I've seen Morgan numerous times. I've only hugged him. I've never had a conversation with him.

My husband and him are friends. And my husband is like, that's my bubba. Yeah, and Morgan's a good guy. He has a big heart. He really does. He's a player from the Himalayas. Thousand percent. The amount of women that have sat on my couch

that have been with Morgan Wallen is crazy. He's been with every woman on the. planet so that as he should he's single yeah he absolutely should i mean yeah yes i i definitely hung out with morgan um Morgan is he's very sweet here's what i'll tell you is the first date that we went on he was a true gentleman and he was like i'll pick you up i'll pick the place like just fucking handled business he came and picked me up he met my kids my kids were so excited it was so cute we he got us a private room you know he had like his bodyguard and whatnot and um dropped me off he kissed me in the rain and

it was like the sweetest thing and then we hung out there after and it was i will say it was a very um that was up and down too it was just like it was a lot yeah they always say you'll find the same person in different bodies so that's true um but yeah i love morgan i haven't talked to him in probably a year. But I have nothing but good things to say about him. Was he romantic? Um, I've heard he's great in bed. He was good and bad.

Yeah. We got another one to confirm. Another one has Morgan. You slay, brother, slay, all right? And we are in no way. Fucking Morgan, God. You know, Morgan's going to be hidden up, Jay. Like, can you please tell your wife to never talk about me on her podcast again?

Only for you, Bunny. Only for you. I appreciate it. So, but you did say, and I do, we have to bring this up, you did say that he hurt your feelings. Justin said that. Yeah. Okay.

Justin said that. Justin said that. So, okay. God, I'm so sorry, Morgan. He didn't hurt my feelings. I'll be honest with you. Morgan was the first guy in my entire fucking life that wasn't like just completely enamored with me.

And I was like, what in the fuck is going on? It really threw me. Yeah. Because you're used to people like worship me. I'm used to guys being like crazy where I'm like, whatever. Well, it's probably because he has 20 other girlfriends. Exactly. Yeah.

Exactly. He was busy. Yeah. And so, um, yeah. Allegedly. Allegedly. Allegedly. But yeah.

So it was one of those things where I was like, why do I keep going back to this guy when it's just like, it's trying to get the approval of your father yeah exactly exactly and I love having the upper hand and I feel like with him I didn't have the upper hand and I was like I'm gonna fucking get it yeah never did oh I will say I walked away from him a couple times and I was ultimately the one that ended it but I never felt like I like had him you know and yeah the only time in my life so it really fucked with me yeah well he has a reputation for being a bad boy 100% lives up to it I mean oh yeah the dude's throwing fucking chairs off roofs you know yeah Yeah, yeah.

No, listen, I'm glad that didn't work out. I don't want to be with Morgan. I love Morgan, but I don't want to pick Morgan. I feel like Morgan might be a stepping stone, you know, for like finding your true love. Yeah. He's like the bad boy that you want to play with. And then you just, you tuck him away and you put him in the past when you find the man that you love. At the time, quite honestly, I was like, I kind of just want a fuck buddy in Nashville.

Yeah. That's really hard to find here for some reason. And I wanted to make Morgan that. But it was just like. Yeah, Morgan seems to be the guy that wants to step up to the plate. to be people's fuck buddies. He's a great fuck buddy. The problem is honestly he was on tour. He's so busy. Haley's losing it over here. She knows so many girls that have been with him too. Even I do. And I'm like, God. Morgan hasn't either support group. No, literally, because everyone's

heart is broken. I know. Morgan, you're out here breaking people's hearts, man. Oh, Morgan. But he was so busy, honestly, that it was just like, why the fuck am I? Like, what are we doing? This is silly. So. Yeah, just a stepping stone. He's, and he was fun. Like, we had a good time. and so, you know, all good, all good. Jason Statement. Statham. Statham. How do I put it?

Jason Statham. How? That doesn't even seem like your type. Oh my God. When I was, how old was I? I was probably like 21. Mm-hmm. Oh, he, I loved him.

Yeah? I mean, not really, but I know he, um, yeah, we were really good friends. Is he tiny? He's smaller than you would think. Yeah. they all are though you know what i mean that's my issue with actors they're never this like macho like i feel like i'm bigger than every fucking person that i've seen on the big screen i know every time i meet them and you're tiny but so are you but no you are but yes i'm a big back bitch

and i'll take it i i identify as a big back bitch and listen hardly they get so mad at me what i say but i'm like bro i'm a big back bitch all right no stop it no but these guys that's the thing they're never what you want them to be ever ever And they wear lifts. I know. Yeah. Did Jason wear lifts? No.

Okay. Well, maybe in the movies and shit. I don't know. But yeah, but, no, but Jason is a, he's a great guy. He's a lot of fun. Did you guys actually, like,

date, or was it just more of like a... Yeah, we dated a little bit. Wow. Yeah. No, he was, he was great. We had the same group of friends. So we started out as friends.

And then it just kind of escalated. But, yeah, no, nothing but good things to say about Jason, too. How long was it? God, I don't even remember. I mean because we were friends at first God, this is so long ago I would say maybe a year but not like hooking up and dating

probably a couple months that that was going on but yeah let's talk about your because we're going to hop off your dating for a second she's like let's talk about this beef you have with the Kardashians she's like let's hop out of one frying pan into another

okay let's go there what is it about that family because I've had numerous people and they sponsor my podcast so I do their ads on my podcast too and I'm like out there talking shit they just renewed it for 2025 I was with us too hey if you want me to just keep talking shit I will no problem I love it so I love that you know I think it's cool that they just don't care they're like you know what we're gonna fucking just sponsor the podcast I know I know there's a lot of people who have sat on my couch that have different different stories but the same scenarios with this family. Yeah. It comes to a point where it's like, some of it can't be made up. No. I mean, I think the thing is, I feel like we're living in this time right now where karma is like really playing a role. Huge. And people are being held accountable on a big scale. Yes. And I'm here for that. I fucking love that. And, you know, mine really stems from, God, again, I mean, this is I was probably like 22 21 or 22 and well I had known Scott Dissick same thing same

group of friends we were always buddies well you were with Brody Jenner weren't you I dated Brody was my first boyfriend in L.A yeah so yeah it was all that group of people and Scott and Courtney started dating that's how I met Courtney I fucking loved Courtney we were really good friends I could see you guys being oh like you guys are kind of like the same personality very similar Courtney was awesome and they broke up and I was doing something in Vegas actually and I went with a bunch of my guy friends Scott happened to be one

of the guys that came again we were always just friends well he was devastated about Courtney and the next morning we all went out we had a good time I was never even alone with Scott he was devastated about Courtney but fumbled the ball how many times well exactly I mean men are always

like the victim always the fucking victim maybe if you got your shit together it would be a different story But so the next morning, it was on like page six or something that Scott and I had hooked up. And I was like, what in the mother fuck? And my friend Stee was like, I know for a fact that was Scott, who told them that, planted that to try to make Courtney jealous. Well, what do you know? That's in fact what happened.

Courtney was really upset about it. And I remember being on the phone with Courtney being like Courtney, you know that that's not true. I would never fucking touch Scott. And I don't know. She was like, well, I don't know. I just know I have sisters and I would never put myself in that situation. her sisters have allegedly been with well right you know like okay um and then so they did end up getting back together and we you know we stopped talking but but i am like scott must have said

it was true or something because all it would have taken was for scott to be like that's not true and i'm that so was my issue too because this was on the cover of every fucking tabloid and i remember doing an interview again before social media so it's not like you can go on and defend yourself and like clear your name yeah so i remember doing an interview of being like Like, that's not true. And all it would take is one of the Kardashians to be like, that's not true for it to go away. But they wouldn't do that. And that's the part that pisses me off is like they, I think they have no regard for anyone else other than themselves.

They don't really defend themselves either. I guess they kind of don't do that. Yeah. Like there's sometimes that there's accusations coming out about them and I'm waiting for one of them to speak up and they never say a fucking word. Well, I think, you know, talk about what we said earlier. they're in the camp of all press is good press for sure where i'm like no this is my fucking reputation in my name i'm like i have an issue when something is so not true if something comes out and it's true i'm like questions your integrity yeah but i'm like i didn't fucking do that so that explains why

you were so mad when scott reached back out to you so i go on my podcast and just was talking shit about the Kardashians like nothing in particular but just talking shit and then scott dissick DMs me after fucking 15 years or something is like I miss you we should hang out it just felt so calculated to me and this is what the Kardashians and a lot of people in hollywood do is when you're out there talking shit they want to shut you up so it's keep your friends close and your enemies closer and i don't play that game it's so fake to me do you feel like scott is still under control of that family thousand percent oh okay i think so i feel like he's such a loose line he's like a loose He is for sure, but I think at the end of the day, they definitely can kind of control him.

They run the men in their lives, that's for sure. Yeah. Yeah, they do. Poor Rob. Rob is like disappeared. He's an obscurity. I was not dancing with the stars with him. He's the sweetest, but he's kind of, yeah.

Where is Rob? Yeah, poor Rob. Is Rob okay? Yeah, Rob, do the red, what is it? What is it? What is it? The yellow rose is the yellow rose if you need help. Yeah, exactly.

Poor Rob. I know. All that estrogen, too. It's got to be just fucking insane. Yeah. So moving on on from your beef with the Kardashians, because it's really not even beef. It's not. I feel like it's legit.

Like, your feelings are hurt. And Courtney should have been a better friend to know that you would not do that. Well, and it's like, I honestly, I don't even really give a fuck to be honest with you. But it's just that the fact that Scott was trying to slide into my DMs. I was like, oh, fuck off. Yeah. But hey. You're like, look, an elephant never forgets.

And I remember everything. Exactly. And you don't want to fuck with someone who was a weekly podcast. Yeah. Like, you know that. Like I'll come out and say whatever. I'm also a loose cannon sometimes. Let's talk about your podcast really quick.

What is the name of your podcast so people want to listen to it? Let's be honest. Yeah, it's, you know, wherever you get your podcast. Yeah. And it's a mix. You know, that's what I love is having creative freedom with, you know, Uncommon James and the podcast to talk about whatever I want to talk about. I mean, you get that.

If one week I want to talk about, you know, fucking Scott Dissix sliding into my DMs or interview a neurosurgeon, you know, like I have that freedom, which is really great and keeps it excited. for me. I admire the fact that you can do podcasts by yourself. Thanks. Do you never do them? No, I haven't mastered that. Oh, I feel like he would be so good at that. I feel like nobody wants to hear me talk that much. Oh, that is not true. You would be so good at it. I would just be sitting here talking. I would probably be like by the time I got done, they'd be like, does she have five personalities? Because she literally made herself laugh and she

couldn't stop laughing and then she got pissed off. Like, what just happened? Like, it's weird. It might be bad for me. I remember when I started doing them, I was like, this is the most unnatural awkward thing on the planet. I'm just talking to myself. Like, it's weird. But it's a it's a muscle. You would be so good at it, Bonnie. I feel like you should try it. I don't know. Listen, if you guys see me talking to myself, it's because Kristen told me to do it.

So, let's talk about the Montana boy. Okay. Okay. Because, listen, I was fucking rooting for you, dude. You were so cute on TikTok. I was red, because I was like, let's fucking woman live, bro. Thank you. I know.

What was the age difference? 13 years. I mean, it's not terrible. I mean, you know, the thing is, I will stand by this. I still think age is just a number. And it was so interesting for me to see how up in arms people were because I was older and I'm the woman compared to how it is for men.

But Demi Moore and Ashton Coucher got away with it and they were the cutest thing ever. And there's so many people. Talk about Jason Statham. I think he's like 20-something years older than Rosie. I mean, like, there are so many relationships. out there and people don't bat an eye but when a girl does it that really pissed me off i was like what the fuck also it's not like i don't know i think so okay actually here's my real opinion on it this is what i think i don't think people give a shit that i'm dating that i was dating someone younger

i think it's that i can do whatever the fuck i want in my life i'm out there doing what i want and a lot of people can't do that and that's what's triggering for people amen yeah and so yeah it was fascinating for me to see that whole thing. To see the reaction. Yeah. How did you guys meet? How did that come about? Did you see him on TikTok? And you were like, I want that one. Okay. Yeah. Literally I saw him on TikTok and I was like, fuck, he's so hot. But like, okay, that was that. And then like a couple months later, he DMed me on Instagram. And I was like, what the fuck? You manifest of that. I literally did. Yeah. And then found out they were moving to Nashville. And I was like, well, fuck, if this isn't meant to be. Yeah. You're like, I mean, I just, I need to welcome home. I needed, I needed that

fuck buddy. Yeah. I was like, oh, it's not Morgan. I listen, 13 years younger, you know it's it's going to be good. There you go. Yeah. So how was you guys as relationship if you could like sum it up in a nutshell? It was great. Honestly, I mean, um, we did have a real connection. I don't want to minimize that at all. He's a really good guy. It was a beautiful relationship. I, you know, I have nothing bad to say. say it was fun until it wasn't you know it was like it just um I felt the age difference like no shit no shock like of course and I get that you know everyone's like oh I fucking knew it it's like okay but we all knew it let me have fun I was having fun it was if it's called a fling

for a reason exactly like am I supposed to marry everyone I date like I don't understand I was having fun and I think people forget that the last five years have been my dating era like always had boyfriends. I met Jay when I was 23. I never was able to date and figure out exactly what I want and like figure out myself through dating. And so that's what I've been doing the last five years. And that was really fun for me. It like sort of was a distraction too. It was a distraction. It was really easy. It just sort of naturally fit into my life. I said this on my podcast, but you know, it's maybe selfish looking back. But I didn't really have to bend for him in a lot of ways. He just kind of fit into my life and with where I'm at in my life that was really is perfect what you needed it was

what I needed and um yeah but Mark's a great guy and I have I never even knew his name I just know I'm as Montana boy I love you that's Montana boy the Montana boy anybody that talks to me about it is like yeah her and the Montana boy I know did you did you ever look around when you were with him and just be like maybe and this is not a diss to him at all it's just maybe this is too small for me because you know you do have such a lore and like you're an icon and not saying that he's he won't be but I mean all he has right now is the shirtless TikTok videos yeah and it's I think it's a combination of yeah I mean that's not me being mean no he looks fucking he's beautiful I think you know I think when you are young and you don't have life experience coupled with maybe not a lot going on in

your life right there's not a lot to talk about there's not a lot to bring to the table. They're just pretty to look at. Which can go for a minute, you know? That'll get you through for a minute. No, I get it. Until it won't. And so, yes, I came out of it and was craving real depth and emotional intimacy. Intimacy. You know, seduce my mind and then you can have my body. That's what I always say. Yeah. So now I'm like really like in that mode of like, I want to learn something from a man. I want to like, you know, like, I want like a, yeah, daddy. Yeah, I love that. But this, but that's what I'm saying, like, it's fun. Like, oh, this whole journey that I'm on is really fun. And it's the evolution of me. Yeah. And I'm figuring it out. And I love that, like, I had that as part of

my overall story. Like, fuck yeah, I dated a 24 year old. Was he ever insecure with, like, what he had going on and then what you had going on? Did that ever become an issue with you guys? Um, I mean, we have to remember, too. We only dated for like seven months. So I think, um, But, no, I don't think that was an insecurity for him. Listen, I think he was sort of a long for the ride. Like, he was just, like, happy as to be. He's like, I'm fucking Kristen Cavalry. He was like, very content.

You can't tell me shit. Kind of, you know. So, no, I don't think that was an issue. Was he sad when you guys broke up? Yeah, it was, it was really hard. It was really hard. And it crushed me, quite honestly, because I knew I was breaking his heart. And so, yes.

and actually it's been one of the harder breakups for me in the sense where like normally I'm like I'm done great I'm moving on I never even think about the guy again but I think I've had a lot of guilt about it and I feel really bad and so he's so sweet he's so sweet he really is so sweet and yeah so it's been hard for me to like

let it go and we've stayed in touch too and I think that probably makes it harder as well would you give it another old round No. The old wraparound. As much as I love, you know, getting between the sheets with them. Look at her. She's all playing with her neck.

She's all excited. No, I have to just close that door. She's like, no, I'm fucking healing, all right? I'm trying to heal. In our healing process. No, I actually, I'm kind of dating someone else now. Can we know who it is? I'm not going to say who it is and it's really new.

Is he in the spotlight also? He is a retired athlete, which I will tell you. You love the athlete. athletes. Fuck, they love me, I think. Yeah. They always find me. I love that. But he's, you're a wag. So I'm a fucking wag through and through. He's such a good guy and he really, it's new, but he checks all the boxes where I'm like, fuck, this is what I've been needing. Yeah. So we'll see. We'll see. He's coming in a couple days to stay with me. Tell us who it is and we'll bleep the name up. Okay, bleep it out. Okay, I don't know who it is. Yeah, he's, he wasn't like a big,

yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't know, I don't know, because I don't know athletes really. much but yeah he retired a couple years ago and he has so much depth and I just like love talking to him he's 40 good yeah he's on your level kids so yeah we connect on so many different levels which is awesome is he cute he's cute maybe he's over there i'm gonna show you yes but let me show you like real photos of him not like fucking yeah sweaty sweaty hockey ones the athletes never look good in their like yeah their photos online yeah I was like get them in like real life and they're so much better. No, that's how I felt about, what was that one Raiders

of the fire crotch? Oh, he was so damn fine. I didn't tell my husband. I think his last Max Crosby. I was like, we saw him at a game and I was like, who's this? And I said, baby, my new, I text to my husband, I go, my new favorite number is I think 98. And that was his number and he goes, oh, you're a Max Crosby

girl. Oh, he knew. I love it. I love it. My husband was like, go, baby, go. See, that's such a good relationship when you're just confident and secure. Like the fact that you can say to him. I feel like all my ex-boyfriends would be like, what? Oh, my God. Are you going to leave me for him? You know what I mean? Like that energy. And yep, I've been in relationships like that and I refuse. I won't do it again. It took me a long time when I got with Jay to really understand the non-gealous

because I came from such jealous relationships. And I used to get upset with him. I'm writing about this in my book, actually. And I used to get kind of upset with him like, do you not love me? Like, why aren't you like fighting for me? Fight over me. You know, but I realize that's the toxicity in me. that wanted that in him and he never he never rose to that occasion and now I'm just like God I couldn't imagine being with a jealous human like that like I'll never do that again

ever never ever I love that for you that's so nice you're gonna find it too I know you're too much of a beautiful woman to not have somebody see how fucking special you are thank you yeah it's coming baby I can feel it yeah me too let's talk about this home invasion that you were just really like you just recently started talking about it yeah I haven't talked about it

because honestly my kids still don't know and even when I talked about it on my podcast and it kind of hit the media and stuff, I was sort of sitting there like fuck is my oldest gonna say something to me because he's on, he has all the things, you know? My boys have phones and stuff but he never said anything

to me so I was like, all right, hopefully he dodged that bullet. Yeah, we won't clip this. Yeah, don't clip this. We won't. So it was actually, it was during 2020 so we were in the Bahamas for spring break and we ended up being there for a month because it was one COVID hit and I had all my uncommon James jewelry like laid out in my closet and earlier in the

day our HVAC unit broke so we had workers in the house fixing it and okay so Camden my oldest and I who this is almost five years ago so he was like what six or seven don't make me do math on the spot but he was sleeping with me that night so we went to bed early so I had no idea where anyone else was in the house and I woke up to the door was opening and the light from the kitchen woke me up and I was so out of it I honestly thought it was Jay and thank God because I go crawling on the bedroom floor I go what the fuck are you doing? And though this guy is like oh fuck stands up runs out and I was like whole fuck he had a ski mask on long black sleeves black pants like the whole nine like while you're sleeping sleeping with my

baby in bed with me. So I think because, well, so then I'm like, holy fuck, but I didn't want to wake up Camden. So your instincts just kick in. But I'm like, fuck, I have to go out in this house and figure this out. I have no idea where he is or where Jay is or the kids or whatever. So I grab my phone. I text Jay. I'm like, are you awake? No response because it's like 1 a.m. So I'm like, fuck, I go out in the house and I'm just like looking around. I go in another bedroom. No one's there. I go upstairs. Finally I find Jay. As soon as I woke up, I got really nervous. Like before that,

I was like a fucking Navy seal just like going. Like your instinct. Yeah, your instincts just kick in. And then once Jay woke up, I was like shaking and I got so scared. Long story short, it was one of the HVAC unit guys.

He took all the cash that we had in a backpack, but we got it back. It was like a guy that worked at the resort that we were at. And you wanted to go to the Bahamas. I know. You know what's fucked up. I've been back to that resort since. Bitch is like Yolo.

Can't scare me, bitch. Yeah. I love that, though. You're like, you know what? I'm going to go back and just face it head on. Exactly. Face your fears. Yeah. And, you know, yeah. And I so, that's like one of those things that I won't tell my kids that until they're older. But unless, you know, I keep talking about it and they find out. But it's crazy that you don't have fear from that, you know, because like that's, that's scary. It is fucking PTSD from that. I know. I'll tell you what. I don't know. I think even living in L.A. and stuff, I used to be so scared. Living in this little house that I had in West Hollywood, you know, you're on top of your neighbor, the whole thing. But, but. Living out here, I'm like 20 minutes from here. In the middle of nowhere, I'm on 130 acres. I feel so safe. Yay. Like so safe.

Again, it's just at peace. Yep. And it's just a good feeling. I don't know. Yeah, I feel. I've got German shepherds. I've got a gun. I've got the whole thing.

So it's like I just... She said, bitch, I'm strapped with dogs. Don't get it twisted. But I just, yeah, I feel really, really safe out here. I love that. Yeah. It's a good feeling. What does 2025 have in store for you?

It's a good question. I hope to just continue. to just kind of be where I'm at. I used to be such a planner and be like, I need to do X, Y, and Z this year. And I've gotten into this more of a headspace of just letting life unfold. And that's not to say I don't have goals.

You know, I'm going on a podcast tour. Like, there are really fun things happening. But I'm just kind of like letting it all happen. Yeah. So I don't, I don't know. Whatever, whatever happens happens. Yeah. Just letting the universe just come to you freely.

Yeah. I love that. Thanks. I love where you're at in life. I love the space. that you're in. I feel like you've fought to be here and it's, you know, something to be proud of.

Thank you. I appreciate that. A lot of people don't figure it out and a lot of people, you know, victimize themselves or they, you know, wallow and self-pity and you're just out here being like, you know what, this has happened, I did this, I did this, I take accountability and I'm moving the fuck on. Well, because there's no growth in the victim mentality, you know? So, yeah, you got to take charge of your life.

Like, that's what I would tell people. Take your life in your own hands and do the damn thing. I love it. Yeah. I'm going to be doing that with you in 2025. I'm planning like a birthday trip for me and I never do that. Good. It's the first time I've celebrated my birthday and I can't even.

Yeah, she was shook. But I want to go out of the country. And so like this year I'm just kind of like I have worked my ass off my whole life. I just want to fucking kind of have fun this year. Yes. I might even drink some alcohol. All right. And I've been sober since 2017.

You know, so I'm like, look at Haley's. Hey, I got, I drink a beer with Haley one night. Are you so? Sober, sober, you California sober. No, I'm sober, sober, sober. Amazing. I white knuckle through life, baby. Damn.

Yeah. No, it's brutal. It's brutal, but I had to. I had to do it for my spiritual and, you know, emotional healing that I had to go through. No, I get it. When I hit 40, now I'm about to be 45. So I'm like, you know what? I've done the work.

Yeah. Let me fucking just have fun. There you go. See, I love that. Good. You should. Go have some fun. No, that's why I understand where you're at, too.

Just letting things happen. Yeah, I love it. Thank you for coming on the podcast. thank you. I appreciate you being here. I appreciate you so much. We actually get to end the season with Kristen, right? Oh, hell yeah. Yeah. So you're like our season finale, baby. I love that. Going out with a bang. Yes. Well, thank you. Thank you. And tell people where they can find you if they don't know. So just Kristen Cavaleri, Instagram and TikTok. And then let's be honest, my podcast every Tuesday. Yeah. Yeah. You guys go check her out. You'll fall in love with her just like I did fucking 20. What is it in 2020? 2006. 2004. 2004 god fucking crazy 20 years 20 years ago yeah insane wild makes me feel old but insane thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of dumb blonde i'll see you guys next season bye