El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 011: Relaciones y Pareja 2 con la Dra. Cabouli

Episode Date: June 30, 2013

En este episodio continuamos explorando con la Dra. Liliana Cabouli, experta en relaciones y pareja, cuáles son los secretos que nos ayudan a construir una relación solida y profunda.

Welcome to Regil Radio, the podcast of Mark Antonio Regil. Hello, all to Los Angeles, California, is Mark Antonio Regil, saluddered us in this episode, where regressa, the acclamada, controvertida, and what more? Dr. Cabooli, welcome to Dr. Regressas,

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about the and the pariah and the solteros and why the solteros and so far and I'd good so that

you know Gisna Cawului Dr.A. In psychology perea and familyar 22 years of experience

right? 22 years of experience 22 years 22 years in the consultory and

the people exactly and in many in many countries in Argentina in

the United and in Mexico. So, so if you know the episode, it was the number seven, if no I'm

so you can hear of it. But I'm I'm a lot of questions for you. Wow. For you. And, well,

and also again Julietta Ferreiro, conductor of television of LATV. Hello, how is this? Hello,

very. How is Mark? Good. Thank you. Content to be back. Here you have questions

to do you. Uff. I'm many. I'm many there's a no. No, no, it's drama.

There was a difference of opinion. But, Today also I also also I'm a other grand

friend friend that's with me in the world Fox Ruby Molina Hello Ruby

how you how are you thank Ruby always we're we're we're

we're doing the allfombras in all those events and all of the voice of

so when you when you when you when you know the game so one

how you so the word for that you don't the three two

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in the minute to win. Well, that's heard a time when I've seen to do a date or something, I'm

that I'm trying. The game. The game. The game's, two, one. And like, you know? No.

But it's funerty, it's a bit biterty. Well, well, today we're just here to give me

to give me to this time. We're about months and about the time of the the pair and never

to get to the final. Ayes and years. Ayes and years, like those years. Siglos and cycles. Like those like, no, no, no.

No, no. No, I mean, no. Like those. Like those. Like those. Like those. Of the years. Of the experience.

Exactly. What's the time? So, it's a little bit of the time is a thing. No, no. Mentira. I said that me to say the age that I'm going to say.

I'm 47 years. No, you know, but I'm really I'm very orguos of that. I'm too. I'm very proud of it. Yeah, I'm sorry. Yeah, I mean, to my 30 years,

I'm very orgoyous. To my 25 years, I'm very really a year. But, oh, yeah, the years are an experience. Absolutely. Something I don't have I. For that's why I'm...

Oh, that's pretty. I mean, my friends always said, you know, you know, you need to be to say, I'm going to do you, that's a guy,

and that's the other and I know, so that's the time? No, never did. Because I was because I was saying that was

going to be something to exactly. Exactly. Exactly. Well, What we that we've

learned the last Julietta in this podcast? Oh, and a good question.

That the solteros we're recapitulating because we we're very comfortable standing

solos. Because it's more more not receiving feedback of nobody is because

they're they're because they have to fracacacacacacar because they have to

the compromise to the community and because they have to transform

in other people to try to attract the person

that The problem of who are we are in a We're in a We're in a We're in a Which are in a

They're in a relation Estably and They're in They're in general Cren't They're in We're not We're not

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That's that You have to To be To be able to As far As you're As far as As you

also, If you take to your zone of comfort completely The two things are that's a human

is always to do you know, you're used to be used to you're used to be able to you're doing to get to get

all the things that don't they're so much? No, they're so? Oh,

well, I've never had never never. So, I'm know, I'm

I'm afraid of that one I'm going to know what I'm to know because I'm not you're

not sure How? How did you how you how did you do you this? How I'm

How did I'm How did this How did this? How did this? I've been I've been living in different cities I've been

I'm moving I'm moving I'm looking I'm doing a whole lot of My relations If you're Like you're

Yeah, okay Okay, okay Okay, so I'm So I don't know What is I'm saying to I'm going to I'm going to be in

that place I'm going to do that I'm not going to I'm not I'm not right I think I'm a

25 years Yeah I'm I'm just in Los Angeles Yeah But I I think that not is for the

age, it's because you want to have to be it. I think I'm going to have to have a but I'm

really rarer. But how how is explain to one doctora that a woman that

is a great and she's a work in the television and it's a whole world

to look to do you like Julietta the same case of and

because no has to that that's those aspects that you're

not the fear to the intimacy. Is what the intimacy

is the capacity to be the person and be the completely who you and accept

the other completely how is. So, that type of intimacy you know

that's fear. I'll say the the people that the people

that's to be a fear of to and get to do you

do you do this, God me to what I know

so then I just in one in a better in a better

That's true. That is. And that that's a great to the people, the people that

is a lot of when you know, because they're like incoma. It's like, oh, I, no, I'm going to be able to

live with this emotions. No, I'm getting the terror, panic, and they're to go in. And so,

and so the person that is the person that's used to be used to be able to that's being that's over

that's not un-experately, not you can understand, but when that person took a a certain

distance, you know, and what's going to do you're going to do you're going to do this? And if he's he's not,

and if he he's not like more, and if begins to the MEDom, Mido, Mido, no, I'm, no,

I'm a risk. Mejor, no I'm a risk. Mejor, no I'm a risk. Yeah, and what happens to

do you know, to do you know, to be a past, before being before, before, before,

yeah, now I'm, now I'm now I'm, exactly, that's good, design, a,

professional of how to go. Tell me. Tell me of that that's that's a thing that's

that's that you're going to hear of all the women's and I'm going to do you know for all my

family, and my family. It's very easy. Contarn us to tell us your technique.

Now, now I know I'm not used because you're conscious. We know,

we're not. But for the kids know, but it's a time. After after three days.

At the entire. I think it's the same that I use. A very

the carrera. That is one. That is one very good. What is that? That's that. Yeah. That's, yeah. It's, yeah. So, yeah. I'm, so. I'm, yeah. Me's distrauding in my career. No, that's no. That's, no. That's, the, the, that's all right.

But my mind invented another, more sophisticated. What is the, no? No, is simply to find a defect. I've got a lot. I mean, it's a lot. It's a lot. Yeah. No, no me got. No, no effect. Defectos of any type of whatever type. To do anything. No. No, no, I justo the dead-bord of the I don't

like how it's not like what he said, and you know this is this one this is a

this one way of the way of it and it doesn't why I'm right exactly.

Exactly. And that's what you do you want to the people who people who can't

get to the other like it like you I'm I'm I'm sure I'm

a Superman, I want to I'm so I'm so I'm I'm want to someone who

I don't want to want to someone that so I want to be a

idealization So that is part of not to be trying to That's the That's the fear of the Intimidate That's the After the

After the After the 60 years With the How's the How's called The Enfarmera Now Now it's

Man that we We have a We're gonna Like a list The famous List of what We're gonna No, it's

Very good But I'm I'm gonna That everyone What do you What do? What do you What do you

What do you What do you What do? What do you? What you have to That's what you It's a Also,

and then you know what what you're In what you In what What do you What do you What do you

What's a What's a A Mesa? Well It's that I've never I've never A relation, but

What I'm like? Oh, God M Macy. You know, God Doctor, what I have to do you? Good question.

What do you? Because the people always say, let's let me, let's let me. Let's do you. Let's do you. No, what I

can't do you? What I'm going to offer you? And you know know the you know the I'm not a lot of times,

that I'm doing a patient, and do you know. Does coacheeo for putting us in a dating site? Yes, and let's

okay, and what you're to say to what you're and we're about? Excuse me? And what

because everyone wants. But what you are you are you? What are you? It's just you're to

do you? You're to do you? You can't you can't get to get the same. Someone who

will be criticar and you will be going to get the going to get a

fear. Then you you're going to get to what you are you don't. You're

to get to be the point is is idealizing things that not look

is ideal things that really are something not are the base fundamental. We're going to

this example, of the physical. We're going to about the physical. For example, all we

do the physical. Like, she's Argentina, I'm also in our country, the beauty is something that wow, we've

we're doing that. Rebells, that's beautiful. But the real of you are this. But the reality is this. But the reality

is this. You can't with a person with a with a one person, with a little,

a word, a, a word, a word. Transcion, a Like you.

The loom is spectacular. No, me cargues. And, and at the three years no, you know to have sex more with that person? Because no,

it does on. You aburred of the loom? No, because that's what really is the human body.

It's the chemistry between the people. How do you? It's the connection. It's the connection

between those people. And for that you have to have a connection with you even.

If you you not you're not you you know you're going to be connected to the other

but the but the chemistry not a but the that's the thing that's the thing

the chemical is the when there's no there's a component spiritual when no

there's but what you do you to connect to you for that to get

that for you let's you say I'm sure I'm to be to be

to to be a person because me go so so that you can't

see the you see the I'm saying, let's say you know a person you I'm going

and I feel so much that I'm that's all right to be able to me to be going to be a other form.

I'm going to get to be a problem, it's like I'm going to get me to the fear. I'm sorry.

Me you're doing? Me, you're doing? I'm just to get me? Me, you know,

to lookartes to do do you do what I do what I do. The communication. This is, this,

so, but that Yeah, it's at a level conscientious, because when it's dangerous, is when that that format, that software opera without you take out. When you get you guys'clock, you know, I'm going to this tendency to look at the effect of suburb,

yeah is the first step to start to correct. And, since embargo, even though you know what you are so conscientious, even the tendency is so elevated. It's so much. As far as as humans, we have the tendency to do something. And really, it's

a lot of the challenge. And to be I'm referred the other time that we had to one has to work on that one has to

work in the matter. That's a basura internal. So, I'm not really to say, is that this

you've done many times I've seen going to, I've got to go and I'm doing that again, I'm

to try this. I'm trying. I'm a question. I'm like, I'm just. I'm

listening. I'm going, I, I, I, I, I, I'm going to be disavory, I'm sorry,

I'm going to explain what I'm to do, Pass one, pass two. Okay. That's one.

And I'll tell you to say, I want to know you to know what I'd that's not you know what I'd to get to be. so is such an important for me.

I don't need to need a control and I did something important in my life. And I'm going to to ask you a favor. This I'm sorry

and I'm you know that you help you to get you to get you to get you going to please help

help me to get me it's a little bit more and I'm saying something I was a violence when

was a my mom me began much to me I'm vivie violence so because

as I like me I was so I had so I had so much a lot

I created a mechanism to carry to go to always

So, pass those years and I always kept to start going to go of the school where

was, of the relation where I'm of my amissed at the place, of the whole.

Because I always I always I'm going to get me. I was to get me and I'm terrible.

Kedarmes. I always thought that me went to the fiestas before the first of the

first before I wanted to before I did. Before I I was to not, no, no,

no, this is atrap you, when I went to therapy psychological and the psychologist and the psychologist me said, you know, you have to learn to

get to get it, I'm going to get to get me. The theme is to look to one but from one myself. But from that's

the world of vulnerability. The thing is that the person that's the people who are vulnerable, no want to

show those needs. I don't see if you know this phrase typical gringa that is,

you're too needy. You're too needy. You're too. You're too. You're too. So, you're very needy. And all we're nidis.

And no, nobody more Nidy than the kid that's a little. Nidia is Needy is necessitated. Ney is necessary. No,

there's more more needed than that someone who needs to be asking a help. That's what you want to say, I need,

you know me deges. That's the debility. Present. Now, the Meedo, the fear

the, the fear, the need of the, the need to the feeling, of that's effemir, of that the

life is effembrary and we're going to be a matter of the nobody. Nobody's nobody to

go back so when you're going to you're going to you're going and you're saying oh but where I'm going to

you're saying like you're 25 I've never a relation I know people who know people who never took a

relationship and they're and where I'm where I'm in where I'm all these years? If what what we

do humans are things are things between the people the love all what

what we we do we we give us we us has humans. And

about the aesthetic, I have much to say about that's the country, in the

Argentina, where we value the aesthetic terriblyly. And I have been a

infirm of that's a lot of those people re-boem and if no, no,

I don't like it and it was a lot, and I know, thanks a

God, that I have created, that's that's a stupyd because

a person that not you can't be a person interesting that's so, that's that's

that's that's you're going in this relation. In the other is trivial. That's

ego. It's to show to show you know, this person this type facchero, I'm this

this woman ha'nosa. This is about me that I'm that I'm that's a person that's

that's a car, and you're in your room, what's there's because I know I'm

who's got with an very attractive physically and they're in the other

are superstacculary and are thinking that Oh, no, that's that's going to move the what I'm going to

do you have to do this? They're more in the world. Exactly. No, no, they're in ego. In ego.

And the women, with the women, I'm not quite. And the women, and I'm not sure. The other I like them

feos. That's what? You know, you're going to be more, you're going to. I'm going to be a lot of success. Aver,

have been said, I've been told. I've been told me I'm alexer. It's very good idea. It's that you was more

to the spejo than I exactly. It's horrible. I know that. But doctor, I have one

question. So, what is the limit of saying, to say, eligible to someone,

to be able to another person better than that. It's that not the way. How's the best you

is going to do it? We're going to do we're going to do we're going to think that the betterial is the other.

The other is only a catalyst, an example, a example, a speo, a picture, a bit,

how can't make you to make to make to make you're to grow to grow to

together. Now, we're going to grow up. Chau. This is saying the same thing to

about the thing that has not to be going to be the other people change or that is to be there you're going to

concentrate on you know, if I want to a relationship, if I want to try to to bring to

the table. Exactly. If you're a person fiel, I have to try a

person to try a compromise. And if I want to be a person intimate that's

to be with to be to be to be to be to be to be to take to the

that's what I'm going to try the mess. I'm sure that nobody thinks what he has to try it to try to people to try to the mess. And to try it to the money's a country. You know, I'm going to find a other. You know what important to be caring? That you import in the other? That's about to be caring. That you're going to be able to? How can't you? How can't you love? How can't you? How much do you you're going to love you to I'm, how do you to love you? Not how you

can't love me can't be so you know, that's that you can't to be able to that's to be to carey, that's

that you know, that's that you interest, what you're what you're that's just that's just to get to

that's a person, that's that's a important is one of so so, but the thing is that the more

being so we're all all the world is more so, and more people can be more A question,

don't let me, if it's a lot of a lot of a sometimes, a lot of you know,

I'm interested a person and I'm interested in this relationship, and I'm really the

repente, it's like you kind of not manifestart to be a other person to be there that's a

relationship not that's that's a thing that's to do something to be a something

to be a time, it's a time, time, so time, it's time when someone to be

to be able to get to you're the movie Hitch? See, when the Gurdito he said coaching Hitch

and the gortito he gave a to do a ruby with the coso for the asthma and he did it and he did so

he was not because she he was because she he's like you're just that you want to you're just that

you're just to that you're that's your defect to that's oh, that's cute look, look,

look, look, look, look beautiful. He's so adorable. He's so adorable. He's weird. Oh, look, look, it's a

Rompheuble in first category. Never had Never thought of that. When you're When you're going to, when you're going to, when you're going to be, no, no, no, no, it's,

oh, no, look, that's, oh, you know, that's, oh, you know, you know, you? You know, oh, oh, oh, oh, poor-sita. No, poor-sita.

No, poverty-sit, no, compassion. Oh, poor-sita. What will be passed out of her? That's, that's so much meadow,

something that's that's going to go going to go that's that you're

that's not going to receive a that's not he's not he the basal, to receive

that's wow. What that's what you to do you have to a person

that's there's to do that in that we're to be

a person with the person who has that's the most

that's a whole because it's a person to do you do you

do it I can do it I can't before before you it's

that It's true. You do it, before I can do you do? That's the key, I say, I'm going to be before you.

Sure. Exactly. Right. So, so my ego is perfect. No, me abandoning, nothing.

That's the cause I didn't care. That's the point. So, you know, what is the point? What's the point? It's just, you know,

that person. He says, no, you don't you do you care, all the you have to carry.

I'm going to continue. I don't know. Many chavas I think that's people, I know,

we know, we know, to many chavos, we're going and we're that they're that they're that's the

that's that we're in the same pattern of the men of and usually, they're

they're in general, how we know how we know we're doing the pattern

in the same with the same type with a car distinct. I'll

say a very, Firt Firt Oh, oh, oh,

go. Carrar the PIRNas Cair the three months

minimum. Uh-huh. Nobody who's who can't more than three months to show to be

nobody can be another person that's no sex before never and if you can be more better

how much more more more you know you know you know you know

those who those who not are not but I'm what you do you do you

do you do not sex for three months observe the not

the but also the people but also the people are backhandole for two reasons one one

can be for the fear of the compromise, or another, because it's when you don't know you know what you do you know. When a little

when you know, one has to see a other. No, you have to see to the other. I mean, I mean,

where does it, where does it, you know, you're gonna, you're gonna think, I'm, I think,

I think, I think, it's, it's a organism to be a thing, Mm-hmm, Fingido,

finged, but it's because, listen, me, listen, me, no, no,

I'm sorry I'm going to be nervous I'm a little bit more I'm in the next one I'm going to get three six

person for this but I'm saying this listen me to hear about a woman has to know when a woman has

a carcions in the vagina it's very simple it's just because it's because no it's talking

all the words all the words you're saying you're gonna see see it's okay markito

then so you then the so that can't that's they're you're saying

when when someone when you want when you get it's you're in you're in it's an energy

so it's it's a really nice it's a right now yeah he's yeah he's like I'm

like I'm kind of that if you try to try to because I'm what they're they're gonna

do you that we're the that's that's a yeah it's it's a it's a

life that's but it's but if they're they're they're they're

but me mando for a tub. For what? For what? You're going to do you? You're going to

do you? You're going to get to be in your patron? If you're like, and they're like to beckon and they're

because you're because you're going to think you're going to you're going to you're saying, you have to you have to

the risa until that the pallas and I'm and not. And not not irmere me. At the

more, doctorate what's what's the thing? You know, you're saying, you're saying you're saying

you're you're saying you're saying that's Vendient. Vendiento of Boz? Okay.

What you're doing of you? Okay? For example, if you all what is exalting

is your sexuality at the through your body, you're doing your body? Yes, Ruby.

If you are you are doing your being, but you don't know you're not you're not

because you're because as you're you're you're you've been many

things in your many times you've got to to have you, you know what is is to be able to be so you're trying to be

so you're trying so you're trying. So the only that's your your body is your back you're saying, you know, to get a little,

to have a little to have a little. That's the fear. So, if you know, you have to think, okay,

what I want to me? What I'm going to be? There's the point. What I'm that's a person

be a of me? One person can be a person can be a woman, but not that's been doing Because you, what do you want to You want to buy a man?

That's your bea Your Beulsa? Yes, So, so, then. And so, then, and how we get us to get us?

To nothing. You're not? You know, I'm going to Because you're selling that. Is what Roland, Nichols and I talked about you

in New York, that night in the barrecito, in the fiesta in the Fusk. That, yes, you're a,

you're a girl super-linder but no see let immediately. Because you're so, is so wapata and attractive

that not is the first that came to the mind for the most in my experience or Rolando

the boy that I wanted to I wanted to make a between you we're talking We're

not know exactly exactly yes you're right but

my my business exactly your but your business is your

business when you do I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm

I'm you're you're you're a workaholic. Exactly. It's like, you know, you're not

you're like, it's like, I'm not, it's like, I'm not really but also I'm Liliana, Liliana,

and when it's Lilian, and when the doctor Kabuli, so if you you're going to every day, a ruby,

the conductor of the television, obviously, what you're going to attract, to try to a person, to try to,

that's the person, that's the point. It's the reality, it's the reality is that the women, but you're

you're a child, look, Where's tequila? Where's the tea? Right. Right. You're a little bit of a beer.

You're going to be able to. You know, and I do you comprehend. And I, you know, and you feel, you know, certain things different than

to other you're going to to be more important, the feedback of the other, that they're good, that's beautiful, that's,

when they're going to go to the years, the most important, not is what you say the thing you're the same,

is what you to do you to be the first, you you're going to to have to have to have to to have to have fear to a relation.

How to have to have a fear of and then you you're going to find out of another type of person.

While you're a person with a fear of a person with a fear of the you, you're always

to try that what you is only the same that's the God me, pardoned,

what's the abhorred for the poor, for me, better, I'm sure masturbation.

The I'm sure. The accord, I'm, no, but you're you're a,

I don't have I've said that I've never been a but I've never been a new but I've got a noviour. Exactly.

And you'd want to try to try to make more for you and see your heart than simply because you're very wapa. Well,

of the cause. You know, you know, you know, you're like, you know, you're a question,

but you're a question, but you're a good, that's a person good, that's a person good, you're

a person profound, I know, you know, you know, you're going to find a that's going to that's

that's, that type He'll cry to ruby that's not you don't you

don't you don't start not you're to be to be there to be to look at because

someone will be a person a person good and a person noble and a

person and a person who and that he they important that's

that's that's you've did it in the heart ruby you

did it is it is the problem you're not You're crying. You know,

because I'm, because I'm connecting with you and I'm trying to because I'm getting to get into and I'm trying to be here.

This is the thing you're in what you're going to have to have to one day with a person, with a person, that's you know who

after the makeup and after the, the, of the thing? You're a... No, no.

No, I'm don't have done. I'm going to do a show right and yeah the makeup.

Well, yeah, you know, you're not no matter. You know, I think a woman no, I've never

I've never said I've never said I'm, I'm, never to have you know, to tell you, to care, to love.

Much of people have that people have seen that's the money, don't know, I'm saying to my

family, to my mom to the time. But not, a man but not you know, you know,

you've got that's a level of intimacyity, but today, in this moment, with this

that I'm that I'm connected with, you, you're, you're going to connect with that

you're going to you're to be to learn other other other because you have to do that change

that's the change of the truth. you know, what's the second? It's just to make it in the future. It's, you know, it's a good. I'm going to be able to do. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm going to be able to do you. I'm going to be able to do you. I'm going to be. I'm going to be What I don't want that. No, I don't want that. But I said that you said that you said that's all the same. Yes, all they're doing. All right. All right.

And as, I think, I'm experiencing in the issue, personal, and, because I've seen in front of me, I know, I know how those divorces are dolorous and are d'Uros, but if I'm asked me, I'm going to meet with my first mariddle ago, with the person that I was married to 10 years. Very young, you cast? I'm married to my nephew of the 14.

Wow. So, then I asked him to have been. of having us casado? And I said, no, it was the most beautiful in my

life, and we know we're the perfecting, and we started to come to know what we're in this relationship, and we went to Europe of the

and we've got to do this and we're doing, okay, I'm doing this person, and then I'm going to we've grown more

parallel, but who's, who who will be going to get that to me? Who, who can't get to the experience

of having been to have 10 people, 10 years, with a person that I'm and that you am?

You it's that the world of going to be going to be used to

this thing because it's a thing between men, take care of

people. It's because I divorcee and me quit the house, so whoa,

whoa, wait what on. You know what happens? That the people are the people

think that what they're doing the person that's the person that's not that is an

energy that is when you both people do you do you do? The money that

that's the two people are It's energetic. At all point that when they're when they're

they're going to get a person, the woman the woman not want to do you know, it's my my own,

I'm not too no, no, my amorcito, you and this person were married and for so it 50 and 50

but the question is this, okay, that man he's divorced you and he's a person, and but all

the years that he took to do sex continue, of love, of a person that he did a,

a child, of the the years that you They've been doing, of the Abraises, of the of the

company? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Who, who's to get that person?

If the life, how do you do you, the time? Who, who that's the person? Now, and

what you did that that's a, that's, who did you? Who, who did you know?

The message that's very clear. I think it is normal to feel a new like

being not the more effective to make, take, to make decisions with

you're going to be the matter. Exactly. It's a one thing exactly. Exactly.

I'm sorry. And what you are saying that I'm like it's okay, if I'm going to get in a

relationship and I'm to feel in the fear, I'm going to get to the question, okay, I'm going to do you know, I'm going to

do it, because there's the there's a question. Exactly. When I came from the Argentina,

to Miami, I, I don't talk about English and not he was a psychologist because no me know what

had done what I've did you, and what I did it I have to put it to study. And when I meted

in the university and I don't understand I'm afraid I'm terrified terrorized. You know, I'm sure that

I'm actually attacks of panic. I'm going to say to this in English and attender a person in English.

And, and so, I'm going in the me I'm glad to have done it.

And then I'm not not you just talking to you're talking to the time. Because I

think I'm in the mind. All right. All right what I've done in my life,

with me with me for fear and and coming with the minding with the idea. The fear is a life to be made

the word. The fear is a master. The fear is my master and my friend. I know in not

to have a fear. I think it to be it, experimenter it and to him. My master's

my name of the University of Santa Monica say that the fear that when we're

a little that you say come here to come and come to come in this

exactly. That's the opportunity to exactly. And there is the thing

of the part of when a when a woman that what you the other day,

when you when you're you know, and say, oh, that's nice that's, that's

that's not a thing that's the word is the important. That's the that you said, no. So, no.

No, no. No, that's the important. Not the that you got to. Now,

it's a thing, in my experience, one once that has passed a

through the year, it's you got a you got to you, you know, you know,

the not really has because you know, you're in you're inamorated I'm inamorated

yeah I remember so many years one of the time, maybe the last time that's the

last time that I'm really I'm a I'm sure that I'm I'm back the guardia and me

I'm, I'm said you you're just you're yeah no I'm not I'm not I'm

seeing to be what defect you're you know I'm exactly it's very

it's okay well I abandon, me abandoning completely the process. A patient that I had, that had a relation,

like, of those complicated with one of my patients, he said, he said, I want to, so,

and I think so, and I'm so fear to all what I feel to you know, that I'm, like, I'm,

I'm a point that can't be working, and that I'm to try to to try to in that

to work, because it's so overwhelming because all the life me passed, parando the feelings,

parandos, parando those, for not send them. For that's why. Because this is is like to do because it's like

because it's like because of the you're doing, to be able, to be able to and not so work. No, it's too

terrible. Okay, I'm sorry. You're going to do you know, and you're going to feel like your person

that's because when you can't be to say, okay, I'm like, it's like a carribe

and you know, see the carriages, the barrigue and confixte and you're secret to the secret for the what is

what's saying, Marco. That's the reality of what what's the women. The women idealize

the people are so they're so much, we're not, we're not but the reality is that the women are not

so much to the women, so, so, so, so, so, so. So when they they're like they're like

churlittes, and to be honest, and that's not the other, that I'm sure, that's not because,

because much times, despite, we're doing we're doing a little and make, you know,

and I'm, and I'm, and there is like, the woman, The man is enabora more more frequent. But less frequent.

But less frequent. The man, ah, car. That's, that's, that's, that's, I never had heard. The man, he's enabored

more than the much. Fertitism. But less frequent. I, I know. I don't know. I mean,

I'm sure. Wow. No, I know. Wow. We're getting for months and months and it.

It's never they'll forgets. Never. And, and apart, they're just they're not. In other,

I'm just, oh, I'm the same next, another. Other. Oh, listen to me, it was a Juan or was

Peter? No, it's like, but we've been but we've been about, we're going to, how it's this, and,

and, and, after, after they understand that they're, that's the need to

feel that's and that are all replasable. So, the woman, the woman, the

woman, the woman, the woman, I'm sure, she's, that's probably, she's,

when she's when I'm saying, Primo, the woman, the woman, we're, we're,

we're going to come in the other, wow one after that's a kind of

how you impact the person no I think that's like the carmions to carmiones that's

that's a carri not all so that depends to your level of profound when you

you're you've done you're you're you're your level is more elevated

and no pass to that you don't you don't you're because you're

you're looking in the other something that's you're a connection to you're to connect with

to that you're going to to say, how can't how I'm to do this person, how he could do

and how I'm going to grow to be a person. So, as it's a need to be that you're

not a connection that's being that's not a person. The fact that the world is that we're

to learn to learn one of the one of the is something that it's a very much. It's a

same. It's a man who's a woman lookingss is a type that's a person that

the same thing's that said the that's like the causeach you're not you're You're looking women

not. You're talking that person unique. The connection. That person unique with you feel

a connection very profound and that is a what you're doing when you do you get back and that person you say,

no I'm ready for a relationship. So, not you connect us. Because it's mutuah

no, I imagine and you see more, you'll say more. And if I'm going to say that

because you don't know I'm confused. No, I'm that you is that you're not that's

relations, is a game. The game of I want to you want to start while you want to be

while you're going to be able to while you're so I'm so horrible it's horrible. It's

called pursue distancer relationship. Pursue Distanceer relationship. Seekir Disgues

to get to distance. It's this. So I know me I'm just back. Exactly.

Because what's then you're after you after you're back. If you if you're

not you don't you don't you stop. If you what is what is It's the tar.

Mental that we have the same. So what you do? So what you're going to? No. Always has to talk. Because is what my system for wear me says. You know, so.

You know, you have to eliminate the system. We're going to put in a bathsito of water for that's even. It's eliminated. They're in the organ, the micro-ondas to get cancer and it's

and it's not. The time, the thing is to learn, is to learn. Alar. To say, look, I know,

that every that I'm that I'm that'serco, okay? Yeah. This, not me attract much

this. Me, It's a little interesting. Because we're going to the encounter. I mean, I don't have to start

agarraining something to be. No. Because I'm aburred. It's aburried. And not I'm doing what we're to do with what we're

like every time you're going, I'm going. It would be every day that's no, doctora, for favor, that's or no. Yes.

To be you do an orgamo, I'm going. You're going. That's the tar of the person that have that's the

fear that you're that's that they're going to use that you to be concrete. There's a

question. A person that has a fear of compromise and is disposed to super a person, like for example

our friend here, it's a process. It's a process. It's a process. It's a process. There's a boy, I'm

a boy, flogity and it's a process. It's a process. Now you're going to be able to be a person

that's not to be able to get to be and not just because if not the yager's. Exactly. You know,

the yager and it's no it's no Chist. That's like the devil.

No, so I'm doing with really about and I'm really like it's a bit of the devil.

Duele much too. Because it's a badonon horrible. Because the people

that abandoning has been fear of the abandono. So that abandono is an dolor is a

pain, and I've had been many people people who were just that's a lot of

a lot of a soul, a man to be a lot of me to find

to find a person that you do do you do you obviously with

the maestrista of psychology spiritual I, I, I, I, I, I, I'm, I'm a

my mom, my mind, when I'm, I'm, I'm having fear, I'm have been a divorce, it's

a need to, and why I know, because the need to my mom, my mom, me, I was over

and I'm going to be, and I'm and I'm, and I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, my, I'm,

he said, my, I'm, I'm going to to go to work, I, I'm to do you, and I'd and I'm,

that that's that's a present. And when it's I'm that's the right

now. Now, after the part practice. That's, you know, you know,

that's the ball that's me and I'm going to, no, I'm going to

go, no, I'm going to go in, no, I'm going to and that and that the person

and that doesn't, that person is, for me the person is, for me the people,

I'm going to let's let's hear here, what is the what is the what is the thing?

In what what is What is your issue? To what I'm When I do When I'm When I'm What is your issue

What is your issue? What is your issue? Your problem What is your problem? Look, with me You're going to You're going to

And with F, C, D. So, I have to say, If I'm going to Let's say, I'm going to Supponient Rubi,

to me do to me dole that me abandon So, exactly. Not in the first

Cita Maybe you, he's, you know, that's, you know, that's all that's

that's a person, that is a person, I know, I know many coaches recommend in those conversations

stupides that do you're doing three hundred million of years, taradesses and I know, I consider that the person

have to be able to turn and I'm I'm afraid to the abandoning and me the I'm just abandoning to all the

women of the I'm going to this and this and this and I'm going to be able to you know, and if we

we're going to we're going to have to be able to you're going to you're going to you're going to you're going to you're going to

you're going to You're not, you imagine it's how to say, you know, imagine it's how beautiful, I'm going to start going to go ahead of and get to go ahead. I'd like so.

I just as much that's too. Exactly. I'm just so and I'm going to and I'm going to and I'm going to and I'm

desperately because just to think that I'm going to think I'm going to a day, I'mgustia I'm just going to do you know,

and so divino? And so you you know, and you're, and you're, and you're, and you're, and you're,

I'm, so the chickitita you're I mean, I'm saying, I'm sure that if she's with you, it's about it. A bit, let me practice. Rubia, what do you have to be? To what I'm afraid.

Yeah. To the soledity. To the soledity. And for that's all right. Yeah. The most of the most is that's all right. It's all right.

To me. Juliet, that's the rest of you know, because it's a rite you're not, eh? Here's still. No, it's that's so interesting. I'm trying to learn much.

No, she has gone. It's super interesting. To see. To see what you're, I don't see, what I'm fear. Well, I know I

see that I'm looking to look to the man perfect. That obviously no

exists, that's in my mind. And I think a more to conforms to

something to something that could have to be to get a settle. A settle. You know?

You know? Establette. And that I think is very of the Argentina's and I

say what is what is you know for your form of your form of you

can't to think if you're to be to get to because if you you're going to not,

it's going to be something you're going to be a little bit of you know, and you never never and you know, and you know,

and you're going to you're going to you're going to you're doing perfect. That's perfect. I want to be perfected.

I'm going to get to be perfect. And as well no, but I want to be more. I'm trying to do the

thing in all the same. And the same thing is in the other. So, So your

plantee is the most difficult to do it. And I'm the way of the possibility to have a

forum where I can help to help us to develop and to transformers to to be to be to make a what is.

Generate women that can't create to create that I'm and that I'm sorry. The other

those men are to play to care care but very but many but most people are

people are spirituals but many people naturally, has so ego, Tantro ego, Tantro ego,

that poor-sito have, it's like to be able to do it. They have to do you know, to develop

so much their part feminine, to be able to be able, then the person, to be able to

grow to, it's like I always I'm going, that you're going to be that type of that's a

person, never you can't be because you can't be because you have to work,

you know, you know, you know, you know, you're reason to be I'm going to

not to not to get to nothing. Thank you. It's a imagine. They're not sure.

You're not not sure. No, he's going to get to get to me to get to an expression. It's an expression

very Argentina. No, I'm going to get a matter. I like what you say but I'm kept repression

and there. And there's historically the man was trained to go to go to get and

to get a coming to get to get a car or or conquist or conquist

what what has been historically So the man has been working for millions of years in his ego in manifesting things material in

in being self, the part feminine not would have been able to survive. Today in the 2013 now we have to live like

as we can't develop our life fennino because you no need to get to get to make a to live.

And for that we're we need to we're new forms to be different between

women and that's where I'm where I'm where I'm where I'm to generate a movement

because if the 50% of the first matrimonies the two and the 75 of the two seconds and

the 95 of the three of them despacito how the 50% of the first of the first matrimonies

75 of the second matrimonies wow 95 of the thirdes matrimonies 50% of

the people put in the corns and others are solteros who are okay nobody

no no so yes so you can be but the problem

to be to start being is that you have to do you to develop

To be That is a spiritual. Not is to be saying to be God. Not is to be going to grow,

grow, advance, and make sure. That's your mother is, look, I'm doing this, and I'm going to you know what you

have to be saying, no, how? What's the that? The reaction no defensive, to be a bit more that you're

saying more. Explain me. So, being a spiritual not means that you are a thing that's

spiritual is that you're conscious of that you're doing to be in what you are doing, in what you

are doing and that's disposed to work. Exactly. No, not say you not to be

perfect, nor you know not you're not going to you're going to but you're going to you know, it's like you

know, okay, I'm right, and the same a man with the woman, that's not that you're doing, I'm doing this,

let's talk about, let's, let's know what I do you, see, you know, you know, you know, it's can't be the

reason, that's that's the base of a good relation. I'm a thing, I'm not the not I'm going

to be not the last you ultimately, ultimately. A what's what's going to let's be

you're going to be annoyed to be to be I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry that's

and that's and also you know when you see something when you do you know exactly that's

exactly exactly and that's a concept of budism of the you've seen all the philosophies

spirituals of the world that the life is a real estate in someone is something that's

something that you can't admire and you do you listen in someone you you trust in

when you you want when you when you when you when one person no one person

no one you know when a other of the other who is of the other and there's the same

because I think the the same that the people who are that you have to be that you have to

have to be not I'm what I'm what I'm you know you know you're like you

you're like you're like you don't know you're the because the love proper is the most important

no because oh I'm my am I'm I'm the most I'm and for so I

I'm going to I'm like this my, for this is the my own that I'm like this one of

you, I'm also I'm also also I'm think it's a question to work. The day

that all the people that we're that we're all the time, all the time, just that we resolve us

the problem. Now, no is the majority of the people but we're we're going to generate

this movement and I'm I'm convinced that Marko my attracted to my project to your

way to that we're going to we're for that the people get to start

in their and to grow to and change. And we're not to change to not to change.

Yeah. Not to change to change to be really. Fidate right. I was

saying that I mean to the mind of the person, you know, how I'm to do you

know, how I'm to be a friend to be a man to me myself? Because

he says, amar to your progimo as you to my relationship, my love

property and the relation with me is a disaster, how I'm going to understand how

to love someone more. This is the second is like to find it like a doctorate.

Yeah, me said you know a prophetica. Moses. A man said, a patient my said

something said a person who came to and said the man, the

fact that living with me is a is a infirno. No know how it's

because now that had the he had to be the person not you not

not support to that that's that that is the

I'm a way, I've heard of a master buddista, I mean I like to hear of all

the other the first of the thing and they're saying that's the door of my way to my

way to the spirituality there's there just what you're seeing you so you

what you is that you're to be to be into the spirituality from it

and the solerality into the yeah that's you're that's perfecto

is the part to the part of your for your so what you

do you not to Enfront to say, okay, I'm feeling horrible. No I'm going to be to be able to even with me.

Exactly. I'm going to imagineate when when you're a family, okay? That's alma gemela that reflects completely to

you're going to the sky completely. You imagine the panic? The panic that other person is to be moving all your estanteria

and you're talking all the points that you have beeniste to be taken and that and that the other person

so, then what we tend we need to change that is what propone Cabale, that I'm

very to say, in a a little bit of to be in saying, okay, say, that's

what, damme, give me more of this. Emotionate when you get more of this.

Damme more of what I'm. What I'm to learn to me? What I'm that's that is that you?

Wow, that's the problem, well, the solidate, yeah, that's your trauma, and me

emotional because I can't because I'm because I can't that I'm that I'm

that I'm that I'm that I'm that I'm Well, thanks a to you know, I'm doing to get to get a

part of the part of the door to do you. Because if you do you go to go to get going to be the same thing.

Exactly. For that's some other because you have to get to talk about your because if you know it's not

just that's the only that's no, but it's better. Better than one. Merecter

exactly. Exactly. So the this is a okay, this is a challenge for me and

when something when something you make grow up what you make to grow keep out of care care

keep out of you dole or keep at that's my theory of some years and you I'm sure of all the things

that I'm here I'm I'm gonna this I'm gonna this I'm gonna get more more time in this I'm gonna

because I'm because I'm that I'm I'm gonna something I'm gonna something I'm something I'm or for example

a person grittando me okay I'm I'm here I'm I'm gonna what you

what more you're more you're just to say me gritos. To be how can't I want to do want to

do that. It's because it's a question to be when the buttons you're going

to be that's very difficult because the buttons go back and they're like

so that practice. It's a practice a day continue and it depends

of the PMS how can't you can't want to if you're going to

get to menstruation or not for so that for so so

the masters that the is a the spirituality is a

practice and that apart is perceder. It's a say, it's a feachia to do do exercise. As a few years, my muscles are going to be able to also. Also. Also, my spirituality, my capacity of the retro-o-limentation, to live

my fears, all of those. It'saparcinge, a less than the practice. Exactly. So, imagineate everyone doing this. Imagineate all the world,

understanding that we're doing that we're not. For that, we need to import to the other. Because when someone someone's a person, it's

a person to be a person. The reality is that we're All one. But literally, that's literally, all we're

one. So, so, we need to import to the other. So the idea is, when one

says, when one says, I want, I want, an excellent am I, how are you? What am I am I?

I'm a friend of, and you're a good pair of a pair of you're not, and I, go to

the issue, because, for example, what I said, I, that's a person to be a person and you're,

and you, you're consentidory, exactly. But, but not only only only I'm not only I'm not I'm not really,

how I'm I'm trying to me myself because there's the origin of the relationship. The autocrity and the perfectionism

is the contrary to do that that's, I'm doing with a chie, that I'm doing do a perfect, how I'm going to

try to try to the other? I'm going to be that effect, have that's a perfect, with this for this.

So, so, so, so, so, I'm saying, I'm, I'm,

I'm, I'm good, and I'm carinious, that me that's how you're going to love it? Well, I'll, you know, I'm going to do you to me.

I'm a bit of a little bit I'm a child. I don't know to me myself, I don't want how I'm, exactly. Exactly. Menos, anyone else will accept, if I don't accept to me.

Because the difference between the perfectionism and the care of great. The perfectionism is a, is a way to the impossible.

First, no exists. It's all the perspective that you have perfect in a and B, you're perfect in A, and B, you're a disaster. In C, you're

a shos, and in H, you're a another than H. So, what perfect you are you?

It's like all the world has no way, has defecco, has been things in that is very

good and other that's what the person is to refer to a perfecto. That's a thing.

Well, that's a lot. Exactly. So it's a stupidness. You know be perfect? Okay,

you're saying nothing. If you're a stupidity because, and I declare culpable first and

before, and before before before, but when I'm a mountain,

I'm not I'm trying perfection of the mountain, I'm seeing the mountainer the way to

it's, it's a better it's more high, or it's a lot of when I'm when the

naturalization, when I'm the creation, I'm and when you see the same. I'm not I'm sure

to be perfect, I'm, I'm sure these miseries and these things good, and I'm and I'm

my miseries. And Ibrass my misery. Uh, abrace, my fear of the compromise, I'm sorry

to my my life, and because the then I'll go in my next date

I'm going to do it I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to see the coaching to the next year to the person

to the podcast where I'm doing a marcoe for his next time how many people how people I'm going to

I'm going to my coach the doctor Cabo we're going to us will be on this scene

it's very yeah we're going we're going to literally two minutes juliette something

you want to add no no the other I'm I thank you I thank I thank

I've learned a lot. I've learned a very much your your explanation. And, no, thanks for

having me. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. We're doing this. Oh,

I mean, me to talk. Ruby, Molina, of Mundox. That's very. Muchis' thanks for

invite me, Mark. And, Doctor, well, it's much that someone not me did you know

to do that. But, but beautiful. Yes, the truth much thanks. Thank you.

Thank you. That's what That's good That's Because you say Because to Because I'm Because I'm

Because of your Because he But the other But the subradi What do you Is, Rubin, is, What I'm I'm totally

With that Well, Yeah, no Me Gnarer One Once that One That's

One of you Is something You're You're You're You're You're You're

You're You're To be You're To be You're To be I'm

I'm I'm I have a pair of friends very feos that you're going to like.

Doctora Kabuli, much thanks for you're talking about here. The next episode in

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