El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 028: Las 5 razones por las que las parejas se separan y ¡cómo evitarlo!, con la Dra. Liliana Cabouli

Episode Date: November 10, 2013

La Dra. Cabouli, terapeuta profesional y experta en parejas regresa para darnos las 5 razones principales por las que las parejas se desgastan y se separan. Conoce no solo las soluciones, sino el ORIGEN del problema y cómo resolver los problemas antes de que sea demasiado tarde. Si eres soltero este podcast también es para ti, pues aprenderemos juntos cómo elegir correctamente desde el principio y evitarnos problemas innecesarios.

Today in the episode number 28 of Regil Radio we're going to talk to Lillana Kabuli that regressa to talk a thing very important, the five

reasons for the parties are the pairas and they're and what are the five paths to to avoid that

this is let us go to ushiel radio. Welcome to Regil Radio the podcast of Mark

Antonio Regil I'm Mark Antonio Regil from Los Angeles California saludandolos in this podcast dedicated to the cresimient personal

to the liberty financiality, to the sexuality, to the relation in a pair of spirituality, salred us to any thing,

any, whatever thing that has to be with a version, in the version of our own to live the

life more more than so welcome us more and then after some some of some of

the absence I'm the gus to receive to new to one of the doctora Lillianna

Kavuli that you I'm going to how you're content, content, content. Contento,

content. We've, we've, we've got in our special of this time in

Mundo Fox were ex-spos and ex-sposos and then took us to psychics and you

were one of our guests thanks for for having been to talk. No, thanks for

having me invited. So, it's very well that's yeah. It's a

excellent, very different and they got them money. How did how? We got

about $11, $11,000 $1,000 more or less. But, well, here we are, here we're, dear doctora, and one of the things that the people,

well, number one, pedian and they said, so thanks for coming to Los Angeles again. And one of the those things that's that's said, oh, yeah, question the doctora, because we've talked about

much of solteros, no, of how to find a pair of, of that, we've talked about of satisfaction sexual, et cetera. But one of the things that I think

that not only only to those who are in those who have a couple, they, they, they, it's not

for us who are not we're not a lot of the one of the not really, it's, how do you

do you know, because I think to start or time, all the parages, according what I've heard about

that's been when after when after a time long or short of to be a person

that person that was that you thought or that was the most of the love of the time,

the time to be to be to be a erosion the relation. No you can

not you you're just you're this is the same, I'm sure you're always

you're always to look at other people or in the matrimonial so the matrimonial the error

that's committing to say this is that you know one you know one's you know if you

you're you're a real conscious and you're you can't you can't you can't

you can't you know to defenders and to be more to more and more lehous

the relations are because the people is going awayhando. The ego

is going and the people are going to be and the people because the people don't because they're

doing they're for the why they're because it's because it's little, because we're a little

house because our people, because we're going to have because we're to have

not the reason durated to be a person to be a person and you

are going to get to all the time and have to have to have the same level of

compromise of so that's that's going to go to every

problem you're going to make put a more than the person, not more less far.

So the key, the thing I'm doing is that you're going to have a mission in common

to say, for what we're doing total? Total. Total. You know, you have to

have a person that is in the sametonia in what you want to you want to do you

want to do you want to the personal. And you're going to a person that the most important is modelage and nothing more than that's, no, you're going to be

in common. Because your mission has to be partied by your pariah. They need to have the same mission. And those errors of electing the things, for what the cabalists call in the 1% of the world, which is the superficial, has it that the relation is a termine. What is superficial,

it's termina. So, if if you know, if you know, if you know, from the from the first is only a question of time for that the

relationship or it's a thing to or it's it's, it's, it's very clear what you're saying

because not the same priority? Exactly. So, so, so, it's the

same, it's the same, I'm the difference of the chemistry and the

chemical sexual of the alma. When you have chemical sexual of

that's during and it is the time, and your chemica sexual is

of the You can't you can't look at a great bonoos our radio

we can't get a woman or a woman very much. But that will get

a moment that's common for you. It's like all the days

to make the same. You can make a cake rickickick but if

you're every you're going to get a time but

but if you you're you're you're getting with the essence

we're to put to be going to you you're not you you

don't you because you're always with certain regals, with certain regals.

You know? So, the people elige the relations for ego. For ego. And me

to be to this man who has a money. It's me make that you

see, that I'm very marvellousous. Look how that I'm that I'm that I'm

that I'm that I'm that I'm that I'm that I'm that I'm that I'm so that I'm

so much that I'm good that I'm that's wonderful that I'm I'm a beautiful that I'm going to this woman that's a

book and says and does all the thing you do. Look, all that's all this is ego. Ego. The ego is

epimero. The ego is not what we're not. So, you can't buy a same thing

that you do you do it. Exactly. Because all the thing I'm a form of a car.

I'm going to it's totally in the brain. I'm going to me. I'm saying, me be able

in it. Me be able in it. Look, that I'm that I'm to get to me to be

And it's Like it's Like that's And the love is KERRourne, is to care And it's to be a

Because if you You know, you're going to You know, a moment that you get to say nothing in the bank.

No, there's And so, that's very clear, me got, because it's the chemical sexual

contra the chemistry of the Alma. The chemistry of every discussion,

every disenquentro you make you make you make more back.

Despite of the disencuntro comes more and that a certainia you

have to make a sexo the people always think that the sex is acrobats

they're all real curiousos. It's like that's a carisies they're re curious,

it's wow, but the really is that I'm that I'm a sexology and that's a lot of

the sexology is how acrobacy is it's how to it's quite the car

and the carbacia is the thing that's the carbacia when there's when you're

what's you're what's you think, derretiretiretire the of the other person. That is what you produce all that exitation

and that sexuality. It's much more interesting than when, oh, let's be what we're going to get to the parrides and you you're going to

then you're going because you're thinking. If you're connected you're going to you're going to think it's a consequence not the

objective. Exactly. Because what you are you're in derretiered in the braus of that person that two persons

are trying and that encounter and that encounter is so excitant at a level excitation sexual at the

level excitation of the heart that's that you want to be that's like you're like you

want to be a single person with that person those are the same of the mind, so

you know, you know, you'll give a person to be a person who's because you attract a physically,

that's a certain masturbation. So the problem is that the sex without the relationship

without. The relations without all of all the is in spirituality is all because it's

of the world of what it's not because the is eternal and all the everything that's it's eternal

so that so that each time of two people that are you're getting to get

to a place to one to one to the that's very beautiful the

sex without the sexo without the self is the

eternal, no it's not it's a exact. No, it not to not to

get to someone to be a person, and you know, that you feel like that

you're in that's connected to be to be able to you know, you know, you know, you know,

that's, you know, that's that's to say, to be able to that person, to change a person,

and I'm, you know, I'm just this, no, you're doing to be able to get to be doing sex with

that? Nobody. Then, then there's that point. But the 90% of the pairas is

without the because in the time of before we don't we don't have our our own

our time I'd say it's doing more and more the person the people the people

because it's good and it's really good me limpe a lot the house it's barbarar

for he's a man he's a not he he's very provable very

very provod like like like like so me, I'm

going in that change, I'm in the way to work but it's real that I'm in my cerebral, I'm

like, let me the little bit of the model, of this person, to be, what does it, what I'm going to

do you know me serve, and it's completely distinct to connect you're in the heart, I'm trying to be able to

me, I'm trying to do that's not that one is that it's a person, because you're a maldito

that I'm that's a person, no, is that's they're in the of

the media's the media of communication is venerical is vener the media is a vener things.

It's a bad thing is a baden is the thing that's being tis so they're getting things in the

ego. Specifically the market technicna because not so not so also there

obviously programs of television that are very inconsientes but the marketing

because they're that for to be to be successful with a chica you have to

to to have to you have to you have to be very cool you have you have to see the television

those commercial of television are many times there's not I'm going to have to have been able to something else

there's but but today a little a little people like the case of Oprah

like Ellen De Generous without comparison but in our space here we we're doing

we're starting to get the conscience to the media to

communication there there there's there because the love

is vulnerable the love is vulnerable. It's the contrary to apparent. It's the contrary to be impeccable. It's being messy. The love is messy. The good sex

is messy. How is it? Messi is like, disordinated. Disordinated. It's to, it's perfecting. Imperfecto, is perfect. It's disordernado. And I'm sure that the person with the person with that one really is to be inamorah, no, has nothing

to do with what one thinks that's annamor. Yes. Nothing. Nothing to do. Absolutely nothing to be.

You know, you've discovered that is an excellent place to practice. Me, I know my coach of the

life. He said, Mark, part of the work of the work we're doing, we're going to start to practice, we're

going to start, we're going to practice, we're to start to practice this new conscience with your friends.

With your that's a time before. Before I'm before the podcast, we're talking to the doctor and

we, we we're in the kitchen of the and I see the I'm, I said, I'm

I'm going to you know, I'm saying, I'm I'm saying, I'm saying, that's the kind of a bad, you,

to operate from from my heart of the to learn to, learn to be vulnerable. Aprener to be a person, how is,

not how it's, not how it's, not, like you're, as if you're, like you've been, 20,000 times, can I live

with that? I can't live with that. I'm, I'm able to so you're, and I'm, I'm

against my eyes. You're perfect. And I really to my amstatt how you're

so I'm so I'm doing this so I'm so that when I'm a person adequate,

I'm going to say the problem of the people and the difference with a family more easy. Because with

the friend you your ego not you're involved. When you you're going to

you're going to be you're going to you're you going to the person? And what?

What are? And this is what is representing of me. Because it's an extension of me. So,

it's a example. So, I'm going. A bit, this woman is how he does, come

like I, like I, do you, how's it, how she make, how he makes, exactly,

exactly. The am I. The other. The am I. And what would, you know, you know,

you'd be a person, that would, be your grand example, to have a person that to be a whole day. No,

it's horrible to be with someone who not to want a you know, but the problem is that one

not want to the other like that's because because not not operating of the soul,

is the ego yeah, the other day me, a little a little she said, we said,

we're saying, we're, we're, he's, he's, he's, he's, you know,

and he says, you know, you know, I'm saying, that's, I'm trying and I'm doing it

with the orientation because his family not he's not the family no he's is the people around.

So, I said, is that I'm going to, I said, I'm going to you know, and I gave a tantarer, because, I mean, imagineate that my amor would have been a friend, because now are those are we, I'm going to, he said, no, I said, I'm going to, I said, you're a human valiosisicism, what I can't, I defiered, of the decision, but, but I'm here, I mean, you know, you know, have to pass to a relationship.

And that's more difficult. When you, you know, you know, is that, if, of the really, you're to go. If you go to

the ego, if you don't know, I'm in the I'm in this moment I'm going to want to

want to be not you're not sure, even you know, you know, you know, you know, I'm,

you know, that's that's best horrible, I'm not, you're in you're in you're in

being, you're being sure that's not those are so much of people, because you're doing the

thing, it's, it's a really, it's a real idea. It's my perception of you. Delego. So,

so, acordate, the ego is it's like the ego, it's like the life, it's, that's very beautiful.

Now, moving to the time of this podcast to put us to focus us in something, the people,

or that you did it, we've seen to come to give us for people for who we're doing a

partyha. But who are who are listening a pair of and not passed on

this process because you're just They've got three years with the same a pair or what whatever and they are in the

relationship. What are you? What are you? It's, is it's going and it's deteriorating and it's erosion. You have to

say, we're going to do a different. We're going to get to your partner? Let's say,

let's say, let's say, we're going to this, this is we're going to, we're going to, we're going to we're

we're going to we're going to we're we're going, or this an infirno. So, you

would say, if you're a woman, and I'm surela, that's that they're that's in a person, it's

not the person of the pariah. No, the two. No, I know, I know, but it's

this podcast. Yes. For who they're doing this podcast and they're okay, what I'm going to

do you know, I'm going to do so I'm sorry, so you know, so you're doing with your husband, with your

family, so, and that you say, and that they're my love, I, Or so,

give us coach, coachio for the words are so important and such little, how manage you? My love,

all what we're doing is and we're doing, we're doing, we're doing the time we're doing the defects, we're trying

in the worst enemies. Dorms all the night with the worst enemy. You're the person who most me

know the person that more I'm the person that more I know you can't do you because you know and vice versa.

This so we're going to do you In what form we're benefiting. No we're doing not we're doing

not doing nothing. I need to know this. I want to pass another level in this relation

with you. You're doing to do you do you're to do you to do? To be able to because I

am sure. You're just a different to make us a work of personal, of spirituality to develop

to pass another level. If that person you say that you know, then you start you

you're going to say something when one a person and the other and the other not creases

and the other not creases, it's a part of relations that are to be done to that's not that's not

so that's so there's people who want to be doing to a deal with a deal with a new

a real point-and what you're talking about communication and to go to the person and

what I what I what I'm what I'm what I'm you, is that you you're saying,

me's going I'm saying me's convicting you not in victim not me you're just

converting my life in a imporice. Oh, we're doing this relationship. We've got to

we're doing. We're doing. We're not very incomodod. There's much attention. We're not we're

very interesting because in a party that's that's a time you're you're trying to do you you're still

and the problem. Exactly. It's to find an area of course to say we we're

we're going to we're we're doing so much that this is very incommodo because for me it's

incommodo and ask yeah, yeah, exactly. And I'll say something. The love,

I always I said, the love but I say something the love the love and it

because to be someone at that that I'm that's I'm doing it,

it's the body, it's because the ego dole. Because when you're

when you're you're when you you're when you're when you you're when you're

you're you're you're you're living of your your ego suffer

for that your soul so when the ego suffer, the when the ego suffer,

the soul the soul ria. This is a phrase very typical of the cabalists. When the

ego, when the ego, when you're, when you're when you're you're back your

your stupied backs, back's your tarr, you accept your evil. Oh my gosh

I'm am I'm doing, I'm It's incommod. It's a pain. But your alma is but your

God, yes. I'm going to breathe. No, do I do more of these messages horrible that you're

all the day. All the day these messages stupides that make a lot of the soul says, oh, yes,

when you connect you with the soul because the ego is because the ego is so profound,

it's so profound the encounter between two persons that are there's that are

there and they don't live of the ego. It's like the thing

Let's say it. We'll put it that you know you know that you know that you know that's a few

for you know to be a about your standards and you're to be that you're like that you're going to that's a

three hundred libres is horrible but you but you see something and you see something

you're not you're going to let's be you know I'm sorry I'm gonna make sure with a

what you're horrible what are to say and say and six 60 years have They're on 6th years

300 libres A bagel They're going to I'm saying He was going to say She was She was with She was a

She said to Marko's like In reality He's got She's a A tappoflat She's like a But you

But you But you You know You're You're You're with That's like You're

You're like you You're You're You're You're Let's What you What's

What's? What's? It's It's a It's It's A lot It's

There is where you have to go, and there is where we need to go to all the puttoy because, my, she said, she said, all the day.

Because the fact is, that that I did is where you're your ego, balanceded, your ego, it's identifiable

with that the woman that has to have to have to be some standards that are approved for the other

to the ego. Your ego, your ego, no, you know, you know, doesn't, that's,

but you say, let me to let me to molestar. Okay, okay. The same pass in a relationship

of a relationship. What's the thing? Let's go to the the time. The parents the parents are the

part of the most important is that's this. Look, I'm going to repeat it one more more. If you're

a relation where you get this in that way for things of one percent or things superficial

of the ego that's that's the sex is the passion's you're doing to make in the relationship

but you not because you're because you are you're the parka. So the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, it's the, the, it's, the, it's, so, the, it's, it, it's, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it's, it's, it, it's, it, it's, it's, We need us to go to us at the Piso 10.

Okay? And you're going to take to Coo-Denquil. No, I don't want to go to Blocke. You want to go to visit to me? And you, no, the truth is to go right-tanky-ah, well, then I have to go because I have to go to Piso-10. And you, that's a process

that is a process that I have to do with much love and with a good word because it's communication very specific. Yes, but there's a problem. When one gets, for when one committed the grave error of having compared

a relation, okay, with the values incorrect. Something that is going to to terminate, like you come to

some muebles that's you're to be in a year. Okay? And you're

to pass that other level, no we can't talk about so too so much

because the reality is that there's there's that there because if no,

no, I don't not be not I don't let me talk about with the

process, not it's a process a minute, okay we have to listen to and more

to say, but you when somebody is in the end of no there's no,

no, no, You know, I'll give the example of a conversation of the ego? My my love,

we're saying we we're in we're in so you're not you're not you're not even a bad you're not

no me molestes, look, not me, not you know, you're doing television, not you're

doing television in this moment, always with your things, always ching and so

and this this conversation that I've said, you're going to get to do the because,

because she know, because she's what's going to I'm going to say, Klinga, but what is going to say, chinga, but what?

Oh, that's all the day? Oh, that's what you're going to say? We're going to do you? Spiritualally.

What? Spirituality in 8-4th? You know, let's get to molest. No, you what you're going to say?

No, what I did in that moment is evidently suspends the conversation and to be a no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

no, no. Cochiamme, coach me. If I'm and me contested so I'm obviously.

I'm going to because he's no, no, no, no, no, that's he or he. That's him. Or she.

Or she. So, yeah. So, the day. Okay. And I'm before I'm, because I'm

doing, I'm going to go to start going to go to be going to I'm going to get a

or at a more, I'll write a and he'd say, so to not be able to I'm going to get to be, I'm, I'm,

I'm sure that's super enojada, molesta, that no, that no you know you're not

about, you know, I'm not about you know for you, but I'm not like this, I'd like, I'd like,

I'd like, to do you do this, not, this not really, this is not you're doing the women,

and it's a lot of, the women. Coaching, coaching. Because when it's at reverse,

it's much more difficult. When the woman is the thing is the is much more difficult.

Commonly is the woman, is the man is the is the I mean, yeah, ultimately, I don't know the 50% of my consultory

are men, so it's like, so I'm very content. But I'm very content, but I'm also also as they're acting many people. The point is that the woman

says, you know, if we're doing, we go. There is when the man decides to do a change. But no necessarily

it's not necessarily to make, me, listen to Marko, you, you know, what is, to do what

say, for something that you want to do you want to do what is that? It's a decision. The decision

to be to be sure of the area of comfort to have to sacrifice for a motive you know

what you know what's going to do you know and you know the 95% no no they're doing not they're

doing to do the full circle it's like you like me Liliana you're disposed to make to make sure

to do this if I'm going to be able to do this but I'm going to be able to

make sure it's a decision it's a decision and when it's I'm going to go for it it's

like being vegan. I don't I'm going to 20 years in being a good I'm going to

I'm going to go to be a little I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to do you know

to get a whole of the desintoxication that's but it's a decision. For me all is a

decision. You have to be conscious of the decision. So what does it? So the first is

really what I do you recommend to the people because I want to get to

get to when the when it's starting to deteriorer deteriorate. Entendar that the fault of

communication is the base more fundamental of a relation. But the lack of communication, not to talk, to be able

from the heart of the feeling abandoned, me feel I'm soo, me feel so little,

and a little important. And other thing that I want to say, is that the women think that

the women don't feel like nothing, that the people, the the people are the

people are They're not-recognos, no-recognos, no-appreciated, abandoned, all that's, also also, also, they're not we're doing

to do the women, what we're doing, to do you know, they're doing to fall out of other aspects. The rechasos,

is there is a little bit of the communication. That's a great, right?

The man, I'm not not I'm not I'm not even though I'm people, but I'm a

new year, and I'm, and I'm, and I'm my wife, with the of our children,

and that's is marvellous, it's a great woman, a grand mom, and I'm a lot of my new year,

I don't have a my moment, the same. Exactly. And they're and they're going to say the other part

of the Milanese, many times. We're going to put it. The pair are going to get a

and she's a good job, it's a good man, and they're a to the same, a curator precoce,

I'm a lack of this or other, problems sexuales, no, so it's oh, so it's,

I don't want to have sex with this. This is an abhorrivation Barberal. Well, we'll have to have a little my need to my own, my need to be

my child, and I'm going to be my child. Why not want to be able to work? Because he, because one of the

defects most people are many people is that not want to do the need to the woman. They're doing

what they do they're the way? We're going to in all? In all. In all. For example,

say the the woman, for example, put it to let's say happy, that's I'm going to

say, I'm going to the time. The men always say this in my consultory. You're going to make a

memory of opinion. No. For the woman, you have to say, you're going to say, you

am. You're a beautiful. And you do you do you have to get to get to get to

make a more happy, to be more to be more to my mother. And she has to be

to make more to be more to be a man. It's a is a compromise of all

the day. But who who does someone so it's take all the sure.

If they're they're they're in the they're in sure they're in but when the things are insatisfactory

the women, to keep tolerating the relationship, what they're to start to other things and they're and the

people are one of the things that the women is a is a pretext for not,

that's a not, we're not we're not we're not we're not we're just we're

we're just we're just okay the coaching. Well, the the fact of communication to

the most important. If I'm if I'm in a relation that's deteriorating, then what I'm to attender is first, the communication. We're in a problem, but a communication vulnerable, not the communication. We're going to talk about the tematic about our relationship. I've noted ultimately,

no, vulnerable. Me, I feel dolorida, me abandoned, me feel a little important. Me, da Tatea. This relationship, that was so important for the two, we're going to this point. You're going to put it to your part? That's disposed to put it to put your part

for that we can't work in this because I am doing this. Expressing what me dole. What I'm because in reality

one of enter in in garas of power. It's so easy to enter in the power. And now a question, when one of

two people is the two are doing, the two are going to do that'ser, what I'm doing? I'm sorry, that's the

dole to dole, validarlo, what is what is what you do not do you doves,

valid it? Oh, but what, what do you dole? Why? Because the woman not want

support to know that's you're that's the people the woman.

The man wants to get a feeling that a woman is not a sufficient, no I'm, not I'm

not adequate? What I'm what? What me is? So, that attack that the

person is when the woman is because the feeling inadequate. So, so, when my partner that,

is that's that's just it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's,

it's not it's not really, you're, it's, me I'm I'm question, what therapy

is, I think the therapy of all the other the things that I'm in the time you

and the things that I'm in 25 years of profession, me get to be able to get to

get to a different and what you're like that you do that you know, always to say that you're always

to hear you. No, no, you say, you know, you know, you know what you're doing to be

you're so so is so so is so so it so you're so much, and I I don't want to

that you are doing this because my love for you is infinite. What I'm doing I'm doing so you know

for you know that's the answer. Now, and to get a man to get a man who I'm going to

get that's but the person, the man, the woman, I'm doing that you feel like that's

but for that you have a woman to be able to that person to respond to that has to be working

or working or trying but literallyly if those who are just in process of

we're doing we're I hear what my pariah my partner me is saying I'm saying,

I'm saying I'm not saying, express that me dole, that's going to that's going to be

that really, that's why that's a question, and I'm, I'm, I'm to think I

have to get to a solution, the what I'm saying is very valioso, because the

solution, not I have to you're saying that you're saying, that the person that

I'm what I'm what I'm what I'm coacheame I, I'm to get

to get to to rescat this? Help me to understand how I can help me interesting.

It's very interesting. Because for you, you get a pressure enormous and I have to have the solution?

Exactly that's exactly that's that's the people that you can get to do and the

complex that is the because the maldito desgracial ego, that we have to

all the people and we're and us impede to mind. Okay. So the

communication is to do this of the both And the communication has to be, I'll re-repeatir,

I'll re-repeting, with a second is not falter the respect. The fault of respect is what destrues a question.

When you just you're saying, ah, but you're just you're just, you're gonna you're gonna a spiral that

that's gonna be a final. The fault of respect no has to never. One of no, you

don't get to engage in the never. When it starts of a respect, you're saying,

me going to get to get into this moment, because no To try to to avoid that those words

are like if it's a clavis in a paris and that that's a thing that's always,

okay? So, respect. Amar to your partner before, before, and then after

and then after you're another step. Yes, no, see with the respect,

amar to your time, before, and then, and then and then and then

and then, and then, before, and then, to have a discussion. Why, one

has to to have to love when one is having a discussion. It's like it's like you sure you're because you

dole that situation, but we need to keep having to that's the reality. The other of the

other of the thing that's the problem is the kind of a lack of how to tolerate mal sexo?

Is the three? Toleral mal sexo is the error more great that two

people can commit. So, don't not don't tolerate or not

to be or not to not not a bad sexuality. Not a way,

today's, but... Well, I mean, I'm referring to a... Yeah, because a man,

no, no, no, no, I'm not I'm saying, they're gonna say, they're gonna say, I'm, no,

I'm gonna, Mark, but, Lilana, is that, I'm sure, because there people,

because there's that's, literally, okay, okay, okay, I have a new new year, I'm,

a new thing, no, no, I'm, I'm just about, I'm, I'm, I'm,

I'm, and I don't peteenicia. It's that you know. But it's for the insecurity. I'm too.

So, for that's what you're saying no is that one day was a, no, you're talking

to a patron. A patron. It's a aculator precoce. Ejaculation precoce day one, day two, two months,

no, no, we don't, we can get to a month to two months. This is two, three times,

just it's a to be a to talk. This, um, a man that's a person,

we can't do talk. Al, about, Okay. No, there's nothing more than a life than to have

much of sexual. Much of desire sexual mutual mutual mutual mutual. It's a beautiful. But for

that there's to be two people who are two persons, and that have integrity and that are sincereness,

and the sexuality are the man. Okay? The, other way? The sincerity

and the sexuality are in the man. The people false always castigate

a time. Who has to have sexo? Okay? When what you is you

know-o- and no and you don't you're not you express The first

The first is the vagina, as I always say, the first that's the first thing. I'm doing my doctor. The sincerity and the sexuality

van de the man. And the people castigua, did you know, at the vagina, after the vagina.

At the way. Well, the women castiguan at the women. The people, in general,

we're just that the people castigueling that the people and women castiguan, to the other to not

create to have sexo. the most difficult, the 5, the point 5, because we're talking of the five things that make, that's parisana? Let me, let me, Maestra.

Ah, no, no, pardon me, the four. The four, we're going to say, the four. It's the fault of growing, and the, and the ego's grand. That's the, that's true your

relationship, no, exists. If one of the two people, no, if one of the two persons, don't care, forgetate, no, there's form of

to have a relation. It's destroy. And ego, and it's, oh, what you're saying? Ah, what? What are you?

What? What? A- of what? Why? Why? Because I'm that I'm

because I'm doing this because I'm in the world from my mind, from my mind, from my heart,

from the same thing. It's a point very delicate. The people, me have been many people, I've been

in this podcast, is that this time is that this time, we're doing about it, we're not a marriage,

we're not we're doing about this thing, and it's going to be saying this is the essence of

the message of this podcast is living in your your heart in instead of the ego.

So, for that's all the things. One is to live in your mind,

with your mind, you know, reasonabience, regl, and other is express and to bring

your your doctor is that when, when the people are when the other people,

that's the love and the love and the love. Exactly. So, do you,

if, with ego no, the ego, no is love. No. No,

no. No, Any that you elizabeth for the ego no is for love.

If I'm in this podcast because I'm sure you're like this because I'm not going to get to get

to get to nobody. What I'm going to get to get to a person that's not going to be a person who

not the can't be the ego. Nothing, nada, that's a example. That's a

point of you've got to get this and that's really good because it's something that is something

that's something we're we're just we're the people, the

the the cantans the people that who a that's

that's that's that's not that's that can't that that's in a

in a bus or in a car in a people to do you know a a manned

a mannando mansoner to a a lot of a lot of I'm

saying I'm doing X examples people people who people who people who

people who love a music, and then they're those they're they're

they're they're in the first are and the people, the public, we're sent us when we're going to

and the other are in their own and the more they're very people, you can't be able to see them. And more,

you can't be a lot of course. It's not the same. And that's the great difference. Exactly. And the

beauty is much more more more than the beauty and the media are continually to say, to be the

people that to be X things that is changing with the years, okay? Mary Limorro was a person

in one one episode there's there other epochs, and that really I'm going to to get in those

people, that's ego, and that's you're going to affect your life in how you'll go to get your emotional.

That's the five. Mied to the intimidity emotional. I'll be, I mean to me to see, to the

eyes to the eyes to do you to say something to do this is like a dancea the intimacy emotional.

But if one one person that says, you want, and the other person, like with with me

Like, has lefted. What difference there is? What's the other person is. And another person says, and I

also, I'm too. I'm too. I'm so. I'm not. You know, to me. You're doing?

You're doing, you're generating an energy of intimacy emotional between two persons. Okay?

Saber retroalimentar that's intimacy. When, when, when we're not, I'm not sure. I'm sorry

to not make sure. No, my, you always me make a very much

I'm going to you know the I'm going to that you know the that's going a lot of an intimacy

emotional like a dance of intimacy that's that makes that a person

always always that's that what you is that the intimacy emotional

is like a muscle that we're going to let's let's let's

you're you're with a woman is a person but she she's

she's something that's that's horrible and he I know you

think you think you think you but I really really me feel horrible and me feel so

fey and me feel like not-querable and I feel that I'm inadequate inadequate and me feel

stupid and me I feel that I don't have education or me I'm not I'm not I'm sufficient

for you so. So that is more interesting than a person that is defending and trying

to demonstrate that's that's that's when no so it's but it's but it's

that's the intimacy of the emotional, the intimacy emotional is to say what you're in because with the

first you can't you can do you can't do you can do you with the

person that that's just evita evita the intimacy because not it's not you

don't know it's not you can't you know exactly and the same when a man when a

man you know I'm sorry you know I'm I'm I'm afraid to enderer and that

I'm that I'm that I'm doing my heart and you can't this

is that you have to be very very very much that's very so that's not really without

the ego. The ego is all a bad it's like a badmatter. It's like a minute,

it's living in a movie. So, you have to go to go to be a passenger no,

you're going to be a is a vacio, is a is a is a in the

time, it's of creus, cris, crees, crees, crees, in bed

to go back to go is very different if you're in the ego you're going to always be able to be able to

if you're if you're in the life you're going to exactly that's very clear

that's so simple and how and how how how do you can't be really

really so it's really it's a much confidence so in you

in you in you yeah in because if you're because if you you can

you can't you can't you this, if you can't tell you to try this with a person that you're because you

think you're that's valuable sufficient as much to be able to you're doing your own your own. O'saqin,

in best of we'll analyze if I can't not be to be the other person, it simply confier in me to say,

more than that other person know, or not know to be able to say, this is a lot of me

myself, I'm going to say my realness. It's yeah, integrity. Integrity.

And that integrity is the most important that is the that you to be the example that you

This is perfect. You don't want to have sex with that chick and she says, oh, that you don't you do this is patetic and it's a

form of that she's a way and valorando's the love to her to her to do you that's just

that's epimilar. That's that's not that's not a more because that person is

madderer because that is a person, it's it's like I'm I'm

I'm a I'm a I'm I'm I'm I'm important. No.

That I have a PhD in psychology, is really. That me serve, is a matter. That makes to have a knowledge about about some of the thing.

No. That's the ego. And in that, if you're going to be able to be passion. No, there's no.

So, they're five passes. There's some of five. You said, five things. There's separate to the

three. Five things. There's five things. There's time. And then you think you're when there's a problem.

When you start having to have a problem chronic that no advance. Okay? When it starts a litigation and no

there's a thing, that's a lot of that's something that's a lot important because the people, sometimes,

sometimes people think, is that the people are the doctor, it's because they're like, blah, blah,

blah, blah. No, you've got the car to get to your house to do you to do

all the hands and the hands and the hands and the cabel to do your maintenance. Why not

I'm going to do a important that's my health emotional? Exactly. So,

so one, solution. And if I do the therapist. And, also I recommend to the people who are

not used to get a therapist. So, so me happened to me, when me to go to me to after 10

years, when we were in the torment, I got a telepeot in this time and he said, we're going,

we're going, and me said, no, you're not, you're going, that's that's, Mark, that's

for the Marcos, that's and I said, no, it's just justly, before that it's medicine preventive.

So, not expect to that you have the bomb and the disaster. Exactly. I never in the life I'd

recommender someone who not be able to get to the psychologist. Apart, as a patient professional,

that I've years of therapy, different types of therapy, let's say one when more

you're not, when you're when you when you're when you an problem an problem,

that's my experience. That's my When I'm a Brunca, I'm peled with my mom, with my wife,

it's an emergency, it's a a fire that I'm a lot of the thing. When more I'm going to I'm going to

get a therapy and I'm not I'm going to no problem, then we're more important, not the urgent, but the important, and I'm

more I'm surprised wow, I thought that I thought that I'm trying to that I'm trying to do this episode. I think there's a

new more to be a little more and when when you're in a relationship and every more closer, more you're going to

know, you know, and you're about, you're going to more, you're going to because it's

like, like, it's like, I'm so so bad, me feel like in this relationship of love,

me feel like, because when you really you know, you're really, you know, so there's where you're

doing the control. One, therapy or coaching solutions. Number two, then? Aprenner

to talk to talk to front. Okay. The time necessary for that the time

to be the people to be to be occupied and to not to put a to your relation has to be a

priority. As a little urgent and not the important. Exactly. So, you have to have the

quantity of time for never to go to to get to to be inohous. That is a regular of many

many of exitosos. Never to go to get to the time. Yeah. It's the

most important. Okay. The three and fundamental to have the humility to accept your

errors. The if never you can't you can't you know the person's because when

someone not you know but the but the really, no I'm saying, oh,

they're doing they're doing what I'm doing it's in the heart you know, it's very very

all right, we're all right but in the yeah, no it's not from not being the other

is that's it's being in the victim. I don't accept my errors,

are your problem. No, I'm perfect. Exactly. To have the humility, humilded, unilad, to accept my errors.

And also, the problem that is that not want to get a problem. What they are to play and attack. And that's not serve.

Attackar and not serve. We've been in other podcasts that's a vizue. It's a addiction. An addiction. It's an addiction.

It's an addiction. And not to be the problems without those problems and not cumular. Because many people have like a basurero

of problems that never those and they've never and they'll pass all. So,

or you're five? No, Fault one. Creser and change continually. Entendamoslo.

No, we never never going to never. This Dr. Cahulae of today, not will

be the doctor Cahubli in three. I'm going to see changing and and that Mark

Antonio of no, we're going to be a Mark, and we're going to always to

keep and changing and changing. It has to be a a term eternal,

eternal. And that is the only that you can do you do you the other

not that's all the other than are the part of the heart of the good. Very good

very good. Much very good very much. Thank you Dr. Cawuili. Five passes

for solution problems in parishes that have had problems and the five causes that they're to

have those problems. And obviously if you're like I in this moment you don't

you're in a relation stable, all this does because when we're in a

relationship is inevitable. It's part of For that you'll be a

great for you guys for every that's for a way of the every way that's like that

I'm a lot like that's I'm like my manualito of the shortcuts or the tachos to manage my camera so I

going to get my my listita I'm going to because you have to ask you what you're

you're going to this is this is that is so important for God's sake I'm I know I see

I'm think that's very important I'm every I'm trying to make

a When I'm a first date, to a first date, a one of a first date, to a first date, to make a still, I'm still still doing,

I'm still doing to do you. No, you have to be able to, you know, because the dating can't say, and if you do that's

a lot, and much a lot of frustration after you have to get to get to get to the packet rapid, that you know,

the most important of one person is that really, really, but listen me to hear what I say,

but I'm because not, because much people say, oh, yes, because that's the

of the way. I'm going to do it do it's a whatever to do it for do it

for a if it's a really you're going to get a so you're going to because of the actions.

You're going to get to get to go to go ahead or this no, there's

no way there's you have to get to more closer more than when the

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